Oh my God this! 👆. My ex would cheat on me then scold me for not trusting him. Put a recorder on him at one point. He got off the phone with me (telling I need to trust and believe in him) then immediately starts having sex with her after hanging up with me! He's been cheating for months but has been telling me I'm delusional, making up things in my mind and telling everyone (incl his family not 2 days post breakup) that I'm crazy. All bc he can't own up to his cheating. Sneaking the new Supply in and out of our apartment so I know, but can't prove, he's f*****g her. I really don't understand why he keeps gaslighting me post breakup 😢. I don't understand why.......
This is the reaction they’re hoping for “What! No babe! I could never move on! I’ll love you forever!” So when you don’t react how they wanted you to it drives them crazy 😂
I left 6yrs ago…. He’s still trying everything and anything to speak to me… to the point that I still own my home but live in an apartment somewhere else type shit….he just messaged the other day….”I can’t believe you haven’t said anything”….. “I don’t deserve this…..”…”I’ve changed I don’t want you back I just want to apologize I just want to talk to you and apologize m….” he even sent me a certified letter last year I needed to sign for it… I explained to the post office and I said I’m not signing that return to sender…. I left him in the worst possible light that he could be in I took the opportunity and left him as the POS he truly is…. He’s not a victim… he’s not a hero…. he’s not a good guy…. Hes trash and I don’t bring that back in the house….. there’s not a single thing that could make me respond or show any acknowledgement… he lost
They are saying they have nothing to give you. They don't have a clue about love, time,money, empathy, happiness, and feelings, and they don't want to be with you, always having to pretend they're someone they're not. Pretending takes a lot out of them. The game they were playing is over, and you should go find a real person to be with. The problem is that you believed THEY were real. This is what causes you pain. Unfortunately
Literally 2 days ago this happened, he kept contacting me angry, drunk and telling me to block him, when I wasn't even the one reaching out to him to begin with. Bizarre behavior.
Right?! He told me to leave never come back @ 10pm it’s been 2wks yayyyy!!!It feels great no bs lies no bs mind games no bs name calling no abuse no drugs amen thnx 🙏🌺
He was ready. I felt him pulling away. I've gone no contact and he hasn't tried to get back together. Also, I wasn't the main supply...just one of several.
I think narcissistic can be very dangerous towards their partner and I think part of it is the low empathy. I never believe when they say they are done because within the same sentence they still want you, and convince you to be with them. But be careful if you stay. I honestly think mine would have killed me if I stayed any longer, Every time I went back his behavior seemed worse. Yet we still go back and forth with them. Terrible cycle. Thank you.
My husband would tell me “I’m going to divorce you, I’m going to leave and never come back” and “I’m going to leave you.” Then say he was just joking. He also said out of no where “oh, my friend is dating a baddie.” He would also sing me songs about how “he was buying the side chick everything he never bought me,” and a whole lot of other songs about cheating as he would lift up my chin to face him as he sang these words to my face. The way he was confessing to me the whole time he was cheating is level of sinister I had never experienced. The person I thought was the love of my life was the person who betrayed me and hurt me the most.
My ex-husband did the same thing. They actually tell you that they’re cheating on you by mistreating you and then doing things like that like singing songs or playing certain songs on the radio or when the holidays would come along, he wouldn’t put any type of effort into my gift he downgraded me on gifts so horribly one year for Valentine’s Day. He got me one balloon. I popped it right in his face cause I knew he was cheating like he must’ve bought his mistress some Louis Vuitton bag because he was showing me a Louis Vuitton bag online and telling me that he wanted to get that from himself which was out of his character And obviously he was trying to impress her. It’s just a roller coaster of absolutely disgusting disgustingness with them.
@ You’re so right about the lack of effort with gifts 😭. Last year for my b day I wanted to go to a restaurant that I’ve been wanting to for 2 years and we didn’t do anything. This year he broke up with me before my b day. That’s so messed up that he did that. Showed you the gift he was going to give her. I don’t even want to imagine what my ex gave to his affair partner. But it’s probably gave her something luxury I’m sure. Tell me about it. I’ve been on this rollercoaster right of emotions for 2 months. I get flashbacks of all the times he was blatantly telling me what he had been doing behind my back. Then songs he dedicated to me were so explicit and degrading, I can’t get the images out of my head. And the worst part is he played the same songs on replay during his whole affair.
It was the best thing that ever happened to me just 2 months ago I've lost 12 lb I've got a brand new job with excellent benefits and peaceful so if he wants you to move on kick rocks
When they tell you to move on they really don’t want you too they say it because they think we won’t. I remember when my ex narc was with the new supply before I even found out their was a new supply involved he told me to move on and said I know u can but he didn’t think I was. So when I did it hurt him soo bad I get hoovered and harassed til this day it’s irritating and annoying. Then he plays victim and make it seem like I just abandoned him when he was the one that destroyed the relationship smh.
Yup I let him talk/hover. (Via messenger… I left the country we’d traveled to) we communicated for about 4 months. Him saying he was sorry, he was saying yes to all of my desires, he apologized, he did all that… I had NO INTENTION of returning. I just needed my ego stroked. When he FINALLY wrote “ maybe we should go our separate ways…” I then replied “alright!” Blocked/ deleted. Wham !
Whew! That matching energy is real... he crashed out last night when I told him I was over it and moved on and going to meet another guy!! 😂😂😂😂 But it's cool when you bragging about all these women that want him🤦🏽♀️🥴
Yes, this was him , even told me one day that he loved the girl. Said her name and everything. I told him why do you always have to have a leading lady. Im so happy I'm off this roller-coaster. And I almost married him. Thank God I didn't.
