Thank you to Nicole for sharing her knowledge with the Greatness community! Leave a “YES” if you enjoyed this and share the biggest moment for you. Make sure to subscribe to never miss out on inspiring content like this again TH-cam.com/lewishowes
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I have been following you for ages, your upbringing is the same as mine with abusive parents. I bought your new book a few days ago and cannot wait to read it. You're work is wonderful Nicole. Thanks.
I just turned 55 but for the first 49 yrs. I thought love & compassion for others meant putting them and their needs first. I like to think I did a pretty job, unfortunately I forgot about myself.I found meditation & mindfulness learned to put myself first.. Now my cup runith over🙏😇🙏 Lol
Wherever you live please find 5Rhythms class. May your abundant love keep nourishing you. And you extend it to others from that nourished place that is the best way to live. I am so committed to this 🥰path of life.
*As I pursue my eventual MSW and possible PhD in Social Work at the age of 47, I absolutely adore this content. Trauma and shame permeate our collective society. Hello from Canada!*
Yes listening in as well as a social worker, this is so helpful not just for my own self awareness but to also help to better equip me to assist my clients.
Kudos to you, Jeff. I came from a dysfunctional background, got my undergrad degree, then my law degree as an older student. Throughout my educational experience, I fought shame and feelngs of unworthiness. Making my goals come true was huge and I'm grateful every day to have overcome my childhood trauma. My best to you.
Please people remember, self love is about loving yourself. If you stay in contact with abuse exes or parents and other family members can be the exact opposite ❤
I can’t even imagine wanting to be in a relationship with 2 people at the same time, especially all living TOGETHER. I believe we’re all different and cut out for different things - energetically. One person is enough for me to have to handle/figure out/give energy & time to…
This is something I've had to reframe, I'm newly single, living alone, and realizing self care is a beautiful wonderful thing. Just bought a new electric blanket, and sitting snuggled in and feeling cozy and comfortable
I was dubbed the “adopted” “black sheep” scapegoat in my family, which led me to seek validation outside of it. I was the troubled, lost wonderer for so many years, and had to unlearn so many toxic traits. Still trying to recognize other ones so that I can be the parent I never had. To this day, I live a state away from my family. I’m closer to my extended family but my immediate family is far too damaged to reconcile when most of them haven’t work on self development.
I love this conversation❤️ It resonated so deeply with me, because I’ve been working on self-love and putting my own needs first and learning to say no! I’ve been someone who used to be a yes person, a people pleaser and it’s still a challenge for me sometimes, but I’m so proud of myself and feeling amazing working on my self. Thank you ❤️
Its interesting how much of our mindset effects our everyday relationships and life. Very good information. Thanks for sharing. Lewis, your questions are so thoughtful and interesting. Great work.🎉
Thank you so much Lewis for having Nicole. I could relate to her story. I had to take time from my mom for a period of 2 years. This allowed me to find and love myself.
What I’ve learned over the years is that you just need to set boundaries and have the courage to be politely, honest and candid with other people, especially family. Yes, people may get mad and slip away and if that happens, then they’re not meant to be in your circle. I find mostly with family…..They’ll get angry with you for a season but they’ll eventually come back around. Once you go through the muck of setting the boundary and upsetting others once you get to the other side of that murky pond life just gets a whole lot easier. It’s easier to deal with others because you’ve developed that skill .
Thank you Dr. Nicole for always giving such profound, inspiring and thoughtful insights into the trauma experienced in childhood that affects our lives as adults and what we can do to heal!!!
I love Nicole and what she's bringing. Her posts on Instagram always help and her books are great. Thank you for assisting in the evolution of human consciousness Nicole!
4 years ago I found your interview with Nicole in a very difficult period period of my life, to say the least. Since then my life is shifting slowly in major ways. Her holistic approach, compessionate wisdom and science backed up examples sent me on the journey to start to know myself differently and better and relate to myself- and others by unlearning what made me and those I care for suffer. Thank you both. There are no words to express how greateful I am for what you do. I am doing the work. Its a part of me now and I'll never give it up.
Lesson to take home and reflect: You can not change people, ask yourself if you could accept for who they are-how they are at present, and whether you are comfortable with it for a long term relationship.
Nicole is so dedicated to her journey and I know her book will help many of us ..I can still hear her pain in her voice bringing in all her experience into that voice when expressing and bringing so much to this time span ..love these two together as the are willing to talk vulnerability .
