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Personal experience.. marriage happened with a class two officer and the girl was class one officer, after marriage the boy had nil amount in account and said that my all money is going in marriage loan and he could not give even five thousand for any first trip of couple
Also ,said that as his mother is widow since five years so both his mother and he himself is going thru a mental trauma ,so that the girl cannot confront them on anything
I know one awaken middle-class family who got their son married through registered wedding in court. Small gathering of closest friends for dinner in a restaurant and done. Total expenditure. 25,000 rupees. Both bride and groom families are worth 10 to 15 crores. And yet. Then there are those who get into lavish weddings taking huge loans they keep paying for the rest of their lives.
This thought process is better than most of the comment where they blame parents for loans/expenditure/keeping eye on expenditure IIT IIM sons post marriage. Parents are the reasons we get opportunity to achieve whatever we have achieved. Writting them off is not good idea. It shows how cost of living is increasing and materialism too. Capitalist West has destroyed the system of family now they have lost all their moorings. It is better to reduce unneccessary expenses. Family is strength not weakness. People will realise it when they will fave adverse situation in life.
25:years back ,We did arya samaj marriage with minimal expenditure,along with registered in court. People should be minimalistic , not show off. But yes , this concept is still not accepted in our society that's why we were Boycott in our society. That is the pain I suffered.
@@Sai-q4d Don't get me wrong but why would you want to be part of a group that boycotted you? If someone or some group boycotts me, I will run away from them in different direction. This world is big enough to find like-minded people. Find like-minded people and befriend them. You will have peace of mind.
The unsuccessful family members(parents, siblings) then intentionally hate the spouse of such a IIT/IIM boy because they know that if he is closer to his wife, they won’t be able to extract all the money from him. Therefore they try as much possible to cause rift between him and his wife. This is their play. And the wife’s life get ruined.
@@dreamsdesires You only have one option - Try to talk to your husband and explain to him that his family members are not in favor of his own family (wife+children) and will always be competing for resources. The resources (money and time) that he gives away to his birth family, it’s the same resources being taken away from wife and children. This will not be a one day talk. This will have to be a constant point of talking with the husband and may even take a few years. Another thing you can do is confront his family directly. Tell them that you are done helping them out and they need to help themselves out. The more you enable this behavior the more your husband will get taken advantaged of. Try and impose boundaries with them. They should very clearly know that you are not okay with them exploiting their son this way. He has been trained his whole life to be enmeshed in a very dysfunctional way with his family. Reprogramming will take some time. If he is just so programmed that he won’t even let you oppose this then unfortunately you will have to put down your boundaries with him too. Maybe consider separating from him. Either he cares for you and his children or he will be a forever slave to his family. You can make him choose
But on the opposite side even our spouses should not have the mentality of making the boy a GANNA, as it is in majority of cases where the spouse has only single agenda i.e. of maximizing their own benefit by extracting resources from the naïve boy Only then does it work for the better of all.
@@ccc122 The spouse has the right to their husbands or wives resources. Parents and family members do not. What a husband and wife do with their money is their business and no body else’s
@@dollargeek4016 Its written nowhere that the spouse has any right to guys resources, its a guys choice if they want to share or not, then the spouse should respect the husbands choice. if its the husbands resources he can do whatever he likes with it, same with the wife, no one has any rights over anyone's hard earned resources.
I was that 'chusa hua ganna' when I married 18 yrs back. The flat I bought before marriage was enjoyed by my parents, while I had to struggle to buy another flat. This brought a lot of issues in marital life. Thank you sir for creating awareness about this issue. Hopefully today's youth can learn and avoid this in their life.
Better to marry a 50 k earning boy rather than 4lacs earning chusa hua ganna , it is emotionally draining and brings a lot of issues and insecurity in marriage...the best thing you can give your daughter is good education and a flat/ house of her own..bcz this will only give her sukoon if the husband is chusa hua ganna
Is type k ganne sirf financially nahi mentally bhi aur emotionally bhi bohot weak hote hai ye parents ko puchhe bina apni wife ko ek dress bhi gift nahi kar pate. Sab izaazat le kar karte hai. Koi ladki rehna nahi chahegi ese ladke se 50 k ho ya 4 lakh koi bhi esa ho sakta hai. It's depends on nature.
50k ho ya 4 lakhs koi bhi esa nikal sakta hai😂 jo emotionally depend hota hai parents pe. Ek dress bhi gift nahi kar pata wife ko parents ko puchhna padta hai. Ese aadmi k sath rehne se achha hai single raho. 😂😂india mai bohot sare ladke hai ese.
Same Meri shadi ko 24 saal ho gye. Sari jindgi mujhe sirf pocket money mili. Mother in law ne sari kamai apne pass rakhi. Sasur ji ni jindgi me kuch nhi banaya . Property husband ne banai but usse saas ne apne naam par ki hui hai. Jisme dusre bete bhi hissa lenge. Hume kya mila. Saas sasur ki sewa husband jo ab bude ho rhe hai. Kamai kam ho rhi hai uski sewa ?? Agar beti ko dusre ghar se laate hai to bete to basne to do
Bikul sahi kaha aapne.✅✅ Kuch ladke bahut sidhe saade hote hai. Maa baap ko saara pese dete rehte hai aur baad me khud apna ghar nahi khareed paate. Gaon me agar maa baap aur pariwar rehta hai toh saara pesa wahi laga dete hai aur khud city main rent par rehte hai. Baad me wo saara pesa aur property sab bacho me barabar bat jaati hai aur jisne kamaya wo pachtata hai..
Bilkul sahi sir ...meri ek close friend ke sath yahi ho rha hai ....uski ache ghar me arranged marriage hui ...janha sasur bhi govt job pe h or uska husband bhi govt job pe ...but shadi k time unhone plot liya ki ghar banana h ...jisme sasur k nam bhi loan chal rha h or husband k nam pr bhi ....or ghar sasu maa k nam pr h ....ab ghar ke kharche k liy meti frnd apni salary deti h ....jisme 2 unemployed devar h jo abhi clg me padh hi rhe h...ek nanad h ...sab ka kharcha meri frnd pe aa gaya h ..or uske pas ab kuch salary nhi bachti....dur se dekho to lagta h ache rich ghar me shadi hui h ...lekin pas se dekho to ...kahani hi different h ...now she is feeling trapped.
@snoopdogg_007 ha ha .. iam thankful to God...vo mai nhi hu 😊..but vo mujhe apni problem btati thi to maine seriously nhi socha ...but ab ye video dekhi h ..or pta chala ki aise case bhi bhot ho rhe h society me ...
