I was once a hungry ghost I was a ward of the state I was a heroin addict My first healings was in Narcotics Anonymous, a simple spiritual program , I also began mindfulness and I have not been a hungry ghost for many years . I feel blessed I can use my suffering to help hungry ghosts as they trust a former hungry ghost . I’m so greatful and humbled to hear Thay’s teachings,I can continue to help and this makes me so happy
@@plumvillageapp yes I do daily practice and I hope to go to plum village in Victoria for more teaching of dear Thay as he lives on and on smiling with compassion , I wanted them be a nun as a child , today I breath in I know I’m breathing in breathing out I know I’m breathing out . I can be a humble student and as I learn I help others
I suffered deep and damaging abuse from both of my parents - both dead now. As I have seen them as five year old children, across many years of healing, I myself have deeply healed. 🙏❤️
I cried when I listen to this. I am grateful I became an alcoholic so that I could find Alcoholics Anonymous and the sister programs. I found everything I needed in the meetings and in the fellowship.
I'm truly grateful for finding crack, it enabled me to find all these wonderful people working in the anti drug programs. Had I remained a functional, sane adult, I'd never had that experience. Come to think of it, now I've beaten the crack cocaine addiction, I'll become a raging drunk and get to know c.... like you.
It's actually one of the lesser reincarnations such as the animal rebirth . Ancient for sure, not sure about sacred. Animals spend their whole lives just surviving , trying to eat and not be killed. Hungry ghost is also a samsaric kind of painful existence .
@@onnion63 I was born in Macedonia and my father died when I was 16... that how I learned about honoring dead. We constantly make offerings in food, clothes and good thought. We even have saying... "All the best about the dead."
I'm very moved by Thay, every time. Here's my gratitude statement from this morning;I'm so grateful that my heart feels full. I'm grateful that I'm an alcoholic. 45 years of drink and drugs. 43 years of the occasional flirt with recovery. That's what happened. It's only what happened. That part of my journey is over. In the here and now, the only place that life ever happens, I'm grateful to be learning, growing, emotionally and spiritually. The time is now. I'm grateful and loving it! 💖🌈🙏🏼🦄🥳❣️🌻😁😉🙏
Whatch this until the end!!! if you should have any problem with the relationship to your mother or your father or your children; or in case you feel angry on a regular basis. Thank you!
I no longer feel angry with my parents, Dad died, but I do not feel I can engage with them in future as I do not feel mentally safe with mother and siblings.
I have lived with a hungry ghost, my step father; he was like a black hole leaving unpleasant traces of his unrecognized tyrant wounds. Later on psychotherapy started working upon the (in)visible threads that did not leave him in peace. Yes, indeed, the hungry ghosts need great amount of love, caring, forgiveness along with firm roots to rely on. Sanghas, retreats are a wonderful solution for healing, for restoring and transforming the vacuum into authentic loving kindness. Of course these people should also follow certain steps in order to transmute their pain body. Dear Thay, by having shared your wisdom as insightful gems, you have surely made this planet more sane. Thank you!😊🙏
Poporul nostru este plin de boli, îngreunat de corupție morală și iluzionat religios din cale în afară. Cioran - recunoscut pe plan internațional pentru pesimismul său profund dar și pentru intelectul său remarcabil, a fost "exilat", poate parțial spre binele său, de poporul român, rămânând în Franța alături de Ionesco, Eliade, Brâncuși și mulți alții asemenea lor. Chiar dacă tatăl lui a fost preot, el a suferit enorm pentru că suntem un popor întunecat la minte. Țuțea, un alt posesor de intelect impresionant, suferind ororile închisorilor comuniste, a spus la sfârșitul vieții că a suferit o viață întreagă pentru un neam de proști. La fel simt și eu, însă Thay, chiar și după ce nu mai este cu noi așa cum îl știm, mi-a vorbit prin intermediul acestui video "de dincolo de moarte", la fel cum și lui i-au vorbit mulți de pe linia lui Gautama Buddha prin intermediul practicilor, sutrelor, și învățăturilor. Prin acest video, Thay m-a ajutat să accept faptul că în loc să fug continuu și să caut noi rădăcini în țări și popoare din Orient (unde dharma este vie, trăită și transmisă cu grijă, cu disciplină, cu înțelepciune și cu multă inteligență, eleganță spirituală, etc.), trebuie să învăț ceea ce am nevoie să învăț și să mă întorc înapoi la rădăcinile mele ca să transmit mai departe ceea ce am învățat pentru ca să transform răul din mine în bine - nu numai pentru mine, ci pentru toți și toată lumea 🙏🏼
So much gratitude to the universe for sending us Thich Nhat Han. A man of unparalleled greatness, a prophet of our time . ❤️💕 sending love and gratitude to my virtual sangha for upholding one another, and continuing the traditions and teachings of Thay 💕❤️🙏🏻🙏🏻
I have been practicing for nearly 8 years and have become aware of the pain in my ancestral lineage. Thank you so much for broadcasting this lesson, I will do the smiling practice in order to embody my understanding that my parents also suffered. And back and back. Thank you so much - Ngawang Dechen Palmo UK
What a beautyful teaching I will practice on my inner 5 year old and then on my parents, I always knew I was loved but I came from a big family in Ireland and I often got lost and detached from my feelings,needs and wants and I became a people pleaser in order to survive,I carried that into my interactions with others after I left home,in my work place and in my marriage and community, I never got to know who I was, now I have a chance to work on that and embrace my 5year old and that of my mother and father although they are both dead,but still alive in me,my siblings, and my children and granddaughter, and so it will continue🙏🦋🌈❤🙏
I used to talk to myself in a very hard and harsh way, and when I started to learn about mindfulness, the intensity of my expectations about myself cranked up the harshness of my inner dialogue. I found some teachings about loving yourself when you go looking within, and to embrace whatever emotion, judgement or thought arose. I practiced speaking to my beating heart and breath as if it was to my innerchild: "I love you, I love you". I visualize my innerchild as a 5 year old in pain when doing so. The clue for me was to understand I was not pretending, but getting used to tell myself I loved myself. Now I cannot imagine speaking to myself and others the way I used. May all beings find worthiness and relief within.
