Yeah unless you’re sitting at a bar, it’s super off-putting to have someone walk up to your table when you’re just trying to enjoy your meal. Bars are more of a social environment, tables are not
I am not, he ALSO wants to watch the show so why can´t they watch together? I would want us both to experiance the highs, lows and twists that is Arcane together. If they have already seen it they will not react the same and if I am sitting there crying alone and they just sit there sicne they knew it was coming I would feel super akward.
Being in a relationship doesn't mean you have to share everything. I also don't watch my favourite shows with my partner because I prefer watching them alone. That's my relaxation time ALONE. There's nothing wrong with having things you prefer to do on your own, and your partner should respect that. If I had a pushy partner like him, I would feel overwhelmed and resentful. In a healthy relationship, you should have things that are solely for you.
If the boyfriend knows the deal, why does she need to _re-explain_ it to him? He's the AH by trying to insert himself before the show started and cross already established boundaries. She reiterated it wasn't a good time right then and *anything* besides his leaving and seeing her later is AH behavior.
Story 3 even if they were all the same age, the second they asked him to leave and he didn’t, he’s a creep. Doesn’t matter why he wanted to keep standing there. He’s a creep. But he’s a creep for going up to them specifically because of her age, he’s a creep for talking his friend into helping despite his friend warning him he’s a creep, he’s a creep for telling them he wasn’t being creepy even though they specifically told him they were creeped out because it’s their right to tell him how they feel, not his.
The second part, when someone asks you to leave you go, goes for everyone IMO. Even a 22 year old (my age) is a creep if I tell them to leave and they continue to stay. The guy in the story is even more of a creep because of the age gap, however.
Story 1 dude is a total creepo, but even if OP, bf, and sister were all around the same age, it's super disrespectful to comment (repeatedly) on your gf's sister's body. That itself would be grounds for a breakup honestly. But the fact that he's clearly a PDF file is DEFINITELY grounds for dumping his pervy old ass.
I find it so funny that he flirted with girls who were way younger than him, and then got offended when they reacted in a childish way.. like what did you expect?😭
Last story: Kids tend to be nicer around people they aren't very familiar with. If kids are "horrible" when their parents are around, it could mean they feel comfortable and safe with them. I'm surprised the brother hasn't learned this yet.
i may be on the unpopular spectrum of the cartoon story but here is my view about it....we do not know how often he imposes himself past her boundaries or tries to control shit in her life...this man cannot stand that she wants satuday mornings for 3 weeks to herself without trying to control this because he just has to be in charge and they do not even live together. its a red flag to me. he may try to control alot more than the op states in the story. and closing the door maybe the only way to get the coming fight to not happen because he will go round and around in circles saying the same thing and cause or just to cause her to mis her show.
I feel the same way. I don’t even think it matters what the boundary is, if there’s a boundary that has been set and she was pretty clear that this was a boundary and was good about communicating that, the partner pushing it is not okay. Ever. If it were any other thing, like meditation or something like that for self care, we would immediately be 100% on her side and not think she was in the wrong at all. The fact that it’s a cartoon is why people are making it seem like she did something wrong.
1,000% If you say “no” to something, and the other person just shows up at your door? Close that door in their face, and never speak to them again. It will never get better
I met my husband on a dating website. At the time he was 25. He had set his lowest age to 22 because he said it felt creepy going after someone who just turned 18 while he already had a career, a kid, and an ex-wife.
AITA for wishing there were more AITA Fridays for 2024? Awesome job guys, you have been making my Fridays enjoyable because I can hear my favourite subreddit commentated by you all.
I listen to so many Reddit podcasts and stories but the third story has to be the best one to date. Singing remix to ignition while he walks away is just gold!
bf vs cartoons: i'm 100% the show OP is talking about is arcane. it can be extremely emotionally devastating to watch, so she probably really needed that extra me time to process it. Also I feel like she wanted to keep that boundary and he imposed, and invited himself in. Edit: the episodes are like an hour each too, so she'd be rewatching it IMMEDIATELY after watching it herself.
the cartoon story- OP set a boundary. her bf keeps trying to make her give in. she is absolutely not the ahole!! she shouldn't need to hear him out bc they've already discussed it. good for her for sending him home. maybe he's super annoying and chatty during shows, or chews loud 😅
The cartoon story. The boyfriend is the AH. I'm with Josh. The boyfriend seems controlling. I've know ppl like this, they try to cross every boundary they can, and if they can't insert themselves in certain situation, then they would try to remove you from said situation
Omg I have to comment about some of the "gen Z slang" but "Aggy", "kiki"/"akiki" is AAVE y'all, & it's been around since before gen z please not everything is theirs lmaaooo. "Aggro" means aggressive (that's more gen-z/not aave) and "Aggy" means aggravated. Also also, y'all saying the restaurant was a chili's, I couldn't help but laugh at imagining this happening in a Dave & Buster's lmaaoooo Love y'all!
The babysitting story: op's brother lost me at "brat". You can have an opinion but as soon as you bring names like that into a discussion like this AFTER a family emergency.... gtfo.... unacceptable. I studied psychology and would NEVER do this.
Omg I'm an aunt and literally have walked past after my SIL and told them to clean up what she JUST said to clean and they hop to with no complaints, cuz I'm the aunt. Literally laughed out loud at work
The cartoon story was definitely just the tip of the iceburg with that couple for sure but in the end he crossed her boundaries so why are we even worrying about his feelings? Like he hurt himself in confusion so now its her fault? Ive been in her shoes where people told me to just work it out with people who always put my boundaries second to their feelings and never would ask someone else to do the same.
To the cartoon vs. boyfriend story, the only thing I have to add, is that it seems like they don't have good communication maybe, since everytimes she mentions she wants to watch it by herself, he sulk, so why haven't they had a talk about, why it makes him feel bad(and to have a talk both sides need to be willing/ready to talk). Through that talk they could have solved it, found out that they are not a good match or that the boyfriend is not capable of respecting boundaries, and isn't worth staying with.
I think her saying how she prefers to watch it is communicative enough. He may not like it but this is her personal time / boundary & what she isn’t willing to budge on. What else is there to talk about?
@@Taewills The conversation could have been a mature way to end the relationship 🤷♀️. Being right doesn't absolve you of ending a relationship in a healthy way 🤷♀️ If you are that unwilling to involve him, to slam a door in his face, then you can end the relationship without being so rude. In today's World of DVR recordings and streams she had time to be polite with the ending of the relationship with someone whose biggest fault is wanting to watch shows together. She certainly not wrong in her preference. But neither is he. They just are not compatible 🤷♀️
What about he just respects her wish to watch the show alone? She doesn't have to hear him out especially since it's not the first time she told him she wants to watch the show alone. He needs to stfu and grow up.
I think the mature conversation kind of went out the window when he decided to try and bulldoze over her saying "no". That's his biggest fault, not "wanting to watch shows together". I want a lot of things, but if the other person isn't on board, I don't try and browbeat them into it. We'll discuss feelings and expectations, but in the end I respect their decisions.
@ The thing is, OP did have a mature convo before he showed up. And it sounded like she tried to send him home politely. It’s a good thing she didn’t allow him to bulldoze his way through bc after the initial rejection he wouldn’t accept her NO. He rather argue & eat up her personal time…. Hell naw I don’t like the ESH vote bc it sends the wrong message. Just bc he’s her S.O. doesn’t mean she HAS to spend time with him in the manner he wants. It doesn’t mean she should WANT to either. Not everyone is the same- he’s not her child where she has to make all the effort and meet him at his level.
