Schizophrenia: A Love Story

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  • What happens when a diagnosis of schizophrenia puts your marriage to the test? Author of Being Mentally Healthy and accomplished public speaker Elizabeth Ann Anderson shares her experience.
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ความคิดเห็น • 46

  • @MultiUlrica
    @MultiUlrica 7 ปีที่แล้ว +47

    I have had schizophrenia since I was sixteen. But it has never interfered with my life. I am an Economics graduate and looking to get married.

    • @Afura33
      @Afura33 7 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I am glad that it works for you :) . It doesn't even interfer with relationships? What are your symptoms and are you on medications? Sorry for all the questions.

    • @Mf7d89
      @Mf7d89 6 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Good job. Unfortunately, some schizophrenics are severe and cannot have normal life.

    • @zibozhang2646
      @zibozhang2646 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I guess you have either very mild symptoms or you are misdiagnosed. Lucky you.

    • @dreamznaspiratons7064
      @dreamznaspiratons7064 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      How do you manage?

    • @fly_eli4632
      @fly_eli4632 ปีที่แล้ว

      Me too

  • @timothygartin4879
    @timothygartin4879 6 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    This is one of the first videos I looked at when I was trying to understand how to relate to my wife with Schizophrenia. Thank you!

  • @TiffaLockheart
    @TiffaLockheart 6 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    I have schizophrenia since i was 15 but now i m mentally stable so i m gonna soon get married soon

    • @belkacemimarwa879
      @belkacemimarwa879 ปีที่แล้ว

      Pls tell me how did you get over it

    • @jonathanvermillion7263
      @jonathanvermillion7263 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hey I’m dating a woman with this, she doesn’t take meds and has a hard time with the voices, what should I do?

  • @heatherhatton8881
    @heatherhatton8881 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I love this as they show an educated, articulate, intelligent woman rather than a "scary, violent, blubbering patient". As a non schizophrenic person with other serious mental health issues, I see and try to help change the stigma. However, schizophrenia is one of the most misunderstood illnesses that unfortunately still has the biggest stigmatization. This is beautiful and I hope to see more videos from you or like this. Thank you! 🖤

  • @SolutionsForResilience
    @SolutionsForResilience 5 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Beautiful, informative, full of hope. Thank you Wade and Elizabeth for showing us what love, commitment, and being informed can do.

  • @Extremeenergy
    @Extremeenergy 8 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Thank you for your authenticity and for sharing your story with the world Elizabeth.

  • @onespirit-heathergunn2543
    @onespirit-heathergunn2543 8 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Such a brave story. I have such admiration for the strength shown by both of you. My heart to yours......

  • @colinharder3570
    @colinharder3570 ปีที่แล้ว

    So pleased you got a diagnoses early. I am 78. Had postnatal after 4 children & then ongoing. Never fully u derstood those days. But we have come through 59yrs married in may. Our faith has kept us together. Rockhampton QLD.

  • @matthewallen5453
    @matthewallen5453 7 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Thanks for sharing. This gives me such hope for my own marriage.

  • @lilianetv1482
    @lilianetv1482 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    I married one but it is the saddest reality. So hard to let go because you know it's not their fault but you also know it's better to leave. Worse decision for a woman to marry someone with schizophrenia. I am really sorry to say but that's the reality. Don't do it. For a man may be it's Okey but as a woman who gets vulnerable when pregnant and needs help when children comes financially and with household chores. You will do all and be a care giver for the husband. Please don't do it

    • @ritwikbilgi4168
      @ritwikbilgi4168 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      as a man with schizophrenia it's true
      which is why I choose to remain single because 10 years down the line who knows what is gonna happen to me I would never try to burden anyone especially some one who I love.

    • @AMD1
      @AMD1 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@ritwikbilgi4168 I would not say you will be a burden to someone that you love because each person has different thresholds and limits to what they can handle. I do not fault anyone if it does not work out because mental illness is a tough thing to handle. I am in a relationship and my girlfriend is clinically diagnosed schizoaffective. I love her dearly, even when her symptoms are bad and her delusions make her angry at me, I know she does not mean it and I learned techniques from my therapist that help ground her. I am clinically diagnosed with Asperger's, and she stuck around for me and is very patient with what I go through as well. In a past relationship with someone else that was not the case. The hard part is finding someone, but definitely something to not give up on just yet, you might hopefully find someone who is understanding of your challenges and are able to help you through them.

    • @maxaffe3195
      @maxaffe3195 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@ritwikbilgi4168 this is so bad. i believe i will get schizophrenia. this is one of the reasons to kill myself. i always wanted a family and will never be able to.

  • @windenribons8084
    @windenribons8084 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    this is so depressing
    and affection
    I wanna hug

  • @lora97006
    @lora97006 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    My husbands diagnosis didn't come until after we had already been married for 8 years. He had a child from a previous relationship that lived across the country. I had 3 previous that were with us fulltime. The two oldest had already moved out on their own by the time he was diagnosed, amd we are now completely empty nested. This last psychosis episode which there has been 2 of now (10/2018 & 1/2020) he went on a medication that I feel has given him some kind of lobotomy. He is kind of mean, dismissive, rude at times, and lost most of the qualities in which made me fall in love with him. I went to a some doctors appts with him as we discussed getting him off this medication & if need be onto another. His doctor is a psychiatrist, and no talk therapy has been suggested, and I don't feel as though he truly looks out for my husbands best interest, but is more about prescribing meds. Husbabd did taper off under guidance, but now he is also less willing to communicate with me. I feel so helpless & am beginning to feel hopeless. The system sucks too. Also, the 'demic' only compounded our issues. I want to know the right way to go but I'm running out of steam and am kind of afraid of multiple things at this point. I wish it were as easy for us as it was for the couple here...but everyone is different.