My father died from suicide last year. It’s been hard to forgive him, as I had my first child but a month before he passed. This talk has brought me to tears. I hope this is the beginning of my healing.
He was suffering. See that it was not about you and he was not thinking clearly or to do you personal harm, it was out of a place of extreme suffering and not seeing how to go on. Feel compassion instead of suffering yourself
"A deep explanation, of deep understanding, of deep compassion, of deep love, of deep need, of deep healing, of deep restoration." ~ Of Immense Gratitude
Beyond the pain of childhood, has never been an easy journey. However with teachings through Plum Village/Thich Nhat Hanh, I have touched on the jewels in my roots after the forgiveness takes place. Today's Dharma talk has been again a strong hearing for me lest I forget and fall into the past, which is always a possibility. Much less today than yesterday. Love in practicing meditation is my strong element. I give thanks to the Universe for sending me Thich Nhat Hanh and me hearing the sound of the language. Today and tomorrow, feeding the ghost within.
This completely changed my perspective about my father who I had given up on having a relationship with. I thought I just had to accept and let it go but I am going to try again. I cannot begin to express how deeply moved I am right now. Thank you. 🙏
Interesting. A few months ago, I was doing some work on the connections between my childhood and chronic physical pain. I had been struggling to work through one incident in particular when I realised I had been focusing on my present day anger against my mother all those years. I turned my attention to terrified nine year old me and in my mind's eye went to that child and took her in my arms to protect and love her and my present day physical pain has decreased so much since then. Since then, I tell myself every night, "I am safe. I am supported." Only a few weeks ago, I found Thay and I am so, so grateful for this community.
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Is it safe to help parents if they are so hungry themselves they hurt you when they get a chance? How do you heal your roots if you have narcissistic parents and you keep getting reinjured when you reach out to them?
@@jaxymama Connecting with siblings, allies and friends to help get through the tougher moments is crucial when working with family where there are unresolved issues. Healing roots is coming to terms with the realities, acceptance, making decisions with "bodhicitta" and being able to voice clearly without reacting the basics necessary to keep family safe. One must be willing to give up family to help family. Such a tough process sometimes; know you are most certainly not alone.
@@jaxymamathat is an excellent question. You must give yourself plenty of compassion and make yourself stronger with self compassion and self care. That way you may learn with peace and integrity that the path for you in life and the way to help the parents who harmed us to separate with awareness that what was wrong is wrong and that abuse is abuse. That way firstly the truth is honoured. To leave a peaceful, self respectful, truthful life, you may only share your truths with very few but always with yourself. This is helpful to heal the generations. The ancestors are the part of the generations past, you are present and whatever children may be born in this generation can get to experience the healing. And for your parents it may mean the best generational healing you can be part of us to be very, very separate from them.
Thanks for uploading such a wonderful video. The wisdom in this video is priceless. I just watched Thich expose the root cause of my life's problem. I am a hungry ghost. It's sad but true.
Understanding my Ancestors, particularly my Maternal line has helped me to understand myself and allowed more compassion to flower - I am forever grateful for the way in which you bring deep understanding to the Buddha's Teachings. Yes we must journey into the past in order to make the present moment and future brighter. Thank you Thay 🙏
Our tribes of choice are sacred ones where all kinds of healing can occur - even ancestral wounds that seemed permanent. Thich Nhat Hanh's wisdom crosses all unnatural boundaries and reaches into the truth of humanity. I've loved his gentle brilliance for decades on life's path and am grateful for this post especially, in addition to his books. I think Jesus and he would have a lot to talk about. Pax et lux. ♡○☆
I live in a haunted home and work in a haunted vintage shop. Every night, before I go to bed, I always pull chairs out from under the table and leave enough room for our unseen ghosts to sit. All ghosts appreciate chairs. They love a sense of home in our place and a sense of family too.
True , not everyone is able to transmit the jewel of love and nourishment, even though physically we carry an Ancestral lineage. However, at the core all of Earth is one. Every person ,plant, animals , everything is simply one giant energetic force.
My father was a serial paedophile , responsible for the destruction of many lives. My only child was one of his victims and is in mental hospital now and has been for 15 of the last 20 years because of what my father did. Me and my little brother ( who will not acknowledge us as family) were victims also. My life has been taken by trying to resolve this. I am 70 this year and the tears still flow every night for the damage done.
It is rare to hear people speak out of this. My father was too a pedophile. He molested my daughters and when I went to my brother and told him he said “don’t you remember what he did to us when we were little “? I knew he was saying he molested me and him too - I couldn’t protect my daughters from him - I blocked out memories. Fast forward 5 years , my brother molested one of my daughters again in secrecy for over a year. My world shattered over and over and I have spent the last 10 years helping my daughters recognize the patterns and heal and I am finally on the path to healing myself. My grief process was stalled because I needed to care for my children first so I spent many years hyper-vigilant with ptsd - I used to be a fawn and I turned into a lion just waiting for someone to mess with my kids again. I was ready and prepared to hurt anyone and not give a shit about the outcome. That rage has become more balanced but I do not trust anyone. I have seen what family can do. I am so proud of you for sharing this because it is hard to find people willing to be honest like this. I am so sorry for your child. I hope you find healing , I know how hard and complex it is to find peace. Much love 💗
@@jennykelter9518 Thankyou for bothering to reply. I am just resting in a lay-by for a little cry after going to my son’s house to get clothes for him and start to clear up the terrible mess. He is very poorly and has never had appropriate care or support. I have now started an official complaint regarding his lack of care. I think he will be in care now for another year at least.
