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That’s sad how we exploit human mind. Like we give to charity for us anyway to feel good about ourselves. Charity organisation ( church first...) understood it and tell us how beautiful , precious are our kindness and even sometimes we have stickers or way to showing others how good we are. First I think to have this kind of lottery is worse because it’s in way totally assumed but i think next that’s actually admirable to exploit this human ego. for good causes and really smart because we’re irrational and greedy. That compounded with our needs to please ourselves and society.. Just for saying ( even if you don’t care or don’t want to care because that’s unhealthy to care about others mind) I presume you did a great partnership I like all videos I watch from you, that’s makes me smile.
I would advise you to get an IQ test so that they could see if you have a learning disability. They will be able to accommodate you that way at school. I know how frustrating it is, as I have issues, too. Don't give up on life. You have plenty to give. We all need help sometimes.
If a neurotypical says that their brother was "cured from autism" then the brother is probably suffering badly while the neurotypical is happy.... 😡😡😡😡
I'm assuming you're talking about them shutting down from abuse and hurting on the inside. I know that and it is horrible. But people can also heal from traumas and stressors and feel good and function better as well given the right circumstances.
@@kanaler5924 Yes but more specifically I'm talking about them putting their brother in shock therapy which inflicts pain on them and deprives their memory while the ableist gets to be happy cause they don't have to take responsibility for helping their brother coup with the parts of being autistic. Wether it's meltdowns shutdowns stims or behavioral traits. This is a frequent thing amoungst alot of ableist people. It's selfish and dehumanizing.
@@Tellitubbie that's true, I don't like how people treating this mental disorder like it's a disease that'll end us all. That makes me sick and disgust me for people thinking that, that's why I care about people with disabilities (either it's learning or other) and I'm fine with that.
Unfortunatley "idiot" is an ableist term within itself. Its a slur referring to people with intellectual disabilities. Maybe change it to something like "Well you don't look ignorant" Or "You don't look like you like to be wrong about things but there you go". We shouldnt fight ableism with more ableism, however unintended /gen
not looking autistic is what got me to stay 22 years undiagnosed, absolutely hate that autism is only diagnosed by psychiatrists who arent autistics and only know of it through literature that was written by other neurotypicals
I quit a job many years ago because of a severe conflict with the owner of the group home I was manager at. We had a boy who self harmed by slapping his head. It could be very violent and he caused damage at times and had bald patches. I learned that if he wore a bandana or even a ball cap, that he didn't slap. He was calm, engaged and even verbal when most of the time before that he was mostly non verbal. So something, obviously, was upsetting him and causing discomfort resulting in his hitting. So obviously, wear a bandana, right? No. The owner flipped her lid, and would not allow it. "it's a crutch" she claimed. She wouldn't allow him to go on outings, or even be in the common room for activities if he hit. He was punished and often restrained "for his safety" I fought her hard, but at the end of the day I wasn't there every minute of every day and this poor kid suffered. If she showed up and caught him with a hat on she would lose it, take it off him and cause a meltdown. This, along with other concerns I had about the children in that house ended up with me having no choice but to report what I believed was an abusive environment for several of the kids there. She knew it was me, and took it out on them. Restricted activities, took away basic rights to the community. I left, because I couldn't handle it any more but I didn't stop trying to get the authorities to look into this woman. A few months after I left, the owner passed away suddenly. The kids were all removed and placed in different settings. I saw him years later in a highschool I was working at, he was in school with a one to one, and he was wearing a bandana. I was so happy to see him thriving, yet so angry that it took the death of a wretched woman for him to be allowed such a simple accomodation. Random overshare I'm sorry, if you made it this far I thank you. I too am autistic and I tend to go on and on.
Tbh that “sudden death” sounds pretty sus 😂 i can’t imagine the pain and suffering that those vulnerable children went through. How much can one person, let alone a kid, take before they snap? Whether it was coincidence or not that the woman died, I’m just glad everything worked out in the end for the kids.
@@thatswhat.-she5527 she was a truly horrible person. She would take in kids in CAS (Canada's version of CPS or DCFS etc) because they were high profit kids. She had a house with kids 6 to 18 all different needs. Some behaviour, some abused and removed from the home, some autistic, and other developmental issues, and just threw them all together expecting to run a program efficiently. It was awful. Not many were sad to hear she passed.
Thank you for sharing. Those are awful circumstances- how could anyone be so horrible? That woman was just annoying; what possible reason could she have for doing that? Anyway, I'm glad that child now has the right (I hope) accommodation they need.
I had someone say my son didn’t look autistic either.. I asked them what they thought it looked like, and then they showed me a picture of a person with Down Syndrome. I was like that’s a different disability but they thought it was the same thing.. I was just astounded by their lack of knowledge. These videos are great. I hope more people are educating themselves more.
Omg.i have a racist version of that ,my only NT kid had his hands checked for creases by a health visitor when little. And I knew exactly what she was looking for ,she was looking for down syndrome creases.We just have mixed genes including mongoloid (east asian/native american type of genes not downs syndrome) our eyes are just different because of that but so are several other things such as our teeth or the kids being born with mongolian spots.I was just wtf ,did she just do a racism.
@@Dimensionalalteration wtf dude yeah I get the "wait did they just do a racism" moment - racism, sexism, ect (I am white so I only know other isms) sometimes comes and we are like - wait did that just really happen? seriously?
"If you are not Autistic, you will never speak for any Autistic person." I don't think this could have been stated any better. A$ has recently been calling themselves a part of the Autistic Community, and I'm honestly livid about it because the overwhelming majority of their Board of Executive Directors (if not the entirety) is NOT AUTISTIC.
I would also include NT parents of autistic children in this. They can talk about the parental experience, they don't know what it's like to live in an autistic brain.
@@AngelErrene I don't think this is 100% true. Autism can be a genetic trait, but carrying the genes for it doesn't necessarily mean that a person is automatically Autistic.
They're higher up on the face. I've noticed that, myself included, there's more eyelid space. It might have to do with uncontrolled masking or mirroring, because when I relax my face people ask if I'm ok even when I'm fine
This isn't really the same (I'm neurotypical) but my friends - we are nearly all queer - said that my face looks gay or non binary. I'm ace-aro and non-binary so they were half right. I still don't understand why my face is gay. "It just does." is not a valid explanation in this instance. Like, dude, is it my features, the structure of my face (these may be kinda the same thing idk), or is it my expressions? I don't get it. Someone help.
I have an autistic son and I love him dearly. He is capable of amazing things if given the chance. But societal biases towards Autistic people keep him from being all he can be. He was diagnosed after he was 21 so he can get no assistance because the arbitrary rule is you must be diagnosed before you are 21 in order to be eligible for help. Thank you Paige for speaking out and educating people about the realities of Autism.
The same thing happened to me. Thing is I couldn't get an official diagnosis because I was past 21 so despite the psychiatrist stating that if they could they would give me a diagnosis I was left unaccommodated. I've basically given up for now.
Sorry for the language the will follow this sentence. What kind of moronic law is that? Just because he is of age doesn't make him need less help it doesn't work that way.
I’m on the autism spectrum, I also have complex PTSD, and a physical handicap. I hide from the world, because I’m so different from others. And I feel out of place when I’m around people who have never experienced people like that. I can’t remember the last time I’ve gotten the whole “you don’t look autistic” thing. Someone actually told me that I didn’t look like I had the physical handicap, but they knew I did. And I actually found it to be interesting, I wasn’t even offended. I’m sure someone would say that I didn’t look like I had CPTSD. But this is one of the many reasons why I hide from the public eye, is because of how different I am from others. I even try to mask my CPTSD.
