This actually goes both ways. As a man I've been in a situation where I had this woman who blew my phone up all day every day, always ''checking in'' on me. And while I was at the fence about her, this kind of behavior just pushed me more away from her because it felt exhausting.
They are so difficult. Then after the honeymoon phase wears off they belittle you. And after you have kids, they love the kids more than you. It’s just endless pandering with no real reward, or benefit, just continual loss of your own self and dignity.
Whilst I agree to that some what..my new way of dealing with this is pure respect but also massive steel like boundaries. She's not there to save us is she. I think for our part neither are we got them. Love them yes. They just need to learn we're not built like that so we can meet in the middle
@@oliverbird6914100% you have to have boundaries and don’t just cave as a man, her respect for you will keep dwindling over time and so will any good times.
I,agree with you all my friends, I am straight forward i met with women who older than me years back stay with her 2 years and have been through alot of toxic pain I was dumped and she was pregnant with my daughter now she is 15 years old just now she's contact me and saying that your daughter needs you after 16years She remarried and divorced, and now she thinks she can control me again. I am not someone who is available every time.
It's the subtleties, people try to bs and I just came out of the era in my life where I was fooled into thinking "Yeah everyone is different and unique." which is true, but no one is different, no one is "better" they all give off subtle signs and vibes and basically everyone is the same macro, they're the same, with some differences around the edges, but the basic outlines is the same person to person. Thus why we all in life strive for the same goals, just different how we get there. Everyone is unique, but they're not, you get me?
And WTF, relationships are ALWAYS hard. You're dealing with another whole human being, nothing is ever easy about that. I get what you were trying to say, but it's never easy.
You know it's strange. Often times you hear about or read about how if a person has a broken home, they can be broken or toxic in relationships but my parents are amazing, and have been married for almost 50 years. However I feel I've been a little messed up in relationships because I feel like when I like someone, I should be completely loyal, and focus on just them. This may be great when you're married but unfortunately I think it's made me seem needy or clingy when it's just my instincts to be loyal and focused on the person I first start seeing, which has sabotaged things I bit. Thanks for the video's. Along with Cory's it's helping me to adjust my attitude, especially when just getting to know someone else.
There’s nothing wrong with that. If anything I wish I met someone like that. What they don’t tell you is when you’re gone that’s that. They will always remember you and it will haunt them not valuing a loyal and genuine person when they had them. Those people always learn too late that most people in this world wear a mask and aren’t genuine in the least. Most people I ever knew have been manipulative and even when they seemed nice they it wasn’t for real it was simply to keep an image for the public.
I feel this is also my “problem”. Coming off as clingy or needy when i just want to hang out. It seems everyone out there is used to everybody else playing games
@@montruo000000007 Yeah, but trust me, it's to your benefit to put up a bit of a shield between you and potential game players, the game is just as much for your protection as it is theirs. Use it to your benefit, problem I had when I was young, "How does someone know if I like them if I don't tell them?" Oh they know, people are super complicated and hypocritical creatures all at the same time.
Definitely some truth to this. Do not try to rush her into anything, and don’t lose the things you love to do. Too many guys fold the rest of their life when a girl starts to show interest. It’s painful what they are doing to themselves.
Yo dude, it's up to you, I had to get over this type of stuff recently, it's real simple, do it, or don't. What you can't do is, stay outta the way and then complain when nothing comes your way. Closed mouth don't get fed. I came off of a 9 year divorce, I don't blame my ex wife, we had not a thing in common besides our kids (honestly why it lasted more than 2 years). It's easier if you get people with aligned interests, values, and hobbies, but that don't guarantee forever. I know it's confusing, but you have to love a woman (once you're in the real part of the relationship), but realize a relationship is two people, so at any random point she can wake up and say "I don't want you anymore." thus why it's good to love, yet not love at the same time, love her, but realize it may not last forever so never build another person into your whole world.
I'm so confused about the mysterious part, it's not like I'm a jack-in-the-box where you turn the crank around until it pops. I'm just a guy in an apartment, doing my interests, eating, and sleeping.
Maybe don't let them know EVERY detail about you and wonder about something because the blanks she fills in her mind are more interesting than the reality.
This is the essence, the crux of the issue. She will find out eventually you're a normal guy and wear you down. It happens to me every time, you can literally see the interest waning each time she sees a new part of my life ... friends, family, Mr my morning routine...slowly the reality comes in and she starts looking elsewhere to feed the fantasy. You can keep mystery only so long, and unless you're James Bond, the reality is not that interesting in comparison. Most of us are just normal people.
