my mom always told me keep some money in a separate account because you never know what happens and you need to have your own money. hope for the best, prepare for the worst.
If you are stalking your ex online while we are in a relationship, you are obviously not ready to be with anyone else. You need to get over your ex first.
Eh. It depends on whether "stalking" is meant literally or in the exaggerated sense. Like, I FB stalk a lot of people I am not romantically interested in. Heck, I looked up that kid I kissed in kindergarten once. I hardly thing I'm not over him.
danayshia coping But there's no need to keep it secret. Like Jeannie said in a previous episode discuss finances before marriage so you are both on the same page. Having the separate bank account isn't the problem, it's keeping it a secret that's the problem.
Im with tamera and adrienne in this one. Idk why everyone is hating on adrienne. Like there is nothing wrong with having a separate bank account but why is it a secret? Each put a certain amount of your paycheck in a joint account...to pay bills, to save up to buy a house, children's education fund, etc. I believe in 2 of everything. 1 joint savings, 1 joint checking, and each have your own savings and checking accounts as well. Use the joint accounts for joint expenses and your individual accounts for whatever you want. But no need to keep secrets imo. TRUST your partner.
Mara Okafor the reason to keep it a secret is because when going through a divorce you have to disclose all finances and holdings. If he knows that it is there, then he might report and you still you have to give up half. If no body knows and you don't disclose it then that's all yours.
Getting a separate bank account is not whack, it's smart. There has been so many horror stories of couple who are married and would trust each other with their lives and a few years in get into an argument or get separated and one cleans out the other of all their cash and runs away with someone else. I'm never gonna Be the one left looking stupid 💅🏾 Hope for the best, prepare for the worst
Damn straight 💯 nothing wrong with protecting and looking out for yourself because no marriage is guaranteed to last no matter how much in love you think you are..things can change like that ...y'all divorced...he moving on with his life and you broke as a joke..please!!!
But why is it a secret? If I’m with someone and he tells me he has another bank account, I would do the same thing. Not like the other person can just get into it without your permission.
This shows how they are hypocrites and change their ideas like people change underwear. There are multiple videos where they say separate bank accounts for women are smart to protect themselves....
sorry Adrienne but when people get divorced or break up they become PETTY.. you have to look out for yourself, keep a personal account for a rainy day.
The fact that an ex knows about me and I don't know about them shows that I'm more important. I don't give a damn about my mans corny ass exes 😂😂😂 And as far as that secret bank account goes, that's not whack. That's being prepared. You never divorce the same person you married. People can change in a split second and you never know when you'll need some back up
Fifi Lauren exactly what jeanie was trynna say. but look at the comments. sometimes i feel like most of the real viewers r super naive super religious ladies who spent half of their day in church who know nothing about the world and judge everyone. keeping a separate bank account is such a good decision. i am tired of real and its comments lately.
If you get a divorce you are going to have to reveal all of your accounts anyway though so why keep it secret? So he doesn't try and gain access to it during the marriage? Me and my spouse would have a joint account for bills and separate accounts that we each know about.
K Henderson In my current situation I would not keep a bank account secret but some people have maybe had bad past relationships or maybe their feelings are starting to change and they want to be prepared. Every situation is different. I just don't like the fact that a lot of people in the comments are judging people when they don't understand or aren't trying to understand the context in which one would have a separate secret bank account
K Henderson There are people that hide accounts or put money in someone else's name; and unless you have an expensive private investigator, you most likely will never find those accounts.
Fifi Lauren I will say this it’s whack if you don’t tell them you have it because you actually would have to fork over half that account in some states if it’s found out about during a divorce
I don't care how wack y'all think it is. My daddy taught me when I go on a date to have enough money to get home on my own if I need it, best believe I'll have that account if I need it when I'm married.
I don't know I'm a little with Adrienne and ...Loni. If you messed (whatever type pf relationship) with someone and we're at a party and you see that person ...give me a heads up. I don't want to know every single detail between y'all but don't let that chick have a one up on me.
jvrbreaker and I say, If you can go somewhere else, do that too so that you both can have a great outing, but if one doesn’t want to go, then you can find out the respect tip and comfort level of who it is who wants to stay.
I'm with Adrienne and Tamera on this one. No it's not ok to keep secrets from your husband. I need to know everything and he needs to know everything. We need to keep each other in check and on point for the sake of our life, marriage, and family.
I understand both sides but I agree more with Adrienne and Tamera. I'm a really chill girl, I'm not the extremely jealous type who blows up if a girl says hi or if you like another girl's photo, that's really petty tbh. I don't need to know every single thing, but the important stuff like serious relationships and all of that, I would want to know because they were important in some way to my guy. but it don't hurt to be aware if any exes try to come crawling back. I can put them in check.
Yup I'm exactly like Tamara and Adrienne!! That's how u stay happy and trust eachother. I don't care what they did before they were with me and it won't hurt me but I need to know.
