Lets Talk For A Bit | Autism And Destruction | Fathering Autism Vlog #94
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 27 พ.ย. 2024
- A little bit of a rant today, lets talk for a bit. Autism and destruction...I know it's fairly typical to have holes in the drywall and overall destruction of the house with a child on the autism spectrum but it still sucks. This is autism.
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I am higher functioning autistic and 1. I use the puzzle piece because acknowledging the autism diagnosis has put so many answers in my hands to why I am the way I am.
2. Optimize your videos title all you want because it helps more people as your videos and get answers and perspective just as I have been helped and given perspective about myself.
I am a huge fan of what you're doing. Keep up the great work.
You are my absolute favorite channel out of all my subscriptions. :-)
When you say “does that make sense?” About Abbie’s missed school milestones,
It makes complete sense.
A human amount of sense.
That’s compassion. 💜
Watching this video, watching Asa put Abbie to sleep, I am struck by what amazing parents you are. So patient and so positive. You don't need to explain yourself to anyone for the words or the symbols you use to raise awareness about autism and more importantly to model positive and nonjudgemental parenting to a challenging special needs child. You are showing what unconditional love is and what it means to be a responsible, mature parents. You are walking the walk....
I love seeing the puzzle piece. Its like being a member of a club and seeing a club member. Love your channel.
Pick your battles. Well stated. We have too much of society sweating the little things and causing extra problems on top of real ones.
Your family is inspiring. My daughter is almost 3 she was diagnosed with moderate to sever ASD recently. My husband and I had no experience with Autism. We were overwhelmed confused and scared. Your Chanel has helped greatly. I have a lot of information to learn so I can help her be happy and your vedios have helped a lot. Thank you so much.
My daughter is high functioning and we love the symbol! She actually loves it, it makes sense to her. She says that we are all pieces in the puzzle and she fits somewhere she just has to find it. I actually found your channel and clicked on the video because of the title and images you use! Keep up your awesome parenting..
That’s how I interpret it too!
"With silver buttons buttons buttons
All down her back back back"
Making my heart melt ... so sweet .
Love your videos so much
You don't have to apologize for talking too much ever. It's a gift! We all love listening to you. That's why we tune in.
I'm have higher functioning autism and I like and use the puzzle piece to spread awareness as well as letting people why I am behaving in an unusual way. I really like your channel it has helped me to accept me and I now allow myself to stim in public, this has allowed my friends see when I'm having a hard time. After 7 years my friend has finally asked me how to help me when I have a melt down. And that's down to the fact that you have showed me it's okay that I have asd. Thank you for what you do keep it up.
I found your channel yesterday. Guess how I found you. I typed "autism" in the search box and your channel was the top result. So yes, the point you made at the top of the video is valid. I am learning more about autism but I especially love getting to know you and your family.
I like the puzzle piece as a symbol for Autism. I like to imagine when it's a bunch of puzzles pieces that are together, it's like the Autism community coming together ☺️❤️
I agree! My brother is high functioning and i work with kids all over the spectrum. People should cut the bs and semantics and focus on caring for those who need it. I think giving someone the tools to become independent and self sufficient to the best of their ability is more important than words.
I am a higher functioning person who used to work with nonverbal individuals long before discovering I am on the spectrum myself. I saw a heart and a peace sign with the puzzle peice on car sticker and I wanted it myself. People with autism are the missing puzzle peices. People should not argue about silly words and symbols. If they encourage communication and evolution then that is good. High functioning adults on the spectrum and neurotypical parents of newly diagnosed kids can be a great team if we can leave the arguments aside In order for actual progress to be made.
I love the puzzle piece. Mainly because with my kiddo, I have often been puzzled until I figure out some new tic or meltdown trigger. He can't tell me, so it is a puzzle. I love the puzzle piece. And I agree, we as an autism community (and communities in general) need to stop picking each other apart and start conversing more. Communication and understanding brings us all closer together.
