Therapist Reacts to THE MITCHELLS VS. THE MACHINES
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 24 ม.ค. 2022
- How do you deal with family members who just don't understand you? How can you build bridges and healthy relationships when you feel like you have nothing in common?
Licensed therapist Jonathan Decker and filmmaker Alan Seawright talk about the absolutely spectacular weirdness of the Mitchell family in The Mitchells vs the Machines. This movie is insightful, funny, and teaches us a lot about family relationships, growing up, accepting each other's uniqueness, and how to defeat the robot uprising. It is a truly amazing screenplay. A lot of us can relate to the family relationships in this movie... especially Alan (and probably a lot of other people who work in the film industry and relate to Katie Mitchell.)
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Written by: Megan Seawright, Jonathan Decker and Alan Seawright
Produced by: Jonathan Decker, Megan Seawright & Alan Seawright
Edited by: Trevor Horton, tzhediting.com
Director of Photography: Bradley Olsen
English Transcription by: Anna Preis - ภาพยนตร์และแอนิเมชัน
As a writer who runs writing contests, it is incredibly validating to hear Alan's rant on comedies, because it is *so easy* to just write a story where you give the audience a relatable character and then kill them to provoke FEELINGS and those always seem to win over comedies, which are *really freaking hard* to do right.
As an art student, I can relate to that. I really enjoy making people laugh and finding humor in things but my professors just want me to create things that have deep meanings in everything down to the tiniest detail. Its pretty frustrating cause I feel like I can't make the things *I* want to make.
I’m in animation and even him adding the render farm part I felt soooo seen!!!
It's probably ironic that movies the general public don't care about get nominated for awards because the jaded panel is looking for rare/exceptional filmmaking rather than films. Yet comedies don't get respect from anyone despite requiring exceptional filmmaking to _function._
Ah yes... good old Angst Porn.
Remember when Happily Ever After had its place too?
Welcome to the Postmodern era. Where Art Goes to Die.
As someone who writes, comedy is what I struggle with the most. Horror? Can do. Angst? No problemo. But good jokes? That’s hard.
Alan's filmmaking rant on how underappreciated physical comedy is especially in animation makes me feel seen and understood, it's one of the many reasons why I adore animation as a medium, incredible video as always
Yes!!
Agreed wholeheartedly! I'm way more confident in my ability to write dramatic or emotional scenes because I have learned to be touch with my emotions. Humor and making people laugh is hard!
Animation can do some things life action never can.
Movements and physical comedy can be done in a way that doesn't feel off, since it is animation but is something you would never be able to do in real life. There is some energy that only animation can actually do well.
Thats why Tom&Jerry works as a cartoon, but doesn`t as something else to be honest.
"Ed" from the cowboy bebop anime is another example, that character with the movement only works in animation.
If the overall tone and story works with it, it is great to have such things in there, because it is one of the things only animation can really pull off well. And I think we should celebrate it more for it.
Yes completely agree!!!!
I remember being annoyed about comedy not being respected when i was a kid as well. He is the first person in my knowledge who expressed that! 😁
I've cut off ties with my grandmother for various reasons, but one thing that especially struck me was when I was talking to her about this, I said something to the effect of, 'I wish we could just both walk a mile in each other's shoes', and she straight-up said 'I don't think I'd want to do that'. It just really made clear what I already knew, which was that she wasn't willing to see things from my perspective at all. That's what lead to me giving up on having a good relationship with her, in the end. I knew she wasn't going to change her behavior, because she was unwilling to hear my needs.
That sucks 8 kinds of ass. I'm sorry :(
I'm sorry :(
I agree sometimes some ppl just don't want to change so u have to break off with them. Still sucks that it happened.
Because you're spoiled.
As someone who is trying to go to teraphy and is reading "Adult Children from Emotionally Immature parents", I can relate.
I really wish they touched on that when mentioning the perspective thing. Many children do that, they go out of their way everytime and keep failing. It really, really hurts and spreads to parts we don't realize.
I find it really intriguing that the Mitchells are supposed to be a “dysfunctional” family because they are very much what I wish I had as a family
Personally I don’t think they’re dysfunctional; I think they **think** that they’re dysfunctional. One of the biggest things I took away from the movie is that families being imperfect is normal and human and I think that’s something the characters realized throughout the film as well.
@@wednesdaysartcastle9018 Unless you're the perfect instagram family
@@aguyontheinternet8436 Yeah haha, though I think towards the end they were also demonstrated to have flaws! Just different kinds. Abbey especially is shown to be just a normal kid (seen in her conversations with Aaron) which was really sweet :)
Most people are like the Mitchell family not the Posey family.
They’re dysfunctional, but much more mildly than a family that would try to pretend there’s nothing wrong. Acknowledging problems and resolving them is crucial, if you don’t talk about issues they never get solved
As soon as I saw “Deregulate Tapioca” I knew. These people know their internet humor.
I also love that Aaron is coded as neurodivergent and Katie is part of the LGBT community, and neither one of those things is the focus of their arcs. It’s just part of their characters.
Yeah. It made this family so much easier to relate to my own
yeah! Aaron having a hyperfixation and not being made fun of by his family? that's the kind of representation I sought for when I was still young and understanding myself! it's amazing and love how supportive they are^^
wait dude she is? haha i didnt even notice, thats great xD
As a bisexual girl who watched this movie with my adhd little brother, it was surreal how much those two related to us
I totally read Katie as neurodivergent as well, on top of being LGBT.
“I want you to feel loved and respected and I’m not sure how to meet that need”
Ok stop. Why didn’t this come out last week. After a terrible 3 day argument with my husband, him grieving a death, words getting taken out of context, I finally told him a version of this. And I really think that is what opened his eyes to how I was being affected by his actions and words. It really does work.
I love you guys, there’s so much I benefit from your channel and I know others do too.
Ah, alot of that going around, apparently... Similar situation with me and my wife, except the roles are reversed, but yeah...
@@shelbyherring92 I’m sorry you two are also going through a difficult time, I wish the best for you both!
Amen
@@shelbyherring92 The devil working overtime
This channel is beautiful. It's comforting and for some reason I feel like I'm with friends. Not just movies, genuine discussions. It sparks something and listening to them and reading the comments somehow comforts me when I'm going through something.
totally agree with the statement that comedies are critically underrated. i can write a sad story easily, i can write romance and even drama if i plot it out enough. but comedy? COMEDY? i wouldn’t even _dare._ it is _incredibly_ hard to actually make a joke hit and even harder when the tone and image all rely on words and the reader’s interpretation.
people who write chat fics (fictional stories written as a group chat) easily earn my respect because those things are made to be wacky and funny and they ARE.
I wish I had known what I signed up for when deciding to write a comedy webcomic. It has drama elements and sad scenes too, but the comedy is the main part and has to carry the whole thing. But, I'm not giving up on it. It'll just take a lot of work.
I love group chat fics, they’re always my favorite because they really capture how people interact with one another and always get a laugh
to make great comedy, you just need natural personalities flow with each other and that is very hard to create. irl it just happens. that is why great friends can always hang out and laugh about anything.
Yeahh. As someone who also aspire to write, I don't trust myself to write comedy because it's really, really hard to write and to be felt by a lot of people. I'd write a hundred pages of drama, romance, mystery and be confident about it- but I won't be confident enough to write a single page of comedy
You might enjoy the sheer insanity that is the drunken writing session/card game that is Episode 11 of A Sister’s All You Need for that reason. The whole series is an acquired taste and can be horribly offensive but is one of my favorite depictions of writers messing with each other while also enjoying each other’s company in media. There’s just not enough comedies that are written by writers, about writers, for writers. It’s essentially a lewd, crude, unapologetic autobiography of its author
I also have to give this dad some credit. He never once says " why can't she be more like normal girls" he may not understand her but he never says her way is wrong
I CRIED with this movie. Also, I’m joining the asking-for-a-video-on-Encanto crew!!