Honestly I never understand this! Whenever I hear these stories and that the women say they wanted kids, but never had any - I always think that‘s for the best. Seriously, when I hear this kind of bullshit that there are women out there having their sexually predator parent to the same to their own kids - I must say you are either not very smart or emotionally very immature or just unempathetic and irresponsible. And then complain that the son can‘t take care of himself and that you are taking legal actions. Wow, lady that‘s all on you 100%. The truth hurts! But that you kind of ladies let this happen AGAIN by the same person and to your own kids is just sick. You‘re part of the problem, a so-called enabler. I feel very sorry for all your children, you should never have gotten them in the first place. You have even brought more misery into the world by your denial and ignorance and neglect. How can you see yourself as a victim and hoped someone would have helped when you did not even manage to help your own children? Protect them, which you should have? Women like you are not better than the abuser. 😤
I'm so thankful to watch this video. I feel it resolved some obstacles I'm facing recently with Buddhism practicing. I really appreciate the explanation of the hungry ghost from Thay. I was never sure about why I should learn the three miserable regimes. Now I can see part of me is a hungry ghost. I will try to practice as Thay said to connect with my ancestors but I'm not sure if I'm capable of doing it :) I'm recently practicing loving speech with my daughter. It is so hard. But Thay's voice often appears in my brain and that's the real loving speech.
I have no connection to my family because they want me to suffer. I worked hard for love and good life. Me an my son are deeply connected to ancestors and my ancestors and guides brought me to you. 🙏💓 I know you have passed but I know you are right here. I love to imagine you with my beloved kiki cat. We just lost her but imagining her happy with you and my ancestors makes me feel so much gratitude. When we let her go I kept hearing mya Angelou say "don't say sorry. Say I love you And ty so much for what you have brought to my son's life and my life " so that is what I did. Ty for all you do for us and for all you continue to do in spirit great teacher!
My prayers of joy and love to the Sangha! We are all so blessed to have learned of the Three Jewels before we died so that we can practice ending the cycle of suffering within ourselves and in others. Peace and Love to Thay and to all of our Brothers and Sisters! Blessed be the Buddha and all on the Bodi path!
It seems that for me, this will take many lifetimes. Childhood maltreatment really does a number on us; it definitely did on me. Mindfulness was a wake-up call, but then I was overwhelmed with what I was experiencing and understanding was my experience. It's very hard to stop running from self, and yet there's nowhere to go. I don't think everybody makes it, and I can understand that. Wish I had a Sangha, but feel so absolutely lost (hungry ghost is me), that I don't feel I belong anywhere on this great ball of life. It's really heartbreaking. Much of the intellectual knowledge is useful at times, but more often, it's simply infuriating that I cannot seem to break through.
@@Eric-tj3tg Thank you for writing. I recognise a lot. It is like Thay said a very difficult problem, not easy to heal on one's own. All the best to you ❤! We gotta aim for the light and simple good things 🌼
A lot of adopted people don't have the luxury of knowing their roots or even medical family history. Unless you find your birth people but even then, it can be difficult to get answers especially if you can find only one parent. Or maybe people are edgy about knowing the new relative. And you have to be respectful. You can't just body slam folks with what you might be craving to know. Discernment.
I am one and grew up in a house of hungry ghosts. Pray and vigil 24/07. Not easy task as the dark hole needs to be fulfilled by God's grace and it is upon each individual to chose light and call for help. Sat Nam🙏🏾🧘🏾♀️
My parents & spiritual community failed me growing up, & yet I somehow managed to find what I needed to stop being a hungry ghost through mystical dreams I had when I was 20. In one dream, I met my first ancestors, & they conferred their love & hope in me. It revived my penchant for life. And in another dream I believe I met Jesus, & felt that He embodied unconditional love toward me. And in a later part of the dream I saw God on His throne, transfigured & majestic. I was then able to take all this love & purpose I felt newly instilled with, & began to share it with others--including my family.
For brothers and sisters who may have felt a disconnect with the biological family, you are a child of God. I love Thich Nhat Hanh. But do not overly concern yourself with the label "hungry ghost". Make peace within yourself and forgive as you would want to be forgiven. Know that you are Loved.
The term is deeply rooted in Buddhism and Taoism. He is using it as part of this dharma talk to explain what a "hungry ghost" is. It's a term that is ancient.
@@juliaphillips9436 I grew up in a super violent (physical and verbal) abusive household. I owe Thay a HUGE debt and I did not discover his wisdom until I was about 45.
Thank you for detailing about the term,most of us are not familiar with🤔😘! Its good to broaden one's knowledge but never divert from your purpose ,practice & goal in life!
You should not believe in any God and get too attached to any religion too. Look at how many people died from the covid-19 which their God don't save. Don't let a religion that used a God that is proven fake or "love" as a smokescreen.
My husband went through this. His mother disconnected him from his roots completely and he could never connect himself with anything in life. Even after having a wife and a sweet child he still went into Depression. He always had a very low esteem He could never even explain that. I felt very pity for him but we also suffered because of that.After loving him so much I could never gain his trust. I felt so worthless and meaningless and could not see him suffer .If anyone could heal him I would have been so thankful n grateful. 🙏🙏🙏🙏 If you are healing people like the hungry ghosts you are doing the most needed job ever.God has gifted you to this planet. You are like God to earth. Hatsoff 👍👍
Wish more people understood that. Look at the us 🇺🇸 right now. It's black against white, democrats against Republicans, short people against tall people lol. U have to laugh instead of crying sometimes 😢.
