The guy just gave up, he's the kind of man that gets dominated and won't stand his ground. The woman is just a disgusting and delusional hoarder that makes up her own truth to not throw anything away. Can't blame the guy he doesn't get any support, he'd have a better life without her.
When you live with a hoarder like that, that'd be like trying to take spit out of the ocean. He may try to pick up when he can, but it takes effort on both sides!!
I’m stunned that Dr Phil directed the majority of his questioning and criticism of the wife and said just about nothing to the husband. He’s literally been filming the filth for years but also does nothing about. He’s just as negligent as she is.
You are 100% correct. I also disliked that Dr Phil basically said the husband needs to man up. Said his wife must have his balls in a Dixie cup. That's absolutely unfair and wrong. This guy doesn't need to be encouraged to take control over his wife, he needs to be encouraged to work beside her and help her. That's what being life partners is about. Both doing 100%. We aren't living in the past.
AmyPepperfly he does need to man up though, he’s letting her walk all over him with her hoarding behavior and excuses and he hasn’t grown up enough to properly deal with her bull. They should both be in it 100% to FIX it and not let it ever happen again. But if he keeps letting it happen, that woman is just gonna fill their house up again. I can tell you for certain that if she can get away with it, she’ll do it again, he needs to NOT let her get away with it.
That bothered me a too. When I was watching other clips of him walking through with a video camera, even years ago, why wasn't he doing anything about it? Why is it all on her? I'm not defending her but I just don't understand this 1950s mentality going on here. Why aren't they taking care of things together. We are living in the 21st century... marriage and parenting should be a partnership! Dr Phil telling him to "man up"... and what??
She takes absolutely no responsibility what so ever she's very dismissive that why Dr Phil is going on on her the husband is a little bit more real although he needs to grow a pair but he doesn't use excuses like she does. I feel so bad for the kids, I have fatigue, I clean little a often I tackle and have taught my kids to help taught them how to keep home
I agree. As an adult you do things that need to be done. He goes home to this everyday and looks at her saying ‘why don’t you clean this?’ If I was him I’d just clean and say you do it next time or we’re going to have to talk about that.
Because she is a Hoarder, and they are in Control. If you ever watch the TV show, they act like the poor victim, but they run things. If he tries to clean up and throw out anything, she will have a meltdown. It works the same if the man is the Hoarder.
Well, it’s just as much his fault and he needs just as much help. Dude said he had people go in and HELP HER clean as if it’s not his house too and he should be helping himself clean as much as he expected her to. They are both equally responsible and both equally need help.
True, as a man of the house and has the co-parent he fail short of his responsibilities to his kids and he could have done more to counter her behavior. I say her behavior because it is apparent she is the root.
It's not anyone else's job. However he is her husband. They're both supposed to be there for each other through sickness & health. On the other hand, you can't force someone to help themselves & that might be his mentality as it seems she doesn't care much.
I feel it's a team job. Husband and I both have full time jobs. Husband isn't a guest in our home, he's APART of our home. Period. Do the dishes, ill fold the laundry.
I think it depends on situation I dont work a job so I do all the cooking and cleaning and hubby takes out trash,while he was in university I was working full time in masonry and had a P.T cleaning job and he did housework.I think if both parties have jobs then both parties should maintain the home.
Because he pays all the bills so she should be cleaning haha. The wife has a job but clearly not enough to pay any real bills. So she should be cleaning more around the house.
@@TheSweetForever so just because she does not make as much money, yet she has a full time job, she has to do everything? What sort of chauvinistic pig are you? They both spend equal time working, therefore they should split the housework equally.... and if the husband does make extra, he could spend some of that money to hire help so that the both of them don't have to do everything, but split just some of the work.
I'm surprised that CPS hasn't been called on them or an anonymous person/neighbor on the condition of their back yard or house. That mother needs to grow up and stop being so selfish and self centered. It's like her way or now way in this family and the girls and the husband are paying the price. And the mother is in denial that she has hoarding tendencies and that's why the house is the way it is. Very sad 😭.
Deborah Peterson the father isn’t an innocent victim in this though. At BEST he is ignoring the situation and allowing his kids to live in that kind of environment. At worse he’s contributing to the condition of the household and state of the relationship. If he really is not actively causing the condition of the house and not trying to make things better than it’s his responsibility as a parent to leave with the children. However he askied the children which parent they want to live with and then said “you have to pick one it can’t be both” when the kids respond they want to be apart of both parents lives. That to me indicates he may not be much better than mom. He shouldn’t be dragging the kids into adult decisions.
I was involved in a situation where a child was living in a house worse than this. CPS would come by and she would not let them in the house, she would make some excuse to make them come back another day then hire someone to clean it up in the next couple of days. After a week or so the house would go back to "normal". There was always feces and urine from the numerous animals and junk just everywhere.
