When Tommy realizes that he drove his dad back to drinking..........it’s like he opened his eyes and took a deep breath. Unbelievable scene and perfectly portrayed
I have a different take. They were both veterans and Tommy saw that his dad was having a flashback and he could relate. They both saw action and death, so Tommy finally realized why his dad was an alcoholic. It's because he was a tortured soul.
Nick Nolte not winning the Oscar that year for Best Supporting Actor is still one of the greatest injustices in the history of the Academy Awards. Nolte poured everything he had and more into that role to create a well-rounded, layered, and compelling character who breaks your heart.
Chris Hegedus Absolutely. Although Nolte poured everything he had into his role Kilmer was on a whole other level. In fact, it was on the same level as Heath Ledger's performance as the Joker. Kilmer studied every piece of information he could find on Doc Holliday. He studied the man's alleged speech patterns and mannerisms to give a performance so iconic that we're STILL talking about how great it was 23 years later.
It hurts so much more when you see a man who was once in a dark place find light and try his absoulte best to be better to then see him at his lowest again.
I’ve been through rehab and I’ve seen that happen so many times to the most amazing people I have ever known. A guy or girl who was in their lowest place fixes themselves up to be the best version of themselves, only to fall much much lower after they get out. It crushes my soul each time to see it happen but it also serves as a vivid reminder to stay sober.
@@oscar7513 I think I’m going through that rn. I’m scared. Just pray for me. If I make it out this. I’ll be fine. But I pray I don’t look back at this moment knowing it’s what broke me
This scene where tommy puts his dad in tha bed, the amount of times I carried my sister when she was like that before she died, really strikes tha core cause I took care of her then and her kids when she passed out and I had to take her to her room…
That moment when Tommy realizes that if he doesn't let go of his anger and resentment, he's going to lose the family he still has in the world. He can't risk watching his father waste away in regret and misery the same way he watched his mother physically waste away to nothing... with only him there to help ease her pain and loneliness. We all gotta make peace some time. I've only just recently started building a relationship with my own father after years of grudge holding.
My father father was 3 different people. A solemn sober man. A solemn drunk man . And now a solemn dead man. He was never careless or lazy, he done everything he could to express the emotions for us that his face could not. He rarely had much to smile about. But that smiling face is the image that will live forever in my heart. I am drowning my pain as he did.
Good for you buddy. I lost my father to aggressive cancer a couple of years ago while i was 28. I always tell people to value their father and mother. They only have one of each.
@@andrewkomaniecki480 Sorry a lil late but I heard it was a mechanism used by addicts of various forms including drug addicts to replace the addiction to alcohol drugs etc to something positive like reading, music, films etc, in this case Nick Nolte's character would listen to audiobooks and stories as a replacement for his dependency on alcohol.
One of the great outrages? This film was one of the biggest financial bombs of that year. Almost nobody went to see it. I saw it with my wife and youngest boy -- we were stunned, nearly speechless when it was over. I remember that night clearly, a freezing cold Friday evening before Labor Day. We went out to eat afterwards and talked about the film at length. It has stayed with me ever since -- the mark of a truly superior movie.
Well they promoted it badly. Same thing happened with this indie movie my friend liked. The hero was a horse racer and the the trailers focused on that, but it was a ghost movie
When Tommy opened the door he was standing big, but as soon as he saw his dad back to the way he was he shrunk down. It was like he was a kid experiencing his childhood again.
This whole film had a very realistic feel to it, especially this scene. Forgiveness is so important, not only for the person who hurt you, but for yourself. When you refuse to forgive you'll just be living in a state of hatred, basically poisoning yourself. Only when you let go can you be free.
It's his Father and although in the past he treated his Mother like crap, he unconditionally loves his Son and is in absolute emotional turmoil as he only wants to make amends and help Tommy. He got clean but his Family was in scattered tatters. I Loved my Dad despite his faults, and Father and Son is a very unique relationship. Like the last line in Road To Perdition "when people ask me if Michael Sullivan was a good man, or if there was just no good in him at all..I always give the same answer...I just tell them.. he was my father".
There’s a difference between forgiveness and letting go. Forgiveness is earned. Letting go is self earned. I don’t forgive my mom, but I can let go of my hatred
When Tommy realises that he drove his father back to drinking, really opened his eyes and made him realise that his pain isn't the only thing that matters.
@@sam432fulglish is weird af. I’ll give you the point here though as “your” version of spelling was around before “ours.“ Although interesting fact, way back when newspapers were more prevalent, they charge by the letter to print an ad. ( Idk if they still do ) so we took words with what we saw had extra letters and took them out to be charged less.
The way he looked at him at :33... It was like this is the guy I know. I've waited to see him and then instead of doing all the things he's dreamed to hurt his dad he can finally love him. I cried for an hour after this. My father was the same.