Me too, I'm excited to see their take on Encanto as well, but all in good time, I suppose!
I saw their last livestream and they said they're already planning on it which is great!
Yes I love that movie
@@MercyGrrl15 I think they said they already shot it
I think that's the one they should do with the kids
This movie hit so close to home as someone who's attending art school! Having a parent not be supportive of your work and bringing up (albeit well meaning) concerns about career sustainability, security, etc. without acknowledging your work was something I strongly identified with, and it was nice to see the movie address this topic of estrangement. Even more so since lots of my art school peers don't have this sort of background! It felt great to be seen.
Same case here! My family even refuses to help me when I need help with a school project and make fun of me every corner of the way. I also teach ESL and everytime they can they ask me to reconsider it (I've been teaching for over 7 years)
I’m a university art and design lecturer and even I have concerns for my own students as only a modest proportion of them will realise the dream they are chasing.
Well, at least you can always go into politics. You could be the leader of a great nation! 😂🥳
@@joemacleod-iredale2888 uh you may want to walk that back, saying people are more interesting just because they want to work in arts and discrediting other fields like that is extremely harmful
@@tylerb5764 I can see how it reads like that, I meant that people who want to create something are more interesting to me than those who are just chasing wealth.
You know you love Cinema Therapy when...
They release a video about a film you haven't heard about and you have to go and watch the movie before you watch the video.
Also when you find out the movie is comedy about a young filmmaker whose dream isn't understood by their parents and spend the whole movie thinking Alan will love this bit, and this bit, and... 👌
You know one video about Encanto isn't going to be enough, right? We need a series. 😘 There's just so much to talk about!
Also, I was watching Onward again last night and thought that was a really interesting about parental loss/absence and the sibling dynamic. If you do watch it, it's also worth watching the episode of Inside Pixar (episode 5 - Where Ideas Come From) with the director because he talks about his own family where the central idea came from.
On a personal note, my husband after hearing the film was about wanting to spend one last day with a deceased father, decided he never wanted to watch it - his own father died suddenly when he was 20 - and for him that desire to spend one last day with him is too painful to want to watch a film about it. It's interesting that sometimes watching films about issues that touch us can be helpful and therapeutic, but that sometimes it's just not something we'd want to watch.
Why are you me? LOL I saw the video and went to watch the movie first. XD
i watched this exactly when it first came about
about a year ago
Literally what I just did :))
I went back and watched the Mitchells again after watching this video.
i can NEVER get over the mom becoming a warrior scene SO much
I love how the dad responds positively to it too
To me, the funniest part of 'The Reckoning has begun!" line is hidden behind the words. The robots haven't been alive (or whatever) for more than a week, but they already have a mythology which includes them being reckoned or sorted in an unpleasant manner.
That's amazing.
One big part in this bad communications is: we grow up with school / media etc. telling us: be perfect. I was always so afraid of making mistakes, that I made all of them, because of my fear. Nah, the world is not perfect and it is not so important to be perfect.
I think more so that media and school tells you that "you're perfect just the way you are". Well, once you make it to a point and realize that things aren't going well, it is an absolute self esteem destroyer. It makes you want to live up to what people are saying about you. But guess what, you can't because it's simply not possible. Nobody is perfect.
@@seawolf_USA I guess it is a two sided coin: "You are so perfect, you are perfect the way you are" vs. "You have to be perfect. No mistakes or your future is ruined!"
This all is... meh.
I mean... yes, I am a human, I am perfect in my way... but that can put pressure on people especially in a young age.
I dont want to be perfect. I want to be me.
Sometimes I am a mess, I do my best, yes, but sometimes my best is not enough, sometimes I dont have the energy for even trying. And that is OK. But it also means, that it will hurt. Mistakes can harm you and others. And we should learn to own our mistakes. I want to accept my mistakes, for me... I have to accept what I can and cant do. Only that helps me to make decisions and solve problems / accept them.
@@HoneyballLP For sure, you have to be somewhere in between. Of course this is where having your own values to live out is important. What people need to do is understand that as long as they are improving on themselves, then you are where you should be. Personally, I use three rules in my own life.
Integrity First, Service before self, and excellence in everything I do. I think if these ideas were brought up in media and taught to our young generation, people would have a much better outlook on life and themselves.
Actually to add to this the reason i see clearly an issue with the media we grew up with was the emphasis on peer attachment relationships over the ones of parents or adults responsible for the guidence of the young people in the show. Sometimes tehy would even be the enemy outright hahahah i mean its a biggggg mess on the eay we perceived our main attachment relationships and shifted more towards our peer attachments. Then it was the missguided basically guided the missguided. Im thinking this goes waaaay back even within a lot of literature this was happening.
If you look up gary neufold?? I can't remember the name of his book i think 'hold on to your kids' idont know but it goes in addition to the attachment theory talks of dr gabor mate... Gary's talks are more focused on how we basically became attached to our peers more than our family because of the toxic habits they had as parents we felt safer and more honest due to the acceptance they gave us that our parrnts did not give us even from infancy our feelings were not heard or accepted shusshhhhed and sent to a corner and punished for evey unacceptable behaviour that was from our difficult emotions which we never were taught how to process they tackled the behaviours but they never really understood and geloed us through the emotional development we were going through so we could be more comfortable with our peers.
This is why positive discipline is the best and handles these issues without punishments which damage the relationship between the parents and the child. Obviously i always recomend Montessori at home to every parent but positive discipline at least is something that can easily be done whatever home set up there is even if chidkren have screen time and electronic toys that fo the work for them nd they dont build on any other skills in the Montessori way at least the bond and the relationship between the parents and the shildren will be with reduced damage lol.
@@AmmaraSHAH773377 I completely agree with you on most of what you said. I think that while it's out of good intention, parents (especially mothers) tend to hold their children back. For example, instead of teaching a child how to walk down the street safely, they just tell them that they're not allowed to walk down the street. The key to being a good parent is listening to your child. I work with kids for work and I make sure to listen to them and let them figure things out the best they can on their own.
However, I do disagree with you on punishment. If parents correctly punished children, there would be no damage. For example, time out is a very good punishment. It's not harsh and gives the child time to think about why they are being excluded from "society". Just like in the real world, if you don't behave properly you are excluded form society, a family's house should be no different. Of course, the whole point of the house is the ability to do so in a safe environment.
I thoroughly recommend watching episodes of Super Nanny to get a good idea of what healthy punishment looks like. Too many parents act as dictators instead of rule enforcers. I could write about this forever, I'm going to leave it here.
The dad maybe doesn't understand the daughter's passion, but I love the fact that everything he says is out of concern for her future well-being. He may not be the best support, at least not in a way the daughter wants him to be, but he's not mocking her, nor humiliating her, nor getting in the way of her passion to force something else on her. That's a cool dad.
This whole family feels very neurodivergent coded and I love that. As a child with autism and adhd who felt isolated/broken, seeing kids like these two in a movie would have meant the world to me, and I’m so glad nd kids today get that,
They are!
Speaking as someone who was a Daddy's Girl as a child, and then drifted apart from him as I got older, Rick and Katie's entire relationship really struck a chord with me. The moment where Rick watches her movie, and begins to see things from her perspective really made me weep, as did their reconciliation at the end. 😭💔
u really should watch the movie with ur dad!
