not everytime. I don't think men use it on purpose. My body just can't speak anymore. This is after numerous attempts to try to explain things and after countless trials to remediate the situation. Then I just go silent. My heart would still speak sometimes but my body wouldn't say a thing. I would say the silent treatment is more of a defense mechanism against narcissists.
@@bernardwongibe5118 let's just say you have your own thoughts on this topic. I couldn't disagree with you more. You're blaming the other person and playing the victim to validate immaturity. That's my point of view and it's not likely to change. I find that Narcissists use the silent treatment for control and I believe it with my whole heart. We may need to agree to disagree on this topic. Have a nice evening ☺️
Thank you for sharing! In current culture, silence is applauded way too often as a more noble thing to do rather than actually do the brave work to communicate and help make things better for everyone. Love your work! Keep it coming! 🤩
People who give silent treatments instead of just using their words to express themselves obviously don't understand it can also be reciprocated. I refuse to keep talking to the air, a blank text or begging someone to talk to me. When you're ready to act like a grown up, you have the number, I will be over living my best life and minding my business..
Thursday 22nd August 2024. 21.46pm. Dear Sir/Madam. Good-evening. How are you? I trust you are well. Thank you for the video, on the silent treatment Yours Respectfully. The Bull Of Lewisham.
Atp you got some many times to give me the silent treatment before i start to move on. This is immature we can not fix a situation if you refuse to communicate 🤷🏾♀️
I just stopped caring. Trust me when you grow up and you show you don’t need them the silent treatment because a moment of peace. They’re finally not annoying you with their bs. And you can do whatever you want because if you’re gonna act like I don’t exist I will do things under the pretense that you don’t exist. My mom has increased the frequency of the silent treatment since I’ve stopped giving af about it and treating her like the child she is. Trust me, the best way to beat that childish nonsense is to treat them like the child they are. Because moms who do that are adult little girls. Period.
I did it for a while. When I felt very hurt, not understood and alone. Very sad and angry too. Soooo angry, I could not talk. And then I would not talk.
Im dealing with institutional abuse after a suicide attempt last year. Staff started accusing me of lying when i didnt. Disgusting as im honest been quaratined for 8 weeks but im done talking as im tired of verbal abuse. I need a break. Talking does not work.
Dealt with a chinese girl for 3 years. Got mouth shut often enough. Since i learn to manage my reactions, when they irrupt. And knowing what emotions does, a physical reaction, with incomfort, there is adaptation. And that is part of human life. I believe the refusal to communicate is communicating. And if communicating takes place again, it must be on a different level, as it is prescribed. Are we collectively afraid to get corrected? And we evolve not getting the lessons we should have learn? I still talk to her. I have not always contained myself. But she did not judge or condemn the outbursts, contrary the the occidental culture. And recently trying to go social, positive and negative emotions have arisen. (Got blocked, canceled, kicked out...) But i am building resilience. That is what i noticed. Making others responsible for our incomfort, our feelings, is probably unproductive. Dealing with ourselves is the first step. Learning through grinding is probably the way.
After being told to shut up, I decided to keep the peace. The unintended side effect was not missing the whiny demands of attention from the loudmouths.
I have 3 sisters who were all abused when we were little girls. My brother-in-law made a comment that I was the prettiest sister then the battle began. They’ve given me the silent treatment for 4 yrs! They’re dead to me because they’ve shown me who they are. My life is so much more peaceful!
It's emotionally immature and yes it conveys a powerful message.
not everytime. I don't think men use it on purpose. My body just can't speak anymore. This is after numerous attempts to try to explain things and after countless trials to remediate the situation. Then I just go silent. My heart would still speak sometimes but my body wouldn't say a thing. I would say the silent treatment is more of a defense mechanism against narcissists.
@@bernardwongibe5118 let's just say you have your own thoughts on this topic. I couldn't disagree with you more. You're blaming the other person and playing the victim to validate immaturity. That's my point of view and it's not likely to change. I find that Narcissists use the silent treatment for control and I believe it with my whole heart. We may need to agree to disagree on this topic. Have a nice evening ☺️
@@s.v.662 NO YOU ARE WRONG AND LIKELY A NARCISIST WHO GETS ANGRY WHEN HE GETS A TASTE OF HIS OWN MEDICINE
Such a manipulative technique. I used it before and it cost me big time. 😬
How did it cost you?
