As someone who always had strong boundaries, the men I have dated in the past would refer to that as "being a bitch" or "running my mouth", "being difficult " ,"too independent" or "too opinionated ". So ladies, when a man tells you that, theres your red flag to run! A secure man wants a strong woman! 💪✌️❤️😊
As a guy its unfortunate when men can't just take no and move on to someone else who prefers their preferences without name calling women or getting extreme with their feelings. I had PLENTY of women who rejected me and harshly at times too. Yes its unpleasant to be told no but you can't have your way all the time with every one so I just say Ok ma'am you have a nice day and ask the next lady for company. I prefer a women who favors my preferences and if I can't find that then I am ok with being alone for now and maybe forever.....thats just me and you have the every right to disagree on this because we are separate independent people.
Totally agree with you there! I have been called a man and told I ran my mouth too much too. I don’t care either! I refuse to put up with anyone’s shit period! I’m proud to be tough and independent!
We have gone from wanting to work on the marriage to being done a few times during that month. Last week we got in an argument my husband said he wanted a divorce. I found out that not 5 days later he was at the clubs trying to find someone so he could get laid. He met someone I guess. I am absolutely mortified and never imagined he would behave like this. We have been married 10 years. I feel like I am not save anymore with his narcissist attitude. watching him just downward spiral. The only thing I can say is it has made me know that I definitely want a divorce... after my boss son recommended me to this genius hacker that get into his phone device, believe it was really painful and horrible stuff. but deleted message and non deleted message chat, Video, Call from 5years back where unveiled to me. This is now helpful because he worked my papers for me and now I can stay with my child and have a good job. Don't let your narcissistic partner abuse you no more. follow them up on Instagram 👇👇👇 @Kinno_hack..
Heard this from my adult daughter. Too strong for her and now she runs a smear campaign against me. I feel deep sorrow for my adult daughter. Sad way to live. She is joyless but acts happy when in certain company. Very sad fir my precious grsndson whom I have had daily since his birth snd now he had turned 8 and my daughter had announced she no longer needs my husbsnd and I to watch him. My grandson was telling on her, now we are discarded...but I believe Jesus is Lord and no matter what she may do God is watching. Praise be to our Heavenly Father. He is will bring a breakthrough. In Jesus name Amen
Let it roll. It was her decision. Pray and find peace & happiness as you go. Leave the door open for her. It is her decision to decide if she wants to be in your life again.
If I would have trusted my gut I would have saved myself from 2 years of wasted time. I thought my boundaries were better because I was working on myself before him and nope he pushes them all! Stay strong everyone! We got this
Yes. I think you are right. We did grow a lot but then we got a test. If we are honest, we did see the red flags. Mine had me whipped, so handsome and sexy. lol 😂
Agree, that's why NPD is seen as 'normal' in cultures that emphasize politeness & protocols..and even if you screams that you are the victim, all of the mass will judge you and they become the NPD flying monkeys.
We have gone from wanting to work on the marriage to being done a few times during that month. Last week we got in an argument my husband said he wanted a divorce. I found out that not 5 days later he was at the clubs trying to find someone so he could get laid. He met someone I guess. I am absolutely mortified and never imagined he would behave like this. We have been married 10 years. I feel like I am not save anymore with his narcissist attitude. watching him just downward spiral. The only thing I can say is it has made me know that I definitely want a divorce... after my boss son recommended me to this genius hacker that get into his phone device, believe it was really painful and horrible stuff. but deleted message and non deleted message chat, Video, Call from 5years back where unveiled to me. This is now helpful because he worked my papers for me and now I can stay with my child and have a good job. Don't let your narcissistic partner abuse you no more. follow them up on Instagram 👇👇👇 @Kinno_hack...
28 years ago I set boundaries...... But a lying narcissist will only agree in lie and pretend, If you stay with them long enough they still going to show they're narcissistic sides No matter the boundaries..... That was my experience.😮 I'm a senior now and I walked away and file for divorce and I'll be divorced in the next 40 days........lt,s a-whole-new-world 28 years later but I'm going through with it .
Yes… people need to know, setting boundaries means nothing if you’re not going to enforce them… only respectful people respect boundaries… that’s why Lee was saying boundaries are for you, not them-because only you can set AND enforce them💜 otherwise, people get confused, thinking why are my “boundaries” not working and then just keep re-stating them, wondering why they’re not “working”
I wish you all the best for your New life ahead. It will be tough, but you will be fine. My advice to you would be to seek therapy with a professional specialised in trauma issues. Much love 💖❤️
Well Susie you and I are both on the right path once again!! I am 30+yrs. married to a Narcissist and in a few days we will be in court on the restraining order & abuse. Following will be the divorce proceedings with all his flying monkeys and Trolls!! Good luck with your new life and new beginnings !! We will get through this and break those chains together and forever 👍🏼🥳
Lack of boundaries often is due to childhood trauma of narcissistic family members and/or parents brought up by narcissistic parents. Heal that area of your life and become conscious of your triggers. Set these walls and enjoy the rest of your life. A few people will stay in the end, but toxicity is out for good. Effortless walls actually...because with mentally healthy people you don't need a lot of effort to draw the line. The toxic bunch is another story. Even electricity doesn't keep them away.
We have gone from wanting to work on the marriage to being done a few times during that month. Last week we got in an argument my husband said he wanted a divorce. I found out that not 5 days later he was at the clubs trying to find someone so he could get laid. He met someone I guess. I am absolutely mortified and never imagined he would behave like this. We have been married 10 years. I feel like I am not save anymore with his narcissist attitude. watching him just downward spiral. The only thing I can say is it has made me know that I definitely want a divorce... after my boss son recommended me to this genius hacker that get into his phone device, believe it was really painful and horrible stuff. but deleted message and non deleted message chat, Video, Call from 5years back where unveiled to me. This is now helpful because he worked my papers for me and now I can stay with my child and have a good job. Don't let your narcissistic partner abuse you no more. follow them up on Instagram 👇👇👇 @Kinno_hack...
When I wouldn't freely give him money that he was asking for, he would get mad at me and go silent... Same with ordering him something off the internet.. He would say that he just got irritated with me.. But when I would just do it, he loved me so much ( that's what he would say ) I'm so happy I'm 29 days, no contact .. Going to start therapy for learning how to set better boundaries... Thanks Lee for all you do!!!
He tried to condition me buying him things by telling that his ex bought him clothes and shoes, phones and even a car. Well, I did not. I'm not going to compete in stupid competitions. Me too have been in therapy learning even better boundaries after him. Good that you got rid of that narcissist!
Listen this is the truth, for years I was very passive-aggressive and a people pleaser! Now I am ready to do me! I am no longer afraid! My children and I have suffered trauma! Now that my children are grown I can leave without worrying about feeding babies!
We have gone from wanting to work on the marriage to being done a few times during that month. Last week we got in an argument my husband said he wanted a divorce. I found out that not 5 days later he was at the clubs trying to find someone so he could get laid. He met someone I guess. I am absolutely mortified and never imagined he would behave like this. We have been married 10 years. I feel like I am not save anymore with his narcissist attitude. watching him just downward spiral. The only thing I can say is it has made me know that I definitely want a divorce... after my boss son recommended me to this genius hacker that get into his phone device, believe it was really painful and horrible stuff. but deleted message and non deleted message chat, Video, Call from 5years back where unveiled to me. This is now helpful because he worked my papers for me and now I can stay with my child and have a good job. Don't let your narcissistic partner abuse you no more. follow them up on Instagram 👇👇👇 @Kinno_hack...
It's nice to see people coming forward to help victims and survivors on this TH-cam channel! 😅 Badly needed in a society full of power-hungry enthusiasts, ugh!
I finally set my boundry after 13 years of being treated badly i stood up in his face and said "f*** y**" and walked away he tried to email me and i simply put a thumbs up with a " good luck" last time hes tried i refuse to chase him and allow him to treat me horribly ever again.
We have gone from wanting to work on the marriage to being done a few times during that month. Last week we got in an argument my husband said he wanted a divorce. I found out that not 5 days later he was at the clubs trying to find someone so he could get laid. He met someone I guess. I am absolutely mortified and never imagined he would behave like this. We have been married 10 years. I feel like I am not save anymore with his narcissist attitude. watching him just downward spiral. The only thing I can say is it has made me know that I definitely want a divorce... after my boss son recommended me to this genius hacker that get into his phone device, believe it was really painful and horrible stuff. but deleted message and non deleted message chat, Video, Call from 5years back where unveiled to me. This is now helpful because he worked my papers for me and now I can stay with my child and have a good job. Don't let your narcissistic partner abuse you no more. follow them up on Instagram 👇👇👇 @Kinno_hack...
