Dating a 76 year old Man
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 15 ธ.ค. 2021
- HI All, I have never opened up about this particular experience but I thought some of you would find this story interesting. A lot has changed about me since this man entered my life but the memories are unforgettable. It took a lot for me to finally open up about this experience but it is time to lay it out on the table.
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bro, Bro, BRO!!!!! You Cannot have accepted All those “Gifts “, and think this man didn’t have a crush, or have fallen in love with you!!!!!!
May I offer a different opinion. yes older guys will offer gifts/money/support for younger guys that they are attracted to. they get caught up with someone willing to be with them and spend time with them. And in no way am I saying that he didn't have the wrong idea. but he got caught up with his attraction of you and being around you. he was obviously expecting more than what you were willing to give. However with that being said, you aren't innocent in this either (in my opinion). Yes you were young and needed help with things. Yes there was a built in potential of learning to fly with him-a dream of yours. But at some point you have to say NO and enough is enough with the free help and hand outs. You profess not to want to be a sugar baby, yet when did you start saying no to the gifts/money/free lessons etc that he was offering you? Unfortunately nothing in this world comes without a price attached to it. you had the chance/choice to start to tell him no to the gifts or just not accept them. I'm not saying he wasn't in the wrong, however you are a grown man and so you had a responsibility that if you saw what was happening and where things were going to put a stop to it as well instead of allowing it to continue. you were not innocent in this affair either. just something to be consider. it just sounds like to me that everything that happened was his fault and you were the innocent that was taken advantage of and wronged. final thought, were you not taking advantage of his offers especially knowing how he felt about you instead of, at some point just refusing them? love your videos, but just food for thought.
Definitely! You can't be THAT naive. You gave this man hope when you accepted everything he offered you without hesitation. Nothing clicked in your head that he was interested in you!? He even knew you were in the porn industry and whether you believe it or not, you were leading him on.
Stop playing the naive innocent
So, you got free meals, free flight lessons, free move, a mentor figure, and emotional (maybe financial?) support. Question: What You give the 76 year old man? Seems light a one way relationship with you on the receiving end.
Exactly he knew what he was doing. Typical cleanup and play victim he was leading that man on. He was after the coins nothing more.
This guy is a bit over the top.
@@larrypicard8802 he's a barbie boy 👦 have you ever seen him on his knees in one of his flix
Truly right. When he said "it's all about him" it means he should respect older man, bc they need to be heard in.
But it doesn't mean that young man can't express his feelings. It just needs some feedback from each other.
You’re gold-digging. Make all the excuses you want to satisfy your cognitive dissonance about what you were doing with an older guy. STOP. You’re using older guys for self-serving reasons, no matter how you want to intellectualize or rationalize it. You’re using your looks to use others. SHAME ON YOU. You were convincing me that you’re authentic, but now I see the real YOU. It ain’t pretty. I’m now done with your videos.
I am not buying that you did not know he was playing the role of sugar daddy, and that you did not know sex would be the expected reciprocity A 21 year old in this day and age ? Yeah sure. Not buying this at all.
Did you take the only and things andnot get anything on return
Ritchie - Did you think of jealousy? You were his boy. He didn't want you to be completely free. He wnted to be with you, you were his youth
I don't really buy it. I think you are protesting too much. I got hit on accidentally when I was 18 or 19 by other my dudes my age and had no idea why. But I also got it from much older men, including teachers, coaches, random guys on the street (invited to their homes given gifts, etc.) since I was very young. Like you I was blond and pretty and 17 or 18. It didn't take long to figure out what these guys wanted. And I would get invites for drinks, dinners and advice all the time. Most of the time, I said no, but sometimes if the guy was extra nice I'd agree to a trip/dinner, but still keep my pants on. It was fun to be the center of attention and a tease. To play innocent. But it's a dangerous game.
I think you knew it was trouble in the back of your mind, but you were happy to get the car fixed, the new phone and the flight lessons and provide him with companionship. You might not have been f*cking but you were in a relationship and you didn't want to clarify that this was a friendship instead because you were afraid of losing the benefits of gifts and money. Seems like you broke up with him when you had the piloting hours that you needed. It has nothing to do with the dude's age. There are lots of "sugar daddies" out there who are even as young as 30 or 40...equally there are lots of sugar babies out there who are willing to play along at 19 or 49...
The best thing you can learn from this is to be very aware of the energy and signals you put out - and call out your underlying manipulativeness...
It’s really strange for a total stranger to pay to fix your car and buy you a new phone on the very first day meeting you. And then giving you flight lessons and buying you dinners
You are not a stupid man. Accepting gifts like you describe always come with strings attached. Did you ever pay for any of those dinners. Did you ever pay him back for anything he had done. I would bet that the answer is NO. Saying that you are not like that does not make it true. He felt used.