1:56 Anytime he would rage, he'd tell me any of the following: Get the fuck out, we're done, you're a mean person, you have 30 days to get out, this isn't working, you gotta get out, my life is the worst it's ever been because of you - on and on and on. So, I finally did and he wasn't expecting it. He's been beyond shamed now and and I feel vindicated! 💖💪💖
It Felt Like Someone Told Me To Get Out Of Their Life, And Then Got Angry About It When I Did Get Out Of Their Life! 😵💫😶🌫️ So, Does Someone Want Me To STAY In Their Life?! 🤔 But I Need Time To Heal!🙌
@@MaraiahRimando I think you may be right there the last relationship I had for 8 years was a situationship he knows how to get rid of us be interesting to see who he catches in his web of lies & deceit
@@christinejones4785 wow! That's quite long 8 years situationship? That's too much of her getting from you. How did she get rid you you? The narcissist I met, randomly bragging issues from November till February untill she made an issue that kicked her own ass. 🙌😏
2 yrs ago my ex ended things w/ me b/c he didn’t want to be there for me during a traumatic experience, & didn’t like being held accountable. Last year, he reached out saying he wanted to “work on us”, but after I confronted him for lying & playing games, he said “If looking for more, then continue your search.” So I did. He messaged me a couple months ago expecting me to be all warm & loving towards him, & got butt hurt when I wasn’t
This is absolutely true. My ex narc would always tell me to do me and that im grown but then when i do he gets pissed off . Like what?! This man went back to his baby mama but mad at me for talking to other people
When they tell u that and u do it, they turn it around and say: “If I told u to jump off a bridge would u do it?” “Good to know I got that much power over u.” “I was testing u, and u failed.” Something like that to get u to react emotionally, just so they can setup their “reactive abuse.”
Amen you you are right . They don't like being exposed! I think it a good thing. Maybe they will learn something. I just wouldn't want them to hurt someone else.
THIS IS CRAZY ITS LIKE YOUR NARRATING MY LIFE..... currently going through a breakup and you are posting videos that match what's happening CRAZY your amazing by the way love your work... keep spreading that awareness you really do help 😊
She kept doing subtle things to make me feel irrelevant. Very subtle. I would ask myself, “Does she do this intentionally or is this just the best she can do under her history of trauma.” Even though we agreed to call it off and I asked her to leave me alone, she would keep planting herself in situations with me and engage in convos. I told her, “If you don’t want anything to do with me, then don’t do anything with me.” It was difficult to call her on stuff because it was so subtle and intermittent. And she would act like everything was fragile and I didn’t want to break or hurt. It was an on/off roller coaster. Lots of mixed signals. Finally I called her on her stuff. She was caught off guard which was my intention. The convo was devolving on a text thread. She wasn’t aware. Finally I told her I have nothing to offer her either spiritually, emotionally, financially [That’s the indication and signals she sends]. I told her she has an anger pool which she wants to inflict on others while masking it with kindness and exploiting people’s emotional worlds. I told her to just be angry and honest with others. She wrote “stop texting me.” I said OK, I will block you then. She then tried to block me first. Which still makes me laugh today!? She would not have blocked me if I didn’t block her first. I’ve only seen her once since then. She’s losing weight which makes me worry. That’s the story. Maybe it’s useful?
Literally hearing this now giving me flashbacks to everything i experienced and went thru with my ex narc and they stalk they stalk because how dare you heal and move on without them "You cant heal in an environment that broke you" Thank you
Mississippi does but Clarksdale is dark it needs you to speak there trust me I just got out of a very dangerous relationship the women need you for awareness. Thank you God Bless your Ministry I just found you and you have been such an Awareness to me.
My narcissistic player told me to find another man before he went on his vacation get away. I went silent on him after he was passive aggressive with me. And after he had to come back, he was tired, Hungary and panicky, claiming that I had a new boy friend because I was ignoring him. Thank you Lee. 💯🙏♥♥♥♥♥♥♥🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹😎
She's pregnant after 4 months with the new person. We had 10 years and 3 children!! I wish I had listened to everyone in my life and I wasn't in denial and compassionate.
Lee, you are awesome! You are not only amazingly yourself an incredibly helpful to people that have been exposed to narcissistic relationships and I admire your videos and your knowledge of yourself and now you share it with all of us. But dude you are freaking hilarious and I love it how you put your own twist on things
Before i listened all the video i want again to say that in this tornado I'm living,i feel that you are a big help for all of us with the confused mindset. You are helping me to uncode so clearly many many behaviours witch about 16 years i couldn't understand. Thank you so much. Here i live we don't have specialized therapists who can help you so much like your videos. Thank you. Again and again.
My ex wife cheated multiple times so I divorced her when I found out. The day after the divorce she was moving out and I had my bedroom door closed. She knocked on the door and said she was leaving. My response was thank you. A week later she called my lawyer wanting to talk to me. My lawyer told her I didn’t have to talk to her about anything. She then called my mother and told my mother that I wasn’t affectionate enough and she was never coming back. I couldn’t understand why was she doing all of this and we were divorced. She did not believe I divorced her.
i just got out of an 10year relationship with a narcisist who could never seem to admit when he was wrong. through homelessness it was hell of a struggle. it got to the point like in the beginning of this video, i was that person basically begging him to communicate, after his wrong doings and me being so emotional it wouldve seemed I was the control freak or narcisist. smh. i will admit i feel ive grown some tendacies and traits of an narcisist having dealing with not only him but my mom, sister and brother. and along side of dating a full blown narcisist ( in between me and previous narcisist breakup up.) i felt drained and empty after going through that. scratch allowing myself to go through that. and well, fast forward, he finally gets his place again and popped up where i was..long story short asking me if id want to come stay with him til my new pllace comes through.. well now im here. i wants to usee the excuse of him "trying to help me" but in reality i think he knows he fucked up so heaviily with me and doesnt know how to say that. instead he tries to buy me stuff to make up. part of me still lovess him obviouusly but if hes not willing to do the core work on himself as ive started the process for myself: i have no choose but to leave him in the past just like his favorite line"that was in the past". anywo, what are some healthy habits for me to focus on (while still here with him) to heal from all the trrauma endured dating him and others???? like how not to allow myself to feel triggered??ANYONE????
