@zabuzalescelerat7254 @vinito19 yeah you're both right I have been healing. I understand the struggles of the female condition in face of the male condition.. buuutt they could be a little friendlier....
@@vinito19I agree that time heals, but if something like this happens what you will never forget, i think of it like a scar. Time makes it less painful, but the scar will stay. (Idk how true it is what i say tho, i dont have direct experience and i am still quite young.)
@@Efe09695 I said forgive and DON'T forget. Forgive, so you can move on, and don't forget, so you don't repeat the same mistake. Stay strong, life is but what you make of it.
@@dimv2140 so stabing your partner in the back and using thier weakness against them isn't manipulative. But respecting someone's boundaries and not attacking them when they reveal themselves to you is?
@@dimv2140 your delusional if you think that way. I'm sorry life has been this way for you and hope you get help and find true happiness where you don't seek out evil in others kind actions.
An ex got me a job. I don't work there anymore but she filled out the application on indeed and I got the job. Every time we fought she'd bring it up and threaten to call my boss and tell him I was stealing and tell me I was a loser and couldn't even find my own job. That moment plays over in my head from time to time when I'm feeling crappy about something or having a bad day and I tell myself I'm strong and capable and I will never let anyone feel like they have/had control over my life ever again.
That wasn't even a weakness of yours, that was just manipulation and abuse on your ex's part. I'm sorry you didn't deserve that friend, glad things are better now.
Sorry to be ‘crappy’ or blunt but don’t let anybody contribute too much to reaching certain goals or getting somewhere.. because then this stuff can happen.. unless ofcourse there are certain circumstances or sudden extreme setbacks where you temporarily have no choice but you could have already looked for your own job found by yourself in stead of staying in the one she ‘gave’ you. People are shit sometimes and when they appear to be shit make sure there’s not too much they can oppress you with… I am sorry you had to go through this manipulation and abuse. It will help you reflect and make different choices though. It is truly a lesson. 💚 Life is about balance and if she gave you a job she thought she was powerful over you and that took your power away. You were treated poorly but still, it hurt you unnecessarily to a certain extent because you just deserve better. Create better by learning from these experiences. I bet you have. I hope you are in a very good place right now after that.
Amen to all the replies, I too know that abuse and controlling attempts by my ex-wife - I am blessed with 2 of the absolute most beautiful children with her, and some HARD ass lessons of what not to let happen to me because of her evil, cruel ways -- but my babies made all of the suffering worth it, wouldn't change a thing just because of those amazing little girls that call me their father now 💯🙏♥️ God bless you all, and God bless OUR great Country!!
My wife said the same thing, bae I know what your weaknesses are. I said you do and she had a whole list. I said why you never told me that you knew that. She said because you tell me In so many was all the time. And then she said, your my partner, my homie, lover, and friend. Why would I hurt you!!!! I hurried up and throw a ring on that beautiful finger. 7 years together 2 years married and many more to come.
My fiancé asked me to tell her my story about my ex wife and my daughter, my dreams of raising children under my moral values, my highs and my lows. She behaved amazed at how much I suffered and how amazing I was as a father by all the things I had to endure to travel to see my daughter and visit her. She was good to me, so good to me, man, really good to me, man. Seven months and a half later, I put a ring on her finger and gave her marriage, commitment, a relationship, and we loved each other deeply. She was my wife and I was her man. A year and a half later, she got tired of me being poor and having to support me financially, and of my constant complaints about her bad behavior, about not having any time for us without any interruptions, and about prioritizing her dogs over her marriage. She threw on my face all my past mistakes about my ex wife, daughter, family and other people that I grew close to, made fun of my past, mocked my manhood, and pierced my heart with her rejection and twisting of reality. She was the one who told me "I don't wanna hurt you. I don't wanna make you feel bad. You're the love of my life, my best friend, my husband". I do wish you the best in your marriage. Love does exist, and there are good women out there who really value the heart of a man. Jah bless!
I'm glad you put a ring on your partner, brother! If she was like that as your girlfriend, I bet she is even better as your wife. Congratulations, brother! Guard and protect this treasure very well! I hope you're both doing well!
Nobody can do that without our permission. People willingly give away their power because they don't know any better. But folks better learn fast to become strong, stay strong, build one's self up and direct one's own life and not outsource that to a partner. EVER. I learned that the hard way in my 20s and needed to take a long time to heal from a relationship that almost destroyed me. I wish I learned this from an early age.
Yes this is very true in my own opinion much like a pimp does to a prostitute sad to say I was raised that you don't put somebody down or treat them like crap to make your own self confidence, feel, public persona & or Big Guy rep or whatever on the streets I believe each and every man and woman in a relationship deserves equal amount of respect like if you don't want to be with a person tell them that in the nicest way possible but don't play with somebody's head just because you can while shredding their heart soul and feelings to a pile of Brokenness for somebody else to deal with it's not right....,....🤷♂️
The best advice for EVERY WOMAN! I'm a woman, n I've hit a man at his weakest point. I also learned, to NEVER do it again bc it's true. They never forget it, let alone, forgive it.
My ex of 4 years said the most dark things to me that made me feel so broken as a man that I could never love again. To this day at 28 all I ever wanted was a family and kids and she mentally took that from me. I could never open my heart again after the evil things she said and she knows I have nobody or nothing. I was a door mat to someone I gave my all too and I stayed in that toxic relationship because I always felt like nobody else will love me.
You are giving your ex to much power over your life and happiness. You need to seek counseling. To give up on love because of one evil person is too much. You can't continue to blame someone for your happiness because they won. You have to love yourself 28 is still young. Don't give up. ❤
He bro, many have been there. 28 is way to young, way to young to allow someone so cruel to determine your future. Believe me. One day you will thank her and she will envy you. Two songs that helped me. One was Boys 2 Men “I’m doing just fine” .The other was a song by The Natural Four “Try Love Again” th-cam.com/video/al8VilHqAeU/w-d-xo.htmlsi=EFMcZnH8Ftrrw3QY both painful but inspiring. All the best
Heyy bro we as men we understand what you are trying to say here but look. You are giving that person too much power over your life man. You need to let them go and make peace, the world has just to much good to offer you as well, pick your lessons and move on with your life man. Otherwise I pray you get out of that place brother. 💪
Pride for men is increased by testosterone... women don't feel the same but sometimes empathy of a woman arrive... Women dont want a broken man cz they dont know how to treat a broken men... A woman who know can raise a god...
@@iliaselbourji1865 A Woman who knows can raise a GOD. Mary, measuring. Me as u ring in G. Kneel to trace picture children. G is an incomplete whole with one square angle drawn in Earth. O is a Whole measure. D is a split whole with two square angles drawn in Earth. Sacrificed, Holy measured. Me as u red. G's us, drawn towards a whole measure with one angle draw in. Those who don't see are split from argument, being two angles drawn to measure.
I had a woman I really loved who would say evil things when she got mad. I told her no matter how mad I got I would never say hurtful things to a person I claim I love. I stick to the argument but never personally attack. You can't unsay things.
There in lies the difference between men and women brother. Men will stick to the argument and if we're wrong, we're wrong. Women will take something that has absolutely nothing to do with the argument and that is personal and that occured 3 years ago and will use it as an ad hominem attack on you when they know they have lost the argument just to get you angry and keep you off track logically.
