So true!! “you can do feelings or feelings can do you”, if only i can tell all the Thinkers in my life of this because they seem to love to “not do” feelings and bottle everything up until it explodes one day and then wondering what happened 😖 Please Thinkers feel your feelings, you’ll be much more content with life!! 🙏 Such a good video!! - INFP 9
My ENFJ sister taught me the most important lesson as an ENTJ - you can't Think a Feel, and you can't Feel a Think. Sounds super childish but it's a dumb mantra that really does help me be more conscious about what I'm feeling, and most importantly, that feelings aren't something you can plan, strategise, or ignore forever. Which sucks because it's really not my forté by a long shot, but the best thing to do is to control *it* before it controls *you*.
I love the part that getting in touch with your feelings makes you more logical. So many ENTJs miss this point. Cognitive empathy and emotional intelligence is a skill, if developed then you become a lot better at other things. I think the biggest area that improved for me was my ability to relate to others and in turn improved my relationships drastically.
Surprisingly, writting and journaling have always been therapeutic for me too. I hold on to all my journals as a part of my identity. Recently, I moved across the world to attend college and I took all my filled journals with me because they contain my emotions, and experiences. Because I forget what I feel after I have processed it, I like to keep a physical proof of that around so I can peek back into those pages and get necessary data when I need it. Recently, I ended my friendship with my INFJ best friend who I have been friends with for 14-15 years. It was really hard going cold on her. She stone-walled me for so long and was so selfish in the connection. I gave and gave. I was beyond patient with her. She never reciprocated in the way I wanted her to. She was never there for me. Just flowery words with no action. It broke my heart. I was depressed for months because it took it as a form of betrayal and it was that. Once an ENTJ is done with you, whether you live or die they will not care. People talk a lot about INFJ door-slamming but in my experience it's not that worse. I have always experienced that infjs come back. It's the Fi users who truly burn bridges and declare you dead in their hearts. There's no going back with us. She can never return in my life. I know that for sure. I hope you are doing well. Drop your discord. I would love to connect with you. P.S.Your bunny is really cute. I would have held onto that too. Secret softie. 🦄😂 Still not comfortable with feelings but getting better.❤️🔥
A lot of interesting stuff here. I agree about the Fi. And I know the feeling when you're absolutely done with someone. It's really just a way to move forward. I'll save the rest of my thoughts for Discord. Moke#6354
Love the Bunny story. Makes my heart so happy that you did that , that you found the bunny and gave it to her . I love when you do show your feelings/emotions
Love this. :) I loved that the bunny represents something positive for you. It was a beautiful gesture. I have an INFP coworker who's obsessed with bunnies.
I'm also am ENTJ & a few things I struggle with emotionally are: emotions clouding my better judgment (dormant volcano errupts), worrying that other people think I'm mean (because I'm an assertive woman) & I'll throw in 1 more - emotions blocking productivity.
Oh yea. Instead of the word eruption, I call it the "tidal wave." Haha, but yea I know what you mean. The problem with the eruption is usually we don't realize how long our feelings have been simmering under the surface. Yea, worrying that people think you're mean. I can relate to that a lot. It's hard because sometimes you're genuinely not mean but you get criticized for it. Makes you question yourself and worry that you yourself can't make the distinction. And yes! You don't have to "feel good" to be productive, but dormant and unseen emotions will certainly disrupt your ability to be productive. Great to hear other's struggle with this! thank you for sharing
That's such a cute 🐇 , maybe get a real one. You're such a mature thinker. It's great that you are owning an integral part of yourself that makes you human. I wish other thinkers weren't so scared and understood this. I think you'll make an amazing mentor or teacher. You have lot to give to the world. You're awesome and I appreciate what you're doing. 👏👏👏
This video is everything to me, and I know it’s going to help me a lot. I saved it to my favorite video playlist and plan to refer back to it. Thank you. ❤
