Finding your channel has been a godsend, there's so few resources out there for us AMAB non-binary folks and I've really resonated with your experience. Congratulations on the milestone and I hope your future brings you even more happiness! 🥰
I’m so glad to hear that, I wish AMAB non-binary representation was more common. But I’m glad to do what I can 😊 thank you for reaching out 💛 best of wishes to you!
Yeah, I have to lean on the Trans scene for info when their obsessed with passing and bottom surgery is low-key corrosive. Well intentions but when u consider their like "HRT your balls shrink" and lot of research has to be done to find "no Blockers equals ball shrink" exclusively because they plan to swap it out is frustrating. So unless one can find other AMAB non binary folks on HRT...it's really hard to be informed.
I'm so happy for you Bryn, you look so happy and comfortable in yourself, you're glowing!! I actually just started hrt last week so I'm also beyond excited for my own journey of becoming 🥺💖
i found ur channel about a year ago and u inspired me to think of hrt differently like a spectrum which makes sense, i think i was thinking about low dose hrt but then i found out about DHT blockers as a good start as they help with ur hair and skin even slow down a bit body hair growth and i was balding i didn't look closely so i have been on finasteride for 5 months i added dutasteride as well so u saved me about my hair they also increase estrogen a bit 20% which is cool too
I think that’s a great start!! HRT can d finitely be a scary step, so taking a DHT blocker is a good first step. And who knows, maybe that’ll work for you and you won’t need HRT! Everyone is different and so treatment of gender dysphoria is obviously going to be different for everyone. Best of luck on your journey, wherever it may lead you 💛
@@brynnavery thanks for your reply 🤗. Yeah I almost feel DHT is like the main masculine hormone and like a Nice combination of Estrogen and regular Testosterone are like the NonBinary/fluid/androgynous hormone profile lol. So I'm trying to go step by step untill I feel I've gone maybe tofar or so and stop there going by feel I know that adding those mods, removing most my body hair, losing muscle and few lifestyle changes has already made me happier. I'm also glad you seem happy after bottom surgery since that's like the biggest step so yayyy! 🤗😁
So I have the vertical labret and want to start stretching my ears, but do I have to get the septum to be a fully valid AMAB enby??? Lol, thank you for your channel, super helpful for me as I go through my own journey
Haha of course you’re valid no matter your piercings! But I will say the septum ring, I feel like, is such a queer piercing lol honestly it’s probably my favorite piercing of the ones I have (including my ears being stretched). I’m glad my videos are helpful and enjoyable 💛
Hi from England. Well I never, what a revelation, I came across you by accident, looking for video's on 4 years HRT, like myself. I think you are so honest and it's really opened my eyes to AMAB non-binary people, I've never met any tbh. I've had such a bad transition and got asked once if I was actually non-binary, I instantly dismissed it and was offended BUT since I've seen some of your video's, I'm now actually questioning myself all over again! Can't wait to see more. Thank you, love the videos.
Thank you!! I actually made it myself! I forget where I bought the crystal (it’s Citrine, if you were curious) and I got the wire and the necklace part at Walmart. There’s lots of TH-cam tutorials on how to wrap crystals, if you’re ever interested in making your own. I will say, I prefer thicker wire, the thinner the wire the easier it bends and the crystals can fall out. And I would recommend getting the necklace part from maybe a better place than Walmart lol, mine wore down pretty quickly and broke.
You’ve got a keen eye, I think you’re right! Laser hair removal is supposed to be permanent. I guess there’s rare cases where it can grow back. Electrolysis is the only “approved” way to permanently get rid of hair (I can’t remember what organization approves things or not though lol), but most people consider laser hair removal to be permanent as well (I had laser done on my lips maybe 5 years or so ago and I’ve never had new hairs growing in).
Fluid is an essential aspect of digestion. If you take a diuretic, like spirnolactone, you're urinating more. Plus, estradiol seems to somewhat "dry" a person out in some odd way, such as not having as oily skin or hair(hence less acne.)