This movie is the perfect evidence that "you're perfect just the way you are" is a very dangerous and damaging thing to tell kids. Because, once they get to a certain age they feel pressured by themselves to be "perfect" when it's simply not possible. The phrase has good intentions but I don't think it has the intended meaning it is meant to. I think we should tell our younger generations instead, "Everybody has flaws but that's what makes you special. If you learn to work with and improve your own flaws, the stronger a person you'll become." The Mitchells accept who they are and how they can do better. In the end they become a stronger and more unified family because of it.
@jensdemens You're missing a critical part of the OP's point. If you're perfect the way you are -- you don't try to change. You don't try to see other perspectives. You may try, as Alan said, to "walk a mile in the other person's wrong shoes". That's damaging to relationships, just like the OP was saying. I value the OP's point - accept you're not perfect and work to improve. That point of view has the legs to carry a relationship.
Have you seen Encanto yet? I'd love to hear your take on it, considering the related themes!
@@sydposting I have seen Encanto, and I did enjoy it. From what I remember the main character felt out of the family like she didn't belong because the rest of her family were "better" than she was. Because of that, she went out of her way to figure out why she didn't have powers to improve herself. In the meantime, she learns that her family members have their struggles too and that they aren't perfect. She convinces them that it is completely fine to be imperfect, as long as you are improving yourself and your family. Then, she finds out that she does have powers after all when the spell starts to ware out. In the moment with her Grandmother she teaches her to move on "again better yourself and your family" and at the end things return to the way they were. That was very simplified because I don't remember the plot completely.
You’re giving me a years worth of therapy in a single comment-
Something really simple that I noticed had a huge impact on my mom's behavior and our relationship was that I told her that I love to hear her talking about how she also fails with simple tasks or is clumsy.
Since that, every time she sees me doing something like cutting my nail when using a knife, she says something like "I do that all the time". I used to feel bad for being clumsy like that, and just because I told her how much I like to hear about her fails too, things became easier.
It's the little ways we reach out to each other like that that really help strengthen our bonds and keep them strong over time. :)
For context, I'm 27 now. This is 100% the relationship I have with my dad, and I constantly had to pause and cry while I watched it the first time because it was both so beautifully made but also put into words my experience with my dad. Since watching it the first time, I have been extending the olive branch to my dad, and in turn he has started extending an olive branch, too. God, this movie is so good!
Me, autistic: FUUUUCCCCCCK
I know it's been a year already and I'm likely speaking to a void, but I'm still incredibly happy for the landmark that you've made and hopefully has since progressed on. I really wish I could say the same about my relationship but hey, I'm 24, looks like I've got three more years to go!
I chose the "sensible career" university degree and my parents still talk about law school, so truly you will never win out against the parental anxiety of "oh god will my kid ever be safe and happy"
I have 2 brothers, one went to art school, the other studied STEM. Guess which one found a job straight out of school and which one is living on my sister's floor
Its about making smart choices and not burning bridges
@@ahhh4117 but again life is to make mistakes and you'll get hurt one way or another. Why should we all step down from our dreams and goals just to avoid TEMPORAL difficulties? 🤔 why should we all set the final line at "if I don't get what I want as soon as I can it was because I'm wrong and should discard my likes/passion/dreams"? Unless it's a race (spoiler ⚠️: it is not and never will be) why is your family competing about who reach first their goal instead of just supporting one another until ALL get to it?
@@ahhh4117 You cleared nothing up, congrats
@@gladiusdomina4399 My comment is that studying certain fields doesn't guarantee success or prosperity
@@ahhh4117 To be fair I've met people who've went to college for "Successful" careers only to never be able to find work in that area even if they are in high demand.
Though one of the biggest reasons for this is because even though there's a high demand for employees in these fields they don't want people with little to no experience. A majority of them want people with at least 2 years experience and won't bother with someone fresh out of college.
Now as for art school I've actually been warned NOT to attend because you can literally learn what they teach on TH-cam or other online platforms that teach the subject.
(Not to mention art school is expensive and the last thing you want is to be in debt)
Another thing I appreciated about the movie was how subtle it was regarding Katie's Sexuality, showing that it's not a big deal, and in a kids' movie to boot. They only causally implied that Jade was her girlfriend at the end, plus Katie's rainbow pin, which was a beautiful way to address it without going overboard. #loveislove 🏳️🌈
I never noticed it. Cool
Exactly! Another thing I like is that even as a background detail of sorts her sexuality serves to give more depth to the conflict and fleshes out her character; realising you're queer and coming out comes with the need to detach yourself from the fear of not conforming to a norm, and when you've done this work on yourself and inevitably faced people who reacted extremely negatively to it it's hard to watch someone you love show discomfort at the way you express yourself and trust that it's only that, that it doesn't reflect a larger problem that will in time lead them to rejecting you outright. Queer characters don't need their queerness to be plot relevant to be valid representation but this was very well executed; it's there and it's a part of Katie that fits logically with all we know of her and it's not a big deal
The colors of her rainbow is very specifc. It was a beautiful touch.
She's just a kid. Not a text book lesbian or "the gay kid". Just a kid who is adorable, creative strong and has a girlfriend. That's it.
She wasn't a gay stereotype either and it was great!
I did not expect an animated comedy about killer robots to make me bawl but it so did. My girls suggested this movie for family movie night. I got divorced in 2020 and things were pretty hard. Their mom isn't the best co-parent and i've had to deal with a lot of slander thrown my way. I refuse to say bad stuff about their mom, so they are only getting one side. As a result, my one-time great relationship with my oldest daughter had really deteriorated. And despite all of the things I was doing for them in the background, she had no idea. All she saw was the negative stuff that her mom told her. So the scene at 16:03 just crushed me. This movie was a dark mirror for sure, but it also gave me the idea to start us in family counseling to try to fix things. Fast forward to today, and with weekly counseling over the summer, our relationship is back on track. We even dressed up together for Halloween this year, and she's starting to see through her mom's lies. This movie literally helped me get my daughter back.
Relationship is very hard (For me because i'm an autist). when someone has and/or gives a very bad image of you, it's like being thrown in a hole where it's almost impossible to get out.
I don't know who your wife is, but i'm happy for you that she is not part of your life anymore. A toxic partner or friend is nothing but a bad influence for you, and mostly your kids. i hope the relationship about you and your daughter is still good those days and i wish you happiness and a good recovering.
Alex Hirsch will always understand my humour, so I'm honoured that he writes all of his works specifically for me (and probably, only me.) All jokes aside, as an animator who makes stupid stuff, this movie made me love what I do so much. 100/10 movie, french kiss.
alex hirsch makes stuff for only us 2
Us three*
French kiss?????? But also yes, I agree!
@@captainagony6691 french kiss is like- violent making out lol- it's a personal inside joke for when I really really like something
@@incognitochinchillea yeah, usually I expect a chef's kiss if anything, but that is super funny, and I may or may not steal that in the future... Also, I saw some great work on your channel, are you actually a comedy master?!
One of my favourite storytellers, Alex Hirsch, was a story consultant and voice actor. He was the creator of Gravity Falls which also explore the relationships between siblings. And I purely love it. When I migrated I had to leave my two brothers behind at home at it was heartbreaking. This movie was a love letter for us.
3 minutes into this movie I said "Alex Hirsch must have been involved in this". it has his whole vibe all over it.
Waiiiiiiiiiit that's why Inside Job is so damned funny. Alex Hirsch! I think.
