"You're so spoiled!" Honey, I wash and put away all dirty dishes, I cook dinner, I wash my own clothes, I take care of all of our pets (2 dogs, 4 cats), I drive my parents around town for errands AND I pay rent. I'm sorry spoiled? Never heard of her.
I don't live at home because I need to. I live at home because my dad passed away and my mom would be living alone. I don't pay rent. But I work full time and help with bills. Sure I get perks like she sometimes does my laundry or she makes dinner. But I'd rather her have someone then struggle with my dad's loss alone.
Little Atmosphere honestly you don't need to explain yourself! There's nothing wrong with living with your parents unless you're leeching of them and not even helping them, I know some people like that.
This is how I see it. Why should we leave our parents to live in isolation and loneliness? We only have so much time with them anyway, might as well make it count. I feel the exact same way when my dad passed.
Media Luna most of the world has and does still operate like that in spite of what images of success are peddled and you saying that makes me think this was a missed ~*things you shouldn’t say* video.
Living with your parents is okay, but it's not when you don't contribute to anything. Get a job, go to college, or at least tidy the house and cook dinner. Don't freeload.
Agree 100%!! I live in Sydney City and the cost of rent is rediculous!! It's very rare to live alone even if you have a high paid job, almost everyone lives in shared accommodation. To buy a tiny house in a shitty town costs well over a million dollars. I live with my parents but I contribute, clean up after myself and pay rent. Expecting your parents to look after you as an adult and not contributing is disgusting.
I am a 25 years old DOCTOR and I live with my parents, as I'm single and work in the same city as my parents sooooo why get my own place? And this is everyone around us, you don't move out just to move out
I'm 28 and I live with my parents. there, I said it. I am more embarassed I don't have a job and I'm still finishing uni though, suffered with depression for years. I had one job in my life for 3 years as a mail girl but I decided to go back to finish my education. I'm super embarassed of my life, I'm very thankful my parents never made me feel unwelcome in their home, I may not help with rent (they don't really need it to be fair) but I do help around the house a lot and I'm basically their choffeur and happy to be of any help I can.. I'm scared I'll never find my life path..
Similar situation but 26. I started Uni at 24 and before that I was just working. However, I don't want to graduate at 32, so I'm taking 2 years off of working to be a full time student and since my parents want me to stay in Uni SOOO BAD, they are supportive of this. Plus, culturally where I'm originally from is not uncommon for people to live with parents until marriage or throughout their 20s. My mother hasn't done my laundry since I was 12 though lol
But yes, as long as you are working towards your goal, you are doing something. Battling depression can be a setback that traps some people within themselves. People who don't experience it many times don't comprehend it at all. Hang in there :)
The most annoying thing was when people thought you could not cook, do laundry, pay bills or anything when you are still living at home. I don't know if they actually thought that way or were they just trying to be annoying. "Don't worry, cooking is not hard!" Yeah, I know because I cook every day..
Exactly. It pisses me off when people try to imply that living on your own is somehow a skill worthy of a degree. It's not. Living on your own is easy as hell.
Unfortunately, there are folks who live outside of their parents home and cant cook, do laundry or keep a job. They swap out their moms for their wives/girlfriend.
@@ecclairmayo4153 I noticed. I'm a landlord of four houses and I choose to live with my mother because its easier for us both. A lot of people who live at home with their parents are degree educated, own businesses or might even be someone similar to me. It's not like they're going to be stumped by a washing machine.
@@mrdojob - same here. Landlord, Degreed, full time job and small business , while sharing a home with my family. It only makes sense...and I haven't met a washer/dryer or recipe that has stumped me yet!
That's university accommodation for you. I was paying 110 a week for my university accommodation. Lived at home this year and my mum only charges me £50 a month. Moving back out for my Masters and back up to £124 a week. Gonna miss home hahaha!
Yeah, same pretty much. My rent fee was $200 a fortnight but I lost my job and had to move back home. Ahaha, but I'm like 21 so that's not too bad, right? uh.... right??
Reading these comments has been so entertaining but goes to show that there are still some people who have no clue about the real implications of living at home. Everyones circumstances are always different but as a few have said, there is a difference between living with your parents and leeching off your parents. Also, in London where i believe myself and the other participants were all from; not everyone is in a comfortable position to just "get their own place" or "get a better job" as ive also read. In addition; some of us dont work conventional jobs that pay all that well in order to afford certain things. People should walk a mile in anothers shoes as it were before making such fly away comments about things they dont really understand. Either way, i had a great time filming this! Thank you BBC 3 :) x
I moved back home 2 years ago cause couldn't do it financially. And that was great decision. Me and my mum got closer, I got more time to spend with my sister. I don't pay rent as we agreed that I'll be saving for a flat of my own but I do shopping and cook and help around the house. Whenever she needs any extra cash I'm here for her. For Christmas I got them new carpets and now chipped in for a new car even tho I don't have a driving licence. Sometimes it feels weird that I'm nearly 25 and still living with them but with the current economy and housing prices this is the best option. Besides we get to have hell a lot of fun - should've seen us playing drunk monopoly 😂 Wouldn't change my family for any other ☺️
My son has lived with me four of the five years since my husband died. Sean did live a year with his dad, but then moved back in with me when I had major surgery and needed lots of help. Then later that year (just last year in fact) his depression and anxiety hit a major spike and he had to stop working. We certainly have our challenges--my cancer and grief journeys as well as recent shoulder replacement surgery, and his dual diagnosis of mental illness and addiction--but we mosey along. We love and respect each other, supporting each other as fully as possible. He works part-time now and helps with groceries and laundry money. He does all the laundry, garbage duty, reaching, carrying, lifting. I pay the majority of the bills off my disability and our food stamps pickup the bulk of our groceries cost. It's work, though, it is. He just wants to live his life his way and not have me insert myself into what he wants to do. Unfortunately a lot of what he wants to do is problematic due to his addiction, sooo we have lots of discussions and make compromises. There are ways he bends, ways I bend. (Without enabling) And of course at 22 he's not fond of when I mom him, but he accepts that that's part of what it is to have a mom. I've repeatedly told him he could be 62 and I'd still want to know how he's doing, how does he feel today, is he hungry, and be concerned when he's out in the world in any kind of compromised state. I do do a lot of momming, that's true. When he leaves plates out that have food residue, or leaves lights on, or there's pee drops on the floor in front of the toilet, or could we please limit the trail of clothes to at least near the laundry baskets? Things like that. Perhaps there will be a day when he can work sufficiently to support himself and be stable enough to live alone. That'd be great. But if he continues to live with me for years more, that's totally cool, too. He's good people. We learn a lot from each other. And we BOTH make an effort to contribute. That's key. He feels strongly about not mooching. I'm grateful he has that attitude. Even with our challenges, we're pretty blessed.
That would be things like: - “Just eat something!!” - “Just stop stuffing your face!” - “You don’t look like you have an ED” - “Men want something to grab onto, men prefer women with curves.” - “How can you have an ED ? You’re a man!” - “Go into a hospital and let them cure you, you’ll be fine.” - “There are only two ED’s, Anorexia and Bulimia” .....just to mention a few The list goes on and on
I'm 28 soon 29. I'll move out when me and my best friend find a place. 'Cuss I can't stand being lonely. I tried living alone but it felt horrible. I need to have company, I don't do much sound myself so being alone is defning. I prefer living with my grandparents than alone any day.
TheGingerLady I need something that is affordable and has access to decent public transportation. It's hard to find a place when rent cost over 1,000 a month and you just make slightly above minimum wage.
This makes me feel so much better about still being at home at 29. The people who dont pay rent or contribute to housework and that piss me off though. I pay £70 a week, help with the cooking occasionally, do my own laundry, and help with the food shopping now and then and then you got a couple of people on here who don't contribute at all... wth?!
im 25 and live with my parents. ive finally decided to move out, but only after getting a decent job and learning to manage my mental health. i lost 4 jobs in a year, and suffered other traumas that prevented me from moving out. NO ONE had any support or understanding, except this one 17 year old girl and my psychologist
what about people like me who are in their early twenties, living with one of their parents because they take care of them.. my mother can't live by her self, it's people who moan about people telling them they're spoilt that actually make others look bad. the whole "I could pay rent but I'd have to get a job I hate" thing is really silly. I work full time, study and am a full time carer. sometimes you need to make sacrifices, if you don't like a job, it can open the door to other opportunities, it's life.
Meredith Bunn yes very very true. I help keep my mom grounded at home. I was gone for just a day and the house went crazy! But I mean I love her so much though
First off, I do respect that you take care of your mother ... it's the least any child can do for their parent. But also there aren't any rules on how to live your life so obviously if someone lives with their parents for other reasons than yours - like having a career they enjoy - it's not really anyone else's place to underwhelm that situation.
same, im 26 and take care of my disabled father at home. I also work and study, often my friends make faces when its mentioned i live at home, but I worry who will take care of dad if I move out one day
The fact that mentioning someones race is considered racist is just stupid Its just as stupid as saying someone is sexist for pointing out that someone is a women.
ow well then the arabs AND asians here in the netherlands are very different :O they are usually the first ones too life on their own in a house no husband/wife at all
I'm 40 (*gasp*.... Yes!) and I still live at home. One of the best things is that I'm able to keep an eye on my parents particularly my dad is is unwell and I do get very anxious about not knowing what is going on
M3IST3R he looks after his dad. How does that make him a loser??? These days younger people just put their parents to nursing homes which is fuckn sad! After all the sacrifices they did, the least we can do is take care of them when they can't take care of themselves anymore! Living w/ your parents, no matter how old you get doesn't make you a loser. But what makes you a loser is living w/ them and not giving a fck about them. And also calling someone who's actually doing someone good, a "loser" makes YOU! a LOSER!