@@susanmurfy thanks. It’s not always easy. But each and every day, I really do my best. If I really wanted a cure for anything, I’d say that I would want a cure for CPTSD.
I have similar issues along with Autism. It's honestly something I hear so often that it's kind of just an "eh" kind of thing. I did get chewed out once for having a handicapped parking plaque and still have the ability to walk once, but I rarely ever use it so it doesn't happen often. It's kind of funny the different ways people react when they find out you're disabled in some way when they didn't expect you to be.
The colour of your eyes is absolutely gorgeous. My favourite colour. Also this video is quite relatable and points out so many good arguments. Your videos have helped me feel more accepted as I was recently diagnosed with autism. Your videos have also helped me accept that my autistic traits are okay to have and that I shouldn’t pretend to be someone I’m not. Thank you❤️
i was diagnosed when i was a kid but my mom always said i was cured, and i didn’t socialize until high school, was bullied a lot until people found me cute because i’m like a “manic pixie dream girl” and then i had a meltdown or shutdown everyday and learned that autism is not a disease. But in my country when i had my diagnosis it had another name and now i have to go trough all of the process even if i don’t have no money for it, and it’s so hard to just hear people on internet say that i’m faking because the fucking name changed, or that it doesn’t matter because nothing is gonna change, or that i’m not autistic i’m just a pisces
I've been wearing an infinity/rainbow necklace recently and have been getting lots of compliments on it. I finally had a woman ask what it meant and I explained it's for autism awareness. She just looked at me with wide eyes and asked if I have a child with autism. I told her I'm autistic and she follows with "and you have a full time job!" . She works with kids who have autism and clearly has a view of autism without the 'spectrum' part of this disorder.
I f*cking love you for taking the sh*t and draining of emotions and energy for us. Thank you. I appreciate and love having you for representation. Seriously. Thank you for everything you do
Words to live by: “Everyone is fighting a battle you don’t know anything about. Be kind.” I have CP. And it’s depressingly difficult to look back a realize how much my struggles were actually shaped by ADHD and PTSD that wasn’t diagnosed until I was in late 20dd / early 30s. People see a wheelchair, which tells them exactly one thing about me, and that’s usually where the inquiry stops. So thankful for a psychiatrist who took his time, and believed me. If you relate to this video, you are not alone. 💕
table of contents: 2:51 - "you dont look autistic" 4:00 - "you dont act autistic" 4:47 - "you dont speak for everyone" 6:27 - "youre high functioning" 7:37 - "just get over it" 8:02 - "autistic people dont deserve to be here" 8:49 - "vaccines cause autism" 10:10 -"my brother was cured from autism" 11:46 - "youre not autistic" 12:54 - "if you eat this
@@kanaler5924 well yeah cause the comments are aimed at her, so obviously it's self centered? And I think she did a good job explaining it. She's entitled to be rude when these comments are so rude. Furthermore, she doesn't/can't speak for every autistic person, because she only knows her own experience, so what she's saying is going to be centred around her own experience and sense of self
@@elizabethhalt2096 yeah well she is talking to the camera and the people watching which most of them have not been rude to her. But she talks as if she is telling the listener off, that's rude. And she often talks as if she knows it all and only her perspective and beliefs are valid. Which she doesn't and they aren't, that is rude and selfcentered.
That's why I look forward to living off the grid in later years. I think its about time that we as autistics create our own communities. Not all of us can cope with the integration among neurotypical society.
girl, i haven't watched the video yet but i recently found out i'm austistic and started my journey to get the formal diagnosis and since my best friend recommended your content i feel like i've found a new best friend and you are one of my favorite human beings. lots of love from brazil s2
Our society is so freaking ableist. I was told having special interests was a bad thing all my life. My (ex) psychiatrist even put me on antipsychotics, not because I was having psychotic episodes after severe trauma in the span of a few months, no no no; but because of my special interest, which is the paranormal , the afterlife, consciousness, and I collect tarot cards. The psychotic episodes were pish posh and could be handled through talk therapy, apparently. But a harmless special interest?! Oh no!!!!
Yes, autistic people are overmedicated and overpathologized. It's actually a thing that autistic people experience a lot, they can go to the doctors with anything and get offered antipsychotics, because the doctors only sees the autism. There's also a problem of social workers being biased against autistic mothers and trying to take the children away from them at the drop of a hat, interpreting any difficulty or mistake no matter how small as them being incapable of looking after a child because of their autism.
I work with autistic primary age children. We have a saying; “when you’ve met one autistic person, you’ve met one autistic person”. There is no “looks like” or “acts like” for autism, everyone has different traits, likes/dislikes and accomodations they need.
At times, one should just blame the media for it, because the media portrays autistic people as nerdy, socially awkward white men. You never see many unrepresented groups in it and it's hard. I appreciate you lots Paige!
However, a lot of autistic people/ADHDers have noticed Paige from Atypical on netflix, and pointed her out as an autistic girl and ADHDer...so there's hope.
I regularly am told that I don’t look autistic but I ended up not having screening because I was too “textbook autistic” my psychiatrist said it would be a waste of money and time. I tell people this and say I’m the poster child of autism and then ask them what they think an autistic person looks like?
I am freshly diagnosed and yesterday I had my first comment “you don’t look autistic”. I thought I was ready to answer but I wasn’t. I have no idea what I said. I dissociated and tried to talk but I don’t remember anything I said.
Can I just say "I adore you!" I also loved your mum's video with you. To me you are always open and clear and inclusive of views. You make sense!! Thank you for sharing your thoughts and taking all the flack and giving us the script to help. I need the these words being a mum helping my girls through this minefield of people not understanding!
'You don't speak for everyone' Paige in about half of her videos: If you've met one autistic person, you've met one autistic person, we are not all the same Literally saying everyone is different, and she's only speaking about her own personal experiences
People say autistic people need to create a mask to interact with people. I do not. I reprogram my brain, and it pisses me off when biology gets in the way. I am especially pissed off when my own emotions get in the way.
I’m recently learning about myself being on the spectrum and while I look at a wide variety of content to make sure I’m not limiting my research as I do this, you have been such a HUGE example for me of things I’ve been dealing with since childhood and never knew other people experienced. Also my favorite number is also 12 🥰
It's funny because although my ADHD effects basically every aspect of my life, and some things are so frustrating, idk if I'd want to be neurotypical, it seems really weird tbh
As someone on the spectrum, I completely relate with what you said. Most of the time I don't understand NT people (how they act and think), and funnily enough it seems exhausting to me? Just the thought of talking "normally" to people and doing "normal" people things seem so... weird. And hard.
A couple of my autistic friends were making jokes, calling themselves the R word, as well as 'stupid' and having a 'low IQ'. I tried to explain that IQs, and the understanding of someone being stupid is rooted in ablism and they don't listen. What can I say? (they're y8, I'm y9).
Sweet Anita literally just made a video addressing accusations of someone faking Tourette’s Syndrome. It pains me to know that if you have ANY disability, whether it causes you to outwardly behave differently or not, there will ALWAYS be an armchair warrior just looking for something to say, something to stir up, something to speculate over. These people need to leave us alone lmao
A majority of the people making and who have made big discoveries tend to be on the spectrum! Famous example, Albert Einstein, nikola Tesla, davinci, and so many more! I love my special interest(s). Sometimes too much 😂
@@draalttomfp6902 Don't you think it is a little arogant? I respect autistic people like every other human beings but it seems they need a lot of support to function peacefully and comfortable. Society is built not only on geniuses closed in their workrooms. It needs also people who will be able to function under stress factors like noise or disorganized day plan.