How did I never notice this. This movie has Alex Hirsh written all over it.
Also, Mike Rianda the guy who directed this movie, was a writer on Gravity Falls
yay, someone else likes gravity falls!! You have earned my respect, human stranger. ♥
As an autistic person, surrounded with ADHD and autistic family members and partners, I'm seeing the whole family as neurodivergents. (And it hits home so strongly for me because of it.)
(And seeing all of them stimming for the whole movie, it made me (and both of my adhd partners) happy stimming the whole time lol)
The movie literally screams neurodivergence in your face. I love it!
@@Zornroeschen90 yesss ! And even though there are a hell of a lot of stimuli, it's strangely not too overwhelming? Maybe because of how relatable it feels.
@@batcyan6217 True! I think it's mostly due to timing or limiting the exposure of complete crazyness to an amount that the brain can handle. There's also quiet phases or more subtle cues like the drawn broken heart that just add so much by being so little. It's just balances exeptionally well for the meme and effect blast the movie is.
My relationship with my dad is almost nonexistent and would be completely gone if I was not living under my parents roof. I watched this with my family and related so hard to Katie’s relationship with her dad at the beginning and I don’t think that can be changed unless my dad and I actually talked about our relationship which I don’t think he would want to do since he’s not good at expressing his emotions. By the end of this movie, I was crying. I’m tearing up writing this honestly. I think my dad wants to be closer with me but I don’t really see that being possible without the touchy feely talk which I don’t think I could get through.
You have described to a t my relationship with my dad. I'm also at that place and I'm not sure what to do about it. I hope you can find peace no matter which route you decide to take, whether that is talking with him, moving away or keeping things as they are.
hey!! just wanna say i’m going through this with my dad right now too, and as uncomfortable and difficult as the touchy-feeling conversations are, it’s been SO helpful to hear his intentions. i’ve realized after that talk with my dad that he really does care, his execution is just not good. i also recommend family therapy if that’s an option! u can get thru this, i believe in you guys!
Full disclaimer I don't know your situation so I am never qualified to judge what's best for you to do over yourself. However, my 2 cents would be that I think it should be worth trying to have that conversation as long as it's open and honest. Tell them that you love them, you understand that they love you and that you want to work together to improve that relationship because it's important to you. Ask them how they want to help, and how they want to be helped.
Hoenstly? Same. All around same.
I completely agree with you. I get this feeling that me and him both don’t really know how to communicate. Even though we both know deep down we love each other, but something is in the way.
I just love that you don't look down on the fact that this is animated. As an adult, I often find it so hard to get other adults to realize the value in something animated because "it's for kids". When so many things that go into animation get looked down upon that are so much work. There's so much thought that has to be put into every moment in an animated movie, it's so refreshing to see someone acknowledge when it's really good
When I was a kid, I had the idea to roll down the hill in a barrel, like in cartoons. I told my mom about this, and she said - Let's do it! We had a barrel where I could fit in and a very small slope in a yard and my wish was fullfiled! The moment I started a roll, I knew it was a bad idea. :) with every turn, I was falling down, again and again. Needles to say, my mom was very amused. It's a great memory for both of us.
🤣🤣 your ma is great
I low-key love your mum and hope I kan be a mum like that to my kid!
As they say, experience is the best teacher!
Your mom is apparently the best!
There's a knack to it, you have to wedge yourself into the bottom fetal position. Speaking as somebody who did it for fun a fair amount as a kid. When I got too big to scrunch into the bottom it def stopped being fun for the reasons you mention. My grandparents had industrial sized metal barrels, which helped; plus a huge hill that made the trip worthwhile, as long as you made sure not to aim for the creek. You were definitely screwed if you lost your hold halfway down tho.
"The lavender one has found us, we must retreat!!" I love this movie so much.
When Linda appears with Aaron after going ham on the robots, Rick says "I can get into this." Katie's face makes me laugh every time right there. It's not the focus of the frame so it's easy to miss.
I really thought you'd also address the representation of neurodivergence in this movie. Even though it's not explicitly stated, it's obvious that no one in their family is neurotypical, especially not the kids. Aaron has his hyperfixation on dinosaurs, has extreme social anxiety, infodumps a lot and doesn't seem to be very good at showing his feelings. Katie seems to be hyperfixated on movies and sees it as an escape from the harder things in life. And part of the acceptance from her dad is him learning how to accept that she's nd and realizing that she needs to be communicated with in a different manner.
I also absolutely love the queer representation, even if it's only just one line in the end that confirms it. At first, i thought Katie was just implied to be queer and not canonically confirmed, but that line from her mom made me so happy, as a sapphic person myself. My mom is somewhat supportive of my sexuality but i can never imagine her asking me about it in such a casual way like Linda did.
Also, i love that the "perfect family" aren't shown as snobs or mean people. They're genuinely good people, who just have a different lifestyle from the Mitchells.
Katie also wears a pride pin consistently throughout the movie
@@MeemahSN yes! at first i thought it was just a pin that happened to be rainbow, since i wasn't used to seeing overt representation in media. but knowing that after watching the movie was great!
My husband's cousin worked on this movie! He worked on the backdrops but still got his family picture in the credits. It was so cool, we didn't even know until the movie came out.
That's so awesome! It's great to hear that every worker on this film this got a thanks or at least recognition ❤️
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My father's brother's cousin's step brother works for nintendo.
As someone who has an strained relationship with their father, it was a tear jerker
Yea, same.
Me too! I’m working on it in therapy!
My dad is emotionally abusive an whenever I see something like this in a movie it makes me feel simultaneously uncomfortable, sad and heart warmed all at once.
@@bigpapamagoo8696 Same, same. I can't help but feel bad that my mental state and all my relationships isn't an easy fix. Life is no fairytale where things magically become alright after hardship. I can try, try and try, as much as I want, but it means nothing if my dad refuses to do his part. I hate that I can't change him. And I am the one who'll have to live the rest of my life knowing my dad was too stubborn and blind to change, to listen, to respect my boundaries without constant reminders and eyes on him all the time. He'll probably be gone in a matter of years, and he still doesn't care what affect he has on my mental state. I will remember him as someone who didn't love me for who I was. Someone I had to fear, for he might verbally hurt me.
@@iclynnx Dude that’s exactly how I feel about my mom. I recently stopped talking to her altogether because I was just so tired and she was only becoming worse. I just didn’t feel like trying anymore. I didn’t want to put any more of my emotions into our relationship. So I gave up. Sad but whatever.
Mitchells vs the Machines hits so hard. I’m currently experiencing my last summer before I go off to college. Though I chose to no longer major in music, my mom could never quite understand what I liked about composing and playing my own peices. She also gets very confused about anything to do with my main hobby of microbiology. Such a good film.
music and microbiology??? you sound like the coolest person ever! hope ur 1st year in college is going well :)
It definitely didn’t lol. I had a really rough transition, but now that I’m on my second year, I’m doing quite well. I found a good support network, and my mom is a lot more supportive of what I’m doing. Especially in music and theater.
I was nearly convinced the writers of this movie hid in my house growing up. My mom is the Conflict Avoidant one, and a teacher. Dad loves me a lot but in my transition to college we hit this wall of not understanding each other. I was a Daddy's Girl to the MAX (following a veterinarian around his job was my favorite thing). My little brother loves dinosaurs and was SUPER ready to share his knowledge.
And man. So many levels hit home. That core conflict between Katie and her dad... OOF. It was so so good to watch.