The cartoon OP is absolutely not the asshole! This a an activity she does by herself that brings her a lot of joy. She gently, but firmly, set her boundaries. Her boyfriend (a grown ass man) did everything he could to negotiate those boundaries. That’s not something you do to something you love. Imagine your wife really loved going for a morning walk by herself. It was a peaceful way to start the day. Would you insist on going with her? Calling her names if she declined? This is a control tactic on the boyfriend’s part. He is trying to infiltrate the autonomous aspects of her life. Get out of there girl
Small correction, the royalties don’t go to the victims of R. Kelly forever, only up to a certain amount to cover their legal fees I think. I’m not sure if they receive financial compensation anymore.
@@kianaolive I mean, he was ordered to pay a certain amount & once each victim is “made whole” then it’ll go to his estate. But it was only ordered last year so I suppose in the next few years it’s ok to stream his music. Personally I’ve been without it for so long I don’t miss it ( with the exception of Aaliyah’s early music).
The brother who babysat. Did he cook dinner? Did he clean/tidy? Do the laundry? Go to work? Take them to little league? Did he do any parenting? Sounds like he did what a teenager usually does when they baaaaabysit
Studying child psychology and he doesn't know kids are always worse for their parents because they trust their parents to love them despite their emotions...
As a person who has many years of babysitting/childcare under their belt, was halfway through my child psychology degree before I changed courses, a former teacher, a current parent, and someone who comes from a HUGE family that almost always has a baby somewhere... I have thoughts about that last story. The differences between watching children for any set amount of time and being a 24/7 parent are vast and many. There is no way that a college student having taken a couple of child psych classes (even if they contained lab hours dealing with children) has a clue about parenting. Almost anyone can watch a child for 12 hours and keep them entertained, fed, alive, and off of electronics. It is nearly impossible to do that, every single day, as a parent. A babysitter isn't having to worry about the household chores or bills or making sure there is food on the table. A babysitter isn't having to juggle a full time job and parenting. Is the brother learning some psychological facts about kids that may be beneficial to his brother and SIL? Probably, but to blatantly say that after watching kids for 12 hours, that he has ANY clue about being a full time parent and telling the actual parents that they are horrible parents... he is the biggest douche canoe ever. Yes, anyone and everyone has opinions on parenting. And everyone parents a little differently. And not everyone should be a parent. But in any facet of life, when you decide to dole out insults dripping with your own self-righteousness with no shared experience, you are in the wrong. Perhaps OP and SIL would have listened if lil bro wasn't coming at them like a cocky little know-it-all just because he took a couple of classes and doesn't even have his degree yet. Honestly, if I was OP, I would start recording ALL of his brother's parenting rants just to throw them back in his face when he becomes a parent and reality hits... HARD. LOL. OP... just wait... Karma will get him and if you want to encourage it, just give him the "Mother's Curse" and tell him that you hope he has a kid just like him. It works 100% of the time and I promise you... it is HUMBLING. LOL.
I always say that the hardest part of parenting, for me, has been the sleep deprivation- day in and day out, with no hope for reprieve. Sleep deprivation is used as torture to break the wills of prisoners and it WORKS. I spent three years of my life waking up every two hours and working full time. Now that my kids are a little older, I'm just now getting enough sleep that i don't have occasional audio hallucinations anymore. If brother is so damn perfect, he can take the kids for a long weekend so the parents can take a break and get some perspective.
That last oen is definitely about Arcane. I would sell my neighbours to rewatch ut with new eyes. I love it. Its thr onky thing on my shorts. That being yhe case i am making loved ones watch it and was watching it with mu best friend (fellow analyst of films and shows). I only eatched ut with her because i knwo we could just focus on the show. Arcane and the type of show you can watch three times in a row and have a new perspective on each time
Creepy guy: it’s so funny that he’s mad that he got bullied as if he’s in high school while hitting on teenagers. I’m sorry were you expecting a mature flirting interaction with “women” who may still be in highschool.
About the 30 year old hitting on the 19 year old: even if he didn’t have the intention of making them uncomfortable, they made it clear they were uncomfortable with his behavior, so he’s at fault for not accepting that. Instead of instantly apologizing and walking away (or even just walking away), he tries to make them seem wrong for being uncomfortable. Also, he said there’s nothing wrong with adults hitting on other adults, but even if they were the same age, there would still be an issue. If anyone expressed they didn’t want to be hit on and they wanted him to leave them be, he would be wrong for not respecting that, regardless of their age. Even with them both being legal adults, they don’t owe him a chance with them, or any of their time. Not respecting that can turn into harassment, even between two adults of the same age. That guy was infuriating
Yeah, it sounds like the cartoon op bfs was pushing boundries repeatedly after she's already stated them. People are allowed to have things that are just theirs. It's 1 hour a week that she wants to be alone and consume the media. She can include him, but also, she's allowed to want to consume and process it alone first if that's whats best for her. Especially if its a show like Arcane that can be INTENSE. If he wants to watch something for the first time together, then he could sugest they work together to find something else that they could do that with. But instead of trying to make that compromise at a reasonable time, he tried to force his way into her personal alone time that shed set a boundry about. Then he got angry when she held strong on that boundry. Couple's dont have to do everything together. Her watching this show doesn’t mean she doesn’t share any of her interests with him. Its just one single thing she wants to keep to herself. It makes me wonder if the boundry pushing is something he makes a habit of.
I agree that in the cartoon story it's probably just a case of different preferences clashing, matched up with poor communication (and respect of boundaries) from the boyfriend. I'm one of those people who prefers to watch shows/movies (or play games) I'm really interested in alone for the first time, because I want to be able to focus solely on them and form my own opinions. Then rewatching with someone is much more fun because we can actually talk about the media and point out things the other might have missed. But I get that a lot of people (especially couples) prefer to watch things together and that's fine, we all have different tastes. Also, like others have said, the cartoon definitely was Arcane. It's absolutely gorgeous 💙
For story #4 i think the girl was too young to verbalize, or perhaps pinpoint, the real issue she was having. It wasn't about choosing a cartoon over her boyfriend, it was about setting a boundary regarding how she wanted to spend her time and he crossed it. She wanted her Saturday mornings to eat, rest, and watch. Ee don't know the context for if this, if is the only time she gets etc., but our partners are allowed to do things on their own. He crossed her boundary and he won't even let her have her Saturday cartoon time, what else will he not let her do for herself down the line?
If we leave the ages out of it for a second, the fact that he reacted to rejection with "how dare they reject me" attitude, blame towards his friend, and anger at how he felt "unfairly targeted" at everyone but himself is scary and unhinged behavior. The predatory nature only adds to the creep factor and the need for him to "get therapy!"
I have to say, I'm with OP on this one (cartoon vs. BF). Just let her enjoy on her own. Brother babysitting: Yeah, he's a MASSIVE AH! 12 hours does not a parent make. He got to be the fun uncle for a few hours, he's not their parent. Geez!
With the birthday party story, it doesn't matter how old they are. They could have been his age, hell they could have been older than him, you don't just waltz up to a group of strangers and force yourself into their party 🤦♀️
46:50 The Cartoon and The Boyfriend. The boyfriend’s behavior was 100% manipulative and disrespectful. You don’t show to an event when you know you are not welcome ten minutes before it starts. Not without the goal being to either force the person to do what you want, or forego their event in order to explain (again) why they don’t want you there. He basically pushed her into a situation where her choice was to miss part of the show arguing with him, let him in to watch, or close the door. Much respect to her for enforcing her boundary.
