How to Forgive Someone Who Hurt You | Jon Jorgenson
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- What is forgiveness? How do you forgive someone who hurt you? What does it mean to actually forgive someone? This is an obstacle we all face, and today, I talk about how we can more effectively move through it and find true forgiveness.
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I think i found someone of whom my 30 year son can relate to. You and sweet bear are a breath of fresh air. In my age, 57, i can rest and keep in prayer, have hope, and know that the next generations to come will make a great impact on this world, in Christ and HE in you!!!! I have been listening, and what i am hearing is our Christ's new song, in the hearts, souls and minds of our Father's children!!! Keep doing what your doing you two!!! Much Love, in my prayers, and a great big group hug,💓💓💓💓
Well, this had me crying. I have been struggling a lot with the fact that I want to forgive my stepfather for everything that happened in the past, but I just can't seem to let go. It hurts me, because I know it has changed me into this bitter person that I don't want to be. Thanks for the words Jon ;) and greetings to all of you from the Netherlands
Wounds can be hard to heal. I am so sorry for what your stepfather did to you. I know I don't know all the details but I understand what It's like to be continuously hurt. Forgiveness does not mean you forget the way you he made you feel. But know, you are loved by a GREAT and kind Father. The creator of the universe loves you and cares about your heart and suffering. He wants you to forgive not because your stepfather even deserves it, but because he wants you to be restored in your very soul. :)
Ruth Berghuis There are some great books out on this subject. One this I do is reminded myself that I said I forgave the person. Now it's time to deal with the pain.
I love how you touched on how hard forgiveness can be. It can be really rough to even know how to forgive when you feel so hurt.
Good morning Jon! I am Arlene, I am from the Makati, Philippines. I am a professor in University of Makati. I am handling grades 11 and 1 students. I want you to know that I and all of my 600 students are being blessed by how God is speaking to us through your videos. I am playing everyday in my classes your videos before I would start my class with them. I can't thank you enough. May God do what He can only do to bless you. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart.
Dealing with depression and ptsd, i always see myself as a weak person. Thank you for helping me see that when i forgave this person, it made me the strongest i had ever been. And it helps me remind myself that they no longer or should i say. They never had that kind of power over me. 🙌
I'm glad you clarified that forgiveness isn't reconciliation, I've been scared to forgive bc I was afraid of repeating the past. Thank you
Some wise words young man. Forgiveness does indeed release the power of the offending individual.
I have had to cut ties in relationships that were destructive in the past. We have to know that sometimes that act of removing ourselves from the relationship is not only OK but it can be a GOOD a WISE decision. We can live in forgiveness while choosing to not remain in unhealthy relationships. If a relationship CAN be restored then WONDERFUL! We should pursue peace and restoration every single time! Living in forgiveness is a horrible soul eating disease. Forgiveness is good medicine for the heart! :)
Lorie Brumfield Very well put.
Letting go is VERY hard.
I've been really trying to understand how to forgive like Jesus forgive me lately. This really helped.
this guy has made me see forgiveness in a whole new light!
Forgiveness is the Way
I just found this and i found it exactly when I needed it. I've been really struggling with forgiving my family for treating me the way they do. This really helped me think about what forgiving them really is
Hello :) thank you once more, Jon! These broken times, all I'm asking is strength, wisdom and forgiveness (to myself and from the people I hurt and to the people I hurt and of course to God) thank you for the answer :)
To be honest towards forgiveness. I thought when we really forgive each other. That things go back to the way they are. I honestly wan things to back to the way they are.
truly indeed, forgiving is hard to do if we don't accept God's love, pray and just do it! This is so encouraging! You are an awesome brother!
Jon, for someone who didn't get heart, U said all the things that are for real. Processed "letting go" lasted for couple of years, but it was just like U talk and forgiveness came. When I let it go I get my peace back to me and that is all that matters
Jon, I needed this so much. Thank you!! I love what you said and you brought up things I never knew about forgiveness. "It's not reconciliation." It's not a magic pill that makes everything feel better. It's not acting like nothing happened. I've always been taught the opposite from Christians: If I've truly forgiven someone, it needs to be all good, happy rainbows...otherwise, I haven't really forgiven them. Thank you for shedding new light on forgiveness for me. Gosh I needed this.
