How to Become a More Gentle Person | Mother Natalia
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- Mthr. Natalia talks about her journey learning that humility and gentleness go hand in hand. She takes us through the phrase, "I was just being Human." , St. Paul's command to gentleness, and more.
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Boy did you come to me at the perfect time! Thank you. I needed to hear this! I pray every day for humility and kindness, yet still I fail sometimes. And for me it’s almost always to make MY point. I always want to “fix” people. I HAVE to “fix” me!! I pray for humility and kindness always!
Same with me! I was praying for answers to an ongoing issue in my life. This video popped up, seemingly unrelated, yet it contained the key that I needed! 🙏🏼
It's God who heals is though, not we who heal ourselves
Same I really struggle with this 😔 I wish it weren’t so
Hello blessings! Me too! I TRY to work on it EVERY DAY!!! WITH GOD'S HELP!
Blessings to you Sister 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
The Theotokos is a perfect example of humility and gentleness ❤
I came to a similar conviction after growing up in a sarcastic household. I've hurt too many friends for no reason.
May God make us gentle and humble!
Amen.
AMEN 🙏
Amen❤🙏🛐✝🕊
Thank you for this. After watching a long time (30 years) close friend post anti-Christian hate, conservative hate, pro-life hate, etc on her FB page day after day after day I finally had enough and completely lost my mind on Friday night. Left a very unChristian, unkind comment on the most recent one. Used all the bad words. I just went back and deleted my comment and deactivated my FB page.
Indeed. Someone who teased me about my messy house. It hurt because I have a problem with chronic fatique. I went back to the friend and gently said I did not like being teased about my house. She would not accept that I had been hurt. This made matters worse and I realised I could love her by prayer but not be friends with her. Teasing can so easily become bullying
Well put
I too suffer from autoimmune chronic fatigue. I really tried my best cleaning, buying gifts and decorating before
Christmas. Because I did too much my body crashed the day before Christmas Eve and I couldn't do anything.
I told my family that I was too unwell and exhausted to go to my niece's for Christmas dinner.
I felt that they didn't understand how difficult life us. When I ask for help they find an excuse not to do so and tell me that I will feel much better if I tidy and clean my home.
This hurts me so deeply.
@@jenniferfirkins1390 Don't worry. You took care of your needs and that's ok. The standards of others is not your problem. It's theirs.
Watched this last night, then again this morning. I was in tears this morning when watching because I've been dealing with my anger and lack of patience (gentleness) especially toward my 9 year old son. I can be loud, controlling, dominating , and intimidating in my "discipline". It does break my heart and I apologize all the time. I've been praying for years about this lack of control and recently have taken some steps in CR (celebrate recovery) toward these issues. But landed on this video last night (of course in a timely moment). Thank you for your faithfulness and blessing us/me with gentle correction. This is now saved and I will watch often. P.S. I am a protestant, who in my youth (ignorance) believed and said all the typical protestant things about Catholics. But a couple of years ago I landed on Pints and have watched many episodes as my heart has changed. I see the Love for Christ you have and that we share. I often wonder and pray if there is something in Catholicism for me. I ask if its true, if its of Him (Christ), and if it draws me closer to our Lord, then please show me. For now I am open, listening, and looking. Many thanks to Fred and the family at Pints w/Aquinas. Thank You!
I ignorantly believed a lot about Catholicism, then looked into it, considered adult conversion, and ultimately landed on Lutheranism. Nevertheless, while I do believe doctrine is absolutely key in terms of really knowing what we believe, I’m not sure it’s super helpful to just avoid things because “oh, so and so is coming at it from a Catholic perspective.” I can think critically and take in all these things and Pints with Aquinas has brought about fruits in my life I didn’t have before. Why? Because most of it is just what Christians need to believe. I am also struggling with patience, mostly toward my husband recently (we have a toddler and a newborn so it’s a rough stage). I know I love him and he loves me but I need to stop letting my irritability get the best of me.
I implore you to start doing research. The Traditional Catholic Faith is the only Christian Faith. The jews would offer up Sacrifice in the Temple, the True Catholic Faith is a fulfillment of the jewish faith. On Traditional Catholic Altars The Sacrifice continues, but in an unbloody manner. When you attend a Traditional Catholic Mass you are standing at the foot of the cross of Calvary, at the very moment that Our dear Lord died for us. We too have the blood and water spraying all over us as the centurion pierced Our Blessed Lords Heart. Every time you attend The Holy Sacrifice you are right there, at the very moment it took place. Thereafter you go up to receive Our Lords body and blood. Jesus tells us "Unless you eat of my flesh and drink of my blood you will not have life in you." The Catholic Religion is the only religion where you get to physically touch Our Blessed Lord. Jesus only spoke about one church, one faith. In The Traditional Catholic Church, on any given day of the year, you can attend Holy Mass anywhere in the whole world, and the worship will be exactly the same, the readings from scripture will be exactly the same, and the message that the priest gives will carry the same message. The Traditional Catholic Church have one set of doctrines and/or dogmas that we must believe. As an individual you do not have the right to believe whatever you wish to believe. It is only the teachings of Jesus Christ that are worthy of belief. In 2024 we find that there are over 40 000 Christian Churches, each with their own beliefs. Only 1 church can be right! A good place to start researching is " The Society of Saint Pius X". God bless you.