This scene is so touching because you realize how much of an angel tommy is. He described bathing his mom in holy water while she coughed blood on her knees from cancer because they didn't have money nor health insurance. He stuck to his mom to the very end, nursing her the best he was able to. And here he sees his father sick, despite being the root cause of all his suffering, he begins to nurse his father..
He's the most loyal out of all of them. That's why he was hurt the most in the film. Every chapter in his life had ended in abandonment and love being taken away from him.
Stefan QuickSlimSell haha! You’re not, I guarantee that! Few films are worthy of a guy cry but this is definitely one!....and when Terminator says “I cannot self terminate” 💔😂😭😂
I'll never be able to get through this scene without crying. Nick Nolte's performance was absolute perfection, heart wrenching. Especially considering the fact that he struggles with alcoholism in real life. This film and their main actors should've won ALL of the awards.
That wasn't in the script, Tom Hardy did it and the director just went with it and kept it in. I believe the original scene was either meant to involve Tommy leaving or getting into another confrontation with his dad, but I can't remember.
@@nycot107that would’ve made zero sense. His dad’s broken down and Tommy’s reaction would be to berate him or walk out? Nah. The script probably just called for his dad to break down in his arms as he did. Moving him to the bed was likely the improvised part.
I'm 39 and my father is 75, we've never had the typical father/son relationship, but we love each other, I hadn't seen him since November 2019 and COVID made it worse, and today he came by my home to do some electric wiring and it felt so good to be with him and watching my dad helping me with my stuff like the old days like he has always done, no questions asked. He's the best!
It is, but coming from a child who’s given and take away that pain, some people will never change. Not until they’ve lost something valuable in what they had with you before. Perhaps I’m very wrong, but the way I see it is this, they’re not sorry for what they’ve done, they’re sorry for what it lead to and how broken it has become. Just like everyone else, including ourselves.
@@Michael_Nunn Dude You’re right 100%. The only reason people ever come to these so called “epiphanies” is when THEY are feeling the pain..but while they weren’t and everyone else was, it was ok. Well it’s NOT ok.
hazard this film was not a masterpiece I’m sorry. The acting of Nolte and Hardy were masterful and this scene is masterful as were some of the fight sequences. But the film really does have weaknesses
This scene just breaks me everytime! It's such a heartfelt brilliantly acted scene..It just hits home to anyone that's been affected by addiction..well done Tom and Nick
Alcoholism has always been rampant in my family and the acting here is flawless. brings overwhelming tears to my eyes every time, the way he tears the whiskey out of his hands, the way he pleads for him to let go and eventually gives up and accepts his welcoming arms, the way Tommy comforts him. Truly such an astounding scene, and one i will never forget
There really needs to be a children of alcoholics club for people like us. After being sober for 20 years, I got to see this when he lost it over a woman. I'll never forget it because he'd always told me what it was and now I'd met the demon.
I never got the chance to forgive my drug addict mother. I didn’t talk to her for years and when I got the call she died I was broken. Forgiveness is stronger then we all realize
Bro no matter what age man. Seeing my father like that, lowkey had PTSD from his prime days. Learned alot from the trauma, try to be a better person. Make peace as much as I can as a person.
What an unbelievable performance from both Tom Hardy and Nick Nolte, this scene in particular always brings me to tears. One of the most underrated films I never hear many people speak about.
My father had episodes like these when I was a teenager because of all the death he saw as a fireman. He was leading the rescue job on one of the deadliest fires in modern history in Gothenburg and some 60+ people died in that fire. The horrors he saw on that day changed him forever. Incredible scene and incredible acting. Very accurate. Tears were shed.
@@Mu3aaath a mix of rage, terror and violence, only came out when he was drinking. He would get very aggressive. Violent. Would beat me, my sister or my mother whilst speaking incoherently and crying all the while doing it. Don’t know what he saw during that fire but he always refused talking about it.
Probably one of the most powerful movies I've ever seen in my 47 years. I never turned away from the screen for a second. Such an emotionally charged movie that you need time to recover before you watch it again!
2 of the best actors in the world , doing a great scene. It's relatable for anyone with alcoholism in their family. Nick plays it so well that it's scary.
To say Nick Nolte steals the show here is an understatement. It’s a breathtaking, powerhouse of a scene. Tom Hardy carries his own too though - the little intricate and subtle softening just after his Dad yells in his face. He ballsed up with his cruel words to him, and he knows it.
Just saw this movie.... Don't know how I missed it when it came out. It has to be one of the best movies I've ever seen. Hardy just keeps getting better and Nick Nolte in this is brilliant. What a scene, deserved an oscar on it's own.