The name on your user really sells this fact too
I remember in drama class, we had to write a fully scripted stage play. Everyone gravitated to comedy because they thought it was easier, and I, as an avid consumer of comedies, was the only person who wrote a drama because I knew it was easier. On the day of the presentation, none of the jokes landed; all the comedies fell flat, and while my drama was mediocre at best, it still elicited the reactions I had been going for. So guess who was the only person who got an A on the project 🙌
Oh I had a similar situation in drama! Everyone decided to do hardcore drama with drugs! Depression! Mental anguish! I wanted to have some fun so I wrote an marital dispute set during a zombie apocalypse. I had my two actors randomly shooting at zombies while husband revealed he slept with her sister because they thought they were gonna die on a supply run before they shoot each other out of spite. It was definitely a memorable moment 🤣
I WOULD HAVE LOVED TO WATCH THAT
@@TKZells16 Please tell me you got that play on video, because it sounds bloody fantastic.
@@Colopty lol thanks but unfortunately no this was just a random scene assignment, I don't think have the script anymore either
this movie really spoke to me and flew under a lot of people's radars which is a shame so thank you for covering it!
It was originally going to be released in cinemas in fall 2020 under a different name (disconnected). Not sure how much change happened with it going to Netflix. Glad to see it, bummed it didn’t get a theater release.
YES! The family dynamic is perfect!
There. You did it again. Made me watch a movie just because you did a video about it. And I don't like comedies.
But that was sooo breathtakingly amazing! Thank you, thank you, thank you. I laughed so much!
Isn't it awesome!
@@CinemaTherapyShow Can you do "A Goofy Movie" next? Similar idea to "The Mitchells vs. the Machines" (formerly known as "Connected"), and a lot better than "Turning Red" in terms of the "Generation Gap". To put it bluntly, "A Goofy Movie" is Good Cringe, but "Turning Red" is Bad Cringe.
What I love about the Rick Mitchell Special scene is that once everything blows over, the daughter is the first one to speak up. Showing how much closer they’ve connected. It’s really simple but so impactful.
Something that I've seen a few other people point out and I also find very apt, is the way that the film shows the different ways that neurodivergence, specifically autism in the case, can be expressed in one family. And while Aaron, Katie, and Rick are more blatant in their autistic and/or ADHD coding, I feel like it's applicable for Linda also; the pain they all felt from having to make eye contact is deeply relatable- it also exemplifies the way that trying to fit into neurotypical social behaviour doesn't help for autistic people- when they're all forcing eye contact they aren't actually communicating and because they're focused on maintaining eye contact- which is kind of expressed again with the scene where they try to copy the Posey's they're trying to conform to a standard that doesn't work for them.
As an autistic person, I loved this movie. Not only did it make me laugh at most of the jokes, I also related to the characters. Seeing how hard the family tries to be "normal" even to the point of forcing eye contact at the dinner table, it's pretty much what I've tried to do before to seem like a normal person. And the way they gave the main 4 their own quirks was great, I couldn't even tell the younger brother was neurodivergent, even with his obsession for dinosaurs, but I just straight up related. Movie handles it amazingly, one of my top 3.
Agreed.
I tend to find it uncomfortable to keep eye contact for long because i end up worrying about "if it looks normal" so i end up looking at some small detail like the look of the wallpaper or what the posters say, or the dangling cobweb on the ceiling. Its hard to do something that's considered normal because, like you say, those on the spectrum are not coded that way. specialist subjects, for instance. I can tell you everything about my favourite video game, but whenever my mother switches subject half way through, its a reminder that not everyone shares the interest and so i shut down and feel like I'm boring someone, which doesn't make me feel good.
And it definitely doesn't help when the ladies of the autistic community like myself "mask" our autistic traits every damn day. its EXAUSTING to come home after a whole day of interacting with people and having so much sensory information just drown you to the point of wanting to scream and tell everything to shut up.
Within five minutes of starting the film, one of the first things I said was "They aren't dysfunctional, at all! They really love each other and want to support each other but... they all have ADHD. "
They don't always understand each other, they don't always communicate well, sometimes they hurt each other accidentally (because with ADHD that is shockingly easy to do) they for SURE aren't going to look perfect to outsiders by any definition of the term. But they ARE functional, just weird.
I know this because the Mitchell's are SO much like my family.
@@lpsftw8572 So, my trick is to stare at a single point on a person's face, like an eyebrow. That way it looks like I'm making eye contact and they feel seen and listened to, but I also can limit the amount of sensory information that I have to deal with. People's faces are really complicated, their expressions are so confusing. Is that a frown? Is that a smile? Are they laughing with me or at me? Just one eyebrow makes it so much less daunting. :)
...what?
Them: "We just need to communicate more directly"
Me, an autistic person, who communicates very directly: *somehow still ruins my relationships.* oops...
also, YES!!! I would love to see an interview with the children!
Literally same, why do normal people gotta be so confusing??
@@lynnboartsdye1943 nt: there's so many little rules but we do not talk about the rules; but, you must understand the rules or you're bad
me: (ausitic) yeah i dont wanna do that
Tale as old as time, friends...
As someone who does the same thing with communication, sometimes what you think you are saying isn't what you are actually saying from the other persons perspective.
@tartjuicebox counterargument: this would work with people that I dont know, they dont know I am autistic and have 0 responsabilities with me, my family that know I am autistic since I am 8 (I am 19) have no excuse to get angry and not explain nothing, even when they know that I dont know what is the problem with the things I just done
Love this movie. I grew up in a family where our general motto is 'We don't do neurotypical'. Just about everyone in the immediate family has autism, adhd, anxiety, and sometimes depression. We all saw so much of each other in this movie (especially since the oldest sister is really into animation and movies) and it is always a fantastic experience to watch this movie together lol
I adore that the brother and mom are helping coach the dad and sister on how to relate to each other!
For a while I needed my sister to translate the things my mom said, because they would sound so harsh. But my sis would be able to see my face and come in with "this is what she meant" and it was absolutely true. Now I'm able to understand what my mom means myself because we've worked on our communication for years. But it always helps to have family there that understands both of the parties in the conflict to help mediate.
I think you guys should do Encanto with your kids: the kids perspectives on the meanings and messages, and the family dynamics, and your perspectives as adults, and how the kid's perspectives on parts changed yours and how you view your family dynamics.
Omg I'd love that
Oh god!! YES!!! Please!! I am dying for you guys to do Encanto!!!
100%! people need to upvote this to oblivion so they see it and do it! been dying for them to talk about Bruno!
When they're holled up at the convenience store and the dad and daughter are having parallel conversations, it reminds me of Merida and her mom having parallel conversations with the horse and the dad, in Brave. They're just missing each other even though they're begging for the same thing.
I watched this when it first came out and enjoyed it enough. Then this last summer I had a baby girl. I can't possibly convey how much more I relate to this film now. The scene where Rick gives up on his "dream", Linda says she knows how hard it must be, and Rick just looks at his daughter and says, "No, it's easy". It's too much, I love this film. You can't know how much kids will change you until they do. The film is full with amazing character moments and such a well-told story.
"Should you interview your kids on the show?" Yes that sounds like a great episode! :3
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Lol I love how every option was yes we dont got a choice but my answer: DIE HARD!:D
So glad you did this movie! Not sure whether the writers intended it, but I read this as a great portrayal of a neurodiverse family. Not diagnosing anyone, but I myself am autistic and ADHD, and I found each of the Mitchells super relatable in different ways. It's refreshing to see neurodiverse characters centered in a story that shows them to be nuanced individuals with different strengths and flaws, not just stereotypes or one-dimesional token references. And I love that the film highlights how their unusual ways of seeing the world can actually be an advantage when it comes to problem-solving, without making them feel like plot devices.
