Yes when they think the sky is green the sky is green, even when everyone around tells them the sky is blue! Even when god tells him The sky is blue… no for me it’s green! That shoes how deep they stay in their beleaves to secure their base!!! All has to be as they need it to be as they feel it!!!! Just if you proof it to them No chance!!! If you confront them with this fact they tell you accept me as I am…. Or unkind: they rage and tell you that you are a stressful person and they always have a awful time with you and that they have to go… if not… they will get crazy or will not survive it!!! Just cause you insist the sky is blue… can’t you see it??? 😂
Problem with narcissists, they'll pursue you to dump their shit on. So you've got to kick them to the curb till they find something else shiny to pursue.
They're actually mad at their own narcissistic parents. And they hate themselves. Well, the hate has to go somewhere (besides to themselves or to their parents; that's a little too close to the bone). It goes to a partner or child.
Yes they play out their childhood trauma over and over. My husband claims his mother is a faultless saint yet when they're together it seems very uncomfortable. She's very emotionally cold. I get to be punished for her emotional neglect.
Everyone says "hurt people hurt people" and for narcs to be the way they are, they've probably been very badly hurt in the past. And while I know we should try to be sympathetic, I can never understand how you can inflict pain on a person when you yourself know what it feels like. So as much as I try, I can never be completely sympathetic towards them. Thanks for another informative video.
I think that they have shut that part of themselves down to where they really don’t understand someone else’s pain because they don’t feel that type of pain themselves anymore. Just my best guess.
Don’t ever sympathize for a narc. Though they went thru bad childhood traumatic experiences, you didn’t do anything to them. You are not responsible for their pain so there is no excuse for the harm they are causing people. They know what they are doing because if you were to do the same crap they put you through to them you would never hear the end of it.
I’ve watched everything narcissism related, from Dr. Ramani to Sam Vankin, but what you are saying in this video is the most relatable to my experience.
They want absolute control over a person and, to them, THAT is love. You will be constantly working to make them happy whilst they don't do anything for you. Forget reciprocation. Queen bee expecting you to be a worker bee , dedicated to them in every way possible. If this is a way of life you want... be my guest.. but love is not a one way street with pot holes and land mines along the way
It's sadly a self-fulfilling prophecy of a narcissist. You behave like an autonomous human, this upsets their entitlement, which makes them feel insecure, which makes them lash out to reclaim what "belongs" to them, and then you push back, which upsets their entitlement, which makes them feel insecure, and so on.
Thanks for the information I've a friend in a narcissist relationship And the narcissist abusing you mentally and verabily physically and isolating And love bombing her and putting her into a toxic relationship with a trauma bond The thing it's isn't really love with the narcissist In the end you're only going in a circle of abuse You need to remove yourself from the toxic relationship
It just surprises me so much that narcissists are created by abuse. It’s literally so shocking that since a person got abused over and over again they now turn to zero empathy they turn cold toxic and they repeat an abusive cycle onto others. It’s so messed up and wrong. Can anyone make it make sense I don’t think anyone truly can.
You are absolutely correct! It’s so important to understand that their thinking is indeed delusional. Otherwise we contort ourselves into pretzels trying to make them happy. Happiness is always out of reach because of their mental disorder, not because of what you have done or what you supposedly need to do for them.
Their past traumas and hurts does not give someone carte blanche to treat someone that they profess to love like shit. I put up with it way too long, she can be a lonely old woman. I don't care anymore.
I believe they are watching the screen onto which they are projecting a movie 🎥, like a walking dream, and any interruptions that disrupt the movie are attacked. It’s not a good movie: it’s a movie in which all they do in it is get their way regardless of costs to others. Like a cruel lethal bulldozer. They do have self awareness, but no feelings or empathy for their victims/enemies. NONE!
You have truly described what I'm going thru at the moment. At times she will block me on WhatsApp for months..what am I to do..what can I do? I'm really sad and helpless
Lol, he did do something recently that hurt me really badly, and that I did interpret as though he did it on purpose, to deliberately hurt me as deeply as possible and humiliate me also. I retaliated with a reactive abusive style in a text message. I’m embarrassed and now he is running a smear campaign against me and since he will not own any of what he did that upset me so much and that it was really crappy, all that he is telling people is my part in it which was really bad. I don’t know if this person is a narcissist and I don’t want to call him one. He has some narcissistic traits, but we all do sometimes. I love him so much! I’m so sad and I miss him! We’re both on the silent treatment right now and I don’t know when that will end, because if he is going to expect me to take full responsibility and be arrogant, then I guess I don’t want to talk to him again at all. I didn’t tolerate this behavior from my own mother and adult son. That’s not fair to them for me to let this guy slide.
This was what my father did and although my mother deserted at very early ages, she seemed to be just the sa,e !, only i escaped this madness, I am not npd, 2 sisters are, they are quite crazy!
