💔 THINGS HAVE CHANGED…..IM GETTING DIVORCED // LAST VIDEO BEFORE MY LIFE TOOK A TURN // CHATTY
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Beautifully said❤
Yes mam! COULDNT have said its better myself!!🥰
Don’t sign divorce papers yet….if you believe in God first look for restoration of marriage….lots of help out there,
God can heal your marriage if you let him.
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Blindsided at 30 years old with a 3 year old and a lay-off notice in my hands. He just walked out. To say I was scared is an understatement. That was 30 years ago. I not only survived, but continued to grow and thrive and have a beautiful successful daughter and brand new granddaughter today. It was scary and hard and heartbreaking, but I got through it stronger and better than ever. I love my life today. Women are strong. You are strong. You will make a great life for yourself.
Yes!! This!!! ☝️
Preach sister!
Thank you for sharing your story and for the kind words ❤️
Is he involved with your child or grandchild at all?
@@BK2093x Barely
I would have been married 44 years in July. He doesn’t want to be married anymore. Called me the B word and told me when he healed from an accident that has him in a wheelchair he is leaving. I have been taking care of him. He told me this today. Evidently I am not taking care of him and everything else well enough! I just realized that we God is trying to remove people out of your life let them go!
Oh my goodness, I’m so sorry. Stay strong!
I’m so sorry. Just curious if you ever wonder if his disability makes him deflect exactly what he said about you is actually his feelings about himself? Like if he is depressed and feels useless now so rejecting before fearing rejection? Just a thought. Wishing the best.❤
I would never stay with a man for any reason if they cursed me or told me they were leaving after you help rehabilitate him. My best friend’s husband left her after she worked hard to help him get his VA benefits and a hip replacement. He left her two weeks after her mother died. He had hid money from her for over thirty years. This was a man that was in the ministry and taught Bible studies throughout their marriage. She was left penniless. Thankfully….her sweet sister was single and took her in. They spent the best 8 years of their life together. Sadly, she passed away back in March 2024, and the ex is living with the woman he left her for, and they are both alcoholics and miserable together. Men and women should never let their significant other take complete control of all the finances.
@TheMimiof7 I agree, I'm glad my ex didn't get a lawyer and try to get my money by saying it's was his. After he cheated on me and moved out while having surgery to save my face and eyesight. Now he is living with a friend who his ex wife and has major health issues on top of diabetes, blood pressure issues and depression. Thank God that's he out of my life. I never let him have access to bank account or any bill except my directv bill. Which I had to research my account online because of a deal that att and directv had. In order to get that deal with free HBO the bill was in my name. Instead they put my ex down as 2nd party if anything else wrong. It's took me months and lots of fighting with them. After changing my number, the company deleted his info, and I canceled. Good thing is he left me with house and all stuff. All he took was his antique that filled every space in my house. Took his 4 dogs that had issues. My stepbrother and his dog live with me and my dog. I gave my stepbrother a place to live when he needed it. Can't wait to see where life takes us in future.
I would have been married 44 years May 31. I turned 62 on May 24. My husband abandoned me in another state knowing I was sickwith a rare autoimmune disease. He cut .e off financially as well and this was at 38 years of marriage. It took me allthistime to claw my way back to my home state. Just before my birthday I got my very own first apartment. I knew God was removing him from my life. There's a quote that says, " Don't worry about who God removes from your life, he saw things you couldn't, heard conversations you didnt and made moves you wouldn't. Thank God he's got my back!
Married 33 years, 5 children. Blind sided by my ex . Was devastated! Age 55 and making my new life.
I’m so sorry 💔
That sounds eerily familiar to me! Married 31 years. Blindsided as well. 2 girls. 1 grand baby. He gave us all up for a new woman he met online. Smh
@@Tilweareghostshe doesn't have a relationship with the other folks, his children and grandkids? My friend maintained a strong connection with her dad even after he left her mom for someone else. People grow apart and get divorced. You weren't on the same page at some point.
@Tilweareghosts An online gold digging tr@mp sounds like.
He will get his karma. Enjoy the rest of your life. His loss.
I was married for 33 years and two kids. We just grew apart and when he realized I meant getting a divorce it was too late. But I promise the sadness and pain will subside. A new adventure awaits you! Take this time to walk, eat delicious food and pamper yourself. ❤ New Subscriber!
I have been divorced for over 40 years. I was left sick, with 2 babies, both under 5. You will heal and you will move. Be gentle with yourself. I will keep you in my prayers and thoughts. I did subscribe, so I can keep up with your journey. God bless you.
Thank you ❤️
I was shocked when my then husband of 12 years asked for a divorce. He was in love with another woman from work. He left me with $10 in the bank account and 3 children, the youngest 3 years old. I spent time healing and learning to love myself before moving on. I have been happily married for 19 years now. With the right person.
I was blindsided 2 yrs ago , he made me homelesss and I drifted for nearly a year before I could get myself back together . I lost all my friends because of what he did but I am finally getting there . I tried to stay positive but I broke several times before I got to this point , now I am happy being on my own
Take comfort in the fact that we come alone and leave alone😊😊😊
Thank you for sharing ❤️ stay positive!
