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  • @iisundrxxm5978
    @iisundrxxm5978 3 ปีที่แล้ว +98

    The fact he does ALL of this and still stares at me every day is just wow

    • @meemeethecat7391
      @meemeethecat7391 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yep, one doing the same thing,

    • @iisundrxxm5978
      @iisundrxxm5978 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@meemeethecat7391 it’s been 10 months to and he be doing the same thing 😭

    • @monw6780
      @monw6780 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Same and then suddenly disappeared. Perplexed.

  • @kimte9446
    @kimte9446 4 ปีที่แล้ว +172

    Sometimes i decided to give him time & wait, on the other hand am really frustrated & nervous

    • @stephb5281
      @stephb5281 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Same, we are in the same boat with this one. lt is so frustrating at times but waiting this one out might be the solution.

    • @kimte9446
      @kimte9446 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      We can do it👍👍

    • @AR-di4ey
      @AR-di4ey 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      🙋 Going throw same situation 😑 ...may be it will be better if he opens up speak everything clearly

    • @tanusaradhi9187
      @tanusaradhi9187 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      same situation ...... waiting for him to open up but its annoying at times.

    • @elizabelle1425
      @elizabelle1425 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Mine doesn’t wanna repeat the past with me and doesn’t wanna go back to his ex but he as feeling like a roll coaster to me one second he likes me likes me then the next day no he is confused about me so I never know what to do

  • @Lilwallflower
    @Lilwallflower 2 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    Sadly experienced this recently. All of the signs are there but when I asked him directly he said I was not his type which was such a huge shock! I am at the point where I hope he realises one day that he’s made a big mistake.

  • @BrazenFinesse
    @BrazenFinesse 3 ปีที่แล้ว +172

    If someone fights their feelings LET THAT SHIT GO! You dont need someone who cannot love

    • @UltraCasualPenguin
      @UltraCasualPenguin 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      I was bullied 7 years in school for 3 reasons:
      - visual impairment
      - my "monster-like" appearance
      - because it was just way too easy to make me cry, "boys don't cry", right?
      Bullying included:
      - physical bullying
      - mental bullying (which included but was not limited to "you'll never find girlfriend because you look like that")
      - a death threat
      What this caused:
      - depression
      - completely crushed self esteem
      - I had to create hard mental shell because I can't just let anyone to hurt me again
      Almost a year later after getting out of that hell something strange happened. Something that I thought could only happen in Disney movies and definitely not to monsterman like me. A girl managed to make my head spin with one eye contact. Unfortunately I didn't figure out what was happening until over a year later and it was already too late and she was dating other guy. I decided to wait because I thought it can wait if I still had feelings after not seeing her for over a year. Later she told me about their dating ended but I was already "gone". There was only very small part of feelings not locked away. I never managed to speak to her about feelings, she couldn't either (or so I assumed).
      Years later I decided to give up on finding gf.
      Now, after very long time all I remember about her:
      - clothes she was wearing every time I saw her, the way she kept her hair (I'm not joking, it's almost like photographs permanently burned into my memory)
      - her voice
      You don't have any idea how much it hurts!

    • @the_phantom_nova6200
      @the_phantom_nova6200 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@UltraCasualPenguin Ive felt your pain many times man, Its saddening how many women just cant understand what that feels like.
      What takes true strength is being able to keep going after locking all those emotions deep inside and becoming alone and cold with past memories finding their way into our dreams, haunting us everyday.
      Hiding our emotions causes great pain, We wouldnt be able to endure that pain if we were weak.
      When the time comes again roll the dice and see what happens, Thats what I tell myself and hopefully I can build the courage to take that leap of faith if and when the time comes.

    • @laceyloops
      @laceyloops 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      True. There's a reason they're fighting their feelings and those reasons are valid enough for them to not do anything. Waiting for them or chasing them does not guarantee a happy ending

    • @vladimirlem1104
      @vladimirlem1104 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You do not deserve to be loved you psycho piece of shit

  • @artbygilik
    @artbygilik 4 ปีที่แล้ว +35

    Sheesh, every single sign... I'm just giving it time because the truth will come out eventually and he does open up when hes ready to speak up

  • @saminarose80
    @saminarose80 4 ปีที่แล้ว +89

    This is sick! If he can’t deal with his emotions and be honest Run away!

    • @ScotchItali
      @ScotchItali 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Smartest thing said in this whole damn post.

    • @chrissame
      @chrissame 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Introversion itself can be a huge factor too. If a guy is very introverted a lot of things will conflict.
      A person would need to judge whether to give them time, if they liked them, or let them go.

    • @the_phantom_nova6200
      @the_phantom_nova6200 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Most dont hide them due to simply "Not wanting to be tied down"
      The feelings are hidden because they want to be tied down with the person they have feelings for, But most believe that person will never love them back so they try and kill it all away in fear of being rejected.
      This is even worse when they've been rejected before.

    • @kilodeltawhisky1504
      @kilodeltawhisky1504 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Running away sounds like not dealing with feelings as well.

    • @vladimirlem1104
      @vladimirlem1104 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yes, they should run away from you, any sane person would do the same

  • @heatherd4881
    @heatherd4881 3 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    I think patience is key. However, after waiting so long be open to expressing your own in order to give him permission to see where your head is. If he pulls back, explain that you do notice this pulling away and if another conversation occurs, explain that the in and out does not work for you.