Lead by example and respect. Start with yourself. If he had started she would have felt supported. Counseling for them would be first on the agenda. Her behavior is hoarding 101
And she’s blamed her husband over and over again. They’re both blaming eachother for the mess but one continues to make excuses for it, that being the wife, acting as though it’s her husbands job to get her help for her problem with hoarding
I think she is the blame. She controls the house. Whatever problem she has with her husband she’s using her daughters. She’s blaming him; getting back at him for making her angry.
I had a friend who grew up in these circumstances. I’ll never forget the day he took me into his million dollar home that was completely unlivable on the inside. It was unreal.
She has decided to let it be messy to punish him. I have four young kids, am pregnant, get virtually no help and my home, although not perfect by any means, looks nothing like that. The fact that she is allowing her daughters to sleep on that filthy bedding shows me that she is not trying at all. Even when my house has been at its worst, I have never allowed my kids' beds and eating spaces to be that unhygienic. It's called child abuse.
Look she's not working , so her job is cleaning. It's sounds stereotypical but there needs to be a balance. A man needs to help once in a while because there's housewife's duties are sometimes to much but this house is a giant mess
Cleaning your child’s room and making sure they have clean clothes etc is a form of love and raises their self esteem. It makes them feel like you care about them.
I haven’t watched the rest, but did they address the fact that hoarding is a mental illness and yelling and belittling usual has no effect. Hasn’t Dr. Phil ever watched Hoarders?!?
Exactly... he is not using psychology to analyze the situation at all. He's such an unethical therapist. I mean there is no way he doesn't know that what he's saying isn't helpful
He didn’t say she wasn’t mentally ill. He said that being mentally ill doesn’t excuse child neglect and abuse. He said in another clip of the same episode “if you are mentally ill, why not get help instead of allowing days, weeks, and years to pass by without doing anything?” I would be pissed if he sat up their coddling her while her children are being abused.
he doesnt know if she is a hoarder, she isn't claiming to have a psychological attachment to the things she hoards or the mess. Hoarding does seem to be the issue with her but it could also be a power play tactic, keeping the mess there because "she won't do it until he does some of it", but also not letting him move things when he asks. Could also be chronic anxiety of going through cleaning up the mess just to realise that she gets kicked out of the house. There's a couple possible psychological issues besides hoarding. Because of that its irresponsible for Dr Phil to slap a label on her, and she seems to revel in the current diagnoses that she already has and uses those as an excuse for her dropping the ball. If he did give her that label it wouldnt help her so much as give her another defense to throw around for why she wont take accountability for her mistakes.
I needed to hear this. Grew up just like this and everything he said would happen to those kids is so accurate...I wish I could have realized this way sooner but being raised in trash doesnt make you trash. I've been away from that life for almost 8 years now and I'm still trying to get that idea through my head.
You people having a dig at this woman have clearly never had depression to any degree. Shes actually doing really well at life, shes got a job, they pay the Bill's, the kids are ok and everyone eats. So what if her house is a mess??? Try HELPING instead of mocking. One day that could be YOU. BE KIND!
I mean children should have 3 jobs: studying hard, having fun doing it AND helping out at home. These parents should be setting an example for their children regarding respect and hard work both inside and outside of the home, and these two are not.
Ernie needs to pick up a broom and do it himself. They’re in this petty standoff and neither are taking responsibility for their equal responsibility for this issue.
Everyone in a family should have cleaning/tidying responsibilities. It's the same being part of a team. This is how kids learn to be productive and self sufficient.
If you aren't able to manage a simple household, don't live in big house. Just live in a caravan, much easier, much cheaper too. If you don't take care of a house, the house will not take care of you.
Narcissist....saying exactly what people want to hear. Hes clearly part of the problem, Dr Phil! But your kind protect your own. STOP DIRECTING THE BLAME AT THE WIFE!
Having lived in a house that was very messy, you have to either choose to spend your entire life cleaning for it to be just as messy when you turn around or just keep your own space clean
It really pisses me off how people have beautiful homes and have it looking like that. Living in filth. There’s so many people out there who WISH they had a house like that and would take good care of it. They should be ashamed of themselves. They are both equally responsible for this.
My husband was raised by hoarders. I've fought tooth and nail to show him what normal looks like. His first wife thought living like that is okay too, so he's spent 35 of 36 years thinking it's okay to live in squalor. He's doing better than I expected, but he's still learning. He's just now, as a 36 year old husband and soon to be father, learning that living in a pig stye is unacceptable. Don't do that to your children.
Didn’t see the whole show but why is cleaning a house a working woman’s sole responsibility? If she were a stay at home that’s different. Seems to me they are both to blame.