Dost ko bolo ki sara paisa ka investment kar le thoda sa rakhe ghar ke kharche ke liye… baki saab apna kharche ka jugad khud kare… na hoye to apne assets bech de aur kharcha chalaye… kyun sara paisa de dena?? Ap ladki ki chusai ho rahi hai
अंकल जी एक बात तो सच्च है, लड़के ने अपने नाम पर मकान ले लिया तो बाद में वह बहन की लोहड़ी 498 की FIR कटा के मकान पर कब्जा कर लेगी, अमेजॉन के मालिक जैफ बेजॉस के साथ उसकी रैंड लुगाई ने किया सब जानते हैं , दूसरी बात यह की मां बाप ने लाखों करोड़ों रुपया खर्च करके बड़ा करा है, अगर वह हर महीने हम पर पैसा ना खर्च करके म्युचुअल फंड में डालते तो आज कई करोड़ के अलग से मालिक होते , इसीलिए हमारे पैसों पर उनका भी उतना ही हक है जितना की हमारा खुद का है, और जो होने वाली लुगाई है उसको हमारी कमाई से उतना ही मतलब होना चाहिए जितना मैं उसका खाने पीने और कपड़े मेकअप का खर्चा मिल जाए , अगर उसको पैसों के लालच में आना है तो बेशक न आए, पैसों के लिए तो रैंड भी टांगे खोल के आगे बिछ जाती है, लुगाई तो वह होती जो गरीबी अमीरी में बराबर साथ देI
Really true sir, seeing lot of such cases in society, Parents emotional blackmail their children by telling, maine tumko isi liye padhaya, utna tyag kiya, like things.
Very good video sir. Another thing is if the boy has a sister, he's forced to spend a huge chunk in her wedding too. Aisa hai to kanyadan bhi usi se karwa do. These kind of expenses are the parent's responsibility but they make fool of both the kids. They promise the girl a lavish wedding on the brother's expense and they promise the brother their whole property in inheritance which he'll get when he's in his late 50s so until then the parents have a strong reason to control him. This is a form of financial abuse that men suffer from. I've seen this among a few relatives.
Arrey ajkl ki behne to shweta bachchan bni hui hai aur u p ki ladkiya isi khumaar me ji rahi hai ki bhai ka divorce kerwao khud family je saath parents ke ghr betjo
true very true if an IAS or IIT guy has a string of unseccesful brothers and sisters they all become a liability on them for example entire Salman khan family is a liability on him every one got married but they never wanted salman to get married as everyone is enjoying his success same way boy or girl get expoited by their family after getting success
Parents do the same with daughters especially when their are no sons or son is very young. All the money of the daughter is taken in the name of marriage expenses.
U r very correct guru g,,ladko ko actually ye sach acceptable nhi hota ki unke parents unke sath aisa kar rhe hain,,agar wife baad me bolegi to wo galat insan hai dunia ki....to isliye ladke ko pehle sb pta hona bahut zaruri hai,taki ladki baad me chain se jindagi jee sake .
Agree! I learnt it hard way. Most of the middle class families are masking their true intent. Agar families ko naya ghar chaiye hota hai to bakra pakad lete hai ghar ke ladko ko, Bachpan se groomning hoti bahut logo ki beta tu hi humara sahara hai... bullshit.
@@snoopdogg_007mera partner bhi aaisa hai.. behen k shadi k liye pura kharch usse karaya behen ko gold 12 tola, pregancy me uske husband ko gold chain.. yaha tak thik hai.. but problem yaha aayi jab unhone hamare shadi k liye iske khud k paise kharch karne se bhi mana kiya.. yaha tak k mangalsutra bhi lene nahi diya.. usko bola k tum par bohot loan hai ( aaisa dikhaya k bohot care karte hai uska.. itna hi care tha to sister k time pe kyun kharch karaya) Kitna ullu banate hai ladko ko.. behen k liye sab lo or wife k liye kuch bhi Mat lo us time pe sare loan yad ayenge Problem is with these stupid men who don’t understand the game of parents and doesn’t know how to set boundaries
@@mswr3351 Abhi samjha ki Ladka kyun chaiye haar middle class family ko. Chussa hua ganna bananeke liye. My family is overly focused on my sister's side, which causes my wife significant distress. She cries daily about their treatment of her as an outsider and their belief that she's taking advantage of their son. Unfortunately, I've learned firsthand about my family including my sisters ill intentions.
@@mswr3351agr ek bhai apni behan ke liye nhi kharch karega toh fir rishto ka matlab hi kiya reh jayega fir toh saare rishte bas swarth aur paiso se jude ho jayenge
my father was a ganna for his widow mother and 5 younger siblings. till 50, he had the junoon to become best son and brother, then his health started deteriorating and my mother became his nurse, he is now 77. in last 27 years his siblings showed true colours. we 3 kids are raised in high pressure, stressful environment. Good thing is our parents are still alive. chusa huwa ganna is a real thing. rajabeta rajabeta bolke pedestal me uthake exploit karna koi indians se sikhe
My husband was and is that chusa hua ganna .. but he enjoys that .. and wants to turn me also into that .. bhaiyon ki padhai.. gaanv me ghar banaya.. and endless responsibilities of an elder son ..
Ab next process bhaiyon ki shadi , bhaiyon ko शहर में ज़मीन दिलाना एंड अब घर बनाने के लिए पैसे देना .. इस चक्कर में आज तक हम अपना घर नहीं बना पा रहे हैं ..
@@HE-MAN2025sahi kha, kama sakti ho to pati ki help karo, agar wo apne liye kutch ni karte.. Khud karo.. See bada ladka ya ladki mein kabhi kabhi bahut jimmedaari hoti hai ya wo utha sakte hai utni responsibility without reason.. Bus itna dhyan rakho ki koi galat fayada paison ke mamle mein na utha le, satark rahen..
@@HE-MAN2025baccho ke shadi biyah maa baap ka farz hai.. kisi ek bacche ke mathe apne jimmedari nahi thopi jati..maa baap ka dhayan rakhna baccho ka farz hai na ki bhai bahano ki shadi biyah aur unke liye ghar bnakar dena nhi
You are absolutely right ! Parents are sqeezing and exploiting their sons and Papas are invariably handling their sons finances ! If the girl is working, they want to ve their salaries also otherwise she is forced to spend entire money on household !
Big brother you are a genius. I love your videos. The angle that you have shown never came in my mind. My thoughts were limited to kitni bahene hai jinki shadi honi baki hai. Kitne chote bhai hai jinka education costs bande pe hai etc. but yeh chusa hua ganna concept is mind boggling. Now when I look around I see similar cases. Thanks for this information.
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Superb observation Guruji. Thank you so much for bringing this clarity. Aapka nanad ka role in Maayka video I've seen 5 times. Important takeaway -Groom should not contribute to the marriage function. what to do when groom himself doesn't think its wrong to give his full income to his parents ?
