@@Jojo-py8jj I am truly in my walk and if you study the Bible, yes GOD gives clear instructions and guidance through this amazing journey called Life. And he also provides free will. It's really up to us and what is embedded in our hearts. Love and Light. 👑❤💙💚💛💜💓🙏🙏🙏🙏
“IF THEY’RE bringing gossip to you, if they’re telling you things about someone else that was supposed to stay just between the 2 of them-you can BEST BELIEVE they are doing the same to you!”
@@amandakropen3273 same here-I wish I had realized it earlier also and understood it. I have loved people SO unconditionally that I deceived myself! Sending love to you! 🙏❤️
@Dwayne Solomon Oh Yes This Hit's Home They Will Destroy You I Know a Girl who Have Looks She is a Type of Person She is All About Her Looks and is Very Very Two Faced and Talks Bad About Any and Everybody Then Plays Victim This Girl was Going Around Spreading Rumors About me Saying I was Envious and Jealous of Her Looks and Was Telling People That I Kept Calling Her Phone Block Stalking & Harassing Her But The Funny Thing About it is I Never Had Her Cell Number to Begin With But I'm The Jealous One.
They think that dirt can't touch them. With people like that once trust can't be established move on from their trap. Guilt and fear motivates people to flip the script as if God is not in the equation God knows the very heart of the matter and will step right in on time and reveal it to you. As friendship fold forget all the chatter. The whole truth 💯 in God's eyes is all that matters 🙏 🙌
I've had experience with a jealous best friend who also befriended someone she knew was my enemy. I had to distance myself and keep to myself because I watched her behavior and facial expressions when anyone asked about me or talked about me. I now have peace because I've left her alone. Through conversation I found she would talk about me to everyone behind my back.
1: People who want to be you. 2: Cant is friends with a terrible person. 3: Cant be friends with a person whose jealous of you. 4: Cant be friends with someone who are friends with your enemies. 5: Cant be friends with people who talk about others behind their back.
I let go of my so called best friend for constants made fun of me in front of others, never allowed me to talk more then once abouty problems and just constantly took from me. Emotionally, financially ,and consistently made fun of me to my face and in front of others. It was hard but i finally ended ot. Thank you Trent Shelton
“You can NOT be friends with someone who talks about others behind their back”. Thank you God for blessing me with the ability to just know this as common sense and integrity! Thank you Trent Shelton for this friendly reminder-this refresher course it’s not only a great reminder it is confirmation for my self-esteem of something I do right all the time because it comes natural it tells me that that’s the yearning that I have for the people that are in my circle to just automatically know the security of knowing they have my back there in my corner with THEIR lips shut knowing that information I have shared with them is between only me and them and if I wanted the rest of the world to know-that’s for ME and ONLY ME to share!!!
Jealousy !!!! Trent you are so right . Lord , I thank you for giving Trent the GIFT to be an incredible speaker to help others in this world who needs his help with the problems they are going through
Unfortunately for me and maybe for others these people are in my family. Toxic people are toxic. It’s hard to discern these people as friends but harder when they are blood. I agree on all your categories. ‘Loyalty’ gets thrown out when they are friends with your enemies. That one rang true for me.
I completely understand about the person who is jealous and wants your life. I was there, I lost everything I had, everything I always wanted because I had this friend that I truly thought was my friend, and later found out that she wanted my life. She also wanted to me all to herself. She was always planting seeds of doubt, the way she did it though was so underhanded that it wasn't until I lost everything that I realized what she was really doing.
AMEN!!! I have ALWAYS felt the same way..my mother ALWAYS said, "Never let your left hand know what your right hand is doing!" In other words, KEEP YOUR BUSINESS TO YOURSELF!!!
Number 4 is a big one!!! I have always said “I don’t fw people who fw people I don’t fw”!!! I would always say you can’t be loyal to me and them and number 5 is big too and I’ve actually been having an issue with that lately with a long time friend of mine and I let her know that I didn’t wanna be cool anymore cause she stay gossiping about people she be in the face of and she started crying and all this bs but I think now I just have to cut her off without saying anything.
I had a therapist say that people who talk "about each other" but not "to each other" are super toxic. I usually step back and say to myself "what is their intentions by telling me this?" There's usually a negative energy that comes with these people also. Pay attention to the vibe! I would also like to see more videos on how to cut toxic people out of your life. Because sometimes when you do so they start a smear campaign and try to destroy your character. I am not someone that stands up for myself or tries to defend myself. I just walk away. At one point I had to move and just start over.
Thank you so much Trent for this message. You are talking to me directly. I almost lost my life because of a pastor I called my friend and my ex. I was POISONED. YES POISONED. HOW I WISH I CAME ACROSS THIS MESSAGE IN TIME. I APPRECIATE YOU TRENT.
