*"The problem isn't that Johnny can't read. The problem isn't even that Johnny can't think.* *The problem is that Johnny doesn't know what thinking is. He confuses it with feeling."* _- Thomas Sowell_
i like the video, the problem is justice DOES requiring blaming not just yourself ... but bad actors ... our justice system no longer does that .............. that's a huge problem .... democracy and capitalism fail with a low morality society ... THAT'S THE WORLDS PROBLEM .... always has been
@@hardworker5588 a sign of maturity is being able to discern where the real problem lies. The point is to KNOW where blame is to be placed, if it is truly not oneself, then through discernment the source of the problem can be found.
@@TheLoscla05 --- I agree . . . lemme put it this way . . . our courts view ALL women as more virtuous than ALL men . . . women aren't stupid, they know this. They know that lying doesn't get you arrested if you are female. And if you are arrested, you ain't gonna get anything but a slap on the wrist from the courts. This is what I meant by a society with ethics challenges. BTW, the same exact thing can be said about people with wealth. You can buy your way out of punishment most of the time. THESE THINGS ARE MAJOR ISSUES that make people cynical and then angry and then eventually, societal collapse.
Do not pray for an easy life, pray for the strength to endure a difficult one -Bruce Lee Edit: Okay, it would seem some people takes the pray part WAAAY too seriously. As someone nicely put it, it's about "not to taking the easy path, but learn to endure the hard path".
Yes it's sad that we've come to the point were common sense and morality , not to mention decency and respect for ourselves and others are rare qualities .
I don't think most down vote people watch what they're disagreeing with. I believe they downvote based on the platform. If this was a leftist website they would be more likely to agree with it. On PragerU? Gotta downvote. Silly and shallow behavior to base your opinion merely on the platform rather than on its message.
Sadly what's supposed to be common sense and should be widely known is not anymore. Its come to an era where if you criticise a person for example on their behaviour or actions, and said person happens to be of darker akin color, or a different religion or culture, you're the bad guy for criticising their actions, not them for making a mistake in the first place. It's controversial in the sense that if you're part of a certain group, be it race, religion, culture, ethnicity, even a political standing or ideology, you may not have to take responsibility for your actions. You may not have to answer to any of your mistakes no matter how bad and morally wrong they are.
It is a mirror held to immature people. They are bound to be upset by the image it presents. Do you think they would lash out at themselves, or the one holding the mirror?
Don't know about "all", but I've never used media before son gave me this phone last Chrismas. Raising 2 grankids 13&4 I spend hours weekly waiting in line at school dropping off & picking up. Watching science videos and reading comments is better than staring out car window or trying to talk to 4 yr old asleep in back seat. Don't understand all animosity&name calling. As some love to bring Bible quotes into it how about this one.(paraphrased) The man who calls his brother a fool, is a fool himself. Applies to the ladies, too, of course. I ADIMIT TO BEING ONE MYSELF. As all of us are, but have a certain contempt for those who won't. As we said in the 1960s: Peace Out Man.
landon vinyard my dad is from Minnesota and he use ‘matoore’ whereas my mom is from California and she says ‘matchure.’ Could it be a regional thing? I’ve never thought about it!
The burden which you can bear without losing mental balance. If i have a job which is fairly easy i would get bored if it's too tough then i can't do it. Responsibility brings fulfillment.
It's pronounced that way in many areas of the country. Just as the word "creek" is pronounced "crek" & "car" is pronounced "cah" . Sad people are focusing on something so ridiculous when it should be common knowledge of dialects & accents. The message is On Point & maybe those who were busy laughing should listen again.... they might learn something.
@@GetOverIt75 There is a difference between what is correct and normal. If he is used to pronouncing it another way, then it can be off-putting to hear what the correct pronunciation is. I don't have a background in linguistics but I imagine it to be similar in theory to how the British spell "colour" versus the american "color".
It’s all about fine tuning the message. Would actually make for an interesting experiment to see if the video were to be reshot and simply changed the pronunciation of that one word would it result in a more effective learning experience.
@@DomainAspect Good advice to yourself. People like you complain about everything and tell others to grow up. Seems very smart and advanced... sad but true
And not relate to your kids? I think it's more like time to remember what your childhood was like or at least try talking to kids with their parents because if you can't do that, you're not ready for kids
Fun idea: Before the Victorian age children did not adore their children or fawn over them. They were part of the family and were there to help the family survive and maybe thrive. Boys worked hard, no - real hard, and girls were given dowry to hopefully go up.
@@TheRadioAteMyTV You mean they considered them nothing more than tools? They're people too! At least they were taught how to do things or at least I hope so
and perspective. It does no good for somebody to try to "Just take responsibility" alone if they can't even perceive the situation they are in. They are likely to be manipulated and exploited for their predictable behavior without perspective to better navigate said responsibility.
It might as well be watered down Jordan Peterson. The more I actually learn about the subjects Prager discusses the less I find it valuable at all, they are so concerned with making these videos digestible for a young audience the videos always just strike me as insultingly simple. Young people may not be the smartest but they can handle taking their mental training wheels off if only for short bursts.
"When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things. For now we see in a mirror, dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part, but then I shall know just as I also am known. And now abide faith, hope, love, these three; but the greatest of these is love." 1 Corinthians 13:11-13
Yanuardila Liwang According to Scripture Love is the greatest evidence of maturity. That is unconditional, sacrificial, love. Which is the love Jesus demonstrated by freely offering his life in the place of sinners. He said this, “greater love has no one than this ... that one lay down his life for his friends...” Come to Jesus Christ to know this love.
Here is something every college student needs to hear: “If you can't take a little bloody nose, maybe you ought to go back home, and crawl under your bed. It's not safe out here! It's wondrous...with treasures to satiate desires both subtle and gross; but it's not for the timid.” - Gene Roddenberry Edit: This reply section got out of hand real fast, Yes I know John De Lancie was speaking from a script and no I don't really believe that Q (fictional character) exists. The point is the message being delivered is important.
@The Icon of Sin Nonsense; get with the times, bro. Marxism and Communism are big threats. Republicans aren't the only ones who can make serious mistakes.
I did try to grow up, it was called the US Army! Loaded guns in my face, punches, forced to stay awake for a whole 2 weeks with only 2 hours of sleep per night! Then they kicked me out, got a job, things were going okay, but didn't get paid good, so couldn't afford practically anything. Didn't have enough to buy a house so went from apartment to house to townhouse on leases with roomies. Then I got in bad credit situation, was scammed too, and basically it just killed most of my motivation to do practically anything. Tell that congressman's son who got a full ride to Harvard how easy it was to grow up before I get this video again. Growing up is expensive!
Yeah, sorry for you my dude. You gotta go through all that just to have some high-class toilet-brain tell you to grow up. I guess conservatism and psychology don't mash that well.
Sounds like something else a wise man once wrote: But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. Galatians 5:22-24 They're all important. But that last one especially, self-control, is vital to maturity.
Yes. Self-control is so important, but to tell the truth, it's kindness that keeps coming to my mind. Is it really a kind thing to do? Haunts me. Ooooo who's being led by the spirit now?
@@tealicecream actually it's scientifically, historically, and logically sound. I've been studying it for years and it's constantly been proven verifiable by multiple sources. If you'd like more evidence, I have some books I can recommend.
@@ashleypenn7845 God's perfect wisdom has always lead to good. Which is why we must live by them, and preach them to all the nations. Live by the gospel, preach the gospel.
It should, however, several public schools changed their curriculum lately and not in a conducive way. Unfortunately, these days you would see more neo-Marxist indoctrination than useful life lessons. They produce the mobs that violently shut down campus speakers and the language police who enshrine into law the use of fabricated gender pronouns. If the true believers of the radical left become the professors of today, you have a serious issue in the future.
@@GabrielTobing, sounds like your stuffing down your emotions. Letting logic inform your emotions means looking at the bigger picture and letting go of what you want because it's not logically possible. Think of it this way. Right now I want to by a house. I can't because I don't have the resources. So letting logic inform my emotions looks like this. I can't by it now, so I let go of the idea of buying now and replace with a goal to do so later. I plan to fulfill that goal by setting aside a small amount of my resources on a schedule that will make the goal attainable in a reasonable amount of time. This means that I take the time necessary to save the resources make moderate sacrifices to do so. I plan for setbacks emotional by recognizing the will come and delay my plan and by being willing to stretch out/modify my plan as necessary. Ultimately, I will win because I don't let emotions override my plan.
Saw this as an Ad. Stayed till the end, came here to find the video and save it. This advice helps with everything. My business, my relationship with my family, and societies views on my persons. I started sitting at the table eating with the family. Wasn’t easy, but it was overdue. I use to coward away from such things, not realizing that doing such a thing could actually have a negative affects on my families psyche. I’m mature now. It’s great feeling, but sometimes overwhelming because you wish the best for everyone and hope that we all can understand life at this level.