Knowing this and now knowing my ex is a narcissist. Without question I was a nightmare to him...I was always holding his feet to the fire. Since I've been listening to Lee, I abruptly removed myself from this relationship!!! # MentalHealness
Just before I ended the relationship with my narc ex about a decade ago, he actually told me in a moment of exasperation that I was the strongest person he ever met. That sentence came from the most relentless, cold hearted, nasty sob I’ve ever known. It also told me he knew exactly what he had been doing all along, trying to wear me out and grind me down. Unfortunately, I’m trained up in dealing with this type of behavior because I grew up in this type of mess, and so for many years I was drawn to this type of dysfunction and abuse. This relationship was so damn bad that I promised myself never again… it was time to break the cycle - I figured it was time to learn to love what was good for me, and I did just that. And you’re right Lee, it takes leverage to get them to back off and to enforce boundaries. It never feels good to have to go there, but with certain folks it’s necessary.
The one thing that has helped me is learning that, "No" is a sentence. And that you don't need to explain why you're saying "no". The word "no" is powerful!
My narc always said “it’s your first relationship so it’s okay if you don’t understand how things work” when I would make a boundary or ask for something and he wouldn’t listen lmao. It made me feel like I was learning, but I was actually being dismissed.
We have gone from wanting to work on the marriage to being done a few times during that month. Last week we got in an argument my husband said he wanted a divorce. I found out that not 5 days later he was at the clubs trying to find someone so he could get laid. He met someone I guess. I am absolutely mortified and never imagined he would behave like this. We have been married 10 years. I feel like I am not save anymore with his narcissist attitude. watching him just downward spiral. The only thing I can say is it has made me know that I definitely want a divorce... after my boss son recommended me to this genius hacker that get into his phone device, believe it was really painful and horrible stuff. but deleted message and non deleted message chat, Video, Call from 5years back where unveiled to me. This is now helpful because he worked my papers for me and now I can stay with my child and have a good job. Don't let your narcissistic partner abuse you no more. follow them up on Instagram 👇👇👇 @Kinno_hack..
Again though lee, this is great to empower people who have been trampled through life and never taught they are allowed to say no and tell other to back the fuck off.
This is so true. Unfortunately i dated a fellow teacher who turned out to be one of the biggest NARC i've encountered in my life. Well, i realize he needs me more than i need him, and i'm about to walk away from my job. I don't like the school where i work, and because of our relationship i stayed at the job. Now, i realize they type of person he is, i am leaving this job and leaving him behind. Im taking control of my mental health by getting my peace of mind back. Lesson learned, don't ever date people on the job, get to know people first before starting any relationship and DO NOT BE AFRAID TO WALK AWAY.
The only way to STOP ATTRACTING NARCS is to heal your childhood trauma. Learn about complex PTSD and that will literally change the frequencies you’re projecting outwardly. So within as without.
It's so inspirational to see someone step forward and take ownership of NPD. I love to see your growth and deeply appreciate you are taking what you have learned to share it.
@@MentalHealness Oh honey, it was so easy he helped me set him up and I've got enough on him to destroy him. I'm having to much fun watching him squirm, popping up when he least expects it and shaking him up, to shake him down 😂😂😂
We have gone from wanting to work on the marriage to being done a few times during that month. Last week we got in an argument my husband said he wanted a divorce. I found out that not 5 days later he was at the clubs trying to find someone so he could get laid. He met someone I guess. I am absolutely mortified and never imagined he would behave like this. We have been married 10 years. I feel like I am not save anymore with his narcissist attitude. watching him just downward spiral. The only thing I can say is it has made me know that I definitely want a divorce... after my boss son recommended me to this genius hacker that get into his phone device, believe it was really painful and horrible stuff. but deleted message and non deleted message chat, Video, Call from 5years back where unveiled to me. This is now helpful because he worked my papers for me and now I can stay with my child and have a good job. Don't let your narcissistic partner abuse you no more. follow them up on Instagram 👇👇👇 @Kinno_hack...
Good word. I had let the boundaries completely down after 18 years of marriage. He exploited that advantage, and in the end I was terrified of his threats and power plays. He isolated me somewhat in marriage and therefore, I was alone, kept silent (pastoral code) and crawled away. Thanks for reminding me to have rock solid physical, emotional, psychological, sexual, spiritual and financial boundaries.
We have gone from wanting to work on the marriage to being done a few times during that month. Last week we got in an argument my husband said he wanted a divorce. I found out that not 5 days later he was at the clubs trying to find someone so he could get laid. He met someone I guess. I am absolutely mortified and never imagined he would behave like this. We have been married 10 years. I feel like I am not save anymore with his narcissist attitude. watching him just downward spiral. The only thing I can say is it has made me know that I definitely want a divorce... after my boss son recommended me to this genius hacker that get into his phone device, believe it was really painful and horrible stuff. but deleted message and non deleted message chat, Video, Call from 5years back where unveiled to me. This is now helpful because he worked my papers for me and now I can stay with my child and have a good job. Don't let your narcissistic partner abuse you no more. follow them up on Instagram 👇👇👇 @Kinno_hack..
I was a very healthy woman when my narc got a hold of me. The word no seemed to be a challenge to him to latch on even harder. A more challenging game meant a bigger gamble, and a bigger ego boost. 20 years ago this disorder was not nearly as well known. All women need to know the signs early!
We have gone from wanting to work on the marriage to being done a few times during that month. Last week we got in an argument my husband said he wanted a divorce. I found out that not 5 days later he was at the clubs trying to find someone so he could get laid. He met someone I guess. I am absolutely mortified and never imagined he would behave like this. We have been married 10 years. I feel like I am not save anymore with his narcissist attitude. watching him just downward spiral. The only thing I can say is it has made me know that I definitely want a divorce... after my boss son recommended me to this genius hacker that get into his phone device, believe it was really painful and horrible stuff. but deleted message and non deleted message chat, Video, Call from 5years back where unveiled to me. This is now helpful because he worked my papers for me and now I can stay with my child and have a good job. Don't let your narcissistic partner abuse you no more. follow them up on Instagram 👇👇👇 @Kinno_hack..
This is SPOT ON Lee!🔥🔥Although I am happy and free now...I remember specifically when my ex-husband crossed a boundary I had in place as it relates to anyone....and I gave him the benefit of the doubt. That snowballed. Although NARCS mirror you...etc....they aren't that clever. I OWN the accountability that I ALLOWED him to cross a boundary that I had never allowed before. DEEP!💯
Being with a Narcissist Is so mystifying because they get to twist reality to their agenda. One of the reasons why I am so confused right now is because I thought I had married the perfect man. He was everything I'd ever wanted in a man and in the beginning presented himself as my biggest fan and supporter. And idk how to leave although I truly want to,Until a side of him popped up every so often that threw me off balance, He has been having an affair with a lady in college I have been having this feeling and changes in him, now I know all his promises of fidelity are all lies he broke the promised.I got his information from @Kinno_hack on INSTAGRAM he helped me hack into his phone retrieved all his whatsapp messages and text messages, both deleted and non-deleted messages including messages from his emails. Now I got lots of proofs to show He’s a narc, I’m filing for divorce ASAP. If you want to know if your spouse is cheating on you contact @Kinno_hack on Instagram @Kinno_hack.
This fool came to see me long distance. I specifically said come Tuesday bec Monday I will be busy. He showed up Monday anyway. I made the mistake and let it slide. HOWEVER I got rid of him very quickly bec he also tried to be a daddy to me, and he wanted to isolate me from one of my guy friends. Insecurity and control are huge turn offs. He got tossed in the trash where he belongs. I am not looking for a daddy figure which I made clear to him.
We have gone from wanting to work on the marriage to being done a few times during that month. Last week we got in an argument my husband said he wanted a divorce. I found out that not 5 days later he was at the clubs trying to find someone so he could get laid. He met someone I guess. I am absolutely mortified and never imagined he would behave like this. We have been married 10 years. I feel like I am not save anymore with his narcissist attitude. watching him just downward spiral. The only thing I can say is it has made me know that I definitely want a divorce... after my boss son recommended me to this genius hacker that get into his phone device, believe it was really painful and horrible stuff. but deleted message and non deleted message chat, Video, Call from 5years back where unveiled to me. This is now helpful because he worked my papers for me and now I can stay with my child and have a good job. Don't let your narcissistic partner abuse you no more. follow them up on Instagram 👇👇👇 @Kinno_hack..
My ex could do whatever he wanted. I had 3 major boundaries and that was I didn't want to be around bad parents, inconsiderate a-holes and users. He had no problem being around those kind of people. So I said fine go ahead but not our kids. This caused fights all the time.
I feel like just knowing what is going on, and having confidence in yourself, so no matter what they say, you don’t let it bother u, or get to u, and you just say “right, suure” when they deny stuff, and walk away. Not let them get u emotional and just let them do their silent treatment while laughing at it, cause it’s childish. We all laugh at my hubby, when he won’t accept being wrong, and say stuff like “oh no, he can never be wrong” then laugh, he ends up laughing too, nothing else he can do.
