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The kids who used to bully you would have never imagined Andrew became a Prince Charming.
hahah i know right? they probably envy him for the handsome way he looks. lol
@@JoseMartinez-cy8oj damn true
Ikr
@@JoseMartinez-cy8oj They may have also had a crush on him
He looks dreamy
I love the fact that you were friends with a person with autism. As someone with a disability I know how hard it’s to make friends. You’re a beautiful soul Andrew
Well your a doctor with a great body. You really showed them
From my experience bullies feel emboldened by their impunity, have enormous self confidence which helps them to achieve goals. People who get bullied instead feel depressed, worthless which on the other hand leads to other negative consequences. This is indeed maddening...
An optometrist is not really a doctor, you dont need to be a physician
They are tho. He's got his own practice.
@@jocha1778 they do receive the title of "doctor in optometry" but they are not medical professionals (not medical doctors). Usually we associate the word doctor with medicine and doctorates. Just though you might not know the difference between an optometrist and a ophtalmologist. He cant prescrive medication, he cant perform most procedures, etc.
Jo Cha Correct me if I’m wrong but you basic point was that Andrew has worked hard and is successful, right? I’ve never understood why some people have such a need to tear people down....Andrew’s talking about how he was bullied when he was younger and surprise surprise, a bully has to point out the subtle differences amongst “doctors”.
I think it's so important to show that ANYONE can be bullied but still survive it. You are a great influence for young guys coming into their own, something I definitely try to emulate with my own channel. Keep making inspiring content and being a positive influence on the world!
What a powerful video. Thank you for posting. It’s important to share stories like this so people, kids or adults, don’t feel so alone and isolated. I started following you because you’re hot, but I stayed because of how beautiful your spirit is. Keep up the great work. More people are impacted positively than you can even imagine.
You're absolutely right. I loved this video and Andrew has such a powerful message.
This is SO important for your young viewers to see. We couldn’t agree more with everything you said, especially the dread of being alone where there aren’t teachers around...the overwhelming anxiety that caused us is unbelievable. #itgetsbetter
I had similar experience of being brutally bullied in school and clearly remember getting caught off guard by another kid who told me how ugly I was. That caused me to take a hard objective look at myself to determine why I was being targeted for such abuse. I concluded the problem wasn't with me or anything I had done wrong it was with the people attacking me. I then became defiant and vowed to myself that no one, especially my enemies would determine my destiny but me. I also decided the other kids may not like me but that I would make them respect me. I then went to the library and got books to learn how to start working out to get stronger and learn how to defend myself. I also worked hard to achieve academically and in sports so no one could say I was somehow less than anyone else. So being bullied became a character building experience for me. Like you I was a skinny kid and a late bloomer but after working out regularly and developed a lean muscular physique. After college I moved to the big city became successful in business and have had an amazing life with great prosperity in all things, travelled extensively and married an amazing kind and intelligent man. Not a day goes by that I don't wake up thankful for all the blessings I've experienced. On occasion I think about the people who bullied me in school and realize how pathetic they were. I suspect for most of them their lives peaked in HS and it was all downhill from there.
The spin the bullying thing around into a joke back at them honestly helped me so much when I was being bullied. I really think people should try it, sometimes if you keep going and make it really funny, they could stop and you might even make some more friends.
When I was bullied I talked to my family, I talked to my school, Them my parent talked to the school. Then when the bully came to school and brought a gun they still did nothing. Then when I beat the crap out of the multiple bullies I got kicked out of school. Glad reporting bullies works in your area but, in my area it was useless. This is what can cause a student to shoot up a school when they are bullied and adults refuse to help them.
Ali Sarsour صرصور omg I feel so sorry about your story. I’m just hoping that things are getting better in the future.
I got bullied for 4 years in high school. Now I'm a medical student. In your face bullies :P
leon kennedy just few more month and i hope ill be too
🧑⚕️congratulations! “Visual hugs 🤗 “
Congratulations getting into medical school. That makes my day! I’m so glad bully victims can see this. 👍🏽
Puberty, you're doing it so damn right.
@the pro you dont have to, try to find someone who loves u for who u are
I remember going through the same thing, feeling the same way. You feel paralyzed by the situation.
It's interesting to hear this because my high school was literally nothing like this. My high school was like 95% hispanic, 3% black, and 2% white. There was no bullying. Granted I was only in Honors and AP classes so I can't speak on any other classes but for the most part everyone minded their own business. Whenever I see depictions of highschools in tv and movies I always think how fake it is, but idk maybe it is like that. I was super nerdy and geeky, kinda chubby, bad acne, in band and very antisocial, literally never once was I bullied.
same. my highschool didn't have a crazy amount of bullying either. Just the typical high school drama stuff here and there but no "pushing the nerd and calling him a loser" type of stuff. Most of the "popular" kids were actually decent ppl as well. My graduating class was pretty nice to each other. As nice as teens can get obviously haha. Bullying is probably very different now anyways though. Thank god I escaped high school just before social media REALLY took off.
That is completely irrelavent to the point I was trying to make in my comment.... Log off, boo.