Yea my ex did that to me...woke me up saying he wanted to role play...he was gonna be the robber....and pulled out a real "pew pew"...the same one he would use to threaten to unalive himself so i wouldnt go to work....that was the first and last chance he had the opportunity to do that to me....
The faces you made imitating the narc being angry you moved on after they told you to move on had me ☠️ 😂 “You whore.” Classic. Just went through this. Made me chuckle watching him spin through control tactic after control tactic by text at me like a sniveling super villain AFTER he moved out of our house. The month before we broke up my intuition was in high gear here for the first time with him, he was acting SO distant and bizarre, and when I tried to talk to him he looked me dead in the eye all cocky and smirking arrogant and said, “Trust me. If I was cheating on you? You’d never, ever know.” Smirk smirk. Was appalling and disturbing. So of course after that, I did some detective work and was then called paranoid and mentally unstable. Total smear campaign to his flying monkeys. Who have no idea who he really is. Dudley do right. NOT. He’s the devil in a tie and shiny shoes. They are so unstrung. 🤣
Yes... He (my ex) asked me for a 'break' and after 5-6 months, when he found out that I was seeing somebody else, he was 'surprised' how 'fast' I had moved on... 🙃🙃🙃
When you talk about narcissists you always talk about THEM not WE or US. I can understand wanting to distance from the disorder. But still you give great insight in the mind of a narcissist without coming off as fake.
My covert narc ex uses our child to do this shit to me. Told me to move on, I did, now she texts non-emergency things about our child to me. Her favorite time of the day to do this... when I am work. I ignore the texts and just resume my day but its exhausting. Having to see her 2x a week at pickup/drop off is already enough. Ive told her, I don't want to talk to her daily and she does. Hell i have her blocked on all Social media and she sent me a FB reel as a text... It's fucking insane.
Mine said he was DONE! And took that at face value. I'm a diehard died in the wool scorpio! There is no gray are in my life. So I did. Gave him his divorce. Then he came looking for me. Snooping around seeing what I'm doing.
The crazy thing is they'll tell you to move on and once you do and they don't hear from you then they start chasing you and calling you emailing you texting you and won't stop and they told you to move on or they'll say to you don't call me anymore but then they start calling you on your job calling you on your cell phone like that bill collector it gets crazy
Damn, she was constantly telling me this in the devaluation phase, but when we would see each other she acted flirty, interested and kept holding me by the hand. She discarded me when it slipped out of her mouth that she's in an "open relationship". When I figured out what the heck is going on, I had hit her with a note telling her to never get in touch with me. Couple of months later she tried to hoover me. Though, I'm starting to think that she's a petulant self-destructive borderline, but that doesn't change anything because they still dehumanize you like narcissists.
me i don't have time for these games , all i do is involve the authorities and i rest my case . if he is going mad , then he need to be in the mad house. i don't like anyone to come and torture me emotionally . moving on single, back to school to finish my degree. shut all doors and remaining focus .
It means nothing, if they don't leave you alone. Mine lost his mind when I told him to go home to his Gma's house. And You got me laughing😅.... I've been called everything but the child of God
This video came in perfect timing. Those faces crack me up. Side note, I took another blow tonight that pretty much ruined my night with my little one. I read an email where he did the exact same thing one of your male viewers said in this video. He wanted to remind me on a Saturday right before the holidays that he’s moving up the divorce date and that he now wants me to use my own budget to remain in the house after that time. He wants an uncontested divorce that he’ll write up and that I can agree with. He wants no lawyers or courts involved. I believe this is retribution, payback, vindictiveness, and a desire to hurt me. He stated that he needs closure so he can move on & he recommends I do the same. This was outa no where too.I’ve been married to a high ranking military officer for 24 yrs. I homeschooled my 4 kids for 15 1/2 yrs. And he discarded me this April 2024 before he deployed to Asia.
Thanks so much. I asked to stay in the house until our last child graduates in 5 yrs. to keep our stability. Initially, he said he wasn’t trying to make me leave the house. Now, he’s pushed it to 2026 & then I’ll have to alter my budget that the courts set in order to remain here. I’ll still have 3 more yrs. until our next 2 kids graduate. He’s ok with us having to move in their final yrs. of high school when there’s no reason other than it’s what he wants.
@@crystalball3717 thats rather unfortunate! I do hope you have a trusting support system that can help be with you during these uncertain times. I know it must be really painful, I mean 24 years is basically almost my whole life span. But I just know that in the end of it all, you will come out okay, stronger, and better. ❤️🙏🏾 hold tight
This is very encouraging & so nice of you to care. Yes, I’ve been in intensive therapy going on 6 months & my family support is bar none. I’m going to keep trekking for sure. I am a strong believer in God, yet for the very 1st time ever I’ve felt forsaken by Him given this circumstance, which you are correct, has been a lifetime. I know it’s not true; it’s just how I feel. Thank you for your niceness and encouraging thoughts. It does mean a lot.
Hey… what u described about narc, it’s exactly what happen with my ex bf. I have plenty of questions. Indeed he asked me to move on while I was crying because he played my emotion & feeling… I asked him to apologised, he said to “let it go & move on!” So we cut communication because he is mad that I don’t want to stay in touch with him, and he said I’m toxic. Then few months later, all of sudden his mom contacted me, asking me “how are u?” I mean like for what???! This is so bothering me… meanwhile my ex has new supply… he said she just “friend” , yeah yeah yeah friend with benefit…. For sex, for companionship, for rent free since he still lives with his parents… so my questions , why his mom wanna keep in touch with me ? I ignored the text, but what if she chat me again? how to react when she chatted me again?
