living with a passive-aggressive person is the most tiring and tedious thing I've ever done. They word situations in a way to make out that they are never the problem, never acknowledge any positive things you do, and use silence as a weapon. I'm a confident person but I realize I spend so much time concerned with 'what did I do wrong' recently. What makes things worse with passive-aggressive people, is that the annoying things they do are small enough to go unnoticed or not worth confronting, but big enough to be somewhat teadious.. Don't ever move in with one!!
Michael Jackson I wish that was the case, but i totally was being passive aggressive. I’m not going to be that way again though. So nasty of me to behave that way. Lol
Hey but by being straightforward you could learn wonderful things and it teach also the wonderful world of open mindedness ;), i believe the problem that solved by being straightforward will give significant improveness, rather than avoid it ;)
Being straightforward is incredible difficult, it often requires more courage than we initially expect. Truth is, that being straightforward is incredibly vulnerable, we are showing someone how we feel and typically taking some type of risk. I hope you are being patient with yourself.
It is possible to be straightforward without starting a conflict. If you choose a time when you’re calm and relaxed, and express what you need to say kindly in one or two sentences, it can work very well. The expression has to be phrased like a neutral comment though, not a blame.
@@kusumlata1390 When you ghost them they claim you're being a prick and ignoring them for no reason. Alternatively, if you try talking to them for treating you badly, they'll tell people you confronted/abused them and now they are intimidated by you. Ghosting or going no contact is the best option.
@@kusumlata1390 That's just my opinion from years of dealing with them. I'm more than happy to hear what you think they might want, as I'm always keen for a different point of view and the chance to learn more.
Makes me wonder how I kept saying I got anger issues in my elementary years when my older sister told me I wasn't even that aggressive back then, but turns out I was just really too passive aggressive to the point every anger I had those years were just kept deep inside my memory.
I had one of those self-revealing moments where I realized “wait…I’M passive aggressive!” I felt so silly for not seeing it. And so embarrassed for behaving this way for so many years. So time for some self-work.
THANKS FOR GIVING US HOPE THAT THOSE WHO HAVE TO DEAL WITH THESE PEOPLE ARE CAPABLE OF ACKNOWLEDGING IT AND BEING ABLE TO WORK TOWARDS MAKING CHANGES JUST BY ACKNOWLEDGING IT COULD SAVE SO MANY RELATIONSHIPS BECAUSE THE WORST PART IS THE BEHIND THE SCENES CRAZY MAKING THAT PICKS AT AN OPEN WOUND PREVENTING ANY TYPE OF HEALING THAT BECOMES TOXIC REALLY QUICKLY WITH NO CHANCE OF SURVIVAL DUE TO THE CONTINUOUS BOUNDARIES THAT ARE CONSTANTLY CROSSED AND CANT BE REVERSED AND IT ALWAYS SEEMS LIKE OKAY THERES NO WAY THEY CAN TOP THIS BUT THATS TAKEN AS A DARE SO I COMMEND YOU AND WISH YOU THE BEST
I once chose the straightforward way of resolving conflict but that got me into a bigger problem. What I am trying to say is sometimes being passive aggressive is a good way to send a signal to a person that your mad at without directly letting them know what’s wrong because some people are just very angry and aggressive.
Thats not passive-aggressive if its in response to a person’s crappy behavior. Passive-aggressive is just like it sounds - a covert, snake in the grass form of attack. If I stop talking to someone because they knowingly, willingly hurt my feelings me not talking to them is not passive-aggressive behavior; it is defence against their toxic behavior.
Ummm NO!! If they are showing signs of anger... perhaps your indirect communication is DRIVING THEM NUTS!! P.A personalities harbour unresolved anger/resentment... The relationship becomes a war of attrition. If you can't engage in dialogue to express your wants/needs/concerns etc, its poor form to covertly take a hostage by entering into a relationship. ✌🏻
@Saif Bakri I would say that you are correct. I hate when people make it seem like it doesn't have its place. If someone is demeaning, coming at you and you flat out go at their throat, this could seriously escalate things in most cases. Being passive-aggressive can be a blowoff value, get your point across and you can control the situation more by adjusting your responses if it's starting to escalate. It's better than being upfront sometimes (which can potentially cause a fight) or just standing there and taking it which could lead to depression or more aggression. Now obviously it could become problematic if you start doing it to people who don't deserve it like someone who honestly made a mistake for example. So I do think it has its place for a certain situations, especially when dealing with people who lack accountability for their actions, or view you as weak and try to take advantage.