I agree!
I feel the same way, my family is neuro-divergent my sister and I both have ADHD and I'm also autistic, my mum is pretty confident that she's also autistic, and we strongly suspect my dad is too, so the attitude/behaviour of the parents in this film feels very familiar
This movie was such a fun one to watch with the family. Linda's totally rolling with the punches is explained as "I teach 1st grade. This just a regular day" had me dead. I've taught first grade, I can relate 😂
6:00 I think what bothers me most about this scene is that he is also completely ignoring his wife who is pleading with him to stop. And from the looks of it, they probably JUST had a conversation in private about it too.
As a dad who's only fear is not connecting with my kids, this movie hit hard. I cried like a baby at a couple points.
I love how the 'perfect Instagram family' is actually perfect at everything instead of them being caught immediately. It goes against your expectations, too, so good for them. If there was one thing I really didn't like about this movie, it was the screaming monkey joke thing. That annoyed the smile off of my face. And kudos for Olivia Colman being the voice of the villain :o
Yeah that's also I joke that really fell flat for me and it didn't help that they call back to it right after the movie's climax
The perfect Instagram family being actually not despicable, but totally fine reminded me of Charlotte from The Princess and the Frog, where she was one of the BEST characters, instead of being written to be unsympathetic.
Not really about the story, but something I appreciated is that this movie was full of deep-cut millennial early internet references. I'm sure there's always been that component of appealing to the age of the parents likely watching with current kids, but it drew me in further as a parent watching with my kids. But also it was kind of fun to have my kids immersed in some of the stuff that's part of my growing up too. Nyan Cat? Numa numa song? heck yes
The early internet was driven by GenX, once again millennials thinking they're the center of the universe.
by numa numa song you mean dragostea din tei? (haven't watched the movie yet so idk)
@@Rye_Toast Okay, Boomer.
@@denvermiller5091 Gen X aren't Boomers. We're the ones that got shafted by history and forgotten in the dust bin of time. I mean, at least Millennials got a cool name, we're the kids of the hippies who had to raise ourselves because our parents were out 'finding themselves'. XD
It was a bit weird to watch this movie with my family, I love music, I love singing and I want to make living from that. I want to become a singing teacher but my mother is worried about me and my stepfather always tells me I can’t do anything, often it just feels like it sometimes he actually says that and my father who supports me is living some countries away, I’m right in the middle of that situation, it feels really good to watch that movie.
I rewatch this video every few months to remind myself to step outside of my own perspective. It's always helpful. Thank you Internet Dads! You've helped a lot of my relationships with my family become healthier and stronger❤️
You're so welcome!
One of my favourite things about this channel is being able to comfortably read the comments without being disappointed with the slime of humanity. You “internet dads” inspire people to share experience, understand perspective and offer comfort, support and guidance. Much love and and appreciation to you both for the amazing work you do. If the internet was more like cinema therapy it would be a safer and less toxic place. ❤️❤️
Wow, thank you! And a HUGE thank you to everyone here. We've said it before and we'll say it again - we have the best comments section on the internet. ❤️
You should definitely interview your kids on the show! It's interesting to see how different ages experience the same material, especially those closely related. I think it could make a super fun episode :)
I relate so hard to the daughter here, although my dad always wanted to support my following my dreams, I could always tell there was a strong lack of confidence in my ability to handle things on my own, anxiety over my moving away to another state where he won't be there to come help me, and us clashing over my style and his style being totally opposites and him being like "I don't understand it but I'm glad you have things you like!" And then the daughter just wanting to be heard. This is a great film.
The intentions part really hits hard for me for a lot of reasons, but especially when last semester, after at least 2 months of rooming with friends who were in my major and other classes, I had to confront them because I kept noticing more and more instances of them (seemingly) avoiding me, leaving me out of things, not telling me important things, and not inviting me to things they did. And to make a long story short, my roommates told me that they had been having issues with me, giving examples that went back to move-in day, when I had no clue that anything that I was doing or saying was being perceived as disrespectful or hurtful. But the thing is, instead of asking me (at any time or instance during the last 2+ months of living, eating, and working in class together) what my intentions were or what I meant when I did/said x, they kept it to themselves because they "weren't comfortable approaching me" and in the end, didn't try to make things work, find a solution, or apologize for their part in this situation, even though I apologized for mine.
Part of me (that inner critic, y'know?) has tried to blame and shame myself for how my actions caused my roommates to feel the way they did/do, partially because I've always been afraid to hurt people and *wow as soon as I tried to be more authentic and not be the token quiet friend, I failed at that key goal/value of mine*, but the thing is, is I never acted with malice or intent to harm. It is a disservice to ourselves to silence our authenticity for the sake of not "rocking the boat". Emotions can be uncomfortable and overwhelming sometimes, but most if not all are safe to experience in the body (you are not a hamster that will faint upon being spooked), and being vulnerable is the only way we can make connections with people and try to make things better for not only ourselves but other people as well, and the world would be a much better place if people took a cautious step into discomfort than letting shame, anxiety, fear, depression, etc. stew in their lives and with people they care about.
If you actually read all this, thank you!! In the past it was super rare for me to leave comments and I am happy that I feel like I don't need to invalidate my thoughts and anecdotes 🥰 I hope you get a nice surprise today ✨✨
As someone who's favorite movie is Clue and also thinks it is criminally underrated and underappreciated by the internet, you have no idea how happy this moment at 4:01 makes me
Clue is AMAZING.
I noticed it too! Real fun underrated movie!
clue is one of my favorite movies :0
Everyone I know that is into theatre/movies and grew up in the 80's absolutely adores Clue. Most people I know think Caddyshack is the best comedy from that time (don't get me wrong, I love it), but I'd rather watch Tim Curry lead this brilliant cast through the best Board Game adaption ever made.
@@ericepperson8409 Tim Curry is a worldwide treasure. I hope he recovered as best as he could from his stroke.
Also I encountered him in "The Rocky Picture Horror show" and won't accept any other version FOREVER, Then almost didn't recognise him in Criminal Minds until the EYES. MAYBE 60 YEARS LATER.
Yes, we all know here, that the movie is great and everyone needs therapy. As a Slav, I'm here to talk about how Alan's Russian pronunciation is almost flawless.
the more you know!
As a german I can say his german pronounciation is better than avarage. :D
.. я прослушала, он в этом эпизоде что-то говорил? (Слишком глубоко ушла в английский мозг видимо)
Апд. И правда говорил! Согласна, что хорошо:)
Oh, then I need to get Babbel then. Looks like it works :3
Polish was veru confusing. Without subtitles I wouldn't be sure what he said XD he said 'I knew it - wiedziałem to' but it sounded very much like 'I saw that - widziałem to'. It's only a one letter difference though
This is better than therapy (I think)
Seriously this movie came out just a few days *after* my dad died...
A lot of movies my dad would have been able to watch with me that maybe reflected us or could have been fun or could have maybe helped us all came out after he died and even though it makes me cry I love the cathartic review and analysis of the reasons why. It's genuinely helping me cope.
Love you guys.
I think I had the opposite thing where my parents really wanted me to make a career out of my art when I wanted to keep it a hobby. And in truth it was super well meaning of them, but sometimes it felt like they were trying to live through me - not having a 9 to 5 office job, and really pushing me into something I didn't actually want. So I think that the message in this video is very good, that understanding through communication is so important with relationships. Because I'm not blameless, I could've just talked to my parents, but was so assuming that they wouldn't understand, or wouldn't listen. So yeah, another banger Cinema Therapy, loved it !!
