I think in the beginning of the show Jeannie was pressured to have kids and Adrienne was pressured to get engaged and married. I am glad they stayed true to themselves and did what's best for them
Exactly, it's like people have short term memory and just want mention people for the sake of mentioning someone, I mean you guys can literally rewatch clips and see that was definitely not the case.
The "Real" is helping us today!!! Last year I was dating someone and even though I loved him, I had no peace whatsoever about our relationship. I had to will myself to break it off. I'm 43, single and have never been married. I kept hearing a still small voice telling me "you are settling I have better for you; trust in me". Whew! My happily ever after hasn't happened yet, but I believe it will in the right season with the right person.
I’m happy for you that you figured it out and found the strength to move forward and not settle. Better that than end up in a marriage that you resent with a person you resent.
I can so relate to her story as a married woman now to the man I know I'm supposed to be with ..... I must admit I think I needed that time to mature bc I feel like I put him through a lot bc I'm still maturing into the woman he deserves so these first few years now is rough.....I'm still working on growing out of that selfishness
Couples should always discuss marriage before the proposal. Marriage is not for everyone and couples should make sure it is something that they really want. Marriage is a big step and a huge commitment and it is something that shouldn't be wasted.
I previously broke off an engagement and it was the hardest thing I've ever done and it came along with a lot of guilt and criticism. I felt trapped and I just felt obligated to say yes, since we had been in a relationship for so long and he was a manipulative person. During the engagement I had terrible anxiety and I knew I made a mistake. Every time I tried to break it off with him he threatened suicide and told me how depressed I was making him. So after A LOT of prayer, I finally had the courage to do it. Of course I could hear the whispers and judgement from everyone and I caught hell from his family for "ruining his life". Meanwhile he damn near ruined mine and I almost failed out of medical school because of him. Came to find out he had multiple women while we were together. Ladies, if it doesn't feel right and you have even an inkling of doubt, TRUST YOUR GUT. Take time to find out if this is the right thing. If you have to break an engagement, BREAK IT. That's much better than a life full of misery and then possibly bringing children into a terrible situation.
This was a nice, REAL conversation. As women I think we sometimes succumb to societal pressures when it comes to marriage, especially when we're a little more mature in age. Always remember that everyone has a different timeline to their life, it's not a race. Kudos to everyone on the panel for keeping it real!
The engagement time is not a time to get to know you're partner dude you should know before you get engaged if you dont know by then, dont get engaged!
That's exactly what I was thinking! I do understand pressure and stuff like that but if you go into an engagement with reluctance, that's never a good sign. The engagement period should be a happy time in preparation for marriage.
Engagement time IS time to get to know them better, as a future spouse, a life partner, not just dating or getting to know your boyfriend... in the engagement period you start to look for the things you never thought were that important or serious while you were dating, and those little things can be a make or break... otherwise people could just set a wedding date when they're ready and not have to propose, there is a reason why it is an engagement period, not engagement day.
I really wish Jeannie would write a book, I think that would be amazing. All her wisdom, her funny Pre-Jesus-Jeannie stories & so on, that would be great.
I get very real when the talk of relationship evolutions come up. I was 21 when I got proposed to and married. My engagement lasted 6 months, and I have been married for nearly 6 years. I can only imagine what my (currently 4 month old) daughter will put me through when her time comes. lol
This was a really great, open, honest conversation they had, and I applaud these women for being so willing to share this intimate side of their lives like this.
I was 23 when I got engaged and I knew deep down inside that he wasn't the one for me. I dragged it on and ultimately I had to listen to my gut and I cried sooooo much, but I had to break it off. I'm so glad that I did.
wow jeanie was so honest and great advice and man she really wanted to get better before marrying, wanted to be mature. i can relate to her this way. thats what i want. now i understood why i am not ready for marriage. thanks jeanie
Is it me or does their friendship seem more real and their opinions can actually be heard fully ....I'm loving this season more and more with every episode
I don't think engagement is a time to figure out if you're right for each other. You should have figured that out already. Once I'm engaged it's time to plan the wedding.