Dr. Phil and everyone talking about what a horrible person she is, SHAME ON ALL OF YOU. She has TRIED to say she’s overwhelmed, she has TRIED to say she’s depressed. The way this was handled was absolutely AWFUL. NOT ONE PERSON CARED FOR HER. This is a person that is suffering. The real animals are those that are shaming her.
I see alot of comments about 50/50 participation in the household chores. Does it still apply to the outside chores? Vehicle maintenance? Appliance maintenance? Trash removal, junk removal? Idk maybe I'm old fashioned lol ok I am old fashioned. My husband pays the bills and does all maintenance and outside chores and I do all cleaning and shopping, caring for the children. But all major financial decisions and decisions concerning the children are 50/50. And i like it that way. There's no confusion as to whats expected to be done. We can do what we really prefer to be doing and do it our way. It actually prevents alot of nit picking and arguments.
Not to be biased but I think the mother is the one that created the circumstance. No one's allowed to any cleaning of the house because everyone will do it wrong, so the kids get taught not to clean and the husband isn't handling this right either.
She doesn't care. I am going through this now. I understand what he is feeling. It's not a good feeling. You work all day and come home to a dump that she couldn't care less about and has every excuse in the book. My wife works maybe 25 hours a week from 5-930. I am at work all day. I beg and plead for just 30 minutes a day. I try to do what I can, but she just messes everything up. I tried to remodel the house. I had bathroom vanities, faucets, new toilets, tile. I had about 3500 in new flooring waiting to be installed. I work from about 7/8 to around 5. I get home, nothing is done. I start working on the house itself. I ask her can you just clean up construction debris and dust? Her response? Well I didn't make the mess 🤦♂️🤦♂️🤦♂️. I just quit working on the house. I usually wake up not in a great mood, sometimes grumpy. I can't just open curtains to enjoy the morning. I have to walk around clutter. I have no problem helping out. I just can't do it all. I also get really agitated when I start because I feel like she should be contributing a whole lot more....I am trying to just learn to live with it
I raised three children by myself, one of whom has autism. I ran my own business, despite having three types of arthritis, bowel disease and hypothyroidism and I never had outside help. My cupboards were always full, my children were fed home cooked meals every day, the laundry was done, clothes were ironed and put away and my house was spotless. I do all my own D.I.Y and gardening too. There are NO excuses. I'm now registered as disabled and I'm chronically ill but my house is still spotless, my laundry is still done and mouths are still fed !
Good for you. My mother always said "It is easy to clean a CLEAN house." She had a "Place for everything and everything kept in its place." We didn't have to work that hard, because everyday the needed work was done. She had my father help with full Spring and Fall cleaning that took a weekend. My mother would say "you clean up at school, so you do it here, too."
@@Jibbie49 I love that and yes, it's so true, a house that has routine is a tidy, clean house. We all muck in and do our bit and because it's done daily, it doesn't take long at all. It's not difficult to execute a routine and if you start when your children are young, it becomes second nature to them. We don't have any piles of cups or plates at the sink because everyone knows, 'if you use it, wash it, dry it and put it away'. Simple 😁
With a pigsty of a house you can't have people over and your children can't have a proper social life . How selfish of the parents to keep blaming each other but not doing anything to improve the situation .
What are the husband's responsibilities? Does he have any part of the division of labor? My wife and I have two children in their 20's and our home and yard never ever looked like that. We both have full time jobs, we family camped, bicycled, snow skied, traveled, they participated in school and community athletics, theater, music etc. We didn't use any employed house help (3,700 sq ft, 4 bedroom, 31/2 bath, family room, loft deck etc), yard labor (11/3 acre wooded yard ). And my wife dealt with a brain tumor the last 11 years of her life.
I am beyond happy dr Phil judges their parenting. It seems to be an unspoken thing not to judge people’s parenting to their face even if it is appalling. Someone needed to say it
They are both guilty but what is missing is, why can't the father do some of that housework? He makes messes too. The girls would probably clean up if both parents looked like they cared about how they live.
Sadly enough,Dr.Phil is right on this One.Because ewww that just brought back memories when He said When you step on the carpet and it sticks to your feet and all that like its stuff so ground kn for yrs.and yrs.and never ckeaned ,so gross,I gross,I remember going to friends houses and their carpet being like that and I gelt so bad for them.
I just watched this show and these people have pretty much ruined their children for any kind of regular (notice I didn't say "normal") relationship with other people, particularly any relationship with a domestic partner. The kids have NO idea how to be responsible, non-combative human beings, because their parents are irresponsible, combative jerks. Cleaning is just the tip of the iceberg with these people. Taking them out of the home may be too late, but at least it would be something. Therapy might take years and might give them some relief. And not for nothing, but is there no extended family on either side (grandparents, aunts and uncles) who know about all this? Even if they didn't know about the pig sty of a house, how could the parents get by without detection? Amazing.
