Jennifer, before I read your books, I used to spend half the day in my pajamas, doing housework, emails, etc. When that was all done, I would finally get dressed. But thanks to you, I now put on a cute outfit and makeup first thing in the morning, and that's when my day begins. If somebody drops by my house, I am happy to welcome them in, as I am presentable. All the household chores seem much more pleasant and worthy, instead of like drudgery. I am in a much better mood while doing them. Your books are truly life changing! Thank you!!
In the sixties, when I was a teen in high school, we had a dress code. Dresses and skirts of a strict length for girls and shirts tucked and belts for boys. Our attire was modest. At one point, at the request of the students casual Friday was implemented on a trial bases. Students became lackluster in class, scuffles ensued and attitudes deteriorated on casual Friday. After a time the disciplinary rate among the students became quite high so casual Friday was scrubbed. I remember one of my teachers saying, “ you act the way you look.” At the age of 69 I still dress appropriately every day. My philosophy is look your best each day and you will be ready for anything. I find it gives me direction and order in an otherwise chaotic world. Thank you for your input in this area. It is much needed.
Thats so cool. In high school up to like my late 30's I wore 40's clothes all the time. From shoes, gloves, hats, boas, tops bottoms, suits, etc and don't forget cigarette cases. Know though at 62 I think the 60s era look better on me, but I incorporate mid-century cottage into my home interiors, I still love 40s and 50s dresses though! Good for you, Long live vintage!
Oh how I wish you lived near me!! I am a large person, so the style nowadays with ruffling & pleats is NOT flattering!! I was actually inline looking at some dresses from years gone by and honestly if they could use pretty material of today but use old patterns I would have a match made in Heaven!! BUT no A-line skirts! I am not a good shape for that 😂
@@jamesnbrenda8960 It would be nice if you could sew your a-line skirts. Online their are vintage patterns. Modcloth.com has cute vintage, bc everybody is bigger than what they used to be. They make clothes for todays WOMAN!
I have friends who dress in a 1930’s style and their children participate in a 1930’s style circus. It’s pretty fascinating. And they are such a sweet family. This was a great discussion, Jennifer. My oldest is 11 and I already find it harder to find appropriate and conservative clothes for her. So sad what merchandisers think of us as females. Worth nothing more than short shorts and a tee shirt with a sassy saying. I even was shocked by the short length of the uniform skirt I bought her for school from Old Navy- returned it and kept looking. I always explain to her that how we dress isn’t just about respecting ourselves- but respecting other people’s senses as well. Xo Jill
I wear period inspired clothing on a daily basis. From amish style simple clothing, jumper dresses, to a long skirt and a cardigan. I get lots of respect and complements. Lots of help in stores as well.However there are some friends of mine try to talk me out of it into more worldly tight yoga pants and tops. It doesn't work. I've been dressing this way modestly for the past 10 years. What we wear matters. Thank you for this video and bring continued awareness.
I think another reason lobby for more casual dress at work, more and more businesses are wanting to economize on air conditioning. Especially here in hot and humid florida it matters. Being trapped in a room that makes you sweat profusely will make you cranky about wearing extra layers or anything fitted. I have complained about this as a customer in stores as well.
Industrialization. I remember reading about how this completely changed fashion. Before industrialization clothing was handmade for each individual but then factories began making high volume clothing and many things had to change. Anyone else concur?
You may enjoy the book The Lost Art of Dress - www.amazon.com/Lost-Art-Dress-America-Stylish-ebook/dp/B00HTQ312W/ref=tmm_kin_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1583018489&sr=8-1
Hello Jennifer! I'm a long time viewer, but it's my first time leaving a comment. I'm delighted you brought up people dressing in period/vintage styles. I can relate since I dress in a 1940's/1950's style every day myself! I have had a long love of mid-century fashion, brought on by Old Hollywood movies and the gorgeous styles people wore at that time. For the past two years I have been transitioning to adopt a mid-century style full time myself! I understand your concerns about feeling self-conscious. I think many lovers of vintage style are actually pretty introverted as well and don't necessarily dress that way to attract attention. It does however, require a sort of courage to go for the whole look, because people will and do stare. Whenever I get comments however, they are always positive. There are many TH-cam channels that have devoted videos on how to start dressing in a vintage style or incorporating vintage aspects into your look and how to avoid feeling like you are wearing a costume. I think, if self-consciousness is an issue, it's important to start small and work from there to expand your comfort-zone if you wish. So for example a vintage sundress, but with a modern hairstyle. In the case of a 1950's look, it's like you said: the clothing itself doesn't necessarily stand out, but the styling does! In my experience, the complete styling makes for an authentic and more dramatic look (so hair, make up, accessories). There is a thriving community online of people who dress vintage full time and apart from buying actual vintage pieces, there are also many companies making reproductions of clothing from those eras. It would be fun to see your take on dressing in a period/vintage style, or incorporating elements of it into an outfit, as well. Have a lovely day!
Marta, I would love to start going vintage, but am concerned about not being the right size. Do you have any recommendations on where to start looking for ideas?
Dressing in period attire from the 40s and 50s for five years, I can tell you that while every once in a while I would get a negative reaction, but for the most part I noticed people treated me with respect. And wearing gloves and a hat did affect how I behaved as well. I was more conscious of my appearance and my manners. While I don't dress that way now, I still "dress up" everyday, even if I'm at home, and it affects my behavior and mood. Thank you for this video!
I graduated from high school in 1984, we were not allowed to dress tacky at school. My dad and mom made sure we had nicer clothes to wear to church also because of the attitude one has while dressing nicely. I still dress up a bit to go to church or even out and about. Of course I have said this many times that I like dresses which automatically make you look nicer.
If you wore skirts like that without the corset though they dig into your hips, I thought the same thing, I made a few skirts that were inspired by historical clothing and found they get so uncomfortable because they dig into my hips and squeeze my waist, so now I’m working on making a pair of stays to support the skirts.
Yeah, corsets were a foundational garment meant to smooth out the body and support the dress. You may get waist reduction but it's not too important, because historical clothes play with silhouettes more.
Thank you for another great video! I wear skirts every day, even though we have a little farm. What is interesting to me is how many women have told me they would like to dress in skirts or dresses, but cannot afford to. The truth is, my skirts cost less than the jeans that most of my friends wear! If I have the choice of wearing beautiful clothes or wearing casual clothes, I figure, why not wear beautiful things? Yes, I tear skirts while doing things like gathering eggs, but the same thing happens with jeans. I definitely feel better and get treated more respectfully when I dress more intentionally. (And, P.S. I find skirts much more comfortable than jeans!)
I "think" I would like skirts more than my jeans and yet I still reach for my jeans before all else. I have great flowy skirts and I know my husband would love me to wear skirts more but I hesitate and I think it's mostly because I think of myself as a jeans-and-tee-shirt kind of a girl and it's hard to overcome self-perceptions and make changes. Maybe we should start a "challenge" and see if those of us uncomfortable in skirts, but still wanting to be more feminine, learn to find the ease of wearing skirts?? Did you always wear skirts? Or was it a learned thing?
@@sardee1315 No, I didn't always. I went to high school in the late 80's, and I had a long wrap-around skirt that I only wore at home, since it wasn't fashionable at the time. I wore jeans most of the time, until I reached my 40's and realized that most jeans were designed for sixteen-year-olds. I decided to dress based on what I preferred, rather than what was in fashion, so I looked up skirts like the one I secretly wore and loved until I wore it out, and so now that's what I wear every day. The funny thing is, as soon as I quit worrying what was in style, people suddenly began to compliment me on my "look." :)
I think Zack is amazing. The sense of confidence he must have in himself to do this is admirable. I love 30s, 40s, and 50s and could see myself incorporating that into my daily life. I'm a costumed historical interpreter, and have to tell you that corsets are not as bad as they are made out to be. I've worn mine with an 1860s ballgown, eaten a 3 course meal, and danced, and not had a problem at all. That is my experience in wearing a corset. Another great video :)
I worked in hospitality for years and I did not experience a correlation in someone's manners and how they were dressed. A jerk was a jerk and a polite person was curteous.