Jeannie and Adrienne were so transparent and vulnerable here. I'm in my 20s and them talking taught me that life doesn't always work out the way you plan for it to. I think as much as I have a certain plan for my life right now, watching this segment helps me realise that even if it doesn't work out my way it will still turn out alright as long as I stay true to myself
the pressure is from both place, the man put himself out there and the woman doesn't want to be a cold bitch. Jeannie speaks the truth and loni is right some men use the big guns to clean up
This is the realest segment/advice ever. ❤️ I respect you all for being transparent in this moment. A lot of young people need to listen (especially to Jeannie's advice/experience).
Engagement really is a good time to see if you're ready to be married to someone, not be with them period, but MARRIED. You can still take the time and date after the girl says no. She just may not be ready. Being sure is better than hoping it'll work out.
I have to say that Loni hit it right on the head with this one. I had a guy try to win me back with an engagement ring. He knew that I had left and wanted me to come back. Girl, don’t fall for that. It’s a trap!!!
i heard a poem/ spoken word once that talked about the woman who are brave enough to say no to a proposal , especially a very public proposal. after i heard that poem i looked at proposals so much different. shout out to all the strong brave ass women out there who have said no to a proposal, theres nothing wrong with it! such a stand up thing to do
I judge Adrienne... a lot... with exuberant glee... However, I'm on her side with this. If you did watch this show from the beginning, Adrienne practically had a neon sign around her neck "I AM NOT READY TO GET MARRIED TO THIS MAN!" It was certain people that kept making it seem like she HAD to marry him. One of those people have been fired. The other is sweating her ass off in a purple top right here at this very table.
this is really good advice i could've used about 10yrs ago. i got engaged and eventually married someone i knew deep down wasn't "the one". i think my big mistake was setting a date and got the wedding plans rolling. ..it's hard to back outta that once everyone is all excited. i think had we not set a date it would've been easier without the pressure and pity to just quietly call things off. needless to say we got divorced a looonnggg 2.5yrs later. haha ..great topic ladies! 😘
Is anyone as glad as me that they didn't have a guest host? I love it when it's just them and the conversations get more in depth and real. Yes, some may be recycled but each time, I learn something new. 👌🏽
My boyfriend broke up with me last Friday and it hurt so much because he's the first man I honestly saw "husband material " and saw a long future with him. Absolutely, i was in love with him but I guess we both saw things differently. I hope I get this feeling again some day. Because being in love and happy with someone is such a beautiful feeling. Then again I hope I am 💯 sure I'll say yes for the right reason. Thank you for these topics and honest answers.
dating should be the time that you take to figure out if this person is marriage material not your engagement. engagement is the time that you enjoy planning a wedding and getting ready for married life not still figuring out if this person is for you. and I feel it doesn't take years to figure out if you want this person in your life forever.
Honestly make sure when you say yes that you really mean it... It is hard to say no just as hard as it is to say yes so you won't hurt the man's feelings ! A man should respect your decision as well , and understand that it's not that you guys aren't amazing but that maybe you should stay off as friends and that's ok !
I 100% agree with Loni! My last relationship when everything started going downhill, the more he kept asking what I'd say if he were to get down on one knee at the moment. And like she said I was already done, fed up, and just ready to move on at the time. I never got an engagement, probably because every time he asked what I'd say I would tell him no because we weren't ready for it at ALL. So glad I saw this, it spoke volumes to me!!! Much love for the ladies of the REAL for being REAL! 💕
I've been watching this show since the beginning but it was not until this girl chat that made me say "these women are extremely inspirational" I love you ladies and keep on with all of this amazing advice and honesty with your discussions
I think Jeannie tried to talked herself in to her first marriage. He might be a good husband but not for her. Evertime jeannie talked about her relationship it was always clear they were not compatibel.