Before I knew what I was dealing with, I made the mistake of believing a narcissist when I texted him to break it off due to inconsistency and neglect and he said, “I wish you would have just given me the grace to communicate. If I knew you had an issue, I would work to change it and grow.” I felt that was fair and honorable, so I called him and, 5 seconds into the call, he yelled at me, cut me off when I tried to speak, degraded my intellect, and accused me of being combative to the point he abruptly ended the call. I left the call soooo confused. But, after giving him one more chance where he rewarded my attempt at communication by punishing me with silence/non-response to my text all day, I sent him a text saying, “before I assume anything, are you intentionally not communicating with me or did you just have a super busy day?” His response was petty and immature, making himself the victim. He said he didn’t have energy to fight with me… even though I didn’t sign up for a fight. My next text was, “So much I could say, but I’ll leave it here. Take care of yourself.” Block, delete. ✌🏽
I’m almost 18 years out, after leaving an NDP partner. You can absolutely win via the courts. You can absolutely get you life together without them. You can absolutely start from zero and get ahead!
Oh my, I went very low contact with my NM so I could keep in touch with my dad, and the first time I said 'no' to my mom was when I was honestly too busy to take the time off to see her. She wanted to come up and take me shopping (financial lovebombing) and I was in the middle of law school midterms while working full time. I emailed 'no' in response and moved on. The family drama, accusations and grief I got because of NM's hysterics at being refused with no explanation or excuse was eye-opening. Until that point somewhere I was still the kid trying to win her approval; after that, it was a lot easier to see the manipulation for what it was.
We have gone from wanting to work on the marriage to being done a few times during that month. Last week we got in an argument my husband said he wanted a divorce. I found out that not 5 days later he was at the clubs trying to find someone so he could get laid. He met someone I guess. I am absolutely mortified and never imagined he would behave like this. We have been married 10 years. I feel like I am not save anymore with his narcissist attitude. watching him just downward spiral. The only thing I can say is it has made me know that I definitely want a divorce... after my boss son recommended me to this genius hacker that get into his phone device, believe it was really painful and horrible stuff. but deleted message and non deleted message chat, Video, Call from 5years back where unveiled to me. This is now helpful because he worked my papers for me and now I can stay with my child and have a good job. Don't let your narcissistic partner abuse you no more. follow them up on Instagram 👇👇👇 @Kinno_hack...
I’ve read your self description and even though I despise narcissists I appreciate your honesty and desire to combat narcissism while feeling hesitant to trust your advice.
Love your channel! I’ve watched my daughters husband suddenly turn on his mom when she set boundaries and am sure he’ll do the same with me soon. He’s suddenly said what a horrific childhood that he had and his brothers are dumbfounded with his claims! Saw this with my own brother. Watching my girl believe everything that he says is so crazy! I’m worried that he’s working on isolating her now so that he will have a chance to be a ‘hero’ . She was raised to be a strong independent woman and the longer she’s with him the more I see that independence crumble. It’s very frustrating for me. Everyone can see through him except for her.
I set boundaries and he was so attentive to them. Until we had moved in, had a mortgage, had a kid. As soon as I was “trapped” he didn’t care what boundary I set he would bulldoze it. I spent a long time in confusion. Now there is info online and I am clear what is happening and I’m gone.
I was unmovable in my faith it’s probably why I’m alive because the emotional, financial, psychological abuse was too much. I also didn’t trust myself 13 years ago when I realized and he HATED my boundaries.
We have gone from wanting to work on the marriage to being done a few times during that month. Last week we got in an argument my husband said he wanted a divorce. I found out that not 5 days later he was at the clubs trying to find someone so he could get laid. He met someone I guess. I am absolutely mortified and never imagined he would behave like this. We have been married 10 years. I feel like I am not save anymore with his narcissist attitude. watching him just downward spiral. The only thing I can say is it has made me know that I definitely want a divorce... after my boss son recommended me to this genius hacker that get into his phone device, believe it was really painful and horrible stuff. but deleted message and non deleted message chat, Video, Call from 5years back where unveiled to me. This is now helpful because he worked my papers for me and now I can stay with my child and have a good job. Don't let your narcissistic partner abuse you no more. follow them up on Instagram 👇👇👇 @Kinno_hack..
Thank you Lee, boundaries are what I need to exercise. I admit I need to love myself and my values. True, boundaries keep narcissists in their place. 🙏😊
I did make the mistake of allowing him to isolate me, causing me to lose all my good friends. Now, all these years later, trying to divorce this crazy man, I’m having to force myself to leave my home and join groups and get out there and talk to people. It was hard at first, but it was so worth it, as I’m starting to connect with people and discover who I am and what I like to do, not be told what I have to do or what I am going to do by my soon to be ex narc.
You give me hope. If you, being a narcissist, are able to care about us and help us out. Then i will be able to heal from this and stop atracting this kind of trauma bond relationships. Thanks for all your videos and support ❤
Patti- you must be dating or married to the same person I dated. Cause that is what I heard. I’m not being co trolled or told what to do and. Not do by anybody. I’m grown and 62. Well, his 62 is really 9.
We have gone from wanting to work on the marriage to being done a few times during that month. Last week we got in an argument my husband said he wanted a divorce. I found out that not 5 days later he was at the clubs trying to find someone so he could get laid. He met someone I guess. I am absolutely mortified and never imagined he would behave like this. We have been married 10 years. I feel like I am not save anymore with his narcissist attitude. watching him just downward spiral. The only thing I can say is it has made me know that I definitely want a divorce... after my boss son recommended me to this genius hacker that get into his phone device, believe it was really painful and horrible stuff. but deleted message and non deleted message chat, Video, Call from 5years back where unveiled to me. This is now helpful because he worked my papers for me and now I can stay with my child and have a good job. Don't let your narcissistic partner abuse you no more. follow them up on Instagram 👇👇👇 @Kinno_hack..
Best info I've found yet. I grew up with an abusive narc mother. Many stepfathers. I stupidly fell in love with a Narcissist. We lived in different states for 2.75 years. Got married, 16 years of hell. He got me isolated after we married and treated me like shit. He disgusted me the last 5 years. $$ is his God. It embarrasses me, how clueless I was for so long. I was strong. We fought constantly, he tried to make me feel less than.... most the time. Our son is also a narcissist. He just used me constantly as a teen and early 20s. Now I don't see him anymore. He invited his father to my house, whilst I was out... at an organised party for my son. They stole so much from my house. Havnt seen him since. Its been over a year. Broken hearted. I did my absolute best as a mum.
We have gone from wanting to work on the marriage to being done a few times during that month. Last week we got in an argument my husband said he wanted a divorce. I found out that not 5 days later he was at the clubs trying to find someone so he could get laid. He met someone I guess. I am absolutely mortified and never imagined he would behave like this. We have been married 10 years. I feel like I am not save anymore with his narcissist attitude. watching him just downward spiral. The only thing I can say is it has made me know that I definitely want a divorce... after my boss son recommended me to this genius hacker that get into his phone device, believe it was really painful and horrible stuff. but deleted message and non deleted message chat, Video, Call from 5years back where unveiled to me. This is now helpful because he worked my papers for me and now I can stay with my child and have a good job. Don't let your narcissistic partner abuse you no more. follow them up on Instagram 👇👇👇 @Kinno_hack..
Lee, you are my favourite self-confessed & diagnosed narcissist; even if I knew or had come across another, you would still be my favourite. Thank you for everything, really, THANK YOU.
I see why you say "too strong". They keep coming at me with a destructive attitude. I did walk away on my elderly narcissistic mother, who I provide care for. And I learned I overcome all the ugly feelings they want to create inside me. I deal with her in the moment and do it so calmly she has no way to bring me down now.
I’ve been no contact for 8 days now. I’ve been receiving about 30 calls everyday from different numbers. Thanks to your videos I’m not going back to him ever again. You’re amazing. Thank you once again. ❤
We have gone from wanting to work on the marriage to being done a few times during that month. Last week we got in an argument my husband said he wanted a divorce. I found out that not 5 days later he was at the clubs trying to find someone so he could get laid. He met someone I guess. I am absolutely mortified and never imagined he would behave like this. We have been married 10 years. I feel like I am not save anymore with his narcissist attitude. watching him just downward spiral. The only thing I can say is it has made me know that I definitely want a divorce... after my boss son recommended me to this genius hacker that get into his phone device, believe it was really painful and horrible stuff. but deleted message and non deleted message chat, Video, Call from 5years back where unveiled to me. This is now helpful because he worked my papers for me and now I can stay with my child and have a good job. Don't let your narcissistic partner abuse you no more. follow them up on Instagram 👇👇👇 @Kinno_hack...
It’s true yall. I literally quit on my boss out loud on slack and he took a step back and asked me to stay. Since then, he’s been real careful with his mouth. This all happened the same day I got beat up and thrown out by a narcissist ex. They can right or get left. Don’t be afraid of ntn. Eff them pipo.
My father always said I’d end up on the show beyond scared straight and told my sister I would get her in trouble because I was too strong as a child. I was so confused. But I get what he did there NOW. I was stubborn and had a mind of my own and was loved and loved people.
Setting boundaries caused my narc ex to abandon our kids… he could no longer use the kids to get at me because our kids don’t put up with his bs, and he doesn’t like be called out by them. He hasn’t seen them in over 2 years and it’s been a peaceful 2 years.