A mature person takes on responsibilities, not obligations. Responsibility implies a mutual benefit. Obligation is to honor a responsibility in which the other party has changed their position. 'Obligation' is the 'guilt trip' manifested in a cultural form.
Really think about how both terms are used. When someone says, "it's your responsibility!" - it is always in response to you not holding up your end of a social transaction. When someone shouts, "you're obligated!" - they are communicating you owe to some noble social purpose to keep doing something to which you are getting nothing out of. - Words are important. Definitions matter.
@@eliford9826 You pose an interesting observation. People follow higher purposes due to callings from inner morality. An obligation is a forced duty, coming from a worldly external force. - That's the difference, and why 'obligations' aren't 'higher purposes'. - The same world that throws 'obligation' in your face, is most often the same world that would resent you for a 'higher purpose'. - Obligation is a 'serve the herd' construct. And higher purposes almost always rattle the herd.
@@coupage2836 I have no doubt logic is as foreign to you as Martian. - "we are all now dumber for having read your posts." You are the 1st person, in decades of being online, that I have seen copy that line and post it as if its original and clever. So... you got that going for you.
@@eliford9826 I hear you. I'm sure all logical thinkers are in the same boat. Inner morality dictates you will have obligations to it. But when people talk "obligations" like he is, they always are referring to some social duty that blows, and is more than likely antiquated. Hence, why they have to tug at your emotions to achieve your participation. - It's quite fitting that he used marriage as the example. And I'd bet he knows there's a difference between the words; and he specifically used "obligation" knowing damn well fellas aren't getting married BECAUSE there's nothing in it for them. lol - Be prepared for "obligation" to replace "responsibility" in all rhetoric. Left and right.
"I can't imagine anything we could possible strive for in our society that would make it into hell faster than 'Equality of Outcome'." ~Jordan Peterson
I don’t think there is anyone on any level of the political spectrum that believe in equality of outcome, it’s all about equality of opportunity here, the point of contention is that people on the right tend to believe we already have that
Idk, maybe a massive climate crisis that causes wide spread weather disasters, floods, drought, fires, famine, mass displacement, distraction of homes and infrastructure, loss of lives and untold human suffering... Oh what's that? We all need to clean our rooms before we can do anything about it? Okay Daddy Peterson, great plan, why don't you go on another benzo binge and leave this one to the kids?
You can see from the comments that a lot of people don’t even know what maturity is, but then again I am 65 years old. Life has a way of growing you up.
A lot of comments discussing the subjects in this video are auto deleted within 30 to 60 seconds by TH-cams censorship. If they can control language, they can control thought. They are after the thought criminals.
i dont find it hard to believe that prager u has trouble finding a therapist with high ratings who will push their agenda. seems like any therapist with a brain would turn away from a video like this.
Though he may be a scam artist, I do agree with quite a few of the things that he says in this video, taking responsibility for one's actions is a big part of growing up. If people just kept blaming others for their actions nothing would bloody get done, and similar statements apply to the other statements made here.
@@bobwilliam3545 Yeah, that's true. I wasn't defending him lol, I'm just saying that what he's saying is right, not that it's anything new or revolutionary.
Isn’t containing emotions immature? I understand that there’s a place and time for everything, but shouldn’t people be able to stand up for themselves? If you’re in an environment where you’re being mistreated, you owe it to yourself to let others know you have rights, you cannot allow people to think they can mess with you just for the sake of being “in control of your emotions”. A mature thing to do would be to voice your issues.
Bottling up your emotions is immature, but containing them is mature. You should aim to only release your emotions when you need to. If someone pulls a gun on you are you going to lash out at them? No, you are going to keep your emotions to yourself to avoid getting shot.
Almost a hundred people watched the first three seconds and decided they didn't like the video. If only they realized it was actually made JUST FOR THEM
Some people keeps acting innappropriately time after time again, and I don't think it's immatue to get enough and say STOP (acting out) in a firm manner from time to time. Being polite and patient is not the same as weakness!!
*Conservatives when someone says Happy Holidays:* NOOOO YOU MUST SAY MERRY CHRISTMAS REEE *Conservatives when minorities want equality:* Idk bro just grow up lol
@@Cuzican8071 You people are ridiculous. Conservatives don't care if you say happy holidays or Merry Christmas. We don't like it when other people try to tell us we can't say Merry Christmas because it offends people. You people really need to grow up. You make up so much crap about conservative people to paint them as horrible monsters when in reality you are the one blinded by your hatred of them.
The comment section is revealing. These 5 standards of maturity are true psychological states to attain. But few people are successful in fully attaining them. Fewer still are willing to rise to the challenge. The comments section clearly illustrates the latter.
I suppose a good analogy for the comment section is "empty barrels ring the loudest." Be mindful of that, and you can learn to consciously soften the excess noise. As well, text is not a form of direct communication we're designed to use.
Also keep in mind TH-cam censors a lot of comments. It's difficult to discuss subjects in this video without the comments getting auto deleted 30seconds to a minute later.
@@Bopperann I'm sure people can adequately discuss it in a calm, respectful manner without using expletives and/ or personal invectives, if they so choose. We are doing so. And our comments aren't being deleted.
“Everyone wants to believe they’re chosen, but if we all waited around for a prophecy to make us special, we’d die waiting, and that’s why you need to choose yourself.” - Eda Clawthorne, The Owl House
2 star, but when people have already bought the narrative of us living in a perfect meritocracy that should go unchanged it becomes impossible for them to escape the propaganda loop
Take responsibility for things completely outside of your control and forced upon you is mature but fighting to change those things to make a better world is immaturity
Nicholas Meyer Holding up a paper sign isn't going to stop global climate warming change. But you can clean up your neighborhood and do well in work/school. You can donate your time and volunteer.
I wouldn't agree about "containing" emotions, but more learning how to heal trauma to learn emotional balance within self. Different people have different abilities and can't maintain inner emotional balance based on what they've learned in their lives. Emotional intelligence takes a lot of building and commitment. 🙏🏻
Im 22 now still live at home with my pops. I have not gone to college yet. I need to grow up. I recently became a consecutive or officially anyways lol. I grew up with what my dad showed me and it was all wrong. It always felt off and there were so many holes in all the logic. I want to go to college get married have kids a house ETC I have to Branch out and take a leap of faith. I am almost ready
I'm 23 and still live with my parents, too. I'm glad you already learned you need to grow up, like I learned. Trust me, what you need is to learn a trade and stay out of university, dude. Seriously. I already left college and I couldnt even stand to finish my second year without nearly going insane from the revisionist history and other subtle indoctrination. Tons of debt already. Im supposed to start working with a plumber/electrician friend of mine who wants to teach me to take over his business, if COVID ever let's up, that is... Start networking, man. That's how it happens, and I will pray for you to succeed!
Planning to move out to the states at 21 to complete a Business degree, get an employment based green card and become US citizen! I’m aware it will be difficult, but the American dream is never guaranteed. The only guarantee I have is the pursuit.
@@CJamgochian I tell my kids and their friends that all the time. I got married at 19 (NOT bc I was pregnant I just knew this was "the one my soul loves") neither one of us went to college just trade school. We have 5 kids (although we help take care of our kids friends too... you would be surprised how many teenagers are walking around without either parent), we're considered upper middle class, nice house, we are extremely fortunate BUT neither one of us have that horrible college debt! We'll be married 19 yrs on Halloween. I'm pretty sure not having all that debt was a big factor in keeping our marriage. Debt can make a person/marriage crumble if you allow it! NOTHING'S perfect and a lot of times not even close BUT the fight to keep it together is TOTALLY worth it! Good luck on your trade! Your on the right track! ❤🛐❤🛐❤✝️
@@CJamgochian as far as collage debt I am ok. I am mixed with native American and I can basically get in free. It's sad that I can get a free pass in life but Ile take what I can get. Ile give it a year and see where my mental state is at
This video came on as I was looking for the remote to hit SKIP but couldn’t find it for 5 minutes and after hearing a few words of this message i sat down and started to listen closely to the video and it was meant for me during what I’m going through. What good timing!! Thank you.
"When I was a child, I used to speak as a child, to think as a child, to reason as a child; but now that I have become a man, I have done away with the traits of a child." - 1 Corinthians 13:11
Ezekiel 23:20-21 20 There she lusted after her lovers, whose genitals were like those of donkeys and whose emission was like that of horses. 21 So you longed for the lewdness of your youth, when in Egypt your bosom was caressed and your young breasts fondled.[a]
@@toericabaker dang, yup that's in the bible. The bible is describing you leftists, thats how you leftists are. Its exposing how perverted you leftists are!!!
It can take 50 SECONDS to get over the first 20 years IF you care enough and haven't been told repeatedly what a helpless hopeless hapless victim you are. All you need to do is identify a belief that is holding you back by asking yourself "Is this true?" You can't assume that just because you believe it, that means something is true.
@@amax1229 A man shall be able to pronounce the word of his knowledge, not be incapable of correctly saying the very thing this 5min video is about. Even worse if the man in question has speaked English for what seems to be over 60 years... Questioning a man's lack of knowledge isn't immatooooority, speaking out against those who do is the way of the left-wing.