They have all matured SOOO much on this show. If you go back to older clips, you will see how young they were with their views, and opinion. In a matter of three years, these ladies have grown so much and really delivered a distinctive and relevant panel full of discussions for the majority of us transitioning from 20s to 30s and even into motherhood and baby-bearing. So thanks for that!
This was a really real topic. I enjoyed it. I'm glad Loni shared some too! It is quite rare for her. Jeannie is right. My cousin told me when I was in high school about waiting until you're near 30 or at least 30 to marry and not to rush because you are still maturing a lot in your 20's. I know myself a lot more now at 30 than right out of college/high school age. I know back in the day, people married a lot younger but time has change. Don't fall into pressure!
We should work on ourselves first and get to the place we want to be before we get into a relationship. It helps both partners in the long run. You might still have problems to work out but you will already be mature and know yourself.
Ladies, you have shed so much light during this girl talk. I have been married for 15 years and you ladies have opened my eyes. I felt like you were talking about me. Nice girl talk. #Youladiescare
I been pressured to be married and have kids since I was age 17 that is 13years ago. To this day I have never been married. Thought of marriage brings a bitter taste in mouth. The greatest thing I realized watching this talk show is how people can talk about you but never talk to you but like to cry bloody murder when they don't get their way
Adrienne says, "ISN'T IT CRAZY HOW YOU JUST KNOW?!" But I could have sworn that she was engaged to Lenny the first year she knew Israel AND she just said that he forgot her name when they first worked together.
Marriage is sadly meaningless today, some people act as if it's going to stop the cheating etc but it really doesn't. Honestly I don't know if I wanna get married.
If you watched the show from the beginning, you would know Tamar was not. At the time, A + Tamar were the closest (on and off) - so Tamar know what the deal was. And she was never a fan of that whole situation. Go watch "Adrienne calls off her engagement", "Adrienne talks her boo Israel", Tamar defended her and said you have to do what's right for you. And in the "Excuses For Not Your Number video, A was talking about a basketball player asked for her number at a game, and she said no. Both Loni + Tamar were basically looked at her like she was crazy, and you could pick up the hint that they were saying like umm you know Lenny isn't the one, you should've given him your number.
Chaka485 And there was also an episode where Tamar distinctly said and I quote ' You don't have to put any pressure on him because I put ALL the pressure on him for you'. Since you wanna be factual babe. Let's not act like that never happened
Nique 08 True... but I'm merely commenting on what I just watched and what Adrienne chose to highlight as a contributing factor to her breaking off her engagement
Great advices. What about the feeling you get when you date someone a bit older than you and they are ready but they don't realise you are not at the same stage, and you know he is the man for you but you want to wait just a bit more... Kinda like Jeannie said you have to trust that he's going to lead you through it.
It seems as those these ladies have made a concision decision to address some of the issues that they had with Tamar. Also, it seems as those they are making an attempt to go back to their previous format of talking about their personal lives in a way that will draws you in. Loni is also opening up a lot more talking about very personal experiences and she really is telling us what she thinks of Tamar. Adrienna, no matter what you say the pressure you felt lead you right to Isreal so it made you better and I'm glad for you. This is situation is truly unfortunate for all involved because if each of you had been honest with yourselves and one another it could have worked out differently nevertheless to God be the glory.
Loved this topic. People always pressure you. Just let people be and do things on their own time. I literally wish they were my real friends lol. Collectively they give the best advice from different perspectives.
I said, "yes" to my sweetheart only because I really love him and I really want to spend my life with him. God blessed me with a really good man. Thank you, Jesus!
Loni's makeup is not good today. That translucent powder is makes her look so ashy... use better makeup on her, there are brands that cater well for dark skin women
I applaudddd Adrienne so so much for sharing and expressing herself , as she did NOT have to do the way so many of you all have been so mean and derogatory towards her. This young woman has been through so much and being in the public eye doesn't make it any easier especially at the time when she was with Lenny.
