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I love every video you post my friend. You have given me much and continue to give much. I hope that some day I meet you, for you seem a man of great thought and wide knowledge. I wish you forward on your journey.
frustration & desperation- the begining photo of people inside a 1970 subway car! no air conditioning, the graffitti, and outside the acid rain, the silent springs, leaded gas-creating multicolored rainbows! today we celebrated the clean-air act😊
You know what gets me, I've been thinking these things for years but haven't changed anything, allowing the business of university to mask it. It's not the first time I've realised my previous thoughts on the matter were correct. It's a shame that I haven't trusted myself and delayed action for so long. I think I'll be rewatching this one often. Thank you. Would you be inclined in doing a video on self-trust/doubt?
seven nah, succeeding generations became more educated but are they becoming more dangerous than previous ones? For examples, are we dangerous to our parents? Grand parents? If yes, in what way? What you are thinking is wrong, or maybe you are thinking we are becoming more dangerous to our own planet, then may be yes but that is not what the video is all about. Being educated of this topic in the video is just part of evolution and betterment of mankind.
Screw school and teach yourself and tell your kids to read when you have taught them how to read. My parents read books to me and then paid me 5 bucks an hour to read and that was my allowance not wasted time on chores or free money and I learned much more than anything I could have ever learned from school on my own.
Not always going to be inspired or motivated. Depression and anxiety. Got to get up anyways and dig deeper. Showing up. Usually the anxiety depression disappears. Ull ur intuition says don’t go. Lol no time to get down really just think the opposite to. Most people think one thing and it’s a bad thing not knowing there’s the opposite and they can think that. Stupid ppl I’m sorry they are. And get mad when u suggest what’s so obvious
You are what makes youtube great. Proper use of the video format, and exactly the balance of depth and brevity there is too little of in this world. I hope you'll grow in support and can live off what you're doing - society would be better off.
Just to be fair--the way Jin Lin originally used 'briefness' was grammatically correct. That being said, brevity has the same meaning and is more pleasing to the ear
Damn, this one cuts deep today. In fact, the very act of me watching this video is partly what is described as the "easy road". I watch videos constantly, waste time on the internet, and play games to numb myself from the pain of depression, to avoid facing it when I should be doing the work I ought to care about...and it's difficult to stop because on one hand I do have a genuine interest in the things I use to distract myself- but the problem is the amount of time I spend consuming these things is out of balance by far with the time I spend creating something and synthesizing the things I've learned from what I've consumed. I know I need to change and fast, but it's like my depression and subsequently formed habits has a stranglehold on me. Depression is in some sense, an addiction of emotion. Not because we want to feel depressed, but because our body/brain feels it needs it.
I'm trying to think of my depression as an incubation period. As in, one day I'll get so frustrated by it that I'll finally be able to break free and act on all the things I've learned while being in this state. The thing is to get there I realize I need help to break free. At the moment I don't want to accept it, still in denial.
linmonPIE I think I’ve felt the same way but have been unable to articulate it like that. Now I’m pressing forward, trying to focus on the present/future, anything but my past.
"Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose." That will be going over in my head for a while. Thank you!
7:19 Muhammad Ali said that he hated training, but did it anyway because he knew it was the path towards being a champion. The goal far outweighed the struggle of the journey for him.
Schwarzenegger was once asked where he took his self discipline to train each day in his bodybuilding years. He answered that he knows what he does it all for and thats why he liked to do the training. He knew what it was worth for.
Seeking the truth as it relates to conscious life? Search *_Truth Contest_* and read the top entry called "The Present". The truth will set you free, the difference between knowing and not knowing is checking.
this page really did nothing (no offence to the page, its awesome). you did this yourself. you and you alone wield the power after all. its great responsibility, its your responsibility :)
William F. Buckley Jr why are you bringing him down? That makes no sense. If it helped him transform him self in a positive way who cares. It’s pathetic of you to insult him for that. You are less wise than you may believe if you think what you said is true.
Heed these words, fellas. I've been following the path of death since graduating secondary school. I'm now 33 and it really is an awful life not to be moving forward. I'm doing something about it now, and hopefully this year I'll be accepted onto an apprenticeship. My changes made are largely due to these videos. They have made me aware of things I didn't know were problems, or even existed. I just thought I was doomed. I sure hope these topics will be taught in schools someday. It would be nice to know nobody else falls into this crack.
@@vantage789 thank you for asking, Michael. I did not get accepted onto the apprenticeship. And I am still struggling to find and keep a job. But I'm still learning of all the things that have been holding me back. And finding it difficult to take that first step towards growth, which is learning to say no to certain things. I'm pretty passive-aggressive. And I find assertiveness difficult to cultivate.
Thank you for these videos. They are extraordinary. They make me feel like there is a group of very special people experiencing life beside me, sharing the same ideas, following the same passions, always fighting to attain a higher consciousness.
Machina That's the great thing about philosophy, all there are is opinions and perspectives. You have chosen the nihilistic-deterministic one, wich might work for you, but it doesn't work for most people because it is fucking depressing. The people who like this channel choose to find their own meaning and forge their own destiny.
David Exactly. I mean granted the nihilista do have some points to prove, but purpose and passion give value to my life, so I shall find as much of it as I can until I fall to dust.
Depression is a lot of times an indicator that we are in the wrong course in life. It is not to be medicated, ignored, or placated. Depression is an indication that we must change that course we are on, as uncomfortable as that might be.
I’m 2 years late. But I’m here. I have never thought to just ‘let the feelings take care of themselves” I’m in complete shock. I’ve been on the road of death for 5 years. I’m only 19. No matter what I’m always going to be scared. I have to accept that. I just need to have the courage to complete my goals. I won’t ever be ready. I just need to do.. Wow. Thank you
"Sow a thought and you reap an action; sow an action and you reap a habit; sow a habit and you reap a character; sow a character and you reap a destiny." (Ralph Waldo Emerson)
I have just recently turned thirty-one back in April. And from time to time I would have these sudden out pours of overwhelming sadness and madness. When I am home alone I'll lose myself and cry for no reason. Then laugh it off. Cry some more. Laugh it off. I have a decent job. Livable salary. A home. A wife. Working on children with her. Yet, there's this great void in my heart. Feels like a hole at times. I would have these dreams where I was alone in the ocean. Shrouded by darkness. No stars. No moonlight. Just me trying to keep my head above water yet calmly struggling underneath the surface. I am happy I stumbled upon this content this morning before I start my usual routine before going to work. It's comforting. And I thank you for that.
I think it was the reality we were heading towards a pandemic and civil unrest. I am good now. Two month old son is here. Still have my job. Able to work from home. Good stuff. 😄👍
Sometimes doesn’t have to be drugs or alcohol to avoid ourselves. Living in your mind. The fantasy life we create our minds. Dreaming in our sleep-some of us have mastered and live in our dreams. So many ways to avoid this life, this world. Yes, we need to conquer this.
I’m glad I subscribed to this page,this video has been dropped at a point in my life where i need it the most. I feel like very few people enjoy these kind of videos these days.
godhead well, yea, it's important to recognize that the safe road is ridden with one's guilt and is a dead end. if you feel good about a video like this, it's not because it's a petty pep talk. it's because it's cathartic to realize that hopelessness, that feeling of being trapped in your own inertia, can be overcome. don't be so pessimistic. the safe road is more than enough burden for anyone.
Yes these videos have really helped me after less than 2 months of seeing them and come at an opportune time. This year I have learned that whining about and processing feelings in counseling isn't effective (for me), but spending much of this year acting instead of just feeling has gotten me SO FAR. Thank you AOI for the added clear of the clog!
I watched this video this morning when I was feeling terrible after a few days of no sleep, on my period, feeling sorry for myself. I was going to give in and just lie in bed all day, but this video was the kick in the butt that I needed. I said to myself ‘Who says I can’t enjoy my day anyway?!’. I got up, got dressed and went on a long beautiful walk, taking in the nature around me, imagining I was on an adventure. It was honestly the most fun I’ve had in a while. Thank you so much! 💖🙏💖
It reminded me of a poem by Rumi - The Guest house : This being human is a guest house. Every morning a new arrival. A joy, a depression, a meanness, some momentary awareness comes As an unexpected visitor. Welcome and entertain them all! Even if they're a crowd of sorrows, who violently sweep your house empty of its furniture, still treat each guest honorably. He may be clearing you out for some new delight. The dark thought, the shame, the malice, meet them at the door laughing, and invite them in. Be grateful for whoever comes, because each has been sent as a guide from beyond
This. I've always prided myself on being highly conscious. This naivety and gullibility helped me along the way because I always see goodness in almost everything. I wasn't well read in spirituality (the trickster which is the ego) therefore, I always acknowledge and welcome thoughts that come into my awareness. Making them all as mine, thinking all the insights or wisdom come from me, not knowing that NOTHING is really mine. I have come to a point that I no longer fear emotions and I even set time aside especially to painful ones, deceiving myself that every time I have given in, I am growing.