Baby if he could take all your friends then they were never friends to begin with. People can be awful but they can also be amazing. Don't give up
I just found your channel today Ann. I am sorry that you have to go through this rough patch . It sounds like you know its needed. I plan to stick around to support you and see what your new journey brings you. You have the right attitude.Stay strong. Virtual hugs from your new friend ~Nicole in Florida
I was blindsided by my high school sweetheart the night of our 16th wedding anniversary he wanted a divorce. We had just moved to another State away from my family and friends, bought a house on six acres and had 5 dogs and 2 parrots. I was devastated, did not want to live and didn’t think I could go on. However, if it wasn’t for that divorce, I wouldn’t have met the most wonderful man who I have been married to for over 30 years. He is the love of my life. Things seem to happen for a reason we find out down the road. You had me when you said you worry so much when your pet is hurting! ❤️🐾🐶 You will find the reason for this time in your life…..down the road. Pets can be great comfort and therapy. ❤
Pets are the best.
I would have been devastated if I would have made all those moves and found out he was having those feelings… arg. Sorry that you had to go through that. But happy you came out turn other side much happier!
Thank you for sharing your story ❤️
May I please ask how were you able to trust someone again?
@@Esh486 I didn’t. The wonderful man I am married to now for 31 years was patient with my mistrust. It was 7 years before I finally said yes. Now I know it is true when one door closes there is a wonderful loving person who will be there for you with open arms when you least expect it. Believe it. You are special and will be happy again! I am proof. ❤🐾🐶
You hang in there my daughter was in her 40s when she got divorced and now she’s happy she’s a personal trainer and a nutritionist and she did all this after the divorce
Thank you ❤
I was married for 28 yrs and got a divorce though it was the end of the world but little by little things changed and I realized that things were not how I seen them and now I am married to the most wonderful man in the world you hang in there by the way I read this book. It’s really funny and helpful. It’s called. It’s called breaking up for a reason. Helped me alott and to see what im feeling is normal
@@AnnsHappyHome Sorry to hear you are going thru a divorce. Divorce IS painful. Make sure you take care of your health during this stressful & sad time in your life.
Ch Dr Berg has excellent vds on stress. Find a good diet to help you reduce high cortisol levels (which happens under stressful times). Dr Berg recommends Keto diet and others switch from there to carnivore diet (ch Kelly hogan, Dr Ken berry have how to start carnviore diet).
With time you will see that your freedom is a blessing. This does not happen overnight.
Be KIND to yourself during this journey of healing.
Take care ❤
ps you can paint appliances from frigs, washer & dryers lots of vds for this.
I’m so sorry you’re having to get a divorce. I’m new to your channel. ❤❤❤❤
Hope your dog feels better soon
Girl, I’ve been divorced twice. YOU GOT THIS!!! There are tons of women who have gone through it already. Depend on us and listen to what we say… you’re gonna be okay!!! It’s a healing process but you will come out even better on the other side. Xoxo ❤
Thank you so much!! ❤️
To ninijellybean. What a nice and supportive person you are. Your comment really touched me. God bless you. The people in your life are lucky to have you.
@@user-nf1wu7pf5l thank you for your kind words! I had a LOT of support during sad times and I know how isolated I still felt! I don’t want anyone to ever feel alone. Xoxo
I have gone through 3 divorces. The guy usually does better at first but most women thrive once the weight is lifted off of them. Never accept less then you deserve.
I got divorced at 44 yo. Im now 48 and never been more at peace. The first year will be the hardest, so just get through one day at a time.
Thank you ❤️
This year I got laid off from my job, my husband has been mentioning a divorce and then I found out my family member has cancer. When it rains it pours. Been with my husband for 24 years. I agree with you when you said people need more help than you can give them. I realized the other person has to want to help themselves. If they don't want to help themselves then there is nothing you can do.
I'm stressed out but I'm happy I just got a new job and in the meantime I continue to donate my clothes that I longer wear and downsize my papers to prepare for the day that I have to move because my husband and I will get a divorce. It's hard but I'm taking it one day at a time, praying and staying positive.
Your right, when it rains it pours. I’m sorry to hear about everything you are going through. Stay strong ❤️
I pray you be blessed and all you do is!! All f you. Trust God!!
Hello. Was married for 23 years. Divorce for 23 years on May 30th, 2024. Would have been married 46 years on June 12, 2024.
Take your time and heal.
Newly divorced myself. Would have been 33 years on June 22nd. He was my high school sweetheart. I was totally blindsided and I am devastated. I have been struggling but I am worthy and I will make it.
You got this too. It is just one step at a time!
Never married, never divorced. I could not imagine trusting someone to love me and giving my entire heart to them only years down the road it ending in divorce. I don’t believe I could endure that type of pain.
Same.
Divorce was scary, but keep in mind that what is scarier is trying to stay with someone and convince them that you are worthy of the love you deserve.
Know that this is just a part of your journey, it’s not the destination. Your story will continue, you will find happiness, and feel whole all on your own.
Sometimes what we feel is God’s rejection is His protection. I believe that with my whole heart, and am happily divorced, and looking forward to a bright future.