  • @laquantagaston6521
    @laquantagaston6521 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I totally agree with her comment at the end about it better for him to fight his feelings for a woman than to keep stringing her along months or years .

  • @shalu85liz
    @shalu85liz 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    If he wants let him pursue me, be open, propose, love, marry, let me see the effort man!!!

  • @milyonabilyones141
    @milyonabilyones141 3 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    I move on.... Forget everything. Empty the heart being over loaded. That's the best way i can do.

  • @masonjamess9
    @masonjamess9 4 ปีที่แล้ว +58

    Lol this crazy bc every last one of these signs fits the guy who I think got feelings for me 🤦‍♀️

  • @charichari
    @charichari 3 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    I've crushed on a guy who gave off some of these behaviours (staring from a distance, being close one day and ignoring me the next, etc.) and I realized I'm WASTING MY TIME since this feels like high school teenage immature behaviour... Nope, don't like that! My attraction for him faded the more I thought about how contradicting and inconsistent his behaviour was: this BOY doesn't know how to deal with his feelings. I wish him well, but don't see him in a romantic sense anymore.
    I've learned to basically to live my life, move on and NOT to waste time thinking or wonder if he actually is fighting whatever feelings he has. No one should have to waste time on a boy who cannot decide what to do with his emotions/strings you along. I'm devoting my time love and energy for people who are genuine, DECISIVE and not wishy-washy about their true feelings.

    • @monican250
      @monican250 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      IF YOU ARE,iNTERESTED IN ANY TYPE OF SPELL,,, OR ANY RELATIONSHIP* **PROBLEMS
      CONTACT HER*** ON ,,,WHATSAPP *he can help solve your problems*
      :*.
      ..

    • @the_phantom_nova6200
      @the_phantom_nova6200 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@monican250 Thats not a good way of dealing with a crush you cant make anyone love you back no matter the method. It is in their free will, If you try to make them what you want them to be it will back fire.
      Dont use youtube comments to try and deceive people.

    • @samanthaarmy6814
      @samanthaarmy6814 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      For me also the same case he always stare at me and also ignore me it literally hurting my feelings 🥺 because he is my first crush more over after his weird action I started to ignore him🙂 but still it hurting me very deeply I can't understand what kind of feelings it is .....😅

  • @Lorenzo83579
    @Lorenzo83579 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Be careful. These could also be signs of narcissism. If you get involved with one of these, you're in for a crazy roller coaster ride.

  • @merrysunuwar
    @merrysunuwar 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    My recent bf showed all this sign. I just couldn't deal with his inconsistent behaviour and broke up with him.

  • @yami12684
    @yami12684 3 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Yep my crush has feelings for me 😆

  • @muffintopz4692
    @muffintopz4692 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Love isn’t complicated. People are. If someone isn’t offering what you want, find someone who is. Don’t force people to give you what they aren’t willing to freely offer. It usually doesn’t end well.

  • @safiradiamond1510
    @safiradiamond1510 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I don't know. It's crazy. My former boss does all of these things you've mentioned in the video, except for social media because I don't have Facebook or any of that. But inconsistent behavior like hot and cold. One day, he's talking to me. The next day, he ignores me. Some days he acts as if I don't exist. Sometimes he will find ways to get closer to me. Then avoids me for the rest of the day. We wear masks at work, so I can only see his eyes and vice-versa. I caught him staring at me several times from a distance but I tried to play it off. Sometimes I pretend that I didn't notice. We definitely have chemistry. He always fidgets when he's around me or stumbles over his words when talking to me about work either in person or over the phone. I quit because I didn't know how to deal with my feelings towards him and 2 weeks later, he also left. I found out from my former coworkers that almost no one knew he was leaving. Which made me wonder WHY he transferred to another store after I left. He was definitely disappointed when I left because he didn't know I was leaving. He told me that, himself. He didn't know I was leaving until the next day when he arrived to work. Now, the Universe is sending me all of these signals or messages with his name in it. Either his first name or last name. And I don't know what that means. I'm like....WHY is his name kept popping up out of the blue in everything I do?

    • @charleneeckstein7213
      @charleneeckstein7213  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      It's possible he was fighting feelings for you but held back as your boss. Is there a reason he wouldn't reach out now and try to reconnect? Is he in a relationship or are you? If he's available and you're still interested, maybe you need to make the first move. Thanks for sharing!

    • @safiradiamond1510
      @safiradiamond1510 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@charleneeckstein7213 thank you for your comment. I've posted on other channels regarding this and you're the only one that gave me an answer. And yes, I think he didn't know how to approach me because I'm married. I do send him a text now and then just to say "hi." I don't really know what to say to him. I've had dreams about him. I don't know what that means. Also, I think you're right! He was keeping it professional because he was my boss.

  • @emeraldpurple5797
    @emeraldpurple5797 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I think my Boss has feelings for me! I see a lot of staring from a distance and ignoring me on my face.

  • @snehadhanawade8226
    @snehadhanawade8226 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    If I like him then i give him time and attention. If I don't like him then I tell him right away and I ignore him.