I'm loving how everyone who commented about finding this at the perfect timing, not realizing that this video was posted years ago, an act in the past, but literally changing our future!
Carl Jung is truly a master of the mind. I used to have severe social anxiety the past 10 years of my life and I never tried to talk to anyone about it, I simply thought I would have to live with it. Recently after a 600ug acid trip and a trip to my brain, I came in contact with my “shadow side” and I came to terms with a lot of things I’ve been pushing down deep inside since I was 5. It was scary to face the thoughts that I would ignore but it turned out to be for the best. My anxiety is gone and I feel like a door that has been open for years and years has finally been closed and now another one has opened, my vision. I truly see my vision and nothing is going to stop me from living it. Stay safe and good luck on your journeys ❤️
Your actions and inactions determine your thoughts, and your thoughts determine your actions. ….Staying in thought and not taking action will only lead to negative thoughts and more inaction. So take action and that will change your thoughts for the better, and you’ll continue to take actions, form positive thoughts, and repeat this cycle!
I went through a phase in life where every job I worked I got fired from or asked to leave. It sucked at first but after awhile I came to see it as a new experience. Got further ahead than my peers ever did.
When I finally built the courage to go for my dreams, the feeling was exuberant. For once i was in control of my destiny. The more i worked ,the more my momentum grew. Then i lost my job which i deemed as very important at the time and i lost my confidence too. Depression took over and i stopped pursuing and basically quit, losing all momentum. This video just puts everything in perspective for me and i realize what needs to be done . Thank you for all your videos.
1.2 million views. I am VERY happy that such an important video was views by more than 1 million people. This video is transformative if applied. Literally 360 degrees brothers and sisters, if you ACT. NOW.
"the ability to act even when we dont feel up to it, is the most distinguishing characteristic of self actualizers" - thank you, that will help me stay motivated. Good Stuff.
Amazing timing for this. Been struggling from depression whilst unemployed, but one day I dragged myself out and began to create the vague shape of a business. More a handful of random hobbies and skills developed over time, which may all work well together. As I begin to add flesh to the bones of an idea, I am finding I feel better and better. More positive, sharper and more and more confident by the day. A shape is forming, something new, unusual and I think will be welcomed in the world and the market. I had considered that my depression was my mind's way of trying to move me to be proactive by making the couch and laziness upset me; I am now convinced that the depression was my mind not being sufficiently challenged and stimulated. I'm going to watch this a few more times and share.
This video really hit home. Looking at the comments section I think a lot of people needed this video, and I count myself among them. Thank you so much Academy of Ideas, one of the best channels on YT.
1. 0:48 - Acklowdge and Accept change is needed 2. 2:34 - Identify, what change is needed for a fulfilling life 3. 3:02 - Self-actualization 4. 4:05 - The Thought 5. 5:26 - Moving from Thought to Action 6. 6:18 - Morita Therapy 7. 8:00 - Reflect on Death 8. 9:17 - Road of Death
This is hands down my favorite channel on TH-cam. Primarily because you focus on solutions to our problems instead of seeking new one's out and dwelling on them. When I can afford to i would love to contribute to the effort! Until then my gratitude is all I have to offer; and you have it!
4:06 - The thought. One of my favorite parts of this video. Too many times I envision the life I like to live, the careers I'd like to pursue. But that's it. I only envision them. I do not pursue and thus never truly know if it is something I would've truly enjoyed or not
I strongly recommend the test called Strength finder 2.0, it will help sort this out. And maybe you will lean to accept this habit of envisioning. Perhaps you can even incorporate it into your life in a meaningful way which you will cherish and realize the positives in this habit. Good luck!
wow..... i have started to become self aware and by seeing who i am i wanted to change it, thats why i found this channel. this is the missing key. it explains alot of my problems. one of them is that i now know who i am and i know what i want to be but i didnt know the path to take to get there. thank you for this.
Most people don't have a clear direction. It can be found within themselves but usually they need a mentor, teacher, or a guide to help draw it out of them. When you're already hurting, it can be difficult to take meaningful and purposeful action because you're so focused on the validation of others to show the way instead of knowing and acting in alignment with your values.
Benjamin Walters. Lol I joined the Army... I desperately needed a change in environment. Where I am now is no longer conducive to self-growth. I know the risks involved. I either sink or swim. Nothing ventured, nothing gained
A very good video. I'm in my 25s and even now I feel like I'm now fulfilling my true purpose, for a long time now. The problem is that sometimes you don't know where to turn to start working on it.
I just discovered this channel and as someone who spends most of their time going through youtube videos I must say I’m very impressive. It’s now on my top 5 favorite channels
This video came at a great time for me. The word courage is so cliche it has never had any meaning to me. Realizing that real courage is the ability to persist even when my emotions are down, is an eye opener. I'm constantly caught in the trap of massive action when I first find inspiration, and hitting a slump when random depression shows up and kills my momentum. What I need is to build courage, and keep my focus and my feet moving even if I wake up feeling depressed or bummed out. Thanks for this
Courage is actually a very underrated word in today's world. People associate it with heroes or those in a dangerous profession and forget that it can be a strength anyone could or should have.
So many complain about their lives but never dare to confront their fears and troubles, let alone fighting them. I'm so sick of those feel-good pity-yourself or blame-it-on-others nonsense people are too busy feeding themselves to get by instead of taking up the responsibility and BE THE CHANGE. In the end, even though we have no control over what the outcomes may be, at least we've put up a good fight and hopefully have become wiser and stronger for it. Thank you so much, (um I still don't know your name) for telling it as it is. The world needs truth more than anything right now. EDIT: Absolutely overwhelmed to hear from so many independent-minded brave souls fighting similar battles as I am from this tiny corner of oasis on yt. Just to clarify, by no means do I deny that real victim-hood does exist or downplay its significance. Life can be cruel & unfair. And no doubt that a little kindness could at times make a world of difference, even save a life. Though the sad truth is most people could not comprehend others' problem due to a lack of understanding or simply an absence of genuine concern. Not to mention more often than not the help people offer are under their terms: what they think you need except not really. Yet despite the outside help one may or may not get, we shall have to face battles that could only be fought by ourselves. We do it for our own sake. Perhaps the best way to go about it is to find things that truly spark your passion for life itself. As Nietzsche put it: "He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how." It doesn't even have to be just one thing, mind you~ At the risk of sounding like a manic pixie dream girl stereotype, I sincerely believe that small wonders exist in places that one cares to look. Let's put up a good fight!! Love & respect
Seeking the truth as it relates to conscious life? Search *_Truth Contest_* and prove yourself. Read the top entry called "The Present". This is truth you can and should check for yourself, this is truth the evidence says is true.
tinkerchel Could not agree more. In fact Maslows hierarchy of needs shows us that you cannot be of service to any one,unless you get your act together. One should focus on themselves and strive to reach their full potential and become an asset to the world, rather than dwell in lower consciousness and become a liability.
Borogovac is right. The fault is not in showing sympathy, its that many people live their lives initially drowning in self hate and learn to suplant that with self love. But many get stuck here, you have to make the next step must be taken back towards self discipline.
Before the wannabe "I act like a 'strong' father figure on the internet' types get here, its important that we realize that they fail because they don't see that their goal is dialectical. DUDE JUST PACK YOUR EMOTIONS IN AND MAN UP MAN ITS SO SIMPLE" doesn't work in the long run. The fact is that the biggest thing that a parent should instill in their child is a synthesis between positive forms of self-love and self-discipline. That you can value your abilities, forgive your failings, but not make excuses for them. I feel like many people stuck in cycles of self pity have failed in the "JUST MAN UP" method. Both aspects are required for full self value. One helps you not be ashamed of the pit you've dug for yourself, the other gives you the confidence to climb out of it and then climb a mountain.
I think I watched this video when it came out...it hits different after 2 years of growth. A list of changes I've made in my life would be too long. I'm happy now (:
Thank you for this. It’s time to start being the larger than life person I once lived as. I just realized that I am still that person, I just have to nourish that “me” with the right thoughts and then the right actions. I am excited to start doing those things which once gave me great pleasure. Thank you for this video, God bless you and your work.