Prayers for you girly. Stay connected to your “tribe”, and to Jesus, and before you know it this will all be in the rear view ❤❤
Thank you ❤️
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I had just had my 34th anniversary in Feb 2009 Then March my ex husband told me he hadn't loved me for years. But I was good to take care of his mother who had Cancer. Which I do not regret. 2 weeks after I moved out he moved his mistress in. I was very very angry and hurt. We have 2 adult kids. Our Son is married. I am so thankful my son treats his wife so good. He had to watch how his dad treated me. It took me 11 years to stop hurting so badly. So trust in the Lord and he will see you thru
Thank you for sharing ❤️
I was never divorced as my husband passed away in 2020 with Alzheimers. Our marriage was far from perfect but I guess it could have been worse. I enjoy not being accountable to anyone but myself and God. I go to bed when I'm ready and get up the same way. I'm not on a set schedule for anything. Meals are when I want and if I don't want to cook, I don't. After catering to someone for 52 years of my life and no matter how hard you try to please them, not being able to, it's nice to no longer do that. I'm a bit older than you, but If and when you meet someone, take your time. Don't rush into anything including moving in with anyone. I know a lot of people think that is how you get to know someone and think I'm old fashion but I'm not going to take on caring for anyone that doesn't want to commit to the relationship. Remember if you do not get along with them before marriage, it will be three times worse after marriage. If they have a hot temper, always want things their way etc., don't think they will change. Men want someone to take care of them. You will find you are very capable of caring for yourself if need be. I wish you the best in your move and in the future.
Love the dishes from Dollar Tree. They will make such a fun table setting. I have to go check them out. Thanks for showing them to us and sharing.
Thank you for the encouragement and sharing your story ❤️
You go girl! 😂
Best advice! We women think we can change them or adapt, but that’s never really the case. Resentment always comes when one person does all the compromising.
I got divorced once, it was the best thing that ever happened to me! It's not an end, it's a new beginning and I found the love of my life 🤷♀️ You were meant for a different path so enjoy the journey 💜
Thank you ❤️
Hi, Ann. I live in Sonoma County and recently became single again (I think I’m going on 9-months). I was angry and hurt at first but now I am happy and thriving!! I am enjoying being a single woman again and my life is far better than it was when we were together. I have zero drama in my life; I love my peaceful quieter life; there is a lot less to clean; expenses are lower; I can watch whatever I want on TV (yay for girl TV!) or turn it off when I just want quiet; I have been enjoying decluttering and cleaning my condo (no more stuffed closets or tripping over things); no more snoring, the list goes on and on. My point is, I am sure it is very difficult for you now but it WILL get better. You will be better than OK!!
Thank you ❤️ I look forward to that happening for me, especially no drama and peace!!
Good dissesction
It’s hard to see when you’re in it, but it really is an opportunity to open a new chapter.
Thank you ❤️
Hi Ann, I went through a divorce 5 years ago after 24 years of marriage and 2 children ( girls ages 28 & 26 respectively). My ex began seeing another woman 10 yrs ago from Facebook (knew each other since childhood) after helping him get back on his feet after having knee replacement surgery that February. I never knew he was cheating on me since he was so open about where they were going and even showing me photos. I thought it was a friendly relationship until he told our eldest daughter in 2015. She didn't believe him until he admitted to me that November of 2015. He eventually moved out of our house on 7/13/16, 3 weeks after our younger daughter graduated from high school. To make a long story short, he filed for divorce 1/17/17 & it was finalized on 5/23/19. I went through depression and wanted to end my life, but I had my daughters and was seeing someone else. That relationship with my boyfriend ended on 12/11/21 after 5 yrs and again being dumped for another woman. Your life will be filled with happiness after a while. It took me at least 2 yrs to get over my divorce & how I've been divorced for 5 yrs and living my best life. Take care of yourself & your fur babies.
Thank you for sharing ❤️
I was blindsided 4 years ago after being together for 13 years. He went out to mow my yard and just disappeared. Found out 4 days later that he had left me for a woman he met on Facebook (she forgot to tell him that she's married lol...she never left her husband)I don't have any luck with relationships either.
So I'm still a "work in progress"❤❤❤
Oh my goodness!!! You will get through this!! ❤️
You are complete ❤. He's the work in progress.
I was married once upon a time... MUCH happier being single, that's for sure!!! 👏☺️🥰❤️
My daughter is going through a divorce right now. It's heartbreaking. I sure wish we had a home just waiting for her. She also has 2 small kids. My heart just hurts...
I’m sorry to hear that 🥺
I have been there twice my first husband hit on me and my second of 25 years left me for his best friends wife!! Left me damaged in my life now i dont trust men at all ...😢 Now im 53 have jelousy problems etc.. But i will make it ..God has helped me so much through the years!! But i will NEVER get married again.🥺
I just found your channel tonight. I am on my third marriage. My first marriage was 16 years and five children. My second marriage was two years and one child at my third marriage is now 22 years and no children together. My third marriage is a blessing from God! You’ve got this girlfriend, just never let go of Jesus! May God bless you❤️🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏
Thank you ❤️
When it rains it pours. Sorry about what you are going through with the divorce and your fur baby. Will be nice for you to be moving near your family. I wish you well. Everything will be OK. Time is a great healer 😘
Thank you ❤️
Hi there! I'm new to your channel. Although I've never been married, I've had a relationship end that was shocking. I thought he was going to propose but he actually dumped me. I knew something shifted with us but I thought it was something else not the ending of the relationship. The thing that rocked me was being displaced. My parents had passed away and I was really all alone in this world. My nearest relative was over 1600 miles away. Then I lost my job a week after mom passed away. I moved so many times in a matter of 18 months, I ended up in the hospital with a stroke. So being displaced is a cruel realization. I had no one to help me, I ended up putting my things on the street and people came by and got what they wanted. With no income there was no way to get a storage unit. What didn't sell, was simply lost forever. Many women find themselves in that boat. I'm thrilled to know you have a safe space to go to. So many people don't have that. You've got a massive part of this life journey solved. I'm happy for you for having that. Hold your head up high sweetheart and push forward. I'll be subscribing to follow your new journey. You've got this!💐💕
Wow, thank you for sharing ❤️
You'll be fine, sweetie 😊 God is good. Keep pushing. like I tell my adult children a daughter 40 and my son 46 life is a journey this is yours. Not everyone has to be in a relationship. Some people are meant to be single , without children not by choice but by God's will.. keep your faith it will get better. God brings you to it he'll bring you through it. Amen 🙏 thanks for sharing. I'm new here to your channel.😊
Thank you ❤️🙏
Got divorced after 39 years of marriage. I too was blindsided by my ex. He is now gone. Still single but living one day at a time.
