I agree. People talk about loneliness as though it's a bad thing. We're told how much we'll suffer (and even die up to 14 years earlier) from not having connection with others. It's not completely true. You'll only suffer if you view loneliness as a bad thing. Having suffered from major depression (and lots of anxiety thrown in) I've become more and more isolated due to my illness. Due to anxiety and some physical illness I wasn't able to get out and meet new people on a regular basis. For some time, not having a good relationship with my family; not having a family (spouse/children) of my own; having very few close friends- these things did cause me some upset while I was comparing myself to the 'norm.' Comparison- the thief of joy- we all know it if we're on social media. We see others' lives and wonder why we don't have what they have. But so much of what we envision there is not true. It's only small glimpses of their lives. And so much of what others' value (eg good looks, money, career, social reputation, popularity) is shallow and fleeting. We have to teach ourselves to find true value and meaning and to cast off that which is shallow and weak. I have learnt to accept 'alone-ness' as part of my life. I have learnt to see the advantages in it. I haven't become a complete hermit and I don't shun other people. I still like to have some contact with people- even if it's fleeting or just via online means. I don't shy away from talking to people I've just met when I'm out (as simply as when sitting in a cafe and chatting to the person at the next table). I am quite a sociable being. In the end, it's about being content. Being content no matter what the circumstance. Being satisfied, and even grateful, for what I do have. Even if physically and materially I have very little, I can be satisfied with what I do have in character. My characteristics, talents and skills are all things I'm proud to call my own. No one can take away my past achievements. No one can take away my pride in overcoming some difficult times while maintaining my integrity. Even if I do lose all rational thought (again- as my brain just might do), I'll continue to hold on to these basic virtues.
Exactly, people don't realize there isn't a happily ever after 24/7/365, no matter what (especially because we are Survival Beings more than "enjoying everything in the present & all small joys" type of being. Maybe marriage/ large group of friends is the ideal for some, but not all
What a lovely , deep and sensitive lady. I love her honesty. Perhaps her early circumstances have set the stage for her evolved sense of being. She reminds me of my grandmother who would always say :"Do't sit around and bemoan your fate". Make a life.
i agree just accept the emotion. surf the emotion and it wont bother you. if you pay attention to it and try to resist it it will become stronger. however if you let it have its place and embrace it it wont bother you. Sounds paradoxical but thats psycology
Only thing that cures my loneliness is touch, being in a close embrace with a woman. Nothing else matters. Cant help it. talking to dogwalkers or treating myself with stuff really doesnt help at all
I believe the word happiness is related to happenstance hence the very root of the word themes it just happens and then it's gone but it will come again so yes let's be content to be alone which when I was very young I translated to all 1 actually if you ask women who have reached maybe a hundred or so what is the key to their long life they will say they never married where they'll only I don't really think so they were simply alone all one
I think there's wisdom in this video, especially concerning the closing statement. But I don't necessarily agree with the disparagement of looking for community. I don't think social media is the final answer to anyone's social needs, but it's certainly a start. The mere ability to connect with people from around the world, however chaotic and unsustainable, is a development that I wouldn't trade away. And I say... let's keep going. Now that we have the ability to connect from across the world, let's find ways to use it for good. I want to believe in the power of community. While maintaining the self is important, I believe that a strong community can only do good in our self maintenance. Social media is flawed, so let's work with it more. Let's use our creativity to find better ways to connect and feel seen. But, since I will die some day, I do believe that I have to accept my loneliness as this video says. I will try to make peace with my loneliness, but I can still pursue a better, less lonely future for myself and others, you know?
"Follow your loneliness" I love that quote and motto. I need to start doing this.
Happiness is fleeting...but PEACE is consistant..you can choose it regardless of circumstance...and the only constant is change...
Só much truth in your words and peace cames from not have the need of change .
I agree. People talk about loneliness as though it's a bad thing. We're told how much we'll suffer (and even die up to 14 years earlier) from not having connection with others. It's not completely true. You'll only suffer if you view loneliness as a bad thing.
Having suffered from major depression (and lots of anxiety thrown in) I've become more and more isolated due to my illness. Due to anxiety and some physical illness I wasn't able to get out and meet new people on a regular basis. For some time, not having a good relationship with my family; not having a family (spouse/children) of my own; having very few close friends- these things did cause me some upset while I was comparing myself to the 'norm.' Comparison- the thief of joy- we all know it if we're on social media. We see others' lives and wonder why we don't have what they have. But so much of what we envision there is not true. It's only small glimpses of their lives. And so much of what others' value (eg good looks, money, career, social reputation, popularity) is shallow and fleeting. We have to teach ourselves to find true value and meaning and to cast off that which is shallow and weak.