Angela B Isn't this Video in itself also a SCAPE? He Actually Mentioned that From escape to Existence? How Deluded one can be? I Mean Sure You Can Imagine Alternative Realities ILLUSION your own Bubble! Lol or a "Safe space" Now, Because you're Already a Fragment and you're Living on This Paradox bipolar concepts! (DUALITY) Black Vs White Right Vs Wrong! Positive Vs Negative! Optimistic Vs Pessimistic! and so on and on an ETERNAL iONes!! there is no end to Rabbit hole!! Very Simple because it is only a Hole!
OPENING THE DNA I think what you're saying is similar to Buddhist philosophy. I do think we severely limit ourselves by constantly clinging to things and feeding the ego. It makes us delusional addicts. But every human being has certain inner resources/qualities waiting to be developed, no matter how mediocre or hopeless a person may seem; intuition, creativity and compassion, to name a few. We should strive to develop those without feeling superior, to experience more of life, if not for happiness or success. Otherwise, it's a life wasted, for there's no end to the abyss.
One of the most important things in life,is to remain humble. Humility enables you to realize your potential (or at least a part of it) Most people create this pride. This prison that they cant escape from. Pride makes you feel like you are good enough and dont need to change. When the exact opposite is true.
These videos have really helped me after less than 2 months of seeing them and come at an opportune time. This year I have learned that whining about and processing feelings in counseling isn't effective (for me), but spending much of this year acting instead of just feeling has gotten me SO FAR. Thank you AOI for the added clear of the clog!
I need to let you know something, this channel has changed my life , my perspective, the way I see life and meaning, your videos make me think deeply about my nature even more than all the guys on the internet such as tony robbins, jordan peterson and others but nothing like this channel this is gold..THANK YOU bro..
The importance of change and channelizing towards a purposeful actualization is very well narrated. Mostly surrounding Abraham Maslow. But other major figures reflections were also well included. Can be watched when you are trying to accomplish something that is bigger than your actual capabilities. Visting after an year or so again. Thank dear Academy of Ideas folks.
I am on a journey to make age 50 to 75 the best years of my life. Transforming self is part of this - but takes time. Making good progress- and daily need the courage to face the parts of self that keep me from acting. #50to75
I so needed to hear this today. Feeling a little lost these days. Life threw a curve ball I wasn't expecting & in a blink my whole environment changed forever! More than I am comfortable with.
Adversity builds character but more than that it encourages growth so if you're going to Hard Times be thankful you are still in progress mode and getting better everyday
You are presenting concepts here as if EVERYONE knew them. But many of them took me years to realize and NO ONE could tell me. "Finding your passion through thought alone is often a fruitless endeavor. Only through the attainment of skill can we uncover what our passion could be. Therefore it is much more useful to simply pursue an area that spikes curiosity and uncover one's passion along the path."
Congratulations to whoever put this compilation together. I am a retired professor of psychology amd taught undergraduate and graduate students. You earned an solid A here...this is a clear succinct and smooth exploration of the major ideas of some of the best developmental theorists for a public audience. Kudos for popularizing these ideas. One can see from the comments section how powerfully you have moved many people in these chaotic times....now for them to put these ideas into action to transform THEIR lives. Good work! Sybil Francis, PhD clinical psychologist since 1979
I was diagnosed as a Type 1 Diabetic when I was 11 years old. When I received confirmation I fell into a pit of despair and nihilism. Pre-established perfectionism manifested itself due to a lost sense of control. At the age of 20, I am now coming to terms with the habits which defined my youth that prove problematic for assuming self-responsibility, such as passivity. Due to intense neurotic symptoms in tandem with my physiological condition, I didn't have the opportunity to develop many skills necessary for long-term success as I spent much of my adolescence in hospitalization programs. The excerpt from this video detailing the distress some people experience later in life in not acknowledging the calls to self-actualization perfectly echoes how I view my life currently. I feel like I'm meandering, and am panicking and pressuring myself to engage in radical change (as opposed to gradual/incremental improvement). I'm trying my damnedest to fix myself up. I hope I get there.
This video is the story of my life. I cannot believe that in this juncture of my life when i am not sure what to do next and feel guilty of many things, I have found this video so accurately defining what is wrong with me and how to cure it. Thanks
I cant belive how this touched me . Year ago I wasn't that person that sat on bad feeling and I changed my life no problem but being an empath lately iv been really feeling the stress of the world and iv felt alot like I'd got of the rid , I feel insacure, I don't feel I'm radiating i kidna forgot the kind of person I really am . This just made me think its normal pull it together so thank you
“Sad will be the day for any man when he becomes contented with the thoughts he is thinking and the deeds he is doing - where there is not forever beating at the doors of his soul some great desire to do something larger; which he knows he was meant and made to do.” [ Phillips Brooks ]
I have been taking the Easy Path for last 2 years. I think I have accepted that I am imperfect and had internalized it so much that I thought no change could occur. Perfectionist in me became discontent and then just indolent. But the next 3-4 months are very important to me, I need to get it right at all cost. The greatest thing it will endow me with is my family's happiness and a successful career path. I want to become who I want to be now and it is high time that I embark on this journey of self-actualization. I have to do it as the prospect of regret by my older self is frightening. I simply want to achieve what I have dreamt of and I know that I am capable of it. Maslow was right, unfulfillment of one's potential breeds unhappiness. I don't want that even though consistency will be hard. I am writing this at night after which I am going to sleep. Tomorrow and everyday after that will be different from the last months. By writing this here, I hope I remember this and do the right thing in difficult times. Dear father & mother, doing this for you.
This video is giving me the answer to my current battle with myself, which I didn’t know it is a battle! I’ve always been thriving for creativity in life and forced myself to stay in a certain field once I am good at it.. but my true nature wants to discover and learn new things. So when you say passion follows the development of our skills it makes proper sense to me to move forward to another challenge! Thank you!
Your videos are some of the most beautiful and enpowering things I have ever listened to. From when I was young - beginning sometime in late middle school - I found that I was haunted by a nearly constant sense of implacable dread; of crushing guilt and anxeity that suffocated, like a pillowing cloud of sulphuric smoke, my being in the toxicity of every single hour I wasted. Others, as I invariably found, were perplexed by this affliction of mine. So often was it that a family member or friend advised me to "relax," or to not be so pessimistically obsessed with the usage of time, that Iearned to construe this lingering melancholia as a pathology-in-itself; it was unnatural, and I was simply being irrationally neurotic, causing suffering that had little legitmate basis in reality. I would try to explain my feelings, describing how I was plagued by an awareness of things I "ought" to be doing, whilst ceaselessly defying these imperatives through indulgence in what I "wanted" to do in the hedonistic present. Increasingly, however, I'm coming to realize that it was never merely a fundamental sickness that inflamed my spirit so - it was an undying call to greatness, to the furious realization of my true capabilities. And as this truth reveals itself underneath the unobscured light, the lot of those surrounding me suddenly appears so tragic, so ignorantly narrow and morose. There obviously is a legitimacy to the medicalization of such pathologies, for I cannot even begin to state how much my own path to self-realization has been catalyzed by psychiatry and supplementation, and it is excessively severe to attribute the sort of suffering you discuss as resulting *essentially* from inadaquate being or pleasure-seeking quiescence; some are genuinely burdened, far more than others of similar talents or potentials, by sickness of the mind beyond their will's reach. The mistake lies in stopping at pills or platitudes. (Now i've spent far too much time on this comment!)
I had no idea of the problems people are having - at least according to this lecture. When I was 16 I decided what I wanted to do with my life. At 17 I travelled to the country we came from to visit my grandparents. Unexpectedly fell in love. I knew my life would be the best if she became my travelling companion - we got engaged. I returned home to continue my education and returned to marry her 3 years later. She was not keen on my life's ambition, so I pursued other interests - learned many skills and accomplished much. At 41, she was on board with my life's ambition. Enjoyed that for a while, then looked for something else. Wandered in the wilderness, so to speak. Then ill health almost destroyed me. Now I am 75 yrs old and life is tough physically, but my mind is still functioning well. I learned to give thanks for EVERYTHING and like who we have become. Interestingly it is all those events we considered tragic at the time that have brought us the most blessings and brought us to this now. Learning lots and have the basics of what makes life good - someone to love, something to do and something to look forward to.