@@draalttomfp6902 You have a bunch of other problems that can make you disorganized any time so please, just STOP being arrogant. If you think society run only by autistic people would be cool then it looks like your discriminating others.
I LOVE watching your videos! They are SO educational and I feel like I relate to most of the things that I've watched. Please never stop what you are doing. I feel like you are helping so many people understand, especially myself
I'm on the spectrum and I think it's Asperger's syndrome. Usually, I get sensory overloads outside because of people screaming and some other things and it's very discomforting. My special ed teacher makes me stay outside, even if I'm in sensory overload. When I do react, I would get yelled at and it made me feel like an idiot who doesn't belong anywhere. I commonly hit myself when someone yells and I mostly hate myself. I often think to myself "Why was I born?" or "I'm such an idiot.". As a result, I absolutely hate school.
People are surprised when I tell them I am autistic cos I don't show it, apparently. Then again because I'm not "normal" like they are, they get annoyed. I feel so stupid that I am such a burden to them, which is why I hide. They can't hurt me then. Well, not to my face at least.
I use to use the "high functioning" label for myself but started to feel that. I was downplaying the struggles that I do deal with all the time. Now I will say things like "I'm having a high-function kind of day today" or "I'm not functioning well today" to better differentiate to my peers and help them better understand that even rudimentary parts of me like speech or motor function can and do just sort of turn the heck off and I can no longer function as they are use to me doing.
Wow, the way she describes these responses is just relatable! For her, I can just completely follow along with what she's saying, but for most neurotypicals on TH-cam doing an explanation, it can still be relatable, but just... more indirect. This is just more direct and I feel like I can connect directly to her thoughts more. IDK why, just my opinion.
Thank you Paige for your straight-forward words & for this channel. I just found it. I'm 65 years old & just discovered my autism. I have lived in Texas for years & have not seen my millions of dollars, nor my dream house yet. Looking forward to hearing more from you.
Hey Paige, I wanted to know a second opinion but my therapist wants me to get ‘used’ to loud noises even though I have spd, adhd and am in the process of getting assessed for autism and I have told her repeatedly that I have had to deal with loud noises for 12 1/2 years and it sucks because it gives me headaches and have never liked loud noises and I don’t know why people think others can get ‘used’ to loud noises, what’s your opinion please. I need some else’s view.
it sounds like your therapist is ableist in regards to this. you shouldn't have to suffer through something painful to please other people or make them comfortable. accommodations (like noise-canceling headphones or earplugs, for example) are a way better option. best of luck to you from a fellow autistic/adhd-er/neurodivergent!! ♥
autistic person here, that doctor is wrong and you should get the accommodations you need to feel comfortable :) we don't have to 'put up' with things for other people's convenience
You need a different therapist. The fact is, no therapist should be treating someone that may be autistic, unless they have discounted autism,... amd/or have experience with How autistic people differ from non-autistic people. What may work with someone Not autistic, may be ruinous with an autistic person. Get another Therapist,...to hell with a second opinion. Drop this one like a hot potato.
Getting vaccinated whilst already autistic needs to become a meme. I was just trying to unlock autistic superpowers when I got my shots.....I'm so dang disappointed, I just got dizzy and sore lymph nodes.
I’m not autistic, but I’ve been recently diagnosed with adult ADHD. That answers a lot of questions for me about why I act the way I do. I wish I had this diagnosis in childhood, but better late than never. I enjoy your videos. Just wanted to say hi!
THANK YOU FOR THIS VIDEO IT IS VERY MUCH NEEDED I WANT TO SEND IT TO ALL THE ABLEIST OF THE WORLD!!!! Actually just thank you for existing and posting all that stuff because it really is important❤️
literally the first thing my primary care dr said to me when i told her i know i'm autistic and would like to get tested? "i've only interacted with you on a limited basis, but i gotta say you dont look autistic"
when i was 9 my grandma switched my diet to completely gluten free, like as if i had celiac disease gluten free (i did not) because someone told her it would "cure" my autism. it didn't. it changed the one thing i felt i had control of (food), caused a lot of trauma around food, made me malnourished, and did nothing for my "behavioral problems" (which were really just me being unaccommodated and miserable). in pursuit of making me "normal" she exacerbated all the problems she set out to "cure", and made me malnourished. and ruined my relationship with food.
Preach! Also the fact about sharing a home with parents serving as caretakers (advantage since I’ve learned to coexist and help around the house), but then again being an autonomous (not sure how to say stable and independence capable without sounding like a sore thumb), sometimes parents override your say “for the greater good” and even then coddle you at times to the point you never stray from their side and, well, be your best self at times. It’s complicated in parts. 😵💫
Hi, Paige! I love and appreciate your channel. Thank you for educating so many people including myself! I can’t watch right now, but I wanted to comment just in case you might see this. :D
could you please do a video about routines? like some advice to autistic adults about how to structure our time throughout the day. this is something i didn’t realize i needed until recently, but when i plan things out by what time i’ll do them, it helps immensely!! i’d love to hear what you’ve learned about this and what works for you.
Haha, you know what’s so funny is that my body doesn’t tell me to go to the toilet either! I will literally go through nearly an entire day then REMEMBER I MEANT to go to the toilet! I think scheduling is a good idea, maybe I’ll try it. Thanks for this video, I never know how to respond to people when they say this suff to me😊
A little over 10 years ago, when I was seven years old, I was in 1st grade. I was called the weird girl, the retard. My teacher even had a meeting with my mother where she said " Your daughter is add. It's like she has autism but she doesn't. " Now that I understand why I was called the weird girl. But now I use that label for my own benefit. I am weird and proud!
I'm getting assessed atm for an autism diagnosis, and the neuropsychologist I'm seeing told me it's unlikely I am autistic, although I have almost "all the traits", because, I'm quoting her: "If you were, we wouldn't be having a conversation right now with an easy back and forth, and you're very eloquent." I feel so crushed tbh. I thought she'd know that I've been masking my whole life and have learned since childhood to overcompensate in order to seem normal. So, it's 'normal' that I may seem 'normal' to people. I feel so unheard and sad, because my neuropsychologist is actually kind, but I don't think she gets me. I fear I'll never get an official diagnosis.. Sorry, I needed to vent a bit. English isn't my first language, so sorry for any mistakes. 😢 Edit: mistakes 😅, and also: hearing her words, it's also quite offensive? As if autistic people can't be eloquent and express themselves..
try and go with a list like a really really long list of all the traits you fit with, it’s the only way i got referred, but maybe seeing them all written down like that in such an overwhelming way will help them to see that it is a big problem to you that they don’t want to diagnose you, although this sounds silly and a but controversial it might be necessary to exaggerate a little like don’t be afraid to be a bit more dramatic than you usually would to make sure they know you are serious and it’s a real “issue” (i don’t actually mean issue but you probably know what i mean by using that word)
Wow that person needs to update themselves on masking and the different ways that autism can present. Sorry that you are having someone take the fact that you are verbal and saying that you can't be autistic just based on that. Another one that sux is that the DSM is written in the way that it typically presents in people AMAB and some people rigidly follow that description.
@@jasminebevan3785 I will try to do that, thank you! I had actually done a list, but I think I wasn't assertive enough, and when she told me all those words, I couldn't even argue because at the same time I have that imposter syndrome that messes me up.. Though your words give me hope for the next session. I hope it'll go well. Thank you
@Renee L Oh I'm sorry you had to live through that awful first experience, I'm glad that it went well for you with the second opinion! Thank you, I'll probably have to do that if my next session with my psy still turns out to be disappointing.. It sucks that we have to go through these struggles in order for people to listen to us.