My husband had no boundries at all but after 5 yrs apart he’s learnt a few lol still a work in progress but I’m forever hopeful 😊 can’t give up on 40 yrs
Yeah I must be crazy 🤨. I’m happy living alone and no longer enable and am glowing/growing 🥰 and may never live with him again but hes hit rock bottom for a few years and is now getting therapy so I’m praying that he can heal and find peace. Everyone is a work in progress I guess hey
We have gone from wanting to work on the marriage to being done a few times during that month. Last week we got in an argument my husband said he wanted a divorce. I found out that not 5 days later he was at the clubs trying to find someone so he could get laid. He met someone I guess. I am absolutely mortified and never imagined he would behave like this. We have been married 10 years. I feel like I am not save anymore with his narcissist attitude. watching him just downward spiral. The only thing I can say is it has made me know that I definitely want a divorce... after my boss son recommended me to this genius hacker that get into his phone device, believe it was really painful and horrible stuff. but deleted message and non deleted message chat, Video, Call from 5years back where unveiled to me. This is now helpful because he worked my papers for me and now I can stay with my child and have a good job. Don't let your narcissistic partner abuse you no more. follow them up on Instagram 👇👇👇 @Kinno_hack..
I had to cancel a dinner date at his home, due to me not feeling well. All he said was how he had wasted his time cooking and i felt that he was not happy. A normal human being would say i hope you feel better soon. While i was with him i felt so paralysed like i couldn't move. I believe we were just triggering each other. Heal both our child hood wounds. Im still trying to heal from the suttle abuse. You have to suround yourself with lots of protection.
The no scene: reminds me of that skit Lee did when he did a little "mee mee me meee" like he was practicing on how to gaslight someone. 🤣🤣🤣 it was so funny.
Great video Lee! I love your no nonsense approach to explaining how to be too strong for a narcissist. You're helping and educating a lot of people on how to protect themselves from getting trapped by a narcissist, and that it's okay to enforce your boundaries and how important it is to say NO! Looking forward to your next amazing video! 👍👍👍
We have gone from wanting to work on the marriage to being done a few times during that month. Last week we got in an argument my husband said he wanted a divorce. I found out that not 5 days later he was at the clubs trying to find someone so he could get laid. He met someone I guess. I am absolutely mortified and never imagined he would behave like this. We have been married 10 years. I feel like I am not save anymore with his narcissist attitude. watching him just downward spiral. The only thing I can say is it has made me know that I definitely want a divorce... after my boss son recommended me to this genius hacker that get into his phone device, believe it was really painful and horrible stuff. but deleted message and non deleted message chat, Video, Call from 5years back where unveiled to me. This is now helpful because he worked my papers for me and now I can stay with my child and have a good job. Don't let your narcissistic partner abuse you no more. follow them up on Instagram 👇👇👇 @Kinno_hack..
We have gone from wanting to work on the marriage to being done a few times during that month. Last week we got in an argument my husband said he wanted a divorce. I found out that not 5 days later he was at the clubs trying to find someone so he could get laid. He met someone I guess. I am absolutely mortified and never imagined he would behave like this. We have been married 10 years. I feel like I am not save anymore with his narcissist attitude. watching him just downward spiral. The only thing I can say is it has made me know that I definitely want a divorce... after my boss son recommended me to this genius hacker that get into his phone device, believe it was really painful and horrible stuff. but deleted message and non deleted message chat, Video, Call from 5years back where unveiled to me. This is now helpful because he worked my papers for me and now I can stay with my child and have a good job. Don't let your narcissistic partner abuse you no more. follow them up on Instagram 👇👇👇 @Kinno_hack..
"You're not submissive. You're defiant. No good man is gonna want a defiant woman." First of all... What if I don't want THEM, after all this?? 😮 Second, no... I stood up to you for accusing me of something I didn't do. I called you out on your abuse. I DID get reactively abusive (and I regret EVER admitting that... Haven't lived it down yet). But me setting boundaries is NOT defiance.
Was raised by narcissists and learned early how to stand up for myself. I say no quickly, so B is my name they call me. And I will walk out, but of course I am the one wrong. But I like and love myself I can live with me and without you
I have a friend of mine that I just found out is in a narcissistic toxic relationship... and I'm so disappointed... because he always looks for me when it gets bad, but refuses to leave.
@@katface28No. You are giving him space to feel like it would if he were free again. People need time and it's best that the separation/healing happens secretly while still there so when the time comes they will be strong. Also once gone ready for life instead of all the healing. Hope this makes sense, and thanks for being a true friend. 😂❤
@@katface28 I have healed while still in place, waiting for the house to sell. It was long. I did everything as I did before, laundry, cooking etc, I did not act or do single. I healed secretly while my friends were my rock. It helped to have this crying support, because when I was home, I got to only concentrate on keeping my vibrations high, which kept the other distant, although present, but out of my energy. Find ways on TH-cam to help your friend keep energy high like louise hay, or abraham hicks, or byron Katie. Emotional abuse needs to be handled/healed in secret to build strength and willpower to leave. Some think to do the opposite, like revenge or act single, or change too fast. This is not the best way. Silence is. Now I have to try and get him to sign off my share so I will be able to move straight to a new home, and not rent while waiting for money to come in. If course this will be made as hard as possible, but I am almost physically free, and have been emotionally free for quite some time. Bless you for helping your friend because not many really support abused people because they never had a lack of boundaries for themselves. ♥️
We have gone from wanting to work on the marriage to being done a few times during that month. Last week we got in an argument my husband said he wanted a divorce. I found out that not 5 days later he was at the clubs trying to find someone so he could get laid. He met someone I guess. I am absolutely mortified and never imagined he would behave like this. We have been married 10 years. I feel like I am not save anymore with his narcissist attitude. watching him just downward spiral. The only thing I can say is it has made me know that I definitely want a divorce... after my boss son recommended me to this genius hacker that get into his phone device, believe it was really painful and horrible stuff. but deleted message and non deleted message chat, Video, Call from 5years back where unveiled to me. This is now helpful because he worked my papers for me and now I can stay with my child and have a good job. Don't let your narcissistic partner abuse you no more. follow them up on Instagram 👇👇👇 @Kinno_hack...
As someone who always had strong boundaries, the men I have dated in the past would refer to that as "being a bitch" or "running my mouth", "being difficult " ,"too independent" or "too opinionated ". So ladies, when a man tells you that, theres your red flag to run! A secure man wants a strong woman! 💪✌️❤️😊
As a guy its unfortunate when men can't just take no and move on to someone else who prefers their preferences without name calling women or getting extreme with their feelings. I had PLENTY of women who rejected me and harshly at times too. Yes its unpleasant to be told no but you can't have your way all the time with every one so I just say Ok ma'am you have a nice day and ask the next lady for company. I prefer a women who favors my preferences and if I can't find that then I am ok with being alone for now and maybe forever.....thats just me and you have the every right to disagree on this because we are separate independent people.
Men want feminine women, but thanks for playing along :)
@@knowledgeseeker4116Amen
@@TheAmazingRandy if men would step up and be THE MAN, maybe then the woman could be her feminine self.
Totally agree with you there! I have been called a man and told I ran my mouth too much too. I don’t care either! I refuse to put up with anyone’s shit period! I’m proud to be tough and independent!
Strong boundaries is narc repellent
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I always say , never love a person from a place of fear. Set boundaries and stand firm, flat footed and absolute in your NO‼️
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We have gone from wanting to work on the marriage to being done a few times during that month. Last week we got in an argument my husband said he wanted a divorce. I found out that not 5 days later he was at the clubs trying to find someone so he could get laid. He met someone I guess. I am absolutely mortified and never imagined he would behave like this. We have been married 10 years. I feel like I am not save anymore with his narcissist attitude. watching him just downward spiral. The only thing I can say is it has made me know that I definitely want a divorce... after my boss son recommended me to this genius hacker that get into his phone device, believe it was really painful and horrible stuff. but deleted message and non deleted message chat, Video, Call from 5years back where unveiled to me. This is now helpful because he worked my papers for me and now I can stay with my child and have a good job. Don't let your narcissistic partner abuse you no more. follow them up on Instagram
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@Kinno_hack..
Loving this! So codependency is loving people from the place of fear!
I always got "I'm not abusive it's just who I am" as if it's normal behavior and I should just deal with it. No sir, goodbye!😅
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I knew a guy who tried to tell me it was just a man's nature
@@jennifermedinaJakesferetta I hate when people speak for groups of people. For him to say that is so LAME.
Heard this from my adult daughter.
Too strong for her and now she runs a smear campaign against me.
I feel deep sorrow for my adult daughter. Sad way to live.
She is joyless but acts happy when in certain company.
Very sad fir my precious grsndson whom I have had daily since his birth snd now he had turned 8 and my daughter had announced she no longer needs my husbsnd and I to watch him.
My grandson was telling on her, now we are discarded...but I believe Jesus is Lord and no matter what she may do God is watching.