I forgot to add that I'm a unmarried woman still living at home, my father suffers from Ulcerative Colitis, angina, who has had five heart bypasses back in 2001 and myself I suffer from Rheumatoid Arthritis so even without my parents help I would struggle. Despite all the health and cash problems we are a very tight closely knit family that likes to look out for each other and we can do that every day without the use of contacting through a phone
lived at home till I was 27. That was over a decade ago, so wasn't as common then. It wasn't ideal, but it helped me get through college and not have to live in mad debt for years like most of my peers are still doing. I paid rent, but not near what I would have elsewhere.
Joe Key That's her point, she can afford a place to live, but that'd be all. A lot of people don't include water/sewer/garbage, heat, electricity, internet/phone/tv, etc. It's hard to live out on your own when you're not ready for all the expenses!
Marshal Ironsides I mean, yeah. But would you rather go without water, food, heat, etc. for weeks while trying to get to work and finish all your work?
I moved out at 17, then was back home for about a year when I was 18. I'm 25 now and had been out of the house living in various situations (I've moved 8 times in the last 5 years). I've struggled all my life with nearly disabling depression and anxiety, and about two months ago it all turned into a huge slow breakdown. I lost my relationship of nearly two years, had to drop out of school and consequently lose my amazing job as a student employee, and move back into my mom and stepdad's house. And then my stepdad sold my truck (his truck, I'd be driving it for the last seven years), and so now I have NO money and no real independence. I was applying for jobs like crazy to get out of the situation and had several interviews but no luck. Then I got hired but my depression and anxiety hit me like a train and I had to drop out of the offer or I felt like I was going to jump off a roof. I'm going to counseling and having a mental health evaluation, but for the last two months life has been kind of shitty. I went from being four months away from graduating with my BA, building up a savings with a nice job, in a loving relationship, being independent, to nothing. I hate my brain.
@@100KSubsriberCountNoContent Thanks for asking. I was on my own for the last four years, completely financially independent for about two of them. The only reason I could do that was because I was living in a shitty tiny apartment and getting a rent discount for doing cleaning in common areas and being in charge of taking the garbage/recycling to the curb. I started a legitament petsitting business (licensed, insured, I did all sorts of training) which was barely off the ground when the pandemic hit so I had to close. I'M LIVING WITH MY PARENTS AGAIN! Ugh. They offered for me to live with them to not blow through my savings while I started my own housecleaning business after working for a company for a year and a half. Which is very nice of them and I'm grateful to be keeping my savings, but it was a hard pill to swallow. I just turned 30 in December. I started my business in February so it's too early to say how that's going. I have one happy repeat client who is referring me to people but nothing has come of it yet. I have a part time evening/weekend job doing pizza delivery while I wait for more clients. About a year ago I did adopt a cat who is the love of my life. He's expensive because I feed him good quality food and have health insurance for him, but he's worth it for my sanity. I want to do housecleaning instead of petsitting again for a variety of reasons. So things are okay but not great. I really am just wanting to give up trying to work for myself and get a full time job at some company, but I know in the long run I'd be miserable. I'm just getting very impatient waiting for my business to take off so I can be completely independent again.
I'm always like "Your parents cook your meals?!" I've been cooking my own meals since I can remember, seems absurd that some 20+ year olds can't cook xD
XD I've been cooking family dinner since 14. My mom said I needed to know how to cook. She won't let me touch the laundry though. She's kind of paranoid about anyone else doing the laundry. So I'm only allowed to fold them and put them up.
It's very rare that dinner gets made for everyone, but that's because my mom's health prevents her from standing there to cook. So I cook, clean and do laundry. There's lots of nagging if I don't get up straight away to do something, and that's annoying. 😑
I'm from the US and this is still 100% relatable! Also when parents don't want you to move out and you do, and then when you move back in and they still throw shade at you either way lol.. 😂
I'm 23 and I moved in with my boyfriend just over 2 years ago (renting a place), but it was just too expensive for us to manage it. We both moved back into our parents house a few weeks ago because it finally became too much (plus there was black mould that the landlord wouldn't fix), and now we're looking for a new place with cheaper rent. The only thing that annoyed me about this was people talking about the property ladder. Like I get buying a house is what's best, but you don't -have- to...you can just rent and that's fine. I don't care if people still live at home when they're any age, there are loads of reasons (health problems, close family, money, etc), but it feels snobby when people think they're too good to rent.
Gemma Smith aye that's fair enough, but when you refer to the property ladder it generally means buying When I was younger I knew a lot of people from my school who were judgey/general assholes about rented homes, and my parents have always rented their home so I always took it personally. I'm probably just being overly sensitive about nothing :)
***** True! There's still a massive deposit to think about though (which sucks) It can be really hard renting or buying a property, especially for single people and people who are too sick to work but can manage and want their own space
But why rent when you're just making a landlord rich when you could be pouring that money into helping your parents or yourself pay offa property. Your logic is off; you were just triggered
I'm living at home but only cause I don't have a job to support myself. It's very depressing when people judge for living at home. I don't want to live at home (I'm the first born of 8 kids) but I have nowhere else to go. I got fired from my job and was kicked out of college. I feel like a total loser but there are days where I'm hopeful. I want to get to the point in my life where I can be the one to buy my family the house they deserve and stuff like that. Even though my parents judge me by not getting a job or go back to school. They don't know the struggle it is to find a job and the money it takes to go to college. At least I help around the house and look after my siblings. My parents don't really appreciate that and only want money and that's sad that they only see me as a paycheck but I can't change my family (no matter how many times I wish for it😅). I may not show it but I do love my family, I would do anything for them
Marshal Ironsides You do realize that sometimes people have to fill out several applications only to find out that they have been rejected again and again until they find one that will hire them and they can keep. If you are just randomly telling people on the internet that you don't know to "grow up" without considering the various circumstances that people live in, you are not really acting like a grown up yourself.
reetta malin yeah I'd love an things not to say to someone with ibs (it's only a belly ache, just watch what u eat then) stuff like that I've such bad ibs it is debilitating for me
+TJ SPARKLE I feel ya on that one! I've got IBS, pcos, and chronic fatigue, and while all are a pain to some degree, IBS annoys me the most as I'm just sick of eating. I love food, and now it's a chore.
@Steve C Can we just accept the fact, that "life being easy or not" does not depend on your genitalia?!x'D It depends on a lot of different things and it's just ignorant and lazy to blame it on something like your sex, which is something that you're born with rather than something you could work on, like your perspective on life and your skillset. And John...it's great for your little sister to be able to afford a house already and I don't think that this should cast any shadows on you still living at home. You seem to be quite a creative guy, judging from your youtube channel and if living at home makes it possible for you to live and make your creative and stunning videos and explore the world around you I'd say embrace it even more. You did not add any negative or positive connotation to your statement, so I feel like you might not even need to be told that you are doing an awesome job and living at home does not diminish that...so I'll just leave it at that and hope you're having an awesome day.
You're missing the point. His sister probably only contributes a small minority of the cost & the large majority of it being paid by her partner. Millions of young women have well-off partners. Men don't have that opportunity. Likewise, women can easily find men to pay for their food, drink, clothes, bills, holidays. Men are expected to pay for women and themselves. Millions of mistresses receive huge allowances as well. Men don't have the opportunity of being showered in expensive gifts by women. Going on a date typically costs a man hundreds of pounds. It costs a woman nothing. Any woman can get sex with as many men as she wants with extreme ease. Men have to jump through hoops, spending a huge amount of time, money and effort to get sex with women. Having a vagina is a ticket to free food, drink, holidays, cars etc. A penis is worthless; a vagina is worth a fortune.
Lol I'm 29 and still am at home. I've been here for a year and my brother is 21 and getting his own place next month. I'm happy here though. If I wasn't here I would never have got sober and had a strong foundation. They're allowing me to save after being homeless in another state for so long.
I live with my folks still. I cook dinner every night, pay bills, but groceries, clean, and do laundry. I don’t mind. I have no social life so I spend most of my time in my room anyway. I’m Mexican and my parents are old school so they used to believe a young lady shouldn’t leave home until she was marrying. Lol
I've been living with my mom for going on 5 years now, and it's honestly one of the best decisions both of us agreed on. She's not lonely since her husband passed away, and we both help with the bills since cost of living is continuing to go up. Being with her kept me on a path of finally having a career, and being able to have the funds to live on my own finally. She's also become my best friend, which we were struggling with when I was a teen. There is nothing wrong with living with your parents if you all agree on the circumstances. Mooching is completely different.
Oh, that line about all your income going to rent is painfully true. About 80% of my monthly income goes straight to rent, not even touching utilities.
Jåden Yuki that would be really interesting! I'd love to learn that because I wouldn't know what to say if someone told me they are asexual and I dont want to offend them
I'm in my early twenties and I live with my Mum. I have a severe mental illness and I've been on welfare for a few years. I've worked hard gaining a certificate in horticulture and I have a part time job now. Before I did that I did a lot of volunteer work. It's still not enough to move out, but I don't feel bad about it because I know I have done my best. I am really grateful I have my mothers support because I know that there are many young people out on the streets who would probably jump at the chance to have what I have. People seem to think living at home is a bad thing and don't realize its just culturally abnormal in the west, but that is shifting because its so unafforadable to go out on your own. I personally think it is a good thing for families to stick together and support each other.
things not to say to people who do not drive I'm sick and tired of hearing about how I need to grow up, or I need to go out and do my own thing or how I need to be a man .I am a man, I pay my bills I married, i make a car payment, i just because I don't have a license.that doesn't mean I'm not responsible, things not to say to people who don't drive,
I have autism and while I am safer driving small vehicles in rural areas, driving on roads is very disorientating (especially at night!) and I can't focus. Theres so much to remeber and focus on while driving. I I would likely miss many signs and get me or others hurt. But people still insist I should try. :(
I find sex scene more awkward than my mom does. I grew up in a household that family meetings were held in the bathroom. Door wide open, someone in the shower, someone on the tiolet taking a poop, someone brushing there teeth. do you know how many times I have just walked into the bathroom while my moms pooping and been like I need to brush my teeth and hair for school. Now My mom is ok with that shit but I like to lock my bathroom door. I have a germ phobaia thing but who cares I came out of my mom, shes seen me naked and i have seen her naked hell I have seen my twin bro naked. ( helped my mom one day take his naked adult drunk ass to bed)
i honestly dont get the awkwardness, its a tv show or movie that you both or all wanna watch, is acting on a screen its not like you are doing anything lewd. me and my dad used to watch a lot of tv together when i still lived at home(i not living with them anymore cause i live in another country now) because we both worked from home: me with my freelance graphic design and illustration he with his blueprints and electrical engineering, and we would put shows we liked basically the whole day while working and or just watching tv or movies together because we like the same shows and its never been an issue.
