The Truth About Sororities
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I get so many requests to do more sorority and college advice videos, so that's what I'm doing today, hooray! Please keep in mind these are my experiences and opinions. If anything, I hope you take one positive thing from this video (:
Please leave requests for more advice topics below & thumbs up each others comments! I will try to do the most popular one in the next week or so!
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The "paying for your friends" statement drives me crazy too because that money goes to events, scholarships, and so many other great things.
I agree. It works really well for me at my school because we don't have houses so it doesn't cost me that much for what I'm getting. The sorority I'm in also has a scholarship program to help out and a lot of my sisters benefit from that :)
YES!!!! This statement also drives me UP THE WALL.
Lauren! :)
Jackie!! You watch Caitlin's videos? :)
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So glad you did a video on this. I was a Delta Zeta at my university for four years and it was the greatest thing I've ever done. I'm an only child and always wanted that sisterhood bond. The stigmas and stereotypes that come along with it are so infuriating. Everyone who's not in one assumes they are for spoiled rich girls- not true. About 75% of the girls from my chapter paid their dues themselves on top of their student loans. My JR year I lived in our house and my parents got divorced that same year- there's no way I could have gotten through it had I not been living with 20 sisters. Don't knock it till you try it, because I guarantee it's different than what you would expect. There's so much more history, rituals, and philanthropy that goes into a sorority than anyone could imagine.
That lipstick looks pretty fabulous on you
I don't live in the US, but I always though sororities there were just for good looking, rich girls. Like if you're not that attractive you won't get in. Is that true? I mean the photos you showed were of pretty, skinny girls and it sounds like it costs quite a bit.
ps I am not hating or trying to stereotype, we don't have sororities at our universities here
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It honestly depends on the sorority and the university.
Totally not true.
at most universities, there is a sorority for everyone. the girls are very accepting at most places. At some schools in the south you might come across SOME stereotypes, but for the most part, each sorority tends to be diverse. they all respect each other and treat you as an equal, as a sister.
One (of the many) thing that amazes me about colleges in the US is how engaged a student can be in the school. I live in Brazil and here is just like High School, you keep living with your parents, you go to classes one period of the day (some may be the whole day, but not all of them). I wish I got the chance to live with my college friends, to be engaged on school and really LIVE my years of college. One of the upsides of my school is that I can intern all year long. =)
I agree!! it's the same in canada, or atleast where I live. I wish it was more like us colleges/universities where students are more active with organizations and clubs and all these things. We don't even have a sorority or a fraternity at my uni
College is VERY expensive though and the college will have to pick you.
At my school if you're not completely white and pretty rich, you don't get a bid. It's a sad and terrible system that needs to change.
that sucks :( I go to a smaller school (my sorority has like 35 girls in it) so it is much more laid back and inclusive.
i don't think that this is the "truth about sororities" as much as it is you defending them
I do agree with you, but I also think she's clearing up most of the stereotypes that people think about sororities.
definitely agree with you! She didn't really touch on the negative things that actually do happen. Like there is truth behind all stereotypes, and sororities can be dangerous. Her constant defense sort of proves that there's fishy stuff going on in sororities.
AlohaKeyarra Fishy things like what exactly?
Yeah I agree. I know so many people who have quit because it was so much drama and the sisterhood was poor. Kinda like in the movie Sydney White. I saw pictures of this sorority and they all looked like miniature versions of The Housewives of Hollywood. They were all in pink too.
I am 10 and I just think it may be on experience maybe hers was like this
Glad I stumbled across your videos Caitlin. It was nice to hear about your take and experience within sorority life. Of course not everyone will agree since everyone has their own personal preference towards things, but it definitely helps those who are curious, like myself :) I'm a transfer student trying to decide whether or not I should rush, so I appreciate the video!
Thank you so much for making this video and talking about the whole "buying your friends" thing! I absolutely hate when people say that, it's so rude! Much love from a Phi sigma sigma ❤️
"She's a bitch because... she's a bitch." I love that soooo much.
Thank you !!! Honestly from personal experience, being in a sorority and trying to explain to people who are not informed or might be ignorant about it can be really hard, but you did a great job. Also the quote you put at the beginning is one of my favorites!
I agree! You pay for the sorority for the activities and all the great events the sorority holds! Going into a college with HUGE Greek life, I'm thankful for this video! Will u post a video on appropriate outfits on what to wear during Rush?
I am a new sister in a sorority and I completely agree with everything that you are saying! The perception about sororities so absolutely outrageous and I just wish people would open their minds up because it has been one of the best experiences of my life!
I've been in a sorority for 2 years too and i'm SO glad you put this video up! There are soooo many great things about being in a sorority and it's such an amazing thing to get involved in during college!