I love what Jeannie was shared about wanting wait until she was ready. But I don't think you have to turn down the proposal to wait. If you know in your heart that this is the person you want to marry, why not say yes and then as they said use the engagement to grow. Don't feel pressured to get married right away just because you're engaged. Take the time to be in a healthy space conducive to a healthy marriage. Compromise....
Adrienne is right, women just stay in relationships hoping that things will improve or change and waste years just waiting but then realize it is better to be without him/her rather than settling for someone you are not happy with. Others just stay because they fear they will never find anyone else, especially women past the age of 30, they worry cause they're getting older. Better to be alone and happy than be with someone who makes you miserable.
I think in the beginning of the show Jeannie was pressured to have kids and Adrienne was pressured to get engaged and married. I am glad they stayed true to themselves and did what's best for them
yep from tamar lol
what has tamar got to do with this? they're grown women, i'm pretty sure they recieved much more pressure from their families not a former colleague
did y'all not watch the clip. adrienne even said it. they use to talk about adrienne's relationship a lot
Exactly, it's like people have short term memory and just want mention people for the sake of mentioning someone, I mean you guys can literally rewatch clips and see that was definitely not the case.
why is 30 this magical number for Jeannie?? like i'm 24 and I couldn't be any more mature lol
I love how honest and real Jeannie is. She has the best stories and best advice
Sophie Shah right always
Sophie Shah yes she does
Jeannie is so articulate and transparent. I absolutely adore her.
The "Real" is helping us today!!! Last year I was dating someone and even though I loved him, I had no peace whatsoever about our relationship. I had to will myself to break it off. I'm 43, single and have never been married. I kept hearing a still small voice telling me "you are settling I have better for you; trust in me". Whew! My happily ever after hasn't happened yet, but I believe it will in the right season with the right person.
wow inspiring. I love your braveness and your faith. Don't give up on love. God always comes through when you least expect it!
I’m happy for you that you figured it out and found the strength to move forward and not settle. Better that than end up in a marriage that you resent with a person you resent.
Do you regret your decision? Were there things about him and the relationship that led to this or was he a good guy but just not the one?
You go girl! Support!!
Come thru Jeanie !!!!!!!! God her advice is beautiful
Naomi Kenney hey sister!!!!
+Nina McCrae hey nean bean😘
Naomi Kenny... you are very photogenic.. nice pic.
Naomi Kenney yasssssss🙌🙌🙌🙌 unapologetic ALWAYS and unashamed with emphasis on details
I can so relate to her story as a married woman now to the man I know I'm supposed to be with ..... I must admit I think I needed that time to mature bc I feel like I put him through a lot bc I'm still maturing into the woman he deserves so these first few years now is rough.....I'm still working on growing out of that selfishness
This Girl Chat was wonderful.
one of the best.
I miss these days of deep conversation they hit demographic that needs this today
Jeannie looks so young i forget she's in her 30's, but then she speaks and the wisdom and advice she brings i remember
rawwithnature_ I think she's almost 40 so crazy !
Love Jeannie's honesty.
Couples should always discuss marriage before the proposal. Marriage is not for everyone and couples should make sure it is something that they really want. Marriage is a big step and a huge commitment and it is something that shouldn't be wasted.
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Wow Jeannie is one amazing woman!!! She is definitely a person to emulate
Mehn...I want a mentor like Jeannie in my life. Too many words of wisdom come from this woman
This was such an authentic segment. Everyone was equally sharing and just expressing without trying so hard. I enjoyed this.
Jeanie has the best stories. She be having me on the edge of my seat every time she opens up.
