Narcissistic Abuse & BRAIN FOG What You NEED To Know
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Oh my goodness this is me! My life is falling apart and I don’t know how to repair it because I’m always in this state of mind. My health, my credit everything is suffering. I just want someone to ring me out or shake this out of me! There should be some free help for people like us. It’s like living in the twilight zone.
I feel you. It's like I just try to get through each day in such deep isolation. I used to be extremely social and charismatic. Now going out in the world is difficult. I feel like I'm so far out.
When you said memory loss I just about fell over. My memory loss came out of nowhere. Like I was hit in the head. I didn't realize it was from her abuse.
Me too! I literally had an MRI 2 weeks ago thinking I had early onset dementia. My brain scan was normal
I used to have an amazing memory. The I got married and I started feeling broken with memory loss and brain fog
Me too , I didn't realise it was from him 😢
My memories been lost for awhile and I though it was Alzheimer's. I was in the abuse for 37 yrs left last year.
I have brain fog. But I thought it was Alzheimer's
💯 I felt like I suddenly had ADHD and all my executive functioning skills went offline. Very disorienting which then caused more anxiety and depression from exhaustion and overthinking trying to push through everything. Like nothing I’ve ever experienced before and no clue how to fix it. Stuck in learned helplessness and paralyzed to move forward in life in any meaningful way because I could not trust anyone or myself. My attention had been so conditioned to be trained on him and unpacking all his inconsistencies, double speak, belittling, demeaning, etc. I had no idea who I was anymore.
Simple terms because I’ve lived in it 6 years but I don’t have any degrees or schooling in psychology. Many many ways. They make you feel like you aren’t as smart as them. They don’t compliment you or give you any positive feedback to make you feel good about yourself. If you asked what they thought of your new haircut they might say something like, I don’t care, I don’t look at you like that anyway. You feel like you have to be who they want you to be. You can’t be who you truly are for fear of being picked apart and told how what you said you did are wrong. If it’s not their idea then you won’t do it and they won’t consider it. You feel so alone even though you have a partner. It’s like you are roommates if you are married. It’s a sad lonely life and the irony is, you’re not alone because you have someone. They twist what you say they said to you around and make you feel crazy. They are paranoid and a secret jealous of sorts. You’ll know they are very jealous but they will make the rest of the world think they are not. Worst of all, you’ll think you can change them or change yourself to make them love you and yet nothing will work. You’ll never feel good enough and you’ll never feel loved. I sometimes wondered if mine hated me. They won’t be or feel like your biggest fan which is what your partner should be if we are talking about a relationship aspect of being around one. All I can say is, if you think you’re with one now, please just leave. You won’t change them, you can’t and you’ll lose yourself trying. Moreover, if you feel sure that your husband might never cheat on you, you might have to rethink. Most wives in marriages are shocked when they find out their husband cheating, and it happens more with people who never thought they would cheat. This is why you have to take the tiniest suspicion carefully. If your husband is cheating on you, the best and probably the only guaranteed way to catch him is to spy on their phones. However, spying on a phone is not something you can do without any external help unless you have the James bond level of spy skills. In such case you will need an expert phone spyier Metaspyhub@gmail. com for the purpose,,,
Wow! I just thought my brain broke. Every now and then I think that maybe my ex isn't really a narcissist. Maybe he just had some of the traits or I am exaggerating things. Then, I see this and realize I am lying to myself. She is spot on! I have every one of these symptoms.
Holy crap!
You call it brain fog but it's really dissociation
I figured this out, too. I disassociate when I do something that displeases someone. Because in my experience, it means pain is incoming. When I am safe, and there's no repercussions, my brain doesn't know what to do. So I kind of start checking out.
Dissociation is one symptom of multiple brain fogg symptoms.
Starting gyming and having a plan of action to improve your physique comprehensively has a drastic effect in reversing all these symptoms. Plus it generates a lot of self esteem and a happy mental predisposition. This can happen within a month. Exercise, eat right and love your precious divine self. And be grateful to God everyday for what blessings He has given you. And what had happened with u was not without His permission. So u need to find the deeper hidden meaning behind all that. Salvation lies in there. Depression and spiritual awakening are two sides of the same door.
Invasion like a parasite & negation/destruction of one’s true self to serve Npds agenda as described by Sam Vaknin
mindfulness is key
I'm so sick of being in this state.
Of course I was in fight or flight 24/7. Hello cortisol. It has taken a few years but I have recovered a lot of who I used to be and have grown.
I'm a jock but also I love science, reading and God Almighty. My workouts and running are more robust, I read several books at the same time. Hard sci fi etc. I'm delving into my love of the quantum world again with the mysteries of quantum mechanics.
Living with the nightmare, as she was, really crushed my spirit. All of these things I loved, and more, faded into oblivion. I may have been in a fog but I couldn't see the fog for the mist. lol
I'm sharing this with those who feel crushed and feel they're done. But things will be great again. I did this on my own but so many of you will need to do the work as Michele brings out. It most definitely is achievable, very much so. You will never regret the time and effort you put into it. You will be free again.