@@amandamandamands Thank you so much for your support! Right? It makes me sad that so many professionals have this stereotypical vision of how autistic people are and end up giving false diagnosis, especially with afab people. I'm sad that my psy seems to be also quite biased. I hope the next session will turn out for the better though. It's exhausting that I have to be assertive in order to be heard, but even then I have the feeling my words fall on deaf ears
I feel it's not so much them saying I want to "cure autism" is the supposed reasons they give when they know we know the real motives. They think is helpful to the world to change anything that doesn't fit "the standard" rather than change their obvious toxic ideologies.
Thank you for this video (and your other ones too)! I knew very little about autism until fairly recently. A little background: I'm a weirdo and proud of it(not autistic as far as I know). I've raised my daughters to be weirdos too. And I've homeschooled them their whole lives... which is why I never had a teacher or counselor take me aside and tell me, "your kid might be autistic." My sixteen year old daughter came to me about a year ago, having done a bunch of research, and told me that she thought she might be autistic. So we got her evaluated, and in the meantime I did a bunch of research. So when we got her diagnosis, I wasn't really surprised. Now that we know a little about autism, she's working on not masking. She was masking so much that nobody thought that she was autistic. When we started sharing the diagnosis with people, we had a lot of people tell us, "She can't be autistic, because she was 'normal' as a child"... and I'm like, wait, what? She has always been strange. (And I don't mean that in a derogatory way at all!) Now we're trying to educate our friends and family about autism as we learn more about it ourselves. :)
Kinda off topic, but like Paige you would look AMAZING with shoulder length hair, while watching your video there was a point where your shoulders went up and it made your hair look that length and it was GORGEOUS
This is legitimately one of the best things I have ever seen. Finally, someone verbalising my views and experiences. I want all the neuro typical people in my life (so pretty much every adult I know) to watch this. They won't, though 😀 We are dangerous. We terrify narcissists, for example. I can see how we are confusing to many of our fellow humans. For people who don't like change, we sure are the ones who engineer a lot of it to make the world a better and more beautiful place.
I thought you were joking when you mentioned the bleach enemas. Then I googled it. That’s heartbreaking. Note to self: don’t expect an autistic person to use hyperbole to exaggerate a true statement. (Jk of course, I’m autistic myself and I love playing with metaphors, hyperbole etc 😉)
I cannot stand when people use that phrase “you don’t look autistic” it is so ignorant and almost too funny and too stupid to be angry at at least from my perspective, but it is grossly ignorant and apathetic and people who are not on the spectrum who have all these opinions that chime in really are way out of their depth and completely unqualified
Can u pls make a video about the r slur and how to respond to it I have been sadly having to deal with it a lot lately (mostly at school) and your videos have really helped me with my autism journey
I have cerebral palsy which is also subjected to eugenics and it is depressing to know that people can be such ableist bigots to kill and abort children because they are different in mind and body. Peers and adults have said these things to me and made fun of the way I have to do things some out of ignorance and others in denial but they all should have empathy so that these stupid hurtful things don't come out of their mouth. I had masked and wouldn't talk about my condition when people would say these things which I feel has kept me from connecting to people who are close to me but I was protecting myself.
I needed more time for things like tests when I was at school, because I couldn’t do them in the time given. My teacher’s response when I asked her about it (after my mum had also talked to the school about it) was ‘oh, but you’re clever so you don’t need it’. And that was even after I did much worse in an assessment than I could’ve because I only managed to do half of it before the test ended
I get told I don't look autistic all the time. largely because I am highly extraverted and will often initiate conversations. I don't even get mad at this though because I do get it. I usually explain if they hung out with me more often it would become apparent if they actually knew what they are looking for.
You are awesome, young lady!! Thanks for teaching, and affirming me. 51, 4 weeks, 2 days official diagnosed, ASD..5 decades 4+ decades of struggle... So freeing to finally understand ME 😁😇
I'm on the spectrum myself (self diagnosed because female and in my late 30s lol) but I have been navigating the resources for my 15yr old autistic son for his anxiety symptoms. Which means passing out his diagnostic paperwork, which annoys the crap out of me because that Dr says in it that his symptoms make him believe it is a "mild autism". I wish I could never use that paperwork ever again.
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You are AWESOME 😎 Paige!! Way to educate people on autism while making us smile.
That’s sad how we exploit human mind.
Like we give to charity for us anyway to feel good about ourselves. Charity organisation ( church first...) understood it and tell us how beautiful , precious are our kindness and even sometimes we have stickers or way to showing others how good we are.
First I think to have this kind of lottery is worse because it’s in way totally assumed but i think next that’s actually admirable to exploit this human ego. for good causes and really smart because we’re irrational and greedy. That compounded with our needs to please ourselves and society..
Just for saying ( even if you don’t care or don’t want to care because that’s unhealthy to care about others mind) I presume you did a great partnership
I like all videos I watch from you, that’s makes me smile.
Hey Paige just curious what the special needs you’ll need assistance with for the rest of your life or you’ll die? Just curious 🙂
I would advise you to get an IQ test so that they could see if you have a learning disability. They will be able to accommodate you that way at school. I know how frustrating it is, as I have issues, too. Don't give up on life. You have plenty to give. We all need help sometimes.
If a neurotypical says that their brother was "cured from autism" then the brother is probably suffering badly while the neurotypical is happy.... 😡😡😡😡
I'm assuming you're talking about them shutting down from abuse and hurting on the inside. I know that and it is horrible.
But people can also heal from traumas and stressors and feel good and function better as well given the right circumstances.
@@kanaler5924 Yes but more specifically I'm talking about them putting their brother in shock therapy which inflicts pain on them and deprives their memory while the ableist gets to be happy cause they don't have to take responsibility for helping their brother coup with the parts of being autistic. Wether it's meltdowns shutdowns stims or behavioral traits. This is a frequent thing amoungst alot of ableist people. It's selfish and dehumanizing.
@@Tellitubbie shock therapy, isn't that what they do to people in old movies about insane asylums?
@@gladysolvera6566 Sadly psych wards still use electic shocks on people who are depressed, at least in some countries. They call it ECT.
@@Tellitubbie that's true, I don't like how people treating this mental disorder like it's a disease that'll end us all. That makes me sick and disgust me for people thinking that, that's why I care about people with disabilities (either it's learning or other) and I'm fine with that.
“You don’t look autistic!”
“You don’t look like an idiot but there you go!”
Is my favourite response.
You made my day.
LOL
I'm stealing your response
@@joemann7971 I'm stealing it too,😀
Unfortunatley "idiot" is an ableist term within itself. Its a slur referring to people with intellectual disabilities. Maybe change it to something like "Well you don't look ignorant" Or "You don't look like you like to be wrong about things but there you go". We shouldnt fight ableism with more ableism, however unintended /gen
not looking autistic is what got me to stay 22 years undiagnosed, absolutely hate that autism is only diagnosed by psychiatrists who arent autistics and only know of it through literature that was written by other neurotypicals
Is there a law that prohibits practitioners with ASD from actively participating in the process of diagnosing a patient ?