I'm giving a like and gonna watch later😁 - yay for music and journaling, and the skeleton guy, I guess I need one now xd makes me think of meditation which is great when it comes to managing feelings too btw. abandoned bunny story is too much ;< but big yay as well, I used to like bunnies, guess it must be an infp thing, lol, that's why it caught my eye and intrigued me, great to know its backstory. the biggest yay, and thanks, for appreciating feelings and explaining it like that, emotions are life, sharing them is precious and generous, imo one of best human experiences, beside sharing ideas. as much as entj, or any thinker, talking about feelings may seem kinda abstract, I think when entjs have their fi developed they can excel in feelings as in anything else xd
😂😂😂😂😂 of course, OF COURSE this had to be the first of your videos in which your "straight to the point" (that until now I've appreciated so much) felt more like the infamous ENTJ "no sugar-coating"; talk about the problem not being the message, but us not wanting to hear uncomfortable truths. Amazing as always, well done. The good thing about those feelings-less thinkers is that they self-meme, and that's one task less for the rest of us. I have a question: the two examples you've mentioned of non-functional items in your room are symbolic, i.e., it seems you like them not for themselves, but for what they represent to you. Have you noticed if you have a tendency to do that? the very few ENTJs I've observed all seemed to do so; everything material that surrounded them (from their own clothing/accessories, to their possessions, including personal spaces) were kept not for their material qualities, but for what they represented. Example: I was briefly acquainted with somebody I'm convinced was an ENTJ. We met in an informal context and we were the only two wearing blazers. Both of us, imo, didn't look very smart in our blazers, but as soon as we discussed the fact that we were the only two wearing blazers, the ENTJ asked The Question™(seems to be a rather recurrent one in ENTJs, as skimmerlit has noticed): "what's the significance of X?" I was wearing my worn-out blazer because it's so worn out that the material has soften up, moulded to my shape, and it's very comfortable. The ENTJ , on the other hand, wore his worn-out blazer because it was a family heirloom, it was bought when a family member whom the ENTJ admired achieved a milestone in his life, i.e. the ENTJ enjoyed that blazer for its symbolic meaning and because it acted as a reminder of who he wanted to become. I've also seen INTJ do this too, but in a slightly more "carefree" way. I might be wrong, but I think I see a certain pattern: Fi dominants surround themselves with objects they like; no questions ask, no elaboration, "I just like it". As you said, walking into their rooms is like walking into their personalities. Whereas for somebody with Fi inferior it's like that externalisation of personality (of individual morals and values) is done almost out of necessity, i.e., "I like this because it acts as a *reminder*, it *reminds myself* of who I am, who I want to be, what I value, etc". Sorry for the long comment and would love to hear your thoughts on that--INTP
I definitely have a tendency to do that. I think it's just Fi. It may be my demon function but it's still there. I don't do it consciously, or as often, but it is something very important to me. For example, I have this shirt my brother got me for my birthday that has a picture of me on when I was 5. I love it. It reminds me of my childhood and that little kid I used to be. And I want to honor that kid. One day I was hanging out with some new people and one of them said, "is that your son?" I said, "No that's me when I was a kid." My friend said, jokingly, "Don't you think that's a little arrogant to be wearing a shirt with your own picture on it?" He said it with a teasing smile, and I know he meant no harm, but it really struck me because he completely misinterpreted something that actually meant a lot to me. That comment kind of knocked me off balance, emotionally, and I wasn't really able to respond. And that moment stuck with me. So yes, I think this is related to Fi as well as intuition. Although everyone has things that symbolize something to them, some do it more than others. For me it's less often but when it is, it's very personal. It's not something that appears outwardly in my life like an INFP. Most people, like my friend that day, don't even notice it. The funny thing is when I do present it I'm very proud of it. Like, "aren't I so cool for doing this? I'm so deep." LOL. That's what we call "peacocking." We tend to be very proud of our demon functions when we use them and toss around our savior functions like it's nothing. And it makes sense that INTJs would do it in a more carefree way. Fi is not there demon function. They are more balanced with it. It's not something they hold as dear or feel they have to protect.