I think when some ppl been down for so long, they don't even have the willpower to celebrate ur blessings or happiness. They're drowning in their own sorrow. I know ppl like this. I don't think they're jealous of me. I am the person who will stick around and help that friend. I understand that if this person's circumstances were better, they would be equally happy with me. We all have to keep going. Someone not celebrating me is not gonna keep me from doing me. We all have our own lives. I wish the best for everyone.
Good morning trent. Thank you for sharing this video. I have people in my own family, that exhibit all five of these traits that you talked about. The irony of it is that , they constantly tell me ," you can't trust people like this they will do everything they can, to hurt you ". And I'm just sitting there listening like 🙄 I talk to God daily about what moves I need to make, because He's the only one I trust!
PREACH MY BROTHER ❤❤❤!!! I have a "BFF of 25 years" who did it around to "The FRAMILY that I created"! My frienemy of 33 years has exhibit ALL 5 of these characteristics.
These five people he just explained are people who are in my family who I grew up with and are closely related to me. I gotta say, my life hasn't been easy when I comes my confidence, having friends, and support. I put myself through school and taken courses in psychology, sociology, basic communications, business, etc and as I go into my 40s the way they treated me is still traumatizing just reflecting on it. I'm glad to say that all of them are pretty much out of my life and things are coming together for as far as my goals. I haven't got married or started a family yet but when I do, that will be icing on the cake.
LESSON LEARNED! FAMILY AND FOES.... My former BFF was the one who talk about people to anyone who will listen (and talked about me behind my back to others), she would stay friends w/people who did me wrong and I believe she was jealous of me too. After 45 years, I ghosted her when I finally opened my eyes and saw how she just couldn't be happy for me finally finding love and deciding to move to another state w/my husband whom SHE INTRODUCED me too...hard lesson to learn but I did. Thx Trent for your real talk.
I don't believe in religion. (No judgment & no preaching please.. respect my choice and I will respect your choice. Please and thank you) I do believe in your words Trent Shelton . Your videos are seriously my go to on a day where I'm looking for someone to help me when I'm struggling. I've been watching you for a few years now. Thank you for being such a consistent steady force in my life. You have helped me quite a few times when I didn't think there was nothing that could help me. I struggle a lot with my demons. I struggle with being self destructive. I struggle with dealing with past trauma. The despair never seems to stay gone. I struggle to stay in the light. Thank you for the times you were that light. Your words honestly have saved my life. I've been in a good place mentally for quite some time now. ❤️ To anyone struggling just know that wherever you are at...you are not alone. I hear you. Stay in the light. Stay strong. ❤️
Real talk…Gotta be careful and know whose in your circle. I’ve experienced all of five, but with God Grace and Mercy I’m still standing. Trent keep speaking these true messages and breaking down. Thank you Stay woke to know whose around you 💥👊🏾💥 Straight up Let’s get it 🌟💥🌟👏🏾👏🏾
I am so glad this popped up on my feed. I was just about to text an old friend who have two problems on this list .this just made me verify why I let this person go in the first place.
W-O-W!!! #4 & #5! I’ve been unable to put this into words. I have experienced this w/ so called friends & even family! The same people that look at me like it’s me that’s off the mark-immature bc I expect that my people would be genuine enough that THEY wouldn’t want to hang out with or even be associated with these outsiders/users/bad people!
I think that #4 should include coworkers as well because I've had friends at work who would befriend the coworker that would badmouth me to others and lie to the managers about me. It's because my friend was afraid of being badmouthed by this coworker. Also, that coworker had connections to big-name people so the friend would do whatever they could to be friends with them and hold their tongue whenever the coworker would spread rumors about me. But I definitely agree with the levels of friendship. I think I made the wrong people become my close friends that really should be my associates.
You've helped me over the years. I will be forever grateful. I was feeling like I'm not worth love and no one will ever. But I'm a God fearing person, loving, encouraging, loyal, compassionate, etc. I keep running into ppl that have so much pain n hurt. I pray that God puts ppl in my life that wants to be in my life and genuinely love me and pour into me as I do everyone. It's been a real struggle. To have reciprocation in these times feels impossible. You can be giving so much love and positivity. I've dealt with so many ppl esp men that find interest in me give mixed signals. It's hard out here. I'm trying to stay positive with so much negativity around me. I get depressed at times bc I feel like I don't belong on this earth. Struggling to find My Tribe.
This video was confirmation!!! Especially the part about not being friends with people who are cool with your enemies.. Intuitively, I always felt that it wrong.. People like that... their loyalties are fluid. They play both sides of the fence indeed, and cannot be trusted. My mother and brother are exactly like this...
A Strong person, level headed person is a powerful thing when it's used right, I was out but know back in this relationship of lies & decit between both of us! family, & so called friends, I have been with him for 15 years and yes just recently I moved in motel he decided to stay at are so called friends. But after 8 months I brought him back in my life I wish I never had because am not aloud to have anyone here because of HUD I could lose my house he black me so his still here. Feb 24 2022 have knee surgery waited 4 yrs after I have it am gone to Roseburg OREGON WISH ME LUCK.