I never comment on these types of videos. After getting cheated on ( discarded )9/09 . I was depressed and went no connect . Worse emotional pain ever. Since the end of October I’ve decided to take accountability for my narc relationship and do research and understand what is a narc, co-dependency, trama bond and try to make sense of the hell I lived for a year . Your video saved me from going to therapy . I didn’t need to express myself , I needed to understand what I went thru and understand how I feel. My narc was 45 . I am 28
The thing a narcissist person isn't going to really love you It's fake love And they're going to love bombing you and put you in a trauma bond To keep you forever You won't be able to notice what the narcissist doing abusing you isolating you veberily abusing you mentally They always turn everything around onto you Over and over I say run and keep running
The trouble with narcissists is that they believe everything they think.
I think you nailed it. 😂
Exactly true
Yes when they think the sky is green the sky is green, even when everyone around tells them the sky is blue! Even when god tells him
The sky is blue… no for me it’s green! That shoes how deep they stay in their beleaves to secure their base!!! All has to be as they need it to be as they feel it!!!! Just if you proof it to them No chance!!! If you confront them with this fact they tell you accept me as I am…. Or unkind: they rage and tell you that you are a stressful person and they always have a awful time with you and that they have to go… if not… they will get crazy or will not survive it!!!
Just cause you insist the sky is blue… can’t you see it??? 😂
Emotions, cognitive distortions and assumptions are facts to them.
Yes, very true and unfortunate.
Its evil...I think they are possessed.
Problem with narcissists, they'll pursue you to dump their shit on. So you've got to kick them to the curb till they find something else shiny to pursue.
Clearly we are dealing with a young child in an adult body🤔
That s so true that how this person meant he acted like a child when he’s 56 years old i couldn’t believe it 🥴
The intellect is mature though! Definitely decision making is compromised through the obvious lack of emotional intelligence this condition creates.
Yes they have the mentality of a child. They are like bullies on the playground ignore them and keep it moving.
We broke the promise to be an never ending emotional punching bag, a way station for them to dump their toxicity onto.
They can’t control their tempers, anger and emotions..
Exactly, no matter what they’ll still harass
They're actually mad at their own narcissistic parents. And they hate themselves.
Well, the hate has to go somewhere (besides to themselves or to their parents; that's a little too close to the bone). It goes to a partner or child.
She hated her mom. Makes sense
Yes they play out their childhood trauma over and over. My husband claims his mother is a faultless saint yet when they're together it seems very uncomfortable. She's very emotionally cold. I get to be punished for her emotional neglect.
A never ending cycle.
Clearly we are dealing with a demon .
That is the bottom line. It is simply evil
I finally left without feeling guilty
Clearly, Ive seen him throw my phone and break it. He also broke my dinning room chair. F that narc. Glad he’s out of my house.
The narcissist keep abusing you mentally and verabily physically and isolating
The thing is run and keep running
My son steals my chocolate 2 make me think I have a bad memory. Crazy
Everyone says "hurt people hurt people" and for narcs to be the way they are, they've probably been very badly hurt in the past. And while I know we should try to be sympathetic, I can never understand how you can inflict pain on a person when you yourself know what it feels like. So as much as I try, I can never be completely sympathetic towards them. Thanks for another informative video.
I think that they have shut that part of themselves down to where they really don’t understand someone else’s pain because they don’t feel that type of pain themselves anymore. Just my best guess.
I totally couldn't care less if someone was hurt, once they hurt innocent bystanders. You just do.no.get.to.do.that. Period.
Don’t ever sympathize for a narc. Though they went thru bad childhood traumatic experiences, you didn’t do anything to them. You are not responsible for their pain so there is no excuse for the harm they are causing people.
They know what they are doing because if you were to do the same crap they put you through to them you would never hear the end of it.
I’ve watched everything narcissism related, from Dr. Ramani to Sam Vankin, but what you are saying in this video is the most relatable to my experience.
Yes she is a narc Whistleblower🎉
Heartless
It's like self-defense for them
They want absolute control over a person and, to them, THAT is love.
You will be constantly working to make them happy whilst they don't do anything for you. Forget reciprocation.
Queen bee expecting you to be a worker bee , dedicated to them in every way possible.
If this is a way of life you want... be my guest.. but love is not a one way street with pot holes and land mines along the way
It's sadly a self-fulfilling prophecy of a narcissist. You behave like an autonomous human, this upsets their entitlement, which makes them feel insecure, which makes them lash out to reclaim what "belongs" to them, and then you push back, which upsets their entitlement, which makes them feel insecure, and so on.
That makes a lot of sense.
Excellently Explained.💯
They want to be remembered nobody want them around want a be somebody important
Described what I went through word for word. How you articulate narcissistic behavior is spot ok.
🎉absolutely what I expired too
Did you mean to say "spot on"?....
Absolutely- everything you said is correct
Thanks for the information I've a friend in a narcissist relationship
And the narcissist abusing you mentally and verabily physically and isolating
And love bombing her and putting her into a toxic relationship with a trauma bond
The thing it's isn't really love with the narcissist
In the end you're only going in a circle of abuse
You need to remove yourself from the toxic relationship
I try to explain this even to myself and I can't find the words.