@@ENTJ_Perspective Thanks for replying. That t-shirt example is golden. And yeah, while I disagree with some of the notions that Objective Personality present, their whole pivoting around peacocking and identifying first the inferior/demon (I prefer calling it just the 4th function, since nomenclature varies depending on the school of thought) is such an efficient technique. Our relationship with our 4th function is one of anxiety (hence the peacocking). Speaking of which, I hope you've noticed how extremely polite and considerate I am.😌😌😌😉😉😉*cries in Fe*
Random thought: among all types, only E-J and I-P are the real chads: EP doesn't solve things like EJ, he lacks J to be as cool, IJ lacks extraversion, he doesn't have E to be as cool, and only EJ has both; IP is not needed of this nothing to stay cool as he was Additional random thought: to create a class society based on MBTI NT types: will occupy senior management positions in the state and in other socio-economic structures ST types: will be those who perform directly manual work created and planned by NT types NF-SF types: will be artists and creatives, maintain an aesthetic element in society
Thank you for your insights! I appreciate your videos. Please I’d like to seek your opinions. Me and a male ENtJ male friend. We’ve known each other from church for 5 years. We both love activities and each organizes activities and joins each other’s activities. I had been seeing him as a fun guy to hangout with. Until last Christmas and new year day, he suddenly asked me out couple times with two mutual church friends for museums and movies…. Ever since we started texting each other a loooot more than before…from an hour up to three hours…. And he kinda “report” to me what he did… on weekend with family…. It’s only been a month and half…. I can’t wrap my head around it… please I need your help to understand him more ! Thanks a lot!
@@ENTJ_Perspective Things happened too sudden and went too quick (in terms of our message exchanges), which allow me to see different sides of him. I’m very grateful. I like him and I’ve always liked him, just as a friend before… until last Christmas
So true!! “you can do feelings or feelings can do you”, if only i can tell all the Thinkers in my life of this because they seem to love to “not do” feelings and bottle everything up until it explodes one day and then wondering what happened 😖 Please Thinkers feel your feelings, you’ll be much more content with life!! 🙏
Such a good video!! - INFP 9
My ENFJ sister taught me the most important lesson as an ENTJ - you can't Think a Feel, and you can't Feel a Think. Sounds super childish but it's a dumb mantra that really does help me be more conscious about what I'm feeling, and most importantly, that feelings aren't something you can plan, strategise, or ignore forever.
Which sucks because it's really not my forté by a long shot, but the best thing to do is to control *it* before it controls *you*.
Haha sounds dumb but also makes perfect sense.
I love the part that getting in touch with your feelings makes you more logical. So many ENTJs miss this point. Cognitive empathy and emotional intelligence is a skill, if developed then you become a lot better at other things. I think the biggest area that improved for me was my ability to relate to others and in turn improved my relationships drastically.
Thank you. Yes that is very well said.
Surprisingly, writting and journaling have always been therapeutic for me too. I hold on to all my journals as a part of my identity. Recently, I moved across the world to attend college and I took all my filled journals with me because they contain my emotions, and experiences. Because I forget what I feel after I have processed it, I like to keep a physical proof of that around so I can peek back into those pages and get necessary data when I need it.
Recently, I ended my friendship with my INFJ best friend who I have been friends with for 14-15 years. It was really hard going cold on her. She stone-walled me for so long and was so selfish in the connection. I gave and gave. I was beyond patient with her. She never reciprocated in the way I wanted her to. She was never there for me. Just flowery words with no action. It broke my heart. I was depressed for months because it took it as a form of betrayal and it was that.
Once an ENTJ is done with you, whether you live or die they will not care. People talk a lot about INFJ door-slamming but in my experience it's not that worse. I have always experienced that infjs come back. It's the Fi users who truly burn bridges and declare you dead in their hearts. There's no going back with us. She can never return in my life. I know that for sure.
I hope you are doing well. Drop your discord. I would love to connect with you.
P.S.Your bunny is really cute. I would have held onto that too. Secret softie. 🦄😂
Still not comfortable with feelings but getting better.❤️🔥
A lot of interesting stuff here. I agree about the Fi. And I know the feeling when you're absolutely done with someone. It's really just a way to move forward. I'll save the rest of my thoughts for Discord.
Moke#6354
Love the Bunny story. Makes my heart so happy that you did that , that you found the bunny and gave it to her . I love when you do show your feelings/emotions
Thanks mom ☺️
Love this. :) I loved that the bunny represents something positive for you. It was a beautiful gesture. I have an INFP coworker who's obsessed with bunnies.