I amount of anxiety will Change tge future and no amount of depression will Change tge past.. if you cannot be happy with what you have you will never be happy ... now is the only time there is all joy and suffering comes from wuthin. Who or what should be responsabile for what goes on inside you.. nobody will feel your feelings for you.. 💞🙏💞
Thank you! -often feeling regret/anxiety/depressed is due to all the actions and inactions we’ve taken til now, therefore indicates we need to take purposeful actions for a new 2nd chapter of life. Purposeful actions is the ONLY way to change. Meditation/introspection (aka staying in thoughts) is nice but not enough to make external changes. ACTION is the only way. -Purposeful actions entails focusing ONLY on just doing the action itself, NOT on the feelings of fear/anxiety we’ve programmed ourselves to feel. Remember, you’re going to die soon (“Momento Mori”). If you knew you’d die today, odds are you’d be regretful. However if you at least took some purposeful action despite the fear/anxiety, you’d feel better off knowing you took some control of your life beforehand. So keep taking purposeful action every day - there is no “perfect time” to act, other than Now. Don’t reflect on the past, just focus on acting Now. Don’t fear embarrassment, failure, or rejection of your actions - feel embarrassed and like a failure only if you don’t take action. After taking enough purposeful action, the feelings of fear/anxiety will gradually fade away and even be replaced by positive feelings of confidence, satisfaction, and joy.
I've made some positive changes in my life in the past new years, but I can never get away from a feeling that is is all futile, that nothing I do makes any difference to my life situation and that I'm just whistling in the dark. A deep cynicism and negativity so rule my mental perspective that I can't even entertain the notion that a person might really and trully change his/her life. It's like Bruce Springstein says, "Same old story, same old act. One step up and and two steps back." There is a force in the human psyche that does not want positive change. It operates unconsciously and sabotages most of our best efforts to improve our lives. The complexes in the unconsicous are the truly deciding factors here.
Until I realised that through affirmations, meditation, positive self talk and discipline I have the power to rewrite the subconscius beliefs and patterns that have held me back
Man, I deeply understand you, I've been striving for self-overcoming in the last 2 years and half and in the latest period I'm just feeling back that deadly sensation, that spirit of gravity, that sense of absolute impotence and weakness which is so childish, is kinda like having the little creepy Voldemort inside of Harry and sometimes you just identify with that awful creature because in your past you've been so self-destructive, self-loathing and self-hating that a part of your Soul has become "That thing" which still lives inside of you. Everytime you achieve something you say "yeah, I did this! But That Thing is still me", and that undeveloped awareness, that sense of permanent and immutable sick misery which characterizes a part of your Soul makes you feel your whole Soul rotten in the dark moments that Life will present to you, or in those moments in which you won't have performed as good as you should have. I suppose (because I'm still wrestling with this dynamic) that the nihilist miserable part of our personality should become a challenge to learn authentic compassion setting the right boundaries to not fall in self-pity, in learning to acknowledge weakness and vulnerability without giving up the courage to strive for "that which I decided is subjectively meaningful", with no need for external validation of his meaningfulness. Seems to me as a wake up call to our Inner Warrior, fallen asleep due to fogs of unconscious fears and appetites, personal and collective. Through writing this has become clear to me that we are called to find the Sacred Masculine within us, the Meaning Affirming principle at the root of our human existence. Anyway, God bless you through your Path my friend.
"There is a force in the human psyche that does not want positive change." It is the love of comfort, the destroyer of motivation and creativity. A quote from Khalil Gibran: “The lust for comfort, that stealthy thing that enters the house a guest, and then becomes a host, and then a master.” Stoic in thought, and Spartan in discipline, that takes you a long way.
Among the spate of new-age self-help motivational blether swarming all over internet these days, your channel comes over as refreshingly inspiring and educative. I wish you success in your quest for true knowledge and wisdom, keep up the good work going.
Sounds silly but I woke up each day listening to your videos and goes to sleep listening to them. You have no idea how reassuring, motivational and truthful they are. They resonate in me so deeply that I cannot thank you enough! May you’ll find success and continue to give us so much joy!
I think that this is the most important and effective approach to life that I have discovered so far! I just wish that I had found it a lot earlier in life, as I have been despressed for most of it. My advice: accept things as they are - especially if you can't change them - and do something useful or interesting. That really does work, in my experience. Bon Voyage!
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I know what I'm about to say has been said before but I think it is worth repeating: You are more insightful than The School of Life. Sure it's my opinion, but the more I watch your videos and compare them to theirs I get this sense of objectivity from you, and that's a good thing. It's necessary. Well done.
Great video ( as always ) and incredibly apt, and inspirational for my current situation. Over the past 8 months I've been preaching a very similar message. After doing much introspection and reflection on my life, I've decided to embark on a degree, part time. Funny how the easy way out is exactly opposite, and does nothing but 'lock' you in further.
Videos like this often make me think, how happy can I be for society to exist, for technology to be found, for people to try. Because without information like this I might never learn and spread my awareness to teach me these things. And these are the answers to my problems, which ironically I run away from. Thank you for the video, it solved a problem or two for me :)
this was DENSE with great stuff. I hung on every word. it pulls so much from several sources in my experiences into poignant alignment. appreciative, sir
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Academy of Ideas thank you.
I love every video you post my friend. You have given me much and continue to give much. I hope that some day I meet you, for you seem a man of great thought and wide knowledge. I wish you forward on your journey.
frustration & desperation- the begining photo of people inside a 1970 subway car!
no air conditioning, the graffitti, and outside the acid rain, the silent springs, leaded gas-creating multicolored rainbows! today we celebrated the clean-air act😊
You know what gets me, I've been thinking these things for years but haven't changed anything, allowing the business of university to mask it. It's not the first time I've realised my previous thoughts on the matter were correct. It's a shame that I haven't trusted myself and delayed action for so long. I think I'll be rewatching this one often. Thank you. Would you be inclined in doing a video on self-trust/doubt?
Thank you! I think the Danby painting is missing from the link ( the one at 07.40)
Only if this was taught in school. We'd have brilliant minds everywhere. Thank you for this invalueble video.
an educated population is a dangerous one
seven nah, succeeding generations became more educated but are they becoming more dangerous than previous ones? For examples, are we dangerous to our parents? Grand parents? If yes, in what way? What you are thinking is wrong, or maybe you are thinking we are becoming more dangerous to our own planet, then may be yes but that is not what the video is all about. Being educated of this topic in the video is just part of evolution and betterment of mankind.
@@formula1340 sure, they may be becoming more educated but they're also becoming more demoralized. Without motivation that education means nothing.
@@formula1340 an educated population is only dangerous to scummy politicians and other uneducated people.
Screw school and teach yourself and tell your kids to read when you have taught them how to read. My parents read books to me and then paid me 5 bucks an hour to read and that was my allowance not wasted time on chores or free money and I learned much more than anything I could have ever learned from school on my own.
"We must learn that we can take purposeful action even when we are feeling anxious depressed or fearful."
Precisely own the emotion don't let it rent space but doing what's needed is being that change. Bee Love
Not always going to be inspired or motivated. Depression and anxiety. Got to get up anyways and dig deeper. Showing up. Usually the anxiety depression disappears. Ull ur intuition says don’t go. Lol no time to get down really just think the opposite to. Most people think one thing and it’s a bad thing not knowing there’s the opposite and they can think that. Stupid ppl I’m sorry they are. And get mad when u suggest what’s so obvious
What if those horrid, negative feelings come from PTSD?
Anger cures nothing, and satisfies even less.
You are what makes youtube great. Proper use of the video format, and exactly the balance of depth and brevity there is too little of in this world. I hope you'll grow in support and can live off what you're doing - society would be better off.
Jin Lin 😳 'briefness' ❎ 'brevity' ✅
Hope you're happier now ;) ty
Just to be fair--the way Jin Lin originally used 'briefness' was grammatically correct. That being said, brevity has the same meaning and is more pleasing to the ear
Yes, as per my view, it makes TH-cam awesome, but I hope it is not restricted to it only, great work dude👍👌🤛.
And the pretty pictures.
Choose your thoughts the way an artist chooses his brush strokes.
This is divine.
And pick your friends like you pick your fruit.
Beautifully stated!
Damn, this one cuts deep today. In fact, the very act of me watching this video is partly what is described as the "easy road". I watch videos constantly, waste time on the internet, and play games to numb myself from the pain of depression, to avoid facing it when I should be doing the work I ought to care about...and it's difficult to stop because on one hand I do have a genuine interest in the things I use to distract myself- but the problem is the amount of time I spend consuming these things is out of balance by far with the time I spend creating something and synthesizing the things I've learned from what I've consumed. I know I need to change and fast, but it's like my depression and subsequently formed habits has a stranglehold on me. Depression is in some sense, an addiction of emotion. Not because we want to feel depressed, but because our body/brain feels it needs it.
Feels like I am exactly as you.....baby steps brother.
My exact feelings n actions
Best of luck to you I have had these same feelings
I'm trying to think of my depression as an incubation period. As in, one day I'll get so frustrated by it that I'll finally be able to break free and act on all the things I've learned while being in this state. The thing is to get there I realize I need help to break free. At the moment I don't want to accept it, still in denial.
linmonPIE I think I’ve felt the same way but have been unable to articulate it like that. Now I’m pressing forward, trying to focus on the present/future, anything but my past.
"Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose."
That will be going over in my head for a while. Thank you!
Life is short so be sure to eat dessert first!
We have nothing to lose, and everything to gain.
Bill gates sure is wise
Is it just me, or did we all need to hear this?
Juanita Jimenez me too.
Yes sister
Never knew how much I needed this. I was having a dark, anxiety ridden day since waking up and after watching this video I feel placated
Your as wise as these words ;)
Hell yes we did.
7:19 Muhammad Ali said that he hated training, but did it anyway because he knew it was the path towards being a champion. The goal far outweighed the struggle of the journey for him.
Schwarzenegger was once asked where he took his self discipline to train each day in his bodybuilding years. He answered that he knows what he does it all for and thats why he liked to do the training. He knew what it was worth for.
I believe in his words he said, “ I hated every minute of training I did but I told myself suffer now and live the rest of your life as a champion”.
This page changed my life.
István Urbán:
Then you need to get a better life.
Seeking the truth as it relates to conscious life? Search *_Truth Contest_* and read the top entry called "The Present". The truth will set you free, the difference between knowing and not knowing is checking.
István Urbán me too
this page really did nothing (no offence to the page, its awesome). you did this yourself. you and you alone wield the power after all. its great responsibility, its your responsibility :)
William F. Buckley Jr why are you bringing him down? That makes no sense. If it helped him transform him self in a positive way who cares. It’s pathetic of you to insult him for that. You are less wise than you may believe if you think what you said is true.
This is food for the soul. I need more introspective people in my life so we can grow as people.
You are beautiful 🙂
Likewise agreed.
This is not food for the soul this is junk for the intellect brother go on google type in pathwork read those lectures
@@wheretonext1158 my brother the words spoken in the video are wise. It may be junk but to others who are starving these are the words to listen too.
Heed these words, fellas.
I've been following the path of death since graduating secondary school.
I'm now 33 and it really is an awful life not to be moving forward.
I'm doing something about it now, and hopefully this year I'll be accepted onto an apprenticeship.
My changes made are largely due to these videos. They have made me aware of things I didn't know were problems, or even existed.
I just thought I was doomed.
I sure hope these topics will be taught in schools someday.
It would be nice to know nobody else falls into this crack.
Godspeed!
It's been 9 months since you posted this, how are you doing now?
@@vantage789 thank you for asking, Michael.
I did not get accepted onto the apprenticeship.
And I am still struggling to find and keep a job.
But I'm still learning of all the things that have been holding me back. And finding it difficult to take that first step towards growth, which is learning to say no to certain things.
I'm pretty passive-aggressive.
And I find assertiveness difficult to cultivate.
@@sasquatchsiosaurus Stay strong and keep at it mate
@@sasquatchsiosaurus✌️
Turning 30 at midnight. This is EXACTLY the message I needed to hear. Thank you.
You're 34 now , what changed ?
35 now, what changed?
Happy birthday 😊
Thank you for these videos. They are extraordinary. They make me feel like there is a group of very special people experiencing life beside me, sharing the same ideas, following the same passions, always fighting to attain a higher consciousness.
David Becquer there has never been a comment so true, thankyou for this
fulfilling existence? 2 thousand years ago
Juvenal questioned the vanity of human wishes.
Machina That's the great thing about philosophy, all there are is opinions and perspectives. You have chosen the nihilistic-deterministic one, wich might work for you, but it doesn't work for most people because it is fucking depressing. The people who like this channel choose to find their own meaning and forge their own destiny.
David Exactly. I mean granted the nihilista do have some points to prove, but purpose and passion give value to my life, so I shall find as much of it as I can until I fall to dust.
Took the text right outta my would be comment, Thank you David Becquer
Depression is a lot of times an indicator that we are in the wrong course in life. It is not to be medicated, ignored, or placated. Depression is an indication that we must change that course we are on, as uncomfortable as that might be.
I’m 2 years late. But I’m here. I have never thought to just ‘let the feelings take care of themselves” I’m in complete shock. I’ve been on the road of death for 5 years. I’m only 19. No matter what I’m always going to be scared. I have to accept that. I just need to have the courage to complete my goals. I won’t ever be ready. I just need to do.. Wow. Thank you
This is the single most important video that must be re-watched again and again by everyone till it becomes a part of their thought process.
Our thought process*
"Sow a thought and you reap an action; sow an action and you reap a habit; sow a habit and you reap a character; sow a character and you reap a destiny." (Ralph Waldo Emerson)
I have just recently turned thirty-one back in April. And from time to time I would have these sudden out pours of overwhelming sadness and madness. When I am home alone I'll lose myself and cry for no reason. Then laugh it off. Cry some more. Laugh it off.
I have a decent job. Livable salary. A home. A wife. Working on children with her. Yet, there's this great void in my heart. Feels like a hole at times.
I would have these dreams where I was alone in the ocean. Shrouded by darkness. No stars. No moonlight. Just me trying to keep my head above water yet calmly struggling underneath the surface.
I am happy I stumbled upon this content this morning before I start my usual routine before going to work. It's comforting. And I thank you for that.
Go Heisenberg style and create a meth empire
Could also be clinical depression?
I think it was the reality we were heading towards a pandemic and civil unrest. I am good now. Two month old son is here. Still have my job. Able to work from home. Good stuff. 😄👍
Ah. Your timing couldn't be more impeccable. I really needed this.
the use of this word have never been more forced :Pp
Sometimes doesn’t have to be drugs or alcohol to avoid ourselves. Living in your mind. The fantasy life we create our minds. Dreaming in our sleep-some of us have mastered and live in our dreams. So many ways to avoid this life, this world. Yes, we need to conquer this.
I’m glad I subscribed to this page,this video has been dropped at a point in my life where i need it the most.
I feel like very few people enjoy these kind of videos these days.
jiju joseph same. I'm going through something similar right now, and I'm glad that I have the courage to make decisions even though I am afraid.
This information is always available in books. If you treat them as pep talks to make you feel better, you're just using them as an "easy way" out.
godhead
well, yea, it's important to recognize that the safe road is ridden with one's guilt and is a dead end.
if you feel good about a video like this, it's not because it's a petty pep talk. it's because it's cathartic to realize that hopelessness, that feeling of being trapped in your own inertia, can be overcome. don't be so pessimistic. the safe road is more than enough burden for anyone.
cynic,here😨
Yes these videos have really helped me after less than 2 months of seeing them and come at an opportune time.
This year I have learned that whining about and processing feelings in counseling isn't effective (for me), but spending much of this year acting instead of just feeling has gotten me SO FAR. Thank you AOI for the added clear of the clog!
I watched this video this morning when I was feeling terrible after a few days of no sleep, on my period, feeling sorry for myself. I was going to give in and just lie in bed all day, but this video was the kick in the butt that I needed. I said to myself ‘Who says I can’t enjoy my day anyway?!’. I got up, got dressed and went on a long beautiful walk, taking in the nature around me, imagining I was on an adventure. It was honestly the most fun I’ve had in a while. Thank you so much! 💖🙏💖
Wow. That inspired me and im a dude. God bless you and i hope youre feeling great theae days. Love from Texas.
thank you for your comment as I lie in bed today. i’m getting up
@PolishBehemoth6 Why did you feel it necessary to classify, dude? You know the words apply to humans, male and female. God bless you, dude.
It reminded me of a poem by Rumi - The Guest house :
This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.
A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
As an unexpected visitor.
Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they're a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.
The dark thought, the shame, the malice,
meet them at the door laughing,
and invite them in.
Be grateful for whoever comes,
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond
Uzma Ghazali Wow this hits me. So profound; thanks for sharing! 💗
awesome
I love rumi. His words are so profound and go beyond our understanding.
This. I've always prided myself on being highly conscious. This naivety and gullibility helped me along the way because I always see goodness in almost everything. I wasn't well read in spirituality (the trickster which is the ego) therefore, I always acknowledge and welcome thoughts that come into my awareness. Making them all as mine, thinking all the insights or wisdom come from me, not knowing that NOTHING is really mine. I have come to a point that I no longer fear emotions and I even set time aside especially to painful ones, deceiving myself that every time I have given in, I am growing.
Really like this. Thanks for sharing.
I'm loving how everyone who commented about finding this at the perfect timing, not realizing that this video was posted years ago, an act in the past, but literally changing our future!
I don't have the words to describe how important your content is. A thousand thank you's, gentlemen. Never stop.
Carl Jung is truly a master of the mind.