I don't know if this sounds weird, but when people are transitioning and say "I'm not a [insert target sex here] yet", i just think "yes, you are, but your body is just different". i'm not being offensive but all this stuff still confuses me, even though i have many trans friends who've tried to explain it to me.
That’s how I view my gender as well, that I’ve always been non-binary and that I’m just transitioning to reflect that on the outside/to the world. That’s ok that you’re confused, I’m sure it can be difficult to understand because there’s so many avenues and layers of being trans/non-binary. I appreciate your honesty 💛
Ok, I understand. You hide your receding hairline with the backwards ball cap. I hate it when ppl point out the things that make a person dysphonic. I think it's a competitive thing.
That makes sense. And yeah the baseball cap definitely helps. I’m not super dysphoric of my hairline but definitely a tad which is why I love the hats.
You can’t be transgender and nonbinary. I’m so blown away by the lack of understanding in the community as it’s become a fad. There are two genders, and nonbinary is just a rebrand of androgynous which is an expression, not a gender.
The idea of there only being 2 genders (male and female) is not an inherent thing, it’s a western concept that was enforced on other people of other cultures through colonization, as well as passed down to descendants of Europeans. Many cultures validated more than 2 genders (such as the indigenous people of America) and many didn’t even have a concept of gender (such as the native people of Yoruba). Biology doesn’t support the idea of binary sex. Approximately 1.7% of people don’t biologically fit 100% into the idea of the binary (which is over 56,000 people just in the USA). Even taking the idea that men have one type of brain and women have another, there are plenty of people whose brain chemistry, wiring, and shape would fall somewhere in between the two. To see the world in black and white is to live in a fantasy. Non binary is not a rebrand of the term androgynous. There are so many people who are non binary, and not androgynous. Androgyny is an expression, yes, but non binary and androgyny are not the same thing. I would really encourage you to challenge your beliefs regarding gender. Binary gender is a construct created by people, and it’s rather unfortunate that someone who is upset by the “lack of understanding in the community,” has done little to nothing to understand the broadness of gender identity. Non binary people are most certainly real, just not recognized by society at large. I hope you are able to put your ego aside and research things you don’t understand, as well as listen to people you don’t understand. Life is much easier when we support each other. 💛
@@brynnavery if you’re going to claim that your statements are facts please cite your references. otherwise, it’s just rubbish. being trans originally transsexual means to transition from one sex to another, which is a completely different meaning from nonbinary. Again I make my case you cannot be transgender and non-binary simultaneously. The explosion of trans and non-binary is far greater than 1.7% because it’s a fad like being a goth or hippie assuming your 1.7% is even accurate because you likely just made up a number. The last fact data was .06% of the population is transgender. most of the people in the last five years claiming all of these things are just trying to be cool or different and many are confused children. The detransition rates have exploded because none of those people were really trans. We just have lots of confused children. I reject the concept of modern nonbinary and ridiculous amount of pronouns most of which are ridiculous.
