You hit the nail on the head. They are jealous and manipulative people. They don't have empathy and they have no consciousness and no soul. They are jealous of their target's independent endeavors.
One thing I noticed is jealousy. I am a minister and he pretended to be a Christian until hours maybe two after we married and were consummating if they're really could have been, and he revealed his real self. He listened to everything I taught, learned all I valued, and said he wanted to be a part and assist. But would often show contempt during services, and would act out inappropriately. He also shows jealous rage. So much, I'm so glad he is gone to another Vic. The former narc stole my ideas, tried to take over my ministry, and weeks after we married, I walked into the room as he was attempting to buy a Mercedes Benz in the name of my ministry that was 10 years old when we met. He would also threaten me that if I did not cooperate with whatever he wanted me to do, he would "make sure I never preached again". Well, who asked your permission anyway. You ain't God. I exercised him out of my life. God is good.
Soul rape by them is the worst. Those narcopaths sure do resemble demons. Maybe a little too much??? Makes me wonder, you know. He tried to steal you away from God. Steal, kill and destroy. Thats the M.O. of the narc also
Sylvia Yarbrough Sylvia, My name is Heather and knew this Narccist from church as a friend. He stalked me, made me doubt everything and everyone, even God and at one point I even abondened my faith. He went to our old pastor, friends, cintacts and tryed everything you can imagine to destroy me, my children, all of my relationships. Religious Narccism is so Demonic. Recently he tryed to rewrite my life. God Bless you, I returned to Church, he stalked me there! Slandered me to everyone!
It's so tragic that this mental illness that destroys so many lives and families really can not be helped by the psychological professional. The victims can be treated, but the narc not so much. So family units are destroyed and the victims hopefully can be treated. But it's videos like this that truly help in the first stages when the survivors finally free themselves. Thank you so much for sharing!
Oh Kim, my heart breaks for you. You truly are a beautiful, dear, sweet, woman & your jewelry is an extension of your lovely soul. The sparkle he tried to squelch in you, shines in your jewelry. He is a soul murderer. I am married to one. I was madly in love & he took every advantage of it. It's too late for me. I'm 66 yr. I now have severe Fibromyalgia & have just been through Breast cancer. He sabotaged my job, friends, & family & my health. It's so hard to keep going. I look for inspiration in your videos & it really helps! So happy that you make them! xoxo
Hold your horses sister...it's not over yet, do not give up. You are beautiful and the world is full of surprises. Please do not give up. Bless your heart, hang out here with us...you never know what the future might hold for you.
I painted a mural on one of the ascent walls of our home. It was good. One night in a drunken episode he decided he was going to “ add his touch” to it. He grabbed a can of spray paint a proceeded to make “improvements “. That’s about the shittiest thing I think he ever did to me.
They are horrible people. My soon to be ex even tried to steal my personality. Yes he was acting like me, saying things I say, doing things I do. I couldn't believe it. Sooooo annoying.
Your jewelry is spectacular. I am also creative. My narc hogged all the space inside and outside the house we BOTH owned. I couldn't get an inch of real estate for my paintings that was heated and well ventilated. Often he would shove ny stuff onto shelves and boxes where I couldn't find it. So frustrating and destructive.
Like yours tried to step into your shoes mine did too. When I started growing I my faith suddenly he shared my faith and was telling me and others how I should live while he continued all his deplorable habits. I'm musically talented and when I played an instrument for church instead of complimenting me in any way he said he was thinking about doing some music too, even tho he doesn't read music and has NEVER displayed any interest in it other than sabotaging me. I also am vocal about things like vaccines, food safety, chemtrails, etc and of course now he is on the same thing and he's "totally detaching from the system" (which really just means working off the books and not paying child support for the 3 kids I'm raising alone). When I went to nursing school he would never let me study and started huge fights every time i left for school, esp if I had something big that day. He did everything in his power to destroy everything i worked so hard for and when I still achieved he simply insulted me. I gave birth to our 2nd child less than 24 hours before walking at my graduation for nursing school, having been pregnant, sick, and in drug treatment (thanks to him getting me hooked on pills) - I STILL graduated with honors and international honor society and he tells me I don't handle stress well. I hit the roof, crying on the way from the hospital to my own graduation! And the stuff I mentioned here was NOTHING compared to most of it. Ten years of utter hell and now my life is consumed with raising 3 kids alone- I love my kids and wouldn't trade them or who I've become for the world- but it's frustrating to be someone who succeeds at everything i do, who was on the verge of actualizing that success , to have my career and life totally wrecked by the likes of a nasty narc. I'm very blessed to have recovered emotionally and financially as much as I have, but life as a working single mom of 3 children under ten keeps us strapped and unable to realize the goals and values I have and wish to instill in my children..(despite graduating with honors I was unable to get my professional license due to other BS the narc brought into my life so I don't earn what I should for my training, experience and education) . I'd love to move to South America, get off grid , homeschool, etc.. but everything is so out of reach when you are in a position like mine. Glad i can be thankful for the positive changes that came as a result of my abuse b/c otherwise it'd be infuriating and still can be at times.
Wow...you have come a long way, it takes time and it is a hard climb out of the black pit. But you are getting there, and your children are safe. Sadly your story is so much like everyone else's...they really make personal growth very hard, most of us give up...but you kept going. You should be very proud of your progress....bless your heart.