I love what your wearing. I love cardigans, and I started wearing calf length leggings under dresses and I get complements all the time. I gave up jeans because they just don’t fit like they used to. I always felt self conscious in them. But now I feel feminine and better about myself since I finally found a more flattering style for my body....at 55 😊
Such a good idea! I've been wanting to get into dresses for years, but am self conscious about my legs. Maybe leggings are the answer, at least until I get more comfortable. :)
I totally agree. I’ve always dressed modestly but in the last several years I dress even more modestly and my girls have followed suit - we always receive compliments and repeat in public. .... except maybe when the toddler is tantruming 😉
Megan I found HUE calf length leggings on Amazon. They are super comfortable and cool for the summer and fit great 👍. I would probably say they are true to size.😊
Lovely video! I will have to say that a properly-fitting corset is actually extremely comfortable--they are supposed to support the body and help to give a feminine silhouette. Bernadette Banner has a great video on this subject. :) On another note, I remember a former boss of mine saying that she had been encouraged to relax our business casual dress code even further, and she was confused because, as she said, even Walmart does business casual!
My 11 year old daughter has a couple of my Grandma's dresses from the fifties that she wears regularly. I think she looks so timeless and charming, and she always gets compliments about them!
Years ago, one of my women friends (4 sons) went back to working outside the home, for financial reasons. She taught high school English and tried to wear dresses and skirts everyday. She felt that it gave her more authority with the young people. She had been out of the work force for some years and was nervous about how it was going to go, so she needed that little extra feeling of authority. Thank you for your video.
I went to high school in the early 90's to a school with a beautiful uniform that looked quite old fashioned. I loved going to school and imagining we were all in a different era. I think it helped me focus and work harder too. My kids highschool is similar and most schools have uniforms here in Australia.
I absolutely loved this video. When I was a kid in the City, my friends and I sat on the stoop and watched this young lady walking down our block on her way home from work. She was always neatly and beautifully dressed. Her name was Julia. I'm now in my 60s and that memory is still with me. I also remember being in a donut shop a few years ago and a woman was wearing PJs with the Winnie the Pooh donkey on it. They were ill fitting and that donkey didn't look like he was having a good time. Unfortunately, I can't get that vision out of my head either - yikes! Please do more of these videos. I'm always looking at people doing vintage lifestyle and dress and find it very interesting. Thanks again.
Jennifer, I am so enjoying these articles! I agree that manners and posture change with dress. I usually wear a sundress and some jewelry from Ana Luisa (thanks for the recommendation!) I carry myself better when dressed nicely! I also did theater in high school. Rehearsing Shakespeare in jeans and a t-shirt was so different than when we put on those wonderful Shakespearean clothes! It is transforming. Please keep the articles coming!
Does your husband do a 10-item wardrobe? Would love to see an example of a sophisticated modern man’s wardrobe. My husband is ready to transition out of t-shirts every day!
There is a certain inner pride (I hate to use the word “pride” but for lack of a better word for the moment) in how we act & feel in our own skin when we have nice proper fitted clothing on. I have been a large person all my life and until I hit my late teens there were ZERO clothes for me to choose from! So, as I grew up & the issue started being addressed better, I started working on building a better wardrobe. I never had tons of clothes but to wake up in the morning and get myself ready for the day I cannot tell you how it changed my everyday view on “myself” I feel like it gave me a calm positive demeanor in whatever the day held for me. So, in all my rambling I do full heartedly agree with you!!
James N Brenda I had the same problem growing up, I wasn’t heavy but I was larger that stick thin, more Marilyn Monroe, Mae West type. I had to wear stretch pants like the old ladies wore or dresses so I was automatically dressed up a bit more. I remember my first pair of jeans they were Lee jeans. I wore them a lot but I still looked nice in them and yes there is more comforting attitude that goes with dressing nicer.
Melinda, we didn’t wear pants, actually I still don’t. Anyway, I digress! My staple was double knit polyester A-line skirts!!!🥴 to this day I hate an A-line skirt! When you are apple shaped it is like putting a bow around a hot air ballon!!! 😂 So, I go for a straighter skirt with a nice top. I tell kids nowadays they have No Idea!! What it was like in my day. God bless ~
I think what you say is so true, part of the reason people took better care of themselves back then because people did have morals more self discipline and self respect they ate differently also, so now that so many people being overweight it affects the way they present themselves,they decide not to buy themselves clothes, theyre careless about their apperances and it affects everything from the way they treat there things to the way they treat others .. I love the era where women wore gloves..
I really enjoyed this. I'm English, living in northwest Scotland, and I have to say that the U.K.'s manners have plummeted in the last 30 years. It's so rare these days to find anyone who appreciates and practices good manners, dressing well and etiquette. it's my personal belief that the 60's did us absolutely no good; it was all about "doing whatever you feel like" and, frankly, looking a mess. The way society began to pour scorn on previous generations who dressed as well as they could, who spoke fluently and who had good manners and who, I might add, had a solid, Christian faith, was nothing short of a tragedy in my opinion. It has led to spectacles such as the Women's March where everyone wore a piece of the female reproductive system on their heads (!) and was oddly proud of it and spectacles such as that appalling Disneyland fight. No self discipline, no self respect, no respect or care for others. It's a sad, sad state of affairs but hopefully the interest in books such as those you write will help to turn the tide. Lovely video - thank you so much :-)
I am a high school teacher. I try to dress nicely and professionally every day, even on dress down days. Not only am I constantly appalled at what some of the students wear, but I have the same reaction to what come of the other teachers wear. Some come to work looking like they just tumbled out of bed. Some look like they are going to a bar. Then there are those that wear clothes more appropriate for working out at the gym. Where is the level of good taste and dignity these days?
Yes definitely, the way we dress affects how we behave. We can even see that with anybody who wears a uniform. For example, somebody in the police force, in uniform, they act like they are in an authoritative job and look the part. We give our children dressing up clothes so they can pretend and become that person for about 20 minutes before they move on to the next thing 😁 Period costume is actually quite popular where I am.1930’s or 1940’s days which are usually attended by people who have those old classic cars that they devote a lot of time to and go to such events. They wear the costumes too and look amazing!
Woah! I really like this topic! I find historical dress to be fascinating, and also enjoy wondering at why people choose to dress the way they do. What we wear really is an indicator of some aspect of what's going on in our inner selves, and it's intriguing to me to search this out.
I think Steve Jobs started this trend and Mark Zuckerberg just took it to the level that was comfortable for him. If you look at fashion and home design everything has become more and more casual. Our parents collection of good china and cutlery are being passed on to thrift shops and Ebay as more and more young people eschew the formality of the past. There's something quite lovely about "pomp and circumstance" and if you think we've completely left it behind just look at how many people are still having very formal weddings. Dress and home trends constantly change; take hope that formality will probably come around again and it might even begin with the next generation.
It's TRUE! When I wear a modest skirt in public, I always get treated with more respect. I do tend to stand little taller, too.😉 I just can't get into the habit of dressing that way all the time, though. A midwestern farmer's daughter, out sweating in the garden... and freezing in the harsh winter winds, neither seems practical to wear a dress all the time. But Madam Chic is certainly an inspiration to take some baby steps!! I read Lessons in 2 days (Audible) and started it again the third day!! Can't wait for my next membership credit so I can buy another! 🤗 I am new to your channel and love you!! The first episode I watched (The enemy of the modern homemaker) had me hooked. I knew you were right and had more inspiration for me. ❤❤❤ thank you for your ministry.
Great video! & interesting topic. I’ve been living in Mexico for the past two years and I love my culture, but through the years Mexicans have adopted more of the American culture. I wish Mexican women would still wear the traditional skirts with all the colors. I love them. It’s even occurred to me to start including some of that in my wardrobe. Personally I like Frida Khalo’s style and would love to braid my hair like her everyday. But I am an introvert so I’ve been hesitating...
Yes, yes dress does effect oneself !!!!!! I think a person who says it doesn’t has not experimented with the idea. Since I was a much younger woman I knew that, my mother taught me, she was always a lady and I admired her for that, then when I started watching you a few years back I was reminded of that, thank you. I’m still working on my wardrobe and signature style, I love dresses like you, my wardrobe was in such a state of chaos that I’m just getting to the point that I’m looking for a few key items. Yesterday I got dressed up for no reason and I felt like such a lady, it was wonderful🤩, that is how I see you too👗. Thanks for the good impact you have made in my life.
I love dressing in a modernized vintage style. A lot of my clothing has a 50's style element, but still modern cuts, etc. For example, I use polka dots often, most of my church dresses are fitted on top and fuller on the bottom (from Eshakti), and I love wearing red lipstick. So it all feels vintage without being vintage and drawing a lot of attention. It is so true that manners are elevated with dress, and it's sub-concious, but not just for the wearer...I think a man or woman who is dressed above the normal casual level generally receives better service in stores and restaurants, more friendly looks and smiles from passersby, etc. Someone who looks like they spent time and care with his or her appearance brings out the best in the people around, not always of course, but more often than not.