Right sir...mai isi me fasi Hui hu shadi ki ladka ka bahut kuch hai achchi income hai shadi bad pta chla ek bhi chij ladke ke nam se nhi h maa k naam ya shadi shuda bahan k naam se hai even papers jwellery bhi bahan apne pas rakhti h
Correct , everyone has + - Have to balance. No one is perfect. Noone should hide there reality especially about Finance. Some how it will came in picture. Fight get start 😢 Don't waste your hard earned money on Nonsense things. Period ❤
Mere sath bhi hua tha meri jisse shadi hone wali thi ham same post. Pr they to same salary thi but uske ghrwalo ne salary pr loan leke jameen le rkhi thi or shadi k liye bhi loan lene ka tha or shadi k bad pura ghr ka expenses much pr tha bcz uska to kuch bchta hi nhi sath me dhej bhi chahiye tha usse 😅😅
@@himanshupal1137 dehej to second thing h main ghr ka kam bhi kru or job bhi or ghr ka sara expense bhi or uski salary uski mummy papa k naam jmin me jaye q
@@himanshupal1137 haa maid baane to nhi jaana chahegi koi ladki…dahej to aj ke time pe hai why dont u except dz reality…maa baap bhi aj ke time pe khud ka faida dekhte Ghar ke 2 beto ko equal love kyu nhi milta saari jimedari bada beta kyu puri kare…sub bacho ko equal pyar bhi do to rgt bhi
@@engineeringstudent1 kha ka pyr arrange marriage proposal tha or q kru taki ghr ka sara. Kam kru job bhi kru sari income bhi unhe de du or husband ka. Kya wo apni salary se papa k name assets bnaye
Can you please make a video on unmarried elder sister's interference in life of brother and sis in law in all small and big decisions and trip , impact on children upbringing etc . Reducing importance of daughter in law as compared to daughter
Very nice video sir ji. Plz make a video on mama's boy as the common cause of child abuse in indian families and it's effect on the mental and physical health of our next generation.
ye to nai ho rha... Jab tak log status pe chal rhe hai tab tak aisi shaadiya hoti rahegi. Social media ye system ko bandh nai hone degi nahi to unki hi dukan bandh ho jayegi.
there is another way to look at this many boys and girls already have been in relationship and done everything stayed in live in but now they marry as per parents wish now they are not interested in spouse again chussa hua ganna
Personal experience.. marriage happened with a class two officer and the girl was class one officer, after marriage the boy had nil amount in account and said that my all money is going in marriage loan and he could not give even five thousand for any first trip of couple
Also ,said that as his mother is widow since five years so both his mother and he himself is going thru a mental trauma ,so that the girl cannot confront them on anything
@@User6m7-112 jiski shaadi hui uske liye common nahi hota dear... Just imagine uss ladki ke father bhi aisa behave karte rahe ki vo ladki apne dum par separation pe aa gyi after physical mental torchure for two years continuous ..but still her father and brother despite being educated .. didn't show any sympathy and only her mother stood by her and saved her from giving her life... Is this also common??
@@Peaceisgod577 aisa bhi hota hai . Sabse accha solution beta beti ko equal property do . Aur unke apne liye khud kamane do..aur maa baap ki jimmedari dono ko brabar nibhane do.. na bete ko pressure karo social responsibility akele handle karne ke liye na bahu ek khun piyo .but ye ideal situation hai.. mostly cases mein beta atm machine hota hai.. uspar social and financial jimmedari daal di jati hai .. aur agar beti ka sasural accha hai .uske pas khud ki property hai to kya dikkat..jaise meri SIL ko uske pati ne uske naam se ghar lekar diya hai.. aur dusri taraf maine khud flat book Kiya hai 85 lac ka loan liya hai khud se..uspar bhi in laws jealous ho rhe hai.. ki mere naam se kyun hai.. matlab main bhi kamakar unko hi dun.. isn't it unfair?
Absolutely true. Yahan parents apni khokli shaan dikhane ke liye shaadi me 1000ron guest bulate hain. Due to this person who is getting married especially son have to take unnecessary loans.
Mere mama kafi smart hai kuch ganne chalak hote hai. Shadi se pehle hi unhone apne honeymoon k pese jod liye aur shadi ka kharcha mere nana ne uthaya aur chhoti behn ki shadi mai bhi mama ne kuch nahi diya vo bhi nana ne kharcha kiya. Phir 10 saal tak ghar k emi mama ne bhare aur ghar unka ho gaya lekin down payment aur 10 saal tak ka ghar chalane ka pura kharcha mere nana ne diya tha mama mami nana nani aur mamu k 2 bachhe. Sab ka 10 saal ka ghar ka kharcha nana ne diya. Phir pata chala mama ne apna dusra ghar bhi bana liya hai with land. Car sab ho gaya unka 10 saal tak saving ki aur free mai baby sitting karvaya ma baap se. Aur phir jab parents budhhe ho gaye to vo apne new ghar mai chale gaye dono ghar unke naam pe. Mere nana ko ghar khali karo esa bolte the mere mama. Very cheap thinking. Jab hospital mai zarurat thi to nahi aaye. Halaki sir jo bol rahe hai vo sahi hai. Par kuch case mai parents chuse hue ganne ban jaate hai.
My parents spent 50% amount in gold in my marriage though its an asset. What wrong in it? Kindly explain i mean it's better any other fisool kharch in shaadi
Sir , parents ye kaam sirf ladke ke sath hi nahi karte, vo ladki ke sath bhi kar rahe hai. Aajkal padhi likhi job karne vaalk beti ka paisa le ke khhud ka ghar banva rahe hai. Aur soney ke ande dene vaali ladki ki shaadi isi liye nahi karva rahe. 1950 ke baad ke parents ne ye plan bana rakha hai. Ladka ho ya ladki sabse fayeda uthana.aur aapsa me bhai bahan ko ladvana. Baad me isi vajah se spouse se bhi rishte kharab.
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Jaise ladki wale kanyadan karte hai waise hi beta dan karna padega tabhi ghar basta hai. In-laws ke saath jub ladki ko dukh ke siwa kuch nahi milta to kyu rahe. Jo ladka apne maa baap ko chodd sakta hai jaise ladkiya karti hai wo shadi kare varna maa baap ke hi saath rahe
@@raspberrypaper3562 bhulti nahi hai lekin agalg to rehti hai na..waise hi aadmiyo ko bhi alag rehna chahiye.yaad karte rehna par saath nahi rehna chahiye
Please make a video on real life problem single lady at home has too many responsibilities to handle one office to vegetables from the market three kitchen for kids housekeeping servants guest parties personal life problems holidays mental issues emotional issues and the list goes on any solution for me a bloody can support another lady means at least two ladies at the home can share the responsibility
Sango ji, kafi saal pehle, main chusa hua ganna reh chuka hoon. Itna haal bura tha ki 2nd hand bike mein ₹100 ka petrol daalte phat jaati thi, jab ki main bade multinational corporate mein acche post pe tha...