As my parents age, I'm more happy to be living at home with them. I know when they pass that I'll be at peace knowing I tried to help them, take care of them, and spend time with them as much as I could making beautiful memories with the loving people that brought me into this world.
This is how I feel too. We only have so much time with them as it is, there will plenty of time to be alone. I don't understand why people itch to get so far away from their family, anyway.
In our culture is pretty much very normal to live with your parents tell marriage and even some families found it disrespectful and a way to "forget your parents made" if you leave the home .
Exactly!!!! people make a big fuss about it, when really it’s not their life or business. You don’t owe anybody an explanation for why your at home. Just live your life how you want it’s ok, the people who judge you let em go they aren’t worth the tears or the time, they just wasted your time and embarrassed themselves. People are always going to have strong opinions about this topic, but do not let anybody harass, shame, or belittle you. That’s what immature, sad, insecure, controlling bigots educated or uneducated do. Nobody in their right mind would make fun of a person for living at home. I would have to say they’d be insane and hateful bigots who need help. You don’t need those kinds of people in your life. You be you, and ignore the haters. You will always have allies to back you up. There’s no shame in living with family or on your own or with friends. People who put others down and use education as an excuse to bully you are bigots and they should be the ones who need to be more accepting of others. Educated and non educated bigots and bullies alike need to be taught a life lesson, it’s not up to them how you live. Just ignore their hateful garbage, and live your life. People think they have all the facts on you but they don’t, especially condescending strangers.
I'm 27 and live with my parents and two younger siblings.I would love to live by myself,but the last time i tried, my psychological issues hit so hard,that i stayed in bed all day.And i mean ALL day.I just got up to use the bathroom.I didn't even eat until my stomach hurt so much,that i couldn't ignore it any longer. So...living alone is sadly no possibility right now🙈
People need to understand that some people live with their parents or grandparents to take care of them because they can't take care of themselves. I hate that "Aren't you too old" People always think the worst.Or to help their parents pay he bills or take care of the kids. The relationship can be mutually beneficial.
I am 34 and living back with my parents. I have 4 disabilities/chronic illnesses and am unable to work anymore because of that. Some of it I have at a severe level. I was recently approved for disability which is not easy to get but I got approved quickly because of the significance of my issues. I contribute in the ways I am able to. I buy groceries, help around the house. I have my own bills and expenses. I was giving my parents money every month towards expenses but for the past while they have not wanted me to because I was without an income for a while so they wanted me to save some. I'm planning to pay them again regularly soon and just gave them some money again recently. With all of my therapies and treatments and limited income I cannot afford to live alone. But I feel like people look down on me or judge me for living at home. Trust me I would much rather be able to function well enough to work and earn enough money to have my own place but right now that just isn't possible. You can judge me if you want but you have no idea what it is like to be in my shoes unless you have similar circumstances.
None of those haters will understand you because they just want to drag in the mud. Ignore them they are in the past your not. Don’t let anybody ram their hate down your throat walk away from them.
Jess Express YESS!!! That's the worst! I can't believe the stupid shit people say to you when you're grieving and going through the hardest, most traumatic experience in your life. It just makes your grieving so much harder.
This hit home. I actually got told off by someone at uni because I live with my mom again. We don‘t have dorms and universities are usually smack dab in the middle of larger cities, so rent is astronomical. I pay some rent at home tho, the girl had her own apartment paid for by her parents and she packed all her laundry to take with her every weekend so she could get it washed at home. But I‘m totally the spoilt brat /s.
JuiceMyRandomness ikr my girlfriend mother and aunt all suffer the same type of ailments. but others are always asking are you alright today? n that's a normal question but not somebody suffering from fibromyalgia or multiple sclerosis
This would be cool. I'm in a weird position where I may have fibromyalgia, but it could also be an autoimmune disease. The doctors don't want to officially diagnose it yet. So yeah, a video on fibromyalgia would be cool.
Things not to say to starving artists (get a real job, why don't you go on x-factor?!, but your songs/paintings/writing is so good, have you tried journalism, etc)
There's a difference to live at home because you have to, and live at home because you can't bother to get your own place. If you don't pay rent, don't cook, don't do laundry for yourself just because you can't bother you are spoilt and ungrateful. If you live as a roomie with your parents and pay rent, have your own food in the fridge, make your own meals unless you eat the same stuff, then it's just an arrangement like any other. I live at home at 30 yo because I'm ill and don't have the ability to live alone right now. Still waiting to get an apartment with the right support for me, can't wait to be alone, but things has to be the way they are right now. I don't "help" at home, I do my share that I'm able to according to my illness, and my mom does her share. Of course I pay half the rent. It's the least I can do, even though I am on nothing but disability from the state. You can't be a leech, both of you have to be roomies.
I don't get why other some countries usually look down on the people who don't move out. It's completely normal where I'm from, and you move out only if you get married (and sometimes, even then, you still live near your extended family) or if you have to go someplace else for a job. Living with your parents is advantageous: you don't have to stress to find a new place to live, you won't be lonely, you won't have to let go of some of your precious things, and you get to take care of your parents. It's okay to move out, but it's also good to just stay home.
"My mum does all of our laundry, but it's because she will not let us touch the washing machine." That's actually SO relevant, people laugh at me but she goes mad if I do! Anyway, thanks for this BBC, I'm gonna be 23 in a month and was kinda having a breakdown at the fact I'm still living at home. This made me feel better. I love living at home, spending time with my parents. It's cute.
I moved out when I was 24. Both my parents have said I can move back in with them whenever I want, but god I don't want to. I love having my own space and the freedom to do what I want when I want without them nagging and breathing down my neck all the time. Don't get me wrong, I love my parents, but I need my independence.
Emily Roberts Yeah I’m trying to move out my dad says move on out my mum says stay and I’m in my 20’s however I have a job and pay for room and board out of my own pocket I’m lucky I even have a place with caring people to go to not everybody does !
I live in the family home, but I do have my own responsibilities. The exception being when I was in a horrible accident. (Almost died). My mom wants me to stay home until I'm done with college. Aside from being expensive, I really think living alone would be lonely. The upside is when my mom needed me to care for her, I was already there for her.
I pay rent and all the groceries, and give money to my mom. I also have my own bills, take care of my sister's and support my family. I could live on my own but as my mom is on her own and I am it just makes more sense to pool our resources.
Where I'm from, nobody moves out unless they're getting married. What's the point of tearing families apart? Living together saves money, space and is definitely better than living alone.
Shouldn’t this teach the government? House prices are too damn high. I’m 16 (17 next month) and I fear that people around my age may struggle when they’re older.
Oh I can totally relate to this. I still live at home and people who are not from where I live think it’s because I’m lazy but with they do not understand or fail to realize is that the town I live in as one of the most highest unemployment rates in the entire United States . I have friends that have three and sometimes four jobs and still live at home because they don’t get enough hours and then rent is super expensive on top of it. It’s kind of depressing and you feel useless. So after watching this I feel much better and I now know I’m not the only one thank you for making this video.
I live with my parents but I still have to do my laundry clean my stuff and take responsibility for my room and belongings. There are times when I'm home alone for a week and take care of myself. My mum wants me to be independent even though I live at home. I mean I don't pay any rent, groceries and stuff. Least I can do is take care of the house as I would pay for it.
This is the most relatable thing to me. I feel ashamed living at home, I work full time and studying IT on my spare time and on my time off I clean and cook for my family and tutor my 3 younger siblings. I do my only laundry and cooking and clean up after myself and I cried with gratitude the last time my Mom made me a meal because it's rare. But I still feel guilty, stigmatized and like I can't ever make any friends because they'll despise me for living at home.
i think is more of white culture than anything else. In my culture, is more liked when the whole family is together until we are all off to marriage. Doesn't mean we don't go out in to the real world and not work and just depend on your parents no no no no. Is a win win situation. close bond.
I'm 28 and live on my own. Yes, I've moved back home twice in that time, but there were reasons. The 1st was so I could help her out with the money I owed her, the 2nd was so I could go to uni closer to them. I was only home for 4 months the second time. And we're not rich either. I work and pay my way in my place. Yeah, it's stressful with money, but I'm doing it. I might not be going out as often as I'd like, but I make the most of when I do go out, and still go to the occasional event I can.
Sorry but I can't relate to this. I moved out when I was 18 (6 years ago so houses/rent weren't cheaper). I've not got a penny from my parents since apart from birthday/Christmas gifts. I've worked full time through 4 years of uni. I haven't loved every job I've had but it's taught me to keep going and be determined. For the past 2 years I've had a job I love and through careful spending I've saved up enough for a deposit for a house I want. Nothing posh but exactly what I need. I'm sharing this because people make it sound like the times are so hard you can't make it on your own. You can. Just takes some growing up and sometimes choosing work over partying at the weekend.