Wow Kim I needed to see this today! I make candles and body care products and when I went back to get the last of my stuff yesterday the narc and his new supply had made candles with my supplies and had my body care making supplies strewn about the bathroom! Disgusting jealous creatures! So glad to be free. I'm glad I'm not alone. Thanks for sharing
Kim as you speak I can see what happened with my husband. I was painting an oil painting for someone as a gift. I got up in the morning and narc had painted two sections of my painting. It was understandably awful and had to be cleaned off before I could continue to paint this. They are truly ego filled head cases. And they want to dominate anything you do. Their jealousy knows no boundaries. Narc friend was jealous too and that was icky as I was not even remotely attracted to this narc friend. This narc was trying to take advantage of ' helping me out' and that would have gotten worse. Its that kind of cringeworthy thing where they are living in a false reality in their heads. Thats why we run run run as fast as you can. Never to return. This is why I don't get into relationships now and have stayed single since. I will never share my home with anyone again. Freedom is the best feeling. ^j^
You are super gifted, Kim. My narc wanted to load up all my furniture upcycling pieces and supplies and hall them to the dump. !!! I didn't let him. Then he somehow fenagled me into cloning and growing indoor weed in what used to be my fueniture room. Thats over with now, but I am struggling to get my creativity back. I can do nothing with him around. Yes, im getting out...i have set the date.
ugh, your videos resonate with me. For me it was cooking, I was going to cooking school and suddenly he started being a "chef" with rocks in the salad because he didn't wash the lettuce, or burnt food. It was horrible. Id love to see a video of you sorting out your jewelry stuff. I'm so sorry he did that shit to you.
toddler rage. you got it, kim. destroying, everything literally upside down my 30 yr possessions stolen or broken. lamps broken and stomped. everything unuseable. it will take me forever to sort thru and throw away pcs of my past cherished memories. my favorite clothes gone. why? I'm still in a stupor.
My Narc would give everyone a 15 guided tour of our home whether they wanted to or notmainly to rub it in everybody's face how wonderful he's doing meanwhile, he has stolen everybody else's ideas and he would take credit for other people's hard work and claim to be his.
Beautiful jewelry Kim. Just lovely. Exquisite. I can so relate to your experience. I am a pianist, singer, and songwriter that was garnering local acclaim. I met my narc when our band opened for Johnny Paycheck, the "Take This Job And Shove It," country singer. He was a roadie for the show. After we met, he pursued me for almost two years. Believe me, narcissists have patience to get you where they want you. Alone and Isolated. I remember singing some of my songs for him and he didn't like any of them, except the ones I wrote after meeting him. I never performed on stage again after we lived together. I know I have told this story before, but it is so true that a narcissist is extremely jealous of any talent you might possess. Thanks for sharing Kim. Your videos always ring true and bring me joy. Much love to you.
Same here. I left a wonderful job, because my husband begged me to help with his new business. He had no clue how to even read a financial statement. People were stealing from him and I was the one to have to fire them. User, user, user!
Geez Kim!!! I must have missed this vid. Your jewellery is FABULOUS!!!!! Stunning!!!! I can relate with the 'copy cat' thing the narc was doing because my ex used to do the same thing! (Much lesser scale however). Id say "Ive got the urge to cook such n such". Before I knew it (while I was away), he would cook the same thing!! He just HAD to beat me to it!! Talk about a put off. I couldnt bother doing it after that. He always did a crap job at cooking but he THOUGHT he was great. Thanks Kim. LOVE your work. :)
His ugly, twisted jewelry is a reflection of his soul. Just as your beautiful, incredible jewelry is a reflection of yours. I can only imagine what his looks like... Yet don't wanna go there. Watching this video gave me flash backs :/ but, it's all good. Watching your vids shows me that healing is possible. Plus I've come a long way since no contact & healing & learning.Thank you
wow... I'm an artist, I'm also a tattoo artist apprentice and you just made me realize how not once did he ever praise my work. Instead he'd immediately show me his horrible jail tattoos that he made and say how great he was and that the only reason he didn't become a tattoo artist is because he refused to work for free as an apprentice. He said I was crazy for doing that. His new victim created her own jewelry and he too began making jewelry...really ugly, tacky jewelry which he made me feel guilty for not wearing. I just threw it away a few days ago. Oh the freedom in that small simple act!
I totally relate, but my narc doesn't try to do any of my art (writing, beading, jewelry ), but he destroys the peace, organization, happiness, and lastly the space, which now like you said, all my components, designs, notes, tools, ), are in total disarray -- yes a year if I didn't work and care for well "home" and try not to have a seizure from sleep deprivation, I have basically had to let my muse go into a coma, praying that I can eventually have an exit I can financially afford. ....
I'm an Artist too. I sculpture glass, and make art for visually disabled. for years I was discouraged to make my art whilst spending more time with her. I've been single for just over a week after five and a half years of mental abuse. now I hope to get my work out there :) thanks for the video, massively relate x
Hi.I can really attest to this because I was applying for jobs when he waltzed back into my life. And then he actively discouraged me from furthering my studies saying 'why do u have to study more?,I want you all to myself, the girls here dont do that,they just get on with it" That was a major red flag.I didnt listen to him,Thank GOD. I knew in my gut I had to further myself.I am very focused about it. BUT that was warning shot that he didnt have my best interest at heart at all. Listen to yourself.If you have a talent be with the person who wants you to grow and develop.p
I married a man 7 years older when I was 19, throughout high school i had been an honor roll student, he took down and replaced any of my awards , including destroying my diploma with his awards from wal mart ( he was an assistant manager)
This sounds familiar, don't know if it's the same thing. I had a small collection of doll's house furniture. Just a little hobby, every now and then I'd buy a new piece. This included a little old style sewing machine £2.75. My ex assembled those prepackage model ships but then immersed himself in my thing and started making himself a dolls house. Not to house my display, for himself. He wanted a working miniature machine with a needle that goes up and down in his, £80. We were going to shows for supplies, spent hours at hardware stores and the library renewing the book he used. He turned my shed into a workshop, bought circular saw and other power tools. He'd visit and spend the whole time down the shed. The pieces didn't fit together properly and waste a lot of money.
They have to squeeze into everything. I hope you are narc free Victor, leaving and never going back and moving on to have a fabulous narc free life is fabulous! Thanks for watching my video and sharing a bit of your story. Cheers!
Yes, I am, if that is what that was. Guests would admire it and the kids played for ages. He just set about making something 10 times better. Didn't know about this. Thanks for the goodwish
My Narc gets overly jealous of any male within 10ft of me at any given time. That wasn't even what alarmed me the most....it was the insane jealousy of our own son and any physical contact I had with him (while playing with or caring for him) and affection he showed me and any affection I showed him. My Narc would always have some degrading or absolutely rediculous jealous comment and it disgusted me. Our son was 5 and still slept in bed with me. My husband started to insinuate that one night my son will get curious and touch me inappropriately because he is a boy and that's what boys do. Does is get any more insane than that?
artists & Narcs. I was in art. my exhubby was super jealous, so I didn't do my art & helped him get his masters in film and video and get a plum of an art teaching job. Now, it is 25 years later- I am getting back at it. first now! I love your jewelry! ! oh and he took my art out of the attic and put it in his class room- which flooded- he threw all my work out - all my paintings! said it couldn't be salvaged. so I really feel you--- I know how it feels
i'm an artist (just discarded by my narc & attacked by harem hooligans last nite for the last time) & I absolutely LOVE your jewelry! wow - great stuff!!