  • @nabilahrahim5354
    @nabilahrahim5354 4 ปีที่แล้ว +46

    This happened to me and I ignore him. A MAN SHOULD BE BRAVE TO MAKE A MOVE! Only a boy hides his feelings! So be a man :)

    • @li-an7700
      @li-an7700 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      same with women!

    • @barbaramay3539
      @barbaramay3539 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      So true.

    • @hello-mc5rg
      @hello-mc5rg 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      That's just ignorant

    • @MclubAchannel
      @MclubAchannel 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      But after move, what is the next? So no one want to move 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @nikcole-bone-8241
    @nikcole-bone-8241 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    You are 10000000% right on - thanks for this 🙌🙌💛🧡

  • @IamTierraWoods
    @IamTierraWoods 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Everything in me is saying GO GET YOUR MAN! lol

  • @privateprivate8366
    @privateprivate8366 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I worked hard to ignore him, although I worked for him. He was married so, there was nothing I could do.

  • @carinajohansson8696
    @carinajohansson8696 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Im so down and sad because i man i like is taken but The strange thing is that i know he likes me but he is hiding it

    • @goddessshella664
      @goddessshella664 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hello dont be sad,I know of someone who can help you , he helped me restore back my broken relationship and he can also help you just as he did mine too

  • @tianiemitchell5692
    @tianiemitchell5692 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Give him time and still live my life

    • @monican250
      @monican250 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      IF YOU ARE,iNTERESTED IN ANY TYPE OF SPELL,,, OR ANY RELATIONSHIP* **PROBLEMS
      CONTACT HER*** ON ,,,WHATSAPP *he can help solve your problems*
      :*. .

    • @monican250
      @monican250 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      IF YOU ARE,iNTERESTED IN ANY TYPE OF SPELL,,, OR ANY RELATIONSHIP* **PROBLEMS
      CONTACT HER*** ON ,,,WHATSAPP *he can help solve your problems*
      :*.
      ...

  • @ramisa1699
    @ramisa1699 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I'm gonna give him time and space.

  • @sgibson806
    @sgibson806 5 ปีที่แล้ว +38

    That's what I'm going through now

    • @charleneeckstein7213
      @charleneeckstein7213  5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Hi Sunshine! I hope things work out for you.

    • @jenniferl5456
      @jenniferl5456 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      ugh me too!

    • @gigigrant1597
      @gigigrant1597 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Me too but today i told him my feelings hope to God i didnt scsry him away

    • @deljean
      @deljean 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@gigigrant1597 what happened?

  • @kayleecole4512
    @kayleecole4512 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    My friend has done almost all these things, lots of mixed signals,inconsistency and he didn’t say anything clear about him not reciprocating my feelings until I read him a message on the phone that I sent him and he didn’t respond to,saying “you don’t love me like that” and he said “no” and I know I need to let him go and move on cuz it’s hard and painful being friends with him but it’s hard to let go too. I need help

    • @charleneeckstein7213
      @charleneeckstein7213  2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      It hurts and it sucks, but at least now you know. You may need to distance yourself to get over him, but eventually you find that person you were meant to be with. All the best.

  • @rockgamegirl4551
    @rockgamegirl4551 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    this is my crush 100%. At times I'll walk by and I see him turn to look at me out of my peripheral vision. When I'm with him he'll mention 'oh this girl is funny you just gotta hang out with her sometime' and I'm like 'for real? I don't care right now' me and him almost the exact same person but so different at the same time, there's times where he gets close but then pushes away like confused

  • @lobbyjube1987
    @lobbyjube1987 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I do all of these things because I am in a committed relationship but crushing hard on another woman

    • @charleneeckstein7213
      @charleneeckstein7213  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you for sharing.

    • @Lavanyachawla55
      @Lavanyachawla55 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Why do you do this ? So harsh. So wrong to the person. I hope she finds someone better

    • @lobbyjube1987
      @lobbyjube1987 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@Lavanyachawla55 I don't understand your question. 1. Why am I crushing? Because attraction isn't a choice. 2. Why am I fighting my feelings? Because I am loyal and I choose my partner over my crush

    • @christinegasana7743
      @christinegasana7743 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@lobbyjube1987 update? Did you stop crushing?

    • @lobbyjube1987
      @lobbyjube1987 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@christinegasana7743 Well, my relationship was a good one. It lasted a long time but, it was coming near the end. I ended things with my ex amicably and began hunting. I asked several girls out, including my crush, and a few took me up on it and one of them is now my new girlfriend. Haha. My crush at the time was not one of the girls that said yes to me.

  • @sheenaxoxo5787
    @sheenaxoxo5787 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I say leave he needs to know what he wants he doesn't know could lead to a toxic relationship with communication issues! And you also don't want a guy one foot in one foot out! Be okay with the idea it might hurt at first but your saving yourself from more hurt in the end! And remember that maybe it wasn't your time you will both come back more grown and healed from past traumas or there is someone better out there for you!

  • @allanpaulsarmiento8667
    @allanpaulsarmiento8667 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Dunno...all of these are true...but I guess I'll find a way to help him free his feelings

  • @zl2980
    @zl2980 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I was going through the same but I decided to let him go bcz it seemed like wasting my time

    • @princedanladi7399
      @princedanladi7399 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Sarò per sempre il. Grato per tutto il tuo aiuto Dr AFINIKI incantesimo d'amore. Per avermi riportato con il mio ex la scorsa settimana, galle il grande incantatore d'amore che sei per sempre reale..