I’m sorry to hear that. Stay strong ❤️
16 years together, divorced last year, I’m doing great, best thing to have happened, have faith, everything will be ok and life has away of sorting itself out 😊
Thank you ❤️
Married 30 years but lived 35 together. Make a plan, keep a job, save for the unexpected. Glad I did not live through all this online hooking up. You seem strong and I know you will be fine.
Thank you ❤️
The small black plates look perfect with the larger bee plates….nice find. 😊
Agree. I love to mix/match patterns. My dinner plates are those turquoise blue from Dollar Tree and my salad plates and mugs are the Elizabethan pattern from Pier 1 before it closed.
Thank you!
First time here. Sad to hear when anyone goes through this. I know it’s rough. I will continue to support and watch.
Thank you ❤️
New sub! So sorry for what you’re going through. I went through a divorce after 7 years of marriage. Felt like my world came crashing down. Through family support, I got through it. I have now been married 25 yrs (this October) to a wonderful man and we have 2 beautiful daughters. It is a lot to deal with and it takes time, but you will get through it and you will be okay!
Thank you ❤️
Was in a relationship with a narcissist for 24yrs came home from work on a Monday before last Christmas and he had moved out with the washer and dryer and Tv and rent due ! I'm 65 and starting a new life and loving it ! He is 66 and he wants a 20 yrs old 😂
Sorry you’re going through this.. it’s emotionally and physically draining. Married 9 years when divorce hit me.. very hard.. found new friends and found comfort with the church.
3 years later, i met someone on a blind date… we now been together 30+ years..
Be gentle on yourself and allow yourself to process and “grieve” the loss of a marriage.
Thinking of you.
Thank you ❤️
This to shall pass.....put God first 🙏
Thank you 🙏
I’ve been married 37 years and my husband left me tonight. I’m 55. So heartbroken.
Wow. I can't imagine. What a jerk! Sorry, but I think he's terrible. I lost my husband of 33 years to cancer. I take so much comfort knowing that he loved me. Some very foolish people, like your husband, don't know how blessed they are. Sending you a virtual hug.
❤ PEACE to your heart
I'm so sorry you're hurting. I wish I had some wise, wonderful words to make it better. Please be kind to yourself as you move forward. x
Seek the Lord! The only way I was able to heal properly. ❤ Hugs
Be strong! I’m 72 and divorced since 1984. I had ten years of marriage! Never again once was enough. I have a son 46. That’s the only thing good about it! ❤️
Good for you!! ❤️
I just found your channel when I was scrolling through my TH-cam feed. The title made me click on your video . I was with my ex-husband for 22 years and then I found out that he was a serial cheater so we ended up getting a divorce. We had a beautiful beautiful home. We got the house and gutted it and made it my dream home. The house went up for sale and it was just so sad because every inch of that house was made and decorated the way I wanted. Including the light fixtures all the way down to the wall colors. It's been almost 6 years since my divorce and I just can't believe that I wasted two decades of my life with this man. So divorce is hard and having to start over is hard and scary at the same time. But you will get through it. Even now all these years later I still have my moments of sadness. I wish you the best. I too have a dog and she is my everything. During my divorce and a couple years after my divorce my son and his then fiancee still lived with me. When we moved from me and my ex-husband's home in Massachusetts to relocate in Rhode Island it was me, my son, my now daughter-in-law and my sweet dog. When my son and daughter-in-law moved out of the house it was just such a scary time for me because I never lived on my own before. I was with my ex-husband for 22 years and before him I was with my son's father. So once my son and daughter-in-law left it was just me and my sweet dog. She helped me so much. She was diagnosed with mast cell cancer October 2022. She's on a comforting Med and she was doing really good for a long time but then she has been slowly declining within the last 6 months so I'm freaking out about losing her and then being truly alone. Of course I see my son and my daughter-in-law and my two year old grandson but they don't live with me. I do watch my grandson a few days during the week which is so much fun. But when I have to put my sweet girl down it's going to be absolutely devastating for me. Like I said I will be alone alone. I just can't believe that this is my life at 51 years old. I dated two guys after my divorce and once I left both of those relationships I haven't been in another because I am notorious about choosing the wrong type of man. So I would rather be on my own then have to deal with any more heartache. I never dreamed that I would be alone at my age. But I have to look at it as I'd rather be alone then I have to deal with all of the drama that I had to endure with my marriage and then those two relationships after my divorce. Most of the time I am happy being single and not dating and just living my life the way I want to but then there's other times that I do get sad about the loss of my marriage and most likely being single the rest of my life. I definitely will follow your journey because I just subscribed to your channel and I just hope that you're able to keep your head up and know that it's okay to cry and let out your feelings. Don't keep them in. Just know that you have subscribers on your channel that care and will cheer you on as you conquer through this new life Journey. I thought my husband also was going to protect me and we would grow old together. I thought he was the only man in the world that would never hurt me and when I found out about his double life I too was just totally blindsided. I've never felt