42:04 I don’t get the ESH. It didn’t seem like dude would leave. Like, slamming a door isn’t necessarily polite, but what else is OP supposed to do? It feels like y’all are expecting OP to be polite for the sake of being polite, but why does OP _have_ to watch it with him? I don’t understand why OP sucks here when OP set boundaries and he tried to violate that boundary and OP stopped it. What’s a better way for OP to enforce this boundary? Also, replace the show with something else? And why does OP have to hear him out? Why is OPs boundary not good enough?
mostly because it is extremely immature to do all this over a tv show, from his perspective, she is hiding something very important to her from him. something so important that she slammed the door. they are definitely incompatible and he is definitely in the wrong but she is no saint
@sharyebethancourt3660 I completely agree with you. Everything doesn't have to be shared. He should have respected her boundaries. There are important things in my life that I will NEVER share with my partner, because they are mine to keep and enjoy. They are what make me me, and what give me autonomy within a relationship. He also has activities he refuses to do with me, and I respect his boundaries. You don't have to merge and became one person just because you're in a relationship. Keep your individual hobbies and de-stressors if that's what makes you happy.
@@GRFNSTY She's not hiding anything, she said they would watch together later. She didn't do anything wrong. He deserved to get slammed in the face, she told him to leave and he didn't
Maddie and the ring: I was HOT! I would’ve been like, Claire you need to get the ring back or I will make it a living hell for everyone. I will announce about the stolen ring at every family gathering, the wedding, the rehearsal, the reception until the day I die. It will go down in the family history.
My mom used to tell me that parenting doesn't come with an instruction manual. Nobody knows what they're really doing, and nobody wants to hear how their parenting is wrong. Even if he had kids and were raising them as he claimed and even if it was working, they still wouldn't have wanted to hear it.
Last story: to a degree the brother may be a little right. Kids will steamroll their parents if the parents allow it. (I’m a parent). Bro is an asshole for HOW he said it. He could’ve gave a few pointers about how he got them to do whatever it is they did but again he only had them for 12 hours so it might not work all the time. I get both points of view for sure
I used to think 14-year-olds were hot/good-looking... when I was like 12-15 myself!!! It is so weird to me when actual adults look at teenagers and think they are "hot." It is disgusting.
36:00 @sean, I have gone out to bar & grills for “nights out” since turning 21, but it’s usually like an Applebees bc they have those good ass drink deals 😂😂 I haven’t been back since I went to one and someone who used to be my BOSS tried hitting on me, seemingly not realizing I used to work w him 😂😂 I woulda been like 26 at the time and that dude was at least in his 40’s 😂
About the last story: Keeping kids away from screens IS easy. That I agree with. I'm a mother of three girls, aged 7, 5 and 3 and they're allowed to watch TV for 1 hour on sunday. That's it :) that only works ofc, as long as my husband and I don't use screens around them, which is a little harder, I admit, but not truly hard. About the kids being less "bratty", ofc they were. They always behave better around other people x) that's why pretty much every parent out there has heard the phrase "I don't know what your problem is. They're so well behaved!" xD All in all, as long as you don't have kids yourself, it's absolutely impossible to really know what it's like. You imagine all the scenarios and how you'll handle them perfectly, like in a textbook. Then you become a parent and it's all different and nowhere near how you imagined it to be xD Not better, not worse. Just different ^^
I am 21 and even I would feel weird dating someone who's 18. In the three years after I finished school, I have learned so much, grown as a person and made important experiences that have shaped me to become the adult I barely am today. I cannot for the life of me understand how someone 10 years older than me can look at a group of 18/19 year-olds and think "yup, that's exactly what I am looking for". That is so disgusting. Also, if I were that guy's friend, I wouldn't be anymore after that.
Bless your hearts (sigh). If there is one thing I've learned in my many more decades on earth than most here (I think), it's that no parent EVER wants to hear about parenting from someone who isn't a parent. It doesn't matter when or how it's presented, constructive or not- just don't. Of course we all judge before we are parents, only to whisper "damn it" to ourselves every single time we realized how very wrong we were (of which there are many)!
I am on your side when it comes to watching the kids story. The brother was flexing his education vs the actual parents experience. In life there is the study and theory vs the actual practice.
Bf and cartoon story: she set her boundary. He crossed it in the most disrespectful way by trying to ambush her RIGHT when it started. You can tell how little he thinks about her with that simple action. She is NTA and this is a red flag in his behavior. Parenting story: brother is probably right about certain things bc of his degree, but I have found that not saying anything and waiting for parents to come to you as a professional is much better. I’m a former preschool teacher and am great with kids 2-5 years old. I would never give advice to a parent that didn’t ask for it, but family and friends have asked me for my opinion on how to deal with their children after seeing how the kids react to me when I watch them. You catch more bees with honey or whatever the saying is. The parents would have ask him how he did it if he just explained what they did and how well they behaved. No need to be rude.
Can we normalise not hearing out people sometimes? Story with OP wanting to watch her show alone ... why should she have to listen to him when he showed up unannounced, at her door ... that is so scary, like wtf. She clearly stated she wants to watch it on her own so let her watch it alone. As simple as that. She doesnt need an explanation or whatever to be respected. Leave her alone and respect her
I’m a full time nanny and uncle is definitely out of line to call names and probably an overinflated ego. I WILL SAY I do recommend to all my families to have as little screen time as possible (especially unsupervised) because tablets are made to be addictive to young kids and some other reasons. Again it’s their kids, some screen time is fine, and kids do tend to act out more with their everyday parents/guardians than they do babysitters.
41:46 Naw, the bf is an ah, not OP. She set a boundary of wanting to watch the show alone and he decided he was going to trample it and do as he wanted. Anime isn't cartoons. Anime is usually serial, has a plot and character development (if it's any good). It's the same as any series except the characters are drawn instead of live acted. So wanting to watch a finale that you're invested in alone is completely understandable.
Last Parent story….messed up to ban him from seeing his nieces and nephews and withhold pay. I get we don’t want to hear where we can do better as parents, but there’s always room for improvement for every parent. I’m a parent and I know I’m not perfect. If constructive criticism comes with respect that’s totally okay. Especially If it’s what’s best for the kids future…that’s important….these children are OUR future and the kids kinda do seem like brats. The parents are in the trenches because they had one right after another instead of having space between the children to relish in their growth and be present with each child individually. My mother and stepfather had 4 at once too. They got too exhausted and lazy and pawned it off on me. I became the patient and loving THiRD parent. While they used the TV to babysit and were always stressed, I interacted with them. They lived it..but so did I all while being in high school/college. I was similar to the younger brother because I saw where they needed to improve instead of being stressed and lazy. They also needed to improve their mood and mindset so it would overflow into their children. Everyone would be happy. I made suggestions and they never used it to improve and change to make everyone’s lives easier. Needless to say, my siblings gravitated towards me and have a different type of love for me. They knew to come to me and still do. They’re almost all adults and still to this day we are very close and that’s because I implemented the structure they desperately needed at a young age. It made my life easier and more importantly it made their lives easier. They trusted me and knew I was the one to fall on. I showed them love and peace when our mom and my stepfather chose stress and TV. Also sugar is what makes them act-out even more so you’re fighting fire with fire lollll. Not saying I hate it but if you’re using that as a system you can’t be shocked when they act out. I learned what not to do by watching and learning from them. Now I use that knowledge with my child. I’m sure this is similar to what the brother felt. Unfortunately he had a kinda poor delivery system lol. I think OP might be a little upset because of the success his brother had too. Again, he should have delivered the information in a more productive manner. But he’s not wrong. Step up OP you’re raising our future. Make the best of it. They grow so quick.
