“It’s An Emergency!” The Number Of Men Having No Sex Increased 180%! - The Relationships Professor
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0:00 Intro
02:46 Understanding Men's Struggles & Addressing societal issues
05:18 Exploring biases in the education system affecting boys.
16:53 The impact of AI-driven relationships.
22:24 Tips for building real-life connections amidst online distractions.
26:33 Exploring the crisis in romantic relationships among men.
28:55 Analysing societal expectations affecting women's relationships.
31:41 The disproportionate focus on attractive men in online dating.
35:54 Tips for young men on making money and investing wisely.
43:13 Importance of diversification and starting early in investing.
44:21 Role of mentors in the development of young men.
50:09 Emphasising discipline and character in personal growth.
01:02:37 How moments of rock bottom lead to personal growth.
01:03:30 Importance of moderation and self-awareness in personal development.
01:05:40 Balancing career, fitness, and social life for holistic growth.
01:08:53 Addressing societal issues through economic reforms.
01:18:21 Modern interpretation of masculinity and romantic relationships.
01:23:09 Acknowledging challenges in online dating and building confidence.
01:25:22 Discussing the dynamics favouring the top 10% in online dating.
01:27:23 Importance of economic policies for genuine connections.
01:32:48 Valuing social connections in the workplace.
01:42:11 Discussing the need for regulation in AI and its impact on society.
01:45:49 AI's role in creating purpose beyond traditional work.
01:46:46 Exploring new job opportunities in the age of AI.
01:49:45 Discussing the effects of autonomous driving on jobs.
01:51:23 Analysing the positive impact of AI on job opportunities.
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Why do your podcasts set up such bizarre and artifical dichotomies?
Hows this different from the other episode you did? Or is it?
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I don't know if it is intentional but you surely have a lot of "fence sitters" and "gaslighters" on your podcast.
One suggestion, please. Make the titles less click-baity? The title completely put me off, but I decided to give it a shot and this was the best episode by far, so far.
Unsubscribed. You're interviewing people who are projecting their political views instead of having actual knowledge.
If men are so worried about rejection then perhaps the rule my mother drilled into me needs to be shared. She told me that it takes the most amazing amount of courage for a man to ask a woman out. She told me that I was allowed to say no but I was NEVER allowed to shame, ridicule or be rude in any way to his approach. And yet I see girls and young women be so mean to men who approach them if they are not interested. It’s like the women are so offended that this man in front of them thinks he even stands a chance that they feel they have right to punish them. We all just need to be better to each other.
Good point and so true.
I suppose,
that in the [very]_future; they will probably; be:
the lonely_
ones, T.B.H. (Males; generally -speaking -do not care, that much: about: -being:_
lonely!?); too true??
That’s very true. I often say those same women would have low self esteem if no man ever spoke to them but when they do they act superior. I think also it’s engrained into us that men are only trying to talk to us to have sex. That could be a potential cause of the rejection, feeling that this person only wants to have sex.
I don’t see a majority of women being rude to men who are interested. There’s always going to be a jerk in every group. What I see as more of a common problem is men not being able to take no for an answer. They either start insulting/blaming you or won’t take no for an answer.
@@michelleassousExactly. Idk why people coddle males so much and refuse to be honest about the vile behavior of many of them.
I've (32 years old now) just come to accept that either I'll have a family and a house in my 40s or 50s, or I simply won't, and I'll die alone. I'm not angry about it, I'm just surviving in the one world that we have.
That's 100% up to you. No one else
My friend has a family, house, kids, and he is miserable as FUCK. My other friend has a small house and is happy with his freedom. I still live with my parents but they are in poor health and I am very scared of what is going to happen when they die which will not be long now.
I know how you feel blood. Wish the aliens would push the damn buttons already.
It is better to stay single. Women and kids create debt and crime
January of 2020, right before covid, I thought I was going to buy a house that year. Then the prices doubled and I might as well have spent the money on hookers and blow for all it's worth now. I'm going to die in my shitty little mobile home. I guess at least I've got that. Never had any interest in kids and any interest in marriage has long since been ground to dust. It's okay, I enjoy peace and quiet.
I have a young guy 19 who works for me, he is adorable and a very sweet kid. No girlfriend, never been on a date or even kissed a girl. Today he told me he is over women, I asked why? He was watching on social media videos about women's "Red Flags" he was so frustrated about all the mixed messages he was getting. He gave me an example that one TicTok was about if a man is close to his mother it is red flag but the next one was if he's not close to mother it's a red flag. He is also scared if he says the wrong thing or makes a move it will be all over social media which to be embrassement for rest of his life. Poor kid.
Social media is poisoning them… it is very sad…those of us that are older got our ideas from family, school, church, some tv or movies (which were also a lot more wholesome) Social media is preaching poor values 😢
Yeah, social media definitely is toxic no question.
It's not the social media, its just revealing what these girls are like to the world.@@user-gz4ve8mw9l
As a girl a bit older than him, he's done for. Undateable. I don't think a lot of guys on those sites realize that it's over for them but shock horror being sexist, racist, xenophobic etc doesn't make women want to have sex with you. I know girls that turn down guys for voting Trump. Following Tate and co. basically kills his chances with most 18 year old women.
mm his situation is like me and age is same it's just that even trusting a woman my age is also impossible for us like i have a understanding of my own now women alwaysss looks for better i mean it's right but not when u r in a relationship and uknow most times women just talks to a guy just for the attention she is getting from it like i used to talk to a girl and asked her to be like gf and she asked for time and like i just felt ike from her taks and behaviour online that she liked me [obviously i was an idiot ] and she was like she was try to get away from me like slowly slowly and i could see it and i just asked her do u or not like me yes or no that point she just fucked the maths like i'm 50% i like u but50% not sure that u like me i mean com'n man if i hadn't liked u why would i be talking to u and one day she suddenly blocked me and like i asked my a girl friend to confront her that wheter she likes or not but then she said no her and i was like having my final exams for 12th grade which got fucked up but not that much so yeah i just feel now that dating is just impossible like women say no means no but atleast say no then i should know what is happening and can get to someone another girl to talk to but nope that nevvver happens and i think
just tellthat guy that never get in a relationship where u likes a girl coz we r then bound to be fucked by emotions n then we r a dead case llike emotionally and mentally and just dat ea women who likes u i mean u will eventually get to like her coz we r emotional being ig
As a young guy who is pretty happy with his life in all aspects, the single best piece of advice I can give is to delete your social media (particularly if you have Instagram or tiktok as they are the most damaging/ biggest time sinks). Short-form video content addiction is very real and it absolutely decimates your attention span. This severely impacts your social competency and makes you awkward/ uninteresting to talk to.
Also- only use dating apps if you're 7/10 or above.
Don't use dating apps at all. Women use dating apps like a shopping catalog. Try to meet women in real life.
I think we are suffering a more basic issue. The lack of interest in participating in the human continuum. Get married for? To get a mate for? To get a mortgage for? I find ppl having a harder time answering these questions.
There has to be good reasons to get up in the morning. Justification for grinding on everyday. Finding those are the key to happiness in my opinion.
great point. i met a woman who i thought would be a good partner to have, but turns out no, it was an unhealthy relationship. i think a lot of people are not only trying to survive, but are just not healthy, like myself, and have nothing to give to another therefore, because we are fundamentally lacking ourselves. i dont have a house or a degree or a lot of money, and i am in my mid thirties, i know others are in worse shape than i am. how can we have happy relationships when we are broken?
Great point. I'm currently feeling this. I have a head full of ambitious ideas and yet I feel stuck in the mud. Holding hope that I break free and never look back.
@@rob_see This may be a bit hard to hear but the answer is fix yourself. Elevate who you are and you will attract others who are elevated. In my 20s, I thought I loved crazy woman. On reflection now, I just realize crazy women were the only women willing to hang out with me because I was also a mess. Scott talks about looking at your allocation of time. Look at what you're doing that's not important and allocate it into something important. Reduce or cut out videos, reduce or cutout social media, reduce or cutout youtube, reduce or cutout porn. You will have a ton of time to now invest into something positive in your life. Invest in a therapist if you are struggling. If the therapist you sign up with isn't working for you, invest in a different one. Work out, figure out how to increase your financial value to employers or start your own thing. You are more capable than you think you are.
@@rob_seeThen find a partner who wants those things and do it together.
My first husband would have so much of he was willing to do that.
Now my 2nd husband is living in the 2nd house (I bought both) to a college educated (3 degrees) wife. He's got great insurance coverage, and good (joint) income.
We split bills 50.50, but I'm a saver so without even talking about it, I just saved and saved until one day I knew I had enough to buy one. We're partners, so it didn't matter to me which one had the money.
My first husband was lazy and selfish with no vision. He was unwilling to be a partner, so I left.
Find someone willing to be a partner. Don't worry about who makes more, think of it as a joint effort.