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I can’t imagine what it feels like to hear an entire audience clapping when you hear that your kids are better off in foster car.
@Lauren Marzec not necessary. This is all they know, it's their normal. It will still feel like a huge loss for them to be removed from that home
...and she didn’t show any emotion
I get teary eyed just thinking of it
@@rooroob22 Notwhen they realize how bad their parents have been screwing them!
They shouldbe ashamed of themselves and rightly so.
These people couldn't set up these girls for failure better if they tried. Unreal.
Both of these parents seem VACANT. It's disturbing.
It's even more disturbing to be questioned by their kids and I agree they would be better off in foster care than with their own parents
Yes!!! That’s the craziest part. No tears, no expression, nothing. Something is wrong with that.
I wish the Dr. would ask the mom who many pills she is on. Too many people are on " Antidepressants "
Aarden Nehring why the air quotes?
The guy just gave up, he's the kind of man that gets dominated and won't stand his ground. The woman is just a disgusting and delusional hoarder that makes up her own truth to not throw anything away. Can't blame the guy he doesn't get any support, he'd have a better life without her.
Why doesn’t the father do those dishes and clean up once in a while?
Why don't both of the parents grow up?
Won't do any good, the Mom is a hoarder.
Why wasn't the mom when she wasn't working?
Great question
When you live with a hoarder like that, that'd be like trying to take spit out of the ocean. He may try to pick up when he can, but it takes effort on both sides!!
I’m stunned that Dr Phil directed the majority of his questioning and criticism of the wife and said just about nothing to the husband. He’s literally been filming the filth for years but also does nothing about. He’s just as negligent as she is.
She's not even trying to change and take responsibility and instead blaming everyone but herself.
You are 100% correct. I also disliked that Dr Phil basically said the husband needs to man up. Said his wife must have his balls in a Dixie cup. That's absolutely unfair and wrong. This guy doesn't need to be encouraged to take control over his wife, he needs to be encouraged to work beside her and help her. That's what being life partners is about. Both doing 100%. We aren't living in the past.
AmyPepperfly he does need to man up though, he’s letting her walk all over him with her hoarding behavior and excuses and he hasn’t grown up enough to properly deal with her bull. They should both be in it 100% to FIX it and not let it ever happen again. But if he keeps letting it happen, that woman is just gonna fill their house up again. I can tell you for certain that if she can get away with it, she’ll do it again, he needs to NOT let her get away with it.
AGREED!
That bothered me a too. When I was watching other clips of him walking through with a video camera, even years ago, why wasn't he doing anything about it? Why is it all on her? I'm not defending her but I just don't understand this 1950s mentality going on here. Why aren't they taking care of things together. We are living in the 21st century... marriage and parenting should be a partnership! Dr Phil telling him to "man up"... and what??
But.. why is it just her responsibility? He also lives there, he should do 50% of it.
She lives there also and doesn't pay a penny to live
She said she had a job, so shes not a stay at home mom. Why isnt he cleaning something?
The kids and husband should clean it all as she works full time!!
They should all be doing their part, since they all live there.
I was just wondering the same thing about them
‘I’d do anything to give them a better life’ - except wash a plate. Why is all of this her responsibility? Why is her husband the victim?
She takes absolutely no responsibility what so ever she's very dismissive that why Dr Phil is going on on her the husband is a little bit more real although he needs to grow a pair but he doesn't use excuses like she does. I feel so bad for the kids, I have fatigue, I clean little a often I tackle and have taught my kids to help taught them how to keep home
Because in TH-cam comments the woman is always bad and the man is always the victim when it comes to disfunctional relationships. 😂
I agree. As an adult you do things that need to be done. He goes home to this everyday and looks at her saying ‘why don’t you clean this?’ If I was him I’d just clean and say you do it next time or we’re going to have to talk about that.
He’s not, she’s the only one refusing to admit fault, so that’s why
Because she is a Hoarder, and they are in Control. If you ever watch the TV show, they act like the poor victim, but they run things. If he tries to clean up and throw out anything, she will have a meltdown. It works the same if the man is the Hoarder.
Her facial expression NEVER changes....furrowed brow and nodding. Her voice would rob anyone of sanity.
I know! I don’t think I could make it through the episode in its entirety, she is driving me crazy just watching these short clips
Her face is really annoying me
Peggy Reely her voice... I can’t even listen to it
She is in control of all of this just like all Hoarders, but they act the Victim.
My ex wife and her mother have a voice like that.
Shes a hoarder clearly. But its still inexcusable to allow children to live like this. I hope they get the help they need as a family.
She’s is a hoarder. She’s sick and now he’s agitated and taking it out on the kids.
It will work for a while. Maybe a week.
yup, why isn't he addressing the root of her hoarding? oh, that's right, he is not licensed or practicing.