People interested in period dress are often found and involved in the Society for Creative Anarchy (Medieval Time living with re-enactments), the theater (mostly local volunteer), and even some B&B s we’ve been to dress and recreate a time period (and never drop the personna). So, I imagine there are ways to be themselves and to be creative with that.
And lastly... my book recommendation is, "The Lost Art of Dress" by Linda Przybyszewski. I do hope I got her name right... very interesting read- clothing and culture and Zeitgeist and how this all dovetails. She's funny in a snarky kind of way, too!
These were really interesting :) I have noticed that men are more likely to hold the door or call me ma’am when I’m out in public in a dress. I think dress does affect manners. I also tend to have better manners with my kids when I’m dressed nice :)
Wow! My friends and I were just talking about this a couple weeks ago, and about that first gentleman you featured. You're right, how we present ourselves is important. I like how in another vid you say: if we only have nice things to wear, then we'll only wear presentable things. And ya, I don't like to draw attn to myself, couldn't do Victorian! But yes to the rest. I think you have to dress appropriately to the occasion
I think that suits look so good . A suit with a shirt and tie is the most flattering dress for a man and makes the most of their various shapes and sizes .
My husband and I are missionaries and we fly a lot. I have noticed over the years that when I am dressed nicer, even for the long international flights, I am treated better by the attendants than those who are sloppily dressed. It also makes me feel better. Your dress really does make a statement.
It's nice to see that there's a glimmer of hope in our society going back to fine dress and chivalry. The one thing I found recently that was a game changer was doing a Kibbe body type quiz. I always loved flowy clothing but I couldn't figure out why I felt so uncomfortable wearing it. With my curves I need something form fitting because I'm what you call a "romantic" body type. I highly recommend it for anyone trying to find their style.
I love Kibbe! I do Dressing Your Truth, which works wonderfully & I'm trying to figure out how to incorporate Kibbe since he makes sense too & I've always had a challenge with the fit of clothing (I'm both petite & curvy).
Btw, I was deeply shocked when I read on Sarah Chrisman's blog how rude and unreasonable some people behave towards her and her husband; just because they dress in a noticeably different way (Victorian; and they live it, too). Mrs. Chrisman shared how people would walk up to her, and without asking permission or even saying hello, would grab her dress and rub the fabric, and/or touch her waist (corsetted) and behind... and they think that's ok! I was almost in tears after I read that blog article, my heart was aching for her. And I understand the other "Yesteryear People" you mentioned have had similar experiences. 😨 I can't think like that...
It’s too bad that people can’t think enough to act right, but this is much like how people who wear skimpy clothing are shocked at the attention they get. I’m not into victim blaming, but I do live in the real world. If you are going to choose to stand out then you better be prepared for the attention you are going to get.
Hi Jennifer! I love how you correlated dressing for everyday with dress rehearsals in theater! I never thought of that and yet it is so true! Thanks for the great analogy and example. I also thought of you when I saw the BBC video of the man in Regency era clothing :) if the article didn't mention it, I thought I would let you know he has an Instagram and creates bespoke clothing for people all over the world! Pretty amazing. Looking forward to your next video! Sincerely, Sara
I agree that clothes matter. Not only does dressing well make you act more polite and dignified but I believe it makes others act more polite towards you. It creates a cycle of politeness which can’t be bad. I love dresses but sometimes it’s nice to be in more comfortable casual but that can still be done smartly with nice jeans or wide leg linen trousers
Jennifer... I just subscribed to your channel this week.. I am 64 and have been a person who always dressed in beautiful ..and feminine .. dresses..on a daily basis.. starting at 17.. I found vintage shops and my love 1930s 40s clothes shoes.. etc.. I was hooked.. from that day forward .. I have worn dresses 90 percent of the time.. fast forward... I went to college at 40.. and I wore dresses.. skirts.. blouses.. etc.. everyday.. a student.. same age as I... Asked me why I didn't wear jeans and sweat shirts like she did.. she said her clothes were better for college life.. I told her I had not worn jeans since high school and I was more comfortable in dresses and skirts... Jeans made me feel like I was wrapped up tight like a mummy.. dresses just skim the body.. nothing is binding and grabbing.. she never understood the approach I had to clothes...the running shoes 20 years ago were bulky and unattractive.. I would have been miserable all day in unisex masculine clothes....
I definitely think what you wear matters! When I dress down at home, I get so lazy....but when I dress for work I carry myself better! Which is why I followed your tip to dress nice at home!
I love these videos! I don't particularly enjoy reading the news so I really enjoy you bringing these articles--and your opinions--to us. Also, thank you for your continued partnership with Skillshare. I finally got into calligraphy recently, which I have been interested in trying for years. I hope others take advantage of the free trial.
I love this video and the conversation that it is bringing about! I would love to dress like Elizabeth Bennett every day of my life. Sigh. But I, too, am to shy to actually do it. ❤️
Taking aspects of historical dress and incorporating them into a more modern look is actually a style aesthetic now. It is called “historybounding.” I love historybounding in my everyday life. My two favorite time periods to incorporate into my clothing are pioneer and Edwardian. Although I do love to have some vintage 1940’s and 50’s sprinkled in!
My daughter is a Theatre major and loves loves loves the opportunity to wear elaborate costumes and dresses. Last year she played Joanna in Sweeney Todd and was given the opportunity to wear a beautiful long gown and corset. The year before that she was Anna in the King and I. That was a big opportunity to wear big fluffy gowns especially in the dance scene with the King. She feels lucky!
Jennifer, this was so interesting! I think I agree, but I do struggle to put the 'presentable always' rule into practice. It reminds me of the telephone salespeople who were required to dress properly right down to their shoes before making their first call. Also, I believe there may be a difference in the behavior/performance of schoolchildren who adhere to a uniform or dress code vs. student populations who don't.
I love the shirtwaist dresses from the 60s (think Audrey Hepburn, Donna Reed, Leave it to Beaver). The dresses were pretty, clean and simple. Again, vintage style not vintage values!
Oh Jennifer, great video! I do absolutely agree that manners correspond to dress. If we all think about it, it’s hard to argue the point. Think of how we all behave when dressed for a wedding - especially if we are part of the wedding party. We all feel like ladies and gents, and we act like it. 😉 The piece on period- dressing full time is so fascinating. I always wanted to dress from another era when I was a young girl and when you mentioned how you kind of incorporate certain aspects of your favorite eras into your own modern style, I realized that’s what I do as well. I’d love to see you elaborate on that in another video. Blessings!
I love the Crows Eye channel, too! And it is so true that how you dress influences your self esteem and how others perceive you. In the 1980s and 90s, I am not sure that it was entirely the power suit that commanded respect but the feeling that it gave its wearers, and the confidence it allowed them to project. Perhaps today a pair of jeans, a turtleneck, booties, and a moto jacket gives the same sense of confidence to people in the workplace. I think there is great benefit in paying attention to what you wear and how it affects your self esteem.
Very interesting conversation...I enjoyed it. I could comment on several ideas but one that really struck a cord was dressing for authority. Since you homeschool you may not see the changes that are and have taken place in our public schools. The lack of respect and teachers totally unable to control the children is rampant. It is a very complex situation. How teachers dress is, in my opinion, just ONE aspect of what is going on. Granted...it may seem trivial in light of the "whole picture" but to me, when teachers no longer dress as figures of authority...the battle is on. I will just leave it at that to avoid a lengthy comment.
I have worked in public schools for about 13 years. Kids these days are actually very respectful. I actually tend to get more rudeness from people in their 40’s-60’s than I do from teens.
At the middle school where I worked, our teachers all looked beautifully dressed and our school was known for that among the other schools. I feel this served as a good example for students. Students reacted to this positively. Then 22 years down the line, we got a new principal and she often wore sweatshirts and baggie jeans. Parents arriving at the school would often address the secretaries with their questions instead of her becuz of the way she was dressed. Need I say more.
Enjoyed your victoria flip-through. I do think experiments in lifestyle are very exciting. Glad to have found your channel! London allows for so much freedom...🌏❤🎀
Wonderful observations. I've spent a lot of the last 10 years with Mennonites and they have dress rules, not only for modesty but because they realise it affects behaviour.
