Quite BPD here. I have to suppress my urges to seek attention as I got basically conditional love treatment from parents. It can come out every now and then, and I unintentionally manipulate others
I would also love to hear your thoughts on receiving unwanted attention. As an introvert, I find myself pushing people who want my friendship away and I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings.
Attention seekers target those they can get attention from. That can be both positive or negative attention. If you get angry or upset from an attention seeker pushing your buttons then you're providing them with that negative attention. Completely blank them instead. If its a work colleague limit your contact to when you have to work with them. Be indifferent at everything they say or do. Say nothing. Walk away. Ignore them.
I'm with you. When I get unwanted attention I playfully ask "Why the unwanted attention?" It really forces the person to think about the attention they're trying to get from you. If it's negative they'll stop. If it's positive they'll tell you why. In order to stop getting attention from people you don't want you have to tell them. Remember it's only you thinking you're hurting their feelings. You actually have no idea on what the other person is actually thinking. You only have your mind. As in introvert I know you stay in it. Sometimes it's okay to come out into the outer world just to tell someone you're not trying to talk to them. Also it's okay to say "Alright. Nice talking to you. I'm heading off now." Just say it. Some people get caught up talking that they themselves forget they're talking. I get like that. And if an introvert doesn't tell me to stop talking I'm going to keep talking until I start to see signs from the other person. But by then the other person could already be annoyed. As in introvert it's really hard to realize that people can't hear your inner voice. Just tell them what you feel comfortable saying in the environment that you're in that will have them to stop giving you attention you don't want.
I like this. So pure and beautiful/natural. It's sweet. You look dark and creepy and depressing, but then you are totally not at all. It's intriguing. Almost like watching a virtual angel who only feels beautiful and speaks her mind, but hardly notices anything ugly or awful that goes on because you just aren't a part of it because you are free. I don't know. But it's lovely. Wish you sweet dreams. :)
Aside from being absurdly attractive, you know a lot about the way people work. You genuinely care and want to help others. I always like this in people, especially friends. I know a few people who struggle with this type of behavior and it reinforces me in my approach. Thanks, Autumn!
I am an attention seeker I want to stop but I find it really hard I have been abused bullied left out of things when I sat with the other girls they all hurried to get away from me I felt so sad every day I had depression I am only 12 it has scared me and I can't stop being annoying and an attention seeker even this is attention seeking
I'm sorry you had to go through that! I hope you can get help! You need to realise your own worth! How worthy you are of love and affection. But you don't have to work for it. God loves you, you need to know that. People's opinions don't matter but God does! And being honest about your problems is very brave! That's what you need to do, realise your own worth and love yourself! It's harder done then said done I know, but please be encouraged!
I really needed this video. This is so fitting to a situation i am dealing with right now. Thank you! Everything you said in this video is really helpful
I depend on sexual attention, I think it is because I have never had the 'daddy's little princess' phase. I believe that my father is a sociopath and a closet paedophile, so even when he gave me that sort of attention, it wasn't playful, it was in fact very serious and not unconditional. I really hate being single and I often feel guilty for using my male friends as supplies. I know the problem and the reasons but don't know how to solve it. I am getting into self consciousness and self parenting, but I honestly have no idea how to give myself the kind of attention that comes from the other sex. Currently I'm in therapy but I am yet to bring this up. If anyone had been in a similar situation, I would really appreciate their tips on how to get out of this. Thank you.
I am curious if the sexual attention seeking has to do with feeling worthy inside. It may or may not be. If you find your worth inside by let's say learning something, like art, or whatever you love to do, it may help resolve it.
I was with a guy for almost 3 years and he was just as you described (me me me)I noticed he would talk about his cancer but only went to appointments once a month which was odd,he would also hurt himself quite a bit and that's when I had enough so I broke up with him about 7 months ago and I'm now living a stress free life with my daughter and loving not having to deal with his bs anymore. thank you
I have a friend who is going through a situation with someone who is attention seeking and they're giving them attention and feeding the situation in a negative way. This helped greatly and I also wanted to say that you're very beautiful and your voice is soothing. Thanks!
When I have s good day this is what I tell people I need. When I have a bad episode I don't want anything but the negative attention I'm seeking. Thank you for this video.
Best part of the video is at the 13:23 mark hahah. I'm all about the good vibes. This video is awesome though and helpful. You are DEFINITELY an inspiring role model and advocate for mental illness. Takes courage to post these videos and thanks for sharing a part of your personal life! You are helping end the social stigma that is associated with a mental illness.
I am a attention seeker, i know about it and i find myself doing it again and again. Thank you for sharing this painfull topic. I even do it like "talking to people about their topics", but - they are talking with me, i am the "important one who listens" when we meet as friends. It would be such a relief to stop needing this much attention and just let the control and attention needs go.
I have an employee who is an attention seeker. Its a daily battle and exhausting. I've tried both the ignoring and praising route, and you are correct, they aren't very effective. I've even called them out on it. Your paycheck IS your praise in my mind, it shouldn't have to come through constant verbal recognition. I guess I'm still a little perplexed as to how to deal with this individual. They clearly have insecurities, but how do you deal with them in the workplace.
And you're giving information online to the public and what you're doing is NOT attention seeking behavior n I'm sorry that they hurt you and I'm proud of you for helping others and yourself. You are beautiful.
Autumn , THANK YOU SOOOO MUCH for sharing this, your journey. Too much to go in to,but after years with dealing with a family members incorrect diagnosis,last week BPD was finally brought up.Your videos have given me more insight in each 10-15 minute clip than hours of reading or counseling could.Two nights ago, everything came to a major explosion for the entire family.Watching this video today has given me suggestions, not just for the family, but the person with BPD. Now if I can just get everybody ( herself included) to watch at least 2 of these videos, we may start getting on the right track.The family has been willing, but misguided in trying to help, the "patient" is in complete denial and totally self involved in the blame game.I actually see some possibility at the end of the tunnel. Ignore the haters, I find most believe mental illness is fake and person should just "suck it up". Please keep posting, growing, learning and sharing. A life may be saved bc of you! Thank you!
Thanks Autumn, I watch about 6 videos about this attention seeking and yours is the good one for me. Thanks for sharing how to deal with attention seekers and how to deal with my own attention problems 💕 Thanks and best wishes for you 💞💞
Thank you for your insight. I am very tough on people who are attention-seekers (or who I think are) and I usually just ignore them or call them out as attention-seekers. Your solutions are amazing but I'm going to have a hard time applying them in my life only because the attention-seekers I know are veeeerrry good at what they do. Also, I second everyone else here --your makeup here is lovely. You are such a natural beauty and brains!