Yea he told me to call 911 when he left me stranded. I did and he was shocked. He told me to move on after cheating on me and blocked me. I moved on now I’m unblocked. Lmfao Told me my job didn’t want me there, shocked him when I got a new and better job directly after. Raised his fist at me, shocked him when he realized I wasn’t scared of him. Tried to tell me how my family don’t love me. Shocked him when he realized all my family still contacts me with love. Like bro. I stand on business wym? Go away
They threaten to leave when they’re angry and don’t mean it. It’s just a control tactic, or they are too mad to really filter their words. Then if you say, “Ok, leave,” they will completely change their tune and will try to win you back.
My exit moved out with her new partner and because I couldn't bring her something that she wanted me to bring her. Going out with the guys but she didn't know that. Came over to my house peeling out in front of it telling me to have a good time with the cam girl. When I'm going out to eat with the guys
Mine kept saying divorce me or I can't wait to divorce... But when I finally left for good, she went cray cray... And started saying "you must have somebody else"...
Mine asked for a divorce when she got served she was shocked and angry she threw a tantrum. It was as if she was saying, "How can you leave me? I'm leaving."
Mine did the same thing, told me to move on because he was messing around with the neighbor and then found another supply after her. Yet he still contacts some of our mutual friends on FB to find out "if I'm okay," it's been nine years, what the hell?
Its been over 3 months of no contact this time. He told me to forget him. I haven't posted myself having moved on but narcs usually are bluffing when they tell you to move on. I wouldn't be surprised if he has a narcissistic collapse when he knows ive moved on. My narc ex kept bluffing.
after I blocked her on everything and went no contact her daughter messsaged me and told me her Mother said to tell me that "I deserve better and she was ok with that". she was ok with that... wth lol. she tried to hoover exactly 30 days later. games...
After the very first discard 5 years ago, my ex said i was "embarrassing him," for posting a pic on FB with the guy i was dating. Yet, he had been in a full-blown relationship for over a year with someone else, and i didn't even know. I guess since he hid his fucking lies from everyone, and didn't post publicly, it was acceptable. We were not together at the time!
He told me to move on cause he didn't like the drama,the drama that he played a major role in starting.
Exactly flipping the script huh
Gaslighting
Oh my God this! 👆. My ex would cheat on me then scold me for not trusting him. Put a recorder on him at one point. He got off the phone with me (telling I need to trust and believe in him) then immediately starts having sex with her after hanging up with me! He's been cheating for months but has been telling me I'm delusional, making up things in my mind and telling everyone (incl his family not 2 days post breakup) that I'm crazy. All bc he can't own up to his cheating. Sneaking the new Supply in and out of our apartment so I know, but can't prove, he's f*****g her. I really don't understand why he keeps gaslighting me post breakup 😢. I don't understand why.......
Yoooooooo mine said the same thing. Wow.
@@amethyst8753 The chaos that he purposefully provoked! My heart is with you.
He did, so I did... Shocked the hell outta him😂
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This is the reaction they’re hoping for “What! No babe! I could never move on! I’ll love you forever!” So when you don’t react how they wanted you to it drives them crazy 😂
I left 6yrs ago…. He’s still trying everything and anything to speak to me… to the point that I still own my home but live in an apartment somewhere else type shit….he just messaged the other day….”I can’t believe you haven’t said anything”….. “I don’t deserve this…..”…”I’ve changed I don’t want you back I just want to apologize I just want to talk to you and apologize m….” he even sent me a certified letter last year I needed to sign for it… I explained to the post office and I said I’m not signing that return to sender…. I left him in the worst possible light that he could be in I took the opportunity and left him as the POS he truly is…. He’s not a victim… he’s not a hero…. he’s not a good guy…. Hes trash and I don’t bring that back in the house….. there’s not a single thing that could make me respond or show any acknowledgement… he lost
@@NIKNAK1 wow good girl my threatens to kill my and hurt my family
@@NIKNAK1good for you!
Don't let your heart override your GUT! Stop living in denial!😢
Yes indeed
Shut the hell up
They are saying they have nothing to give you. They don't have a clue about love, time,money, empathy, happiness, and feelings, and they don't want to be with you, always having to pretend they're someone they're not. Pretending takes a lot out of them. The game they were playing is over, and you should go find a real person to be with. The problem is that you believed THEY were real. This is what causes you pain. Unfortunately
@@dragon2195 True
This is so true! I love how you worded it.
“Moving on up to new supply…” at least they think the grass is greener but the new supply sometimes catch on sooner than we did
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or they such dingbats the thrîll wears off real fast
I wish
Yeap that is true
When they are with a new supply, the new supply will find out, or firghure it out themselves.
Problem comes when you listen and give them what they want 💀✌🏾
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That's right-=the shit storm becomes AMPED UP. Stay Strong - Grey Rock.
@@deb2319 Nine years of no contact strong 😊💖 Wishing you strength right back! 💖
Exactly
U a weak person u know that
Literally 2 days ago this happened, he kept contacting me angry, drunk and telling me to block him, when I wasn't even the one reaching out to him to begin with. Bizarre behavior.
Right?! He told me to leave never come back @ 10pm it’s been 2wks yayyyy!!!It feels great no bs lies no bs mind games no bs name calling no abuse no drugs amen thnx 🙏🌺
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Stay strong! ❤
@@325aliceI Thnx I am no time for babysitting a monster! You too❤️🙏
Girl I feel yuh! The mind games and subtle emotional abuse is disgusting. I feel free! No contact, block and delete!
