Why is he being an put down, when they didn't want to pitch in. He has contributed the majority of household things. They are taking advantage of him by not pitching in and coming in his room to watch TV. Why aren't you calling the roommates the assholes. I would charge them to watch my TV. He only needed $75.00 per person from them. They drink that much in beer.
Put in in your room, if you don't want share something, commonly shared. We aren't talking about a Netflix account. What happens if they had gotten the tv before the roommates? No one had a problem sharing a free tv, even though whose ever parent that gave the tv is the owner. Also, never chip in for a tv, because you can't split tv when you move. So, it's always best for one person to buy the tv, share, and then that person takes the tv when they move. Does then everyone get to put tv into the living room, if they each one to watch tv and also keep the tv? TV's are shared unless it's in a space that can't or doesn't have to be shared. If they share a bathroom and decide to get new showerhead, should that person take the showerhead everything they finish a shower?
Mop your wrong dusty definitely disagree with you. They offered to buy it with the roommates and they never stood up for it. They are right to code it.
So when is this guy allowed to stop being the doormat? Like I would have let this play out. We never heard if the roommates noticed the code. Op just got ramrodded by a bunch of strangers on the internet.
Fully, 100%, disagree. Homie puts forth all the effort to furnish the home, he should be able to hang with his friends in the communal area. Roomie pitch in, roomie can remove the code.
I would agree with you, except for the fact that there is a TV in the room which they all watch and use, so logically it would make sense for him to just use the TV in his room and leave the other TV in the living room for everybody to use. If it was just one TV it would be different but there are two and he has one in his own room.
I agree the roommates are not putting in any effort to pitch in so why should he share any that he work for. If they want to watch TV then they need to ask.
@@jay-jayconner8180 I agree with you, however considering there are two TVs, it would make more sense for them to just watch TV in the living room and for him to watch TV whenever he wants to in his own room.
@@saiyan4414 no it doesn't make any sense at all. He shouldn't always entertain his company in his room and his roommates should feel uncomfortable for going in his to watch his TV. Its sounds like they was waiting on him to buy the TV
Haven’t listened all the way yet but hearing that the old tv “got hit” is suuuper suspicious. Why not say who hit it and why, that would color my opinion of who has to replace it. Edit: for everyone pointing out that he furnished the house, it doesn’t sound like any of the roommates wanted that or asked for it. He wanted the house to look nice so he furnished it. It sucks that no one pitched in and I get the feeling of injustice but if he wants the TV for his own use then it should go in his room. Edit 2: the bedroom issue is a boundary issue, he could 100% ask them not to hang out there. They think it’s ok now because they always do it, there’s been no communication.
Mmm no. NTA. He has a major point here. He has furnished the house. He got the tv. How much groceries does he buy? He has the master. Does he pay more? Do they all cover the utilities?? I understand where he is coming from. And, not everyone can afford to live alone. Especially today. Sorry. He should have gotten a fair share from everyone. They can either split the difference later or gift out things to people as they leave. Or, he keeps it and… who knows. Room mating is never ever easy. But everyone should be putting forth effort for a communal space imo.
Presumably he'll take the TV with him when he moves so I don't feel like he's losing out on anything. In the end it's his TV. If he wants to sell it to someone living in the house when he moves out that is also a possibility.
You cannot buy a item for the community space and ban everyone from it. That’s just attention seeking behavior. It completely eliminates the point to get a tv to watch with friends if you already HAVE a TV in your room and one of the reasons you don’t enjoy it in your room is because everyone’s in your room watching the TV. It sounds like OP just needs to find a cheap one bedroom that they can afford so they don’t have to share. Yes it’s annoying that they are the only person buying things for the place but no one made them do it. They could have left their roommates without unless they pooled the money together to begin with. I’m glad OP took the code off the TV because that was a petty move.
As someone who used to be a doormat/gopher for others, he’s NTA and needs to put up the boundaries somehow so he gets left alone. He’s been the one in pain and is perfectly justified redirecting that pain to create change. Also I love how unified the comment section is against Dusty and Reddit. You love to see it.
Correct. In a shared space, it's for sharing. Obviously, this is a first time roommates situation. In a roommate situation you don't buy furniture together, it's this person's or that person's property that leaves with them when they move out. If a piece of furniture/appliance is bought together, then who owns it? Are they going to buy out a former roommate's share when they move and then require the new roommate to fork over money towards the existing tv? No, because that's not how things work.