No. Nice try though ha! my husband will let out a sharp grunt when upset and it puts me in fight or flight. I don’t need that crap energy put off on me.
Bullshit! When stressed it's best to take a deep breath and exhale slowly to get control of your emotions before moving to resolve the situation calmly and with your anger firmly in hand.
Passive aggressive can seem like nice people on the surface but given the right situation like stressful life events, work or just in conversation the aggressive nature shows through. I have a friend who is my husband's employer. My husband is on the verge of ending his friendship with him because of his confusing management skills and defensive nature in the workplace. His boss has rants too if he doesn't get his way. My husband was friends with him for 4 years and saw very little of this in social life. It can be hidden in plain sight but triggered in dramatic affects.
Exactly, it's extremely abusive behaviour. It's only aim is to hurt and lower the self esteem and self worth of the victim. Self esteem and self worth are the things that drive us, the things that protect us. People who behave passive aggressive must be cut out of your life like a cancer or they will poison your mind.
I am passive aggressive but only when close people hurt my feelings. I give them the cold shoulder and don't answer or return their phone calls. I act as if they don't exist but for me to act this way it has to be when someone really hurts my feelings to the point of total humiliation and to shame me. I rather be passive aggressive with toxic people than to go in a 360 spiral and start getting very physical. I rather avoid that breaking point so I close the doors instead sometimes forever.
I feel like your missing a major point. The reasons for it sometimes goes beyond a decision...but a reflex mechanism mostly triggered by a child's upbringing. It's not simply"not getting their way."
Most of the time the people around you have already told you your behavior is hurtful. It's a choice beyond that. Its literally the adult equivalent of pouting
When someone tells you they want things like peace and non-violence, be careful that at the end of the day they don't want your surrender #ResistTaming
Passive aggression between sibling are the worst. It could get really ugly... Especially during this pandemic when your mom and dad are out, working and only the two of are staying together....
Chads dont post in youtube comments. They probably called you giovanni giorgio then you mankite flew to Russell’s house to show him how you can suck a golf ball through a garden hose. That night you lost yourself in baby blue eyes, creamy white skin and daisy dukes.
Stay away from these people as much as possible, they'll usually find a way to blame you for something that's wrong in their lives, and will pull the passive aggressive stuff until you cut most or all contact with them.
ok so what do you do when you are assertive (and slightly become angry during a conversation when your needs are being rejected and you feel unheard) and get called passive aggressive and a person you care about in almost the same breath rejects you (says they don't want to pursue a deeper relationship) and then after a week of not talking to you they get in some trouble and ask for help? Am I allowed to ignore them? Because otherwise I would feel manipulated and used. Am I wrong? It's a kind of estranged family member.
My father would criticize me all the time, so I couldn't say anything without being judged. I became passive aggressive, mostly by not talking to him and procrastinating on the things he asked me to do. In the end I decided to leave while it's not too late, so we don't hate each other.
I dont view protecting ones self against personal attacks as passive aggressive behavior. Withdrawing can be a defense to protect your spiritual and mental health.
I have been searching for anyone that shares my belief that is passive aggressive behavior is great. I personally have perfected passive aggression and my (all of them) seemed to have improved & no longer require any aggression, passive or assertive, at all. I can not find any articles or videos that support being passive aggressive, I take that as suppression of the power that passive aggression really holds.
You’re one of these people that has no problem getting casual flings, toxic romances and numerous acquaintances but do not have one meaningful relationship of any value whatsoever.