Tommy with all his strength and might he is still afraid of his drunk father but finally forgives him and knew that cause of his rejection he relapsed so he forgave him
Gosh this clip completely shows you a first hand look at what PTSD can do to someone. I think Tommy finally realizes that his father has been struggling with it from Vietnam and he understands the harshness of it after fighting in a war himself.
I don’t think this has anything to do with Vietnam. There’s nothing in the film to suggest his previous drinking problem has a direct correlation to his war experience. He was simply a drunk. The look Tommy gives him is a realization of what he’s done and how his anger drove his father to drink again. He’s simply regretful.
You can see what life would have been like for Tommy and Brendan growing up... truly memorable scene in this film, had me crying... my parents were alcoholics when I was growing up and this scene really spoke to me.
I wish I had a better relationship with my dad. I was a bad son but he was a great father and I realised this after he died and got older. But I hope I'm making him proud coz I'm making his dream come through with whatever I'm doing.
I know a movie is good when only one scene can bring tears to my eyes. And it''s even better wehen you watch the whole movie instead of just this scene. Then I'm crying.
Coming from someone whose ruined so many fucking things due to alcohol I fucking understand Tommy's dads reason for saying stop this ship. I think it's him really meaning that he wishes he could change everything wrong he did and fix the broken home he made. "We're lost Tommy"
Andrew Damiani yup, well said. I also had many drunks just like this ( not for five years thank God) and I can totally connect with Nolte's character. Your in so much pain and with the booze you think your being eloquent when on fact your falling apart. I too ruined lives but have managed to move on, forgive myself and not get stuck in the past. Hope your doing okay
The way he looks at him and calls him Ahab… the reference hits hard. Tommy came back with vengeance in terms of his relationship with his dad. He let go of this intention during this scene and it’s beautiful. Ahab stopped the ship.
I think this is one of the greatest movies. I relate to all three of them, and these are some of the most painful truths about life. The whole forgive but keep at a distance to protect yours, the anger and resentment from being fatherless, to the honest searching for forgiveness and trying to rectify the wrongs you've done, this story hits close to home on so many levels.
Whats really sad about this scene is.... a man ,in this case his father was strong and tough when he was younger.... but as parents grow...they start gettimg broken if not treated well...im not speaking physically...but spiritually.....hardest thing in the world seeing a strong,greater than life father melting down.... this scene hit me so hard watching it.... im 6"3 230 lbs thai fighter..and i was tearing up like a 5 year old in the theater
This scene. This movie. The fighting is just a bonus. I cannot not cry here, nor can any son who's been raised by an alcoholic. The thing that makes this more heart breaking is how hard he was trying to change until his own son made him just give up. This scene. This movie...
Never going to speak bad about my dad......he had his problems, this comes very close in so many ways......forgiveness was the on the moment I became a dad myself, recognizing that he only wanted best but never felt lie it was enough.......damn......this movie is so good.
As someone that went through childhood with an alcoholic dad these two awesome actors nailed this scene to the T☝️👍, what a rip for Mr Nolte for not receiving the highest honor of an award for a drama
I’ve been sober more than 2 years. My mom just passed away on Christmas Eve. I don’t know why but I sought out this scene because it helps. Helps keep me sober. Thank you for posting it
Tommy opening the door and the realization washing over his face that he caused his father to revert back to the thing he hated in the first place was a powerful thing to watch
This is the scene I site when performances come into conversation. It's honestly the most emotionally memorable scene that I've ever seen and it's the one I look forward to any time I rewatch the movie. Nick deserved all the accolades he received and more.
this just flashed my own father in my mind for the whole scene, i understood it because ive lived it, though i never talked to my dad like that even before he got clean. he died this last year and obviously this movie has been out longer than 2021, but seeing this scene again now with nothin but his memories flooding into my mind i got choked up this time and im normally not the sensitive type. that hit me right in the heart. they both deserve oscars for this because it captured that emotion in the most perfect way, and it takes the perfect storm to create that kindof atmosphere and sequence of events. bravo to tom hardy and nick nolte both.
He should have gotten an oscar nod as best supporting actor. My parents were alcoholics and watching this movie was intense for me every time Nolte was on screen.
ive seen this film many many times. even this clip on youtube many times. never fails to hit me hard and feel the emotional power of one of the greatest emotional scenes in cinema history
I love this scene he was so angry at his dad it drove him to drink again n then he saw him angry/sad drunk n felt bad n comforted him n showed Tommy still cares about his father even though what he did it's heartwarming
When Tommy realizes that he drove his dad back to drinking..........it’s like he opened his eyes and took a deep breath. Unbelievable scene and perfectly portrayed
Nope, if you actually paid attention, he regretted hurling the coins as soon as he did it..
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its more nuanced than just "he felt bad". he had to face his father as an adult the way he was as a drunk before he could move on.
