Woman’s Excuses For Why She Doesn’t Clean House Filled With Dirty Dishes, Clutter Everywhere
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- Ernest and Christy admit that their house is a mess. There are dirty dishes throughout the kitchen, moldy food left out, piles of laundry in multiple rooms and clutter everywhere. In their daughter’s room, there is so much stuff that it's not possible to get to the bathroom door.
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Ernest claims Christy is a hoarder who doesn’t cook or clean and has allowed their daughters to do the same. Christy, however, says there are reasons she can’t keep the house tidy.
In the video above from Thursday’s episode of Dr. Phil, Dr. Phil reviews some of the excuses Christy has given for not cleaning.
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It's like they're just playing the reverse uno card on each other to clean the house but they both have an unlimited supply of them so nothing is getting done.
That is so on point.
Lmao. That's perfectly said.
LOL
💀💀
Frfr tho
I am a single mum I’ve had three operations on my spine & my house doesn’t look like that lady
👏I'm proud of you, this ladies house is ridiculous
Big respects, your kids are lucky to have u as a mom
Are you a hoarder? Do you have a mental illness preventing you from cleaning?
@@loveablekittycat1219 Then she should have got help a long time ago. Mental illness or not that is still child neglect.
Fudge sorry about spine surgery did it finally help after 3
If I had a house as beautiful as that WAS when it was empty I’d do anything I could to keep it that way and I’d be proud to show it off.
"you think you do, but you dont"
This woman obviously has issues and raging depression going on. Dr phil making a spectacle out of it with an audience laughing just to fill up 45 minute television show is disgusting.
@Zac Crow it's not an excuse I guess it's typical excuse of a Karen to have depression not to clean the house most Karen's are conscious about their appearance than cleaning their house Bec they do stink and live in a filthy house they should be told how to clean jmo
What struck me was, these people have a real upright piano - and it’s buried under stuff so no one can touch it?
Agreed!
I'm genuinely surprised how much they are laughing at her and dr phil is making fun of her. People who live like this arent just lazy, they usually have underlying issues. She has mentioned several times in this video that shes depressed, upset, disorganized and emotionally drained from things that happened in her life. If this was any other person we all would feel bad and want to help. But because her outlet is a messy house, we make fun of her? She needs help
She is lazy and horrible mother, wife. Stop making excuses for women like her .
I suspect she has a hoarding problem. It’s under the umbrella of obsessive compulsive disorder. It’s a complex mental health illness that stems from a trigger of trauma either in childhood or adulthood. Loss of a loved one is usually the trigger in adulthood. It’s a deep seeded need to cling to everything and assign an emotional value to every material item she has. It’s also an attempt to control everything that she can control, including keeping everything because it’s a replacement for what she couldn’t control (or can’t - example you can’t control an abuser in childhood, you are a victim/survivor, you can’t control someone dying when they do, you can’t control loosing someone.)
Exactly !!!!!!!!!
Sofia M don’t judge unless you’ve walked a mile in her shoes... just sayin...
@@sofiam2834 You show ZERO understanding of mental health issues in this context.
The audience laughing is beyond disrespectful. Being laughed at like that is probably similar to how she feels when her husband is belittling her.
It's okay to laugh when it's her fault. Nobody made her lazy. Nobody makes her hoard all of those things. Nobody made her go on Dr. Phil. It's all on her.
Laughing is rude, but it is also feedback that what you are saying isn’t reasonable to most people. No one likes to learn that, but we are all better off in the long run if we can be open to that message, and sometimes presenting it with humor stings less than a somber telling of how one is misguided.
You do realize they que laughter from the audience.. So that's that's actually messed up.
Just left a comment about this and how dare Dr. Phil allow this type of bullying! Come check out my cleaning channel for cleaning house while living with anxiety and depression! I wish I could have helped this woman! It's clear she is depressed! Shame on Dr. Phil!
Divorce became trendy cause men play helpless till young chicks walk by play dumb shake em down...
The thing is...you can’t clean if you never get rid of unneeded things and try to keep at least somewhat organized. All that clutter makes cleaning an overwhelming obstacle course! 😖 This lady needs HELP!
So true! It's easier to start cleaning when there's not so much stuff everywhere, it makes me anxious just seeing all of that
Sadly, Dr. Phil think bringing her on national TV to humiliate her will help.
A messy house makes for a messy mind. When I clean my house Nd take a nice shower after, I feel my best!
Michelle Jacobs ...I would agree ! However, I personally think there is more going on here than just that...
@@moniquemacaulay8270 - but she signed up for the show, knowing what he does.