"I'm just not bELIVING THIS PART"
Her: 👁️👄👁️
Edit: thanks y'all for those many likes lmao
😂😂 her face is triggering and she seems so ignorant 😤
Loooool
Omfg I love this comment 😂
“You have not tried to get me help” as if it was somebody else job.
Well, it’s just as much his fault and he needs just as much help. Dude said he had people go in and HELP HER clean as if it’s not his house too and he should be helping himself clean as much as he expected her to. They are both equally responsible and both equally need help.
True, as a man of the house and has the co-parent he fail short of his responsibilities to his kids and he could have done more to counter her behavior. I say her behavior because it is apparent she is the root.
It's not anyone else's job. However he is her husband. They're both supposed to be there for each other through sickness & health.
On the other hand, you can't force someone to help themselves & that might be his mentality as it seems she doesn't care much.
Hmm.. Is it only the womans job to clean the house?, is it not a team job? 🤔.
I feel it's a team job. Husband and I both have full time jobs. Husband isn't a guest in our home, he's APART of our home. Period. Do the dishes, ill fold the laundry.
I think it depends on situation I dont work a job so I do all the cooking and cleaning and hubby takes out trash,while he was in university I was working full time in masonry and had a P.T cleaning job and he did housework.I think if both parties have jobs then both parties should maintain the home.
Because he pays all the bills so she should be cleaning haha. The wife has a job but clearly not enough to pay any real bills. So she should be cleaning more around the house.
@@TheSweetForever so just because she does not make as much money, yet she has a full time job, she has to do everything? What sort of chauvinistic pig are you? They both spend equal time working, therefore they should split the housework equally.... and if the husband does make extra, he could spend some of that money to hire help so that the both of them don't have to do everything, but split just some of the work.
She's a freaking hoarder. Nobody said anything about cleaning being a woman's job. You got a thinking face like you're really pondering this.
I'm surprised that CPS hasn't been called on them or an anonymous person/neighbor on the condition of their back yard or house. That mother needs to grow up and stop being so selfish and self centered. It's like her way or now way in this family and the girls and the husband are paying the price. And the mother is in denial that she has hoarding tendencies and that's why the house is the way it is. Very sad 😭.
Me too . Shocked no one has called authorities
Nobody is around to see the mess to call CPS
Deborah Peterson the father isn’t an innocent victim in this though.
At BEST he is ignoring the situation and allowing his kids to live in that kind of environment. At worse he’s contributing to the condition of the household and state of the relationship.
If he really is not actively causing the condition of the house and not trying to make things better than it’s his responsibility as a parent to leave with the children.
However he askied the children which parent they want to live with and then said “you have to pick one it can’t be both” when the kids respond they want to be apart of both parents lives. That to me indicates he may not be much better than mom. He shouldn’t be dragging the kids into adult decisions.
Hide and watch it ain't over yet
I was involved in a situation where a child was living in a house worse than this. CPS would come by and she would not let them in the house, she would make some excuse to make them come back another day then hire someone to clean it up in the next couple of days. After a week or so the house would go back to "normal". There was always feces and urine from the numerous animals and junk just everywhere.
Dr Phil with another banger at 3 am as usual 😩
Lol
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1:30 am ..looking at Phil😳😳😳😒
'I would do anything to make a better life' except clean up the house myself!
came here to say that :)
Lead by example and respect. Start with yourself. If he had started she would have felt supported. Counseling for them would be first on the agenda. Her behavior is hoarding 101
There are four able bodied humans in that house, yet this whole show Dr. Phil's blamed this wife over and over again 😑
And she’s blamed her husband over and over again. They’re both blaming eachother for the mess but one continues to make excuses for it, that being the wife, acting as though it’s her husbands job to get her help for her problem with hoarding
I think she is the blame. She controls the house. Whatever problem she has with her husband she’s using her daughters. She’s blaming him; getting back at him for making her angry.
And people in the comments too. That man has two arms and two hands and two legs but gets a pass because he's male.
I had a friend who grew up in these circumstances. I’ll never forget the day he took me into his million dollar home that was completely unlivable on the inside. It was unreal.
sounds totally mind blowing to think about
Wow finally comments enabled
Been like that for 2 months now at least
Wow finally you're watching Dr Phil
@@localasian 🤣🤣🤣
There's still so many that aren't on a huge percent of the very popular clips.
In fact I'm pretty sure that once they hit a certain number of views, they turn off the comments.
Except clean their house apparently. Dr Phil is exactly right. Those girls are living in chaos. It’s disgusting.
“Get her help” it’s not all her fault why isn’t the husband pulling his weight a cleaning the house smh 🤷🏻♀️
She has decided to let it be messy to punish him. I have four young kids, am pregnant, get virtually no help and my home, although not perfect by any means, looks nothing like that. The fact that she is allowing her daughters to sleep on that filthy bedding shows me that she is not trying at all. Even when my house has been at its worst, I have never allowed my kids' beds and eating spaces to be that unhygienic. It's called child abuse.