I used to have severe social anxiety the past 10 years of my life and I never tried to talk to anyone about it, I simply thought I would have to live with it. Recently after a 600ug acid trip and a trip to my brain, I came in contact with my “shadow side” and I came to terms with a lot of things I’ve been pushing down deep inside since I was 5. It was scary to face the thoughts that I would ignore but it turned out to be for the best. My anxiety is gone and I feel like a door that has been open for years and years has finally been closed and now another one has opened, my vision. I truly see my vision and nothing is going to stop me from living it. Stay safe and good luck on your journeys ❤️
This makes me feel hopeful
Great job!
@asuichan8436 Living in Mexico, I’ve been thinking it’s time to visit a reputable shaman, and take a trip of my own. Tks for reminder.
I doubt, how is ur life now
Bueno Hermana
The 4 agreements by Mexican shaman is one of the best books to help. To much to explain, short book. Life changer@@GladysAlicea
Your actions and inactions determine your thoughts, and your thoughts determine your actions.
….Staying in thought and not taking action will only lead to negative thoughts and more inaction.
So take action and that will change your thoughts for the better, and you’ll continue to take actions, form positive thoughts, and repeat this cycle!
I went through a phase in life where every job I worked I got fired from or asked to leave. It sucked at first but after awhile I came to see it as a new experience. Got further ahead than my peers ever did.
When I finally built the courage to go for my dreams, the feeling was exuberant. For once i was in control of my destiny. The more i worked ,the more my momentum grew. Then i lost my job which i deemed as very important at the time and i lost my confidence too. Depression took over and i stopped pursuing and basically quit, losing all momentum. This video just puts everything in perspective for me and i realize what needs to be done . Thank you for all your videos.
1.2 million views. I am VERY happy that such an important video was views by more than 1 million people. This video is transformative if applied. Literally 360 degrees brothers and sisters, if you ACT. NOW.
"the ability to act even when we dont feel up to it, is the most distinguishing characteristic of self actualizers" - thank you, that will help me stay motivated. Good Stuff.
Amazing timing for this.
Been struggling from depression whilst unemployed, but one day I dragged myself out and began to create the vague shape of a business.
More a handful of random hobbies and skills developed over time, which may all work well together.
As I begin to add flesh to the bones of an idea, I am finding I feel better and better.
More positive, sharper and more and more confident by the day.
A shape is forming, something new, unusual and I think will be welcomed in the world and the market.
I had considered that my depression was my mind's way of trying to move me to be proactive by making the couch and laziness upset me; I am now convinced that the depression was my mind not being sufficiently challenged and stimulated.
I'm going to watch this a few more times and share.
well hello two years later i hope you are well now ♡
This video really hit home. Looking at the comments section I think a lot of people needed this video, and I count myself among them. Thank you so much Academy of Ideas, one of the best channels on YT.
I like it - no safe spaces - no triggers - just brush yourself off - focus on a goal & get going!
You essentially just hear what you want to hear, huh?
CHANGE IS INEVITABLE
1. 0:48 - Acklowdge and Accept change is needed
2. 2:34 - Identify, what change is needed for a fulfilling life
3. 3:02 - Self-actualization
4. 4:05 - The Thought
5. 5:26 - Moving from Thought to Action
6. 6:18 - Morita Therapy
7. 8:00 - Reflect on Death
8. 9:17 - Road of Death
You are a gem! Crimson slayer!
Thank you! 💖
This video feels like I am in Athens, listening to philosophers. Amazing! Truly! This feeling is something I wish I could describe in more detail!
I visualised your comment, nice!
Dennis Blijleven me too!
i am in athens reading your comment, funny :)
I've been a victim of my own failure to realize who/what I am my entire life, and you just really helped me...
This is hands down my favorite channel on TH-cam. Primarily because you focus on solutions to our problems instead of seeking new one's out and dwelling on them. When I can afford to i would love to contribute to the effort! Until then my gratitude is all I have to offer; and you have it!
This is a another brilliant one. The accuracy is beautiful.
In other words: Act, ACt, ACT!!
4:06 - The thought.
One of my favorite parts of this video. Too many times I envision the life I like to live, the careers I'd like to pursue. But that's it. I only envision them. I do not pursue and thus never truly know if it is something I would've truly enjoyed or not
I strongly recommend the test called Strength finder 2.0, it will help sort this out. And maybe you will lean to accept this habit of envisioning. Perhaps you can even incorporate it into your life in a meaningful way which you will cherish and realize the positives in this habit. Good luck!
wow..... i have started to become self aware and by seeing who i am i wanted to change it, thats why i found this channel. this is the missing key. it explains alot of my problems. one of them is that i now know who i am and i know what i want to be but i didnt know the path to take to get there. thank you for this.
Most people don't have a clear direction. It can be found within themselves but usually they need a mentor, teacher, or a guide to help draw it out of them. When you're already hurting, it can be difficult to take meaningful and purposeful action because you're so focused on the validation of others to show the way instead of knowing and acting in alignment with your values.
I'm quitting my fucking job.
Benjamin Walters funny how in coloquial english, the word for payrd work in "job" like the prophet.
Benjamin Walters. Lol I joined the Army... I desperately needed a change in environment. Where I am now is no longer conducive to self-growth. I know the risks involved. I either sink or swim. Nothing ventured, nothing gained
I need a fucking job.
fuck yeah, bud
Benjamin Walters.. how did that work out for you?
I'm almost 40 and going through this process as we speak.
Your videos confirm that I'm on the right path...
A very good video. I'm in my 25s and even now I feel like I'm now fulfilling my true purpose, for a long time now. The problem is that sometimes you don't know where to turn to start working on it.
Remember you aren’t an automaton of the State and can grow beyond where we are
I love this stuff. I'm 35. Been seeking since birth. This stuff helps me. Along with alan watts and Terrence mckenna
Jordan Peterson has some great stuff too. Please check him out.
I just discovered this channel and as someone who spends most of their time going through youtube videos I must say I’m very impressive. It’s now on my top 5 favorite channels
This video came at a great time for me. The word courage is so cliche it has never had any meaning to me. Realizing that real courage is the ability to persist even when my emotions are down, is an eye opener. I'm constantly caught in the trap of massive action when I first find inspiration, and hitting a slump when random depression shows up and kills my momentum. What I need is to build courage, and keep my focus and my feet moving even if I wake up feeling depressed or bummed out.
Thanks for this
Courage is actually a very underrated word in today's world. People associate it with heroes or those in a dangerous profession and forget that it can be a strength anyone could or should have.
+Dantess26 yes courage comes in all shapes and can start with just waking up in the morning
keep going man
bro i fucking believe in you, your words i feel it man keep going
Thanks for this comment.
This ended on a very eerie, dark tone...very much needed.
"Hanging on in quiet desperation is the English way... the Time is up, the song is over, thought I'd something more to say....."
That album (The Dark Side of the Moon) changed my life. Everyone should listen to it and interpret it as they believe.
sung that and now im waiting for the instrumental to kick in haha
That was the first thing I thought of! Such an incredible album.
@@Mathias-jr2df "Why should I be frightened of dying? There's no reason for it, gotta go sometime."
This video was unexpectedly richer than I expected it to be. I'm glad I let it pay its course.
I almost switched off in the beginning. Good stuff.
So many complain about their lives but never dare to confront their fears and troubles, let alone fighting them. I'm so sick of those feel-good pity-yourself or blame-it-on-others nonsense people are too busy feeding themselves to get by instead of taking up the responsibility and BE THE CHANGE.
In the end, even though we have no control over what the outcomes may be, at least we've put up a good fight and hopefully have become wiser and stronger for it. Thank you so much, (um I still don't know your name) for telling it as it is. The world needs truth more than anything right now.
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Absolutely overwhelmed to hear from so many independent-minded brave souls fighting similar battles as I am from this tiny corner of oasis on yt.
Just to clarify, by no means do I deny that real victim-hood does exist or downplay its significance. Life can be cruel & unfair. And no doubt that a little kindness could at times make a world of difference, even save a life. Though the sad truth is most people could not comprehend others' problem due to a lack of understanding or simply an absence of genuine concern. Not to mention more often than not the help people offer are under their terms: what they think you need except not really. Yet despite the outside help one may or may not get, we shall have to face battles that could only be fought by ourselves. We do it for our own sake.
Perhaps the best way to go about it is to find things that truly spark your passion for life itself. As Nietzsche put it: "He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how." It doesn't even have to be just one thing, mind you~ At the risk of sounding like a manic pixie dream girl stereotype, I sincerely believe that small wonders exist in places that one cares to look.
Let's put up a good fight!! Love & respect
That is an empowering attitude, but don't make a mistake of believing that other people's problems are simple to understand and easy to solve.