Bless u, just carry on doing what u do best! Vlogging! Oh and parenting, obviously! Can u imagine how much time and energy it would take to word and edit every word so as not to offend anyone ever, don't think it would be even possible. Most people can see how much u guys love Abigale and how you put her needs first, above your own. God bless you.
Thank you so much for taking my question❤️I understand very well your answer. Full disclosure, I am the Nana to a 2 yo granddaughter who is autistic. I take care of her very often and she truly does light up my world🌈 Like your story I was the one who brought the topic of autism up to her parents, my son and his wife. Zoe is amazing and we are so Blessed that she is so sweet. I cried thru your answer because you are right on so many counts. I had just come from the locale high school where my children graduated from. It is homecoming and I just happened to be driving by and noticed the floats. It was fun to watch and at the same time brought that pang of loss realizing that Zoe may not have that experience and her parents won't either😞 Zoe is my one and only grandchild. She and I are very close. They relocated here in October 2016 from CA. Zoe was non speaking then and communicated with 2 signs they taught her as a baby. She called everything bah and was becoming increasingly frustrated with not being able to tell us her needs. I fought to get her into early intervention. She started speech therapy in February and when she said water I was ecstatic. I do understand your answer and it's people like your family putting themselves out there that help those of us feeling around in the darkness of autism trying to make our way. By the way the puzzle piece symbol, to me, does not just pertain to the autistic person but to all those who know and love an autistic person. I know I read, study, and expand my thinking on autism always finding a new piece to help Zoe. Thanks again and I am very proud of you both for your continued weight loss😱
The puzzle piece in my opinion is a perfect symbol, every puzzle piece is different, no 2 people are the same and no 2 autistic people are the same. They are different, quirky and completely their own. No reason to be offended by a puzzle piece, it's a beautiful symbol for beautiful people!
The puzzle piece is just a symbol! For me this symbol means, that everyone, regardless of Autism ithat we have to find our ways. An Autist has to find his way as everybody. Live is a puzzle. It means that we all fit with some others. Sorry, I forgot what I wanted to write because I listen to you.
Yes, the grief is cyclic. We go through all the stages of it over and over again. You guys are so precious to me and are in my prayers!
I'm so glad I came across your channel. My daughter was diagnosed with autism this year at the age of 2. You guys have honestly helped me so much more than you know by putting out these videos. Being able to relate is a tremendous feeling when we're going through some pretty big changes by now having a diagnosis.
This video in particular touched me. You discussed how happy you guys were when Abby made it to even the littlest milestones. It just made me think of when my daughter said "hi" with her speech therapist about 4 months ago. It was pretty much her first word that she had ever said. I completely lost it and bawled like a baby! I was so freaking proud of her. It's something I'll never forget. We're doing ABA now in hopes that we can get her to start speaking more.
People will always find something to get offended about. Your heart is always in a good place. Love you guys.
I remember a time (was in 2001/2002) when some people in an Aspie forum actually promoted the puzzle pieces - not as sign for incompleteness, but as sign for the love of details that so many people with autism share.
Please feel embraced. All of you. You’re all doing so well. Feel pleas sheltered. I know how it feels when your dreams shatter. 👋
I love that your 'rants' are always just thoughtful conversations and sharing your view in a calm and respectful way. If only more people could take a step back and voice their viewpoint that way then maybe people would hear what was being said more often.
+hannahxx17 Thank you. I think it's important to share opinions without telling others that theirs is wrong. It helps all of us to better understand one another and see the world from other's point of view.
Re: the question about getting offended: I get offended when people use the term "retarded" callously or use it interchangeably with "autistic." I triggers my anger. I can take whining from my kids for the most part, but by and large many "neurotypical" people just trigger me.
+Neil K The truth, all of it. I find myself less tolerant of neurotypical people.