@@tailsthefox6568 Amen right gal so unnecessary childish monster stay safe❤️🙏
He was ready. I felt him pulling away. I've gone no contact and he hasn't tried to get back together. Also, I wasn't the main supply...just one of several.
I think narcissistic can be very dangerous towards their partner and I think part of it is the low empathy. I never believe when they say they are done because within the same sentence they still want you, and convince you to be with them. But be careful if you stay. I honestly think mine would have killed me if I stayed any longer, Every time I went back his behavior seemed worse. Yet we still go back and forth with them. Terrible cycle. Thank you.
Sooooooo true!!! Yes they get mad and then they tell everyone what a poor victim they are 🤔
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Tell me bout it. I'm so over that stupid *ish. 🙄🤨
They r never by themselves
Facts- I unfortunately spent 10yrs in a situationship. They NEVER change.
That’s true
Facts
It means I need to "THANK GOD" and kick rocks 🏃♀️🏃♂️🏃♀️🏃♂️🏃♂️💃🕺💃🕺
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Road runner meep meep 🏃
It’s good to be hearing this from a man in his right mind
Um… right mind? He’s a diagnosed narcissist lol
My husband would tell me “I’m going to divorce you, I’m going to leave and never come back” and “I’m going to leave you.” Then say he was just joking. He also said out of no where “oh, my friend is dating a baddie.”
He would also sing me songs about how “he was buying the side chick everything he never bought me,” and a whole lot of other songs about cheating as he would lift up my chin to face him as he sang these words to my face.
The way he was confessing to me the whole time he was cheating is level of sinister I had never experienced. The person I thought was the love of my life was the person who betrayed me and hurt me the most.
@@21kGOT that’s so awful. I’m sorry you had to go through that. 🩷
My ex-husband did the same thing. They actually tell you that they’re cheating on you by mistreating you and then doing things like that like singing songs or playing certain songs on the radio or when the holidays would come along, he wouldn’t put any type of effort into my gift he downgraded me on gifts so horribly one year for Valentine’s Day. He got me one balloon. I popped it right in his face cause I knew he was cheating like he must’ve bought his mistress some Louis Vuitton bag because he was showing me a Louis Vuitton bag online and telling me that he wanted to get that from himself which was out of his character And obviously he was trying to impress her. It’s just a roller coaster of absolutely disgusting disgustingness with them.
@ You’re so right about the lack of effort with gifts 😭. Last year for my b day I wanted to go to a restaurant that I’ve been wanting to for 2 years and we didn’t do anything. This year he broke up with me before my b day.
That’s so messed up that he did that. Showed you the gift he was going to give her. I don’t even want to imagine what my ex gave to his affair partner. But it’s probably gave her something luxury I’m sure.
Tell me about it. I’ve been on this rollercoaster right of emotions for 2 months. I get flashbacks of all the times he was blatantly telling me what he had been doing behind my back. Then songs he dedicated to me were so explicit and degrading, I can’t get the images out of my head. And the worst part is he played the same songs on replay during his whole affair.
He's your problem, girly, or too good for him. Let him be someone else's problem
Sucks when the game you're runnin blows up in your face 😂
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Yea who cares I rather die yhrn to keep letting a scam artist have any control over me so let's gooo
He is being difficult, he said he filed which he did, but got mad when I said kool now we on the same page!
Stay safe
It was the best thing that ever happened to me just 2 months ago I've lost 12 lb I've got a brand new job with excellent benefits and peaceful so if he wants you to move on kick rocks
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When they tell you to move on they really don’t want you too they say it because they think we won’t. I remember when my ex narc was with the new supply before I even found out their was a new supply involved he told me to move on and said I know u can but he didn’t think I was. So when I did it hurt him soo bad I get hoovered and harassed til this day it’s irritating and annoying. Then he plays victim and make it seem like I just abandoned him when he was the one that destroyed the relationship smh.
have to protect your peace
Yup I let him talk/hover. (Via messenger… I left the country we’d traveled to) we communicated for about 4 months. Him saying he was sorry, he was saying yes to all of my desires, he apologized, he did all that… I had NO INTENTION of returning. I just needed my ego stroked. When he FINALLY wrote “ maybe we should go our separate ways…” I then replied “alright!” Blocked/ deleted. Wham !
Whew! That matching energy is real... he crashed out last night when I told him I was over it and moved on and going to meet another guy!! 😂😂😂😂 But it's cool when you bragging about all these women that want him🤦🏽♀️🥴
Same situation girl lord they are sick
Wow this crazy he brag all the time I'm like u are so disrespectful
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Yes, this was him , even told me one day that he loved the girl. Said her name and everything. I told him why do you always have to have a leading lady. Im so happy I'm off this roller-coaster. And I almost married him. Thank God I didn't.
1:56 Anytime he would rage, he'd tell me any of the following: Get the fuck out, we're done, you're a mean person, you have 30 days to get out, this isn't working, you gotta get out, my life is the worst it's ever been because of you - on and on and on. So, I finally did and he wasn't expecting it. He's been beyond shamed now and and I feel vindicated! 💖💪💖
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@@MentalHealness Thank you Lee!
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It Felt Like Someone Told Me To Get Out Of Their Life, And Then Got Angry About It When I Did Get Out Of Their Life! 😵💫😶🌫️ So, Does Someone Want Me To STAY In Their Life?! 🤔 But I Need Time To Heal!🙌
Mine was a time limit also to justify his cheating
Narcissist have a timeline when they want to kick your ass.
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And will....
@@MaraiahRimando I think you may be right there the last relationship I had for 8 years was a situationship he knows how to get rid of us be interesting to see who he catches in his web of lies & deceit
@@christinejones4785 wow! That's quite long 8 years situationship?
That's too much of her getting from you.