लोग ये देख रहे हैं की लड़के की सैलरी के अलावा प्रॉपर्टी कितनी है? कहीं मां बाप के नाम प्रॉपर्टी तो नहीं वरना डाइवोर्स के बाद क्या मिलेगा? कहीं होम लोन एजुकेशन लोन या कार लोन तो नहीं है? Cibil score kitna hai? और फिर लोग इस बात पर भी ज्ञान देंगे की दहेज एक कुप्रथा क्यों है। बड़ा ही दोहरा व्यवहार है😂
Aisa nahi hai..mere case mein kuch nahi dekha na maa baap ki income thi na property bas ladka public sector mein tha jo ki main bhi hun..but shayad ye bahut badi galti thi.. unke kharche..unke shauk..aur unki beti ki jimmedari puri krte karte mere husband ne 10 saal ki kamai brabar kar di.. and maine ab ek flat book Kiya hai khud loan lekar..shayad aisi life tum khud apni bahan ke liye nahi chahoge..
@@User6m7-112 mere kahne ka tark sirf itna tha ki jo v do log shadi k rishte me bandhne wale hain wo dono milkar apne aage ki jindagi ki jimmedari lein. main v ek student hu aur loan se padhai kar rha hu , main aage future me apne liye dahej ki chaah nahi rakhta aur na hi iska samarthan karta hu. badle me main v apne partner se yahi chahunga ki wo sirf mere paise nahi balki mere gun avgun v dekhe. Umeed hai behen aap meri baat samjhi hongi baki main meri kosis kisi ko thes pahuchane ki nhi thi
All videos are eye opening 🙏 Guruji kya aap jo market main Andhvishwas wale baba hai or ye tantra wali podcast hai unhe kaise dhekhte hai aap kitni sach hai kitna nhi plz tell us from ur perspective🙏
लड़कों को शादी के सारे खर्चे करना बिल्कुल बंद कर देने चाहिए क्योंकि आजकल शादी जीवन भर नहीं चलती। ना ही लड़किया इस योग्य है। सीधा कोर्ट मैरिज करो बात खत्म।
Kuch din phle meri 2 friends ne ye problem discuss Kia tha un dono ka financially bura haal h due to multiple loans no savings n in-laws k sath hi rhna padr rha h aaj ye video dekh k lga ki sach bol re ho bhot badi problem h ye
Sir ji aap ne samaj ki dukhti rag pe hath rakh diya🙃🙂👍🏻🌟 Bura haal h samaj ka🕳️Black hole h or sabhi Esme ghuse ja rhe h khiche ja rhe h Okay bye bye tata tata ho rha h sabhi ka😂
New topic: as a 41 old man with wife and 2 kids whether I should keep living in house in gated colony or shift to a society flat. Which option is better for family?
Sirji apni shaadi mein maine hi paise lgaye rhe and when I said k ye nahi ayega ye wo nahi ayega then my father was like phir main nahi aunga agr ye sab nahi aaye toh. Bas phir kya tha, paisa mera aur marzi unki 😂
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Personal experience.. marriage happened with a class two officer and the girl was class one officer, after marriage the boy had nil amount in account and said that my all money is going in marriage loan and he could not give even five thousand for any first trip of couple
Also ,said that as his mother is widow since five years so both his mother and he himself is going thru a mental trauma ,so that the girl cannot confront them on anything
I know one awaken middle-class family who got their son married through registered wedding in court. Small gathering of closest friends for dinner in a restaurant and done. Total expenditure. 25,000 rupees. Both bride and groom families are worth 10 to 15 crores. And yet. Then there are those who get into lavish weddings taking huge loans they keep paying for the rest of their lives.
This is my promise I will do the same for my son's wedding. Next year
because indian society is status driven(show off) not wealth driven exclude top 1%
This thought process is better than most of the comment where they blame parents for loans/expenditure/keeping eye on expenditure IIT IIM sons post marriage.
Parents are the reasons we get opportunity to achieve whatever we have achieved.
Writting them off is not good idea. It shows how cost of living is increasing and materialism too.
Capitalist West has destroyed the system of family now they have lost all their moorings.
It is better to reduce unneccessary expenses.
Family is strength not weakness. People will realise it when they will fave adverse situation in life.
25:years back ,We did arya samaj marriage with minimal expenditure,along with registered in court. People should be minimalistic , not show off. But yes , this concept is still not accepted in our society that's why we were Boycott in our society. That is the pain I suffered.
@@Sai-q4d Don't get me wrong but why would you want to be part of a group that boycotted you? If someone or some group boycotts me, I will run away from them in different direction. This world is big enough to find like-minded people. Find like-minded people and befriend them. You will have peace of mind.
The unsuccessful family members(parents, siblings) then intentionally hate the spouse of such a IIT/IIM boy because they know that if he is closer to his wife, they won’t be able to extract all the money from him. Therefore they try as much possible to cause rift between him and his wife. This is their play. And the wife’s life get ruined.
Any tips on how to handle situations as in wife of these chussa hua ganna?
@@dreamsdesires You only have one option - Try to talk to your husband and explain to him that his family members are not in favor of his own family (wife+children) and will always be competing for resources. The resources (money and time) that he gives away to his birth family, it’s the same resources being taken away from wife and children. This will not be a one day talk. This will have to be a constant point of talking with the husband and may even take a few years. Another thing you can do is confront his family directly. Tell them that you are done helping them out and they need to help themselves out. The more you enable this behavior the more your husband will get taken advantaged of. Try and impose boundaries with them. They should very clearly know that you are not okay with them exploiting their son this way. He has been trained his whole life to be enmeshed in a very dysfunctional way with his family. Reprogramming will take some time. If he is just so programmed that he won’t even let you oppose this then unfortunately you will have to put down your boundaries with him too. Maybe consider separating from him. Either he cares for you and his children or he will be a forever slave to his family. You can make him choose
But on the opposite side even our spouses should not have the mentality of making the boy a GANNA, as it is in majority of cases where the spouse has only single agenda i.e. of maximizing their own benefit by extracting resources from the naïve boy
Only then does it work for the better of all.
@@ccc122 The spouse has the right to their husbands or wives resources. Parents and family members do not. What a husband and wife do with their money is their business and no body else’s
@@dollargeek4016 Its written nowhere that the spouse has any right to guys resources, its a guys choice if they want to share or not, then the spouse should respect the husbands choice.
if its the husbands resources he can do whatever he likes with it, same with the wife, no one has any rights over anyone's hard earned resources.
I was that 'chusa hua ganna' when I married 18 yrs back. The flat I bought before marriage was enjoyed by my parents, while I had to struggle to buy another flat. This brought a lot of issues in marital life.
Thank you sir for creating awareness about this issue. Hopefully today's youth can learn and avoid this in their life.
Which city u are in??
Omg😢 mere papa to mere bhai ki shadi aur uske new house k liye pese jodte hai. Aur jis ghar mai parents rehte hai vo bhi bhai ko denge.
@@rahulk948 it's commendable that u realise it ...