OP should have gotten the cheapest tv he could find to put in the communal area. Even better a cheap used one either from market place or a hawk shop. If the living room is dark enough, look into a cheap projector and sound system. Quite sure the current tv is going to get broken sometime soon. OP next time set a collection day everyone agrees to, set a target amount, have the agreement written down, have a big sign announcing how much is needed for new tv in the communal area, collect the money promised on collection day, get a lock for your door and do not let your roommates into your room, and only buy a new tv for the communal area when you have enough to cover it!
I don't think he's an AH at all, but I agree he should've gotten a cheap TV for the living room so they can leave him and his room alone. His roommates are AH for taking advantage. They'll continue as long as he continues to let them.
I'm torn on this one, I think I'd put him at a 4, but he also gets some petty confetti. I get why, I'd be pissed that no one wants to chip in but also expects to use the thing I spent my money on. But at the same time it's a communal space, you can't gate keep shared spaces or items in the shared space. If it's that big of a deal, put your other TV on a cart, av nerd style, and wheel it out when you have guests.
I kinda agree kinda disagree here. Sounds like OP has other larger issues which is that his roommates are lazy leeches who won't contribute to anything and expect to use OP's stuff since that's what's always been done. OP needs to have conversations with them and set expectations and boundaries with his roommates. Furnishing a tv and putting a code to block out the roommates is definitely a petty move and i do think it makes him a bit of an asconaut but only ascon 4 - its just unproductive. Roommates are either a 2 or 1 depending on how willing they are to listen and change
I have a few things to say about this. I personally think NTA. Have to disagree with ya Dusty, but the fact is, is that OP had to buy almost EVERYTHING else. I think it's unfair for the roommates to take advantage of OP. They also could really have just pitched in a little bit. What if they were just waiting for OP to crack and buy it on their own dime, just to leech off of that to.
Why doesn't he put a code in his bedroom as well? Then he can ask them to pitch in a bit for the TV in the communal room and then take the code off that. I don't think they should pay 25% because you ultimately decided to buy it yourself. However, they should pay something in case something happens to that TV like what happened with the last one.
Unpopular opinion here, but I think splitting the cost of something that you can't split up when you move, is dumb. Stuff like TVs, couches, chairs, can't be easily divided, so it makes more sense that one person pays and then share them. If it's get damage whoever damages it pays. Other then that you are just asking for trouble, based on how much each person paid, how often it's used, who has finally ownership? Also, it's a common space, I've let people move in with me and though they rented just the room, they could use the living if they wanted or had guess. It's just nice to let people use my stuff that's already in the common space. No one had a problem sharing a free tv, even though whose ever parent that gave the tv is the owner. Also, since he paid for the tv and will put a code on it to keep others from watching, can everyone else do the same? And they just have more than one tv in the living room. TV's are shared unless it's in a space that can't or doesn't have to be shared. If they share a bathroom and one decide to get new showerhead, should that person take the showerhead everything they finish a shower? If they you buy a washing machine, should you then not share it? Or how about the stove? Certain things should just be shared because unless your are married or planning to live together forever, one owner makes things less complicated. I would never chip in for tv, unless I'm okay with not being the owner.
Right, you have to have clear ownership of furniture/appliances and things to know who takes it when they move out. The last time I had roommates I had bought all the pots and pans, everyone could use them but I took them with me when my job transfered me across the country.
Put it in your room if you don't want to share. I agree with you Dusty. OP is the ass in my opinion. If he doesn't want to share the TV in his room, lock your room and tell them if they want a communal TV they can pitch in for one.
If you put it in the common area, it's for common use. Putting a TV in a common room and making it unavailable to everyone is a dick move. My mom is in a bad rental situation where they've decided that since THEY bought the TV in the common area, they can change the channel even if she's in the middle of watching something. And if she complains, they say, "Well, it's our TV." It's unbelievably shitty to do to someone and only exists to make that person feel like it's not their home as well. If you've chosen to host gatherings in your room, that's a you issue that can be resolved with conversation. "Hey guys, my room is off limits right now. I want some space and privacy. If you guys wanna watch TV, someone's gonna have to find one for the living room." You have to communicate like an adult if you're gonna live like an adult.
OP is totally in his rights to deny them the TV Access after they didn't contribute....BUT why putting the TV in a community area then in the first place? Why does he stay with people who didn't do their share when it comes to contributing but use his stuff constantly? You get what you allow them to give you...