One of my ex narcs (I'm a magnet lol) would often attempt to create pieces with me. I'm just an enthusiast. I dabble but have always been quite artistically inclined; and with highly unique styles. You're totally right kim. It's almost EMBARRASSING for us to watch them fumble shit around to make ugly art. I hope you stuck with your art. 😊
You know, Kim, I have been through it, too. I am a professional french professor. I am not French. But I learnt french from age 10 and ever since I have worked on it and taken exams and become a qualified professor. I have 25 years of experience. Now, my narc husband at the age of 36 leaves for Congo a french speaking African country and learns french to get around. He speaks in the infinitive of the verbs and has no grammar sense whatsoever. But he tried his best to sabotage my classes which I still take. He would try to teach them pronunciation which he thought he was good at. And make me praise him in front of my students. When I confronted him about it, he dared me to continue the classes. I did continue, of course. These kids are just 10 to 13years old. He would say I sleeping with them or wanted to show off my boobs, by the way they are not big and ogling worthy...lol. I said if I am a problem their parents wouldn't have sent them here. All because I put my foot down and said he is looking like a fool in front of them. He was always drunk during my hours. I don't know, Kim, somehow, unknowingly, I succeeded in many ways and I remember him saying that I was the only one he couldn't defeat. Many of the tactics you mention on how to handle them I used to do it because it was part of my nature. I used to think his behaviour was due to alcoholism. It was only after he was treated for alcoholism in 2014, that I realised something was really amiss. I chanced upon narcissism out the blue one day. Read about it and it was like flashback.. I listen to you often and others too on TH-cam. Now, I am more enlightened and at peace. Now, he rarely comes home, twice a year, Easter and Christmas. To ruin it , I know, like always. But I pretend he doesn't exist. So he is mostly here for four days maximum and leaves. If he is negative, I let him deal with himself....lol. . Good riddance to bad rubbish.
Yes, Bitterly! I owned My own home! & moved into his house, he rents 2 states away! Yes....stupid WoW Kim!!!!! I'm a silversmith & had My Jewelry in Art Gallery's in My hometown When I moved in with Him, we moved My shop in his house, But My shop was stacked in his hallway & My bench in the KITCHEN!! The whole time!!!!! I Never! Got to touch it!!!! The few friend's I did keep in touch with kept Asking " RU making Jewelry?" Told them I couldn't every time I do anything for myself I had to stop and wait on him!! If he seen me doing anything for myself like reading a paragraph or paying attention to my child, he needed something When I gave jewelry as presents he'd say "that's what WE do make jewelry " ??? HUH??? Ok???? RU sure we Didn't have the same Narc???? I'm Sooo Happy & Free now, My creativity comes, & goes still. But, I've got My Groove Back Now I'm going on vaca soon too!! Old Mexico , Cancun again 🦋
Its crazy how jealous they r when there cheating themselves! rules dont apply to the narcissist. Mine was always going through my phone always looking for anything any dirt he could find. i found it very weird. i think they do that because for one they love drama and conflict and its a deversion tactict. its about taking the focus off him. they do to make sure whats hidden stays hidden. the fact that they r a big ass fake!
My narc has taken everything I love about me! Everything I'd accomplished or tried to accomplish has been ruined before I even got started! I became disabled from a near death car accident and with that soon after getting partially healed he started to bash me since I couldn't drive my car was totaled In terrible pain and severe concussion etc I was worthless and taking from him! After this I couldn't work as a nurse no more and begun to redo Antique's to which I stopped soon after he started his bitching about the furniture taking up space,people coming to purchase,how are you doing this but can't go back to nursing! Wow! The Dr said I'm no way can you return to this work nor would the state allow me with a concussion etc I was a liability! Since I've tried to start numerous businesses and He's made sure I didn't each time! I'm currently working on getting away from him. He's ate up the fact I don't get a lot of money on disability and bashed me for it at the same time! Craziness! I feel NUT'S!!!!
My ex narc used to try and take over all the cakes i baked. He ruined them and made a right mess. He also made himself out to be a tattoo artist until i saw his so called "port folio" It was all just print offs from google of other peoples work that he had coloured in and he was terrible at drawing. My teenage daughter was always very talented at art and he targeted her and made yer lufe Hell. She started losing loads of weight and self harming and he bullied and abused me and my children non stop. He lied about his children all of whom he has no contact with and soon after he left with no explanation he was shacked up with another young vulnerable lady whom he now has another child with. Iv heard he bullies her older daughter also. He is jealous of the attention the children get from their mother especially when the child is from their previous relationship. He works like a cuckoo flying and fleeing from nest to nest creating and breaking families everywhere he goes. He is about 5ft tall and has beady little eyes and skinny and underweight but he would act like a big tough guy. He looks like a weasel and whenever i show anyone a picture of him that is the first thing they say is "oh my he looks like a weasel!" I dont know what i ever saw in him. He is a hateful envious piece of shit and im so glad me and my children are free of him. He really was a nasty little malcontent. Couldnt hold down a job. One of lifes real losers!
thats pretty funny Kim. My ex narc said I could continue my home based business in his house once I sold mine as a Massage therapist. Well, I was allowed to give massages to a few of my female friends and a couple female cousins of mine. haha what a joke...needless to say my business didn't do too well.
he pretended to be jealous. I believe it was projection. I really don't care anymore at all. I have a very successful career and he is a leech on society. Kim I would love to see your jewelry line.
horrible horrible people indeed. my favorite description is horrible X 10. the massive destruction. I'm still paying bills due to this child's playground that I provided for him while we were together. the jewelry description is exactly what it's like all the time with them. Just one big whirlwind mess. And, the longer you are enmeshed with this bull, the more mess to clean up after. I can't believe the great lengths this person would go to confuse things. He owes me money and maybe he thinks I will ask for it back someday. No, he can keep it. He's a crazy man. I want nothing to do with that person. He's a horrible person. There are so many horrible little robots chirping and trying to steal all the attention. Blaming and squawking. blah blah brag goes the narcissist. trying to fill their empty souls stealing the life out of others.