I have been this for over a dacade, and its hard to get over it, especially if there’s no one to open up to. Let me give you a little hope, no one needs to understand you, you dont have to try to be understood. Even when someone says they understand, they may to some degree, but its mostly politeness based on their own understanding and experiences of suffering. No one can really understand you when it comes to the details and subtleties of your experiences that make you suffer, but its oke, sometimes when you cannot get full understanding, you at least can receive someones willingness to understand you. And yes, dont throw yourself blindly at someone who takes the slightest effort. The best understanding you can get, is coming to the point of understanding your own pain, acknowledge the reasons for your pain, giving yourself permission for suffering as you have, and then you just sit and be with that pain in sillence and solitude. You can do that and be there for you like no one can. It really is possible to overcome, no matter the details of your suffering. Just sit, close your eyes if you must, but just feel what you feel and understand where it comes from, allow it and smile to it and acknowledge you understand. You dont have to understand in detail, dig deep and force yourself to remember some lost puzzle piece detail that makes everything logical and that makes your pain go away like magic, that menory may never come, you dont need it also. Just you have to understand your pain by looking at it and understand where it comes from in general, not detail, you’ll never need someone else to understand. You know what you’ve experienced, that makes you the perfect person to give understanding. Thank you Thich, thank you for helping me.
This truth was so utterly healing that I caught my breath - and had to breath in and out. The thought came to me for all it is worth that we have had ancestors who were hungry ghosts and passed the seeds of it down to us to weed out gently in our inner garden. Thay's thoughts here open up on so much. I cried for all those inner children but also smiled to them🦋🦋. Thank you Thay.
Not sure why somebody would laugh in the audience when he is speaking about the 5 year old in our father. Its so important. My brother asked my dad about things he did when he was really young. He came to life. A brilliant meditation for everyone. Never forget our inner child and their vulnerability.
No inferior no superior - free from judgments . The real dharma he is transmitting .Maybe the person who laughed has some seed from childhood they have not dealt with and a laugh is not comical but nervous
I grew up as a Catholic and was confirmed into the church in the 8th grade, but I subsequently became an atheist, and now I am a practitioner of Buddhism. Recently, researching the life and work of Father Daniel Berrigan (whom I discovered through his friendship with Venerable Thich Nhat Hanh) has led me to feel more connected to my spiritual ancestors than before.
I was once a hungry ghost
I was a ward of the state
I was a heroin addict
My first healings was in Narcotics Anonymous, a simple spiritual program , I also began mindfulness and I have not been a hungry ghost for many years .
I feel blessed I can use my suffering to help hungry ghosts as they trust a former hungry ghost . I’m so greatful and humbled to hear Thay’s teachings,I can continue to help and this makes me so happy
🙏🏻 Keep the practice dear friend. 🙏🏻
@@plumvillageapp yes I do daily practice and I hope to go to plum village in Victoria for more teaching of dear Thay as he lives on and on smiling with compassion , I wanted them be a nun as a child , today I breath in I know I’m breathing in breathing out I know I’m breathing out . I can be a humble student and as I learn I help others
what a beautiful & touching share - you have certainly helped me today with this ❤
I suffered deep and damaging abuse from both of my parents - both dead now. As I have seen them as five year old children, across many years of healing, I myself have deeply healed. 🙏❤️
@@temp850 Hi, may I ask what helped you to deeply heal that damage? Thanks i.a. Best 🌼
I cried when I listen to this. I am grateful I became an alcoholic so that I could find Alcoholics Anonymous and the sister programs. I found everything I needed in the meetings and in the fellowship.
Yes yes yes yes yes
I hope you're okay friend!!! You're never without love and support. Love you buddy ❤
Ditto. Peace
Me to!!! We are loved We are guided. One day at a time.
I'm truly grateful for finding crack, it enabled me to find all these wonderful people working in the anti drug programs. Had I remained a functional, sane adult, I'd never had that experience. Come to think of it, now I've beaten the crack cocaine addiction, I'll become a raging drunk and get to know c.... like you.
Hungry ghost is a sacred phrase. The soul as well is a hungry ghost. Feed it well in best ways n hope the feast will make us better humans. Peace ✌️
It's actually one of the lesser reincarnations such as the animal rebirth . Ancient for sure, not sure about sacred. Animals spend their whole lives just surviving , trying to eat and not be killed. Hungry ghost is also a samsaric kind of painful existence .
@@onnion63 I was born in Macedonia and my father died when I was 16... that how I learned about honoring dead.
We constantly make offerings in food, clothes and good thought.
We even have saying...
"All the best about the dead."
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I'm very moved by Thay, every time. Here's my gratitude statement from this morning;I'm so grateful that my heart feels full. I'm grateful that I'm an alcoholic. 45 years of drink and drugs. 43 years of the occasional flirt with recovery. That's what happened. It's only what happened. That part of my journey is over. In the here and now, the only place that life ever happens, I'm grateful to be learning, growing, emotionally and spiritually. The time is now. I'm grateful and loving it! 💖🌈🙏🏼🦄🥳❣️🌻😁😉🙏
Thanks for Sharing Beautiful Soul 😘💖🙏
Congratulations, madame Sumrell!😇, best of luck in your endeavours, thank you very much for sharing!
Thank you SO much...I am deeply touched by your story and your now transparency and realizations and validation of Thay's meaningful transmissions..
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Sending warm thoughts to support you in your journey of recovery, Louise. Much love to you from your spiritual family. ❤️
Whatch this until the end!!! if you should have any problem with the relationship to your mother or your father or your children; or in case you feel angry on a regular basis. Thank you!
I no longer feel angry with my parents, Dad died, but I do not feel I can engage with them in future as I do not feel mentally safe with mother and siblings.
Such a beautiful human
I have lived with a hungry ghost, my step father; he was like a black hole leaving unpleasant traces of his unrecognized tyrant wounds. Later on psychotherapy started working upon the (in)visible threads that did not leave him in peace.
Yes, indeed, the hungry ghosts need great amount of love, caring, forgiveness along with firm roots to rely on. Sanghas, retreats are a wonderful solution for healing, for restoring and transforming the vacuum into authentic loving kindness. Of course these people should also follow certain steps in order to transmute their pain body.
Dear Thay, by having shared your wisdom as insightful gems, you have surely made this planet more sane.