Oooh... I couldn't. I'm fortunate to have my own place as a millenial because me and my parents are so incredibly different that we just can't share the same home for a long time. I'm glad I have had the opportunity to live there at times when I didn't have anywhere else to go though. 🌺
I moved out when I was 20 to my first property that I got a mortgage for. I'm not in a fancy job, nor is my husband. You can move out if you are in a commited relationship with someone to do it on your own is near impossible. We live apart until we got our mortgage and our parents didn't charge us rent. I'm 22 now, so it's not a million years ago lol
I'm not ashamed to admit that I still live in the same house as my mother, but I'm actually able to do everything by myself just fine while also helping out with the bills each month.
I've lived with family on and off after college, and one thing I think has been positive is to see my mom and aunt and grandparents still enjoying life and being happy in their 60s, 70s, 80s....
One I can relate to. I live with my parents and I'm 23 and I'm very happy to do so and they are too. I lived out for uni, enjoyed it but I can't afford anything on the housing market rn.
I can't find a job let alone afford a house rent! our generation is struggling more than any other generations to find job, pay a mortgage, pay student loans..and sometimes even affording a car. it sucks so stop judging >__
@@simpliali804 Precisely if people would stop being self centred this world wouldn’t be as Rubbish as it is I’m not one of these people from this video I’m one of the very Rare Few who has their heads screwed on the right way Students are clueless about life and they think they know everything the fact is they know Nothing about life they need to get themselves into Gear and change their mind sets I would Sooner Serve in the Airforce and be able to get a Decent Career through them and build my foundation’s to a great standard
@@graceanderson7933 Really I don’t Care if your Opinion is Green I’m Serious About Joining the armed forces the Air Force why Don’t you Try And Join the Air Force and see how it Works Out for you. You can’t stop me from joining and making myself a prominent career for myself So in my opinion your Not Worthy to Judge Me Gen Z
Living at my parents' has its pros and cons but all in all at this moment in time it's the best option, no question there. I do get to cook during the week, so that's always fun as I've been working on getting to a healthier me and as a consequence, everyone else is eating healthier which is nice! 😊
These guys are grown af and aren't ready for the cold world. Depression will hit them soon or probably is already but I wish them the best of the best.
Excuse me, are you kidding me? Don’t be so rude to people. And you moved out as a teen? That’s good for independence, but bad too, people out there in the world have no issues raping teenagers and kids. Somebody would have no problem taking you off the street and getting up in your skirt. Be careful I hope you know what your doing. Teens and young adults are at risk for getting raped and murdered. There’s sick people in the world. I never moved out of my parents place and nope I am not ashamed either, I’m not afraid of bigots and haters like you. So before you give me a long list of ridiculous assumptions, don’t you’d be wasting your time here. I am a female in my mid 20’s and I’m proud to be a homebody farm girl! I won’t let anybody rain on my parade, because I’m a strong enough person to not waste my time with bullies and bigots who need a harsh reality check. Good for you, but no body cares what you do or where you live. The reality is nobody cares what you do or who you are in life. You told somebody on the street what your accomplishments are they would say “good for you but we don’t care.” Trust me when I say people don’t care, believe me they don’t.
Anya Deans Just one slight question: Where on earth was my comment from 3 years ago rude and where did I bully people? Seriously wtf? 😂 Also I’m doing my own laundry now
I still live with my parents, I pay around £300 a month and I help with house chores. Like that one girl said, i could afford to rent an apartment.. but I would barely have any money left for food, electricity, gas, etc.. however i have been thinking of moving out with a friend and we both pay together, but i'm not ready nor do I feel ready, it is quite stressful thinking of leaving.
I don't have to pay my parents rent but I do chores and wash my own clothes clean up my own messes and on my days off I drive my sister to school and do extra straightening up.
I don't have a boyfriend or a girlfriend, and my best friend already lives with her twin. Even if I could afford it financially, I still wouldn't want to live alone. I tried once and It was so extremely lonely. I don't get this strange pressure to move out.
I'm thankful that I can live at home. My mother is very adamant that when I move out, I'm actually able to sustain myself in full. She's willing to let me stay until I finish grad school and get into the career field of my choosing, which is a luxury that many of my fellow peers don't have.
Your guys are lucky I live with a parent and it feels like I live with a stranger I do pay rent but all the nagging I can't take it all the nagging and no help
I'm 30 and still live with my family. It does hurt my mental health, when things get bad especially. It's a constant ache for me, as I return home from work, as I get ready, as I come home from somewhere for fun. Where I live is expensive and it does hurt when other people (sometimes people who broke so many rules I follow or cannot socialize, like they cause so much pain) get more out of working full-time or they had constant full time work (which is sometimes lacking) or finding someone who can pay the bills. I'm single too and not by choice. The guys were not great and I should not have to be afraid. The last constant "friend" group I left for the most part (I feel stuck being loosely connected to some people.) was very awful and that's how I met guys. Some friends knew the guys would be awful and never protected anyone but themselves if they even protected themself. Dating online didn't pull up anyone that matched me. I feel like the way I can explain my life is that I wanted to be an adult and truly happy (so many people think I really am) but I wasn't allowed to.
Often it's the 'spoilt' kids who are able to move out, as their parents can afford to help with rent/deposit/bills.
Caroline J True, that's what I thought too
Caroline J i think you're thinking of the word rich, rather than spoilt. I know a few rich kids who are probably the least spoilt in the world, haha.
Caroline J my aunt has a friend who has very wealthy parents who bought him a house when he graduated high school.
Caroline J Nope, 13. Shared housing, it's a joke! Best to stay with folks
Caroline J EXACTLY!!! 👏👏👏
"You're so spoiled!"
Honey, I wash and put away all dirty dishes, I cook dinner, I wash my own clothes, I take care of all of our pets (2 dogs, 4 cats), I drive my parents around town for errands AND I pay rent. I'm sorry spoiled? Never heard of her.
believe me they dont express it but your parents must be very proud to have raised a lovely son like you.
I don't live at home because I need to. I live at home because my dad passed away and my mom would be living alone. I don't pay rent. But I work full time and help with bills. Sure I get perks like she sometimes does my laundry or she makes dinner. But I'd rather her have someone then struggle with my dad's loss alone.
Little Atmosphere honestly you don't need to explain yourself! There's nothing wrong with living with your parents unless you're leeching of them and not even helping them, I know some people like that.
Little Atmosphere You are doing the right thing 💜
I respect your choice someone has to lookout for mom just saying.
@@roselily9036 yeah!
This is how I see it. Why should we leave our parents to live in isolation and loneliness? We only have so much time with them anyway, might as well make it count. I feel the exact same way when my dad passed.
I'm Mexican, so that means living with my parents until my parents live with me 😂😂
Media Luna most of the world has and does still operate like that in spite of what images of success are peddled and you saying that makes me think this was a missed ~*things you shouldn’t say* video.
Omg true. My mom tells me to get married and bring my husband to live with us 🤣🤣🤣🤣
@nashaleatpo wait, is he?! WOWWWWW
In my country we never leave home unless we are getting married or having a job in another city lol
what country is this? my parents need to take note
missmoniksa mexico?
Rusty cheese grater, yes the cheese is vegan Saudi Arabia lol
Most of the world is like this and has been for most of human history. 20th-21st century Western societies are the odd ones out.
missmoniksa I'm guessing S Korea? :)
Living with your parents is okay, but it's not when you don't contribute to anything. Get a job, go to college, or at least tidy the house and cook dinner. Don't freeload.
Exactly! How can your parents be running your bath when you are a fully grown man.
Maggie F they insist on it.
Agree 100%!! I live in Sydney City and the cost of rent is rediculous!! It's very rare to live alone even if you have a high paid job, almost everyone lives in shared accommodation. To buy a tiny house in a shitty town costs well over a million dollars. I live with my parents but I contribute, clean up after myself and pay rent. Expecting your parents to look after you as an adult and not contributing is disgusting.
As if it was that easy. (the getting a job part)
Some of us have disabilities that prevent us from working and going to school.
I am a 25 years old DOCTOR and I live with my parents, as I'm single and work in the same city as my parents sooooo why get my own place? And this is everyone around us, you don't move out just to move out
fofomoon
I agree
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NEXT ONE PLEASE: *Things Not To Say To Someone With Acne*
Marina DU YES. DO IT!!
Marina DU |-/
"maybe you should try washing your face?"
Marina DU oh my gosh pleaseee
+Emily N OMG I hate that one >.
I'm 28 and I live with my parents. there, I said it. I am more embarassed I don't have a job and I'm still finishing uni though, suffered with depression for years. I had one job in my life for 3 years as a mail girl but I decided to go back to finish my education. I'm super embarassed of my life, I'm very thankful my parents never made me feel unwelcome in their home, I may not help with rent (they don't really need it to be fair) but I do help around the house a lot and I'm basically their choffeur and happy to be of any help I can.. I'm scared I'll never find my life path..
Teddy At least you're working towards finding your life path! I feel the same sometimes. Good luck to you.
ashdraws thank you kindly :)
Similar situation but 26. I started Uni at 24 and before that I was just working. However, I don't want to graduate at 32, so I'm taking 2 years off of working to be a full time student and since my parents want me to stay in Uni SOOO BAD, they are supportive of this. Plus, culturally where I'm originally from is not uncommon for people to live with parents until marriage or throughout their 20s. My mother hasn't done my laundry since I was 12 though lol
But yes, as long as you are working towards your goal, you are doing something. Battling depression can be a setback that traps some people within themselves. People who don't experience it many times don't comprehend it at all. Hang in there :)
Teddy never feel embarrassed. Keep working towards whatever you are passionate about!