Why is the wife getting all the heat ( not that she doesn’t deserve any, cause she does ) but I would think that the husband is also to blame
cos she is lazy and expects the husband to pay for everything whilst she doesn't even clean the house
@Noob -_- you expect children to behave better than the parents? You expect them to clean when all they know is mess and clutter? Pfft.
Cos he pays for everything, including all the bills and she can't even be bothered to clean the house. When they were struggling with money years ago, she wasted a load. Basically she's not responsible at all
She said it was her job to clean bases on how they divided the household stuff.
She belongs in the kitchen, what do you mean 🤣🤣
I live in a 1 bedroom condo that has windows floors and stove from the 60s and my place is spotless. Take pride in what you have no matter what it is.
I live in a 1 bedroom apartment. My PCA takes care of the place, it stays that way. I grew up in the 1960s in an A-Frame. My place looks great!
My husband and I call it “Marital Counseling” when we put music on and clean. All it takes is a half hour a day after work to keep our home guest ready. We kiss and giggle the whole time, and I hope we do it the rest of our lives together. Highly recommended.
When a college student, I got invited for Thanksgiving to my dorm roommate's house. She and I hit it off from the start, me being an eccentric loner type, and she being a hippie love child. After a 16 hour non-stop drive, we arrived at her suburban Levittown home to find her parents engaged in their weekly cleaning routine, smoking grass, listening to psychedelic rock, and in the nude except for jewelry! Maybe you had to have been there, but in 1969, it seemed the chill thing to do.
That’s so cute
Its romantic!
How sweet. You two are so lucky to be that way. It’s not possible for a lot of us
To be fair to her, I know I'm most productive when my husband is also helping out with things. If he's sitting on his butt playing phone games while I'm making dinner, I have no motivation to clean while waiting for stuff. If he's doing something productive, I'm inclined to also be productive.
false, you would have motivation unless you think the work you are putting in is not the same value you are getting out of your husband end of the relationship.
Women are tired of being maids. If he’s chilling on the couch doing. Nothing why is she supposed to be cooing and cleaning? Should be a joint effort
I just don’t understand why women are expected to work and pay half the bills and STILL come home and take care of the entire house by ourselves. If we have to work 40 hours then division of labor should be 50/50! He’s just as much to blame as she is.
Wait. He pays all the bills tho. I've seen a seperate vid and I swear that what was said. They have a split income but he pays the bills and everything
Division of labor will never be equal, especially when children are involved. Women are socialized to be caretakers and men aren't
He pays the bills, and she spends the money she makes on herself. Seems like she needs to either get cleaning or hire a maid.
My husband works 40hrs plus...he comes home and helps out, asks if I need anything done. There is no teamwork in this relationship.
Neither of them does anything... Laziness ...
I'm a single mom of 3 for 20 years and have severe arthritis, depression and anxiety and waiting for my hip replacement...my house has NEVER looked like that.
AMEN!!! I'm also am a single mom of 2 boys 19 and 9 (10 in July), work full time, have fibromyalgia and ADHD (as does my youngest son), and NEVER, has our home ever look a mess anywhere near that!! Shame on her!!
Just wanted to say "Have a good day, hang in, it will get better."
@@heatherjones2701 true she's just lazy and a Karen 😂
Depression affects people in different ways. These comments are terrible. Sometimes even doing the simplest thing can be near or if not impossible. I don't believe her excuses but she is in so deep the mass job makes it feel to big to start. She needs therapy.
I’m married have 2 kids one with autism and have thyroid, fatigue , and chronic pain issues my house is messy but I clean it and move on. I’m betting this chick is a massive hoarder and if anyone even try’s to throw stuff away she has a melt down. She’s hiding behind the he picks on me thing instead of admitting what’s going on
He can clean too... Right?
She said it was her job to clean interior and that he just had to worry about paying all the bills so like kinda traditional I guess. So he pays all the bills and works and she works a very minimal hour work week and doesn’t clean or use her money for the benefit of the family big yikes
He needs permission from her??
Seriously?
Earnest
Get in with it.
The kids could help out too. FFS they're 11 and 14.
Apparently not
He can't clean and belittle her! 🙄
Why is this on her, when there are two adults in the house???
He’s a father allowing his children to live that way. That’s totally unacceptable.
Why is it only her job?
speaking from experience, this woman keeps the house like that as a parallel to the way she feels mentally. this isn't about laziness, it's a cry for help.
She should get therapy then. Clean up mind. Excuses are like assholes. Everyone has one and they all stink.