I think youre confusing concepts. If you were constantly passive aggressive in a toxic way they would all strongly dislike you. For example they ask you for money for xyz. You say “we’ll see” knowing youre never going to give them money. They know it, you know it, its a bull s passive-aggressive phrase. Later that day they see you smoking, drinking a 12 pack and doing scratch offs. Thats toxic passive-aggressive. Alternative situation, they ask / you say “we’ll see” (you both know you aint giving them money), later that day they see you paying bills related to the home or school, cutting a check for something important to your wife. This is where i differ from you and some psychologists. Intent always matters. If youre intent is to f with someone you will be disappointed when they dont want to have a relationship with you in adulthood. If your intent is not to spend money on stupid s, they know it, you know it, even though you are using behavior some people would argue constitutes passive-aggressive to me its not.
@@PunkMartyr an example from real life. I had a friend that needed rides to work, I picked him up & told him since my daughter had to ride with us we could not smoke in the car while she’s in it. He forgot & lit a cigarette while I was in a store. If he couldn’t figure out why he never got another ride from me, it’s on him. He doesn’t dis like me & we’re still cool. He’ll never be another passenger of mine again & I didn’t directly tell him why.
@@ChadFreeman757 theres absolutely nothing wrong with that. O% wrong. I personally feel psychologist textbooks should be updated with another term. Perhaps Passive-Aggressive Defensive move, where the point is not an attack but to avoid a potentially negative conflict interaction and no toxic or immoral behavior is taking place. Again, intent is the supreme determining factor. In the example you gave you want to protect your daughter, protect yourself from having boundaries violated, it could even be argued you are protecting your coworker’s feelings and ego with the way you handled it. Sorry for coming at you. I would caution you on telling people you believe passive-aggressive behavior is a good thing without full context. Passive-aggressive behavior done with ill intent is typically done for the following reasons in my opinion: 1. to bully someone without it being obvious. This is #1 imo. 2. To invalidate another person’s feelings. 3. To paint someone in a negative light with the goal of isolating them and turning the tribe against them 4. To attack them but do it in a way that gives plausible deniability. Take the example you used. Similar setup. Coworker in the car says you giving him a ride is going to allow him to be on time more so he can get a promotion you both want. You use that as a reason to stop giving him rides but dont tell him instead not answering the phone when he calls. To help ensure you get the promotion you spread rumors he told you privately and asked you not to repeat. People ask why he can’t be on time why you stopped giving him rides, you tell them he had very bad body odor and you tried to do the right thing and get him to shower but he wouldnt. Believe it or not there are people that act this way they usually have narcissistic personality disorder or other very serious problems.
Ok im a intellectual n i love to think so imma throw this out there it might help but I've come across a dilemma where i blv my passive aggression stemmed from being a trouble child n the fear of getting in trouble after years of social workers n psychologists i learned to bottle it up and it wasn't till my mid 20s b4 i realised it was turning me into a coward n what could be worse
They are just down right nasty people who need to grow the FU*K up. The past few weeks I've been staying with my friends mother who goes through these mood swings starting off as yelling, and blaming others for their own mistakes. Then came the silent treatment followed by locking me out the house every night I came back to the house, I mean who in their right mind does such a thing? This is a grown woman, then she started blaming my friend for doing it, oh, I was accused of being disrespectful and banging things around the house!!! WTF!!!! (She is the one making sure we all know she is the crazy person around here) Another thing, I bought a bunch of groceries the other week, and she threw it out my creamer, plus she will take and hide things that belong to you, they just vanish!! OMG!! Luckily, I can get out of this situation...just not fast enough.
That's literally what passive agressive IT IS NOT! Passive agressive is ignoring the person issue (by being sympathic) and not wanting to confront with the problem. For example (it has nothing to do with the word agressive): - You ask customer service determined problem and they ask rather your ID and name then they pass to another customer in the same line to ask your ID and name, they keep doing that to push you off! Instead of solving the problems (that's also sort of manipulation because they want you to get tired so they can have an excuse to cut you on the phone and privy or make you give up your rights as a customer) - Your wife becomes agressive with small behaviours (genereally unconsicous ones), say "it's all Ok", and "there is no problem" when asked but keep doing things wrong, like not putting the trash outside, leeting the food burn, not listening, ignoring. - Small insults made unconscious with the intend to provoke the person - Generally speaking is ignoring the person needs and not aknowledging them, not communicating perfectly, the problem. (avoiding the problem at all costs, to create more problem) There are other terms in Psychology for agressivenes like Transtorn of agressivenes which is related to max level of agressivity. Paranoid, and Psycosisare another ones.