Thank you!😊🙏
Poporul nostru este plin de boli, îngreunat de corupție morală și iluzionat religios din cale în afară. Cioran - recunoscut pe plan internațional pentru pesimismul său profund dar și pentru intelectul său remarcabil, a fost "exilat", poate parțial spre binele său, de poporul român, rămânând în Franța alături de Ionesco, Eliade, Brâncuși și mulți alții asemenea lor. Chiar dacă tatăl lui a fost preot, el a suferit enorm pentru că suntem un popor întunecat la minte. Țuțea, un alt posesor de intelect impresionant, suferind ororile închisorilor comuniste, a spus la sfârșitul vieții că a suferit o viață întreagă pentru un neam de proști. La fel simt și eu, însă Thay, chiar și după ce nu mai este cu noi așa cum îl știm, mi-a vorbit prin intermediul acestui video "de dincolo de moarte", la fel cum și lui i-au vorbit mulți de pe linia lui Gautama Buddha prin intermediul practicilor, sutrelor, și învățăturilor. Prin acest video, Thay m-a ajutat să accept faptul că în loc să fug continuu și să caut noi rădăcini în țări și popoare din Orient (unde dharma este vie, trăită și transmisă cu grijă, cu disciplină, cu înțelepciune și cu multă inteligență, eleganță spirituală, etc.), trebuie să învăț ceea ce am nevoie să învăț și să mă întorc înapoi la rădăcinile mele ca să transmit mai departe ceea ce am învățat pentru ca să transform răul din mine în bine - nu numai pentru mine, ci pentru toți și toată lumea 🙏🏼
So much gratitude to the universe for sending us Thich Nhat Han. A man of unparalleled greatness, a prophet of our time . ❤️💕 sending love and gratitude to my virtual sangha for upholding one another, and continuing the traditions and teachings of Thay 💕❤️🙏🏻🙏🏻
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Thank you Thich Nhat Hanh. 🙏
Thank you plum village. 🙏
Beautiful. Peaceful. 🙏
I have been practicing for nearly 8 years and have become aware of the pain in my ancestral lineage. Thank you so much for broadcasting this lesson, I will do the smiling practice in order to embody my understanding that my parents also suffered. And back and back. Thank you so much - Ngawang Dechen Palmo UK
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What a beautyful teaching I will practice on my inner 5 year old and then on my parents, I always knew I was loved but I came from a big family in Ireland and I often got lost and detached from my feelings,needs and wants and I became a people pleaser in order to survive,I carried that into my interactions with others after I left home,in my work place and in my marriage and community, I never got to know who I was, now I have a chance to work on that and embrace my 5year old and that of my mother and father although they are both dead,but still alive in me,my siblings, and my children and granddaughter, and so it will continue🙏🦋🌈❤🙏
What a great man. Thank God he was here in my time and I can hear his beautiful words
I used to talk to myself in a very hard and harsh way, and when I started to learn about mindfulness, the intensity of my expectations about myself cranked up the harshness of my inner dialogue. I found some teachings about loving yourself when you go looking within, and to embrace whatever emotion, judgement or thought arose. I practiced speaking to my beating heart and breath as if it was to my innerchild: "I love you, I love you". I visualize my innerchild as a 5 year old in pain when doing so. The clue for me was to understand I was not pretending, but getting used to tell myself I loved myself. Now I cannot imagine speaking to myself and others the way I used. May all beings find worthiness and relief within.
This is lovely to read :) 💛 All the best to you!
beautiful practice
Lovely ....it touched my heart ❤️❤️❤️
My father died from suicide last year. It’s been hard to forgive him, as I had my first child but a month before he passed. This talk has brought me to tears. I hope this is the beginning of my healing.
He was suffering. See that it was not about you and he was not thinking clearly or to do you personal harm, it was out of a place of extreme suffering and not seeing how to go on. Feel compassion instead of suffering yourself
It certainly is 🙏🏼✨
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Forgive? He doesn't need your forgiveness. He was a very troubled man who needed love and care and patience. Alas..
@@chelmano0Sometimes forgiveness is needed not for those we forgive, but for ourselves, so to acknowledge that it was not our nor anybody's fault.
The way this teaching comes around to heal, and not criticize or turn away from the root is needed more than ever!
I feel in our family WW1 AND WW2 are still causing pain to this day, our Fathers and Grand fathers paid a very heavy price which is still felt today.
Omm mani padme Hoom ☸️📿🌹🙏🙏🙏
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Beyond the pain of childhood, has never been an easy journey. However with teachings through Plum Village/Thich Nhat Hanh, I have touched on the jewels in my roots after the forgiveness takes place. Today's Dharma talk has been again a strong hearing for me lest I forget and fall into the past, which is always a possibility. Much less today than yesterday.
Love in practicing meditation is my strong element. I give thanks to the Universe for sending me Thich Nhat Hanh and me hearing the sound of the language. Today and tomorrow, feeding the ghost within.
This completely changed my perspective about my father who I had given up on having a relationship with. I thought I just had to accept and let it go but I am going to try again. I cannot begin to express how deeply moved I am right now. Thank you. 🙏
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Interesting. A few months ago, I was doing some work on the connections between my childhood and chronic physical pain. I had been struggling to work through one incident in particular when I realised I had been focusing on my present day anger against my mother all those years. I turned my attention to terrified nine year old me and in my mind's eye went to that child and took her in my arms to protect and love her and my present day physical pain has decreased so much since then. Since then, I tell myself every night, "I am safe. I am supported." Only a few weeks ago, I found Thay and I am so, so grateful for this community.
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What an incredible teaching from such a beautiful human being. 🙏🏼❤️
Many families, many lineages; lost, confused roots... must weave new stories together. Yes, help parents.🌀🌸
My remaining parent my mother, would not trust me to help her, my sisters and brothers help her.
The planet is one big weave. Our patterns, our roots.