Seeking the truth as it relates to conscious life? Search *_Truth Contest_* and prove yourself. Read the top entry called "The Present". This is truth you can and should check for yourself, this is truth the evidence says is true.
tinkerchel Could not agree more. In fact Maslows hierarchy of needs shows us that you cannot be of service to any one,unless you get your act together. One should focus on themselves and strive to reach their full potential and become an asset to the world, rather than dwell in lower consciousness and become a liability.
Borogovac is right. The fault is not in showing sympathy, its that many people live their lives initially drowning in self hate and learn to suplant that with self love. But many get stuck here, you have to make the next step must be taken back towards self discipline.
Before the wannabe "I act like a 'strong' father figure on the internet' types get here, its important that we realize that they fail because they don't see that their goal is dialectical. DUDE JUST PACK YOUR EMOTIONS IN AND MAN UP MAN ITS SO SIMPLE" doesn't work in the long run. The fact is that the biggest thing that a parent should instill in their child is a synthesis between positive forms of self-love and self-discipline. That you can value your abilities, forgive your failings, but not make excuses for them. I feel like many people stuck in cycles of self pity have failed in the "JUST MAN UP" method. Both aspects are required for full self value. One helps you not be ashamed of the pit you've dug for yourself, the other gives you the confidence to climb out of it and then climb a mountain.
I think I watched this video when it came out...it hits different after 2 years of growth. A list of changes I've made in my life would be too long. I'm happy now (:
Congrats, it’s rare so one comes back and comments with good news. I hope to be one of em. Be good
Im so happy for you
Wish you a happy journey ahead!
Love how this guy doesnt get involved with the comment section nor does he do face reveals cause he knows,he knows why he doesnt do this, i know too
Thank you for this. It’s time to start being the larger than life person I once lived as. I just realized that I am still that person, I just have to nourish that “me” with the right thoughts and then the right actions.
I am excited to start doing those things which once gave me great pleasure.
Thank you for this video, God bless you and your work.
For many people, work is on par with drugs and alcohol as a way to escape neuroses. But creative expression endures, come rain or shine.
Angela B Isn't this Video in itself also a SCAPE? He Actually Mentioned that From escape to Existence? How Deluded one can be? I Mean Sure You Can Imagine Alternative Realities ILLUSION your own Bubble! Lol or a "Safe space" Now, Because you're Already a Fragment and you're Living on This Paradox bipolar concepts! (DUALITY) Black Vs White Right Vs Wrong! Positive Vs Negative! Optimistic Vs Pessimistic! and so on and on an ETERNAL iONes!! there is no end to Rabbit hole!! Very Simple because it is only a Hole!
OPENING THE DNA I think what you're saying is similar to Buddhist philosophy. I do think we severely limit ourselves by constantly clinging to things and feeding the ego. It makes us delusional addicts. But every human being has certain inner resources/qualities waiting to be developed, no matter how mediocre or hopeless a person may seem; intuition, creativity and compassion, to name a few. We should strive to develop those without feeling superior, to experience more of life, if not for happiness or success. Otherwise, it's a life wasted, for there's no end to the abyss.
Angela B Then, you Should Start by Erase Your First Comment! BTW Nice Words!! DECEPTION IS SO STRONG ON US!!
OPENING THE DNA Thanks. Both my previous comments support each other, though :)
Angela B Lol Yes, Some How! I Must admit!! WE Need to Bring BALANCE Again! Thank you!!
One of the most important things in life,is to remain humble.
Humility enables you to realize your potential (or at least a part of it)
Most people create this pride.
This prison that they cant escape from.
Pride makes you feel like you are good enough and dont need to change.
When the exact opposite is true.
These videos have really helped me after less than 2 months of seeing them and come at an opportune time.
This year I have learned that whining about and processing feelings in counseling isn't effective (for me), but spending much of this year acting instead of just feeling has gotten me SO FAR. Thank you AOI for the added clear of the clog!
This hits home, if this does not cause a shift in your behaviour, I don’t know what will. Got to go, I have work to do.
The fact that most people never talk about topics like this says a lot about our society
I need to let you know something, this channel has changed my life , my perspective, the way I see life and meaning, your videos make me think deeply about my nature even more than all the guys on the internet such as tony robbins, jordan peterson and others but nothing like this channel this is gold..THANK YOU bro..
The importance of change and channelizing towards a purposeful actualization is very well narrated. Mostly surrounding Abraham Maslow. But other major figures reflections were also well included. Can be watched when you are trying to accomplish something that is bigger than your actual capabilities. Visting after an year or so again. Thank dear Academy of Ideas folks.
I am on a journey to make age 50 to 75 the best years of my life. Transforming self is part of this - but takes time. Making good progress- and daily need the courage to face the parts of self that keep me from acting. #50to75
I so needed to hear this today. Feeling a little lost these days. Life threw a curve ball I wasn't expecting & in a blink my whole environment changed forever! More than I am comfortable with.
You'll get back on track . Have faith , it will all be ok 💚
Adversity builds character but more than that it encourages growth so if you're going to Hard Times be thankful you are still in progress mode and getting better everyday
Ah, now there's something I'd like to replay each morning for motivation.
You are presenting concepts here as if EVERYONE knew them. But many of them took me years to realize and NO ONE could tell me.
"Finding your passion through thought alone is often a fruitless endeavor. Only through the attainment of skill can we uncover what our passion could be. Therefore it is much more useful to simply pursue an area that spikes curiosity and uncover one's passion along the path."
Congratulations to whoever put this compilation together. I am a retired professor of psychology amd taught undergraduate and graduate students. You earned an solid A here...this is a clear succinct and smooth exploration of the major ideas of some of the best developmental theorists for a public audience. Kudos for popularizing these ideas. One can see from the comments section how powerfully you have moved many people in these chaotic times....now for them to put these ideas into action to transform THEIR lives. Good work!
Sybil Francis, PhD clinical psychologist since 1979
I was diagnosed as a Type 1 Diabetic when I was 11 years old. When I received confirmation I fell into a pit of despair and nihilism. Pre-established perfectionism manifested itself due to a lost sense of control. At the age of 20, I am now coming to terms with the habits which defined my youth that prove problematic for assuming self-responsibility, such as passivity. Due to intense neurotic symptoms in tandem with my physiological condition, I didn't have the opportunity to develop many skills necessary for long-term success as I spent much of my adolescence in hospitalization programs. The excerpt from this video detailing the distress some people experience later in life in not acknowledging the calls to self-actualization perfectly echoes how I view my life currently. I feel like I'm meandering, and am panicking and pressuring myself to engage in radical change (as opposed to gradual/incremental improvement). I'm trying my damnedest to fix myself up. I hope I get there.
You'll get there, you are strong. Keep going!💫
@@devdollazz Thank you so much for the words of encouragement :)
This video is the story of my life. I cannot believe that in this juncture of my life when i am not sure what to do next and feel guilty of many things, I have found this video so accurately defining what is wrong with me and how to cure it. Thanks
I cant belive how this touched me . Year ago I wasn't that person that sat on bad feeling and I changed my life no problem but being an empath lately iv been really feeling the stress of the world and iv felt alot like I'd got of the rid , I feel insacure, I don't feel I'm radiating i kidna forgot the kind of person I really am . This just made me think its normal pull it together so thank you
Time to slay dragons
That's right bucko
I keeps dragons as pets! I'll slay some giants though!
into the part of the forest that looks darkest to us.
Yes indeed
U don’t need to slay a dragon but rather train it to become your pet. This is the will to power.
take purposeful action even when faced with anxiety
“Sad will be the day for any man when he becomes contented with the thoughts he is thinking and the deeds he is doing - where there is not forever beating at the doors of his soul some great desire to do something larger; which he knows he was meant and made to do.”
[ Phillips Brooks ]
I have been taking the Easy Path for last 2 years. I think I have accepted that I am imperfect and had internalized it so much that I thought no change could occur. Perfectionist in me became discontent and then just indolent.
But the next 3-4 months are very important to me, I need to get it right at all cost. The greatest thing it will endow me with is my family's happiness and a successful career path. I want to become who I want to be now and it is high time that I embark on this journey of self-actualization. I have to do it as the prospect of regret by my older self is frightening. I simply want to achieve what I have dreamt of and I know that I am capable of it. Maslow was right, unfulfillment of one's potential breeds unhappiness. I don't want that even though consistency will be hard.
I am writing this at night after which I am going to sleep. Tomorrow and everyday after that will be different from the last months. By writing this here, I hope I remember this and do the right thing in difficult times.
Dear father & mother, doing this for you.
This video is giving me the answer to my current battle with myself, which I didn’t know it is a battle! I’ve always been thriving for creativity in life and forced myself to stay in a certain field once I am good at it.. but my true nature wants to discover and learn new things. So when you say passion follows the development of our skills it makes proper sense to me to move forward to another challenge! Thank you!