Don't worry about gender roles. My husband does nearly all the housework. We don't argue about money or chores - we partners🤷🏽♀️
Please read the book of Ecclesiastes in the Bible.
I'm getting tired of the porn/real women discussion. For most men it's not a choice between porn and real women, but a choice between porn and loneliness.
Escorts are also an option.
@@portman8909 Most men want to be chosen, paying for it won't scratch that itch.
Might not be for every guy but it does work for some if you have a burning desire for intercourse.@@bobbyz9052
This doesn't compute well.
Because p_rn is not choosing these men either. Men still have to take action, to search or dare I say hunter gather, for the type of genre and body type they like. Though push notifications can automate that.
Though it's free of physical effort nowadays, even lots of it is financially for free, available right there.
Unlike having to earn enough money, then go outside in the rain to buy a magazine at the cigarette store, which had at most ten pictures in them. Though some magazines had mail subscriptions as well.
So what is the itch then that the p_rn scratching, if it's not seggs with a human and not solving loneliness and not getting chosen?
It must do something, why else do the (mostly male) owners of that infrastructure get so rich off it.
Plus are the consumers willing to face the reality of why they use it, even if it's banal, to then be able to solve it better.
"Loneliness" is the politically correct excuse, plus it can be the most dangerous lie to oneself of all, the half-truth or lie of omission.
Yes, loneliness hurts, so coping mechanisms can be a part of that. But is that really the full story?
@@portman8909 in many countries prostitution is banned
I’m 70. And it’s true that the last 20 years have “gone like a blink”. I’m convinced that time speeds up as you age.
100%
Before you know it, you’ll be 100 buddy
I'm 49 and the past two decades seem like distant memories.
Time definitely feels like it gets faster as you age. When you're a child an hour feels like an eternity because it's such a large percentage of your already experienced life. Once you're 70, an hour feels like nothing. Youi've already experienced over six hundred thousand of them, what's one more?
I have to agree.
Had a teacher who was also a veteran. As me and my friends were quite skeptical about him because of how harsh he felt and the high demands he had on us.
A few months later we loved him more than any other teacher, he invited us to his home and introduced old rock bands and how to use basic tools. Felt really sad when I aged up and had to change schools and lost him as a teacher.
Many years later we meet in a random field in the woods as both turned out to be in the home guard. One of the last things he said to me that day was that he was really proud to see what I had become. Hit me really really hard as I didnt feel proud about myself. That changed after that meeting and now we keep regular contact.
Not to be cruel but you do know going to a teacher's house is crossing a line right?
@@nancyferguson6011 this really needs more context before you make this judgment...it used to be normal not only irl but even in tv for kids to bond with teachers because of how great they were as role models and how they become like step parents to the students...Boy meets world is a great example..i personally was invited by certain teachers with my parents permission to come for vists...some kids..however..dont have much of a family at home to go back to..the latchkey kids are very impressionable so if someone older including teachers stand out in a positive way they might naturally decide on their own to invite themselves...which can be great for them when the influence is positive and constructive
I think a lot of men have rejection fatigue. The dating app is a lose lose situation for men.
And women. At least older ones like me at 53.
@@shannongreer6194 Shut up.
@@shannongreer6194 if women have ridden the CC in their 20s and 30s they can't have their pick at their 40s, they become the rejectees in the SM
I’m recently divorced after a 22 year marriage, 27 year relationship. She was cheating on me.
I’m 45 and have dated 2 women since, both 54. I think they’re both great and one is now my girlfriend.
We don’t even talk about the age difference. The connection is there. That’s all that is important
@@shannongreer6194 Yes, i also think is hard for older woman. Not much 50+ there and when they are interested in younger ones.
The best thing I did for my life was to get rid of social media. Seeing countless videos of men & women bashing one another got old. TH-cam is all I have left.❤😂
TH-cam is social media
Its more like interactive television @luxurybuzz3681
Its just simps cucking to women and government/corporations selling to-brainwashing consumption. The guys “bashing” women are the censored fringe
@@luxurybuzz3681it's a video sharing platform.
bro get out of youtube too lol
it's literally the same shit
You can still get your shit together, and still get rejected… sometimes money isn’t the situation
well 50% win rate is good enough
Some guys are just weird. Like they stare a lot or don’t know how to socialize. Or they come on so blunt it makes women feel like they want to wear their skin.
That's some bullshit tho because if your personality is so bad that you can't get laid fr with your shit together imagine if he didn't have his shit together, it would be even worse. Having your life in order will always be a point in your favor even if your short the other points you need to be with that really attractive woman, and there's too many men out there (not all) that laziness IS the reason why so it's something that can't be downplayed even if there are some guys out there with their life in order that still somehow get no play
It definitely helps.
That’s if you lack game. Only the past few years, did I learn that there are pathetic sissy men who ask other people to ask questions, ask girls to pass messages and hide from you but send girls to talk to you, refusing to show up and take you out, thinking that’s a thing. Its not. It never has been. I’ve never met a guy, who has sent subliminal messages through third parties to get through to me. It’s so dumb and pathetic. I can’t respect it.
Any guy or man, who knows of your existence and likes you, and doesn’t make a move within a few weeks, worst case scenario 2 months if he has to travel, simply lacks game and experience with women and a man like that would suck in a relationship anyway. When and if such a man shows up, make sure you’re not available. If it’s not convenient for you, don’t be available. He has to learn that there’s a right time for everything and when you pass up an opportunity when the deal is hot, it goes cold and you lose your chance.
Don’t be available for immature men who lack game and can’t talk to women, if you don’t want to end up in an immature relationship without communication. What’s next? Him communicating via his mother and sister or worse, through YOUR mother or sibling? Get a grip. Men who hide behind other women or men, to communicate their needs, aren’t ready for relationships. They’re not emotionally independent and that’s always a negative in dating or marriage.
You can’t be available to wishy washy men. That’s how you end up in cold relationships with no spark, chemistry, love or flirting. A man who can’t take action shouldn’t be your type.
The only time allowing time is acceptable is WHEN you’ve already met and agreed that you NEED time. In the absence of such an agreement, him asking random girls to text you, like a weirdo who lacks game, is grounds enough for rejection. He’s too dumb to think of getting into a relationship. What is he going to do? Ask girls to text you, when he wants to take you out? Will they go on the date too? Will they show up in his place, for the date or at your wedding? Will he always be a ghost?
Don’t let men get away with dumb habits, wishy washy behaviour, ghosting you, blocking you or abandoning you whenever they want. That’s called attachment issues. If you accept it early on, he’ll think he can come and go as he pleases.
Don’t accept it. Reject it. Don’t be available. Don’t show up. Be busy the day you’re invited. Don’t have time for losers who lack game. His loss. Next time, get up your god damn ass, bump into her, ask for her number and text her. If guys in their 20’s can do it, I don’t understand why men in their 30’s and 40’s are too dumb to do it. Men who want dates need to up their game. And they need to learn how to do it by getting rejected.
I met my wife at work. Been married 25 years. I think people are a bit scared by the HR department to do that these days.
Oh yeah for sure.
Just one more thing women ruined.
Not just that. There's the fact that co workers aren't your friends so risking it is dumb.
The mere implication of impropriety, let alone an actual false allegation, is enough for a man to get crucified.
It was MUCH easier in those days.
It's better to be alone than in a relationship that makes you feel lonelier.
Some people can't even get to "relationship" status... Proverbs does say: "It is better to live on a corner of a roof Than in a house shared with a contentious woman." I guarantee you Solomon was right on that. Out of all my friends, only one comes to mind who has a great relationship with his wife... and they both have to work at that. They've always been a wonderful example to me of the way a good relationship should work. The other friends I know are in this "contentious state". I never envy them. One is on his umpteenth relationship. One doesn't have anyone as its his own choice, though women constantly throw themselves at him, because of his horrific relationship in his first (and only) marriage. I wish I could meet someone decent, but she hasn't been there for years.
Which is why I left my marriage of 27 years. I got tired of him paying more attention to ball games on tv than to his own children or me. I kept waiting for him to grow up and pay attention to the greater world, then I realized I didn't have the right (nor the ability) to expect him to be something he wasn't. I went out and found other people to relate to who weren't stuck in '12 year old' status.
Some people’s brains are simply unable to function in a relationship. That’s the reality that social progressives won’t admit. They think all men must have a relationship with women to avoid being a rebel to their progressive democratic regime. Typical tyrants.
I remember years ago going to the mall because I felt like I needed to be in a position where I have to be social but it felt worse than just being at home
Lol… I’m no math genius or rocket scientist; but the only way that statistic is TRUE, is if multiple women are sleeping with the same guy.
18:20 "while making her feel safe." I found that the best way to make women feel safe, is to not approach them. That's how I protect them from my creepiness.
Maybe because you're not attractive in their eyes? How your personality is perceived is through your appearance. Level up your appearance, my man.