@@aishabavani8789 kab denge wahi to question hai...
@@tsjoshi are uski shadi nahi hui abhi tak 🤣
Better to marry a 50 k earning boy rather than 4lacs earning chusa hua ganna , it is emotionally draining and brings a lot of issues and insecurity in marriage...the best thing you can give your daughter is good education and a flat/ house of her own..bcz this will only give her sukoon if the husband is chusa hua ganna
THERE'S no substitute for exposure and education
Is type k ganne sirf financially nahi mentally bhi aur emotionally bhi bohot weak hote hai ye parents ko puchhe bina apni wife ko ek dress bhi gift nahi kar pate. Sab izaazat le kar karte hai. Koi ladki rehna nahi chahegi ese ladke se 50 k ho ya 4 lakh koi bhi esa ho sakta hai. It's depends on nature.
50k ho ya 4 lakhs koi bhi esa nikal sakta hai😂 jo emotionally depend hota hai parents pe. Ek dress bhi gift nahi kar pata wife ko parents ko puchhna padta hai. Ese aadmi k sath rehne se achha hai single raho. 😂😂india mai bohot sare ladke hai ese.
Same
Meri shadi ko 24 saal ho gye. Sari jindgi mujhe sirf pocket money mili. Mother in law ne sari kamai apne pass rakhi. Sasur ji ni jindgi me kuch nhi banaya . Property husband ne banai but usse saas ne apne naam par ki hui hai. Jisme dusre bete bhi hissa lenge. Hume kya mila. Saas sasur ki sewa husband jo ab bude ho rhe hai. Kamai kam ho rhi hai uski sewa ??
Agar beti ko dusre ghar se laate hai to bete to basne to do
Humari mummy aur hum bache ye hi suffer kar rahe h aur papa kuch nahi bolte
Ditto .. 💯 true
Bikul sahi kaha aapne.✅✅
Kuch ladke bahut sidhe saade hote hai. Maa baap ko saara pese dete rehte hai aur baad me khud apna ghar nahi khareed paate.
Gaon me agar maa baap aur pariwar rehta hai toh saara pesa wahi laga dete hai aur khud city main rent par rehte hai.
Baad me wo saara pesa aur property sab bacho me barabar bat jaati hai aur jisne kamaya wo pachtata hai..
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Bilkul sahi sir ...meri ek close friend ke sath yahi ho rha hai ....uski ache ghar me arranged marriage hui ...janha sasur bhi govt job pe h or uska husband bhi govt job pe ...but shadi k time unhone plot liya ki ghar banana h ...jisme sasur k nam bhi loan chal rha h or husband k nam pr bhi ....or ghar sasu maa k nam pr h ....ab ghar ke kharche k liy meti frnd apni salary deti h ....jisme 2 unemployed devar h jo abhi clg me padh hi rhe h...ek nanad h ...sab ka kharcha meri frnd pe aa gaya h ..or uske pas ab kuch salary nhi bachti....dur se dekho to lagta h ache rich ghar me shadi hui h ...lekin pas se dekho to ...kahani hi different h ...now she is feeling trapped.
Dost ke saath hua ha ya wo dost aap hi ho??
@snoopdogg_007 ha ha .. iam thankful to God...vo mai nhi hu 😊..but vo mujhe apni problem btati thi to maine seriously nhi socha ...but ab ye video dekhi h ..or pta chala ki aise case bhi bhot ho rhe h society me ...
Dost ko bolo ki sara paisa ka investment kar le thoda sa rakhe ghar ke kharche ke liye… baki saab apna kharche ka jugad khud kare… na hoye to apne assets bech de aur kharcha chalaye… kyun sara paisa de dena?? Ap ladki ki chusai ho rahi hai
अंकल जी एक बात तो सच्च है, लड़के ने अपने नाम पर मकान ले लिया तो बाद में वह बहन की लोहड़ी 498 की FIR कटा के मकान पर कब्जा कर लेगी, अमेजॉन के मालिक जैफ बेजॉस के साथ उसकी रैंड लुगाई ने किया सब जानते हैं ,
दूसरी बात यह की मां बाप ने लाखों करोड़ों रुपया खर्च करके बड़ा करा है, अगर वह हर महीने हम पर पैसा ना खर्च करके म्युचुअल फंड में डालते तो आज कई करोड़ के अलग से मालिक होते , इसीलिए हमारे पैसों पर उनका भी उतना ही हक है जितना की हमारा खुद का है, और जो होने वाली लुगाई है उसको हमारी कमाई से उतना ही मतलब होना चाहिए जितना मैं उसका खाने पीने और कपड़े मेकअप का खर्चा मिल जाए ,
अगर उसको पैसों के लालच में आना है तो बेशक न आए,
पैसों के लिए तो रैंड भी टांगे खोल के आगे बिछ जाती है, लुगाई तो वह होती जो गरीबी अमीरी में बराबर साथ देI
50 percent family me, 50 percent khud rakhna chahiye
Really true sir, seeing lot of such cases in society,
Parents emotional blackmail their children by telling, maine tumko isi liye padhaya, utna tyag kiya, like things.
Very good video sir. Another thing is if the boy has a sister, he's forced to spend a huge chunk in her wedding too. Aisa hai to kanyadan bhi usi se karwa do. These kind of expenses are the parent's responsibility but they make fool of both the kids. They promise the girl a lavish wedding on the brother's expense and they promise the brother their whole property in inheritance which he'll get when he's in his late 50s so until then the parents have a strong reason to control him. This is a form of financial abuse that men suffer from. I've seen this among a few relatives.
Bhai khde parents say property apne pass rkho ya bahn ko dedo him paise nhi de paayengay...
@@N7_YES very correct. Can't have the best of the both worlds.
Arrey ajkl ki behne to shweta bachchan bni hui hai aur u p ki ladkiya isi khumaar me ji rahi hai ki bhai ka divorce kerwao khud family je saath parents ke ghr betjo
Sir ye case study bhi kro aur content chahiye to deya jayega
Bhai apne bilkul sahi likha hai👍
true very true
if an IAS or IIT guy has a string of unseccesful brothers and sisters they all become a liability on them
for example entire Salman khan family is a liability on him
every one got married but they never wanted salman to get married as everyone is enjoying his success
same way boy or girl get expoited by their family after getting success
Good example.
Parents do the same with daughters especially when their are no sons or son is very young. All the money of the daughter is taken in the name of marriage expenses.
U r very correct guru g,,ladko ko actually ye sach acceptable nhi hota ki unke parents unke sath aisa kar rhe hain,,agar wife baad me bolegi to wo galat insan hai dunia ki....to isliye ladke ko pehle sb pta hona bahut zaruri hai,taki ladki baad me chain se jindagi jee sake .
Agree! I learnt it hard way. Most of the middle class families are masking their true intent. Agar families ko naya ghar chaiye hota hai to bakra pakad lete hai ghar ke ladko ko, Bachpan se groomning hoti bahut logo ki beta tu hi humara sahara hai... bullshit.