@@alwaysyouramandanice whole rounded, quality and entirely original saying there. Nobody’s ever come up with that one before bud
@@alwaysyouramandashe?? Ok sure. Now what’s your advice for “He”?
Because surely it’s not ONLY her job to clean?
She’s not a SAHM she’s working also. Meanwhile they just claimed husband isn’t doing any yard work or interior cleaning. So if she’s gotta go half on bills he’s gotta go half on….???
They both work full time jobs and neither one has done the right thing. I’m not trying to cut the wife any slack, but come on, he is just as responsible for the problem as she is. It’s obvious he abuses her verbally and emotionally. All I’m saying is I would love to see dr. Phil giving the husband a hard time for the cleaning, yes, but more for the verbal and emotional abuse. If you listen, he’s obviously a jerk to his daughters as well. It’s easy to blame the wife, though, isn’t it? :(
I agree :(
I agree also
I agree and I was hoping someone else would write a comment like this. No one is blaming the man for anything. House work should be a 50/50 load if you both work full time jobs
She’s no longer working outside the home now so I’d imagine taking care of the home would fall more to her.
I agree with you. Most ppl blame the women and say nothing to the men.
Depression is real. This whole episode is disturbing. Help her.
I know....the fact that they are locking her is so problematic.
And yet everyone just laughs
She’s a mom who’s a hoarder and neglecting her children. Seems like she’s causing a lot of trouble, she needs to wake up
No im sorry.. she's not depressed. She's just bone idle! I KNOW depression..had it for years but i clean every single day..even more on my bad days. No she's lazy full stop. You can tell by just looking at her. She just doesn't want to take the blame. What must her kids think? I bet they never have sleepovers due to embarrassment. It will 100% screw the kids up. 😠
Shaz Ambrose I agree, bit why can’t you hire someone to clean? I’ve done it. To choose to live like that....is a form of mental illness.
Letting her daughters sleep on bedding that dirty and having a kitchen that is so unhygienic is child abuse.
Kay Carle they, they, it’s not just the mother it’s both of the parents!
Let Dr Phil call CPS on them. You will never see your children ever again.
He is allowing his children to live in squalor he is equally guilty
I think they’ve lived like that for so long they don’t even see it for what it is
This episode is giving me flashbacks to my childhood.
I'm not defending these people but it seems to be pretty questionable that Dr. Phil allows the audience to simply laugh at them mockingly. I mean isn't he supposed to try and help these people? How can people get help with a crowd of people laughing at them the whole way through?
I agree, that's passive aggressive and bullying. He use to have inciteful stories with real intervention. I'm afraid his dry humor has become punchlines for the audience.
I totally agree, so very sad. I want to find her, I want to help her. I can't believe the judgement from him, the audience and so many on this thread. He who is without sin... Love your heart Brandon
They are abusing their kids? They don’t need pity, they need to go jail
I agree I didn't like how tacky he was, its apparent that there is an issue but to laugh really made me feel empathy for her. Because we are all one bad decision from being in someone else situation, it's not the ideal situation anyone wants to be in.....how can any of us get better if we're only judged. I read her reasons on the board and it's hard to try to clean 12years worth of stuff after working a full day with health issues. And no one but god knows what is going on in that house and how it got like that.
Shut up they deserved to be laughed at if somebody at school or work or whatever had a house like that wouldn’t you laugh or let somebody laugh
I haven't been this disappointed in Dr. Phil before. Why in the world is the upkeep of the entire house left to one person? Do they all live there? Do they all make a mess? Then EVERYONE (kids included) should be cleaning, point blank. The fact that he belittles this woman while essentially giving her husband a free pass definitely shows what Dr. Phil thinks about gender roles. 🙄
Unprofessional! 🙈 she needs help and support not criticism! 😢
💯
Why is the husband not getting blame? He's mean to her and he doesn't help clean up the place.
I think Einstein would conclude that this woman's situation is not relative to his.
lol
Okay, thats the only fun relativity joke that did not include maths or pther physics term
I we are really small because we are quantum entangeld now
Dude that was great 😂😂😂
😂😂😂
"I'm a type B person" is the worst excuse for hoarding I've ever heard
Yes!!!!! I’m a single mom , work full time and suffer from the same conditions and my house looks like a palace compared to her ! I’m definitely type b as well lol
@James Jonathan Why is the middle of your back so lacking in tan?
Using ADD as an excuse is the worst one. She never said she has ADHD nor did she state that she has an official diagnosis. I have ADD/ADHD and I’m not messy like her. There have been some points where I have been messier than that but I somehow clean it all up. But the husband should seriously stop complaining and clean it up himself if he doesn’t like living in that messy house.