Thank you VERY much!!!! Keep up the great work. A quote that has continues to inspires me in life. "Movement is ALWAYS equipped with the capacity to destroy the stagnant negativity of the mind". SRI CHINMOY
This lady is one of the most amazing persons on earth nowday. She does an amazing job on IG…so necessary.. . Thanks for your teachings and your integrity, Dr. LePera. Thanks Lewis for this interview …: you always interview my favorites…))
Wonderful interview! I love Dr. Nicole LePera's first book and I am looking forward to reading this one as well. Dr. LePera, thank you so much for such amazing work and for being so generous in sharing in authenticity
Good evening to you both Thankyou for your continued sensemaking. Sanity brain gym, indeed. Super grateful for you. Spooky timing too. For many reasons! 💜
A note: cultural intersects with the concept focusing on self. The self for various cultures is not focused on, it’s the “we. ”Unpacking that dynamic must be a consideration in this discussion or we have missed a large segment of the population who just stops listening because they feel unseen or not considered.
46:50 “Unfamiliar but it felt safe” I am reaching out at this specific moment because it just hit me like a ton of bricks that I have met this individual and need advice on how to bring awareness together
Pour that care and love into yourself and you'll create a subconscious comfort zone for only those who are caring and loving! Bless your caring heart ❤❤
My daughter has health problems, she is 41and lives 400 miles away. She's divorced and lives alone. I'm 68, have so health problems too. We haven't seen each other for a year. Never a good time to visit each other. Her job is new and she loves it,. Happy for her. But, I txt or call, send a card, and never get a reply. All I want is, I'm fine. She has epilepsy and I worry for her safety and health. She has celiac disease and depression. So concerned for many reasons, she dating too. I know I may be over concerned, but all I want is a response, I'm fine. That's all. Would love more conversation, but that will do. How can I convince her to let me know she is ok?
@@jsemaj8451 IT is about HER. The daughter. A mother gives unconditional love with an open heart. I went through a period of silence with my mother. She grew in that painful period. She became more maternal. We later forged a closer relationship.
Have you said to her what you just posted? ‘Hey, I understand you’re busy, but you not replying to my texts makes me feel (blank) and it would make me feel better if ….’ Just be honest about how you feel and what you need. And then leave it in her court, and not place any expectations on a reply. That’s where I would start. Not sure if it helps. Best of luck to you.
That's happened at many cultures. We always have to live follow parents, family, grandparents, husband, society.... Tired and exhausted and angey. Never happy as you are.
If you actually believed "each to their own" then you wouldnt have felt the need to comment... They're consenting adults and not hurting anyone so theres definately worse things in this world. 😉
Was squealing with joy seeing this thumbnail xoxo and may I add, a soft request if I could... like, at 34:39 around that question, if we could maybe, flash a pic of Dr. Nic *at that age* :) it'd add breadth (but not depth, the convos already pretty deep) to the stories. It's just some icing 😁on the cupcake of this whole entire excellent conversation. :)
What a Beautiful Soul ♥ What a great gift of being able to communicate societal dysfunction in a simple and practical approach for us all to shift/continue moving in the direction. Not an easy thing to do on a global scale x
Thank you to Nicole for sharing her knowledge with the Greatness community! Leave a “YES” if you enjoyed this and share the biggest moment for you. Make sure to subscribe to never miss out on inspiring content like this again TH-cam.com/lewishowes
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👋 Please add your TH-cam video links at the bottom of your podcasts?
I wanted to comment on ep 1455 as I was listening to it on Google podcasts, but couldn't find the video on TH-cam when I searched it 🙃
@Lewishowes, thank you guys for this podcast. Best thing ever. Hopefully you can get Thais Gibson on the podcast. She is amazing
YES
Thank you so much for having me on, Lewis. And everyone for watching!
🙏 Thank you
I have been following you for ages, your upbringing is the same as mine with abusive parents.
I bought your new book a few days ago and cannot wait to read it. You're work is wonderful Nicole. Thanks.
I recent started watching your videos. So glad you were in this podcast ❤
Of course can’t wait to see you back next time
I wish I could meet you and heal myself 😢
I just turned 55 but for the first 49 yrs. I thought love & compassion for others meant putting them and their needs first. I like to think I did a pretty job, unfortunately I forgot about myself.I found meditation & mindfulness learned to put myself first.. Now my cup runith over🙏😇🙏 Lol
Congrats on this growth and healing! ❤❤
👍👍👍
Wherever you live please find 5Rhythms class. May your abundant love keep nourishing you. And you extend it to others from that nourished place that is the best way to live. I am so committed to this 🥰path of life.