It's just something you talk about to get to know each other even better. A woman or man might be or might have been different with somebody else and you might not have seen that in your own relationship.
Perfectly fine and recommended on that secret bank account. Not whack. you never know when you might need that and everybody isn't good with managing money. My money I had b4 marriage isn't about to be run up.
NO! Keeping a separate bank account in secret is not whack, Adrienne. It can be a good thing especially when your spouse is addicted to gambling (for example)
And this is why so many relationships today fail. No commitment, having one foot already out the door, or an eye out for the next best thing. Why be with somebody if you are so paranoid? Full commitment and transparency is expected from the man but he will never receive the same, will he?
Lizzette Sanchez everyone Wants to believe they have the best of the best of the which none is, even if a women knew of wrongs, she will back him up in public, keep pride, and hopefully be dealing with the issues in private. I trust God and NO MAN. I’m always listening and watching, women too, and even myself, and rebuke my self as needed. This man told me, that people talk out of the side of their neck, and the meaning that I took from that was, People say one thing and believe and do another.
This reminds me of when they brought up Rob Kardashian, adrienne wasn't having it and said she didn't care about who rob is with since she moved on and had no feelings lingering for him...
whits water we need to go to different places, be involved with other events, grow in as many areas as possible and get a new perspective or future friendly life. If you keep worrying, you can become sick, and so sick that you and me will forget about living the gift of life that we have. Men aren’t everything. God is, and they and we know no more than God or the devil tells us-whichever Oone we decide to follow.
Trust me the women may be telling everything but the men sure ain't. And having a separate bank account is a wonderful idea bc with the way how relationships and marriages are these days, it's a very smart idea
As a Christian and a God fearing women, WHEN I get married I don't think keeping secrets from my husband is something I would do lol I want him to know everything (as he should) and vice versa
Alexia Nicole you're a little naive. It's not a sin to keep some things to yourself and not tell your partner. They don't need to know everything about you. Some things are best kept to yourself or between you and God.
Indi jay+ It's my life. I'm not telling you guys how to live yours. If the Holy Spirit checks me and let's me know that I'm opening up too much then I'll check myself, otherwise what you guys are telling me is invalid. My life, my relationship with MY future husband, and MY relationship with God. Unless God HIMSELF checks me, I'm good. I don't live for y'all. :')
I'm with Jeannie and Loni. Now, If we happened to run into an ex, I wouldn't leave you out of the loop and I would want the same, but that's where it ends. The only thing that interests me about your ex-girlfriends is that they are your EX-girlfriends. You need pictures? Childish. You couldn't pay me to care about another woman's mental tally of who knows what--of who's "winning". I don't get why her perception of who's winning matters. She is a non-factor who will be given no relevance. What I look like having sat down and discussed YOU in our current relationship. I'd find it to be more of a drag if I met her, "Sorry boo, you didn't come up". The way I see it, if you ever feel like you have to compete for your man, he is not your man.
team loni and jeannie on this one. adrienne and tamera just sound insecure to me. also, i resent the explanation tamera gave of "maybe it's just the girl in me. sometimes we're nosy." that's not a gendered thing, boo. that's a personality thing.
I agree, and I like that just because Jeanie is married she doesn't always side with Tamera and Adrienne. The show would get pretty boring if it was always "married women" VS. "Loni. Lol
My boyfriend and I had a conversation about this a few weeks ago where ... we questioned whether it was necessary to go into detail about each others' exes and I thought I was mature enough to handle it BUT I found myself actually getting upset and jealous about the things he told me about their relationship .. but in part I'm glad I know .. Theres nothing to be mad about cause that was his past, I just had to suck it up and accept it.
cutiepie44507 I’m late to this... but I definitely just went through the same thing! I feel so boring compared to his EX’s. Part of me is like why did I even ask? Idk I still don’t know how to feel.
I feel like it’s important to still be an individual even when are married. Sometimes when you’re in a relationship you get so invested in the other person, neglecting yourself.I do agree that you need to communicate with your significant other if another guy/ your ex tries to text you or something, however keeping certain intimate details about yourself is important so you still feel like you are an individual outside of your relationship.
Having a conversation with someone when you initially start dating about past relationships etc. Is perfectly acceptable (wanting to understand why a past serious relationship may have ended, if you're in an interracial or interfaith relationship maybe you're curious about their past experiences etc. and so forth - real questions of magnitude ) but once you're in a serious relationship or married why are you prying into your partners past, at that point you should know who you're with. Wanting to know about who the exes are and what they look like screams insecurity - who cares, he's/she's with you now. I do agree if you walk into a room and your ex (from a real relationship) happens to be there, you should say something to your partner but on a regular day why do I need to name my exes off, give you a profile and show pictures? Vice versa I'm not going to ask..if I'm secure in myself and in my relationship what is the point? The past is the past, every one has one, you should be looking towards the future.