@@vivianbraxton4941 nah. Many of y’all come from this complex of being physically weaker and insecure to where it makes you overcompensate in arguments. Idk if it’s power lust sometimes because you don’t truly know what it means to wield physically threatening power over others, which means you don’t know how to regulate power. I know a lot of men will relate
Coz I’ll add this, in most cases a man consciously withholds low blows in an argument in preventing the argument escalating unnecessarily. Y’all just be saying anything to feel right even if it means stooping.
@@dave3987Why can't men get this fact straight that women need men who respects them and emotionally support them.......money is not always the factor
Yea she is right. Goes for everyone . I know when I’m upset at someone I stick to the situation and talk about it , I never take their weakness and use it against them because I want to hurt them. Once this is done there is no turning back. Sadly I had this done to me and it really hurt. Because it came from someone I loved. Think before you speak people please.
This is obvious, but she's talking about how she's kept her marriage intact for all of these decades. If you're married, you should understand how easy it is for most to go there in an argument.
Absolutely goes both ways... A mutual respect is necessary for any relationship, especially marriage. You don't go there and bring up something the person is insecure or struggling with.
This is sooo true. My husband got stopped for a DUI. He had a drink but wasn't drunk. The cops let him call me to pick up his car. And I said I'll be right there. He refused a breathalyzer. The cops explained everything to me and my husband said something that wasn't true that I can't remember. I just remember not contradicting him. They took him to the station and he took the breathalyzer there, and he tested NOT drunk. They let him go but he was still freaked out. He came home and apologized and also thanked me for not getting mad or yelling or scolding him (I never yell at him anyway, but I guess he felt it would be justified in this case). He just appreciated how I was calm and supported him and was there for him. Before the cops put him in the car, I asked the cops if I could hug him, which they let me do.
@Phill Munyaradzi Yes. He was freaked out. He didn't need someone yelling at him (although I never yell at him anyway). But I also didn't want to come across as mad either. I just stayed calm and assured him I love him and it would be OK. And I would see him soon. I believe times of intense stress show who you really are and a test of a relationship. It was a scary incident, but we came out stronger for it.
Out of thousands of available psychologists, couples "expert" videos and "charismatic" reunion folks, something honest and down to earth, good old simple plain respect.
My ex wife and got into an argument that started over me not wanting to go to church with her . She got so mad she yelled that our son was not my baby . She later calmed down an said she just wanted to hurt me and that she didn't mean it .I never forgot that .
Especially the kids. This is why society has produced soft and abused adults because the parents were weak and abused themselves. The cycle of inflicting pain and despair on others while being in pain and despair, is real and will take God to bring deliverance. Heal the men, the women and the children Father in Jesus name.
Bruh. Shorties be acting like enemies when they get upset with us. I actually had to tell a girl in a previous relationship, “when you’re mad, you act and say things like you’re my enemy.” I said this after we made up from a 3/4 day argument session. I know it sunk in with her cus after I made her aware, she looked shocked and got really quiet and then said “you’re not my enemy.” Simple yall, either y’all fit or you don’t. But don’t fight it. And focus on yourself. The right one will come along and find you. Shorties will turn into a whole opp when they get mad… know when it’s time to go. this goes for women and men.
Wife said some foul shit while we were in the car. It cut deeper than anything. Damn near lost focus. Had to pull over and just punch the steering wheel I was so pissed off. It doesn't go away. It just sits in a dark corner. And I know those words exist. If I say something I keep it on topic no matter what. But some women will pull out anything if it helps them take the spotlight off them. It's upsetting
I opened up about my weaknesses to my husband and I trusted him. But later I found out he had shared even small things between us to his mother. And she started attacking me with those . I found out she was a narcissistic lady and he was fully in control of her. They literally blamed me for small reasons. And I felt sick and stressed. I was going in depression. But luckily my parents saved me from there. It was 2 years ago. But those incidents never leaves from my mind. Because I believed he was loyal and faithful in our marriage but turned out like this. If someone came to my life again , I don't think I can fully trust and show my weaknesses to that person.
A man sharing his weakness is the ultimate form of trust that even his bros sometimes don't know about him. And if someone attacks and breaks that kind of trust there is no going back.
It's a powerful reminder that empathy and respect should guide our actions. Choosing kindness over cruelty leaves a lasting positive impact that's impossible to forget. Thank you for sharing this wisdom.
Thanks for the words of wisdom, never hit a woman where her weakness is too. If a man breaks easily let alone a woman. I wish we treat one another with love and care.
I really truly believe this comes down to respect, and it's still a huge value of the southeast where I come from. You respect your parents and authority figures. You respect your spouse. You even respect your children.
I'm a 51 year old man that just lost it while this replayed. I never realized how deep we bury our feelings and hearts 💔 and realizing there's much more to come out but can't in fear of being a disappointment.
That's so true, you can forgive but you can never forget. It's a low blow to hit anyone so hard nevermind someone who's "supposed" to love and care about you. Respect is the most important thing in a relationship it can endure anything but if there's no respect forget it.🏴
respect is the most important thing to a man. it's more important than love or sex. A man will never truly feel like a man without respect. Respect is needed by your woman as well but to her the number one thing she needs is that you are the provider. it's not the only thing needed but that is number one. ijs
@@andreneal282009 not sure what country you live in, but, as a woman, I speak for the majority of us who don't usually need a man to be a "provider". We need & would rather he be PRESENT and a PROTECTOR - both and especially emotionally.
@@number1fan262 than you're lucky you haven't been broken yet in the hospital while having his kids. USA: number one out of all developed nations for neonatal, infant and maternal injury and death (and lack of patient rights is the main contributor of this). Once you're that broken and traumatized, you have no choice but to need a "provider." And there i was just thinking I needed someone present.
Plenty of men have dumped "the one who never left his side". Plenty of women have "stood by their man"- and got this particular kick in the teeth from him. Let's not paint men as these "wronged saints" shall we? After all we have 2000 YEARS of men shitting on women...they are just getting the treatment they doled out to women back in THEIR teeth.
my grandma from my dad and mom side was the same lol thats why 1 got chop in her head with a matchette and the other run out the house by her husband with a shotgun lmao yaa these women sage af not me though lmao
@@corwinroberts4756 "You can get him to do what you need him to do"... Meaning there are other ways to rise his awareness of the weakness and work on it, WITHOUT HITTING HIM where he's weak.
This is absolutely true. And I wouldn't attack my lady where she's weakest either in an argument, never. If you love someone you shouldn't want to intentionally inflict upon them pain. And I could never be with someone who would attack me where I'm lost vulnerable just cause we're in an argument. I'd end the relationship right there because the trust and respect is gone.
yeah but most men dont or wont do that to women unless pushed and pushed to breaking point... alot of women feel like one little slight toward them is freedom to go all out on how he this or that, the weak shit... cuz they know we cant resort to violence against them even tho they know its right there and at any time could just come out. patrice oneal had the best story explaining this... a woman and him got into some road rage shit and he was like she knows she can get away with all this reckless behavior as female but what would happen if i just rage mode on her ass pulled her out the car i bet that tone would change immediatly but the fact she knows that i cant lets her walk around like she a man.