@@icanrelate Yea what's with INFPs and bunnies?
Ok fine I’ll do this.
It feels good.
As an ENTJ I have to balance my feelings and ambition and leadership.
I'm also am ENTJ & a few things I struggle with emotionally are: emotions clouding my better judgment (dormant volcano errupts), worrying that other people think I'm mean (because I'm an assertive woman) & I'll throw in 1 more - emotions blocking productivity.
Oh yea. Instead of the word eruption, I call it the "tidal wave." Haha, but yea I know what you mean. The problem with the eruption is usually we don't realize how long our feelings have been simmering under the surface.
Yea, worrying that people think you're mean. I can relate to that a lot. It's hard because sometimes you're genuinely not mean but you get criticized for it. Makes you question yourself and worry that you yourself can't make the distinction.
And yes! You don't have to "feel good" to be productive, but dormant and unseen emotions will certainly disrupt your ability to be productive.
Great to hear other's struggle with this! thank you for sharing
@@ENTJ_Perspective 100%
That's such a cute 🐇 , maybe get a real one. You're such a mature thinker. It's great that you are owning an integral part of yourself that makes you human. I wish other thinkers weren't so scared and understood this. I think you'll make an amazing mentor or teacher. You have lot to give to the world. You're awesome and I appreciate what you're doing.
👏👏👏
It really means a lot to me to hear this. Thank you.
This video is everything to me, and I know it’s going to help me a lot. I saved it to my favorite video playlist and plan to refer back to it. Thank you. ❤
That means a lot. Thank you so much :)
I'm giving a like and gonna watch later😁
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yay for music and journaling, and the skeleton guy, I guess I need one now xd makes me think of meditation which is great when it comes to managing feelings too btw.
abandoned bunny story is too much ;< but big yay as well, I used to like bunnies, guess it must be an infp thing, lol, that's why it caught my eye and intrigued me, great to know its backstory.
the biggest yay, and thanks, for appreciating feelings and explaining it like that, emotions are life, sharing them is precious and generous, imo one of best human experiences, beside sharing ideas. as much as entj, or any thinker, talking about feelings may seem kinda abstract, I think when entjs have their fi developed they can excel in feelings as in anything else xd
"emotions are life, sharing them is precious and generous" - I couldn't agree more. Especially the "precious" part lol (think Golem from LotR).
Well done!
😂😂😂😂😂 of course, OF COURSE this had to be the first of your videos in which your "straight to the point" (that until now I've appreciated so much) felt more like the infamous ENTJ "no sugar-coating"; talk about the problem not being the message, but us not wanting to hear uncomfortable truths.
Amazing as always, well done. The good thing about those feelings-less thinkers is that they self-meme, and that's one task less for the rest of us.
I have a question: the two examples you've mentioned of non-functional items in your room are symbolic, i.e., it seems you like them not for themselves, but for what they represent to you. Have you noticed if you have a tendency to do that? the very few ENTJs I've observed all seemed to do so; everything material that surrounded them (from their own clothing/accessories, to their possessions, including personal spaces) were kept not for their material qualities, but for what they represented. Example: I was briefly acquainted with somebody I'm convinced was an ENTJ. We met in an informal context and we were the only two wearing blazers. Both of us, imo, didn't look very smart in our blazers, but as soon as we discussed the fact that we were the only two wearing blazers, the ENTJ asked The Question™(seems to be a rather recurrent one in ENTJs, as skimmerlit has noticed): "what's the significance of X?" I was wearing my worn-out blazer because it's so worn out that the material has soften up, moulded to my shape, and it's very comfortable. The ENTJ , on the other hand, wore his worn-out blazer because it was a family heirloom, it was bought when a family member whom the ENTJ admired achieved a milestone in his life, i.e. the ENTJ enjoyed that blazer for its symbolic meaning and because it acted as a reminder of who he wanted to become.
I've also seen INTJ do this too, but in a slightly more "carefree" way. I might be wrong, but I think I see a certain pattern: Fi dominants surround themselves with objects they like; no questions ask, no elaboration, "I just like it". As you said, walking into their rooms is like walking into their personalities. Whereas for somebody with Fi inferior it's like that externalisation of personality (of individual morals and values) is done almost out of necessity, i.e., "I like this because it acts as a *reminder*, it *reminds myself* of who I am, who I want to be, what I value, etc".