@Luke Mason Hispanic is listed on all forms as race. If you're gonna get butthurt over it then raise your concerns with someone who actually cares.
noneof yourbusiness pp
@Luke Mason Or you could mind your own business lmao
Andrew, this is a great service for middle and high school students. Thank you. I have been working with them since before you were born. Young people do not realize the damage they do to their peers when they bully them. You give excellent ways to behave when bullying occurs. Most importantly, kids, please tell a teacher who cares, that teacher WILL take action.......thank you, bro......>Ray
I was bullied too in high school, beaten up, thrown up and down the corridor. No one cared about it not even the teachers. Everyone ignore what was happening. But I have survived. My Mama raised a fighter. Now the guy who use to bully me is a drug addict living a not so powerful life. I saw him last year when I went back home. He was staring at me with that thing in his face that says forgive me. But I will never be able to forgive him. Those pain that he gave me will only be erased after I take my last breath.
But I also thank him for making me who I am now. He made me a hard fucker and this fucker is only a year behind in becoming a lawyer! If anyone is reading this and going through hard time,, "wait and stay strong." There is a beautiful day after every storm.
I love this story and I will hold on to it through the whole of my high school life, but forgiveness does not mean forget or become friends it just mean you no longer hold that courage which I believe will make you better person.xxxooo😘😘😘
Alien invasion
You need to forgive for yourself, you don't need that negative energy in your life. You don't have to tell him you forgive him but that hatred and anger will eat your soul.
I forgave my tormentors and when I did there was such a relief that I felt.
Best of luck to you.
Alien invasion - i agree to you
Fuck him. Glad you didn't forgive him simply because he feels bad. Forgiveness must be earned. Anything less than that just cheapens the concept.
+Dief Enbaker You;re confusing moving on with forgiveness. Forgiveness, by definition, is for the benefit of the offender. I don't know where this new meaning has come from, but frankly it's not a good direction.
Andrew, I never have seen this message from you...my heart was hurting. Not just for you, but for all those precious kids that are at the receiving end of bullying. You told an exceptional story covering the areas of bullying. Good job! I consider myself fortunate in that I was never really bullied to the degree many children are...most likely do to my height, I hit six feet rather early in Jr. High, plus I was a nice kid? I talked to everyone, and was friends to many as well. Maybe I was just lucky? I did witness several friends get bullied, and it made me mad, especially when a teacher or adult was close by, yet did nothing. I guess all of this stayed with me because years later I became a teacher. Yes, I blame teachers, I’ve been witness to them for turning a deaf ear to this. I am a hawk in my classroom, as I observed most things that go on. From two boys getting water, some girls staring at one another in a way that is not friendly, passing notes that I got, to (the big one, recess and lunch). I begin the school year by never separating from them until I feel they understand my monitoring of them. Some classes would take just until Halloween, and some till Christmas? I’ve only had two groups where I never left there side the entire year. Those were the years that admin placed difficult boys in my class. Yet, my colleagues would still question me about burn out, added stress etc.The great result of this was having a top notch class with children who felt free to be kind and compassionate with everyone. Was it difficult? Yes, it was and still is extremely hard, but I knew I would soon have an exceptional group of learners. So when I hear stories on bullying it becomes necessary for me to put my two cents in? I teach in the LAUSD, the second largest school district with mostly Title One student populations. It can be done!
Of course you showed them, your buddy too. Your spirits were stronger than any hateful words or actions on their part. Sorry so long, but I’m passionate about teaching, especially during these times... be well Andrew. Alex from LA.
wow, this is so needed for anyone being bullied. i especially relate to when you said about not being able to concentrate on school(classes)because i would always focus on the part of the day where i was trying to avoid guys that were bullying me. please, please if anyone reads this comment do like Andrew said, and not what he and i did, nothing, do something, tell someone, say something back, don' be scared, there are more of us out here that accept you for who you are than the one's bullying you. thank you andrew
Here’s the problem with bullies at school: they break social norms by their rudeness & aggression & intrusion into our privacy, all of which causes us personal humiliation. Bullies have an inner radar for picking on those who don’t fight back; after all, picking on a fighter means a bully could get hurt, and bullies are basically cowards who operate on the basis they’ll get away with their bullying. Most kids who are bullied get stuck on two things: (1) often they think they don’t have the skill set to verbally challenge a bully, and (2) there’s always a chance that challenging a bully could escalate into a physical confrontation even worse than just a verbal assault.
So, what’s a kid to do? A: Don’t be silent; defend without aggression your right to be left alone. A bully often will not be deterred by one act of protest, but repeated speaking out, in public and firmly with conviction (raise your voice a bit above conversation level), will bolster your own self-confidence, dent a bully’s enthusiasm, attract others who will agree with you, and (hopefully sooner rather than later) get the attention of those in authority. If, after a couple of weeks, the bully persists, go directly to the principal: lodge a formal complaint, request action, and don’t be dissuaded (an apology alone is not enough) till the bully agrees in formal session to alter his/her behaviour.
Postscript: be prepared for some backlash - some kids at school will think you, not the bully, are the trouble-maker - and cold-shoulder you afterwards. This is a tough life lesson (not all your school-mates will come through as real friends) but you will be stronger for it.