Yes, I believe this. I have never hit my Husband below the belt! Why would I and he is the provider and MY King in our house. This would make him feel as if he is not enough for me and that he couldn't provide for his family. We all have weaknesses but I can have a conversation when we not angry or having a disagreement.❤
Nothing hurts more than someone you admire, love and respect exploiting a weakness to get back at you. Edit: my comment’s take away is to be mindful of your loved ones feeling, yet it started a war between Misandrists and Misogynist. Stop pointing the finger at each other and take a long hard look at yourselves….
@@r.m.90 people have feelings. Whether its male or female you don’t say things to taunt people’s weaknesses. This woman proactively lifts her man up. And men cherish that in a world that breaks us down
We will forget, do to a whole bunch of stuff, and forget the stuff we say, but hit that soft spot we have carried in secret from childhood and we will never forget it. Forgive, maybe, forget never.
Thank you for this message. The Lord has answered my question thru this wise lady. Thank you🙏🏾 💯 Us women are their rib we are supposed to support them no matter what because our men already has to deal with this world the stress that comes in this world.
Could recall when I said loud to this girl “I am not your enemy” cos it literally felt like it. Folks need to learn there are certain attitudes you don’t throw off with your partner, no matter how mad you are, it hurts cos they consider you to be a safe space.
Truer words have never been said. I've experienced it on countless occasions and because of it, i no longer share certain information with certain people (family specifically for this particular instance), regardless of myself always being an introverted private person from the jump.
This is why men don’t hit below the belt or claw at eyes even when we get into fights with our enemies. Every time I’ve seen a woman fight, they go for weaknesses. You cannot do things like that if you want the relationship to succeed. Man or woman it doesn’t matter, respect needs to be reciprocated.
@@sed8181yep if you dont want someone to do the same to you then dont do it to them. Im a big believer in karma, not in the sense that you get it back but that your actions will always come back to you. If your feeding out negativity, eventually thats all the university will give you back.
@@JadeTokiermen don’t pull hair and claw faces like women do in fights, don’t make things up just because you’re offended, why don’t you make like a man and grow a pair😂😂😂
It's tougher for women to learn the basics of human decency but they can learn. Usually takes their life having some amount of struggle for them to get it.
As a single father of 4 and 2 failed relationships..u never let a women disrespect u..and as a man u never stoop to a scorned woman's level..this woman is a QUEEN
absolutely bro. my ex and i had children and always would bash me in front of them and abuse me in so many ways around them and told me ill never be a good father. we broke up. she got evicted with the kids caught a felony charge for assaulting a police officer now shes on the run to a different state and now the kids are traveling the country with her on the run meeting random men on the way. dhs got involved and now im more than likely getting my kids. the kids are everything to her but she doesnt deserve them. this quote couldnt be more true!
Ofc u let them As they let u It’s called marriage And u learn to get thru things Not run away And u DO forgive, not hold grudges That’s called Grown Up
@@brikskwadmafia6526 I'm sooo sorry u and ur babies gotta go through that brother..got a knot in my throat just readin..i prayed for the best for ur children which is #1..God bless u
If you do not tell them about their weaknesses so that they can get an outside perspective, and they do not know they exist, then they can never turn their greatest weaknesses into their greatest strengths.
@@jaquicx9500 do you know how to tell your man his weakness and how he can make this weakness into a strength? You don't. And even if you think otherwise the probability that you are right is too tiny. So you don't.
This woman had a super smart mother. And she’s even smarter for understanding it and not using it against a man because that shit will never be forgotten. It hurts beyond pain
What if that's all he does to you? He constantly uses your weaknesses to control you, manipulate you, gaslight you, day in & day out. So malicious is his intent that you were not even aware of it until 10yrs after marriage, you finally were able to take a trip away from him. Which opened your eyes & changed your perspective for the first time in 12yrs. I'm going to say balance is the only thing to even the field out now. Rare, but true.
😂😂😂😂 my mom has definitely demonstrated the complete opposite … but I see how it has affected my dad. I love him so much I can’t imagine making him feel any less of a man because he’s an amazing one. I’ll definitely be doing differently ❤ live n learn
You guys are wise women because i actually learned from my dad not to make his mistakes then i realize i had to learn from mummy to.. so I can adjust because its mutual none of them was perfect. Damb... serious world.. cause they to had to learn!
@ not only, that woman was not trying to fill a void. She is a controlling person and found and married the one man who would allow her to control the relationship..
well it’s for different reasons for females you can’t do that because one she will lose respect for you, second you want her to rely on you, and u want her to admire and respect you and you don’t want her to feel bad it’s mens job to make sure women feels safe and peace and for women it’s their job to make mens lives easier and nurture
I’ve often said it in these words: “do not ever bruise a man’s ego; not even a young boy’s ego-it sets the stage for his current & future personal & professional success”
THIS that “ yAlL duDEs hOlD oNtO gETtIn hEaRTbRokEN iN 4/5th gRaDE & tuRN sAVagE, nEVa trUsT a bItCh AgaIN iN yO liFE. 4L “🗣😭🗣🤣 Deadass though. It’s the 1st examples & memorabilia of what/here OUR version of that warm, pure, unconditional, vulnerable, starter-kit typa love, got us🤞🏾
@@stevenboyd5625 She was a Judge on one of those courtroom tv shows and that's how she was on her show and it showed, maybe that's why she ain't on no more, her evenhanded realness and respect showed. Also she was humorous and always beautiful.
Y'all thank you for answering those who inquired about Judge Toler..TH-cam gave 0 cares about giving me a notification that someone replied to my comment 😑
Im in tears by what she said. Being compared all my life, I was a sheltered and confident boy growing up, it led to some undesireable attitude and immature thinking. This led to me being ridiculed and outcasted for my whole 5 years in boarding school, I only started trying to self-reflect and change in the last 2 years. I am to this day shy and can only act on things I truly care or whats left of it. But I am thankful that I'm still trying each day because for all those criticism there are still a few that believes I can Improve and I will never forsaken them.
You had a wise mother. Not all of us are blessed with that kind of mother. I pray by the grace of God I can pass this type of wisdom on to my daughter's
As a married man, i like my woman to keep it a stack w me. If im lacking somewhere I want my woman to tell me. Im not saying to throw shots or to dig into a mans weakness, but if you’re my wife help me over come my weakness dont laugh at it
“Keep it a stack with me” Does she ever inform you that you type like an uneducated negro from the hood ? And if she does, does it hurt your feelings ?
Sheeesh I feel that. My ex called me unreliable and weak because I wasn't paying 100% of her bills while trying to fix her broke ass house using all my money to pay everything I could. I had ZERO money for me or myself. I put all my enjoyment on hold to save money to fix her shit. I stood up to her one day when she said I was unreliable and she couldn't believe I didn't pay for everything. She told me I had to quit working out because I was trying to impress other women, I had to quit running, I quit fishing, I dedicated all my time and money to fixing her life. And not mine. She decided to kick me out and I looked at her and said "okay I'll see ya later " now I make 64k a year, I workout, I got a better car, better house, enrolled back in school for another bachelor's, and I still walk into that grocery store she works at and don't say shit to her. But I make sure she notices me. Whose unreliable now. All she had to do was go 50/50 when I begged for help. But nooooo she had other plans. I shoulda known shit was gone when the kisses changed.