Love this!
Also: ENCANTO! I absolutely cannot wait to see your take on this one.
I've watched it 3 times, and every time, new things pop out, like the different perspective the audience sees when Abuela describes her experience ("it was hard but I got through it", kind of a glossed version of what happened) vs. the tearing scream of agony the young Abuela displays when Mirabel sees the *actual* memory and finally understands what her grandmother went through.
Seconding this. I would love to see your take on it. I really enjoyed the movie.
Yes, Encanto plleeeaaassseee
Pls pls pls pls Encanto!!
pause: Johns last high note die hard was actually beautiful
There should be a choral piece where they just sing the words "die hard"
I love that the "perfect family" gets caught before them. Also, my brain is made up of 90% cut aways.
This episode was AMAZING. *Applause applause*, it was funny, insightful, sincere. Just a great video haha. And pleased do bring in some of the family. If you do anything though, please continue therapy-ing us.
Thank you!!
As a Swede you scared the shit out of me when you spoke Swedish. You're doing awesome! I'm low-key considering signing up just because of that
Samma här
I adored this film, and I definitely hadn’t seen anything like it before. “For kids,” they said! I had a stomach-ache from laughing so much! The Furbies gave me nightmares though! A less family-oriented film (or rather, less kid-friendly) would be The Birdcage. Complicated family dynamics and acceptance and a tonne of physical comedy.
Yes, please interview your kids about their favourite movies, favourite scenes, and why they chose them. I’m sure they’ll come up with some wonderful and surprising answers!
"Now I cry on the internet.... for money. Take *that* business school!" Is possibly one of the funniest statements I've ever heard XD
In her defense, she DID explicitly ask him to just finish her video. She seems like she has tried reaching out several times.
Plus I think it’s important to address the power dynamic. Ultimately it’s her parents who control how much agency and freedom she has (as a minor).
Kids are very insightful. I was watching Frozen 2, for the tenth million time, and one of my daughters turned to me and says, "Anna needs to break the dam because it is cutting off the magic. Just like Anna had to let the idea of her past be broken so they can fix it." I was so impressed. They get.
I think as long as you are comfortable with it, it would be awesome to have a kid perspective. I will watch it with my kids. We are big feelings talkers in our family.
my love language is gift giving and the first time I saw this movie, I cried so hard when I realized that the wooden moose was the greatest gift that her father could have ever given her to prove his love for her, and when she threw it in the box to give away, that killed me. I was devestated because I have been in that situation with someone I loved who took a gift I gave them that had meaning to both of us and they just threw it away like it was nothing and we were never able to rebuild that relationship after that because I just couldn't understand why they would do something like that
I have some family members like you, who mostly give gifts to show their love, but I'm a person who REALLY doesn't like having a lot of "clutter" around if I'm not actively using it. For me, even though I frequently donate or re-gift those things, I still feel the love with which they were given. They're still appreciated, and meaningful, even if the physical object doesn't stay with me. Obviously I can't speak for everyone in your life but... I just thought you might like to know that.
Communication is always beneficial
@@TheEnigmaticKasai I’m the opposite when it comes to that. I hate throwing away gifts, because I know how meaningful they are. Even if it’s something I’ll never use, I can never bring myself to get rid of it. I keep every gift I’m given, even if I have it buried in my closet or collecting dust on my shelf. Gifts are too sentimental, too personal, to give away for me. They hold memories that could be lost if the object doesn’t stay with me.
I went to school for animation and it's very heartening to hear every time Alan gushes about the painstaking process behind it and how hard it is to make things work in animation compared to live action film.
as an animation student when i was watching this film, it just made me so happy, since it was so colorful and the writing was also great! and as a kid who has kind of the same relationship that katie has with her dad, this film just really hits home. Its so good though so crying was worth it.
My 4 year old son loves watching your channel. 😂 When I showed him that you guys are doing The Mitchell's Vs The Machines, he shouted, "Oh! Those guys are my best friends!" 🤣
That's adorable. :03
I actually had the same relationship with my father. He insisted that I put my phone on my desk and not right next to my bed because “the signals are unhealthy for the head”. He did not give me a screwdriver but he made me have a flashlight because “what happens when the light goes off. You can’t trust your phone! What if it has low %”. The only difference between my relationship and theirs, is that I taught my dad how to use a computer to find more stuff he likes, like travelling, handwork, everything about planes. He even ended up having a Facebook account and warned me “because sometimes there are dangerous people online who wants to be you friend but they actually don’t want to be your friend”
My father died, a few months earlier before I have seen the movie, and to be honest, it helped me so much. I know that he was not satisfied with my life decisions, but I know, that he always loved me. Because if he didn’t, he would not cared for the flashlight, which is now always in my bag
This is so incredibly cute❣❣❣❣
Beautiful, thank you for sharing.
One of my earliest memories is of my mother pointedly asking me, "And how would YOU feel, if such a thing was to happen to YOU?". That inspired, and conditioned, me to ponder, 'How WOULD I feel?'
CONSEQUENTLY, as an adult, I am known among my friends for reforming slug salters and spider squashers. It can be SO TRAUMATIC to project yourself to see and understand the world from another's point of view; but also, there isn't much that is more rewarding.
Im not sure why, but I teared up at the moment when theyre all flying through the air and cooperating as a family at the end. Great moment.
Besides the wonderful familial relationships this movie shows, and even the subtle LGBT+ intentions with Katie, I just have to say I adore the neurodivergence coding, especially in Aaron and Katie. It's not outright, but it's enough that several times throughout the movie, I went "hey, I do that!!" Most of it comes from anxiety/nervous stims, like Katie playing with her hoodie strings or Aaron chewing on his shirt and pulling it up, or even just his fixation on dinosaurs!
Another movie that I think is neurodivergent coded that I'd love for you guys to explore is Lilo & Stitch! Lilo is such a perfect example of a neurodivergent kid, and Nani is a great example of how to treat kids like that. Sure, she gets annoyed, but that's because she's her sister, she never does anything outright to be mean to her in my memory. And that's versus Stitch, who can be seen as a "dangerous" neurodivergent because he wasn't shown any type of affection, up until he meets Lilo, who shows him what he needs to feel comfortable.
Anyways, a lovely video, and I can't wait until the Encanto one!!! Love you guys so much, long time viewer, first time commenter!! 💕
Thank you for this. I've never really thought about Lilo & Stitch in that way, but it's a beautiful perspective.
Literally everybody in the Mitchell's family is adhd/autistic coded in one way or another and I find that wonderful. I relate to literally all of them (for different reasons)!!
Oh gosh yeah, they should do Lilo & Stitch! Great idea, and great read on that.
My relationship with my dad isn’t really like Kate’s with her dad, but the family’s dynamic is still so relatable lol. I think one of the main reasons why I love this movie so much is because my dad also drove us cross country to take my sister to college, so that brought up some happy memories ^^
When I was a kid, my mom had a tone of voice she would use when calling out my name when she realized I did something wrong or didn't do what I was supposed to (usually due to executive dysfunction). I hated it. No one taught me that that tone of voice meant something worse than how she intended it (more surprise and mild disappointment), but it made me feel pathetic and incompetent. One day I tearfully expressed this to her. I was around 10 or 11. No questions asked, she stopped calling my name like that and used a more gentle approach when approaching me to discuss my behavior. Didn't even need to make an effort to change the habit. Just "this hurts my child. It no longer exists in my communication with her". I'm confident that moments like that one are why our relationship is so strong today. Kids remember the way we hurt them, but they also remember the effort we make to improve just as strongly. And that effort to make things better is so incredibly impactful in more ways than we as adults can comprehend
So I actually have a teacher up at college who did the sketches they based the title off of, and this movie has his style of art and humor all over 😂
The Mitchells vs. The Machines was my favorite movie of the year last year and as a big animation fan, they absolutely knocked it out of the park. The payoff with the little wooden moose gets me every time. I absolutely WAS the art student with the unsure/not-quite-so-supportive parents and over the years I've come to understand that they did MEAN well even if it hurt. So when Rick does the whole "nah, it's easy" thing I went "this was what they felt, and this is what I want to one day give to my own kids." Cue the ugly tears. The whole movie is such a solid piece for teaching communication and accepting one's little quirks/imperfections, thank you for discussing and highlighting it. And never stop the cutaways, they fill me with endless joy.