Don't forget he's ill...but also a douchebag who had to get divorced long time ago to get rid of that snake...
Look she's not working , so her job is cleaning. It's sounds stereotypical but there needs to be a balance. A man needs to help once in a while because there's housewife's duties are sometimes to much but this house is a giant mess
Because she's a hoarder. Chances are that if he cleans up she'll get pissed at him for throwing things away
Mimi Do no excuse for the house to look like that , none at all but in another video clip she says she does work.
Cleaning your child’s room and making sure they have clean clothes etc is a form of love and raises their self esteem. It makes them feel like you care about them.
Nah. Kids take that for granted if they've got it.
They can clean they're own room.
They are CHILDREN
Teaching your kids to clean their own rooms and clothes also...
I haven’t watched the rest, but did they address the fact that hoarding is a mental illness and yelling and belittling usual has no effect. Hasn’t Dr. Phil ever watched Hoarders?!?
Apparently not
Exactly... he is not using psychology to analyze the situation at all. He's such an unethical therapist. I mean there is no way he doesn't know that what he's saying isn't helpful
He didn’t say she wasn’t mentally ill. He said that being mentally ill doesn’t excuse child neglect and abuse. He said in another clip of the same episode “if you are mentally ill, why not get help instead of allowing days, weeks, and years to pass by without doing anything?” I would be pissed if he sat up their coddling her while her children are being abused.
Kayla W You seriously believe that?
he doesnt know if she is a hoarder, she isn't claiming to have a psychological attachment to the things she hoards or the mess. Hoarding does seem to be the issue with her but it could also be a power play tactic, keeping the mess there because "she won't do it until he does some of it", but also not letting him move things when he asks. Could also be chronic anxiety of going through cleaning up the mess just to realise that she gets kicked out of the house. There's a couple possible psychological issues besides hoarding. Because of that its irresponsible for Dr Phil to slap a label on her, and she seems to revel in the current diagnoses that she already has and uses those as an excuse for her dropping the ball. If he did give her that label it wouldnt help her so much as give her another defense to throw around for why she wont take accountability for her mistakes.
I needed to hear this. Grew up just like this and everything he said would happen to those kids is so accurate...I wish I could have realized this way sooner but being raised in trash doesnt make you trash. I've been away from that life for almost 8 years now and I'm still trying to get that idea through my head.
I grew up in a disgusting house and the effects on my mental health are very real. I refuse to let this happen to my house
They both have jobs. Why is it her sole responsibility to take care of the house?
It's not, nor should it be.
Misogyny
I would do anything..
Except clean up the house?!
Thank you for telling them the TRUTH!!
Am I the only one who thinks Dr. Phil’s wife is literally glowing.
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Happy WALEK iss cuz he know we so bored in quarantine
If they're both working, they should BOTH be cleaning. 50/50
Why the heck is the woman expected to do it all? Where is this husband’s responsibility? They should be working together on ALL of it.
You people having a dig at this woman have clearly never had depression to any degree. Shes actually doing really well at life, shes got a job, they pay the Bill's, the kids are ok and everyone eats. So what if her house is a mess??? Try HELPING instead of mocking. One day that could be YOU. BE KIND!
I mean children should have 3 jobs: studying hard, having fun doing it AND helping out at home. These parents should be setting an example for their children regarding respect and hard work both inside and outside of the home, and these two are not.
He’s just as much responsible as she is. Ridiculous.
Ernie needs to pick up a broom and do it himself. They’re in this petty standoff and neither are taking responsibility for their equal responsibility for this issue.
Everyone in a family should have cleaning/tidying responsibilities. It's the same being part of a team. This is how kids learn to be productive and self sufficient.
If you aren't able to manage a simple household, don't live in big house. Just live in a caravan, much easier, much cheaper too. If you don't take care of a house, the house will not take care of you.
Narcissist....saying exactly what people want to hear. Hes clearly part of the problem, Dr Phil!
But your kind protect your own.
STOP DIRECTING THE BLAME AT THE WIFE!
Best comment so far.
And the wife ain't? They're probably both narcissists.
It's freaky how completely emotionless that woman is. I would be bawling my eyes out. She's broken.
Best Dr. Phil line ever, “doe she have your xxx in a Dixie cup?”
Maybe those girls should help with the cleaning?? Idk give them chores?????
Having lived in a house that was very messy, you have to either choose to spend your entire life cleaning for it to be just as messy when you turn around or just keep your own space clean
I was raised in a similar environment and I wasn’t even able to focus on school my whole life because of the stress at home
It really pisses me off how people have beautiful homes and have it looking like that. Living in filth. There’s so many people out there who WISH they had a house like that and would take good care of it. They should be ashamed of themselves. They are both equally responsible for this.