@@troysimmons2742 hey friend I really appreciate it. I keep my head up so I can pay attention to the greatness I will create :) no looking behind, no looking down. I will be the success and greatness I achieve.
I recently made a comment to an ex-friend of mine. Told him it’s hard for me to be friends with people who are unfaithful (he always cheats on his gf) at the time I didn’t realize the impact of what I said was but it must have sent him into a rage. Shortly after he devised a plan to start a situation where he knew I would react to him. After that he drug my name threw the mud at my workplace. Some people are evil, but be careful to point those things out to them. They would rather be evil than make a positive change for themselves or even worse. They’ll change after they destroyed you for reminding them that they have things to work on.
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Her mother was the last of a great generation..
You can say that again brother!
Basically a psychopath? Men were psychos back then.
@Coldfront : Clown.
1000%
Yaaa
Never hit ANYONE on their weakness. Not a woman, not a man, not a child….
Exactly! This shit got nothing to do with gender!!! And do onto others as you would have them do onto you👍👍👍
Ikr men do this to is ALL the time but women cent fight back cuz then they won't love us? Sorry but where was the love in the first place??????
Yes!
no
it's different with women
Thanks Lord for your salvation.
Thanks Lord for your peace
Thanks Lord single no kids
"They NEVER. FORGET IT."
Probably the most real quote ever
she's right. It happened to me and it's a fact. I think about it everyday
@@friendlytank It's time to heal, bro.
It's ok to forgive, as far as you don't forget.
@zabuzalescelerat7254 @vinito19 yeah you're both right I have been healing. I understand the struggles of the female condition in face of the male condition.. buuutt they could be a little friendlier....
@@vinito19I agree that time heals, but if something like this happens what you will never forget, i think of it like a scar. Time makes it less painful, but the scar will stay. (Idk how true it is what i say tho, i dont have direct experience and i am still quite young.)
@@Efe09695 I said forgive and DON'T forget.
Forgive, so you can move on, and don't forget, so you don't repeat the same mistake.
Stay strong, life is but what you make of it.
Whenever i was hit at my weakest it always made me realize how little that person actually cares about me.
true words
My friend hit me when I was weak by involving my sick mother into our argument 😢
I agree!
@@xenaburg2362 they would no longer be a friend, and they'd also have a beatdown on the way
@@xenaburg2362that's fucked. good luck with your mom.
If a man trusts you with his weakness and you later use that against him, that kind of betrayal can never be overcome. He will never forget that.
Not only that. He'll never open up to you again. He'll shut u out no matter how much he loves you. I lived it.
This. 💯
True of woman also
My ex did that.. i have found a person i can be vulnerable there are great women out there keep the hope up
Uhhh yeah. That's exactly what she said.
This is called respecting your partner.
Nah it’s good advise and it works 100% of the time I’ve used it on my make friends my boyfriend and family but no it’s not respect it’s manipulative.
@@dimv2140 so stabing your partner in the back and using thier weakness against them isn't manipulative. But respecting someone's boundaries and not attacking them when they reveal themselves to you is?
@@EllieMoonHaven both are manipulative in my book
@@dimv2140 your delusional if you think that way. I'm sorry life has been this way for you and hope you get help and find true happiness where you don't seek out evil in others kind actions.
Exactly, mutual respect 🙏.
An ex got me a job. I don't work there anymore but she filled out the application on indeed and I got the job. Every time we fought she'd bring it up and threaten to call my boss and tell him I was stealing and tell me I was a loser and couldn't even find my own job. That moment plays over in my head from time to time when I'm feeling crappy about something or having a bad day and I tell myself I'm strong and capable and I will never let anyone feel like they have/had control over my life ever again.
That wasn't even a weakness of yours, that was just manipulation and abuse on your ex's part. I'm sorry you didn't deserve that friend, glad things are better now.
Sorry to be ‘crappy’ or blunt but don’t let anybody contribute too much to reaching certain goals or getting somewhere.. because then this stuff can happen.. unless ofcourse there are certain circumstances or sudden extreme setbacks where you temporarily have no choice but you could have already looked for your own job found by yourself in stead of staying in the one she ‘gave’ you. People are shit sometimes and when they appear to be shit make sure there’s not too much they can oppress you with… I am sorry you had to go through this manipulation and abuse. It will help you reflect and make different choices though. It is truly a lesson. 💚 Life is about balance and if she gave you a job she thought she was powerful over you and that took your power away. You were treated poorly but still, it hurt you unnecessarily to a certain extent because you just deserve better. Create better by learning from these experiences. I bet you have. I hope you are in a very good place right now after that.
Same, mine got me a job thru family connections & swore I wouldn't be anywhere in life without her lol
I’m so sorry that happens to you I pray for your strength
Amen to all the replies, I too know that abuse and controlling attempts by my ex-wife - I am blessed with 2 of the absolute most beautiful children with her, and some HARD ass lessons of what not to let happen to me because of her evil, cruel ways -- but my babies made all of the suffering worth it, wouldn't change a thing just because of those amazing little girls that call me their father now 💯🙏♥️
God bless you all, and God bless OUR great Country!!
My wife said the same thing, bae I know what your weaknesses are. I said you do and she had a whole list. I said why you never told me that you knew that. She said because you tell me In so many was all the time. And then she said, your my partner, my homie, lover, and friend. Why would I hurt you!!!! I hurried up and throw a ring on that beautiful finger. 7 years together 2 years married and many more to come.
My fiancé asked me to tell her my story about my ex wife and my daughter, my dreams of raising children under my moral values, my highs and my lows. She behaved amazed at how much I suffered and how amazing I was as a father by all the things I had to endure to travel to see my daughter and visit her. She was good to me, so good to me, man, really good to me, man. Seven months and a half later, I put a ring on her finger and gave her marriage, commitment, a relationship, and we loved each other deeply. She was my wife and I was her man. A year and a half later, she got tired of me being poor and having to support me financially, and of my constant complaints about her bad behavior, about not having any time for us without any interruptions, and about prioritizing her dogs over her marriage. She threw on my face all my past mistakes about my ex wife, daughter, family and other people that I grew close to, made fun of my past, mocked my manhood, and pierced my heart with her rejection and twisting of reality. She was the one who told me "I don't wanna hurt you. I don't wanna make you feel bad. You're the love of my life, my best friend, my husband".
I do wish you the best in your marriage. Love does exist, and there are good women out there who really value the heart of a man. Jah bless!
Bro reading that gave me so much happines. Tell your lady she a real one
@@ruben12180fa real
I'm glad you put a ring on your partner, brother! If she was like that as your girlfriend, I bet she is even better as your wife. Congratulations, brother! Guard and protect this treasure very well! I hope you're both doing well!
CAP lol.
If a person hits you where you are weak, they are trying to break you, break your confidence and take your power.
Nobody can do that without our permission. People willingly give away their power because they don't know any better. But folks better learn fast to become strong, stay strong, build one's self up and direct one's own life and not outsource that to a partner. EVER.
I learned that the hard way in my 20s and needed to take a long time to heal from a relationship that almost destroyed me. I wish I learned this from an early age.
Usually, dominating people have such a mentality to mentally hit you hard...