You are a very wise young man! I think I relate most to the one about jealousy. Sometimes you can't even imagine why someone would be jealous, but some people are not happy unless they think they are miles ahead of you and have so much more. Keep up the good work!
I've had lots of people around me to want evening I have been blessed with. Lots of gifts from different people who know my character in our community and from the work I have done over the last 12 years being a Certified Caregiver. I've had Women and Men in my circle that I thought of as friends, but actually they were Wolves in Sheep's clothing. They have wrecked my relationships, wanted things people brought me before I could see what it was. I used to cook for my community until I realized that when my food is gone, they don't care if I eat or starve. These are just a couple of things I have experienced.
I understand people being jealous. I feel the vibes and everything you said towards me in this season this was more confirmation to be more careful. Thank you Trent! God bless you and your obedience 🙏
Amen brother keep speaking the truth God is using you to change lives! On one of your other videos I posted that it's been 5 days that I broke a bad habit now it's been 3 weeks going strong feeling good.
I have experienced much envy in my life. Envy to me, is when people are uncomfortable and or resentful of your accomplishments. Family members especially
Agents of the devil circle great ones like hungry wolves....be wary of the company you keep. Most are judas in plain sight. Also they're goal is to distract you & block your blessings. This go for family and friends. Blood and same name means nothing when you treat me like nothing. I really enjoy your content Trent. No one can speak on these things unless they've gone thru it. I appreciate you saving those whose listen🙂 you earned a new subscriber
Real fact I have experience alot of people jealous, and I thank you,I like this message, I don't like those who speak about anyone until I do myself to the best person ,I need to be ,I have flaws too but this message are in my inner part to help myself to be that best as I can be.much love
I definitely had a bad person around me. She was good to me but terrible to her own kids, to herself, then she turned on me because she was about herself. No loss for me, I treat me very well and she does not deserve me.
It’s OK to choose yourself. You only have one life to live. Are you going to live a life without boundaries or are you gonna live a life with boundaries?
Hi trade Teresa we need more people like you two in this world besides those other bad people that need to be prayed for need to be saved take care and have a blessed night bye
My best friend is still friends with the girls that did me wrong. Always hurt. She would even bring them around me when she knows I don’t mess with them. SMH.
Sir, thank you for sharing Godly, Bible wisdom. My family has verbally and mentally abused me most of my life. I've been told of family gatherings 30 minutes before events. My mom and sisters are bearers of jealousy. Well, they have baby mama drama and I don't, my mom rolls her eyes tells me she hates me, in the name of "Joking." Well, I felt loyal and took the abuse until recently, I distance myself from all toxicity without regret. Even my neighbors despise me, they turned my landscaper into a hater. So I had to get rid of him/ wife. And we broke 🍞 together. But, God cut a clan of 11 people out of my life in a week. Now, I'm too busy healing in God and working towards my destiny. 🙏🗣 ️🙌❤
Man, I seen this in myself and in my past friendships. #5 connected with me. Sometime when you hurting, all you can is spit venom to anyone who can hear. It’s makes sense for me why I had friends fade overtime. Thanks for the video, it made me looked at my faults
Mr. Brother Trent listening to a Man with your Knowledge is the Greatest gift to give someone with the art of hearing and take heed. I'll like to Thank The GREATEST GOD our FATHER. for giving you the gift of Knowledge, Shalom😎
I have a very small circle and love it that way... Trent this definitely goes on in the work place so I keep to myself and don't say much to anyone. I still smile everyday and say hello and that is it nothing more nothing less.
I got this person who will always talk about others to me behind them and I never stop her even though I didn't like to hear it, eventually I got to know about the things I trusted her with getting aired and almost everyone get to know, i am going through a lot at the moment to wrap my head around this heartbreaking issues, there are nothings she has told me or that i know about her that i have mentioned to anyone, ever. This gossip and whispers behind my back is now affecting my life and my relationships in so devastating a way and I really can't help myself right now. My Dad of blessed memories told me about this but somehow I didn't put the principle to action and now I'm paying the price. Thank you trent for a refresher and a reminder for me on the #5.
I had a “friend” who kept asking me how I got to the top. I gave her my connections, suggestions and helped her. My daughter warned me that she was using me but hey, I didn’t listen because I felt we were tight! She had my back. Well, 12 years later, I went through breast cancer and divorce and she stabbed me in the back bigger than I could have imagined. Cut me off and we never spoke again. Lots of hurt came with this but as Trent says, “check your friends list!” You have to run with eyes wide open!! #lovetoall #peace
This was 6 years ago and I dated my best friends cousin. It didn’t go well. He came to my house, I was sitting in the porch. He looked me dead in the eye, and said…whatever happened doesn’t matter to me, you’re my friend, and always will be. This is striking because he chose our friendship over blood.
best advice ever its an eye opener.i know some of these people and doing exactly what you say it is very disapointing but God always reveal the truth. keep educating the people the world need more people like you keep up the good work and God blessing upon your life Trinidad and Tobago ❤❤❤❤❤❤.