@@snoopdogg_007mera partner bhi aaisa hai.. behen k shadi k liye pura kharch usse karaya behen ko gold 12 tola, pregancy me uske husband ko gold chain.. yaha tak thik hai..
but problem yaha aayi jab unhone hamare shadi k liye iske khud k paise kharch karne se bhi mana kiya.. yaha tak k mangalsutra bhi lene nahi diya.. usko bola k tum par bohot loan hai ( aaisa dikhaya k bohot care karte hai uska.. itna hi care tha to sister k time pe kyun kharch karaya)
Kitna ullu banate hai ladko ko.. behen k liye sab lo or wife k liye kuch bhi Mat lo us time pe sare loan yad ayenge
Problem is with these stupid men who don’t understand the game of parents and doesn’t know how to set boundaries
@@mswr3351 Abhi samjha ki Ladka kyun chaiye haar middle class family ko.
Chussa hua ganna bananeke liye.
My family is overly focused on my sister's side, which causes my wife significant distress. She cries daily about their treatment of her as an outsider and their belief that she's taking advantage of their son. Unfortunately, I've learned firsthand about my family including my sisters ill intentions.
Same happened with me, my in-laws still extract money from us. If I say anything then I m made bad bahu n create rift among us. Badtameez hai ma beti
@@mswr3351agr ek bhai apni behan ke liye nhi kharch karega toh fir rishto ka matlab hi kiya reh jayega fir toh saare rishte bas swarth aur paiso se jude ho jayenge
Me too made scapegoat by my parents, bitter fact of family/society. A sibling who contributed nothing 4 the family extorted the maximum.
I understand! After learning similar incident I boycotted my parents and everyone in family.
We are just piggy bank for them.
@@snoopdogg_007 Have to be practical, learn from others mistakes.
@@snoopdogg_007piggy bank plus atm card 😅 poor guys
@@rajeshsiva6533 Problem is it comes in different forms and version;
You don't realize it, for most of them they think their families are different 😃
Make more videos on Indian parents toxicity for awareness amongst youth, so that they can take care of marital life
my father was a ganna for his widow mother and 5 younger siblings. till 50, he had the junoon to become best son and brother, then his health started deteriorating and my mother became his nurse, he is now 77. in last 27 years his siblings showed true colours. we 3 kids are raised in high pressure, stressful environment. Good thing is our parents are still alive. chusa huwa ganna is a real thing. rajabeta rajabeta bolke pedestal me uthake exploit karna koi indians se sikhe
It gets bad only when siblings don't repay to elder brother and betray in the time on need. And older mother can't do anything.
My husband was and is that chusa hua ganna ..
but he enjoys that .. and wants to turn me also into that .. bhaiyon ki padhai.. gaanv me ghar banaya.. and endless responsibilities of an elder son ..
Ab next process bhaiyon ki shadi , bhaiyon ko शहर में ज़मीन दिलाना एंड अब घर बनाने के लिए पैसे देना ..
इस चक्कर में आज तक हम अपना घर नहीं बना पा रहे हैं ..
The curse of being a good boy.
@@HE-MAN2025 thank you for your concern भैया
@@HE-MAN2025sahi kha, kama sakti ho to pati ki help karo, agar wo apne liye kutch ni karte.. Khud karo.. See bada ladka ya ladki mein kabhi kabhi bahut jimmedaari hoti hai ya wo utha sakte hai utni responsibility without reason.. Bus itna dhyan rakho ki koi galat fayada paison ke mamle mein na utha le, satark rahen..
@@HE-MAN2025baccho ke shadi biyah maa baap ka farz hai.. kisi ek bacche ke mathe apne jimmedari nahi thopi jati..maa baap ka dhayan rakhna baccho ka farz hai na ki bhai bahano ki shadi biyah aur unke liye ghar bnakar dena nhi
Dil jeet liya Guruji aapne...I have lived this suffering, you spoke my heart out. Koti koti pranam 🙏
Itna Dark title mat diya karo sir 😂😂, But The content is NEXT LEVEL CLASS as always 💥💥💯💯
You are absolutely right ! Parents are sqeezing and exploiting their sons and Papas are invariably handling their sons finances ! If the girl is working, they want to ve their salaries also otherwise she is forced to spend entire money on household !
Big brother you are a genius. I love your videos. The angle that you have shown never came in my mind. My thoughts were limited to kitni bahene hai jinki shadi honi baki hai. Kitne chote bhai hai jinka education costs bande pe hai etc. but yeh chusa hua ganna concept is mind boggling. Now when I look around I see similar cases. Thanks for this information.
So authentic topic, my cousin, got married to chusa hua ganna
My request sir. Please continue with unique and EXCLUSIVE topics like these. Please avoid political topics if possible 🙏 thank you for your time and efforts
Superb observation Guruji. Thank you so much for bringing this clarity. Aapka nanad ka role in Maayka video I've seen 5 times. Important takeaway -Groom should not contribute to the marriage function. what to do when groom himself doesn't think its wrong to give his full income to his parents ?
Genuine issues ...only guruji brings out real issues instead of dreaming about 2047
गुरु जी बिलकुल सही कहा आपने।
यह हमारे समाज में कुरीतिया चली आ रही हैं इन्हे आप जैसे समाज सुधारक ही दूर कर सकते हैं
Right sir...mai isi me fasi Hui hu shadi ki ladka ka bahut kuch hai achchi income hai shadi bad pta chla ek bhi chij ladke ke nam se nhi h maa k naam ya shadi shuda bahan k naam se hai even papers jwellery bhi bahan apne pas rakhti h
Correct , everyone has + -
Have to balance. No one is perfect. Noone should hide there reality especially about Finance. Some how it will came in picture. Fight get start 😢 Don't waste your hard earned money on Nonsense things. Period ❤
This is an eye opener, I never thought that parents could also do this!
Mere sath bhi hua tha meri jisse shadi hone wali thi ham same post. Pr they to same salary thi but uske ghrwalo ne salary pr loan leke jameen le rkhi thi or shadi k liye bhi loan lene ka tha or shadi k bad pura ghr ka expenses much pr tha bcz uska to kuch bchta hi nhi sath me dhej bhi chahiye tha usse 😅😅
Kahi aap last me dahej ka angle dikhaa k saara ghar chalaaney ki jimmedari se toh nhi Bach rhi ho ?!