@@Danielle.0000 Gender identity according to the native people of Yoruba: sites.northwestern.edu/hundredthmile/gender-in-yoruba/ Invention of Women book: www.barnesandnoble.com/w/the-invention-of-women-oyeronke-oyewumi/1122986556 Gender Identity according to the native people of America: ictnews.org/archive/two-spirits-one-heart-five-genders Definition of transgender: www.dictionary.com/browse/transgender Intersex people: www.americanprogress.org/article/key-issues-facing-people-intersex-traits/ Transgender people: williamsinstitute.law.ucla.edu/publications/trans-adults-united-states/ Transgender (genital surgery) Regret: pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/29463477/ Reasons for Detransition: fenwayhealth.org/new-study-shows-discrimination-stigma-and-family-pressure-drive-detransition-among-transgender-people/ I find it very odd at how hostile you are being, accusing me of “making up facts,” and then don’t cite any of your information. It’s plain to see that you have misconstrued the information I gave you. Either that or you didnt actually read what I said. The 1.7% (as I stated in my previous comment) is referring to *intersex* people, not trans & non binary people. If you don’t know what intersex means, those are people *born with biological conditions* that biologically define them as noeither male OR female (such as someone born with a penis who has internal ovaries instead of testicles, or someone born with a vagina who has XY chromosomes instead of XX, etc.). Intersex people are often left out of the conversation regarding gender and biology, but it’s incredibly important to include them considering they are people too, and their very existence contradicts the idea that there are only two genders and two sexes, as well as noting that their bodies can not be intrinsically tied to either of the binary genders. And if sex = gender (which is doesn’t, but many people believe it does), then intersex people would be inherently non binary. Where is this information about the rate of detransitioners “exploding”? In fact, every study I’ve seen has said quite the opposite. And of those who do detransition, many do not regret transitioning. Many are glad to have transitioned and then come to the realization that they are in fact cisgender, or (you’ll love this) *non binary.* When we exclude non binary people from the conversation, it teaches individuals that there are only two options. And if they don’t fit into either of those boxes, they don’t feel satisfied living as a man or as a woman. Understanding non binary people is actually crucial to helping reduce the rate of detransitioners: I know many many people who are comfortable with “partially” transitioning (I use the word partially in relation to a traditional binary transition). I have a close friend who went on T for about 6 months simply because they wanted a deeper voice, but didn’t want much facial hair and other aspects of a testosterone-based puberty. This person would likely be medically labeled as a “detransitioner” due to going off of T, but is not reflective of what we think of when we hear the word “detransitioner” or of the narrative you are trying to push. I’d also like to address how important it is to have all sides of the argument. Regret *is* a possible risk with transitioning and it’s something that does need to be discussed. Unfortunately though, most of the time that people bring up detransitioners, it’s in an effort to oppose the likely benefits transition. Every individual is different and needs/wants different hints out of life, and out of transitioning. Most people who detransition due so either because they are non binary and felt the need to “fully” transition due to societal expectation, or because of outside sources (such as having surgical complications, being rejected by family & other forms of transphobia). So to combat regret rates, we should A) spread awareness about non binary identities, B) allow for more research and understanding regarding gender affirming surgeries, and C) fight against transphobia. Detransitioners certainly deserve to have a voice, and have a right for their story to be told, but transition (and basically everything in life) is not black and white. To say that no one should transition because some people regret it is not a logical argument; and certainly not one that would be applicable to just about anything else. Just about everything in this world has benefits and risks, and lives in a gray area. Transition is no different. Now I’m not sure if you’re trans (your first comment sort of hinted at that but I’m not sure), but if you are, I would highly encourage you to look at your own experience, and look at the arguments that people use against you in order to invalidate your identity. They are mostly parallel with the arguments that you are using to try and invalidate non binary individuals. Just because you don’t understand something doesn’t make it unreal. There are many many things in this world that I don’t understand, but they stole hold true. For example, I have no idea what it is like to identify as a man. I have absolutely zero comprehension of what that feels like. And from my own biased mind, it would make much more sense to me if no one identified with manhood. But that is not logical whatsoever, it’s simply biased, formulated from *only* my own experience, and not through a well rounded understanding of identity. I know & acknlowledge that manhood is 100% a thing even if it’s something unfathomable to me, that I can’t connect to or measure by external factors. Transition isn’t what’s harmful-it’s the ideas of what we believe about gender in the first place. Gender identity is not measurable, it’s not something that anyone can prove or disprove; it’s a part of our own perception of ourselves. When we tell people that who they are is reduced to their genitals-that is harmful. When we tell people they are only valid if they meet a certain set of criteria (criteria that isn’t even universally agreed upon and many times excludes people, such as intersex people, who don’t fit into our preexisting idea of gender) it leads to people feeling pressure to conform to society’s expectations, thus taking away from an individual sense of freedom and autonomy in an attempt to gain acceptance and validation. When you allow people to be accepted for who they are as they are you reduce the risk of people transitioning in an attempt to “prove” something to friends, family, or society in general. To deny the existence of non binary individuals is not only to deny the existence of people alive and breathing today, it is also to ignore history & biology, and to assert the ideals of Western society and is negligent to acknowledge the very real cultures that have already had so much erased from them due to colonization. To use western beliefs and ideals to minimize and erase other cultures is, in and of itself, a product of white supremacy. Gender is a societally constructed idea, which is why it varies from culture to culture. And last, before I wrap up, from my own experience as a trans person (been medically transitioning for 6 1/2 years now), I can 100% say I’m happy with my transition. When I first came out, I came out as a trans woman, and was not happy at all. I felt the need to conform to society’s standards of what it means to be a woman, and left my internal self on the back burner. It wasn’t until I understood that there was more than just the binary, that I was able to thrive. The lack of understanding outside of the binary led me to feel confused, frustrated, and defeated. Allowing myself to explore what gender means to me, and not having to conform to any societal structure regarding gender brought (and continues to bring) me great joy. And this isn’t just an external thing (aka gender expression). This was my inability to connect to manhood AND womanhood. This was an innate disconnect to what it means to be a man or a woman. This was something that ostracized me not only from society at large, but also from *myself.* It made me feel as though I had no place in this world. It was isolating and lonely. But allowing myself to be me, instead of trying to conform to what you and so many others see “fit” for me and people like me, is what has allowed my sense of self, my self esteem, and my mental health to thrive. It’s what has allowed me to be happy that I’m alive. It’s what’s allowed me to finally connect to people. I’ve found my own place in this world by being authentic and loving myself enough to embrace who I am, even if others don’t understand. For the first time in my life, I am able to look at my unclothed body in the mirror. I can connect to myself fully, which I never would have been able to do without my understanding of non binary identities, HRT & bottom surgery. I find it incredibly disheartening that you (and others) dismiss these life-changing, beautiful effects of transition, in an attempt to vilify those who you do not understand. I know most likely this comment will not change your mind, but I do encourage you to extend compassion and to do more research on the subject. Your point of view is not only flawed, but incredibly harmful to a community of people who has already suffered greatly at the hands of the patriarchy, religion, society and the government.
@@georgebush3327 because it’s pointless. My whole point was completely missed. I don’t need a bunch of evidence to prove that transgender or non binary people exist. What I’m saying is non-binary means you don’t identify with either gender which contradicts what being transgender means which relies on the binary to exist. But I don’t expect anyone here to think about that in any logical sense. This is why I identify as a transsexual woman to disassociate myself with both terminologies.
Finding your channel has been a godsend, there's so few resources out there for us AMAB non-binary folks and I've really resonated with your experience. Congratulations on the milestone and I hope your future brings you even more happiness! 🥰
I’m so glad to hear that, I wish AMAB non-binary representation was more common. But I’m glad to do what I can 😊 thank you for reaching out 💛 best of wishes to you!
Yeah, I have to lean on the Trans scene for info when their obsessed with passing and bottom surgery is low-key corrosive.
Well intentions but when u consider their like "HRT your balls shrink" and lot of research has to be done to find "no Blockers equals ball shrink" exclusively because they plan to swap it out is frustrating. So unless one can find other AMAB non binary folks on HRT...it's really hard to be informed.
I love your video! I’m non binary amab and it feels amazing to find someone who is on a similar journey ❤️
Always glad to help 💛
I'm so happy for you Bryn, you look so happy and comfortable in yourself, you're glowing!! I actually just started hrt last week so I'm also beyond excited for my own journey of becoming 🥺💖
Thank you so much!! And omg that’s awesome news! Congrats on taking such a huge step, and I wish you the best in your journey 💛💛💛
i found ur channel about a year ago and u inspired me to think of hrt differently like a spectrum which makes sense, i think i was thinking about low dose hrt but then i found out about DHT blockers as a good start as they help with ur hair and skin even slow down a bit body hair growth and i was balding i didn't look closely so i have been on finasteride for 5 months i added dutasteride as well so u saved me about my hair they also increase estrogen a bit 20% which is cool too
I think that’s a great start!! HRT can d finitely be a scary step, so taking a DHT blocker is a good first step. And who knows, maybe that’ll work for you and you won’t need HRT! Everyone is different and so treatment of gender dysphoria is obviously going to be different for everyone. Best of luck on your journey, wherever it may lead you 💛
@@brynnavery thanks for your reply 🤗.