Every time I watch your videos I learn something new. I've been watching your videos for a while and I don't think your a attention seeker. I think that your videos help people find out a little bit more about themselves. Your videos tells people how to deal or how to handle with a disorder or problem. They also show your experiences and how you deal with them. Thanks for posting this video. I really enjoyed watching it. Your cool. :-)
I love attention, thrive off of it, and just beg for it. I hate it when people point out the fact that I'm an "attention whore", but I feel like it hurts and bothers people. I don't know how to simply stop, I've been doing it for as long as I can remember. It seems impossible. Can you help with that?
I’m only 14, I honestly wish for attention from friends and getting the correct response that I want. Yes I may take things a bit personally, but I just wish there was that person talk to me more.
I will have to say that a few years ago I was an attention seeker till I started Senior year last year. I still struggle with it, but just like you said, it is possible to control. Thanks for the information! You are amazing!
Why should I be burdened or have to cater to them! Hell no! Run! These people start drama, spin webs.....destroy others in school and workplace and families.
The latest one in my life repeatedly tells you about her 11 brothers & sisters that will do ANYTHING for them, cos she's the baby despite her adopted younger siblings - agreed, they are toxic, our boss I too had to give into her games because apparently the girl only lies to me then prays with everyone else - making friends everywhere she goes from love ... her scoliosis must have really flaired up from her accident. Peace, love & light - I left her lifted, winning, and proud instead of being the fake friend she demanded in order to be in her glam squad
An attention seeker in middle school almost made some of my friends go to juve because he made a joke about her grandpa when we make jokes about a friend not having a mom or dad and he didnt care about it at all and i barley new the guy but i said them the most
I love how patient you are explaining everything. You are so pretty and I find your voice to be reassuring. I also wanted to say you are very easy to lip-read because of the way you speak. I know people will wonder how I can say that your voice is lovely in the same comment as I say that you are easy to lip-read: I have hyperacusis (hyper sensitive hearing, for example when I lay down I can hear the bones in my face settle which is so gross) hyperacusis means sometimes I reach a point where noise/sound is physically painful so I watch a lot of videos on mute.
My daughter had borderline personality disorder n what you are saying is SPOT ON! Yes everyone with mental illness displays different symptoms but my adult daughter is classic BPD and will do anything to seek attention, does 99% of what you've said and of course she denies it because it's part of her affliction. When she attacks me- I walk away before she gets physical. Then I'll go to her later n tell her why I walked away after being threatened. She also has no empathy. Nobody should put you down for you telling the truth. You hang in there. Thank you for your videos :))
She HAS it. Sorry! I didn't look before my phone made its ow words up. Autumn, you are helping many people. My daughter's therapist told her she was done with her therapy after giving her all of the coping tools which she totally refuses to use after a year. It's tiring and hopefully one day her siblings will talk to her again after she repairs the relationships she has destroyed.
Thanks for posting this - it helped me to better understand the other person from their point of view, which ultimately brings me the most peace. You have something in common with this other person.
I used to have a friend who was very extreme in her search for attention. I eventually stopped forgiving all the things she did to me, and dropped her as a friend. She fit every criteria you listed.
I think you are awesome, I have just got home from a psychosis episode from this random party and your videos have calmed me down as well as educated me even more on my disorders and how to help me in various ways.
I can see that she's reading the info behind the camera making it hard for me to eye contact with her beautiful eyes and making it reporting. But so far, you're very helpful. I am an attention seeker, I'm eighteen y/o but have a 7 y/o brain, childish. Thank you for the information, you did motivate me, but I don't know if I can stop myself. :3
I used to seek attention by telling people I am a multiple, or a person who believes they hold more than one identity. I just wanted people to want to get to know me, Izaya not the other identities. Eventually I learned that the other identities, while they play roles aren't as prominent as me, Izaya. I eventually learned to see the other identities as "tulpas" as opposed to "alters". I see myself as Izaya and I created sentient existences known as tulpas due to unintentional tulpamancy. I believe that I'm fine and I don't actually need attention from anyone. When I find myself needing attention for things I go to my inner world and interact with the other identities, or selves, or alters, or tulpas. As you can see I find those words interchangeable. I like the idea of being "an identity" the most. It's the most suiting. I love your videos. I can connect to them.
I have quite bad attention seeking behaviour. You have no idea how thankful I am that you have made this video, my problems felt so big and complex, and now I can finally see their root cause and how to fix them. In my worst period of attention seeking behaviour a year ago, I faked a mental disorder, panic attacks and nervous breakdowns. I never noticed it when I was young, I always thought I was just particularly bossy and over eager to impress. Now I see all the patterns in my behaviour, I was always trying to be special and different in every possible way. I'm a little scared now though, because as you said, it is kinda an addiction, I can't help it, it comes so naturally to me now, manipulating conversations so they're about myself, I am now able to do it so that nobody notices, not even me. I can only really notice it in retrospect and with the vague pangs of guilt I feel when I am doing it. I have been feeling especially guilty recently, and finally I know why, so thank you! The only thing is that I am pretty sure I have never been neglected or abandoned, or maybe I have and I don't know about it, but it is unlikely, as I have lead a pretty smooth and charmed life. I suppose I don't have extremely high confidence, but I'm not sure why. Oh well, at least I can start to fix it. PS, I never realised you were trans*! PPS, you looked especially pretty in this video:))
u r a very intelligent , wise, thoughtful beautiful lady. I came here searching for my attention seeking behaviour. everything u said makes perfect sense. but I think getting control of it is the hardest challenge. I have to work on it cuz often times I do it subconsiously
i am struggling with an attention seeking housemate. He takes over conversations, brags about himself, and wants praise any time he contributes even a small effort that others are already doing much more, such as washing a single dish. He lives in my house completely free, including food, and I still do the majority of chores. I dont want to poison myself with anger, but dude just wash a dish and not complain. Thank you for reminding me to understand the issue better.
example: he uses a pan to cook for himself, then says "you know I don't have to do EVERYTHING" when he puts it in the sink. My reaction is to want to kick him out with force, but I dont want to hurt my friendship with his significant other, who is the person I am really trying to help. what would y'all do?
Don't listen to haters. These videos are insightful and help me. With BPD, people assume that we're horrible people. It comes with this stigma that were all attention seekers and manipulators. That's the pain that comes with BPD. It's easy to be judged and misunderstood. But your videos are raising awareness. Keep it up!
I feel kind of like a walking contradiction. I always have a desire to receive attention, but when I get it I get defensive, embarrassed, or try to take the attention off of myself as soon as possible.