Thinking about what the article has said and it got me thinking that there are certain things that I would like to keep between me, myself, and I and/or myself, the Lord, and the Devil.
My mom always told me to never say / reveal all your secrets to your partner . I intend to follow her advice , as long as it's not life threatening , or dangerous why should I reveal it ?
I agree with Tamera&Adrienne. I also get what Adrienne is saying about another chick thinking she knows something you don't. People are petty these days.. so I would much rather know my man's past and accept it, than to not know and find out during some important event when we happen to run into his ex. I truly believe it is important to know someone's past. I want to accept someone as they were, as they are and as they will be. If you can't do that, maybe you don't really love that person. But I can honestly say, not knowing those kind of important things can cause A LOT of problems should the other person ever find out. If you find yourself needing to hide something from your SO, maybe it's something that you shouldn't be doing.
having a 2nd bank account is smart actually..anything can go wrong in a relationship. .either a death or cheating or they just leave out of the blue leaving you with nothing. .it's not wack Adrienne
Am I the only one who feels like Adrienne was being kinda immature in this??? I feel like this season she's been more mature but she seems to be different in this segment. No shade though
Agree with A on the ex situation. Been there! Was introduced to my hubby’s ex by another friend while at church & my hubby wasn’t there. My friend & I were having a convo, then this girl jumps in & I get introduced first & last name. Girl puts 2 n’ 2 together, then her attitude changes. She gave me stank face the remainder of the convo. Over the next few days we kept seeing each other at church since I was in charge of coordinating an event & I guess she & her hubby visited our island to come & “help out.” Whole time oblivious as to what’s this girl’s problem. Now she goes back home after her visit. Then my hubby tells me oh BTW... and I was pissed. I was haggard looking the whole time in sweats coordinating the event. At least he could’ve told me & I could’ve been a lil’ more put together. He learned tho.
My stepmom taught me a long time ago that I don't have to share every single detail with the person I'm with and I agree with her. When I do get married I'll share everything that involves us and affect us both, but if there are stuff that don't really affect him or our relationship then I don't see the need to have to share it.
In general there are things you need to know especially when the both parties are serious I for sure wanna know what am I getting myself into likewise the other person have equal rights to know about me. I do agree if there are things that would be a problem to the relationship eventually then its okay to not hurt the person you love in a way. Sometimes there are things that better left unsaid. Yes I wanna know but I wont wanna go in detailes like did you cum how long was it for, was it good what color panties were you waring or was he big. I think you have its okay to do the background check but so much of details then you're torture my living soul for being a human that did so things I'm not proud of we are not perfect. #1 if you're afriad of the judgements thad comes after thad and you know know its unesscesly for those jugdements its totally okay to show some self love. And who knows if he's telling the truth maybe the other person thinks the same way some truth hurts. I know I handle things that he did and told me which was not good or expected I stayed humble repesct him and would question those things at times. I do trust him but heads up fam not everything you heard is true. This is me I didnt love you then I shouldn't care but at times we all have inscurities its a normal human thing.
@soapqueen2008 For certain things its okay to share and most importantly you know what you have to deal or has been dealing with so when or if that time comes you'll know what you should say it all depends on your partner behaviour and understanding. Its all okay to be honest but sometimes we cant handle the truth as much we wanna be honest some people cant deal with other people honesty
My mum always said keep your money separate and be independent so if anything happens you know how to take care of yourself. Separate accounts I agree with
I totally agree with tamera and adrienne . Now , about that bank account situation👀 you need a plan b you know? I would hate to be in a situation where im still with a man cuz i can't economically maintain myself! . I know people that are in that situation and nope! I refuse to go through that
Littytae that's exactly the point Adrienne was making I'm sure you would've appreciated knowing that cuz you were the one looking stupid with not knowing that
Littytae that’s unsettling in the gut. You know something’s just not right, and, maybe right now. He stiffens up, she keeps staring, and you keep staring at her because he lied...that was one of my situations.
1. I don't need a list of who my partner has been with (I will need proof of an STD test though). Just give me a heads up if we run into one of them or they try to reestablish contact. 2. Having a secret account is shady to me. Just go into the relationship letting your partner know you want a joint account and separate accounts. Get a prenup stating the separate accounts and retirement funds will not be split in the event of a divorce.
i think knowing how many women he has been with is important because you want to make sure the person is clean and healthy before getting intimate. i hear that in California.. they are planning to decriminalize the act of not telling your sexual partner if you have HIV. so its good to know things about your partner.
Bank account is the only one I disagree with. Both couples should have a private bank account for safety. Personally I would tell my spouse that I have one but it depends on the situation and I think it’s also reasonable for it to be secret.
Dee Dee the other girl may seriously be the other girl, and may have been invited by him, and he may still be with her if he or she recognized her so soon. Maybe the relationship is not over. On the flip side, the relationship, if it is right, is between the husband and wife, if it truly is, but if there is deceit, both know it. Don’t Play!