OP makes no sense. Why even get the TV for the mutual space if you’re not going to share it with everyone and you already have a TV in your room, and OP said they wanted a TV for the living room so that people would watch out there instead of piling in their bedroom? If you want something for just yourself, keep it your private space or don’t have it at all. It’s that simple. OP is only causing unnecessary drama at this point.
Not gonna lie, I’d keep both tvs in my room and bring the new one out to the living room when people come over. If the other roomies pay a portion of the cost then the tv can stay out there. Otherwise I’m protecting my investment from being broken by a random person. I’m probably a major asshole for suggesting this, but they kept lying about contributing and I’m pretty petty after people waste my time.
Op tried to be petty but did it wrong lol. If anything op YTA to yourself. He wanted the roomates out of his room And wanted them to pay for a community tv. Should have set Boundaries (or a lock) on your room then wait them out to contribute paying gor for a new tv.
Nope. You’re totally wrong. OP is under no obligation to share as they refused to chip in. He’s also under no obligation to not use communal space as he wants to. You completely missed it on this one.
Does anyone talk to people anymore? I feel like so many AITA and AITA-adjacent stories could be solved by just COMMUNICATING! And this is one of those stories! OP needs to express to roommates that OP would like them to chip in instead of OP funding so much of what's in the house. If OP is going to put a code on any TV, put it on the bedroom TV.
Because he put it in communial space. That's being an AH. There's no way around it. Living rooms don't HAVE to have a TV in them, it was his choice to put it in there. Putting it there was done to start a fight in a passive aggressive way
Live alone? Do you know how expensive that is nowadays? I’m assuming they’re in college or just out of it, they most likely can’t afford to live alone.
Why is he being an put down, when they didn't want to pitch in. He has contributed the majority of household things. They are taking advantage of him by not pitching in and coming in his room to watch TV. Why aren't you calling the roommates the assholes. I would charge them to watch my TV. He only needed $75.00 per person from them. They drink that much in beer.
Put in in your room, if you don't want share something, commonly shared. We aren't talking about a Netflix account. What happens if they had gotten the tv before the roommates? No one had a problem sharing a free tv, even though whose ever parent that gave the tv is the owner. Also, never chip in for a tv, because you can't split tv when you move. So, it's always best for one person to buy the tv, share, and then that person takes the tv when they move. Does then everyone get to put tv into the living room, if they each one to watch tv and also keep the tv? TV's are shared unless it's in a space that can't or doesn't have to be shared. If they share a bathroom and decide to get new showerhead, should that person take the showerhead everything they finish a shower?
Mop your wrong dusty definitely disagree with you. They offered to buy it with the roommates and they never stood up for it. They are right to code it.
Nope... they don't want to pitch in
So when is this guy allowed to stop being the doormat? Like I would have let this play out. We never heard if the roommates noticed the code. Op just got ramrodded by a bunch of strangers on the internet.
I disagree! He gave them the chance to pitch in over and over again. They made the choice now suffer the consequences. NTA
Fully, 100%, disagree. Homie puts forth all the effort to furnish the home, he should be able to hang with his friends in the communal area. Roomie pitch in, roomie can remove the code.
I would agree with you, except for the fact that there is a TV in the room which they all watch and use, so logically it would make sense for him to just use the TV in his room and leave the other TV in the living room for everybody to use. If it was just one TV it would be different but there are two and he has one in his own room.
I agree the roommates are not putting in any effort to pitch in so why should he share any that he work for. If they want to watch TV then they need to ask.
@@jay-jayconner8180 I agree with you, however considering there are two TVs, it would make more sense for them to just watch TV in the living room and for him to watch TV whenever he wants to in his own room.
@@saiyan4414 no it doesn't make any sense at all. He shouldn't always entertain his company in his room and his roommates should feel uncomfortable for going in his to watch his TV. Its sounds like they was waiting on him to buy the TV
@@saiyan4414the communal tv was damaged beyond repair, listed again.
Thought he would’ve just put it in his room😂
Put the better tv in your room and the other one in the living room
Haven’t listened all the way yet but hearing that the old tv “got hit” is suuuper suspicious. Why not say who hit it and why, that would color my opinion of who has to replace it.
Edit: for everyone pointing out that he furnished the house, it doesn’t sound like any of the roommates wanted that or asked for it. He wanted the house to look nice so he furnished it. It sucks that no one pitched in and I get the feeling of injustice but if he wants the TV for his own use then it should go in his room.