@@leahv.2537Jesús Christ is our strength and He is the only one to lean upon
Yes this is very true in my own opinion much like a pimp does to a prostitute sad to say I was raised that you don't put somebody down or treat them like crap to make your own self confidence, feel, public persona & or Big Guy rep or whatever on the streets I believe each and every man and woman in a relationship deserves equal amount of respect like if you don't want to be with a person tell them that in the nicest way possible but don't play with somebody's head just because you can while shredding their heart soul and feelings to a pile of Brokenness for somebody else to deal with it's not right....,....🤷♂️
FAX
It's called compassion and respect. No mariage can survive without it
Stop with the compassion bullcrap lol
Yes, agreed. My husband is my best friend. Otherwise, our marriage wouldn't thrive.
what does it mean that "You can get him to do what you need him to do." ? ?
That's a very crucial thing to understand
Women too have an alpha'e ego many times and many many women have it
İt's in their nature
At the core humans are same, man or women
I'm a 45 years old
I'm on my knees trying to tell you and your mother thank you.❤
The best advice for EVERY WOMAN! I'm a woman, n I've hit a man at his weakest point. I also learned, to NEVER do it again bc it's true. They never forget it, let alone, forgive it.
She Doesnt Use Her Love To Make Him Weak,
She Uses Love To Keep Him Strong.
-Stevie Wonder
Never hit anyone where they're weak period
When your partner tells you their weakness they trust you not to use it against them
Husband
@@kreativeforce532 Wife
But I don’t have a partner 😂
And they destroy them with it. Cause people aren't to be trusted. If I ever date again, as far as they know, I don't have any weaknesses.
You can tell him but not hit him where he is weak , there is a difference
My ex of 4 years said the most dark things to me that made me feel so broken as a man that I could never love again. To this day at 28 all I ever wanted was a family and kids and she mentally took that from me. I could never open my heart again after the evil things she said and she knows I have nobody or nothing. I was a door mat to someone I gave my all too and I stayed in that toxic relationship because I always felt like nobody else will love me.
You are giving your ex to much power over your life and happiness. You need to seek counseling. To give up on love because of one evil person is too much. You can't continue to blame someone for your happiness because they won. You have to love yourself 28 is still young. Don't give up. ❤
He bro, many have been there. 28 is way to young, way to young to allow someone so cruel to determine your future. Believe me. One day you will thank her and she will envy you. Two songs that helped me. One was Boys 2 Men “I’m doing just fine” .The other was a song by The Natural Four “Try Love Again” th-cam.com/video/al8VilHqAeU/w-d-xo.htmlsi=EFMcZnH8Ftrrw3QY both painful but inspiring. All the best
Heyy bro we as men we understand what you are trying to say here but look. You are giving that person too much power over your life man. You need to let them go and make peace, the world has just to much good to offer you as well, pick your lessons and move on with your life man. Otherwise I pray you get out of that place brother. 💪
I will never forget the things my narc ex used to say to me
No woman will ever catch me that vulnerable again thats for sure
It's also very important to not make someone "lose face" in public. Some things need to be dealt with privately.
VERY TRUE
Pride for men is increased by testosterone... women don't feel the same but sometimes empathy of a woman arrive...
Women dont want a broken man cz they dont know how to treat a broken men...
A woman who know can raise a god...
@@iliaselbourji1865
A Woman who knows can raise a GOD.
Mary, measuring.
Me as u ring in G.
Kneel to trace picture children.
G is an incomplete whole with one square angle drawn in Earth.
O is a Whole measure.
D is a split whole with two square angles drawn in Earth.
Sacrificed, Holy measured.
Me as u red.
G's us, drawn towards a whole measure with one angle draw in.
Those who don't see are split from argument, being two angles drawn to measure.
I needed to hear that earlier.
Silence and secrecy only benefit abusers.
I had a woman I really loved who would say evil things when she got mad. I told her no matter how mad I got I would never say hurtful things to a person I claim I love. I stick to the argument but never personally attack. You can't unsay things.
There in lies the difference between men and women brother. Men will stick to the argument and if we're wrong, we're wrong. Women will take something that has absolutely nothing to do with the argument and that is personal and that occured 3 years ago and will use it as an ad hominem attack on you when they know they have lost the argument just to get you angry and keep you off track logically.
All facts
I concure
Same brother
So true you can apologize but you can never take back what you say because you already said it
Her mother was a wise soul
Her mom was a VERY wise woman. I approve this message...she ain't never lied! 💯%
You have a true super power if you understand this woman
Truly
For real. This point right here is going to far if you ask me. He should t cause you to hit him where it hurts.
But if you are able to not hit home where he is weak he will grow to love you with all his heary
@@vivianbraxton4941 nah. Many of y’all come from this complex of being physically weaker and insecure to where it makes you overcompensate in arguments. Idk if it’s power lust sometimes because you don’t truly know what it means to wield physically threatening power over others, which means you don’t know how to regulate power. I know a lot of men will relate
Coz I’ll add this, in most cases a man consciously withholds low blows in an argument in preventing the argument escalating unnecessarily. Y’all just be saying anything to feel right even if it means stooping.
Never hit a man where he’s weak
And never neglect a woman when she needs you
Men have been told we’re not needed anymore because women are strong and independent. Chivalry is dead
@@dave3987 chivalry is only dead when you stop doing it.
@@dave3987 we are strong and independent because we are neglected
@@dave3987Why can't men get this fact straight that women need men who respects them and emotionally support them.......money is not always the factor
Chivalry is died long ago, but good manners are dying too.
Yea she is right. Goes for everyone . I know when I’m upset at someone I stick to the situation and talk about it , I never take their weakness and use it against them because I want to hurt them. Once this is done there is no turning back. Sadly I had this done to me and it really hurt. Because it came from someone I loved. Think before you speak people please.
A person should never hit someone in an open wound physically or figuratively
This is obvious, but she's talking about how she's kept her marriage intact for all of these decades. If you're married, you should understand how easy it is for most to go there in an argument.
That goes both ways.
Absolutely goes both ways... A mutual respect is necessary for any relationship, especially marriage. You don't go there and bring up something the person is insecure or struggling with.
@@sampsonlittle7368 but we talking about man’s right now for this episode, listen to what her mom said for now
A lot of people do that. I was punched and gang raped by all the members pf my family recently and some "friends". Only figuratively of course.
This is sooo true. My husband got stopped for a DUI. He had a drink but wasn't drunk. The cops let him call me to pick up his car. And I said I'll be right there. He refused a breathalyzer. The cops explained everything to me and my husband said something that wasn't true that I can't remember. I just remember not contradicting him. They took him to the station and he took the breathalyzer there, and he tested NOT drunk. They let him go but he was still freaked out. He came home and apologized and also thanked me for not getting mad or yelling or scolding him (I never yell at him anyway, but I guess he felt it would be justified in this case). He just appreciated how I was calm and supported him and was there for him. Before the cops put him in the car, I asked the cops if I could hug him, which they let me do.
You're a great person. Everyone needs someone like that.
@@FirstLast-pl3uv Thank you.
You asked the police to give you permission to hug him when he expected you to yell at him? Wow. Amazing.
@Phill Munyaradzi Yes. He was freaked out. He didn't need someone yelling at him (although I never yell at him anyway). But I also didn't want to come across as mad either. I just stayed calm and assured him I love him and it would be OK. And I would see him soon. I believe times of intense stress show who you really are and a test of a relationship. It was a scary incident, but we came out stronger for it.