@@coffeyeoin5 exactly.
I have a different take. They were both veterans and Tommy saw that his dad was having a flashback and he could relate. They both saw action and death, so Tommy finally realized why his dad was an alcoholic. It's because he was a tortured soul.
I know most people cry at the final fight but this scene broke me.
This easily broke me more than the final scene
Every scene with the father made me cry
Sins of the father are the sins of the son...this was my childhood.
Sure did. Sure does
Nah, the final scene has a form of catharsis but this one is so painful to watch. I cry every single time I watch this scene.
Nick Nolte not winning the Oscar that year for Best Supporting Actor is still one of the greatest injustices in the history of the Academy Awards. Nolte poured everything he had and more into that role to create a well-rounded, layered, and compelling character who breaks your heart.
+Captain_Hat Too right, the Academy fucked up, big time.
+Captain_Hat Very true, even though Val Kilmer not even getting nominated for Doc Holiday in Tombstone is an even greater injustice.
Chris Hegedus Absolutely. Although Nolte poured everything he had into his role Kilmer was on a whole other level. In fact, it was on the same level as Heath Ledger's performance as the Joker. Kilmer studied every piece of information he could find on Doc Holliday. He studied the man's alleged speech patterns and mannerisms to give a performance so iconic that we're STILL talking about how great it was 23 years later.
Its the oscars, they suck
agreed. As a former alcoholic i can so relate with his performance. Really gut-wrenching.
It hurts so much more when you see a man who was once in a dark place find light and try his absoulte best to be better to then see him at his lowest again.
I’ve been through rehab and I’ve seen that happen so many times to the most amazing people I have ever known. A guy or girl who was in their lowest place fixes themselves up to be the best version of themselves, only to fall much much lower after they get out. It crushes my soul each time to see it happen but it also serves as a vivid reminder to stay sober.
This is life fighting
@@oscar7513 I think I’m going through that rn. I’m scared. Just pray for me.
If I make it out this. I’ll be fine. But I pray I don’t look back at this moment knowing it’s what broke me
Dee Nice hang in there!
@deenice9169 praying for you my friend
This was one of the most intense and real scenes I've ever scene. Still gets me every time. Nick Nolte deserved some sort of award for this.
you've ever scene? hehe
It was i agree
kvn sgn lol
kvn sgn Damn you! :( But fine. 'seen' *chugs whiskey bottle*
He was nominated for an Oscar. Great.
Superb acting. Nick Nolte killed it.
Tyler Young Well...he does have experience at being a drunk sad to say.
+Eugene Grewing I doubt he was legitimate drunk in this scene
Tyler Young Wade Whitehouse hit rock bottom years after killing his dominating alcoholic father
he wasnt acting they just told him to be himself
Yeah I never saw it , but this was some raw stuff, I've never cried from a movie in my life, but this looks like one were somebody would.
If you have ever been raised by an alcoholic parent this scene will shatter your heart.
I cried like a baby at this scene.
Definitely
@@solesurvivor7642 ❤️❤️❤️
@@YOSHI_RIOT thank you so much
This scene where tommy puts his dad in tha bed, the amount of times I carried my sister when she was like that before she died, really strikes tha core cause I took care of her then and her kids when she passed out and I had to take her to her room…
My dad wasn’t an alcoholic or mistreated me, he did pass away a couple years ago but even before that this scene tugs at some heart strings.
That moment when Tommy realizes that if he doesn't let go of his anger and resentment, he's going to lose the family he still has in the world. He can't risk watching his father waste away in regret and misery the same way he watched his mother physically waste away to nothing... with only him there to help ease her pain and loneliness. We all gotta make peace some time. I've only just recently started building a relationship with my own father after years of grudge holding.
Jomanro i hope you’ve found or are finding peace buddy.
Same.
My father father was 3 different people. A solemn sober man. A solemn drunk man . And now a solemn dead man. He was never careless or lazy, he done everything he could to express the emotions for us that his face could not. He rarely had much to smile about. But that smiling face is the image that will live forever in my heart. I am drowning my pain as he did.
Jason C respect bro
Good for you buddy. I lost my father to aggressive cancer a couple of years ago while i was 28. I always tell people to value their father and mother. They only have one of each.
“We’re lost. We’re all lost, tommy. We’ll never make it back”. Sums up the family dynamic perfectly
Pat but they do make it back.
Why did he have headphones in his ears? Sorry, I didn't see the movie
@@andrewkomaniecki480 he listens to stories; like how we listen to music. That was his escape
@@andrewkomaniecki480 Sorry a lil late but I heard it was a mechanism used by addicts of various forms including drug addicts to replace the addiction to alcohol drugs etc to something positive like reading, music, films etc, in this case Nick Nolte's character would listen to audiobooks and stories as a replacement for his dependency on alcohol.