I am so on the arcane op's side. What i would give to watch that beautiful show again. I actively kepy saying no to watching it with my mom and stepdad because it just wasn't the same. I wasn't able to get as hype or as depressed
I wanted to post personal story (WIBTA), but I don't know how to do it properly, because I don't have a clue how I can warn people about some things in it and how to use reddit in general.
The ESH take on the cartoon (definitely Arcane lol) story left such a bad taste in my mouth. All this woman did was set boundaries and somehow she’s bad for that? Even in your commentary you guys acknowledge she all she did was set a boundary and the boyfriend was the one overstepping and disrespecting her. Shes been waiting for this for so long and I’m right along with her!!! It’s completely understandable that she’d want to process all the emotion that comes with the finale of that show alone. And then IMMEDIATELY watch it again WITH her boyfriend so it’s not like she’s excluding him from her interests at all. She did NOTHING wrong.
she is in fact excluding him. so often that he resorted to this. they shouldn’t be together but she isn’t free of being very very dismissive over an interest. also to get upset at your partner for coming over shows her true feelings about him. not talking to him about the situation because of a tv show is all very immature and disrespectful behavior. if the genders were reversed you would agree.
she is in fact excluding him. so often that he resorted to this. they shouldn’t be together but she isn’t free of being very very dismissive over an interest. also to get upset at your partner for coming over shows her true feelings about him. not talking to him about the situation because of a tv show is all very immature and disrespectful behavior. if the genders were reversed you would agree.
I agree, Kelly. Maybe this is a case of neurotypicals vs neurodivergents. I have no idea, but it left such a bad taste in my mouth. I wouldn't date someone like her boyfriend because I would be overwhelmed within a week. I dislike people that can't let their partners exist as an individual within a relationship. We don't have to do everything together just because we're dating! And I don't share my hobbies. The whole point of my hobbies is that they relax me because I do them ALONE. OP seems to be the same and set that clear boundary which he disrespected. Even offering to do it together immediately after is very generous.
@@darylenelorde8388 exactly this is your bias. you are not reading the situation objectively. she was extremely rude and he was extremely disrespectful. they shouldn’t be together because they obviously don’t respect each other
9:59 just like anything else, not all age gap relationships are gross and groomy and toxic. I met my partner when I was 19 & he was 33, I was 22 when we started dating. We took the same culinary arts classes and were paired as partners a lot, that's how our bond grew. It's the most pure, loving relationship I've ever been in :) I'm just saying this to say, not all men in age gap relationships are awful men. It's definitely case by case. I completely agree that a lot of those cases are awful , but you know what I mean
Edit: yall ended up saying this😂 I'll have to disagree on the parenting one. You don't have to be a parent to give education on how kids develop best. Brother could've worded it better and came off more as giving suggestions than judgement, so he's still ah for that. You can be a teacher, therapist, doctor etc and have better parenting info than a parent. Just because someone has kids doesn't make them an expert at raising them. And, just because someone isn't a parent doesn't mean their advice isn't valid. I think the message should be don't judge parents, bc even if it was another parent saying that, it would still be an ah move
WHAT THE FREAKING FRICK is with all the creepy underage/BARELY not-underage in this episode? Good gods, guys! This made the entire beginning of the episode horrifying and I was trying not to throw up/stifling revolted SCREAMS for the entire first three stories. ...maybe...mix it up a little next time, and/or try to avoid full-on THAT level of predatory, stories? :(
A kid who didn't know better???? Then why is she getting MARRIED?? As a teacher. While that brother was an AH but parents don't even listen to teachers. There children are monsters and they do nothing. There was something about this post, ever so slightly that they are those kind of parents.
42:50 my thing is Idk how Sean and John expected OP to get rid of him. He knew OP watched alone. OP stated that again when he showed up and he wasn’t wanting to leave. 44:46 why though? OP is willing til watch it again; why does OP have to further compromise?
ive neeeever heard someone say "aggy" as a gen z'er myself 😭😭 also i know someone who likes watching things by himself before watching it with other people. thats just how some people are. would it hurt a bit if my girlfriend didnt wanna watch things together for the first time around? i mean, yeah, probably. showing things i like to her would mean i cant be there with her as she experiences it, but id respect that boundary if she had it ops boyfriend KNOWS his gf's boundary, aka how she likes consuming media, andhe came over with (light) malicious intent imo
zoomer here...i've probably never heard anyone use the word aggy 😂 i rarely hear aggro either, but i would just know either from context clues. kiki/keke-ing is a slang term from the black/gay community and has been around for a long time. hope this helps lolol
I think it's just WEIRD in general to try and go over to someone's table, at a restaurant and try and hit on them!
Yeah unless you’re sitting at a bar, it’s super off-putting to have someone walk up to your table when you’re just trying to enjoy your meal. Bars are more of a social environment, tables are not
That cartoon is 100% Arcane. Arcane is love, and arcane is life. I'm totally with her.
I 100% was coming to the comments to say this haha.
Lmao I just started listening tocthe story and though the exact same thing !!!
Yep exactly what i thought! a master piece!
I am not, he ALSO wants to watch the show so why can´t they watch together? I would want us both to experiance the highs, lows and twists that is Arcane together. If they have already seen it they will not react the same and if I am sitting there crying alone and they just sit there sicne they knew it was coming I would feel super akward.
Being in a relationship doesn't mean you have to share everything. I also don't watch my favourite shows with my partner because I prefer watching them alone. That's my relaxation time ALONE.
There's nothing wrong with having things you prefer to do on your own, and your partner should respect that. If I had a pushy partner like him, I would feel overwhelmed and resentful. In a healthy relationship, you should have things that are solely for you.
If the boyfriend knows the deal, why does she need to _re-explain_ it to him? He's the AH by trying to insert himself before the show started and cross already established boundaries.
She reiterated it wasn't a good time right then and *anything* besides his leaving and seeing her later is AH behavior.
Story 3 even if they were all the same age, the second they asked him to leave and he didn’t, he’s a creep. Doesn’t matter why he wanted to keep standing there. He’s a creep. But he’s a creep for going up to them specifically because of her age, he’s a creep for talking his friend into helping despite his friend warning him he’s a creep, he’s a creep for telling them he wasn’t being creepy even though they specifically told him they were creeped out because it’s their right to tell him how they feel, not his.
A 31 year old hitting on 18-20 year olds is creepy. Weirdo behavior. The second they ask you to leave fkn gooooo fo people have no shame
The second part, when someone asks you to leave you go, goes for everyone IMO. Even a 22 year old (my age) is a creep if I tell them to leave and they continue to stay. The guy in the story is even more of a creep because of the age gap, however.
@SammyLammy1D exactlyyyyy! Don't even need to be making them uncomfortable. When someone asks you to go you listen
Story 1 dude is a total creepo, but even if OP, bf, and sister were all around the same age, it's super disrespectful to comment (repeatedly) on your gf's sister's body. That itself would be grounds for a breakup honestly. But the fact that he's clearly a PDF file is DEFINITELY grounds for dumping his pervy old ass.
He's also a groomer, i assume from the fact he goes after such younger women.
I find it so funny that he flirted with girls who were way younger than him, and then got offended when they reacted in a childish way.. like what did you expect?😭
Last story: Kids tend to be nicer around people they aren't very familiar with. If kids are "horrible" when their parents are around, it could mean they feel comfortable and safe with them. I'm surprised the brother hasn't learned this yet.
As a preschool teacher, I love being able to tell parents this. They are going to be meanest to you because they trust you the most ❤.
I'm very grateful for you all. Last Saturday we had to put our cat to sleep and I miss him so much. You all bring me so much comfort.