so betrayed in my entire life. And I still go through stages that I question if he ever truly loved me. He ended up remarrying after our divorce his new wife was so incredibly obsessed with me. Having her little clique always harassing me on Facebook or making posts about me. It was just absolutely horrible. My divorce took a year and a half and it cost $14,000. My ex-husband ended up passing away last year August 18, 2023. The last 8 years of my marriage my then husband gotten into drugs. I never use drugs and I did anything and everything to try and help him. In Massachusetts you could go to court and ask the judge to have someone sectioned by the court to go into rehab and I did that many many times. So I would go to court the judge will sign off on it and then the police would show up at the house and handcuffed him and take him to unlock the unit rehab. At the time he would be so pissed off at me but once he got cleaned he always thanked me for saving his life. Before the drugs he was the most amazing man but once he turned to drugs he turned into somebody I didn't even know. He was using drugs, he was having Affairs and just making the wrong choices. Even when he would get clean he still had the addictive mindset and never turn the back into the man that I fell in love with he always told me if I left him that he would die and that's why I stayed for so long when he was using because I just didn't want that in my conscience that if he died then it would be my fault because I left him. When I finally did end up leaving him it was because I had found out about his double life of a relationship that he was having with another woman who ended up also being an addict. I walked away from my marriage broken to my core. I had lost all of my happiness and peace because for those 8 years day in and day out all I could think about is trying to keep him alive . I just could it mentally or physically stay in that marriage a moment longer because it took everything out of me. Like I said he ended up passing away last August from Cardiac Arrest brought on from drug use. When I found out that he passed away I totally broke because he always told me that if I left him he would die and obviously I left him and he died I've been working through that pain with my counselor. I no longer blame myself for his passing away after I left him. But most days now I'm okay but other times I do just start to cry . I am looking forward to watching your journey but just know that you need to give yourself Grace because divorce is hard and there's a lot of emotions that you will have so it's okay to break down. You don't need to be strong every second of every day. If you don't feel strong one day then take that day to grieve. Because it is a loss . As time moves on you will find your own path and he will find that you have more better days than hard days. But even all these years later, I still have my moments and then it really came back and hit me hard when he passed away so just know your journey will have its ups and downs and like I said give yourself Grace because there's a lot of emotions that you will go through as you navigate through this transition in your life.❤
New subscriber. Marriage is hard, even with a great guy. You'll be in my prayers, and I'll follow your journey.
Yes, in time, you will be fine!!! Been here - done that! Even the failed fertility and all and I wee 40!!😳 Found a man that had never married and had no children. We got married in 6 months and 4 months later, I was pregnant naturally. Then 10 months and 1 day later, baby #2!! This was all aster 4 IVF attempts - carried a precious set of twins for 221/2 months and birthed and buried them. Then had 3 more positive IVF pregnancies, all ending in miscarriage. As of last month, we’ve been together 24 years!!! I know you don’t know me, but we have very similar stories!!♥️
Supposed to say 22 1/2 WEEKS
Thank you for sharing your story ❤️
It’s so difficult! But keep hope! You are not alone and will be ok! It’s been 14 years for me. We were married for 26 years. I am now the woman I always wanted to be but couldn’t be with him. I am empowered to be me!!💕 I will pray for you to come out the other side whole and healthy! I am so sorry for your dog not feeling well! Praying for them too!!❤️
God has better for you trust me I went through a divorce best thing ever happened to me.. God blessed me with another husband and life has been amazing. I am so thankful. 🙏 Thank you Jesus for your faithfulness. It will hurt as heck but hold on my sweet sister it will get better in time.
Thank you so much ❤️
Same story here. I thought my life was falling apart, but it was falling into place. 6 years married to a real man. Grieve and then move on. You.are worthy of the best, Ann!
New to your channel. I’m so sorry about the divorce. I just subscribed to walk with you through your new journey and help pray you through this. 🙏❤️😊
Thank you ❤️🙏
Just subscribed I can relate. 27 years married. Husband went through mid life crisis went back to chumming with first love..7 children 4 grandchildren I forgive him because we have children. The daughter closest to him took years to get over being mad at Dad even the siblings asked me why is she still mad because each of us takes a different amount of time to heal. We still have family get together s and all at peace he even brings his first love kids hate it I tolerate it not going to be mean just makes things worst. 1 time is enough because I have children and the grandchildren...I don't want to get married again. I'm enjoying the family I have now. And there are great men out there but they are hard to find.
You will do great you have the right attitude and I will pray someday when you are healed God will find you that good man to spend the rest of your lives together. He is out there😊 God bless you and keep that positive going. Take care😊
Thank you ❤️🙏 and thank you for sharing your story!