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my mom always told me keep some money in a separate account because you never know what happens and you need to have your own money. hope for the best, prepare for the worst.
Alyssa Cooper lol...so true
dont ask Both partners need a separate bank account. Anything can happen to anyone, always look out for yourself first.
dont ask for the same reasons why I'm gonna have my own account, I don't blame my future husband if he chooses to have his own.
smart girl, you can never be too careful
Alyssa Cooper Yes! Mama didn't raise no fool
If you are stalking your ex online while we are in a relationship, you are obviously not ready to be with anyone else. You need to get over your ex first.
ChicaSoltera ughhh thats soooo me😒😒😒
Skyleon Thank you.. 💯💯💯
Maybe you're just bored and curious about what happened to the people you used to be close to in your life
Preach it !!!!!!!!
Eh. It depends on whether "stalking" is meant literally or in the exaggerated sense. Like, I FB stalk a lot of people I am not romantically interested in. Heck, I looked up that kid I kissed in kindergarten once. I hardly thing I'm not over him.
Im down for separate bank accounts. You gotta be ready for when someone screws you over.
Damn straight 💯
Eve Yitu exactly better safe than sorry
Eve Yitu exactly
Eve Yitu AMEN!
Like a scam.... sort of.... (maybe?)
My mom has always told me men don't need to know everything and she is CORRECT 🤷🏾♀️
My mom too girl its none of their business ☝
I don't think having a separate bank account is whack. If y'all get in a divorce and you're left with nothing...then what are you going to do??
I think she was saying keeping it a secret is whack.
Ohhhhh
Darius Covington Nope I'm keeping that a secret. you dont get to take my hard earned money
danayshia coping nothing to do with your comment but your so pretty 😍
danayshia coping
But there's no need to keep it secret. Like Jeannie said in a previous episode discuss finances before marriage so you are both on the same page. Having the separate bank account isn't the problem, it's keeping it a secret that's the problem.
Im with tamera and adrienne in this one. Idk why everyone is hating on adrienne. Like there is nothing wrong with having a separate bank account but why is it a secret? Each put a certain amount of your paycheck in a joint account...to pay bills, to save up to buy a house, children's education fund, etc. I believe in 2 of everything. 1 joint savings, 1 joint checking, and each have your own savings and checking accounts as well. Use the joint accounts for joint expenses and your individual accounts for whatever you want. But no need to keep secrets imo. TRUST your partner.
Aaaamen. :)
Mara Okafor the reason to keep it a secret is because when going through a divorce you have to disclose all finances and holdings. If he knows that it is there, then he might report and you still you have to give up half. If no body knows and you don't disclose it then that's all yours.
Kris Brookes You're very logical!
Kris Brookes that’s what prenups are for 😂
If they find out later then your in trouble.
Getting a separate bank account is not whack, it's smart. There has been so many horror stories of couple who are married and would trust each other with their lives and a few years in get into an argument or get separated and one cleans out the other of all their cash and runs away with someone else. I'm never gonna Be the one left looking stupid 💅🏾 Hope for the best, prepare for the worst
Damn straight 💯 nothing wrong with protecting and looking out for yourself because no marriage is guaranteed to last no matter how much in love you think you are..things can change like that ...y'all divorced...he moving on with his life and you broke as a joke..please!!!
But why is it a secret? If I’m with someone and he tells me he has another bank account, I would do the same thing. Not like the other person can just get into it without your permission.
This shows how they are hypocrites and change their ideas like people change underwear. There are multiple videos where they say separate bank accounts for women are smart to protect themselves....
She was saying that it was whack to keep it a secret lol, cause it is
the secret is the problem
sorry Adrienne but when people get divorced or break up they become PETTY.. you have to look out for yourself, keep a personal account for a rainy day.
Damn straight 💯
The fact that an ex knows about me and I don't know about them shows that I'm more important. I don't give a damn about my mans corny ass exes 😂😂😂 And as far as that secret bank account goes, that's not whack. That's being prepared. You never divorce the same person you married. People can change in a split second and you never know when you'll need some back up
Fifi Lauren exactly what jeanie was trynna say. but look at the comments. sometimes i feel like most of the real viewers r super naive super religious ladies who spent half of their day in church who know nothing about the world and judge everyone. keeping a separate bank account is such a good decision. i am tired of real and its comments lately.
If you get a divorce you are going to have to reveal all of your accounts anyway though so why keep it secret? So he doesn't try and gain access to it during the marriage? Me and my spouse would have a joint account for bills and separate accounts that we each know about.