Is it safe to help parents if they are so hungry themselves they hurt you when they get a chance? How do you heal your roots if you have narcissistic parents and you keep getting reinjured when you reach out to them?
@@jaxymama Connecting with siblings, allies and friends to help get through the tougher moments is crucial when working with family where there are unresolved issues. Healing roots is coming to terms with the realities, acceptance, making decisions with "bodhicitta" and being able to voice clearly without reacting the basics necessary to keep family safe. One must be willing to give up family to help family. Such a tough process sometimes; know you are most certainly not alone.
@@jaxymamathat is an excellent question. You must give yourself plenty of compassion and make yourself stronger with self compassion and self care. That way you may learn with peace and integrity that the path for you in life and the way to help the parents who harmed us to separate with awareness that what was wrong is wrong and that abuse is abuse. That way firstly the truth is honoured. To leave a peaceful, self respectful, truthful life, you may only share your truths with very few but always with yourself. This is helpful to heal the generations. The ancestors are the part of the generations past, you are present and whatever children may be born in this generation can get to experience the healing. And for your parents it may mean the best generational healing you can be part of us to be very, very separate from them.
Love and compassion, understsnding for all. So much love and respect, I feel for Thay
Thank you for sharing these teachings. 🙏
Timeless wisdom. Practical wisdom Healing wisdom
Thank you Thay
Thanks for uploading such a wonderful video. The wisdom in this video is priceless. I just watched Thich expose the root cause of my life's problem. I am a hungry ghost. It's sad but true.
Precious Thay 💗 now you are the cloud. Sail on dear one. Thank you.
Understanding my Ancestors, particularly my Maternal line has helped me to understand myself and allowed more compassion to flower - I am forever grateful for the way in which you bring deep understanding to the Buddha's Teachings. Yes we must journey into the past in order to make the present moment and future brighter. Thank you Thay 🙏
Thank you, dear Lynette 🙏.
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Our tribes of choice are sacred ones where all kinds of healing can occur - even ancestral wounds that seemed permanent. Thich Nhat Hanh's wisdom crosses all unnatural boundaries and reaches into the truth of humanity. I've loved his gentle brilliance for decades on life's path and am grateful for this post especially, in addition to his books. I think Jesus and he would have a lot to talk about. Pax et lux. ♡○☆
I think Jesus would have a great time talk to many zen monks, he’s have much to talk about, I’d love to hear those conversations
I live in a haunted home and work in a haunted vintage shop.
Every night, before I go to bed, I always pull chairs out from under the table and leave enough room for our unseen ghosts to sit. All ghosts appreciate chairs. They love a sense of home in our place and a sense of family too.
That's beautiful ❤
True , not everyone is able to transmit the jewel of love and nourishment, even though physically we carry an Ancestral lineage. However, at the core all of Earth is one. Every person ,plant, animals , everything is simply one giant energetic force.
Thank you for these wise words.. I meet hungry ghosts often and this helped me in a new point of view. 🙏
I feel proud to know I got to occupy the world at the same time as Thay
Thank you for sharing this teaching. As a 'hungry ghost' myself, it resonated with me greatly and is helpful in my journey.
Such a gem...the enlightened are core resources for our world. Leaving a dharma retreat, I’m never hungry for anything,.
So much wisdom, released to the planet and beyond. On his day of freedom, the Blue Buddha came to me. Healing and Love is. i am free.
My father was a serial paedophile , responsible for the destruction of many lives. My only child was one of his victims and is in mental hospital now and has been for 15 of the last 20 years because of what my father did. Me and my little brother ( who will not acknowledge us as family) were victims also. My life has been taken by trying to resolve this. I am 70 this year and the tears still flow every night for the damage done.
It is rare to hear people speak out of this.
My father was too a pedophile. He molested my daughters and when I went to my brother and told him he said “don’t you remember what he did to us when we were little “? I knew he was saying he molested me and him too - I couldn’t protect my daughters from him - I blocked out memories. Fast forward 5 years , my brother molested one of my daughters again in secrecy for over a year.
My world shattered over and over and I have spent the last 10 years helping my daughters recognize the patterns and heal and I am finally on the path to healing myself.
My grief process was stalled because I needed to care for my children first so I spent many years hyper-vigilant with ptsd - I used to be a fawn and I turned into a lion just waiting for someone to mess with my kids again. I was ready and prepared to hurt anyone and not give a shit about the outcome.
That rage has become more balanced but I do not trust anyone. I have seen what family can do.
I am so proud of you for sharing this because it is hard to find people willing to be honest like this. I am so sorry for your child. I hope you find healing , I know how hard and complex it is to find peace. Much love 💗
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@@jennykelter9518 Thankyou for bothering to reply. I am just resting in a lay-by for a little cry after going to my son’s house to get clothes for him and start to clear up the terrible mess. He is very poorly and has never had appropriate care or support. I have now started an official complaint regarding his lack of care. I think he will be in care now for another year at least.
Honestly I never understand this! Whenever I hear these stories and that the women say they wanted kids, but never had any - I always think that‘s for the best.
Seriously, when I hear this kind of bullshit that there are women out there having their sexually predator parent to the same to their own kids - I must say you are either not very smart or emotionally very immature or just unempathetic and irresponsible.
And then complain that the son can‘t take care of himself and that you are taking legal actions.
Wow, lady that‘s all on you 100%.
The truth hurts!
But that you kind of ladies let this happen AGAIN by the same person and to your own kids is just sick. You‘re part of the problem, a so-called enabler.
I feel very sorry for all your children, you should never have gotten them in the first place.
You have even brought more misery into the world by your denial and ignorance and neglect.
How can you see yourself as a victim and hoped someone would have helped when you did not even manage to help your own children? Protect them, which you should have?
Women like you are not better than the abuser. 😤
Love and healing to you. Follow a Master like Thay. You will be healed.