Divorced twice .I live my live to the fullest now.Studying ,renovating make my flat mine now,new and old Hobbies
Divorce hurts..in time you will be okay,,, You can't makes someone stay if that's not what they want .. Praying for you
Thank you for the prayers ❤️
Can I just say some men cannot handle stress. If their wife becomes ill or injured, they will run for the hills. Best to help them pack for the trip because they are useless. Married 55 years and been through a lot of illnesses and injuries. Three cancers between us, one triple bypass for him. Myself injured and ended up in hospital for 4 months with multiple fractures. Couple of years in a wheelchair before I could walk. My husband worked full time, shopped, cleaned and cooked for two years until I could get on my feet. It takes guts to care for each other, and some people just don't have it in them.
Thank you for sharing ❤️
My husband divorced me after 46 years. He wants his freedom. So he got it.
I am actually married but a friend of ours recently went through a divorce that was sprung on her after her children graduated and it really opened my eyes. You just never know. The way my husband reasoned with her husband leaving her made me really nervous and i think what if he is planning to do the same thing. You just never know. Especially when there are issues already present. Maybe God put you in my path to pre😊are me. You just never know. BUT with that said. I am a new subscriber and seeing the love you have for your dogs, had me knowing that i need to be here. I have 6 dogs. 2 intentional dogs and 4 rescue fosters that i fell in love with. they are truly my babies. you are going to get through this and you are going to THRIVE. The best is yet to come, my friend! Peace❤️
Was my first time watching. And oh my goodness, it's bad enough that your little fur baby is unwell, which I dearly hope he picks up quickly for you. But the divorce, I'm so sorry, I wish you all the best, and simply can't imagine what you must be going through right now. But, it sounds like you have a great family behind you, which is everything. Take care. 🥰🇬🇧🐾🐾🌷🌈
Thank you ❤️
My first husband told me he didn't love me any more. He left me for a daughter of his parents best friends. I have been married 44 yrs a great guy. Life does get better.
Happy things worked out for you ❤️
I'm sorry to hear about the news. It's so hard, and nothing really helps until enough time passes. I'm also sorry to hear about your dog. I know you have a lot on your plate, but we take our little guy to the chiropractor regularly as he ages. It's a night and day difference as to how much it helps them. It's immediate relief and helps keep him running like the wind even at 17 years old. I'm like you, when he's hurting, I'm hurting!
I was married for 17 years and 2 kids. When we divorced, it was so awful. And Hard I kind of wish I would've waited but it worked out in the end. I'll be praying for you.❤❤❤
Thank you ❤️
You’re on the right track . New adventures ahead … Stay talking best for you both . Time for You now .
Have been where you are … Remarried to a awesome guy for 26 years now he is my hero .
But Marriage isn’t always the answers to life .REMEMBER THERE WAS A YOU BEFORE YOU WERE A TWO .
Never married and no kids. And never plan to. I’m 34 and literally just do whatever I want all the time. Do not resort to being someone’s maid again and never cohabitate. ❤ sending love and healing. You are stronger than you even know and will blossom into a beautiful independent self sufficient queen ❤.
I was married for 27 yrs and went through a divorce. The one thing I wish I had done was to put money back. Women have financial difficulties after divorce. Even if you are happily married putting money back is so important. If you don't go through a divorce by 60 years old then go on a surprise vacation with your husband.
Thank you for the advice ❤️
Oh my goodness. I've just found you and subscribed so that I can follow you on your new life journey. I'm extremely sorry that you are going through this. Literally had me in tears listening to you... can feel the pain in your voice and words. I've just found you but I can already tell that you will be just fine. You sound and seem like an incredibly strong woman and I have no doubt great things will come your way. 🙏🏽❤️
Thank you so much!! ❤️
I wouldn’t worry so much about your fertility journey. You are still young. I had my identical twins at age 35. There is a lady that I was watching her Vlog today and she is pregnant with her second child, a little boy and she is 51. Her little girl is 2 1/2.
Even though I’ve been married, this coming December will be 33 years, I’m 66, it’s like ships passing in the night. He has claimed his bedroom down at the other end of the hallway and I have the master bedroom and bath. It’s been like that for at least five years.
It’s not that I don’t care for him, because I do. However, he needs to seek counseling for issues that I can’t help him with, but he doesn’t think he has. I’ve tried my best, and our children are grown. Our grandchildren are the loves of our lives, and for that, I’m saddened.
I don’t wish him any harm because deep inside he’s a good person. I just believe there’s just been too many words and too much distance. He refuses to even go to marriage counseling. Mind you, I get counseling for just myself twice weekly and I asked him just to go get evaluated and he refused.
So I totally understand where you are and I think you’ll find so much more peace than what you’re living in right now. Stuff is just stuff. Think about it this way… Like my older son told me last night… In 60 years we are all going to be gone. So enjoy your life while you can. Do something great for God and get involved with like-minded people who lift you up.🙏🏼
You got this!
Debra
Thank you ❤️ and thank you for sharing. I hope things get better for you!