@@fatheringautism just saying hi from az 💘🌠💘
It triggers my anger when people treat them like they are incapable. The world doesn't understand that there is no such thing as incapable and that developmentally delayed means "slow" not incapable. It just takes a lot of work and patience with them. Iv know a lot more people with mental challenges to be a lot more successful in life and they care a lot more and have a lot more motivation than a neuro typical person.
@@fatheringautism developmentally how old is Abbie now
Agree with you 100% My definition of the puzzle 🧩 pieces is my child solves puzzles. It’s a special symbol to us. Xoxox
I'm so glad to have found your channel. Our son Raimi is on the spectrum. Love everything you guys have done as a family. Much love from our family to yours. ❤
You always nail the personal conversations. Your families attitude about Abbie is exactly the same as mine and that's why I enjoy your channel so much. I have two boys on the spectrum. One is like he just dipped his toe in the autism pool. He is 7, goes to public school and doesn't need or have an IEP. At least not currently. My oldest is 9 he is moderate to severe and is in a special school like Abbie. Thanks for sharing the earlyvention box review too. I got the sibling add on and watching my boys play with their first box together was great. Love your channel.
I completely agree with you and we are all trying to fit in this world like a pieces of a puzzle.
Preach it! Being nice to one another costs nothing. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Congrats on your lifestyle change! Eating healthy and getting active takes time and patience. I used to weigh over 350 lbs and now im at 223.
Thank you for addressing the issue of "autistic girl" vs. "girl with autism." I had been wondering about that for a while (I'm here from 2020).
The puzzle- piece logo is awesome, like somebody else said in the comments=) 💓💕 I love being on the spectrum, as it's like being in this club which is brilliant!!! 😁😄 I'm high functioning too, correct- term is Atypical Autism 😊💖💖💖
I'm even on this ASD support group through Facebook, it is so great as you get to share ideas with like- minded people, voice concerns, ask advice, lastly share your feelings, it's just such a wonderful group!!! 😀 The group is even open to neurotypicals with any questions:) Abbie is super adorable, aww sleepyabbie! 😊😍😍😍❤💙💜 xo
I work for TeamPBS as a Behavioral Technician. Abigal reminds me so much of one of my clients. Sweet, gentle, smart, and sassy. My client is also nonverbal and has a therapist at school. I have a heart for those with special needs. I also have 2 younger brothers who are on the spectrum. I'm in college for Elementary Ed and considering working in a special need classroom, but I'm on the fence. I just want to let you know that I understand the struggle of having a child with autism. I'm not saying that it is a bad thing, but it is difficult. You do appreciate the small things, I was beyond excited when my client played independently for the first time. This is only my second video that I've watched of yours, but I'm already hooked and subbed. Keep up the good work with both of your kids, they will change the world one day.
The grief hit me when we had the initial speech evaluation about a year before the actually PDD-NOS diagnosis. Grief has several different stages though and at some point I felt like I drew strength from it to move forward. Since that time I grieve for other things (like broken relationships with others who are not supportive) but try to accept my son for who he is and look for the positive. It can be like a roller coaster ride and sometimes you feel like you're pushing a boulder uphill but the trick you have to play on you mind is to not think long term too long and enjoy each good moment for all it's worth.
I've always seen the puzzle piece as a piece of something greater like no matter what we are all piece of something greater and together we can make a whole.
The way I see the puzzle piece is each puzzle represents your family. Abby, Isaiah, Asa and Priscilla 😊
I have been watching these videos recently, and I'm actually obsessed! My cousin has low functioning autism, and he has limited social interactions, so he's now learning to Sign.
I absolutely love how calm and patient you are with her, you guys are amazing parents! It really shows! Keep up the amazing work!
Oh, Isaiah is really cool too, I've been looking at some pictures on his Instagram, and he's got a real talent! Also, we're almost the same age! I'm 16.
Hey
Just discoverd your vlog.
Wow Abi is just like my 8 year old daughter and watching through the vid's the similarities of day to day ( or hour to hour....if you know what i mean)life are striking.