A psychiatrist, telling someone to CONTAIN their emotions is one of thee worst possible things you could ever advise to any person. That is literally coping 101. You should NEVER do that. MAYBE in a professional setting where you dont have much of a choice, and even then, that is still toxic to your own mental health. As a mature person, you are supposed to CONTROL your emotions, or at the very least, control your actions that follow afterwords, not bottle them up as if they aren't happening. Recognizing that you are feeling a certain way, accepting it, and taking steps to minimize the severity of what might come as a result is what a mature person does. Even if you recognize your emotions but chose to contain them, often warrants for some very dishonest communication skills. They do something to help them relax, they write, they COPE with the problem, they talk about it. They don't ignore them, or bottle them up, or however you would like to put it and then explode as a result. When you are faced with a difficult situation that is centered around gauging your emotions properly when responding to someone or something, containing your emotions can be very dangerous because you are not doing anything to minimize it internally, and thus conditioning yourself to ignore them. This guy is SEVERELY out of touch and needs his licence revoked. Its no wonder he has a 1.9/5 rating. Good lord what a mess.
This is why Christianity is inherently right wing. God directly commands us subvert institutions when we grow up. If the government legalizes something evil, does that mean that you should do it?
I’ve been living this way my whole life. I’m a wildly successful man who retired before 50 and have total freedom. I was always responsible and worked hard.
@@thegipper6535 yeah sure not literal inheritance like from a family member's will or something, but that's not the only way to benefit from the position of your parents. I am extremely doubtful that any rags to riches story ended with retirement before 50
(I'm watching it for the second time.) There are several issues with this video; one of them is that it takes being mature as an intrinsic good, which I don't agree with. For example, acknowledging your mistakes to other people is good because it promotes better relations with them (and this presumably will make you happier), but not because it contributes to your being an idealized version of a mature person. In general, his focus on "being more mature" or "growing up" is the main problem. He should focus instead on the real benefits or advantages of living your life or behaving in certain ways. If he happened to be my therapist and if he took this same approach in theray as well I'd be very disappointed.
My only reservation is that I have BPD, which is also known as Emotional Regulation Disorder. I struggle to contain my emotions without being flat & cold. I’m not using it as an excuse and yet I am. I am taking this video as a sign I need to do better so I can live my best life and make a contribution to society.
Some of this I agree with and some I do not. I found it curious that at 1:05 the video uses a game board and its random dice throw when it talks about controlling how life unfolds. We each have lives full of decisions, but out of our control is the access to the ingredients that go into making the most wise decisions.
That's the trick. Finding ways around a situation out of your control. Not to give up even when you feel powerless or are powerless. At least that's what I could understand from it.
@@chocobossxii9457 You do not seem to understand what is meant by "out of your control". It goes to a person's both current and past environment as well as a person's innate psychological make-up.
@@jimm.1013 Your environment (past and current) and your psychological make-up will never force you to do something. They might make something easier or harder for you to do, but they will never be the things taking the action or making the choice. You choose what you do today. That's what you have control over, yourself, your actions, and ultimately your outcomes.
@@kennethjones3768 Your environment, past and present, and your genetically composed psychological make-up are the ingredients that determine how a person makes his choices. And those ingredients are out of the control of the person.
@Cool Dude Imagine if everyone around you kept calling you a woman or called you by the wrong name. You'd be very upset by that, right? Misgendering anyone is psychologically harmful to them. Knowingly doing it constitutes harassment. You would want your workplace to have standards of conduct and to enforce them so that you don't get harassed, right?
Cool Dude refusing to do something that someone is asking of you politely kinda makes you a dick. It’s not like trans people get offended if you nudge see them at the first meeting. They’ve likely asked you during a greeting or a later conversation and you chose to disregard them.
@Cool Dude Refuse to "teach the controversy" in evolutionary biology, and the religious right will claim to be oppressed by the education system. Vaguely imply a character is gay in a cartoon, and the far right will claim this is indoctrinating children. Say happy holidays, and it is taken as an attack on Christmas. Suggest that capitalism in its current form has some flaws, and you are labeled as a communist. Complain about systemic issues, and they tell you that you just aren't MATOOR enough, and should ignore these issues. Yes, both sides have cancer, but the right has a lot more cancer than you might think they do. They are not the lesser of two evils.
I compare this with my current situation of having difficulty in getting a job in the career I want to do for the rest of my life, the interviews I had were all in failure, but I did not fault the interviewees in not see me as the perfect applicant. Instead, I asked them for feedback and I learnt more about what type of person they want and which factors I lacked to discuss. I am slowly figuring out what type of person they want, what they want to hear more of and which companies are more suitable for me. Most importantly, I am learning more about myself and I am not giving up.
@APassersby If PragerU lets them speak on their platform, then PragerU endorses them and their views. Hence the members and participants of PragerU are hypocrites like that.
Absolutely! However, even adults slip sometimes. Covid really pushed my patience to the ultimate level. I have to remind myself everyday to take a deep breath and get grounded before tackling the problem at hand.
same thing happens with other words as well like "crayons". focus on the word and say it correctly and it just sounds wrong because we English speakers are lazy and butcher words so much that the wrong way sounds right.
@@Itchy_Ninja_Go So true. I had been noticing that trend for a long time, but it totally crystallized for me when my daughter was first learning to write and spell words. I walked past the refrigerator and she had used the magnets to spell "budderfly"
The majority of people these days mature somewhere in their 20s or maybe early 30s. A small amount mature early in their teens & a few people NEVER mature. When maturity is reached, appreciation for conservative ideas naturally occurs. People start caring more about family, law and order, appreciation for history & self governance. It is easy to see that maturity is directly linked to political leanings, mature people tend to be more conservative or on the right end of the spectrum and immature people tend to be left leaning. I know this is true because I lived it myself. When I finally matured in my late 20s, I naturally became more conservative, in my early 20s I was a left leaning, bernie supporting democrat that although thought he knew everything, was actually pretty ignorant to history & the entire reality of the democRAT party. If you really want to red pill someone, just help them mature.
5 characteristics of maturity: 1. taking control 2. taking responsibility 3. containing your emotions 4. having perspective 5. achieving deep understanding
@@brettwiedel3544 In todays time it's not about the truth anymore but whose truth rather. It's really sad honestly. The truth has been reduced to it being just an opinion or you just being racist, bigoted, white supremacist, xenophobic, transphobic, all sorts of phobic etc. People can't reason like adults anymore
@@brettwiedel3544 It isn't. But the way it is presented is. The video about framing, which only gives examples of "the left" using framing, for example, which this channel made, is factually pretty alright as far as I can remember, but it clearly has a political agenda. Also, I don't think that PragerU always tells the truth, but I'm too lazy to provide any examples. This second part may be untrue and I acknowledge that, so don't try arguing against it
1and 5 are ok, the others are outdated and don't work anymore. If you dont alibi and blame others, you will be unnemployed so fast, you may not blame others, but the others will always blame you, keep that in mind. Aside from a job, you dont need any other obligation, it doesnt make you mature, it makes you stressed and lacking money, as matter of fact, you will basically live to fulfill them, as far as I know we have just one life, and the least way I wanna spend it is living for others, because if that hold you back, then there is no other way to call it but burdens Expressing emotions is whatever, you can express whenever you want as long as you are willing to accept the consequences.
I really needed to hear the one about containing emotions. It’s a really important point that people cannot be emotionless but rather control when they show their emotion.
Age old saying, people are people. No one size fits all, as long as people disagree with each other on what is what things will remain divided. The key is to get as many people to realise the rights and wrongs as possible.
This feels, ironic because this year when I turned 21 I went through the worst moments of my, I became broken and refused help from anyone. But long story short, I picked up the pieces and built myself a new, as man not just physically but finally, mentally. I speak from harsh experience and those goes out to all the young adults out there; when the time comes for you to grow up and become a man, you will be at the worst state in your life. You will suffer greatly, the most you will ever in your life and you will be broken, stepped over and driven to your absolute emotional and mental peak but if your strong and over come this difficult obstacle you will become a new you, a man. Nothing in life comes with a sacrifice but with every negative comes a positive and vice versa. Be cautious friends, for that will not be the first time your strength will be tested. Stay strong and prevail, things will get better.
So for everyone who suffers from actual anxiety and panic attacks are immature?? Wow this TH-cam channel is a joke. I’m sorry my brain process information different than yours it’s how I was designed I didn’t choose these chromosomal abnormalities. But go off sis.
You can either man up, accept the reality of things beyond your control and work hard to better yourself or you can curse god and complain life is unfair while refusing to anything to do anything to make it better. Judging by your comment your captaining your own journey straight to misery.
Joe duffy that phrase “man up” is sexist and leads to men having much harder lives due to mental illness by not acknowledging their real emotions. You obviously don’t suffer from anxiety it’s not a “calm down” moment, it’s a panic attack of some sort that is completely out of a persons control. I’m very much in control of my life and I acknowledge I can’t control everything. I just can’t believe this video says something so ridiculous about anxiety which is a real problem people have to take medication for and seek professional help but it’s apparently just immaturity. Like I said. Go off sis.