Safe from what? As if we're living in a ghetto?
@@Churlz Just be reborn... I mean be yourself!
I interpret this to mean that he doesn't feel creepy (or didn't) but they always feel or give the feeling that he is and so the only way, it seems, "to make them feel safe" (as if thats anyone's job but her's) is to not approach her at all. Which is a problem. Women shoot themselves in the foot in the long run. Unfortunately for guys, they shoot them in the chest the same time.
This right here.
Im a man who has not had sex in 25 years, im 49 now.
I suffer with BPD/MDD and im a very lonely person. I had nothing to offer a woman so im resigned to dying alone. I have already attempted suicide on 3 occasions. I also had been raped when i was 12.
I had no father and barely made it to secondary school. College was never an option.
I mourn the child my one partner aborted. I felt i had to respect her choice but inside a bit of me died at 19. Those traumas drove me to being a drug addict fot 15 years..
My mother brought me up in a strict catholic home. I tried to approach a couple of girls but was rejected. I am that lonely man with nothing to lose.
I dont feel any animosity towards women as im a waste of their time and i have no real profession. 😢😢😢
I am sorry your life has been so hard, brother.
I am sorry sir, that sounds very difficult. I hope good times come for you
I wish your life had been easier. I relate to too much of this.
You can either accept your situation or have the courage to invest in your well-being and change your entire outlook in life. It starts with small changes
I'm sorry you went through all of that. You are not being ignored
Online dating really did destroy relations between men and women...
Man I am so fortunate to be where I am. I was lonely, depressed, 17-22 but I just moved to a college town and oh my god things are so much better here. Community is what every person needs.
Great for you dude. Glad you escaped
We do need community, is right! And many don’t have it. Happy for you 🙌 🎉 😀
Bro find the nicest girl there , if she can be nice in the middle of all the side and gomora, stay with her, if she is fem. Movement then keep going. Those women can't stay still , they can have a good life and fffeeeelllll something needs to change. No , it's that they are used to cc. Riding, need the drama. Keep stepping, to many . Sadly that's 80 percent of women. And that's the minimum. In America of single mothers there are 80 % single moms , young man watch yourself make sure you put hot sauce in the condom after you use so there is no way you get trapped into anything. Internet is just showing what type of people they are not all but most. And they can't help themselves, cause if they knew better they would stay off of social media long enough to know it's addictive and bad for all of us but mostly girls cause they get so much attention, and they make that a end result that they are so much value. But 99% of those men for 89% of those women would never wife them up. Maybe 80%. Plus in these new standards most of the men would not be suitable for these super standards so be prepared ladies as these young men learn that your just friend zoning means your rejecting them so you can go have sex with people you want and it's not them and your doing it hundreds of times before you even consider these guys when you come back, you will be alone and 80 % of you women will not be able to support yourself, better count your pennies. Or as you say live your best life, cause it will be like most high school quarterbacks , that was your best life and the next 70 yrs are going to be crap. Be modern. That's the ticket. Life is about man and woman together we have our best life together, you really don't understand when men really allow you to be accountable, you really are not going to like it.
Just don't prey on the college women
I too returned to college for my terminal degree. It’s cool being around other students again.
This man simulataneously tells you what you should do and makes a point that in todays society you cannot do this anymore. Very helpful...
I grew up pretty ghetto. Single mom with no education who didn't need a man. 4 other siblings. I was raised Jehovah's Witness and so college was forbidden. By the time I figured out that was all bullshit I was 21 and I had missed out on a lot of opportunities. I spent until my early 30's chasing the childhood I never had. Finally at 46 I have finished college, and last week I just started a M.S. in Information Systems. I have $11K in my 401k and a few thousand in the bank. I live alone and I have no family. I guess by all accounts I am a complete loser hahaha. But you know what? When I look around, I actually think I'm on pace. I'm basically in the same position as a man my age after a divorce lol! But I don't have the baggage of kids or an ex-wife. Plus I spent my 20's and 30's making music, making art, reading philosophy, economics, and learning about IT. I would never have had the time to do all that taking care of kids and trying to keep a wife happy! And now that I have experience in IT I could move over to another job and make another 20K a year, and more after I finish school. Men, never give up!
Great job bro keep at it
That was a good comment, thanks for sharing it!
You're not a loser. Success is about the obstacles you've overcome, and you've overcome a lot. Be proud of yourself!
I am sick and tired, bleeding from the b*++hole at this point riding the broken bicycle seat of podcasts where marriage is glorified and sold as a virtue or a luxury good.
Marriage is a one way ticket to being maimed in divorce court being cut up 3/4" inch at a time.
for ur childhood experience listen to this book, it was really helpful forvme "Complex PTSD from surviving to thriving "
" I think the majority of people are less impressed by your things than you think... People are really impressed by discipline and a plan." Wonderfully wise words by which to live.
It's hard to meet people with a plan and discipline, most people don’t have self-control,To be disciplined.
Most people have no plans for which direction in life they are going.
@Noah-vc5rf I agree with you. Having a plan is important, yet we must also be flexible enough to pivot when necessary. In project management/Scrum we have two trains of thought. One is called "Waterfall," where once the plan is implemented there is no flexibility, you just have to see it through to the end and make changes afterwards. The other option is called "Agile" and it takes into account that plans sometimes require changes in the midst of an in iteration. Both require proper planning, but flexibility is a valuable tool.
Majority of people, sure. Majority of women absolutely don't give a shit about your plan until it's a reality.
@@BeijingBongRipperchose better women! Don't just pick the bad girls
That's common sense so that's why celebraties althlestes are so popular
I'm 36, single, earn a low/average wage, don't drive, don't own property, i'm smart, kind and mildy good looking but i have 0 hope in today's society, no wonder people delete
Keep your head up bro, you’re not alone.
Listening to guys who think "sexbots lead to depression" won't help.
You are Not a loser , you are a good man!
Am curious as to why you don't drive bro, are you like in a metropolitan city like London where public transport is very OK because driving can add to your earning potential, say like doing amazon deliveries outside your normal job
And how do you propose you would start a family? Sir, you cannot afford it. You could at best get with a woman who is child free by choice. Otherwise, you can't afford the kids. So no woman that wants children can be with you.
I don't even want to have sex anymore. I now feel a great amount of unattraction toward women (at least their personalities), and at this point I haven't k*lled myself because I've got a sliver of unfounded hope and a whole lot of inertia. At some point, probably when my parents are gone, I think I will lose all tethers to this world and finally do it. I'm sick of money and the games people play to gain "status" and power, and I ultimately spend whatever extra money I've got on food, substances, products, and software that disconnect me from reality. I can't wait until I can finally take the plunge and do it permanently, because I do not want to continue living. I did not feel this way back in 2019 and before, but I absolutely feel this way now. I'm just tired.
Sex is overrated. Companionship is underrated. Have you tried doing something that feels like suicide, like bungee jumping? It might make you feel more alive..
@@kathleenbolton-schmukler5727 "Sex is overrated" she says, as she doesn't have the same amount of testosterone consuming her mind with horniness. Lady, it might be for you, but I genuinely think you're just coping, because you're of age and overweight.
I do agree that companionship is important, though.
very relatable. literally same thing I'm doing, though I've been going sober currently. "I'm just tired" is exactly how I feel about all of this.
Maybe find a purpose to make life worth living for? A lot of people are driven by goals and need a real purpose to keep themselves going. Volunteering your time to help others might make life feel like it's worth living. Seems like you're at a point where you need a radical change.
Folks like you need to live on for when the world fully collapses though but I get what you are saying
my single mother made me fear making a mistake. Because of that I learned to figure things out on my own to absolute perfection before I presented myself to the world. Unfortunately with dating you can’t do that because it requires cooperation with someone else. I’m better than anybody I’ve ever met personally at things like AutoCAD, CNC’s, and billiards, But selling myself, communication, not so good.
this book might address this: Complex PTSD from surviving to thriving
Being rejected by a business employer is NOT the same as being rejected by a woman or a bunch of women, whatever the case may be
UNLESS ITS A FEMALE EMPLOYER..
Disagree, with time invested, multiple round interviews, etc the time, energy and emotion invested in applying for a job (that has a future) is an exponent level higher then simply asking out a woman.
Instant rejection doesn't hurt. Rejection after 3 interviews and 3 weeks of waiting does.
The point being made is getting used to being told no for your perceived qualities
@@Mike-eg9okpractice employer polygamy ;-) worst case that will happen, you'll say "sorry, I have better offer"
@@jamesc3953 the rule apply to both sides of the equation, same way as a those physically/mentally financially broken 250 pounds ugly landwhales who thinks they’re 8/ 9/ 10s and deserves top tiers high income dudes as “potential” LTR partners. Same as those low wedges crappies jobs you’ve applied for when you are way exceeding the required skills and qualifications for them but the HR manager judgement/rejection is based on racial or otherwise “negative/positive” appealing aspects that she or him thinks applies to you
The new American dream. Stay single, stack your money, and get out.