This is similar to how I was! I was protestant, but I prayed asking Jesus that, if this is really His Church and if He is really in it, that He would lead me there. This was a few months ago. Spoiler: Jesus is, in fact, here! Now I'm in RCIA and fully understand that this is it- this is the fullness of Christianity, this is Christ's Church. I'll pray for you! God bless!
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I completely relate to the person you’re speaking of in this video. I am more sensitive than most and don’t get teasing as much as I should. I appreciate your willingness to be more gentle, but we as sensitive types can also learn to have a more playful spirit and thicker skin. God bless.
Yes, exactly! I get that compromise isn't always the best way to go, but it's good to see how people on opposing sides of the spectrum can both improve in virtue to grow in understanding and love for each other!
Yes! Thank you for being so honest. One of my brothers is a sensitive person and I’m always walking on eggshells with him. He loves any message worded in the sandwich method which makes for tiring conversations.
Mother Mary,
Please pray for us that we may humble and gentle.
@@Some-random-Scythian That's where Protestants and Catholics can agree Well done
@@Some-random-Scythian Well done
Amen.
@@Some-random-ScythianJohn 8:7
@@Some-random-Scythianyou are right, Catholics worship God and God alone. The Catholics honor Mary because God and Jesus loved her first. Pope is never worshipped he is respected as the head of the church. So Catholics worship God, honor Mary and respect pope
I really struggle with this. I don’t “need” people to be gentle with me so I forget that I must be careful with the way I am with people. I have a very hard shell so things don’t affect me much but I’ve started to realise that this isn’t necessarily a good thing, especially as a woman. May the Lord soften my heart ❤️
I am going to appreciate your comment. I had to learn to be thick skinned. I am not young. I'm 79 years old. I think it requires prayer.
Yes l shall beg grace to guard my mouth. Christ peace to you
As a woman, I relate to this.
Bingo!
Thank you, Mother Natalia! I did not expect to hear this at all. I'm so happy to find another kindred spirit in you. Teasing is also one of my main love languages. And for a while I've been feeling like I'm also being called to be more gentle (bec. I tend to be sarcastic with my jokes, and I also got confirmations that some people took it the opposite as to what I intended which is to love them). I just can't believe how spot on this is with me and how we are alike. So thank you so much and God bless you more! ❤
Will be at Mass at 2pm but will watch later. Thank you Matt for bringing Mother Natalia to your channel. I feel a deep peace watching her speak and a deeper desire to be holy.
@@Some-random-ScythianI’m not Catholic, but even I know that Catholics do no such thing.
Wisdom that is learned in the hidden part.
Thank you God!
Mother Natalia, you are so courageous to share this experience. I have to tell you, I tend to tread carefully around new women friends who grew up with brothers. They tend to tease more, and be more brusque and blunt in their speech. You had to develop toughness growing up with all those yahoo brothers of yours. The upside is you have great self-confidence. Your friend could have been more honest in the moment to let you know the teasing was a bit much. I grew up with profoundly verbally cruel and insensitive parents, yet they were hot house flowers in receiving any joking or playful kidding from me. I love your wise insights.
Thank you Mother Natalia for your wise words. This hit directly to the heart!🙏
God bless you Mother.
What a wonderful message, Mother Natalia! Thank you. I can't count the number of times I attempted to make a humorous comment, in the hopes of fostering a spirit of camaraderie, only to have my statement construed as insulting. It goes to show you that we should not just "do unto others as we would have done unto us". Rather, we should not assume that the way we would like to be treated is the way others would like to be treated. Some of the most serious transgressions are done with the best of intentions, but we end up doing more harm, because we project our dispositions and our preferences onto others.
My friend and I just realized we dont know what its like to be "women"... Growing up with boys or always having to defend ourselves as a defense mechanism... Leading to not being gentle.
So I've been praying to be more gentle and kind. Especially when dating... Letting a man lead and not always having to "prove my point" etc.