It doesn't matter what it is, big or small, they will fuck it up. So destructive! A persons only hope is to get away from the Narc and stay away from the narc forever with no exception.
If ever wondered what happened, I've done anti abuse contemporary folk. Just acoustic guitar and sharp words at the Narcissist population on You Tube. I figure at least I'm doing it with art as the platform. If they boo me , it's not negative reactions to the songs. Its resistance to change. I'd rather use Wisdom of the old. Song and dance man?
one thing I'd like to throw out there ... I see a lot of mention of 'my' narc. Perhaps what would be helpful in the first steps of making moves away from an abusive relationship is dropping the 'ownership' of the relationship with a disordered individual. So rather than 'my' narc they are simply 'the' narc. Change can start with how one uses language, right?
I can so relate to this . No matter what I did some how some way( captain chaos) would weasel his way in. I have several business's I ran out of my home and next thing you know he's got his foot in . Last year I decided to dabble in to painting and rehabbing old furniture . For an entire year I begged and pleaded to have him clean out our garage to store finished and unfinished pieces ."nope " I swear to god he would store garbage and useless crap ( yes he hoards also ) I felt as if it was intentional that he would refuse to clear me a space . Needless to say I finally just gave up on something I loved to do . I realized if he's not involved some how some way , my interests don't mean shit . Funny how he wants me to participate in his business ventures , life style, which I refused to do so . Honestly we have zero in common . I'm so done with this ass hole . What's your opinion on these personality disordered people and hoarding ? From what I can gather it's another tactic to piss us normal people off . Another form of power and control . By the way your jewelry are gorgeous.and your very talented 👍👍👍
They havecro be center of attention. Ns drove 8hrs to my home...my friend called on the phone..he knocked my phone out of my hand in a childish game of keep away ensued...he started shoving me away from my phone...when all of the sudden I felt provoked so I stopped..like this is stupid..if he wants my phone..let him have it...it worked he handed me my phone...a few minutes later he left said he would call and let me know what he was doing. He never called and I went no contact...3 months now...
My phone. I'm trying to get deep. You are stunning in this especially. I'm just glad I don't have any kids I don't know about when it got wild. I Love all my kids if ones I didn't know about. Since I went to almost no contact with my mom and dad. I'm here to do the best I can to help. Family tried to pull me into weird stuff. Adults in the sandbox. That's when one MUST RISE UP and not only call them on their shit. I can't duke it out with home because the sonofabitch SAVED my life in 1977
Great story. The little meatball with legs, horns & a tail couldn't stand your creativity. He also lacked aesthetics and symmetry; therefore, he couldn't authentically create only ape others and mirror them in pale imitation. He was a synthetic imitation of a man with a Chef-Boyardee-style, canned meatball soul. Good riddance to bad rubbish...
Sorry that your narc trashed your jewelry supplies. just on a side note tho. Did anyone notice the chain lock moving in the background and a lot of Dark Shadows??? This was spooky!
they don't care about our careers.
A real man provides with his woman, a team .
+ MariLynn. Nope ! The narc regards you as a dangerous adversary !
Kim don't ever start filtering yourself..you are fabulous. telling it like it is. just what we victims need to hear.
Thank you so much Barb
Barb D ..so true
+faithful one. I wish I'd seen this 2 months ago. my narcissist almost made me fail my college. I'm going to do a channel! I'm on the u.k
I agree Barb 100% thank you Kim!!
Barb D i love how she tells it like it is
You hit the nail on the head. They are jealous and manipulative people. They don't have empathy and they have no consciousness and no soul. They are jealous of their target's independent endeavors.
One thing I noticed is jealousy. I am a minister and he pretended to be a Christian until hours maybe two after we married and were consummating if they're really could have been, and he revealed his real self. He listened to everything I taught, learned all I valued, and said he wanted to be a part and assist. But would often show contempt during services, and would act out inappropriately. He also shows jealous rage. So much, I'm so glad he is gone to another Vic. The former narc stole my ideas, tried to take over my ministry, and weeks after we married, I walked into the room as he was attempting to buy a Mercedes Benz in the name of my ministry that was 10 years old when we met. He would also threaten me that if I did not cooperate with whatever he wanted me to do, he would "make sure I never preached again". Well, who asked your permission anyway. You ain't God. I exercised him out of my life. God is good.
Soul rape by them is the worst. Those narcopaths sure do resemble demons. Maybe a little too much??? Makes me wonder, you know. He tried to steal you away from God. Steal, kill and destroy. Thats the M.O. of the narc also
Sylvia Yarbrough hope you're out now hun. Wow these people are pathetic
@ Sylvia, could you help me exercise mine too?
Sylvia Yarbrough Sylvia, My name is Heather and knew this Narccist from church as a friend. He stalked me, made me doubt everything and everyone, even God and at one point I even abondened my faith. He went to our old pastor, friends, cintacts and tryed everything you can imagine to destroy me, my children, all of my relationships. Religious Narccism is so Demonic. Recently he tryed to rewrite my life. God Bless you, I returned to Church, he stalked me there! Slandered me to everyone!
It's so tragic that this mental illness that destroys so many lives and families really can not be helped by the psychological professional. The victims can be treated, but the narc not so much. So family units are destroyed and the victims hopefully can be treated. But it's videos like this that truly help in the first stages when the survivors finally free themselves. Thank you so much for sharing!
That jewelry is absolutely gorgeous! You're so talented! Amazing!
Thank you Connie
Oh Kim, my heart breaks for you. You truly are a beautiful, dear, sweet, woman & your jewelry is an extension of your lovely soul. The sparkle he tried to squelch in you, shines in your jewelry. He is a soul murderer. I am married to one. I was madly in love & he took every advantage of it. It's too late for me. I'm 66 yr. I now have severe Fibromyalgia & have just been through Breast cancer.