I must be a passive agressive persons worst nightmare because I will call you out on your BS the moment you start with me I don't play them silly little games you got a problem with me then sound like a personal problem to me cause I don't do nothing to no one but mind my business and I'm nice till the point you push me to be mean
It's not passive aggressive if you're at a airport and somebody be rude to you because of something they did or something you did that's not passive aggressive it's just like me going to McDonald's and they give me the wrong order or mixed up my order with someone else and I end up being rude to them, or go off on them for that, that's not passive aggressive that's just some plain O being inconsiderate of other people's feelings it's like if you come for me I'll come for you too just because people operate that way don't make them passive aggressive definitely you have the wrong interpretation of what passive aggressive really mean
Why are straightforward people always scared of passive aggressive people? I love being passive aggressive, I embrace it and I was moulded by it. I love making people guess my next move, I love being unpredictable. I love myself.
I agree face the anger but don't blend with it. There is such a thing as demons exorcism is apart of it as well. Say Jesus is lord and command legion to go to the pit in Jesus name.
living with a passive-aggressive person is the most tiring and tedious thing I've ever done. They word situations in a way to make out that they are never the problem, never acknowledge any positive things you do, and use silence as a weapon. I'm a confident person but I realize I spend so much time concerned with 'what did I do wrong' recently. What makes things worse with passive-aggressive people, is that the annoying things they do are small enough to go unnoticed or not worth confronting, but big enough to be somewhat teadious.. Don't ever move in with one!!
My roommate is this type of person.
How to deal it when it is one's spouse!!
Too late
Cause u can't get them out??
its sooooo exhausting!!!!
Someone called me passive aggressive so now I’m here
They may been narcissist and just turned it around on you when it was actually them being passive aggressive themselves. Peace
Michael Jackson I wish that was the case, but i totally was being passive aggressive. I’m not going to be that way again though. So nasty of me to behave that way. Lol
You know what you did!
@@annalisabeezy That is very respectable of you that you admit it!
TriHard thank you. ☺️
I'm really afraid of straightforward conflict and i always suppress anger but im trying to be less passive aggressive
Hey but by being straightforward you could learn wonderful things and it teach also the wonderful world of open mindedness ;), i believe the problem that solved by being straightforward will give significant improveness, rather than avoid it ;)
Being straightforward is incredible difficult, it often requires more courage than we initially expect. Truth is, that being straightforward is incredibly vulnerable, we are showing someone how we feel and typically taking some type of risk. I hope you are being patient with yourself.
Same man it’s probably why I looked up this video cause I feel angry but idk why I control myself pretty well
It is possible to be straightforward without starting a conflict. If you choose a time when you’re calm and relaxed, and express what you need to say kindly in one or two sentences, it can work very well. The expression has to be phrased like a neutral comment though, not a blame.
@@Abcd-df2ep Not true - being straightforward all the team won't lead to world of open mindfulness or whatever you said. Lol
I ghost passive aggressive people. They think I'm doing it as revenge but I can't stand feeling humiliated anymore.
Sad thing is, that's what they want.
@@spring983 No. That's not what they want.
@@kusumlata1390 When you ghost them they claim you're being a prick and ignoring them for no reason.
Alternatively, if you try talking to them for treating you badly, they'll tell people you confronted/abused them and now they are intimidated by you.
Ghosting or going no contact is the best option.
I see your point!
@@kusumlata1390 That's just my opinion from years of dealing with them. I'm more than happy to hear what you think they might want, as I'm always keen for a different point of view and the chance to learn more.
Makes me wonder how I kept saying I got anger issues in my elementary years when my older sister told me I wasn't even that aggressive back then, but turns out I was just really too passive aggressive to the point every anger I had those years were just kept deep inside my memory.
“You’re such an inspiration for the ways that I would never ever choose to be...”