Are you the old man he's talking about
In spite of my youtube name, I am a man, older than Richie and younger than the man in the story. I completely agree with James Bandes comment. You were given thousands of dollars worth of food, flying lessons, moving time and equipment etc. from this man. It would not take a rocket scientist to imagine that maybe he wanted something in return for his investment. You said that you did not want a sugar daddy, but he was doing exactly what a sugar daddy often does and you happily accepted it. And then when you finally figured out that he wanted more from you, you blamed him when you were in a sense leading him on the whole time, even if it was not intentional. I think at best, there were two victims in this story.
@@aprilfool8329 no one owes you shit maybe say hey I'm buying this stuff because I'm a sugar daddy buying someone stuff without saying why doesn't owe you anything
@@montanahaler8067 a typical response from a gold digger and a person ready to use others.
@@montanahaler8067 hahahah no I don't associate with gold diggers
He spends $100's of dollars on day one and you don't think anything is up??? Come on Richie, no one can have their head that far in the sand...
I know right?? He said he'd never be a sugar baby. 10 mins before "he fixed my car and bought me a phone." Nuthin' ever really reciprocated. Huh??? The sh!t on TH-cam🤣🤣🤣
Sure sounds to me like YOU took advantage of him. Brakes, a/c, iPhone, flight lessons, dinners helped you move and I’m guessing you didn’t put out at all. You are a user. You played him like a cheap fiddle. Then when you couldn’t get any more. You decided he got weird. If it was such a tactic. Return the phone and any other gifts he gave you.
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So sorry you had to go through this, but it’s a great lesson to learn. I’m an older guy who is in a long-term relationship with a younger guy. There’s about 30 years difference between us. And it’s a wonderful experience! He has the excitement, the wonderlust, that I’ve been looking for in a relationship. I tend to be the more stable one who, based on my life experiences, can make good decisions for us. I learn from him, and he learns from me. Please don’t question your time with him, all life experiences help develop us into the person we will eventually become. Keep up the good work! ❤️
A beautiful story, Dan. Thanks for sharing. My best wishes to you both.
Wonderful, 😊 you're in a relationship I'd like to be in ... not necessarily a sexual relationship, but more like a companionship relationship with caring for and loving each other involved. Best wishes and good luck to you both 🏳️🌈
Richie neglected to mention whether he ever had sex with this guy. I think it would be surprising if he didn't. I think he would definitely have said so if they had not, so it seems fair to assume that they did and he just glossed over that part.
You just meet an elderly gay man, and he offers to fix your car brakes and air conditioning after knowing you for 5 minutes? He is going to want something in return. Then, you continue to let him help you financially. Do your other friends pay your bills? You had to know this man wanted more than just your friendship. You were using him, and he was hoping to use you sexually. You are either super naive or not very smart. What do you have in common with a 76- year- old man? I am 53, and I would not date a man that age. Luckily, I have a husband who is 52. I do not want to come off as too harsh young man, but I really think you should have known what was up! I do think that this senior citizen should have been more forthcoming about his expectations for the "friendship". I am just really surprised that you were shocked he wanted more than a platonic relationship from the things that occurred the first day you spent together. Rarely in life to you get something for nothing.
I'm 43 and I'd date a 76 year old if there was one who was attractive, and I have seen some who are.
It is such a blessing that you’re here to guide us 😐
This isn’t true. I’ve done fairly generous things for people simply because I thought they were cool and I could.
Greetings from London. It takes two to tango, and there are always two sides to any story. Anything I say is merely observational alongside drawing from ones own life experiences. Richie, you said your morals don't allow for a sugar daddy; okay, you are not sitting at home doing nothing and just looking pretty as you said, but you accepted a lot from this man. Books, car repairs, an iPhone, flight lessons, dinners, his knowledge in his field of expertise. That is a lot! If I met someone from online and he bought my lunch I'd be very grateful (not that you weren't). Then if on that same day they offered to pay for car repairs and I was skint I might have let them in my younger days, but not now. However, if then came the offer of a new iPhone as well on the SAME day, for me that is when alarm bells would start ringing. An immediate red flag! Having all of that from a good friend of 20+ years would make me think they are being super generous, giving me all of that on one day. What I find very interesting is you said you did not need a new phone, but you allowed this man to buy you a new one anyway. Genuinely intrigued as to why you accepted that offer when it was not needed. It feels like he was maybe trying to buy your affection which would tie in with his negative response to your Vegas trip. As for his clear gaslighting of you upon your return, well yes, that is unacceptable, yet there is a reason why he was behaving as such, and I would go with the possibility he had developed romantic feelings for you as opposed to the beginnings of dementia angle. My late grandmother was sharp as a button right until the end, and she lived to be 89. As a 48 year old I know decisions I made when I was in my early 20s I would definitely not make now, so yeah, we do evolve as we get older, we become wiser and priority is given to what actually really matters.
Richy's claim to "not be fake" is overcompensation. He clearly is very fake, and probably acts very different off camera. I mean imagine trying to play the innocent act while doing purn for a living lol. What's sad is that so many people in the comments fall for it.
Note to young gay guys: Don’t be afraid to talk to and engage with older gay men. We’re not all lascivious monsters that only want to get in your pants. You might actually meet and have a conversation with someone who is intelligent and has a lifetimes worth of knowledge and wonderful stories to share.