I previously broke off an engagement and it was the hardest thing I've ever done and it came along with a lot of guilt and criticism. I felt trapped and I just felt obligated to say yes, since we had been in a relationship for so long and he was a manipulative person. During the engagement I had terrible anxiety and I knew I made a mistake. Every time I tried to break it off with him he threatened suicide and told me how depressed I was making him. So after A LOT of prayer, I finally had the courage to do it. Of course I could hear the whispers and judgement from everyone and I caught hell from his family for "ruining his life". Meanwhile he damn near ruined mine and I almost failed out of medical school because of him. Came to find out he had multiple women while we were together. Ladies, if it doesn't feel right and you have even an inkling of doubt, TRUST YOUR GUT. Take time to find out if this is the right thing. If you have to break an engagement, BREAK IT. That's much better than a life full of misery and then possibly bringing children into a terrible situation.
jdk37 good for you girl.how is med school going for ya tho?have u graduated?
Thanks, girl! I graduate this May! :)
jdk37 yaaaaaasss hunny! getcho yo degree! I like seeing women blooming
.congratulations🎉🎉
Aww thank you so much!!! :) It definitely took everything in me but I made it by God's grace!
jdk37 u welcome boo.I bet it wasn't easy.what u gonna specialize in?sorry for the interview.am passionate about education
This was a nice, REAL conversation. As women I think we sometimes succumb to societal pressures when it comes to marriage, especially when we're a little more mature in age. Always remember that everyone has a different timeline to their life, it's not a race. Kudos to everyone on the panel for keeping it real!
The engagement time is not a time to get to know you're partner dude you should know before you get engaged if you dont know by then, dont get engaged!
That's exactly what I was thinking! I do understand pressure and stuff like that but if you go into an engagement with reluctance, that's never a good sign. The engagement period should be a happy time in preparation for marriage.
Shiva Shiva wrong!
Engagement time IS time to get to know them better, as a future spouse, a life partner, not just dating or getting to know your boyfriend... in the engagement period you start to look for the things you never thought were that important or serious while you were dating, and those little things can be a make or break... otherwise people could just set a wedding date when they're ready and not have to propose, there is a reason why it is an engagement period, not engagement day.
Shiva Shiva I agree!
Agreed!
Adrienne throwing so much shade towards Lenny 😂😂😂
Caught it 1:30 the carrots box lol
I really wish Jeannie would write a book, I think that would be amazing. All her wisdom, her funny Pre-Jesus-Jeannie stories & so on, that would be great.
Pastor Jeannie was letting the Holy Spirit speak through her!!! I understood everything she was saying here. I'm about to cry right now.
I get very real when the talk of relationship evolutions come up. I was 21 when I got proposed to and married. My engagement lasted 6 months, and I have been married for nearly 6 years.
I can only imagine what my (currently 4 month old) daughter will put me through when her time comes. lol
"See it was Loni that was engaged 4 times, not me!" lol Adrienne 😂😂
But Loni didn't publicize her engagements, that's the difference.
This was a really great, open, honest conversation they had, and I applaud these women for being so willing to share this intimate side of their lives like this.
omg Adrienne has matured so much! proud of her!
I love how real Loni is I say this every episode 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍
All the realness in this clip. That's why I love "The Real"
I was 23 when I got engaged and I knew deep down inside that he wasn't the one for me. I dragged it on and ultimately I had to listen to my gut and I cried sooooo much, but I had to break it off. I'm so glad that I did.
wow jeanie was so honest and great advice and man she really wanted to get better before marrying, wanted to be mature. i can relate to her this way. thats what i want. now i understood why i am not ready for marriage. thanks jeanie
Is it me or does their friendship seem more real and their opinions can actually be heard fully ....I'm loving this season more and more with every episode
Women in their late teens and 20's LISTEN TO JEANNIE!!!!!
Jeannie and Loni came thru with 💯realness.
Damn this got real REAL FAST. Perfect title for the show
SOOOO WHO LET JEANNIE GO OUT WITH THAT CONTOUR ON GER JAW!!! WHO!! 🙄
But everything she said was 100% true Jeannie has the best advice. 🙌🏾
i think she burned herself while doing her hair
The same person who let Loni go out without her under eye concealer blended.
Well Adrienne you spoke about your engagement SO MUCH so you can't be surprised if people were asking you when you getting married
My boyfriend started discussion marriage 2 months into the relationship (I'm 21) That relationship ended there!