How did she get rid you you?
The narcissist I met, randomly bragging issues from November till February untill she made an issue that kicked her own ass. 🙌😏
2 yrs ago my ex ended things w/ me b/c he didn’t want to be there for me during a traumatic experience, & didn’t like being held accountable. Last year, he reached out saying he wanted to “work on us”, but after I confronted him for lying & playing games, he said “If looking for more, then continue your search.” So I did. He messaged me a couple months ago expecting me to be all warm & loving towards him, & got butt hurt when I wasn’t
This is absolutely true. My ex narc would always tell me to do me and that im grown but then when i do he gets pissed off . Like what?! This man went back to his baby mama but mad at me for talking to other people
It's best to go No Contact and never speak to them again.
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It helps when you learn it’s Never going to be rational
Yeah why? He wants the ownership of you of everything. 🙏
@@sharipeterson1126 definitely am. serves no purpose in my life anymore
When they tell u that and u do it, they turn it around and say:
“If I told u to jump off a bridge would u do it?”
“Good to know I got that much power over u.”
“I was testing u, and u failed.”
Something like that to get u to react emotionally, just so they can setup their “reactive abuse.”
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Their victim self when you do things they said like it's okay if you talk to other girls. 😂🎉
Amen you you are right . They don't like being exposed! I think it a good thing. Maybe they will learn something. I just wouldn't want them to hurt someone else.
Lee always coming out with the best videos 💯
I appreciate it
What gets me is I want you to move on and when you do they still hold on to your belongings procrastinating about letting you get them
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THIS IS CRAZY ITS LIKE YOUR NARRATING MY LIFE..... currently going through a breakup and you are posting videos that match what's happening CRAZY your amazing by the way love your work... keep spreading that awareness you really do help 😊
Listening to you just makes me so glad to have my ex narc in my rearview mirror.
They say I don’t love you anymore or things change and people change! And then be mad at you for life because you moved on! 😂
Well If counted the times they told me to move on.....I'd be RICH! The part you mentioned about Energy-Lee- VERY GOOD POINT!
She kept doing subtle things to make me feel irrelevant. Very subtle. I would ask myself, “Does she do this intentionally or is this just the best she can do under her history of trauma.”
Even though we agreed to call it off and I asked her to leave me alone, she would keep planting herself in situations with me and engage in convos. I told her, “If you don’t want anything to do with me, then don’t do anything with me.”
It was difficult to call her on stuff because it was so subtle and intermittent. And she would act like everything was fragile and I didn’t want to break or hurt.
It was an on/off roller coaster. Lots of mixed signals.
Finally I called her on her stuff. She was caught off guard which was my intention. The convo was devolving on a text thread. She wasn’t aware. Finally I told her I have nothing to offer her either spiritually, emotionally, financially [That’s the indication and signals she sends].
I told her she has an anger pool which she wants to inflict on others while masking it with kindness and exploiting people’s emotional worlds.
I told her to just be angry and honest with others.
She wrote “stop texting me.”
I said OK, I will block you then. She then tried to block me first. Which still makes me laugh today!? She would not have blocked me if I didn’t block her first.
I’ve only seen her once since then. She’s losing weight which makes me worry.
That’s the story. Maybe it’s useful?
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Literally hearing this now giving me flashbacks to everything i experienced and went thru with my ex narc and they stalk they stalk because how dare you heal and move on without them "You cant heal in an environment that broke you" Thank you
😂 so true…i blocked him on everything and he still trying to hoover through fake accounts to see who i’m with 😂😂 so happy i dodged that bullet 😂
I heard we need some time apart. I got all my things the clothes food seasonings meat everything. Duces you will not have control over me ever
Mississippi does but Clarksdale is dark it needs you to speak there trust me I just got out of a very dangerous relationship the women need you for awareness. Thank you God Bless your Ministry I just found you and you have been such an Awareness to me.
My narcissistic player told me to find another man before he went on his vacation get away. I went silent on him after he was passive aggressive with me. And after he had to come back, he was tired, Hungary and panicky, claiming that I had a new boy friend because I was ignoring him. Thank you Lee. 💯🙏♥♥♥♥♥♥♥🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹😎
She's pregnant after 4 months with the new person. We had 10 years and 3 children!! I wish I had listened to everyone in my life and I wasn't in denial and compassionate.
They're crazy
For real. The more you stay with them the more you see how crazy they really are . They got serious issues within themselves.
arrested development -immature babies.
Lee, you are awesome! You are not only amazingly yourself an incredibly helpful to people that have been exposed to narcissistic relationships and I admire your videos and your knowledge of yourself and now you share it with all of us. But dude you are freaking hilarious and I love it how you put your own twist on things
Before i listened all the video i want again to say that in this tornado I'm living,i feel that you are a big help for all of us with the confused mindset. You are helping me to uncode so clearly many many behaviours witch about 16 years i couldn't understand. Thank you so much. Here i live we don't have specialized therapists who can help you so much like your videos. Thank you. Again and again.
The accuracy 😂 what got my ex to stop was ignoring him & sending his messages to his gf & friends in a group chat.
Thank you, Lee ❤
You are so welcome
He's right. This exact thing happened to me.
omg those faces , your a mask switcher lol appreciate your candor
My ex wife cheated multiple times so I divorced her when I found out. The day after the divorce she was moving out and I had my bedroom door closed. She knocked on the door and said she was leaving. My response was thank you. A week later she called my lawyer wanting to talk to me. My lawyer told her I didn’t have to talk to her about anything. She then called my mother and told my mother that I wasn’t affectionate enough and she was never coming back. I couldn’t understand why was she doing all of this and we were divorced. She did not believe I divorced her.
Why weren't you affectionate towards her?
@@Nono38-jj1tk Far from the truth. I pulled back when she decided other people were more important than our marriage.