My best friend has been doing this for awhile and I am afraid I have encouraged it. When I first noticed her attention seeking behavior I didn't know what to do, but believing that it came from a genuine place of pain for her, I gave her all the attention she was looking for. I know now that I was enabling and condoning her manipulations over me. What I need to know is can I fix this? Would doing the right thing now help her? It has gotten to the point where she has a measure of control over my life that I am not at all okay with, but just like when it first started I know that it is a manifestation of insecurities that are really hurting her. Any advice?
Thank you, Autumn, this video was most surely both informative and helpful. My mother is an attention seeker, you see, and I've been struggling with that from a fairly young age. When I was just 10/11 I started to disagree with her and want to do things on my own, so that's when it started affecting me. The problem is, obviously I didn't have a clue how to cope with it, being just a kid then. I'm 18 now and I still suffer with it. Most of the time I deal with it in one of the non-appropriate ways. Mainly I give in, actually, but I find that extremely tiring and harmful to me, especially because I'm such an introverted person and, as such, would rather be just alone as opposed to talking to her and giving her attention. Whenever I have sought help from my brother and dad (her ex-husband) they always tell me she's beyond help and I should just work on being a more forgiving and selfless person. I have attempted that, but after years of trying it feels like going that path will take me my entire life to solve the issue. I will most definetly take your advice and adress the root cause more. I have done that in some rare times in the past, and looking back, I think that may have helped us both, even if just slightly. Again, thank you, thank you, thank you, so much for this information. I love your videos and they've been really helpful to me since I've discovered your channel. Oh, and sorry for the long comment.
Cant believe i never saw this video of yours before, i do admit this is a very serious problem for me, i feel like everyone has abandon me and felt alone and neglected, sometimes my perception of things is distorted and i make things out to be worse than they are, or sometimes i believe what i talk about is very real, is it real? is it all i my head? i often don't know the difference , I do have really have diagnosis of mental illness but it can be hard to tell, this video helped me a lot in learning strategies and about what i can do to help myself overcome this problem, than you!
This is a great integrative, compassionate perspective and approach. Also if you think about it, trolls who harass you online are in fact the ones seeking attention. Pretty ironic. The attention they most want is YOUR emotional reaction and for your thoughts to go to them, pondering why they do it, how you are attracting them, what their psychology is. Then your energy becomes all wrapped up in them. When in reality, there may be no personal motivation behind them, as you may be starting to see after all these years. . . They are just doing what they are told to do.
Thank you for this. This is extremely helpful and a blessing! I am in the process of trying to understand myself to better my relationship with the people around me. I cannot thank you enough really!
I totally get your thoughts and opinion about feeling bad about others or feeling bad for me. I, myself, feel like it's degrading or negative. It supports the negative things or the situation, it doesn't help or uplift anyone. So I'm glad others see it that way too - thought I was alone with that :)
wow so cool that someone can talk so freely and seriously about attention seeking... most people talk about it in an insulting way because they are annoyed by it, or don't talk about it at all because they are attention seekers themeselves and avoid that topic. cool cool :)
Wish I had seen this before my last divorce. As a psychology student, I was taught to ignore behavior for it to be extinguished. I can certainly see how ignoring does not work well for people who fear abandonment. I'm a counseling student now, and your videos seem like they will be very helpful for me and my clients. In a perfect world, I'd like to see a link to a credible source, so that I'm confident that what I'm being told is something that I really want to try in the therapeutic environment. On a side note, I've never been attracted to a trans individual before I saw this video. You sound very intelligent! Thank you for your effort!
I never thought of it this way... I usually ignore people like this, but since I am dealing with a particular person everyday at my daughter's school makes me want to go up to that person directly and call them out. It's beginning to get annoying especially when I'm trying to pick my daughter up, and this person deliberately stands in front of my vehicle preventing me from leaving. I don't have the energy to give into their self puffed up arrogant ego.
Autumn, you do have such a gentle, kind soul...I can tell...You are such a good person...beautiful inside and out. :-) I love your videos, highly intelligent and extremely informative always...Your channel is one I never miss..
Very insightful and helpful, one of my friends struggles with this along with aspergers and suspected borderline, this has helped a lot and was very informative, so thank you. also, you look really beautiful in this video.
There is this one friend of mine and she's often very rude and I'm pretty sure she is attention seeking but she also has problems at home. I don't want to make myself seem lower than them by giving in. When I'm ignoring her, she tells everyone how heartless I am, and when I try to change the topic she tells me I never listen. I kind of just want her to go away.
Thank you for your teaching on this topic. I appreciate your effort and believe it takes a lot of courage to be on social media. People can be so rude and negative at times.
I was attention seeking with people online back in 2008... I repeatedly kept complaining of unresolved issues with a girl i fell in love with at Hofstra... i used my online friends as makeshift therapist... but it got to the point that eventually... they all abandoned me and i've been left friendless for years now... i lament in trying daily to get sympathy for my schizophrenia and my broken heart over a girl,,, and it got to be an addiction in seeking sympathy at a daily basis... i have no friends now
What if you feel like you truly need to talk about something, but it feels like you're attention seeking? no one has ever called me one, but i feel that i need more attention than im getting from people and sometimes exagerate facts to make the situation seem worse than it actually is.i am aware that i do this, but if i dont i feel useless and abandoned, i cant seem to find a happy middle ground. if there a way to not feel worthless, even if i get zero attention to my problems? (sorry if this whole thing makes zero sense btw :P im just kinda confused atm)
sOMeBoDy important, find what you have to offer the world and keep acting in ways of kindness towards humanity and do not expect anything in return. make physical contact with people as regularly as you can and connect with your body and mind, love it. I for some reason without requesting it am regularly receiving unconditional love, attention and comfort from a guy I never requested it from or expected it from but he chooses to it and he is a wealthy man. I think it is mainly because I chose to take dancing more seriously as a way to bond with others and myself and this has caused lots of female and male attention. So help others in all the ways you can, show unconditional love and compassion to all the people you can and have fun with yourself and others and this will help you get an abundant amount of attention over time. People love femininity in a woman and women and people who are warm, humble and generous. I don't know why but this does attract lots of attention. maybe this is the key. best of luck with it. I have done a very intense personal development on top of this, that helps also.
I'm an attention seeker.but I don't to be one.and I don't act like one. Idk if I am or not.cuz I always feel alone and need someone to talk to me. I always feel lonely.i have friends in my school but she spent less time with me.always with her other friends.she only talk to me when she have no one to talk to. My family always busy😔 so I'm always alone at the house.playing Roblox.roblox is the only thing that keep me feel alive.wifi keep me a life. Sorry for wasting your time 😂
talking to multiple people is best because you don't put too much of a burden on one person. If you are talking to people you don't necessarily trust then put it in looser terms. I also go to goole and go to anonymous forums online to get more answers if I need more support.