  • @stacyh1271
    @stacyh1271 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    What if he's a jerk to you a lot and sometimes sweet?

    • @charleneeckstein7213
      @charleneeckstein7213  4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      This can be a sign of fighting his feelings for you but beware of a guy who's cool with being mean to you when it suits him. I would keep it moving.

    • @bethorourke462
      @bethorourke462 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Don’t let it become a habit for him it could turn abusive tell him how you feel when he is a jerk if he doesn’t correct his behavior then leave your options open there are plenty of fish . I just wanted to give my opinion if you don’t mind 😊

  • @pinkyfish6850
    @pinkyfish6850 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I dont know.., Talking to A guy half year... He never invites me anyehere.... O invited him but he is always busy.... Nonstop texting and calling me.... I literally just deleted his number.... Dont waste your precious time. Men that want you will let you know.

  • @serious7179
    @serious7179 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    He may be fighting the feelings because you're MARRIED.

    • @charleneeckstein7213
      @charleneeckstein7213  3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Very true

    • @MySweetAriane
      @MySweetAriane 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      He's married *

    • @serious7179
      @serious7179 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@MySweetAriane that too

    • @83ttaylor
      @83ttaylor 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      😂😂😂🥴

    • @carlel121
      @carlel121 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      My case, Literally! Even though he already confessed he won’t hide his feelings for me anymore, sometimes he is cold like there is not point to feel this way, we both are married 🤨

  • @priscillaelikem6202
    @priscillaelikem6202 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    The connection has been strong from day 1 for 5 years now. These few days has grown even stronger. He's fighting it too. What do I do? Should I ignore?

    • @charleneeckstein7213
      @charleneeckstein7213  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I say address it by asking him to hang out, get a coffee, or a drink unless you know he has a good reason to be fighting his feelings. Like one or both of you are in relationships or he's your boss. Otherwise, test the waters, and good luck!

    • @Rocanala
      @Rocanala 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Leave. 5 years in. Girl, RUN, as FAST as you can in the opposite direction. Let him figure out what he wants.

  • @borigyorosi5183
    @borigyorosi5183 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Dear Charley, this is smart, really spot on! I missed some soft music tho ;) keep on doing your stuff, you are helping a lot of people!

  • @ziachan8892
    @ziachan8892 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Same here thsts what i am going throuh right now. Id rather not pursuing. Relationship with him bm. I guess hs not ready yet

  • @wildewildestrawberries
    @wildewildestrawberries 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Great on point advice.

  • @marlym942
    @marlym942 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    5/7 signs with the guy who is inconsistent. I can’t continue to figure him out.

  • @sinqoughsinqough2172
    @sinqoughsinqough2172 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    We were dating at high school and separated now we're in varsity but he's still angry at me. I tried to befriend him like old classmates but he acts strange he actually treats me as a complete stranger I feel like he hates me sometimes where I keep failing for him. This all drives me crazy but I'm not showing him that I love him I pretend like I moved on too I'm just checking upon him as someone I know. And that all confuses me

    • @ForeverXO
      @ForeverXO 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      I really wish I could have went to school with mine. As for being treated as a stranger, I know the feeling, sorry. 😞

  • @MySweetAriane
    @MySweetAriane 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Sounds like a married man

  • @Storytaling-m5u
    @Storytaling-m5u 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    You sound exactly like another youtuber I watch. Very calming voice.

  • @romir6643
    @romir6643 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I hv recently come across such a person...I m 48 yrs...he must be the same. Life wld b a lot more complex by the time we reach dis age. I m single .. n probably luk like one. He has a son..v only meet at a spiritual session weekly. Initially dere were intense gazes from him...for few weeks. But since I was not sure wot it all meant, I didn't give any response. Now he has turned absolutely sober. Takes a glance of n on... making sure dat I don't catch him. But he also carries miserable expressions in between... I feel he is guilty of his initial flamboyant conduct and fears dat I might hv understud him wrong. Because of such intense gazing.. I hv gone into my shell cause it was a very awkward feeling. Now I m trying to come out of it n show him...it's all fine. V are all humans! Hopefully coming Sunday I 'll b able to utter sm nice words to him... I m finding it v hard to gather courage n speak wid him in a normal way cause I hv become v conscious of everything now. My own looks, how he wld react etc etc

  • @divinedlibra9884
    @divinedlibra9884 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    HE DOES ALL OF THIS WHAT? And I heard him talking at a party saying "I feel like she likes me, but I am not interested." to another girl. So we are at distance right now because I confronted him, but he does all of this and everything I do tarot readings and stuff like that I just get that he is hiding his feelings and doesn't want to make himself vulnerable.

  • @deepdiver849
    @deepdiver849 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I gave him three chances . First time told him I noticed his push pull. Second time, I told him I noticed it again and deleted him from my contact list. Third time he came around and requested me to add him without any communication. I receive no communication after him adding me for 5 days.
    This time I deleted and blocked him. If he wants me he has to email me with proper communication. Till then ciao .