This video was perfect timing. thank you and please pray for us young women.
Thank you Mother Nathalia. I received this as a gentle rebuke to be more gentle with my children. Please pray for me.
My prayer for myself is to become more gentle,more understanding, a better wife and mother, and to always put God first.
I feel like I get angry too quickly; that I'm impatient and insecure. That's what the Holy Spirit is showing me. I need to have the fruits of the Spirit, not the "fruits" of demons
You may find benefit from the book Unseen Warfare
This was an excellent sharing. Thank you!
I needed this today. Thank you and God bless you.
Thank you, Mother Natalia, I needed to hear this today
"I'm unkind to others because I'm not kind to myself"
I definitely tend to set _perfection_ as the standard for myself, which is why it feels like I'm always falling behind. I read once that the feeling of self-pity was just pride, because it meant we were striving for our own measurement of holiness, not the one Christ has in mind for us. Gentleness, how much I need to pray for it!
Thank you Mother Nathalia!
Such an honest appraisal thank you so much Mother Natalia and how you recognised the difference in the other person who was obviously reared differently to yourself… this is so something we must all discern and your post has helped me so very much. God bless you always
Beautiful reflection and something to aspire to! -Kat
Update: boy did this hit home. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻. Thank you mother Natalia.
How can you be gentle and not take on other people's problems? I struggle with this a lot.
@@thepuffinpanda9139 many mistake gentleness as a weakness, when in reality it takes a lot of strength and virtue to be gentle. You can be gentle and still have boundaries that you stand firm on.
This was God’s timing for me. At Bible study we picked out of a hat things to pray for this year - something that we needed to work on. I figured I would draw patience, but God had other plans and I drew gentleness. And when I thought about it - yeah, I need to work on gentleness. I’m a sarcastic, quick to wit person. Sometimes things just pop out of my mouth before I even realize I probably shouldn’t tease. That part about not being gentle with yourself? Wow. That was like a wake up call. So, this was incredibly appropriate for me to listen to right now. Thank you, Mother!
A true Catholic Man, is a GENTLEMAN. No matter what Rite, or Form of Rite
So true! Sometimes we forget how rooted in Catholicism chivalry is!❤❤❤
I needed to hear this so much. ❤️
Mother Natalia, you’ve hit a nerve with me. I am a notorious teaser to the point where I don’t know when to stop. Oh, it’s all done in the interest of humour and love but it soon turns to a forwardness that I don’t like seeing in myself. I don’t have this problem with new strangers or new acquaintances, but rather, with those usually very close to me whom I love. I mean well, and usually, my teasing is humourous and for the most part, well-accepted, but I can’t help but feel that oftentimes, I may have crossed a line and offended the person I was teasing. It is something I have now formally begun to work on and hopefully can get under control in the future. I have been praying on this, and your video might be Our Lord’s answer to my prayer. Thank you for this video, it strengthens my resolve to accomplish the goals I am establishing in this area of my life. It couldn’t be more timely, what with the Lenten season upon us.
For a person who has been bullied, a tease could really hurt the bullied one.
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This. I’ve been working on this as well. St. Frances de Sales helped me tremendously in helping me be kinder to myself and now it’s just been a matter of remembering to spread that mercy to others. I’m also reading a book on kindness and it’s been helping me to practice it.
Mother Natalia is a beautiful human. She is a woman made of sugar and spice and everything nice.
That said I believe that we are deeply entrenched in a spiritual war! I also believe that God is not tollerant of evil. Call me black and white and anything but grey.
Thank you for your messages of love.
I just failed in being gentle person thank you for reminder
I used to think sensitivity and gentleness were weaknesses. I thought it was better to be blunt and straightforward. Teasing can be wholesome. I've never taken it well when people tease my physical appearance. Automatically I feel humiliated. I would be too scared to tell a friend their teasing was hurtful. Some people would see it as a weakness to "not take a joke." Or some people continue tease you to get a reaction.
Some people you need to be firm with. I can unknowingly start yelling. It's embarrassing.
I guess there is a balance between firm, sharp rebukes, etc.
I would wonder if you want to "call out someone" to feed your ego by humbling them.
St Maximus is my confirmation saint. I didn't know anything about him at the time. I was just a dumb kid who liked Gladiator
First thought, “but I don’t want to become more gentle, people need “tough love””. Second thought, “yea I should prob watch this video”
Yeah I thought that first as a guy, but I kinda look at it like a sword that you should carry, but it should be sheathed most of the time...gentle≠weak
It takes real humility to be able to share a story you are not proud of. It really shows where she is in her journey
Greetings from a pentecostal i didn't realise that Gentleness is the fruit of the spirit and that it's ok to be gentle
Thank you for helping to make me a better light to the world.