As a father with a child like ours i can really understand what you mean with such situations where you are confronted by emotions of ''mourning'' the kid abi could have bin.
I had to walk out of store's/conversations at work/.... because suddenly it hitted me.
I find it remarkable the way you 2 are handeling it and still bring such positivity/energie/... in your life.
Good job
Greetings Bart
we love our children for who they love and accept them for who they are not for what they could have been. many parents have had to fight so hard just to keep thier very ill child in this world or are fighting constantly for thier child's health. Treasure those you love because life is so short.
Everyone seems to get offended by something all the time. Old adage, you can’t please them all. Glad you touched on this. I live by i”if you don’t have anything nice to say don’t say anything at all”, ya know live and let live BUT sometimes I have questions, legitimate questions so I can understand something, and all of my comments are “too long, don’t read” but I have to overly explain myself because tones are never expressed adequetly and if you don’t know me you may not understand that I’m being genuine, so I do that and properly explain my intent in the nicest fashion and still someone out of no where will jump all over me thinking I’m ignorant though I literally type out my kindness and genuine interest. 99% of the time I’m afraid to even post. Though the original uploader I’m asking is always kind there are rabid supporters, fellow commentators who take offense though you as a content creator don’t. Seems like you can’t win, not you, rather me who is genuinely interested and supportive. All I want to do is learn and be nice but some make it impossible or rather deter others.
Oh my goodness. I love the personalities in this family. So kind and hilarious.
I live by the motto if you don't have nothing nice to say just don't say anything at all
We definitely have learned to appreciate the small things! Yesterday was the first time our 3.5 year old told us All Done after dinner, rather than throwing his plate across the kitchen. It was amazing.
Working as an ABA therapist for many many years, I have witnessed parents getting upset over so many unintended comments. I've heard other therapists who clearly care for the children they work with get lectured for calling a child "autistic." (I was trained by my agency not to use this language from day 1.) But people may say things that unintentionally offend parents or others. Instead of judge them, sweetly educate them about why this isn't the preferred language. Or...brush it off! These people love your children and think of them as people first! As a new mom myself, people constantly comment on the fairness of my son's skin tone. He has two ethnically Irish parents. Yep, he's pale. People have called him albino on many occasions, "Powder," "Casper." And yeah, sometimes it bothers me if I don't have that type of relationship with the person, but otherwise I just ignore the comment or brush it off like "yes, he's got that Irish skin." Moral of the story: be forgiving of others. Don't judge them for unintentional comments that may offend. Sweetly educate them or just move on!
We are new to the world of autism. Our son is being evaluated for autism. Your videos are very informational. Thank you.
+Rachel Ranjel Thanks for watching! I’m glad we can help.
I love the puzzle piece symbole. I feel Its fitting. My 14 year old ASD sone's thought process is like a puzzle that I need to understand. I don't think of the symbole as meaning that there's missing pieces, I think of it as symbolizing the need to figure/"puzzle" /understand. Once this "puzzling" is accomplished ya'all just might see the big picture, and realize that were all not so much different from each other than you thought.
Gosh... you guys are amazing parents. I am so inspired at your day to day. I'm sure you don't feel inspiring, but let me reassure that you totally are. Also these videos are amaze... editing on fleek
Okay, I've just found your channel today. And I can say that I'm obsessed! I am from Russia and I'm studying to be a special ed teacher. I love your family and your kids. You are so down to earth and honest. Definitely subscribing
You also make new dreams, and learn so many new things, new adventures. Such as, you guys would never have the experiences you have with Surfers for Autism if it wasn't for Abbie's diagnosis. Autism has introduced us to a whole other community that we didn't know about before. We get to explore ALLLLLL the sensory toys we ignored with our older 2 neurotypical kids. We have learned ABA techniques that we have implemented even with our NT kids. It's not all bad.