@@PraveenSrJ01tree fiddy
@@Trevelyan2dang it Loch Ness Monster!!!
Thank you for sharing! In current culture, silence is applauded way too often as a more noble thing to do rather than actually do the brave work to communicate and help make things better for everyone. Love your work! Keep it coming! 🤩
That, coupled with ice, is the worst of all; I grew up with it and I wait for someone's anger and am surprised when nothinng bad happens .
I refuse to communicate with strangers when I’m in a bad mood 😒
People who give silent treatments instead of just using their words to express themselves obviously don't understand it can also be reciprocated. I refuse to keep talking to the air, a blank text or begging someone to talk to me. When you're ready to act like a grown up, you have the number, I will be over living my best life and minding my business..
Thursday 22nd August 2024.
21.46pm.
Dear Sir/Madam. Good-evening. How are you? I trust you are well. Thank you for the video, on the silent treatment
Yours Respectfully.
The Bull Of Lewisham.
Atp you got some many times to give me the silent treatment before i start to move on. This is immature we can not fix a situation if you refuse to communicate 🤷🏾♀️
No contact with narcs..
My coworker is stonewalling me. I'm surprised at how much it bothers me.
It really sucks
My ex should hear this
My mom uses this tactic almost all the time
Me too, after university I'm leaving and not talking to her
It’s extremely hurtful. My mom has refused to talk to me for years and will not tell me why.
I just stopped caring. Trust me when you grow up and you show you don’t need them the silent treatment because a moment of peace. They’re finally not annoying you with their bs. And you can do whatever you want because if you’re gonna act like I don’t exist I will do things under the pretense that you don’t exist. My mom has increased the frequency of the silent treatment since I’ve stopped giving af about it and treating her like the child she is. Trust me, the best way to beat that childish nonsense is to treat them like the child they are. Because moms who do that are adult little girls. Period.
Silent treatment is evil!!! Just admit you're mad!!!! 😭
Doesn’t always mean they’re mad it’s also a punishment for who know what in a narc’s mind
@@donnahatchett1787 you speak truth
I did it for a while.
When I felt very hurt, not understood and alone. Very sad and angry too.
Soooo angry, I could not talk.
And then I would not talk.
I like to imagine he's recording this in front of his wife who is actively giving him the silent treatment.
Dont have to do that man, just keep ahort and sweet. Hi, good afternoon, bye, peace out
Im dealing with institutional abuse after a suicide attempt last year. Staff started accusing me of lying when i didnt. Disgusting as im honest been quaratined for 8 weeks but im done talking as im tired of verbal abuse. I need a break. Talking does not work.
Dealt with a chinese girl for 3 years. Got mouth shut often enough. Since i learn to manage my reactions, when they irrupt. And knowing what emotions does, a physical reaction, with incomfort, there is adaptation. And that is part of human life. I believe the refusal to communicate is communicating. And if communicating takes place again, it must be on a different level, as it is prescribed. Are we collectively afraid to get corrected? And we evolve not getting the lessons we should have learn? I still talk to her. I have not always contained myself. But she did not judge or condemn the outbursts, contrary the the occidental culture. And recently trying to go social, positive and negative emotions have arisen. (Got blocked, canceled, kicked out...) But i am building resilience. That is what i noticed. Making others responsible for our incomfort, our feelings, is probably unproductive. Dealing with ourselves is the first step. Learning through grinding is probably the way.
Just leave her bro .. there are millions of healthy pretty girls out there..
I had Chinese gfs and it’s bad , so bad . I don’t recommend to anyone
Why? what for this background laud music?
Music is distracting! I want so much to hear the message but the upbeat tone competes with a heavy heart.
But the other would take adult feelings to follow through
After being told to shut up, I decided to keep the peace. The unintended side effect was not missing the whiny demands of attention from the loudmouths.
Lol. Try that with a narcissist.
What are the psychological ramifications of been given the silent treatment?
I have 3 sisters who were all abused when we were little girls. My brother-in-law made a comment that I was the prettiest sister then the battle began. They’ve given me the silent treatment for 4 yrs! They’re dead to me because they’ve shown me who they are. My life is so much more peaceful!
LOL.
What about when no matter what you say it's wrong.
For me..Jesus is with me
He likes me
He Loves me
I focus on the ones that like and love me