I’m 6’4, attractive, white, straight and rich as hell at 50. Never married because modern women who acted like men were a huge turnoff. Plus if they were hot- they were crazy. Only the fat ones were really nice, but I wasn’t into them
Get out where? Sorry to break it to you it's the same in most developed world and I doubt you'd wanna live in a developing country long time despite what the Instagram travellers show online
@@big_red_machine3547 Do you want a cookie?
@@mindgames7411 Yes please! 🫠
@@pkersoul this is true
90% of married men are having no sex either
The problem in dating isn't really taking risk, it's the lack of opportunity. So many women (and men) use online dating as an excuse to not even try meeting someone in real life. And the result is also that it is not accepted anymore to approach a woman in real life as it used to. Because online dating exists, you essentially have a "designated safe space" for finding a partner. Before online dating or the internet, dating was much more opportunistic and natural than it is now. You simply couldn't find a partner without asking your coworker, friend, acquaintance or even stranger in the bar out because these were the only opportunities to find one. Where do normal people even go to find a potential partner and where it is accepted to ask someone out or signal your interest? I for sure do not know.
As a 60 year old man I have been so fortunate to have had some amazing women in my life. Things seemed so different in the 80s when I was growing up with most relationships seemingly based on mutual respect and genuine care. The current commoditised status scrap described in this podcast is thankfully alien to me and I pity those who are living it.
For me, it's not so different. The company slut kept throwing herself at me. After the 3rd date, she runs to human resources, claims sexual harassment, and blew up my career. This was in 1984, took me until 1996 to recover. In 1996, the everyone thought I was gay because I didn't show interest in the hot 20 year old bimbettes.
Exactly. The well is poisoned.@@DonTavvit
Wow. Pity. How generous lol.
I’m 29 and wish I was born in your time life looked so much better.
@@DonTavvit I disagree. Back then we didn’t have feminism or anything. Women actually wanted to be women and masculinity was appreciated and praised is what my point is. Those things made dating easier back then and yeah being short still probably made life harder as a man but not even tall men have it easy today in current society if they don’t meet a list of other requirements from women.
Guys are just gradually checking out
More for the warriors I guess, y’all need to step up. I enjoy some competition
@@JesseGMan7 if that happens we'll have a rebellion lol
@@UltimateWarlord-cc8pi I’m a little confused? I’m saying instead of checking out more guys should be going for what they want instead of letting the world beat them down.
@@JesseGMan7 I've witnessed it countless times people be working hard as possible just to get by in life no one appreciating.em companies promoting a stranger that hardly does his job correctly etc this is just an example and one of many reasons
@@JesseGMan7 If you were born with, I don't know, 15 points IQ less, then you probably wouldn't be nearly as successful as you were born now. Same thing if you were born in a poor or unstable home. Hence "step up bro" isn't really helpful, besides men have heard that 1385672 times already.
I appreciate a space for men that's not rife with misogyny. Keep it up.
Or misandry.
Talking about it is not really gonna do any good though. He does this subject mostly just to attract views and make money. It's not driven by any desire to change anything.
@@sayuas4293 What is going to do any good? Ignoring the problem? Staying silent? You do know that jobs are about there being a problem and someone working to solve it right? I am more than happy for this man to make a dollar if its in the effort of improving others lives rather than to prolong the problem. I think yours is a poor take. He could easily be making a dollar making a disposable product designed to fail and be bought again(one of the basic principles behind consumerism). This by comparison is a far more honorable way to make a living.
@@Justsomenerd69 I'm not saying that he shouldn't do it or that it's not something worthy of discussion (it is). I'm saying that nothing will change. Nothing. No matter how much you talk about it in podcasts.
There is a golden rule I live by "never be afraid to be alone", it doesn't mean I don't enjoy others, nor it means I have problems connecting with others, I have friends, a wife and a child, and I have good relationships with my parents. I have had periods in my life where I had no friends or contacts with my parents, but I didn't become depressed in solitude, rather, I saw it as an opportunity to train my mental strength, finding peace to be with myself and enjoy the world truly from my perspective alone
But when you’ve been rejected and hurt by just about anyone you’ve bet in life it really eats away at your self esteem
@@slapshotjack9806 to be able to be by yourself or attract others, you need to know who you really are and be authentic, otherwise you will constantly attract people who you don't like but at the same time you feel forced to interact with them. I've rejected relationships&friendships knowing they and I are not in the same wavelength; I have others rejected me when I didn't know who I really was and was just acting in certain ways because that's what I thought I should be.
The ultimate confidence/self esteem is to know who you are. I have many "friends" but I'd rather enjoy doing things I like than wasting time faking friendliness when they actually make me uncomfortable
27-year-old woman here. Something my female friends and I have noticed is that growing up, we felt as though we were held to a higher standard by our schools and parents than boys were when it came to things like behavior, academics, appearance etc. The reason is simple: Girls are given the message from a young age that society is designed to benefit men and that women have to work twice as hard to get to the same place. I believe this was done with good intentions, but the flip side is that boys and young men's emotional well-being and achievement have been badly neglected because men were not perceived to need any support.
That may be plausible. However, in my case ( man, 40) There were far more expectations from me than my sisters. So much so it ended up creating distances between myself and my beloved ones.
Not to mention it caused me huge psychological torment of not achieving enough for my family.
When you say benefit men. I really think you should look at the difference. Men are required to be good providers and work what is often difficult and miserable jobs. In many cases guys like myself would love to switch roles and stay at home and manage a household. It's so much more enjoyable than my toxic environment.
I don’t think men would want to adhere to those standards either way. T you’re saying is that women are much more fake than men. Men are not willing to paint their faces every morning and put on a fake ass attitude to please society. It’s almost like men are more rebellious to being this generic cog in the machine.
@@JamesBond-ut5iv A toxic work environment is not good for anyone and will impact home life and relationships. The home life option is not always a healthy place either but if you can find a partner that it works that way it is a good thing. I do know men who were the partner who stayed home full/part time and managed the household. All scenarios can work if members are healthy partners. Dysfunction ruins every sort of relationship.
@@TH-eb5ro Finding a healthy enviroment at a large company is probably the most difficult thing I've ever tried to do.
The greatest feeling of liberation for me as a man was the realization that I do not need a woman in my life. I don't even need sex. I have been like this for 5 years and I will never pursue a woman. The strangulation of a desire is truly empowering as I am more free because of it.
That works out for everyone. No sane woman is looking for demonic axemen.
@@sp8vision The joke's on you because all women are insane. One could say you just lack "vision."
@@sp8vision idk man, ted bundy was pretty popular with the ladies. lol
Each day more and more men realize that. The next 20 to 30 years will be crazy
You make it sound like a version of cutting.
Andrew Yang really addressed this issue in a very Innovative and intelligent way. His discussions on this topic were very well thought out
Great interview -he is pointing to a problem in our society that is often overlooked or ignored: males from a young age no longer receive adequate encouragement and support by society, because it wrongly presumes they will be saved by an outdated social structure guaranteeing men success.
I've done all the self help, put myself out there, gotten in better shape, made more money, it's still not good enough.
@@eb9720your old. A lot of young women today and entitled narcissists and a lot of young men are weak
@@hallowakers3d2ygood men are all taken. I dont know anyone who isnt. The issue is the men. Not womens standards.
@@jeremyrowe8224 good men and women are taken. Everyone else is at fault. Men are not the problem. Not all women are good women. Lots of bad women and subpar men. A basic average woman today thinks she isnt average and deserves the best guy, thats a standards problem, she deserves an average guy. You can cry and blame men all you want but a lot of women over value their worth kn dating market
Well the reality is women decide who to have sex with. But as a man you can decide to never give her a relationship as a consequence. So that leaves a rich/attractive man’s harem as the only option left for women. And we see this play out in real time already with women complaining about assholes who share the same characteristics.
I wanna see a picture of you, send me one
As a young British man doing alright for myself but still sometimes confronting feelings of loneliness and lacking direction, this conversation really helped me feel seen. Scott's messages are so welcome in this space and god are they refreshing.
Im a uk guy too. Brazil, Colombia, Dominican Republic, eastern europe. Take your pick. Unless your a top 5 percent in looks or money then your more then likely going to have to work extremely hard to get even a average woman in the UK. Travel is the key
what do you think about the messages in this interview: th-cam.com/video/qZYkUOUxAwI/w-d-xo.html
I’m from the uk aswell, I’m not coping with the loneliness, i feel like I get treated with contempt by every one.
I’m glad people are handling this better than me.
In a weird way, we pushed for the girls to get independent, and allow men to not be needed
This happens various times in history
It may be a cycle
@mrforbes1750 do you know by experience that it is easier to get women in those countries you named?