Hi asa and Priscilla
Alicia here I'm a mom to a 7 yr old "high functioning" autistic son with sensory processing disorder and a husband with high functioning autism aswell as ADHD I look at the puzzle piece as a PIECE OF THE PUZZLE that makes up my son or my husband just like their personalities r a piece of that puzzle... Some ppl with always find something to complain about.. just keep being the amazing people u r!
Priscilla, with due respect, they are NOT ugly!! lol I like them! But I agree they must go because Abbie started to ruin them. You are such a classy lady with a great sense of style!! Your home looks like it was decorated by a professional interior decorator!!! Your home is lovely & has a look of elegance!!
I completely agree with you.my daughter has spinal muscular dystrophy she has type 2 their is 4 types and the fights between the disease is horrible who has it worse. I'm so tired of fighting I wish we could all come together . I love your channel...
I’ve seen the puzzle piece as a pin also on a ribbon I think it’s cool to see these symbols around
You are such an amazing family.
I am with you on the political correctness on disability terms. For me, it is not the word or label that is used, it is how it is used and the intention on its usage. I have friends who are wheelchair users just like myself and still get corrected sometimes. I think people just do not know what is politically correct because it changes all the time, myself included. The best thing we can do is educate rather than criticize.
On the early video and memory chat... I myself cried watching Abbie be independent and I have never met your family. Having a severe disability(ies), I completely understand these type of milestones. I can't imagine what it was like for my Mom when I hit certain milestones because medically and scientifically speaking, I am not suppose to be here.
I have an autistic child and love the puzzle piece. It's entirely appropriate. PC is getting out of control.
Im totally amazed at you all and when i saw the puzzle logo straight away i saw it as we are all parts of a puzzle fitting together and how cleaver that was especially when you see the 4 bits of you all, so i wonder do people just see something and without looking in to it or watching further do they just jump on the key board and start typing, i know you say they are nice people and im sure they are but are they questioning the subject or asking the question about it, there is a big difference and maybe people should think more about that, and your right keyboards and roads can be lethal places. i would put a heart emoji but not worked out how to do it on here :(
My daughter is about to be 20 here in a few days and I know exactly what you mean about the death of dreams. I have been dealing with that her whole life. Payton is now at the point where she is trying to adjust to living on her own. She is going to be going to job corps in a few months to hopefully continue her teaching of the life skills she is going to need. Like getting her own place and find a job, paying bills and all the normal things that come with living, but I am facing the fact that she will most likely be able to live away from me because she is high functioning, but she is always going to have to have some sort of assistance and because I am in the nursing home it is not possible for it to come from me. Which is making me feel like a huge failure, but my dream of her living independently and having own family is now dying. I am so proud of the progress she has made though, and the fact that there is now a chance after job corps that she will be able to live somewhat independently is huge! So it's like you said, as one dream dies another is being born.
I feel like people don't really understand how painful it can be to mourn the loss of a future you imagined you or your child would have. I am 30 years old and began dating my husband when I was 14. I have severe health issues, so my 20s were spent fighting for my life. I knew that due to my health issues, getting pregnant would be potentially impossible but we still planned on having kids, whether it be pregnancy, surrogacy or adopting once my health improved. Sadly when I was 28, tragedy struck and my husband died shortly after his 30th birthday. It came out of nowhere and he was my other half, we were one of those couples who didn't go an hour without talking to each other and suddenly he was gone. Not only did I mourn his loss, but now I mourn the Loss of our future and mourn the loss of becoming a mother, something I wanted more than anything and without him, will never happen. He has been gone over 2 years now and I still haven't "moved on". I know it's different than your situation but it's at the core, mourning a future that was taken away and man, is it hard. I don't think my mom really understands how one can mourn for a dream for the future and it's hard to explain to people who haven't experienced it. I would say mourning the loss of what my future life would of been has been just as hard as the actual death in some ways.