One of the great outrages? This film was one of the biggest financial bombs of that year. Almost nobody went to see it. I saw it with my wife and youngest boy -- we were stunned, nearly speechless when it was over. I remember that night clearly, a freezing cold Friday evening before Labor Day. We went out to eat afterwards and talked about the film at length. It has stayed with me ever since -- the mark of a truly superior movie.
Yeah I don't see how the movie wasn't more successful. It was the first time I had seen Tom Hardy and was very impressed with the cast.
Well they promoted it badly. Same thing happened with this indie movie my friend liked. The hero was a horse racer and the the trailers focused on that, but it was a ghost movie
Facts
Another problem was it was released the same time as The Fighter which was much more successful and was released first
because its about stupid cage fights.
Cried like a man when I watched this movie. Cried like a man ever since. So powerful. So real. I’d give anything to hug my dad like that.
So would I. I miss him so much.
For real, miss you dad..
Never had a dad but my grandpa was like this he gave me one last hug after he died and he said words that haunts me I’d do anything to hug him again
When Tommy opened the door he was standing big, but as soon as he saw his dad back to the way he was he shrunk down. It was like he was a kid experiencing his childhood again.
he realized he never missed the drunk father he said he did throughout the film.
this has got to be the single best piece of acting ever...
It truely is still I come back to this video every now and then because I remember it so vividly
Tom Hanks in the end scene of Captain Philips is astounding. It’s on TH-cam but seeing the film first helps. 😉
This whole film had a very realistic feel to it, especially this scene. Forgiveness is so important, not only for the person who hurt you, but for yourself. When you refuse to forgive you'll just be living in a state of hatred, basically poisoning yourself. Only when you let go can you be free.
It's his Father and although in the past he treated his Mother like crap, he unconditionally loves his Son and is in absolute emotional turmoil as he only wants to make amends and help Tommy. He got clean but his Family was in scattered tatters. I Loved my Dad despite his faults, and Father and Son is a very unique relationship. Like the last line in Road To Perdition "when people ask me if Michael Sullivan was a good man, or if there was just no good in him at all..I always give the same answer...I just tell them.. he was my father".
it is always good to forgive the ones who hurt others, so they can continue to hurt others without any consequences
You don't do it for them. You do it for yourself.
There’s a difference between forgiveness and letting go. Forgiveness is earned. Letting go is self earned. I don’t forgive my mom, but I can let go of my hatred
“I’ve always loved you. You know that don’t you? You and your brother. My two boys.”
When Tommy realises that he drove his father back to drinking, really opened his eyes and made him realise that his pain isn't the only thing that matters.
Realizes*
Realize*
@@blacjackdaniels200 I’m Australian. You spell it wrong!!!
@@sam432fulglish is weird af.
I’ll give you the point here though as “your” version of spelling was around before “ours.“
Although interesting fact, way back when newspapers were more prevalent, they charge by the letter to print an ad. ( Idk if they still do ) so we took words with what we saw had extra letters and took them out to be charged less.
@@theredalpha7290 okay?
I mean they have several tiktokers analysing how stupid the English language is so…
@@sam432ful
Sorry if that seemed really random lol.
I was extremely over caffeinated with very little sleep last night.
The way he looked at him at :33... It was like this is the guy I know. I've waited to see him and then instead of doing all the things he's dreamed to hurt his dad he can finally love him. I cried for an hour after this. My father was the same.
Your comment touched me. Let’s me friends. I’m fred
I hope you had moments together that you cherish
This scene is so touching because you realize how much of an angel tommy is. He described bathing his mom in holy water while she coughed blood on her knees from cancer because they didn't have money nor health insurance. He stuck to his mom to the very end, nursing her the best he was able to. And here he sees his father sick, despite being the root cause of all his suffering, he begins to nurse his father..
He's the most loyal out of all of them. That's why he was hurt the most in the film. Every chapter in his life had ended in abandonment and love being taken away from him.
@@robmaddison8645 Beautiful synopsis.
I think that this is one of the few films that a man is allowed to cry at
I agree. This shit hits me EVERY single time.
Dang, glad I wasn't the only one!! Great movie.
Stefan QuickSlimSell haha! You’re not, I guarantee that! Few films are worthy of a guy cry but this is definitely one!....and when Terminator says “I cannot self terminate” 💔😂😭😂
Amen to that
Absolutely.
I'll never be able to get through this scene without crying. Nick Nolte's performance was absolute perfection, heart wrenching. Especially considering the fact that he struggles with alcoholism in real life. This film and their main actors should've won ALL of the awards.
I love how Tommy climbs into the bed and pulls his father towards him. He moves like a wrestler even when he's intimate
That wasn't in the script, Tom Hardy did it and the director just went with it and kept it in. I believe the original scene was either meant to involve Tommy leaving or getting into another confrontation with his dad, but I can't remember.