I am SO SORRY to hear about that Andrew. I am fortunate enough to not have been bullied at school, I cannot imagine all the things you are going/went through as a kid/adolescent. For anyone who is being bullied, I think the best advice is that you should ALWAYS find someone to talk to (your parents, teachers, friends, school counsellor etc.). Please please please don't think it would be a burden, they are always there to help you. Findings the courage to speak up is NEVER a sign of weakness, stay strong and I hope things will get better in time!
I was bullied so much in primary school, verbal, psychological and even physical violence. Bullies are so cocky when they attack in group. When in reality they are cowards and poor souls. But they cause a lot of damage, mostly in your soul, and that's the most difficult to heal.
I'm in my mid 30's now and still dealing with stuff from then
I was never bullied for being gay because I wasn't out yet and still am not out yet and I'm almost 21 but I was bullied. Back in 4th grade this kid would grab me by my shirt and always tell me i had to give him 20$. Every day he'd do this and would even punch my jaw sometimes and always harass me for money so he can go to McDonald's. And just like Andrew I did nothing. I didn't go to an adult and i didn't get help. Friends, please bring a teacher or anyone into this kind of situation before it's too late. Fast forward to high school he actually became a much better person. He'd say hi to me here and there and senior year I helped him do interviews for his school projects and we both just never really brang up the past. We just went on from there. I don't see him anymore but we do follow each other on social media.
Andrew as always I love the content you you make and You help inspire others to be who they are and I'm sorry you went through that. Much love my friend❤❤❤❤❤❤ And much love to you❤❤❤❤
I’m 21 and still not out. Homophobia is the reason. I’d like to have someone, but also I don’t know how to find anyone. It sucks.
Bullies are arseholes and have caused me a lot of confidence issues.
@@unknownentity742 totally agree with you 100%. Tbh I would come out as a proud gay man it's just the only thing holding me back are my parents. I'm in school rn and they are the only ones who are helping me with everything and I love them a lot. Problem is they are strict Christian believers and they don't accept gay people. There will always be people who say mean words because people like us are different and sometimes their minds cannot be changed. But there are many more people who do not judge others on how they look, where they are from or how they identify themselves. Those are the people whose words truly matter. And until I'm finally on my own that is when I tell my parents the truth.
Jack, we have to do what’s right for us. Everyone does. It’s harder for you because of the strict Christianity. I don’t have that to deal with that, but I have to deal with people talking shit about gay people all the time. People making gay jokes about me because I’ve never been in a relationship, or because of the music I like. Or people just talking shit if they see a gay person or something. I’m going to move overseas so I can just be myself and start fresh without all the judgement.
Lahhhhhhh, Sometimes people just be mean, but, my trick was just being mean and frank to them, and be the EXPLOSIVE BOMB in school.
Andrew,
Thanks for this message! I too was bullied in high school and only when I made life changes and stood up for myself things changed. Love what you do here, and I look forward to your videos! Take care! ❤️
I have to admit I don't usually watch these longer videos bit for some reason I watched yours today and am so amazed how wonderful of a young man you are and how caring too. You have a great view on life and all I can say is you would be great as a mentor to kids in school and probably save so many lives both gay and straight and for that we can all be thankful. Thanks for the time you spend opening your heart.
It's hard experiencing these aggressive bullying situations. I started getting bullied in the 3rd grade. Mostly kids picking on me for being gay, which I had no idea at that point in my life. It took many years for me to learn how to stand up for myself.
Thank you for sharing your story 😍
Andrew, love watching you and listening to the history you lived through. I was bullied when I was younger. I finally had enough and stood up for myself too. You're just awesome and I love having you to enjoy. Be good.
Andrew, the sensitive way you handled the bullying issue is awesome. I'm sure your story will affect someone who needs to hear it. Your advice to "tell someone" is the best. I'm new to your site, and just spent an hour and a half looking at your videos--I like you already! Great work.
Love you Andrew! So sorry for having to endure being bullied growing up. I too was teased and bullied growing up by classmates and my brother with his friends. It was hell and I fought back which didn't help any. Made it worse. The best answer is talk to someone you feel safe with that can help you in your situation. In my day I didn't have to worry about social media because computers weren't around yet. So glad about that. Be strong because it does get better eventually and don't be afraid to confide in someone what you're going through. Don't do anything stupid by taking your own life. That doesn't solve a thing. It just brings more heartache and pain to your family and friends. You are just as important in this world as anyone else and never forget that!
I’m so much older than you Andrew, but went through all the same crap. Your videos have so much value, and I hope others find comfort in what you say and how you say it. You’re a gem of a person. Peace.
Ilysm Andrew. Your stories/advice help me get through hard times.
THANKS Andrew for the advise I'm sure this can be very helpful to someone who is being bullied.As a young man I was treated similar to your experiences and I would have appreciated some help like you have talked about,it was a long time ago but I still feel the sadness of those days.Take care,you are one awesome guy!
you're a better person than i am. i was bullied a lot growing up and it wasn't only the humiliating stuff, but also serious violence. lots of those bullies are now miserable, some are actually dead. and i'm always happy about that. it might seem petty, but it gives me tremendous satisfaction and relief knowing they're often either in a never-ending personal hell or they died. karma works.