This was such a helpful vid! and I'm literally in the same position as you were, going to Nebraska for college when I live in Minnesota currently. A sorority is definitely a way I think I can make lifelong friendships and get experiences, and I'm so excited to rush this fall!
I heard that sororities can be very dangerous. Like for the initiation they might make you do something dangerous. I once saw this news story on this sorority and fraternity that did initiation together and about 100 people left wounded, the older members were like attacking the newbies. I think someone even died. I was expecting her to talk about this. Don't a lot of sororities participate in like extremely dangerous dares/ activities? Could you please talk about this in your next video. I'm kind of interested in sororities, but i won't join if they are dangerous.
Actually there are strict no hazing policies among the sororities. So for the most part that sort of thing does not happen.
While some chapters may have hazed, I cannot stress enough that I was NEVER hazed. I think that it honestly isn't common for sororities to haze.
***** Yes, there are a lot of sororities out there that haze. some take it too far, but some (like mine) do it to create a closer bond with eachother.
+Ozalia A. Lots of sororities have a non-hazing policy. Most sororities in my area will give you a number to call if you believe that you are experiencing Hazing. be careful which sorority you join!
Its illegal where i live
I'm in a sorority and I found this video so relateable and well spoken. great job :) I'm so glad I found your channel from this!
Yes! I dislike the misinterpretation people have on sororities! It's not just about the parties, it's about the sisterhood, the relationships you create and the experience. You get what you make out of your sorority. I can truthfully say, I'm glad I joined one. 💜
We love this video Caitlin!!! Your passion for your sorority is so great!! Thank you for helping to set the sorority stereotype straight!!! -The team at A-List Greek
I'm in a sorority too and I absolutely hate when people say that I pay for my friends! I've even had people say it to my face too! The fees we pay finances our organization to put on events. New friends is just a plus to the experience. Thank you for shedding some light on this topic! Panhel love from a Phi Mu❤️
RECRUITMENT VIDEO
Tips on staying on track with classes and organization as well!
it seems as though soroitites are for skinny rich girls, i could be wrong but from all the pictures, and stuff from many other girls...skinny & rich...not a lot of diversity.
did you even listen to one word she said in this video?
Please don't stereotype, open your eyes. I can name a TH-camr who isn't super skinny that in a sorority, check out the Kristee or strawberryelectric48
From my experience a lot of colleges in general tend to be predominately white and well off.
***** thats all im saying. im not saying one wouldn't take a poor girl, or a "fat" girl it just less likely.
MG B i know about her, but thats one. im not stereotyping, simply observing
I totally agree about people saying that you're "paying for friends" in front of you..so rude. I was in a sorority in college. People would say that to me too! I would tell them that you pay dues because you do a lot activities, get shirts, etc. All of which costs money. You would spend that same money on activities with your friends outside of an organization anyway. You almost save money in a way because our sorority obviously got group discounts when we went on trips and you don't even have to organize these things yourself, which is awesome. Anyway, haha, great video!! :D
Can you talk about how to choose what sorority you want to be in? And also talk about what you actually do in sororities?
video on rooming with your best friend! there is a lot of misconceptions and stories about it, and knowing you and your roommate have been friends for so long, how has that experience been? thanks!!
I just joined a sorority and it definitely was the best decision I've ever made. This semester has been tough so far, and I never would have been able to get through just this month without my sisters. The love and support I have is amazing.
loved watching this, was super interesting! Your lipstick is so gorgeous :)
thank you darlin! (:
can you do a recruiting video and how much sorority cost and how frequently you have to pay and love you first time on your channel but i will deffintely subscribe
I don't get why sororities aren't free... like, if it wasn't,l i'd me more inclined to join one.
Corrie Hammons Once youre in it, youll understand. all organizations need money somehow. it pays for tshirts you and and all that fun stuff. also, idk about other schools, but my school makes us pay insurance, just in case of of us gets hurt during a sorority function.
When I posted this comment, I didn't really think about the fact that you're also paying for housing & food. I get it now, haha.
Loved this video Caitlin! I definitely agree with everything you said! I have had many people judge me for being in a sorority, especially when it came to me choosing to go Panhellenic instead of Pan-Hellenic (Divine 9). I absolutely love my sorority and I wouldn't change my decision for the world and when people say I pay for my friends, it just makes me laugh because I sure as hell am not paying enough for them!
I love you Caitlin! This is all very true. I personally am in a sorority and I couldn't have agreed more on every single thing you've mentioned in this video.