Edit 2: the bedroom issue is a boundary issue, he could 100% ask them not to hang out there. They think it’s ok now because they always do it, there’s been no communication.
Only to the point that you put it in the living room instead of your own bedroom.
Mmm no. NTA. He has a major point here. He has furnished the house. He got the tv. How much groceries does he buy? He has the master. Does he pay more? Do they all cover the utilities??
I understand where he is coming from. And, not everyone can afford to live alone. Especially today.
Sorry. He should have gotten a fair share from everyone. They can either split the difference later or gift out things to people as they leave. Or, he keeps it and… who knows.
Room mating is never ever easy. But everyone should be putting forth effort for a communal space imo.
Presumably he'll take the TV with him when he moves so I don't feel like he's losing out on anything. In the end it's his TV. If he wants to sell it to someone living in the house when he moves out that is also a possibility.
You cannot buy a item for the community space and ban everyone from it. That’s just attention seeking behavior. It completely eliminates the point to get a tv to watch with friends if you already HAVE a TV in your room and one of the reasons you don’t enjoy it in your room is because everyone’s in your room watching the TV. It sounds like OP just needs to find a cheap one bedroom that they can afford so they don’t have to share. Yes it’s annoying that they are the only person buying things for the place but no one made them do it. They could have left their roommates without unless they pooled the money together to begin with. I’m glad OP took the code off the TV because that was a petty move.
As someone who used to be a doormat/gopher for others, he’s NTA and needs to put up the boundaries somehow so he gets left alone. He’s been the one in pain and is perfectly justified redirecting that pain to create change.
Also I love how unified the comment section is against Dusty and Reddit. You love to see it.
Correct. In a shared space, it's for sharing. Obviously, this is a first time roommates situation. In a roommate situation you don't buy furniture together, it's this person's or that person's property that leaves with them when they move out. If a piece of furniture/appliance is bought together, then who owns it? Are they going to buy out a former roommate's share when they move and then require the new roommate to fork over money towards the existing tv? No, because that's not how things work.
Wow. I disagree with Dusty. I don't like this feeling.
OP should have gotten the cheapest tv he could find to put in the communal area. Even better a cheap used one either from market place or a hawk shop. If the living room is dark enough, look into a cheap projector and sound system. Quite sure the current tv is going to get broken sometime soon.
OP next time set a collection day everyone agrees to, set a target amount, have the agreement written down, have a big sign announcing how much is needed for new tv in the communal area, collect the money promised on collection day, get a lock for your door and do not let your roommates into your room, and only buy a new tv for the communal area when you have enough to cover it!
I don't think he's an AH at all, but I agree he should've gotten a cheap TV for the living room so they can leave him and his room alone. His roommates are AH for taking advantage. They'll continue as long as he continues to let them.
I'm torn on this one, I think I'd put him at a 4, but he also gets some petty confetti. I get why, I'd be pissed that no one wants to chip in but also expects to use the thing I spent my money on. But at the same time it's a communal space, you can't gate keep shared spaces or items in the shared space. If it's that big of a deal, put your other TV on a cart, av nerd style, and wheel it out when you have guests.
He’s petty yesss AH noo they need to chip in 😅
I kinda agree kinda disagree here. Sounds like OP has other larger issues which is that his roommates are lazy leeches who won't contribute to anything and expect to use OP's stuff since that's what's always been done. OP needs to have conversations with them and set expectations and boundaries with his roommates. Furnishing a tv and putting a code to block out the roommates is definitely a petty move and i do think it makes him a bit of an asconaut but only ascon 4 - its just unproductive. Roommates are either a 2 or 1 depending on how willing they are to listen and change
I dont think its an ahole move tbh.
I have a few things to say about this. I personally think NTA. Have to disagree with ya Dusty, but the fact is, is that OP had to buy almost EVERYTHING else. I think it's unfair for the roommates to take advantage of OP. They also could really have just pitched in a little bit. What if they were just waiting for OP to crack and buy it on their own dime, just to leech off of that to.
I completely agree put it in your room. But understand OP’s feelings, they just want someone else to pitch in.
Why doesn't he put a code in his bedroom as well? Then he can ask them to pitch in a bit for the TV in the communal room and then take the code off that. I don't think they should pay 25% because you ultimately decided to buy it yourself. However, they should pay something in case something happens to that TV like what happened with the last one.