I’m a long time follower, but never a commenter. Thank you for this very honest and heartfelt story. I can tell it was very emotional and cathartic for you. It sure was for me just as a listener.
I think alot of people can take something from this. Young and old! Mental health is a serious issue and 1 factor which can massively affect your mental health is bullying. Learning from it and getting the help you need is important for your own personal development. If you dont seek the necessary help, it can later lead to negative consequences in the future. Thank you for sharing!
This video really moved me... Your #ItGetsBetter story is very inspirational and I'm sure it will help a lot, especially young people who are still struggling with bullies and ignorant people. I was bullied too when I was young and I know how it feels... I made the same mistake as you did and always tried to deal with it myself, never told someone else, but in some situations others that were there at the time noticed and some of them tried to help me... So, whatever the situation or what you feel at those moments makes you think, just know that you are not alone in this, somebody can help you get through, it really does get better. I'm an EMT now, working and studying, providing for myself and helping my parents as well, travelling and learning languages, always trying to improve myself and to help others as much as I can. Money can't make you happy, but it can change your life for better in allowing you to make a life for yourself as you want it and deserve to have, away from the bullies. They don't deserve the pleasure of hurting you, and you should feel sorry for their miserable lives... Always try to be the best version of yourself, treat others with kindness or as you would like to be treated by others, don't be cruel to any human being or an animal or a plant, protect nature as your life depends on it, help someone in need if you can, and always be safe and take good care of yourself. Learn from your mistakes and learn even more from the mistakes of others, and don't let anyone make you believe that you are not good enough... Be careful in trusting strangers, 'cause they might use your trust and information against you, not everyone is trustworthy and kind-hearted, but don't live your life by yourself alone... There are many of us who are willing to help and won't try to hurt you. I've been hurt and bullied so many times as a kid, but still decided to stay strong enough to get through and to live my life, and dedicated myself to help others and work in a health care institution and emergency center, and I try to save as many lives as possible each and every day... My story with bullies is much longer than Andrew's here, but not more or less important or relevant than his, or anybody else's, I'm not gonna get in any details, but all you have to know is that it will get much better and easier as you get older... Believe in yourself. And never, never stop learning! 😊
So powerful, so inspirational, wonderful! Andrew, you're a beautiful person, all of you! So much gratitude! 💛
Hi Andrew, sorry you went through those hard times growing up. You came through it and seem to be a kind loving person. I was always a bit of a loner but had some friends and family to rely on. It is really important for kids to tell someone as you say. More important for anybody in authority to help these kids so they do not have to go through being tortured. Take care , proud of you, Bill
I too was a victim of bulling in grade school and to lesser degree in high school. I'm from Arkansas, In fact I went to college at ASU. Lived all over Arkansas but finished high school in Wynne. Your description in your video ringed true. My situation was the similar , I was awkward, and was raised in a Jehovah's Witness religious cult. I'm much older than you but it has affected me my whole life. I'm also in the health care field and living now in Louisiana. Your success in life heart warming.
Thanks for sharing that very important message. Bulling people never stops for some, DT. Your an inspiration to us all.
Andrew !!! Holy Sheet !! This was-without a doubt-one of the best vids I’ve EVER seen on YT !!! It was from your heart...& the very depths of your SOUL !! I was bullied in MS & HS but nothing like your nightmare-& daymare !!! Only because of your patience & tolerance & other gifts of passivity (maybe curses!!) were you able to keep on going. But you’re right-you should have done SOMETHING !! However, you just weren’t ready !! I would wager that hundreds of young people will be touched & helped by this vid. It was so open & frank & REVEALING !! I’m just in awe of the information you shared. Maybe another similar vid could be helpful some time later on. You have incredible gifts of heart & mind...& remarkable maturity !! This was a profound look into your inner psyche...it’s so full of solid & enviable character. Never change !! You can do soooo much good for others-just being Andrew !!
Andrew, it's a club of which many of us have been members. School is a rough time. It's been a while since I was in High School. It was because I was bullied that allowed me to make the choice to become a School Teacher. It was a good choice, but I will say that many times bullies don't change no matter at the age. As adults, it becomes a matter of the law. My advice for school kids is to tell your parents. Get involved with the school system. Make it a legat position becasue schools are responsible fo the children from th time they leave the porch of their home until the time they enter their hom eupon their return.
You describe the anger turned inward element of depression very well. It is very painful. We all experience bullies. Taking it can result in broken bones. I remember my nemesis very well. Like you I was small. A teacher in high school was my rescue. Things did get better, but it was slow.
We need to be very careful with advise that things today are easier or more acceptable. Help is more accessible than it was in the 60's. Finding support is critical. We need to be sure that it remains funded and accessable. It is becoming more and more important that we stay aware that our networks are being attacked more than we can allow. The war for human rights is getting hot again. The bullies are getting public forums again along with fear fired support. Ignorant hate is growing and the push back is getting burried in a pile of other issues. The safe places are still here, but there are a very vocal number of people who want to see them removed and blocked. Things as they are today are under direct attack. We have to leave the party and check things out a little more. We have to start leaving the blinds open and sit by that window all time (almost 😉). How we live is not anybody's business, but a lot of narrow minded zealots are going back to making our business theirs. If successful, kids will not be able to to actually learn that they are not alone. Going back to being labeled as perverts in schools and public places could be returning. History is being revised. I actually heard someone I know label Stonewall as a justified police action last week. That is not better.