@@михаеламаринова-в9д nope
I quit a job many years ago because of a severe conflict with the owner of the group home I was manager at. We had a boy who self harmed by slapping his head. It could be very violent and he caused damage at times and had bald patches. I learned that if he wore a bandana or even a ball cap, that he didn't slap. He was calm, engaged and even verbal when most of the time before that he was mostly non verbal. So something, obviously, was upsetting him and causing discomfort resulting in his hitting. So obviously, wear a bandana, right? No. The owner flipped her lid, and would not allow it. "it's a crutch" she claimed. She wouldn't allow him to go on outings, or even be in the common room for activities if he hit. He was punished and often restrained "for his safety" I fought her hard, but at the end of the day I wasn't there every minute of every day and this poor kid suffered. If she showed up and caught him with a hat on she would lose it, take it off him and cause a meltdown. This, along with other concerns I had about the children in that house ended up with me having no choice but to report what I believed was an abusive environment for several of the kids there. She knew it was me, and took it out on them. Restricted activities, took away basic rights to the community. I left, because I couldn't handle it any more but I didn't stop trying to get the authorities to look into this woman. A few months after I left, the owner passed away suddenly. The kids were all removed and placed in different settings. I saw him years later in a highschool I was working at, he was in school with a one to one, and he was wearing a bandana. I was so happy to see him thriving, yet so angry that it took the death of a wretched woman for him to be allowed such a simple accomodation. Random overshare I'm sorry, if you made it this far I thank you. I too am autistic and I tend to go on and on.
Thanks for sharing
Tbh that “sudden death” sounds pretty sus 😂 i can’t imagine the pain and suffering that those vulnerable children went through. How much can one person, let alone a kid, take before they snap? Whether it was coincidence or not that the woman died, I’m just glad everything worked out in the end for the kids.
@@thatswhat.-she5527 she was a truly horrible person. She would take in kids in CAS (Canada's version of CPS or DCFS etc) because they were high profit kids. She had a house with kids 6 to 18 all different needs. Some behaviour, some abused and removed from the home, some autistic, and other developmental issues, and just threw them all together expecting to run a program efficiently. It was awful. Not many were sad to hear she passed.
Thank you for sharing, it’s good getting to hear your perspective.
Thank you for sharing. Those are awful circumstances- how could anyone be so horrible? That woman was just annoying; what possible reason could she have for doing that? Anyway, I'm glad that child now has the right (I hope) accommodation they need.
I had someone say my son didn’t look autistic either.. I asked them what they thought it looked like, and then they showed me a picture of a person with Down Syndrome. I was like that’s a different disability but they thought it was the same thing.. I was just astounded by their lack of knowledge. These videos are great. I hope more people are educating themselves more.
Omg.i have a racist version of that ,my only NT kid had his hands checked for creases by a health visitor when little. And I knew exactly what she was looking for ,she was looking for down syndrome creases.We just have mixed genes including mongoloid (east asian/native american type of genes not downs syndrome) our eyes are just different because of that but so are several other things such as our teeth or the kids being born with mongolian spots.I was just wtf ,did she just do a racism.
@@Dimensionalalteration wtf dude
yeah I get the "wait did they just do a racism" moment - racism, sexism, ect (I am white so I only know other isms) sometimes comes and we are like - wait did that just really happen? seriously?
I too had someone say my son doesn't look autistic.
This genuinely made me laugh out loud. People are so freakin stupid hahaha
"If you are not Autistic, you will never speak for any Autistic person." I don't think this could have been stated any better. A$ has recently been calling themselves a part of the Autistic Community, and I'm honestly livid about it because the overwhelming majority of their Board of Executive Directors (if not the entirety) is NOT AUTISTIC.
I would also include NT parents of autistic children in this. They can talk about the parental experience, they don't know what it's like to live in an autistic brain.
I want to work in policy eventually after working in autism research for this very reason. I am autistic and want to speak for autistic people
@@linden5165 the problem is, autism is a genetic disorder, so at least one of the parents is autistic themselves, just without a diagnoses.
OH GOD YES (especially the nt parents/caregivers the media LOVES to give the spotlight to)
@@AngelErrene I don't think this is 100% true. Autism can be a genetic trait, but carrying the genes for it doesn't necessarily mean that a person is automatically Autistic.
someone once said I had "autistic eyebrows" and I will forever not understand how my eyebrows give off my autism?
I - fjfjfjfh WTF
They're higher up on the face. I've noticed that, myself included, there's more eyelid space. It might have to do with uncontrolled masking or mirroring, because when I relax my face people ask if I'm ok even when I'm fine
This isn't really the same (I'm neurotypical) but my friends - we are nearly all queer - said that my face looks gay or non binary.
I'm ace-aro and non-binary so they were half right.
I still don't understand why my face is gay. "It just does." is not a valid explanation in this instance. Like, dude, is it my features, the structure of my face (these may be kinda the same thing idk), or is it my expressions?
I don't get it. Someone help.
"Damn. These are the most autistic eyebrows I have ever seen."
I have an autistic son and I love him dearly. He is capable of amazing things if given the chance. But societal biases towards Autistic people keep him from being all he can be. He was diagnosed after he was 21 so he can get no assistance because the arbitrary rule is you must be diagnosed before you are 21 in order to be eligible for help. Thank you Paige for speaking out and educating people about the realities of Autism.
The same thing happened to me. Thing is I couldn't get an official diagnosis because I was past 21 so despite the psychiatrist stating that if they could they would give me a diagnosis I was left unaccommodated. I've basically given up for now.
Where is this s a rule?
Sorry for the language the will follow this sentence. What kind of moronic law is that? Just because he is of age doesn't make him need less help it doesn't work that way.
@@gladysolvera6566 you ain't wrong though
Wait what?? Where is that a rule? Because I'm in the U.S. and I got diagnosed at 25, but I haven't looked into any kinds of supports
I’m on the autism spectrum, I also have complex PTSD, and a physical handicap. I hide from the world, because I’m so different from others. And I feel out of place when I’m around people who have never experienced people like that. I can’t remember the last time I’ve gotten the whole “you don’t look autistic” thing. Someone actually told me that I didn’t look like I had the physical handicap, but they knew I did. And I actually found it to be interesting, I wasn’t even offended. I’m sure someone would say that I didn’t look like I had CPTSD. But this is one of the many reasons why I hide from the public eye, is because of how different I am from others. I even try to mask my CPTSD.
I admire your strength xx
@@susanmurfy thanks. It’s not always easy. But each and every day, I really do my best. If I really wanted a cure for anything, I’d say that I would want a cure for CPTSD.
@@siennaprice1351 The world is lucky to have you, Sienna. A cure for CPTSD would be so amazing I don't have the words.
I have similar issues along with Autism. It's honestly something I hear so often that it's kind of just an "eh" kind of thing. I did get chewed out once for having a handicapped parking plaque and still have the ability to walk once, but I rarely ever use it so it doesn't happen often. It's kind of funny the different ways people react when they find out you're disabled in some way when they didn't expect you to be.
@@frumtheground I never share my handicap publicly. Because I get asked such ignorant questions about it.
The colour of your eyes is absolutely gorgeous. My favourite colour. Also this video is quite relatable and points out so many good arguments. Your videos have helped me feel more accepted as I was recently diagnosed with autism. Your videos have also helped me accept that my autistic traits are okay to have and that I shouldn’t pretend to be someone I’m not. Thank you❤️
Yes. Such beautiful eyes, and such a beautiful personality and brain!!
maybe thats why her eyes are so big. so everyone can see the color.
More than “okay”! You are beautiful! Paige is right in saying that the world needs you. It does!
Any 'Genetically Modified Sceptic'-Fans here?
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Hi
i was diagnosed when i was a kid but my mom always said i was cured, and i didn’t socialize until high school, was bullied a lot until people found me cute because i’m like a “manic pixie dream girl” and then i had a meltdown or shutdown everyday and learned that autism is not a disease. But in my country when i had my diagnosis it had another name and now i have to go trough all of the process even if i don’t have no money for it, and it’s so hard to just hear people on internet say that i’m faking because the fucking name changed, or that it doesn’t matter because nothing is gonna change, or that i’m not autistic i’m just a pisces
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What did they call it in your country?
@@mariebo7491 What?
@@slevinchannel7589 blooming said they called it something else in her country. Wondering what they called it.