Thank you for all your advise on clothing. Until now, I haven't needed a business wardrobe because hospital scrubs were considered acceptable. I would like to discuss business and teach. It's time to get a wardrobe that fits who I am as a person and professional. Thanks for your guidance.
I am a new sub, and thank you for reminding me to step it up. I have been striving for hair and makeup getting done daily. I didn’t know there were more like me that love the little house series, Anne of green gables, etc. so happy I found you❤️
I love this video! You bring intelligent conversation, woot! I recently bought a pretty simple linen dress with long sleeves and gathers above the breast, and I wear it at home as my olden times dress. Like an old fashioned night dress, it reminds me of. And you mentioned corsets, my grandmother, who was born in 1907, wore a corset every day, my father says. She wore seventies or sixties dresses with sheer tights and little heeled leather shoes when I was with her in the 1980s, but she still wore a corset as she may have done in her younger days. Amazing. Look at linen dressses on Etsy. I th8jkk mine is a maternity one. Sorry toddler on me.
What a fantastic video. I feel as a society we have become to casual. I am 58 and I can remember my mom dress so beautiful early in the morning to take us to school. Funny nowadays you see woman of all ages at airports with the famous Flip flops and Yoga pants so sad. I love getting dress everyday and trying to look my best even when Iam just home.
I have been a stay at home mom for many years. I agree with you that dressing nice is a good way to live your life. Everyday I put on my favorite make up and curl my hair. I wear my favorite sparkly costume jewelry and go about my day. I am a professional artist in addition to homemaker and when I paint paintings I still dress nice I just wear a smock. I think when you take care of yourself it dominos through your household. You have less clutter and are more organized too. Thank you for the interesting video and have a lovely day.
I enjoy these review of articles very much, please continue. Also I am interested in a how to vlog on incorporating your favorite period of dress into what one wears today. I have my "Audrey days" but am curious how you incorporate Victorian into your dress, as well as other periods.
What a timely video Jennifer, (I'm watching from a pile of dishes in my sink) how I dress does influence how I feel and to an extent my demeanor. (Although, I never use it as an excuse for poor manners :-) I enjoy your talks on these topics. Thank you for taking the time to make thought provoking content :-)
“My parents always taught me that it is a sign of respect for other people always to look your best in public. We are representing and honoring our family name, and our actions speak louder than words”- Colleen Hammond, Dressing with Dignity.
I do think dress impacts behavior and manners. I found the bit about the men being more gentlemanly was interesting. The codes of conduct used to be a man had to ask for w woman's permission just to escort her. Engaged couples asked for permission before kissing. If people today observed these codes of conduct, there would be much less misunderstanding between the sexes. In this time of me too, I think our society needs to adopt many such traditions of the past.
I volunteer in period appropriate clothing at a mid 1800's historic site and I agree that the way people respond is much more respectful and courteous when I am dressed as an 1850's lady than when I am dressed in modern attire. The men change the way they behave when they don a frock coat and top hat. It's nice to have it tipped in greeting when I pass them on the site. It would be nice to carry that with us into modern life.
Love your videos, they are so noninvasive and encouraging. I don't agree with everything you say, but I think everyone can learn from you. I love America and would not trade being American for anything else, but I do feel that everyone can learn something from the European way of life.
I know a man in his 40s who dresses in edwardian era style and has done so since his teenage years. I feel that the way people dress changes not only how they feel about themselves and how they behave, but also how they're treated by others.
I couldn’t agree more! We have become very sloppy. Today I went to a funeral and I couldn’t get over how everyone there, even the family of the deceased showed up in such casual dress...jeans, tennis shoes, T-shirts, soooo bad. I didn’t feel at all over dressed, I think people who would see me, definitely felt under dressed. What has gone wrong in society for this to have happened?? Pretty sad...
Hi Jennifer I believe with casual clothes came casual manners. We need to dress for today because this is when we live. However, our jeans can be clean and pressed, our shirts and tee shirts white or not faded, our sliders, sneakers, ballerinas in good order. As you said most of us are introverts to a degree but we can blend in with style and care. Surely we are disrespecting ourselves if we present as unkempt, scruffy and grubby. Let's live in today's world but with respect for ourselves and others. If we do not respect ourselves by our dress or behaviour how can we expect others to treat us with respect.
Besides your Madame Chic books, what books are on your table behind you? I love books and am always curious about what others I admire are reading. Thank you.
I grew up Mormon, and I always kept the modesty guidelines (in modern clothing). I left Mormonism a few years ago and felt into wearing immodest clothes and looking back I feel so ashamed of that short period. Now I am converting to Judaism and I am keeping tznius standards (not hard rules, but my own intuition of modesty), including hair covering. I love covering my hair, and women from all cultures and periods have done it, it makes me look always put together and it forces me to upgrade my outfit, it also gives a greater sense of privacy and femininity. Wearing a head covering and dressing modestly also reminds me to act according to my religion, so yes, it influences your behavior.
Thank you for your great comments! I am amazed at how many of you dress in historical dress every day. Fascinating! For more, including news, comment of the week, and Instagram of the week, visit my corresponding blogpost dailyconnoisseur.blogspot.com/2019/07/3-more-articles-on-dress.html I'll see you tomorrow for an exciting interview that I know you're going to love! Jennifer xx
I don't think Victorian clothes would look right without a corset. I tried that once with some "historical photography"- yuck. I looked like a stout dowager in the pictures!! Sarah A. Chrisman, she of the This Victorian Life blog, does ot all the time- wears a corset; and she loves it. She's an avid hiker and biker, too! There are a few TH-camrs who wear corset- they almost hsve me convinced! 😉😁
Please do a video on historical dress and making it modern. This was is a great video. I also think men show more respect to women who dress modest and ladylike. Thanks Jennifer! If you missed it please read my comment on your last video it was truly heartfelt.
There is also another woman wearing historical clothes everyday (with a corset, because they are comfortable when it fits probably) called V. birchwood. Hope you check her out
Interesting topics! I enjoyed hearing your perspective. I also think that what one wears greatly impacts how one feels and behaves. One thing that struck me though is that your phrase of 'dressing presentably' is largely based on propriety, what is proper in a certain time and place--and that changes drastically between generations, places, etc. What is seen as presentable changes, unavoidably so. The flapper attire of the 20's was seen as rebellious and almost vulgar at the time, but we see the same dress as lovely and quaint today. Do you think that there will always be current tension between those who prefer an older or more established rebellious dress code and those who are beaking ground? How quickly do or should styles become acceptable and presentable? Remember the outage at skinny jeans, I recall someone saying, disgustedly, that you may as well just paint your pants on 😆 But they are now seen as causal presentable. Maybe our grandchildren will think that leggings are presentable as pants 🤷😂
Jennifer, before I read your books, I used to spend half the day in my pajamas, doing housework, emails, etc. When that was all done, I would finally get dressed. But thanks to you, I now put on a cute outfit and makeup first thing in the morning, and that's when my day begins. If somebody drops by my house, I am happy to welcome them in, as I am presentable. All the household chores seem much more pleasant and worthy, instead of like drudgery. I am in a much better mood while doing them. Your books are truly life changing! Thank you!!
Thank you for the great testimony about my books. That's wonderful! xx
Read Betsy's Wedding by Maud Hart Lovelace to refall in love with homemaking
In the sixties, when I was a teen in high school, we had a dress code. Dresses and skirts of a strict length for girls and shirts tucked and belts for boys. Our attire was modest. At one point, at the request of the students casual Friday was implemented on a trial bases. Students became lackluster in class, scuffles ensued and attitudes deteriorated on casual Friday. After a time the disciplinary rate among the students became quite high so casual Friday was scrubbed. I remember one of my teachers saying, “ you act the way you look.” At the age of 69 I still dress appropriately every day. My philosophy is look your best each day and you will be ready for anything. I find it gives me direction and order in an otherwise chaotic world. Thank you for your input in this area. It is much needed.
I dress in 1940's style. I make a lot of my dresses from vintage patterns. I get much more respect from men, it is very nice.
Thats so cool. In high school up to like my late 30's I wore 40's clothes all the time. From shoes, gloves, hats, boas, tops bottoms, suits, etc and don't forget cigarette cases. Know though at 62 I think the 60s era look better on me, but I incorporate mid-century cottage into my home interiors, I still love 40s and 50s dresses though! Good for you, Long live vintage!