My best friend gave up...then she gets pregnant at 42 and 44 so great. My sister adopted due to being infertile then 2 yrs later she is pregnant. My aunt ŵas told shebwas infertile too; adopted then she is pregnant and she has a 6 month old baby 😅. Life is full of wonderful surprises. God removes obstacles so he can Bless us with His Divine Plan✝️. Always turn to God first ♥️🙏
* I forgot my story. I was divorced with a disabled child. I had many problems with my health. No more children. My son kept praying for a brother (did not know he was doing this). Next thing I know is I'm pregnant and the doctor was shocked. Had a great 9mths and had c-section with a beautiful son. Guess what...they are 19 yrs apart but super close. The youngest helps to look after his brother. God is good. ♥️🙏
My dog is ten and has bouts of arthritis, I give her one baby aspirin for two or three days and she gets better. After saying that, at her last checkup, she is in excellent health and very active. She is a labradoodle.
I will look into that. Thanks for sharing!
May God guide you holding your hand through this new chapter in your journey.
Thank you ❤️
Well 5 days ago I didnt know I was gonna start over. I found out the person I was planning a life with was living a double life. 🙃 😢 I am shattered and trying to get closure for myself. At this point I dont know what was real and what wasnt. I am so hurt and dont know where ro start.
I just found your channel. I'm sorry for this storm you are going through. It's heartbreaking. I subscribed because of the strength, fortitude, resilience, & utter sweetness I hear in your voice. I wasn't here for the past videos. I am here to pray for you & and send good vibes of encouragement. It's exciting to think of what your life will look like a year from now. Your generosity in sharing the process is incredible. You're gonna help so many. Thank you
Thank you so much ❤️
20+ years ago I married someone I knew wasn’t right for me but didn’t know how to get out. 4 years later, I finally divorced him. Fortunately, no children together. A few months later, I met my now husband sitting next to me on an airplane. 17 years later, I’m still together with my amazing husband and our beautiful daughter. Hang in there and keep the faith. Better things in store for you. ❤
My son's is going a divorce, no children thankfully. He won't say a bad thing said about her. He just says their relationship changed. They were together for ten years. He's now looking for a new home, they sold theirs quickly. Things will be sorted for him and they will be for you. My 40's were the best years of my life, hoping they will be for you. Take care
Good luck to your son and I hope to say one day that my 40’s were the best 🙏❤️
Honestly, it took me 2 years of dark night of the soul..7 years later, my self-esteem is so high,because I did my inner work .prayers 🙏 ❤
I have always been single so I have always observed marriages and divorces. My advice is you are stronger than you know. Women are far more superior than men because we are expected to do so much more than they do. We (as females) can stand on our own two feet without having to depend on a man. I don't know what is going on in your life, but one door closes another door will open whether it is enjoying your life as a free woman or finding another partner who actually treats you so much better than the last one. Right now you are hurting and have to deal with the divorce, picking up the pieces and creating a new life for yourself. Do what you need to do, but see this as a learning experience and move on with your life.
Thank you for those kind words ❤️
Goodness. I feel like I’m attracting women who are getting divorced. I have been separated-he left Dec 2022 6 days before major surgery. Finally filing soon as I had to sell house and recover from another major surgery Dec 2023. -Yes it’s been a crazy few years for me. A lot of emotions this past week.
Stay strong ❤️
@@AnnsHappyHome you too! It will be a bumpy road.
I was married for 24 years. My ex was caught having an emotional affair with a woman on facebook. He told me she was the woman he was leaving me for. Then, he swore he wanted to work on the relationship. I walked around on eggshells for 3 weeks, as if I had done something wrong. He left for work, and never came back. I was devastated. He left me and our 3 children. To this day, even after our son passed away, unexpectedly at 27 in 2021, he has refused to speak to me. It’s been 7 years since he abandoned our family.
New subscriber here. I was married 43 years, at 71 years old, my husband told me he wanted a divorce to be with his dream woman in central Mexico. He got a passport and took a lot of money from our accounts, but then his new woman backed out. Found out later he was on an adult dating site and he had to PAY by the minute to talk. I made plans to move closer to family, got a PO Box, rented a storage building and got in touch with a lawyer. Literally the day before my meeting with the lawyer, husband said he was very sorry for wrecking our marriage and would I please try again with him. Idiot that I am, I said yes. Fast forward 10 months and I regret staying. He is the same narcissist he always was but it is easier for me to see it now. Plus reading on TH-cam about narcissistic traits and behaviors is really helpful. It doesn't change where we are now but I see our marriage more fully. Sorry this is so long. ❤
I'm so sorry and wish you the very best. On to better things. Xoxo
It sounds like you have a strong support system in your family. Dont be afraid to ask for help and mostly dont jump into anything 😉. Remember one step at a time. You can do this.
Thank you ❤️
Many here will agree this sucks. But I am sure we will all agree life will get better. It will take time,tears and sleepless nights but I promise you will look back and let it go. Praying for comfort❤
Thank you ❤️
Been separated from my husband for a year, sometimes things don’t work out. So am moving on with my life.
Good luck on your journey ❤️
I stayed in a dead marriage for 30 years & really lived a single life acting like I was married. I finally decided 3 years ago to get out before it was too late. I assume being 60 is not too old to start over. I'm was lonely & ignored for majority of our marriage so, if I find somebody fine, if not, I will live in peace instead of misery. He was a miserable person by choice & we had no kids together so, truthfully wish we had never met.