LittleMissSuki1 that was probably my favorite part of the video.
Joel Jovaine Right?! It's just such an amazing video. The struggle is real, but I'm glad he validated my feelings because they're just as real haha!
LittleMissSuki1 Lol. The struggle is real indeed. I think we all struggle with forgiveness at some point in time.
It is a struggle that we have to attend to tho because forgiveness is a characteristic of Christianity and we have to bear it. 🙃
Joel Jovaine Preach!!!
"It is not an easy thing to do, but it's the good thing. Choosing to forgive is choosing the way of God." WOW, that's true!
This video is helpful to me. I have dealt with unforgiveness for so long. How do I let go though? I can't see the person (my abuser) anymore and I can't forget what happened. I can't forgive myself either for the fact that I participated in it and I can't forgive myself for hurting someone else the same way. I don't want to be angry at him or myself but I'm still angry. I'm also angry at my father, and my mom.. for a whole host of reasons. But I just smile at them like everything's fine. I want to be set free from these grudges I hold.. Anyone reading this, please pray for me. I'm imprisoned by this.
It's not a coincidence that this was in my recommended. I've been really need to restore a broken friendship with someone who hurt me. Thank u so much Jon. I feel more ready to forgive now because of this vid. 😄💗
Thanks for the video!!
Fantastic! Thank you Jon.
Thanks bro, beautifully put
I needed this so much!! Thank You!
Great video Jon
This helped me so much! Thanks Jon 👊
This is so what I needed!
This was an answered prayer! I have been really struggling with this and asked God for help. And I saw this video. Thanks Jon!
Wowwww this is sooo on point!!!!
Needed this video today Jon thank you! God bless!
Thankyou so much Jon.. This video helps me alot
thank you so much Jon really need this. God bless you more!
great stuff
I really needed this today. God bless you, Jon💙
Can't get enough of this one.
This is amazing
Amen. I love sharing these with my family. Thanks
Thank you so much Jon....
I soo badly needed this ..
God bless you !!
This is one of the most important video ive ever seen. Thank you for making this. Thanks so much!!
This was great and gave me a whole new perspective on forgiveness
Good video Jon!
Thankyou i really needed to hear this i
This was so inspiring.
I needed this
Thank u so much for this 😍. I really nees this. God bless you
Jon Jorgenson you are a true inspirational motivater. Keep up the good work
i loved this sermon
every video of his makes me cry.....
Just new here!
What an inspiring message, I loved it!
God bless you 😊
God bless you soo much!!!
I also think that forgiveness is a process and sometimes needs to be reapplied every day. I'm having difficulty with letting go of how I'm feeling because I'm so focused on how things didn't go the way I wanted.
My personal example: I got to know this guy over the past year through social dance related functions, and I recognized that I was falling for him. Eight months ago after hanging out with our dance friends, I let him drive me home (he's done that many times). I took the opportunity to say that I like him (It was a lot harder than I thought it would be). The next, he hosted a multiplayer computer game (gaming is another common interest we have) with several friends including me. After the gaming was done and everybody else had gone home, he said a few things that went along like this: "I've been thinking about what you said, and I don't think we should have a relationship because we're on different spiritual levels. I don't want to get in the way of your spiritual progression. I feel really bad to say this and I don't want you to be mad at me because I do enjoy dancing with you because you're such a good follow [usually the female role in a lead/follow dance]." We both grew up in the same Christian denomination, but from what I can tell, he's had spiritual difficulties for probably a good while. After contemplating on this, all I can say is that he did this because he thought it's what's best for both of us, so I'm trying to trust him on it. We're still friends because I hope I can bring something positive to his life. I'm still going through cycles of feeling the pain that he doesn't want to date me, just being his friend for now that wants to help him improve without getting too close, and trying not to hope too hard that my influence can change his mind about me. Anyway, back to the forgiveness thing, it seems to be a struggle to daily to keep him forgiven in my mind for this one instance. Or maybe I'm struggling with forgiving that he still doesn't and might never want to date me.
It's so simple but yes tough to apply. Really helped a lot. Thanks Jon. Praise God.😊
I stumbled onto your channel today trying to do some "homework" my mom had me do on the fruits of the spirit but every time I clicked on your fruits of the spirit series another video would pop up that I needed to hear. Thank You!