Yeah I almost feel DHT is like the main masculine hormone and like a Nice combination of Estrogen and regular Testosterone are like the NonBinary/fluid/androgynous hormone profile lol.
So I'm trying to go step by step untill I feel I've gone maybe tofar or so and stop there going by feel I know that adding those mods, removing most my body hair, losing muscle and few lifestyle changes has already made me happier.
I'm also glad you seem happy after bottom surgery since that's like the biggest step so yayyy! 🤗😁
Something in this video feels so relatable!! I need to subscribe
That makes me happy to hear! 💛
I would love this kind of result for me, fitting in that andro space where I can just express myself the way I feel.
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So I have the vertical labret and want to start stretching my ears, but do I have to get the septum to be a fully valid AMAB enby??? Lol, thank you for your channel, super helpful for me as I go through my own journey
Haha of course you’re valid no matter your piercings! But I will say the septum ring, I feel like, is such a queer piercing lol honestly it’s probably my favorite piercing of the ones I have (including my ears being stretched). I’m glad my videos are helpful and enjoyable 💛
Hi from England.
Well I never, what a revelation, I came across you by accident, looking for video's on 4 years HRT, like myself.
I think you are so honest and it's really opened my eyes to AMAB non-binary people, I've never met any tbh.
I've had such a bad transition and got asked once if I was actually non-binary, I instantly dismissed it and was offended BUT since I've seen some of your video's, I'm now actually questioning myself all over again!
Can't wait to see more.
Thank you, love the videos.
Aww I’m thankful my video is able to help you! Figuring out who you are can be a never ending journey but that’s ok. Best of luck to you 💛
random but where did you get your necklace? I love it
Thank you!! I actually made it myself! I forget where I bought the crystal (it’s Citrine, if you were curious) and I got the wire and the necklace part at Walmart. There’s lots of TH-cam tutorials on how to wrap crystals, if you’re ever interested in making your own. I will say, I prefer thicker wire, the thinner the wire the easier it bends and the crystals can fall out. And I would recommend getting the necklace part from maybe a better place than Walmart lol, mine wore down pretty quickly and broke.
thanks bryn, your videos have been really helpful, (trans non-binary and figuring things out in covid lock down)
Always glad to help. Best of luck to you 💛
is laser hair removal permanent?
also there's (i think) a spider in the background 18:10 in the left corner of the room
You’ve got a keen eye, I think you’re right!
Laser hair removal is supposed to be permanent. I guess there’s rare cases where it can grow back. Electrolysis is the only “approved” way to permanently get rid of hair (I can’t remember what organization approves things or not though lol), but most people consider laser hair removal to be permanent as well (I had laser done on my lips maybe 5 years or so ago and I’ve never had new hairs growing in).
Congrats. That is a huge anniversary:)
Thank you!! 😊
I identify as a transfemme and I want to start hrt! Also you're really pretty!!
You should go for it if you feel like it’s what’s best for you! And thank you 💛
I’m also nonbinary and I’m afab. I love seeing these videos. With different trans nonbinary people.
💛💛💛
I just love how cute your personality is
Omg you’re so sweet thank you! 💛
I love your choice of jewelry. Really, really cute
Aw thank you so much! I actually have my rings linked down in the description box if you’re interested! I get them off of Etsy 😊
i get the feeling when i start hrt i will quite possibly have a thicc tushy cause mine is already pretty round and cute atm.
Lol I wish my tush was thicc! But I’m ok with mine being cute as well lol
I've heard that hrt can change a person's sexual orientation. It didn't change my stoic personality though.