Hoarders are narcissists
@@AngelWingsVA She kept saying that she does clean up n that the house is cleaner many times in comparison to the time of filming.
The tidiest people I know grew up in messy houses, I'm one of them! My childhood had some rough patches and it's crazy how seeing clutter now stirs up old feelings in me, brains are weird
I understand! We come from a very similar place and it’s crazy how it can feel almost like yesterday that I was a kid and stuck to live in those kind of living conditions that wouldn’t even be suitable for a dog!!
how old are her children? I mean they could help cleaning the house and their own rooms too... A family need to work to together.. I started helping cleaning since I was 9
Hoarding, and she says she has ADD. I can fully understand her mental state. In ADHD (they no longer call it ADD) there is a phenomena called the "Wall of Awful" which eventually leads to anxiety/depression and it's an internal emotional boundary to completing tasks. The state of her house is triggering this. She needs some big therapy, and then some executive function coaching to help her because she literally can't start.
Get a cleaner... even if you paid them $100 a month.. money well spent if both of you hate cleaning...
You’re gonna have to pay someone waaaay more than $100 to clean up that place.
@@l-train7876 Yeah, more like a $100 bucks an hour for that hellhole
Basic housekeeping rate these days is $25 to $30 a hour. It's gonna cost way more than a hundred dollars!!! And I would charge double for that mess!!!
I'd like to find the entire episode, but my bet is Dr. Phil had someone from "Hoarders" (or somebody like them) come and straighten things out.
She can’t claim she lives like a single mom when she isn’t one. Disrespectful
Totally agree! And a lot of single mons work, take care of their kids, clean their houses ... she isn’t living like a single mon, she is living like a very lazy mon
I haven't seen all of this show. I daresay she needs help to overcome her hoarding habits which are usually rooted in loss and trauma. However, I know what she means here. I have the health problems she mentioned. I was also in an abusive marriage and that man took delight in living like an animal and screaming at me for not keeping it tidy. I worked, did 100% of the childcare and could never make visible inroads on the cleaning despite staying up until 4am at least once per week. Within 24hrs it looked the same again. If I'd had more children, my home would likely have looked like this one.
Now I am actually a single mom and despite the fact that that my daughter has learned behaviour from him, our home is hygienic and happy. This man said in one clip he "would do anything" to give his kids a better life. Anything except roll up your sleeves and help when your wife is saying over and over again "I'm overwhelmed"? That is what she meant by living like a single mom. And she's right.
I want to kick her in the teeth. Tons of excuses & garbage diagnoses like “fibromyalgia” & “chronic fatigue syndrome” and WOE IS ME, I’M SOOOO ABUSED! * sniffle * The only ones being abused in your pig sty, lady, are your KIDS.
No it’s not. I’ve been a single mom and I’ve also had a husband who needed almost as much care as an infant. When your husband can’t feed himself, wipe himself after the bathroom and needs help with EVERYTHING, it sure is like living as a single parent again.
Im so tired when married women or have a partner claiming they r single mom ..
Single, professional, working mother. No extended family. My house is clean.
I have a lot of the things she mentioned and it's really hard to break out of it. I've had a massive depressive disorder for many years. It's hard, really hard sometimes.
I'm an organized and clean person. But when I lived with my ex-husband it was impossible to keep the house clean as I like. my ex used to hoard a lot of stuff and keep piles on the floor, dining table, on sofas and everywhere else. 90% of the items are unneeded, but he kept them because he likes to. he used to eat in the bed and leave a tray full of food wastes when he leaves in the morning. I tried very hard to keep the house clean, but after a while I gave up and I was very miserable. thank God I'm out of that nightmare
I let myself and my home go and wound up in the same situation. Depression is REAL. BUT! You CAN recover, you can make changes, and you are capable! This is your reality now. But it doesn’t have to be your reality forever. Now, I’m known for having the cleanest, most organized home. Get yourself into therapy, medication if you need it and you’re comfortable with that, and you can change.
12 years...such a beautiful home gone to waste by two “adults”
Why does her daughter not help her i freak out i couldn't stay in house
@@bredaobrien5455 you have no ideas how nasty hoarders get if you interfere with their stuff
The husband the blame too. He’s not disabled!! He talking about what his mother was able to do but what is he doing?!
Dogging her out and making a bad situation worse.
I thought that comment was so telling. His mom did it all so his wife should, too! He’s a jerk.
Can you imagine having enough money to build your own house and then treating it like that??!!