I love people but have very few friends that ain't really build with..if they are not about constant growth..... It hurt s but you have to distance yourself from bad energy....cause there energy will mess with your progress. Most of the time I'm solo or around people who are positive and winning.
I definitely experienced this with friends and family members. I cut them all off period. I don't hang with drama and talking about others 😒. So true Trent
It's quiet sad, some of my friends deserted me when they noticed I had a break through. These are people I shared my heart bugging issues and possible ways to go about it. "Humans are very difficult to handle "
Thank you I wasn't realizing the extent of the speech and behavior patterns that I was continuing due to my circumstances,and how dangerous and toxic it was becoming.thank God for your message,it can't reverse the damage that has already been done to my character but it can't help me to move forward now and be my true self thank you very much
Thank you Trent always enjoy watching you and listening to you. I've been thru all 5 of those that's why I'm 54 and don't have any friends except my husband, Mom and Auntie plus my 15 year old that had an old soul all her life. God Bless you and your family and Merry Christmas
At some point in life , almost everyone has been viewed as toxic to someone. We are so busy pointing fingers at the other person that often forget to correct our own flaws. I'm not a jealous person but I am also not without fault. We all have things that WE need to work on so that we all can be better people.
Thank you Trent! I agree with what you said & it's the total truth! I have had experiences with jealous people & no good comes from them, also people that I considered my friend who friended my enemy, it always hurts & sadly sometimes there is nothing I can do about it, jealous people know how to manipulate things so they can get what they want, friends that friended someone that they knew was my enemy, well I can safely say they were not my friend to begin with, never were & never will be!
Also I use to work around certain men and women who were jealous of my work ethic and how other co-workers interacted with me. There was time I was making my rounds at work, and of people who were jealous, walked alone side me feeding me this negative gossip about what others were saying about my position I held. But as time went on, it was revealed that it was him campaigning my name to the manager. And it worked, he set me up to approach the manager when it never was true.
Thank you so much!!!! I needed to hear this. I've had people in my life that tried to destroy me, that acted like they were my friends.( And this was in the last 10 years.)
The Bible says, Bad Company corrupts good people.
Amen 🙏
Yes so true
@@Jojo-py8jj I am truly in my walk and if you study the Bible, yes GOD gives clear instructions and guidance through this amazing journey called Life. And he also provides free will. It's really up to us and what is embedded in our hearts. Love and Light. 👑❤💙💚💛💜💓🙏🙏🙏🙏
yes and homakers robed me cant stand it my mother bought chain
and shes dead
“IF THEY’RE bringing gossip to you, if they’re telling you things about someone else that was supposed to stay just between the 2 of them-you can BEST BELIEVE they are doing the same to you!”
This is nothing new. Wish i had realized this earlier.
@@amandakropen3273 same here-I wish I had realized it earlier also and understood it. I have loved people SO unconditionally that I deceived myself! Sending love to you! 🙏❤️
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Sometimes these people are your own friends and family sad to say but true
Yep and they disguise the gossip as concern for that person SMH
The jealous friend will secretly sabotage everything behind your back. Spread rumors, lies and gossip. They can’t wait to dish the dirt on you.
@Dwayne Solomon Oh Yes This Hit's Home They Will Destroy You I Know a Girl who Have Looks She is a Type of Person She is All About Her Looks and is Very Very Two Faced and Talks Bad About Any and Everybody Then Plays Victim This Girl was Going Around Spreading Rumors About me Saying I was Envious and Jealous of Her Looks and Was Telling People That I Kept Calling Her Phone Block Stalking & Harassing Her But The Funny Thing About it is I Never Had Her Cell Number to Begin With But I'm The Jealous One.
They think that dirt can't touch them. With people like that once trust can't be established move on from their trap. Guilt and fear motivates people to flip the script as if God is not in the equation
God knows the very heart of the matter and will step right in on time and reveal it to you. As friendship fold forget all the chatter. The whole truth 💯 in God's eyes is all that matters 🙏 🙌
I've had experience with a jealous best friend who also befriended someone she knew was my enemy.
I had to distance myself and keep to myself because I watched her behavior and facial expressions when anyone asked about me or talked about me. I now have peace because I've left her alone. Through conversation I found she would talk about me to everyone behind my back.
1: People who want to be you.
2: Cant is friends with a terrible person.
3: Cant be friends with a person whose jealous of you.
4: Cant be friends with someone who are friends with your enemies.
5: Cant be friends with people who talk about others behind their back.