He sabotaged my job, friends, & family & my health. It's so hard to keep going.
I look for inspiration in your videos & it really helps! So happy that you make them! xoxo
Jeanne Strauss it's never too late sweetheart. I pray that you can get out and stay out. please don't give up hope
Jeanne Strauss it's never too late sweetheart. I pray that you can get out and stay out. please don't give up hope
Hold your horses sister...it's not over yet, do not give up. You are beautiful and the world is full of surprises. Please do not give up. Bless your heart, hang out here with us...you never know what the future might hold for you.
rainybroons maybe you should listen to them!
Jeanne Strauss
Hi, keep your faith in God and let him guide you God bless you stay safe stay healthy stay strong 💜
no respect for our careers and passions.
so true, mind said my job was not really a job, lol.. 4 year degree😄
KIM....Jealousy is an unpleasant EMOTION. These parasites have NO emotions. Everything to them is control and destruction.
They do feel some emotions... mainly anger, envy and jealousy.
so glad you made it out of there. the escape is difficult but necessary for survival.
Nadine Healing im celebrating 9 months narc free! best decision i ever made.
Toddler rages and contempt for everything you are. You are a lovely lady.
Thank you Christine
I painted a mural on one of the ascent walls of our home. It was good. One night in a drunken episode he decided he was going to “ add his touch” to it. He grabbed a can of spray paint a proceeded to make “improvements “. That’s about the shittiest thing I think he ever did to me.
They are horrible people. My soon to be ex even tried to steal my personality. Yes he was acting like me, saying things I say, doing things I do. I couldn't believe it. Sooooo annoying.
The jewelry photos were beautiful !!
Its so beautiful when you smile Kim . .and of course the help you are giving us is immeasurable and based in reality . .
This reminds me of the film "Big Eyes", based on a true story. The narc husband took all the credit for the wife's paintings.
They really do steal peoples thunder. They are soul and energy vampires
Your jewelry is spectacular. I am also creative. My narc hogged all the space inside and outside the house we BOTH owned. I couldn't get an inch of real estate for my paintings that was heated and well ventilated. Often he would shove ny stuff onto shelves and boxes where I couldn't find it. So frustrating and destructive.
Get the fuck outa there! You got that right! I love when you swear it's so natural and timely:)
Like yours tried to step into your shoes mine did too. When I started growing I my faith suddenly he shared my faith and was telling me and others how I should live while he continued all his deplorable habits. I'm musically talented and when I played an instrument for church instead of complimenting me in any way he said he was thinking about doing some music too, even tho he doesn't read music and has NEVER displayed any interest in it other than sabotaging me.
I also am vocal about things like vaccines, food safety, chemtrails, etc and of course now he is on the same thing and he's "totally detaching from the system" (which really just means working off the books and not paying child support for the 3 kids I'm raising alone). When I went to nursing school he would never let me study and started huge fights every time i left for school, esp if I had something big that day. He did everything in his power to destroy everything i worked so hard for and when I still achieved he simply insulted me. I gave birth to our 2nd child less than 24 hours before walking at my graduation for nursing school, having been pregnant, sick, and in drug treatment (thanks to him getting me hooked on pills) - I STILL graduated with honors and international honor society and he tells me I don't handle stress well. I hit the roof, crying on the way from the hospital to my own graduation! And the stuff I mentioned here was NOTHING compared to most of it. Ten years of utter hell and now my life is consumed with raising 3 kids alone- I love my kids and wouldn't trade them or who I've become for the world- but it's frustrating to be someone who succeeds at everything i do, who was on the verge of actualizing that success , to have my career and life totally wrecked by the likes of a nasty narc. I'm very blessed to have recovered emotionally and financially as much as I have, but life as a working single mom of 3 children under ten keeps us strapped and unable to realize the goals and values I have and wish to instill in my children..(despite graduating with honors I was unable to get my professional license due to other BS the narc brought into my life so I don't earn what I should for my training, experience and education) . I'd love to move to South America, get off grid , homeschool, etc.. but everything is so out of reach when you are in a position like mine. Glad i can be thankful for the positive changes that came as a result of my abuse b/c otherwise it'd be infuriating and still can be at times.
Wow...you have come a long way, it takes time and it is a hard climb out of the black pit. But you are getting there, and your children are safe. Sadly your story is so much like everyone else's...they really make personal growth very hard, most of us give up...but you kept going. You should be very proud of your progress....bless your heart.
Most of the time I have to keep secrets from him, even signed for a training course without letting him know.
Wow Kim I needed to see this today! I make candles and body care products and when I went back to get the last of my stuff yesterday the narc and his new supply had made candles with my supplies and had my body care making supplies strewn about the bathroom! Disgusting jealous creatures! So glad to be free. I'm glad I'm not alone. Thanks for sharing
Kim as you speak I can see what happened with my husband. I was painting an oil painting for someone as a gift. I got up in the morning and narc had painted two sections of my painting. It was understandably awful and had to be cleaned off before I could continue to paint this. They are truly ego filled head cases. And they want to dominate anything you do. Their jealousy knows no boundaries. Narc friend was jealous too and that was icky as I was not even remotely attracted to this narc friend. This narc was trying to take advantage of ' helping me out' and that would have gotten worse. Its that kind of cringeworthy thing where they are living in a false reality in their heads. Thats why we run run run as fast as you can. Never to return. This is why I don't get into relationships now and have stayed single since. I will never share my home with anyone again. Freedom is the best feeling. ^j^
Beautiful Jewelry Kim! You are so talented and sooooo smart ❤️😊👍🏻👌🏻
Kim your jewelry is fabulous!
You are super gifted, Kim. My narc wanted to load up all my furniture upcycling pieces and supplies and hall them to the dump. !!! I didn't let him. Then he somehow fenagled me into cloning and growing indoor weed in what used to be my fueniture room. Thats over with now, but I am struggling to get my creativity back. I can do nothing with him around. Yes, im getting out...i have set the date.
ugh, your videos resonate with me. For me it was cooking, I was going to cooking school and suddenly he started being a "chef" with rocks in the salad because he didn't wash the lettuce, or burnt food. It was horrible. Id love to see a video of you sorting out your jewelry stuff. I'm so sorry he did that shit to you.