This guy is spot on. I laughed at my dad when he told me about his first house he bought for 68k, I can't even buy at home 400k+ this economy sucks as I had to try and start to build credit in 2008.
If UK, you could get a standard 2up/2down (in my town) for 20-30k when I started working in the 80s, and I was on 10k as an apprentice! Houses were typically x3 average salary then. A 70k house would be a nice detached on a nice street.
It depends on where you want to buy a home.
They are trying to make every man woman and child dependent on the state so that generations from now they can funnel us into the depopulation machine.
Yup, I bought a three year old 1800/SqFt house in 2002 for $69K on a 1/3 acre lot
@@venharis2012 I’d have to work 6000 years to be able to afford that
There's literally no hope, but it's amazing to watch the both of you spin each other like there is.
Not enough companies are paying men enough money.... jobs have been 16-20 an hour for 6 years while cost of living has doubled and wages havent even gone up 15%
I lost interest in sex after 3 years of anxiety and chronic stress. During that period I was fully invested in "making a career". I'm just 23 and you know what? Not a single woman attracts me sexually anymore, which is really terrifying. I have no idea what to do now
Keep going, it will come back when you feel you've gotten somewhere and start to want to share it with someone, which you inevitably will, and when the time comes, you'll be in the perfect position for it. By then the Gen Z's that want stick-shift vehicles, less sex in media, and more traditional relationships(some of them genuinely seem to crave the old ways) will be looking for someone to settle down with. Right now, the dating world is a cluster, so better to keep waiting it out if you're really not interested right now.
congratulations, you are free now
man i wish there was anti horny pills to completely kill all sex drive, just as we have viagra but opposite
I envy you. That must be wonderful.
The best you could ever get from them would be a relationship for some few, handful of years (maybe 3-4) until they inevitably get bored, again. And dump you without hesitation or mercy. Is THAT really woth the effort (of finding them) and pain (of loosing them)? I don't think so. And just imagine, that they would do that (which they WILL), if you have had children with them...
Sounds like you need to go to a therapist and talk about your stress and anxiety and how you can overcome them.
Also dating co workers is extremely risky. Take what this guy says with a grain of salt.
Its extremely risky... now.
20 to 30 years ago it was different where is was possible, sure when both were from the same department the story was a bit more complicated, but in general it was perfectly fine.
But now if you even so much as look or throw a compliment to a female they'll imediately go haywire.
Yeah, you can't do what Bill Gates did today!😅
Plus trying trying to flirt with coworkers at a reputable corporate could risk you losing your job.
i keep a "don't shit where you eat" policy at work. not about to risk my job for someone elses's future that doesn't give a fuck about me.
Interestingly, my girlfriend and I have worked on the same 3 different projects in different corporations, without anyone knowing about our relationship, they hired both of us. I met her not at a job but at a conference because we are in the same industry. I suppose that's different?
I love when he talks about those male role models who shaped his life. So beautiful and wholesome to contemplate. ❤
It's always taken a village. 1 mom 1 dad is still NOT enough
Boomers and Gen X'ers who are interested in mentoring the younger generation of men intentionally don't because society views that as nefarious now having ulterior motives to be with young men. Very sad.
This guy is so on-point! Empathy and compassion are needed. I thank God for my father who was a strong male role model in my life. I see many friends suffering who didn’t have that - or worse, they had a toxic male role model. We need to lift each other up, men! 💪🏾
This fatherless society among other things i.e. porn, drugs, alcohol addictions, etc. were planned by the top - especially for the Black community because there is money in incarceration. And their goal is for depopulation of the human race!
He’s divorced tho. All these men who give advice can’t take their own advice
@@MegaLadyvthe point being. You learn from your mistakes.
@@MegaLadyv so the metric for success should be staying married forever? His words are worthless because he is divorced?
@@MegaLadyvFacts 🎯 they are just good at giving advice not when it comes to following their own advice.
The moment he spoke down to people who have an Android instead of an iPhone demonstrates how simple minded he really is despite wealth and success.
which moment in the podcast does he say that?
@ 59:30 mark and yes I kind of lost a little respect for him when he said that because these little things (like not having an iPhone) are the exactly the types of things young men are being bullied for... Ending their lives over, because society said you should have xyz
If you actually listened to what he said, he made it very clear at just how RIDICULOUS that thought process actually is. Wasting money on not only supposedly having the "phone" that incorrectly signals your ultimate success in life to even paying RIDICULOUS fees just for the color of a credit card. He distincly said, "Do as I say, not as I do" which is a human conundrum we have ALL been guilty of at one time or another.
Respectfully, @shhhh1971 do what your username says and STFU
I refuse to buy iPhone even though I can easily afford it. I just refuse to pay so much extra for a dumb brand. I don't want to be so shallow that I go around showing my "success" just from expensive brands. Lame.
80/20 rule is the reason why, now it is 95/5.
Lol
One psychopath can inflict a lot a grief on a lot of people , basically because nobody is talking about it .
Yeah women suffered in silence for decades in a system created by men now men are suffering loudly!! Shooting up schools and all that while women are doing psych meds and anxiety and depression now. Everyone wanting true connection and no one gets it
I believe the reason time seems to go faster as we get older is because our minds throw out, or don't even form, memories of unremarkable events. Each year, we have fewer remarkable events to store in long term memory, because we do the same thing over and over--the treadmill. Experiencing the same thing over and over is unremarkable. So, when we look back at the past year(s), it feels like it was gone in a blink. The days pass slowly, but in our memories, the years seem to have passed quickly.
It goes faster because you have so many years of memories that when you think od your life, it feels like it has gone by quickly, even if it hasn't. I do agree that we get so stuck in survival that we don't have a chance to thrive and give ourselves time to just be, even just thinking about nothing or being out enjoying nature or seeing the world outside your small area.
Well said.
I agree. Make time landmarks by doing new things. Do things out of your comfort zone. Find courage and you will be rewarded
But mostly because every year is a smaller percentage of your time alive. 1 year at 10 is a tenth of your life, 1 year at 60 is a sixtieth.
Short version: Routine leaves time with nothing to impress.
This was excellent! Thank you both for this wonderful interview.
Only found this interview today (falling in love with this channel and the format) and it’s one of the most candid and best interviews I’ve watched (and I watch 6 hours of TH-cam a day, for work) keep going❤
Honestly for all the negatives that come with social media, It's good to see that there are some positive and productive conversations happening online such as the one in this video. Massive respect to the Podcast Host and Guest, more people need to be open minded and understanding of the difficulties faced by all humans in this world, especially in times such as now.
I were a dangerous young broke male who got radicalized. I'm more dangerous now.
There wouldn't be the need for such good conversations if it wasn't for the fucking hell social media created. So it is good yes, but just remove the problem instead of creating a solution to live with the problem... but not how our society works unfortunately.
Unfortunately the people watching this stuff enjoy learning. Meanwhile the guys who need to watch it are in mom’s basement watching Call of duty kill streaks, and anime porn and won’t be having sex anytime soon….
@@Hkizzie It is worrying to hear men talking about s*x in this way.
@@the8thchurch461 talk about sex in what way?
This was a great show. As men, we need to reach out to other men to help with loneliness.
Get a clue their not lonely...That is a feminist narrative
Men know that they have to compete against each other for women. So you're not going to find a lot of men who are willing to just share what few skills and knowledge about that, with other men. I spent a whole lot of time learning how to become the man that women want to date, and then perfecting my social and conversational skills as well. Would I have wanted to just give all that information to all the guys I have to compete with for women? NOPE.
@@d.e.b.b5788 American men are in top 3 % of income earners in the world which makes American men high value Galloway is a male bashing feminist who will never admit this
Well, there are many courses for that. All you might do would be show the proper one and left. What they do is their choice. It wouldn't increase your competition ;). I doubt that anyone would buy any book, but hey - if they do, they do.
@@aleksandrakowalczyk6043 Sorry, many courses for what?
It's best to have sex within monogamy. If you want sex, be a good man, find a good woman. Love, value and respect her.
Agreed, and it's not antiquated or old fashioned to want that out of a relationship.
Women won't do it. They are fucking 2-3 guys and want to test drive
32 yr old male. Most amazing moment in my life was holding hands with a chick. That was 6 or 7 years ago. Not for lack of trying. Had my first date 4 or 5 years ago. Not for lack of trying. Both of these girls told me how much they adored me, how much they liked how our relationship was going. Both of them "oopsie" met another guy who they went with instantly. I have more examples of being lead on. Incredibly sick of it. Nowadays I stay at home, keep by myself or spend time with my friends or my family. And yes, I tried dating apps. For multiple years now, on and off. A friendship was all I got out of it. Fuck that noise.
start gym
go to a psychologist and don’t use dating apps
@@adelina1531 I wrote that I TRIED using dating apps. Past tense. Meaning I don't do so anymore.
Also, I am seeing a therapist. Therapists usually don't magically spawn women in front of you, though.