You do a lot of great things, Andrew. This is one of them. Kids should not be bullied. None of us should be bullied. So far it is unacceptable, but we are going to have to be sure that it remains that way. We all have been staying comfortable in social media. I am starting to see the hate moving in to some of our forums and definitely in political ones. It is normal to see a progressive idea stated and the author labeled as a fag. The comments just slide by. We can't let things slide by in silence like we did in school. You are right. Because we are not standing our ground we are going to lose it. We also need to defend other "minorities". United, we are the majority. Human lives matter. Life matters. Lance Black has some good points. We need to look at them and think them over.
End of rant. I liked the Nike shirt. You don't seem to wear things like that accidentally.
Bullying can come in all shapes and sizes. I never had a 'bully' at school but I did have a friend who would be really nice to me at church but at school he would constantly pick on me, push me ( I had scrapped knee's for 6 months) and worst of all exclude me. We hung out with the same friend group but he would constantly try and seperate me.
Best way to deal with this type of bully is to be as nice as possible while he bullies you in front of people. If your friends see you getting bullied for no good reason they'll be on your side. Thats what happened to me. My friends told him if he wasn't nicer to me then he couldn't play with us. He stopped bullying and we became good friends for several years.
Thanks so much for sharing Andrew. Very relatable content that will resonate with a lot of your viewers. As others have mentioned the anxiety surrounding the topic can really bring people to a dark place. Thank you for sharing the "light" at the end of the tunnel. You have a positive impact with so many, keep it up bro!
My advice for anyone being bullied, make time for yourself where you can preserve your inner thoughts with ambitious goals and thoughts that take your mind to a better future. There are so many stories like Andrews to success, saving these types of videos in a youtube playlist are great motivators to keep you optimistic in-between taking action towards your dreams and realizing what you can become :)
Wow thank you so much for this. A lot of what you said was eerily similar to my own high school experience. Soundtracks (especially Narnia) got me through so much during bus rides. I also found more confidence in my self towards the end of high school when I had a much more solid friend group in band that made me feel more comfortable with who I am. Video games, like WOW, was of course the thing that kept me sane when I got home. Now I am a composer making music for movies etc myself. Its crazy how much better things get as time passes... I think the best advice I could give, besides what you said, is that make sure you have positive outlets for yourself. Whether it is music, video games, or faith/prayer make sure you have something to help keep you focused on the fact that you are worthy of being the best version of yourself and to pity those that can't see that for themselves to the point where they take that out on others. At least that is what helped for me.
I enjoyed classical music as a teen and it's kinda surprising to find someone who enjoyed it during their teen years too. Great video by the way Andrew. I can relate to a lot of what you said and it encourages me to change myself and be more confident like you did. Keep it up.
Thank you for this great message. As a teacher, I would recommend for any student to tell their school counselor or nurse if possible. They will keep your information confidential and they have a direct line to the administration who will make sure something is done!
Andrew i Love it when U Talk - Just - Like - This, Open / Honest & always from the heart - im So sorry U had to go thru all this & this was a part of your journey & Childhood. it has made U the Amazing Human being U are Today 💎We Survive what doesnt Kill Us & someday we thrive 🙏 The Andrew we all Know & Love ♥️
OMG. Andrew. I’ve watched your videos recently, and you have helped me come out, seriously, you have. And I’ve been so lucky to have my friends completely support me about being gay, everyone I have told so far has supported me 100%, I cannot believe you got bullied, but look at you now, it’s an inspiration that I haven’t been bullied, yet, and you are successful. I just need to come out to my family now, that’s the next step. You’ve helped me be more confident on being myself. Thank you. 🧡
Most people will probably write "Find a grown-up". But, sometimes that's isn't enough.
It's all about finding a "sympathetic adult". There are still quite a few teachers that
feel it's "none of our business", or "You need to be more tough". It's unfortunate that
LGBTQI will always be a minority in most schools. There are still High Schools that
don't have Gay/Str8 Alliances. I understand, as I was picked on, in school, because
I was average, awkward, and clumsy. I was so glad when I graduated! I am so sorry
you had to deal with that growing up. Nice to know you survived it, and are doing so
much better in your life.
Andrew .. so much wisdom! Thanks for sharing .. your inspiring me at 58 to be a better person! .. Can't wait until your next post ..
Andrew, We are survivors of the bullying. I experienced the same stuff happening to me in Elementary, unfortunately my vice principal and principal were somewhat in on it because they wouldn't resolve the issue and wanted to lay the blame on me. That's why I transferred schools in 5th Grade and am now currently a sophomore in High School in a small town in Indiana and haven't had, but a few insidents here, but they were quickly resolved. Also I notice in what your friend said about G.A.P. while not saying that saying is wrong and am not discriminating, but just thought I would do a little research and this is what I found. You're truly an inspiration and I wish you best of luck!