@@Juwlz Hope each day gets a little easier. Sorry for what you've been going through. Much love Julia !!
You talk about the small steps.... today my grandson got his pizza bites done in ten count and put them in the microwave and I walked him through as he did them turning on the microwave. He also poured his own drink. He is 7 and these were HUGE to us. I wish I could have caught it on video.
I get what your saying Esa. I watched my daughter the night before her birthday realizing she was 7. And thinking about what I did around my 7th birthday. And Elikia is nowhere near developmentally where I was. But like you said my daughter has come so far from 3-4 to where she is today. I completely agree with you. You have a new life you look forward to new things.
Offense is not given. It is taken.
I have a few friends kids who are on the spectrum, and I see the puzzle pieces as putting the puzzle together to figure out how the child learns, see the world, how they tick, etc. Not that we are trying to fix them, or change them.
I like the puzzle piece symbol. I am high functioning and I have the puzzle piece symbol tattoo. I think your videos are awesome. And they help me a lot
I admire your persiverance my son also has autism his 3 years now. it still hits me everyday that my precious Son won't have a normal life. and in your video you so positive it motivates me to do everything possible for my son Thank you Keep it up! From the Philippines.
+Allan Dela Cruz Thank you! So glad to help
Your taste of music is outstanding! Looking forward to the call vlog
No, I don't think they have Capri pj's but you could certainly make some w/ her older shorter ones. She would cooler for summer.
Since your projecting Pricilla, you could paint the "sunflower plaques" and maybe use them elsewhere. Maybe the bathroom?
Daily walks will help your weight loss plus help physically with your heart and muscles.
Hello,
First of all thank you so much for what you're doing. My son (4) was just recently diagnosed with autism, and watching your videos has helped so much. Not only is you advice and suggestions extremely helpful but just seeing your family makes me have hope for my own family's future. God bless you!
My son is also horribly destructive and I was wondering what products you've had luck with when it comes to longevity?
Your click bait comment made me chuckle. I've definitely noticed that in some of your videos. Like "Autism Mom Says She's Done" (Or something like that). LOL. But hey, do what gets you more clicks. Whatever works. I love this channel.
I just wanted to say you guys are looking great!! Keep up the hard work! And Pricilla the house is looking great too. 😊
I've always been really curious about the whole functioning label thing because if you have higher and lower functioning people surely you have mid-level functioning autistics (maybe otherwise high functioning but also non verbal, or fully verbal but not actually communicative?), but you never hear about them. I guess that's why they're starting to get rid of it and use support levels instead?
I actually work at a school for kids on the spectrum, similar to Abbie's. These type of kids exist. For example I have one girl in my class that scripts all day and can recite entire scenes from certain movies but when it comes to communicating her needs, she struggles a lot. On the other hand, one student in my classroom is completely non verbal but is able to communicate exactly what he wants on his iPad. He is even able to use full sentences. It's amazing how much of a spectrum disorder autism really is.
They actually don't diagnose levels of functioning where I am at anymore. My son was diagnosed with Autism Feb 12, 2015. His neurologist said it's not fair to really label high vs low because a child may be high functioning in one area and low in another. If you label them high there's a good chance they will be denied services they truly need. My son can speak in full sentences but cannot communicate his needs (tired, thirsty, etc). He can't even do it with cards or ipad. He is unable to express certain things no matter how hard we try to teach him to communicate those things to us. Instead he just cries until we figure out what he needs. He has learned to say "I'm hungry" but doesn't always use it appropriately. He has trouble answering questions. He spends alot of time rocking. He is very disconnected from the people around him. Yet even with these struggles and so many more that it would take me ages to list he would be labeled high functioning simply because he as words. I think it's very misunderstood to many outside the autism community and some in it that having words = easy/ higher functioning. Abby can communicate needs wants and desires with speech tools. Something my son who has words still struggles with. I don't thinking higher vs lower matters. Their needs with always be unique. :)
Mike & Tanya Thank you, that's super interesting! Out of curiosity do you know if he can actually tell when he's hungry/thirsty etc? I heard that sensory issues can often include hyposensitivity to internal feelings so maybe he just... Doesn't know?