These are doomed relationships.
Thank you, very well stated comment. Most older men are not looking for anything just friendship or an enjoyable day talking, someone to be with and have a great day with.
Hopefully you learned your lesson. Of COURSE there were going to be expectations with him giving all that stuff that you readily accepted.You really don't get away with this BS of not know the game you were playing. Oh please honey. This was a two way street. And you're not showing growth that none of was your fault. Of course part of it was. You were playing your role and knew it. A sign of growth and maturity is here you own your own part and you're not doing that. You still got some growing up to do.
The only person that needs to learn a lesson is the old man spending his money on a young guy expecting something in return. If he just wanted to fuck him, he should have just offer money when they first met.
This is what is called "Life's experiences" - you will have many more. Some will be better and some not. The best thing I can see that will come out of this video is that someone else (likely of your age demographic) will see this and be able to learn from it and avoid some of the trauma and toxicity that you encountered. You will likely come across a situation like this again but the next time you will have this experience to give you some guidance as to what path you want to take.
Someday you too will be much older and in a position to help younger folks and here is something that I have always told those I have helped - if you become modesty successful, remember what someone did for you and look and see if there is someone else who could use your help i.e. "Pay it forward". Thank you for taking the time to make these videos - I hope someday you will meet a viewer or two or yours whose life you helped just because they understood that they are not alone in their struggles.
I don't think you did anything wrong here - it is a good idea for young guys to date older men. Not all of us are jealousy-filled psychos. I love dating a young guy and I don't want to be a sugar daddy at all. Please don't judge older guys who like younger guys based on this experience.
Erm, how is it a good idea' for young guys to date older men? I can see older men relishing the very idea of it: all that young flesh.
Isn't there a name for these men? 'Chicken-hawks'?😕
One of the biggest problems in the gay community is the older generation who can't seem to want to date people their own age. People consistently complain about not finding anyone because most older men are looking for someone who isn't their own age, but younger. That leaves those who are actually looking for something serious, with people of their own peers, not much of a selection to choose from.
I think older men seem to want some kind of validation, that they can't seem to get from people their own age group, and that's rather sad.
@@Theyralltakenfu some younger guys like older guys….. love is love right…age shouldn’t limit one’s feelings towards another person. To limit is ageist.
@@geoffreytbh Ageist, What a crock of a word. People are loving these "ist" words. I agree that love it love, but you way too often see older guys who are constantly looking for someone younger then them. Like they can't handle being with someone their own age or older. Heaven forbid.
Filled psychos...
Really MH question are you a physiologist?
Or just another jealous old fart.
Nothing wrong...
Putting labels upon another is right?
As I watched this video, I thought about your older videos where you talked about three current events and you cooked a meal 🙂. I really like your current storytelling videos of your life experiences. You’re learning about yourself and helping people on many levels. Nice work. Be well & stay safe!
Awww I got emotional. Thank you for sharing this with us. Being blind, I try to do whatever to make friends. But, I'm learning to let it all happen naturally. I don't know what to expect. This helped.
Thanks for the share man; its good to hear this perspective. And I think your hair cut looks great in this video - just thought you should know that.
I'm sorry things ended so badly, but I think it's a good life lesson. Personally, I've learned that nothing is truly free in life and in most cases, when strangers offer you gifts or other goods, they except something in return. Therefore, I'm usually very suspicious when a person I haven't known for long wants to "treat me" and I tend to refuse in order to not be indebted to them in any shape or form. In your case and from what you're saying about his reaction to your Vegas trip, I believe the man wanted either a physical and or an emotional relationship with you, which doesn't seem to be what you were looking for with him, as you probably saw him more like a mentor. Thanks for being so honest with your experience, hopefully this will be the one and only time you have to go through something like this.
Hey Richie
Love to listen to your stories and experiences. Think we all have been there. There are a lot of crazy and jealous people out there. It's nice to have younger friends. It's fun just to have someone to just hang with. Just keep being you
This has a lot to do with boundry control on both sides. So much could be said here no need to say it.
Hi Ritchie,
Yet another video you have created that I can totally relate to. But first, I am so very sorry you had this experience. But, I can also hear that you have done a great job of holding onto the positive and I believe you will bury the negative effects over time.
I want to write the balance if this message to both you and your older fans and viewers. I just turned 70, but I don't look it and I certainly don't act it. I feel like I am 35. Most people think I'm in my 40s. I have never smoked, drunk any alcohol or tried any Street drugs. Given my severe allergy to smoke, I find pot disgusting. I live in the gym, have a 30 inch waist given my diet. Zero red meat, lots of chicken, fish, vegetables and salads, allowing myself a fruit based simple desert once a week. I don't look or act gay. Nobody has a clue unless I tell them.