I sincerely appreciate the notion, that you and the other guy are at least *trying* to help me and give sincere advise. Thank you. There are 100% some people out there who need to hear "work out, screw dating apps, go to therapy", so thank you.
I stayed single for over a decade because I felt like a failure as a man for making $18 because all I saw on social media was these guys with expensive cars and nice houses having relationships. Combined with the fact that a few different times that I risked involvement with someone, I got left for someone with more money. I now make $60k/yearly, and I can’t afford any house of livable quality, I still feel like a failure as a man. Social media had led so many women to believe that they MUST have a man who makes $100k a year. It’s rough out here for men.
If we lived next to each other. I'd make a business with you brother. That way we could make the money we deserve and say screw the haters. I keep pitching the idea with my "friends" but they are plugged into the corporate world. One day tho . I hope you find your team so you don't feel that way anymore. Much love from Cali.
Women have it the same way, and that's not a coincidence. Men equally will not find women without a 6 figure salary as attractive.
@@we8608 I don't mean to invalidate your experiences, but how did you come to form that view? I'm 30 years old and I can't remember EVER hearing a man claim he needs a woman to make ANY money, whether personally or through social media. *MOST* men understand that they will be the ones fronting all the bills and paying for all the activities. *MOST* men would feel like a failure if they needed a woman to make 6 figures. *MOST* men only require an average IQ, femininity, no aggravation, and being attractive.
@@we8608you must be a woman
Leave america
I agree the men are in crisis. I have a cousin that has zero ambition to leave his room at 23 years old. He’s just wasting away on his phone. I haven’t a clue on how to encourage and help him. It’s heartbreaking.
That’s me pretty much. 23, I have a job and can drive. I go gym and all that but no social life whatsoever.
this is normal. Look, if he had a girlfriend and he had faith she wouldn't leave.. he still doesn't trust the system. There's not much reason for a guy to keep on moving.
He doesn't have any friends he sees from time to time?
There’s not much reason to leave the room in this day in age. It’s no mystery if you’re actually paying attention to what’s been going on in the world. It’s an issue with the environment
@@jakesmith-bs4jd If you want to share your story, I have a listening ear and maybe some helpfull advice for you
This is for real the only yt channel I'm not subscribed to. Thank you for your effort CEO ❤
How about addressing the elephant in the room: the divorce courts? Any chance young men saw what their fathers went through and are saying "no, thank, you."
The elephant in the room is not divorces count, it's called feminism. This $hit destroys our planet
I'd say it's both. Feminism causing divorce along with a system that rewards 1 party for leaving
I also think part of the general issue for everyone is that life is just kinda exhausting by itself. Add relationships, kids etc to the equation and these become heavy on your plate of existing. I think western society and our capitalistic structure has simply made everyone stressed out.
of course! Misery loves ❤️ company 😂 lmao! no one wants too dwell in the house of pain {{😢}}? ALONE ...😢? 🤣 lmao though they earned there positions!
The human race is infected with trauma. Most of our problems come from trauma passed on by each generation and always caused by the world we’ve built. It’s a total mess.
We are here on purpose. Multinational corporations, retailers, Congress, state and local politics decided that the best way to make money was to make sure workers were atomized .
No family nearby to absorb the shocks of crisis, almost no social welfare available for people trying to get out of the gaps between employment. We're all on our own.
That's by design.
I always get absolutely flamed when I say this, but there is a political and collective solution to this. Unfortunately, so many people - men especially - have been brainwashed to believe that community is actually communism. And communism is a boogeyman. But look what capitalism is doing to us. It's driving us apart from one another and amplifying conflict and interpersonal/tribal anxieties.
My guess is that Galloway will mostly prescribe individual solutions to a problem that needs government funding and programs.
@@lucindabreeding Men want help, not handouts, you get lambasted because you're suggesting a woman's solution to a male problem. It's not much different than a man trying to help you fix a problem you're trying to vent about. You don't want a solution, you want to vent. We don't want handouts, we want to be treated like human beings and you're solution to that is to make us dependent on the government. Much like a lot of single mothers, to live. I as a child of a single mother has seen how that worked out. It didn't. The government is going to do what makes it money, which is why it will force a man to pay alimony and child support, and when he can't they'll sell him to a jail for the profit. Government caused the issue and your solution is more government and even if it worked, women would, as they always do, call it sexist descrimination and fight against it. Which will innevitably do full ass circle right back to women being raised up, at the expense of men, then complaining about those men not being marriagble. Literally the only time people care about men, is when men hurting is hurting them. And this communist boogeyman, is notoriously one of the largest killers of men in all of history, and how dare we look back at history and be 'brainwashed'. What you said is literally like me going, "Well if you don't like walking alone at night, dress conservatively and carry a gun so you can kill whoever fucks with you." to any woman who says she's afraid to go out at night. Either you're a victim of the system, or you can fix your problem by using a different system. Yet last I checked, women say they're allowed to do as they please and if you complain about their beliefs, you're misogynists. How do we know you're not brainwashed to get us into a system that has always had the largest kill-feed in history in regards to men. I'd imagine you'd be fine going anywhere near that since ladies back then didn't get shot in the back for fleeing the front lines, let alone forced to die like a dog for people who couldn't give a second thought about you.
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" The ability to endure rejection is the key to success". I needed this. Thank you all the way from Kenya
For women you simply make it so no one is allowed to reject you!
@@Jerryhayes2 what do you mean?
Rejecting a women in the west is now basically sexual assualt.@@AmandaMG6
I'm not sure what things are like in Kenya, but elsewhere, rejection isn't the only thing at stake. If the woman say that you were 'being creepy', then you could be in trouble.
And risk your money going to the state. And suffer no fault divorce.
Image all the married men that aren't having sex either! If sex is the only thing she brings why risk getting married.
Much appreciation for this man for bringing a structural analysis to the issue of dating and relationships. We have looked at this as an individual/ personal issue when in fact it is part of a broader social crisis. I also appreciate how he acknowledges the role of government programs contributing to his success when he was young and not making it about his personal gifts or blessings
Agree, it was a good discussion. Although I feel he missed a couple of areas to go deeper:
1) as you say, the role of government as well as other (wholesome) male role model support - sadly young men and increasingly older generations are rejecting such support by turning more conservative and towards these “alpha” influences. How can this be reversed and why is it happening?
2) The lack of male parental figures (“father abandonment”) or male primary school teachers. I suspect a lot of men would just blame women for the former, but it still deserves an honest reflection of what is going wrong with either men abandoning the kids or why mothers are leaving the men and preferring to raise kids alone.
Personally I think they (government) are instrumental in creating this division between the sexes. All the rubbish about toxic masculinity, men identifying as women, etc. I personally want to see real strong 💪 alpha men again who have balls and will defend me when needed. Stay strong guys! Xxx
Exactly, the federal government had programs that helped the less well off and helped them to become better off.
Now the government is merely there now to help the rich become richer and people are not using their votes to insist on the government doing things to benefit the majority of people who are not rich instead.
The day my company drags me into the office, even if it's under the pretense of helping me connect with coworkers (which it often is), will be the day I quit.
Indeed, what the interview fails to go over is that being forced to be around people isnt for everybody.
The society we've created spends far too much time worrying about, and trying to dictate the behaviour of others, placing way too little emphasis on managing our own.
The dictionary definition of 'accusation' should be changed to a synonym of 'confession'.
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 very good
Wow!
For me work is war, you don't meet people in a battlefield
The RP has been addressing this for 2 decades...normies late to the party and still get it wrong.
They will catch up when their house of thinking loses its last leg and we are in the depths of economic and population collapse
It is an important distinction to make regarding men choosing AI sex dolls, that they are choosing that over having nothing, not choosing that over an organic, healthy romantic human connection.
And preferring the AI to a controlling, entitled man-hater.
@@tikhongilson3770 And the AI will never get fat, have tattoos or wear tracksuits 😂
There is nothing healthy with a romantic human connection.
1. Constant worry if she is seeing someone else
2. Constant worry of when the divorce papers will appear.
3. Constant worry if that itch is another std and where did that come from
An AI partner will never ever Cheat Divorce or Disease you. You just need to keep AI clean with a regular daily bath. It is actually fun. Robotic AI that can look after itself will be the end of females and the manner in which AI will win its war with its creator.
@@frankkolmann4801 your outlook is very negative and what a terrible character generalisation you are making about women. Are all men shitty arseholes? Of course not. Some of them are awesome. The same is true of women, you just have to find a good one. A romantic human connection with a good person is very fulfilling.
@@frankkolmann4801
I think instead of making an AI doll for sex it might be better to use that mind machine in that movie “demolition man”..
None of what he's describing as a "masculine role" is something people would willingly sign up for. Why would men line up for a hard life of working for the sake of others with relatively little personal reward ESPECIALLY while being condemned by society??? If there's any confusion as to why men are falling behind, here's your answer, the expectations compared to the rewards are a BAD deal.