Yeah I have issues with cutting and showing it off to people, mostly online. I feel bad afterwards but in the heat of the moment I just want to show everything off.
Have you thought about being a psychiatrist Autumn? Seems you have a lot of insight and experience in mental health and conditions, enough to diagnose and treat people.
An attention seeker has 2 or 3 problems going on: 1. A genetic makeup which makes them obsessive. 2. They were ignored by their parents during early childhood causing them distress. With them being obsessive they fixated on that distress, never moved beyond it and as such have spent the rest of their lives attention seeking to avoid the feelings of distress. 3. If they seek normal attention that is a borderline personality disorder. If the attention seeking is deviant (bitching, abusive comments, trying to mess people up, committing crimes) that is called histrionic personality disorder. The histrionic wants you to get mad at them so by directing anger their way you are inadvertently providing attention. The best thing to do is to ignore them, when they up their game keep ignoring them and continue ignoring them on and on forever! You cannot change someone with a personality disorder you can only get rid of them. By ignoring them you cause them distress and when their attempts to force you into providing attention fail they will ultimately fuckoff somewhere else.
Autumn, you advise not ignoring attention seekers but sometimes their behaviour is so exhausting and debilitating to the other person that you have no choice but to withdraw from them. It might be cruel to you but I believe sometimes you need to protect your own wellbeing first.
You are incredibly elegant and well-spoken, not to mention physically stunning. Love your videos :) Also I have a question, maybe you can answer in your next Q&A: what (if any) psychologists have inspired you? Maybe Jung?
Being a poser really sucks when depression turns you into a dead and dumb social rag doll, thanks for the video, ever since my gf started mooching off of my attention skills, she got me sick with the same addiction of it, this info really helped thank you for the treatment 😊
I'm having to deal with a major attention seeker, but feel helpless to deal with it, because the person involved does not know her worth and is extreamly jelouse of me. Some real nastiness is coming out of her to the effect that any time anyone talks to me or is interested in what I have to say, she gets nasty and goes all out to make me look like a fool in front of everyone. Luckily, they know that she's like that and pay no attention to her, but it is always helpful for me to understand the reasons behind it. Hurting people hurt people, and that's the case here!
I don’t care how deprived someone’s life is because I’ve seen people who are close to 50 years old act and beg for attention. You gotta care to grow up at some point.
Woah sounds like my so called best friend.. She faked an illness and said she has 1 month to live and its been way past that she said her mom died but she didn't and starts to cry out of no where just to have people be there for her and hug her.. Its getting annoying..
Very informative video, Autumn. You look so beautiful, I love your makeup :)! My friend has many attention seeking qualities and many of them overlay with the symptoms of histrionic personality disorder. I want to help her but I'm not quite sure how to go about it, especially if she does in fact have this disorder. But thankfully this video has helped me realize how not to go about dealing with some of her behavior. Thank you very much! :)
I hate it when I don't get attention. I feel like when I don't have attention I feel like I want to be abused, being and alcoholic , being raped , being in abusive relationship , smoking , being worthless to the world around me , I want to die , or break all my bones in my body , or get a serious disease , or be burned and tormented. I don't ask for compliments. I just go into another person's business hoping to be seen for once (I'm not a drama whore, I don't like drama or a attention whore. I don't ask for attention every time. ) and they say something mean to me, I get left behind I feel like I failed, was born for nothing but poverty , and for someone to kill me. So I self harm , and ask people what is this, of course they gonna say cuts, and ask how did I get it, I said I cut myself with dishes or something like that ( lies ). Just because somebody has an attention disorder doesn't mean they are attention whores or drama bitches.
I have a friend who is very attention seeking. He’s always getting dramatic surgeries that are not necessary and once he has that surgery completely feeds on the care and sympathy of others around him. He also gets extremely angry and takes it personally that someone will not help with something he is able to do. For instance, he asked me to remove/ put on underwear even tho he was capable. I was not comfortable doing this. He had also asked me to put on his ointment in his private areas even though he was completely capable of performing this task. I am at a complete loss. My friend had extreme mental disorders that I feel I need to help with but I also recognize inappropriate behavior. I’m at risk of losing my friend. But tonight I’m making a choice to not be involved anymore. Even tho it breaks my heart I cannot do this to myself anymore. It is not fair to me.
I think attention seekers are ppl who didn't get the love n attention they needed from their parents.
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Brandon Harris it’s true because I have a nephew and he gets all the attention and I get yelled at for just telling him to leave me alone
I see comments on some gacha vids saying about a family member abusing them which I think is a lie
Quite BPD here. I have to suppress my urges to seek attention as I got basically conditional love treatment from parents. It can come out every now and then, and I unintentionally manipulate others
Im embarrassed to say I deal with Attention Seeking Behavior sometimes. But I am working with my therapist about this.
Teresa Simpson, at least you are being open and honest about it
@@pleasereportmyaccountcomme1825 why would it be a joke? what's funny about self assessment? I do it too and I know it.
I would also love to hear your thoughts on receiving unwanted attention. As an introvert, I find myself pushing people who want my friendship away and I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings.
Yes that'd be great! I'm dealing with the same thing although I have been doing throughout most of my life.
I've done that so much for so long I have literally no friends anymore expect for my boyfriend.
I have that issue too lol...
Attention seekers target those they can get attention from. That can be both positive or negative attention. If you get angry or upset from an attention seeker pushing your buttons then you're providing them with that negative attention. Completely blank them instead. If its a work colleague limit your contact to when you have to work with them. Be indifferent at everything they say or do. Say nothing. Walk away. Ignore them.
I'm with you. When I get unwanted attention I playfully ask "Why the unwanted attention?"
It really forces the person to think about the attention they're trying to get from you.
If it's negative they'll stop. If it's positive they'll tell you why.
In order to stop getting attention from people you don't want you have to tell them.
Remember it's only you thinking you're hurting their feelings. You actually have no idea on what the other person is actually thinking. You only have your mind.
As in introvert I know you stay in it. Sometimes it's okay to come out into the outer world just to tell someone you're not trying to talk to them.
Also it's okay to say "Alright. Nice talking to you. I'm heading off now."
Just say it. Some people get caught up talking that they themselves forget they're talking. I get like that. And if an introvert doesn't tell me to stop talking I'm going to keep talking until I start to see signs from the other person. But by then the other person could already be annoyed.
As in introvert it's really hard to realize that people can't hear your inner voice. Just tell them what you feel comfortable saying in the environment that you're in that will have them to stop giving you attention you don't want.