I'm so sorry to hear that. ❤️
I’m so sorry. No words will help but know this, I understand.❤
I’m so sorry. Would you like to tell us about your kitty? I lost one in September and I find talking about her helps. It’s ok if it’s too soon
I found them around the time I lost my kitty suddenly last year so hard. I wish the best for you. This video gave me lots of laughs
so sorry
i may be on the unpopular spectrum of the cartoon story but here is my view about it....we do not know how often he imposes himself past her boundaries or tries to control shit in her life...this man cannot stand that she wants satuday mornings for 3 weeks to herself without trying to control this because he just has to be in charge and they do not even live together. its a red flag to
me. he may try to control alot more than the op states in the story. and closing the door maybe the only way to get the coming fight to not happen because he will go round and around in circles saying the same thing and cause or just to cause her to mis her show.
I feel the same way. I don’t even think it matters what the boundary is, if there’s a boundary that has been set and she was pretty clear that this was a boundary and was good about communicating that, the partner pushing it is not okay. Ever. If it were any other thing, like meditation or something like that for self care, we would immediately be 100% on her side and not think she was in the wrong at all. The fact that it’s a cartoon is why people are making it seem like she did something wrong.
@@beepboop8374 you are absolutely right
100% my thoughts... He wasn't upset about not being able to watch the show, he was upset that she told him No.
1,000% If you say “no” to something, and the other person just shows up at your door? Close that door in their face, and never speak to them again. It will never get better
Same! I thought they were way too lenient on him (in suggesting she should've been kinder).
I met my husband on a dating website. At the time he was 25. He had set his lowest age to 22 because he said it felt creepy going after someone who just turned 18 while he already had a career, a kid, and an ex-wife.
AITA for wishing there were more AITA Fridays for 2024? Awesome job guys, you have been making my Fridays enjoyable because I can hear my favourite subreddit commentated by you all.
I listen to so many Reddit podcasts and stories but the third story has to be the best one to date. Singing remix to ignition while he walks away is just gold!
bf vs cartoons: i'm 100% the show OP is talking about is arcane. it can be extremely emotionally devastating to watch, so she probably really needed that extra me time to process it. Also I feel like she wanted to keep that boundary and he imposed, and invited himself in.
Edit: the episodes are like an hour each too, so she'd be rewatching it IMMEDIATELY after watching it herself.
I'm still crying over the show 😂
Right? He came to her door literally minutes before the show starts hoping that she couldn’t turn him away
He out here putting the man in manipulation.
But even if that’s not the case, why is OP a part of the ESH?
@@sharyebethancourt3660for being a bad partner, bad communicator and choosing some tv show over her partner more than once.
the cartoon story- OP set a boundary. her bf keeps trying to make her give in. she is absolutely not the ahole!! she shouldn't need to hear him out bc they've already discussed it. good for her for sending him home. maybe he's super annoying and chatty during shows, or chews loud 😅
The cartoon story. The boyfriend is the AH. I'm with Josh. The boyfriend seems controlling. I've know ppl like this, they try to cross every boundary they can, and if they can't insert themselves in certain situation, then they would try to remove you from said situation
Omg I have to comment about some of the "gen Z slang" but "Aggy", "kiki"/"akiki" is AAVE y'all, & it's been around since before gen z please not everything is theirs lmaaooo. "Aggro" means aggressive (that's more gen-z/not aave) and "Aggy" means aggravated.
Also also, y'all saying the restaurant was a chili's, I couldn't help but laugh at imagining this happening in a Dave & Buster's lmaaoooo
Love y'all!
I have never said or heard any other gen z use agro hahaha
@_sophie.love_ tbf, i think agro belongs to the millennials but idk😂
The babysitting story: op's brother lost me at "brat". You can have an opinion but as soon as you bring names like that into a discussion like this AFTER a family emergency.... gtfo.... unacceptable. I studied psychology and would NEVER do this.
Omg I'm an aunt and literally have walked past after my SIL and told them to clean up what she JUST said to clean and they hop to with no complaints, cuz I'm the aunt. Literally laughed out loud at work
The way I just know the show is arcane.
Yeah, that was my guess too. It does destroy your soul in a unique way. 😅
@ I can't even watch season two sadly, I just have a friend who raves about it which irks me because she drops a ton of spoilers. Lol
@smol1549 Oh no, spoilers are the worst. Maybe you can try to 🏴☠️ it?
@ looking into doin' that actually. Just like I'm doing with Voltron legendary defenders lol
The cartoon story was definitely just the tip of the iceburg with that couple for sure but in the end he crossed her boundaries so why are we even worrying about his feelings? Like he hurt himself in confusion so now its her fault? Ive been in her shoes where people told me to just work it out with people who always put my boundaries second to their feelings and never would ask someone else to do the same.
Yeah he didn’t care about what she wanted, and expected her to roll over and do things his way
To the cartoon vs. boyfriend story, the only thing I have to add, is that it seems like they don't have good communication maybe, since everytimes she mentions she wants to watch it by herself, he sulk, so why haven't they had a talk about, why it makes him feel bad(and to have a talk both sides need to be willing/ready to talk). Through that talk they could have solved it, found out that they are not a good match or that the boyfriend is not capable of respecting boundaries, and isn't worth staying with.
I think her saying how she prefers to watch it is communicative enough. He may not like it but this is her personal time / boundary & what she isn’t willing to budge on. What else is there to talk about?
@@Taewills The conversation could have been a mature way to end the relationship 🤷♀️. Being right doesn't absolve you of ending a relationship in a healthy way 🤷♀️ If you are that unwilling to involve him, to slam a door in his face, then you can end the relationship without being so rude. In today's World of DVR recordings and streams she had time to be polite with the ending of the relationship with someone whose biggest fault is wanting to watch shows together. She certainly not wrong in her preference. But neither is he. They just are not compatible 🤷♀️
What about he just respects her wish to watch the show alone? She doesn't have to hear him out especially since it's not the first time she told him she wants to watch the show alone. He needs to stfu and grow up.
I think the mature conversation kind of went out the window when he decided to try and bulldoze over her saying "no".
That's his biggest fault, not "wanting to watch shows together".
I want a lot of things, but if the other person isn't on board, I don't try and browbeat them into it. We'll discuss feelings and expectations, but in the end I respect their decisions.
@ The thing is, OP did have a mature convo before he showed up. And it sounded like she tried to send him home politely. It’s a good thing she didn’t allow him to bulldoze his way through bc after the initial rejection he wouldn’t accept her NO. He rather argue & eat up her personal time….
Hell naw
I don’t like the ESH vote bc it sends the wrong message. Just bc he’s her S.O. doesn’t mean she HAS to spend time with him in the manner he wants. It doesn’t mean she should WANT to either. Not everyone is the same- he’s not her child where she has to make all the effort and meet him at his level.
The cartoon OP is absolutely not the asshole! This a an activity she does by herself that brings her a lot of joy. She gently, but firmly, set her boundaries. Her boyfriend (a grown ass man) did everything he could to negotiate those boundaries. That’s not something you do to something you love. Imagine your wife really loved going for a morning walk by herself. It was a peaceful way to start the day. Would you insist on going with her? Calling her names if she declined? This is a control tactic on the boyfriend’s part. He is trying to infiltrate the autonomous aspects of her life. Get out of there girl
That’s my thing. Replace a cartoon with something else. Why does OP have to share? Why is OP a part of the ESH for enforcing boundaries?
That’s my thing. Replace a cartoon with something else. Why does OP have to share? Why is OP a part of the ESH for enforcing boundaries?