That’s alright, nothing wrong w being stoic 😊
Fluid is an essential aspect of digestion. If you take a diuretic, like spirnolactone, you're urinating more. Plus, estradiol seems to somewhat "dry" a person out in some odd way, such as not having as oily skin or hair(hence less acne.)
Interesting, I never realized that. But yeah my hair doesn’t get oily fast at all!
Your hairline looks sooo good!!! Praying for similar results lol
Thank you!! And good luck 😊
You are an angel. Thank you
Thank you 😇💛
Thanks for sharing your experiences.
Thank you for listening to my experiences 💛
So jealous of your hair - today I've listened to 4 of your videos - curious if you interact with those that post
Thank you! And yup! I try to respond to all the comments, tho sometimes I do miss some but for the most part I reply to all of them 😊
@@brynnavery also if your interested here's a video I had my kids do almost 10 years ago : th-cam.com/video/N-CHm49RIY4/w-d-xo.html
Love this video!!
@@brynnavery as that video is 10 years old I really would like them to do an update
Yes you should do an updated version!
I don't know if this sounds weird, but when people are transitioning and say "I'm not a [insert target sex here] yet", i just think "yes, you are, but your body is just different".
i'm not being offensive but all this stuff still confuses me, even though i have many trans friends who've tried to explain it to me.
That’s how I view my gender as well, that I’ve always been non-binary and that I’m just transitioning to reflect that on the outside/to the world. That’s ok that you’re confused, I’m sure it can be difficult to understand because there’s so many avenues and layers of being trans/non-binary. I appreciate your honesty 💛
U have a Jody Foster vibe about u
Thank you!! 🥺💛
so cute🌹
Thank you! 😊
Your so magnificent no matter what 🌹
Omg you’re so sweet! 💛
Ok, I understand. You hide your receding hairline with the backwards ball cap. I hate it when ppl point out the things that make a person dysphonic. I think it's a competitive thing.
That makes sense. And yeah the baseball cap definitely helps. I’m not super dysphoric of my hairline but definitely a tad which is why I love the hats.
You can’t be transgender and nonbinary. I’m so blown away by the lack of understanding in the community as it’s become a fad. There are two genders, and nonbinary is just a rebrand of androgynous which is an expression, not a gender.
The idea of there only being 2 genders (male and female) is not an inherent thing, it’s a western concept that was enforced on other people of other cultures through colonization, as well as passed down to descendants of Europeans. Many cultures validated more than 2 genders (such as the indigenous people of America) and many didn’t even have a concept of gender (such as the native people of Yoruba). Biology doesn’t support the idea of binary sex. Approximately 1.7% of people don’t biologically fit 100% into the idea of the binary (which is over 56,000 people just in the USA). Even taking the idea that men have one type of brain and women have another, there are plenty of people whose brain chemistry, wiring, and shape would fall somewhere in between the two. To see the world in black and white is to live in a fantasy.
Non binary is not a rebrand of the term androgynous. There are so many people who are non binary, and not androgynous. Androgyny is an expression, yes, but non binary and androgyny are not the same thing.
I would really encourage you to challenge your beliefs regarding gender. Binary gender is a construct created by people, and it’s rather unfortunate that someone who is upset by the “lack of understanding in the community,” has done little to nothing to understand the broadness of gender identity. Non binary people are most certainly real, just not recognized by society at large. I hope you are able to put your ego aside and research things you don’t understand, as well as listen to people you don’t understand. Life is much easier when we support each other. 💛
@@brynnavery if you’re going to claim that your statements are facts please cite your references. otherwise, it’s just rubbish. being trans originally transsexual means to transition from one sex to another, which is a completely different meaning from nonbinary. Again I make my case you cannot be transgender and non-binary simultaneously.
The explosion of trans and non-binary is far greater than 1.7% because it’s a fad like being a goth or hippie assuming your 1.7% is even accurate because you likely just made up a number. The last fact data was .06% of the population is transgender. most of the people in the last five years claiming all of these things are just trying to be cool or different and many are confused children. The detransition rates have exploded because none of those people were really trans. We just have lots of confused children. I reject the concept of modern nonbinary and ridiculous amount of pronouns most of which are ridiculous.