Things not to say to someone who's adopted please, I was adopted and would like to see a vid on the topic
I agree. They need to make one for adopted people.
omg yes
Yaaaaaaassss
The most annoying thing was when people thought you could not cook, do laundry, pay bills or anything when you are still living at home. I don't know if they actually thought that way or were they just trying to be annoying. "Don't worry, cooking is not hard!" Yeah, I know because I cook every day..
Eevee i live with my parents at the moment and I cook for them, actually I'm a great cook
Exactly. It pisses me off when people try to imply that living on your own is somehow a skill worthy of a degree. It's not. Living on your own is easy as hell.
Unfortunately, there are folks who live outside of their parents home and cant cook, do laundry or keep a job. They swap out their moms for their wives/girlfriend.
@@ecclairmayo4153 I noticed. I'm a landlord of four houses and I choose to live with my mother because its easier for us both. A lot of people who live at home with their parents are degree educated, own businesses or might even be someone similar to me. It's not like they're going to be stumped by a washing machine.
@@mrdojob - same here. Landlord, Degreed, full time job and small business , while sharing a home with my family. It only makes sense...and I haven't met a washer/dryer or recipe that has stumped me yet!
Paying £100 a month in rent? That's less than my weekly rent as a student...
Samee, im paying 125 a week for a bedroom and a small shared kitchen/lounge area
That's university accommodation for you. I was paying 110 a week for my university accommodation. Lived at home this year and my mum only charges me £50 a month. Moving back out for my Masters and back up to £124 a week. Gonna miss home hahaha!
Yeah, same pretty much. My rent fee was $200 a fortnight but I lost my job and had to move back home. Ahaha, but I'm like 21 so that's not too bad, right? uh.... right??
I live in Sydney, Australia and my weekly rent is $250, and that's below average! It's ridiculous here.
I think they're talking about paying rent to their parents
Reading these comments has been so entertaining but goes to show that there are still some people who have no clue about the real implications of living at home.
Everyones circumstances are always different but as a few have said, there is a difference between living with your parents and leeching off your parents.
Also, in London where i believe myself and the other participants were all from; not everyone is in a comfortable position to just "get their own place" or "get a better job" as ive also read. In addition; some of us dont work conventional jobs that pay all that well in order to afford certain things. People should walk a mile in anothers shoes as it were before making such fly away comments about things they dont really understand.
Either way, i had a great time filming this! Thank you BBC 3 :) x
I moved back home 2 years ago cause couldn't do it financially. And that was great decision. Me and my mum got closer, I got more time to spend with my sister. I don't pay rent as we agreed that I'll be saving for a flat of my own but I do shopping and cook and help around the house. Whenever she needs any extra cash I'm here for her. For Christmas I got them new carpets and now chipped in for a new car even tho I don't have a driving licence. Sometimes it feels weird that I'm nearly 25 and still living with them but with the current economy and housing prices this is the best option. Besides we get to have hell a lot of fun - should've seen us playing drunk monopoly 😂 Wouldn't change my family for any other ☺️
My son has lived with me four of the five years since my husband died. Sean did live a year with his dad, but then moved back in with me when I had major surgery and needed lots of help. Then later that year (just last year in fact) his depression and anxiety hit a major spike and he had to stop working. We certainly have our challenges--my cancer and grief journeys as well as recent shoulder replacement surgery, and his dual diagnosis of mental illness and addiction--but we mosey along. We love and respect each other, supporting each other as fully as possible.
He works part-time now and helps with groceries and laundry money. He does all the laundry, garbage duty, reaching, carrying, lifting. I pay the majority of the bills off my disability and our food stamps pickup the bulk of our groceries cost. It's work, though, it is. He just wants to live his life his way and not have me insert myself into what he wants to do. Unfortunately a lot of what he wants to do is problematic due to his addiction, sooo we have lots of discussions and make compromises. There are ways he bends, ways I bend. (Without enabling)
And of course at 22 he's not fond of when I mom him, but he accepts that that's part of what it is to have a mom. I've repeatedly told him he could be 62 and I'd still want to know how he's doing, how does he feel today, is he hungry, and be concerned when he's out in the world in any kind of compromised state. I do do a lot of momming, that's true. When he leaves plates out that have food residue, or leaves lights on, or there's pee drops on the floor in front of the toilet, or could we please limit the trail of clothes to at least near the laundry baskets? Things like that.
Perhaps there will be a day when he can work sufficiently to support himself and be stable enough to live alone. That'd be great. But if he continues to live with me for years more, that's totally cool, too. He's good people. We learn a lot from each other. And we BOTH make an effort to contribute. That's key. He feels strongly about not mooching. I'm grateful he has that attitude. Even with our challenges, we're pretty blessed.
things not to say with someone with an eating disorder/recovered from eating disorder!!
Omg yess we need this considering the whole Eugenia Cooney thing
That would be things like:
- “Just eat something!!”
- “Just stop stuffing your face!”
- “You don’t look like you have an ED”
- “Men want something to grab onto, men prefer women with curves.”
- “How can you have an ED ? You’re a man!”
- “Go into a hospital and let them cure you, you’ll be fine.”
- “There are only two ED’s, Anorexia and Bulimia”
.....just to mention a few
The list goes on and on
Sophie asdhfj YES! This one needs to happen!
I'm 28 soon 29. I'll move out when me and my best friend find a place. 'Cuss I can't stand being lonely. I tried living alone but it felt horrible. I need to have company, I don't do much sound myself so being alone is defning. I prefer living with my grandparents than alone any day.
TheGingerLady I need something that is affordable and has access to decent public transportation. It's hard to find a place when rent cost over 1,000 a month and you just make slightly above minimum wage.
This makes me feel so much better about still being at home at 29. The people who dont pay rent or contribute to housework and that piss me off though. I pay £70 a week, help with the cooking occasionally, do my own laundry, and help with the food shopping now and then and then you got a couple of people on here who don't contribute at all... wth?!
im 25 and live with my parents. ive finally decided to move out, but only after getting a decent job and learning to manage my mental health. i lost 4 jobs in a year, and suffered other traumas that prevented me from moving out. NO ONE had any support or understanding, except this one 17 year old girl and my psychologist
what about people like me who are in their early twenties, living with one of their parents because they take care of them.. my mother can't live by her self, it's people who moan about people telling them they're spoilt that actually make others look bad. the whole "I could pay rent but I'd have to get a job I hate" thing is really silly. I work full time, study and am a full time carer. sometimes you need to make sacrifices, if you don't like a job, it can open the door to other opportunities, it's life.
Meredith Bunn yes very very true. I help keep my mom grounded at home. I was gone for just a day and the house went crazy! But I mean I love her so much though
First off, I do respect that you take care of your mother ... it's the least any child can do for their parent. But also there aren't any rules on how to live your life so obviously if someone lives with their parents for other reasons than yours - like having a career they enjoy - it's not really anyone else's place to underwhelm that situation.
Meredith Bunn well at that point your parents are living with you
same, im 26 and take care of my disabled father at home. I also work and study, often my friends make faces when its mentioned i live at home, but I worry who will take care of dad if I move out one day
I don't see how people living different Lifestyles makes other people look bad. You taking it too personally.
The Asian guy here 0:52, next to the black women is gorgeous! 😍
Shaniya Lawrence Why do you have to mention their race? I bet you wouldn't do that if they were white.
aspebb how the fuck is she suppose to distinguish the person shes talking about? the fuck is wrong with you
The fact that mentioning someones race is considered racist is just stupid Its just as stupid as saying someone is sexist for pointing out that someone is a women.
RonanShaughnessy Then let's get rid of Webger and stop triggering me #WengerOut
It is quite clear we have thoroughly rustled your jimmies.
If you are an Arab, this doesn't apply. We live with our parents until we get married.
May Mustafa exactly
Asian too
ow well then the arabs AND asians here in the netherlands are very different :O they are usually the first ones too life on their own in a house no husband/wife at all
May Mustafa Even if your a Man?
Most Africa countries too
I'm 40 (*gasp*.... Yes!) and I still live at home. One of the best things is that I'm able to keep an eye on my parents particularly my dad is is unwell and I do get very anxious about not knowing what is going on
TheMinxy76 loser
How can you be a loser if you cannot afford to go onto the property ladder and you have a parent who is ill?....Think about it
M3IST3R how immature are you?!
M3IST3R he looks after his dad. How does that make him a loser??? These days younger people just put their parents to nursing homes which is fuckn sad! After all the sacrifices they did, the least we can do is take care of them when they can't take care of themselves anymore! Living w/ your parents, no matter how old you get doesn't make you a loser. But what makes you a loser is living w/ them and not giving a fck about them. And also calling someone who's actually doing someone good, a "loser" makes YOU! a LOSER!
I forgot to add that I'm a unmarried woman still living at home, my father suffers from Ulcerative Colitis, angina, who has had five heart bypasses back in 2001 and myself I suffer from Rheumatoid Arthritis so even without my parents help I would struggle. Despite all the health and cash problems we are a very tight closely knit family that likes to look out for each other and we can do that every day without the use of contacting through a phone
Things not to say to someone with DEPRESSION - been waiting on this!
lived at home till I was 27. That was over a decade ago, so wasn't as common then. It wasn't ideal, but it helped me get through college and not have to live in mad debt for years like most of my peers are still doing. I paid rent, but not near what I would have elsewhere.
0:54 "I can afford to have my own place but I would be living in darkness with no water and no food" ... then you can't afford it then can you 😂😂😂
Joe Key
That's her point, she can afford a place to live, but that'd be all. A lot of people don't include water/sewer/garbage, heat, electricity, internet/phone/tv, etc. It's hard to live out on your own when you're not ready for all the expenses!
Marshal Ironsides
I mean, yeah. But would you rather go without water, food, heat, etc. for weeks while trying to get to work and finish all your work?