"The retailer took its name in homage to "the generation gap," a term popular in the late 1960s describing the intellectual, ethical, and social gulf between young people and their parents' generation. The inspiration for this first jeans-only store came from Donald Fisher's frustrations as a consumer: he was finding jeans hard to shop for, having to travel to several different stores to examine a variety of brands because no one location housed them all." Found this on www.funtrivia.com/askft/Question70064.html
Thanks for sharing Andrew. I can relate to being made fun of while growing up. It’s not easy to share the ridicule and hardship you have suffered. Our struggles shape who we become. Those who never struggle, never grow.
Thank you, Andrew, for having the heart and compassion for those younger than yourself that look up to you and creating this video. Being bullied is tough, and you're right to say to never, ever do it alone! Telling someone you trust makes all the difference in the world! I think you're doing a fantastic job and keep it up!
"If you tell the right person"... I wish I had found a "right person" when I was getting bullied. I was bullied at both school and church/scouts, both my mother and I reported the bullying and violence to everyone we were supposed to - teachers, sunday school teachers, scout masters, bishops (Mormon), etc. - but literally no one cared. Teachers even watched from a few feet away and wouldn't get involved. Their excuse was that "boys will be boys" and that it didn't matter that I was getting beaten up, humiliated, and made afraid to be in places that I should have felt safe in. I never found the "right person" to get help from and there was only so much my mother could do without getting violent herself. The bullying largely stopped in my new High School when I spent most of my time among new people, who weren't a part of my church or old neighborhood - but it picked back up again in college and was again church related. The only way I ever got the bullying to stop was to completely disassociate myself from the entire religion that had dominated my life for over 25 years. I had to disassociate from virtually everyone I ever knew and try to carve out a life elsewhere. It's been excruciatingly hard to cut myself off from everything I ever knew and jump out into the unknown, and it's been extremely painful watching everyone I cared about (and who I thought cared about me) turn their backs on me, stab me in the back, and abandon me when I left the LDS Church. But in the end, I'm not being bullied and humiliated anymore. I have no friends right now, but I'm working on healing and getting myself into a new life, it ended up being the only way to save myself the constant pain I was experiencing.
Sometimes there is no one safe you can reach out to, and when that is the case - you're in the wrong life and need to find a way out; without being rash, which can put you in even bigger danger. Put yourself and your safety, sanity, and health before what other people demand of you - even if that means putting your religion on hold.
I hope life has continued to get better since you wrote this one year ago. As an ex jehovahs witness i can relate to being shunned after leaving the church
Great video Andrew a lot of guys needed to hear your story and advice to over come being bullied, Great video keep up the good work I support you all the way.
Glad to see how far you've advanced in life Andrew. Thank you for sharing your experiences.
Great video! I’m lucky enough to not have been bullied when I was younger, but your story is still inspiring, even for me. I do wish you’d be vulnerable more often on your channel and Instagram. Of course people put their highlights on social media, but I feel like that adds to our community’s vanity and insecurities. With the professional shirtless pics, and “seemingly” non-stop beach days and travel, it can make those who look up to you or emulate you feel less than, because there lives aren’t perfect. Obviously you shouldn’t be apologetic for your successes that you’ve worked hard for, but the more you (as a huge influencer) are, the healthier our wonderful online homo community can be!!!
Omg i never have been bullied, but this story is just so beautiful! It really touches me! I just want to hug you now! You're a huge inspiration to so many people! Great job with this video!💙
You became a hot successful doctor living the California dream. Those bullies are nothing compared to you. Look who's laughing now. Andrew, you inspire me.😊
The worst about being bullied as a child, is that it never really leaves your system.
I was bullied badly during the first 7 years of school.
8th - 10th grade were fine. So was highschool.
I was therefore completely unprepared for it to return as a boomerang when I started in college.
So bad, it had me leave my dream study. I regret to this day, that I didn't understand how to ask for help.
I have had low self-confidence for my entire adult life, and in my twenties I had severe depression. It's hard to know for sure, but I think that the bullying I faced in my childhood contributed to my emotional problems decades later.
Being disempowered is possibly the ultimate wound a bully can land. Be brave and find someone to share your experiences with. You have the right to feel safe. Don't despair.
I was in high school between 1988-1992. A different country, a different time and a completely different world. Times have changed. Strange how the core values of bullying don't change.
Andrew, you have offered from great coping mechanisms.
From my experience, turns out people I went to school with were going through stuff of their own. Those I've had contact with don't really acknowledge what happened to be.
There are no excuses. No matter the reason. No matter what people around you believe is true. In the 21st century people have access to so much help thay can be accessed anonymously. Wish I had but a fraction of what around now. Tap into it. Create your own story and live your own truth.
Always loved your story times, u r one of the best story teller.
Your experience sounds all too similar it’s actually scary.
Sitting in the bus seat, alone, looking out the window, listening to the soundtrack of a game I liked to try and calm me, as others poked fun at me.
In the end I did exactly what you advised at the end and told someone. It worked well for me and put a stop to it all. I’m still really insecure about myself and my appearance to this day, but at least its just me criticising myself and not a group of others doing it too.
Thanks for this, it’s nice to know you’ve had a similar experience and are now in a much, much better place. It gives me hope, you know?