So going to the gym six days a week, an incredibly good-looking young guy introduced himself. I thought at most he was 22 but probably 20. I didn't find out for six months that he is 37. The day we met, he asked me to lunch. Over that first lunch he told me he had no job and no money. He very directly asked if I could take him to eat every day. Without hesitation, I said yes. He is so good looking, I couldn't fathom that he didn't have a job. Especially here in Las Vegas where resorts want to hire the best looking people. It wasn't long until I learned why he is not employed. We were walking down the street and something I said put him into a state of anger and a screaming fit that would scare most people to death. Ritchie, you already know that I owned and operated a psychiatric hospital for 12 years. I have seen this more times than I can remember. I have been trained on calming people in these states. He was quickly apologizing. I suggested we go back to my house as I could see he was mentally drained. I gave him a nice bedroom, with a big screen TV, king bed and his own bathroom. That was two years ago. He's still there.
I let him sleep, fixed him a great dinner and let him relax that first day. Putting no pressure on him, I hoped he would volunteer his past to me, and he did over time. I've heard some stories about mentally ill patients and the horrific environments they live in, while in our hospital, but this one grabbed me like no other. His mother left his father when he was five years old. He's never seen her since. His father is a drug addict who is a sexual deviant. He was awakened as a child many, many times with his father performing oral sex on him. He put up with it as a child, but by his mid to late teens he pushed him away. He was sleeping on the living room couch in a one bedroom apartment when his father threw him out at 17, because he refused his father's sexual advances.
But none of this background information added up to what I was seeing, that he is bipolar. I took him to one of the psychiatrists I worked with and my worst fears were quickly confirmed by a brain scan. People who are bipolar have abnormal brains with reduced gray matter in the frontal regions and there are structural differences which cause loss of control periodically, especially impulse control, when there is a shift from the depressive to manic state. This can be somewhat regulated by medication but there is no cure.
When I read the entire report I instantly decided to take care of this young man and to leave my estate in trust for him so he can live a good life. Like most bipolar people he is not good at managing money. Lack of impulse control causes him to see something he wants and buy it, even if it takes him down to his last dollar. The trust is set up and will be managed by three attorneys who will pay his bills and put money on a debit card twice a week. There are multiple provisions to handle any emergency.
So anyone reading this must wonder if he is gay or straight. He is straight. Given what happened with his father, I take many precautions to assure his privacy. I never go into his bedroom. That is his personal sanctuary. He keeps it neat and clean. He is an amazing artist. His room is filled with his sketches which he plans to market, on merchandise printed and sold by Amazon.
He doesn't drink, so he occasionally goes out to clubs to dance and meet women. If he wants to have sex I get him a hotel room. The only details he has provided is that he will only have unprotected sex. I have made a provision in his trust if he marries, fathers a child or both. He told me he was married for three months about ten years ago. He never said why it ended, but I can imagine several scenarios. There are days he is a bit itrational, but I say nothing.
He considers me his father and he says he loves me on occasion. I tell him the truth, that I have never loved anyone more and I have dedicated the rest of my life to making certain he will never want for anything. He doesn't like Las Vegas and frankly after 23 years here, I am ready to try a different city. We intend to travel in hope to find somewhere to relocate.
So about that message to your older fans and viewers. I am indeed unique because I have never experienced jealousy. I understand the concept, but I have no idea what the experience feels like. I am also not possessive. I am generous to a fault. I have loved many younger men. Once I left my 20s, I never had a relationship with anyone older than 28. Normally I can read people pretty well as I have been certified as a psychic impath. Usually I can determine whether a man is gay or straight with one look. With the young man who lives with me, I had no clue. Sure, it would be fun if he were gay. But here is what goes through my mind, To love him, is to respect everything about him, especially given the cruelty he has experienced. Any other stance would be incredibly selfish. Being selfless is the most generous, liberating feeling anyone can experience. I guess I am the product of being part if a wealthy family. As we all know, some real jerks can be spawned in that environment. My grandfather shaped my future by taking me to meetings of charitable boards of which he was a member. He told me to give until it hurts. I can't say that I have experienced the 'hurt' that he told me. I remember telling my aunt and uncle that I was putting one deserving young man through Princeton each year. They thought I was crazy. So be it, it felt great.
So my message is this. If you want to keep young men in your life, you have to give them freedom to be with people their own age, even if that includes having sex. Making demands and accusations as Ritchie described in this video only starts a countdown until they say enough and leave, just as Ritchie rightfully did. One of the most valuable things you can bestow in any relationship is trust. I honestly believe that trust is the glue that binds people in any kind of relationship. If that trust is broken, expressing your disappointment is all that should be required if the other person has character. Personal integrity, which is the central point of character, is the personality trait which defines a person for life. Projecting your own special brand of character is where it starts.
Great to find I´m not the only one.
@@IceBreakerMint There are some very descent gentlemen in this world. Unfortunately we hear way too much about sexual deviants and control freaks. In my view, you create a balanced life for yourself and those close to you by flipping the circumstances of those in your life with your own. If you are fair and have a balanced sense of mind, you will meditate and create a path for yourself and those you assist financially that is fair and reasonable. That doesn't mean that you dictate to them. Open discussions about the life they envision for themselves is critical to the process.