    • @kamahalangaming
      @kamahalangaming 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I think I had same situation with the guy who likes you.. May I know your answer what do you think the guy should do? So I can do it to the girl i like. hahaha

    • @deepdiver849
      @deepdiver849 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@kamahalangaming Interesting. May I know what caused you to act like that???? I am curious to know.
      Email her. Try to get back to her thru any communication source left open by her, and communicate properly and apologise for the ghosting/coming and going and tell her you would like to talk to her ( preferably on the phone/video- if you don't feel comfortable just proper communication, not just one line of " Hey" ! )
      Be willing to be consistent and open. She will definitely appreciate it if she is level headed and genuinely a good person with a healthy mind set.
      But because you have been in and out you will have to build the trust from scratch and change your behaviour of push and pull, and put the fear aside.
      I will be more than happy to respond to him, as I had a deep connection with him if he emails me with a clear mind, but his mental state of coming and going was not attractive to me, and truly bothered me .
      There is nothing more attractive than a guy who is open and honest to a woman who has clarity. You either want her or you don't. A strong and stable women can take a No, with respect, but doesn't respect wishy washy men who like a woman but just play hide and seek from time to time with single or one liner communication.
      If you are going thru a rough patch, and afraid you will loose her, let her know, you like her, but going thru a rough patch but will get back to her when you have mental clarity. Be sincere about this.
      But only get back to her when you have mental and emotional clarity, and if you really like her, not because you are scared of loosing her.
      I know it could be scary for a guy, specially if he liked her, or had some sort of deep connection. If you felt a connection, she definitely did too. Having a connection is rare, it's a gift you won't have with many, so cherish it, if you experienced such a connection with her.
      So over come that fear, if the reason for your push and pull was fear.
      If you drag your feet too long and the only thing that is holding you back is fear, you will loose her, because she will start looking for men who will be willing to do what you are not doing, by showing up.
      Hope this helped :)

  • @leahcard1
    @leahcard1 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Sound like my guy friend wish he tell me cause like him to but don't want lose him either
    He is most sweetie guy. I know. Know him almost 12 years now

  • @sarikachaturvedi5276
    @sarikachaturvedi5276 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Well it's just that my class mate shows all these signs consistently...throughtout 2years ...and I was also holding myself back ....but...now as we both cleared 12th ..so our schooling is done ...I donno what to do.....I am consitently and continuously having dreams of him we both have many similarities ..surprisingly for both of us .......I can't stop myself.....I always control myself not tk think about him I don't know about him but....many times I thought of saying of it to him but I could....I just.... don't know......and couldn't..

  • @ArtsyMegz_On_Etsy
    @ArtsyMegz_On_Etsy 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I was hoping that you would tell me what to do. I mean, should I stick around for months on end or will he eventually make a move? What do most guys do?

    • @charleneeckstein7213
      @charleneeckstein7213  3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I would definitely not suggest you wait around. Usually a guy fights his feelings because either you’re in a relationship, he’s taken, or you haven’t given him any reason to think you return his affection. Let him know that you’re available and interested and if he still doesn’t make a move then keep it moving. No time for cowards or games.

    • @ArtsyMegz_On_Etsy
      @ArtsyMegz_On_Etsy 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@charleneeckstein7213 Okay, I will try to show him affection again. I got turned off when he started playing games I went pretty cold for a month. I am starting to come around, but am scared to trust him. But maybe I should start to show affection again, and if it doesn't happen it doesn't happen.

  • @jamiecee4960
    @jamiecee4960 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Inconsistent Behavior...😊🙄

  • @xxXUnderworld123Xxx
    @xxXUnderworld123Xxx 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    going through this right now with a guy

  • @Arizona_lilly
    @Arizona_lilly 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Yes this is my crush some days less than better days ... he may be hae a bad day.. butninhave to approach him nicely

  • @tinabethea1644
    @tinabethea1644 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I have been going through this for years with a friend I had a celebration party for myself and my friends ask me who was the man and I told him he was a friend and they said Tina he's more than a friend you do not see the way he look at you how he's under you how he talks to you and I had two friends say to me he's fighting his feelings what do I do about it nothing because I feel if the man is fighting his feelings that means he don't want me

  • @charleneeckstein7213
    @charleneeckstein7213  5 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    Do you think he has feeling for you but is fighting them? #relationships #dating

    • @tiki6130
      @tiki6130 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      So I usually message my crush and he usually opens it. But yesterday he did not open it could that be a sign he's fighting his feeling?

    • @jasonattwood6289
      @jasonattwood6289 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      It is not always because a man is insecure or don't know what he wants. If a man asked a woman 2 times and a woman says no because she's playing hard to get, than if he has been hurt before, he will suppress his feelings for the girl, even if he feels in love with her. This does not mean his intentions were to use the girl, it does not mean he is not serious, or he is not ready for a relation. If a man feel rejected or was rejected, he needs to totally suppress his feelings for her, before moving on. For some people this will take time, for others not that much.

    • @jasonattwood6289
      @jasonattwood6289 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      If one leaves you or rejects you, she can even go to hell, who cares! I don't understand those who have so many problems, and they end cracking like dogs, if she wants to go she can very well go to ............. I have always been totally heedless of the losses, and unlike others for weeks or months I've never been cracking like a dog because of some ba........