Joe duffy Or you can get help clinically or from your social support system. Who told you the only options are “man up” or “curse god.” Humans are social animals. Judging from your comment you’ve been lacking that realization for a while.
The message about not being a victim really resonated with me. I realized how immature I was being and I'm ready to move forward and take responsibility, and recognize that other people aren't responsible for my situation. I was a hardcore Trump/MAGA follower who used to blame China and immigrants for my problems. I used to think I was the victim of a war on Christmas. In the past I thought that I was the victim of certain books being in my kid's schools. I used to believe that as an American I was the victim of the election being stolen and the president I voted for not being in office. One time I remember hearing Trump say "“We are all victims. Everybody here. All these thousands of people tonight. They’re all victims. Every one of you.” That was the moment I knew I needed to grow up out of the victim mindset and do the hard work to build a little maturity. I'm happy to say that any time I hear Trump say something like "I'm the most persecuted person in history" I can't help but just laugh. Thank god I've finally taken the advice in this video, and grown up.
*"The problem isn't that Johnny can't read. The problem isn't even that Johnny can't think.*
*The problem is that Johnny doesn't know what thinking is. He confuses it with feeling."*
_- Thomas Sowell_
Are you Johnny? Just kidding....
Have a good day :)
Too much peter pan syndrom
i like the video, the problem is justice DOES requiring blaming not just yourself ... but bad actors ... our justice system no longer does that .............. that's a huge problem .... democracy and capitalism fail with a low morality society ... THAT'S THE WORLDS PROBLEM .... always has been
@@hardworker5588 a sign of maturity is being able to discern where the real problem lies.
The point is to KNOW where blame is to be placed, if it is truly not oneself, then through discernment the source of the problem can be found.
@@TheLoscla05 --- I agree . . . lemme put it this way . . . our courts view ALL women as more virtuous than ALL men . . . women aren't stupid, they know this. They know that lying doesn't get you arrested if you are female. And if you are arrested, you ain't gonna get anything but a slap on the wrist from the courts. This is what I meant by a society with ethics challenges. BTW, the same exact thing can be said about people with wealth. You can buy your way out of punishment most of the time. THESE THINGS ARE MAJOR ISSUES that make people cynical and then angry and then eventually, societal collapse.
'Life can only be understood backwards but it must be lived forwards' - Soren Kierkegaard
Or is it really said by Draagekreik Neros?
So he pretty much said Hind sight is 2020 lol
New favorite quote of the day
“Life has its own hidden forces which you can only discover by living.” -Søren Kierkegaard
Some cultures have a history to learn and understand what´s happening from.
Do not pray for an easy life, pray for the strength to endure a difficult one
-Bruce Lee
Edit:
Okay, it would seem some people takes the pray part WAAAY too seriously. As someone nicely put it, it's about "not to taking the easy path, but learn to endure the hard path".
Praying does absolutely nothing
Amen.
Dont pray for easier lives,pray to be stronger men-John F Kenedy
@Absolute Zero Eh, the strength to take on difficult one.
That's if praying does anything but it doesn't.
Well-said
I think my maturity is being tested when he pronounces mature like "ma - tour"
My tour.
You in the "much-ure" camp, too? Every time he said "mutt-tour," I cringed...
😂😂😂
My maturity is frequently tested when people misspell words like "mature."
More often than not, it fails *miserably.*
@@blairbrown4812 nobody in this thread has though..
"Why are people in PragerU comment sections always quoting random people"
- Thomas Jefferson
It’s true he really said that. I was there.
Lol
Because they are smart and know quotes from people that are relevant to the conversation in the video.
Teenagers love deep quotes.
😂
I don't see what's controversial about this. This is something all people should apply, regardless of political views.
Yes it's sad that we've come to the point were common sense and morality , not to mention decency and respect for ourselves and others are rare qualities .
I don't think most down vote people watch what they're disagreeing with. I believe they downvote based on the platform. If this was a leftist website they would be more likely to agree with it. On PragerU? Gotta downvote. Silly and shallow behavior to base your opinion merely on the platform rather than on its message.
Sadly what's supposed to be common sense and should be widely known is not anymore. Its come to an era where if you criticise a person for example on their behaviour or actions, and said person happens to be of darker akin color, or a different religion or culture, you're the bad guy for criticising their actions, not them for making a mistake in the first place. It's controversial in the sense that if you're part of a certain group, be it race, religion, culture, ethnicity, even a political standing or ideology, you may not have to take responsibility for your actions. You may not have to answer to any of your mistakes no matter how bad and morally wrong they are.
It is a mirror held to immature people. They are bound to be upset by the image it presents. Do you think they would lash out at themselves, or the one holding the mirror?
Well, not to the left though. Personal responsibility is very evil and only a “white thing.” Says the left, sí?
One of my favorite quotes of all time is "Despite what you may have heard, no one owes you anything."
How about the thousands of dollars I lend you?
@@IamAWESOME3980 neither a lender nor a borrower
@@thefuzzypickle8277 how the rent you owe?
You owe an awful lot, however.
@@ianalanneilgrant4626 dont forget the taxes to owe lol.,
I’m getting Jordan Peterson vibes
It feels like something he might say, a message he might give, but the description says it will be a different doctor.
If it was Jordan Peterson I would be so happy. 😭 I miss him.
The Icon of Sin gross misrepresentation but ok
The Icon of Sin your pfp and username tell me everything about you. Seek help.
The Icon of Sin oh god it’s dumb now not to know video games lmao. Get a life kid.
"A mature person doesn't waste away their life in the TH-cam comment section."
Well, I guess we know where we all stand now.
Don't know about "all", but I've never used media before son gave me this phone last Chrismas. Raising 2 grankids 13&4 I spend hours weekly waiting in line at school dropping off & picking up. Watching science videos and reading comments is better than staring out car window or trying to talk to 4 yr old asleep in back seat. Don't understand all animosity&name calling. As some love to bring Bible quotes into it how about this one.(paraphrased) The man who calls his brother a fool, is a fool himself. Applies to the ladies, too, of course. I ADIMIT TO BEING ONE MYSELF. As all of us are, but have a certain contempt for those who won't. As we said in the 1960s: Peace Out Man.
@@johnchandler1687 Hah! Peace out! Man, nobody says that anymore. I wonder why...
Engaging in conversation on a TH-cam comment section isn't all bad
got me
Indeed, comrade.
If you say mature with a hard T, you’re automatically more mature.
If giving pronunciation more importance than the context itself, you’re automatically immature.
@@spongemon1 do you know what a joke is?
@@rumblingend8443 😂😂
I'll try it.
LOL
I was looking for this comment, from about 30 seconds into the video. It's still not finished!
I have never heard a more mature pronunciation of "mature" until now
Yeah , it’s machure
Muhtoore
His pronunciation was very transatlantic. Phonetically I match prefer matchurity.
I thought it was a lisp 😅 I've heard a few other folks pronounce it like that too
landon vinyard my dad is from Minnesota and he use ‘matoore’ whereas my mom is from California and she says ‘matchure.’ Could it be a regional thing? I’ve never thought about it!
"The purpose of life is finding the largest burden that you can bear and bearing it." - Dr. Jordan B. Peterson
Sounds like a great formula for a masochist.
@@TheRadioAteMyTV A masochist gets pleasure from unhealthy pain. Beneficial responsibility is healthy.
The burden which you can bear without losing mental balance. If i have a job which is fairly easy i would get bored if it's too tough then i can't do it. Responsibility brings fulfillment.
@@flowflow6012 COMPLETING responsibility brings fulfillment. Not completing responsibilities makes one despised and suicidal or a tyrant or worse.
@@dherman0001 Fine, but that's not what Peterson said. I stand by my reply to his comment.
I just sat my two sons down and watched this with them
That's wonderful. 😊
Based
I hope you added what he left out, WHY you should mature and the benefits of it, because the video only lays the "lecture" and misery of what to do.
Now THAT is parenting done right!
i mean someone will have to raise the values of my stocks in the future
I have never in my life heard someone pronounce ‘mature’ or ‘maturity’ that way.
It was a thing in the '80s. My friends and I giggled in school when the teachers told us to behave like "ma-toooor" young adults.
It's pronounced that way in many areas of the country. Just as the word "creek" is pronounced "crek" & "car" is pronounced "cah" . Sad people are focusing on something so ridiculous when it should be common knowledge of dialects & accents. The message is On Point & maybe those who were busy laughing should listen again.... they might learn something.
MAGA hasn't removed your brain. Yet.