Anyone who can't resist being a control freak needs to see a qualified psychiatrist. Otherwise, stay out of the relationship business because those type of people are doing harm to themselves and the people in their lives.
You organically had your hand out, taking what he offered. THE only,way you can walk away clean, is to pay for what you accepted
That is rubbish, the kid needs to keep it all and be done with it. I do shit like that all the time, have so for year's. It's fun to help the young gays. I think it's fascinating that the kid wasn't afraid of that old Geezer. Of course, the man wanted him and was being a phony. Why should the kid be so jaded to know that old gays do nothing for free, the price will be EVERYTHING. Not me, but I know exactly what the kid is feeling because I was that kid and thank God, I'm not that old man
Sorry, I meant that I have given shit to young gays as long as I have been, “let's say, fortunately,” and I'm only 55.
With no expectations.
I am sorry you had a bad experience with an older man you have come through it. As an older man 70 years old and having had many emotional experiences I hope I can see both sides of what you went through. I send you my love and hope you stay strong and find a home for your love where it can flourish
Richie you are a nice sincere guy...nobody has the right to own another person as an exclusive possession.I am a 65 year old solvent gay guy living on the Costa Brava,Spain. I respect everyone but my principles would never allow me to abuse younger gay guys into a relationship via coercion.....
Hi Richie just finished watching my favorite story teller and I f------cking loved it!!!!!.Great job as always👍👍😍😍😍
Thank you for sharing! Always look for the red flags. The fact that this man helped you on that first day with your breaks and a/c is one good thing; however, (and a big however), when he started to shower you with all those other gifts after that, well, that was a huge red flag that he had a huge ulterior motive or motives for doing that. You did the right thing and shame on this man for trying to deceive and manipulate you. I know I, myself, am Gay at 73, and would never ever do anything like that to anyone at any age. Something similar almost happened to me when I was your age, but I saw big red flags and ran for the hills. Bottom line, when you see a red flag, take yourself out of that situation (whatever it is) and move on. Good bless you and good luck with all your future endeavors! :)
Hahahah you don't honestly believe that he was young and naive and not taking advantage. Why would a young gay person continue to accept these gifts? How about saying I really appreciate your offer but I can't accept that much money to fix my car. I like you but I don't want to give you the wrong impression. We,can be friends but I really can't accept money from you like this. That is what a decent gay young person would say. You give him credit and accept his BS story that he did not know exactly what was happening. Fixing his AC getting showered with other gifts and dinner and air flight lessons. Come on get real ?
@@dab7963 EXACTLY! And the old guy knew exactly what he was doing too. I mean, look how they met for God’s sake, lol! Weird too how Richie is pretty evasive about whether they were or were not sleeping together. The guy was an old perv and Richie wanted what he could get out of him.
James and Jon, you nailed it
We all want love. Some day he will also be an old gay man. Everyone has feelings and you clearly took advantage of the situation for own gain. Once thing about getting older is that you become much wiser too
You have no idea how he needed help, and how easy it was for me to help him....I would only do that if he showed me that he wanted to be together and wanted the help......we did it together.....not hard to understand!
I have to echo the sentiments of Alan Bailey. I knew where the story was going at the beginning, not exact details, of course, but the whole "old guy young guy" gone bad thing. What I didn't hear was anything you did wrong. And yet you start by contradict yourself by naming the video "Dating a 76 yo". You say in the video that you weren't dating. He "was like the grandfather you never had." And you even say you are blameless in this, and started trashing him with dementia. The 76 yo that you went up in an airplane with several times. Come on! He wasn't that bad, and you're not THAT naive. Brakes, air conditioning, AND an iPhone in one day???? Who's fooling who here?
Two things missing in a story like this, the other person's side, and the whole truth.
You told him you're in the adult entertainment business. You both knew what you were getting into. There is no innocent party here. Just one party feigning innocence.
This kid is not stupid.
He knew what he was doing and what was expected.
If it walks like a duck ………
Your assumption is so retarded
Wonderful video, so truly honest, thanks for sharing, you should be proud of yourself, and if there is another time to share part of yourself (just friendship) with an older gentleman I sincerely hope he truly appreciates you for just yourself and will be all that you want him to be. Please don't give up on us all . Thanks
You are such a free spirits Richie. I love your energy.
you instigated you used for gain ur as sad as he is
Dude just found the channel and love it 🙏🙌🏼💪 awesome content!!! I just started a channel sharing my coming out story thanks to others sharing there story and content like this! Thanks for the video
Like…why is this video titled “dating a 76 year old man”? The whole video you’re saying that you weren’t dating and you weren’t interested in him that way. Like obviously it sounds like he overstepped boundaries and was controlling but it also seems like there are pieces missing. Like your relationship was sexual or romantic in some way and then it went left.
THANK YOU! I literally just typed something very similar. Richie (conveniently) leaves out whether their relationship was sexual… which makes me 1, think it was, and 2, creeps me out that Richie says he viewed him as a grandfather.