Exactly, stick to your own grind and don’t worry about a relationship. Everything will work out in the end. I tried really hard with someone a few years ago and it turned the relationship sour quickly. Like you emphasize, Christine. Take it slowly, and let the attraction build with time and space. Definitely a much better way to win a woman’s heart.
Yup, we have all made that mistake as guys (most of us many times). It’s a great feeling of empowerment when you realize the right way to approach dating and your boundaries/focus
DEFINITELY Look I got lucky with my ex wife, she wanted a bit of clingy (like I used to be) because her previous boyfriend was a distant A hole who didn't admit that he loved her until he knew I wanted to date her, but most women ain't going with that. You have to REALLY connect with someone on a deep level for this video to not apply. Most times though, you have to cultivate a little mystery, don't be an A hole about it, it's a new relationship. Gonna be a breeze for me in a year once I get back in a place where I'm good enough to try, because I have kids so 97% of my overall effort goes to them, any woman, even their mother, is a DISTANT after thought.
Excellent advice in this video. I have thought how great a relationship will be in the future with ladies I was attracted to. Only to find out our opinions and attitude did not align.
It's all pretty basic really. Don't tell them you want to spend the rest of your lives together after the first date, don't be boring, have fun, make her laugh etc. All dating 101 stuff.
@@fuzzypanda1684 Thanks for your reply. I have thought a lady could be long term, but never told a lady I want to spend the rest of my life with her. While in my work staff room, with a group of people, I said, "I know the right lady is out there, but I don't know where she is." A lady in the room said, "Mark would be a good husband." That lady has a boyfriend. I feel attraction for her, but will only act if she becomes single.
I think adding someone on social media as soon as you get a few green flags is important....I am not big social media person so I never did this but when I did it seemed to improve things. You become less of a stranger danger and more in their thoughts imo....if you are on their page.
KEEP. COOKING. SISTER. Hey lady, I sure wish you were around when I was younger, but I can tell by your face I'm a good bit older than you so, better late than never. I'm just an honest person, thus how I found your videos, because I realize here recently that I just plain straight up don't know how to live life the proper way, so I'm gonna need some pointers. Now I need to know how to make friends again and I'll be good.
Long "Derm" Relationship? London Docklands Railway? Whats LDR?! ....................oh wait i got it, Long Distance Relationshiop. DUH! Never seen it abbreviated before, thats all.
Am sorry but you need to be a man to understand that a man falls inlove on the very first day. A man who doesn’t love you the first day will never love you
Not really. I have been with women that it definitely took me some time to grow to love, dawg, may wanna adjust how you see things, lest you end up with a shattered heart like I did. She is super correct about this.
@@joelbasslecamerounais5381 YOU are like that, realize that your perspective is not shared by 100% of the other people on this planet. Lemme let you in on me dude, I used to be like you when I was young, it didn't work out for me, I'm like this to save myself from sorrow, not for any other reason. I may be feeling it, but I dang sure ain't gonna tell her that until the appropriate amount of time has passed. Not everyone is like you, you're not alone, there are others that think as you do, and I'm not alone, there are others that think as I do.
Your lesbian opinions don't apply to het (men to women) dymanics. You can advise if you want but don't use your personal female to female experience as an example of what men should do
Not only is that true, but every video of hers that I've seen all just repeat the most basic concepts that have been covered countless times in other videos.
How do you become more mystery to your ex if she reaches out after no contact? It's not that mystery is just good how do you string her along to get close if she's a curious person anyway? What would you say or do?
This actually goes both ways. As a man I've been in a situation where I had this woman who blew my phone up all day every day, always ''checking in'' on me. And while I was at the fence about her, this kind of behavior just pushed me more away from her because it felt exhausting.
They are so difficult. Then after the honeymoon phase wears off they belittle you. And after you have kids, they love the kids more than you. It’s just endless pandering with no real reward, or benefit, just continual loss of your own self and dignity.
Welcome to the most ruthless game the nature invented: mating.
Whilst I agree to that some what..my new way of dealing with this is pure respect but also massive steel like boundaries. She's not there to save us is she. I think for our part neither are we got them.
Love them yes. They just need to learn we're not built like that so we can meet in the middle
@@oliverbird6914100% you have to have boundaries and don’t just cave as a man, her respect for you will keep dwindling over time and so will any good times.
@ElevateMyRelationships I think that's what I said. I agree
I,agree with you all my friends, I am straight forward i met with women who older than me years back stay with her 2 years and have been through alot of toxic pain I was dumped and she was pregnant with my daughter now she is 15 years old just now she's contact me and saying that your daughter needs you after 16years
She remarried and divorced, and now she thinks she can control me again. I am not someone who is available every time.