I like this. So pure and beautiful/natural. It's sweet. You look dark and creepy and depressing, but then you are totally not at all. It's intriguing. Almost like watching a virtual angel who only feels beautiful and speaks her mind, but hardly notices anything ugly or awful that goes on because you just aren't a part of it because you are free. I don't know. But it's lovely. Wish you sweet dreams. :)
Lion Lion Face it. You're right about me. Haha :P
Lion Lion hahahaha Okay. Park your car. Jack. Just kidding. Lol
Lion Lion Cool. As long as you don't mind!
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I am an attention seeker and I am being honest about it which is hard. I can't help it.. :(
princess julie me too :/
princess julie that's bad m8
You're not alone.
princess julie Me too
I wish I didn't want attention
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princess julie good luck. It must be hard I'm so sorry
Aside from being absurdly attractive, you know a lot about the way people work. You genuinely care and want to help others. I always like this in people, especially friends. I know a few people who struggle with this type of behavior and it reinforces me in my approach. Thanks, Autumn!
I am an attention seeker I want to stop but I find it really hard I have been abused bullied left out of things when I sat with the other girls they all hurried to get away from me I felt so sad every day I had depression I am only 12 it has scared me and I can't stop being annoying and an attention seeker even this is attention seeking
Chese Lover I’ve been seeing this on the daily, to some girl I work with
You do realise you just seeked all of our attention with your own life so I guess you’re right u r an attention seeker
I'm sorry you had to go through that! I hope you can get help! You need to realise your own worth! How worthy you are of love and affection. But you don't have to work for it. God loves you, you need to know that. People's opinions don't matter but God does! And being honest about your problems is very brave! That's what you need to do, realise your own worth and love yourself! It's harder done then said done I know, but please be encouraged!
I really needed this video. This is so fitting to a situation i am dealing with right now. Thank you! Everything you said in this video is really helpful
I depend on sexual attention, I think it is because I have never had the 'daddy's little princess' phase. I believe that my father is a sociopath and a closet paedophile, so even when he gave me that sort of attention, it wasn't playful, it was in fact very serious and not unconditional.
I really hate being single and I often feel guilty for using my male friends as supplies. I know the problem and the reasons but don't know how to solve it. I am getting into self consciousness and self parenting, but I honestly have no idea how to give myself the kind of attention that comes from the other sex.
Currently I'm in therapy but I am yet to bring this up. If anyone had been in a similar situation, I would really appreciate their tips on how to get out of this. Thank you.
truthtoknow I hope things have gotten better for you
Therapy. That's the best way. I went and it helped.
ive gotten beat up by my father and hurt him myself Also
I am curious if the sexual attention seeking has to do with feeling worthy inside. It may or may not be. If you find your worth inside by let's say learning something, like art, or whatever you love to do, it may help resolve it.
I was with a guy for almost 3 years and he was just as you described (me me me)I noticed he would talk about his cancer but only went to appointments once a month which was odd,he would also hurt himself quite a bit and that's when I had enough so I broke up with him about 7 months ago and I'm now living a stress free life with my daughter and loving not having to deal with his bs anymore. thank you
I have a friend who is going through a situation with someone who is attention seeking and they're giving them attention and feeding the situation in a negative way. This helped greatly and I also wanted to say that you're very beautiful and your voice is soothing. Thanks!
When I have s good day this is what I tell people I need. When I have a bad episode I don't want anything but the negative attention I'm seeking. Thank you for this video.
This video is very helpful, we all need attention but everything in moderation is better and we must strive for balance. Thank you.🌸
Best part of the video is at the 13:23 mark hahah. I'm all about the good vibes. This video is awesome though and helpful. You are DEFINITELY an inspiring role model and advocate for mental illness. Takes courage to post these videos and thanks for sharing a part of your personal life! You are helping end the social stigma that is associated with a mental illness.
I am a attention seeker, i know about it and i find myself doing it again and again. Thank you for sharing this painfull topic. I even do it like "talking to people about their topics", but - they are talking with me, i am the "important one who listens" when we meet as friends. It would be such a relief to stop needing this much attention and just let the control and attention needs go.
I have an employee who is an attention seeker. Its a daily battle and exhausting. I've tried both the ignoring and praising route, and you are correct, they aren't very effective. I've even called them out on it. Your paycheck IS your praise in my mind, it shouldn't have to come through constant verbal recognition. I guess I'm still a little perplexed as to how to deal with this individual. They clearly have insecurities, but how do you deal with them in the workplace.
And you're giving information online to the public and what you're doing is NOT attention seeking behavior n I'm sorry that they hurt you and I'm proud of you for helping others and yourself. You are beautiful.
Autumn , THANK YOU SOOOO MUCH for sharing this, your journey. Too much to go in to,but after years with dealing with a family members incorrect diagnosis,last week BPD was finally brought up.Your videos have given me more insight in each 10-15 minute clip than hours of reading or counseling could.Two nights ago, everything came to a major explosion for the entire family.Watching this video today has given me suggestions, not just for the family, but the person with BPD. Now if I can just get everybody ( herself included) to watch at least 2 of these videos, we may start getting on the right track.The family has been willing, but misguided in trying to help, the "patient" is in complete denial and totally self involved in the blame game.I actually see some possibility at the end of the tunnel. Ignore the haters, I find most believe mental illness is fake and person should just "suck it up". Please keep posting, growing, learning and sharing. A life may be saved bc of you! Thank you!
Thanks Autumn, I watch about 6 videos about this attention seeking and yours is the good one for me. Thanks for sharing how to deal with attention seekers and how to deal with my own attention problems 💕 Thanks and best wishes for you 💞💞
Thank you for your insight. I am very tough on people who are attention-seekers (or who I think are) and I usually just ignore them or call them out as attention-seekers. Your solutions are amazing but I'm going to have a hard time applying them in my life only because the attention-seekers I know are veeeerrry good at what they do.
Also, I second everyone else here --your makeup here is lovely. You are such a natural beauty and brains!
Every time I watch your videos I learn something new. I've been watching your videos for a while and I don't think your a attention seeker. I think that your videos help people find out a little bit more about themselves. Your videos tells people how to deal or how to handle with a disorder or problem. They also show your experiences and how you deal with them. Thanks for posting this video. I really enjoyed watching it. Your cool. :-)
I love attention, thrive off of it, and just beg for it. I hate it when people point out the fact that I'm an "attention whore", but I feel like it hurts and bothers people. I don't know how to simply stop, I've been doing it for as long as I can remember. It seems impossible.
Can you help with that?
I’m only 14, I honestly wish for attention from friends and getting the correct response that I want. Yes I may take things a bit personally, but I just wish there was that person talk to me more.
I will have to say that a few years ago I was an attention seeker till I started Senior year last year. I still struggle with it, but just like you said, it is possible to control. Thanks for the information! You are amazing!