LMAO!
London In Style Smart chica!👸
Good for you! That's a terrible sign of his!
I don't think engagement is a time to figure out if you're right for each other. You should have figured that out already. Once I'm engaged it's time to plan the wedding.
Exactly
C Ali yesss
Jeannie and Adrienne were so transparent and vulnerable here. I'm in my 20s and them talking taught me that life doesn't always work out the way you plan for it to. I think as much as I have a certain plan for my life right now, watching this segment helps me realise that even if it doesn't work out my way it will still turn out alright as long as I stay true to myself
the pressure is from both place, the man put himself out there and the woman doesn't want to be a cold bitch. Jeannie speaks the truth and loni is right some men use the big guns to clean up
This is the realest segment/advice ever. ❤️ I respect you all for being transparent in this moment. A lot of young people need to listen (especially to Jeannie's advice/experience).
Engagement really is a good time to see if you're ready to be married to someone, not be with them period, but MARRIED. You can still take the time and date after the girl says no. She just may not be ready. Being sure is better than hoping it'll work out.
This discussion did my heart so much good! I think this was absolutely one of the REALest Girl Chats EVER. Thank you all for your honesty.
I have to say that Loni hit it right on the head with this one. I had a guy try to win me back with an engagement ring. He knew that I had left and wanted me to come back. Girl, don’t fall for that. It’s a trap!!!
i heard a poem/ spoken word once that talked about the woman who are brave enough to say no to a proposal , especially a very public proposal. after i heard that poem i looked at proposals so much different. shout out to all the strong brave ass women out there who have said no to a proposal, theres nothing wrong with it! such a stand up thing to do
I just love how they handle a serious topic like this one! They're just amazing, thank you ladies
I judge Adrienne... a lot... with exuberant glee... However, I'm on her side with this. If you did watch this show from the beginning, Adrienne practically had a neon sign around her neck "I AM NOT READY TO GET MARRIED TO THIS MAN!" It was certain people that kept making it seem like she HAD to marry him. One of those people have been fired. The other is sweating her ass off in a purple top right here at this very table.
I am SCREAMINGGGG
OneLoveRSR certain people? You mean Tamar 😂😂😂
The last part tho LMAOOO!!
I don't get the loni reference though. When did she get pressure by loni? I can't remember.
OneLoveRSR LMFAOOOOO. I'm laughing so hard at the last part.
Ugh!! Love Jeannie SO MUCH! She's so eloquent and real and I adore that about her!!
This was low key a good segment. Great job!!
this is really good advice i could've used about 10yrs ago. i got engaged and eventually married someone i knew deep down wasn't "the one". i think my big mistake was setting a date and got the wedding plans rolling. ..it's hard to back outta that once everyone is all excited. i think had we not set a date it would've been easier without the pressure and pity to just quietly call things off. needless to say we got divorced a looonnggg 2.5yrs later. haha ..great topic ladies! 😘
Is anyone as glad as me that they didn't have a guest host? I love it when it's just them and the conversations get more in depth and real. Yes, some may be recycled but each time, I learn something new. 👌🏽
i love these womans so much, jeannie and adrienne were so honest, i really appreciate that a lot
They been throwing a lot of shade towards Tamar lately 😂😂😂
My boyfriend broke up with me last Friday and it hurt so much because he's the first man I honestly saw "husband material " and saw a long future with him. Absolutely, i was in love with him but I guess we both saw things differently. I hope I get this feeling again some day. Because being in love and happy with someone is such a beautiful feeling. Then again I hope I am 💯 sure I'll say yes for the right reason. Thank you for these topics and honest answers.
Mela the great Hope you're feeling better 😊
Rukhsary thanks 💜
dating should be the time that you take to figure out if this person is marriage material not your engagement. engagement is the time that you enjoy planning a wedding and getting ready for married life not still figuring out if this person is for you. and I feel it doesn't take years to figure out if you want this person in your life forever.