    • @charleneeckstein7213
      @charleneeckstein7213  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@jasonattwood6289 I agree. It's definitely not always about insecurity. Thanks for sharing!

    • @jennifersnelling1265
      @jennifersnelling1265 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yes. All the signs...

  • @aphropap480
    @aphropap480 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    if he does all of these things does it necessarily mean that he is fighting his feelings for me? cause i think its too good too be true

    • @Cathy-ux9xd
      @Cathy-ux9xd 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      What happened? Did he come through?

  • @BlessedSoul12123
    @BlessedSoul12123 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    If it is true... He is really likes me100%

  • @BK-Nyc30
    @BK-Nyc30 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    ALL of these describes mine 🤦🏽‍♀️

  • @joym7035
    @joym7035 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Willing to wait again...

  • @tanusaradhi9187
    @tanusaradhi9187 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    exact situation i am in ..... i see nearly all these signs and am so confused what to do and what he wants .

    • @charleneeckstein7213
      @charleneeckstein7213  4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Hi Tanu, you can be direct and ask him how he feels about you, or just let it be because some guys are cowards and will never make their move. Best of luck!

    • @sinqoughsinqough2172
      @sinqoughsinqough2172 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      It doesn't matter what he wants as my advice, you just try and learn to forget complicated and confusing people. You'll be fantastic (*_^)🤘

    • @shof570
      @shof570 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@sinqoughsinqough2172 Omg say it louder my friend!!!!!!!

  • @serahkairu8596
    @serahkairu8596 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I have a guy friend who has shown most of these signs mostly the inconsistent behavior. We were texting and out of the blue I asked him what I meant to him and he answered back saying we were good friends knowing that he likes me...but he isn't the type of guys who express themselves fully so I keep on asking him to open up and its truly a struggle. He says he is all about finding chemistry . He was dating previously but his relationship ended in bad terms and he confessed to me that he considered his ex as his true love. So after that whole situation. I think he started having some reservations about the whole concept of love. What should I do...stay and try and change his mind or leave him be and the saddest thing out of all this I like him back..

    • @wijdaneelmali1722
      @wijdaneelmali1722 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Ur situation is so like me , it's just that am not sure the guy likes me 2 cuz sometimes he gets so faar and doesn't ask at all and yes he told me as well how much he luved his ex and I decided after that 2 let go cuz i honestly believe a guy who luves u won't tell u such a thing he would actually give u hints that it is only uu this is just my opinion ( God it feels bad)

    • @the_phantom_nova6200
      @the_phantom_nova6200 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Let them know how you feel if you havent already, Because trust me as a male I can tell you from experience if we dont see signs a girl likes us we are afraid of rejection we wont say anything and will try to keep a distance. Unless the girl says something to contradict that belief.

  • @sahirabard5507
    @sahirabard5507 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    The thing I'm going through is this guy has been my best friend for 3yrs and we only been fwbs for 2months I just started working a new job thats not giving me any off days and he seems to miss me more than he should cause he gets mad and don't respond to my texts unless I tell him when I have an off day he blocked me for a day and text me when are you off 3days later he doesn't have anyone left in his life his face and body language tells me he has feelings

    • @sahirabard5507
      @sahirabard5507 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      The sweet words he says now tells me a lot cause he wasn't like that in the past