Bravisimo!!!!
Well done
I highly recommend her YT shorts. Omg she shed so much light on my trauma.
Thanks for the tip!
*As I pursue my eventual MSW and possible PhD in Social Work at the age of 47, I absolutely adore this content. Trauma and shame permeate our collective society. Hello from Canada!*
I'm rooting for you!
Yes i love this content
Yes listening in as well as a social worker, this is so helpful not just for my own self awareness but to also help to better equip me to assist my clients.
Kudos to you, Jeff. I came from a dysfunctional background, got my undergrad degree, then my law degree as an older student. Throughout my educational experience, I fought shame and feelngs of unworthiness. Making my goals come true was huge and I'm grateful every day to have overcome my childhood trauma. My best to you.
Please people remember, self love is about loving yourself. If you stay in contact with abuse exes or parents and other family members can be the exact opposite ❤
I can’t even imagine wanting to be in a relationship with 2 people at the same time, especially all living TOGETHER. I believe we’re all different and cut out for different things - energetically. One person is enough for me to have to handle/figure out/give energy & time to…
Yeah, I think a normal person will do this.
I was just thinking how great it would be if they would teach this stuff in schools.
This is what's needed isn't it...our spiritual development. More important than grades and achievement ❤
I pray everyone reading this can feel at peace.🙏🏼♥️
That is so sweet. You too. ❤❤
You as well! Overflowing peace and love to you!
This is something I've had to reframe, I'm newly single, living alone, and realizing self care is a beautiful wonderful thing. Just bought a new electric blanket, and sitting snuggled in and feeling cozy and comfortable
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Self care is armor ! 😊😮😼
Happy for you!
Dr. Nicole LePera and Lewis Howes! What a wonderful surprise. Two of my favourite accounts to follow ❤❤❤
Thank you! Your support means a lot🧡
Wow i woke up today thinking to look for videos on how to heal past trauma and no i see this in my recommendation videos 😮
I was dubbed the “adopted” “black sheep” scapegoat in my family, which led me to seek validation outside of it. I was the troubled, lost wonderer for so many years, and had to unlearn so many toxic traits. Still trying to recognize other ones so that I can be the parent I never had. To this day, I live a state away from my family. I’m closer to my extended family but my immediate family is far too damaged to reconcile when most of them haven’t work on self development.
This is so timely! She is describing what I am currently understanding as my reality. I’m so ready to be free of all the stress and trauma.
I love this conversation❤️
It resonated so deeply with me, because I’ve been working on self-love and putting my own needs first and learning to say no! I’ve been someone who used to be a yes person, a people pleaser and it’s still a challenge for me sometimes, but I’m so proud of myself and feeling amazing working on my self.
Thank you ❤️
Glad it resonated with you!
You should be super proud, congrats on the work you've done ❤
Thank you! yes I am 🤗@@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool
I absolutely LOVE the holistic psychologist!!!😊💛💛💛
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same ❤
Its interesting how much of our mindset effects our everyday relationships and life. Very good information. Thanks for sharing. Lewis, your questions are so thoughtful and interesting. Great work.🎉
You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡
Thank you so much Lewis for having Nicole. I could relate to her story. I had to take time from my mom for a period of 2 years. This allowed me to find and love myself.
Glad you enjoyed it!
What I’ve learned over the years is that you just need to set boundaries and have the courage to be politely, honest and candid with other people, especially family. Yes, people may get mad and slip away and if that happens, then they’re not meant to be in your circle. I find mostly with family…..They’ll get angry with you for a season but they’ll eventually come back around. Once you go through the muck of setting the boundary and upsetting others once you get to the other side of that murky pond life just gets a whole lot easier. It’s easier to deal with others because you’ve developed that skill .
Thank you Dr. Nicole for always giving such profound, inspiring and thoughtful insights into the trauma experienced in childhood that affects our lives as adults and what we can do to heal!!!
I love Nicole and what she's bringing. Her posts on Instagram always help and her books are great. Thank you for assisting in the evolution of human consciousness Nicole!
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Omg I love her too!! So happy to see her on this ❤️
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Dr Nicole is definitely great! She s such a superhuman I love her work and I use it every day
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4 years ago I found your interview with Nicole in a very difficult period period of my life, to say the least. Since then my life is shifting slowly in major ways. Her holistic approach, compessionate wisdom and science backed up examples sent me on the journey to start to know myself differently and better and relate to myself- and others by unlearning what made me and those I care for suffer. Thank you both. There are no words to express how greateful I am for what you do.