@@nycot107that would’ve made zero sense. His dad’s broken down and Tommy’s reaction would be to berate him or walk out?
Nah. The script probably just called for his dad to break down in his arms as he did. Moving him to the bed was likely the improvised part.
@@therealmistahjaythat’s literally what he said bro
I'm 39 and my father is 75, we've never had the typical father/son relationship, but we love each other, I hadn't seen him since November 2019 and COVID made it worse, and today he came by my home to do some electric wiring and it felt so good to be with him and watching my dad helping me with my stuff like the old days like he has always done, no questions asked. He's the best!
Enjoy him while you can, i miss my dad so much
@@buxadonoff Thank you so much, sir, and I'm really sorry for your loss.
👋❤️
The pain of never overcoming your demons and becoming a demon in your child's eyes is soul crushing. Live and forgive.
It is, but coming from a child who’s given and take away that pain, some people will never change. Not until they’ve lost something valuable in what they had with you before. Perhaps I’m very wrong, but the way I see it is this, they’re not sorry for what they’ve done, they’re sorry for what it lead to and how broken it has become. Just like everyone else, including ourselves.
@@Michael_Nunn Dude You’re right 100%. The only reason people ever come to these so called “epiphanies” is when THEY are feeling the pain..but while they weren’t and everyone else was, it was ok. Well it’s NOT ok.
These two are outstanding actors, you can see the moment where Tommy forgives his father.
Shitty movies gets recognized, but masterpieces like this...
hazard this film was not a masterpiece I’m sorry. The acting of Nolte and Hardy were masterful and this scene is masterful as were some of the fight sequences. But the film really does have weaknesses
@@jaker6363 like?
Master pieces get remembered sir
ure so needy. what u say isnt true at all.
@@jaker6363 I agree, the film was enjoyable, but it's far from a masterpiece.
My God, I was crying in the theaters when I saw this
"I've always loved you, you know that, don't you son?"
oh god..
Nick Nolte's acting here is otherworldly. First time I've cried during a movie in a long time.
One of the most touching scenes ever..
Any else who grew up with an alcoholic parent can relate to this on such a deep level.
Agreed
parent(s)
So true
Older brother
Reason why I don’t drink
This movie was the "Titanic" for Men!
That's true brother
This movie was my „Titanic“ to 😅🤘!
the ending always make my eyes watery
Furious 7?
True dat
The reason Nolte lost was mainly due to the fact that his part was severely cut. Too bad because he was the soul of this film.
Just finally seeing Tommy so caring was what got to me
This scene just breaks me everytime! It's such a heartfelt brilliantly acted scene..It just hits home to anyone that's been affected by addiction..well done Tom and Nick
Two GREAT actors! What a tremendous scene… & the way Tommy comforts his dad is really spectacular.
Breaks me everytime this scene 😢😢 the acting is phenomenal such an underrated film Tom Hardy and Nick Nolte are fantastic
Alcoholism has always been rampant in my family and the acting here is flawless. brings overwhelming tears to my eyes every time, the way he tears the whiskey out of his hands, the way he pleads for him to let go and eventually gives up and accepts his welcoming arms, the way Tommy comforts him. Truly such an astounding scene, and one i will never forget
same with me too. this is my father. when I seen this I cried. I've done this many times :(
There really needs to be a children of alcoholics club for people like us. After being sober for 20 years, I got to see this when he lost it over a woman. I'll never forget it because he'd always told me what it was and now I'd met the demon.
I've been one...now sober for almost 3 months.
I never got the chance to forgive my drug addict mother. I didn’t talk to her for years and when I got the call she died I was broken. Forgiveness is stronger then we all realize
I can’t believe I skipped on this masterpiece for 10 years ! This is one of those movies that stays in your mind forever
Seen my old man like this too many times to count, I felt Tommy's pain
Same here
Bro no matter what age man. Seeing my father like that, lowkey had PTSD from his prime days. Learned alot from the trauma, try to be a better person. Make peace as much as I can as a person.
What an unbelievable performance from both Tom Hardy and Nick Nolte, this scene in particular always brings me to tears. One of the most underrated films I never hear many people speak about.
This scene gets a little too real... In a good way.
My father had episodes like these when I was a teenager because of all the death he saw as a fireman.
He was leading the rescue job on one of the deadliest fires in modern history in Gothenburg and some 60+ people died in that fire.
The horrors he saw on that day changed him forever.
Incredible scene and incredible acting. Very accurate. Tears were shed.
What sort of episodes did he have if I may ask ? Was it panic, or disconnecting from reality in a way
@@Mu3aaath a mix of rage, terror and violence, only came out when he was drinking.