Thank you
great video Jon and explanation of what forgiveness means and how to go about it. Truly appreciated work. Blessings brother.
Forgiveness is a faith
this was great
This really spoke to me Jon, I know I've really struggled with this so thanks for making this video - loved it! Also - glas you've kept the rhymes on this channel:P
It was amazing. I already shared it on my Facebook. I'm working on forgiving someone..then I remember I also have some things I want to be forgiven for so I'm open to letting go. Thank you Jon!! Hugs from Peru
loved it
Wow i came upon your channel after seeing you poem about internet
Then i watched depression. And now this I am seriously hooked ive been looking for someone that brakes it down with screaming about how we're all sinner and we're going to burn in 🔥 thanks cant wait to watch more .I think i found (my to do) this weekend.Laney
thank you jon and praise the Lord for his wondetful ways for everything and for everyone.
you are a true blessing Jon....
every video of urs brings me closer to the God.
thank you so much
😵 so profound. This applies to my principal. I shall figure out how to put it across to her, accumulated issues for the year because you are right, it is not healthy to keep them
Someone very close to me really struggles with this. I do not. I have always been a forgiving person. I loved the Breakfast Club remark. Awesome👍
I know forgiveness isn't easy but most of the time I have gotten in a habit of forgiving people (but other times it gets really hard) but that's just what I wanted to say
Good message, I've been dealing a lot with this subject and I always thought when you forgive relationships should always be the way they were before you got hurt. But I found out that it isn't like that in my life and I blamed myself for it and thought than I haven't forgiven.
I'm going through a quite tough time because last year I was diagnosed with an illness that causes me fainting quiet often. Since then one girl who used to be my friend before tells lies about me and I lost 2 more friends. Often I feel like the people around me especially at school keep blaming me for my health problem and some even said in my face that this is my fault. Sometimes I can prevent it that I am fainting like when I am taking some dextro for my blood sugar but there are more times where I can't prevent it.
It's quite hard for me to forgive those who are hurting me with blaming me and telling lies about me.
so true!!!
Merry Christmas everyone!
That's what I'm dealing with my friend keep bringing up everything I did and said in the pass and it doesn't make things better he only gets upset and start to disrespect me.. he doesn't like when I'm disrespectful but he thinks it's cool to disrespect me every time we talk on the phone and meet up places...
THIS WAS SOOO GOOD!!
forgiveness has definitely been something I've struggled with but when I did forgive, it was so freeing.
My college small group leader told me last year that the best way to actively work on forgiving is by praying for blessings to the people who hurt us. let me tell ya, it was super hard for the first couple of months but I got to the point where I was genuine and I wanted the best for them despite how they hurt me. it even got to the point where God clearly showed me through scripture and multiple sermons that I needed to go to one person and clear the air and show that I forgive her. we still are not friends, but we have both forgiven and moved on from the pain.
To end this super long comment, I'd like to thank you for videos like this because they have helped me so much. I've had a rough couple years, especially this past year, and every video has been a huge encouragement. thank you for everything you do :)
Tiffany N That actually shows that you're Maturing as a person. you went from having a hard time forgiving to actually wanting the best for and forgiving persons.
Thats awesome. I hope you see your growth and take it as a sign of motivation and continue growing. 👍
Joel Jovaine thank you so much!! it means a lot :)
Tiffany N you're welcome. :)
I completely agree and preach this all the time! Praying for someone who has hurt you is the ultimate way to fight that bitterness and unforgiveness!
It is a good video Jon. Thank you so much! Is more about Jesus and I love it.
Dude, you are amazing, thank God! By the way, I am brazilian and I do not understand english pretty good, I do Just a little bit... God bless you and your words!
Thanks, I keep coming back to this. It’s very helpful. I want to be sure I’ve forgiven. I still feel hur,t, anger, etc., but truly want to forgive the offender.. Does saying it over and over to myself and God mean I have forgiven? I don’t know how to know I truly have.
Hey Jon, I think great minds do think a like bro. The last vid I uploaded is talking about forgiveness then I got the notification that you've just uploaded a vid on the same topic. how awesome is that? 😆
I do think that some of us need to change how we look at forgiveness. The part that stood out to me the most is the part where you said that "Forgiveness is not reconciliation" that was spot on!