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@Nurse Raqki Joie
Thank you, for the notes!😊
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Fixed mindset for all area security
Introvert secured me bro
I let go of my so called best friend for constants made fun of me in front of others, never allowed me to talk more then once abouty problems and just constantly took from me. Emotionally, financially ,and consistently made fun of me to my face and in front of others. It was hard but i finally ended ot. Thank you Trent Shelton
I had one of those too. I feel great about myself now!! :)
“You can NOT be friends with someone who talks about others behind their back”. Thank you God for blessing me with the ability to just know this as common sense and integrity! Thank you Trent Shelton for this friendly reminder-this refresher course it’s not only a great reminder it is confirmation for my self-esteem of something I do right all the time because it comes natural it tells me that that’s the yearning that I have for the people that are in my circle to just automatically know the security of knowing they have my back there in my corner with THEIR lips shut knowing that information I have shared with them is between only me and them and if I wanted the rest of the world to know-that’s for ME and ONLY ME to share!!!
I don't befriend or re befriend with snakes
tonite said, "PLEASE STOP!" CAUSE I CANT BE RESPONSIBLE FO THE DRAMA. GET THOSE PPL #OUT
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@@ToquzOghuzKhaganatekhan I'm learning this as well.
I felt everything you said Trent you don't need a gossip in your life
Exactly.
me to gave up on life dont have my health my kids could care less about me
@@gloriacassey4887 faith and blessings
Jealousy !!!! Trent you are so right . Lord , I thank you for giving Trent the GIFT to be an incredible speaker to help others in this world who needs his help with the problems they are going through
Unfortunately for me and maybe for others these people are in my family. Toxic people are toxic. It’s hard to discern these people as friends but harder when they are blood.
I agree on all your categories. ‘Loyalty’ gets thrown out when they are friends with your enemies. That one rang true for me.
Same here Delores. You have protect your peace no matter what. For some of us, the enemy is inside of our families.
Stay Strong.
I am a true friend to people, but somehow, I NEVER GET THAT BACK
Delores same here! The pain is equal to my fathers death. Something I never imagined in a million years! I STILL can’t get my head around it.
@@leannbuggs888 Same Here I Cut Everybody Off And I Do not Regret it🙌🕊️💕💖
@@bettabelieveit34 love your name.
You saved me! I was at the end & couldn't take any more of this world. If I could talk to you directly, I would thank you and hug you brother!
Never let a secret hater make you leave this world, harm yourself or you often feel down and discouraged when you leave their presence.
I'm so ready for the level of friendship. I put people in categories cause folk are human. I try to learn from others and my mistakes
That’s awesome
not true told my best frind everything she was like my Cantbreamber is
needed some one to talk to I diddent talk about her always talked good about she passed away oh she was my mentor
I completely understand about the person who is jealous and wants your life. I was there, I lost everything I had, everything I always wanted because I had this friend that I truly thought was my friend, and later found out that she wanted my life. She also wanted to me all to herself. She was always planting seeds of doubt, the way she did it though was so underhanded that it wasn't until I lost everything that I realized what she was really doing.
AMEN!!! I have ALWAYS felt the same way..my mother ALWAYS said, "Never let your left hand know what your right hand is doing!" In other words, KEEP YOUR BUSINESS TO YOURSELF!!!
Facts!!
That jealousy is why I had to cut people off I’ve been friends with for years smh 🙄
Dealt with all 5 types of these people, some people I have known almost all my life. Sad to let them go but my life is way better off without them!
Number 4 is a big one!!! I have always said “I don’t fw people who fw people I don’t fw”!!! I would always say you can’t be loyal to me and them and number 5 is big too and I’ve actually been having an issue with that lately with a long time friend of mine and I let her know that I didn’t wanna be cool anymore cause she stay gossiping about people she be in the face of and she started crying and all this bs but I think now I just have to cut her off without saying anything.
I had a therapist say that people who talk "about each other" but not "to each other" are super toxic.
I usually step back and say to myself "what is their intentions by telling me this?"
There's usually a negative energy that comes with these people also. Pay attention to the vibe!
I would also like to see more videos on how to cut toxic people out of your life.
Because sometimes when you do so they start a smear campaign and try to destroy your character.
I am not someone that stands up for myself or tries to defend myself. I just walk away.
At one point I had to move and just start over.
Walking away is standing up for urself 1000%
Moving away was the best thing God blessed me to do.
Thanks for this
Thank you so much Trent for this message. You are talking to me directly. I almost lost my life because of a pastor I called my friend and my ex. I was POISONED. YES POISONED. HOW I WISH I CAME ACROSS THIS MESSAGE IN TIME.
I APPRECIATE YOU TRENT.
I think when some ppl been down for so long, they don't even have the willpower to celebrate ur blessings or happiness. They're drowning in their own sorrow. I know ppl like this. I don't think they're jealous of me. I am the person who will stick around and help that friend. I understand that if this person's circumstances were better, they would be equally happy with me. We all have to keep going. Someone not celebrating me is not gonna keep me from doing me. We all have our own lives. I wish the best for everyone.
Worse than a gossip is a betrayer.
Period.
Good morning trent.
Thank you for sharing this video.
I have people in my own family, that exhibit all five of these traits that you talked about.
The irony of it is that , they constantly tell me ," you can't trust people like this they will do everything they can, to hurt you ".