Joining my sorority (Delta Gamma) was the best thing that I ever did in college (and I did a TON of stuff!). Going into it, no one in my family was ever greek, and I was told by literally everyone not to do it, and that it was a bad idea. What that taught me is that I was right in following my own heart and intuition. I have so many wonderful memories and lifelong friends now from sorority life. I couldn't imagine not joining. I didn't know what I was doing going into formal recruitment, but I learned as I went, and made so many friends just by doing that. It was tiring but such a blast!! If you are curious or wanting to join a sorority look into your school's greek page on their website, and if you need more help call the Panhellenic office on that campus. :)
loved watching this, you get your words across so well! this makes me excited to rush next year!
Thank you so much for making this video. UNL in my #1 choice and I'm coming from out of state, and I've been debating on whether or not to rush, and this video was really helpful.
THANK YOU for everything you explained in the beginning. SO TRUE! Please do some more on big/little stuff?
I'm in a sorority. And it's one of the best and worst decisions I've made in college. Being in a sorority allows for networking, and feeling like you belong. Even if you can only connect with one girl in it. It made it easy for me to make new friends, and to break out of my shell. I was a shy girl coming out of high school. I wouldn't say I've overcome my shyness entirely, but I'm getting more brave setting myself out there. It's also a great deal of loyalty. Your sisters are there no matter what. But what I hate about sororities, and speaking from experience, is all the fakeness. No matter what anyone says, no matter what you hear about being in a sorority, one thing is the same. Everyone is most likely fake. Okay, probably not everyone, but a majority. The end game is for you to like them because "you're sisters". But the fakeness can last for so long. It's like being part of the Mean Girls, but with actual future dependant advantages. For example, because I was in a sorority, I got to network, meet some alumni and now have a proper stepping stone to my ultimate career goal. All I can say is that it's an experience. If you end up joining, you will both love it and hate it. It's definitely something different, unlike normal philanthropic social groups. And you'll never truly know what it's about until you're in one.
You look amazing in this video!!so pretty x
I am a new Kappa Alpha Theta and it has been amazing, I have made amazing friends learned so much about my philanthropy and made ever lasting memories. I recommend everyone trying it out and just seeing what greek life has to offer.
Greek life has to offer!! 😄😄😄 Yah what racism has to offer
+KittySims my sorority is a group of lovely diverse young women. If you only say this because you yourself have experienced this I am very sorry otherwise I would recommend you refrain from spreading hurtful lies about organizations that promote sisterhood and service. Thank you!😊
+KittySims How dare you I am a black member of Delta Gamma and feel embarrassed by your stupidity. Educate yourself before speaking so openly about something you know nothing about. I have many colored sister and they mean the world to me. Do not open your mouth about something you are educated on instead spend your time doing good for your community like my sisters and I. Delta love and mine 💛
Thank you!!! I'm in a sorority and I totally understand some of my friends don't understand that a sorority is wayyyy more than parties and stuff
I'm an Alpha Chi at CU Boulder, and I am so glad you covered the fact that greek life is not exactly what you see in movies/on TV! Thanks for giving an honest review of Greek Life for PNMs :) LITB!
I would love it if you could do more college videos. Maybe just overall tips like dorm organization, etc. Thanks!
Ah, this is perfect. I'm an Alpha Gamma Delta, and I couldn't agree more with everything you said in this video! Pan love
I love this video so much, because every point you bring up is so true. I love being in a Sorority its not a part of Panhellenic but its just as good :)
Please please please make more sorority advice videos! I'll be rushing this fall and I'd really appreciate any tips and advice you could give!
I'm going to be a freshman! Please talk about recruitment and talk about the financial aspect :)
Please do the video on recruitment! Like what to wear, how to pick a house, what to expect?
How did rooming with your best friend go? My best friend and I are rooming together in the Fall, and people are constantly giving us horror stories about it!
Also, I'd love to see a video on how your first week at school went- was it hard realizing that you were leaving home, was it easy to make friends and adjust to classes quickly?
Thanks! :)
I will be going through recruitment in August and your videos are so encouraging! Thank you so much
i absolutely love this video. i'm going to be a sophomore in a sorority and i agree with everything you said. you're awesome!
Oh my gosh, didn't your axo sister compete for miss USA? That is so cool! But I'm going to college in the fall where greek life is big, so this was all great to hear. Thank you for this Caitlin, very helpful :)
makeup is so on point! love the lip color
Room tour pleaseee omg ur room looks so pretty😍
recruitment tips: what to wear, advice, things to bring etc!
What are you majoring in? I would love to see a video talking about how you made that decisions. Also, I would love to see a recruitment video!
Love the video! I feel the same being in a sorority and you couldnt have said it better♡ love ya!