I've been wearing an infinity/rainbow necklace recently and have been getting lots of compliments on it. I finally had a woman ask what it meant and I explained it's for autism awareness. She just looked at me with wide eyes and asked if I have a child with autism. I told her I'm autistic and she follows with "and you have a full time job!" . She works with kids who have autism and clearly has a view of autism without the 'spectrum' part of this disorder.
Could be that it also gave her extra hope for her own students, learning that it's possible they wouldn't be held back as much as she had worried.
@@Dylan-go5iv Any 'Genetically Modified Sceptic'-Fans here?
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I f*cking love you for taking the sh*t and draining of emotions and energy for us. Thank you. I appreciate and love having you for representation. Seriously. Thank you for everything you do
Words to live by: “Everyone is fighting a battle you don’t know anything about. Be kind.”
I have CP. And it’s depressingly difficult to look back a realize how much my struggles were actually shaped by ADHD and PTSD that wasn’t diagnosed until I was in late 20dd / early 30s.
People see a wheelchair, which tells them exactly one thing about me, and that’s usually where the inquiry stops. So thankful for a psychiatrist who took his time, and believed me.
If you relate to this video, you are not alone. 💕
table of contents:
2:51 - "you dont look autistic"
4:00 - "you dont act autistic"
4:47 - "you dont speak for everyone"
6:27 - "youre high functioning"
7:37 - "just get over it"
8:02 - "autistic people dont deserve to be here"
8:49 - "vaccines cause autism"
10:10 -"my brother was cured from autism"
11:46 - "youre not autistic"
12:54 - "if you eat this
Thanks! 🤗
Her being very rude and extremely selfcentered, most of the video.
@@kanaler5924 How’s that rude? Defending yourself is rude now?
@@kanaler5924 well yeah cause the comments are aimed at her, so obviously it's self centered? And I think she did a good job explaining it. She's entitled to be rude when these comments are so rude. Furthermore, she doesn't/can't speak for every autistic person, because she only knows her own experience, so what she's saying is going to be centred around her own experience and sense of self
@@elizabethhalt2096 yeah well she is talking to the camera and the people watching which most of them have not been rude to her. But she talks as if she is telling the listener off, that's rude.
And she often talks as if she knows it all and only her perspective and beliefs are valid. Which she doesn't and they aren't, that is rude and selfcentered.
My ex therapist needs to see this since he thought being shy was autism just in 5 minutes the first session
I feel suicidal sometimes with how this world has hurt me
That's why I look forward to living off the grid in later years. I think its about time that we as autistics create our own communities. Not all of us can cope with the integration among neurotypical society.
@@TheQueenIsWithin I'm so down to start this community.
Me too. I know how you feel in some way. ❤❤❤ you're amazing and a gift to this world and being autistic rocks.
There's somewhat a community for autistics in the us, to my recollection.. It's called spectrum fusion. New. But hopefully growing.
Get help you need to stay you're loved
You do the thing i do. You do the * blinks really hard* thing that i do when i'm really really making a point. The Emphasis Blink.
girl, i haven't watched the video yet but i recently found out i'm austistic and started my journey to get the formal diagnosis and since my best friend recommended your content i feel like i've found a new best friend and you are one of my favorite human beings.
lots of love from brazil s2
Our society is so freaking ableist. I was told having special interests was a bad thing all my life. My (ex) psychiatrist even put me on antipsychotics, not because I was having psychotic episodes after severe trauma in the span of a few months, no no no; but because of my special interest, which is the paranormal , the afterlife, consciousness, and I collect tarot cards. The psychotic episodes were pish posh and could be handled through talk therapy, apparently. But a harmless special interest?! Oh no!!!!
Yes, autistic people are overmedicated and overpathologized. It's actually a thing that autistic people experience a lot, they can go to the doctors with anything and get offered antipsychotics, because the doctors only sees the autism. There's also a problem of social workers being biased against autistic mothers and trying to take the children away from them at the drop of a hat, interpreting any difficulty or mistake no matter how small as them being incapable of looking after a child because of their autism.
😊😊😊😊
I work with autistic primary age children. We have a saying; “when you’ve met one autistic person, you’ve met one autistic person”. There is no “looks like” or “acts like” for autism, everyone has different traits, likes/dislikes and accomodations they need.
At times, one should just blame the media for it, because the media portrays autistic people as nerdy, socially awkward white men. You never see many unrepresented groups in it and it's hard. I appreciate you lots Paige!
ah well i kinda fit that description maybe thats why i didn't get a much shit
However, a lot of autistic people/ADHDers have noticed Paige from Atypical on netflix, and pointed her out as an autistic girl and ADHDer...so there's hope.
I regularly am told that I don’t look autistic but I ended up not having screening because I was too “textbook autistic” my psychiatrist said it would be a waste of money and time. I tell people this and say I’m the poster child of autism and then ask them what they think an autistic person looks like?
There is a book in dutch; "but you don't look autistic?". it's a good read!
I am freshly diagnosed and yesterday I had my first comment “you don’t look autistic”. I thought I was ready to answer but I wasn’t. I have no idea what I said. I dissociated and tried to talk but I don’t remember anything I said.
Can I just say "I adore you!"
I also loved your mum's video with you.
To me you are always open and clear and inclusive of views. You make sense!!
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and taking all the flack and giving us the script to help. I need the these words being a mum helping my girls through this minefield of people not understanding!
'You don't speak for everyone'
Paige in about half of her videos: If you've met one autistic person, you've met one autistic person, we are not all the same
Literally saying everyone is different, and she's only speaking about her own personal experiences
I'm sorry but the "do I get a software update?" is so funny to me.
People say autistic people need to create a mask to interact with people. I do not. I reprogram my brain, and it pisses me off when biology gets in the way. I am especially pissed off when my own emotions get in the way.
“You don’t look autistic” Omg I get that a lot and my mom does too
I’m recently learning about myself being on the spectrum and while I look at a wide variety of content to make sure I’m not limiting my research as I do this, you have been such a HUGE example for me of things I’ve been dealing with since childhood and never knew other people experienced. Also my favorite number is also 12 🥰
It's funny because although my ADHD effects basically every aspect of my life, and some things are so frustrating, idk if I'd want to be neurotypical, it seems really weird tbh
As someone on the spectrum, I completely relate with what you said. Most of the time I don't understand NT people (how they act and think), and funnily enough it seems exhausting to me? Just the thought of talking "normally" to people and doing "normal" people things seem so... weird. And hard.
@Philip Nguyen that's not true.
@@analuizafelixdesouza6336 yeah some things they do just don't make any sense to me.
@@analuizafelixdesouza6336 especially how people interact with other people. 🤯🤯🤯
@@AKbaby89 exactly!
A couple of my autistic friends were making jokes, calling themselves the R word, as well as 'stupid' and having a 'low IQ'. I tried to explain that IQs, and the understanding of someone being stupid is rooted in ablism and they don't listen. What can I say? (they're y8, I'm y9).
"Does it cancel out? Like BEDMAS"
"You're literally a turd."
I am crying hahaha. I love you, Paige.
what the HECK is bedmas?
Sweet Anita literally just made a video addressing accusations of someone faking Tourette’s Syndrome. It pains me to know that if you have ANY disability, whether it causes you to outwardly behave differently or not, there will ALWAYS be an armchair warrior just looking for something to say, something to stir up, something to speculate over. These people need to leave us alone lmao
Why is Paige so underrated on TH-cam like geez she needs more subs D,:
She’ll get more.
I loved your comment on scripting I totally relate! and am still waiting on your video about masking!!!