Believe what they do and not what they say
It just surprises me so much that narcissists are created by abuse. It’s literally so shocking that since a person got abused over and over again they now turn to zero empathy they turn cold toxic and they repeat an abusive cycle onto others. It’s so messed up and wrong. Can anyone make it make sense I don’t think anyone truly can.
You are SO helpful! Thank you.
A very good point you made that their disorder started early in their life and has become their illogical life script, so to speak🤔
It is great to hear this info from you, If I had not lived this I would not believe you, thanks for hearing this.
They are wolf in sheep clothing. Some often come across as kind and caring for a while until the mask comes off. It’s a slow dripping poison 😔
thank you great video
You are absolutely correct! It’s so important to understand that their thinking is indeed delusional. Otherwise we contort ourselves into pretzels trying to make them happy. Happiness is always out of reach because of their mental disorder, not because of what you have done or what you supposedly need to do for them.
Their past traumas and hurts does not give someone carte blanche to treat someone that they profess to love like shit. I put up with it way too long, she can be a lonely old woman. I don't care anymore.
I believe they are watching the screen onto which they are projecting a movie 🎥, like a walking dream, and any interruptions that disrupt the movie are attacked. It’s not a good movie: it’s a movie in which all they do in it is get their way regardless of costs to others. Like a cruel lethal bulldozer. They do have self awareness, but no feelings or empathy for their victims/enemies. NONE!
Bomb amazing ❤️. You are rightI know I survived 23 years. Two years NC. I am living.❤️.
No conscious
Whistleblower🎉
Reactive abuse & a deliberate effort to cause any reaction for their behaviour is sick.
I really love your videos you help make things make more sense
I liked your channel; you did great. Very informative on this subject.
Very much so...thank you!
One of the best explanations that i have seen on this topic thanku
You have truly described what I'm going thru at the moment. At times she will block me on WhatsApp for months..what am I to do..what can I do? I'm really sad and helpless
That was very helpful, thank you.
No…. They don’t care about themselves
I wonder if they realize later
This was a GREAT VIDEO!
This was helpful to me. Thank you again.
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Lol, he did do something recently that hurt me really badly, and that I did interpret as though he did it on purpose, to deliberately hurt me as deeply as possible and humiliate me also. I retaliated with a reactive abusive style in a text message. I’m embarrassed and now he is running a smear campaign against me and since he will not own any of what he did that upset me so much and that it was really crappy, all that he is telling people is my part in it which was really bad. I don’t know if this person is a narcissist and I don’t want to call him one. He has some narcissistic traits, but we all do sometimes. I love him so much! I’m so sad and I miss him! We’re both on the silent treatment right now and I don’t know when that will end, because if he is going to expect me to take full responsibility and be arrogant, then I guess I don’t want to talk to him again at all. I didn’t tolerate this behavior from my own mother and adult son. That’s not fair to them for me to let this guy slide.
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Great video and explanation- thank you 🙏
I’m glad you liked it. Thanks for watching! 😊
This was what my father did and although my mother deserted at very early ages, she seemed to be just the sa,e !, only i escaped this madness, I am not npd, 2 sisters are, they are quite crazy!
Such a good explanation. Thank you for the excellent videos.
Even if a fair break up, they’ll still stalk
We still talked for two weeks after breaking up. Blocked her and then she framed her last call after I blocked her like she’s breaking up with me
Excellent Topic Talk. Thank you.
My adult son is acting like that. My assumption is that because of his age it’s just a phase. I hope I’m right.
You're not. Toddlers go through "phases." Adults make choices. You are giving an asshole a pass.
This was very helpful, thank you!
It s hilarious after a while 😂 it s a pattern lol mdrrrr ❤😂
I never comment on these types of videos. After getting cheated on ( discarded )9/09 . I was depressed and went no connect . Worse emotional pain ever. Since the end of October I’ve decided to take accountability for my narc relationship and do research and understand what is a narc, co-dependency, trama bond and try to make sense of the hell I lived for a year . Your video saved me from going to therapy . I didn’t need to express myself , I needed to understand what I went thru and understand how I feel. My narc was 45 . I am 28
The thing a narcissist person isn't going to really love you
It's fake love
And they're going to love bombing you and put you in a trauma bond
To keep you forever
You won't be able to notice what the narcissist doing abusing you isolating you veberily abusing you mentally
They always turn everything around onto you
Over and over
I say run and keep running
You can never again trust someone who betrayed you. They don’t even know who they are, let alone who you are.
this was very good.
Your the best. Everything you say is spot on.
Thank you
"They" say I "insulated", "used" THEM...
Hate Instagram for some people have done to me they have destroy trust.
Great video ! Thank you!
Too emotional
Yeah that’s my mom
Same
Good video ....thank u:)
Good video
Right
Nonsensical ingrates. Peace
Wow
Emotionally jacked.
Spiritually jacked
Numb
No common sense
Mentally jacked
They are just jerks 😂