Thanks Andrew it means a lot. Love you ❤️
Thank you Andrew for opening up and sharing so much about what happened to you. It happens to too many people and young people. Hopefully this is helpful.
What a beautiful story about showing those bullies how you're muscly now !
You are such a damn inspiration, a week a go we got a assignment, for English class wear you needed to ride 100 words about someone that inspires you and you wear the first person that crossed my mind, I just love your content and you in general ass a person, your positiviteit and your realism, really thanks for being you and putting yourself out there it's really appreciate💜
Thank you, I had the same experience growing up. I appreciate you sharing your story.
Hey Andrew. This is a wonderful video for people going through this kind of bullying. It's great to see you again. When is the big move to LA? Has it happened yet? Lovin ya guy.....
Thanks for this. I was being sexually abused by my stepfather, so I was weirder by the minute. I was terrified and passive in elementary and middle school. In high school I began acting out in self destructive ways, but one key element made things better, ironically: I owned my weirdness. I rejected their rules of the game. Rebellion takes strength and many folks respect that. What bullies are running from is reality, and what they fear are consequences, so calling them out deflates them. Plus, the kids that respected me made it uncool to pick on me.
Andrew, you're an awesome and inspiring individual. ♥ To those that are bullied, stand strong in your being, you are loved, find help and support asap. Pray for understanding, guidance, and courage and pray for these lost souls offending you (not an easy thing to do). We've all been given an incredible and miraculous gift and some just don't realize just how wonderful and powerful this gift really is, many until it's too late! Strive to choose love and not hate even in the midst of hate. Know that you affect the world.
GREAT video!!!! I'm 58 years old and I can still feel some of my bully days. I told my brother what was going on and he helped me understand that they were just jerks. Then I came to tell my boyfriend and told the bullies to back down. Oh my bf was a year older and he was know for gymnastics. So I guess I can say that my bf made me stand up for myself. Those good ole days. I learned to understand life better. as the old saying say "back in those days". I can say social media does help a lot.
I can empathize with this it’s hard growing up with kids bullying each other and making it hard to just find self acceptance…good video and enough to make a subscriber out of me!! Keep it up!
“It Gets Better!” Bullied all through school. Yes, later in high school I got a job and was learning more about life. I realized that yes, it didn’t matter. I grew and matured and left that world behind. Always stay the course. Be you. Do You! Everyone is different even if it doesn’t seem that way. It is not easy, but coming out the other side is amazing and the things that await you are beyond your wildest dreams! Thanks for covering this Andrew! Great video! ❤️
Great video andrew. Thank you for sharing your story. It always a hard story to tell but you are so amazing to share. You helped alot of people in the same siutation
Amazing Andrew. Actually made me tear up a bit brought back memories for me as well. Thanks for sharing.
I also got bullied from 2nd grade to 8th grade, and I did nothing about it. My father punched me at home, my siblings told me to get away from them, and insulted me like all the time. I also was really ugly that time. In 8th grade I tried to commit suicide, but survived it. Then my mom took me to the psychiatrist, I told her the things with my father, and she handled it. She also handled my siblings. The psychiatrist therapy helped so much and I was able to build up so much confidence during the summer holidays. I also worked out a bit, got rid of a lot of the acne (not all), went to the hairdresser like all 3 weeks instead of all 3 months....
At my first day of high school (I didn’t even „know“ I was gay) I was shivering and almost crying in class, and the girl next to me, she gave me her phone number and said:“You look anxios and sad, if there is anything I can do to help you cutie just message me“ And she was like my best friend for the first months of high school, and in high school I don’t get bullied at all. I see how a former bully of mine gets bullied. And I know this is wrong, but I like to see that.
So however in high school I can handle like all of the people and i like almost all, and with the time I found like my friends, and well that all was in 9th grade, and my best friend I did everything with now moved to Turkey, so I am actually really afraid of going to school next week again.
However in Austria 🇦🇹 (where I live) the High School System is very very different from like the US.
You can choose of different types of schools, so basically the groups of people with certain interests stay together. Like I go to a school which is like just theoretical and kinda advanced, and of some people it’s seen as not manly or sth like this, and I got bullied almost only of such people (and I also know from other boys, girls I spoke to had different experiences, they were almost only bullied by other girls).
Ok that comment got way too long haha and sorry for my bad English 😅
Andrew I love your sit and talk story videos. I can't remember being bullied in school myself maybe because I was that guy that could hang with most any click but wasn't in them. Had great friends too. Loved the pictures of the young nerdy guy you used to be. Your still a nerd nothing wrong with being a nerd 🤓.
It's hard to believe that I have watched you for the last 4yrs. Enjoy all your videos but these are the best. And now I am rambling. Anyway thanks for sharing.
This is a really nice video, Andrew.
I know the video is about bullying. But it somehow inspired me to keep going.
I feel down at the moment, and I’m not even sure why. Hearing you say the words “it will get better” made me feel better. Thank you for the jump start! #optimism
Have a good day to you!
I like your shirtless posts. Makes me want to work harder. It’s unfortunate how people just want to belittle you or put you down because your different or are trying to better yourself. Keep up being yourself and being awesome.