@@Danielle.0000 Gender identity according to the native people of Yoruba:
sites.northwestern.edu/hundredthmile/gender-in-yoruba/
Invention of Women book: www.barnesandnoble.com/w/the-invention-of-women-oyeronke-oyewumi/1122986556
Gender Identity according to the native people of America:
ictnews.org/archive/two-spirits-one-heart-five-genders
Definition of transgender:
www.dictionary.com/browse/transgender
Intersex people:
www.americanprogress.org/article/key-issues-facing-people-intersex-traits/
Transgender people:
williamsinstitute.law.ucla.edu/publications/trans-adults-united-states/
Transgender (genital surgery) Regret: pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/29463477/
Reasons for Detransition: fenwayhealth.org/new-study-shows-discrimination-stigma-and-family-pressure-drive-detransition-among-transgender-people/
I find it very odd at how hostile you are being, accusing me of “making up facts,” and then don’t cite any of your information.
It’s plain to see that you have misconstrued the information I gave you. Either that or you didnt actually read what I said. The 1.7% (as I stated in my previous comment) is referring to *intersex* people, not trans & non binary people. If you don’t know what intersex means, those are people *born with biological conditions* that biologically define them as noeither male OR female (such as someone born with a penis who has internal ovaries instead of testicles, or someone born with a vagina who has XY chromosomes instead of XX, etc.). Intersex people are often left out of the conversation regarding gender and biology, but it’s incredibly important to include them considering they are people too, and their very existence contradicts the idea that there are only two genders and two sexes, as well as noting that their bodies can not be intrinsically tied to either of the binary genders. And if sex = gender (which is doesn’t, but many people believe it does), then intersex people would be inherently non binary.
Where is this information about the rate of detransitioners “exploding”? In fact, every study I’ve seen has said quite the opposite. And of those who do detransition, many do not regret transitioning. Many are glad to have transitioned and then come to the realization that they are in fact cisgender, or (you’ll love this) *non binary.* When we exclude non binary people from the conversation, it teaches individuals that there are only two options. And if they don’t fit into either of those boxes, they don’t feel satisfied living as a man or as a woman. Understanding non binary people is actually crucial to helping reduce the rate of detransitioners: I know many many people who are comfortable with “partially” transitioning (I use the word partially in relation to a traditional binary transition). I have a close friend who went on T for about 6 months simply because they wanted a deeper voice, but didn’t want much facial hair and other aspects of a testosterone-based puberty. This person would likely be medically labeled as a “detransitioner” due to going off of T, but is not reflective of what we think of when we hear the word “detransitioner” or of the narrative you are trying to push.
I’d also like to address how important it is to have all sides of the argument. Regret *is* a possible risk with transitioning and it’s something that does need to be discussed. Unfortunately though, most of the time that people bring up detransitioners, it’s in an effort to oppose the likely benefits transition. Every individual is different and needs/wants different hints out of life, and out of transitioning. Most people who detransition due so either because they are non binary and felt the need to “fully” transition due to societal expectation, or because of outside sources (such as having surgical complications, being rejected by family & other forms of transphobia). So to combat regret rates, we should A) spread awareness about non binary identities, B) allow for more research and understanding regarding gender affirming surgeries, and C) fight against transphobia. Detransitioners certainly deserve to have a voice, and have a right for their story to be told, but transition (and basically everything in life) is not black and white. To say that no one should transition because some people regret it is not a logical argument; and certainly not one that would be applicable to just about anything else. Just about everything in this world has benefits and risks, and lives in a gray area. Transition is no different.