You look absolutely glowing in this video! Gorgeous!
Shes a man
@@stbam1965 just like you're mom.
Why should I be burdened or have to cater to them! Hell no! Run! These people start drama, spin webs.....destroy others in school and workplace and families.
The latest one in my life repeatedly tells you about her 11 brothers & sisters that will do ANYTHING for them, cos she's the baby despite her adopted younger siblings - agreed, they are toxic, our boss I too had to give into her games because apparently the girl only lies to me then prays with everyone else - making friends everywhere she goes from love ... her scoliosis must have really flaired up from her accident. Peace, love & light - I left her lifted, winning, and proud instead of being the fake friend she demanded in order to be in her glam squad
An attention seeker in middle school almost made some of my friends go to juve because he made a joke about her grandpa when we make jokes about a friend not having a mom or dad and he didnt care about it at all and i barley new the guy but i said them the most
Oh and had all her friends "come after us" because we made her cry with that joke
I love how patient you are explaining everything. You are so pretty and I find your voice to be reassuring. I also wanted to say you are very easy to lip-read because of the way you speak.
I know people will wonder how I can say that your voice is lovely in the same comment as I say that you are easy to lip-read: I have hyperacusis (hyper sensitive hearing, for example when I lay down I can hear the bones in my face settle which is so gross) hyperacusis means sometimes I reach a point where noise/sound is physically painful so I watch a lot of videos on mute.
My daughter had borderline personality disorder n what you are saying is SPOT ON! Yes everyone with mental illness displays different symptoms but my adult daughter is classic BPD and will do anything to seek attention, does 99% of what you've said and of course she denies it because it's part of her affliction. When she attacks me- I walk away before she gets physical. Then I'll go to her later n tell her why I walked away after being threatened. She also has no empathy. Nobody should put you down for you telling the truth. You hang in there. Thank you for your videos :))
She HAS it. Sorry! I didn't look before my phone made its ow words up. Autumn, you are helping many people. My daughter's therapist told her she was done with her therapy after giving her all of the coping tools which she totally refuses to use after a year. It's tiring and hopefully one day her siblings will talk to her again after she repairs the relationships she has destroyed.
Thanks for posting this - it helped me to better understand the other person from their point of view, which ultimately brings me the most peace. You have something in common with this other person.
I used to have a friend who was very extreme in her search for attention. I eventually stopped forgiving all the things she did to me, and dropped her as a friend. She fit every criteria you listed.
I think you are awesome, I have just got home from a psychosis episode from this random party and your videos have calmed me down as well as educated me even more on my disorders and how to help me in various ways.
I can see that she's reading the info behind the camera making it hard for me to eye contact with her beautiful eyes and making it reporting. But so far, you're very helpful. I am an attention seeker, I'm eighteen y/o but have a 7 y/o brain, childish. Thank you for the information, you did motivate me, but I don't know if I can stop myself. :3
I used to seek attention by telling people I am a multiple, or a person who believes they hold more than one identity.
I just wanted people to want to get to know me, Izaya not the other identities.
Eventually I learned that the other identities, while they play roles aren't as prominent as me, Izaya. I eventually learned to see the other identities as "tulpas" as opposed to "alters". I see myself as Izaya and I created sentient existences known as tulpas due to unintentional tulpamancy.
I believe that I'm fine and I don't actually need attention from anyone. When I find myself needing attention for things I go to my inner world and interact with the other identities, or selves, or alters, or tulpas. As you can see I find those words interchangeable. I like the idea of being "an identity" the most. It's the most suiting.
I love your videos. I can connect to them.
I have quite bad attention seeking behaviour. You have no idea how thankful I am that you have made this video, my problems felt so big and complex, and now I can finally see their root cause and how to fix them. In my worst period of attention seeking behaviour a year ago, I faked a mental disorder, panic attacks and nervous breakdowns. I never noticed it when I was young, I always thought I was just particularly bossy and over eager to impress. Now I see all the patterns in my behaviour, I was always trying to be special and different in every possible way. I'm a little scared now though, because as you said, it is kinda an addiction, I can't help it, it comes so naturally to me now, manipulating conversations so they're about myself, I am now able to do it so that nobody notices, not even me. I can only really notice it in retrospect and with the vague pangs of guilt I feel when I am doing it. I have been feeling especially guilty recently, and finally I know why, so thank you! The only thing is that I am pretty sure I have never been neglected or abandoned, or maybe I have and I don't know about it, but it is unlikely, as I have lead a pretty smooth and charmed life. I suppose I don't have extremely high confidence, but I'm not sure why. Oh well, at least I can start to fix it.
PS, I never realised you were trans*!
PPS, you looked especially pretty in this video:))
u r a very intelligent , wise, thoughtful beautiful lady. I came here searching for my attention seeking behaviour. everything u said makes perfect sense. but I think getting control of it is the hardest challenge. I have to work on it cuz often times I do it subconsiously
You look beautiful, that makeup suits you so well
i am struggling with an attention seeking housemate. He takes over conversations, brags about himself, and wants praise any time he contributes even a small effort that others are already doing much more, such as washing a single dish. He lives in my house completely free, including food, and I still do the majority of chores. I dont want to poison myself with anger, but dude just wash a dish and not complain. Thank you for reminding me to understand the issue better.
example: he uses a pan to cook for himself, then says "you know I don't have to do EVERYTHING" when he puts it in the sink. My reaction is to want to kick him out with force, but I dont want to hurt my friendship with his significant other, who is the person I am really trying to help. what would y'all do?
Don't listen to haters. These videos are insightful and help me. With BPD, people assume that we're horrible people. It comes with this stigma that were all attention seekers and manipulators. That's the pain that comes with BPD. It's easy to be judged and misunderstood. But your videos are raising awareness. Keep it up!
I really needed this because I am trying to get this attention seeker to leave me alone.
I feel kind of like a walking contradiction. I always have a desire to receive attention, but when I get it I get defensive, embarrassed, or try to take the attention off of myself as soon as possible.
My best friend has been doing this for awhile and I am afraid I have encouraged it. When I first noticed her attention seeking behavior I didn't know what to do, but believing that it came from a genuine place of pain for her, I gave her all the attention she was looking for. I know now that I was enabling and condoning her manipulations over me. What I need to know is can I fix this? Would doing the right thing now help her? It has gotten to the point where she has a measure of control over my life that I am not at all okay with, but just like when it first started I know that it is a manifestation of insecurities that are really hurting her. Any advice?
sickofmysickness1 may i ask if things got better?