Imagine how advanced we would be if every field of science had people with a special interest working on it
They do. Neurotypicals never made any big discoveries they can't
A majority of the people making and who have made big discoveries tend to be on the spectrum! Famous example, Albert Einstein, nikola Tesla, davinci, and so many more! I love my special interest(s). Sometimes too much 😂
@@draalttomfp6902 Don't you think it is a little arogant? I respect autistic people like every other human beings but it seems they need a lot of support to function peacefully and comfortable. Society is built not only on geniuses closed in their workrooms. It needs also people who will be able to function under stress factors like noise or disorganized day plan.
@@SigynRegn then just be organized. None of us have a problem with under our conditions. We just do it right.
@@draalttomfp6902 You have a bunch of other problems that can make you disorganized any time so please, just STOP being arrogant. If you think society run only by autistic people would be cool then it looks like your discriminating others.
I LOVE watching your videos! They are SO educational and I feel like I relate to most of the things that I've watched. Please never stop what you are doing. I feel like you are helping so many people understand, especially myself
"you don't look autistic" okay sarah please do an autism for the crowd
I'm on the spectrum and I think it's Asperger's syndrome. Usually, I get sensory overloads outside because of people screaming and some other things and it's very discomforting. My special ed teacher makes me stay outside, even if I'm in sensory overload. When I do react, I would get yelled at and it made me feel like an idiot who doesn't belong anywhere. I commonly hit myself when someone yells and I mostly hate myself. I often think to myself "Why was I born?" or "I'm such an idiot.". As a result, I absolutely hate school.
People are surprised when I tell them I am autistic cos I don't show it, apparently. Then again because I'm not "normal" like they are, they get annoyed. I feel so stupid that I am such a burden to them, which is why I hide. They can't hurt me then. Well, not to my face at least.
"does it cancel out" I laughed so hard. I love your videos, Paige!
functioning labels seem to just be a description of how well we assimilate into the spectacle, not how well we're actually accommodated
or how well an autistic person can accommodate to the needs or preferences of a neurotypical person they are interacting with
I think the word your looking for is Adapt
Exactly
Well said. Spectacle.
I use to use the "high functioning" label for myself but started to feel that. I was downplaying the struggles that I do deal with all the time. Now I will say things like "I'm having a high-function kind of day today" or "I'm not functioning well today" to better differentiate to my peers and help them better understand that even rudimentary parts of me like speech or motor function can and do just sort of turn the heck off and I can no longer function as they are use to me doing.
Just stop saying that it doesn't bring you anything
your manner of speaking and gesticulating is strangely satisfying, and the content is just clear and relevant. Thank you 💙
Wow, the way she describes these responses is just relatable! For her, I can just completely follow along with what she's saying, but for most neurotypicals on TH-cam doing an explanation, it can still be relatable, but just... more indirect. This is just more direct and I feel like I can connect directly to her thoughts more. IDK why, just my opinion.
I was told by my PSYCHOLOGY professor that I didn’t look autistic because I would do stuff like wear makeup
Thank you Paige for your straight-forward words & for this channel. I just found it. I'm 65 years old & just discovered my autism. I have lived in Texas for years & have not seen my millions of dollars, nor my dream house yet. Looking forward to hearing more from you.
You are awesome. My daughter is autistic and it’s great to hear your experience 😁
Hey Paige, I wanted to know a second opinion but my therapist wants me to get ‘used’ to loud noises even though I have spd, adhd and am in the process of getting assessed for autism and I have told her repeatedly that I have had to deal with loud noises for 12 1/2 years and it sucks because it gives me headaches and have never liked loud noises and I don’t know why people think others can get ‘used’ to loud noises, what’s your opinion please. I need some else’s view.
Loud bad. U r right
it sounds like your therapist is ableist in regards to this. you shouldn't have to suffer through something painful to please other people or make them comfortable. accommodations (like noise-canceling headphones or earplugs, for example) are a way better option. best of luck to you from a fellow autistic/adhd-er/neurodivergent!! ♥
autistic person here, that doctor is wrong and you should get the accommodations you need to feel comfortable :) we don't have to 'put up' with things for other people's convenience
@@PlanetaryDID thank you
You need a different therapist. The fact is, no therapist should be treating someone that may be autistic, unless they have discounted autism,... amd/or have experience with How autistic people differ from non-autistic people.
What may work with someone Not autistic, may be ruinous with an autistic person.
Get another Therapist,...to hell with a second opinion. Drop this one like a hot potato.
'omg she talks with her mouth'
i might rebute "and from where do you speak?"
her eyes are beautiful
Getting vaccinated whilst already autistic needs to become a meme. I was just trying to unlock autistic superpowers when I got my shots.....I'm so dang disappointed, I just got dizzy and sore lymph nodes.
I’m not autistic, but I’ve been recently diagnosed with adult ADHD. That answers a lot of questions for me about why I act the way I do. I wish I had this diagnosis in childhood, but better late than never. I enjoy your videos. Just wanted to say hi!
THANK YOU FOR THIS VIDEO IT IS VERY MUCH NEEDED I WANT TO SEND IT TO ALL THE ABLEIST OF THE WORLD!!!! Actually just thank you for existing and posting all that stuff because it really is important❤️
"if you eat this you can cure your autism"
"if you eat this knuckle sandwich you can cure your stupidity"
is what i'd use.
I would never trade the joy and passion I get from special interests, and the resulting drive that comes from it, for anything
I don't know who else needs to hear this but this girl, this girl is incredible. There needs to be more genuine people like her in this world.
best part of the video ~ "sometimes, we can be happy."
The way you speak relaxes me for some reason.
I loved this! Thank you! 😊 People say we're rude, and then they say things like that.
Lmfao, I laughed so hard at the "Do I get a software update?!" XD
Paige’s sarcasm gives me life
This just made me laugh out loud when I was having a really frustrating and hard day. Thank you so much💞♾️🌈
Thank you for this video, I’d like to share this on my private facebook because i just got diagnosed and i’ve received a lot of comments like this 😓
literally the first thing my primary care dr said to me when i told her i know i'm autistic and would like to get tested? "i've only interacted with you on a limited basis, but i gotta say you dont look autistic"
Félicitation all that school just to not know acting is possible.
when i was 9 my grandma switched my diet to completely gluten free, like as if i had celiac disease gluten free (i did not) because someone told her it would "cure" my autism. it didn't. it changed the one thing i felt i had control of (food), caused a lot of trauma around food, made me malnourished, and did nothing for my "behavioral problems" (which were really just me being unaccommodated and miserable). in pursuit of making me "normal" she exacerbated all the problems she set out to "cure", and made me malnourished. and ruined my relationship with food.
A.mazing. You go girl! Thanks for the inspo, it's high time we bite back and stand up for ourselves
She is so cute when she's sarcastic!
Preach! Also the fact about sharing a home with parents serving as caretakers (advantage since I’ve learned to coexist and help around the house), but then again being an autonomous (not sure how to say stable and independence capable without sounding like a sore thumb), sometimes parents override your say “for the greater good” and even then coddle you at times to the point you never stray from their side and, well, be your best self at times. It’s complicated in parts. 😵💫
Hi, Paige! I love and appreciate your channel. Thank you for educating so many people including myself! I can’t watch right now, but I wanted to comment just in case you might see this. :D
could you please do a video about routines? like some advice to autistic adults about how to structure our time throughout the day. this is something i didn’t realize i needed until recently, but when i plan things out by what time i’ll do them, it helps immensely!! i’d love to hear what you’ve learned about this and what works for you.