@@honkyjesuseternal maga hat big bren biden hat smol bren
@@libertybiberty8182 lol you wish
A mature person will ignore the way this guy is pronouncing “mature”
Advice: know a little more about linguistics before making an ignorant comment about linguistics
G Malo Tell me what was ignorant about my comment that was clearly a joke lmao
@@GetOverIt75 There is a difference between what is correct and normal. If he is used to pronouncing it another way, then it can be off-putting to hear what the correct pronunciation is. I don't have a background in linguistics but I imagine it to be similar in theory to how the British spell "colour" versus the american "color".
It’s all about fine tuning the message. Would actually make for an interesting experiment to see if the video were to be reshot and simply changed the pronunciation of that one word would it result in a more effective learning experience.
G Malo Still waiting
It's time to stop setting premiere dates so far in advance.
Yes
@@marcelrows506 no
Grow up
:)
@@DomainAspect Good advice to yourself. People like you complain about everything and tell others to grow up. Seems very smart and advanced... sad but true
Read the script in the description
When I first discovered I was going to be a Dad, the first words out of my mouth were, "I guess it's time to grow up".
And not relate to your kids? I think it's more like time to remember what your childhood was like or at least try talking to kids with their parents because if you can't do that, you're not ready for kids
Link Skywalker, pretty sure that’s what they meant by growing up. Only people who haven’t grown up don’t do what you suggest.
Fun idea: Before the Victorian age children did not adore their children or fawn over them. They were part of the family and were there to help the family survive and maybe thrive. Boys worked hard, no - real hard, and girls were given dowry to hopefully go up.
@@TheRadioAteMyTV You mean they considered them nothing more than tools? They're people too! At least they were taught how to do things or at least I hope so
@@mrs.c1755 Not really. Everyone grows up mentally. It's only a matter of when, and more importantly, how.
This entire video can be summed up by: personal responsibility matters and is the only thing you can do to try and better yourself
and perspective. It does no good for somebody to try to "Just take responsibility" alone if they can't even perceive the situation they are in. They are likely to be manipulated and exploited for their predictable behavior without perspective to better navigate said responsibility.
Benis
It might as well be watered down Jordan Peterson.
The more I actually learn about the subjects Prager discusses the less I find it valuable at all, they are so concerned with making these videos digestible for a young audience the videos always just strike me as insultingly simple. Young people may not be the smartest but they can handle taking their mental training wheels off if only for short bursts.
Or... be MAGA and white doesn't hurt.
"When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things. For now we see in a mirror, dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part, but then I shall know just as I also am known.
And now abide faith, hope, love, these three; but the greatest of these is love." 1 Corinthians 13:11-13
this is the third time I've seen this verse in a week; I'm not a christian, but this is a good one
Yanuardila Liwang According to Scripture Love is the greatest evidence of maturity. That is unconditional, sacrificial, love. Which is the love Jesus demonstrated by freely offering his life in the place of sinners. He said this, “greater love has no one than this ... that one lay down his life for his friends...” Come to Jesus Christ to know this love.
Childish things... like reading the book of fables.
@@piesho It is not a book of fables.
"It took me two years to write this review because my experience was so devastating."
This dude is legendary, he made the forgiveness and resilience videos.
his pronunciation of mature bothers me.
@@kratos.8151 He doesn't say "ma-ture" in the other videos so they're fine
Jacob smith 🎣
Easy to make vids like that when you live a sheltered life. Throw him in the hood or prison and he'll be eating raw meat all day.
@@dama301 What do you mean with that? I would expect somebody to answer with the clown emoji, but this?
Here is something every college student needs to hear:
“If you can't take a little bloody nose, maybe you ought to go back home, and crawl under your bed. It's not safe out here! It's wondrous...with treasures to satiate desires both subtle and gross; but it's not for the timid.” - Gene Roddenberry
Edit: This reply section got out of hand real fast, Yes I know John De Lancie was speaking from a script and no I don't really believe that Q (fictional character) exists.
The point is the message being delivered is important.
To which they might reply: that's so typical of someone on the Q continuum xD
XD
Spot on. Its a dog eat dog world. Be a dog.
@The Icon of Sin At least they weren't burning flags
@The Icon of Sin
Nonsense; get with the times, bro. Marxism and Communism are big threats. Republicans aren't the only ones who can make serious mistakes.
17/08 it's literally my birthday. Dear Dennis, your message was received.
My wife’s also. Cheers.
Ha ha ha ha!!!
Happy Birthday tomorrow then!
Happy birthday my man
HAPPY BIRTHDAY DUDE!!!!! ITS 17/08/2020 RIGHT HERE IN AUSTRALIA!!!!!!
happy old age. it takes longer to recover from milder things.
I did try to grow up, it was called the US Army! Loaded guns in my face, punches, forced to stay awake for a whole 2 weeks with only 2 hours of sleep per night! Then they kicked me out, got a job, things were going okay, but didn't get paid good, so couldn't afford practically anything. Didn't have enough to buy a house so went from apartment to house to townhouse on leases with roomies. Then I got in bad credit situation, was scammed too, and basically it just killed most of my motivation to do practically anything. Tell that congressman's son who got a full ride to Harvard how easy it was to grow up before I get this video again. Growing up is expensive!
Thank you for your service, brother. It takes a lot of guts to work for the military of such a bad country. I hope you find peace in your future.
Damn, sorry for your troubles.
Yeah, sorry for you my dude. You gotta go through all that just to have some high-class toilet-brain tell you to grow up.
I guess conservatism and psychology don't mash that well.
Sounds like something else a wise man once wrote:
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. Galatians 5:22-24
They're all important. But that last one especially, self-control, is vital to maturity.
Yes. Self-control is so important, but to tell the truth, it's kindness that keeps coming to my mind. Is it really a kind thing to do? Haunts me. Ooooo who's being led by the spirit now?
The Bible is bullsh*t
@@tealicecream actually it's scientifically, historically, and logically sound. I've been studying it for years and it's constantly been proven verifiable by multiple sources. If you'd like more evidence, I have some books I can recommend.
Evelyn White yikes 😬
@@ashleypenn7845 God's perfect wisdom has always lead to good. Which is why we must live by them, and preach them to all the nations. Live by the gospel, preach the gospel.
This should be the intro to any college course.
Hell yeah
It should be sooner than that. 12 - 15 used to be the cut off for adulthood, and it seemed to work just fine.
Dennis double hell yeah
It should, however, several public schools changed their curriculum lately and not in a conducive way. Unfortunately, these days you would see more neo-Marxist indoctrination than useful life lessons. They produce the mobs that violently shut down campus speakers and the language police who enshrine into law the use of fabricated gender pronouns. If the true believers of the radical left become the professors of today, you have a serious issue in the future.
@@Misaka-gt5yj I'd rather be subject to Marxist indoctrination rather than Capitalist indoctrination, but that's just me bro.
prageru. Please make a video on the difference between mail-in ballots and absentee ballets
I prefer it when they're not political
That would be a nice 0:00 video
it not a matter of knowing the difference... its what youtube will do if its voiced. sjw police prager with a microscope, hoping to shut it down.
Ultimately, we need to learn how to let logic inform our emotions.
Yep
Have been doing that, but sometimes the emotions break and its a mess after trying to keep it in for years XD
@@GabrielTobing, sounds like your stuffing down your emotions.
Letting logic inform your emotions means looking at the bigger picture and letting go of what you want because it's not logically possible.
Think of it this way. Right now I want to by a house. I can't because I don't have the resources. So letting logic inform my emotions looks like this.
I can't by it now, so I let go of the idea of buying now and replace with a goal to do so later.
I plan to fulfill that goal by setting aside a small amount of my resources on a schedule that will make the goal attainable in a reasonable amount of time. This means that I take the time necessary to save the resources make moderate sacrifices to do so.
I plan for setbacks emotional by recognizing the will come and delay my plan and by being willing to stretch out/modify my plan as necessary.
Ultimately, I will win because I don't let emotions override my plan.
@QS729 , I find most the left let their emotions inform their logic. They get it backwards.
@QS729, true. There is no requirement for backing ones statements with any corroboration in these forums, is there.
I thought I was mature until I realised I was laughing my ass off at "matoor".
roddy hope, no it’s not
Saw this as an Ad. Stayed till the end, came here to find the video and save it.
This advice helps with everything. My business, my relationship with my family, and societies views on my persons.
I started sitting at the table eating with the family. Wasn’t easy, but it was overdue. I use to coward away from such things, not realizing that doing such a thing could actually have a negative affects on my families psyche.
I’m mature now. It’s great feeling, but sometimes overwhelming because you wish the best for everyone and hope that we all can understand life at this level.
A mature person takes on responsibilities, not obligations.
Responsibility implies a mutual benefit.
Obligation is to honor a responsibility in which the other party has changed their position.
'Obligation' is the 'guilt trip' manifested in a cultural form.
Really think about how both terms are used.
When someone says, "it's your responsibility!" - it is always in response to you not holding up your end of a social transaction.
When someone shouts, "you're obligated!" - they are communicating you owe to some noble social purpose to keep doing something to which you are getting nothing out of.
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Words are important.
Definitions matter.
What you are have done is referred to as Psycho Babble and we are all now dumber for having read your posts.