Praise be to our Heavenly Father.
He is will bring a breakthrough.
In Jesus name
Amen
Let it roll. It was her decision. Pray and find peace & happiness as you go. Leave the door open for her. It is her decision to decide if she wants to be in your life again.
If I would have trusted my gut I would have saved myself from 2 years of wasted time. I thought my boundaries were better because I was working on myself before him and nope he pushes them all! Stay strong everyone! We got this
You gained selflove ❤️🩹💜💐
I wasted 10 years! It’s over! Yes we’ve got this 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Yes. I think you are right. We did grow a lot but then we got a test. If we are honest, we did see the red flags. Mine had me whipped, so handsome and sexy. lol 😂
I set boundaries and he couldn’t take it, found a way to leave
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People victimized by the NPD afflicted weren't permitted having boundaries, saying no, or being angry in childhood.
Agree, that's why NPD is seen as 'normal' in cultures that emphasize politeness & protocols..and even if you screams that you are the victim, all of the mass will judge you and they become the NPD flying monkeys.
Exactly. Which is why I was set up for it as an adult.
@@andreavalentina3685Rightwing Christianity has a huuuuge problem with this. Talk to people who have escaped about their religious trauma.
@@sarahlongstaff5101 Narcissists use religion to attract and keep their supply under control.
Exactly!
When Lee says no is powerful it’s true I said “ No “ to the Nex and he went into a rage filled outburst in public . No is now my favourite word
stay safe out here
We have gone from wanting to work on the marriage to being done a few times during that month. Last week we got in an argument my husband said he wanted a divorce. I found out that not 5 days later he was at the clubs trying to find someone so he could get laid. He met someone I guess. I am absolutely mortified and never imagined he would behave like this. We have been married 10 years. I feel like I am not save anymore with his narcissist attitude. watching him just downward spiral. The only thing I can say is it has made me know that I definitely want a divorce... after my boss son recommended me to this genius hacker that get into his phone device, believe it was really painful and horrible stuff. but deleted message and non deleted message chat, Video, Call from 5years back where unveiled to me. This is now helpful because he worked my papers for me and now I can stay with my child and have a good job. Don't let your narcissistic partner abuse you no more. follow them up on Instagram
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@Kinno_hack...
Yeah, have boundaries and stand on that.
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28 years ago I set boundaries......
But a lying narcissist will only agree in lie and pretend,
If you stay with them long enough they still going to show they're narcissistic sides
No matter the boundaries..... That was my experience.😮 I'm a senior now and I walked away and file for divorce and I'll be divorced in the next 40 days........lt,s a-whole-new-world 28 years later but I'm going through with it .
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Yes… people need to know, setting boundaries means nothing if you’re not going to enforce them… only respectful people respect boundaries… that’s why Lee was saying boundaries are for you, not them-because only you can set AND enforce them💜 otherwise, people get confused, thinking why are my “boundaries” not working and then just keep re-stating them, wondering why they’re not “working”
I wish you all the best for your New life ahead. It will be tough, but you will be fine. My advice to you would be to seek therapy with a professional specialised in trauma issues. Much love 💖❤️
Well Susie you and I are both on the right path once again!!
I am 30+yrs. married to a Narcissist and in a few days we will be in court on the restraining order & abuse. Following will be the divorce proceedings with all his flying monkeys and Trolls!!
Good luck with your new life and new beginnings !! We will get through this and break those chains together and forever 👍🏼🥳
Lack of boundaries often is due to childhood trauma of narcissistic family members and/or parents brought up by narcissistic parents. Heal that area of your life and become conscious of your triggers. Set these walls and enjoy the rest of your life. A few people will stay in the end, but toxicity is out for good. Effortless walls actually...because with mentally healthy people you don't need a lot of effort to draw the line. The toxic bunch is another story. Even electricity doesn't keep them away.
We have gone from wanting to work on the marriage to being done a few times during that month. Last week we got in an argument my husband said he wanted a divorce. I found out that not 5 days later he was at the clubs trying to find someone so he could get laid. He met someone I guess. I am absolutely mortified and never imagined he would behave like this. We have been married 10 years. I feel like I am not save anymore with his narcissist attitude. watching him just downward spiral. The only thing I can say is it has made me know that I definitely want a divorce... after my boss son recommended me to this genius hacker that get into his phone device, believe it was really painful and horrible stuff. but deleted message and non deleted message chat, Video, Call from 5years back where unveiled to me. This is now helpful because he worked my papers for me and now I can stay with my child and have a good job. Don't let your narcissistic partner abuse you no more. follow them up on Instagram
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@Kinno_hack...
When I wouldn't freely give him money that he was asking for, he would get mad at me and go silent... Same with ordering him something off the internet.. He would say that he just got irritated with me.. But when I would just do it, he loved me so much ( that's what he would say ) I'm so happy I'm 29 days, no contact ..
Going to start therapy for learning how to set better boundaries... Thanks Lee for all you do!!!
He tried to condition me buying him things by telling that his ex bought him clothes and shoes, phones and even a car. Well, I did not. I'm not going to compete in stupid competitions. Me too have been in therapy learning even better boundaries after him. Good that you got rid of that narcissist!
@@kirsikka3752 Thank you 😊
I'm happy that you are more self aware... I'll get there !!
@@kirsikka3752 this people realy are the same, I heard the exact same words from my ex narc.
Listen this is the truth, for years I was very passive-aggressive and a people pleaser! Now I am ready to do me! I am no longer afraid! My children and I have suffered trauma! Now that my children are grown I can leave without worrying about feeding babies!
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We have gone from wanting to work on the marriage to being done a few times during that month. Last week we got in an argument my husband said he wanted a divorce. I found out that not 5 days later he was at the clubs trying to find someone so he could get laid. He met someone I guess. I am absolutely mortified and never imagined he would behave like this. We have been married 10 years. I feel like I am not save anymore with his narcissist attitude. watching him just downward spiral. The only thing I can say is it has made me know that I definitely want a divorce... after my boss son recommended me to this genius hacker that get into his phone device, believe it was really painful and horrible stuff. but deleted message and non deleted message chat, Video, Call from 5years back where unveiled to me. This is now helpful because he worked my papers for me and now I can stay with my child and have a good job. Don't let your narcissistic partner abuse you no more. follow them up on Instagram
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@Kinno_hack...
Show your boundaries always !!! They don’t hear your words - like never !
It's nice to see people coming forward to help victims and survivors on this TH-cam channel! 😅 Badly needed in a society full of power-hungry enthusiasts, ugh!
The goal is to help as many people as possible
@MentalHealness for sure! Many platforms, too! 🌟
I finally set my boundry after 13 years of being treated badly i stood up in his face and said "f*** y**" and walked away he tried to email me and i simply put a thumbs up with a " good luck" last time hes tried i refuse to chase him and allow him to treat me horribly ever again.
I finally got the courage to set boundaries after 18 years. Feeling great I made that decision.
We have gone from wanting to work on the marriage to being done a few times during that month. Last week we got in an argument my husband said he wanted a divorce. I found out that not 5 days later he was at the clubs trying to find someone so he could get laid. He met someone I guess. I am absolutely mortified and never imagined he would behave like this. We have been married 10 years. I feel like I am not save anymore with his narcissist attitude. watching him just downward spiral. The only thing I can say is it has made me know that I definitely want a divorce... after my boss son recommended me to this genius hacker that get into his phone device, believe it was really painful and horrible stuff. but deleted message and non deleted message chat, Video, Call from 5years back where unveiled to me. This is now helpful because he worked my papers for me and now I can stay with my child and have a good job. Don't let your narcissistic partner abuse you no more. follow them up on Instagram
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@Kinno_hack...
Knowing this and now knowing my ex is a narcissist. Without question I was a nightmare to him...I was always holding his feet to the fire. Since I've been listening to Lee, I abruptly removed myself from this relationship!!! # MentalHealness
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Just before I ended the relationship with my narc ex about a decade ago, he actually told me in a moment of exasperation that I was the strongest person he ever met. That sentence came from the most relentless, cold hearted, nasty sob I’ve ever known. It also told me he knew exactly what he had been doing all along, trying to wear me out and grind me down. Unfortunately, I’m trained up in dealing with this type of behavior because I grew up in this type of mess, and so for many years I was drawn to this type of dysfunction and abuse. This relationship was so damn bad that I promised myself never again… it was time to break the cycle - I figured it was time to learn to love what was good for me, and I did just that.
And you’re right Lee, it takes leverage to get them to back off and to enforce boundaries. It never feels good to have to go there, but with certain folks it’s necessary.
Amen. Keep a solid foundation and support. Don't get isolated.
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Hard if you have no support system
The one thing that has helped me is learning that, "No" is a sentence. And that you don't need to explain why you're saying "no". The word "no" is powerful!
When they say, “You can say no I won’t be mad” then proceed to get mad when you say No
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Basically being logical and practical with them at all times
Basically protecting yourself
My narc always said “it’s your first relationship so it’s okay if you don’t understand how things work” when I would make a boundary or ask for something and he wouldn’t listen lmao. It made me feel like I was learning, but I was actually being dismissed.