If you guys enjoyed this movie, the director and most of the writers are alumni from Gravity Falls. If you've seen Gravity Falls you can really tell, it's DEEP in the Mitchells DNA. I know ya'll don't review tv shows but if you're looking for a show to watch with your kids and you haven't already, the writing on GF is incredibly tight/funny/insightful and your families would likely really enjoy it! Again not saying ya'll should review it, I just am always like "if you liked Mitchells IT IS TIME FOR ME TO RECOMMEND GRAVITY FALLS TO MAKE SURE ALL HUMANS WITH POTENTIAL INTEREST WILL SEE IT!!!!!111oneoneone"
Ha ha, I came to the comments to do the exact same thing: urge them to watch Gravity Falls! And I genuinely think they would love it and get a lot out of it. But I get it's a longer commitment than movies. (I also don't know how old their respective kids are? But it's a GREAT show to watch with your kids.)
The Mitchell’s vs the Machines is probably the best major animated movie released in the past several years. There are a few things that could improve it for me but it’s pretty great.
This movie hit so close to home but not in the way I was expecting.
I am closer in age and culture to Katy and I found myself relating to her more at first. But when it is revealed that Katy's Dad was also an artist who gave it up, I felt he was far more relatable to me than Katy. He was an artist in his own right. He built his dream house in a place he felt most at home and happy. I imagine he gave it up and moved into the suburbs to make certain things easier for his family (shorter commute, access to schools, etc). And I imagine that even though he did it without much hesitation I KNOW that was utterly painful. I did something similar (though not exact), and even though you do it for the right reasons there is always a part of you that is hurt and sad about the life you left behind. And it does leave you a bit bitter. And some people express that bitterness in different ways. I do think Katy's dad is like most dads with daughters who do not know how to deal with them as they grow older and I do think a large part of his disconnect is bc he doesn't understand Internet Culture and her type of art. But I also think there is a part of him that wants to prevent her from experiencing the same kind of heartbreak he did and keeps wanting to push her toward more practical things he thinks are more stable that she can build a dream around.
Maybe I am thinking too much into it and projecting too much of myself and my experiences in there...but that is why I cried so much in this movie.
I think Mochi and the 2 robots are the best characters. Fhe son is also pretty great
The first time I watched it, I saw it with my mom when it was just us at home. We couldn't stop laughing at the movie and joking about how much one of the character's was like a member in our family. Katie is like my sister (also Katie), my mom is like Linda, and though it's not as bad, my dad and I had a rough relationship for a while likely because I was no longer that little girl he raised. This movie hit so many personal notes while still being a creative and comedic movie. And hearing what you two have to say about it just helps to reiterate that.
I've always had a pretty Rocky relationship with my father and watching this movie let me see things from his side of the story. At first I refused to like this movie because it felt like a slap in the face, like I might be in the wrong as well. But you know what? It helped. Liking this movie and getting to learn things about how I can be messing up and how my father could very well be trying. It was hard to face, but facing it has been very good for me. I love this movie.
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Also, regarding comedy, Teller, who's one of the magical duo Penn and Teller (the second one), said that the best magical trick he ever saw done was by an Egyptian magician. He was doing the cup and ball trick, where you have three cups and you put a ball under one of them and shuffle the cups around, really palming the ball. Then you have your subject pick the cup that the ball "should" be under, but, surprise, you made it disappear.
So the guy is doing the trick for Teller, and Teller's thinking, this is a really simple trick, and so Teller points at the cup where the ball "should" be, the magician raises the cup, and underneath the cup....is the ball.
Teller says he just started laughing for five minutes straight, because the magician pulled off the perfect magic trick, using misdirection and Teller's expectations to lead him right down the path he wanted him to go, and then surprised him with the result. So Teller says that was the best magic trick he ever saw.
When he said he doesn't want her to get hurt... I felt that, but at the same time, he's literally hurting her and their relationship in the name of protecting her...
I relate to both Alan and Katy. I come from a Philippine household. To those of you who might know, Filipinos love the career of nursing. When I was younger, I could dream to be whatever it is that I wanted to be. It wasn't until one car ride home in my 8th-grade year that I found out that I could dream as much as I wanted, but I couldn't accomplish any of it. I had to take Biomed in high school and I am currently taking my BSN in college. Unlike Alan and Katy, I was not able to fight for my dream. Now I am miserably trying as hard as I can to try to please my mother while I cry myself to sleep.
Alan was right though. Parents will tell you that it is the best option to be able to earn money and live a stable future. My mom told me that I just had to endure two years of school and work only 3 days a week with really good pay. She said after that, I could do whatever I want. I get it. But, I can't change my feelings.
I’m fortunate to have a great relationship with my dad, but the end scene where they drop Katie off at college really made me sob. As someone about to move away to university, I’m terrified to be on my own, but seeing how the family were still connected at the end, and how happy it made Katie helped me in the moment to feel more excited about pursuing my passions. Because even though I’ll be on my own, I’ll still have a family who loves me just a phone call away
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The dads are great as always but the editing team really is getting better and better every time.
I'm starting to think Alan doesn't quite know how animation works... They don't find out whether a joke lands after it renders. It's about the storyboards, roughs, and the pre-render render (ie. a render with no textures or effects that is relatively quick). The final render doesn't happen until they KNOW it works. I'm a 2D animator and it's about making the joke land in physical comedy (or any other joke) BEFORE you even have the full visuals. It's the strength of your key frames. Make the joke land in only a handful of frames, then add the frames in between
I don't know why, but my favorite part of the movie is the giant evil furby.
But I mean it made me cry. It made me laugh out loud and I super super hard relate to just about everything in this movie so it hits different. And just how much passion the artists actually put into this. You can tell.
Something my therapist told me that’s always stuck with me is to listen to the words not the tone in which they are said.
This film made me cry when I watched it. I was at a very difficult place in my life and I felt very stuck. I've started seeing a therapist after years of wanting to and I've started a new course that will hopefully lead to a very fulfilling career
Congratulations, Victoria, I'm so delighted that you finally took the plunge, and started seeing a therapist. I wish you all the best of success and happiness for the future! 🔮😘
Congratulations and I wish you all the best 💗
lucky, you get to see a therapist and put a meaning to your life
I'm surprised you guys didn't spend any time on the relationship between PAL and Bowman. It was incredibly toxic where he basically had her doing all the heavy lifting running his empire with her thanks being him creating a newer model and literally throwing her away. And because she was so human, she took her revenge in a big way.
Without a doubt the most emotionally moving film I've ever seen. The scene where Pal reveals what Katie said about Rick, followed immediately by Rick giving up his dream to take care of Katie, made me cry. The last time I cried at a movie was Avengers Endgame. I don't usually cry for movies but this one had the tears flowing freely