Let's get real. There is no such thing as someone realizing they lost you. They simply will push their feelings aside to avoid shame or make you out to be the bad guy, but they will never see you as a lost. On the flip side, they will always look for you in other people. Go figure.
They will never admit consciously that they realize they lost you. So at night or early in the am, they will feel the loss. One cannot fool his subconscious forever. They will push their feelings down, but only for so long. As the saying goes, ". You can't fool yourself without knowing you're fooling yourself."
My ex girlfriend DA broke up with me about 6 or 7 weeks ago. She made vague excuses to break up with me. She wouldn't really tell me what she was dealing with. But I knew she was going through something mentally. Then 2 or 3 weeks ago she makes a post online praising some guy to make me jealous and attempt to get angry reaction out me. I didn't respond. She has confessed to people that she was a bad girlfriend to me. I doubt she would ever try to come back because mostly she knows I would reject her and use the vague excuses as a reason not to reach out.
@@GesuHeche-fv4hx Right. I believe my ex tried to get an angry reaction out of me to justify her breaking up with me as a the right decision. I will give her that. She will have to iive her bad decisions for the rest of her life.
Equal give and take.. we teach people how to treat us . Which is sad because they would much rather go elsewhere rather work things. It all vines across as a cat and mouse game
I've thought about it. What am i going to do? Tell her dad she cheated on me? I'll get an AVO on me accused of stalking. As painful as it is, walk away. Find a new life, and that's what I'm doing.
As she said towards the end of video. Due to everyone and every situation being different these labels are loose and not meant to fit and perfectly describe a person. They just generally describe behavior that could happen. Im sure there are DAs that dont look back
I’m going through a break up myself. I’ve been struggling and my heart is broken. A couple weeks ago my girlfriend broke up with me after I lied about my age and then I told her the truth. She said she didn’t care that I was a little older but the fact that I lied she didn’t feel comfortable or safe about it. I apologized and asked for forgiveness and a second chance but now I’m doing the no contact.
Why did you start your relationship with a lie, even if it seems minor? She is right-how can someone feel safe when a relationship begins with dishonesty? Explain to her the reasons behind your lie. Maybe she will understand and give you a second chance.
@ maybe it was a fear of rejection or insecurity but I’ve learned the hard way that you can’t lie about anything in relationship no matter how small the lie is.
@@tylerawiseguy7942 If you are not in a long-distance relationship, you can invite her to a calm place and talk with her. Believe me, she will appreciate it. Be transparent with her. It is good that you realize your mistake; work on it. Good luck.
As da in recovery, 5 years +, I never looked back, when relationship was over, or contact any of my ex. I think you are talking about fa, leaning on dissmisive side or narc...I never had healty relationship, no helty person would participate 🤷♀️ we are emotionaly closed, very logical.I never cheated,..., have friends, I am a good mother...still have a lot of fears, but with therapy, thriving. If you are thinking of taking back your ex...advice...if he is taking therapy, is good comunicstor, didnt cheat, or lie, can tske acountability, then you try, but it had to be their decition an effort at the begining ❤
While that may be your experience, I can assure you, based on my experience and that of many others, that DAs do reach out and attempt to maintain what amounts to superficial friendly relationships that are devoid of the scary intimacy they chose to reject.
@@MiriPierceCB Im DA, and I've often reached out to exes, and reconciled with them. And my last ex, I miss massively. He was FA and broke up with me because he got triggered about his feelings and went back to HIS ex
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When they’re invested and they cared they shouldn’t have run. But I get it. They got triggered. Regardless, they hurt people.
Let's get real. There is no such thing as someone realizing they lost you. They simply will push their feelings aside to avoid shame or make you out to be the bad guy, but they will never see you as a lost. On the flip side, they will always look for you in other people. Go figure.
Women do it.
Mine said those words.
They will never admit consciously that they realize they lost you. So at night or early in the am, they will feel the loss. One cannot fool his subconscious forever. They will push their feelings down, but only for so long. As the saying goes, ". You can't fool yourself without knowing you're fooling yourself."
My ex girlfriend DA broke up with me about 6 or 7 weeks ago. She made vague excuses to break up with me. She wouldn't really tell me what she was dealing with. But I knew she was going through something mentally. Then 2 or 3 weeks ago she makes a post online praising some guy to make me jealous and attempt to get angry reaction out me. I didn't respond. She has confessed to people that she was a bad girlfriend to me. I doubt she would ever try to come back because mostly she knows I would reject her and use the vague excuses as a reason not to reach out.
@@GesuHeche-fv4hx Right. I believe my ex tried to get an angry reaction out of me to justify her breaking up with me as a the right decision. I will give her that. She will have to iive her bad decisions for the rest of her life.
Equal give and take.. we teach people how to treat us . Which is sad because they would much rather go elsewhere rather work things. It all vines across as a cat and mouse game
Protip: move on
And the dumper escapes punishment again.
@marguskiis7711 As the person always dumped, this is advice I'm giving myself for next time.
@@lythsian maybe you should punish the dumper next time someway?
I've thought about it. What am i going to do? Tell her dad she cheated on me? I'll get an AVO on me accused of stalking. As painful as it is, walk away. Find a new life, and that's what I'm doing.
What about the dismissive avoidant type that never looks back? I know many DAs that say so, do they still fit as passive or are a different type?
As she said towards the end of video. Due to everyone and every situation being different these labels are loose and not meant to fit and perfectly describe a person. They just generally describe behavior that could happen. Im sure there are DAs that dont look back
I only look back if I want to. If I don't want the person back, there is no chance.
I’m going through a break up myself. I’ve been struggling and my heart is broken. A couple weeks ago my girlfriend broke up with me after I lied about my age and then I told her the truth. She said she didn’t care that I was a little older but the fact that I lied she didn’t feel comfortable or safe about it. I apologized and asked for forgiveness and a second chance but now I’m doing the no contact.
Why did you start your relationship with a lie, even if it seems minor? She is right-how can someone feel safe when a relationship begins with dishonesty? Explain to her the reasons behind your lie. Maybe she will understand and give you a second chance.
@ maybe it was a fear of rejection or insecurity but I’ve learned the hard way that you can’t lie about anything in relationship no matter how small the lie is.
@@tylerawiseguy7942 If you are not in a long-distance relationship, you can invite her to a calm place and talk with her. Believe me, she will appreciate it. Be transparent with her. It is good that you realize your mistake; work on it. Good luck.
Is it applicable with bipolar disorder?
As da in recovery, 5 years +, I never looked back, when relationship was over, or contact any of my ex. I think you are talking about fa, leaning on dissmisive side or narc...I never had healty relationship, no helty person would participate 🤷♀️ we are emotionaly closed, very logical.I never cheated,..., have friends, I am a good mother...still have a lot of fears, but with therapy, thriving. If you are thinking of taking back your ex...advice...if he is taking therapy, is good comunicstor, didnt cheat, or lie, can tske acountability, then you try, but it had to be their decition an effort at the begining ❤
While that may be your experience, I can assure you, based on my experience and that of many others, that DAs do reach out and attempt to maintain what amounts to superficial friendly relationships that are devoid of the scary intimacy they chose to reject.
@@MiriPierceCB Im DA, and I've often reached out to exes, and reconciled with them. And my last ex, I miss massively. He was FA and broke up with me because he got triggered about his feelings and went back to HIS ex
Will my gay ex ever talk to me again he is a dismissive avoidant and told me he wants nothing to do with me ?
Believe them, it's a gift they dont come back. These people have a lot of self work to do