    • @kimmoore0427
      @kimmoore0427 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Wow thank you for sharing. Chin up. It has to get better?💞💞

    • @mommy-conmed
      @mommy-conmed 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I want to suggest to you to seek out individual talk therapy for yourself. God bless you for reaching out here.

    • @maxaffe3195
      @maxaffe3195 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      this is the worst thing about it. he surely does not want to be that way. but he still is. it is so heartbreaking. the medication will always have side effects. he needs to be on the one that has the least side effects ...

    • @lora97006
      @lora97006 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@maxaffe3195 things are still slow going. He hasn't been put on another med (as far as I know) but has a slew of residual side effects from the 400 abilify inject.
      He still lacks much, if any, empathy, which was NEVER an issue before. There is no more goal setting/working for any common interest/good. He's now carrying 373lbs on a 5'9" frame (had been skinnier than me when we got together). Depression now is causing some weight gain for me too though...not at his velocity, but crappy nonetheless. We haven't been intimate (includes flirting & everything else) since 2019, his choice, I hate this (he was 44, I was 42. Now 49 & 47). I realize "life isn't fair", but this really sucks. I feel like I'm trapped & he no longer cares. He says that he loves me & doesn't want our marriage to end...but it doesn't FEEL that way.
      With the way of the world & economy - I'm screwed if I go out on my own. Have no means of real support if I were to leave. He knows this. He also knows that I'm not happy & long for the days of old...at least a glimpse....but I just don't see a way. What's worse is that I don't even know how to make myself happy anymore.
      Our relationship was close to awesome. We c/would tell one another anything. We were able to play to one another's strengths & support/worth thru weaknesses, had a nice home, cars, money in the bank, investments, positivity, cohesiveness, etc. The way we'd flirt still made me blush, he could make me weak in the knees w/ ease. The first time we met he did a real life double take, lost his breath, and stumbled over his words...was the cutest moment. I could look at him and my world would be ok. I don't think I even know what ok means anymore. 😥

  • @jackd105
    @jackd105 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I did that on May 19, 1984. I have been living with a bipolar person for more than 36 years. Can you either text or message me

  • @kimhunley3765
    @kimhunley3765 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Broke up with my schizoaffective boyfriend because he would not commit to me. After dating for a year and a half, is there any way to get him back? What should I do? I didn't realize they have commitment issues I feel bad but then he turned the breakup around to being his idea and told me it wasn't never there It just wasn't there And I don't want it I did everything for him

    • @anavigil7603
      @anavigil7603 ปีที่แล้ว

      See Lillian TV comment.

    • @maxaffe3195
      @maxaffe3195 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@anavigil7603 this is heartbreaking

  • @jackd105
    @jackd105 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    2 months after our wedding my wife had a breakdown and she was not able to work since. I want to compare notes with you

  • @slovsuarez707
    @slovsuarez707 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This just beautiful

  • @oscarramos8312
    @oscarramos8312 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Qué raro, una persona esquizofrénica no tiene la capacidad de amar, puede casarse porque busca apoyo, pero no puede amar por su histrionismo y ambivalencia. Cada que sale de una crisis, tendrá un nuevo "yo" y si tiene hijos, la cosa empeora: alguno puede heredar la esquizofrenia, es lo más seguro.
    Mas vale que esté hombre(el esposo) sea un buen hombre. Lo que le espera...

    • @videolover988
      @videolover988 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Eso es falso 😂 los esquizofrénicos si pueden amar y eso que dices que un nuevo yo, es falso no tienen personalidad múltiple

    • @nereidalorenzo6974
      @nereidalorenzo6974 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Estás equivocado. Aman como todo ser humano. Su mayor crisis es la paranoia y desmotivación.

  • @rebeccanakato6699
    @rebeccanakato6699 ปีที่แล้ว

    What medication were you given for schizophrenia

  • @gud3742
    @gud3742 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    God is a hairy humanoid soaking in a bathtub, floating alone in a bubble of absolute and eternal solipsism, imagining a world around itself in all directions.

  • @tvjojak
    @tvjojak 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    jo

  • @jonathanvermillion7263
    @jonathanvermillion7263 ปีที่แล้ว

    I’m dating a woman with this, should I keep going

    • @AMD1
      @AMD1 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      How did things work out for you two?

    • @jonathanvermillion7263
      @jonathanvermillion7263 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@AMD1 I have decided I can’t continue if I don’t want to care for her totally as a caretaker

    • @maxaffe3195
      @maxaffe3195 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@jonathanvermillion7263 this is all understandable but it is heartbreaking. they cannot have normal lives.

  • @maryamjose7929
    @maryamjose7929 ปีที่แล้ว

    Am so happy right now am Herpes negative thanks #drodukuhome.