Thank you A Perfect Circle
Ironically Maynard is an elitist passive aggressive pos
Such a masterpiece! Thank you!
Anyone else remember the time in TH-cam where videos would consistently get three hundred likes their first day uploaded?
johndoh1000 it was always three hundred and one
Now this only applies to big channels like Game Theory and Dream
I had one of those self-revealing moments where I realized “wait…I’M passive aggressive!” I felt so silly for not seeing it. And so embarrassed for behaving this way for so many years. So time for some self-work.
THANKS FOR GIVING US HOPE THAT THOSE WHO HAVE TO DEAL WITH THESE PEOPLE ARE CAPABLE OF ACKNOWLEDGING IT AND BEING ABLE TO WORK TOWARDS MAKING CHANGES JUST BY ACKNOWLEDGING IT COULD SAVE SO MANY RELATIONSHIPS BECAUSE THE WORST PART IS THE BEHIND THE SCENES CRAZY MAKING THAT PICKS AT AN OPEN WOUND PREVENTING ANY TYPE OF HEALING THAT BECOMES TOXIC REALLY QUICKLY WITH NO CHANCE OF SURVIVAL DUE TO THE CONTINUOUS BOUNDARIES THAT ARE CONSTANTLY CROSSED AND CANT BE REVERSED AND IT ALWAYS SEEMS LIKE OKAY THERES NO WAY THEY CAN TOP THIS BUT THATS TAKEN AS A DARE SO I COMMEND YOU AND WISH YOU THE BEST
They word situations to put you down in a sneaky, underhanded, subtle way. They are conditioned to put anyone down very neatly
I once chose the straightforward way of resolving conflict but that got me into a bigger problem. What I am trying to say is sometimes being passive aggressive is a good way to send a signal to a person that your mad at without directly letting them know what’s wrong because some people are just very angry and aggressive.
Also dont care to make an effort to correct their wrong behavior
Or just leave them
Thats not passive-aggressive if its in response to a person’s crappy behavior. Passive-aggressive is just like it sounds - a covert, snake in the grass form of attack. If I stop talking to someone because they knowingly, willingly hurt my feelings me not talking to them is not passive-aggressive behavior; it is defence against their toxic behavior.
Ummm NO!!
If they are showing signs of anger... perhaps your indirect communication is DRIVING THEM NUTS!!
P.A personalities harbour unresolved anger/resentment... The relationship becomes a war of attrition.
If you can't engage in dialogue to express your wants/needs/concerns etc, its poor form to covertly take a hostage by entering into a relationship.
✌🏻
@Saif Bakri I would say that you are correct. I hate when people make it seem like it doesn't have its place. If someone is demeaning, coming at you and you flat out go at their throat, this could seriously escalate things in most cases. Being passive-aggressive can be a blowoff value, get your point across and you can control the situation more by adjusting your responses if it's starting to escalate. It's better than being upfront sometimes (which can potentially cause a fight) or just standing there and taking it which could lead to depression or more aggression. Now obviously it could become problematic if you start doing it to people who don't deserve it like someone who honestly made a mistake for example. So I do think it has its place for a certain situations, especially when dealing with people who lack accountability for their actions, or view you as weak and try to take advantage.
This video is truly beautiful.
The music is so good
Ever inhale and then exhale? Yup that's passive aggressiveness.
So people who have lung cancer don’t have passive aggressiveness?
@@theradiatorisonfire7768 Indeed
when your mom gets mad at you because you are breathing too loud lol
No. Nice try though ha! my husband will let out a sharp grunt when upset and it puts me in fight or flight. I don’t need that crap energy put off on me.
Bullshit!
When stressed it's best to take a deep breath and exhale slowly to get control of your emotions before moving to resolve the situation calmly and with your anger firmly in hand.
Passive aggressive can seem like nice people on the surface but given the right situation like stressful life events, work or just in conversation the aggressive nature shows through. I have a friend who is my husband's employer. My husband is on the verge of ending his friendship with him because of his confusing management skills and defensive nature in the workplace. His boss has rants too if he doesn't get his way. My husband was friends with him for 4 years and saw very little of this in social life. It can be hidden in plain sight but triggered in dramatic affects.