And I'm just sitting there listening like 🙄
I talk to God daily about what moves I need to make, because He's the only one I trust!
Thank you so much for this awesome message. I really resonated with " don't allow your loyalty to become your slavery" Wow
Blessing 🙏
Protect your Peace 🕊️
So true! The lack of loyalty hurts the most.
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PREACH MY BROTHER ❤❤❤!!! I have a "BFF of 25 years" who did it around to "The FRAMILY that I created"! My frienemy of 33 years has exhibit ALL 5 of these characteristics.
These five people he just explained are people who are in my family who I grew up with and are closely related to me. I gotta say, my life hasn't been easy when I comes my confidence, having friends, and support. I put myself through school and taken courses in psychology, sociology, basic communications, business, etc and as I go into my 40s the way they treated me is still traumatizing just reflecting on it. I'm glad to say that all of them are pretty much out of my life and things are coming together for as far as my goals. I haven't got married or started a family yet but when I do, that will be icing on the cake.
LESSON LEARNED! FAMILY AND FOES.... My former BFF was the one who talk about people to anyone who will listen (and talked about me behind my back to others), she would stay friends w/people who did me wrong and I believe she was jealous of me too. After 45 years, I ghosted her when I finally opened my eyes and saw how she just couldn't be happy for me finally finding love and deciding to move to another state w/my husband whom SHE INTRODUCED me too...hard lesson to learn but I did. Thx Trent for your real talk.
Keep your enemies close, friends closer and your family's the closest. People that know you from inside out can be the greatest enemy of all.
I don't believe in religion. (No judgment & no preaching please.. respect my choice and I will respect your choice. Please and thank you) I do believe in your words Trent Shelton . Your videos are seriously my go to on a day where I'm looking for someone to help me when I'm struggling. I've been watching you for a few years now. Thank you for being such a consistent steady force in my life. You have helped me quite a few times when I didn't think there was nothing that could help me. I struggle a lot with my demons. I struggle with being self destructive. I struggle with dealing with past trauma. The despair never seems to stay gone. I struggle to stay in the light. Thank you for the times you were that light. Your words honestly have saved my life. I've been in a good place mentally for quite some time now. ❤️ To anyone struggling just know that wherever you are at...you are not alone. I hear you. Stay in the light. Stay strong. ❤️
Real talk…Gotta be careful and know whose in your circle.
I’ve experienced all of five, but with God Grace and Mercy I’m still standing.
Trent keep speaking these true messages and breaking down.
Thank you
Stay woke to know whose around you
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Everything you said is so true, I took a second look at my circle.
The fourth point is where I am- the friend that is friends with the enemy
I am so glad this popped up on my feed. I was just about to text an old friend who have two problems on this list .this just made me verify why I let this person go in the first place.
W-O-W!!! #4 & #5! I’ve been unable to put this into words. I have experienced this w/ so called friends & even family! The same people that look at me like it’s me that’s off the mark-immature bc I expect that my people would be genuine enough that THEY wouldn’t want to hang out with or even be associated with these outsiders/users/bad people!
It's great how Trent always keeps it real and honest !
I think that #4 should include coworkers as well because I've had friends at work who would befriend the coworker that would badmouth me to others and lie to the managers about me. It's because my friend was afraid of being badmouthed by this coworker. Also, that coworker had connections to big-name people so the friend would do whatever they could to be friends with them and hold their tongue whenever the coworker would spread rumors about me. But I definitely agree with the levels of friendship. I think I made the wrong people become my close friends that really should be my associates.
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I really needed to hear this. Thank you so much!
You've helped me over the years. I will be forever grateful. I was feeling like I'm not worth love and no one will ever. But I'm a God fearing person, loving, encouraging, loyal, compassionate, etc. I keep running into ppl that have so much pain n hurt. I pray that God puts ppl in my life that wants to be in my life and genuinely love me and pour into me as I do everyone. It's been a real struggle. To have reciprocation in these times feels impossible. You can be giving so much love and positivity. I've dealt with so many ppl esp men that find interest in me give mixed signals. It's hard out here. I'm trying to stay positive with so much negativity around me. I get depressed at times bc I feel like I don't belong on this earth. Struggling to find My Tribe.
Thank you for sharing. You pretty much summed up my life. I appreciate you.
So true !! Never want what people have because they have a different race they're running. jealousy is not good .
Friend of my enemy- truth!! First to betray me!! TRUTH!!
This video was confirmation!!! Especially the part about not being friends with people who are cool with your enemies.. Intuitively, I always felt that it wrong.. People like that... their loyalties are fluid. They play both sides of the fence indeed, and cannot be trusted. My mother and brother are exactly like this...
A Strong person, level headed person is a powerful thing when it's used right, I was out but know back in this relationship of lies & decit between both of us! family, & so called friends, I have been with him for 15 years and yes just recently I moved in motel he decided to stay at are so called friends. But after 8 months I brought him back in my life I wish I never had because am not aloud to have anyone here because of HUD I could lose my house he black me so his still here. Feb 24 2022 have knee surgery waited 4 yrs after I have it am gone to Roseburg OREGON WISH ME LUCK.