K Henderson In my current situation I would not keep a bank account secret but some people have maybe had bad past relationships or maybe their feelings are starting to change and they want to be prepared. Every situation is different. I just don't like the fact that a lot of people in the comments are judging people when they don't understand or aren't trying to understand the context in which one would have a separate secret bank account
K Henderson There are people that hide accounts or put money in someone else's name; and unless you have an expensive private investigator, you most likely will never find those accounts.
Fifi Lauren I will say this it’s whack if you don’t tell them you have it because you actually would have to fork over half that account in some states if it’s found out about during a divorce
I don't care how wack y'all think it is. My daddy taught me when I go on a date to have enough money to get home on my own if I need it, best believe I'll have that account if I need it when I'm married.
I'll always keep a separate account married or not
FE N THE CITY my advice tell that person about it because lying isn’t ok in a committed relationship
Adrienne better have a separate bank account. Just sayin. ☕️🐸
@Rebel 06 LMAO! Seriusly, her relationship is so new she thinks its so pure and unbreakable..but life happens and ppl change.
i think she does.. her mom is her accountant so i think shes advising her to do the right thing...
Exactly!!!
m mar she probably has her own account but Israel knows about it, but having a secret account is just weird.
I don't know I'm a little with Adrienne and ...Loni. If you messed (whatever type pf relationship) with someone and we're at a party and you see that person ...give me a heads up. I don't want to know every single detail between y'all but don't let that chick have a one up on me.
True. Thats the only reason to open the Ex-files.
jvrbreaker and I say, If you can go somewhere else, do that too so that you both can have a great outing, but if one doesn’t want to go, then you can find out the respect tip and comfort level of who it is who wants to stay.
I can see why Adrienne would want to know because her husband has been a serial cheater and she's insecure about that.
you definately shouldn't overshare with your partner but at the same time sharing whats going on in your life is a good way to build intimacy
Watermelondrea Symone “respect” them, and He is to “love you.” (Galatians 5.33)
Some things gotta stay in the dark. If you murdered someone, I don't want to hear about it.
eeikochan 😂😂😂😂
lmao whaaat
LMAO
Damn you got me crackin' up 😂😂😂
eeikochan Lol
I'm with Adrienne and Tamera on this one. No it's not ok to keep secrets from your husband. I need to know everything and he needs to know everything. We need to keep each other in check and on point for the sake of our life, marriage, and family.
I understand both sides but I agree more with Adrienne and Tamera. I'm a really chill girl, I'm not the extremely jealous type who blows up if a girl says hi or if you like another girl's photo, that's really petty tbh. I don't need to know every single thing, but the important stuff like serious relationships and all of that, I would want to know because they were important in some way to my guy. but it don't hurt to be aware if any exes try to come crawling back. I can put them in check.
Jailah Wilson right
right I don't need to know about every girl you have ever been I just need to know that you are committed to me now
me too. I'm just curious
I don't need a list. I only need to know if we run into them or they try to reestablish contact.
I want to be that way so badly, but I just get jealous! Does anyone have any advice on how to kind of get over it and not be petty or jealous?
There's nothing wrong with having a separate secret account. That belongs to me and only me.
yep it's your hard earned money...
habbeba laila 😎
YEP... MY MONEY IS MY MONEY & HIS MONEY IS MY. 💰💰
Me and my husband have a joint account and have separate accounts that we know about we make sure to put money in all three
It's so cute when Tamara knows she's about to say something crazy, but then hides behind her cards😅
Yup I'm exactly like Tamara and Adrienne!! That's how u stay happy and trust eachother.
I don't care what they did before they were with me and it won't hurt me but I need to know.
#truth.
Amen
It's just something you talk about to get to know each other even better. A woman or man might be or might have been different with somebody else and you might not have seen that in your own relationship.
Genavieve C I Trust God, and when I see His Word plus His action equaling in a man, then I know that’s God and not that ole flesh.
LOVED THIS SEGMENT!!!!!!!! This was literally an issue with my significant other and now I feel like I'm not alone. Thank you ladies!
Yes you do!!! It's called being honest... Communication is key in a healthy relationship guys...
Jeanie wants to know if Freddie dated any other Asian chicks lol
JackGeezy85 im pretty sure she already asked that question
JackGeezy85 lol she said recently he had never dated one.
and I can only imagine the trouble Pre-Jesus Jeannie got herself in...I doubt she wants to divulge every tiny detail
I wonder if Jeannie has ever dated Asian guys. It seems like she dated a bunch of black guys and then Freddie.
He never dated Asian girls and it was not his type
Perfectly fine and recommended on that secret bank account. Not whack. you never know when you might need that and everybody isn't good with managing money. My money I had b4 marriage isn't about to be run up.
Adrienne is a typical Scorpio! Jealous!! Lol
NO! Keeping a separate bank account in secret is not whack, Adrienne. It can be a good thing especially when your spouse is addicted to gambling (for example)
And this is why so many relationships today fail. No commitment, having one foot already out the door, or an eye out for the next best thing. Why be with somebody if you are so paranoid? Full commitment and transparency is expected from the man but he will never receive the same, will he?