My husband was raised by hoarders. I've fought tooth and nail to show him what normal looks like. His first wife thought living like that is okay too, so he's spent 35 of 36 years thinking it's okay to live in squalor. He's doing better than I expected, but he's still learning. He's just now, as a 36 year old husband and soon to be father, learning that living in a pig stye is unacceptable. Don't do that to your children.
WHy am I watching doctor phill at 1:04Am 😂🤣😂
Me to
Its 3am for me. I'm up late because I'm having trouble sleeping.
You might be gay
Lol it’s 4:45 in the morning where I am
The same reason we all are at 2, 3, 4 in the morning. Because we’re awake and ITS DR PHIL
I feel this so much. And unfortunately I simulate what I saw so I try to do better but I get anxiety, and overwhelmed.
Didn’t see the whole show but why is cleaning a house a working woman’s sole responsibility? If she were a stay at home that’s different. Seems to me they are both to blame.
Dr. Phil and everyone talking about what a horrible person she is, SHAME ON ALL OF YOU. She has TRIED to say she’s overwhelmed, she has TRIED to say she’s depressed. The way this was handled was absolutely AWFUL. NOT ONE PERSON CARED FOR HER. This is a person that is suffering. The real animals are those that are shaming her.
This is how my life was a child my parents seemed hate each other I wish there was a Dr Phil back then to help
Your words, describing how their children perceive themselves, is absolutely spot on. Exactly. Thank you
I see alot of comments about 50/50 participation in the household chores. Does it still apply to the outside chores? Vehicle maintenance? Appliance maintenance? Trash removal, junk removal? Idk maybe I'm old fashioned lol ok I am old fashioned. My husband pays the bills and does all maintenance and outside chores and I do all cleaning and shopping, caring for the children. But all major financial decisions and decisions concerning the children are 50/50. And i like it that way. There's no confusion as to whats expected to be done. We can do what we really prefer to be doing and do it our way. It actually prevents alot of nit picking and arguments.
Dr. Phill must be really pissed to have not disabled comments
Shes not the only one to blame.
I love myself. My eyeball is amazing.
I'll still piss on it
@@thecrownoffusion8420 What do you mean 'Still'? 😂Have you done it before? 😂😂
@@callmemari3084 yeah but I missed
I've never seen a Psychiatrist belittle his patients in this way !!!
1. He's not a psychiatrist.
2. He's only saying what we're all thinking.
3. They deserve to get their a$$es kicked.
He's not belittling them he's telling them the truth and what they need to hear. They don't need to be babied and pandered to they need to grow up
Its a joy to keep the house clean.
How are these kids allowed to live in this filth? If this were a modest home or not wealthy people these kids would be in cps custody!
If Phil has a liscence, it should be reviewed and revoked. This is not the behavior of a professional.
He's not real Psychologist. No license.
I can't believe he said what he said. I can't believe the network aired it. He gets more bold and more brazen all the time.
Uhhhh wtf?! Husband, WHY ARE YOU NOT HELPING?? Dr. Phil question him that!
i dont believe that woman is being abused by her husband tho
Love those “two rules “ !!!
Also love how shook she was when Dr.Phil shut her down . 😂
Isn’t the husband responsible for any of this?
Not to be biased but I think the mother is the one that created the circumstance. No one's allowed to any cleaning of the house because everyone will do it wrong, so the kids get taught not to clean and the husband isn't handling this right either.
You're right. She is in control.
She doesn't care. I am going through this now. I understand what he is feeling. It's not a good feeling. You work all day and come home to a dump that she couldn't care less about and has every excuse in the book.
My wife works maybe 25 hours a week from 5-930. I am at work all day. I beg and plead for just 30 minutes a day. I try to do what I can, but she just messes everything up.
I tried to remodel the house. I had bathroom vanities, faucets, new toilets, tile. I had about 3500 in new flooring waiting to be installed. I work from about 7/8 to around 5. I get home, nothing is done. I start working on the house itself. I ask her can you just clean up construction debris and dust? Her response? Well I didn't make the mess 🤦♂️🤦♂️🤦♂️. I just quit working on the house.
I usually wake up not in a great mood, sometimes grumpy. I can't just open curtains to enjoy the morning. I have to walk around clutter.
I have no problem helping out. I just can't do it all. I also get really agitated when I start because I feel like she should be contributing a whole lot more....I am trying to just learn to live with it
So many people in the comments looking for clout... Smh
Ridiculous isn't it!
BOTH their faults!! HE is to blame too!! Not just her. Didn’t like how she gets the brunt of laziness’s but he’s just whatever.
to restrain her is to restrain the wind or to grasp oil in one’s right hand.