Thank you
Another very convicting message from Mother Natalia.
Tocaya! Thank you for the video :))
"We implore you to cause the desert sun to burn away the coarseness of our conduct and melt the hardness of our heart, so that we may assemble in peace and say to one another: Alleluia." (Kontakion 2 from the Akathist hymn to saint Mary of Egypt and Sain Zosimus)
Thank you Matt for platforming this beautiful powerful woman! I'm currently knee deep in my conversion (reversion) and she is such an amazing inspiration & example! (We're a lot alike in our personalities i feel)
Thank you so much, Mother Natalia! This was an amazing video and definitely one I needed to hear. Imagining Jesus teasing me with love warms my heart. Thank you for taking time to make these videos. You're just getting started and they're already terrific. May Mary keep you forever!
Teasing is awful. It is a gift to be informed to stop this. It came very late in life for me but many blessings followed accepting rebuke from the sweet soul who told me.
So REAL. I've burned so many bridges from my anger, pride, sharp tongue-thrashing, lack of charity, and loss of humility. Other than that, I'm a Saint :)
In other "words", thank you for this hard to swallow spiritual-life lesson. I've got more work to do (and more Sins to Confess) than I realized before hearing this.
Thank you Mthr Natalia :-) . Teasing has its place. Personally I find persistent teasing a bit irritating as I would like to be taken seriously some of the time at least. Yes teasing can be fun and loving but its all about the context. God Bless you Mthr Natalia. (From a Deacon in South Africa)
i'm not religious in the slightest but i am spiritual and i loved this including the prayer, thank you
Such a valuable talk ! Thank you for sharing wise truths. Teasing is also one of my love languages and it often goes awry. Praying for gentleness now
I struggle with gentleness... this is definitely a video that I needed. Good timing.
Saint Michael the Archangel, defend us in battle. Be our protection against the wickedness and snares of the devil; May God rebuke him, we humbly pray; And do thou, O Prince of the Heavenly Host, by the power of God, thrust into hell Satan and all evil spirits who wander through the world for the ruin of souls. Amen.
Alot of young, and admittedly passionate, men need to hear this message! We are having an influx of male youth into the Church, so the hard part is over; just getting them there!! But their fervor sometimes borders on hatred and malice. I.e tossing references from papal bulls, encyclicals, and councils like they're ammunition AGAINST OTHER CATHOLICS! This is an area I've been trying to work on, as a young, buy slightly older, catholic man. Gentility is lost in today's faux masculine grind/stoicism. Pray for these young men, cause if they each gained an ounce of humility, we could take over the world with love!
There's a time to be gentle with our children, and a time to NOT spare the rod when they're misbehaving. (I believe God handles us the same way.) Spritual Mothers and Fathers of the church may also need to know when to use these approaches?
Like Mother Natalia, teasing is my love language. It’s a bad habit that I need to break through prayer and fasting.
Thank you Mother Natalia your humble honest no nonsense approach always adds more fuel to my faith thank you sincerely and God bless you and keep you. Love from Ireland 🇮🇪
What was the name of collection from the early church fathers?
Philokalia, but it is not just early church fathers.
Today is Thursday, February 29, 2024 - Leap Year! I have not even watched this video; and yet, I know I will hear this later! I am sorely impoverished in my reservoir of gentleness. I believed the erroneous opinion that the pursuit of my happiness will bring me happiness. Precious of Blood of Jesus Christ, save us and the whole world from our fallen natures!
Almighty God, thank you! Remind me and us again and again that you will not spurn a contrite and repentant soul!
I am also not a gentle person. Still, we have a merciful God! I appreciate that!
Prince of Peace, pray for us especially us who are harsh because we learned to be harsh and now I would like to undo and crush this harshness from my life!
God bless you Mother Natalia!😊
That is indeed terrifying for me, i run my mouth and say too much crazy nonsense.
I snap sometimes and say sharp words to my children, and then I hate that I am capable of that. I want to be so much better than I am... Holy Spirit, help me!
Mother Natalia, thank you for this. Your message was so important for me who constantly struggle to be gentle with my teenage children.
Lord, make my heart soft and gentle 🙏❤️🙏
Me too. Struggling with my teenage sons. All the best.
Beautiful message. Very needed for me.
This was so helpful. Your words are humbling, gentle, and easy to receive. Thank you.
Beautiful. Thank you so much.
St. Gregory of Nissa, brother of St. Basil, also talks about the nature of man is above that of the animals.
Thank you Mother Natalia ❤️ God bless you
You should be opposed to teasing. Let your “yes” mean “yes” and your “no” mean “no.” If one is too emotionally immature that they hide behind teasing they aren’t real adults.