I know I couldn't stay with someone that flighty, but I'll also be honest with whoever I'm with. It's way better to just be honest in the long run.
tell me about it!! theyr all agreeing with loni and jeannie proves they know nothing about real relationships!
so Adrienne , you knew this man cheated, had kids by the mistress and still married him? nah dawg THATS WACK
Naomi Kenney THANK YOU
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PERIODTTT
Omg I didn't know that lol damnnnnn
Lmao thank you! She was so annoying in this segment.
Loni said "you got the ring right now" 😂😂
Dam i wanted to hear tamar's comment so bad
Is it me or has Adrienne changed since she's gotten married??? and not in a good way she seems more stuck up and she use to be the cool one
Lizzette Sanchez everyone Wants to believe they have the best of the best of the which none is, even if a women knew of wrongs, she will back him up in public, keep pride, and hopefully be dealing with the issues in private. I trust God and NO MAN. I’m always listening and watching, women too, and even myself, and rebuke my self as needed.
This man told me, that people talk out of the side of their neck, and the meaning that I took from that was, People say one thing and believe and do another.
This reminds me of when they brought up Rob Kardashian, adrienne wasn't having it and said she didn't care about who rob is with since she moved on and had no feelings lingering for him...
I'm with Tamera and Adrienne on this one, I definitely want to know!
whits water we need to go to different places, be involved with other events, grow in as many areas as possible and get a new perspective or future friendly life.
If you keep worrying, you can become sick, and so sick that you and me will forget about living the gift of life that we have.
Men aren’t everything. God is, and they and we know no more than God or the devil tells us-whichever Oone we decide to follow.
So Adrienne knows about all of them side babies huh ?? 🤔🤔
Trust me the women may be telling everything but the men sure ain't. And having a separate bank account is a wonderful idea bc with the way how relationships and marriages are these days, it's a very smart idea
As a Christian and a God fearing women, WHEN I get married I don't think keeping secrets from my husband is something I would do lol I want him to know everything (as he should) and vice versa
Alexia Nicole 👏👏👏
Alexia Nicole you're a little naive. It's not a sin to keep some things to yourself and not tell your partner. They don't need to know everything about you. Some things are best kept to yourself or between you and God.
Indi jay+ It's my life. I'm not telling you guys how to live yours. If the Holy Spirit checks me and let's me know that I'm opening up too much then I'll check myself, otherwise what you guys are telling me is invalid. My life, my relationship with MY future husband, and MY relationship with God. Unless God HIMSELF checks me, I'm good. I don't live for y'all. :')
Amen to that Alexia :)
+Alexia Nicole its NORMAL to not share absolutely EVERYTHING , if its important/something they SHOULD know, then i agree
Loni: "Y'all live some boring lives"!!! 😂😂😂😂 That damn Loni Love!!
OMG!!! 0:31 Her makeup is popping!!! Highlighted to the GODS!!!!! Absolutely stunning!!
I'm with Jeannie and Loni. Now, If we happened to run into an ex, I wouldn't leave you out of the loop and I would want the same, but that's where it ends. The only thing that interests me about your ex-girlfriends is that they are your EX-girlfriends. You need pictures? Childish. You couldn't pay me to care about another woman's mental tally of who knows what--of who's "winning". I don't get why her perception of who's winning matters. She is a non-factor who will be given no relevance. What I look like having sat down and discussed YOU in our current relationship. I'd find it to be more of a drag if I met her, "Sorry boo, you didn't come up". The way I see it, if you ever feel like you have to compete for your man, he is not your man.
team loni and jeannie on this one. adrienne and tamera just sound insecure to me. also, i resent the explanation tamera gave of "maybe it's just the girl in me. sometimes we're nosy." that's not a gendered thing, boo. that's a personality thing.
gingersnap789 yeah adrienne sounded like a little kid talking about "yeah sweetie i know" who cares, if he's with you. Thats unnecessary drama
I agree, and I like that just because Jeanie is married she doesn't always side with Tamera and Adrienne. The show would get pretty boring if it was always "married women" VS. "Loni. Lol
No tbh people are different personally I’m grown and I wouldn’t feel comfortable not knowing
lol i feel like a couple arent even close if they dont such basic things about each others past life.
chic agrchick agreed! She wants to know because it shows a United front
the hell...you mean. please believe i have a separate bank account. if he leave me im still financially good
Damn straight 💯
Adrienne was in her feelings lol and the shade coming from loni when she spoke hehe....
My boyfriend and I had a conversation about this a few weeks ago where ... we questioned whether it was necessary to go into detail about each others' exes and I thought I was mature enough to handle it BUT I found myself actually getting upset and jealous about the things he told me about their relationship .. but in part I'm glad I know .. Theres nothing to be mad about cause that was his past, I just had to suck it up and accept it.
cutiepie44507 I’m late to this... but I definitely just went through the same thing! I feel so boring compared to his EX’s. Part of me is like why did I even ask? Idk I still don’t know how to feel.