Never tell a woman you're in love with her and change your life to please her. She WILL loose attraction. Stay in your centre.
If she shows signs of being unsure, run. Save yourself the time, energy and pain.
Relationships shouldn't be this hard. Let it go.
It's the subtleties, people try to bs and I just came out of the era in my life where I was fooled into thinking "Yeah everyone is different and unique." which is true, but no one is different, no one is "better" they all give off subtle signs and vibes and basically everyone is the same macro, they're the same, with some differences around the edges, but the basic outlines is the same person to person. Thus why we all in life strive for the same goals, just different how we get there. Everyone is unique, but they're not, you get me?
And WTF, relationships are ALWAYS hard. You're dealing with another whole human being, nothing is ever easy about that. I get what you were trying to say, but it's never easy.
Anything worth having can be hard. Plus, life is hard. Deal with it.
It can be hard if you can't handle it properly
@@BaronCadwaI agree 💯
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You know it's strange. Often times you hear about or read about how if a person has a broken home, they can be broken or toxic in relationships but my parents are amazing, and have been married for almost 50 years. However I feel I've been a little messed up in relationships because I feel like when I like someone, I should be completely loyal, and focus on just them. This may be great when you're married but unfortunately I think it's made me seem needy or clingy when it's just my instincts to be loyal and focused on the person I first start seeing, which has sabotaged things I bit. Thanks for the video's. Along with Cory's it's helping me to adjust my attitude, especially when just getting to know someone else.
There’s nothing wrong with that. If anything I wish I met someone like that. What they don’t tell you is when you’re gone that’s that. They will always remember you and it will haunt them not valuing a loyal and genuine person when they had them. Those people always learn too late that most people in this world wear a mask and aren’t genuine in the least. Most people I ever knew have been manipulative and even when they seemed nice they it wasn’t for real it was simply to keep an image for the public.
I feel this is also my “problem”. Coming off as clingy or needy when i just want to hang out. It seems everyone out there is used to everybody else playing games
@@montruo000000007 Yeah, but trust me, it's to your benefit to put up a bit of a shield between you and potential game players, the game is just as much for your protection as it is theirs. Use it to your benefit, problem I had when I was young, "How does someone know if I like them if I don't tell them?" Oh they know, people are super complicated and hypocritical creatures all at the same time.
Happy Holidays!
Just be yourself, hang out with friends, do the things you like. Let her go if she doesn't feel your vibe.
Definitely some truth to this. Do not try to rush her into anything, and don’t lose the things you love to do. Too many guys fold the rest of their life when a girl starts to show interest. It’s painful what they are doing to themselves.
Okay Mr Rodgers
Yo dude, it's up to you, I had to get over this type of stuff recently, it's real simple, do it, or don't. What you can't do is, stay outta the way and then complain when nothing comes your way. Closed mouth don't get fed. I came off of a 9 year divorce, I don't blame my ex wife, we had not a thing in common besides our kids (honestly why it lasted more than 2 years). It's easier if you get people with aligned interests, values, and hobbies, but that don't guarantee forever. I know it's confusing, but you have to love a woman (once you're in the real part of the relationship), but realize a relationship is two people, so at any random point she can wake up and say "I don't want you anymore." thus why it's good to love, yet not love at the same time, love her, but realize it may not last forever so never build another person into your whole world.
Myzteriouz 'bloke' voice. haha. (4:42)💕
Take them to ikea noted :D
I'm so confused about the mysterious part, it's not like I'm a jack-in-the-box where you turn the crank around until it pops. I'm just a guy in an apartment, doing my interests, eating, and sleeping.
it just means let her wonder about you rather than her knowing everything about you so you appear more interesting
@@There.Is.Only.Now.100% women have to wonder about you.
Maybe don't let them know EVERY detail about you and wonder about something because the blanks she fills in her mind are more interesting than the reality.
be jack the ripper
This is the essence, the crux of the issue. She will find out eventually you're a normal guy and wear you down. It happens to me every time, you can literally see the interest waning each time she sees a new part of my life ... friends, family, Mr
my morning routine...slowly the reality comes in and she starts looking elsewhere to feed the fantasy.
You can keep mystery only so long, and unless you're James Bond, the reality is not that interesting in comparison. Most of us are just normal people.
They will drive the self crazy wanting mystery!!!!
Exactly, stick to your own grind and don’t worry about a relationship. Everything will work out in the end.
I tried really hard with someone a few years ago and it turned the relationship sour quickly.