I loved your "rants." I agreed with what you said.
Everyone wants to knit-pick. It's insane. My son has HFASD. I am in no way offended by your puzzle piece. Autistic vs. Autism- Ugh. Political correctness. Yes, I try to remember to use "person with Autism" vs. "Autistics," but it in no way offends me. If you're bickering over semantics when there's so much ugliness in the world then you have bigger problems.
Creating Essence To be fair, the people that feel offended by it are autistic people because it's concerning them specifically
Al Funcoot that's interesting, because I have never heard of someone with HFASD even noticing, just others. In fact, my extensive experience working with people with Autism and raising a child with Autism, few even grasp that difference. Semantics are like metaphors- not literal enough for most to grasp without confusion.
Al Funcoot A lot of the time I find its other parents who it offends and their kids really don't care very much because it's not like it's an insult
I have FAS it's hard. I have my things to say but why?? It has all be said before.
40 years ago most school boards treated the autistic as retarded.
I had a happy sad moment this month when my 2.5 yr old finally learned to put on her own pants. I was so excited for her but realized my other 2.5 yr old learned this'd last year. the acknowledgment that even tho she is learning she is still "behind"
Wow. HFA vrs parents. Who even knew that was a thing till I found your page. I have offered help to one autistic parent and was rebuffed. It broke my heart cause all I wanted to do was help. I figured, no one else talks to me much when I comment like ever, so I figured who better to have a conversation with then an autistic parent, someone I could fit in with in a way. I was wrong, which it is what it is. I only speak when I have to get something out mostly now, it plays in my head a million times until I get it out. So that is what this comment is, me calming my head or whatever. After finding you and your amazing family, a few HFA peoples vlogs have shown on my TV/blue ray player and I watched them and they were all rants (I only watched a few. Not trying to make a blanket statement over all HFA's. I do want friends some day) against parents of autistic children. They blanketed their rants. The saying, if you know one person with autism then you know one person should be logo'd over the puzzle piece which is the main reason I came here to comment. I am HFA and am not offended by the puzzle piece. When I make things I stick a puzzle piece on it as part of my signature. I love that little puzzle piece. I don't want to tell you how to speak. I just wanted to say, not all HFAs dislike that puzzle piece. :o)
ok, before everyone jumps down my throat I just want to say I am one autistic girl and this is solely my opinion.
the only reason I'm not the hugest fan of the puzzle piece in general is because I feel its mis-used and misinterpreted a lot of the time. I don't really care much about the symbols though, but I myself prefer the rainbow infinity symbol and identity first language.
it actually is more offensive to me when someone refers to me as a "person with autism" instead of autistic because I personally feel that autism is not an accessory. its an important part of who I am, it is me. it is not separate from me and....well before I start digressing this article explains my feelings pretty much perfectly.
illusionofcompetence.blogspot.ca/2012/08/disability-first-autism-is-not-accessory.html
but anyways just wanted to say how I feel about it and I too think its crazy how much everyone nit picks. I only nit pick when it is directed solely at me. otherwise, do what you feel is best. but I too agree its ridiculous, you are a wonderful loving family who is trying to do the best you can and celebrate how special your daughter is and that's the most important thing. honestly your love of this channel and your family is really what's important you know? that's my perspective anyways.
You don't have to defend yourself. People who have too much free time will nit pick and criticize.
I don't see the puzzle piece as the one that's missing for the person with autism, I see it as autism being missing piece of perspective for neuro-typical people!
YESS!!
Thank you so much for educating everyone through your videos. 💗
I always thought the puzzle piece was representative of the intelligence often associated with autism, or how we try to piece the world together for ourselves. Huh.