Your work is phenomenal!!:)💜
toddler rage. you got it, kim. destroying, everything literally upside down my 30 yr possessions stolen or broken. lamps broken and stomped. everything unuseable. it will take me forever to sort thru and throw away pcs of my past cherished memories. my favorite clothes gone.
why? I'm still in a stupor.
Yep that's what happened to me I was stunned
My Narc would give everyone a 15 guided tour of our home whether they wanted to or notmainly to rub it in everybody's face how wonderful he's doing meanwhile, he has stolen everybody else's ideas and he would take credit for other people's hard work and claim to be his.
wow...Trevor too. Intellectual property thieves they are all the same
WOW love your jewelry designs. xx
Beautiful jewelry Kim. Just lovely. Exquisite. I can so relate to your experience.
I am a pianist, singer, and songwriter that was garnering local acclaim. I met my narc when our band opened for Johnny Paycheck, the "Take This Job And Shove It," country singer. He was a roadie for the show. After we met, he pursued me for almost two years. Believe me, narcissists have patience to get you where they want you. Alone and Isolated.
I remember singing some of my songs for him and he didn't like any of them, except the ones I wrote after meeting him.
I never performed on stage again after we lived together. I know I have told this story before, but it is so true that a narcissist is extremely jealous of any talent you might possess.
Thanks for sharing Kim. Your videos always ring true and bring me joy. Much love to you.
Same here. I left a wonderful job, because my husband begged me to help with his new business. He had no clue how to even read a financial statement. People were stealing from him and I was the one to have to fire them. User, user, user!
happy you are almost finishing decorating. Rarely do I post because I am just recovery mode. Yet, I appreciate the work you are doing. Thank you
Geez Kim!!! I must have missed this vid. Your jewellery is FABULOUS!!!!! Stunning!!!! I can relate with the 'copy cat' thing the narc was doing because my ex used to do the same thing! (Much lesser scale however). Id say "Ive got the urge to cook such n such".
Before I knew it (while I was away), he would cook the same thing!! He just HAD to beat me to it!! Talk about a put off. I couldnt bother doing it after that. He always did a crap job at cooking but he THOUGHT he was great.
Thanks Kim. LOVE your work. :)
His ugly, twisted jewelry is a reflection of his soul. Just as your beautiful, incredible jewelry is a reflection of yours. I can only imagine what his looks like... Yet don't wanna go there. Watching this video gave me flash backs :/ but, it's all good. Watching your vids shows me that healing is possible. Plus I've come a long way since no contact & healing & learning.Thank you
I think your pieces are beautiful kim, and the narc lol with his jewellery making, so funny really, they are so sad.keep up the good work
Thank you...yes, they are so sad
And add to that the total lack of respect they inflict on your ideas and passions. Its truly appalling! :)
They are so desperate for attention
I am so sorry that happened....jealousy rather envy is one of the narc's traits....your jewelry is beautiful
wow... I'm an artist, I'm also a tattoo artist apprentice and you just made me realize how not once did he ever praise my work. Instead he'd immediately show me his horrible jail tattoos that he made and say how great he was and that the only reason he didn't become a tattoo artist is because he refused to work for free as an apprentice. He said I was crazy for doing that. His new victim created her own jewelry and he too began making jewelry...really ugly, tacky jewelry which he made me feel guilty for not wearing. I just threw it away a few days ago. Oh the freedom in that small simple act!
You make Very BEAUTIFUL THINGS. I so hear the destruction they make on anything we do..Lived thru Alot of similar behaviors so many of us go thru....
I totally relate, but my narc doesn't try to do any of my art (writing, beading, jewelry ), but he destroys the peace, organization, happiness, and lastly the space, which now like you said, all my components, designs, notes, tools, ), are in total disarray -- yes a year if I didn't work and care for well "home" and try not to have a seizure from sleep deprivation, I have basically had to let my muse go into a coma, praying that I can eventually have an exit I can financially afford. ....
I'm an Artist too. I sculpture glass, and make art for visually disabled. for years I was discouraged to make my art whilst spending more time with her. I've been single for just over a week after five and a half years of mental abuse. now I hope to get my work out there :) thanks for the video, massively relate x
I'm just getting back to my interests and it has been great I wish you well
Hi.I can really attest to this because I was applying for jobs when he waltzed back into my life. And then he actively discouraged me from furthering my studies saying 'why do u have to study more?,I want you all to myself, the girls here dont do that,they just get on with it" That was a major red flag.I didnt listen to him,Thank GOD. I knew in my gut I had to further myself.I am very focused about it. BUT that was warning shot that he didnt have my best interest at heart at all. Listen to yourself.If you have a talent be with the person who wants you to grow and develop.p
Kim the narcs r masters at making new art=nothing out of everything they touch. Giggly giggles...good day.
Beautiful pieces of jewelry!
They truly are ridiculous
I married a man 7 years older when I was 19, throughout high school i had been an honor roll student, he took down and replaced any of my awards , including destroying my diploma with his awards from wal mart ( he was an assistant manager)
This sounds familiar, don't know if it's the same thing.
I had a small collection of doll's house furniture. Just a little hobby, every now and then I'd buy a new piece. This included a little old style sewing machine £2.75. My ex assembled those prepackage model ships but then immersed himself in my thing and started making himself a dolls house. Not to house my display, for himself. He wanted a working miniature machine with a needle that goes up and down in his, £80. We were going to shows for supplies, spent hours at hardware stores and the library renewing the book he used. He turned my shed into a workshop, bought circular saw and other power tools.
He'd visit and spend the whole time down the shed. The pieces didn't fit together properly and waste a lot of money.
They have to squeeze into everything. I hope you are narc free Victor, leaving and never going back and moving on to have a fabulous narc free life is fabulous! Thanks for watching my video and sharing a bit of your story. Cheers!
Yes, I am, if that is what that was. Guests would admire it and the kids played for ages. He just set about making something 10 times better. Didn't know about this.
Thanks for the goodwish
LOL ! When I 1st met the Narc/Socio ... he informed me that he ... "was not jealous of anybody."