Woooow, thats cool
Out of thousands of available psychologists, couples "expert" videos and "charismatic" reunion folks, something honest and down to earth, good old simple plain respect.
My ex wife and got into an argument that started over me not wanting to go to church with her . She got so mad she yelled that our son was not my baby . She later calmed down an said she just wanted to hurt me and that she didn't mean it .I never forgot that .
Nope... it's truly sad so many men and women abuse their partners verbally. Same goes for parents to kids, family, etc...
Yes and then they act like everything is okay it’s disgusting
Verbal abuse is barely touched on, if ever. Your word (choices) matter!
Especially the kids. This is why society has produced soft and abused adults because the parents were weak and abused themselves. The cycle of inflicting pain and despair on others while being in pain and despair, is real and will take God to bring deliverance. Heal the men, the women and the children Father in Jesus name.
@@kingdomofblk I'm verbally self-abusive which is insane.
Facts
Bruh. Shorties be acting like enemies when they get upset with us. I actually had to tell a girl in a previous relationship, “when you’re mad, you act and say things like you’re my enemy.” I said this after we made up from a 3/4 day argument session. I know it sunk in with her cus after I made her aware, she looked shocked and got really quiet and then said “you’re not my enemy.” Simple yall, either y’all fit or you don’t. But don’t fight it. And focus on yourself. The right one will come along and find you.
Shorties will turn into a whole opp when they get mad… know when it’s time to go. this goes for women and men.
Real
💯
❤
Only wit tha sisters bro
Absolutely true homie!
A spouse should not do that because after all’s said and done; once a barrier is crossed, coldness sets in.
She had a good mother 💯
Facts, I still remember EVERYTHING that my ex said to me when I was struggling to make ends meet 😔
That shit don't leave you
I'm just going to sit right here for a while.
@@alexanderrichie7968facts
Wife said some foul shit while we were in the car. It cut deeper than anything. Damn near lost focus. Had to pull over and just punch the steering wheel I was so pissed off. It doesn't go away. It just sits in a dark corner. And I know those words exist. If I say something I keep it on topic no matter what. But some women will pull out anything if it helps them take the spotlight off them. It's upsetting
@@wordtothewise711keep your head up Brodie I be praying for you🙏🏾🙏🏾
The first time I seen a woman be kind to a man😊
I opened up about my weaknesses to my husband and I trusted him. But later I found out he had shared even small things between us to his mother. And she started attacking me with those . I found out she was a narcissistic lady and he was fully in control of her. They literally blamed me for small reasons. And I felt sick and stressed. I was going in depression. But luckily my parents saved me from there. It was 2 years ago. But those incidents never leaves from my mind. Because I believed he was loyal and faithful in our marriage but turned out like this. If someone came to my life again , I don't think I can fully trust and show my weaknesses to that person.
ALLLLL MY LIFE, I never heard a Real WOMAN speak wisdom that touched my heart like she did. Love the soul! Bless You and Yours
And it's rare to speak up for men
Facts
@@marskeelove4166 facts smh
Girl it was the piano and the suspenseful music
@@HoMidontplaythat 😂😂😂😂 Im dead asf and they really added the dark filter 😭
It all starts with love. If they don't love you they will attack your weaknesses and sleep like a baby right after.
So a typical woman
That's scary to even think that. Then you are sleeping with someone who doesn't have your back and eventually will turn on you.
Sounds like my ex
Totally agree
Yep. They will exploit them, then cheat on you.
I will just thank her for passing this immensely great message to next Generations.
I needed to hear this. Someone I used to look up to hurt me in various ways when I called him out in times where I was vulnerable. I never forgot.
Her momma was a wise woman 💯
Facts!!!
"Everybody makes firewood from a fallen tree"
I'm stealing this
This is the quote I needed to boss up thank you 🙏🏽
That quote right there! We’re all guilty if we don’t check ourselves. btw… I’m using this quote. 😉
I know that’s right, The TRUTH will set us free if we let it~
💯
A man sharing his weakness is the ultimate form of trust that even his bros sometimes don't know about him. And if someone attacks and breaks that kind of trust there is no going back.
It's a powerful reminder that empathy and respect should guide our actions. Choosing kindness over cruelty leaves a lasting positive impact that's impossible to forget. Thank you for sharing this wisdom.
Thanks for the words of wisdom, never hit a woman where her weakness is too. If a man breaks easily let alone a woman. I wish we treat one another with love and care.
Men intentionally & unintentionally hit women in their weaknesses all the time. Neither are right.
I really truly believe this comes down to respect, and it's still a huge value of the southeast where I come from. You respect your parents and authority figures. You respect your spouse. You even respect your children.
Amen
@@bippitybopitybooty1127 Agreed, but your children have to respect you first, that is more important.
This is conversation about men not women...
She should do more podcasts. She's one of the realest people i've heard speak in a really, really, really long time.
Who is she?
@@isaiahthomas4444 Judge Lynn Toler. She had her own TV show in early 00's
I'm hoping when she decides on what to do, Judge does these here to connect with people and spread healing everywhere
I think she just recently lost her husband too
@@isaiahthomas4444A REAL WOMAN
He hit me where I was weak, where I was struggling, I was dealing with my own mental demons, n he said to me that I was good for nothing.
I'm a 51 year old man that just lost it while this replayed. I never realized how deep we bury our feelings and hearts 💔 and realizing there's much more to come out but can't in fear of being a disappointment.
Same thing happened to me. That's how we know this truth is legit.
That is absolute truth & allows him to maintain his dignity. When you love someone, you support them, not pull them down.
Shut up
Narcissists have entered the chat
Thanks Lord for your peace
Thanks Lord for your salvation
Thanks Lord single no kids
That's so true, you can forgive but you can never forget. It's a low blow to hit anyone so hard nevermind someone who's "supposed" to love and care about you. Respect is the most important thing in a relationship it can endure anything but if there's no respect forget it.🏴
respect is the most important thing to a man. it's more important than love or sex. A man will never truly feel like a man without respect. Respect is needed by your woman as well but to her the number one thing she needs is that you are the provider. it's not the only thing needed but that is number one. ijs
Facts respect and trust if you ain’t got those you got nothing
@@andreneal282009 not sure what country you live in, but, as a woman, I speak for the majority of us who don't usually need a man to be a "provider".
We need & would rather he be PRESENT and a PROTECTOR - both and especially emotionally.
@@number1fan262 than you're lucky you haven't been broken yet in the hospital while having his kids. USA: number one out of all developed nations for neonatal, infant and maternal injury and death (and lack of patient rights is the main contributor of this). Once you're that broken and traumatized, you have no choice but to need a "provider." And there i was just thinking I needed someone present.
Thank you, whomever reported the pedophile before I did.
Don't hit anyone where they are weak! Better to help and support the human beings who are trying their best!
This goes both ways. I agree. Just be there during the good times & stand even stronger with them during their weakest moment
Two people a man never forgets. The one who crossed him. And the one who never left his side.
FACTS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!STAND ON IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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This goes for everyone not just men
Not true. People take kindness and loyalty for granted all the time.
Plenty of men have dumped "the one who never left his side". Plenty of women have "stood by their man"- and got this particular kick in the teeth from him. Let's not paint men as these "wronged saints" shall we? After all we have 2000 YEARS of men shitting on women...they are just getting the treatment they doled out to women back in THEIR teeth.