Small correction, the royalties don’t go to the victims of R. Kelly forever, only up to a certain amount to cover their legal fees I think. I’m not sure if they receive financial compensation anymore.
@@kianaolive I mean, he was ordered to pay a certain amount & once each victim is “made whole” then it’ll go to his estate. But it was only ordered last year so I suppose in the next few years it’s ok to stream his music.
Personally I’ve been without it for so long I don’t miss it ( with the exception of Aaliyah’s early music).
The brother who babysat. Did he cook dinner? Did he clean/tidy? Do the laundry? Go to work? Take them to little league? Did he do any parenting? Sounds like he did what a teenager usually does when they baaaaabysit
Studying child psychology and he doesn't know kids are always worse for their parents because they trust their parents to love them despite their emotions...
Predator is not solely a ped. It is a behaviour, not a title.
45:42 but why does that matter? Why isn’t it enough that OP set a boundary and he did all he could to violate it?
Story 3 was the funniest 😂! That guy was completely delulu. His poor friend. He should feel bad he got flamed by teens😂😂😂. I can't 😭😂
The way I cackled at them singing! 😂😂
As a person who has many years of babysitting/childcare under their belt, was halfway through my child psychology degree before I changed courses, a former teacher, a current parent, and someone who comes from a HUGE family that almost always has a baby somewhere... I have thoughts about that last story.
The differences between watching children for any set amount of time and being a 24/7 parent are vast and many. There is no way that a college student having taken a couple of child psych classes (even if they contained lab hours dealing with children) has a clue about parenting. Almost anyone can watch a child for 12 hours and keep them entertained, fed, alive, and off of electronics. It is nearly impossible to do that, every single day, as a parent. A babysitter isn't having to worry about the household chores or bills or making sure there is food on the table. A babysitter isn't having to juggle a full time job and parenting.
Is the brother learning some psychological facts about kids that may be beneficial to his brother and SIL? Probably, but to blatantly say that after watching kids for 12 hours, that he has ANY clue about being a full time parent and telling the actual parents that they are horrible parents... he is the biggest douche canoe ever.
Yes, anyone and everyone has opinions on parenting. And everyone parents a little differently. And not everyone should be a parent. But in any facet of life, when you decide to dole out insults dripping with your own self-righteousness with no shared experience, you are in the wrong. Perhaps OP and SIL would have listened if lil bro wasn't coming at them like a cocky little know-it-all just because he took a couple of classes and doesn't even have his degree yet.
Honestly, if I was OP, I would start recording ALL of his brother's parenting rants just to throw them back in his face when he becomes a parent and reality hits... HARD. LOL. OP... just wait... Karma will get him and if you want to encourage it, just give him the "Mother's Curse" and tell him that you hope he has a kid just like him. It works 100% of the time and I promise you... it is HUMBLING. LOL.
I always say that the hardest part of parenting, for me, has been the sleep deprivation- day in and day out, with no hope for reprieve. Sleep deprivation is used as torture to break the wills of prisoners and it WORKS. I spent three years of my life waking up every two hours and working full time. Now that my kids are a little older, I'm just now getting enough sleep that i don't have occasional audio hallucinations anymore. If brother is so damn perfect, he can take the kids for a long weekend so the parents can take a break and get some perspective.
That last oen is definitely about Arcane. I would sell my neighbours to rewatch ut with new eyes. I love it. Its thr onky thing on my shorts. That being yhe case i am making loved ones watch it and was watching it with mu best friend (fellow analyst of films and shows). I only eatched ut with her because i knwo we could just focus on the show. Arcane and the type of show you can watch three times in a row and have a new perspective on each time
I love how I'm on my phone which gets a lot of ads. So Sean yelled PREDATOR and then I got an ad immediately 😂
The Pretty Little Liars call out lmao!
Me sitting there knowing I love that show: 🫣😅
I don’t like Aria and Ezra’s relationship though. Super weird and creepy.
@ebonyscherr7685 when I watched for the first time I was really young and thought that Aria was in college 😂😂😂
@@ticiale20 She did take a college photography class if I can remember💀😂
Creepy guy: it’s so funny that he’s mad that he got bullied as if he’s in high school while hitting on teenagers. I’m sorry were you expecting a mature flirting interaction with “women” who may still be in highschool.
About the 30 year old hitting on the 19 year old: even if he didn’t have the intention of making them uncomfortable, they made it clear they were uncomfortable with his behavior, so he’s at fault for not accepting that. Instead of instantly apologizing and walking away (or even just walking away), he tries to make them seem wrong for being uncomfortable.
Also, he said there’s nothing wrong with adults hitting on other adults, but even if they were the same age, there would still be an issue. If anyone expressed they didn’t want to be hit on and they wanted him to leave them be, he would be wrong for not respecting that, regardless of their age. Even with them both being legal adults, they don’t owe him a chance with them, or any of their time. Not respecting that can turn into harassment, even between two adults of the same age.
That guy was infuriating
Yeah, it sounds like the cartoon op bfs was pushing boundries repeatedly after she's already stated them. People are allowed to have things that are just theirs. It's 1 hour a week that she wants to be alone and consume the media.
She can include him, but also, she's allowed to want to consume and process it alone first if that's whats best for her. Especially if its a show like Arcane that can be INTENSE.
If he wants to watch something for the first time together, then he could sugest they work together to find something else that they could do that with. But instead of trying to make that compromise at a reasonable time, he tried to force his way into her personal alone time that shed set a boundry about. Then he got angry when she held strong on that boundry.
Couple's dont have to do everything together. Her watching this show doesn’t mean she doesn’t share any of her interests with him. Its just one single thing she wants to keep to herself.
It makes me wonder if the boundry pushing is something he makes a habit of.
John is a pocket king, I freaking love when he pops off 😂😂😂
The fourth story:
So he's (a bit) significantly older AND he's pushing her boundaries... yeah, I don't know about this guy 🤨
kiki-ing is a queer term not gen z slang !
It's actually aave but im with you on the not being gen-z part
aggy is not a gen z thing lol I think they’re british. I’m surprised they even know ignition and r kelly. I’m 24 and barely know 😂😂
Hope you guys like the stories I picked for the 12 days of midscore.
23:38 absolutely _LOVED_ this!
Don’t kill me Mrs John lol
I agree that in the cartoon story it's probably just a case of different preferences clashing, matched up with poor communication (and respect of boundaries) from the boyfriend.
I'm one of those people who prefers to watch shows/movies (or play games) I'm really interested in alone for the first time, because I want to be able to focus solely on them and form my own opinions. Then rewatching with someone is much more fun because we can actually talk about the media and point out things the other might have missed. But I get that a lot of people (especially couples) prefer to watch things together and that's fine, we all have different tastes.
Also, like others have said, the cartoon definitely was Arcane. It's absolutely gorgeous 💙
For story #4 i think the girl was too young to verbalize, or perhaps pinpoint, the real issue she was having. It wasn't about choosing a cartoon over her boyfriend, it was about setting a boundary regarding how she wanted to spend her time and he crossed it. She wanted her Saturday mornings to eat, rest, and watch. Ee don't know the context for if this, if is the only time she gets etc., but our partners are allowed to do things on their own. He crossed her boundary and he won't even let her have her Saturday cartoon time, what else will he not let her do for herself down the line?
If we leave the ages out of it for a second, the fact that he reacted to rejection with "how dare they reject me" attitude, blame towards his friend, and anger at how he felt "unfairly targeted" at everyone but himself is scary and unhinged behavior. The predatory nature only adds to the creep factor and the need for him to "get therapy!"