I am doing the work. Its a part of me now and I'll never give it up.
So happy this inspired you! Thank you for watching.
I love her work. However, her vocal fry distracts me a lot.
Someone needs to piece the fries together for metal version, awesome content
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.
Omg lol same. Was reading comments to see if anyone summarized key points.
Lesson to take home and reflect: You can not change people, ask yourself if you could accept for who they are-how they are at present, and whether you are comfortable with it for a long term relationship.
Nicole is so dedicated to her journey and I know her book will help many of us ..I can still hear her pain in her voice bringing in all her experience into that voice when expressing and bringing so much to this time span ..love these two together as the are willing to talk vulnerability .
I absolutely love this woman and the clarity I have in the first 5 mins of this podcast. Both of you are Love both of you are purpose
Thanks for being here!
Seems like she has created a chaotic, unstable home life, vs a normal relationship!!
Very interesting talk.
Just wanted to say that something about her tone of voice is very distracting
Thank you VERY much!!!! Keep up the great work. A quote that has continues to inspires me in life.
"Movement is ALWAYS equipped with the capacity to destroy the stagnant negativity of the mind". SRI CHINMOY
OMG I FOLLOW HER CHANNEL ON INSTA AND I LOVE HER❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Lewis I am always Learning tangible life lesson really; thank you very much.
Glad you enjoyed it! What stood out to you as a lesson to move forward with?
THank you Dr. Nicole & Lewis! This is an awesome show.
Glad you enjoyed it! Thanks for watching! 🧡
I love Dr.Nicole’s shorts 🧡 thank you for this conversation, it felt so warm and helpful ♥️
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.
Thank you my friends 🤜🤛💞🌹🙏
This lady is one of the most amazing persons on earth nowday. She does an amazing job on IG…so necessary.. . Thanks for your teachings and your integrity, Dr. LePera.
Thanks Lewis for this interview …: you always interview my favorites…))
Glad you enjoyed it! What stood out to you as a lesson to move forward with?
Wonderful interview! I love Dr. Nicole LePera's first book and I am looking forward to reading this one as well. Dr. LePera, thank you so much for such amazing work and for being so generous in sharing in authenticity
Thank you so much once again for so healing and helpful interview, Thank you 🙏✨️💓
Thank you Lewis for bringing Nicole! 🙏🏽 I love her! ❤
She's great ❤
@@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool so are you Thais 🙏🏽❤️❤️
Big thanks for watching! I appreciate your support!
She is saving soooo many lives, she is amazing 👏
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Very useful strategy. Really valuable information. To me, self love is everything.
Thanks for being here!
Yes, only this month I realized that my nervous system was over working the entire time. I am 40 now. And this is about to change.
Lewis, I recommend you have Hale Dwoskin of the Sedona Method on your show/interview.
Good evening to you both
Thankyou for your continued sensemaking.
Sanity brain gym, indeed.
Super grateful for you.
Spooky timing too.
For many reasons!
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Love in relationship demands how many years you and your family and friends keep developing in your life.
🙏🙏🙏
A note: cultural intersects with the concept focusing on self. The self for various cultures is not focused on, it’s the “we. ”Unpacking that dynamic must be a consideration in this discussion or we have missed a large segment of the population who just stops listening because they feel unseen or not considered.
Realizing self-care is a beautiful, wonderful win with help from conversations like these!
Realizing self-care is a beautiful, wonderful win with help from conversations like these!
I’ll be interested to see what happens in the truple. Someone is going to get hurt. 😢
46:50 “Unfamiliar but it felt safe”
I am reaching out at this specific moment because it just hit me like a ton of bricks that I have met this individual and need advice on how to bring awareness together
Thank you for such a wonderful interview! I felt like I am not alone in my journey. Thank you also for showing authenticity ❤️
Thanks Lewis. I wanted to do quatrisal, someone interested? I’m Brazilian. I live in New Zealand.
dang im early
45 and figuring out who I really am for the first time. I am caring and loving, but I attract the opposite.
Pour that care and love into yourself and you'll create a subconscious comfort zone for only those who are caring and loving! Bless your caring heart ❤❤
All the very best for you!
I'm safe in my body, I'm not safe in my mind. 😅
Beautiful PsychBabe Nicole you are absolutely correct. There is no greater cause than yourself.
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Thank You Lewis 🌸
A wonderful conversation ☺️
Just listen to the voice - not very convincing.... Extremely insecure.