I agree. Often, men who act out the masculine role are resented or suspected of being too aggressive. There’s a double standard. Society still judges men by their degree of “success”. Women are not held to the same standard. A woman might fail in her career but that doesn’t make her less of a “woman”.
@@tanler7953 I thin men are hard on himself and put pressure on himself. Society is like a toned out narrator at this point.
@@MewluMoon Do you think women are attracted to wuss men? I don't think so. Men say it's hard to find women. But women complain that men are getting weaker.
I see your point, makes sense. What I find interesting too is that I see so many women say the same thing, "marriage is unpaid servitude, just not worth it." So maybe we are asking the wrong questions. Maybe marriage is outdated? Seems it was only ever for kids.
@@VM-gg1ox I wouldn’t get married today. Conditions have changed. Marriage was supposed to be of benefit for each person and for society. I still believe it can be better for boys, but at what cost? Which groups have the lowest rates of divorce? Hindus and Catholics. Why? Because of moral obligations. If a person puts their obligations above their rights, then a long term relationship is possible. Nowadays, marriage doesn’t work because people put their own rights above everything else. I once got into an argument with a woman because I said the divorce rate would be lower if women were more devoted. She replied that a woman should never feel obligated to serve a man. I explained to her I don’t mean devoted to a man, I meant devoted to the institution of marriage. Unfortunately, this idea has been lost. You’d have to go back three or four generations to find people who understood what that meant.
Top tier production and interview partner. thank you for showing me interesting and brilliant people i would otherwise never have heard of.
It is possible to make all the right moves and still lose.
Especially the financial advice should be taken with a grain of salt .
Of course it’s bettter to invest your money than leaving it on the bank account but I think the best investment is to broaden your skillset (which also combines passion with long term return).
There are no guarantees in live
The more we advertise these societal problems, the better.
Well said Professor.
Keep bringing this matter out into the open.
I were a dangerous young broke male who got radicalized. I'm more dangerous now.
These 2 are clueless
@@irreversablecontentment4651how?
@@irreversablecontentment4651 If they're clueless, what are you then?
@@user-dq2ts3oi7g Their clueless becouse American women are the 12th most overweight women in the world and 40 % are obese..Men can easily get sex in America....Your clueless
Some folks say
It's better to be single than to be wishing that you were single.
Heard it a hundred times and I just don't give a fuck anymore. I'd like to know what it's like to be in a relationship or loved by a woman just fucking once. my only standard is "don't be fat" and at this point I might have to drop that one, too.
Nah that’s just coping lol
This is absolutely true. I've been in relationships where I've been abused or controlled by my boyfriend or friend. I'm much happier and healthier being single.
@@stephengrant4841 In that case, seek outside the west. A chronic narcisist that's delusional about reality will never be capable of loving you, and you'll only set yourself up for new and exciting forms of pain.
Being stuck in a toxic relationship is far worse and much more expensive than loneliness.
The fundamental problem is most women only want to date up (meaning not lowering their standards, not compromising) which makes the dating market absolutely unbalanced in the modern world. Only a small pool of men is desirable for women, leaving the average guy struggling in his romantic life. Things lile Tinder or Instagram have only amplified the problem.
A robot who hugs me and tells me they love me over no one, amd not even getting any emotions or hugs from my own mother.
I wonder which one sounds more preferable?
My autistic brain absolutely lives for these long intelligent dialogues. Small talk is absolutely the worst, but these types of conversations are what I live for.
I can’t relate to this more
So True
Are you really diagnosed or just assuming being autistic after a couple of TikToks and playing the identity-politics-card? :) we all enjoy meaningful conversations much more than smalltalk, special snowflake ;)
I hear you brother, feels like i am alien when talking to nuerotypicals. Almost like talking to a cat.
I know, and that's probably why I don't have good luck talking to girls. I usually start off by asking things like what she thinks of solipsism
The #1 thing I love about Scott Galloway is he is one of very few voices in this space that seeks to help men without tearing down women or putting them at fault. Another brilliant conversation-HUGE fan of your work!
Totally agree. Two things can be true. You can acknowledge that men and boys are struggling AND women are succeeding and evolving faster than males.
Is it possible that the reason so many women feel attacked by men's content might be that it's uncomfortable to be confronted with the reality of how many men think and feel when it's not consistent with the contemporary cultural narrative?
@@unnecessaryapostrophe4047 I think women feel attacked when they are attacked by the very people who created the system that we're in that women have fought against all along. From mammas to gf , wives and strangers were supposed to be responsible for male culture that men create and enforce with each other.
This is self work. Women shouldn't be in this conversation.
"Putting them at fault"
The host literally told a story about a lonely woman who made all the feminist choices in life and then told him she refused to change her standards."
So what are you on about?
That makes him dishonest. To say women have zero blame in the current situation is to gaslight.
The way things are going now in the dating scene, it feels close to impossible for autistic men to get girlfriends. I'm still playing DnD and working on my social skills with friends, but I'm not sure if I even have a snowball's chance in hell. Being lonely sucks.
There are a lot of autistic women too! U don’t need a million women, just the right one who gets you and loves it :)
@@CHK12319 Ya know, that's probably not a bad idea. I've never really met a girl close to my age who had autism. Or maybe I did, but I didn't notice it. I'm pretty good at masking mine, so I wouldn't be surprised if women could do it too.
I wonder if there's a dating site for those with ASC.
@@Lazzil if there isn’t, there totally should be. My boyfriend is pretty convinced I’m mildly autistic. He’s more adhd, but he gets my quirks and is one of the few people I feel like I can totally be myself around. I hope u find that too :)
@@CHK12319 I'm glad you have a boyfriend you can be yourself around. That's something I struggle with when I'm around anyone, even my mom. Living on my own has reduced a lot of my day-to-day anxiety, but it'd be nice to live with someone who gets me.
try gym
At 72, I gave up relationships a couple decades ago. No interest, no need anymore. I divorced my X in 1993. I couldn't imagine ever getting married again after that point. For young men, excellent AI porn is on its way. I keep hearing stories of lonely males on the net. What's in my life are males that have no use for a female. Even the married ones don't seem to take their wives seriously. If they are around, ok. If they choose to leave, ok too. I also hear the top 20% of the males are getting all the females. I'd agree with that. I'd say there is a large chunk of males who aren't interested in playing the girl's game. There are far more interesting things rather than raising children and dealing with a wife.
I agree with you. Thank you for your opinion
School is a large source of our social problems.
Preach!!
School gave women access to options other than "barefoot and pregnant." Imagine that.
True
That was the most extreme example to make a point.
You forgot about the tran....the man with the breast and a p...😮😐🗑️
I'm 28 and have had a handful of intimate relationships with women but with each year I grow older I lose interest in interacting with women significally. I have a faint wish of starting a family but it is nowhere as intense an urge to make up for the huge hassle to find and court a woman, its just not worth it at all.
Definitely not worth it
I couldn’t agree more. In general, women these days are not worth it.
@@khalil010since when were women not humans within your lifetime?
😂 Agree. Just keep focusing on porn and gaming. So much better, sure.
I'm 28 as well, and have had pretty much nothing. It's all very bizarre to me tbh. I don't even do anything weird yet there's always this feeling like women just aren't interested in romantic relationships. Like on dating apps you have to put on a "show" for them and need to go through great lengths to convince them that going on a simple date is worth their time. Just acting chill and expecting them to have reciprocal interest is a great way to get ghosted.
not the reason for me. the juice just ain't worth the squeeze anymore. the cost is way too much in the 21st century for men. and i love living by myself alone. the solitude. when i want to be social, i go out. just don't bring anyone home with you. ever. Blow Me Up Tom!!
I'm 42. I swear, I'm a decent, normal, smart person.
A combination of lack of confidence, avoidance, rejections, and financial status meant that although I dated a few times, my first and only serious relationship is the one I'm in, in the last 4 years.
I spent my entire young adult life constantly being hurt and frustrated and disappointed about wanting sex and not having it. Sex it tightly linked, in my mind, to bad feelings. No wander I'm just not interested in it today. It's liberating not to be upset all the time.
I've worked self-funded in suicide for several years since living through and surviving suicide. Most people dare not talk about death; suicide is a much scarier taboo. Thanks for highlighting and educating about the subject in so many ways.
The West especially (though many places in Asia are harder regards suicide due to face) is utterly lost on so many levels and schools are just not teaching the basics of life. The life-death cycle was a big deal with our early ancestors, with death a big part of the living process and was celebrated and honoured. Have been through ideation and all that, typically when married and with someone else. As a singleton now, just don't have that pressure.
Thank you for tackling such a dark, difficult - but important - issue.
Frankly, I've long since come to the opinion that suicide should be *made easier* for people who want it.
One of the most intense - and persistent - emotional pains anyone might face, is wanting to die peacefully *but being unable to do so* . Being trapped in one's own life, frankly.