Your mother is a sage. I hear the same in You. Well Said!
Love and support out black men ♥️💚🖤🇭🇹🔥👍🏽
my grandma from my dad and mom side was the same lol thats why 1 got chop in her head with a matchette and the other run out the house by her husband with a shotgun lmao yaa these women sage af not me though lmao
As a man, I will say she is 100% right. Will never forget it and we already know when we fucked up. The last thing we need is a reminder
Yes, we are aware. Problem is they aren't aware of their own sh!t.
I don't let anyone in that deep to tell or show them my weakness. Trusting the wrong ones will get you to trust no one!!
"Love does not dishonor others"
Then he will remain weak if you don't say anything.
@@corwinroberts4756well it's ok to talk about him but the woman in the clip is saying not to use his weakness to hurt him.
@@corwinroberts4756 "You can get him to do what you need him to do"... Meaning there are other ways to rise his awareness of the weakness and work on it, WITHOUT HITTING HIM where he's weak.
Amen 🙏 to that..
I like that energy. Keep it. Scream it from the roof tops so everybody knows what you are.
Your mother was truly something magical.
She wasn't magical for not being a piece of 💩
🤩🤩
Don't have weaknesses. The only weakness is to be emotionally affectable by what other people do or say.
This is it right here 💯too many self-made victims in the comments. Also people should take accountability for who they choose to allow in their lives.
The best advise coming from one of the best people.
We need more Queens like this to be influencing this generation
Judge Lynne Toller, she used to do Divorce Court
This is absolutely true. And I wouldn't attack my lady where she's weakest either in an argument, never. If you love someone you shouldn't want to intentionally inflict upon them pain. And I could never be with someone who would attack me where I'm lost vulnerable just cause we're in an argument. I'd end the relationship right there because the trust and respect is gone.
yeah but most men dont or wont do that to women unless pushed and pushed to breaking point... alot of women feel like one little slight toward them is freedom to go all out on how he this or that, the weak shit... cuz they know we cant resort to violence against them even tho they know its right there and at any time could just come out.
patrice oneal had the best story explaining this... a woman and him got into some road rage shit and he was like she knows she can get away with all this reckless behavior as female but what would happen if i just rage mode on her ass pulled her out the car i bet that tone would change immediatly but the fact she knows that i cant lets her walk around like she a man.
Frl bro
Y would parents do that ?
Great advice.
She’s specifically talking about being with a man tho. You just weakened what she said.
Yes, I believe this. I have never hit my Husband below the belt! Why would I and he is the provider and MY King in our house. This would make him feel as if he is not enough for me and that he couldn't provide for his family. We all have weaknesses but I can have a conversation when we not angry or having a disagreement.❤
Its true, shes hits home for me. I may foget some things in life but, it has happened to me more than once and it will live me for the rest of my life
That’s a real woman right there 💯
Nothing hurts more than someone you admire, love and respect exploiting a weakness to get back at you.
Edit: my comment’s take away is to be mindful of your loved ones feeling, yet it started a war between Misandrists and Misogynist.
Stop pointing the finger at each other and take a long hard look at yourselves….
Facts
Males have feelings? That's new.
Exactly
@@r.m.90 people have feelings. Whether its male or female you don’t say things to taunt people’s weaknesses. This woman proactively lifts her man up. And men cherish that in a world that breaks us down
@YeahMan23 Yes, because males are always victims. Life is peaches and cream for women 🙄
We will forget, do to a whole bunch of stuff, and forget the stuff we say, but hit that soft spot we have carried in secret from childhood and we will never forget it. Forgive, maybe, forget never.
Thank you for this message. The Lord has answered my question thru this wise lady. Thank you🙏🏾 💯 Us women are their rib we are supposed to support them no matter what because our men already has to deal with this world the stress that comes in this world.
Your momma was very insightful. I like this thank you.
YOU WRIGHT EBONY ❤❤❤
Your mother taught you well! Hats off to her
Could recall when I said loud to this girl “I am not your enemy” cos it literally felt like it.
Folks need to learn there are certain attitudes you don’t throw off with your partner, no matter how mad you are, it hurts cos they consider you to be a safe space.
Both ways
Goddamn i felt that. I want a partner not a combatant 🥊
This!!!! That’s how I felt with my ex husband! Felt like I was in a land mine when he would come home! I felt like a unnecessary enemy!
@@Rae_Naeee facts th-cam.com/video/_C0DRYN08jY/w-d-xo.html
Major facts
Truer words have never been said.
I've experienced it on countless occasions and because of it, i no longer share certain information with certain people (family specifically for this particular instance), regardless of myself always being an introverted private person from the jump.
A woman never forgets either
A man never forgets either
That's called respect, that's what else man call respect... You never hit anyone where you know their weakness is no matter who they are
This is why men don’t hit below the belt or claw at eyes even when we get into fights with our enemies. Every time I’ve seen a woman fight, they go for weaknesses. You cannot do things like that if you want the relationship to succeed. Man or woman it doesn’t matter, respect needs to be reciprocated.
@@sed8181yep if you dont want someone to do the same to you then dont do it to them. Im a big believer in karma, not in the sense that you get it back but that your actions will always come back to you. If your feeding out negativity, eventually thats all the university will give you back.
@sed8181 you've got to be kidding me. You've met every man? I've mer plenty of men who do just that.
@@JadeTokiermen don’t pull hair and claw faces like women do in fights, don’t make things up just because you’re offended, why don’t you make like a man and grow a pair😂😂😂
It's tougher for women to learn the basics of human decency but they can learn. Usually takes their life having some amount of struggle for them to get it.
Yeah, a girl or a woman should never hit a man in his chestnuts. That spot where we men are weak is a no no.
Feels good to see people with quality traits like that. The little bits of goodness makes the internet a tad less depressing.
As a single father of 4 and 2 failed relationships..u never let a women disrespect u..and as a man u never stoop to a scorned woman's level..this woman is a QUEEN
absolutely bro. my ex and i had children and always would bash me in front of them and abuse me in so many ways around them and told me ill never be a good father. we broke up. she got evicted with the kids caught a felony charge for assaulting a police officer now shes on the run to a different state and now the kids are traveling the country with her on the run meeting random men on the way. dhs got involved and now im more than likely getting my kids. the kids are everything to her but she doesnt deserve them. this quote couldnt be more true!
True, toxic femininity is as real as toxic masculinity
Ofc u let them
As they let u
It’s called marriage
And u learn to get thru things
Not run away
And u DO forgive, not hold grudges
That’s called Grown Up
@@brikskwadmafia6526 I'm sooo sorry u and ur babies gotta go through that brother..got a knot in my throat just readin..i prayed for the best for ur children which is #1..God bless u
@@YeshuaKingMessiah ur right to an extent..i couldn't handle it
My Korean mother told me the exact same thing. Words of wisdom transcends all boundaries.
Yes it does. Wise women have no boundaries. Their words travel from one end of the earth to the other. 🙌🏾
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If you do not tell them about their weaknesses so that they can get an outside perspective, and they do not know they exist, then they can never turn their greatest weaknesses into their greatest strengths.