Joe Key that girl is an embarrassment she should be ashamed of herself thinks it's still a baby.
Marshal Ironsides i rather leave and not struggle so hard.
Tony Mx some of us don't have parents wealthy enough to do that.
Hey, you know what. You should do,
What you shouldn't say to people with glasses
SunnyShineHaley YESSSS!!! Like...
can i try them on?
Do you need to wear your glasses while you sleep to see your dreams clearly?
🙄
"Can i try your glasses?" "damn, your vision is truly awful."
"you would look so much better without them"
instead "you look better without them" I get "you look better with them on" ouch
SunnyShineHaley *when you lose your glasses* "just look for them" ...bitch, with what eyes?! I CANT SEE SHIT!
I moved out at 17, then was back home for about a year when I was 18. I'm 25 now and had been out of the house living in various situations (I've moved 8 times in the last 5 years). I've struggled all my life with nearly disabling depression and anxiety, and about two months ago it all turned into a huge slow breakdown. I lost my relationship of nearly two years, had to drop out of school and consequently lose my amazing job as a student employee, and move back into my mom and stepdad's house. And then my stepdad sold my truck (his truck, I'd be driving it for the last seven years), and so now I have NO money and no real independence. I was applying for jobs like crazy to get out of the situation and had several interviews but no luck. Then I got hired but my depression and anxiety hit me like a train and I had to drop out of the offer or I felt like I was going to jump off a roof. I'm going to counseling and having a mental health evaluation, but for the last two months life has been kind of shitty. I went from being four months away from graduating with my BA, building up a savings with a nice job, in a loving relationship, being independent, to nothing. I hate my brain.
I think the biggest part for me is feeling guilty and like a burden. I HATE having to take more than I can give.
Hopefully all is well now.
Yo I saw this comment 4 years later how’re you now?
@@100KSubsriberCountNoContent Thanks for asking. I was on my own for the last four years, completely financially independent for about two of them. The only reason I could do that was because I was living in a shitty tiny apartment and getting a rent discount for doing cleaning in common areas and being in charge of taking the garbage/recycling to the curb. I started a legitament petsitting business (licensed, insured, I did all sorts of training) which was barely off the ground when the pandemic hit so I had to close. I'M LIVING WITH MY PARENTS AGAIN! Ugh. They offered for me to live with them to not blow through my savings while I started my own housecleaning business after working for a company for a year and a half. Which is very nice of them and I'm grateful to be keeping my savings, but it was a hard pill to swallow. I just turned 30 in December. I started my business in February so it's too early to say how that's going. I have one happy repeat client who is referring me to people but nothing has come of it yet. I have a part time evening/weekend job doing pizza delivery while I wait for more clients. About a year ago I did adopt a cat who is the love of my life. He's expensive because I feed him good quality food and have health insurance for him, but he's worth it for my sanity. I want to do housecleaning instead of petsitting again for a variety of reasons. So things are okay but not great. I really am just wanting to give up trying to work for myself and get a full time job at some company, but I know in the long run I'd be miserable. I'm just getting very impatient waiting for my business to take off so I can be completely independent again.
If you are in the Middle East it's ALMOST IMPOSSIBLE to live alone 💔
Yeah that's true...
Laundry done & they make you food? I haven't had that done for me since I was about 14 (yes I live with my parents)
I'm always like "Your parents cook your meals?!" I've been cooking my own meals since I can remember, seems absurd that some 20+ year olds can't cook xD
XD I've been cooking family dinner since 14. My mom said I needed to know how to cook. She won't let me touch the laundry though. She's kind of paranoid about anyone else doing the laundry. So I'm only allowed to fold them and put them up.
It's very rare that dinner gets made for everyone, but that's because my mom's health prevents her from standing there to cook. So I cook, clean and do laundry. There's lots of nagging if I don't get up straight away to do something, and that's annoying. 😑
I'm from the US and this is still 100% relatable!
Also when parents don't want you to move out and you do, and then when you move back in and they still throw shade at you either way lol.. 😂
I'm 23 and I moved in with my boyfriend just over 2 years ago (renting a place), but it was just too expensive for us to manage it. We both moved back into our parents house a few weeks ago because it finally became too much (plus there was black mould that the landlord wouldn't fix), and now we're looking for a new place with cheaper rent.
The only thing that annoyed me about this was people talking about the property ladder. Like I get buying a house is what's best, but you don't -have- to...you can just rent and that's fine. I don't care if people still live at home when they're any age, there are loads of reasons (health problems, close family, money, etc), but it feels snobby when people think they're too good to rent.
I think they're also saying that renting is too expensive aswell to be fair (which it is :()
Gemma Smith aye that's fair enough, but when you refer to the property ladder it generally means buying
When I was younger I knew a lot of people from my school who were judgey/general assholes about rented homes, and my parents have always rented their home so I always took it personally.
I'm probably just being overly sensitive about nothing :)
***** True! There's still a massive deposit to think about though (which sucks)
It can be really hard renting or buying a property, especially for single people and people who are too sick to work but can manage and want their own space
But why rent when you're just making a landlord rich when you could be pouring that money into helping your parents or yourself pay offa property. Your logic is off; you were just triggered
I'm living at home but only cause I don't have a job to support myself. It's very depressing when people judge for living at home. I don't want to live at home (I'm the first born of 8 kids) but I have nowhere else to go.
I got fired from my job and was kicked out of college. I feel like a total loser but there are days where I'm hopeful. I want to get to the point in my life where I can be the one to buy my family the house they deserve and stuff like that. Even though my parents judge me by not getting a job or go back to school. They don't know the struggle it is to find a job and the money it takes to go to college. At least I help around the house and look after my siblings.
My parents don't really appreciate that and only want money and that's sad that they only see me as a paycheck but I can't change my family (no matter how many times I wish for it😅). I may not show it but I do love my family, I would do anything for them
Marshal Ironsides You do realize that sometimes people have to fill out several applications only to find out that they have been rejected again and again until they find one that will hire them and they can keep. If you are just randomly telling people on the internet that you don't know to "grow up" without considering the various circumstances that people live in, you are not really acting like a grown up yourself.
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Please do a chronic illness one
reetta malin yeah I'd love an things not to say to someone with ibs (it's only a belly ache, just watch what u eat then) stuff like that I've such bad ibs it is debilitating for me
reetta malin that's a bit vague
+TJ SPARKLE I feel ya on that one! I've got IBS, pcos, and chronic fatigue, and while all are a pain to some degree, IBS annoys me the most as I'm just sick of eating. I love food, and now it's a chore.
reetta malin You shaved your head ma'am!? Awesome and bold!
***** I have IBS BPD HPD MDD and a panic disorder. Alot of people with BPD have IBS of u don't know what these are let me know and I'll explain xx
I love these videos! can you please do one things teen mums are tired of hearing?
"Don't worry, I can pull out before I cum" never works
I'm 26 and still living with my parents, my younger sister just bought her first house.
Life is easier for a female.No matter what they say.
@Steve C Can we just accept the fact, that "life being easy or not" does not depend on your genitalia?!x'D
It depends on a lot of different things and it's just ignorant and lazy to blame it on something like your sex, which is something that you're born with rather than something you could work on, like your perspective on life and your skillset.
And John...it's great for your little sister to be able to afford a house already and I don't think that this should cast any shadows on you still living at home. You seem to be quite a creative guy, judging from your youtube channel and if living at home makes it possible for you to live and make your creative and stunning videos and explore the world around you I'd say embrace it even more.
You did not add any negative or positive connotation to your statement, so I feel like you might not even need to be told that you are doing an awesome job and living at home does not diminish that...so I'll just leave it at that and hope you're having an awesome day.
You're missing the point. His sister probably only contributes a small minority of the cost & the large majority of it being paid by her partner.
Millions of young women have well-off partners. Men don't have that opportunity. Likewise, women can easily find men to pay for their food, drink, clothes, bills, holidays. Men are expected to pay for women and themselves.
Millions of mistresses receive huge allowances as well. Men don't have the opportunity of being showered in expensive gifts by women.
Going on a date typically costs a man hundreds of pounds. It costs a woman nothing.
Any woman can get sex with as many men as she wants with extreme ease. Men have to jump through hoops, spending a huge amount of time, money and effort to get sex with women.
Having a vagina is a ticket to free food, drink, holidays, cars etc. A penis is worthless; a vagina is worth a fortune.
Lol I'm 29 and still am at home. I've been here for a year and my brother is 21 and getting his own place next month. I'm happy here though. If I wasn't here I would never have got sober and had a strong foundation. They're allowing me to save after being homeless in another state for so long.
What Andrew Smith said
Things not to say someone with *anxiety* plEAAASEE
SOOOOOO NEEDED! They MUST resume this series! It's so great!
I live with my folks still. I cook dinner every night, pay bills, but groceries, clean, and do laundry. I don’t mind. I have no social life so I spend most of my time in my room anyway. I’m Mexican and my parents are old school so they used to believe a young lady shouldn’t leave home until she was marrying. Lol
I've been living with my mom for going on 5 years now, and it's honestly one of the best decisions both of us agreed on. She's not lonely since her husband passed away, and we both help with the bills since cost of living is continuing to go up. Being with her kept me on a path of finally having a career, and being able to have the funds to live on my own finally. She's also become my best friend, which we were struggling with when I was a teen. There is nothing wrong with living with your parents if you all agree on the circumstances. Mooching is completely different.
Oh, that line about all your income going to rent is painfully true. About 80% of my monthly income goes straight to rent, not even touching utilities.
PLEASE DO *THINGS NOT TO SAY TO ASEXUALS*
SECONDED (and I would love to be on that panel if you're reading this, BBC3).
Jåden Yuki that would be really interesting! I'd love to learn that because I wouldn't know what to say if someone told me they are asexual and I dont want to offend them
"Only plants can be asexual"
"Asexuals aren't oppressed"
"You're not *really* part of the LGBT+ community."