My Narc gets overly jealous of any male within 10ft of me at any given time. That wasn't even what alarmed me the most....it was the insane jealousy of our own son and any physical contact I had with him (while playing with or caring for him) and affection he showed me and any affection I showed him. My Narc would always have some degrading or absolutely rediculous jealous comment and it disgusted me. Our son was 5 and still slept in bed with me. My husband started to insinuate that one night my son will get curious and touch me inappropriately because he is a boy and that's what boys do. Does is get any more insane than that?
artists & Narcs. I was in art. my exhubby was super jealous, so I didn't do my art & helped him get his masters in film and video and get a plum of an art teaching job. Now, it is 25 years later- I am getting back at it. first now! I love your jewelry! ! oh and he took my art out of the attic and put it in his class room- which flooded- he threw all my work out - all my paintings! said it couldn't be salvaged. so I really feel you--- I know how it feels
i'm an artist (just discarded by my narc & attacked by harem hooligans last nite for the last time) & I absolutely LOVE your jewelry! wow - great stuff!!
Hi Kim. your so talented and creative. I love your jewelry. beautiful like you. xx
Gorgeous jewelry. You have so much talent.
your jewelry was AmaZing 👍, Thankhs for Sharing lol ayy his work was horrible. Almost like a Cinderella scenario 💎 we are the jewels
My narc did this...he used to downplay any grades i used to get for any assignments in uni and comoare them to when he had done his.
You are so beautiful,strong ,brilliant and very talented!!! Thank you so much for your videos. Much love♡
beautiful!
One of my ex narcs (I'm a magnet lol) would often attempt to create pieces with me. I'm just an enthusiast. I dabble but have always been quite artistically inclined; and with highly unique styles.
You're totally right kim. It's almost EMBARRASSING for us to watch them fumble shit around to make ugly art.
I hope you stuck with your art. 😊
That's what they are all about. The narcs.Can't thank enough.Hugs
You know, Kim, I have been through it, too. I am a professional french professor. I am not French. But I learnt french from age 10 and ever since I have worked on it and taken exams and become a qualified professor. I have 25 years of experience. Now, my narc husband at the age of 36 leaves for Congo a french speaking African country and learns french to get around. He speaks in the infinitive of the verbs and has no grammar sense whatsoever. But he tried his best to sabotage my classes which I still take. He would try to teach them pronunciation which he thought he was good at. And make me praise him in front of my students. When I confronted him about it, he dared me to continue the classes. I did continue, of course. These kids are just 10 to 13years old. He would say I sleeping with them or wanted to show off my boobs, by the way they are not big and ogling worthy...lol. I said if I am a problem their parents wouldn't have sent them here. All because I put my foot down and said he is looking like a fool in front of them. He was always drunk during my hours. I don't know, Kim, somehow, unknowingly, I succeeded in many ways and I remember him saying that I was the only one he couldn't defeat. Many of the tactics you mention on how to handle them I used to do it because it was part of my nature. I used to think his behaviour was due to alcoholism. It was only after he was treated for alcoholism in 2014, that I realised something was really amiss. I chanced upon narcissism out the blue one day. Read about it and it was like flashback.. I listen to you often and others too on TH-cam. Now, I am more enlightened and at peace. Now, he rarely comes home, twice a year, Easter and Christmas. To ruin it , I know, like always. But I pretend he doesn't exist. So he is mostly here for four days maximum and leaves. If he is negative, I let him deal with himself....lol. . Good riddance to bad rubbish.
Thank you Kim
I too designed jewelry since I majored in it in college. The narc thought he was cute taking credit for my work, after he saw it was selling well.
LOL...no kidding They will take anything from you...they are so disgusting
beautiful jewlery.thank you for sharing this story
OMG...I so identify with this
Beautiful pieces
Yes, Bitterly!
I owned My own home! & moved into his house, he rents 2 states away! Yes....stupid WoW Kim!!!!!
I'm a silversmith & had My Jewelry in Art Gallery's in My hometown
When I moved in with Him, we moved My shop in his house, But My shop was stacked in his hallway & My bench in the KITCHEN!! The whole time!!!!!
I Never! Got to touch it!!!! The few friend's I did keep in touch with kept Asking " RU making Jewelry?"
Told them I couldn't every time I do anything for myself I had to stop and wait on him!! If he seen me doing anything for myself like reading a paragraph or paying attention to my child, he needed something
When I gave jewelry as presents he'd say "that's what WE do make jewelry " ??? HUH??? Ok????
RU sure we Didn't have the same Narc????
I'm Sooo Happy & Free now, My creativity comes, & goes still.
But, I've got My Groove Back Now
I'm going on vaca soon too!!
Old Mexico , Cancun again 🦋
Its crazy how jealous they r when there cheating themselves! rules dont apply to the narcissist. Mine was always going through my phone always looking for anything any dirt he could find. i found it very weird. i think they do that because for one they love drama and conflict and its a deversion tactict. its about taking the focus off him. they do to make sure whats hidden stays hidden. the fact that they r a big ass fake!
They r pathalogically jealous and envious of everyone.
My narc has taken everything I love about me! Everything I'd accomplished or tried to accomplish has been ruined before I even got started! I became disabled from a near death car accident and with that soon after getting partially healed he started to bash me since I couldn't drive my car was totaled In terrible pain and severe concussion etc I was worthless and taking from him! After this I couldn't work as a nurse no more and begun to redo Antique's to which I stopped soon after he started his bitching about the furniture taking up space,people coming to purchase,how are you doing this but can't go back to nursing! Wow! The Dr said I'm no way can you return to this work nor would the state allow me with a concussion etc I was a liability! Since I've tried to start numerous businesses and He's made sure I didn't each time! I'm currently working on getting away from him. He's ate up the fact I don't get a lot of money on disability and bashed me for it at the same time! Craziness! I feel NUT'S!!!!
This was hilarious. Thank you.