You are a very wise young man! I think I relate most to the one about jealousy. Sometimes you can't even imagine why someone would be jealous, but some people are not happy unless they think they are miles ahead of you and have so much more. Keep up the good work!
SPOT. ON. Trent!
I've had lots of people around me to want evening I have been blessed with. Lots of gifts from different people who know my character in our community and from the work I have done over the last 12 years being a Certified Caregiver. I've had Women and Men in my circle that I thought of as friends, but actually they were Wolves in Sheep's clothing. They have wrecked my relationships, wanted things people brought me before I could see what it was. I used to cook for my community until I realized that when my food is gone, they don't care if I eat or starve. These are just a couple of things I have experienced.
I understand people being jealous. I feel the vibes and everything you said towards me in this season this was more confirmation to be more careful. Thank you Trent! God bless you and your obedience 🙏
I Needed This... Everything You Spoke On Was *FACTS!*
God Bless You, Trent 💯🙏🏾💪🏾
Your AWESOME Trent! NOTHING BUT TRUTH!!
Amen brother keep speaking the truth God is using you to change lives! On one of your other videos I posted that it's been 5 days that I broke a bad habit now it's been 3 weeks going strong feeling good.
i don’t know what kinda rehab u talk about but just as a person u r very motivated and motivating regardless
Everything on the list sounds exactly like some I know
I sure have experienced the enemies thing.
So glad my sponsor found you and making this part of my journey, your asking everything I already knew but need to hear being new in recovery
I have experienced much envy in my life. Envy to me, is when people are uncomfortable and or resentful of your accomplishments. Family members especially
Jealousy!! The green eyed monster of greed, envy, betrayal…
Trent Sir I was mad at My GOD when I ran across your video last year and you have helped me to make the right decision for my life Thank you so much
Agents of the devil circle great ones like hungry wolves....be wary of the company you keep. Most are judas in plain sight. Also they're goal is to distract you & block your blessings. This go for family and friends. Blood and same name means nothing when you treat me like nothing. I really enjoy your content Trent. No one can speak on these things unless they've gone thru it. I appreciate you saving those whose listen🙂 you earned a new subscriber
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I feel what's this King is saying is sooo" true...thank you.
So true i starred to clean not only my body n mind but also i stop friendships for that reason they weren't good not only to me to others.
I separate myself I stand alone my army is unseen but felt in a mighty way
If they are not supporting they should not be important right dad
Real fact I have experience alot of people jealous, and I thank you,I like this message, I don't like those who speak about anyone until I do myself to the best person ,I need to be ,I have flaws too but this message are in my inner part to help myself to be that best as I can be.much love
I definitely had a bad person around me. She was good to me but terrible to her own kids, to herself, then she turned on me because she was about herself. No loss for me, I treat me very well and she does not deserve me.
It’s OK to choose yourself. You only have one life to live. Are you going to live a life without boundaries or are you gonna live a life with boundaries?
Hi trade Teresa we need more people like you two in this world besides those other bad people that need to be prayed for need to be saved take care and have a blessed night bye
#1 hits hard !!
Trent how do you deal with toxic family especially a mother but I will look on your channel Thank you for all you do ❤️❤️❤️
I went through this. It’s not easy and it’s a process. In the end I had to separate myself from the toxicity and the relationship. Love from afar.
@Barbie Thee... That's a tough one situation regarding your question. May God help you and guide you. Psalm 27
If u got money that's a way to go I'm in same situation
It’s rough BEEN THROUGH IT WITH MY MOM. Boundaries help me . Also with other people
My best friend is still friends with the girls that did me wrong. Always hurt. She would even bring them around me when she knows I don’t mess with them. SMH.
My owm cousin does this to me,a very jealous person! !
I'm in a rehab and found your link. You r the man. Wise beyond your years. You helped me allot. Thank you!
No thank you for your motivational speeches thank you for lifting my spirit up when I was down thank you so much
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Sir, thank you for sharing Godly, Bible wisdom. My family has verbally and mentally abused me most of my life. I've been told of family gatherings 30 minutes before events. My mom and sisters are bearers of jealousy. Well, they have baby mama drama and I don't, my mom rolls her eyes tells me she hates me, in the name of "Joking." Well, I felt loyal and took the abuse until recently, I distance myself from all toxicity without regret. Even my neighbors despise me, they turned my landscaper into a hater. So I had to get rid of him/ wife. And we broke 🍞 together. But, God cut a clan of 11 people out of my life in a week. Now, I'm too busy healing in God and working towards my destiny. 🙏🗣 ️🙌❤
You Certainly Called IT Trent!!✔♠💯💯 Proverbs says, "Choose your company wisely."