I'm so thankful to watch this video. I feel it resolved some obstacles I'm facing recently with Buddhism practicing. I really appreciate the explanation of the hungry ghost from Thay. I was never sure about why I should learn the three miserable regimes. Now I can see part of me is a hungry ghost. I will try to practice as Thay said to connect with my ancestors but I'm not sure if I'm capable of doing it :) I'm recently practicing loving speech with my daughter. It is so hard. But Thay's voice often appears in my brain and that's the real loving speech.
True humans see themselves in others.
A very loviing way to tell us why these hungry ghost existed and why the are like that. Thank you for this video. Beautiful yet painful.
I have no connection to my family because they want me to suffer. I worked hard for love and good life. Me an my son are deeply connected to ancestors and my ancestors and guides brought me to you. 🙏💓 I know you have passed but I know you are right here. I love to imagine you with my beloved kiki cat. We just lost her but imagining her happy with you and my ancestors makes me feel so much gratitude. When we let her go I kept hearing mya Angelou say "don't say sorry. Say I love you And ty so much for what you have brought to my son's life and my life " so that is what I did. Ty for all you do for us and for all you continue to do in spirit great teacher!
♡ ty thay
♥️ for the hungry ghosts
@Birdy Bundle don't know what your talking about please explain?
This is exactly what my son and husband are going through... thankyou.... makes so.mych more sence...
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Most moving. Tai. You have helped me sow compassion in my heart.
My prayers of joy and love to the Sangha! We are all so blessed to have learned of the Three Jewels before we died so that we can practice ending the cycle of suffering within ourselves and in others. Peace and Love to Thay and to all of our Brothers and Sisters! Blessed be the Buddha and all on the Bodi path!
It has taken me a lifetime to embrace this reality - intergenerational trauma and forgiveness.
It seems that for me, this will take many lifetimes. Childhood maltreatment really does a number on us; it definitely did on me. Mindfulness was a wake-up call, but then I was overwhelmed with what I was experiencing and understanding was my experience. It's very hard to stop running from self, and yet there's nowhere to go. I don't think everybody makes it, and I can understand that. Wish I had a Sangha, but feel so absolutely lost (hungry ghost is me), that I don't feel I belong anywhere on this great ball of life. It's really heartbreaking. Much of the intellectual knowledge is useful at times, but more often, it's simply infuriating that I cannot seem to break through.
@@Eric-tj3tg Thank you for writing. I recognise a lot. It is like Thay said a very difficult problem, not easy to heal on one's own.
All the best to you ❤! We gotta aim for the light and simple good things 🌼
@@slimshany4602 Also glad that you wrote, and wishing you the best.
@@Eric-tj3tg Thank you Eric 🌼
@@jeanettem8304 Resonates with me what you wrote, so thank you. All the best to you, Jeanette 🌼☀️
Your teachings are a blessing, your videos I think of as wise and loving parents
This teaching is so touching! I cried when I listened to it! Thank you Master Hanh !
This is why we should all know our ancestry. It helps to know who we are.
A lot of adopted people don't have the luxury of knowing their roots or even medical family history. Unless you find your birth people but even then, it can be difficult to get answers especially if you can find only one parent. Or maybe people are edgy about knowing the new relative. And you have to be respectful. You can't just body slam folks with what you might be craving to know. Discernment.
Lots of people Don't know who they are in that they don't know there blood This does not mean that they will become hungry ghosts Far from it
So beautiful
This simple Buddhist Monk is a great teacher. I love to listen to these presentations. They have really helped me. Thank you Thay.
Absolutely wonderful ❤xx
So informative,needs to watch it again to comprehend it
Very True and Very Strange 🙏🏻🕉️🏹✌🏼 Thank you Respected Thich 🔥🙏🏻🕉️ Hari Om Tatsatt 🙏🏻🕉️🙏🏻
I am one and grew up in a house of hungry ghosts. Pray and vigil 24/07. Not easy task as the dark hole needs to be fulfilled by God's grace and it is upon each individual to chose light and call for help. Sat Nam🙏🏾🧘🏾♀️
What an insightful message from our beloved Thay awesome in one word. 🙏🌷👌🏻🙏
Thank you so much! ✨🙏✨
All teachings of Thich Nhat Hanh is a true gem of Buddhism. This is a beautiful way to help hungry ghosts. Thank you! 🙏🙏🙏
My parents & spiritual community failed me growing up, & yet I somehow managed to find what I needed to stop being a hungry ghost through mystical dreams I had when I was 20.
In one dream, I met my first ancestors, & they conferred their love & hope in me. It revived my penchant for life.
And in another dream I believe I met Jesus, & felt that He embodied unconditional love toward me. And in a later part of the dream I saw God on His throne, transfigured & majestic.
I was then able to take all this love & purpose I felt newly instilled with, & began to share it with others--including my family.
Dear David, thank you for sharing your experience.
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World leaders like him, would change the world, all existence and all life. What a great world it would be!
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I hear the master saying we must work on our society and communities so we don’t continue to produce hungry ghosts.
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For brothers and sisters who may have felt a disconnect with the biological family, you are a child of God. I love Thich Nhat Hanh. But do not overly concern yourself with the label "hungry ghost". Make peace within yourself and forgive as you would want to be forgiven. Know that you are Loved.
The term is deeply rooted in Buddhism and Taoism. He is using it as part of this dharma talk to explain what a "hungry ghost"
is. It's a term that is ancient.
Thank you for saying this
@@juliaphillips9436 I grew up in a super violent (physical and verbal) abusive household. I owe Thay a HUGE debt and I did not discover his wisdom until I was about 45.
Thank you for detailing about the term,most of us are not familiar with🤔😘! Its good to broaden one's knowledge but never divert from your purpose ,practice & goal in life!
You should not believe in any God and get too attached to any religion too. Look at how many people died from the covid-19 which their God don't save. Don't let a religion that used a God that is proven fake or "love" as a smokescreen.
Everything deserves love and sympathy
Merci Beaucoup!