Lay-hue-zay-her
I knew a temper tantrum was coming
Gorgeous pieces by the way😌😊
My ex narc used to try and take over all the cakes i baked. He ruined them and made a right mess. He also made himself out to be a tattoo artist until i saw his so called "port folio" It was all just print offs from google of other peoples work that he had coloured in and he was terrible at drawing. My teenage daughter was always very talented at art and he targeted her and made yer lufe Hell. She started losing loads of weight and self harming and he bullied and abused me and my children non stop. He lied about his children all of whom he has no contact with and soon after he left with no explanation he was shacked up with another young vulnerable lady whom he now has another child with. Iv heard he bullies her older daughter also. He is jealous of the attention the children get from their mother especially when the child is from their previous relationship. He works like a cuckoo flying and fleeing from nest to nest creating and breaking families everywhere he goes. He is about 5ft tall and has beady little eyes and skinny and underweight but he would act like a big tough guy. He looks like a weasel and whenever i show anyone a picture of him that is the first thing they say is "oh my he looks like a weasel!" I dont know what i ever saw in him. He is a hateful envious piece of shit and im so glad me and my children are free of him. He really was a nasty little malcontent. Couldnt hold down a job. One of lifes real losers!
thats pretty funny Kim. My ex narc said I could continue my home based business in his house once I sold mine as a Massage therapist. Well, I was allowed to give massages to a few of my female friends and a couple female cousins of mine. haha what a joke...needless to say my business didn't do too well.
Your story sounds exactly like the movie Big Eyes, which was based on a true story.
oh wow kim i love your jewellery!! beautiful pieces thx for sharing!
Thank you
he pretended to be jealous.
I believe it was projection.
I really don't care anymore at all.
I have a very successful career and he is a leech on society.
Kim I would love to see your jewelry line.
You are adorable MaryLynn. I'm so glad you got out safely.
Wow beautiful work!
horrible horrible people indeed. my favorite description is horrible X 10. the massive destruction. I'm still paying bills due to this child's playground that I provided for him while we were together. the jewelry description is exactly what it's like all the time with them. Just one big whirlwind mess. And, the longer you are enmeshed with this bull, the more mess to clean up after. I can't believe the great lengths this person would go to confuse things. He owes me money and maybe he thinks I will ask for it back someday. No, he can keep it. He's a crazy man. I want nothing to do with that person. He's a horrible person. There are so many horrible little robots chirping and trying to steal all the attention. Blaming and squawking. blah blah brag goes the narcissist. trying to fill their empty souls stealing the life out of others.
It doesn't matter what it is, big or small, they will fuck it up. So destructive! A persons only hope is to get away from the Narc and stay away from the narc forever with no exception.
That is exactly the words " trying to fill their empty souls stealing the life out of others."
Beautiful 😍
Kim. You are fabulous ❤
The X is and would be destructively and insanely jealous of anyone who crosses his path.
I would love to buy one necless frome youst. Love what you are doing 😗🤗
I am so sorry about all your jewelry Kim. if we lived closer I would come over and help you organize it 🌸 thank you for your videos
If ever wondered what happened, I've done anti abuse contemporary folk. Just acoustic guitar and sharp words at the Narcissist population on You Tube. I figure at least I'm doing it with art as the platform. If they boo me , it's not negative reactions to the songs. Its resistance to change. I'd rather use Wisdom of the old. Song and dance man?
I love your Red lipstick. you are a phenomenal woman Kim. I appreciate you. Lots of love to you and your son's and your Mummy. xx
one thing I'd like to throw out there ... I see a lot of mention of 'my' narc. Perhaps what would be helpful in the first steps of making moves away from an abusive relationship is dropping the 'ownership' of the relationship with a disordered individual. So rather than 'my' narc they are simply 'the' narc. Change can start with how one uses language, right?
I can so relate to this . No matter what I did some how some way( captain chaos) would weasel his way in. I have several business's I ran out of my home and next thing you know he's got his foot in . Last year I decided to dabble in to painting and rehabbing old furniture . For an entire year I begged and pleaded to have him clean out our garage to store finished and unfinished pieces ."nope " I swear to god he would store garbage and useless crap ( yes he hoards also ) I felt as if it was intentional that he would refuse to clear me a space . Needless to say I finally just gave up on something I loved to do . I realized if he's not involved some how some way , my interests don't mean shit . Funny how he wants me to participate in his business ventures , life style, which I refused to do so . Honestly we have zero in common . I'm so done with this ass hole .
What's your opinion on these personality disordered people and hoarding ? From what I can gather it's another tactic to piss us normal people off . Another form of power and control .
By the way your jewelry are gorgeous.and your very talented 👍👍👍
They really need to take all of your hobbies and interest...they are all the same. And I too am completely done, that freak can rot in hell.
How come they can be that full of their egoistic selves... Allow me to laugh..
They havecro be center of attention. Ns drove 8hrs to my home...my friend called on the phone..he knocked my phone out of my hand in a childish game of keep away ensued...he started shoving me away from my phone...when all of the sudden I felt provoked so I stopped..like this is stupid..if he wants my phone..let him have it...it worked he handed me my phone...a few minutes later he left said he would call and let me know what he was doing. He never called and I went no contact...3 months now...
Your jewelry is beautiful!!!
They hate talent and progress.
Yes they really do, that's what sparked the narc attack from that female psychopath. Bitter envy, and they are all the same
Loving your videos thanks for sharing and connecting ... x
Love your jewelry!!!
My phone. I'm trying to get deep. You are stunning in this especially. I'm just glad I don't have any kids I don't know about when it got wild. I Love all my kids if ones I didn't know about. Since I went to almost no contact with my mom and dad. I'm here to do the best I can to help. Family tried to pull me into weird stuff. Adults in the sandbox. That's when one MUST RISE UP and not only call them on their shit. I can't duke it out with home because the sonofabitch SAVED my life in 1977
Nnniiiiiccccce...your art is beeeauuutiiiful...makes my crap olain Jane...hope you've gotten back in the swing....im still stuck in MOOD swing...
Your jewelry is beautiful...
Great story.
The little meatball with legs, horns & a tail couldn't stand your creativity.
He also lacked aesthetics and symmetry; therefore, he couldn't authentically create only ape others and mirror them in pale imitation.
He was a synthetic imitation of a man with a Chef-Boyardee-style, canned meatball soul.
Good riddance to bad rubbish...
Omg lol he wanted to be you
Sorry that your narc trashed your jewelry supplies. just on a side note tho. Did anyone notice the chain lock moving in the background and a lot of Dark Shadows??? This was spooky!