I have learnt to accept 'alone-ness' as part of my life. I have learnt to see the advantages in it. I haven't become a complete hermit and I don't shun other people. I still like to have some contact with people- even if it's fleeting or just via online means. I don't shy away from talking to people I've just met when I'm out (as simply as when sitting in a cafe and chatting to the person at the next table). I am quite a sociable being.
In the end, it's about being content. Being content no matter what the circumstance. Being satisfied, and even grateful, for what I do have. Even if physically and materially I have very little, I can be satisfied with what I do have in character. My characteristics, talents and skills are all things I'm proud to call my own. No one can take away my past achievements. No one can take away my pride in overcoming some difficult times while maintaining my integrity. Even if I do lose all rational thought (again- as my brain just might do), I'll continue to hold on to these basic virtues.
Perfectly said. Thank you.
Thank you
Great comment! Thanks.
So enjoyed this. No, things are not necessarily good at the moment but I'm good in it. Thank you.
For creative humans, loneliness is needed! Thank you!
Happiness is definitely over rated - it has ups and downs. It's not a stable state. Life is constant change and that is good :-) keeps us open.
Exactly, people don't realize there isn't a happily ever after 24/7/365, no matter what (especially because we are Survival Beings more than "enjoying everything in the present & all small joys" type of being. Maybe marriage/ large group of friends is the ideal for some, but not all
Wonderfully said👏🏻 Thank you 🧿
What a lovely , deep and sensitive lady. I love her honesty. Perhaps her early circumstances have set the stage for her evolved sense of being. She reminds me of my grandmother who would always say :"Do't sit around and bemoan your fate". Make a life.
I so agree I have been so content living alone no regrets
Oh such wise words, so inspiring!! Makes me so happy to see and hear this wonderful woman! Thank you ❤️💜❤️
Can't thank you enough ❤️you've changed my perspective about loneliness
Very good advise. Ty.
Life is beautiful, but not everybody can see this as a obvious state ✨
She’s beyond awesome!! Thanks for making this video ♥️
Georgia O'Keefe said (bit of a paraphrase) Happiness is overrated, not to mention fleeting. Staying interested is much more important.
Thank you
i agree just accept the emotion. surf the emotion and it wont bother you. if you pay attention to it and try to resist it it will become stronger. however if you let it have its place and embrace it it wont bother you. Sounds paradoxical but thats psycology
I feel like we could be good friends, enjoy your video.
Inspiring words. Thank you for sharing! :-)
Thanks so much for this view! Coming in the right moment...💋
Loved this video. Thanks.
Thank you 🥺
Oh, this is chock-a-block with YES YES YES -- and just when the YES starts to subside, more YES. Ms. Carey, you made my day, and it's only 5:34 a.m.
Well said
Very inspiring ♥️
Resilience and contentment. Yasss!
Honest woman!!!
I've been using the word contentment for a long time. Never liked the word happy. So superficial...means nothing. Not lasting.
Only thing that cures my loneliness is touch, being in a close embrace with a woman. Nothing else matters. Cant help it.
talking to dogwalkers or treating myself with stuff really doesnt help at all
Lovely Wise Woman xoxo
I believe the word happiness is related to happenstance hence the very root of the word themes it just happens and then it's gone but it will come again so yes let's be content to be alone which when I was very young I translated to all 1 actually if you ask women who have reached maybe a hundred or so what is the key to their long life they will say they never married where they'll only I don't really think so they were simply alone all one
Me and her are the same
I think there's wisdom in this video, especially concerning the closing statement. But I don't necessarily agree with the disparagement of looking for community. I don't think social media is the final answer to anyone's social needs, but it's certainly a start. The mere ability to connect with people from around the world, however chaotic and unsustainable, is a development that I wouldn't trade away. And I say... let's keep going. Now that we have the ability to connect from across the world, let's find ways to use it for good. I want to believe in the power of community. While maintaining the self is important, I believe that a strong community can only do good in our self maintenance. Social media is flawed, so let's work with it more. Let's use our creativity to find better ways to connect and feel seen. But, since I will die some day, I do believe that I have to accept my loneliness as this video says. I will try to make peace with my loneliness, but I can still pursue a better, less lonely future for myself and others, you know?
This lovely lady did a singing event with her cat, unfortunately as she started singing the cat became annoyed.
You're not selling it to me tbh. I'll keep looking