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I'm glad your aunt helped you understand it was best for your dad. As an RN, I've had family members express these exact same things to me as their loved ones were telling me they didn't want their children to "see them like that." I don't ever want my sons to see me like that, nor do I want to feel like a burden on them because even if the child has the best of intentions and is doing what they feel is right, most of the time their parent does not want their child to have to be their caregiver and it truly does make them feel like they are a burden. Most parents would say they'd rather be in a facility and just want their children to visit them. I don’t know if that makes sense or not...makes sense in my head. Great video, Vicki! ❤
We hold onto too much responsibility, we don't have to do it all, we have people who can help. -I need to write this down and read it daily! Release, release, release, let go, and take care of myself. Thank you for sharing from your heart, Vicki, your lived experience, it is truly so helpful.
Great video Vicki, caregiver guilt is real but i can tell that you have a big heart and doing the best for your loved ones! I went through thinking that i had to do it on my own and quickly learned that i couldn't. I did take my mom to Hawaii because i wanted her to be with her sisters and brother. It was an incredibly difficult trip and she actually had a mini stroke two days before we were going back. Luckily she was able to go back home and i was glad that she was able to spend one last time with her siblings. The best thing we did was have her in a great assisted living place close to us and we had a visiting schedule so that someone was there every day. We had to use her retirement fund for this, but we felt that this is exactly what her savings was for. The dementia tips at the end were amazing too. Thanks for another wonderful video, Vicki 🥰❤
@danafindwell Thank you for sharing your story. We also took the in-laws to visit family back east, before their mobility really declined, and it was very hard then. But glad we were able to make it happen. To see their faces light up and hear their stories was priceless. 🥰
@Pickletrees It's understandable. Especially being in your shoes as the 'responsible' child whose help was requested. But you deserve grace. I know you are doing your best. And I know your parents feel the same. ❤️
Thanks for this Vicki, I helped to look after my dad in his last 6 months of life. I have a moment I’m not proud of, that I wish I could have taken back. I often talked to my dad’s spirit now and I know he’s not holding it over me but I hold it over me. I know it was the stress of what was happening but listening to this video today made me realise I have to let go and finally just forgive myself. Thanks I really needed that
@xploradora8099 I'm so glad this was helpful. 💕 It's hard to let go of the guilt because we're always striving to be perfect. But I truly believe he has forgiven you for anything you said out of anger and frustration. And he wants you to forgive yourself. 💓
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Whether you're here intentionally, or stumbled onme by chance, I'm thrilled to have you here! 🤗
If you found this video helpful, please give it a thumbs up 👍🏻, share it with friends, and don't forget to leave a comment with your thoughts or questions below. 💭
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I'm glad your aunt helped you understand it was best for your dad. As an RN, I've had family members express these exact same things to me as their loved ones were telling me they didn't want their children to "see them like that." I don't ever want my sons to see me like that, nor do I want to feel like a burden on them because even if the child has the best of intentions and is doing what they feel is right, most of the time their parent does not want their child to have to be their caregiver and it truly does make them feel like they are a burden. Most parents would say they'd rather be in a facility and just want their children to visit them. I don’t know if that makes sense or not...makes sense in my head. Great video, Vicki! ❤
@@LonnaRae Yes! I think he didn't understand what his daughters would have to do to keep him home. Then he realized he didn't want it.
I sit with a sweet elderly woman that's struggling with dementia. Thanks for showing those 16 things at the end!
@@GrammysstorytymeThank you for watching. Rachael Wonderlin's list is one of the most thoughtful I've found. 💕
We hold onto too much responsibility, we don't have to do it all, we have people who can help. -I need to write this down and read it daily! Release, release, release, let go, and take care of myself. Thank you for sharing from your heart, Vicki, your lived experience, it is truly so helpful.
Yes! I held on to that guilt for 30 years. I'm so glad I have learned to accept help and that I'm only responsible to do my BEST, not do it ALL
Great video Vicki, caregiver guilt is real but i can tell that you have a big heart and doing the best for your loved ones! I went through thinking that i had to do it on my own and quickly learned that i couldn't. I did take my mom to Hawaii because i wanted her to be with her sisters and brother. It was an incredibly difficult trip and she actually had a mini stroke two days before we were going back. Luckily she was able to go back home and i was glad that she was able to spend one last time with her siblings. The best thing we did was have her in a great assisted living place close to us and we had a visiting schedule so that someone was there every day. We had to use her retirement fund for this, but we felt that this is exactly what her savings was for. The dementia tips at the end were amazing too. Thanks for another wonderful video, Vicki 🥰❤
@danafindwell Thank you for sharing your story. We also took the in-laws to visit family back east, before their mobility really declined, and it was very hard then. But glad we were able to make it happen. To see their faces light up and hear their stories was priceless. 🥰
So much helpful truth. You are going to save someone a lot of unnecessary grief with this. Bless you.
Thank you! 💕 Sharing my pain to try to spare others.
Giiirrrrlll 💫great story - this list is beautiful - thank you 💫💕
Thank you 💕. I really love that list, too. 😊
Wow. You are speaking right to my heart. Guilt rules my life I think. “Just let it go” is such a difficult thing.
@Pickletrees It's understandable. Especially being in your shoes as the 'responsible' child whose help was requested. But you deserve grace. I know you are doing your best. And I know your parents feel the same. ❤️
I'm so glad I stumbled on your channel. Your advice is so straightforward and heartfelt. Thank you!
@@Elizabeth-d1n Thank you! I'm thrilled to have you here. 🥰
I am sure you are helping a lot of people with this channel. Keep up the good work
@@davidnprogress Thank you! I really appreciate you watching and being so supportive.💕
Thanks for this Vicki, I helped to look after my dad in his last 6 months of life.
I have a moment I’m not proud of, that I wish I could have taken back. I often talked to my dad’s spirit now and I know he’s not holding it over me but I hold it over me.
I know it was the stress of what was happening but listening to this video today made me realise I have to let go and finally just forgive myself.
Thanks I really needed that
@xploradora8099 I'm so glad this was helpful. 💕 It's hard to let go of the guilt because we're always striving to be perfect. But I truly believe he has forgiven you for anything you said out of anger and frustration. And he wants you to forgive yourself. 💓
I’m so glad you came into my life. ❤
@@Pickletrees Me, too! We got this. 😘
It really is, smh... hi Ms. Vicky, I hope you are having a great day
@@tntmakeupllc thank you so much for watching 💕
@AgingOnYourTerms you're welcome 😊... I truly look forward to growing with you and supporting you ❤️