Our comments are always:
40% cussing the way they act
40% cussing their makeup
18% their hair
2% something acc relevant to the topic
Honestly make sure when you say yes that you really mean it... It is hard to say no just as hard as it is to say yes so you won't hurt the man's feelings ! A man should respect your decision as well , and understand that it's not that you guys aren't amazing but that maybe you should stay off as friends and that's ok !
Awww Jeannie loves Freddie
I 100% agree with Loni! My last relationship when everything started going downhill, the more he kept asking what I'd say if he were to get down on one knee at the moment. And like she said I was already done, fed up, and just ready to move on at the time. I never got an engagement, probably because every time he asked what I'd say I would tell him no because we weren't ready for it at ALL. So glad I saw this, it spoke volumes to me!!! Much love for the ladies of the REAL for being REAL! 💕
I love this conversation, so real and full of truth
I've been watching this show since the beginning but it was not until this girl chat that made me say "these women are extremely inspirational"
I love you ladies and keep on with all of this amazing advice and honesty with your discussions
Wait what?? I wasn't aware that the purpose of an engagement was to see if me and my man are right for each other. WTF kinda nonsense.
Jeannie stays burning her cheek with her straightener lol
As a woman who felt pressured the first time she was proposed to, I feel everything these ladies are saying. Nice job!
This was the realest segment of the real I watced
I think Jeannie tried to talked herself in to her first marriage. He might be a good husband but not for her. Evertime jeannie talked about her relationship it was always clear they were not compatibel.
The shade at Tamar for pressuring her lmao.
I love this show so much! I learn a lot from these ladies.
They have all matured SOOO much on this show. If you go back to older clips, you will see how young they were with their views, and opinion. In a matter of three years, these ladies have grown so much and really delivered a distinctive and relevant panel full of discussions for the majority of us transitioning from 20s to 30s and even into motherhood and baby-bearing. So thanks for that!
4.48 Tamera does NOT believe Loni....she's like lieeeees!!!😂😂
MsCassiexo was thinking the same thing 🙄😂 like girl bye....no hate no shade but you can tell when they lie
JEANIE IS BAE🌹 that's all. that's it. we can go home now, no more needs to be said
This was a really real topic. I enjoyed it. I'm glad Loni shared some too! It is quite rare for her. Jeannie is right. My cousin told me when I was in high school about waiting until you're near 30 or at least 30 to marry and not to rush because you are still maturing a lot in your 20's. I know myself a lot more now at 30 than right out of college/high school age. I know back in the day, people married a lot younger but time has change. Don't fall into pressure!
We should work on ourselves first and get to the place we want to be before we get into a relationship. It helps both partners in the long run. You might still have problems to work out but you will already be mature and know yourself.
I really enjoyed this girl talk topic!
This is one of my favourite segments. Their realness is inspiring and I appreciate all the advice and stories
Ladies, you have shed so much light during this girl talk. I have been married for 15 years and you ladies have opened my eyes. I felt like you were talking about me. Nice girl talk. #Youladiescare
This girl chat was fire 🔥🔥good job on being 'real' ladies ...
I like the fact that we're learning something new about Loni almost every episode
I love how the ladies are so honest and real 💯💯💯
I been pressured to be married and have kids since I was age 17 that is 13years ago. To this day I have never been married. Thought of marriage brings a bitter taste in mouth. The greatest thing I realized watching this talk show is how people can talk about you but never talk to you but like to cry bloody murder when they don't get their way
Okay their convos today were really good 👏
Adrienne says, "ISN'T IT CRAZY HOW YOU JUST KNOW?!" But I could have sworn that she was engaged to Lenny the first year she knew Israel AND she just said that he forgot her name when they first worked together.
This was such a Great topic and awesome advice!!! love this show!
Marriage is sadly meaningless today, some people act as if it's going to stop the cheating etc but it really doesn't. Honestly I don't know if I wanna get married.
wwe creative dont let society ruin it for you. Marriage is a beautiful thing when DONE RIGHT
That's true, but right now i'm unsure.