Attacking my strength is exactly what he did. I had a car accident and a head injury, so I was weak. Let my guard down. It was awful.
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We have gone from wanting to work on the marriage to being done a few times during that month. Last week we got in an argument my husband said he wanted a divorce. I found out that not 5 days later he was at the clubs trying to find someone so he could get laid. He met someone I guess. I am absolutely mortified and never imagined he would behave like this. We have been married 10 years. I feel like I am not save anymore with his narcissist attitude. watching him just downward spiral. The only thing I can say is it has made me know that I definitely want a divorce... after my boss son recommended me to this genius hacker that get into his phone device, believe it was really painful and horrible stuff. but deleted message and non deleted message chat, Video, Call from 5years back where unveiled to me. This is now helpful because he worked my papers for me and now I can stay with my child and have a good job. Don't let your narcissistic partner abuse you no more. follow them up on Instagram
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@Kinno_hack..
Its sad theres so many people whos never had boundaries.
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Again though lee, this is great to empower people who have been trampled through life and never taught they are allowed to say no and tell other to back the fuck off.
This is so true. Unfortunately i dated a fellow teacher who turned out to be one of the biggest NARC i've encountered in my life. Well, i realize he needs me more than i need him, and i'm about to walk away from my job. I don't like the school where i work, and because of our relationship i stayed at the job. Now, i realize they type of person he is, i am leaving this job and leaving him behind. Im taking control of my mental health by getting my peace of mind back. Lesson learned, don't ever date people on the job, get to know people first before starting any relationship and DO NOT BE AFRAID TO WALK AWAY.
I’m very happy how u and ur wife has pull together and made this work.
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The only way to STOP ATTRACTING NARCS is to heal your childhood trauma. Learn about complex PTSD and that will literally change the frequencies you’re projecting outwardly. So within as without.
Essentially, know yourself and know and enforce your boundaries.
It's so inspirational to see someone step forward and take ownership of NPD. I love to see your growth and deeply appreciate you are taking what you have learned to share it.
Thank you 💯🙏🏽
Narcissists don't care about your boundaries, unless you have dirt on them so that you can expose them for who they really are.
That’s why you set them upfront to avoid it later
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Oh honey, it was so easy he helped me set him up and I've got enough on him to destroy him. I'm having to much fun watching him squirm, popping up when he least expects it and shaking him up, to shake him down 😂😂😂
My husband told me i ruin his life for 3yrs in Japan. Im not afraid to him anymore , i stand by myself and leave.
Stay safe
We have gone from wanting to work on the marriage to being done a few times during that month. Last week we got in an argument my husband said he wanted a divorce. I found out that not 5 days later he was at the clubs trying to find someone so he could get laid. He met someone I guess. I am absolutely mortified and never imagined he would behave like this. We have been married 10 years. I feel like I am not save anymore with his narcissist attitude. watching him just downward spiral. The only thing I can say is it has made me know that I definitely want a divorce... after my boss son recommended me to this genius hacker that get into his phone device, believe it was really painful and horrible stuff. but deleted message and non deleted message chat, Video, Call from 5years back where unveiled to me. This is now helpful because he worked my papers for me and now I can stay with my child and have a good job. Don't let your narcissistic partner abuse you no more. follow them up on Instagram
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@Kinno_hack...
Good word. I had let the boundaries completely down after 18 years of marriage. He exploited that advantage, and in the end I was terrified of his threats and power plays. He isolated me somewhat in marriage and therefore, I was alone, kept silent (pastoral code) and crawled away.
Thanks for reminding me to have rock solid physical, emotional, psychological, sexual, spiritual and financial boundaries.
Me too😥
ROTF with the variations of no. As a vocalist you nailed so many ranges, in sound and in spirit! 🥰
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Enforcing boundaries and saying no from the get-go weeds them out quickly.
When he knew he couldn’t cope with my newly set boundaries, he ran like a rabbit and hopped out of my life. Exactly what I wanted.
😂😂😂 Great for you!! 🎉😊
We have gone from wanting to work on the marriage to being done a few times during that month. Last week we got in an argument my husband said he wanted a divorce. I found out that not 5 days later he was at the clubs trying to find someone so he could get laid. He met someone I guess. I am absolutely mortified and never imagined he would behave like this. We have been married 10 years. I feel like I am not save anymore with his narcissist attitude. watching him just downward spiral. The only thing I can say is it has made me know that I definitely want a divorce... after my boss son recommended me to this genius hacker that get into his phone device, believe it was really painful and horrible stuff. but deleted message and non deleted message chat, Video, Call from 5years back where unveiled to me. This is now helpful because he worked my papers for me and now I can stay with my child and have a good job. Don't let your narcissistic partner abuse you no more. follow them up on Instagram
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@Kinno_hack..
I was a very healthy woman when my narc got a hold of me. The word no seemed to be a challenge to him to latch on even harder. A more challenging game meant a bigger gamble, and a bigger ego boost. 20 years ago this disorder was not nearly as well known. All women need to know the signs early!
I walked away and he was Pissed 😮
I think more so because he didn't believe I'd ever leave walk away
We have gone from wanting to work on the marriage to being done a few times during that month. Last week we got in an argument my husband said he wanted a divorce. I found out that not 5 days later he was at the clubs trying to find someone so he could get laid. He met someone I guess. I am absolutely mortified and never imagined he would behave like this. We have been married 10 years. I feel like I am not save anymore with his narcissist attitude. watching him just downward spiral. The only thing I can say is it has made me know that I definitely want a divorce... after my boss son recommended me to this genius hacker that get into his phone device, believe it was really painful and horrible stuff. but deleted message and non deleted message chat, Video, Call from 5years back where unveiled to me. This is now helpful because he worked my papers for me and now I can stay with my child and have a good job. Don't let your narcissistic partner abuse you no more. follow them up on Instagram
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@Kinno_hack..
Never 👏🏽 lie 👏🏽 to yourself 👏🏽!!!
This is SPOT ON Lee!🔥🔥Although I am happy and free now...I remember specifically when my ex-husband crossed a boundary I had in place as it relates to anyone....and I gave him the benefit of the doubt. That snowballed. Although NARCS mirror you...etc....they aren't that clever. I OWN the accountability that I ALLOWED him to cross a boundary that I had never allowed before. DEEP!💯
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Do it up front. It's easier to keep them out of the yard than to get them out of the yard.
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So true!
Being with a Narcissist Is so mystifying because they get to twist reality to their agenda. One of the reasons why I am so confused right now is because I thought I had married the perfect man. He was everything I'd ever wanted in a man and in the beginning presented himself as my biggest fan and supporter. And idk how to leave although I truly want to,Until a side of him popped up every so often that threw me off balance, He has been having an affair with a lady in college I have been having this feeling and changes in him, now I know all his promises of fidelity are all lies he broke the promised.I got his information from @Kinno_hack on INSTAGRAM he helped me hack into his phone retrieved all his whatsapp messages and text messages, both deleted and non-deleted messages including messages from his emails.
Now I got lots of proofs to show He’s a narc, I’m filing for divorce ASAP.
If you want to know if your spouse is cheating on you contact @Kinno_hack on Instagram
@Kinno_hack.
This fool came to see me long distance. I specifically said come Tuesday bec Monday I will be busy. He showed up Monday anyway. I made the mistake and let it slide.
HOWEVER I got rid of him very quickly bec he also tried to be a daddy to me, and he wanted to isolate me from one of my guy friends. Insecurity and control are huge turn offs. He got tossed in the trash where he belongs. I am not looking for a daddy figure which I made clear to him.
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Yesssss❤❤❤❤❤ Boundaries teach people how to treat you. Anyone violating boundaries is abusive. Stay strong my friends😊
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We have gone from wanting to work on the marriage to being done a few times during that month. Last week we got in an argument my husband said he wanted a divorce. I found out that not 5 days later he was at the clubs trying to find someone so he could get laid. He met someone I guess. I am absolutely mortified and never imagined he would behave like this. We have been married 10 years. I feel like I am not save anymore with his narcissist attitude. watching him just downward spiral. The only thing I can say is it has made me know that I definitely want a divorce... after my boss son recommended me to this genius hacker that get into his phone device, believe it was really painful and horrible stuff. but deleted message and non deleted message chat, Video, Call from 5years back where unveiled to me. This is now helpful because he worked my papers for me and now I can stay with my child and have a good job. Don't let your narcissistic partner abuse you no more. follow them up on Instagram
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@Kinno_hack..
My ex could do whatever he wanted. I had 3 major boundaries and that was I didn't want to be around bad parents, inconsiderate a-holes and users. He had no problem being around those kind of people. So I said fine go ahead but not our kids. This caused fights all the time.
Stand 10 toes down. Be about that Life.