I support the move of separating your vlogs from your spoken words, aditw, and your short sermons. 👌
God bless bro. Keep on keeping on.
I've seen several videos on it this week!
Lorie Brumfield I don't believe this is coincidence Lorie. I think the message needs to get out there.
Joel Jovaine I completely agree!!!! ❤👍
Amen
i luv u 2 the moon and back ♡
I'm a gay man. I'm also a Christian. This has been a struggle since I was young. I've always felt persecution from other Christians for being gay, but I've also felt that same persecution for being a Christian, and it is unbelievable to people when they find out I'm both. how do we decipher what the old testament says versus what the new testament says?
You live You learn God loves you, no matter what your sin is. though it is a sin, romans 1:26, you are still loved and forgiven x a thousand from God. keep fighting.
This is a great video, but what do you do when someone is doing something wrong continually, and you can't keep away because they're your family? Have tried talking but nothing changes, and I'm always the unreasonable one.
This really help me ssoo much, I like 4:40
I think forgiveness does not come because of our will, we may forget with time if somebody hurt us. Time heals...
there's an individual who has continually made the same, very bad, mistake, and i have given forgiveness every single time. i know it is the right thing to do. but i'm at a point where i no longer want to reconcile past forgiveness because i know it is going to keep happening. the Bible says "guard your heart above all things," so i'm trying to do that by no longer associating myself with it.
but everyday I pray that Jesus lives in me. and i know that Jesus would continuously let people back in and continue to be dramatic. so i'm stuck at what i want vs. being the light of Christ, even though the same thing will happen. advice?
how do you forgive someone who is still doingwhat your trying to forgive them for and who isn't sorry or see anything wrong in their actions?
it just hurts.. but im really trying. thank you for this video.
Man it's tough when you forgive someone and the behaviour continues and the offender refuses to acknowledge their mis-deeds. I think you have to let go of the expectation that forgiveness will change them. The forgiveness primarily is for you.
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So you said you were adding a video to this every Monday, but will ADITW still be in Wednesday or will ADITW be in the mix of videos you will post on Monday?
hi ...i know am watching this a bit late were in 2017 but tjos video is such a blessing...i just have a question...dont take me for a stupid girl....HOW TO LET GO??
It is hard so I was cyber bullied to the point of depression and suicide thoughts and I’m still in therapy still and I went to an impatient and it’s hard bc the never said sorry until his mom made him so I dint even think he is sorry
Hey Jon, Can you forgive when the injury is ongoing? The injury done to me had repercussions with statutory bodies - because of something somebody did I got in trouble with statutory bodies. While i try and practice forgiveness - the injury is irrevocable. Pains me so much as while I may forgive the person and his mis-deeds, the authorities do not.
You were in mamma Mia????????? WHAT😭❤️
What about how to forgive ur self
I believe the title of the video is meant to be "How To FORGIVE Someone Who Hurt You?"😂❤️
hi Jon. i love your videos. question? if we want to forgive, do we tell that particular person that we forgave them or can we just tell God that we gave them? I'm not sure what to do? i would really appreciate it if you can get back to me. thanks and God Bless you. 🙏
Maria Gamboa i go to that person and tell her.
And after that i feel free.
Aye
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I was depressed so bad that I started cutting....then a few months later I attempted of myself...I got treatment for boy of the things that I did....but I still guilt for what I did....even if God may forgave me I can't forgive myself. I want to live more than ever now. But I'm still having problems withy past and others around me. I want to get to know God but I'm afraid that I'm going to mess up. I'm afraid of being rejected.... especially because I'm bi and of me not forgiving myself. Please help me. I know that God loves me and he will help me whenever I need him.
I can forgive some people it's just when they don't say sorry to me its hard
Jesus is the Prince of Peace/Prince of Shalom. Shalom is like a reconciliation isn't it?
Well....I am trying to forgive someone. I know God wants me to do it and it would probably be better of me to just move on.
But at the same time I don't want to. Because if I let go, I know that it will be "okay", the thing that happened to me. I will not receive any justice or any compensation while my Enemy might get another big house. No, it will be "okay", like it never happened.... Only it DID happen. I remember it too well.
Part of me want to forgive, but I want to be sure its not just me saying "its okay", and then God and the entire universe just shrugs and say "All right then, whatever you say...."
AMEN......forgive me for all caps? LOL