Dr Phil -"this is a safe place to talk about hard things" then he is judging so hard and not understanding.....😢 People feel safe then bombarded by you
Both of them are lazy and frankly nauseating for the state of their home.. no excuse
It's gross that he's a supposed "psychologist" and he approaches this issue like that. Has he forgotten everything he's been taught? A layperson could do a better job supporting that woman. Disgraceful.
your first problem was taking a psychologist that has a crowd to laugh at his jokes seriously
@@CandyFlossFluffSupporting a woman that is lazy? Jesus christ!
My two year old can clean up after herself better than that
SAME
My two year old DOES clean up better than this lady smh.
I completely understand where this woman is coming from. This is what my house looked like for 5 YEARS. I’m a mother and my ex constantly made me feel bad about myself and ridiculed me. And those are under statements. I finally got the courage to pack up me and my babies and leave. It took a little while but I’ve met the man of my dreams he would NEVER treat me the ways my last boyfriend treated me, I feel happy, I feel like I have a reason to be alive, I feel worth it, I feel good enough, and I am able to keep my house clean now. I do have chronic fatigue and add and I was extremely stressed and depressed. I am not anymore and I have a support system now and I am actually enjoying life and I am a totally different person in terms of a homemaker. It’s not always just about “laziness”
If I was your son...only thing I'd be doing is being at home doing what you tell me to do with no back talk or arguing.
I'd do all of the cleaning so you don't have to worry with it! I'd help out in all other areas.
My only happiness would be to obey you and make you happy!
These husbands try to criticize their wives into perfection. It’s always weight, housework. Instead, the wife becomes depressed, ill.
@@rubyparchment5523that your role for last million years you have evolved for it
ZSRZ i’m sorry to say but you leave. that’s how you’ll get yourself and energy back
“I hear what you say, but I see what I see” - Dr. Philly
She is a hoarder, address that and you may see change.
This looks a whole lot like depression, I know from personal experience. Depression is such a crippling condition. I pray she's able to get help.🙏
Dr Phil looks down his nose but let's be honest. I bet he and his wife don't lift a finger on the inside or outside
She has more excuses than anyone I've ever seen.
Yes.
Ciobotaru Alina exactly. She’s clearly struggling with an incredible mental illness. That’s not an excuse but explains why she’s dealing with everything the way she is. What’s everyone else’s issue?the husband can’t clean a single piece of trash off the counter because his momma raised three kids and his father DIDNT touch a single thing? Good grief almighty she needs a divorce.
As much as I would like to agree with you, because this is one nasty place. But I really think she does need help and she obiously agrees. What else is she supposed to say if that is how she feels - exhausted, tired and overwhelmed. She would need some professional cleaners to get her back on track. And probably somebody that checks on her from time to time. I just dont see how you could ever let somebody inside and go on national tv showing everyone how dirty you are. I really do feel sorry for her children. But I can not understand how her husband can let it get to this state?? Before I would bother so much about somebody else not doing it. I would rather do it myself and just have this peace inside of me that it is done. Like come on... you could see old food in this video tape :( Ew!
My neighbor is the same damn way.
Has excuses for excuses
“Show me the little bit” Dr Phil would be a great roaster.
I am dying 😭😭😭😭😭😭
His face when he saw the video of the house was too much 🤣🤣🤣
She needs to ditch that nasty husband of hers , and I bet her energy will return and she will feel better .
She is clearly emotionally abused and this is a sign of her cluttered mind . I am disappointed in Dr. Phil’s attitude.
Same thing I said! Dr. Phil is gross for allowing this bullying to feed his narcissistic ego~! It is clear that she is depressed! How dare he use here mental illness as a mockery! I have a cleaning channel helping those who struggle to clean house while living with anxiety and depression and I wish I could have helped her!
how is husband is bad how did you come to this conclusion
@@MightyMamaif a woman cannot forfil her role she is worthless to a man, she brings no value.
Maybe she made the husband this way. I would freak out living in a pig sty like that.
@@robertgormley684He can pick up a broom. It's not fair that she works outside the home, and then comes home to yet more work.
I’m a professional organizer and decluttering specialist. I feel for her and her family. Once you’re that deep in, it’s very overwhelming to climb out without understanding why the clutter feels “comfortable” or “safe”. I want so badly to help her and her family!
Hi Kelly I don't know why but I'm the same way, I don't know why I don't clean it's so overwhelming for me.
@@PRISSIEBURTN1212 Surely u have some health issues!