Thank you for sharing ❤️
What I’m hearing is that things haven’t been ok for a while. Divorce is so hard. Know that while you may be mourning the loss of a spouse, even more is mourning the idea of the life you had planned. You will get through it! I have no doubt in a year or two you will look back on all of this and be amazed how far you’ve come. Focus on your healing and getting yourself where you want to be. You deserve to be happy. ❤
Divorce is not always a bad thing!! Feel free and paint a wall change a room around throw things away . Go places, and it diesnt have to be a vacation, just a fun place. It's ok.
At least you have family to fall back on and a home to move into. Most people don’t have that. My divorce was extremely difficult and have moved 10 times since. Thankfully our daughter is a young adult and helps out now. Those years were tough and the struggle is real. Still no home of my own yet and 48. Seems like you will be back on your feet sooner than most, and you have an amazing outlook on the situation, that and housing will set you on your way. I’ve been divorced almost 15 yrs now, and never remarried. I’m fearful of marrying another narcissist and would rather stay single and alone than be in a horrible relationship again. I have not chosen well in the past due to trauma and being raised in a cult (controlling environment) and when my daughter and I watch dating shows, I still pick the wrong guys, almost always, so I’m unqualified to pick someone good for me and therefore choose to remain in the struggle alone. All the best to you, blessings!
Your comment just broke my heart. Bless your soul, may the good Lord allocate you 🙏
I have been married over 30 years and I bet myself up everyday for staying…. I never talk about all the pain and humiliation that I have been through and still going through this day!!!! I feel no one cares and if I chose to stay then everything‘s my fault and I deserve what I got and what I’m getting 😢
Im going through a divorce 38 years.
Don't give up. I found my husband at 58 and we've been married now for eleven years. I had been married twice. The third one was the charm.
That’s what everyone keeps saying! I guess third time is really the charm!
Keep that attitude! You ARE going to continue to be Happy. You have a great vibe. I can’t wait to see what beautiful things, experiences and people are in store for you. ❤❤❤
Never been married but my ex ghosted me after making some poor decisions while deployed. God then gifted me with an amazing, mature man. His plan is always better than what I envision for myself. Praying for you, for comfort and peace 💕
I had this happen to me as well. I moved out and left with minimal things, it was hard. I thought I had a good life. My life changed from one day to the next. That was 2years ago. I had to find a job, a car, a place to live, everything. Yes, it’s hard and it’s lonely and it’s painful. I’ve come along way and I’m proud of myself. I’ve bought a car, moved twice and found a job. I’m just now feeling settled and having my own routines. It’s tough but I found out, so am I and so are you. The only advice I can give is to take it one hour at a time and give yourself some grace. You’ll soon find out who your true friends are and just who you are. Trust your gut and go with what feels right. You’ll get back to feeling like yourself and learn to laugh and eventually love again. (I’m still working on the love part!) 🥰
Hi Ann Thank you so much for being willing to share this difficult time with us. I’m going through a different kind of loss my 20 year old son estranged from the entire family with no warning overnight and I now have 0 co tact with him. The hardest thing I’ve ever been through. It helps so much to see that there are other people out there trying to find a way to keep going through hard times and I really appreciate when TH-camrs share the hard times because it would be easy to only show the good moments and pretend everything is good. I wish you all of the luck with the changes coming in your life. You can do this 💓💓💓
I am so sorry to hear this! I will continue to watch your channel and I hope all is well!
I’m going through a divorce right now. We would have been together 19 years this summer. I resonate so much with what you said about not being able to help anymore. My ex and I get along still and we do have kids so it makes it a bit complicated. Know you’re not alone. There are others of us going through the same journey. ❤❤❤
I realized it’s not our job to change them. If they can’t get the help they need or admit their problems it’s time to leave and do what’s better for the kids. Almost through my divorce after 20 years. I’m completely starting over with 2 teens. Getting ready to move and excited for the next chapter. You will be get through this , one day at a time ❤ So happy you’ll be near family again 😊🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Thank you ❤️
Girl, you will be fine! God has a plan for you. Time heals everything. My ex cheated on me when I was pregnant with our second son. Didn’t find out about the affair until almost 1 yr later. We separated as soon as I found out. It was Valentine’s Day 2007. My boys had just recently turned 2 & 1. Moved across the country back in with my parents. The first year I was a wreck. So depressed I couldn’t work. After that year though I went back to school and finished my degree and got back to work. Now my oldest just graduated HS and the other will graduate next year.
Thank you for sharing ❤️ I’m happy it all worked out for you!
I told my son with such a high divorce rate to be prepared. Have a secondary bank account save what u can. Place your car in your name. If you have a house together make a plan. Even if not rich I believe prenups are the way to go. Everyone can walk away easily and fairly.
Good advice!
This isn’t sad …. Let’s All do this together .🌵🇺🇸🌵
Praying for you and that God blesses your next chapter 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Thank you 🙏
My daughter has a black lab doing the same limping. She actually had a torn ACL. 7,000 later she’s doing great.
Oh wow! Happy to hear she’s doing better!
Sending love your way sweetheart. I was with the same man for over 25 years...we split up ...I was single for 10 years then I met my now husband and I'm happy ..I just turned 60 and life is good
New to your channel. Sorry about what you’re going through. I wish you well on your new journey.
I just found your channel and I am so sorry for what you are going through
I love the thought process you have going into this divorce if nothing else I pray that you’ve learned some great life lessons. Keep your head up and your heart open ❤
Thank you ❤️
Hi Ann sorry about your situation❤ and your dog. Continue to elevate