I could think of more >.
I play Blue Eyes White Dragon in attack mode, two cards face down turn endo.
I'm in my early twenties and I live with my Mum. I have a severe mental illness and I've been on welfare for a few years. I've worked hard gaining a certificate in horticulture and I have a part time job now. Before I did that I did a lot of volunteer work. It's still not enough to move out, but I don't feel bad about it because I know I have done my best. I am really grateful I have my mothers support because I know that there are many young people out on the streets who would probably jump at the chance to have what I have. People seem to think living at home is a bad thing and don't realize its just culturally abnormal in the west, but that is shifting because its so unafforadable to go out on your own. I personally think it is a good thing for families to stick together and support each other.
things not to say to people who do not drive I'm sick and tired of hearing about how I need to grow up, or I need to go out and do my own thing or how I need to be a man .I am a man, I pay my bills I married, i make a car payment, i just because I don't have a license.that doesn't mean I'm not responsible, things not to say to people who don't drive,
i have seizures, which means i'm legally not allowed to drive. and people STILL tell me how much better it is to drive, i feel ya man
I get sick and tired of people telling me to grow up, when I already did, and I don’t need those negative people in my life.
I have autism and while I am safer driving small vehicles in rural areas, driving on roads is very disorientating (especially at night!) and I can't focus. Theres so much to remeber and focus on while driving. I I would likely miss many signs and get me or others hurt. But people still insist I should try.
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when I thought the awkward nudity of TV would be something we'd grow out of...
Charlotte Brand definitely not if you're with parents. Lol
My daughter and I have. We talk openly about sex and sexuality.
If she cleaned up after herself properly, it would take a lot of stress off.
Same. I was like...I've never been bothered by seeing a sex scene with my mom in the room.
I find sex scene more awkward than my mom does. I grew up in a household that family meetings were held in the bathroom. Door wide open, someone in the shower, someone on the tiolet taking a poop, someone brushing there teeth. do you know how many times I have just walked into the bathroom while my moms pooping and been like I need to brush my teeth and hair for school. Now My mom is ok with that shit but I like to lock my bathroom door. I have a germ phobaia thing but who cares I came out of my mom, shes seen me naked and i have seen her naked hell I have seen my twin bro naked. ( helped my mom one day take his naked adult drunk ass to bed)
i honestly dont get the awkwardness, its a tv show or movie that you both or all wanna watch, is acting on a screen its not like you are doing anything lewd. me and my dad used to watch a lot of tv together when i still lived at home(i not living with them anymore cause i live in another country now) because we both worked from home: me with my freelance graphic design and illustration he with his blueprints and electrical engineering, and we would put shows we liked basically the whole day while working and or just watching tv or movies together because we like the same shows and its never been an issue.
As my parents age, I'm more happy to be living at home with them. I know when they pass that I'll be at peace knowing I tried to help them, take care of them, and spend time with them as much as I could making beautiful memories with the loving people that brought me into this world.
This is how I feel too. We only have so much time with them as it is, there will plenty of time to be alone. I don't understand why people itch to get so far away from their family, anyway.
In our culture is pretty much very normal to live with your parents tell marriage and even some families found it disrespectful and a way to "forget your parents made" if you leave the home .
There's nothing wrong about living with you're parents
Exactly!!!! people make a big fuss about it, when really it’s not their life or business.
You don’t owe anybody an explanation for why your at home. Just live your life how you want it’s ok, the people who judge you let em go they aren’t worth the tears or the time, they just wasted your time and embarrassed themselves.
People are always going to have strong opinions about this topic, but do not let anybody harass, shame, or belittle you. That’s what immature, sad, insecure, controlling bigots educated or uneducated do.
Nobody in their right mind would make fun of a person for living at home. I would have to say they’d be insane and hateful bigots who need help. You don’t need those kinds of people in your life. You be you, and ignore the haters. You will always have allies to back you up. There’s no shame in living with family or on your own or with friends. People who put others down and use education as an excuse to bully you are bigots and they should be the ones who need to be more accepting of others. Educated and non educated bigots and bullies alike need to be taught a life lesson, it’s not up to them how you live. Just ignore their hateful garbage, and live your life. People think they have all the facts on you but they don’t, especially condescending strangers.
Living with parents stunts your growth
@@CharlesCampo1 says who?
@@ddqio7774 the masses.
A lot of people living with parents don’t even know how to do laundry or pay an electricity bill
@@CharlesCampo1 That’s literally a bold face lie lmao
yeah average rent in the cities surrounding me is £500-1000 so with a minimum wage job that leaves like approx. £200-600 for bills and food a month
I'm 27 and live with my parents and two younger siblings.I would love to live by myself,but the last time i tried, my psychological issues hit so hard,that i stayed in bed all day.And i mean ALL day.I just got up to use the bathroom.I didn't even eat until my stomach hurt so much,that i couldn't ignore it any longer.
So...living alone is sadly no possibility right now🙈
People need to understand that some people live with their parents or grandparents to take care of them because they can't take care of themselves. I hate that "Aren't you too old" People always think the worst.Or to help their parents pay he bills or take care of the kids. The relationship can be mutually beneficial.
I am 34 and living back with my parents. I have 4 disabilities/chronic illnesses and am unable to work anymore because of that. Some of it I have at a severe level. I was recently approved for disability which is not easy to get but I got approved quickly because of the significance of my issues. I contribute in the ways I am able to. I buy groceries, help around the house. I have my own bills and expenses. I was giving my parents money every month towards expenses but for the past while they have not wanted me to because I was without an income for a while so they wanted me to save some. I'm planning to pay them again regularly soon and just gave them some money again recently. With all of my therapies and treatments and limited income I cannot afford to live alone. But I feel like people look down on me or judge me for living at home. Trust me I would much rather be able to function well enough to work and earn enough money to have my own place but right now that just isn't possible. You can judge me if you want but you have no idea what it is like to be in my shoes unless you have similar circumstances.
None of those haters will understand you because they just want to drag in the mud. Ignore them they are in the past your not. Don’t let anybody ram their hate down your throat walk away from them.
Please do an ONLY CHILD one!!!
I know!!!!
Things not to say to someone who is grieving
Jess Express YESS!!! That's the worst! I can't believe the stupid shit people say to you when you're grieving and going through the hardest, most traumatic experience in your life. It just makes your grieving so much harder.
This hit home. I actually got told off by someone at uni because I live with my mom again. We don‘t have dorms and universities are usually smack dab in the middle of larger cities, so rent is astronomical. I pay some rent at home tho, the girl had her own apartment paid for by her parents and she packed all her laundry to take with her every weekend so she could get it washed at home. But I‘m totally the spoilt brat /s.
love these videos. suggestion would be things not to say to people who have fibromyalgia
Garret Fletcher I would love to learn more about that as so many things I have read are so sceptical
JuiceMyRandomness ikr my girlfriend mother and aunt all suffer the same type of ailments. but others are always asking are you alright today? n that's a normal question but not somebody suffering from fibromyalgia or multiple sclerosis
Garret Fletcher I've had fibromyalgia for 7years now and I could list 100 things I wish people didn't say to me
This would be cool. I'm in a weird position where I may have fibromyalgia, but it could also be an autoimmune disease. The doctors don't want to officially diagnose it yet. So yeah, a video on fibromyalgia would be cool.
what is it?
I still live with my parents! What's wrong with that?
If there is no wrong about living alone, why would it be wrong to live with your parents?
Depends if you're in your 30's or not
Things not to say to starving artists (get a real job, why don't you go on x-factor?!, but your songs/paintings/writing is so good, have you tried journalism, etc)
OMG YEEEEEES!!! PLEAAAAAASE
things not to say to someone with IBS
Maryam AlThani and IBD
Disflatyl is the answer!
Mariam AlThani " there's no more toilet paper "
DDUUUDE! my grandma NEVER let me wash my own clothes 😩 & she'd get bleach spots on my stuff. and loose a sock. every. tiiiime.
There's a difference to live at home because you have to, and live at home because you can't bother to get your own place. If you don't pay rent, don't cook, don't do laundry for yourself just because you can't bother you are spoilt and ungrateful. If you live as a roomie with your parents and pay rent, have your own food in the fridge, make your own meals unless you eat the same stuff, then it's just an arrangement like any other.
I live at home at 30 yo because I'm ill and don't have the ability to live alone right now. Still waiting to get an apartment with the right support for me, can't wait to be alone, but things has to be the way they are right now. I don't "help" at home, I do my share that I'm able to according to my illness, and my mom does her share. Of course I pay half the rent. It's the least I can do, even though I am on nothing but disability from the state. You can't be a leech, both of you have to be roomies.
I don't get why other some countries usually look down on the people who don't move out. It's completely normal where I'm from, and you move out only if you get married (and sometimes, even then, you still live near your extended family) or if you have to go someplace else for a job. Living with your parents is advantageous: you don't have to stress to find a new place to live, you won't be lonely, you won't have to let go of some of your precious things, and you get to take care of your parents. It's okay to move out, but it's also good to just stay home.
"My mum does all of our laundry, but it's because she will not let us touch the washing machine." That's actually SO relevant, people laugh at me but she goes mad if I do!
Anyway, thanks for this BBC, I'm gonna be 23 in a month and was kinda having a breakdown at the fact I'm still living at home. This made me feel better. I love living at home, spending time with my parents. It's cute.
Sammy same here about the washing machine or the kitchen ("today I don't think you should be doing something in the kitchen")
I moved out when I was 24. Both my parents have said I can move back in with them whenever I want, but god I don't want to. I love having my own space and the freedom to do what I want when I want without them nagging and breathing down my neck all the time. Don't get me wrong, I love my parents, but I need my independence.