@@Nono38-jj1tkthat was probably a LIE DUH
My narci is truly delusional! The reason he can't sleep is because his mind is controlling everyone else's life. I don't need a babysitter!
i just got out of an 10year relationship with a narcisist who could never seem to admit when he was wrong. through homelessness it was hell of a struggle. it got to the point like in the beginning of this video, i was that person basically begging him to communicate, after his wrong doings and me being so emotional it wouldve seemed I was the control freak or narcisist. smh. i will admit i feel ive grown some tendacies and traits of an narcisist having dealing with not only him but my mom, sister and brother. and along side of dating a full blown narcisist ( in between me and previous narcisist breakup up.) i felt drained and empty after going through that. scratch allowing myself to go through that. and well, fast forward, he finally gets his place again and popped up where i was..long story short asking me if id want to come stay with him til my new pllace comes through.. well now im here. i wants to usee the excuse of him "trying to help me" but in reality i think he knows he fucked up so heaviily with me and doesnt know how to say that. instead he tries to buy me stuff to make up. part of me still lovess him obviouusly but if hes not willing to do the core work on himself as ive started the process for myself: i have no choose but to leave him in the past just like his favorite line"that was in the past". anywo, what are some healthy habits for me to focus on (while still here with him) to heal from all the trrauma endured dating him and others???? like how not to allow myself to feel triggered??ANYONE????
This all facts .. I moving on regardless…
They said to to move on and don’t reach out unless it’s to F***. And this was in the same convo after they first asked to f*** and I said No. 🤦🏾♀️
also narcissists are different , so while some may just be liars and cheaters others can ruin and take your life .
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When i would stand up for myself in an argument he would say, " Leave me please."
Yea my ex did that to me...woke me up saying he wanted to role play...he was gonna be the robber....and pulled out a real "pew pew"...the same one he would use to threaten to unalive himself so i wouldnt go to work....that was the first and last chance he had the opportunity to do that to me....
That is so scary! I hope you are free and safe now.
The faces you made imitating the narc being angry you moved on after they told you to move on had me ☠️ 😂
“You whore.”
Classic.
Just went through this. Made me chuckle watching him spin through control tactic after control tactic by text at me like a sniveling super villain AFTER he moved out of our house. The month before we broke up my intuition was in high gear here for the first time with him, he was acting SO distant and bizarre, and when I tried to talk to him he looked me dead in the eye all cocky and smirking arrogant and said, “Trust me. If I was cheating on you? You’d never, ever know.” Smirk smirk. Was appalling and disturbing. So of course after that, I did some detective work and was then called paranoid and mentally unstable. Total smear campaign to his flying monkeys. Who have no idea who he really is. Dudley do right. NOT. He’s the devil in a tie and shiny shoes.
They are so unstrung. 🤣
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I’ve seen the exact same thing too lol word for word it’s insane lol❤
😂😂❤❤ You made the start of my day!!! Thanks for bringing humor and truth to a serious subject !
Just move on and live a happy life. So I would tell yes I moved on.
Yes... He (my ex) asked me for a 'break' and after 5-6 months, when he found out that I was seeing somebody else, he was 'surprised' how 'fast' I had moved on... 🙃🙃🙃
When you talk about narcissists you always talk about THEM not WE or US.
I can understand wanting to distance from the disorder. But still you give great insight in the mind of a narcissist without coming off as fake.
My covert narc ex uses our child to do this shit to me. Told me to move on, I did, now she texts non-emergency things about our child to me. Her favorite time of the day to do this... when I am work. I ignore the texts and just resume my day but its exhausting. Having to see her 2x a week at pickup/drop off is already enough. Ive told her, I don't want to talk to her daily and she does. Hell i have her blocked on all Social media and she sent me a FB reel as a text... It's fucking insane.
oh my goodness
Mine said he was DONE! And took that at face value. I'm a diehard died in the wool scorpio! There is no gray are in my life. So I did. Gave him his divorce. Then he came looking for me. Snooping around seeing what I'm doing.
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P.S. Love your "acting" skills!💕😁💕
I wish i could make it to your event in Dallas. I live 2 hrs from there in Paris, Tx.
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@@MentalHealness Do you still have tendencies or are you able to catch it and stop.it before it gets loose?
That’s him today! Told me i had to leave. Ok bet!
Narc Mosquito 🤣 buzzin
Thanks for the videos you've done on the reverse discard I had that experience..
Good to hear
help me lee. you've helped me the last 6 yrs get over him and I was fine. hes back..and im shattering
The crazy thing is they'll tell you to move on and once you do and they don't hear from you then they start chasing you and calling you emailing you texting you and won't stop and they told you to move on or they'll say to you don't call me anymore but then they start calling you on your job calling you on your cell phone like that bill collector it gets crazy
Omg I’m laughing my butt of with you. Thats just what happened to me.
Damn, she was constantly telling me this in the devaluation phase, but when we would see each other she acted flirty, interested and kept holding me by the hand. She discarded me when it slipped out of her mouth that she's in an "open relationship". When I figured out what the heck is going on, I had hit her with a note telling her to never get in touch with me. Couple of months later she tried to hoover me. Though, I'm starting to think that she's a petulant self-destructive borderline, but that doesn't change anything because they still dehumanize you like narcissists.
me i don't have time for these games , all i do is involve the authorities and i rest my case . if he is going mad , then he need to be in the mad house. i don't like anyone to come and torture me emotionally . moving on single, back to school to finish my degree. shut all doors and remaining focus .
It means nothing, if they don't leave you alone.
Mine lost his mind when I told him to go home to his Gma's house.