Man, I seen this in myself and in my past friendships. #5 connected with me. Sometime when you hurting, all you can is spit venom to anyone who can hear. It’s makes sense for me why I had friends fade overtime. Thanks for the video, it made me looked at my faults
Mr. Brother Trent listening to a Man with your Knowledge is the Greatest gift to give someone with the art of hearing and take heed. I'll like to Thank The GREATEST GOD our FATHER. for giving you the gift of Knowledge, Shalom😎
I have a very small circle and love it that way... Trent this definitely goes on in the work place so I keep to myself and don't say much to anyone. I still smile everyday and say hello and that is it nothing more nothing less.
Totally agree with everything. I do use the word “friend” a lot tho but it’s out of endearment. I believe people’s happiness is a good vibe to all ❤
Oh yes, dealing with this. Everything you say here is 100% true. Check your circle THOROUGHLY!
Trent this is real facts even in family and friends we have a problem in our communities
Thank you for your voice 💜
I got this person who will always talk about others to me behind them and I never stop her even though I didn't like to hear it, eventually I got to know about the things I trusted her with getting aired and almost everyone get to know, i am going through a lot at the moment to wrap my head around this heartbreaking issues, there are nothings she has told me or that i know about her that i have mentioned to anyone, ever.
This gossip and whispers behind my back is now affecting my life and my relationships in so devastating a way and I really can't help myself right now.
My Dad of blessed memories told me about this but somehow I didn't put the principle to action and now I'm paying the price. Thank you trent for a refresher and a reminder for me on the #5.
I had a “friend” who kept asking me how I got to the top. I gave her my connections, suggestions and helped her. My daughter warned me that she was using me but hey, I didn’t listen because I felt we were tight! She had my back. Well, 12 years later, I went through breast cancer and divorce and she stabbed me in the back bigger than I could have imagined. Cut me off and we never spoke again. Lots of hurt came with this but as Trent says, “check your friends list!” You have to run with eyes wide open!! #lovetoall #peace
This was 6 years ago and I dated my best friends cousin. It didn’t go well. He came to my house, I was sitting in the porch. He looked me dead in the eye, and said…whatever happened doesn’t matter to me, you’re my friend, and always will be. This is striking because he chose our friendship over blood.
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I thank you for reminding of these principles. I have lived on the streets of Eastside Long Beach for 9yrs.
best advice ever its an eye opener.i know some of these people and doing exactly what you say it is very disapointing but God always reveal the truth. keep educating the people the world need more people like you keep up the good work and God blessing upon your life Trinidad and Tobago ❤❤❤❤❤❤.
I love people but have very few friends that ain't really build with..if they are not about constant growth..... It hurt s but you have to distance yourself from bad energy....cause there energy will mess with your progress. Most of the time I'm solo or around people who are positive and winning.
I am dealing with this situation right now. And they surely are showing up their true colours now.
I definitely experienced this with friends and family members. I cut them all off period. I don't hang with drama and talking about others 😒. So true Trent
It's quiet sad, some of my friends deserted me when they noticed I had a break through. These are people I shared my heart bugging issues and possible ways to go about it.
"Humans are very difficult to handle "
I lived with that person for 35 years. Once I realized my every success enraged them instead, it finally realized he was the enemy not my soulmate
You're amazing real talk about real life. 👏👏👏
Thank you I wasn't realizing the extent of the speech and behavior patterns that I was continuing due to my circumstances,and how dangerous and toxic it was becoming.thank God for your message,it can't reverse the damage that has already been done to my character but it can't help me to move forward now and be my true self thank you very much
This message is telling you nothing but true Facts. Period! Peace and love 💕 to you and family.
Man you spoke nothing but TRUTH.
Thank you Trent always enjoy watching you and listening to you. I've been thru all 5 of those that's why I'm 54 and don't have any friends except my husband, Mom and Auntie plus my 15 year old that had an old soul all her life. God Bless you and your family and Merry Christmas
At some point in life , almost everyone has been viewed as toxic to someone. We are so busy pointing fingers at the other person that often forget to correct our own flaws. I'm not a jealous person but I am also not without fault. We all have things that WE need to work on so that we all can be better people.
Thank you Trent! I agree with what you said & it's the total truth! I have had experiences with jealous people & no good comes from them, also people that I considered my friend who friended my enemy, it always hurts & sadly sometimes there is nothing I can do about it, jealous people know how to manipulate things so they can get what they want, friends that friended someone that they knew was my enemy, well I can safely say they were not my friend to begin with, never were & never will be!
Also I use to work around certain men and women who were jealous of my work ethic and how other co-workers interacted with me. There was time I was making my rounds at work, and of people who were jealous, walked alone side me feeding me this negative gossip about what others were saying about my position I held. But as time went on, it was revealed that it was him campaigning my name to the manager. And it worked, he set me up to approach the manager when it never was true.
Bless!
Wowww well needed. ‼️Time for me to let go of some people. It hurts but I needed this 💯💯
Thank you so much!!!!
I needed to hear this. I've had people in my life that tried to destroy me, that acted like they were my friends.( And this was in the last 10 years.)