Your so sweet for wanting to help. I bet it's not an easy job tackling other people's clutter. I bet this lady once lived in a home that couldn't provide, and now she fears letting go of things that might be meaningful in the future. Or that she didn't fully heal after a grieving process. Those situations can have you feeling sentimental over the smallest things.
To the husband.
Start doing the housework.
You live there.
Get cleaners in.
Take down the Christmas tree.
You are enjoying the mess
Susan Bishop
Agree 💯 I think the woman has depression , he looks like a very cold man , i feel sorry for her ! .when he said his mum had the same condition as his wife , he actually said his mother still kept their house clean , & made sure her husband was ok , that told me a lot abt him ,
.he thinks it's a womans place to be at the kitchen sink ! .honestly can't stand men like that. Hope the woman gets the help she needs.
@@paulenedinning5166 they both work , yet he pays all the bills. Back when they were struggling for money after he had brain surgery and couldn't work, he paid off all their debts and she carried on spending like they used and put them back into debt. If he's paying the bills least she can do is clean house ffs. I'm not saying he isnt guilty but she's awful and don't use the depression excuse, there's no evidence or signs of that. Also she's a hoarder and doesn't let him touch or throw away any of the stuff that's cluttering the house
She doesn't "let him"!!!!
He is a grown man.
He doesn't need permission from anyone .
Earnest
Hire a skip
Give people 12 hours notice
Start throwing stuff.
Be an example to your children.
@@joebloggs6922
I know i seen her story first , was'nt aware of the rest of the story , so probably shoud'nt have said anything until i watched his side of the story , my husband is a hoarder , & it's awful if it wasn't for me my house would be like their's , but there is defo an illness with these ppl , but come on , are you trying tell me he isn't at fault for letting that house get like that ,he's supposed to be the man for gods sake , maybe he should grow a pair !!!
@@paulenedinning5166 equally responsible.
Both adults neither of whom need permission from the other to solve the problem.
Id be so embarassed sitting there people seeing my house and how messy it is .. on top of that knowing I might loose my kids and not even seeming at all worried about it.
Wtf is wrong with them.. especially her... she just doesnt care and would rather be alone thats how it seems 🤷🏻♀️
The father too. And I have not read one person that is staing the kids have every responsibility to do chores, keep up their rooms, run a load of laundry etc. If they team-worked, things can improve. If.if.if.if.if.
Lynda Spangler This situation is WAY beyond just “doing chores”- these kids have been raised by a severe hoarder, in extreme filth, they probably weren’t taught how to clean at all starting at a young age when they should have been. Now they’re absolutely surrounded by filth and clutter, as well as trying to handle the regular challenges of being a young teen and preteen. It’s clear the parents haven’t raised them in any way, shape or form that would allow them to tackle a situation like this- not that any kid should have to take on a house at this level.
Stella Black - Depression is a mental illness and needs treatment.
BOTH TO B BLAMED.... just remove everythng n start fr fresh BUT THS TIME make sure thy work on the house together!!! STOP WTH ALL THE EXCUSES 😤
Nah just tell them to divorce
Same here when my unfaithful husband left me and my son. I can tell the house is a chaos now. I’m working on it now to clean up. Stress and depression did it, shopping was only my outlet. :(
i hadn't watched any of Dr. Phil's videos in a long while. I clicked on this one and am reminded why some of his shows were unacceptable to me. There is something psychologically wrong with a person who lives in this type of environment. Trauma leads to hoarding. She needs help -- not to be traipsed onto an international show to be laughed at for the sake of promoting a television show. There's nothing funny about humiliating a person like that.
her husband is the trauma
This is the problem with traditional "gender" roles. This man feels entitled enough to blame his wife for not cleaning the house, but what is he personally doing to help clean the mess? What is he doing to emotionally and physically protect his daughters? What does he contribute outside of being a "provider." Both of them are at fault for the mess (physically and mentally). Not just her because she is the "wife."
I think he should've divided tasks and do his part regardless of whether she does hers or not.
Just pointing fingers doesn't get you anywhere.
That man pays all of her debt off the least she can do is clean the dam house
No she was a stay at home mom and refused to clean anything and if anyone does clean she throws a fit and goes crazy because she was getting to it so how is that a gender role problem
You guys need to watch horders and see how the behaviors are to the others in the home and you will understand why he’s saying what he’s saying
& how is he supposed to clean the house if she doesn't let him?...
Why can’t i just fall asleep
Okay Icy Hot!
Me too 😔
Smoke a blunt lmao
Cuz you're reading comments.
Bro idk how bakugo even does it tho. 8:30? Really?
"This is a direct representation of the stress and emotionnal abuse that I have been under, I feel like I can't even function" : all said.