@@eliford9826 You pose an interesting observation.
People follow higher purposes due to callings from inner morality.
An obligation is a forced duty, coming from a worldly external force.
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That's the difference, and why 'obligations' aren't 'higher purposes'.
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The same world that throws 'obligation' in your face, is most often the same world that would resent you for a 'higher purpose'.
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Obligation is a 'serve the herd' construct.
And higher purposes almost always rattle the herd.
@@coupage2836 I have no doubt logic is as foreign to you as Martian.
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"we are all now dumber for having read your posts."
You are the 1st person, in decades of being online, that I have seen copy that line and post it as if its original and clever.
So... you got that going for you.
@@eliford9826 I hear you.
I'm sure all logical thinkers are in the same boat.
Inner morality dictates you will have obligations to it.
But when people talk "obligations" like he is, they always are referring to some social duty that blows, and is more than likely antiquated.
Hence, why they have to tug at your emotions to achieve your participation.
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It's quite fitting that he used marriage as the example.
And I'd bet he knows there's a difference between the words; and he specifically used "obligation" knowing damn well fellas aren't getting married BECAUSE there's nothing in it for them. lol
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Be prepared for "obligation" to replace "responsibility" in all rhetoric.
Left and right.
"I can't imagine anything we could possible strive for in our society that would make it into hell faster than 'Equality of Outcome'." ~Jordan Peterson
This Jordan Peterson sounds like a guy I wouldn’t take seriously
I don’t think there is anyone on any level of the political spectrum that believe in equality of outcome, it’s all about equality of opportunity here, the point of contention is that people on the right tend to believe we already have that
@@T00THY_0RiFiCE You obviously have no idea who Jordan Peterson is do you?
"Hi, I am quoting Jordan Peterson on TH-cam!" Am I like smart yet?
Idk, maybe a massive climate crisis that causes wide spread weather disasters, floods, drought, fires, famine, mass displacement, distraction of homes and infrastructure, loss of lives and untold human suffering... Oh what's that? We all need to clean our rooms before we can do anything about it? Okay Daddy Peterson, great plan, why don't you go on another benzo binge and leave this one to the kids?
You can see from the comments that a lot of people don’t even know what maturity is, but then again I am 65 years old. Life has a way of growing you up.
A lot of comments discussing the subjects in this video are auto deleted within 30 to 60 seconds by TH-cams censorship.
If they can control language, they can control thought. They are after the thought criminals.
Wisdom comes with age. I still got a good 50 something years to go. I hope to learn the lessons before it's too late.
Never too old to learn something new. Everyday is a chance to improve ❤️
Maybe this video would hold more ground if it wasn't explained by a 1 star therapist who gets called a scam artist in most of his reviews...
i dont find it hard to believe that prager u has trouble finding a therapist with high ratings who will push their agenda. seems like any therapist with a brain would turn away from a video like this.
All MAGA therapists are 1 star in real life.
Though he may be a scam artist, I do agree with quite a few of the things that he says in this video, taking responsibility for one's actions is a big part of growing up. If people just kept blaming others for their actions nothing would bloody get done, and similar statements apply to the other statements made here.
@@kerbehklobbah5790 Yeah I understand that, but most of those are pretty basic and well-known concepts. He isn't really saying anything of value here.
@@bobwilliam3545 Yeah, that's true. I wasn't defending him lol, I'm just saying that what he's saying is right, not that it's anything new or revolutionary.
You're crazy if you think this guy should still have his license....
Isn’t containing emotions immature? I understand that there’s a place and time for everything, but shouldn’t people be able to stand up for themselves? If you’re in an environment where you’re being mistreated, you owe it to yourself to let others know you have rights, you cannot allow people to think they can mess with you just for the sake of being “in control of your emotions”. A mature thing to do would be to voice your issues.
Bottling up your emotions is immature, but containing them is mature. You should aim to only release your emotions when you need to. If someone pulls a gun on you are you going to lash out at them? No, you are going to keep your emotions to yourself to avoid getting shot.
Control, not denial
Almost a hundred people watched the first three seconds and decided they didn't like the video. If only they realized it was actually made JUST FOR THEM
Ah yes because everyone who dislikes this video must have just not watched it, yeah that totally makes sense
the only reason i could think of actually not liking it is the pronunciation of muture lol.
but srsly though
Yep, anything that sheds light on truth, form some it’s unbearable.
Lieutenant Lobster or don’t want to be confronted with the truth
The truth hurts. LOL
what if someone’s actually a victim lmao
Victimized by someone saying “Happy Holidays” instead of “Merry Christmas”.
@@flobwad B A S E D
This guy Is Literally a 2 star psychiatrist with HORRENDOUS written reviews.
This doctor has a 2 star rating on Health Grades. Another great choice PragerU.
Did you read the reviews?
@@IAmShouTucker of course. I've also read your book. Very intriguing story.
Well, shit, @@IAmShouTucker. Guess I'm not an atheist, anymore...
@@raymondspogo THE BIBLE IS NOT MY BOOK. I don't like being associated with that crap.
@@senorpoopEhead You better not be. Don't be religious though as all religions are BS.
“Maturity is the time when children suddenly feel responsible for answering the phone” -A paraphrase of Ronald Reagan
Some people keeps acting innappropriately time after time again, and I don't think it's immatue to get enough and say STOP (acting out) in a firm manner from time to time. Being polite and patient is not the same as weakness!!
*Conservatives when someone says Happy Holidays:* NOOOO YOU MUST SAY MERRY CHRISTMAS REEE
*Conservatives when minorities want equality:* Idk bro just grow up lol
😂😂😂😂😂
Bootstraps logic at it's finest. PragerU is a joke.
@@Cuzican8071 You people are ridiculous. Conservatives don't care if you say happy holidays or Merry Christmas. We don't like it when other people try to tell us we can't say Merry Christmas because it offends people. You people really need to grow up. You make up so much crap about conservative people to paint them as horrible monsters when in reality you are the one blinded by your hatred of them.
@@MonarchEAS Yeah no one gives a shit if you say Happy Holidays or Merry Christmas. We usually just say the more inclusive one.
@@Cuzican8071 Usually I say Happy Holidays around Thanksgiving time and Merry Christmas in December.
This guy has 1.9 stars on healthgrades.com LOL
@Working Prole 1.9/5.0. Not very good.
link pls?
@zomg222 That which is true or not is hidden to actually be of perspective opinion
What's your point? Is it because he has 1.9 stars that this information isn't pertinent? Thank you for proving his point so eloquently.
@@sb814 👍
1.9 Stars
The comment section is revealing. These 5 standards of maturity are true psychological states to attain. But few people are successful in fully attaining them. Fewer still are willing to rise to the challenge. The comments section clearly illustrates the latter.
I suppose a good analogy for the comment section is "empty barrels ring the loudest." Be mindful of that, and you can learn to consciously soften the excess noise.
As well, text is not a form of direct communication we're designed to use.
@@Brandon-1996 Sometimes you have to pan a lot of gravel to find gold pickings.
Also keep in mind TH-cam censors a lot of comments.
It's difficult to discuss subjects in this video without the comments getting auto deleted 30seconds to a minute later.
@@Bopperann I'm sure people can adequately discuss it in a calm, respectful manner without using expletives and/ or personal invectives, if they so choose. We are doing so. And our comments aren't being deleted.
@Lazarus Zoolander Judging from your comment, yes she is.
I’ll make sure to send this to all my friends
From this clip:
1) Taking control
2) Taking responsibility
3) Containing emotions
4) Having perspective
5) Achieving deep understanding
“Everyone wants to believe they’re chosen, but if we all waited around for a prophecy to make us special, we’d die waiting, and that’s why you need to choose yourself.” - Eda Clawthorne, The Owl House
Quoting a children's cartoon? Grow up
You do realize the owl house is mega gay and progressive
Ah yes the owl house known for its conservative politics
Conservatives think the owl house is "lgbt propaganda"
@@toericabaker
If people want to enjoy kids shows, let them enjoy it.
PragerU: invites 1 star psychologist(this is true)
Chuds: mmm yes facts
2 star, but when people have already bought the narrative of us living in a perfect meritocracy that should go unchanged it becomes impossible for them to escape the propaganda loop
Take responsibility for things completely outside of your control and forced upon you is mature but fighting to change those things to make a better world is immaturity
yo just bottle up that anxiety, that’s matoority
DANK MEMES
>Using chud(s)
You are not worthy to use that username
Nicholas Meyer
Holding up a paper sign isn't going to stop global climate warming change. But you can clean up your neighborhood and do well in work/school. You can donate your time and volunteer.