Yesss I loved this video! As a Theta Phi, I agree 100% with everything you said! (especially the "paying for friends" UGH!) lol :)
Can you PLEASE do a recruitment advice video?? I'm going to be rushing this fall and it's the one thing I'm super nervous about!
You look so beautiful!! I love your videos Caitlin! 😊❤️
Love this video!!! Literally everything you said is so true. I'm an AXO toooooo!!! LITB!!
litb!!
I joined a sorority at the university of Minnesota last semester and I just did not have an enjoyable experience. I hope that in the fall I can have that sort of bond with sisters that you speak I highly of.
As an advisor, and this is what I have told sisters that I advise who have struggled. Get out there and meet your sisters. Sit next to someone new at meetings, invite a group of sisters to lunch each week, hang out at the house even if you don't live there. It helps and you will find yourself becoming friends with your sisters and clicking. Call your big and go do something and invite others. :)
Love your college/sorority videos!!
Could you do a video/talk about rush week? :-) also how was move in day and the following days for you before the first day of classes? Thank you! Xoxo
You should do a College Q&A.
That is one of the things I regret about college. I went to the local community college where I live and it didn't have a sorority and I wasn't dorming there. I regret not going away and being able to be apart of Greek life. I see soo many people I danced with in high school going and joining sororities and they are having the time of their lives! if I could redo college I would!! My advice for anyone going into college or thinking about joining Greek life - DO IT, you don't want it to be a decision you regret making , but you don't also want to think back and be like damn I should have done that (like I do)
Can you do a video on what goes on in a sorority? Like the things you all do together and how it is living in the house. I feel like that's one thing I don't know much about because no one really talks about it.
Your hair looks amazing!
Hey Caitlin! I'm a new viewer of yours. I hope it's not weird if I'm a dude haha.
I go to UNL, that's how I heard about you! I have 2 questions, one related to the video and one not so related haha.
1) Could you do a video like this about frats? Or maybe have one of your guy friends do one with you? I've always been interested but never really sure what it's actually like. It's probably too late for me to rush now, but I would still like to learn.
2) How did you get so many subscribers on TH-cam? I'm trying to get into TH-cam (not on this channel, on a channel called CinemaVolt Gaming) and I have no idea how to get people that I don't know to watch my videos.
Thanks so much!
-Jason
thank you so much! This has helped me so much when deciding to rush:)
I really don't think this video was a fair disclaimer about sororities. You didn't touch on any of the negative things you said you would at the beginning of this video. It was more just defending your sorority. I think this video gives people an extremely false view of what greek life is. I believe movies are right on point because if you've ever been to a crazy frat party, you would see what I mean.
Oh my gosh I cannot STAND when people tell me I am paying for my friends. Preach it girl
ugh yes yes yes I HATE when people say you "buy your friends" when you join a sorority😠 I'm a junior in high school so I'm not even in a sorority and yet it bothers me so much lol
I'm kind of disappointed you didn't talk about drinking/partying more and the stereotypes that go along with that!
This was a great video , and your response on the hypocritical things people say about sorority's are perfect !
To some of the people asking whether you have to live with them, I know that at my school we can't have sorority houses with more than 4 girls living in that bc by our state more than 4 women living together is a brothel. So we have a sorority house but most of us dont live there but we spend a lot of time there.
I'm in high school and I would love to go to a sorority when I get to that point in my life :)
About how much does it cost to be in a sorority? How do you pay it off? How much time do you need to be in a sorority?
I don't want to sound critical, but this video didn't really give me much insight about a sorority and what its really like. Instead, this comes across as more of a defense for sororities and what kind of criticisms sororities face..
Loved this! I'd love to hear about initiation.
I was in a house this past year and I hated it. I actually was so torn down by my sorority experience that I left the school and lost myself. My sorority happened to be one that left a bad imagine of Greek life in my head but I do believe there's houses out there that are good. I have friends who've had great experiences. Something I HATE and believe should be stopped is telling girls during recruitment "trust the system". It's actually a really degrading statement when you think about it, it's pretty much telling a independent human to not trust themselves but to trust some dumb Greek system on where they belong even though the Greek system knows nothing about you but a few short conversations and some stalking on social media. No girl (or boy) should be told not to trust themselves but to put their trust of who they are into a mixing pot of a discriminating system. It's terrible.
Well the bid process at least is a computer algorithm.
what school did you go to? and you should make a video on like questions asked during recruitment and things to know like what you can say and can't!