@@jaquicx9500 men are fully aware of their own weaknessess, there is no need to tell them about them, because sometimes the consequences can be fatal
@@jaquicx9500 do you know how to tell your man his weakness and how he can make this weakness into a strength? You don't. And even if you think otherwise the probability that you are right is too tiny. So you don't.
This woman had a super smart mother. And she’s even smarter for understanding it and not using it against a man because that shit will never be forgotten. It hurts beyond pain
What if that's all he does to you? He constantly uses your weaknesses to control you, manipulate you, gaslight you, day in & day out. So malicious is his intent that you were not even aware of it until 10yrs after marriage, you finally were able to take a trip away from him. Which opened your eyes & changed your perspective for the first time in 12yrs. I'm going to say balance is the only thing to even the field out now. Rare, but true.
What is this comment? Leave wtf
😂😂😂😂 my mom has definitely demonstrated the complete opposite … but I see how it has affected my dad. I love him so much I can’t imagine making him feel any less of a man because he’s an amazing one. I’ll definitely be doing differently ❤ live n learn
Exactly same experience had here. I've learnt what not to do to my partner, from my mum.
You guys are wise women because i actually learned from my dad not to make his mistakes then i realize i had to learn from mummy to.. so I can adjust because its mutual none of them was perfect. Damb... serious world.. cause they to had to learn!
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@Not only a member But the president you've never had sex
@ not only, that woman was not trying to fill a void. She is a controlling person and found and married the one man who would allow her to control the relationship..
No one should he hitting where another is weak. It's totally unnecessary and neither party forgets it.
Absolutely! The objective is to build not destroy
Right. That is like kicking someone when they are down.
well it’s for different reasons for females you can’t do that because one she will lose respect for you, second you want her to rely on you, and u want her to admire and respect you and you don’t want her to feel bad
it’s mens job to make sure women feels safe and peace
and for women it’s their job to make mens lives easier and nurture
That's literally a warfare tactic. It has no place in a relationship lol
@@BrockGarrett-fm9he well that's what YOU think there's only one truth
and men protect, women support and nurture
that's how it goes. simple.
Never hit someone on their weakness, especially when they can hit back at you.
Respect to each other as a couple ❤❤
I’ve often said it in these words: “do not ever bruise a man’s ego; not even a young boy’s ego-it sets the stage for his current & future personal & professional success”
THIS that “ yAlL duDEs hOlD oNtO gETtIn hEaRTbRokEN iN 4/5th gRaDE & tuRN sAVagE, nEVa trUsT a bItCh AgaIN iN yO liFE. 4L “🗣😭🗣🤣
Deadass though. It’s the 1st examples & memorabilia of what/here OUR version of that warm, pure, unconditional, vulnerable, starter-kit typa love, got us🤞🏾
@@aybojackson facts
Yikes
@@aybojackson people do need to learn to walk in their healing to effectively move forward in personal and professional relationships
@@mylegacytransformed
SAME-TEAM
I really liked her and her husband together..may he RIP 🙏🙏
Who's is she ?
Who is she??
@@stevenboyd5625 Judge Lynn Toler
@@stevenboyd5625 She was a Judge on one of those courtroom tv shows and that's how she was on her show and it showed, maybe that's why she ain't on no more, her evenhanded realness and respect showed. Also she was humorous and always beautiful.
Y'all thank you for answering those who inquired about Judge Toler..TH-cam gave 0 cares about giving me a notification that someone replied to my comment 😑
Im in tears by what she said. Being compared all my life, I was a sheltered and confident boy growing up, it led to some undesireable attitude and immature thinking. This led to me being ridiculed and outcasted for my whole 5 years in boarding school, I only started trying to self-reflect and change in the last 2 years. I am to this day shy and can only act on things I truly care or whats left of it. But I am thankful that I'm still trying each day because for all those criticism there are still a few that believes I can Improve and I will never forsaken them.
There is nothing more defeating to a man than being rejected by the woman he loves!
By they reject a lot of women that love them
Best advice. Protect each other’s weaknesses.
Love your spouses. Love them the way they need to be loved. 🙏🏾
Love, encourage, motivate.
@Free Spirit 💯
@higher self...love them the way they deserve
You had a wise mother. Not all of us are blessed with that kind of mother. I pray by the grace of God I can pass this type of wisdom on to my daughter's
True true true. You may win the battle but you will loose the war
As a married man, i like my woman to keep it a stack w me. If im lacking somewhere I want my woman to tell me. Im not saying to throw shots or to dig into a mans weakness, but if you’re my wife help me over come my weakness dont laugh at it
She is talking about in a throwing shots fashion.
True growth right here
“Keep it a stack with me”
Does she ever inform you that you type like an uneducated negro from the hood ? And if she does, does it hurt your feelings ?
Exactly it’s apart her job as a partner as
E with a husband to his wife it’s very needed
bruh don’t be obtuse she talking about low blows and petty shots stop being willfully ignorant.
Never ever hurt your man but love him so much!
Words of wisdom! No lies detected here 😎
Wow, that came from the heart.
Not from the Heart. That came from Wisdom
@@AlexAdam-sp5riit came from both the heart & wisdom! 🙌
Sheeesh I feel that.
My ex called me unreliable and weak because I wasn't paying 100% of her bills while trying to fix her broke ass house using all my money to pay everything I could. I had ZERO money for me or myself. I put all my enjoyment on hold to save money to fix her shit. I stood up to her one day when she said I was unreliable and she couldn't believe I didn't pay for everything.
She told me I had to quit working out because I was trying to impress other women, I had to quit running, I quit fishing, I dedicated all my time and money to fixing her life. And not mine.
She decided to kick me out and I looked at her and said "okay I'll see ya later " now I make 64k a year, I workout, I got a better car, better house, enrolled back in school for another bachelor's, and I still walk into that grocery store she works at and don't say shit to her. But I make sure she notices me. Whose unreliable now.
All she had to do was go 50/50 when I begged for help. But nooooo she had other plans. I shoulda known shit was gone when the kisses changed.
Bro we're situation twins lol but also I'm truly glad it worked out for you in the end.
God got a real one for you bro pray and stay solid God got you!!
@@KonohazFinest what about you? How are you doing. Things looking up for you friend?
@@troysimmons2742 hey friend I really appreciate it. I keep my head up so I can pay attention to the greatness I will create :) no looking behind, no looking down. I will be the success and greatness I achieve.
Yes sir all is well my bro God is good 👍 🙏
True ❤. Very rare for anyone to accept and say this.
I recently made a comment to an ex-friend of mine. Told him it’s hard for me to be friends with people who are unfaithful (he always cheats on his gf) at the time I didn’t realize the impact of what I said was but it must have sent him into a rage. Shortly after he devised a plan to start a situation where he knew I would react to him. After that he drug my name threw the mud at my workplace. Some people are evil, but be careful to point those things out to them. They would rather be evil than make a positive change for themselves or even worse. They’ll change after they destroyed you for reminding them that they have things to work on.
That’s a good woman right there people!
It’s the same for a woman… she may forgive but she NEVER forgets.
Facts
Whataboutism. Never fails.
True but not the same. A man’s pride is different. A woman who foolishly does so risk her life over it.
@@TheMan-qv1bl yeah, that's actually men's weakness. Their pride.
No,this rule is especially for mens ,not women.
And if you complement us it will also live with us forever😢