Phil remains an icon.
Denial is pure evil
I had been putting off cleaning my kitchen, but after watching this, I got right on it haha
My wife and I both were actively involved in the cleaning and maintenance of our home. Our two children had their responsibilities also.
The older he gets the more sassy he gets and I am HERE for it
The crowd ain’t making it any better. They’re so extra and making it worse. They’re just people that need help just like most people.
He needs to commit her to a mental hospital or make her start cleaning . This is disgusting and in such a beautiful home .
He accepted responsibility for the houses condition and she immediately blamed him. Lol. Damn.
I raised three children by myself, one of whom has autism.
I ran my own business, despite having three types of arthritis, bowel disease and hypothyroidism and I never had outside help.
My cupboards were always full, my children were fed home cooked meals every day, the laundry was done, clothes were ironed and put away and my house was spotless.
I do all my own D.I.Y and gardening too.
There are NO excuses. I'm now registered as disabled and I'm chronically ill but my house is still spotless, my laundry is still done and mouths are still fed !
Good for you. My mother always said "It is easy to clean a CLEAN house." She had a "Place for everything and everything kept in its place." We didn't have to work that hard, because everyday the needed work was done. She had my father help with full Spring and Fall cleaning that took a weekend. My mother would say "you clean up at school, so you do it here, too."
@@Jibbie49 I love that and yes, it's so true, a house that has routine is a tidy, clean house. We all muck in and do our bit and because it's done daily, it doesn't take long at all.
It's not difficult to execute a routine and if you start when your children are young, it becomes second nature to them.
We don't have any piles of cups or plates at the sink because everyone knows, 'if you use it, wash it, dry it and put it away'. Simple 😁
Dr Phil just went full Jerry Springer towards the end of that lol
This guy doesn’t get it that when he married his wife. They became a team and they should clean the house together.
I hope they lose their house and up in a shelter just so they can be humbled and grow tf up.
If you're reading this... I hope you have a wonderful day!
I hope you have a wonderful day too!
I love how brutally honest Dr.Phil is
it’s great to watch this at 10:00 in the morning:)
those children deserve so much better
Both my parents worked! We had a clean home. Everyone in our family did their part to take care of the house.
Its both their faults, not just the husband and not just the wife's. Nothing stopping either of them from cleaning that mess.
With a pigsty of a house you can't have people over and your children can't have a proper social life . How selfish of the parents to keep blaming each other but not doing anything to improve the situation .
This isn't her fault alone he can do it as much as her
Hoarding is a terrible thing
Mom wants everyone to believe that the house is usually immaculate, it just got a little dirty last night 🙄
I LOVE DR PHILLLLLL I WILL NOT STOP SAYIG THIS UNTIL HE RESPONDES TO MEEEEEE
Relax nerd
Dr Phil never responses to comments
@@gingercheesecake7357 or enable them smh
Don’t hold ur breath
You really think he's the one posting these videos? Lol
What are the husband's responsibilities? Does he have any part of the division of labor?
My wife and I have two children in their 20's and our home and yard never ever looked like that.
We both have full time jobs, we family camped, bicycled, snow skied, traveled, they participated in school and community athletics, theater, music etc.
We didn't use any employed house help (3,700 sq ft, 4 bedroom, 31/2 bath, family room, loft deck etc), yard labor (11/3 acre wooded yard ).
And my wife dealt with a brain tumor the last 11 years of her
life.
My parents were like this. Were, still are.
I am beyond happy dr Phil judges their parenting. It seems to be an unspoken thing not to judge people’s parenting to their face even if it is appalling. Someone needed to say it
They are both guilty but what is missing is, why can't the father do some of that housework? He makes messes too. The girls would probably clean up if both parents looked like they cared about how they live.
The state of the house is so sad. So many people would love to have a space like that and those parents are just neglecting it.
Sadly enough,Dr.Phil is right on this One.Because ewww that just brought back memories when He said When you step on the carpet and it sticks to your feet and all that like its stuff so ground kn for yrs.and yrs.and never ckeaned ,so gross,I gross,I remember going to friends houses and their carpet being like that and I gelt so bad for them.
I just watched this show and these people have pretty much ruined their children for any kind of regular (notice I didn't say "normal") relationship with other people, particularly any relationship with a domestic partner. The kids have NO idea how to be responsible, non-combative human beings, because their parents are irresponsible, combative jerks. Cleaning is just the tip of the iceberg with these people. Taking them out of the home may be too late, but at least it would be something. Therapy might take years and might give them some relief. And not for nothing, but is there no extended family on either side (grandparents, aunts and uncles) who know about all this? Even if they didn't know about the pig sty of a house, how could the parents get by without detection? Amazing.
i love this man !!!!!!!
No joke! Then teachers have to pick up the slack.