Have to
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I feel like just knowing what is going on, and having confidence in yourself, so no matter what they say, you don’t let it bother u, or get to u, and you just say “right, suure” when they deny stuff, and walk away. Not let them get u emotional and just let them do their silent treatment while laughing at it, cause it’s childish. We all laugh at my hubby, when he won’t accept being wrong, and say stuff like “oh no, he can never be wrong” then laugh, he ends up laughing too, nothing else he can do.
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Before I knew what I was dealing with, I made the mistake of believing a narcissist when I texted him to break it off due to inconsistency and neglect and he said, “I wish you would have just given me the grace to communicate. If I knew you had an issue, I would work to change it and grow.” I felt that was fair and honorable, so I called him and, 5 seconds into the call, he yelled at me, cut me off when I tried to speak, degraded my intellect, and accused me of being combative to the point he abruptly ended the call. I left the call soooo confused. But, after giving him one more chance where he rewarded my attempt at communication by punishing me with silence/non-response to my text all day, I sent him a text saying, “before I assume anything, are you intentionally not communicating with me or did you just have a super busy day?” His response was petty and immature, making himself the victim. He said he didn’t have energy to fight with me… even though I didn’t sign up for a fight. My next text was, “So much I could say, but I’ll leave it here. Take care of yourself.” Block, delete. ✌🏽
I’m almost 18 years out, after leaving an NDP partner. You can absolutely win via the courts. You can absolutely get you life together without them. You can absolutely start from zero and get ahead!
Awesome episodes! Narcs dont respect boundaries and always break them repetitively. Thank you!
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Oh my, I went very low contact with my NM so I could keep in touch with my dad, and the first time I said 'no' to my mom was when I was honestly too busy to take the time off to see her. She wanted to come up and take me shopping (financial lovebombing) and I was in the middle of law school midterms while working full time. I emailed 'no' in response and moved on. The family drama, accusations and grief I got because of NM's hysterics at being refused with no explanation or excuse was eye-opening. Until that point somewhere I was still the kid trying to win her approval; after that, it was a lot easier to see the manipulation for what it was.
We have gone from wanting to work on the marriage to being done a few times during that month. Last week we got in an argument my husband said he wanted a divorce. I found out that not 5 days later he was at the clubs trying to find someone so he could get laid. He met someone I guess. I am absolutely mortified and never imagined he would behave like this. We have been married 10 years. I feel like I am not save anymore with his narcissist attitude. watching him just downward spiral. The only thing I can say is it has made me know that I definitely want a divorce... after my boss son recommended me to this genius hacker that get into his phone device, believe it was really painful and horrible stuff. but deleted message and non deleted message chat, Video, Call from 5years back where unveiled to me. This is now helpful because he worked my papers for me and now I can stay with my child and have a good job. Don't let your narcissistic partner abuse you no more. follow them up on Instagram
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@Kinno_hack...
I’ve read your self description and even though I despise narcissists I appreciate your honesty and desire to combat narcissism while feeling hesitant to trust your advice.
I can never truly trust a narcissist.
Narcissists will wear down your boundaries if you have them. Enforcement is key.
Love your channel! I’ve watched my daughters husband suddenly turn on his mom when she set boundaries and am sure he’ll do the same with me soon. He’s suddenly said what a horrific childhood that he had and his brothers are dumbfounded with his claims! Saw this with my own brother. Watching my girl believe everything that he says is so crazy! I’m worried that he’s working on isolating her now so that he will have a chance to be a ‘hero’ . She was raised to be a strong independent woman and the longer she’s with him the more I see that independence crumble. It’s very frustrating for me. Everyone can see through him except for her.
I get it. I should’ve known better. But at the same time. I didn’t deserve it.
I set boundaries and he was so attentive to them. Until we had moved in, had a mortgage, had a kid. As soon as I was “trapped” he didn’t care what boundary I set he would bulldoze it. I spent a long time in confusion. Now there is info online and I am clear what is happening and I’m gone.
I was unmovable in my faith it’s probably why I’m alive because the emotional, financial, psychological abuse was too much. I also didn’t trust myself 13 years ago when I realized and he HATED my boundaries.
We have gone from wanting to work on the marriage to being done a few times during that month. Last week we got in an argument my husband said he wanted a divorce. I found out that not 5 days later he was at the clubs trying to find someone so he could get laid. He met someone I guess. I am absolutely mortified and never imagined he would behave like this. We have been married 10 years. I feel like I am not save anymore with his narcissist attitude. watching him just downward spiral. The only thing I can say is it has made me know that I definitely want a divorce... after my boss son recommended me to this genius hacker that get into his phone device, believe it was really painful and horrible stuff. but deleted message and non deleted message chat, Video, Call from 5years back where unveiled to me. This is now helpful because he worked my papers for me and now I can stay with my child and have a good job. Don't let your narcissistic partner abuse you no more. follow them up on Instagram
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@Kinno_hack..
Thank you Lee, boundaries are what I need to exercise. I admit I need to love myself and my values. True, boundaries keep narcissists in their place. 🙏😊
Lee, you are really helping me with your videos. I appreciate you so much.
I did make the mistake of allowing him to isolate me, causing me to lose all my good friends. Now, all these years later, trying to divorce this crazy man, I’m having to force myself to leave my home and join groups and get out there and talk to people. It was hard at first, but it was so worth it, as I’m starting to connect with people and discover who I am and what I like to do, not be told what I have to do or what I am going to do by my soon to be ex narc.
You give me hope. If you, being a narcissist, are able to care about us and help us out. Then i will be able to heal from this and stop atracting this kind of trauma bond relationships. Thanks for all your videos and support ❤
That's exactly what he said to me!! My boundaries were my way of controlling him, his words. He said he cant conform to the box I expect him to fit in
Patti- you must be dating or married to the same person I dated. Cause that is what I heard. I’m not being co trolled or told what to do and. Not do by anybody. I’m grown and 62. Well, his 62 is really 9.
We have gone from wanting to work on the marriage to being done a few times during that month. Last week we got in an argument my husband said he wanted a divorce. I found out that not 5 days later he was at the clubs trying to find someone so he could get laid. He met someone I guess. I am absolutely mortified and never imagined he would behave like this. We have been married 10 years. I feel like I am not save anymore with his narcissist attitude. watching him just downward spiral. The only thing I can say is it has made me know that I definitely want a divorce... after my boss son recommended me to this genius hacker that get into his phone device, believe it was really painful and horrible stuff. but deleted message and non deleted message chat, Video, Call from 5years back where unveiled to me. This is now helpful because he worked my papers for me and now I can stay with my child and have a good job. Don't let your narcissistic partner abuse you no more. follow them up on Instagram
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@Kinno_hack..
My ex narc told me I was being “masculine” when I tried to set a boundary or disagreed with him. Manipulation and gaslighting is a toxic combination.
Best info I've found yet. I grew up with an abusive narc mother. Many stepfathers.
I stupidly fell in love with a Narcissist. We lived in different states for 2.75 years. Got married, 16 years of hell. He got me isolated after we married and treated me like shit. He disgusted me the last 5 years.
$$ is his God.
It embarrasses me, how clueless I was for so long.
I was strong. We fought constantly, he tried to make me feel less than.... most the time.
Our son is also a narcissist. He just used me constantly as a teen and early 20s.
Now I don't see him anymore. He invited his father to my house, whilst I was out... at an organised party for my son.
They stole so much from my house. Havnt seen him since. Its been over a year.
Broken hearted. I did my absolute best as a mum.
Mr Lee I need you to do a part 2..part 3 on saying no and boundaries. This is so essentially needed!!! Thank you!!!
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We have gone from wanting to work on the marriage to being done a few times during that month. Last week we got in an argument my husband said he wanted a divorce. I found out that not 5 days later he was at the clubs trying to find someone so he could get laid. He met someone I guess. I am absolutely mortified and never imagined he would behave like this. We have been married 10 years. I feel like I am not save anymore with his narcissist attitude. watching him just downward spiral. The only thing I can say is it has made me know that I definitely want a divorce... after my boss son recommended me to this genius hacker that get into his phone device, believe it was really painful and horrible stuff. but deleted message and non deleted message chat, Video, Call from 5years back where unveiled to me. This is now helpful because he worked my papers for me and now I can stay with my child and have a good job. Don't let your narcissistic partner abuse you no more. follow them up on Instagram
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@Kinno_hack..
Lee, you are my favourite self-confessed & diagnosed narcissist; even if I knew or had come across another, you would still be my favourite. Thank you for everything, really, THANK YOU.
Yes you are right that word No triggers the hell out of them. Boundaries is Must.
Facts…now all I’m doing is saving money and then peace out ✌️ thank you for sharing. Peace love and blessings ❤❤❤
Thanks for taking the courage to do this - respect to you.
I see why you say "too strong". They keep coming at me with a destructive attitude. I did walk away on my elderly narcissistic mother, who I provide care for. And I learned I overcome all the ugly feelings they want to create inside me. I deal with her in the moment and do it so calmly she has no way to bring me down now.
Ready to listen!! 👀
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I’ve been no contact for 8 days now. I’ve been receiving about 30 calls everyday from different numbers. Thanks to your videos I’m not going back to him ever again.