Love ya.
I am a old man 71 . I have been married to my narcissistic wife for 50 years . I did not leave her because of the kids at that time . yes it's taken a lot out of me . But this fog you mentioned which affected my head a lot . you young lady are spot on. I did not know about it. I thought I was doing to much thinking . I will be leaving her . My doctor said just leave her it's not going to get any better . but thanks again why my head was not working right . This fog just numbs your head . It's show you are never to old to learn
#2, Omgg that’s exactly what I am going through right now. I keep saying I just want to be me again.
#4 is also exactly what I feel.
know your self-worth. Happy Women's Month!
Thank you so much for your contributions to make us get out of this induced hell. Horrible vile people.
So glad my videos are helping =D
Do you understand they have no access to " real self" due to Horribleness of being shamed.....etc.... in childhood...
It is not easy way to say " sure I have pity for you, continue your malice"
But it is not to call them any name, not to harm them more.....(the abused abuse......)
Therapy for them is possible # Lee Hammock Mental Healness
@@BTParent I haven’t heard anyone say therapy is useful, except that they will learn more cold empathy. Since the one I know literally profits $ from screwing his employees I believe he would impress the therapist.
@@lynnschaeferle-zh4go haha
There is Dialectic Behavioural Therapy (DBT) for people with personality disorders.
Dr Ramani says that therapy can help them, to have slightly fewer conflicts, but when they are stressed, the old behaviour comes back. She said that there is no amount of therapy, that will make them, safe to be in a relationship with.
False diagnosis of personality disorders, are extremely common. Because the diagnostic tool, was designed to have intensional high rates of false positives.
If you have a PD diagnosis, and you want to get better and have less conflicts, then you probably were misdiagnosed, and therapy could be helpful to you.
However for psychopathy, therapy cannot cause people to gain more empathy, but it does teach people how to hide their personality. That makes it dangerous, as it makes them more effective, at evading accountability, for the many people they abuse.
Ugh. I had derealization for years after a long relationship with a narcissistic person. No one could tell me what it was; I found out on my own through research. It was horrible.
im currently in that now ive been researching for weeks and its heartbreaking but im beginning to heal
"Brain fog" when i heard this term for the first time, i knew what it means.
@@daelinproudmoore4973Right.. I had used the word "Trance like state" while I was writing myself about the abuse I went through.. And then I read after many months that many people had mentioned clearly brain fog and coming out of trance....
It makes me wonder how many of us in different parts of the world have undergone the almost similar experiences under narcissistic abuse.. 🙆🤦🏻♀️
@@braingamesballsortgame718 Sadly, I think there's so many people who have under gone this kind of abuse. And even more sad, is that some may not even know they're in it. I refer to it as living in the Twilight Zone.
6:00 - 6:15 this must be why i fail all my tests no matter how much i study for them because when i remember the answer my brain becomes foggy and shifts to a completely different subject about the past...which gives me anxiety 💀 it's weird i guess this explains it though...
So glad you covered this aspect of narc abuse. I've suffered brain fog and disconnect all my life. Most of my life I've operated on autopilot and don't understand why I've done the things I've done or said. People have called me "dippy" but I'm too embarrassed to tell them it's a symptom of PTSD. This is the thing I want to fix the most.
Same - my life was on autopilot for 33 years after being raised by a covert narcissist in a cult like environment. Now I’m35 and brain fog is making me feel like I am dreaming- total disconnection. I haven’t even gotten to the point of forming an identity or emotional awareness. The grief is unbearable, it’s the worst.
I've been dealing with chronic narastic abuse for years and my head feels like it's in a vice of some kind
Thank you 🙏
I was in school when I started experiencing these symptoms...I went from being really smart to barely passing the class. I had to withdraw from a math class 3 times because I just couldn't grasp it. I miraculously graduated from LPN school, then RN school...nothing short of a miracle; but I struggle.
I had the same problem, all my grades dropped
Omg...I'm gonna cry now...this is the best description of this horrible state. It's such a relief to know you are not going crazy and even when I know/knew what it was (cause one day you know, next day you are looking for other reasons...)... But I have no idea how to explain it to other people. When they want from you things that you can't do anyore and they just don't understand. ...simple things like going to town for a cup of coffee.
Oh my goodness! This is the answer! I have feared I was going to get dementia early! Really frightened about it! Now I see what was happening. Now that I am out of the relationship and my cortisol levels have decreased my re-engineering is so much better!
I grew up with a narcissist mother and developed PTSD. Yes, it changed my brain. No, I didn't know about it until just a few years ago (I'm 63 now). I wish I'd known about it sooner. I can remember things from age 2, but forget what I did today.
Listening to your thoughts and experiences with narcissistic abuse has been very validating. I experienced a lot of frustration with feeling like I was somehow less of a person because my brain would shut down and I felt trapped inside myself. I could see myself stuck and unable to fix what was happening while my body was just along for the ride. Whatever I tried to do to make the narcissist happy was always twisted into something else and I couldn’t embrace the reality that they were doing it on purpose. I contorted myself into something I wasn’t trying to make peace and that was weaponized against me. The only joy that they experienced was being able to torture others and I tried to make myself ok with being able to endure their abuse to try and ease their suffering only to find that they were still never satisfied.