OMG, are you that naive, for god sake your 21 years old, your a taker,he , treats you bad, while you took his money, you will never be a sugar baby, what did you think you were ,you poor baby , he didn’t care,yet you took his gifts, grow up, put your penis away and stop using your youth as a bait to take advantage, you need help. Get some before your 76, it’s not that far away, stop being a victim. Become a giver.
Dear Richie
You are NOT a physiologist of any sort to diagnose any old fart.
That was unkind and outright rude of your kind.
I'm 71 retired teacher and counselor.
And would NEVER say such crap about anyone even not mentioning one's name.
You receive an F for this segment.
As an educated person and being a 71 year old teacher and counselor you should definitely know the difference between unkind rude behavior and not being fully informed. Being condemning and condescending is not very kind on your part either, and you should know better. I am older than you, and I give Ritchie an 'A' for this segment. He has guts to talk about it, and to lay his feelings out. I would however, like to inform Ritchie that even though he is right about many older people suffering from dementia, but that ALL older people do not fit that profile. It appears to me that Ritchie was using dementia as a way to excuse his older friends actions. Many older people are just plain lonely, and afraid of losing the friends they still do have.
It doesn't sound crazy. It's so cool to talk to people of different ages. Everyone has something to offer.
But.....miss gurl, you knew what time it was with him. Let's come down off the cross and be truthful about the gifts. You could have said, "Thanks you, that's so generous, but I can't accept a gift like that." You're a taker.
I totally get that people can have issues but acting all shocked and innocent about the outcome of what was to come is ludicrous common sense had to tell you when you accepted gift number one it was the first installment of him being able to play hide the hotdog and then you kept accepting more gestures of goodwill so it’s of no surprise he was watching you like a vulture staking out a wounded moose....
Enjoyed this story Richie
Interesting story time. As an airplane guy myself, I remember when you posted a flying video. If I recall correctly, you were in a red Citabria. I also recall you relating your friend at the time owned a T-6. I mean WHAT... who actually owns a T-6??? THAT's impressive!!! I remember wondering how you found yourself in that scenario. So, thanks for the follow-up video. You answered many questions! 💖
Some people have ulterior motives. They may do things for you financially, be really nice to you, but in their head you are theirs, and theirs only. Those type of people are pretty scary in my opinion. I hope that never happens to you again.
"in their head you are theirs". WELL PUT!
My opinion was expectations of each other weren’t realistic. He was courting you with gifts. I think you might have tried to pay him back for things he paid for . You couldnt really think all that was for free?
So you detail what he gifted you, what exactly did you give him?
I couldn't be a sugar baby either. of course I'm too old now. But when I was young and pretty I passed on that a few times. I liked making my own way and being endepedant. Gave me a sense of pride
Don't accept to much stuff from someone else if they offer a lot. Always pose the question to yourself: What do you want? Find out. It's not a normal thing to do to shower someone unknown. A one off could be more from the heart, but always ask this, to give a focus not upon oneself but to focus upon him. For to be objective. They may very well to own you from their purchases "for" you.
Not caring what you think is a big thing. Always avoid those types.
Anyway, we all learn.
Top work.
Super cool blog great job 👍
...you helped give him the power by accepting those offers or gifts... it happens to alot of people.
Crazy story!!..Glad your doing ok.
Richie, so sorry to hear a good relationship turned so toxic. I wonder why it turned so negative. I hope in time you will be able to remember the positive parts. It sounded li,e it started well, it is not your fault. You are a very fine person.
I do hope you don’t judge all older men by this one person. It’s like everything else, once a group of people get stereotyped, it hurts those of us who really are decent people. Granted he did seem to assume a lot. But you sure didn’t need to feel all that pressure. There are all types out there. Sugar daddies, sugar babies, independents, those who want a lot, and those who settle for less 8n a relationship. Boundaries should be established in situations like that. I’ve actually seen age gap couples do really well. It’s just a matter of knowing what the other wants.It would be awesome if you wound up with the right guy, and enjoyed every aspect of the relationship. Your choosing of course. Take care and enjoy the journey!
Thank you so much for this video. I wish we could have a conversation, or realistically, I wish we could start a community conversation about interaction between generations. For perspective I'm 70, gay, and out for 50 years. A hard lesson but looks like you got it. I think this gentleman was a probably a malignant narcissist. There may have been dementia there but not necessarily. All his behaviors are textbook narcissism. He used his assets to reel you in, to impress you, and to try to control you.. For me the new phone was the first red flag. Someone might help you get your car fixed but the phone was over the top. To the people who are slamming you in the comments, maybe they were never 20 and broke. There are times in our lives when we crave positive attention. It's hard not to respond. All the best.
Yes.... malignant narcissism sounds close to the mark. He could have stopped offering u gifts any time he liked but didnt. Why? Because he was getting something in return - your friendship, gratitude and admiration, all of which were genuine. But he had fantasy which he kept secret, perhaps even from himself; that in some way you were his boyfriend, his lover, loyal to him alone. In the end his fantasy tripped him up when he had to face the fact that u had other friend with whom you wanted to spend time. His explosive reaction to this shows that he had deep emotions that he was keeping from you. I think you were honest with him but he was not honest with you. He couldnt be because he was not honest with himself and what his motives were all along.