@@himanshupal1137 dehej to second thing h main ghr ka kam bhi kru or job bhi or ghr ka sara expense bhi or uski salary uski mummy papa k naam jmin me jaye q
@@himanshupal1137 haa maid baane to nhi jaana chahegi koi ladki…dahej to aj ke time pe hai why dont u except dz reality…maa baap bhi aj ke time pe khud ka faida dekhte
Ghar ke 2 beto ko equal love kyu nhi milta saari jimedari bada beta kyu puri kare…sub bacho ko equal pyar bhi do to rgt bhi
@@himanshupal1137i dont think she married him
@@engineeringstudent1 kha ka pyr arrange marriage proposal tha or q kru taki ghr ka sara. Kam kru job bhi kru sari income bhi unhe de du or husband ka. Kya wo apni salary se papa k name assets bnaye
Your videos are really eye opener, u r doing great job to spread awareness towards society benefits
Zabardastttttt Mazzaaaaa Aa Gayaaaaa 🔥❤️🔥
Can you please make a video on unmarried elder sister's interference in life of brother and sis in law in all small and big decisions and trip , impact on children upbringing etc . Reducing importance of daughter in law as compared to daughter
Very nice video sir ji. Plz make a video on mama's boy as the common cause of child abuse in indian families and it's effect on the mental and physical health of our next generation.
Sir
U r bitterly truthful
Hats off to you
Ek din shadi ka system bandh ho jayega.😮
Saal 2100 Tak pakka bandh
KAB BAND HOGA PATA NAHI , LEKIN AGAR SHADI KA SYSTEM NAHI HUA , TO HUM ME AUR KUTTE ME KOI FARAK NAHI
ye to nai ho rha... Jab tak log status pe chal rhe hai tab tak aisi shaadiya hoti rahegi. Social media ye system ko bandh nai hone degi nahi to unki hi dukan bandh ho jayegi.
Sir, apki baat muze bohot straight forward lagti hai society ki reality batate hai..
👏👏
I am big fan of your thoughts & thanks for guiding us. 💐
All I heard was don't get married
This happens in almost all the families with a son😅
Whatever sir told in this video each and every word I felt personally in marriage Market
there is another way to look at this many boys and girls already have been in relationship and done everything stayed in live in but now they marry as per parents wish now they are not interested in spouse again chussa hua ganna
"Chusse Huwe Ganne" = EMI Boys 😂😂😂
On point
😂
So so true. But when you tell parents that this is your dreams and aspirations then accusing us of not respecting their emotions 😢😢
Aap ke videos middle class families par bahut achhe hotey hey
I am married to a such "chusa hua ganna" and the best part is the process is still in progress.
Just by reading the title, Predicted the content before sir said anything. Thanks to Amit Sir
Personal experience.. marriage happened with a class two officer and the girl was class one officer, after marriage the boy had nil amount in account and said that my all money is going in marriage loan and he could not give even five thousand for any first trip of couple
Also ,said that as his mother is widow since five years so both his mother and he himself is going thru a mental trauma ,so that the girl cannot confront them on anything
Ye bahut common hai..
@@User6m7-112 jiski shaadi hui uske liye common nahi hota dear... Just imagine uss ladki ke father bhi aisa behave karte rahe ki vo ladki apne dum par separation pe aa gyi after physical mental torchure for two years continuous ..but still her father and brother despite being educated .. didn't show any sympathy and only her mother stood by her and saved her from giving her life... Is this also common??
@@Peaceisgod577 aisa bhi hota hai . Sabse accha solution beta beti ko equal property do . Aur unke apne liye khud kamane do..aur maa baap ki jimmedari dono ko brabar nibhane do.. na bete ko pressure karo social responsibility akele handle karne ke liye na bahu ek khun piyo .but ye ideal situation hai.. mostly cases mein beta atm machine hota hai.. uspar social and financial jimmedari daal di jati hai .. aur agar beti ka sasural accha hai .uske pas khud ki property hai to kya dikkat..jaise meri SIL ko uske pati ne uske naam se ghar lekar diya hai.. aur dusri taraf maine khud flat book Kiya hai 85 lac ka loan liya hai khud se..uspar bhi in laws jealous ho rhe hai.. ki mere naam se kyun hai.. matlab main bhi kamakar unko hi dun.. isn't it unfair?
@@Peaceisgod577overall family is not good I can say. Sab sabka sochne lage to kaisa hoga? No love no responsibility
Best. We need more like this😢😢😢😢😢😢
Superr video..... Your videos bring so much awareness that is hidden behind the veil in the name of customs & traditions.... Thank you.
sir apke videos ne bahut kalesh nipta diye hai.....thank you
Superb observation and another eye opener 👍👍
Pata nahi kal ka khud ka khana ka paisa hoga ki nahi future mein.....lekin shadi mai pata nahi kya kharcha karwana hota hai
Chusi hui imli pe bhi banao guruji ..
Aap ke video aache hote hai. Ek dam sahi baat batate hai.
Absolutely true. Yahan parents apni khokli shaan dikhane ke liye shaadi me 1000ron guest bulate hain. Due to this person who is getting married especially son have to take unnecessary loans.
Ur talk is really good...but the acting is superb....
Mere mama kafi smart hai kuch ganne chalak hote hai.
Shadi se pehle hi unhone apne honeymoon k pese jod liye aur shadi ka kharcha mere nana ne uthaya aur chhoti behn ki shadi mai bhi mama ne kuch nahi diya vo bhi nana ne kharcha kiya.
Phir 10 saal tak ghar k emi mama ne bhare aur ghar unka ho gaya lekin down payment aur 10 saal tak ka ghar chalane ka pura kharcha mere nana ne diya tha mama mami nana nani aur mamu k 2 bachhe. Sab ka 10 saal ka ghar ka kharcha nana ne diya. Phir pata chala mama ne apna dusra ghar bhi bana liya hai with land. Car sab ho gaya unka 10 saal tak saving ki aur free mai baby sitting karvaya ma baap se. Aur phir jab parents budhhe ho gaye to vo apne new ghar mai chale gaye dono ghar unke naam pe.
Mere nana ko ghar khali karo esa bolte the mere mama. Very cheap thinking. Jab hospital mai zarurat thi to nahi aaye.
Halaki sir jo bol rahe hai vo sahi hai. Par kuch case mai parents chuse hue ganne ban jaate hai.
Uncle... You are amazing!!
My parents spent 50% amount in gold in my marriage though its an asset. What wrong in it? Kindly explain i mean it's better any other fisool kharch in shaadi
Aapke ache h bhai mapa
Sukr kro❤❤❤
There are other investments with better ROI than gold. Spending 50 % on any asset is good, but investing around 99% would be even better 😅
@@BacchizAdventures got it
@@BacchizAdventuresGold is the best stable investment.. next best investment is real estate.. jaake duniya dekho aur seekho phir yahan gyan batna..
Sir , parents ye kaam sirf ladke ke sath hi nahi karte, vo ladki ke sath bhi kar rahe hai. Aajkal padhi likhi job karne vaalk beti ka paisa le ke khhud ka ghar banva rahe hai. Aur soney ke ande dene vaali ladki ki shaadi isi liye nahi karva rahe. 1950 ke baad ke parents ne ye plan bana rakha hai.