Passive-Aggressive behavior is very Abusive.
Exactly, it's extremely abusive behaviour. It's only aim is to hurt and lower the self esteem and self worth of the victim. Self esteem and self worth are the things that drive us, the things that protect us. People who behave passive aggressive must be cut out of your life like a cancer or they will poison your mind.
@@abeedhal6519 I have been worn down by one.
I am passive aggressive but only when close people hurt my feelings. I give them the cold shoulder and don't answer or return their phone calls. I act as if they don't exist but for me to act this way it has to be when someone really hurts my feelings to the point of total humiliation and to shame me. I rather be passive aggressive with toxic people than to go in a 360 spiral and start getting very physical. I rather avoid that breaking point so I close the doors instead sometimes forever.
That’s not passive aggression man that’s doing what needs to be done
Grow up
There is also the passive aggressive attempt to dominate by accusing others of being passive aggressive.
Lmao I'm thankful for passive aggression in the workplace cause that's the one place I often feel "dis-empowered & don't have a voice". 🤣
I was looking to study other people however I see I have passive aggressive tendencies as well
This is wise. To be able to see one's own errors before pointing them to others. Well said, bro.
@@DavidLopez-br3yn I appreciate that
Procrastination and intentional inefficiency.
I feel like your missing a major point. The reasons for it sometimes goes beyond a decision...but a reflex mechanism mostly triggered by a child's upbringing. It's not simply"not getting their way."
Most of the time the people around you have already told you your behavior is hurtful. It's a choice beyond that. Its literally the adult equivalent of pouting
When someone tells you they want things like peace and non-violence, be careful that at the end of the day they don't want your surrender
#ResistTaming
I’m passive aggressive when I’m not treated well by someone in authority because I can’t be direct or else I’ll get in trouble.
Passive aggression between sibling are the worst. It could get really ugly... Especially during this pandemic when your mom and dad are out, working and only the two of are staying together....
This was real good! Clear and gave me tools. Thank you Very much.
Struggling it for every year
Thank you🥺
Finally I find it
very good content
Someone called me a Chad so now I'm here
Is chad a country?
Chads dont post in youtube comments. They probably called you giovanni giorgio then you mankite flew to Russell’s house to show him how you can suck a golf ball through a garden hose. That night you lost yourself in baby blue eyes, creamy white skin and daisy dukes.
Fits perfect into my a playlist "Doctors and Help" :)
Living in Midwest 🇺🇸 , I have experienced many people and their passive aggressive attitude. It is difficult to get it.
Isn’t that the whole deal- the stealth aspect of it.
It is confusing on purpose.
Great content! Thank you for making it!
Music is good
Stay away from these people as much as possible, they'll usually find a way to blame you for something that's wrong in their lives, and will pull the passive aggressive stuff until you cut most or all contact with them.
thanks a lot
Nothing wrong with being passive aggressive as long as you are making a point
If you want to live alone and die alone, you are right.
People will eventually find out.
ok so what do you do when you are assertive (and slightly become angry during a conversation when your needs are being rejected and you feel unheard) and get called passive aggressive and a person you care about in almost the same breath rejects you (says they don't want to pursue a deeper relationship) and then after a week of not talking to you they get in some trouble and ask for help? Am I allowed to ignore them? Because otherwise I would feel manipulated and used. Am I wrong? It's a kind of estranged family member.
My father would criticize me all the time, so I couldn't say anything without being judged. I became passive aggressive, mostly by not talking to him and procrastinating on the things he asked me to do. In the end I decided to leave while it's not too late, so we don't hate each other.
I dont view protecting ones self against personal attacks as passive aggressive behavior. Withdrawing can be a defense to protect your spiritual and mental health.
This is me but I will do something about it
I have been searching for anyone that shares my belief that is passive aggressive behavior is great. I personally have perfected passive aggression and my (all of them) seemed to have improved & no longer require any aggression, passive or assertive, at all. I can not find any articles or videos that support being passive aggressive, I take that as suppression of the power that passive aggression really holds.