Thank you, Autumn, this video was most surely both informative and helpful. My mother is an attention seeker, you see, and I've been struggling with that from a fairly young age. When I was just 10/11 I started to disagree with her and want to do things on my own, so that's when it started affecting me. The problem is, obviously I didn't have a clue how to cope with it, being just a kid then. I'm 18 now and I still suffer with it. Most of the time I deal with it in one of the non-appropriate ways. Mainly I give in, actually, but I find that extremely tiring and harmful to me, especially because I'm such an introverted person and, as such, would rather be just alone as opposed to talking to her and giving her attention. Whenever I have sought help from my brother and dad (her ex-husband) they always tell me she's beyond help and I should just work on being a more forgiving and selfless person. I have attempted that, but after years of trying it feels like going that path will take me my entire life to solve the issue. I will most definetly take your advice and adress the root cause more. I have done that in some rare times in the past, and looking back, I think that may have helped us both, even if just slightly.
Again, thank you, thank you, thank you, so much for this information. I love your videos and they've been really helpful to me since I've discovered your channel. Oh, and sorry for the long comment.
Autumn, good job explaining all this and good on you to open up about yourself, so that others can relate.
Cant believe i never saw this video of yours before, i do admit this is a very serious problem for me, i feel like everyone has abandon me and felt alone and neglected, sometimes my perception of things is distorted and i make things out to be worse than they are, or sometimes i believe what i talk about is very real, is it real? is it all i my head? i often don't know the difference , I do have really have diagnosis of mental illness but it can be hard to tell, this video helped me a lot in learning strategies and about what i can do to help myself overcome this problem, than you!
This is a great integrative, compassionate perspective and approach.
Also if you think about it, trolls who harass you online are in fact the ones seeking attention. Pretty ironic. The attention they most want is YOUR emotional reaction and for your thoughts to go to them, pondering why they do it, how you are attracting them, what their psychology is. Then your energy becomes all wrapped up in them. When in reality, there may be no personal motivation behind them, as you may be starting to see after all these years. . . They are just doing what they are told to do.
Got very offended in the beginning of the video, understood why I was getting offended. Good video.
Thank you for this. This is extremely helpful and a blessing! I am in the process of trying to understand myself to better my relationship with the people around me. I cannot thank you enough really!
I totally get your thoughts and opinion about feeling bad about others or feeling bad for me.
I, myself, feel like it's degrading or negative. It supports the negative things or the situation, it doesn't help or uplift anyone.
So I'm glad others see it that way too - thought I was alone with that :)
Ignoring them has totally worked for me. It usually gets worse. Then they realize that I won't budge and they give up.
The ones time you had to deal with someone with this disorder
wow so cool that someone can talk so freely and seriously about attention seeking... most people talk about it in an insulting way because they are annoyed by it, or don't talk about it at all because they are attention seekers themeselves and avoid that topic. cool cool :)
Wish I had seen this before my last divorce. As a psychology student, I was taught to ignore behavior for it to be extinguished. I can certainly see how ignoring does not work well for people who fear abandonment. I'm a counseling student now, and your videos seem like they will be very helpful for me and my clients. In a perfect world, I'd like to see a link to a credible source, so that I'm confident that what I'm being told is something that I really want to try in the therapeutic environment. On a side note, I've never been attracted to a trans individual before I saw this video. You sound very intelligent! Thank you for your effort!
I never thought of it this way... I usually ignore people like this, but since I am dealing with a particular person everyday at my daughter's school makes me want to go up to that person directly and call them out. It's beginning to get annoying especially when I'm trying to pick my daughter up, and this person deliberately stands in front of my vehicle preventing me from leaving. I don't have the energy to give into their self puffed up arrogant ego.
Autumn, you do have such a gentle, kind soul...I can tell...You are such a good person...beautiful inside and out. :-) I love your videos, highly intelligent and extremely informative always...Your channel is one I never miss..
Great timing with this video! I'm dealing with someone who has an issue with this. Thanks again!
Very insightful and helpful, one of my friends struggles with this along with aspergers and suspected borderline, this has helped a lot and was very informative, so thank you.
also, you look really beautiful in this video.
This was really informative AND helpful. I really appreciate all of what you do on here. (: thank you!
Love your videos. They are better than most therapy videos.
how can you get a stubborn attention seeker to see what they're doing?
i don't ignore or give in but feel like nothing is helping.
Call him out and sto feeding into it. Be assertive.
This video just come when I needed that, still dealing with the fact that it even hurts me when there is not enough attention paid to me. Thanks! :)
There is this one friend of mine and she's often very rude and I'm pretty sure she is attention seeking but she also has problems at home. I don't want to make myself seem lower than them by giving in. When I'm ignoring her, she tells everyone how heartless I am, and when I try to change the topic she tells me I never listen. I kind of just want her to go away.
Need more about handling attention seeking relatives. It's a life long struggle with a bully
Thank you for your teaching on this topic. I appreciate your effort and believe it takes a lot of courage to be on social media. People can be so rude and negative at times.
Hello I am an attention seeker please keep on these videos helping others thank you
I was attention seeking with people online back in 2008... I repeatedly kept complaining of unresolved issues with a girl i fell in love with at Hofstra... i used my online friends as makeshift therapist... but it got to the point that eventually... they all abandoned me and i've been left friendless for years now... i lament in trying daily to get sympathy for my schizophrenia and my broken heart over a girl,,, and it got to be an addiction in seeking sympathy at a daily basis... i have no friends now
Ricardo Custodio Antunes I'm sorry to hear that :( I'm here for you
What if you feel like you truly need to talk about something, but it feels like you're attention seeking? no one has ever called me one, but i feel that i need more attention than im getting from people and sometimes exagerate facts to make the situation seem worse than it actually is.i am aware that i do this, but if i dont i feel useless and abandoned, i cant seem to find a happy middle ground.
if there a way to not feel worthless, even if i get zero attention to my problems? (sorry if this whole thing makes zero sense btw :P im just kinda confused atm)
sOMeBoDy important, find what you have to offer the world and keep acting in ways of kindness towards humanity and do not expect anything in return. make physical contact with people as regularly as you can and connect with your body and mind, love it. I for some reason without requesting it am regularly receiving unconditional love, attention and comfort from a guy I never requested it from or expected it from but he chooses to it and he is a wealthy man. I think it is mainly because I chose to take dancing more seriously as a way to bond with others and myself and this has caused lots of female and male attention. So help others in all the ways you can, show unconditional love and compassion to all the people you can and have fun with yourself and others and this will help you get an abundant amount of attention over time. People love femininity in a woman and women and people who are warm, humble and generous. I don't know why but this does attract lots of attention. maybe this is the key. best of luck with it. I have done a very intense personal development on top of this, that helps also.
I'm an attention seeker.but I don't to be one.and I don't act like one.
