This was challenging the listen to. I had great parents, but our inner emotional worlds didn't connect. I think some of that was my own introversion, but earlier generations felt they had to project a tough, stoic exterior.
when someone explains in 10 minutes what you have been thinking about for 40 years. :) I want to thank you for this and the other videos really, really much! They help me at this age to open "locks" in my inner self and grow as a man.
A BIG problem I (autistic) have is that I’m scared/hesitant to directly communicate my needs, because I learned as a kid that my parents (both emotionally immature & unavailable, but also good and well-meaning) will really only make an effort to attune to me only when prompted. I crave genuine spontaneous acts of affection/quality time/connection, but my parents will only do it as a response to my assertion. I’ve told them in the past that I want to see more genuine and spontaneous acts, but they almost never do anything. I realize my parents don’t represent people as a whole, but I do feel icky if people try to meet my needs ONLY after telling them; it feels so fake and disingenuous. 😞
Happy New Year liebe Maika... hopefully lots of emotional and physical health for all of us, and good humor to lift our hearts. Sigmund Freud can't compete with you.🙂
Hi maika, i have a theory of what causes trauma and depression in most cases. Is it true? My theroy is: I think that they have got the concept of what causes trauma and depression completly wrong in most cases. I don't think it's anything to do with seratonin or dopamaine in most cases rather everything to do with an inability to turn on the part of our brain that filters out all the bad stuff when it starts to get overwhelming. But i think some people lack that. Like, For some people even after going through a lot of painful experiences won't give them any severe trauma while for some people going through same painful experiences will give them severe trauma. Some People even block traumatic events from being recalled later as a way of protecting themself. So if that is the case then, giving pills to treat truma and depression to people in most cases is not a right way i guess also i dont think so therapy is a right choice either because they can still go through those painful experiences and get severe trauma again.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this. The development of trauma and depression is quite a complex process with multiple factors involved. That's why treatment and therapy usually also needs to be comprised of different strategies and tools.
Hi Dr Maika! Is there a name for the phenomenon whereby happiness derived from looking at a photo is equivalent to that derived from actually partaking in an experience such as travelling to the other side of the world?
:-D Das werde ich tatsächlich häufiger gefragt. Die Antwort ist: höchstwahrscheinlich leider nicht. Dazu müsste ich einen zweiten Kanal eröffnen, was dann sehr viel Arbeit wäre. Zweisprachige Kanäle sind sehr verwirrend für den Algorithmus.
Thank you for your teachings!
This was challenging the listen to. I had great parents, but our inner emotional worlds didn't connect. I think some of that was my own introversion, but earlier generations felt they had to project a tough, stoic exterior.
Same for me.
This is so great, Dr. Maika! I love your insights and knowledge, it's so useful.
I‘m glad my videos resonate with you 😊☀️
when someone explains in 10 minutes what you have been thinking about for 40 years. :) I want to thank you for this and the other videos really, really much! They help me at this age to open "locks" in my inner self and grow as a man.
wonderful 🙏✨
A BIG problem I (autistic) have is that I’m scared/hesitant to directly communicate my needs, because I learned as a kid that my parents (both emotionally immature & unavailable, but also good and well-meaning) will really only make an effort to attune to me only when prompted. I crave genuine spontaneous acts of affection/quality time/connection, but my parents will only do it as a response to my assertion. I’ve told them in the past that I want to see more genuine and spontaneous acts, but they almost never do anything.
I realize my parents don’t represent people as a whole, but I do feel icky if people try to meet my needs ONLY after telling them; it feels so fake and disingenuous. 😞
Maika has a real gift of putting across a lot of very relevant and deep information in a clear, succinct and caring way. It's quite rare.🤗
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Happy New Year liebe Maika... hopefully lots of emotional and physical health for all of us, and good humor to lift our hearts. Sigmund Freud can't compete with you.🙂
Thank you 🙏🏻☺️! And to you, too! 🎆🎇🎊
Thank you for new ' tools ' !
Thanks so much for this video
❤thank you! I am so grateful to hear this!
Thank you
Gotcha. 😊
Hi maika, i have a theory of what causes trauma and depression in most cases. Is it true?
My theroy is:
I think that they have got the concept of what causes trauma and depression completly wrong in most cases. I don't think it's anything to do with seratonin or dopamaine in most cases rather everything to do with an inability to turn on the part of our brain that filters out all the bad stuff when it starts to get overwhelming. But i think some people lack that. Like, For some people even after going through a lot of painful experiences won't give them any severe trauma while for some people going through same painful experiences will give them severe trauma. Some People even block traumatic events from being recalled later as a way of protecting themself.
So if that is the case then, giving pills to treat truma and depression to people in most cases is not a right way i guess also i dont think so therapy is a right choice either because they can still go through those painful experiences and get severe trauma again.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this. The development of trauma and depression is quite a complex process with multiple factors involved. That's why treatment and therapy usually also needs to be comprised of different strategies and tools.
Hi Dr Maika! Is there a name for the phenomenon whereby happiness derived from looking at a photo is equivalent to that derived from actually partaking in an experience such as travelling to the other side of the world?
Hi! I haven’t heard of a name for this. In a conversation I‘d ask more questions 🤔
Living vicariously through the image or perhaps nostalgia.
Kriegen wir auch mal Videos auf Deutsch :D
:-D Das werde ich tatsächlich häufiger gefragt. Die Antwort ist: höchstwahrscheinlich leider nicht. Dazu müsste ich einen zweiten Kanal eröffnen, was dann sehr viel Arbeit wäre. Zweisprachige Kanäle sind sehr verwirrend für den Algorithmus.