I really want to rush a sorority. My mom and cousin both did it, and they had their own experiences. I am interested in philanthropy and making friends, but also being a part of something. I would love for you to make a recruitment video because I really have NO idea what I'm getting myself into. When does rushing happen? How do I know what to do, how to act, what to wear? I'm not super girly, and I just feel like I didn't grow up in an environment that prepared me to rush, so any help would be appreciated! I go off to school this fall and I would like to not stress about something as joining a sorority! Thanks!
Please do a video on if college is right for you and how to decide to go or not. I'm going in a few years and I'm very scared because it's coming. I'm not sure if I should go or what to do. Please. :)
the sororities at my college (i'm not in one, and I already graduated) made all the incoming girls stand butt naked in a room filled with all the other girls who were already in the sorority and they took a sharpie and circled all the areas on the naked girls bodies that they thought weren't perfect of areas with too much fat.
Every time some one tries to tell me that I've paid for my friends in my sorority I tell them I didn't pay nearly enough for them then!
I'm from the uk and wish we had sororities! Also you look stunning in this! :)
CAN YOU MAYBE DO A LIFESTYLE VIDEO ON
DRESSING FOR COLLEGE?
Like for PRESENTATIONS IN CLASS?
Because I'm going to a Christian college & I want to know the different between APPROPRIATE FOR CLASS & HANGING OUT AT NIGHT.
I'm a Biomedical Engineering major at school and I'm in a sorority so I hate when people look down at me just because I'm in a one..
I guess it all depends on the sorority and college. At my school the sororities do not have good reputations for blatant reasons. It's a small college and they are seen at every social & sporting event. They only recruit the same stereotype girls, who dress like they come from money. I'm glad you got a good experience, because unfortunately I did not.
This was helpful for me because I'm from the UK and I had no idea what a sorority was
PS you are very pretty:)
I think i'm going to rush my sophomore year. I'm studying abroad in the spring and I don't want to miss on the sorority events since I'm out of the country
Can you do a hair tutorial? It looks great here.
"You're paying for your friends"
And you're going to instantly get your degree by paying for a class. The friends you make in sororities are priceless.
Does that mean I need to pay my family to love me endlessly? Or my boyfriend to love me and be loyal to me? Or my friends to be there when I am bankrupt? Wow...
+Ann Gabrielle Katigbak That isn't how that works. You're paying for the experience, and the necessities that you get while you're going through that experience. You make friends through it, and that's just a plus. If you're going to say that you're paying for friends, just remember that if your parents, friends, or boyfriend never gave you anything or any experiences, you'd leave them.
I am not in a sorority but I too think it is ignorant and impolite to say "I won't join a sorority because don't pay for friends."
They're right, sorority girls pay a lot of money to make friends, because they value friendship so much. Everyone spends money on what they think is worth it. Like Caitlin said you pay for classes if you value education; you pay for football game tickets because you love football; why not pay for lifelong friendship? Nothing in this world is free and everything comes with a cost. So does best friends.
Of course going greek is not the only way and for some people not the best way to make good friends. But hundreds of thousands of college students in America chose to, and no one has the right to judge them just because of their sorority status.
+Grace Kim I think a huge misconception is that you're not paying for friends. You're paying to be part of a national organization that promotes leadership, academic and social qualities. You also acquire a ton of life long, real world skills that you can apply to your life after school. Of course you're going to make friends along the way!
can you give advice on accepting a bid that was not your number one house and share some experiences that you or your friends may have with that? I am re-rushing this year and I am nervous about that because it was problem last year.
You're lip color is amazinggggggggggggggggg
What lipstick and shade are you wearing? LOVE. And did you curl your hair w a wand?
What is the recruitment like? I want to join a sorority when I go to college, so I am just wondering what the whole process is like!
Every school has a different recruitment. Be sure to check out your college's greek life website and they should give you a play by play of what recruitment would be like :)
Amanda Coppola Thank you so much! :)
It depends on if you go through formal fall recruitment or informal recruitment later on....
MolliLostInMakeup Every school is different! mine, we just did a bunch of fun activities in the beginning to get to know each other and what the sorority is about. you get to hangout with girls to see if that sorority is a good fit for you!
Do you have to party if you join a sorority? I know that there are many events that are mandatory, (not sure what those events are) but for someone like me who doesnt drink or party, if you don't do certain events will you be kicked out? I still really want to join but i don't want to be pressured or forced to do stuff I don't want to do. pls help :-)))
+Bailey Alvarez It all depends on the sorority, but I think you'd get a feel for the party culture of it during rushing.
None of the ones on my campus require it. There are options to go but never mandatory. and drinking is never mandatory. We also have girls who go and volunteer to stay sober at parties to watch out for each other and make sure our girls are being safe
Hair and makeup tutorial for this video pls
What kind of video camera do you use? I love how it looks in your videos!