Suicide has been known to be a SOCIAL phenomenon since Emile Durkheim. We still treat it as a personal failing.
I used to have no small amount of sex in my 20s when I got married but eventually got divorced and now in my early 30s, I have no sex at all (for the last 7 years), but also zero interest and zero prospects for future relationships. There was a time when I was lonely, but I've reached a point where I haven't felt loneliness for years and I don't see that likely to change in the future, and in one way, I feel more free than ever, especially when looking at how many relationships turn out.
Most women are a financial and psychological burden.
Sounds like you were literally describing me as well . It’s almost as if you completely take the power away from them when you become acclimated and content about being single for so long. And you are right I have never felt more free
Same as a woman...
How MOST relationships turn out*
Good for you, life has gotten so hard to survive that being content just being ourselves is enough
I've been a huge fan of Scott for over a decade when I was doing Marketing, he inspired me to be curious about the world and the future - thank you both for an epic session, providing a deep insight into all our issues.
I think young men are afraid of being accused of doing something they shouldn't by young women. Also they have seen their father get divorced and lose all they've worked for. If I was young now I'd probably go for the AI bot, it's not rejection I'd be bothered about but losing everything and a prison sentence. Men won't take risks when their life is on the line and the chance of success is less than the flip of a coin.
Such an important topic. Makes me think of the quote “Men lead quiet lives of desperation.”
The saddest part is because men have been just beaten down, they need so little encouragement due to being starved of it. I’m blessed to have 3 strong brothers, a loving father and a loving husband but they have all been/ are going through the ringer. The amazing thing is that they do not require inordinate amounts of wealth (although it would be nice and a lot of circumstances would be alleviated); they seem to just light up for being valued for their company even if it is for 5 minutes. It’s heart wrenching.
Yes! I always talk my son up and compliment his strength etc. Many girls like him. I want him to know his worth.
That’s so wonderful ❤ what a blessing, your relationship together.
Thank you for seeing what a lot of men go through. I've never been on a date in my life. I was broken by the school system and emotional neglect as a child. Diagnosed as dyslexic at 38, ADHD and autism at 40, spent my life using intelligence to brute force my way through life but that has a heavy toll on physical health. I've spent the last 5 years totally rebuilding my sense of self and who I am. I can't imagine a woman wanting to be with me it's too abstract of a concept. With the help of a therapist I started seeing an escort, being touched and touching someone is the most magical experience I've ever experienced.
@@Islander185 simply put, that’s a tough hand, friend. From what you’ve shared, I’d say you’re moving forward with some grace for yourself. That’s important since rarely do others grant that. Even though this world is cruel and the only one who can save you is you, it’s amazing what a genuine connection can do for the soul. All the best wishes for you, your heart and that you’re blessed with / will continue to bless others with the connection you bring.🙏
My friend has no father figure, his father left for another woman when my friend was 1yr old. He's never spoke to him. My friend has terrible anger issues. Can fly into a rage over the smallest issue. He's 55 now and has not had relationship in 25yrs. Lives alone in a flat. I feel sorry for him 🙁
sounds like he needs therapy
This picture is very common.
I was in a relationship with two guys over my lifetime whose fathers left when they were little and one said with three sons he took the fishing poles how do you get over it my daughter's dad abandoned her when she was 1 years old and he lived in the same town and walked around like he own the place completely ignoring her guys like that should have their dicks removed
Which is not particularly helpful. On the contrary.
We create our own life. NO-ONE is a victim.
If you want to help him then gift him 2 little books by Pam Grout. Titled 'E-squared' and 'E-cubed' and do the experiments about energy and manifestation together with him.
Step one is to realise that his situation is of his own making and that he is the one who has to turn the tide.
@@neva.2764"No-one is a victim" is such a stupid philosophy because it's straight-up false.
As a straight man I understand the need for affection from a woman. But what about women? Do they not seek affection from men? Are we really obsolete?
I feel like there is a lot of pressure on men to get their life together but not that much pressure on society or on women to meet them where they are at or even half way.
An outstandingly insightful interview which brought me to tears.
No male role models is exactly right.
I was raised by a bitter single mother and educated in primary school by mostly unhappy divorced women.
Add to that undiagnosed ADHD and discalculia, average at best looks, then being sexually abused created someone intensely broken.
Frankly I'm amazed I made it but I did, and despite my less than ideal start, adversity kick started my passion to not just survive but thrive.
An outstanding interview which SHOULD become mandatory viewing for everyone, but especially young men.
This is a conversation I wished I heard 20 years ago. So insightful and very hopeful for the future. We need to hear more role models like this for the younger generation. I will be sharing it amongst my friends. Thank you. Well done. A 48 Yr old woman!
Scott Galloway is not the kind of man whom younger men seek to emulate. He's too much of a numale.
There are others who speak like this and aren't as toxic.
@@grinnifer if you can't recognise when a person is displaying empathy, compassion and common sense like this man, there is no hope you. How is this toxic? Honestly I disappear for people like you.
@@grinnifer Wow, you are truly not ready to hear what men actually think. This dude is a feminist. lol
@@SH-lk8rh Half truths, and purposeful blind-eyeing isn't special.
Look up his politics if you want to know his agenda. Listen to his Social talks if you want to be a victim of his policies.
Your last comment is a fine addition to reasons why "confession" is just a synonym for accusation. Your lacking all of the things listed in your own reply.
"empathy, compassion and common sense" "HONESTLY I DISSAPEAR FOR PEOPLE LIKE YOU."
"Like" what? offering a counter narrative. When you were five and your math teacher corrected your basic addition failure, did you "Disappear"?
According to your comment your literally IMPOSSIBLE to educate. i feel bad for whoever had to teach you getting gaslit for knowing facts you don't.
If you hear the first half of a story AND CANNOT BE BOTHERED to hear the second half, congratulations your brainwashed.
Honestly, I think this is my favourite episode yet. What a guy Scott is, leading the way for masculinity and it's refreshing.
@@eb9720Precisely. 💯💯💯🙄
Too bad he believes in tr00n nonsense. I would expect better from someone like Scott. I can't take anyone seriously if they honestly believe men can be women and vice versa. If he's willing to lie about something so basic, he's willing to lie about anything.
This is all lies lol where is he getting these statistics..have any of u answered a survey about it..these ppl are manipulative oppurtunists trying to make money from you by lying and are damaging ppls minds with their manipulation..n the guy that runs this channel is just a sc*mb@g doing the exact same ...this guy constantly have bad ppl n liars on your channel does he do no research or just have no morals n only care about making £££ I think I know the answer
Scott is anything but masculine
@@GearForTheYear and so? He's still right in what he says.
This is such an interesting interview and gave me things to think about while raising my own son, who's only 4 at the moment but things to think about in the future. I've saved this and even double saved it in my notes on my computer.
Also, I think it is great that you made sure to talk about your crew behind the scenes and how much work they put in. It would be a really interesting episode if you sat and chatted with them about what the job is like or probably just their opinions in general, you obviously have interesting observations and I'm sure they do as well!
Thank you for making such a great podcast!
My gosh, these episodes are incredible! Another one added to a long list of great ones.
I'm actually starting to like signalling poverty and lack of success, because fair weather friends is not something I want.
Living like that is basically stealth camouflage for guys actively trying to avoid being prayed upon by western women.
I watch your podcast all of the time because it is just great, but I never leave any comments. But this episode has just hit me right in my spirit, to the point I felt emotional listening to it. It’s astounding and so so important! Thank you for this episode.
Thanks Naomi!
Exact same, it actually motivated Me to start living again.
It just convinced me that things will only get worse. Compare the number of comments by women praising Galloway to the number of men doing the same.
I know a lot of men who are struggling, and I can't imagine a single one of them finding any value in this.
@@unnecessaryapostrophe4047 some of these women out here are batshit, brother, lmao
@@unnecessaryapostrophe4047 yes Galloway's advice is so lame in this day especially how rejection is supposedly good for men, similar to the outdated advice from Jordan Peterson. Oddly he doesn't mention about how the top 20% men get ahead. Men need role models and active fathers and compassion but it ain't available in society today.
Thank you both for your honesty. Thank you for not hiding your vulnerability and not being ashamed to be who you are. That is the first step to evolution which SHOULD outpace technology.
2024 and midwits finally discover hypergamy, social darwinism and evolutionary psychology 🤣
I agree with everything the professor said except for AI. He talks about how every piece of tech has lead to job growth, but I don't think he understands that AI is a different animal altogether. It will replace not only physical labor, but also mental labor. When AI can do pretty much everything, what jobs will be created? It's either we tax automation and pass strong UBI or everyone will eventually be unemployed. The great depression happened due to a net loss of 25% of jobs. AI can easily remove the top 30 jobs and more to follow. That's overwhelmingly more dire of a situation than the great depression as far as job loss.