Like you emphasize, Christine. Take it slowly, and let the attraction build with time and space. Definitely a much better way to win a woman’s heart.
Yup, we have all made that mistake as guys (most of us many times). It’s a great feeling of empowerment when you realize the right way to approach dating and your boundaries/focus
DEFINITELY Look I got lucky with my ex wife, she wanted a bit of clingy (like I used to be) because her previous boyfriend was a distant A hole who didn't admit that he loved her until he knew I wanted to date her, but most women ain't going with that. You have to REALLY connect with someone on a deep level for this video to not apply. Most times though, you have to cultivate a little mystery, don't be an A hole about it, it's a new relationship. Gonna be a breeze for me in a year once I get back in a place where I'm good enough to try, because I have kids so 97% of my overall effort goes to them, any woman, even their mother, is a DISTANT after thought.
You’re sooo pretty, your wife is lucky ☺️
Thank you ❤
Excellent advice in this video.
I have thought how great a relationship will be in the future with ladies I was attracted to.
Only to find out our opinions and attitude did not align.
It's all pretty basic really. Don't tell them you want to spend the rest of your lives together after the first date, don't be boring, have fun, make her laugh etc. All dating 101 stuff.
@@fuzzypanda1684 Thanks for your reply.
I have thought a lady could be long term, but never told a lady I want to spend the rest of my life with her.
While in my work staff room, with a group of people, I said, "I know the right lady is out there, but I don't know where she is."
A lady in the room said, "Mark would be a good husband." That lady has a boyfriend.
I feel attraction for her, but will only act if she becomes single.
why stick to surface-level stuff when Magnetic Aura hits you with the real truth
I think adding someone on social media as soon as you get a few green flags is important....I am not big social media person so I never did this but when I did it seemed to improve things. You become less of a stranger danger and more in their thoughts imo....if you are on their page.
Wednesday has good advice
KEEP. COOKING. SISTER. Hey lady, I sure wish you were around when I was younger, but I can tell by your face I'm a good bit older than you so, better late than never. I'm just an honest person, thus how I found your videos, because I realize here recently that I just plain straight up don't know how to live life the proper way, so I'm gonna need some pointers. Now I need to know how to make friends again and I'll be good.
@Christine ,hope You well....do you have a video for a LDR.Many Thanks🎉😊
Long "Derm" Relationship? London Docklands Railway? Whats LDR?! ....................oh wait i got it, Long Distance Relationshiop. DUH! Never seen it abbreviated before, thats all.
LDRs don't work. Better look for someone in your town.
In simple be a stoic man
Am sorry but you need to be a man to understand that a man falls inlove on the very first day. A man who doesn’t love you the first day will never love you
Not really. I have been with women that it definitely took me some time to grow to love, dawg, may wanna adjust how you see things, lest you end up with a shattered heart like I did. She is super correct about this.
@ that is forced attraction
The woman of your dream you know her the first day
@@joelbasslecamerounais5381 YOU are like that, realize that your perspective is not shared by 100% of the other people on this planet. Lemme let you in on me dude, I used to be like you when I was young, it didn't work out for me, I'm like this to save myself from sorrow, not for any other reason. I may be feeling it, but I dang sure ain't gonna tell her that until the appropriate amount of time has passed. Not everyone is like you, you're not alone, there are others that think as you do, and I'm not alone, there are others that think as I do.
@ yes same you are out there chasing other women loool
4:45😂
Relationship advice from a single woman lmao.
you’re missing out if you ain’t read Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, it breaks it all down
Your lesbian opinions don't apply to het (men to women) dymanics.
You can advise if you want but don't use your personal female to female experience as an example of what men should do
Not only is that true, but every video of hers that I've seen all just repeat the most basic concepts that have been covered countless times in other videos.
stuck on repeat? Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki actually changes the game
I've never heard of this book/author, but everyone on this comment list is banging on about it, so i better have a look !
@@luker1hutcher315 It's spam dude.
this is cool and all, but Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki shows the whole picture
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Vomit all your feelings all over her? 😂 That's a good I heard ya said your funny 🤣😹 good one. I haven't heard ya say that yet before .
How do you become more mystery to your ex if she reaches out after no contact? It's not that mystery is just good how do you string her along to get close if she's a curious person anyway? What would you say or do?
don't read her messages but if you accidentally click on it, just reply with a few words-- keep it short and mysterious
Is she reaching out to see you? Or just to keep tabs? Either way, if you want her romantically try to make a date, if you want to move on, do so.
stuck on repeat? Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki actually changes the game
why stick to surface-level stuff when Magnetic Aura hits you with the real truth
stuck on repeat? Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki actually changes the game