Ladka ho ya ladki sabse fayeda uthana.aur aapsa me bhai bahan ko ladvana. Baad me isi vajah se spouse se bhi rishte kharab.
Haan ye ho raha h
Sahi me ho raha hai
Such a good episode
Amazing, excellent service sir
You are right 👍 Sir great video
It is really true story 😁
Thankyou sir itna honestly real issues pe baat karne ke liye
Guruji you are avery wise person
Sir aap ladko ke favour wali video bhi banaiye.... jisse boys family ko dhyan dene wali baate pata chale
लड़के के मां बाप झूठ बहुत बोलते है खासकर संपत्ति को लेकर । और लड़की वाले की मानसिकता ये होती है की शादी के बाद लड़का अलग हो जाए और अपने परिवार से सभी संबंध तोड़ ले । दोनो ही गलत है 😢😢
Jaise ladki wale kanyadan karte hai waise hi beta dan karna padega tabhi ghar basta hai.
In-laws ke saath jub ladki ko dukh ke siwa kuch nahi milta to kyu rahe. Jo ladka apne maa baap ko chodd sakta hai jaise ladkiya karti hai wo shadi kare varna maa baap ke hi saath rahe
Alag rehna matlab sambandh todna nahi hota...
@@Raythelightlifei agree maine face kiya hai yeh sab aur bhut jyaada.
Ladki
Naa baap se alag hoke kya Bhool jaati hai unko?
@@raspberrypaper3562 bhulti nahi hai lekin agalg to rehti hai na..waise hi aadmiyo ko bhi alag rehna chahiye.yaad karte rehna par saath nahi rehna chahiye
Sir, what is law of karma ? Can you explain with practical examples . Nice video btw and is equally applicable to girls in some scenarios .
Please make a video on real life problem single lady at home has too many responsibilities to handle one office to vegetables from the market three kitchen for kids housekeeping servants guest parties personal life problems holidays mental issues emotional issues and the list goes on any solution for me a bloody can support another lady means at least two ladies at the home can share the responsibility
Now what can chusa hua ganna can do?
You are Right ✅️ 😢
Aapka IQ aur EQ dono ek no.❤
Sir make a video for those who lost spouse due to unfortunate incident and wants to resettle...
What is the points to look into it ....
Sango ji, kafi saal pehle, main chusa hua ganna reh chuka hoon.
Itna haal bura tha ki 2nd hand bike mein ₹100 ka petrol daalte phat jaati thi, jab ki main bade multinational corporate mein acche post pe tha...
लोग ये देख रहे हैं की लड़के की सैलरी के अलावा प्रॉपर्टी कितनी है?
कहीं मां बाप के नाम प्रॉपर्टी तो नहीं वरना डाइवोर्स के बाद क्या मिलेगा?
कहीं होम लोन एजुकेशन लोन या कार लोन तो नहीं है?
Cibil score kitna hai?
और फिर लोग इस बात पर भी ज्ञान देंगे की दहेज एक कुप्रथा क्यों है।
बड़ा ही दोहरा व्यवहार है😂
Aisa nahi hai..mere case mein kuch nahi dekha na maa baap ki income thi na property bas ladka public sector mein tha jo ki main bhi hun..but shayad ye bahut badi galti thi.. unke kharche..unke shauk..aur unki beti ki jimmedari puri krte karte mere husband ne 10 saal ki kamai brabar kar di.. and maine ab ek flat book Kiya hai khud loan lekar..shayad aisi life tum khud apni bahan ke liye nahi chahoge..
@@User6m7-112 mere kahne ka tark sirf itna tha ki jo v do log shadi k rishte me bandhne wale hain wo dono milkar apne aage ki jindagi ki jimmedari lein. main v ek student hu aur loan se padhai kar rha hu , main aage future me apne liye dahej ki chaah nahi rakhta aur na hi iska samarthan karta hu. badle me main v apne partner se yahi chahunga ki wo sirf mere paise nahi balki mere gun avgun v dekhe.
Umeed hai behen aap meri baat samjhi hongi baki main meri kosis kisi ko thes pahuchane ki nhi thi
Shubham Gaur wali video bahot sahi hai.
Maza hi maza 😂
guruji... aap hasate bahot ho... chuse huve ganne bahot ghoom rahe hai market mein... lol lol lol...
Guru ji 😂😂😂😂😂 kya tagline inkale hai.....awsmmmmmmmm
All videos are eye opening 🙏 Guruji kya aap jo market main Andhvishwas wale baba hai or ye tantra wali podcast hai unhe kaise dhekhte hai aap kitni sach hai kitna nhi plz tell us from ur perspective🙏
लड़कों को शादी के सारे खर्चे करना बिल्कुल बंद कर देने चाहिए क्योंकि आजकल शादी जीवन भर नहीं चलती। ना ही लड़किया इस योग्य है।
सीधा कोर्ट मैरिज करो बात खत्म।
Bilkul sir jee Practical soch rako. GAZAB KEE VIDEO BANATE HO . LAGE RAHO ❤❤❤❤
This is so true 😮 happened with my sister
Amazing ❤
Kuch din phle meri 2 friends ne ye problem discuss Kia tha un dono ka financially bura haal h due to multiple loans no savings n in-laws k sath hi rhna padr rha h
aaj ye video dekh k lga ki sach bol re ho bhot badi problem h ye
Sir ji aap ne samaj ki dukhti rag pe hath rakh diya🙃🙂👍🏻🌟
Bura haal h samaj ka🕳️Black hole h or sabhi Esme ghuse ja rhe h khiche ja rhe h
Okay bye bye tata tata ho rha h sabhi ka😂
Thank You so very much sir✨😊
Khud hi karlo shaadi bina maa baap k
Itne matlabi maa baap hote toh pata chalta..
True topic videos 😊
Mera Neighbour same he .. ! bichare ke 2 ghar and 2 car ka EMI chal rahe he
You are best guru ji ❤
New topic: as a 41 old man with wife and 2 kids whether I should keep living in house in gated colony or shift to a society flat. Which option is better for family?
Please make a video for those who are already in govt job
Guruji you are Great
Sirji apni shaadi mein maine hi paise lgaye rhe and when I said k ye nahi ayega ye wo nahi ayega then my father was like phir main nahi aunga agr ye sab nahi aaye toh.
Bas phir kya tha, paisa mera aur marzi unki 😂
आपने कहा 2-2.5 लाख के drones से recording ki जाती है। Correct me if I'm wrong.
Guruji, can you make a video on how to avoid being a choosa hua ganna, especially when you have controlling parents in every area of life.
Ekdum sahi baat kahi
How not to be victim of heinous crimes.....???? Guruji from gurugram.
Earn enough and arrange a private security service
😊@@shubhamjoshi8762
Guruji aap dono side khelte hain, jaise do billi butter aur bandar weigh machine asal aap kiski taraf hain? Ungli kidhar hain apki?
My father is chusaa hua gana ,its sad