Oh how I wish you lived near me!! I am a large person, so the style nowadays with ruffling & pleats is NOT flattering!! I was actually inline looking at some dresses from years gone by and honestly if they could use pretty material of today but use old patterns I would have a match made in Heaven!! BUT no A-line skirts! I am not a good shape for that 😂
@@jamesnbrenda8960 It would be nice if you could sew your a-line skirts. Online their are vintage patterns. Modcloth.com has cute vintage, bc everybody is bigger than what they used to be. They make clothes for todays WOMAN!
I have friends who dress in a 1930’s style and their children participate in a 1930’s style circus. It’s pretty fascinating. And they are such a sweet family. This was a great discussion, Jennifer. My oldest is 11 and I already find it harder to find appropriate and conservative clothes for her. So sad what merchandisers think of us as females. Worth nothing more than short shorts and a tee shirt with a sassy saying. I even was shocked by the short length of the uniform skirt I bought her for school from Old Navy- returned it and kept looking. I always explain to her that how we dress isn’t just about respecting ourselves- but respecting other people’s senses as well. Xo Jill
Wow, your friends sound so interesting! I agree re: the children's clothes. It's dismal out there!
I wear period inspired clothing on a daily basis. From amish style simple clothing, jumper dresses, to a long skirt and a cardigan. I get lots of respect and complements. Lots of help in stores as well.However there are some friends of mine try to talk me out of it into more worldly tight yoga pants and tops. It doesn't work. I've been dressing this way modestly for the past 10 years. What we wear matters. Thank you for this video and bring continued awareness.
I love this!
I think another reason lobby for more casual dress at work, more and more businesses are wanting to economize on air conditioning. Especially here in hot and humid florida it matters. Being trapped in a room that makes you sweat profusely will make you cranky about wearing extra layers or anything fitted. I have complained about this as a customer in stores as well.
Amen! There have been stores that i quit shopping at because I was so hot in there.
Industrialization. I remember reading about how this completely changed fashion. Before industrialization clothing was handmade for each individual but then factories began making high volume clothing and many things had to change. Anyone else concur?
I remember reading "America's Women" by Gail Collins. I learned quite a bit about such things from that!
You may enjoy the book The Lost Art of Dress - www.amazon.com/Lost-Art-Dress-America-Stylish-ebook/dp/B00HTQ312W/ref=tmm_kin_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1583018489&sr=8-1
Hello Jennifer! I'm a long time viewer, but it's my first time leaving a comment. I'm delighted you brought up people dressing in period/vintage styles. I can relate since I dress in a 1940's/1950's style every day myself! I have had a long love of mid-century fashion, brought on by Old Hollywood movies and the gorgeous styles people wore at that time. For the past two years I have been transitioning to adopt a mid-century style full time myself!
I understand your concerns about feeling self-conscious. I think many lovers of vintage style are actually pretty introverted as well and don't necessarily dress that way to attract attention. It does however, require a sort of courage to go for the whole look, because people will and do stare. Whenever I get comments however, they are always positive.
There are many TH-cam channels that have devoted videos on how to start dressing in a vintage style or incorporating vintage aspects into your look and how to avoid feeling like you are wearing a costume. I think, if self-consciousness is an issue, it's important to start small and work from there to expand your comfort-zone if you wish. So for example a vintage sundress, but with a modern hairstyle. In the case of a 1950's look, it's like you said: the clothing itself doesn't necessarily stand out, but the styling does! In my experience, the complete styling makes for an authentic and more dramatic look (so hair, make up, accessories). There is a thriving community online of people who dress vintage full time and apart from buying actual vintage pieces, there are also many companies making reproductions of clothing from those eras.
It would be fun to see your take on dressing in a period/vintage style, or incorporating elements of it into an outfit, as well.
Have a lovely day!
This is awesome! Thank you for taking the time to leave this great comment!
Marta, I would love to start going vintage, but am concerned about not being the right size. Do you have any recommendations on where to start looking for ideas?
Dressing in period attire from the 40s and 50s for five years, I can tell you that while every once in a while I would get a negative reaction, but for the most part I noticed people treated me with respect. And wearing gloves and a hat did affect how I behaved as well. I was more conscious of my appearance and my manners. While I don't dress that way now, I still "dress up" everyday, even if I'm at home, and it affects my behavior and mood. Thank you for this video!
I am amazed about how many are commenting that they dress (or have dressed) in period attire. I think it's wonderful! Thanks for writing.
I graduated from high school in 1984, we were not allowed to dress tacky at school. My dad and mom made sure we had nicer clothes to wear to church also because of the attitude one has while dressing nicely. I still dress up a bit to go to church or even out and about. Of course I have said this many times that I like dresses which automatically make you look nicer.
If you wore skirts like that without the corset though they dig into your hips, I thought the same thing, I made a few skirts that were inspired by historical clothing and found they get so uncomfortable because they dig into my hips and squeeze my waist, so now I’m working on making a pair of stays to support the skirts.
Yeah, corsets were a foundational garment meant to smooth out the body and support the dress. You may get waist reduction but it's not too important, because historical clothes play with silhouettes more.
Thank you for another great video! I wear skirts every day, even though we have a little farm. What is interesting to me is how many women have told me they would like to dress in skirts or dresses, but cannot afford to. The truth is, my skirts cost less than the jeans that most of my friends wear! If I have the choice of wearing beautiful clothes or wearing casual clothes, I figure, why not wear beautiful things? Yes, I tear skirts while doing things like gathering eggs, but the same thing happens with jeans. I definitely feel better and get treated more respectfully when I dress more intentionally. (And, P.S. I find skirts much more comfortable than jeans!)
I "think" I would like skirts more than my jeans and yet I still reach for my jeans before all else. I have great flowy skirts and I know my husband would love me to wear skirts more but I hesitate and I think it's mostly because I think of myself as a jeans-and-tee-shirt kind of a girl and it's hard to overcome self-perceptions and make changes. Maybe we should start a "challenge" and see if those of us uncomfortable in skirts, but still wanting to be more feminine, learn to find the ease of wearing skirts?? Did you always wear skirts? Or was it a learned thing?
@@sardee1315 No, I didn't always. I went to high school in the late 80's, and I had a long wrap-around skirt that I only wore at home, since it wasn't fashionable at the time. I wore jeans most of the time, until I reached my 40's and realized that most jeans were designed for sixteen-year-olds. I decided to dress based on what I preferred, rather than what was in fashion, so I looked up skirts like the one I secretly wore and loved until I wore it out, and so now that's what I wear every day. The funny thing is, as soon as I quit worrying what was in style, people suddenly began to compliment me on my "look." :)
I think Zack is amazing. The sense of confidence he must have in himself to do this is admirable. I love 30s, 40s, and 50s and could see myself incorporating that into my daily life. I'm a costumed historical interpreter, and have to tell you that corsets are not as bad as they are made out to be. I've worn mine with an 1860s ballgown, eaten a 3 course meal, and danced, and not had a problem at all. That is my experience in wearing a corset. Another great video :)
I worked in hospitality for years and I did not experience a correlation in someone's manners and how they were dressed. A jerk was a jerk and a polite person was curteous.
I love what your wearing. I love cardigans, and I started wearing calf length leggings under dresses and I get complements all the time. I gave up jeans because they just don’t fit like they used to. I always felt self conscious in them. But now I feel feminine and better about myself since I finally found a more flattering style for my body....at 55 😊
Thank you! That is wonderful!
Such a good idea! I've been wanting to get into dresses for years, but am self conscious about my legs. Maybe leggings are the answer, at least until I get more comfortable. :)
I totally agree. I’ve always dressed modestly but in the last several years I dress even more modestly and my girls have followed suit - we always receive compliments and repeat in public. .... except maybe when the toddler is tantruming 😉
Megan I found HUE calf length leggings on Amazon. They are super comfortable and cool for the summer and fit great 👍. I would probably say they are true to size.😊
@@chlexiel.1022 Thanks for the recommendation! :)
Lovely video! I will have to say that a properly-fitting corset is actually extremely comfortable--they are supposed to support the body and help to give a feminine silhouette. Bernadette Banner has a great video on this subject. :) On another note, I remember a former boss of mine saying that she had been encouraged to relax our business casual dress code even further, and she was confused because, as she said, even Walmart does business casual!
My 11 year old daughter has a couple of my Grandma's dresses from the fifties that she wears regularly. I think she looks so timeless and charming, and she always gets compliments about them!
I would love to see a video on incorporating your favorite period of dress into your everyday clothing!!
That would be a great video!