Unpopular opinion here, but I think splitting the cost of something that you can't split up when you move, is dumb. Stuff like TVs, couches, chairs, can't be easily divided, so it makes more sense that one person pays and then share them. If it's get damage whoever damages it pays. Other then that you are just asking for trouble, based on how much each person paid, how often it's used, who has finally ownership? Also, it's a common space, I've let people move in with me and though they rented just the room, they could use the living if they wanted or had guess. It's just nice to let people use my stuff that's already in the common space. No one had a problem sharing a free tv, even though whose ever parent that gave the tv is the owner. Also, since he paid for the tv and will put a code on it to keep others from watching, can everyone else do the same? And they just have more than one tv in the living room.
TV's are shared unless it's in a space that can't or doesn't have to be shared. If they share a bathroom and one decide to get new showerhead, should that person take the showerhead everything they finish a shower? If they you buy a washing machine, should you then not share it? Or how about the stove? Certain things should just be shared because unless your are married or planning to live together forever, one owner makes things less complicated. I would never chip in for tv, unless I'm okay with not being the owner.
Right, you have to have clear ownership of furniture/appliances and things to know who takes it when they move out. The last time I had roommates I had bought all the pots and pans, everyone could use them but I took them with me when my job transfered me across the country.
Put it in your room if you don't want to share. I agree with you Dusty. OP is the ass in my opinion. If he doesn't want to share the TV in his room, lock your room and tell them if they want a communal TV they can pitch in for one.
Definitely NTA. Put it on a rolling cart. roll it in and out when you want to use it in the living room
If you put it in the common area, it's for common use. Putting a TV in a common room and making it unavailable to everyone is a dick move. My mom is in a bad rental situation where they've decided that since THEY bought the TV in the common area, they can change the channel even if she's in the middle of watching something. And if she complains, they say, "Well, it's our TV." It's unbelievably shitty to do to someone and only exists to make that person feel like it's not their home as well. If you've chosen to host gatherings in your room, that's a you issue that can be resolved with conversation. "Hey guys, my room is off limits right now. I want some space and privacy. If you guys wanna watch TV, someone's gonna have to find one for the living room." You have to communicate like an adult if you're gonna live like an adult.
He should move the Bar Stools to his room too
OP is totally in his rights to deny them the TV Access after they didn't contribute....BUT why putting the TV in a community area then in the first place? Why does he stay with people who didn't do their share when it comes to contributing but use his stuff constantly? You get what you allow them to give you...
OP makes no sense. Why even get the TV for the mutual space if you’re not going to share it with everyone and you already have a TV in your room, and OP said they wanted a TV for the living room so that people would watch out there instead of piling in their bedroom? If you want something for just yourself, keep it your private space or don’t have it at all. It’s that simple. OP is only causing unnecessary drama at this point.
NTA!
NTA
Not gonna lie, I’d keep both tvs in my room and bring the new one out to the living room when people come over. If the other roomies pay a portion of the cost then the tv can stay out there. Otherwise I’m protecting my investment from being broken by a random person. I’m probably a major asshole for suggesting this, but they kept lying about contributing and I’m pretty petty after people waste my time.
Op tried to be petty but did it wrong lol. If anything op YTA to yourself. He wanted the roomates out of his room And wanted them to pay for a community tv. Should have set Boundaries (or a lock) on your room then wait them out to contribute paying gor for a new tv.
Nope nope nope! Givers have to set limits bec takers never do! NTA.
Nope. You’re totally wrong. OP is under no obligation to share as they refused to chip in. He’s also under no obligation to not use communal space as he wants to.
You completely missed it on this one.
I get putting the TV in your room, thats what I would do. That aside, I dont think OP is TA.
Sorry but Dusty is wrong here. Roommates are taking advantage and I would definitely code that shit!
Does anyone talk to people anymore? I feel like so many AITA and AITA-adjacent stories could be solved by just COMMUNICATING! And this is one of those stories!
OP needs to express to roommates that OP would like them to chip in instead of OP funding so much of what's in the house. If OP is going to put a code on any TV, put it on the bedroom TV.
What the hell why should he not put a code on it. Tell them they get the code if they all payed their part. Why does he have to give it for free
Because he put it in communial space. That's being an AH. There's no way around it. Living rooms don't HAVE to have a TV in them, it was his choice to put it in there. Putting it there was done to start a fight in a passive aggressive way
Live alone? Do you know how expensive that is nowadays? I’m assuming they’re in college or just out of it, they most likely can’t afford to live alone.
Put it in your room
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ESH