I wouldn't agree about "containing" emotions, but more learning how to heal trauma to learn emotional balance within self. Different people have different abilities and can't maintain inner emotional balance based on what they've learned in their lives. Emotional intelligence takes a lot of building and commitment. 🙏🏻
I'm a teenager, and I believe that this video is the single most IMPORTANT and INFLUENCING for teens and young people video ever made.
yikes
Im 22 now still live at home with my pops. I have not gone to college yet. I need to grow up. I recently became a consecutive or officially anyways lol. I grew up with what my dad showed me and it was all wrong. It always felt off and there were so many holes in all the logic. I want to go to college get married have kids a house ETC I have to Branch out and take a leap of faith. I am almost ready
I'm 23 and still live with my parents, too. I'm glad you already learned you need to grow up, like I learned. Trust me, what you need is to learn a trade and stay out of university, dude. Seriously. I already left college and I couldnt even stand to finish my second year without nearly going insane from the revisionist history and other subtle indoctrination. Tons of debt already. Im supposed to start working with a plumber/electrician friend of mine who wants to teach me to take over his business, if COVID ever let's up, that is... Start networking, man. That's how it happens, and I will pray for you to succeed!
Planning to move out to the states at 21 to complete a Business degree, get an employment based green card and become US citizen! I’m aware it will be difficult, but the American dream is never guaranteed. The only guarantee I have is the pursuit.
@@CJamgochian I tell my kids and their friends that all the time. I got married at 19 (NOT bc I was pregnant I just knew this was "the one my soul loves") neither one of us went to college just trade school. We have 5 kids (although we help take care of our kids friends too... you would be surprised how many teenagers are walking around without either parent), we're considered upper middle class, nice house, we are extremely fortunate BUT neither one of us have that horrible college debt! We'll be married 19 yrs on Halloween. I'm pretty sure not having all that debt was a big factor in keeping our marriage. Debt can make a person/marriage crumble if you allow it! NOTHING'S perfect and a lot of times not even close BUT the fight to keep it together is TOTALLY worth it! Good luck on your trade! Your on the right track! ❤🛐❤🛐❤✝️
@@CJamgochian as far as collage debt I am ok. I am mixed with native American and I can basically get in free. It's sad that I can get a free pass in life but Ile take what I can get. Ile give it a year and see where my mental state is at
@@lieutenantflyboy I'm proud of you I hope we both achieve our dreams
This video came on as I was looking for the remote to hit SKIP but couldn’t find it for 5 minutes and after hearing a few words of this message i sat down and started to listen closely to the video and it was meant for me during what I’m going through. What good timing!! Thank you.
"Shit happens, DEAL with it."
_ a boomer born in 1940's georgia.
"When I was a child, I used to speak as a child, to think as a child, to reason as a child; but now that I have become a man, I have done away with the traits of a child." - 1 Corinthians 13:11
Ezekiel 23:20-21
20 There she lusted after her lovers, whose genitals were like those of donkeys and whose emission was like that of horses. 21 So you longed for the lewdness of your youth, when in Egypt your bosom was caressed and your young breasts fondled.[a]
@@toericabaker *Sapient Wisdom:*
Religion is something Atheism can never be: pornographic.
@@toericabaker dang, yup that's in the bible. The bible is describing you leftists, thats how you leftists are. Its exposing how perverted you leftists are!!!
@@Historywithapharoah i liked the part in the bible where it says that affordable healthcare will bring the second coming of lenin lmao
It can take 50 SECONDS to get over the first 20 years IF you care enough and haven't been told repeatedly what a helpless hopeless hapless victim you are. All you need to do is identify a belief that is holding you back by asking yourself "Is this true?" You can't assume that just because you believe it, that means something is true.
He makes solid points I just hate the way he pronounces "mature" "mat-ure".
Same
It's really distracting. "Matoor". "Matooriddy"
grow up...
@@amax1229 A man shall be able to pronounce the word of his knowledge, not be incapable of correctly saying the very thing this 5min video is about. Even worse if the man in question has speaked English for what seems to be over 60 years...
Questioning a man's lack of knowledge isn't immatooooority, speaking out against those who do is the way of the left-wing.
A psychiatrist, telling someone to CONTAIN their emotions is one of thee worst possible things you could ever advise to any person. That is literally coping 101. You should NEVER do that. MAYBE in a professional setting where you dont have much of a choice, and even then, that is still toxic to your own mental health. As a mature person, you are supposed to CONTROL your emotions, or at the very least, control your actions that follow afterwords, not bottle them up as if they aren't happening. Recognizing that you are feeling a certain way, accepting it, and taking steps to minimize the severity of what might come as a result is what a mature person does. Even if you recognize your emotions but chose to contain them, often warrants for some very dishonest communication skills. They do something to help them relax, they write, they COPE with the problem, they talk about it. They don't ignore them, or bottle them up, or however you would like to put it and then explode as a result. When you are faced with a difficult situation that is centered around gauging your emotions properly when responding to someone or something, containing your emotions can be very dangerous because you are not doing anything to minimize it internally, and thus conditioning yourself to ignore them. This guy is SEVERELY out of touch and needs his licence revoked. Its no wonder he has a 1.9/5 rating. Good lord what a mess.
This is why Christianity is inherently right wing. God directly commands us subvert institutions when we grow up. If the government legalizes something evil, does that mean that you should do it?
I’ve been living this way my whole life. I’m a wildly successful man who retired before 50 and have total freedom. I was always responsible and worked hard.
if you're so successful then why are you watching prager U videos?
@@frimi8593 Because I am in my 40s and don't have to work and like burning time. Have fun at work.
@@thegipper6535 well clearly you're not yet successful enough to understand what a joke is, so I'll just leave you to your bootstraps and inheritance
@@frimi8593Ha. No inheritance here. just hard work.
@@thegipper6535 yeah sure not literal inheritance like from a family member's will or something, but that's not the only way to benefit from the position of your parents. I am extremely doubtful that any rags to riches story ended with retirement before 50
"I need you to own your feelings, so you can actually express them productively."
PragerU needs to grow up, and get out of the way.
(I'm watching it for the second time.) There are several issues with this video; one of them is that it takes being mature as an intrinsic good, which I don't agree with. For example, acknowledging your mistakes to other people is good because it promotes better relations with them (and this presumably will make you happier), but not because it contributes to your being an idealized version of a mature person.
In general, his focus on "being more mature" or "growing up" is the main problem. He should focus instead on the real benefits or advantages of living your life or behaving in certain ways. If he happened to be my therapist and if he took this same approach in theray as well I'd be very disappointed.
I turned 21 recently and shall keep these in mind. Thank you. 🌼
My only reservation is that I have BPD, which is also known as Emotional Regulation Disorder. I struggle to contain my emotions without being flat & cold. I’m not using it as an excuse and yet I am. I am taking this video as a sign I need to do better so I can live my best life and make a contribution to society.
Take a shot every time he pronounces “mature” incorrectly
How's rehab?
He has 1.7 stars on google...
I think I would die
Some of this I agree with and some I do not. I found it curious that at 1:05 the video uses a game board and its random dice throw when it talks about controlling how life unfolds. We each have lives full of decisions, but out of our control is the access to the ingredients that go into making the most wise decisions.
That's the trick. Finding ways around a situation out of your control. Not to give up even when you feel powerless or are powerless. At least that's what I could understand from it.
@@chocobossxii9457 You do not seem to understand what is meant by "out of your control". It goes to a person's both current and past environment as well as a person's innate psychological make-up.
@@jimm.1013 Your environment (past and current) and your psychological make-up will never force you to do something. They might make something easier or harder for you to do, but they will never be the things taking the action or making the choice. You choose what you do today. That's what you have control over, yourself, your actions, and ultimately your outcomes.
@@kennethjones3768 Your environment, past and present, and your genetically composed psychological make-up are the ingredients that determine how a person makes his choices. And those ingredients are out of the control of the person.
@@jimm.1013 It's just an excuse. Even if everything else is out of your control, your choices will always be in your control.
PragerU: "Stop pretending you're always the victim."
Also PragerU: "SAYING HAPPY HOLIDAYS IS LITERALLY A PERSONAL ATTACK!"
@Cool Dude Imagine if everyone around you kept calling you a woman or called you by the wrong name. You'd be very upset by that, right?
Misgendering anyone is psychologically harmful to them. Knowingly doing it constitutes harassment. You would want your workplace to have standards of conduct and to enforce them so that you don't get harassed, right?
Cool Dude refusing to do something that someone is asking of you politely kinda makes you a dick. It’s not like trans people get offended if you nudge see them at the first meeting. They’ve likely asked you during a greeting or a later conversation and you chose to disregard them.
@Cool Dude Refuse to "teach the controversy" in evolutionary biology, and the religious right will claim to be oppressed by the education system. Vaguely imply a character is gay in a cartoon, and the far right will claim this is indoctrinating children. Say happy holidays, and it is taken as an attack on Christmas. Suggest that capitalism in its current form has some flaws, and you are labeled as a communist. Complain about systemic issues, and they tell you that you just aren't MATOOR enough, and should ignore these issues.
Yes, both sides have cancer, but the right has a lot more cancer than you might think they do. They are not the lesser of two evils.
Wrong. Saying "Happy Holidays" is polite and uplifting. MANDATING "Happy Holidays" is a personal attack.
@@michaelanderson2881 How? Who?