He would get very aggressive. Violent. Would beat me, my sister or my mother whilst speaking incoherently and crying all the while doing it.
Don’t know what he saw during that fire but he always refused talking about it.
@@leonirspaz540is your father doing better now?
@@carlmorrow1600 he is yes, he found a woman that keeps him reeled in with the alcohol.
Probably one of the most powerful movies I've ever seen in my 47 years. I never turned away from the screen for a second.
Such an emotionally charged movie that you need time to recover before you watch it again!
2 of the best actors in the world , doing a great scene. It's relatable for anyone with alcoholism in their family. Nick plays it so well that it's scary.
He’s had his own real life struggles with substance abuse
Favorite scene in the entire film, a son learning to forgive then to love.
Nick Nolte deserve more than a oscar, his performance was AMAZING !!!
This movie was just beautiful. Very underrated.
To say Nick Nolte steals the show here is an understatement. It’s a breathtaking, powerhouse of a scene. Tom Hardy carries his own too though - the little intricate and subtle softening just after his Dad yells in his face. He ballsed up with his cruel words to him, and he knows it.
This gets to me everytime ..
Nick Nolte should have gotten an Oscar for this performance ..
Just saw this movie.... Don't know how I missed it when it came out. It has to be one of the best movies I've ever seen. Hardy just keeps getting better and Nick Nolte in this is brilliant. What a scene, deserved an oscar on it's own.
Tommy hugging his father was ad-libbed by Tom Hardy. Nick Nolte was just this pure and remarkable force in this movie.
This scene breaks me every time I watch it..... how Nolte didn't receive an Oscar for his performance here is truly beyond comprehension
he was nominated but i forget who he was up against
This is still one of the best films I have ever seen, a true gem that more people should see.
One of the most star struck scenes in history. I'll never forget the first time I saw this scene. I completely was overwhelmed with silence.
Tommy with all his strength and might he is still afraid of his drunk father but finally forgives him and knew that cause of his rejection he relapsed so he forgave him
Gilmartin Pares the best comentary boy
i don't think he afraids of him
@Michael Oates he basically hold grudge against father and brother because they left him alone with a dying mother
You’ll always be afraid of your dad when he was a drunk. My dad is sober now, 3 years. But no matter how old I get, I’ll always remember that fear.
I for one agree he’s afraid; as his drunken father approaches Tommy’s stare looks fearful, like he’s anticipating pain.
Gosh this clip completely shows you a first hand look at what PTSD can do to someone. I think Tommy finally realizes that his father has been struggling with it from Vietnam and he understands the harshness of it after fighting in a war himself.
I don’t think this has anything to do with Vietnam. There’s nothing in the film to suggest his previous drinking problem has a direct correlation to his war experience.
He was simply a drunk.
The look Tommy gives him is a realization of what he’s done and how his anger drove his father to drink again. He’s simply regretful.
@@therealmistahjayI felt that was what this scene was about also.
A lot of powerful scenes in this movie. Hits home for a lot us.
You can see what life would have been like for Tommy and Brendan growing up... truly memorable scene in this film, had me crying... my parents were alcoholics when I was growing up and this scene really spoke to me.
This will forever be one of my favourite movies of all time.
OMG!
I didnt think acting like this was possible anyore....
pierre hedelin watch any daniel day-lewis film
widing 19 As amazing as Day-Lewis’ transformations are, I’ve never seen any of his performances feel as real as this.
Yall like DD LEWIS - watch There will be blood
I strongly recommend watching The Farewell, with Awkwafina.
I wish I had a better relationship with my dad. I was a bad son but he was a great father and I realised this after he died and got older. But I hope I'm making him proud coz I'm making his dream come through with whatever I'm doing.
I get that. I sometimes feel like I’m not the son my father wanted. Even though I did try my best
Best performance of his entire career, hands down.
No words. Phenomenal scene barely any words said but the ones said within both actors eyes, man gives me the chills. Beautiful film.
I know a movie is good when only one scene can bring tears to my eyes. And it''s even better wehen you watch the whole movie instead of just this scene. Then I'm crying.