54:11 😂😂😂😂 He thinks babysitting is the same as being a parent
I have to say, I'm with OP on this one (cartoon vs. BF). Just let her enjoy on her own.
Brother babysitting: Yeah, he's a MASSIVE AH! 12 hours does not a parent make. He got to be the fun uncle for a few hours, he's not their parent. Geez!
With the birthday party story, it doesn't matter how old they are. They could have been his age, hell they could have been older than him, you don't just waltz up to a group of strangers and force yourself into their party 🤦♀️
32:05 John translating the gen z speak is so adorable and funny hahahaha 🤣🤣🤣🤣
The show is called Arcane and it is awesome. Highly recommend
46:50 The Cartoon and The Boyfriend. The boyfriend’s behavior was 100% manipulative and disrespectful. You don’t show to an event when you know you are not welcome ten minutes before it starts.
Not without the goal being to either force the person to do what you want, or forego their event in order to explain (again) why they don’t want you there. He basically pushed her into a situation where her choice was to miss part of the show arguing with him, let him in to watch, or close the door.
Much respect to her for enforcing her boundary.
I’m 15 and have listened to you guys for a while now, ashamed to say that I believed in Santa for wayyy too long lol
ARCANE MENTION??? Op is so valid bc im still processing season 2 and my many many breakdowns
36:52 I don’t know. Late night Applebee’s turns up.😂😂😂😂😂
Last AITA Friday of 2024!!!
Someone needs to call Kendrick on that first guy
42:04 I don’t get the ESH.
It didn’t seem like dude would leave. Like, slamming a door isn’t necessarily polite, but what else is OP supposed to do?
It feels like y’all are expecting OP to be polite for the sake of being polite, but why does OP _have_ to watch it with him? I don’t understand why OP sucks here when OP set boundaries and he tried to violate that boundary and OP stopped it. What’s a better way for OP to enforce this boundary? Also, replace the show with something else? And why does OP have to hear him out? Why is OPs boundary not good enough?
mostly because it is extremely immature to do all this over a tv show, from his perspective, she is hiding something very important to her from him. something so important that she slammed the door. they are definitely incompatible and he is definitely in the wrong but she is no saint
@sharyebethancourt3660 I completely agree with you. Everything doesn't have to be shared. He should have respected her boundaries. There are important things in my life that I will NEVER share with my partner, because they are mine to keep and enjoy. They are what make me me, and what give me autonomy within a relationship. He also has activities he refuses to do with me, and I respect his boundaries. You don't have to merge and became one person just because you're in a relationship. Keep your individual hobbies and de-stressors if that's what makes you happy.
@@darylenelorde8388 refusing to do something with your partner to
the point of slamming a door and yelling is not normal behavior. seek therapy
@@GRFNSTY She's not hiding anything, she said they would watch together later. She didn't do anything wrong. He deserved to get slammed in the face, she told him to leave and he didn't
Arcane fans lets gooo (I think that’s the show)
Great episode to end this era of the show and look forward to what yall do for 2025 as well as the Midscore bonus content 😊
Shout out to y'all entertaining me while I'm at work 😊
Maddie and the ring: I was HOT! I would’ve been like, Claire you need to get the ring back or I will make it a living hell for everyone. I will announce about the stolen ring at every family gathering, the wedding, the rehearsal, the reception until the day I die. It will go down in the family history.
My mom used to tell me that parenting doesn't come with an instruction manual. Nobody knows what they're really doing, and nobody wants to hear how their parenting is wrong. Even if he had kids and were raising them as he claimed and even if it was working, they still wouldn't have wanted to hear it.
It's refreshing to hear men actually going "yo wtf" instead of... the shit people say.
Last story: to a degree the brother may be a little right. Kids will steamroll their parents if the parents allow it. (I’m a parent). Bro is an asshole for HOW he said it. He could’ve gave a few pointers about how he got them to do whatever it is they did but again he only had them for 12 hours so it might not work all the time. I get both points of view for sure
🎉2024🎉
It’s amazing to see yall grow, happy holidays Wikimaniacs!
I used to think 14-year-olds were hot/good-looking... when I was like 12-15 myself!!! It is so weird to me when actual adults look at teenagers and think they are "hot." It is disgusting.
Even when i was 16 a 14 year old seemed to young for me!
He was making her late for her show and he was being a stalking bully.
She needs to dump him.
He would ruin the show.
36:00 @sean, I have gone out to bar & grills for “nights out” since turning 21, but it’s usually like an Applebees bc they have those good ass drink deals 😂😂 I haven’t been back since I went to one and someone who used to be my BOSS tried hitting on me, seemingly not realizing I used to work w him 😂😂 I woulda been like 26 at the time and that dude was at least in his 40’s 😂
I have never met a parent who wanted unsolicited feedback
About the last story:
Keeping kids away from screens IS easy. That I agree with. I'm a mother of three girls, aged 7, 5 and 3 and they're allowed to watch TV for 1 hour on sunday. That's it :) that only works ofc, as long as my husband and I don't use screens around them, which is a little harder, I admit, but not truly hard.
About the kids being less "bratty", ofc they were. They always behave better around other people x) that's why pretty much every parent out there has heard the phrase "I don't know what your problem is. They're so well behaved!" xD
All in all, as long as you don't have kids yourself, it's absolutely impossible to really know what it's like. You imagine all the scenarios and how you'll handle them perfectly, like in a textbook. Then you become a parent and it's all different and nowhere near how you imagined it to be xD
Not better, not worse. Just different ^^
I am 21 and even I would feel weird dating someone who's 18. In the three years after I finished school, I have learned so much, grown as a person and made important experiences that have shaped me to become the adult I barely am today. I cannot for the life of me understand how someone 10 years older than me can look at a group of 18/19 year-olds and think "yup, that's exactly what I am looking for". That is so disgusting.
Also, if I were that guy's friend, I wouldn't be anymore after that.
Bless your hearts (sigh).
If there is one thing I've learned in my many more decades on earth than most here (I think), it's that no parent EVER wants to hear about parenting from someone who isn't a parent. It doesn't matter when or how it's presented, constructive or not- just don't.
Of course we all judge before we are parents, only to whisper "damn it" to ourselves every single time we realized how very wrong we were (of which there are many)!
I would love to be a fly on the wall the way Sean is so unhinged about this, I could imagine him being with these families and telling them off.
I look forward to you guys every Friday and Monday
I am on your side when it comes to watching the kids story. The brother was flexing his education vs the actual parents experience. In life there is the study and theory vs the actual practice.
41:20 I had so listen again. I still don’t get the ESH. He knew how OP felt and showed up with all this manipulative stuff.
"I'm stuck" was so fucking cute lol
Bf and cartoon story: she set her boundary. He crossed it in the most disrespectful way by trying to ambush her RIGHT when it started. You can tell how little he thinks about her with that simple action. She is NTA and this is a red flag in his behavior.
Parenting story: brother is probably right about certain things bc of his degree, but I have found that not saying anything and waiting for parents to come to you as a professional is much better. I’m a former preschool teacher and am great with kids 2-5 years old. I would never give advice to a parent that didn’t ask for it, but family and friends have asked me for my opinion on how to deal with their children after seeing how the kids react to me when I watch them. You catch more bees with honey or whatever the saying is. The parents would have ask him how he did it if he just explained what they did and how well they behaved. No need to be rude.
this may be the first time I've seen Sean and John without a hat
48:02 Never set a president where someone gets to decide your boundary doesn't apply. She was clear, and he clearly ignored that. 🚩
Can we normalise not hearing out people sometimes? Story with OP wanting to watch her show alone ... why should she have to listen to him when he showed up unannounced, at her door ... that is so scary, like wtf. She clearly stated she wants to watch it on her own so let her watch it alone. As simple as that. She doesnt need an explanation or whatever to be respected. Leave her alone and respect her
because thats what a relationship and dating is. you communicate or you dont date.
because thats what a relationship and dating is. you communicate or you dont date.