This is exactly the issue. Being a victim of narcissistic abuse can cause this shut down.
She’s there for help not criticism. This audience lacks compassion and so does dr. Phil. I feel sorry for her. I’m sure she is criticizing herself all the time. Hope you find peace.
I feel for her. I know what it feels like to not be able to just get yourself to actually clean. It’s overwhelming and it’s really really tough.
My mother is sick, has rheumatoid arthritis in her hands, feet, arms and legs - yet she managed my abusive father, a 12 hour job, her 4 kids, yet still kept the entire house spotless and cooked dinner for us. That's just ridiculous.
Kudos to your mom! Every woman is not mentally and emotionally strong enough to do it all.
But mental illness is literally paralyzing.
@@rayma66 mental illness isn't an excuse. At some point you have to draw the line.
@@kleinemaus6094 No, but it's a legitimate reason. You must not understand to make such a statement.
@@rayma66 it can be but when you have children, you gotta start taking steps towards recovery. Making excuses is how you don't get over mental illnesses.
Step one!
Rent dumpster and start moving your arms .
Omg! I could never even enter that house! Got anxiety by just watching. I'm a single mom, work, take care of my two kids, cook and clean and i still have time to play video games!
With two working parents, everyone in the household should be working together, including kids to clean. Sometimes when you’ve let it go, you’re ashamed, overwhelmed, and just don’t know where exactly to get started. Some outside help to get started would be helpful
I love when the wife says, “I have to do everything” when it’s obvious that she is doing nothing.
That was my moms excuse but she was always horizontal on the couch. She didn’t even have a job. I had to act as the remote control. I was 2 years old dragging the milk across the house.
She's working outside the home and burned out. Why should she have to shoulder the entire burden?
She probably did the housework ect , for so long that she's just done.
They need heavy counseling to get to the bottom of the real issues. I have physical issues and suffer from major depression but my house has NEVER looked like that. My home is clean and safe, it smells good, looks good and I'd never be embarrassed if a friend stopped by unannounced. How can anyone build a big, beautiful home and then just neglect it (and their children)? Terribly sad!
This woman needs to quit her job, take care of her home and family especially if her husband is making a good salary. Having your kids live in a garbage dump is unacceptable. 😟
When my husband worked and I was a stay home mom. My places was cleaning the house . I got to pick furniture and everything to maintain a house. He mowed the yard until 25 yrs ago and now we have someone too. He's retired. My health has gone down over last few year's.
Now we clean house together and we cook together. We both feel like that's the way it should be. I couldn't make it without his help.
Sounds like the whole family is to blame. I get where this lady is coming from.
I have always taught my son, if one partner is working all day while the other is not doing anything (school or work)... It's the 2nd persons job to care for the house and children. Regardless of whether that second person is male or female. It doesn't freaking matter.
Honestly I feel bad for people laughing in the audience like it’s a joke. This lady most likely has some level of depression, maybe some trauma in the past (haven’t watched the full episode) and hoarding tendencies as a result. Some people’s homes are a mess because that’s how they feel in the inside. That’s what they feel they deserve. Dr. Phil should have realised that it’s a mental issue and not parade her around on the stage making condescending faces like she’s just a lazy person and a ‘bad wife’.
Agree
Call the WAAAAMBULANCE
They are all responsible for this overwhelming mess!
Too many excuses. If they stop pointing fingers at each other and start taking out trash they'd be doing alright.
Stuck in a twisted codependent relationship. How is this ok to live like this?? So toxic
Not every body is made for cleaning, just get a maid problem solved. Don’t dwell on it or you’ll never get a clean House
Her high pitched innocent little girl voice... you’re not playing ANY of us lady! So knock it off.
The high pitched voice is a good indicator of a mental disorder.
I don’t think she can control how her voice sounds...unnecessary comment
Katherine Gadpaille it absolutely is not. That’s literally just the pitch of her voice.
I think she has a mental disorder honestly
Hypothyroidism is a very dibilatating condition especially if it isn't controlled properly, it affects your voice to for all the judgemental ignorant people who have commented on her 'Squeaky voice'. Having members of your family not pulling their weight with household chores doesn't help either, neither does her spouses attitude, running a house takes everyone to pitch in not leave it to one person who already has an unpredictable medical condition. Until you have suffered from it for years yourself & walked in her shoes you're in no position to judge.
Dude, I’m pregnant and have a heart condition, work 40 hours a week and my house is freaking clean! 🙄
Make sure to take care of you too! :)
--a working mom of 3
Yes, please make sure you take care of yourself. I see so many women develop issues when they get older from trying to do it all.