Coming from someone whose ruined so many fucking things due to alcohol I fucking understand Tommy's dads reason for saying stop this ship. I think it's him really meaning that he wishes he could change everything wrong he did and fix the broken home he made. "We're lost Tommy"
Andrew Damiani yup, well said. I also had many drunks just like this ( not for five years thank God) and I can totally connect with Nolte's character. Your in so much pain and with the booze you think your being eloquent when on fact your falling apart. I too ruined lives but have managed to move on, forgive myself and not get stuck in the past. Hope your doing okay
Andrew Damiani yeah it is👍🏻
Andrew Damiani "We'll never make it back" tommys dad said back to the way things were
The way he looks at him and calls him Ahab… the reference hits hard. Tommy came back with vengeance in terms of his relationship with his dad. He let go of this intention during this scene and it’s beautiful. Ahab stopped the ship.
love this scene, intense and heartfelt best scene ever
I think this is one of the greatest movies. I relate to all three of them, and these are some of the most painful truths about life. The whole forgive but keep at a distance to protect yours, the anger and resentment from being fatherless, to the honest searching for forgiveness and trying to rectify the wrongs you've done, this story hits close to home on so many levels.
excellent comment
This scene.. Made me tear ahh this movie is the greatest
Whats really sad about this scene is.... a man ,in this case his father was strong and tough when he was younger.... but as parents grow...they start gettimg broken if not treated well...im not speaking physically...but spiritually.....hardest thing in the world seeing a strong,greater than life father melting down.... this scene hit me so hard watching it.... im 6"3 230 lbs thai fighter..and i was tearing up like a 5 year old in the theater
Nolte delivered so much passion in this role, I was blown away by his performance!
"Were lost, were all lost tommy , well never make it back" feels he wasn't just talking about the story:( broke my heart into pieces
beni bu kadar derinden etkileyen başka bir sahne var mı, bilemiyorum…
This scene. This movie. The fighting is just a bonus.
I cannot not cry here, nor can any son who's been raised by an alcoholic. The thing that makes this more heart breaking is how hard he was trying to change until his own son made him just give up.
This scene. This movie...
Never going to speak bad about my dad......he had his problems, this comes very close in so many ways......forgiveness was the on the moment I became a dad myself, recognizing that he only wanted best but never felt lie it was enough.......damn......this movie is so good.
As someone that went through childhood with an alcoholic dad these two awesome actors nailed this scene to the T☝️👍, what a rip for Mr Nolte for not receiving the highest honor of an award for a drama
This scene hits me so hard the acting is fantastic I always cry everytime I see it what a great film
This movie is so goddamn underrated
It was rated really well overall by those who saw it. Unfortunately it wasn't a commercial success.
this movie was criminally underrated
I’ve been sober more than 2 years. My mom just passed away on Christmas Eve. I don’t know why but I sought out this scene because it helps. Helps keep me sober. Thank you for posting it
I hope you’re well. It’s a powerful, emotional scene, full of sadness, pain... but also understanding and hope. Very cathartic. Stay safe.
RIP
Tommy opening the door and the realization washing over his face that he caused his father to revert back to the thing he hated in the first place was a powerful thing to watch
This scene alone makes me want to watch the movie and everything Hardy and Norte have done, just stunning work
Everytime i watch this scene, i always remember my father. How he sacrificed to gave us a better life until today. Thank u warrior
This is the scene I site when performances come into conversation. It's honestly the most emotionally memorable scene that I've ever seen and it's the one I look forward to any time I rewatch the movie. Nick deserved all the accolades he received and more.
That old man played that role in this movie so incredibly well.
this just flashed my own father in my mind for the whole scene, i understood it because ive lived it, though i never talked to my dad like that even before he got clean. he died this last year and obviously this movie has been out longer than 2021, but seeing this scene again now with nothin but his memories flooding into my mind i got choked up this time and im normally not the sensitive type. that hit me right in the heart. they both deserve oscars for this because it captured that emotion in the most perfect way, and it takes the perfect storm to create that kindof atmosphere and sequence of events. bravo to tom hardy and nick nolte both.
He should have gotten an oscar nod as best supporting actor. My parents were alcoholics and watching this movie was intense for me every time Nolte was on screen.
i think he got the nomination
I saw a glimpse of fear in Tommy’s eyes when his father charged toward him.
I agree, fear. Like when he was a little boy and would see his dad like this.
all the more reason to not forget an abuser?
ive seen this film many many times. even this clip on youtube many times. never fails to hit me hard and feel the emotional power of one of the greatest emotional scenes in cinema history
I love this scene he was so angry at his dad it drove him to drink again n then he saw him angry/sad drunk n felt bad n comforted him n showed Tommy still cares about his father even though what he did it's heartwarming
The acting in this film is incredible.
I just saw the movie and this is a master piece... tom hardy OMG you are an amazing actor
Nick Nolte...... what an actor!
I wish I could hug and hold my father one more time and tell him I love him. I lost my dad two years ago. Great scene.
Same here man…….i feel ya
You ok? I’m crying. I loved my Dad. I’m sure you did too. If your moms still alive tell her you love her. I will too.
This si so intense and heartbreaking… amazing acting Mr. Nolte…
i cry every time i see this scene, so intense, speaks volumes.... :'(
Nolte should have won an oscar for this performance. Nothing short of amazing.
This scene alone should have been enough to give Nick the Oscar! Robbed!
I love my dad. One of my favorite scenes from this movie.