You described the very path I already chose to go now. I am made for greatness and I will achieve it, by changing habits and changing myself
Your videos are some of the most beautiful and enpowering things I have ever listened to.
From when I was young - beginning sometime in late middle school - I found that I was haunted by a nearly constant sense of implacable dread; of crushing guilt and anxeity that suffocated, like a pillowing cloud of sulphuric smoke, my being in the toxicity of every single hour I wasted.
Others, as I invariably found, were perplexed by this affliction of mine. So often was it that a family member or friend advised me to "relax," or to not be so pessimistically obsessed with the usage of time, that Iearned to construe this lingering melancholia as a pathology-in-itself; it was unnatural, and I was simply being irrationally neurotic, causing suffering that had little legitmate basis in reality. I would try to explain my feelings, describing how I was plagued by an awareness of things I "ought" to be doing, whilst ceaselessly defying these imperatives through indulgence in what I "wanted" to do in the hedonistic present.
Increasingly, however, I'm coming to realize that it was never merely a fundamental sickness that inflamed my spirit so - it was an undying call to greatness, to the furious realization of my true capabilities. And as this truth reveals itself underneath the unobscured light, the lot of those surrounding me suddenly appears so tragic, so ignorantly narrow and morose.
There obviously is a legitimacy to the medicalization of such pathologies, for I cannot even begin to state how much my own path to self-realization has been catalyzed by psychiatry and supplementation, and it is excessively severe to attribute the sort of suffering you discuss as resulting *essentially* from inadaquate being or pleasure-seeking quiescence; some are genuinely burdened, far more than others of similar talents or potentials, by sickness of the mind beyond their will's reach.
The mistake lies in stopping at pills or platitudes. (Now i've spent far too much time on this comment!)
I had no idea of the problems people are having - at least according to this lecture. When I was 16 I decided what I wanted to do with my life. At 17 I travelled to the country we came from to visit my grandparents. Unexpectedly fell in love. I knew my life would be the best if she became my travelling companion - we got engaged. I returned home to continue my education and returned to marry her 3 years later. She was not keen on my life's ambition, so I pursued other interests - learned many skills and accomplished much. At 41, she was on board with my life's ambition. Enjoyed that for a while, then looked for something else. Wandered in the wilderness, so to speak. Then ill health almost destroyed me. Now I am 75 yrs old and life is tough physically, but my mind is still functioning well. I learned to give thanks for EVERYTHING and like who we have become. Interestingly it is all those events we considered tragic at the time that have brought us the most blessings and brought us to this now. Learning lots and have the basics of what makes life good - someone to love, something to do and something to look forward to.
I amount of anxiety will Change tge future and no amount of depression will Change tge past.. if you cannot be happy with what you have you will never be happy ... now is the only time there is all joy and suffering comes from wuthin. Who or what should be responsabile for what goes on inside you.. nobody will feel your feelings for you.. 💞🙏💞
Thank you!
-often feeling regret/anxiety/depressed is due to all the actions and inactions we’ve taken til now, therefore indicates we need to take purposeful actions for a new 2nd chapter of life. Purposeful actions is the ONLY way to change. Meditation/introspection (aka staying in thoughts) is nice but not enough to make external changes. ACTION is the only way.
-Purposeful actions entails focusing ONLY on just doing the action itself, NOT on the feelings of fear/anxiety we’ve programmed ourselves to feel.
Remember, you’re going to die soon (“Momento Mori”). If you knew you’d die today, odds are you’d be regretful. However if you at least took some purposeful action despite the fear/anxiety, you’d feel better off knowing you took some control of your life beforehand.
So keep taking purposeful action every day - there is no “perfect time” to act, other than Now. Don’t reflect on the past, just focus on acting Now. Don’t fear embarrassment, failure, or rejection of your actions - feel embarrassed and like a failure only if you don’t take action.
After taking enough purposeful action, the feelings of fear/anxiety will gradually fade away and even be replaced by positive feelings of confidence, satisfaction, and joy.
I've made some positive changes in my life in the past new years, but I can never get away from a feeling that is is all futile, that nothing I do makes any difference to my life situation and that I'm just whistling in the dark. A deep cynicism and negativity so rule my mental perspective that I can't even entertain the notion that a person might really and trully change his/her life. It's like Bruce Springstein says, "Same old story, same old act. One step up and and two steps back." There is a force in the human psyche that does not want positive change. It operates unconsciously and sabotages most of our best efforts to improve our lives. The complexes in the unconsicous are the truly deciding factors here.
Until I realised that through affirmations, meditation, positive self talk and discipline I have the power to rewrite the subconscius beliefs and patterns that have held me back
Which means I am both the creator of my experience and the experiencer. But not a victim, unless I choose to be
Man, I deeply understand you, I've been striving for self-overcoming in the last 2 years and half and in the latest period I'm just feeling back that deadly sensation, that spirit of gravity, that sense of absolute impotence and weakness which is so childish, is kinda like having the little creepy Voldemort inside of Harry and sometimes you just identify with that awful creature because in your past you've been so self-destructive, self-loathing and self-hating that a part of your Soul has become "That thing" which still lives inside of you.
Everytime you achieve something you say "yeah, I did this! But That Thing is still me", and that undeveloped awareness, that sense of permanent and immutable sick misery which characterizes a part of your Soul makes you feel your whole Soul rotten in the dark moments that Life will present to you, or in those moments in which you won't have performed as good as you should have.
I suppose (because I'm still wrestling with this dynamic) that the nihilist miserable part of our personality should become a challenge to learn authentic compassion setting the right boundaries to not fall in self-pity, in learning to acknowledge weakness and vulnerability without giving up the courage to strive for "that which I decided is subjectively meaningful", with no need for external validation of his meaningfulness.
Seems to me as a wake up call to our Inner Warrior, fallen asleep due to fogs of unconscious fears and appetites, personal and collective. Through writing this has become clear to me that we are called to find the Sacred Masculine within us, the Meaning Affirming principle at the root of our human existence.
Anyway, God bless you through your Path my friend.
become a Christian it is the ultimate source of comfort and contentment in life one could obtain
"There is a force in the human psyche that does not want positive change."
It is the love of comfort, the destroyer of motivation and creativity. A quote from Khalil Gibran: “The lust for comfort, that stealthy thing that enters the house a guest, and then becomes a host, and then a master.” Stoic in thought, and Spartan in discipline, that takes you a long way.
You're one of the best channels on TH-cam. You have a positive impact on so many lives.
Among the spate of new-age self-help motivational blether swarming all over internet these days, your channel comes over as refreshingly inspiring and educative. I wish you success in your quest for true knowledge and wisdom, keep up the good work going.
It's amazing how 10 minutes and 38 seconds can absolutely change your life and answer so many questions about your own psyche!
This is probably the most important video that I've watched in years. Thank you.
Sounds silly but I woke up each day listening to your videos and goes to sleep listening to them. You have no idea how reassuring, motivational and truthful they are. They resonate in me so deeply that I cannot thank you enough! May you’ll find success and continue to give us so much joy!
Ikr, this channel is a gem
I think that this is the most important and effective approach to life that I have discovered so far! I just wish that I had found it a lot earlier in life, as I have been despressed for most of it.
My advice: accept things as they are - especially if you can't change them - and do something useful or interesting. That really does work, in my experience.
Bon Voyage!
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A most concise synopsis of the movie Fight Club I’ve ever heard.
I know what I'm about to say has been said before but I think it is worth repeating:
You are more insightful than The School of Life.
Sure it's my opinion, but the more I watch your videos and compare them to theirs I get this sense of objectivity from you, and that's a good thing. It's necessary.
Well done.
I agree and in fact, I don't even listen to School of Life anymore.
Brilliant, brilliant , how great you've done your job. Thanks
Great video ( as always ) and incredibly apt, and inspirational for my current situation. Over the past 8 months I've been preaching a very similar message. After doing much introspection and reflection on my life, I've decided to embark on a degree, part time. Funny how the easy way out is exactly opposite, and does nothing but 'lock' you in further.
The idea that you must be something other than what you are at this moment is precisely the root of the entire existential crisis of man....
Thank you this hit me really deep, had a mental breakdown yesterday.For everyone struggling with themselves, I wish you the best! You got this.
Videos like this often make me think, how happy can I be for society to exist, for technology to be found, for people to try. Because without information like this I might never learn and spread my awareness to teach me these things. And these are the answers to my problems, which ironically I run away from. Thank you for the video, it solved a problem or two for me :)
this was DENSE with great stuff. I hung on every word. it pulls so much from several sources in my experiences into poignant alignment. appreciative, sir