You’re amazing. Thank you once again. ❤
You are doing great! This channel is helping sooooo many people understand these KRAZY Narcs!
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Thank you for sharing the playbook
Can't wait for the book! Thank you Lee for all this guiding light to our self healing journey!! 🙏💫
Thank you for being here
We have gone from wanting to work on the marriage to being done a few times during that month. Last week we got in an argument my husband said he wanted a divorce. I found out that not 5 days later he was at the clubs trying to find someone so he could get laid. He met someone I guess. I am absolutely mortified and never imagined he would behave like this. We have been married 10 years. I feel like I am not save anymore with his narcissist attitude. watching him just downward spiral. The only thing I can say is it has made me know that I definitely want a divorce... after my boss son recommended me to this genius hacker that get into his phone device, believe it was really painful and horrible stuff. but deleted message and non deleted message chat, Video, Call from 5years back where unveiled to me. This is now helpful because he worked my papers for me and now I can stay with my child and have a good job. Don't let your narcissistic partner abuse you no more. follow them up on Instagram
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@Kinno_hack...
It’s true yall. I literally quit on my boss out loud on slack and he took a step back and asked me to stay. Since then, he’s been real careful with his mouth. This all happened the same day I got beat up and thrown out by a narcissist ex. They can right or get left. Don’t be afraid of ntn. Eff them pipo.
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My father always said I’d end up on the show beyond scared straight and told my sister I would get her in trouble because I was too strong as a child. I was so confused. But I get what he did there NOW. I was stubborn and had a mind of my own and was loved and loved people.
I am proud of you.
Setting boundaries caused my narc ex to abandon our kids… he could no longer use the kids to get at me because our kids don’t put up with his bs, and he doesn’t like be called out by them. He hasn’t seen them in over 2 years and it’s been a peaceful 2 years.
My husband had no boundries at all but after 5 yrs apart he’s learnt a few lol still a work in progress but I’m forever hopeful 😊 can’t give up on 40 yrs
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Yeah I must be crazy 🤨. I’m happy living alone and no longer enable and am glowing/growing 🥰 and may never live with him again but hes hit rock bottom for a few years and is now getting therapy so I’m praying that he can heal and find peace. Everyone is a work in progress I guess hey
We have gone from wanting to work on the marriage to being done a few times during that month. Last week we got in an argument my husband said he wanted a divorce. I found out that not 5 days later he was at the clubs trying to find someone so he could get laid. He met someone I guess. I am absolutely mortified and never imagined he would behave like this. We have been married 10 years. I feel like I am not save anymore with his narcissist attitude. watching him just downward spiral. The only thing I can say is it has made me know that I definitely want a divorce... after my boss son recommended me to this genius hacker that get into his phone device, believe it was really painful and horrible stuff. but deleted message and non deleted message chat, Video, Call from 5years back where unveiled to me. This is now helpful because he worked my papers for me and now I can stay with my child and have a good job. Don't let your narcissistic partner abuse you no more. follow them up on Instagram
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@Kinno_hack..
I am, too strong 💪 for any man that is 5"0.
You funny and it's true it was great to watch him twist and he new I meant what I said👀
I had to cancel a dinner date at his home, due to me not feeling well. All he said was how he had wasted his time cooking and i felt that he was not happy. A normal human being would say i hope you feel better soon. While i was with him i felt so paralysed like i couldn't move. I believe we were just triggering each other. Heal both our child hood wounds. Im still trying to heal from the suttle abuse. You have to suround yourself with lots of protection.
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The no scene: reminds me of that skit Lee did when he did a little "mee mee me meee" like he was practicing on how to gaslight someone. 🤣🤣🤣 it was so funny.
Some of them don't know what NO means
Great video Lee! I love your no nonsense approach to explaining how to be too strong for a narcissist. You're helping and educating a lot of people on how to protect themselves from getting trapped by a narcissist, and that it's okay to enforce your boundaries and how important it is to say NO! Looking forward to your next amazing video! 👍👍👍
I really like this subject we need more of this.
Thank you! THANK YOU!
This is so powerful. Thank you for speaking on this topic. Actual free game on self love!!!
Boundaries.standing up for yourself .threatened by your light.thks
We have gone from wanting to work on the marriage to being done a few times during that month. Last week we got in an argument my husband said he wanted a divorce. I found out that not 5 days later he was at the clubs trying to find someone so he could get laid. He met someone I guess. I am absolutely mortified and never imagined he would behave like this. We have been married 10 years. I feel like I am not save anymore with his narcissist attitude. watching him just downward spiral. The only thing I can say is it has made me know that I definitely want a divorce... after my boss son recommended me to this genius hacker that get into his phone device, believe it was really painful and horrible stuff. but deleted message and non deleted message chat, Video, Call from 5years back where unveiled to me. This is now helpful because he worked my papers for me and now I can stay with my child and have a good job. Don't let your narcissistic partner abuse you no more. follow them up on Instagram
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@Kinno_hack..
Someday, they stop.
Keep defending yourself and others.
They are an easy enemy. Easy but complex.
This so important. Best to have it ended as soon as possible, just like going to a dentist
We have gone from wanting to work on the marriage to being done a few times during that month. Last week we got in an argument my husband said he wanted a divorce. I found out that not 5 days later he was at the clubs trying to find someone so he could get laid. He met someone I guess. I am absolutely mortified and never imagined he would behave like this. We have been married 10 years. I feel like I am not save anymore with his narcissist attitude. watching him just downward spiral. The only thing I can say is it has made me know that I definitely want a divorce... after my boss son recommended me to this genius hacker that get into his phone device, believe it was really painful and horrible stuff. but deleted message and non deleted message chat, Video, Call from 5years back where unveiled to me. This is now helpful because he worked my papers for me and now I can stay with my child and have a good job. Don't let your narcissistic partner abuse you no more. follow them up on Instagram
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@Kinno_hack..
"You're not submissive. You're defiant. No good man is gonna want a defiant woman."
First of all... What if I don't want THEM, after all this?? 😮
Second, no... I stood up to you for accusing me of something I didn't do. I called you out on your abuse. I DID get reactively abusive (and I regret EVER admitting that... Haven't lived it down yet). But me setting boundaries is NOT defiance.
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Thank you! Keep it up! I’ll be using this to her
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Thanks for all u do
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Boundaries didn’t work with my ‘narc’ then again he was 18 years older than me. Between fear and manipulation I stayed.
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Healing out loud!😊 I love that!
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Boundaries got it.
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Was raised by narcissists and learned early how to stand up for myself. I say no quickly, so B is my name they call me. And I will walk out, but of course I am the one wrong. But I like and love myself I can live with me and without you
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I have a friend of mine that I just found out is in a narcissistic toxic relationship... and I'm so disappointed... because he always looks for me when it gets bad, but refuses to leave.
I don't know why I even let him hide with me for any amount of time...
I feel like I'm contributing to him staying longer by giving him a space to run to.
@@katface28No. You are giving him space to feel like it would if he were free again. People need time and it's best that the separation/healing happens secretly while still there so when the time comes they will be strong. Also once gone ready for life instead of all the healing. Hope this makes sense, and thanks for being a true friend. 😂❤
@kimberleyjane2338 Thank you ... I've been battling it out in my head for days now...
@@katface28 I have healed while still in place, waiting for the house to sell. It was long. I did everything as I did before, laundry, cooking etc, I did not act or do single. I healed secretly while my friends were my rock. It helped to have this crying support, because when I was home, I got to only concentrate on keeping my vibrations high, which kept the other distant, although present, but out of my energy. Find ways on TH-cam to help your friend keep energy high like louise hay, or abraham hicks, or byron Katie. Emotional abuse needs to be handled/healed in secret to build strength and willpower to leave. Some think to do the opposite, like revenge or act single, or change too fast. This is not the best way. Silence is. Now I have to try and get him to sign off my share so I will be able to move straight to a new home, and not rent while waiting for money to come in. If course this will be made as hard as possible, but I am almost physically free, and have been emotionally free for quite some time. Bless you for helping your friend because not many really support abused people because they never had a lack of boundaries for themselves. ♥️
Congrats on the book I am so excited. I can’t wait to show my daughter.
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We have gone from wanting to work on the marriage to being done a few times during that month. Last week we got in an argument my husband said he wanted a divorce. I found out that not 5 days later he was at the clubs trying to find someone so he could get laid. He met someone I guess. I am absolutely mortified and never imagined he would behave like this. We have been married 10 years. I feel like I am not save anymore with his narcissist attitude. watching him just downward spiral. The only thing I can say is it has made me know that I definitely want a divorce... after my boss son recommended me to this genius hacker that get into his phone device, believe it was really painful and horrible stuff. but deleted message and non deleted message chat, Video, Call from 5years back where unveiled to me. This is now helpful because he worked my papers for me and now I can stay with my child and have a good job. Don't let your narcissistic partner abuse you no more. follow them up on Instagram
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@Kinno_hack...
Thank you for your high vibrations and positive energy! #knowledgeispower 💥💪🏽