Years ago, one of my women friends (4 sons) went back to working outside the home, for financial reasons. She taught high school English and tried to wear dresses and skirts everyday. She felt that it gave her more authority with the young people. She had been out of the work force for some years and was nervous about how it was going to go, so she needed that little extra feeling of authority. Thank you for your video.
I went to high school in the early 90's to a school with a beautiful uniform that looked quite old fashioned. I loved going to school and imagining we were all in a different era. I think it helped me focus and work harder too. My kids highschool is similar and most schools have uniforms here in Australia.
I absolutely loved what you said about motherhood and how worthy a calling it is. Brought tears to my eyes today- thank you.
Thank you xx
I absolutely loved this video. When I was a kid in the City, my friends and I sat on the stoop and watched this young lady walking down our block on her way home from work. She was always neatly and beautifully dressed. Her name was Julia. I'm now in my 60s and that memory is still with me. I also remember being in a donut shop a few years ago and a woman was wearing PJs with the Winnie the Pooh donkey on it. They were ill fitting and that donkey didn't look like he was having a good time. Unfortunately, I can't get that vision out of my head either - yikes! Please do more of these videos. I'm always looking at people doing vintage lifestyle and dress and find it very interesting. Thanks again.
You had me cracking up about the donkey!
Jennifer, I am so enjoying these articles! I agree that manners and posture change with dress. I usually wear a sundress and some jewelry from Ana Luisa (thanks for the recommendation!) I carry myself better when dressed nicely!
I also did theater in high school. Rehearsing Shakespeare in jeans and a t-shirt was so different than when we put on those wonderful Shakespearean clothes! It is transforming.
Please keep the articles coming!
You are such an inspiration for me! Women need women like you speaking to us! Thank you.
Does your husband do a 10-item wardrobe? Would love to see an example of a sophisticated modern man’s wardrobe. My husband is ready to transition out of t-shirts every day!
There is a certain inner pride (I hate to use the word “pride” but for lack of a better word for the moment) in how we act & feel in our own skin when we have nice proper fitted clothing on. I have been a large person all my life and until I hit my late teens there were ZERO clothes for me to choose from! So, as I grew up & the issue started being addressed better, I started working on building a better wardrobe. I never had tons of clothes but to wake up in the morning and get myself ready for the day I cannot tell you how it changed my everyday view on “myself” I feel like it gave me a calm positive demeanor in whatever the day held for me. So, in all my rambling I do full heartedly agree with you!!
James N Brenda I had the same problem growing up, I wasn’t heavy but I was larger that stick thin, more Marilyn Monroe, Mae West type. I had to wear stretch pants like the old ladies wore or dresses so I was automatically dressed up a bit more. I remember my first pair of jeans they were Lee jeans. I wore them a lot but I still looked nice in them and yes there is more comforting attitude that goes with dressing nicer.
I agree!
Melinda, we didn’t wear pants, actually I still don’t. Anyway, I digress!
My staple was double knit polyester A-line skirts!!!🥴 to this day I hate an A-line skirt! When you are apple shaped it is like putting a bow around a hot air ballon!!! 😂
So, I go for a straighter skirt with a nice top. I tell kids nowadays they have No Idea!! What it was like in my day.
God bless ~
I think what you say is so true, part of the reason people took better care of themselves back then because people did have morals more self discipline and self respect they ate differently also, so now that so many people being overweight it affects the way they present themselves,they decide not to buy themselves clothes, theyre careless about their apperances and it affects everything from the way they treat there things to the way they treat others .. I love the era where women wore gloves..
I really enjoyed this. I'm English, living in northwest Scotland, and I have to say that the U.K.'s manners have plummeted in the last 30 years. It's so rare these days to find anyone who appreciates and practices good manners, dressing well and etiquette. it's my personal belief that the 60's did us absolutely no good; it was all about "doing whatever you feel like" and, frankly, looking a mess. The way society began to pour scorn on previous generations who dressed as well as they could, who spoke fluently and who had good manners and who, I might add, had a solid, Christian faith, was nothing short of a tragedy in my opinion. It has led to spectacles such as the Women's March where everyone wore a piece of the female reproductive system on their heads (!) and was oddly proud of it and spectacles such as that appalling Disneyland fight. No self discipline, no self respect, no respect or care for others. It's a sad, sad state of affairs but hopefully the interest in books such as those you write will help to turn the tide. Lovely video - thank you so much :-)
I am a high school teacher. I try to dress nicely and professionally every day, even on dress down days. Not only am I constantly appalled at what some of the students wear, but I have the same reaction to what come of the other teachers wear. Some come to work looking like they just tumbled out of bed. Some look like they are going to a bar. Then there are those that wear clothes more appropriate for working out at the gym. Where is the level of good taste and dignity these days?
Yes definitely, the way we dress affects how we behave. We can even see that with anybody who wears a uniform. For example, somebody in the police force, in uniform, they act like they are in an authoritative job and look the part. We give our children dressing up clothes so they can pretend and become that person for about 20 minutes before they move on to the next thing 😁
Period costume is actually quite popular where I am.1930’s or 1940’s days which are usually attended by people who have those old classic cars that they devote a lot of time to and go to such events. They wear the costumes too and look amazing!
Yes. I agree!
Absolutely true. I look at how my daughters demeanor, posture and attitude changes when dressed up opposed to casual wear. Thanks for sharing:)
Woah! I really like this topic! I find historical dress to be fascinating, and also enjoy wondering at why people choose to dress the way they do. What we wear really is an indicator of some aspect of what's going on in our inner selves, and it's intriguing to me to search this out.
I think Steve Jobs started this trend and Mark Zuckerberg just took it to the level that was comfortable for him. If you look at fashion and home design everything has become more and more casual. Our parents collection of good china and cutlery are being passed on to thrift shops and Ebay as more and more young people eschew the formality of the past. There's something quite lovely about "pomp and circumstance" and if you think we've completely left it behind just look at how many people are still having very formal weddings. Dress and home trends constantly change; take hope that formality will probably come around again and it might even begin with the next generation.
Your overall presentation, clothes, grooming, posture, etc sends a powerful, non verbal message about who you are and how you expect to be treated.
It's TRUE! When I wear a modest skirt in public, I always get treated with more respect. I do tend to stand little taller, too.😉 I just can't get into the habit of dressing that way all the time, though. A midwestern farmer's daughter, out sweating in the garden... and freezing in the harsh winter winds, neither seems practical to wear a dress all the time. But Madam Chic is certainly an inspiration to take some baby steps!! I read Lessons in 2 days (Audible) and started it again the third day!! Can't wait for my next membership credit so I can buy another! 🤗
I am new to your channel and love you!! The first episode I watched (The enemy of the modern homemaker) had me hooked. I knew you were right and had more inspiration for me. ❤❤❤ thank you for your ministry.
Thank you, Judy! Welcome!
Great video! & interesting topic.
I’ve been living in Mexico for the past two years and I love my culture, but through the years Mexicans have adopted more of the American culture. I wish Mexican women would still wear the traditional skirts with all the colors. I love them. It’s even occurred to me to start including some of that in my wardrobe. Personally I like Frida Khalo’s style and would love to braid my hair like her everyday. But I am an introvert so I’ve been hesitating...
Yes, yes dress does effect oneself !!!!!! I think a person who says it doesn’t has not experimented with the idea. Since I was a much younger woman I knew that, my mother taught me, she was always a lady and I admired her for that, then when I started watching you a few years back I was reminded of that, thank you. I’m still working on my wardrobe and signature style, I love dresses like you, my wardrobe was in such a state of chaos that I’m just getting to the point that I’m looking for a few key items. Yesterday I got dressed up for no reason and I felt like such a lady, it was wonderful🤩, that is how I see you too👗. Thanks for the good impact you have made in my life.
I loved learning about those who dress in period clothing! Such a fun topic!
Thanks Nikki! Your lovely painting is behind me. I linked your etsy shop here and on my blog xx
I love dressing in a modernized vintage style. A lot of my clothing has a 50's style element, but still modern cuts, etc. For example, I use polka dots often, most of my church dresses are fitted on top and fuller on the bottom (from Eshakti), and I love wearing red lipstick. So it all feels vintage without being vintage and drawing a lot of attention.
It is so true that manners are elevated with dress, and it's sub-concious, but not just for the wearer...I think a man or woman who is dressed above the normal casual level generally receives better service in stores and restaurants, more friendly looks and smiles from passersby, etc. Someone who looks like they spent time and care with his or her appearance brings out the best in the people around, not always of course, but more often than not.