  • @Lamouranjalaee
    @Lamouranjalaee 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Advice needed asap!
    Originally we met in 6th grade and we had history together and i sat in a row with all boys and never talked to them since im shy but he would always talk to me and make me feel included but we weren’t officially friends yet then in 7th grade we had no classes together AT ALL BUT SOMEHOW MIRACULOUSLY Summer break i went to vacation bible school with my friend and it happened to be the same church he went too so he was there of course SO BASICALLY WE JUST KEPT FINDING EACH OTHER Alright so first I liked him in 8th grade and that’s when it was a crush but I was super shy so I never talked to him I just thought he was cute... so then middle school was over and it was the summer with high school upcoming so basically I was determined to atleast be friends with him more since im determined when I want something so I started talking to him last year around August and I told him I liked him and I also told him I wasn’t allowed to date yet and he accepted that and was like im not really focusing on a relationship rn since school is stressful and he was pretty chill about it he didn’t turn me down or whatever so then fast forward to New years ever I asked him how he felt about me since we had been talking a lil (keep in mind we go to different highschools so all this time we have just texted this is all from texts) and he was like He didn’t really know me like that so I was like alright then I started getting more comfortable with him over the months since January.. then in march I got to see him for the first time Since I started talking to him when I went to a musical he was in and he hugged me that was the best day ever:) I felt so happy to finally see him after all those months & in march I became alot closer and comfortable with him and he would ask to ft me late at night and he would sing to me or play piano sometimes on ft, he always copys me and teases me too and flirt a little from time to time and he would give me compliments and he always sends me pictures he took or tiktoks that he made and asks for my opinion on them and stuff so ofc I grew deeper feelings for him. So this past July I asked him how he felt about me and I told him to be honest with me so if he doesn’t like me i can just let go then. and he said “if I say im not sure then you’ll still hold on but the truth is im not sure”At first i was kinda bummed but I told myself he simply could have just said No so maybe there’s something there and he is a very patient guy and likes to think things out so maybe he just wants to be sure of his feelings and then some of my friends have said maybe he just wont tell me he likes me back since I cant date yet and we probably just need to be around each other more:) and also this had all been through texting anyways.. so October 15th I finally asked him to let me know what’s going on and he said “Ima be straight up. I don’t feel the same way as you do. I love our friendship so much and i’d like to keep things chill. Sorry if I’ve ever lead you on or hurt you.” I then asked him how long he felt like that because the last time I asked him about his feelings recently was this july and he then said “When you asked before and I said idk, I think I felt this way but I didn’t say that because I didn’t wanna hurt you :( ” I was in total shock I couldn’t really react because previously the night before he made a post about someone wanting to date him and I had a anxiety attack then but I later found out the post was a joke and that same night when i saw the post I immediately started acting cold towards him and asked if something was wrong but I didn’t tell him the post he made affected me... so Since I was still shaken from that I was just kinda shocked. I im still wondering why he lied to me this whole time.. I asked him for the truth and he still lied because he didn’t wanna “hurt me” well either way I still ended up hurt:( I thought he was the good guy, I’ll never be able to look at him the same after what he did..and Ive still been talking to him daily as usual because that’s just how our friendship is.. but thinking back to the texts and our energy even the facetime call’s I refuse to believe he doesn’t feel anything.. I just wont accept it. Anyone that reads our messages can see theres something there... I just feel likes hes lying to himself and does'nt wanna accept the fact he feels something because, he does'nt wanna ruin the friendship but I dont know. And yes even though all this time we’ve only talked through texts and seen eacher once since our friendship took off I still felt something..All I ever wanted was to show him love and here I am hurt and often thinking did he ever like me at some point? Where did I go wrong... was it my overthinking, my anxiety, me not wanting to open up to him about my mental health? But I cant blame myself I did everything I could and it still wasn’t enough in the end. So now here I am telling myself daily to focus on our friendship even though my mind often drifts to what we could have been if the circumstances were different and deep down I have a little hope that just maybe he’ll have feelings eventually over time if we hangout more in the future. This whole time ive wrote him a few paragraphs pouring my heart out to him and this whole time he led me on.. so embarassing. and God knows I really tried to do everything I could and I still want him to be the good guy deep down even after he lied to me. This is literally just all so difficult because I'm always gonna have love for him deep down no matter what and only I saw the potential we had. So i've decided I also love our friendship too like he said and I cant change how he feels anyways so ill just accept it.

    • @charleneeckstein7213
      @charleneeckstein7213  4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hi Anjalae,
      Unfortunately, the "how do you feel about me" question trips many people up. Sometimes "I don't know" is the honest truth, and other times it's a cop-out because they want to spare your feelings.
      There's nothing you can do to change his feelings, but you do have the power to decide if the friendship will be enough. He didn't have bad intentions when he said "IDK", he's young and all this relationship stuff is new for both of you.
      Some day you may be in the same situation of having to decide how to let someone down easy. It hurts now, but it will not always hurt.

  • @bridgetgullison8848
    @bridgetgullison8848 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Fighting his feelings means he’s not capable of love

    • @cynthiastevens8302
      @cynthiastevens8302 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      or afraid of rejection

    • @the_phantom_nova6200
      @the_phantom_nova6200 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thats very insensitive, Just because one is hides feelings doesnt mean they are incapable.
      They wouldnt have feelings to hide if they were incapable.

  • @jerkestperson9577
    @jerkestperson9577 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Watching this made me realize I'm "the man"
    And I'm biologically a gurl

    • @ForeverXO
      @ForeverXO 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      It's really ok, feeling the mixture of both can be an amazing experience. Especially with the right partner.

  • @icysnow57cold64
    @icysnow57cold64 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I have a question. How do males and females bond with each other? I don't see how men and women can bond (especially romantically) with each other.
    Women can build incredible friendships and become very close to each other in a way men can't bond, and science shows that women can bond very well with each other. Generally, women are even more social than men are. After something bad happens, a woman quickly rushes to talk to all of her female friends to get support, whereas a man can isolate himself and grief alone.
    Women tend to be more emotional, more caring, more empathic, more compassionate, more affectionate, more loyal, more nurturing, more understanding, more sympathetic, more sensitive, more kind hearted, more peaceful, more calmer, more gentle, more expressive, more intuitive, and more outward than men are, and thus bond more with other women in a special way that they can’t with men. Men, on the other hand, are not that emotional, and thus can’t bond with other men in a special way.
    Women are more comfortable being around with other women than they are with men. They have a type of bond that usually men with women won’t really have, or with men and men. Men are usually much lonelier than women are. Men don't often talk about their personal problems with their male friends like how women do with their female friends. Females produce a lot more oxytocin than males do. And that's a reason why women tend to hug a lot more and be a lot more physically affectionate than men do.

  • @MclubAchannel
    @MclubAchannel 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I am feeling like i am the man 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @TheWholeBits
    @TheWholeBits 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Great job!