Andrew, thanks for this video. It brings a very, very important lesson to anyone who watches. Thank you for sharing your experiences with your followers - they make a difference! Have a great day.
you're such an inspiration . wonderful video on your stuggles growing up. i've slowly catching up on your videos & they are all so great
Damn cool to hear you used to listen to classical and movie score type music. I listen to those aswell, not exclusively though, and I just feel incredibly insecure about sharing that info about myself with others. Has been since forever and I don't see it changing quickly. Actually quite a lot of your story reminds me of myself and I too wish I was more confident back then. Still working on that aswell.
andrew i think you are a beautiful person,you definitely grow into yourself just right and your personality shines thru
This was nice!
There is more to one's life than to worry what other people think, and congrats for taking your life back in charge!
Absolutely awesome video and so appreciate how well you discussed and provided constructive and positive ways to deal with … I too was a late bloomer and often felt like a boy amongst men and hated it at the time … now I look Much better than them at this point in my life!
Bullying now is so hard to avoid just because social media has so many access points into your life.
Great story time Andrew. I’m sure this story and information will help someone someone. And also gave me tips on what I can share as well with someone needing help.
A good story told, we don't live in a perfect world and it's important to tell these stories. Bullying is a disappointing part of some peoples character.
Bullying is terrible for those who experience it.
Thank you Andrew for sharing your experiences.
I also had the same experiences in elementary, middle, and high school. I came here in the 5th grade and from the get go I was bullied both verbally and physically. I tried everything to fit in with the group of people that harassed me and that was sorely one of the biggest mistake of my life because the bullying never ceased and at every moment I’d make silly excuses for why they were doing it and completely neglecting the trauma of being made foolish in front of people that won’t matter and will never matter to me. This made me tear up a little because it brought back the low points in my life and it gave me the realization, that as an adult I still have the tendency to do things from that era in my life.
40 years after high school I got an apology from one of my bullies. It made me sad. I just accepted the apology and told him that I enjoyed the attention at the time since we were the only guys with hairy chests and legs. Just don't take the bully too seriously and be happy.
Just wanted to say this was so encouraging! Thank you Andrew!
I can not believe anyone could have ever done such horrible things to you. You’re so precious. This one hit home because I went through the exact same thing. Growing up in a small Georgia town, it wasn’t so gay friendly. People aren’t open and accepting. I’m so sorry that happened to you and I’m so proud you turned it around and used it to create so much positivity and so much happiness for all of us. WOW! Still crying.
Andrew your such a great person. if the people that bullied you saw the great person you have become, they would rethink about bullying you. I’ve never been bullied so I might say something wrong
But I guess the experience makes a fragment of who we are. It Tells us what people think. and really it doesn’t matter what they think about us. We are who we are and they can’t take that from us. I don’t care if they think I’m ugly or if I’m stupid or not “hard” ( honestly I have no clue what they mean by hard ). You should go tell somebody, it really does help. I’ve have had lots of friends that have been and it does help to tell someone. Find something that can brighten your day ( I watch Andrew, Ellen, play lol etc...)
Just remember that there is light in the world and there will be a time we’re you will be able to be with people that like you for who you are. You can change yourself, but not for them, do it for you.
Have a good day everyone
Funny my situation was very similar. Ugly duckling situation and I was severely bullied, especially in high school so I played world of Warcraft. Kids always booked checked me and one of the smallest kids in school bullied me, which I kinda think is funny now. The bus was the worst for me, almost everyday these two guys would throw stuff at from the back of the bus, we were the only 3 people left, and the bus driver clearly knew it was going on. I never told anyone.
When I was finally comfortable in my senior year, found a gay friend who actually turned out to be my worst enemy. Told everyone I was gay, spread rumors about me, and glued my locker and stalked me even at my house. I think it was more of a jealously situation since I didn’t “like him” but he really made me hate high school. I ended up just ditching a lot my final year, and I barely graduated.
I don’t think people realize how much it can really fuck up your education and your social life, it sucks when you’re the one person to be ganged up on in school.
Thankfully I’m mostly past it now, but i still find myself cynical to people, almost just like a weird hatred/distrust for everyone. Its kinda fucked up lol.
Thanks for sharing your story, no doubt this will help kids understand there’s a way out and it truly gets better. 💙
This is perhaps one of the best videos that I’ve seen in your channel so far. Not that I did not like the others but this is really truly deep and inspiring. You might have been an ugly duckling through high school according to you but you turned out to be a successful 24 carat gold guy. The advice you give is honest and to the point. I am lucky to have never been bullied and I even stood up for kids that were. Unfortunately that was a long time ago and you are certainly right, today bullying is worse and meaner. This video should be made available to everyone. I am really impressed by your sincerity. I really hope you do more videos like this because you will help a lot of young people and keep doing the shirtless ones they are nice to look at as well. As I said before you seem to be a very caring, loving and heartfelt guy and this video proves it. Congratulations!! 👍👍
Andrew thank you so much for making this video it was amazing. I feel like after watching this video I know you so much better. And whether you think so or not I do believe videos like this will help people.
Andrew, I loved this straightforward narrative. Great video.