I love Zack! I think he is wonderful! I love the Regency time period, he is very bold ! ❤️
People interested in period dress are often found and involved in the Society for Creative Anarchy (Medieval Time living with re-enactments), the theater (mostly local volunteer), and even some B&B s we’ve been to dress and recreate a time period (and never drop the personna). So, I imagine there are ways to be themselves and to be creative with that.
And lastly... my book recommendation is, "The Lost Art of Dress" by Linda Przybyszewski. I do hope I got her name right... very interesting read- clothing and culture and Zeitgeist and how this all dovetails. She's funny in a snarky kind of way, too!
The King's Daughter I really enjoyed that book!
Great book!
These were really interesting :) I have noticed that men are more likely to hold the door or call me ma’am when I’m out in public in a dress. I think dress does affect manners. I also tend to have better manners with my kids when I’m dressed nice :)
Wow! My friends and I were just talking about this a couple weeks ago, and about that first gentleman you featured. You're right, how we present ourselves is important. I like how in another vid you say: if we only have nice things to wear, then we'll only wear presentable things. And ya, I don't like to draw attn to myself, couldn't do Victorian! But yes to the rest. I think you have to dress appropriately to the occasion
I think that suits look so good . A suit with a shirt and tie is the most flattering dress for a man and makes the most of their various shapes and sizes .
My husband and I are missionaries and we fly a lot. I have noticed over the years that when I am dressed nicer, even for the long international flights, I am treated better by the attendants than those who are sloppily dressed. It also makes me feel better. Your dress really does make a statement.
My neighbors wardrobe is very Downton Abbey inspired. The cut and the fabrics are so beautiful!
That sounds dreamy!
I've wished I could! Does she make her own clothes?
Sarah D - she uses a local seamstress.
It's nice to see that there's a glimmer of hope in our society going back to fine dress and chivalry. The one thing I found recently that was a game changer was doing a Kibbe body type quiz. I always loved flowy clothing but I couldn't figure out why I felt so uncomfortable wearing it. With my curves I need something form fitting because I'm what you call a "romantic" body type. I highly recommend it for anyone trying to find their style.
That sounds interesting!
It was game changer to me. I understood so much more about me and why i felt weird on certain clothes (
I love Kibbe! I do Dressing Your Truth, which works wonderfully & I'm trying to figure out how to incorporate Kibbe since he makes sense too & I've always had a challenge with the fit of clothing (I'm both petite & curvy).
Btw, I was deeply shocked when I read on Sarah Chrisman's blog how rude and unreasonable some people behave towards her and her husband; just because they dress in a noticeably different way (Victorian; and they live it, too). Mrs. Chrisman shared how people would walk up to her, and without asking permission or even saying hello, would grab her dress and rub the fabric, and/or touch her waist (corsetted) and behind... and they think that's ok! I was almost in tears after I read that blog article, my heart was aching for her. And I understand the other "Yesteryear People" you mentioned have had similar experiences. 😨 I can't think like that...
It’s too bad that people can’t think enough to act right, but this is much like how people who wear skimpy clothing are shocked at the attention they get. I’m not into victim blaming, but I do live in the real world. If you are going to choose to stand out then you better be prepared for the attention you are going to get.
Hi Jennifer! I love how you correlated dressing for everyday with dress rehearsals in theater! I never thought of that and yet it is so true! Thanks for the great analogy and example. I also thought of you when I saw the BBC video of the man in Regency era clothing :) if the article didn't mention it, I thought I would let you know he has an Instagram and creates bespoke clothing for people all over the world! Pretty amazing. Looking forward to your next video!
Sincerely, Sara
I agree that clothes matter. Not only does dressing well make you act more polite and dignified but I believe it makes others act more polite towards you. It creates a cycle of politeness which can’t be bad. I love dresses but sometimes it’s nice to be in more comfortable casual but that can still be done smartly with nice jeans or wide leg linen trousers
Jennifer... I just subscribed to your channel this week.. I am 64 and have been a person who always dressed in beautiful ..and feminine .. dresses..on a daily basis.. starting at 17.. I found vintage shops and my love 1930s 40s clothes shoes.. etc.. I was hooked.. from that day forward .. I have worn dresses 90 percent of the time.. fast forward... I went to college at 40.. and I wore dresses.. skirts.. blouses.. etc.. everyday.. a student.. same age as I... Asked me why I didn't wear jeans and sweat shirts like she did.. she said her clothes were better for college life.. I told her I had not worn jeans since high school and I was more comfortable in dresses and skirts... Jeans made me feel like I was wrapped up tight like a mummy.. dresses just skim the body.. nothing is binding and grabbing.. she never understood the approach I had to clothes...the running shoes 20 years ago were bulky and unattractive.. I would have been miserable all day in unisex masculine clothes....
I definitely think what you wear matters! When I dress down at home, I get so lazy....but when I dress for work I carry myself better! Which is why I followed your tip to dress nice at home!
Also, I’m inspired to really think about wearing clothing from my or inspired by my favorite era more often.
I love these videos! I don't particularly enjoy reading the news so I really enjoy you bringing these articles--and your opinions--to us.
Also, thank you for your continued partnership with Skillshare. I finally got into calligraphy recently, which I have been interested in trying for years. I hope others take advantage of the free trial.
I love this video and the conversation that it is bringing about! I would love to dress like Elizabeth Bennett every day of my life. Sigh. But I, too, am to shy to actually do it. ❤️
Me too, Joy xx
Taking aspects of historical dress and incorporating them into a more modern look is actually a style aesthetic now. It is called “historybounding.” I love historybounding in my everyday life. My two favorite time periods to incorporate into my clothing are pioneer and Edwardian. Although I do love to have some vintage 1940’s and 50’s sprinkled in!
My daughter is a Theatre major and loves loves loves the opportunity to wear elaborate costumes and dresses. Last year she played Joanna in Sweeney Todd and was given the opportunity to wear a beautiful long gown and corset. The year before that she was Anna in the King and I. That was a big opportunity to wear big fluffy gowns especially in the dance scene with the King. She feels lucky!
Jennifer, this was so interesting! I think I agree, but I do struggle to put the 'presentable always' rule into practice. It reminds me of the telephone salespeople who were required to dress properly right down to their shoes before making their first call. Also, I believe there may be a difference in the behavior/performance of schoolchildren who adhere to a uniform or dress code vs. student populations who don't.
I love the shirtwaist dresses from the 60s (think Audrey Hepburn, Donna Reed, Leave it to Beaver). The dresses were pretty, clean and simple. Again, vintage style not vintage values!
Oh Jennifer, great video! I do absolutely agree that manners correspond to dress. If we all think about it, it’s hard to argue the point. Think of how we all behave when dressed for a wedding - especially if we are part of the wedding party. We all feel like ladies and gents, and we act like it. 😉 The piece on period- dressing full time is so fascinating. I always wanted to dress from another era when I was a young girl and when you mentioned how you kind of incorporate certain aspects of your favorite eras into your own modern style, I realized that’s what I do as well. I’d love to see you elaborate on that in another video. Blessings!
I love the Crows Eye channel, too! And it is so true that how you dress influences your self esteem and how others perceive you. In the 1980s and 90s, I am not sure that it was entirely the power suit that commanded respect but the feeling that it gave its wearers, and the confidence it allowed them to project. Perhaps today a pair of jeans, a turtleneck, booties, and a moto jacket gives the same sense of confidence to people in the workplace. I think there is great benefit in paying attention to what you wear and how it affects your self esteem.
Reminds me of the very true quote from Anne of Green Gables - it’s so much easier to be good with your Sunday clothes on ☺️
Very interesting conversation...I enjoyed it. I could comment on several ideas but one that really struck a cord was dressing for authority. Since you homeschool you may not see the changes that are and have taken place in our public schools. The lack of respect and teachers totally unable to control the children is rampant. It is a very complex situation. How teachers dress is, in my opinion, just ONE aspect of what is going on. Granted...it may seem trivial in light of the "whole picture" but to me, when teachers no longer dress as figures of authority...the battle is on. I will just leave it at that to avoid a lengthy comment.
I have worked in public schools for about 13 years. Kids these days are actually very respectful. I actually tend to get more rudeness from people in their 40’s-60’s than I do from teens.
@@mysticfox1563 thank you for another perspective. Never hurts to look from another point of view.