This is awesome and so needed. Thank you. I need to grow on gentleness. It's difficult to me when evangelizing and experiencing the closeness/coldness/lukewarmness of hearts to Christ, especially of Catholics. I'll keep with prayer and penance for Catholics and ask for your prayers for me 🙏❤️
Perfect segway into lent! This is one of the things I'm aiming for this lent and so this was spot on. Thank you. ❤
Ugh man.... I have such a huge struggle with this. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
Thankyou mother...St. Maximus gonna look him up
Perfect timing and I would love to hear more on this!
My family is very similar to yours. In fact, if we don’t tease or make fun of someone in our family, it means that our relationship is not good.
With all love and respect we all need to hear this❤
This was so lovely!
Thank you. It is after the conversation that I can't let go of things I said or they said. I think this starts in very early childhood. Conversation in the house, how people got on, how you were spoken to and treated. Teasing is tricky. The teaser thinks it is funny and things are said lighthearted and in jest. The teased feels insulted. God be with us!
I need to be more gentle too!!!
I always like to be kind and gentle. I always had this desire to be gentle and kind from when I was small but unfortunately society makes fun of you when you want to be kind and calls you dumb 😢, I hate that!!! Thank you Mother Natalia❤ also I will be praying the litany of humility this lent 😊🙏
I needed this video so much. Thank you Mother Natalia ❤️
I love that she sought the intercession of St. John Paul 2 in her closing prayer
Such a timely lesson for me to be gentle . I am grateful God has seen my desire and desperation for change in order to be more gentle . I tease people I love too . My friends cop a lot of it but I pray they know it is in good fun . I will check in with them . Thank you Jesus , Mother Mary , my guardian Angel for always convicting my heart and
Also to you Mother Natalia x
Perfect timing for me to hear this. Thank you.
Fantastic! Thank you so much for this. I so needed it.
how is teasing willing the good of the other?
Especially when you don’t really know them. In that vein, it is a hostile act.
gentile? Why?
Dear Mother, I am in the process of a full conversion. As a man, I wish that my mother would have been a little tougher with explanation than the way she did things. Us guys are tough and often need “tough love” but with understanding WHY.
We can be dumb as rocks when it comes to GOD because of our sinful nature.
You have done some great work Matt! It has been a true pleasure watching many of your videos. I must say though that I'm very disappointed in your "climate change denial" video with Jordan Peterson. The truth and science on the subject is undeniable. It is happening, and to suggest otherwise, is a disappointing use of your wonderful platform. Even TH-cam had to place a link to the "truth" on the matter below your video. That is how obnoxious it was. We all make mistakes in life and I will not be judging you on this one. I do suggest that you do more research on the subject so that you can make a truthful video on the topic the next time. God bless you and your family always Matt. Keep your good content coming! 🙏
Thank you for your words, Mother Natalia. They’re sorely needed for me and on my journey. Heavenly Father bless you always.
Gentle with one self is so important. Thank you for this teaching.
This is so true. My mother always yelled. I struggled with this most of my life. The Holy Mother healed my heart and lovingly brought me to her Son. So much love. We admonish because we love. God Bless.
Ugh Mother.
I've been so sharp with my wife. She isn't a believer and I've been trying to argue her into the faith. It's been going as well as you might expect.
I've been trying to show her how right I am, instead of showing her how much the Father loves her 😢
I was so ashamed to confess to my priest that I struggle with a spirit of anger toward my child. He told me that means I need to practice tenderness toward myself and take care of my needs and the anger would stop 🥲
I'm not Catholic or known to be 'religious' however I truly appreciate your video. Great message!
Im 90% with you but just in one situation, one of my boys was bullied at the school and gentleness didn’t work, the principal reprimand didn’t work, finally my husband told him, to defend and make the other respect him so next time he was bullied for this boy that probably had his own issues, my son pinch him in the face and told him not to mess up with him because he wasn’t afraid of him. And that was the end of the story, we don’t have an ideal world , maybe in an ideal world or a better school this bullie would have been addressed and find out what he was doing that, but that wasn’t the case. But yes, between adults or adults and children gentleness is the way to go, with some exceptions or few really, the psychology of the bully kind.
Mother Natalia my dear Aunt name she is an inspirational holy women...also great needed video appreciate 🙏❤🙌 📿
No you cannot change their hearts. The Lord has set a veil on their eyes as soon as they made that pledge, and murdered. They are blind and deaf. It's in the Quoran. Maybe in the Bible too. Most surely it is Rabbinical since Mahomed has half jewish.