“Brain funneling down the drain.” 😆. You crack me up.
There is no fool like an old fool. I am not 76 but I am closer to that age than I am to Ritchie’s age. That 76 year old did not have any entitlement to anything because he had bought gifts and paid for things. He should have known that. If he wanted the relationship to become more then he should have made that clear and then if there was no reciprocation he would have ended it.
Not all older people are wise. Sometimes they are worse than teenagers. I do actually quite enjoy hanging out with younger men and women sometimes because I like the energy and also I have nostalgia for how I was at that age. That is a very different thing from wanting to hook up with them.
The older man you had this encounter with should have understood all this. Friendship without hooking up is valuable. If he wants to have sex after spending money then he can go to a prostitute, that is more honest.
I think that older man didn’t realise what he had. He didn’t realise that friendship is very often just as valuable as a sexual relationship. I think he did value your company and I can see why he would. Unfortunately it seems he didn’t understand what he had.
This is the first TH-cam video that I’ve seen of you.
You sound like a very down to earth, level headed guy.
Your a good story teller. If you’re like this is real life you’re an amazing person.
Whoever comes in contact with you is very, very lucky.
All the very best in life and love!
Super confusing vid. You literally titled it “Dating a 76 year old”, then say you didn’t understand why he didn’t want you to go to Vegas, since you weren’t dating and THEN say you were dating later in the vid… So which is it?? You also talk about how you viewed him as a grandfather and don’t mention if or when you were even sleeping together. Should have seemed very obvious that he wanted a sugar baby from day 1. Look at how you met, dude. You seriously think some innocent grandfatherly guy is watching you on that website, then just wants to take care of you like his grandchild?? COME ON, DUDE!
Never accept gifts from people you don't know until you fully understand the dynamics of the situation. I don't think the age thing was a big factor in this debacle. It was your naivete and his insecurity. Had you both handled it differently, you both could have benefited greatly.
Oh, wow! Go back in 5 years and listen to the video, you will learn so much, you are right this is just and experience. Good luck to you. Be well.
Your story is very interesting.
Of course it's not the same thing, but I take the opportunity to say something that reminded me.
In Brazil there is a legend, among the Indians, which tells about a character whose name is "Curupira", this personification usually offers part of its own flesh; usually a part of his leg and then if a famelic person eats a little,
The "Curupira" feels he has a right over his eater!
Glad the story was successful; you saw a bit of life in old age taking flying lessons and certainly, he reminisced about his youth.
Dude.. so sorry you had to go through that!!
When something is offered there is always the expectation that something be given in return. In law it is called Quid pro Quo (literally something for something). So when I have found myself in this type of situation I have asked myself "what does he want in return?" It is also imperative that you understand that the instant you accept that "something" then he has won and you are on the hook.
Soon as I heard about the offer to fix the car, the new iPhone, free flight lessons…. I knew where this was going. I had offers in my younger years. 🙂
This is hilarious. Awesome post.
O my goodness!! What a horrible and bad experience for you or anyone to go threw!!☹️☹️😢😢😢. not all older guys are like that, but I've never dated a older guy, all I have to say is good for you standing up to him and keep up the good work nice video again Richie. LOVE ya😘😘💜💜💜💜💜💜🌈🤠
Iam sure he could have at least banged the ol guy! Iam sure he had $thousands into him. There never a free lunch. Sexual things should have happened!!!
this story is almost as old as mankind; the young innocent seduced by the manipulating old man and when the young
innocent can no longer live with himself or meet the manipulators needs the relationship ends in flames and the
young innocent just can't figure out why; perhaps he will figure it all out when he reaches the old mans age
Enjoyed your experience sorry he turned out that way 🥲
This is a young guy meeting with an older person who was spending all this money
Blake knew full well what was up it's the old story many seniors gay men get into this situation
Older guy man wanting to have eye candy and arm candy
The elderly gentleman spending money expecting favors in return maybe some guys can be that slow but not Blake he knew full well what was going on
You know full well what Judge Judy would say to you Blake
Your full of it so I hope you learned a lesson take ownership Mr Blake your not totally innocent
You are a taker, not a giver. All you thought of was what he could offer you as a "friend".
You can't let someone just have a hold on you. I've given friends things with no strings or expecting anything in return. Just be cautious in the future experiences.
Another lesson-Nobody gives you for anything for free.
It is shame that the relationship ended that way🥺
I suggest that you always talk about an elephant in the room. Verbalize any thing that you think might possibly be being ignored. Like "hey, thanks, but you know I can not pay you back" or, "I perform sex for my job, but I could really appreciate a non-sexual friend" or, "I like having you for a friend, but please lets keep sex out of it" or, "I am down for a little fun now, but I need my independence to be UN-attached". Age matters far less than mutual feelings or honesty.