Adrienne is such a mood 😂👏🏽
Dayummm adrienne got an attitude today. she did not play today! yasss queen!
I feel like it’s important to still be an individual even when are married. Sometimes when you’re in a relationship you get so invested in the other person, neglecting yourself.I do agree that you need to communicate with your significant other if another guy/ your ex tries to text you or something, however keeping certain intimate details about yourself is important so you still feel like you are an individual outside of your relationship.
Having a conversation with someone when you initially start dating about past relationships etc. Is perfectly acceptable (wanting to understand why a past serious relationship may have ended, if you're in an interracial or interfaith relationship maybe you're curious about their past experiences etc. and so forth - real questions of magnitude ) but once you're in a serious relationship or married why are you prying into your partners past, at that point you should know who you're with. Wanting to know about who the exes are and what they look like screams insecurity - who cares, he's/she's with you now. I do agree if you walk into a room and your ex (from a real relationship) happens to be there, you should say something to your partner but on a regular day why do I need to name my exes off, give you a profile and show pictures? Vice versa I'm not going to ask..if I'm secure in myself and in my relationship what is the point? The past is the past, every one has one, you should be looking towards the future.
Ash112 either the relationship is going to be about the present or the future.
Thinking about what the article has said and it got me thinking that there are certain things that I would like to keep between me, myself, and I and/or myself, the Lord, and the Devil.
adrienne sounded so insecure about her relationship here
Honesty ain't about being "boring" it's about keeping it honest and truthful with someone you're with
Adrienne trying to be walking into churches beefing with Israel's exes 😂😂😂😂
I agree with Adrienne about not knowing about an ex. I would HATE for them to think I didn't know about them cause then they think they special 🙄
My mom always told me to never say / reveal all your secrets to your partner . I intend to follow her advice , as long as it's not life threatening , or dangerous why should I reveal it ?
when adrienne start pointing, it look like she ready to fight LOL!!!
no ur spouse dnt need to know evrything about u just the important parts
Adrienne's makeup though.. slaying that cut crease!!!
Me: I would tell my partner nothing.
Also me: Telling everything without thinking not telling it in the first place.
That's right ADRIENNE & TAMERA ! You don't want that other woman thinking she has one up on you ! 👏🏽 you better preach girl lol
I feel like A is shading her husbands ex-wife.
I agree with Tamera&Adrienne. I also get what Adrienne is saying about another chick thinking she knows something you don't. People are petty these days.. so I would much rather know my man's past and accept it, than to not know and find out during some important event when we happen to run into his ex. I truly believe it is important to know someone's past. I want to accept someone as they were, as they are and as they will be. If you can't do that, maybe you don't really love that person. But I can honestly say, not knowing those kind of important things can cause A LOT of problems should the other person ever find out. If you find yourself needing to hide something from your SO, maybe it's something that you shouldn't be doing.
having a 2nd bank account is smart actually..anything can go wrong in a relationship. .either a death or cheating or they just leave out of the blue leaving you with nothing. .it's not wack Adrienne
Loni to Adrienne!! You got that ring on ....... for now 😂😂👀👀👀👀👀
Am I the only one who feels like Adrienne was being kinda immature in this??? I feel like this season she's been more mature but she seems to be different in this segment. No shade though
i feel the opposite, her being so real about it shows her maturity
Agree with A on the ex situation. Been there! Was introduced to my hubby’s ex by another friend while at church & my hubby wasn’t there. My friend & I were having a convo, then this girl jumps in & I get introduced first & last name. Girl puts 2 n’ 2 together, then her attitude changes. She gave me stank face the remainder of the convo. Over the next few days we kept seeing each other at church since I was in charge of coordinating an event & I guess she & her hubby visited our island to come & “help out.” Whole time oblivious as to what’s this girl’s problem. Now she goes back home after her visit. Then my hubby tells me oh BTW... and I was pissed. I was haggard looking the whole time in sweats coordinating the event. At least he could’ve told me & I could’ve been a lil’ more put together. He learned tho.
I'm with Tamera and Adrienne!!!
My stepmom taught me a long time ago that I don't have to share every single detail with the person I'm with and I agree with her. When I do get married I'll share everything that involves us and affect us both, but if there are stuff that don't really affect him or our relationship then I don't see the need to have to share it.
leyani leon if you’re married you do have to tell them the big things though
In general there are things you need to know especially when the both parties are serious I for sure wanna know what am I getting myself into likewise the other person have equal rights to know about me. I do agree if there are things that would be a problem to the relationship eventually then its okay to not hurt the person you love in a way. Sometimes there are things that better left unsaid. Yes I wanna know but I wont wanna go in detailes like did you cum how long was it for, was it good what color panties were you waring or was he big. I think you have its okay to do the background check but so much of details then you're torture my living soul for being a human that did so things I'm not proud of we are not perfect. #1 if you're afriad of the judgements thad comes after thad and you know know its unesscesly for those jugdements its totally okay to show some self love. And who knows if he's telling the truth maybe the other person thinks the same way some truth hurts. I know I handle things that he did and told me which was not good or expected I stayed humble repesct him and would question those things at times. I do trust him but heads up fam not everything you heard is true. This is me I didnt love you then I shouldn't care but at times we all have inscurities its a normal human thing.