At the middle school where I worked, our teachers all looked beautifully dressed and our school was known for that among the other schools. I feel this served as a good example for students. Students reacted to this positively. Then 22 years down the line, we got a new principal and she often wore sweatshirts and baggie jeans. Parents arriving at the school would often address the secretaries with their questions instead of her becuz of the way she was dressed. Need I say more.
I’d love to see a video about incorporating historical inspired dress into a modern wardrobe!
Enjoyed your victoria flip-through. I do think experiments in lifestyle are very exciting. Glad to have found your channel! London allows for so much freedom...🌏❤🎀
Wonderful observations. I've spent a lot of the last 10 years with Mennonites and they have dress rules, not only for modesty but because they realise it affects behaviour.
There are some great Mennonite channels on TH-cam here like Lynette Yoder and Megan Fox Unlocked xx
@@TheDailyConnoisseur yes, I know them...
Thank you for all your advise on clothing. Until now, I haven't needed a business wardrobe because hospital scrubs were considered acceptable. I would like to discuss business and teach. It's time to get a wardrobe that fits who I am as a person and professional. Thanks for your guidance.
I am a new sub, and thank you for reminding me to step it up. I have been striving for hair and makeup getting done daily. I didn’t know there were more like me that love the little house series, Anne of green gables, etc. so happy I found you❤️
I love this video! You bring intelligent conversation, woot! I recently bought a pretty simple linen dress with long sleeves and gathers above the breast, and I wear it at home as my olden times dress. Like an old fashioned night dress, it reminds me of. And you mentioned corsets, my grandmother, who was born in 1907, wore a corset every day, my father says. She wore seventies or sixties dresses with sheer tights and little heeled leather shoes when I was with her in the 1980s, but she still wore a corset as she may have done in her younger days. Amazing. Look at linen dressses on Etsy. I th8jkk mine is a maternity one. Sorry toddler on me.
What a fantastic video. I feel as a society we have become to casual. I am 58 and I can remember my mom dress so beautiful early in the morning to take us to school. Funny nowadays you see woman of all ages at airports with the famous Flip flops and Yoga pants so sad. I love getting dress everyday and trying to look my best even when Iam just home.
Nearly all of my wardrobe is late 60s mod style and early 70s style. I also do my long hair in predominantly 60s style, Makes everyday fun.
Love this content, I as well grew up reading Victoria magazine. my grandmother was an amazing decorator and loved antiques. I can relate.
I have been a stay at home mom for many years. I agree with you that dressing nice is a good way to live your life. Everyday I put on my favorite make up and curl my hair. I wear my favorite sparkly costume jewelry and go about my day. I am a professional artist in addition to homemaker and when I paint paintings I still dress nice I just wear a smock. I think when you take care of yourself it dominos through your household. You have less clutter and are more organized too. Thank you for the interesting video and have a lovely day.
I enjoy these review of articles very much, please continue. Also I am interested in a how to vlog on incorporating your favorite period of dress into what one wears today. I have my "Audrey days" but am curious how you incorporate Victorian into your dress, as well as other periods.
Thanks Pam!
What a timely video Jennifer, (I'm watching from a pile of dishes in my sink) how I dress does influence how I feel and to an extent my demeanor. (Although, I never use it as an excuse for poor manners :-) I enjoy your talks on these topics. Thank you for taking the time to make thought provoking content :-)
“My parents always taught me that it is a sign of respect for other people always to look your best in public. We are representing and honoring our family name, and our actions speak louder than words”- Colleen Hammond, Dressing with Dignity.
I absolutely loved this video!
I do think dress impacts behavior and manners. I found the bit about the men being more gentlemanly was interesting. The codes of conduct used to be a man had to ask for w woman's permission just to escort her. Engaged couples asked for permission before kissing. If people today observed these codes of conduct, there would be much less misunderstanding between the sexes. In this time of me too, I think our society needs to adopt many such traditions of the past.
Loved this!
I volunteer in period appropriate clothing at a mid 1800's historic site and I agree that the way people respond is much more respectful and courteous when I am dressed as an 1850's lady than when I am dressed in modern attire. The men change the way they behave when they don a frock coat and top hat. It's nice to have it tipped in greeting when I pass them on the site. It would be nice to carry that with us into modern life.
Love your videos, they are so noninvasive and encouraging. I don't agree with everything you say, but I think everyone can learn from you. I love America and would not trade being American for anything else, but I do feel that everyone can learn something from the European way of life.
I know a man in his 40s who dresses in edwardian era style and has done so since his teenage years. I feel that the way people dress changes not only how they feel about themselves and how they behave, but also how they're treated by others.
I love this video! Just added to my favorites!
Thank you! xx
I couldn’t agree more! We have become very sloppy. Today I went to a funeral and I couldn’t get over how everyone there, even the family of the deceased showed up in such casual dress...jeans, tennis shoes, T-shirts, soooo bad. I didn’t feel at all over dressed, I think people who would see me, definitely felt under dressed. What has gone wrong in society for this to have happened?? Pretty sad...
Hi Jennifer
I believe with casual clothes came casual manners. We need to dress for today because this is when we live. However, our jeans can be clean and pressed, our shirts and tee shirts white or not faded, our sliders, sneakers, ballerinas in good order. As you said most of us are introverts to a degree but we can blend in with style and care. Surely we are disrespecting ourselves if we present as unkempt, scruffy and grubby. Let's live in today's world but with respect for ourselves and others. If we do not respect ourselves by our dress or behaviour how can we expect others to treat us with respect.
Thank-you Jennifer, so interesting!
I dress boho/hippy. Does that count as period dress (1960s)?
Besides your Madame Chic books, what books are on your table behind you? I love books and am always curious about what others I admire are reading. Thank you.
Those are all mine... just translated into different languages :)
I feel groggy, kind of depressed, & less productive until I fully get ready.
I grew up Mormon, and I always kept the modesty guidelines (in modern clothing). I left Mormonism a few years ago and felt into wearing immodest clothes and looking back I feel so ashamed of that short period. Now I am converting to Judaism and I am keeping tznius standards (not hard rules, but my own intuition of modesty), including hair covering. I love covering my hair, and women from all cultures and periods have done it, it makes me look always put together and it forces me to upgrade my outfit, it also gives a greater sense of privacy and femininity. Wearing a head covering and dressing modestly also reminds me to act according to my religion, so yes, it influences your behavior.
I enjoyed hearing your thoughts 💕
Thank you for your great comments! I am amazed at how many of you dress in historical dress every day. Fascinating! For more, including news, comment of the week, and Instagram of the week, visit my corresponding blogpost dailyconnoisseur.blogspot.com/2019/07/3-more-articles-on-dress.html I'll see you tomorrow for an exciting interview that I know you're going to love! Jennifer xx
I cannot wait to read your next book Connoisseur Kids. It will be out on September 10th (based on amazon)
I love Crow's Eye videos!
I don't think Victorian clothes would look right without a corset. I tried that once with some "historical photography"- yuck. I looked like a stout dowager in the pictures!! Sarah A. Chrisman, she of the This Victorian Life blog, does ot all the time- wears a corset; and she loves it. She's an avid hiker and biker, too! There are a few TH-camrs who wear corset- they almost hsve me convinced! 😉😁
Please do a video on historical dress and making it modern. This was is a great video. I also think men show more respect to women who dress modest and ladylike. Thanks Jennifer! If you missed it please read my comment on your last video it was truly heartfelt.
TH-cam channel, 'Racked' has a video called: This Egyptologist Wears Vintage Every Day | Dress The Part | Racked
There is also another woman wearing historical clothes everyday (with a corset, because they are comfortable when it fits probably) called V. birchwood. Hope you check her out
Interesting topics! I enjoyed hearing your perspective. I also think that what one wears greatly impacts how one feels and behaves. One thing that struck me though is that your phrase of 'dressing presentably' is largely based on propriety, what is proper in a certain time and place--and that changes drastically between generations, places, etc. What is seen as presentable changes, unavoidably so. The flapper attire of the 20's was seen as rebellious and almost vulgar at the time, but we see the same dress as lovely and quaint today. Do you think that there will always be current tension between those who prefer an older or more established rebellious dress code and those who are beaking ground? How quickly do or should styles become acceptable and presentable? Remember the outage at skinny jeans, I recall someone saying, disgustedly, that you may as well just paint your pants on 😆 But they are now seen as causal presentable. Maybe our grandchildren will think that leggings are presentable as pants 🤷😂