I thought the puzzle piece symbol for autism meant "Taking the mystery out of what autism is [for neurotypicals]," or "Putting together all the info pieces about autism so it is no longer like a puzzle to figure out." Does it not mean something like that? :) What does it actually mean? Please explain. As an Aspie who is late getting immersed into the Aspie community, I haven't yet learned what that means.
Asa, you had me all misty eyed there at the end, man. My son is only almost 3 but I am wondering what missed opportunities we will have to encounter. Love your videos and your awesome family! 💕
For me, the puzzle piece is part of a "bigger picture" therefore everyone in the "autism picture/world" shouldn't get offended by that, therefore it should be a better idea, since it's one piece of a bigger environment
Thank you so much for all that you guys do for your viewers! I can completely relate with what you said about appreciating the little milestones our children reach. Declans teacher and I were just about jumping out of our skin with excitement that he was looking at an ABC book and was singing his ABCs (Although mostly in gibberish). Most parents would be happy I think but I don't think they would be nearly as thrilled as we are. Also, your house is always so clean! I am so impressed! When Abbi was younger was your home always in order?
Don't expain urself to those ppl. There are just some ppl that want to complain about SOMETHING
You guys are such a cute family! I love you guys❤️
People have keyboard muscles when they are out there in the Internet. Easy to have bravado when you are anonymous. All this nitpicking about terms. Life is waaaay too short for stuff like that.
I took my autistic son to Walgreens to get a pneumonia shot the Dr wanted him to have but they were out of the refused one excuse after another ....I was so mad she said one excuse ,he may have a episode talking about a seizure it really made me mad the way she acted......
I heard someone say once that if the puzzle piece is a symbol that brings awareness of autism to others and encourages others to ask questions and brings people together from having this puzzle piece symbol, then surely it can be a good thing not a judgement of functionality or compitance.
The idea is that the assortment of colours in the puzzle piece celebrate diversity on the spectrum. The problem is that the symbol originates from "Autism Speaks" which is a charity with questionable motives and a history of abusive ABA therapy (thankfully ABA therapy is changing in some places). Some people use the symbol to express how they want autism to be cured. I like the infinity symbol because it celebrates how everyone on the spectrum is connected and unique.
Before I discovered your Vloggs I had never been made aware that a puzzle piece was considered the symbol for autism. I had known, only briefly two decodes ago, the higher functioning autistic daughter of friends from when she was born....to around five. I had never met another person on the spectrum. I had never seen that symbol before, or heard any reference to it. So maybe the symbol isn't being used in Canada. I myself appreciate this opportunity to become educated about this particular disability. I like to try to understand what life is like for someone with any disability. I'm wondering, from what I've learned, if my husband's seizures as a toddler catapulted him into the spectrum. I'll never know, but I can't help but wonder.
8k already?! I remember when you only had like 600 subs!
+xharmswayx1 IKR! It jumped up 2k in the last couple days.
A shower & change of clothes in HALF A SECOND???!!! It's MAAAAAAAGIC!!!!!!
I am also a person who has high function autism. Your videos inspire me
We're all so tired of "titles", symbols and all the other outcomes of Political Correctness. Down with PC! Up with caring, love and heart! ❤
I had the same question but didn't know how to word it, thank you for your answer. And vulnerability. Yes I agree that I don't think you both are real. ;)
I feel bad- I laughed so hard when I heard she put a hole in her wall due to excitement- I wish I could get that hyped about stuff.
Abbie is so beautiful 💓
I have autism and I am proud of it most people cant tell that I have autism unless they hang around me enough to know
@FatheringAutism....I stumbled on your channel and then recognized the A&P emblem lol!! Did Priscilla discover EarthFare and if so, isn't it AMAZING? We(I.e. me) decided that our family NY resolution was to implement healthy lifestyle changes and our grocery budget tripled....however now that we have an Aldis and EarthFare close by it's beginning to go down again!!