  • @Arizona_lilly
    @Arizona_lilly 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Yes he knows how smell and what days I wore certain perfume

  • @theyscreamarie4697
    @theyscreamarie4697 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I know my boyfriend has feelings for me he told me this he loves me and if I ever break up with him he gonna kill his self I forget the rest what he said though

    • @sandymerritt5829
      @sandymerritt5829 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      You need to run honey. Telling you, that he will do physical harm to himself. That's crazy, he needs help.

    • @EfeAikpokhio
      @EfeAikpokhio 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      That's a very manipulative behavior! A red flag sis! I believe for your own safety you should leave this relationship. Please leave for you. He needs to learn to have values as a guy and love himself. The both of you will be alright.

    • @earlpanizzo9089
      @earlpanizzo9089 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Red flag 😬

    • @american236
      @american236 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Dang. Unhealthy. Sorry

    • @bethorourke462
      @bethorourke462 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Toxic stay away ✋🏻

  • @marietg8025
    @marietg8025 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    6 out of 7, and number 5 I've no real way of knowing so could be 7/7 😬
    Eeh

  • @Lic.en.derecho
    @Lic.en.derecho 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Wow he has 6 out of 7....

  • @Rocanala
    @Rocanala 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I’m not here to address a man’s emotional issues. Get help! Women do it all the time!🙄

  • @kimte9446
    @kimte9446 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    He always does this......am really confuse

  • @nicolebutler2860
    @nicolebutler2860 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    What are these opinions based on?

  • @nandaninamdev8892
    @nandaninamdev8892 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    If this is true..man i am doomed.

  • @tybaroseanne5913
    @tybaroseanne5913 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    exactly true!

  • @tricksterdevil7776
    @tricksterdevil7776 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    4 out of 7... is that bad?

  • @LizaS191
    @LizaS191 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Nice

  • @lillian6027
    @lillian6027 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Okay can you help me I have a situation. Me and this guy I met at school started talking on text because we are both shy in person even though we see each other everyday. We talked every day. But then one day he just stopped talking to me and I don’t know why. He was kinda avoiding me at first but kept glancing at me. Now he doesn’t avoid me but he still glances at me all the time and I want to ask him if I did anything wrong but I’m too nervous. Why do you think he did this?

    • @charleneeckstein7213
      @charleneeckstein7213  4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hi Lily,
      I think there could be many reasons for his behavior, some that may have nothing to do with you. If you are still interested, you could send him a text to say Hi and see where it goes from there.. If he doesn't respond, I suggest you let it go and move on.

  • @arankagionetti2098
    @arankagionetti2098 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    He's probably married!!!!!!

  • @hilo5901
    @hilo5901 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Can a bisexual man fall in love with a woman while he is in or taking a break from a “relationship”? (With a man or woman)

    • @charleneeckstein7213
      @charleneeckstein7213  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I don't see why not since a bisexual person is attracted to both men and women.

    • @hilo5901
      @hilo5901 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@charleneeckstein7213 I see. Thank you.

  • @ginapott8202
    @ginapott8202 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    And we are complicated , yeah right 😂

  • @kamahalangaming
    @kamahalangaming 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I am in that guy situation now. What do you think I should do? hahaha

    • @nolletta
      @nolletta 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      I would recommend you to not be shy and just try to talk to her/him and look if you share the same interest or something.
      Good luck!

    • @isabelladombaj2832
      @isabelladombaj2832 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @k r SAME

  • @sallywong106
    @sallywong106 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Ok. Broke up with ex 2 months. We live together...He is showing all signs...What to do?

    • @charleneeckstein7213
      @charleneeckstein7213  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      You two are roommates? If that's the case you need to ask yourself are these signs possible rebound feelings from his break up. So many ways this could be great or go so wrong.

    • @sallywong106
      @sallywong106 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@charleneeckstein7213 I mean I live with my ex still. To this day.

    • @charleneeckstein7213
      @charleneeckstein7213  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@sallywong106 Ok, got it. So there is relationship history here. Regardless of him fighting his feelings, it matters more how you feel about him since there was a break up here. Best of luck to you!

    • @sallywong106
      @sallywong106 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@charleneeckstein7213 Yah. thanks for your response. I have less anxiety now...But won't stay here waiting around forever as I moved to this city just for him. I am planning to give him half a year after breakup to make up his mind. So far is 2.5 months elapsed. He had been going hot and cold now. So see what happens.

    • @sallywong106
      @sallywong106 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@charleneeckstein7213 oh...I really think the statistics is right about people usually get back together in almost 3 months mark. He finally ready to face his feelings for me yesterday. I think he is semi ready to give our relationship a 2nd try

  • @safarshadan7475
    @safarshadan7475 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    After tht, the girl will move on even she saw the sign... Hopeless boy, hopeless me...

  • @wsidegurl6631
    @wsidegurl6631 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Oh no

  • @Lilly-ln4pz
    @Lilly-ln4pz 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    All seven...shit.

    • @ForeverXO
      @ForeverXO 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      😂 sorry to laugh but I was scrolling the comments and then came to yours and I could just imagine... 😄

    • @bettyrevilla2719
      @bettyrevilla2719 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I'm not gonna lie but I also find lily's response funny. It's like holy cow. I'm n trouble.👀😳🤣😭

  • @menkasharma392
    @menkasharma392 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    👍👍