You’re one of these people that has no problem getting casual flings, toxic romances and numerous acquaintances but do not have one meaningful relationship of any value whatsoever.
@@PunkMartyr I beg to differ. I have a wife & 4 children. Those relationships are meaningful and beyond measurable value.
I think youre confusing concepts. If you were constantly passive aggressive in a toxic way they would all strongly dislike you. For example they ask you for money for xyz. You say “we’ll see” knowing youre never going to give them money. They know it, you know it, its a bull s passive-aggressive phrase. Later that day they see you smoking, drinking a 12 pack and doing scratch offs. Thats toxic passive-aggressive. Alternative situation, they ask / you say “we’ll see” (you both know you aint giving them money), later that day they see you paying bills related to the home or school, cutting a check for something important to your wife. This is where i differ from you and some psychologists. Intent always matters. If youre intent is to f with someone you will be disappointed when they dont want to have a relationship with you in adulthood. If your intent is not to spend money on stupid s, they know it, you know it, even though you are using behavior some people would argue constitutes passive-aggressive to me its not.
@@PunkMartyr an example from real life. I had a friend that needed rides to work, I picked him up & told him since my daughter had to ride with us we could not smoke in the car while she’s in it. He forgot & lit a cigarette while I was in a store. If he couldn’t figure out why he never got another ride from me, it’s on him. He doesn’t dis like me & we’re still cool. He’ll never be another passenger of mine again & I didn’t directly tell him why.
@@ChadFreeman757 theres absolutely nothing wrong with that. O% wrong. I personally feel psychologist textbooks should be updated with another term. Perhaps Passive-Aggressive Defensive move, where the point is not an attack but to avoid a potentially negative conflict interaction and no toxic or immoral behavior is taking place. Again, intent is the supreme determining factor. In the example you gave you want to protect your daughter, protect yourself from having boundaries violated, it could even be argued you are protecting your coworker’s feelings and ego with the way you handled it. Sorry for coming at you. I would caution you on telling people you believe passive-aggressive behavior is a good thing without full context.
Passive-aggressive behavior done with ill intent is typically done for the following reasons in my opinion: 1. to bully someone without it being obvious. This is #1 imo. 2. To invalidate another person’s feelings. 3. To paint someone in a negative light with the goal of isolating them and turning the tribe against them 4. To attack them but do it in a way that gives plausible deniability.
Take the example you used. Similar setup. Coworker in the car says you giving him a ride is going to allow him to be on time more so he can get a promotion you both want. You use that as a reason to stop giving him rides but dont tell him instead not answering the phone when he calls. To help ensure you get the promotion you spread rumors he told you privately and asked you not to repeat. People ask why he can’t be on time why you stopped giving him rides, you tell them he had very bad body odor and you tried to do the right thing and get him to shower but he wouldnt.
Believe it or not there are people that act this way they usually have narcissistic personality disorder or other very serious problems.
Ok im a intellectual n i love to think so imma throw this out there it might help but I've come across a dilemma where i blv my passive aggression stemmed from being a trouble child n the fear of getting in trouble after years of social workers n psychologists i learned to bottle it up and it wasn't till my mid 20s b4 i realised it was turning me into a coward n what could be worse
You left your comment unfinished.
This is the most overused Jr Psych
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I spent time adding French subtitles to this masterpiece. Unfortunately, i have no way of adding them to this video on YT...
Lol. So I'm 100% passive aggressive. Sigh.Explains my loneliness.
You don't have to be.
Is punching passive aggressive?
What if the passive aggressive People lie on their victims too ! ?
This is why some People need to stop living with other People too.
No one these days is loyal.
Jokes on you, we all trap each other with some dumb shit then complain.
Imagine dating 😂🤣
Anyone thinks it's a good idea to send this video to someone who's passive aggressive ?
Don't bother
Just remove them from your life.
They are hopeless, worthless people
Gangstalkers are passive aggressive.