Really puts into perspective the personal weakness I must address and the strengths I benefit from.
Thank you Dr for this video. I will take time to translate it to arabic and french, it deserves to be watched and shared with non English speakers
Man's really got 1.9 stars on healthgrades.com
I would add "Delayed Gratification" and/or "Self Discipline" to the list. Could be redundant.
Yep!
Time to grow up into Johnny Bravo?
Man I'm pretty
🤣🤣🤣
Do the monkey with me!!
Yes of course what else would you rather be
No silly that is obviously the intern Will Witt's self portrait
FINALLY a quality PragerU video with explanations and solutions instead of blaming, bashing, and slander. I’ll be sharing this on my social media.
I compare this with my current situation of having difficulty in getting a job in the career I want to do for the rest of my life, the interviews I had were all in failure, but I did not fault the interviewees in not see me as the perfect applicant. Instead, I asked them for feedback and I learnt more about what type of person they want and which factors I lacked to discuss. I am slowly figuring out what type of person they want, what they want to hear more of and which companies are more suitable for me. Most importantly, I am learning more about myself and I am not giving up.
PragerU: maturity is measured by anxiety toleration levels
Gen Z (who has to fix the broken economy, environment and social norms): [strong doge]
As a zoomer, I can confirm this.
PragerU: "Stop pretending you're always the victim."
Also PragerU: "SAYING HAPPY HOLIDAYS IS LITERALLY A PERSONAL ATTACK!"
@APassersby
No, I'm quite aware of that.
I'm just shitting on em.
@APassersby If PragerU lets them speak on their platform, then PragerU endorses them and their views. Hence the members and participants of PragerU are hypocrites like that.
@@SnakeMan448 🤦♂️
I need to show this to my kids. They can learn in 5 minutes what many require decades to learn.
Bad idea, this guy is ridiculous
for the love of god, please don't
These behaviors are all the product of good parenting in an intact, conservative home.
Thank god I was raised by the internet and somehow managed to grow up despite having liberal parents who never will.
The problem is being surrounded by immature ppl 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
Sometimes the only solution is to act like them
Absolutely! However, even adults slip sometimes. Covid really pushed my patience to the ultimate level. I have to remind myself everyday to take a deep breath and get grounded before tackling the problem at hand.
Why does the way he says ‘mature’ make me want to rip my face off? I better keep control of those pesky emotions.
it puts the mask on its face
same thing happens with other words as well like "crayons". focus on the word and say it correctly and it just sounds wrong because we English speakers are lazy and butcher words so much that the wrong way sounds right.
@@Itchy_Ninja_Go So true. I had been noticing that trend for a long time, but it totally crystallized for me when my daughter was first learning to write and spell words. I walked past the refrigerator and she had used the magnets to spell "budderfly"
Because you lack it.
Because you're imma-TOOR.
The majority of people these days mature somewhere in their 20s or maybe early 30s. A small amount mature early in their teens & a few people NEVER mature. When maturity is reached, appreciation for conservative ideas naturally occurs. People start caring more about family, law and order, appreciation for history & self governance. It is easy to see that maturity is directly linked to political leanings, mature people tend to be more conservative or on the right end of the spectrum and immature people tend to be left leaning. I know this is true because I lived it myself. When I finally matured in my late 20s, I naturally became more conservative, in my early 20s I was a left leaning, bernie supporting democrat that although thought he knew everything, was actually pretty ignorant to history & the entire reality of the democRAT party. If you really want to red pill someone, just help them mature.
This makes me realize how immature certain grown people are that’s WAS in my life. 🙌🏾
Working on it! Thanks Prager U❤️
You should tell your college the courses you took at PragerU!!
I didnt know i needed this. Thanks for sharing.
5 characteristics of maturity:
1. taking control
2. taking responsibility
3. containing your emotions
4. having perspective
5. achieving deep understanding
What was the purpose of this comment? O.o
Keeping aside the political agenda of this channel, some videos are really good and the experts who channel the information are highly competent too.
Since when is truth a political agenda?
@@brettwiedel3544 In todays time it's not about the truth anymore but whose truth rather. It's really sad honestly. The truth has been reduced to it being just an opinion or you just being racist, bigoted, white supremacist, xenophobic, transphobic, all sorts of phobic etc. People can't reason like adults anymore
@@brettwiedel3544 It isn't. But the way it is presented is.
The video about framing, which only gives examples of "the left" using framing, for example, which this channel made, is factually pretty alright as far as I can remember, but it clearly has a political agenda.
Also, I don't think that PragerU always tells the truth, but I'm too lazy to provide any examples. This second part may be untrue and I acknowledge that, so don't try arguing against it
2:39 How is that immature?
1and 5 are ok, the others are outdated and don't work anymore.
If you dont alibi and blame others, you will be unnemployed so fast, you may not blame others, but the others will always blame you, keep that in mind.
Aside from a job, you dont need any other obligation, it doesnt make you mature, it makes you stressed and lacking money, as matter of fact, you will basically live to fulfill them, as far as I know we have just one life, and the least way I wanna spend it is living for others, because if that hold you back, then there is no other way to call it but burdens
Expressing emotions is whatever, you can express whenever you want as long as you are willing to accept the consequences.
I really needed to hear the one about containing emotions. It’s a really important point that people cannot be emotionless but rather control when they show their emotion.
Being mature means you don't laugh when someone pronounces it "ma-tour."
Guess I'm not there yet.
"the inner workings of my my mind are an enigma"
~Patrick Star~
I don’t understand how everyone isn’t a conservative by now
Reasons. Mostly that people stick to their ideologies.
Those that are not Conservative are immature.
J/K
Age old saying, people are people. No one size fits all, as long as people disagree with each other on what is what things will remain divided. The key is to get as many people to realise the rights and wrongs as possible.
Thank you, Dr. Marmer for taking the time to make this video!
And for making us all less smart and not getting a single like!
This feels, ironic because this year when I turned 21 I went through the worst moments of my, I became broken and refused help from anyone. But long story short, I picked up the pieces and built myself a new, as man not just physically but finally, mentally. I speak from harsh experience and those goes out to all the young adults out there; when the time comes for you to grow up and become a man, you will be at the worst state in your life. You will suffer greatly, the most you will ever in your life and you will be broken, stepped over and driven to your absolute emotional and mental peak but if your strong and over come this difficult obstacle you will become a new you, a man. Nothing in life comes with a sacrifice but with every negative comes a positive and vice versa. Be cautious friends, for that will not be the first time your strength will be tested. Stay strong and prevail, things will get better.
So for everyone who suffers from actual anxiety and panic attacks are immature?? Wow this TH-cam channel is a joke. I’m sorry my brain process information different than yours it’s how I was designed I didn’t choose these chromosomal abnormalities. But go off sis.
You can either man up, accept the reality of things beyond your control and work hard to better yourself or you can curse god and complain life is unfair while refusing to anything to do anything to make it better. Judging by your comment your captaining your own journey straight to misery.
Joe duffy that phrase “man up” is sexist and leads to men having much harder lives due to mental illness by not acknowledging their real emotions. You obviously don’t suffer from anxiety it’s not a “calm down” moment, it’s a panic attack of some sort that is completely out of a persons control. I’m very much in control of my life and I acknowledge I can’t control everything. I just can’t believe this video says something so ridiculous about anxiety which is a real problem people have to take medication for and seek professional help but it’s apparently just immaturity. Like I said. Go off sis.
Also I never mentioned god or religion so please keep that nonsense out of this convo.
Joe duffy Or you can get help clinically or from your social support system. Who told you the only options are “man up” or “curse god.” Humans are social animals. Judging from your comment you’ve been lacking that realization for a while.
The way you react to this says a lot about you.
Nobody:
This guy: M a a t o o r
Thank you! I wanted to put a matuuure lemon in his mouth, maybe get his speaking like an American again.
I couldn't figure the word out until it was written! Great video otherwise.
stop using this meme, grow up.
Nobody:
@@Scroolewse: stOp uSInG tHiS mEMe gROw uP.
@@subsnovideoschallenge-kb7st 2 shit memes at once must be fun being 15, huh?
"this too shall pass"
The message about not being a victim really resonated with me. I realized how immature I was being and I'm ready to move forward and take responsibility, and recognize that other people aren't responsible for my situation.
I was a hardcore Trump/MAGA follower who used to blame China and immigrants for my problems. I used to think I was the victim of a war on Christmas. In the past I thought that I was the victim of certain books being in my kid's schools. I used to believe that as an American I was the victim of the election being stolen and the president I voted for not being in office.
One time I remember hearing Trump say "“We are all victims. Everybody here. All these thousands of people tonight. They’re all victims. Every one of you.” That was the moment I knew I needed to grow up out of the victim mindset and do the hard work to build a little maturity.
I'm happy to say that any time I hear Trump say something like "I'm the most persecuted person in history" I can't help but just laugh. Thank god I've finally taken the advice in this video, and grown up.
Great video. I'm having a difficult day with my toddler, this video was a good reminder of my role