Haha, you know what’s so funny is that my body doesn’t tell me to go to the toilet either! I will literally go through nearly an entire day then REMEMBER I MEANT to go to the toilet! I think scheduling is a good idea, maybe I’ll try it. Thanks for this video, I never know how to respond to people when they say this suff to me😊
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@@slevinchannel7589 no but i have heard of
"and um, you know, make all the trees the same size" 😂
A little over 10 years ago, when I was seven years old, I was in 1st grade. I was called the weird girl, the retard. My teacher even had a meeting with my mother where she said " Your daughter is add. It's like she has autism but she doesn't. " Now that I understand why I was called the weird girl. But now I use that label for my own benefit. I am weird and proud!
I'm getting assessed atm for an autism diagnosis, and the neuropsychologist I'm seeing told me it's unlikely I am autistic, although I have almost "all the traits", because, I'm quoting her: "If you were, we wouldn't be having a conversation right now with an easy back and forth, and you're very eloquent." I feel so crushed tbh. I thought she'd know that I've been masking my whole life and have learned since childhood to overcompensate in order to seem normal. So, it's 'normal' that I may seem 'normal' to people. I feel so unheard and sad, because my neuropsychologist is actually kind, but I don't think she gets me. I fear I'll never get an official diagnosis.. Sorry, I needed to vent a bit. English isn't my first language, so sorry for any mistakes. 😢 Edit: mistakes 😅, and also: hearing her words, it's also quite offensive? As if autistic people can't be eloquent and express themselves..
try and go with a list like a really really long list of all the traits you fit with, it’s the only way i got referred, but maybe seeing them all written down like that in such an overwhelming way will help them to see that it is a big problem to you that they don’t want to diagnose you, although this sounds silly and a but controversial it might be necessary to exaggerate a little like don’t be afraid to be a bit more dramatic than you usually would to make sure they know you are serious and it’s a real “issue” (i don’t actually mean issue but you probably know what i mean by using that word)
Wow that person needs to update themselves on masking and the different ways that autism can present. Sorry that you are having someone take the fact that you are verbal and saying that you can't be autistic just based on that. Another one that sux is that the DSM is written in the way that it typically presents in people AMAB and some people rigidly follow that description.
@@jasminebevan3785 I will try to do that, thank you! I had actually done a list, but I think I wasn't assertive enough, and when she told me all those words, I couldn't even argue because at the same time I have that imposter syndrome that messes me up.. Though your words give me hope for the next session. I hope it'll go well. Thank you
@Renee L Oh I'm sorry you had to live through that awful first experience, I'm glad that it went well for you with the second opinion! Thank you, I'll probably have to do that if my next session with my psy still turns out to be disappointing.. It sucks that we have to go through these struggles in order for people to listen to us.
@@amandamandamands Thank you so much for your support! Right? It makes me sad that so many professionals have this stereotypical vision of how autistic people are and end up giving false diagnosis, especially with afab people. I'm sad that my psy seems to be also quite biased. I hope the next session will turn out for the better though. It's exhausting that I have to be assertive in order to be heard, but even then I have the feeling my words fall on deaf ears
It’s so frustrating that people assume we’d want to cure autism!! If the world accepted us, this simply wouldn’t be a question!
Right? It is all I have ever known. Although it presents its struggles I wouldn't want to change anything.
I feel it's not so much them saying I want to "cure autism" is the supposed reasons they give when they know we know the real motives. They think is helpful to the world to change anything that doesn't fit "the standard" rather than change their obvious toxic ideologies.
Thank you for this. Very helpful. How do you respond when people say "everyone is a little autistic"?
“Make all the trees the same size.”🤣🤣
Thank you for this video (and your other ones too)! I knew very little about autism until fairly recently. A little background: I'm a weirdo and proud of it(not autistic as far as I know). I've raised my daughters to be weirdos too. And I've homeschooled them their whole lives... which is why I never had a teacher or counselor take me aside and tell me, "your kid might be autistic." My sixteen year old daughter came to me about a year ago, having done a bunch of research, and told me that she thought she might be autistic. So we got her evaluated, and in the meantime I did a bunch of research. So when we got her diagnosis, I wasn't really surprised. Now that we know a little about autism, she's working on not masking. She was masking so much that nobody thought that she was autistic. When we started sharing the diagnosis with people, we had a lot of people tell us, "She can't be autistic, because she was 'normal' as a child"... and I'm like, wait, what? She has always been strange. (And I don't mean that in a derogatory way at all!) Now we're trying to educate our friends and family about autism as we learn more about it ourselves. :)
Thanks for the wonderful education as always!!
I just made a post on FB about the "whole dont look autistic" thing. Im constantly told that about my daughter. Like what does Autism look like??
As someone with Asperger I can say I hear this a lot WHAT THE HELL AM I SUPPOSED TO LOOK LIKE
Kinda off topic, but like Paige you would look AMAZING with shoulder length hair, while watching your video there was a point where your shoulders went up and it made your hair look that length and it was GORGEOUS
I always love learning more from you. Thank you ❤️
Ever since you enlightened me about the origins of "high functioning" I avoid using it.
the way your eyes literally hold me captive ✨
This is legitimately one of the best things I have ever seen. Finally, someone verbalising my views and experiences. I want all the neuro typical people in my life (so pretty much every adult I know) to watch this. They won't, though 😀
We are dangerous. We terrify narcissists, for example. I can see how we are confusing to many of our fellow humans. For people who don't like change, we sure are the ones who engineer a lot of it to make the world a better and more beautiful place.
I thought you were joking when you mentioned the bleach enemas. Then I googled it. That’s heartbreaking.
Note to self: don’t expect an autistic person to use hyperbole to exaggerate a true statement.
(Jk of course, I’m autistic myself and I love playing with metaphors, hyperbole etc 😉)
I cannot stand when people use that phrase “you don’t look autistic” it is so ignorant and almost too funny and too stupid to be angry at at least from my perspective, but it is grossly ignorant and apathetic and people who are not on the spectrum who have all these opinions that chime in really are way out of their depth and completely unqualified
"You don't look autistic!"
"Yeah. New top. "
Can u pls make a video about the r slur and how to respond to it
I have been sadly having to deal with it a lot lately (mostly at school) and your videos have really helped me with my autism journey
I have cerebral palsy which is also subjected to eugenics and it is depressing to know that people can be such ableist bigots to kill and abort children because they are different in mind and body. Peers and adults have said these things to me and made fun of the way I have to do things some out of ignorance and others in denial but they all should have empathy so that these stupid hurtful things don't come out of their mouth. I had masked and wouldn't talk about my condition when people would say these things which I feel has kept me from connecting to people who are close to me but I was protecting myself.
I needed more time for things like tests when I was at school, because I couldn’t do them in the time given. My teacher’s response when I asked her about it (after my mum had also talked to the school about it) was ‘oh, but you’re clever so you don’t need it’. And that was even after I did much worse in an assessment than I could’ve because I only managed to do half of it before the test ended
I get told I don't look autistic all the time. largely because I am highly extraverted and will often initiate conversations. I don't even get mad at this though because I do get it. I usually explain if they hung out with me more often it would become apparent if they actually knew what they are looking for.
You are awesome, young lady!! Thanks for teaching, and affirming me. 51, 4 weeks, 2 days official diagnosed, ASD..5 decades 4+ decades of struggle...
So freeing to finally understand ME 😁😇
Omg I love you. This is my favorite video you’ve ever made thank you. Gonna share it everywhere
I love rants
I'm on the spectrum myself (self diagnosed because female and in my late 30s lol) but I have been navigating the resources for my 15yr old autistic son for his anxiety symptoms. Which means passing out his diagnostic paperwork, which annoys the crap out of me because that Dr says in it that his symptoms make him believe it is a "mild autism". I wish I could never use that paperwork ever again.