Sorry for the long comment and would love to hear your thoughts on that--INTP
I definitely have a tendency to do that. I think it's just Fi. It may be my demon function but it's still there.
I don't do it consciously, or as often, but it is something very important to me. For example, I have this shirt my brother got me for my birthday that has a picture of me on when I was 5. I love it. It reminds me of my childhood and that little kid I used to be. And I want to honor that kid.
One day I was hanging out with some new people and one of them said, "is that your son?" I said, "No that's me when I was a kid." My friend said, jokingly, "Don't you think that's a little arrogant to be wearing a shirt with your own picture on it?"
He said it with a teasing smile, and I know he meant no harm, but it really struck me because he completely misinterpreted something that actually meant a lot to me. That comment kind of knocked me off balance, emotionally, and I wasn't really able to respond. And that moment stuck with me.
So yes, I think this is related to Fi as well as intuition. Although everyone has things that symbolize something to them, some do it more than others. For me it's less often but when it is, it's very personal. It's not something that appears outwardly in my life like an INFP. Most people, like my friend that day, don't even notice it.
The funny thing is when I do present it I'm very proud of it. Like, "aren't I so cool for doing this? I'm so deep." LOL. That's what we call "peacocking." We tend to be very proud of our demon functions when we use them and toss around our savior functions like it's nothing.
And it makes sense that INTJs would do it in a more carefree way. Fi is not there demon function. They are more balanced with it. It's not something they hold as dear or feel they have to protect.
@@ENTJ_Perspective Thanks for replying. That t-shirt example is golden. And yeah, while I disagree with some of the notions that Objective Personality present, their whole pivoting around peacocking and identifying first the inferior/demon (I prefer calling it just the 4th function, since nomenclature varies depending on the school of thought) is such an efficient technique. Our relationship with our 4th function is one of anxiety (hence the peacocking). Speaking of which, I hope you've noticed how extremely polite and considerate I am.😌😌😌😉😉😉*cries in Fe*
@@giomar89 Well, you ARE polite and considerate. I love all your comments.
Random thought: among all types, only E-J and I-P are the real chads: EP doesn't solve things like EJ, he lacks J to be as cool, IJ lacks extraversion, he doesn't have E to be as cool, and only EJ has both; IP is not needed of this nothing to stay cool as he was
Additional random thought: to create a class society based on MBTI
NT types: will occupy senior management positions in the state and in other socio-economic structures
ST types: will be those who perform directly manual work created and planned by NT types
NF-SF types: will be artists and creatives, maintain an aesthetic element in society
Sheeyit, sign me up.
@@ENTJ_Perspective aight
Mm functional 🤩. 5:10. Got dog?
I love the skeleton 😂
The only way I have cried since years was listening to music, Top Gun Maverick "you are where you belong".
How the f did you know that
Haha, what can I say? Music is powerful 💪
Thank you for your insights! I appreciate your videos.
Please I’d like to seek your opinions. Me and a male ENtJ male friend.
We’ve known each other from church for 5 years. We both love activities and each organizes activities and joins each other’s activities. I had been seeing him as a fun guy to hangout with.
Until last Christmas and new year day, he suddenly asked me out couple times with two mutual church friends for museums and movies…. Ever since we started texting each other a loooot more than before…from an hour up to three hours…. And he kinda “report” to me what he did… on weekend with family….
It’s only been a month and half…. I can’t wrap my head around it… please I need your help to understand him more ! Thanks a lot!
What is it that you'd like to understand?
@@ENTJ_Perspective
Do you think he likes me?
@@ENTJ_Perspective
Thanks for getting back to me!
@@joannezhu2604 Do you like him?
@@ENTJ_Perspective
Things happened too sudden and went too quick (in terms of our message exchanges), which allow me to see different sides of him. I’m very grateful.
I like him and I’ve always liked him, just as a friend before… until last Christmas
Meh. ENTJ here. Leave me be.
You know I can't do that.