@soapqueen2008 For certain things its okay to share and most importantly you know what you have to deal or has been dealing with so when or if that time comes you'll know what you should say it all depends on your partner behaviour and understanding. Its all okay to be honest but sometimes we cant handle the truth as much we wanna be honest some people cant deal with other people honesty
I believe that other people's secrets (such as your friends or sisters) should remain secret.
📣Ladies....Get👏that👏secret👏bank👏account👏!!
My mum always said keep your money separate and be independent so if anything happens you know how to take care of yourself. Separate accounts I agree with
I totally agree with tamera and adrienne . Now , about that bank account situation👀 you need a plan b you know? I would hate to be in a situation where im still with a man cuz i can't economically maintain myself! . I know people that are in that situation and nope! I refuse to go through that
Yes keep some things to yourself! Just nothing that will effect your relationship.
My ex didn't tell me he slept with two girls that I knew and I would always wonder why they would stare at me and be really creepy.
Littytae that's exactly the point Adrienne was making I'm sure you would've appreciated knowing that cuz you were the one looking stupid with not knowing that
Littytae that’s unsettling in the gut. You know something’s just not right, and, maybe right now. He stiffens up, she keeps staring, and you keep staring at her because he lied...that was one of my situations.
I think it's okay to leave some things to yourself. Obviously not anything that'll hurt the other person but maybe fun things or silly things.
Adrienne did something to her face, but I can't quite put my finger on it.
Muse bomb ass contour! In other words alot of make up...lol
Tamara looks amazing in this video. I mean she always does but girl this colour on you is bomb!!!
A is right on this one lol
1. I don't need a list of who my partner has been with (I will need proof of an STD test though). Just give me a heads up if we run into one of them or they try to reestablish contact.
2. Having a secret account is shady to me. Just go into the relationship letting your partner know you want a joint account and separate accounts. Get a prenup stating the separate accounts and retirement funds will not be split in the event of a divorce.
So did Israel tell Adrienne everything
I just love Loni. She the reason l watch this😂😂
2.57 "Youve got the ring right now"
I heard that Loni
i agree with Tam and Adrienne. Marriage is literally an open book. no secrets and you'll keep the marriage long.
Adrienne sweetie you gon be walking into lot of rooms looking at lot of girls *sips tea*
i think knowing how many women he has been with is important because you want to make sure the person is clean and healthy before getting intimate. i hear that in California.. they are planning to decriminalize the act of not telling your sexual partner if you have HIV. so its good to know things about your partner.
@3:14 Loni that was shade !!!😂
When Tam said "my ex texted me today..." I really thought she'd be like "BUT THE GAG IS I didnt texted him back"
i can still hear Tamars voice and can still picture her input lmao
Bank account is the only one I disagree with. Both couples should have a private bank account for safety. Personally I would tell my spouse that I have one but it depends on the situation and I think it’s also reasonable for it to be secret.
Omg Adrienne girl!! You sound so childish!!! Who cares about another girl in the room?!? That's some high school mess!!!
Dee Dee honestly the other girls going to have one up on you because you care either or not she’s been with him
Dee Dee the other girl may seriously be the other girl, and may have been invited by him, and he may still be with her if he or she recognized her so soon. Maybe the relationship is not over.
On the flip side, the relationship, if it is right, is between the husband and wife, if it truly is, but if there is deceit, both know it. Don’t Play!
Unfortunately majority of women deny acting like this, but they really are. She’s just being honest and not lying about it
you sound ignorant.
I love Jeannie. She is always spitting wisdom.
Gotta agree with Adrien on this one. . . .
I’m too honest too! It’s not in my nature to hide things. Idk I share and we keep it pushing. Bank account we both have it so we good.
Was that a shade to adrinne man about having kids outside the marriage?
The true New Yorker came out of A at 4:52 🙌🏼👏🏻 I love these girls so much yo 🤣🤣🤣
Jeannie wants to be single.
I 100% agree with Adrienne & Tamera.
I agree 110% with Adrienne 💕
I'm with Tamera and Adrienne sadly 😂
Jeanie is real wifey material shes so secure
thats why shes divorced now huh, people are so blinded by thier love for jeannie its funny
At the end of the day you never know when a person gonna switch up on you. Guard yourself and dont give out too much info