My daughter has health problems, she is 41and lives 400 miles away. She's divorced and lives alone. I'm 68, have so health problems too. We haven't seen each other for a year. Never a good time to visit each other. Her job is new and she loves it,. Happy for her. But, I txt or call, send a card, and never get a reply. All I want is, I'm fine. She has epilepsy and I worry for her safety and health. She has celiac disease and depression. So concerned for many reasons, she dating too. I know I may be over concerned, but all I want is a response, I'm fine. That's all. Would love more conversation, but that will do. How can I convince her to let me know she is ok?
When she is ready, she will. Keep sending love without expectation.
It is very challenging when you're not getting the closure you need.
@@jsemaj8451 IT is about HER. The daughter. A mother gives unconditional love with an open heart. I went through a period of silence with my mother. She grew in that painful period. She became more maternal. We later forged a closer relationship.
Have you said to her what you just posted? ‘Hey, I understand you’re busy, but you not replying to my texts makes me feel (blank) and it would make me feel better if ….’ Just be honest about how you feel and what you need. And then leave it in her court, and not place any expectations on a reply. That’s where I would start. Not sure if it helps. Best of luck to you.
@@HappyCat1111 Love without condition or expectation. ❤️
It's hard to love anything or anybody in today's world.
That's happened at many cultures. We always have to live follow parents, family, grandparents, husband, society.... Tired and exhausted and angey. Never happy as you are.
Well, I believe in faithfulness & monogamy. Each to their own.
If you actually believed "each to their own" then you wouldnt have felt the need to comment...
They're consenting adults and not hurting anyone so theres definately worse things in this world. 😉
Was squealing with joy seeing this thumbnail xoxo and may I add, a soft request if I could... like, at 34:39 around that question, if we could maybe, flash a pic of Dr. Nic *at that age* :) it'd add breadth (but not depth, the convos already pretty deep) to the stories. It's just some icing 😁on the cupcake of this whole entire excellent conversation. :)
and.... *and* btw. Dude. We love two parents. We love two kids, innit? Totally natural. Societal norms and mores evolve.
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Good episode. Was really excited to listen but I love her content and work, however wish the convo would have went deeper
I hear you, thanks for the feedback!
Guest suggestion for your podcast Mark Laita and his chanel Soft White Underbelly a lot about chilhood traumas 🙏🙏🙏
I don’t have hope that I’ll ever heal.
Thanks!
Her work is honestly life changing ❤❤
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Thank you so much I am sure lot of people can relate to your experience and helping so many of us
Glad you found it helpful! 🧡
Why r these therapy sessions firstly so expensive. Nd.why can't we have group.sessions.on media even
@lewishowes - How about inviting Deborah Rozman from heartmath institute?
Mind first transform our mind first
What 😮 3 people on a relation !!!
Didn't expect this crossover of two of my favorite people. Then again, I never expected Hozier as a guest too lol
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.
this is Good!!!!! I love this
Hey I’m early too
My two most favorite persons in one place. 🎉🎉🎉
Appreciate you for watching.
What an inspiring woman ! Thanks for your work Nicole !
Lewis you the man! I appreciate your awesome videos and phenomenal guests. Thank you for doing this very important work. ❤
Glad you enjoyed it!
What a Beautiful Soul ♥ What a great gift of being able to communicate societal dysfunction in a simple and practical approach for us all to shift/continue moving in the direction. Not an easy thing to do on a global scale x
Glad you enjoyed it!
I dont know what happen to me i’ m 26 and i feel like i’’m lost ,
Coping mechanisms of my safety “ of my fight 💪or flight ✈️
Self ❤️ love 💪
Thank you Dr Nicole I'm listening to your audiobook. How to do the work. Thank you 🙏
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.
Her voice hurts my ears. Is she trying her bedroom voice in the interview. Had to change to another interview
How about putting the world even with yourself?
I want to see a conversation between her and Alanis.
Two of my favorite people on YT, I've learnt so much from both!🙏🏻✨💛
So happy to hear you are finding value! 🙌
Eventually The Most foundational Essential Topic in Life! Love you guys! thanks so much
You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡
Is this one in spanish? I'd love to share.
Only 10 mins in and can already say I have learned a lot from this convo. 😊
Thank you so much for your feedback 🙂
TY so much for this!!!👍❤️🥰
You're welcome 🧡
👏🏼 👏🏼 👏🏼
Thank you🙏❤🌹
You're welcome, thank you for watching! 🧡
I love unhealed trauma
I love her jacket!!❤
Lewis , so sweet of you
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The nervous system!!!
Thanks 😊
Absolutely fascinating 😊