And You got me laughing😅.... I've been called everything but the child of God
My ex told me this move on do your life so I did until this days no calls and he block me and I had found out he had a new supply
Wow!! I love all that 😢
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This video came in perfect timing. Those faces crack me up. Side note, I took another blow tonight that pretty much ruined my night with my little one. I read an email where he did the exact same thing one of your male viewers said in this video. He wanted to remind me on a Saturday right before the holidays that he’s moving up the divorce date and that he now wants me to use my own budget to remain in the house after that time. He wants an uncontested divorce that he’ll write up and that I can agree with. He wants no lawyers or courts involved. I believe this is retribution, payback, vindictiveness, and a desire to hurt me. He stated that he needs closure so he can move on & he recommends I do the same. This was outa no where too.I’ve been married to a high ranking military officer for 24 yrs. I homeschooled my 4 kids for 15 1/2 yrs. And he discarded me this April 2024 before he deployed to Asia.
Damn. I’m so sorry to hear this
Thanks so much. I asked to stay in the house until our last child graduates in 5 yrs. to keep our stability. Initially, he said he wasn’t trying to make me leave the house. Now, he’s pushed it to 2026 & then I’ll have to alter my budget that the courts set in order to remain here. I’ll still have 3 more yrs. until our next 2 kids graduate. He’s ok with us having to move in their final yrs. of high school when there’s no reason other than it’s what he wants.
@@crystalball3717 thats rather unfortunate! I do hope you have a trusting support system that can help be with you during these uncertain times. I know it must be really painful, I mean 24 years is basically almost my whole life span.
But I just know that in the end of it all, you will come out okay, stronger, and better. ❤️🙏🏾 hold tight
This is very encouraging & so nice of you to care. Yes, I’ve been in intensive therapy going on 6 months & my family support is bar none. I’m going to keep trekking for sure. I am a strong believer in God, yet for the very 1st time ever I’ve felt forsaken by Him given this circumstance, which you are correct, has been a lifetime. I know it’s not true; it’s just how I feel. Thank you for your niceness and encouraging thoughts. It does mean a lot.
Hey hey from Arkansas
My ex told me to move on and when I said ok he got mad and said no you cant leave . but he lies cheats and circulates arguments
You crack me up 😂! You say the exact things my ex says! “Lying cheating whore!” He said that to me today. I’m moving out next weekend
Hey… what u described about narc, it’s exactly what happen with my ex bf. I have plenty of questions. Indeed he asked me to move on while I was crying because he played my emotion & feeling… I asked him to apologised, he said to “let it go & move on!” So we cut communication because he is mad that I don’t want to stay in touch with him, and he said I’m toxic. Then few months later, all of sudden his mom contacted me, asking me “how are u?” I mean like for what???! This is so bothering me… meanwhile my ex has new supply… he said she just “friend” , yeah yeah yeah friend with benefit…. For sex, for companionship, for rent free since he still lives with his parents… so my questions , why his mom wanna keep in touch with me ? I ignored the text, but what if she chat me again? how to react when she chatted me again?
Yea he told me to call 911 when he left me stranded. I did and he was shocked.
He told me to move on after cheating on me and blocked me. I moved on now I’m unblocked. Lmfao
Told me my job didn’t want me there, shocked him when I got a new and better job directly after.
Raised his fist at me, shocked him when he realized I wasn’t scared of him.
Tried to tell me how my family don’t love me. Shocked him when he realized all my family still contacts me with love.
Like bro. I stand on business wym? Go away
3xs drinking raging- Get out of my house.....soon as I was done with physical therapy - the Uhaul showed up and I was gone....just.....like......that!
They threaten to leave when they’re angry and don’t mean it. It’s just a control tactic, or they are too mad to really filter their words. Then if you say, “Ok, leave,” they will completely change their tune and will try to win you back.
My exit moved out with her new partner and because I couldn't bring her something that she wanted me to bring her. Going out with the guys but she didn't know that. Came over to my house peeling out in front of it telling me to have a good time with the cam girl. When I'm going out to eat with the guys
Mine kept saying divorce me or I can't wait to divorce... But when I finally left for good, she went cray cray... And started saying "you must have somebody else"...
Of course
@@MentalHealnessshe randomly texts me, she actually texted a few mins ago... But I don't answer her unless it's a real emergency...
Don't know what it means, but it sounds good to me.
Their creeps.
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Mine asked for a divorce when she got served she was shocked and angry she threw a tantrum. It was as if she was saying, "How can you leave me? I'm leaving."
I was told never contact me ever again, move on, soon as she saw me on tinder she went nutts 😂
Yes he told me to move on and leave him alone he didn't come home for 2 days yes he has another supply
Mine did the same thing, told me to move on because he was messing around with the neighbor and then found another supply after her. Yet he still contacts some of our mutual friends on FB to find out "if I'm okay," it's been nine years, what the hell?
Fam, she blocked me and said she was done. I told her I was gonna block her back and she lost her shit 😂😂😂
Its been over 3 months of no contact this time. He told me to forget him. I haven't posted myself having moved on but narcs usually are bluffing when they tell you to move on. I wouldn't be surprised if he has a narcissistic collapse when he knows ive moved on. My narc ex kept bluffing.
after I blocked her on everything and went no contact her daughter messsaged me and told me her Mother said to tell me that "I deserve better and she was ok with that". she was ok with that... wth lol. she tried to hoover exactly 30 days later. games...
he said that to me but he is coming back to us soon
Facts
Fifty shades of grey and black
He is delusional just like you said 😮 I am Never eva going back to that pos
After the very first discard 5 years ago, my ex said i was "embarrassing him," for posting a pic on FB with the guy i was dating. Yet, he had been in a full-blown relationship for over a year with someone else, and i didn't even know. I guess since he hid his fucking lies from everyone, and didn't post publicly, it was acceptable. We were not together at the time!
God bless you
God bless you as well