The way the "gen z" phrases in story 3 is actually aave
Bro not everyone should be a parent🤦🏾♀️
For the final one, she's asking if she crossed the line
I’m a full time nanny and uncle is definitely out of line to call names and probably an overinflated ego. I WILL SAY I do recommend to all my families to have as little screen time as possible (especially unsupervised) because tablets are made to be addictive to young kids and some other reasons. Again it’s their kids, some screen time is fine, and kids do tend to act out more with their everyday parents/guardians than they do babysitters.
Many PLL fans now realize how wrong PLL was!
41:46 Naw, the bf is an ah, not OP. She set a boundary of wanting to watch the show alone and he decided he was going to trample it and do as he wanted. Anime isn't cartoons. Anime is usually serial, has a plot and character development (if it's any good). It's the same as any series except the characters are drawn instead of live acted. So wanting to watch a finale that you're invested in alone is completely understandable.
Last Parent story….messed up to ban him from seeing his nieces and nephews and withhold pay.
I get we don’t want to hear where we can do better as parents, but there’s always room for improvement for every parent. I’m a parent and I know I’m not perfect.
If constructive criticism comes with respect that’s totally okay. Especially If it’s what’s best for the kids future…that’s important….these children are OUR future and the kids kinda do seem like brats. The parents are in the trenches because they had one right after another instead of having space between the children to relish in their growth and be present with each child individually.
My mother and stepfather had 4 at once too. They got too exhausted and lazy and pawned it off on me. I became the patient and loving THiRD parent. While they used the TV to babysit and were always stressed, I interacted with them. They lived it..but so did I all while being in high school/college.
I was similar to the younger brother because I saw where they needed to improve instead of being stressed and lazy. They also needed to improve their mood and mindset so it would overflow into their children. Everyone would be happy. I made suggestions and they never used it to improve and change to make everyone’s lives easier. Needless to say, my siblings gravitated towards me and have a different type of love for me. They knew to come to me and still do. They’re almost all adults and still to this day we are very close and that’s because I implemented the structure they desperately needed at a young age. It made my life easier and more importantly it made their lives easier. They trusted me and knew I was the one to fall on. I showed them love and peace when our mom and my stepfather chose stress and TV. Also sugar is what makes them act-out even more so you’re fighting fire with fire lollll. Not saying I hate it but if you’re using that as a system you can’t be shocked when they act out.
I learned what not to do by watching and learning from them. Now I use that knowledge with my child. I’m sure this is similar to what the brother felt. Unfortunately he had a kinda poor delivery system lol. I think OP might be a little upset because of the success his brother had too. Again, he should have delivered the information in a more productive manner. But he’s not wrong. Step up OP you’re raising our future. Make the best of it. They grow so quick.
I am so on the arcane op's side. What i would give to watch that beautiful show again. I actively kepy saying no to watching it with my mom and stepdad because it just wasn't the same. I wasn't able to get as hype or as depressed
was the cartoon show Arcane?
I wanted to post personal story (WIBTA), but I don't know how to do it properly, because I don't have a clue how I can warn people about some things in it and how to use reddit in general.
The ESH take on the cartoon (definitely Arcane lol) story left such a bad taste in my mouth. All this woman did was set boundaries and somehow she’s bad for that? Even in your commentary you guys acknowledge she all she did was set a boundary and the boyfriend was the one overstepping and disrespecting her. Shes been waiting for this for so long and I’m right along with her!!! It’s completely understandable that she’d want to process all the emotion that comes with the finale of that show alone. And then IMMEDIATELY watch it again WITH her boyfriend so it’s not like she’s excluding him from her interests at all. She did NOTHING wrong.
she is in fact excluding him. so often that he resorted to this. they shouldn’t be together but she isn’t free of being very very dismissive over an interest. also to get upset at your partner for coming over shows her true feelings about him. not talking to him about the situation because of a tv show is all very immature and disrespectful behavior. if the genders were reversed you would agree.
she is in fact excluding him. so often that he resorted to this. they shouldn’t be together but she isn’t free of being very very dismissive over an interest. also to get upset at your partner for coming over shows her true feelings about him. not talking to him about the situation because of a tv show is all very immature and disrespectful behavior. if the genders were reversed you would agree.
I agree, Kelly. Maybe this is a case of neurotypicals vs neurodivergents. I have no idea, but it left such a bad taste in my mouth. I wouldn't date someone like her boyfriend because I would be overwhelmed within a week.
I dislike people that can't let their partners exist as an individual within a relationship. We don't have to do everything together just because we're dating! And I don't share my hobbies. The whole point of my hobbies is that they relax me because I do them ALONE. OP seems to be the same and set that clear boundary which he disrespected. Even offering to do it together immediately after is very generous.
@@darylenelorde8388 exactly this is your bias. you are not reading the situation objectively. she was extremely rude and he was extremely disrespectful. they shouldn’t be together because they obviously don’t respect each other
8:08 😂😂😂
9:59 just like anything else, not all age gap relationships are gross and groomy and toxic. I met my partner when I was 19 & he was 33, I was 22 when we started dating. We took the same culinary arts classes and were paired as partners a lot, that's how our bond grew. It's the most pure, loving relationship I've ever been in :) I'm just saying this to say, not all men in age gap relationships are awful men. It's definitely case by case. I completely agree that a lot of those cases are awful , but you know what I mean
Edit: yall ended up saying this😂
I'll have to disagree on the parenting one. You don't have to be a parent to give education on how kids develop best. Brother could've worded it better and came off more as giving suggestions than judgement, so he's still ah for that. You can be a teacher, therapist, doctor etc and have better parenting info than a parent. Just because someone has kids doesn't make them an expert at raising them. And, just because someone isn't a parent doesn't mean their advice isn't valid. I think the message should be don't judge parents, bc even if it was another parent saying that, it would still be an ah move
WHAT THE FREAKING FRICK is with all the creepy underage/BARELY not-underage in this episode? Good gods, guys! This made the entire beginning of the episode horrifying and I was trying not to throw up/stifling revolted SCREAMS for the entire first three stories.
...maybe...mix it up a little next time, and/or try to avoid full-on THAT level of predatory, stories? :(
A kid who didn't know better???? Then why is she getting MARRIED??
As a teacher. While that brother was an AH but parents don't even listen to teachers. There children are monsters and they do nothing. There was something about this post, ever so slightly that they are those kind of parents.
42:50 my thing is Idk how Sean and John expected OP to get rid of him. He knew OP watched alone. OP stated that again when he showed up and he wasn’t wanting to leave.
44:46 why though? OP is willing til watch it again; why does OP have to further compromise?
ive neeeever heard someone say "aggy" as a gen z'er myself 😭😭
also i know someone who likes watching things by himself before watching it with other people. thats just how some people are. would it hurt a bit if my girlfriend didnt wanna watch things together for the first time around? i mean, yeah, probably. showing things i like to her would mean i cant be there with her as she experiences it, but id respect that boundary if she had it
ops boyfriend KNOWS his gf's boundary, aka how she likes consuming media, andhe came over with (light) malicious intent imo
zoomer here...i've probably never heard anyone use the word aggy 😂 i rarely hear aggro either, but i would just know either from context clues. kiki/keke-ing is a slang term from the black/gay community and has been around for a long time. hope this helps lolol