Now I’m not sure if you’re trans (your first comment sort of hinted at that but I’m not sure), but if you are, I would highly encourage you to look at your own experience, and look at the arguments that people use against you in order to invalidate your identity. They are mostly parallel with the arguments that you are using to try and invalidate non binary individuals. Just because you don’t understand something doesn’t make it unreal. There are many many things in this world that I don’t understand, but they stole hold true. For example, I have no idea what it is like to identify as a man. I have absolutely zero comprehension of what that feels like. And from my own biased mind, it would make much more sense to me if no one identified with manhood. But that is not logical whatsoever, it’s simply biased, formulated from *only* my own experience, and not through a well rounded understanding of identity. I know & acknlowledge that manhood is 100% a thing even if it’s something unfathomable to me, that I can’t connect to or measure by external factors.
Transition isn’t what’s harmful-it’s the ideas of what we believe about gender in the first place. Gender identity is not measurable, it’s not something that anyone can prove or disprove; it’s a part of our own perception of ourselves. When we tell people that who they are is reduced to their genitals-that is harmful. When we tell people they are only valid if they meet a certain set of criteria (criteria that isn’t even universally agreed upon and many times excludes people, such as intersex people, who don’t fit into our preexisting idea of gender) it leads to people feeling pressure to conform to society’s expectations, thus taking away from an individual sense of freedom and autonomy in an attempt to gain acceptance and validation. When you allow people to be accepted for who they are as they are you reduce the risk of people transitioning in an attempt to “prove” something to friends, family, or society in general.
To deny the existence of non binary individuals is not only to deny the existence of people alive and breathing today, it is also to ignore history & biology, and to assert the ideals of Western society and is negligent to acknowledge the very real cultures that have already had so much erased from them due to colonization. To use western beliefs and ideals to minimize and erase other cultures is, in and of itself, a product of white supremacy. Gender is a societally constructed idea, which is why it varies from culture to culture.
And last, before I wrap up, from my own experience as a trans person (been medically transitioning for 6 1/2 years now), I can 100% say I’m happy with my transition. When I first came out, I came out as a trans woman, and was not happy at all. I felt the need to conform to society’s standards of what it means to be a woman, and left my internal self on the back burner. It wasn’t until I understood that there was more than just the binary, that I was able to thrive. The lack of understanding outside of the binary led me to feel confused, frustrated, and defeated. Allowing myself to explore what gender means to me, and not having to conform to any societal structure regarding gender brought (and continues to bring) me great joy. And this isn’t just an external thing (aka gender expression). This was my inability to connect to manhood AND womanhood. This was an innate disconnect to what it means to be a man or a woman. This was something that ostracized me not only from society at large, but also from *myself.* It made me feel as though I had no place in this world. It was isolating and lonely. But allowing myself to be me, instead of trying to conform to what you and so many others see “fit” for me and people like me, is what has allowed my sense of self, my self esteem, and my mental health to thrive. It’s what has allowed me to be happy that I’m alive. It’s what’s allowed me to finally connect to people. I’ve found my own place in this world by being authentic and loving myself enough to embrace who I am, even if others don’t understand. For the first time in my life, I am able to look at my unclothed body in the mirror. I can connect to myself fully, which I never would have been able to do without my understanding of non binary identities, HRT & bottom surgery. I find it incredibly disheartening that you (and others) dismiss these life-changing, beautiful effects of transition, in an attempt to vilify those who you do not understand. I know most likely this comment will not change your mind, but I do encourage you to extend compassion and to do more research on the subject. Your point of view is not only flawed, but incredibly harmful to a community of people who has already suffered greatly at the hands of the patriarchy, religion, society and the government.
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@@georgebush3327 because it’s pointless. My whole point was completely missed. I don’t need a bunch of evidence to prove that transgender or non binary people exist. What I’m saying is non-binary means you don’t identify with either gender which contradicts what being transgender means which relies on the binary to exist. But I don’t expect anyone here to think about that in any logical sense. This is why I identify as a transsexual woman to disassociate myself with both terminologies.
Congrats Bryn! thank you for being you. You look fabulous, and I'm glad you've been able to explore life this way. 🏳⚧ ⚧
Thank you!! 💛