Fascinating
Interesting story, but you’re a better man for having gone through it and you will probably be more cautious in future relationships.😊🌈
I think this is a really important story. It’s very difficult for gay men especially to interact or even date, because there just is such a lack of sincere and respectful communication. I remember one guy I knew who years later told me they’d been very interested, but I had had no idea and would have been interested back (in my mind I’d expressed interest with no response). No one wants to be creeped on, but that feeling I think comes from general insincerity in the community. You should be able to make little moves without too much fear of being rebuffed, but when you are, you should be able to take the hint. This dude ’really liked you’, but instead of giving you ways to signal your disinterest, went apeshit.
Fascinating life lessons! Listen, a guy of his affluence could easily afford such gifts with no strings attached. It was his fault to expect that you therefore owed him obedience. While I understand his attraction to you -- you are young, sexy, thoughtful, and even spiritual -- he should not have expected power over you. I am sad that he was seduced into controlling mode, because he *could* have been a grandfather.
Your right of passage in dating a much older man.Many of us have gone thru that phase when we were young ourselves. In a way it indicates that you’re a beautiful person.
Wtf is going on in this story?
What I don't get is your title says "Dating a 76 year old man" yet you repeatedly say you weren't dating? What you also didn't say is if you were having sex with him or not? 3 sides to every story..
This video makes it seem like you’re insinuating that older men are just like this. He just happens to be a toxic person. Also, this felt very disingenuous.
i think he was jealous so maybe thats why he said that n i had been with someone like that once they are not good ppl to surround urself with they are to controling so i advice u to not talk to him again he wants u to feel bad abt yourself be proud of yourself keep ur head high bro surround urself with good ppl not bc some ppl laugh with u dont mean they are on ur side so be careful out there
I love you darling, but you are naive. Looking at it from a third party cold distance, you had to know a 76yr old man "repairing" a 20 yr old porn star's car had to be him buying companionship. I know a guy in his upper 20's dating a guy in mid 50's, but they are engaged and in love, two businessmen each self-sufficient. Be very careful.
It was not the age .....if you are a jealous ,possessive,controlling person it would have happened the same way with a 50 years old
Jealousy and control are a destructive condition..........
And of course it get increasingly bad when you get older.......
Sorry for the experience,but love the fact that you take it has a learning experience........
And by the way,I am 74 and in a relationship with a 43 years old lover........
And it’s great..........
It just goes to show you that being immature and insecure is not exclusive to the younger men!
Have you done much fiction writing?
You shouldn't not seek out friendships with older men, but not ones you meet who are watching your site! Clearly that means they find you of sexual interest. Not all older men like younger men. I for instance am 60 years old and am only attracted to men near my age. As a younger man I preferred older men. In any case, seek out gay mentors and friends in groups of interest. If you're into a hobby or activity you'll meet gay men interested first and foremost in friendships. Everything doens't have to turn into a Harold and Maude situation.
It could have been because he was filling a mentor need you hadn't had before and he liked you more! Sorry you had to go through that but it helps with growth:)
some people don't let you know what they are really like until later own don't worry about it it happens to everybody
Interesting video. As an older gay man who likes younger guys, it was helpful to see your perspective
A lot of old men are only sexually attracted to hot young men . It usually doesn't last . I have always had boyfriends who were younger , better looking and more hung . None of those attributes were what really cared about . In fact it is a lot to deal with having every man and his dog after them . All I need is a good man with a laid back attitude and a match for my urges . I have a good man now though he's younger and hotter we have come to mutual agreement that our love is real and we can make it work .
This is really rather sad...
This man obviously was projecting on you someone with understanding and the capacity to be a friend, the fact that he got attached to you brought about Wanting to possess you,
This has nothing to do with age, what are you attached to? I am sure you’re attached to a lot of things
It seems to me that this guy has lots of good things to offer as a friend, you were not receptive and were enjoying the ride, be honest and see how you Mislead him, forgive him and forgive yourself and let it go🙏👍
mine was lunch at work, he was alot older, very nice, widow, showed me an article and proceded to tell me how men show feelings. he thenprocede to kiss and ran his hands down my joggiong suit. I was startled but left due to I was married, he knew this. but felt he had ruined our freindship. Was never the same though. I was in my late 30, him in his 80;s
such a sad end, could have been friends but you see only what you want to see.
ok soo being an older guy who dates younger i can say its all about how you treat and respect a person in any type of relationship/freindship. that being said better too part ways if you feel not trusted by someone
Hello 👋 ! Like your Videos , are you still living there in Arizona ? Where are you now in this world , you was just a good friend , Thanks Terry ,
Just throwing in my two cents: The onus is on the older, more experienced individual to be transparent, and, if things are offered without explicit expectations of something in return, that’s on the person offering. Also, no one deserves to be belittled, free iPhone or no. I’m glad you got some flying lessons out of it though.
You, dear one, used him. Hope you have learned that by now.
Your not so innocent or navie in your story richie, and for one so young you certainly do get around, you should not have excepted any of his services or gifts from day one, as stated above your not that innocent or naive, btw am 24,
Never ever ASSUME, that means your going to make an ASS of yourself never assume...
Mature guy here, now married to a much younger man. Very happy, but experience some prejudice from other gays.