My husband went through this.
His mother disconnected him from his roots completely and he could never connect himself with anything in life.
Even after having a wife and a sweet child he still went into Depression.
He always had a very low esteem
He could never even explain that.
I felt very pity for him but we also suffered because of that.After loving him so much I could never gain his trust.
I felt so worthless and meaningless and could not see him suffer .If anyone could heal him I would have been so thankful n grateful.
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If you are healing people like the hungry ghosts you are doing the most needed job ever.God has gifted you to this planet.
You are like God to earth.
Hatsoff 👍👍
Thank you for sharing your experience, dear Kalpana 🙏
Thank you for the clear and precious teaching 🙏🙏🙏
Nghe Phúc hát mà nước mắt rơi mãi ....quá nhiều cảm xúc ùa về, quá nhiều kỉ niệm. Cảm ơn Đức Phúc thật nhiều, giọng hát anh ấm tựa nắng mùa Thu vậy.
We are very fortunate to live at a time of a Buddha. Namaskar Guruji 🙏 Sadhu Sadhu Sadhu 🙏
I was a hungry ghost until I realized the God is within me.
Thank you, Thay. You are the one of my family.
I needed to watch this. Thank you 🙏🙏🙏
thank you for posting these teachings
Thank YOU so much for your words and Love and compassion...💚
Thank you Guruji for this uploading this amazing video. ... you are a torch bearer for all forms of life 🙏🙏🙏
Amazing!!! Thank you.Thank you.Thank you! Wowwww🌹🙏🙏
Such a beautiful teaching
Very nourishing
So So beautiful
Bless your Kind & Excellent Heart
Thank You
We are all connected. To love others is to love ourselves.
Wish more people understood that. Look at the us 🇺🇸 right now. It's black against white, democrats against Republicans, short people against tall people lol. U have to laugh instead of crying sometimes 😢.
true! ❤
So much wisdom....thank you blessed Thay 🙏💕
I have been this for over a dacade, and its hard to get over it, especially if there’s no one to open up to. Let me give you a little hope, no one needs to understand you, you dont have to try to be understood. Even when someone says they understand, they may to some degree, but its mostly politeness based on their own understanding and experiences of suffering. No one can really understand you when it comes to the details and subtleties of your experiences that make you suffer, but its oke, sometimes when you cannot get full understanding, you at least can receive someones willingness to understand you. And yes, dont throw yourself blindly at someone who takes the slightest effort. The best understanding you can get, is coming to the point of understanding your own pain, acknowledge the reasons for your pain, giving yourself permission for suffering as you have, and then you just sit and be with that pain in sillence and solitude. You can do that and be there for you like no one can. It really is possible to overcome, no matter the details of your suffering. Just sit, close your eyes if you must, but just feel what you feel and understand where it comes from, allow it and smile to it and acknowledge you understand. You dont have to understand in detail, dig deep and force yourself to remember some lost puzzle piece detail that makes everything logical and that makes your pain go away like magic, that menory may never come, you dont need it also. Just you have to understand your pain by looking at it and understand where it comes from in general, not detail, you’ll never need someone else to understand. You know what you’ve experienced, that makes you the perfect person to give understanding. Thank you Thich, thank you for helping me.
I went through a similar insight a month ago.
Thanks for your effort to help others, you have been read. I understand.
@@goognamgoognw6637 Thank you, I appreciate you and your response. All best to you.
@@denniskatinas You are welcome and thanks for that too.
Beautifully put.
This is so beautiful.
13:31 Meditation - Hungry Ghost - I value this information.
I was this person... and the biggest thing is my relationship with myself. It has changed me so much.
How have you been dear friend? Want to know about this extraordinary story of your life.
Just what I needed to hear. Thank you
This brought tears to my eyes! 🙏🏻😌
This truth was so utterly healing that I caught my breath - and had to breath in and out. The thought came to me for all it is worth that we have had ancestors who were hungry ghosts and passed the seeds of it down to us to weed out gently in our inner garden.
Thay's thoughts here open up on so much. I cried for all those inner children but also smiled to them🦋🦋. Thank you Thay.
Thay helps us to reconcile to our parents . That’s good lesson
Can you please explain this? Does this mean they represent an unresolved issue within our relationship with our parents?
I love Thay. He is my kind gentle Grandfather 💖
HALLELUJAH!!! BEST EXPLANATION I'VE EVER HEARD! From your #1 hungry ghost🗽
Love to you , we must treat our children better ..
Thankyou for this beautiful teaching 🙏❤
Thanks so much for your teaching.
Through... Mindfulness..
Going.. Back.. To.. Source..
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What a beautyful teaching,inner child work is so important🙏❤🌈🦋🙏
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This was so beautiful and real to hear this wise elder to want to heal our hurts🙏🏼🪷
So many priceless jewels here. Such beauty he has🌹👑💗
Der Geist in Bewegung ist immer hungrig ,schafft Frieden im Geist dann wirds langsamer -
Not sure why somebody would laugh in the audience when he is speaking about the 5 year old in our father. Its so important. My brother asked my dad about things he did when he was really young. He came to life. A brilliant meditation for everyone. Never forget our inner child and their vulnerability.
No inferior no superior - free from judgments . The real dharma he is transmitting .Maybe the person who laughed has some seed from childhood they have not dealt with and a laugh is not comical but nervous
Sometimes laughter perceived to be inappropriate is the manifestation of a mind disturbed unexpectedly💖
A very powerful meditation on our common humanity.
Thanks ❤️
In peace together, 🙏🏼
I grew up as a Catholic and was confirmed into the church in the 8th grade, but I subsequently became an atheist, and now I am a practitioner of Buddhism. Recently, researching the life and work of Father Daniel Berrigan (whom I discovered through his friendship with Venerable Thich Nhat Hanh) has led me to feel more connected to my spiritual ancestors than before.
Thank you for sharing dear Michael. 🙏
A lotus for you,
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