Idk if I am or not.cuz I always feel alone and need someone to talk to me.
I always feel lonely.i have friends in my school but she spent less time with me.always with her other friends.she only talk to me when she have no one to talk to.
My family always busy😔 so I'm always alone at the house.playing Roblox.roblox is the only thing that keep me feel alive.wifi keep me a life. Sorry for wasting your time 😂
talking to multiple people is best because you don't put too much of a burden on one person. If you are talking to people you don't necessarily trust then put it in looser terms. I also go to goole and go to anonymous forums online to get more answers if I need more support.
I love how you're always wearing such nice outfits and look so put together.
Thank you. Never accused of attention seeking before transition. Totally get it.
Thank you so much for these videos. Its nice to know there are informative strong and honest people out there.
Yeah I have issues with cutting and showing it off to people, mostly online. I feel bad afterwards but in the heat of the moment I just want to show everything off.
Hey Autumn - good sensible stuff - and I think it helped me in thinking this issue through - thanks for that.
I find ignoring is the best solution until they start behaving normally again.
Thumbs up for even bringing knowledge to others to even study one's self. Knowledge is good.
Have you thought about being a psychiatrist Autumn? Seems you have a lot of insight and experience in mental health and conditions, enough to diagnose and treat people.
People like that annoy me to no end. I just ignore them, they won't get a response out of me. And I don't associate with people like that.
this is super helpful! i think my sister might be developing this. your videos are very informative and very professional :)
Thank you so much! My BPD makes me an attention seeker
Same. I was diagnosed with BPD and have the same problem.
An attention seeker has 2 or 3 problems going on:
1. A genetic makeup which makes them obsessive.
2. They were ignored by their parents during early childhood causing them distress. With them being obsessive they fixated on that distress, never moved beyond it and as such have spent the rest of their lives attention seeking to avoid the feelings of distress.
3. If they seek normal attention that is a borderline personality disorder. If the attention seeking is deviant (bitching, abusive comments, trying to mess people up, committing crimes) that is called histrionic personality disorder. The histrionic wants you to get mad at them so by directing anger their way you are inadvertently providing attention.
The best thing to do is to ignore them, when they up their game keep ignoring them and continue ignoring them on and on forever! You cannot change someone with a personality disorder you can only get rid of them. By ignoring them you cause them distress and when their attempts to force you into providing attention fail they will ultimately fuckoff somewhere else.
Amen.
oh thank you so much for elaborately explaining this and breaking it down for me this makes so much sense this is wonderful
what a sweet young lady! Love your vids and appreciate how much they help me.
Autumn, you advise not ignoring attention seekers but sometimes their behaviour is so exhausting and debilitating to the other person that you have no choice but to withdraw from them. It might be cruel to you but I believe sometimes you need to protect your own wellbeing first.
So helpful I wish everyone was as understanding as you are!
i am an attention seeker and i get good kicks out of it, thanks for the video
She's so pretty. She does her eyebrows really well.
i find ur videos really helpful! not attention seeking at all!
You are incredibly elegant and well-spoken, not to mention physically stunning. Love your videos :)
Also I have a question, maybe you can answer in your next Q&A: what (if any) psychologists have inspired you? Maybe Jung?
You are a beautiful person. Thank you for this video. Helped me to understand attention seekers more. ❤
Being a poser really sucks when depression turns you into a dead and dumb social rag doll, thanks for the video, ever since my gf started mooching off of my attention skills, she got me sick with the same addiction of it, this info really helped thank you for the treatment 😊
I starve attention seekers. Drives them crazy. Such mental weaklings
I'm having to deal with a major attention seeker, but feel helpless to deal with it, because the person involved does not know her worth and is extreamly jelouse of me. Some real nastiness is coming out of her to the effect that any time anyone talks to me or is interested in what I have to say, she gets nasty and goes all out to make me look like a fool in front of everyone. Luckily, they know that she's like that and pay no attention to her, but it is always helpful for me to understand the reasons behind it. Hurting people hurt people, and that's the case here!
omg your so gorgeous, I love your hair its like a bohemian style!
Really enjoy your videos. Studying Occupational Therapy and these are very helpful. Thanks!
I don’t care how deprived someone’s life is because I’ve seen people who are close to 50 years old act and beg for attention. You gotta care to grow up at some point.
After attempting to apologize for my attention seeking behavior.
They called me a mom and told me i was “done”
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Woah sounds like my so called best friend.. She faked an illness and said she has 1 month to live and its been way past that she said her mom died but she didn't and starts to cry out of no where just to have people be there for her and hug her.. Its getting annoying..
Your voice is so comforting. Thank you lol
Very informative video, Autumn. You look so beautiful, I love your makeup :)! My friend has many attention seeking qualities and many of them overlay with the symptoms of histrionic personality disorder. I want to help her but I'm not quite sure how to go about it, especially if she does in fact have this disorder. But thankfully this video has helped me realize how not to go about dealing with some of her behavior. Thank you very much! :)
I love your eye shadow in this video! Could you let me know what products you used?
Love your videos
Just discovered your videos. Your calm beauty is inspiring. Many thanks!
Thanks a lot! You have opened my eyes on my behavior. How to fight the need for attention if there's no chance to remove the root cause?
I hate it when I don't get attention. I feel like when I don't have attention I feel like I want to be abused, being and alcoholic , being raped , being in abusive relationship , smoking , being worthless to the world around me , I want to die , or break all my bones in my body , or get a serious disease , or be burned and tormented.
I don't ask for compliments. I just go into another person's business hoping to be seen for once (I'm not a drama whore, I don't like drama or a attention whore. I don't ask for attention every time. ) and they say something mean to me, I get left behind I feel like I failed, was born for nothing but poverty , and for someone to kill me. So I self harm , and ask people what is this, of course they gonna say cuts, and ask how did I get it, I said I cut myself with dishes or something like that ( lies ).
Just because somebody has an attention disorder doesn't mean they are attention whores or drama bitches.
I feel exactly the same I feel like I am annoying to other people because of this problem
Abdulhadi Merza ^
I have a friend who is very attention seeking. He’s always getting dramatic surgeries that are not necessary and once he has that surgery completely feeds on the care and sympathy of others around him. He also gets extremely angry and takes it personally that someone will not help with something he is able to do. For instance, he asked me to remove/ put on underwear even tho he was capable. I was not comfortable doing this. He had also asked me to put on his ointment in his private areas even though he was completely capable of performing this task. I am at a complete loss. My friend had extreme mental disorders that I feel I need to help with but I also recognize inappropriate behavior. I’m at risk of losing my friend. But tonight I’m making a choice to not be involved anymore. Even tho it breaks my heart I cannot do this to myself anymore. It is not fair to me.