LOL they subliminally bringing up Tamar in their discussions alot. ( Tamar definitely was pressuring
Lenny and Adrienne to get married on the show)
I know right?!?! They've done it a few times lately!
If you watched the show from the beginning, you would know Tamar was not. At the time, A + Tamar were the closest (on and off) - so Tamar know what the deal was. And she was never a fan of that whole situation. Go watch "Adrienne calls off her engagement", "Adrienne talks her boo Israel", Tamar defended her and said you have to do what's right for you. And in the "Excuses For Not Your Number video, A was talking about a basketball player asked for her number at a game, and she said no. Both Loni + Tamar were basically looked at her like she was crazy, and you could pick up the hint that they were saying like umm you know Lenny isn't the one, you should've given him your number.
Chaka485 And there was also an episode where Tamar distinctly said and I quote ' You don't have to put any pressure on him because I put ALL the pressure on him for you'. Since you wanna be factual babe. Let's not act like that never happened
Jay 2.0 No matter what Tamar said or didn't say, Adrienne & Lenny are adults who CHOSE to get engaged.
Nique 08 True... but I'm merely commenting on what I just watched and what Adrienne chose to highlight as a contributing factor to her breaking off her engagement
I thought they were going to play the "This is our time" theme song 😏
Great advices. What about the feeling you get when you date someone a bit older than you and they are ready but they don't realise you are not at the same stage, and you know he is the man for you but you want to wait just a bit more... Kinda like Jeannie said you have to trust that he's going to lead you through it.
It seems as those these ladies have made a concision decision to address some of the issues that they had with Tamar. Also, it seems as those they are making an attempt to go back to their previous format of talking about their personal lives in a way that will draws you in. Loni is also opening up a lot more talking about very personal experiences and she really is telling us what she thinks of Tamar.
Adrienna, no matter what you say the pressure you felt lead you right to Isreal so it made you better and I'm glad for you.
This is situation is truly unfortunate for all involved because if each of you had been honest with yourselves and one another it could have worked out differently nevertheless to God be the glory.
can they give advice that we dont already know. "dont do it if you know its not right"
Loved this topic. People always pressure you. Just let people be and do things on their own time. I literally wish they were my real friends lol. Collectively they give the best advice from different perspectives.
I said, "yes" to my sweetheart only because I really love him and I really want to spend my life with him. God blessed me with a really good man. Thank you, Jesus!
This four-some is really much better than the old five-some.
I loved this topic ladies
Loni's makeup is not good today. That translucent powder is makes her look so ashy... use better makeup on her, there are brands that cater well for dark skin women
I applaudddd Adrienne so so much for sharing and expressing herself , as she did NOT have to do the way so many of you all have been so mean and derogatory towards her. This young woman has been through so much and being in the public eye doesn't make it any easier especially at the time when she was with Lenny.
I LOVE THIS SHOW SOOOO MUCH I ALWAYS LEARN A LOT FROM IT!
I love what Jeannie was shared about wanting wait until she was ready. But I don't think you have to turn down the proposal to wait. If you know in your heart that this is the person you want to marry, why not say yes and then as they said use the engagement to grow. Don't feel pressured to get married right away just because you're engaged. Take the time to be in a healthy space conducive to a healthy marriage. Compromise....
Adrienne hugging Loni at the end was so adorable😊
Adrienne is right, women just stay in relationships hoping that things will improve or change and waste years just waiting but then realize it is better to be without him/her rather than settling for someone you are not happy with. Others just stay because they fear they will never find anyone else, especially women past the age of 30, they worry cause they're getting older. Better to be alone and happy than be with someone who makes you miserable.
I remember Lala's proposal! I always thought it was Carmelo.
LOVE IT, ,THE. REAL
These ladies always inspire me to try to look my best always. Thanks loves.
Yes! I love when they get really REAL, why i fell in love with the show :)