They are just down right nasty people who need to grow the FU*K up. The past few weeks I've been staying with my friends mother who goes through these mood swings starting off as yelling, and blaming others for their own mistakes. Then came the silent treatment followed by locking me out the house every night I came back to the house, I mean who in their right mind does such a thing? This is a grown woman, then she started blaming my friend for doing it, oh, I was accused of being disrespectful and banging things around the house!!! WTF!!!! (She is the one making sure we all know she is the crazy person around here) Another thing, I bought a bunch of groceries the other week, and she threw it out my creamer, plus she will take and hide things that belong to you, they just vanish!! OMG!! Luckily, I can get out of this situation...just not fast enough.
I'm not saying don't do this strategy in general realizing the behavior isnt right. However the yoga part is wrong.
You need HOLYSPIRIT .
Yessssss🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Holy spirit will remove that passive aggressiveness 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
That's literally what passive agressive IT IS NOT! Passive agressive is ignoring the person issue (by being sympathic) and not wanting to confront with the problem. For example (it has nothing to do with the word agressive):
- You ask customer service determined problem and they ask rather your ID and name then they pass to another customer in the same line to ask your ID and name, they keep doing that to push you off! Instead of solving the problems (that's also sort of manipulation because they want you to get tired so they can have an excuse to cut you on the phone and privy or make you give up your rights as a customer)
- Your wife becomes agressive with small behaviours (genereally unconsicous ones), say "it's all Ok", and "there is no problem" when asked but keep doing things wrong, like not putting the trash outside, leeting the food burn, not listening, ignoring.
- Small insults made unconscious with the intend to provoke the person
- Generally speaking is ignoring the person needs and not aknowledging them, not communicating perfectly, the problem. (avoiding the problem at all costs, to create more problem)
There are other terms in Psychology for agressivenes like Transtorn of agressivenes which is related to max level of agressivity. Paranoid, and Psycosisare another ones.
My husband is passive aggressive… always angry & taking it out on me. Tells me I deserve to be treated the way he treat me at the time.
That's awful. I'm so sorry! :-(
Passive aggressiveness = cowardice 👍 imo
Canadians
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Am I this in some points? 😳😳😳😳😶🌫️
Are you all Libra ?
what does libra have to do with this?
no im a virgo
@@annalaura9 bc someone said that’s libra bad features 🤣
I’m an asparagus
bruh im a libra and im not at all im aggressive💀
My boyfriend just throw a frame cause I let our daughter eat gram crackers that he liked cursed me out all over gram crackers 💔
That breaks my heart - I'm so sorry. =(
Gtfo of there. You must like it
Why is it stereotyped with a male character. Lol
I must be a passive agressive persons worst nightmare because I will call you out on your BS the moment you start with me I don't play them silly little games you got a problem with me then sound like a personal problem to me cause I don't do nothing to no one but mind my business and I'm nice till the point you push me to be mean
You slept thru English class
The Bible teaches this.
How exactly
How? Please explain
Where
@-Lloyd-LLOYD!!! You crazy creature, how goes it?
What book? Would love to read about it...
It's not passive aggressive if you're at a airport and somebody be rude to you because of something they did or something you did that's not passive aggressive it's just like me going to McDonald's and they give me the wrong order or mixed up my order with someone else and I end up being rude to them, or go off on them for that, that's not passive aggressive that's just some plain O being inconsiderate of other people's feelings it's like if you come for me I'll come for you too just because people operate that way don't make them passive aggressive definitely you have the wrong interpretation of what passive aggressive really mean
You sound uneducated
Pretty ignorant about the whole picture
This is exactly what I talk about in this video: th-cam.com/video/iFV99t6web4/w-d-xo.html
Why are straightforward people always scared of passive aggressive people? I love being passive aggressive, I embrace it and I was moulded by it. I love making people guess my next move, I love being unpredictable. I love myself.
Cool, that's also how you ruin relationships. Carry on!
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Your literally a textbook narsisist
Coward
You're abusive.
I am definitely falling into the trap! Why are women so much more passive aggressive than men? And for no reason whatsoever. They love to be rude!
They are usually smaller, socially brighter and plan better= avoid direct conflict and still get their way
I agree face the anger but don't blend with it. There is such a thing as demons exorcism is apart of it as well. Say Jesus is lord and command legion to go to the pit in Jesus name.
The world is full of cry babies