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Yeah I’m trying to move out my dad says move on out my mum says stay and I’m in my 20’s however I have a job and pay for room and board out of my own pocket I’m lucky I even have a place with caring people to go to not everybody does !
Sucks that you have parents like that
I live in the family home, but I do have my own responsibilities. The exception being when I was in a horrible accident. (Almost died). My mom wants me to stay home until I'm done with college. Aside from being expensive, I really think living alone would be lonely. The upside is when my mom needed me to care for her, I was already there for her.
People in the video are lucky to still have parents. Some of us loose them at very young age...
um, a little depressing
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I still live with my mom
I am 13
And now you are 14.
Hug your momma and make her proud
I pay rent and all the groceries, and give money to my mom. I also have my own bills, take care of my sister's and support my family. I could live on my own but as my mom is on her own and I am it just makes more sense to pool our resources.
Where I'm from, nobody moves out unless they're getting married.
What's the point of tearing families apart? Living together saves money, space and is definitely better than living alone.
Shouldn’t this teach the government? House prices are too damn high. I’m 16 (17 next month) and I fear that people around my age may struggle when they’re older.
Oh I can totally relate to this. I still live at home and people who are not from where I live think it’s because I’m lazy but with they do not understand or fail to realize is that the town I live in as one of the most highest unemployment rates in the entire United States . I have friends that have three and sometimes four jobs and still live at home because they don’t get enough hours and then rent is super expensive on top of it. It’s kind of depressing and you feel useless. So after watching this I feel much better and I now know I’m not the only one thank you for making this video.
I live with my parents but I still have to do my laundry clean my stuff and take responsibility for my room and belongings. There are times when I'm home alone for a week and take care of myself. My mum wants me to be independent even though I live at home. I mean I don't pay any rent, groceries and stuff. Least I can do is take care of the house as I would pay for it.
This is the most relatable thing to me. I feel ashamed living at home, I work full time and studying IT on my spare time and on my time off I clean and cook for my family and tutor my 3 younger siblings. I do my only laundry and cooking and clean up after myself and I cried with gratitude the last time my Mom made me a meal because it's rare. But I still feel guilty, stigmatized and like I can't ever make any friends because they'll despise me for living at home.
i think is more of white culture than anything else. In my culture, is more liked when the whole family is together until we are all off to marriage. Doesn't mean we don't go out in to the real world and not work and just depend on your parents no no no no. Is a win win situation. close bond.
White ppl and their mentality.
Yeah why can't we just be happy living with parents....I'm happy living with mine
I'm 28 and live on my own. Yes, I've moved back home twice in that time, but there were reasons. The 1st was so I could help her out with the money I owed her, the 2nd was so I could go to uni closer to them. I was only home for 4 months the second time. And we're not rich either. I work and pay my way in my place. Yeah, it's stressful with money, but I'm doing it. I might not be going out as often as I'd like, but I make the most of when I do go out, and still go to the occasional event I can.
Could you make an opposite video, about people who moved out early?
Sorry but I can't relate to this. I moved out when I was 18 (6 years ago so houses/rent weren't cheaper). I've not got a penny from my parents since apart from birthday/Christmas gifts. I've worked full time through 4 years of uni. I haven't loved every job I've had but it's taught me to keep going and be determined. For the past 2 years I've had a job I love and through careful spending I've saved up enough for a deposit for a house I want. Nothing posh but exactly what I need.
I'm sharing this because people make it sound like the times are so hard you can't make it on your own. You can. Just takes some growing up and sometimes choosing work over partying at the weekend.
Please do Things not to say to someone with depression
Oooh... I couldn't. I'm fortunate to have my own place as a millenial because me and my parents are so incredibly different that we just can't share the same home for a long time. I'm glad I have had the opportunity to live there at times when I didn't have anywhere else to go though. 🌺
I moved out when I was 20 to my first property that I got a mortgage for. I'm not in a fancy job, nor is my husband.
You can move out if you are in a commited relationship with someone to do it on your own is near impossible. We live apart until we got our mortgage and our parents didn't charge us rent. I'm 22 now, so it's not a million years ago lol
I'm not ashamed to admit that I still live in the same house as my mother, but I'm actually able to do everything by myself just fine while also helping out with the bills each month.
My father gave me a small loan of a million dollars...
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Loan.
I've lived with family on and off after college, and one thing I think has been positive is to see my mom and aunt and grandparents still enjoying life and being happy in their 60s, 70s, 80s....
Living at home is awesome... if you get along with your parents /:
One I can relate to. I live with my parents and I'm 23 and I'm very happy to do so and they are too. I lived out for uni, enjoyed it but I can't afford anything on the housing market rn.
I can't find a job let alone afford a house rent! our generation is struggling more than any other generations to find job, pay a mortgage, pay student loans..and sometimes even affording a car. it sucks so stop judging >__
light within that’s because your generation is useless and a bunch of worthless wasters
@@greenking333 or perhaps if we didn’t live in such a self-centred capitalist society, we wouldn’t have this problem
@@simpliali804 Precisely if people would stop being self centred this world wouldn’t be as Rubbish as it is I’m not one of these people from this video I’m one of the very Rare Few who has their heads screwed on the right way Students are clueless about life and they think they know everything the fact is they know Nothing about life they need to get themselves into Gear and change their mind sets
I would Sooner Serve in the Airforce and be able to get a Decent Career through them and build my foundation’s to a great standard
@@greenking333 Ok boomer
@@graceanderson7933 Really I don’t Care if your Opinion is Green I’m Serious About Joining the armed forces the Air Force why Don’t you Try And Join the Air Force and see how it Works Out for you. You can’t stop me from joining and making myself a prominent career for myself
So in my opinion your Not Worthy to Judge Me Gen Z
Living at my parents' has its pros and cons but all in all at this moment in time it's the best option, no question there.
I do get to cook during the week, so that's always fun as I've been working on getting to a healthier me and as a consequence, everyone else is eating healthier which is nice! 😊
I'm 21 and live at home, but I absolutely love it. My mother and brother are my best friends in the whole world. I'd be so lost if I was living away
I'm 22 and live at home. I'm in no rush to move out either, i have no reason to and am trying to save up some money. I also help out quite a bit too.
If ur a nigerian this is totally normal u live with ur parents until you get married.
These guys are grown af and aren't ready for the cold world. Depression will hit them soon or probably is already but I wish them the best of the best.
I moved out 3 years ago when I was 18 and still bring all my laundry to my mom. Do I look like I know how to use the washing machine??
Excuse me, are you kidding me? Don’t be so rude to people. And you moved out as a teen? That’s good for independence, but bad too, people out there in the world have no issues raping teenagers and kids. Somebody would have no problem taking you off the street and getting up in your skirt. Be careful I hope you know what your doing. Teens and young adults are at risk for getting raped and murdered. There’s sick people in the world.
I never moved out of my parents place and nope I am not ashamed either, I’m not afraid of bigots and haters like you. So before you give me a long list of ridiculous assumptions, don’t you’d be wasting your time here.
I am a female in my mid 20’s and I’m proud to be a homebody farm girl! I won’t let anybody rain on my parade, because I’m a strong enough person to not waste my time with bullies and bigots who need a harsh reality check. Good for you, but no body cares what you do or where you live. The reality is nobody cares what you do or who you are in life. You told somebody on the street what your accomplishments are they would say “good for you but we don’t care.” Trust me when I say people don’t care, believe me they don’t.
Anya Deans Just one slight question: Where on earth was my comment from 3 years ago rude and where did I bully people? Seriously wtf? 😂 Also I’m doing my own laundry now
I still live with my parents, I pay around £300 a month and I help with house chores. Like that one girl said, i could afford to rent an apartment.. but I would barely have any money left for food, electricity, gas, etc.. however i have been thinking of moving out with a friend and we both pay together, but i'm not ready nor do I feel ready, it is quite stressful thinking of leaving.
0:55 yup, yes, true, accurate, facts B, authentic, correct, exactly, gospel truth, honestly, genuinely, truly, yes, thank you for saying that
D’meach da peach that's not true at all absolute bollox
I don't have to pay my parents rent but I do chores and wash my own clothes clean up my own messes and on my days off I drive my sister to school and do extra straightening up.
please do *Things Not to Say to People With Glasses*!!
I don't have a boyfriend or a girlfriend, and my best friend already lives with her twin. Even if I could afford it financially, I still wouldn't want to live alone. I tried once and It was so extremely lonely. I don't get this strange pressure to move out.
Ironically Covid has made the living with parents and struggling to get a job mould even harder to break from, seems to just worse for us milenials.
Yep 😭
I'm thankful that I can live at home. My mother is very adamant that when I move out, I'm actually able to sustain myself in full. She's willing to let me stay until I finish grad school and get into the career field of my choosing, which is a luxury that many of my fellow peers don't have.
Your guys are lucky I live with a parent and it feels like I live with a stranger I do pay rent but all the nagging I can't take it all the nagging and no help
I'm 30 and still live with my family. It does hurt my mental health, when things get bad especially. It's a constant ache for me, as I return home from work, as I get ready, as I come home from somewhere for fun. Where I live is expensive and it does hurt when other people (sometimes people who broke so many rules I follow or cannot socialize, like they cause so much pain) get more out of working full-time or they had constant full time work (which is sometimes lacking) or finding someone who can pay the bills. I'm single too and not by choice. The guys were not great and I should not have to be afraid.
The last constant "friend" group I left for the most part (I feel stuck being loosely connected to some people.) was very awful and that's how I met guys. Some friends knew the guys would be awful and never protected anyone but themselves if they even protected themself. Dating online didn't pull up anyone that matched me.
I feel like the way I can explain my life is that I wanted to be an adult and truly happy (so many people think I really am) but I wasn't allowed to.