I can't believe anyone could live in that mess..sick or not
Same but sadly it's actually pretty common...
My husband does NOTHING, but I don't feel the need to shame us all on Dr Phil
Thanks to the hype over hoarding and the shows made of it, I have become a minimalist.
Short answer: “The house isn’t clean because you’re lazy!”
Typical response from a narcissistic man.
2julsofmine why does it matter they’re a man? What if they’re not? Hm
@@2julsofmine but theyre right, and why so prejudice against males? Imagine if you were being that way towards a women WOOH LORDY, you'd get so much backlash.
BimboChan666 I’m not even remotely prejudice against males. I’m prejudice against men with the mentality that he has. I love the boys/men in my life!
BimboChan666 surely, people aren’t so simple minded that they can just say “she’s lazy”. #1 obviously she has way more issues going on than just laziness. #2 there is another adult living in her house! WTH This “family” is broken down. It’s not just a lazy wife, my lord.
The ONLY time a house should even look like that if someone is suffering from depression or a mental breakdown. This lady is giving excuses and not holding herself or the rest of the household responsible.
Thyroid disorder... OH...now it all makes sense! WTF?!
Do you ever feel how comforting it is to check in to a nice hotel room, and then the room isn’t as nice as before after you put your stuff on the toilet, table, etc?
Live simply, only have essential items.
getting rid of messy husbands and lazy children can do wonders
She literally has a problem, a huge problem, a lot of huge problems, and they laugh and mock her. I find it disgusting that her mental health and physical health are not being addressed, instead the focus is making a mockery of her. Shame on Dr. Phil!
I know!! Why people go on tv to talk about their most intimate problems only to get mocked/laughed at is beyond me!
It blows my mind to see how ungrateful they are for what they have...
As a man, this dude needs to step up.
Why cant he clean too tho?
Laziness is now covered up as mental health issues. There’s help available to a two income family, a family that was capable of building a beautiful house. We all go through bad weather in our lives but we seek help, we attempt to straighten out things and we carry on. That’s life.
Such a beautiful home cant believe she let it get like that omg I would be cleaning it everyday
For crying out loud. If you knew how much i had to do with a kid and a husband home ALL DAY. And making a mess ALL DAY having a husband that barely helps, with a sore back myself...and my house still doesn't look like that.
I am going to be moving into my new apartment in less then 2 weeks. I have avascular necrosis bilateral of the hips and I have been packing and getting everything ready all by myself. I can't wait to move because my house will be clean and everything like that.
He literally abused his daughter didn’t he? He is just as much of a problem as her, he can clean too!
imagine a hoarders spin off/ social experiment where a bunch of them live together and compete over territory and junk
They can't just blame her for everything!!
.... My mother was a single mother and our house was SPOTLESS! Woman, stop. You're lazy and everything is someone else's fault. STOP.
Here's an idea: I work full time, and clean my home everyday. I also have had 7 children. I put myself first and rarely ever initiate help with any cleaning. She is so far behind and doesn't know where to begin. She is pointing her finger when she should be making a plan. She needs to do it herself and stop obsessing on the way she's being treated and blaming things and people around her. 15 minutes work and 15 minutes rest; repeat until it's clean. That's not too difficult no matter how overwhelmed and exhausted she is.
With a full time job ,not going to happen
This woman is a mess and a “victim”. She won’t change because she takes No responsibility. I’m a single mom working full time with medical issues and my house is spotless(a little dusty😂)
This makes me want to clean my clean house
This is also my mom. Has everything in this life she will ever need, and every excuse in the world as to why it will never be good enough or what could change to make her life easier. Excuse after excuse, blaming the husband and kids, and just downright miserable to live with.
I love the audience's responses. They aren't holding back!!!😂😂😂
Feels like a Maury audience LOL
the thing is that my mom is single and twice a year we thoroughly clean the garden like into a new garden and than we clean the house. Putting small clothes in the bin and keep the house tidy
I would run away if I lived in a place so filthy. like, YUCK!!!
I feel for their kids. I seriously hope those people got the help they needed and cleaned up their act. If not for themselves then at least for their kids
There’s no excuse for her house looking like that specially when you have children. Ive been threw stress where I lost a lot of weight and severe Crohn’s disease on top of it all .I have 4 kids from 13 which are twin boys and my daughters 17 and other son 20 and my house NEVER looked like that. God bless her I hope she gets help.
God this is how clean their house is when they know they'll be on LIVE TV to MILLIONS, wonder how bad it is normally.