The journey back from that dark place has been a painful but beautiful experience of self discovery. I was longing so deeply for the validation that I wasn’t allowed to have as a child. I naïvely thought that the one that was wounding me would see the error of their ways and heal me but that knife only cuts, it doesn’t mend. My hopes were misplaced in them and I had to learn how to recognize and celebrate the good things inside myself. I had to see my value and not let those who wanted to raise their own value by devaluing me to have any say in my worth.
Today I have more joy than I ever thought possible. And that joy doesn’t come from another person. I had to learn how to love and care for that child inside of me that was crushed so many years ago by people who abused their power over a child. Now I have the opportunity to be the parent that I needed to myself. It’s time to start calling evil what it is and not hoping that I can help evil so that it will heal me. I did that as a child because it was my only hope for my survival but now I have options and I don’t need that skill to survive anymore. I’m grateful for having it but I’m too busy loving living to go back to surviving.
100% how I am living for so long. I am so stoopid now. It is so bad I am now limiting much of my day in my room, that is my coping mechanism. It is a bit of a joke in the family like how would you know you don't remember anything. I get lost in mid conversation just trying to remember words.
Keep going. It's worth it to listen to TH-camr's, read books on the topic, do Somatic exercises, breathing exercises, meditate.
Haveing issues with your thinking DOES NOT mean your 'stoopid', I'm betting you're the smart one in the family because you've figured them out!!
Pre narcissist I was learning at breakneck speed. History, theology, and learning and memorizing 5 to 6 new songs every year. I was the freest I have felt in my entire life. Coming up on three years now, post narcissist. I no longer am focused nor do I absorb information and knowledge as I once did. But the one thing I can do is get her the hell out of my yard when she comes around. It's a hollow, hollow victory.
Gold. This video is pure gold...
the memory thing is very real! And critical thinking + dessision making is almost imposible. Yes
Totally agree, the person I married and trusted has told me so often I didn't listen don't remember, told I was wrong, stupid,, forgetful, so I've shut down. So I have to fight back to memorize since I'm constantly being questioned and challenged and punished emotionally.
This is actually not completely true. Because of Nuro plasticity, if you deliberately return to meaningful living, meditation, an activity that repairs, your prefrontal cortex, which is anything you have to learn and think about your brain will return to normal. Of course, depending on how many years you've been doing this, it might take a while. But the human brain is much more adapting then you give it credit for. It is certainly relieving to people to understand that the reason for their inability to remember, to learn, to react with high anxiety is due to the abuse. But it is also important that they understand that all of these things are absolutely reversible.
@@dianereynolds9835 based on the premise that you have gone no contact, I find your information totally plausible.
I’m just getting out of a 20 year narcissistic as of the age of 17 years old. I feel lost and don’t even now where to start for repair. And yes I agree with one comment that there should be some type of free help for this
Thanks for sharing all the important info and education. It helped me finding answers I have been looking for. I watched this video twice, and both times there were tears in my eyes.
Thank you Michele,
I left an abusive relationship of 5 years, 5 1/2 years ago. I'm in a really good place now. I recognise much of what you said in the video.
EMDR was super for me! I tell everyone who appears to have some trauma about it.
This video is relevant for me now as I recently made an "I don't want to talk with you anymore" boundary with a mum who's child goes to the same school as mine and low and behold, the persistant following and trying to engage me in conversation (and my husband in his workplace!) starts. No surprises there, I was expecting it, but all the same, unpleasant and stressful.
I'm glad I know how to deal with it now.
All is in hand with support from the school and a super duper personal safety alarm!! Thanks for your videos!
I am glad that you had support and effective therapy after your abusive relationship. It's good to hear that other people, with similar experiences as me, are recovering, are getting better, and were given support.
I'm early in the process, and my depression is preventing me from doing what I need, to deal with my current situation. But knowing that other people are getting better, is helpful to me. So thank you for sharing your story.
OH man, I am stuck in this so bad. Wow, hearing this was mind blowing.
In a healthy relationship after a narc. We kept having to have the same conversations over and over regarding my behavior crossing his boundaries. It felt like I would never be able to retain the information he was telling me because the toxic behavior was engrained and so natural I would keep doing it and not even realize it! But displeasing him triggered my fight or flight. I had to retrain myself to realize I am safe with the new partner, and that rupture and repair is a HEALTHY part of relationships. It was so hard and has taken so long. Something as simple as him recieving a text message triggered my insecurity. Or him giving negative feedback about a meal I prepared - I thought he was going to LEAVE because I thought his displeasure meant I am not good enough. But it's not true. And its toxic (but normal) to treat our healthy partners as if they are the narc ex. It just takes a lot of stopping to think before you react or respond. And ask yourself if it's coming from the past or is there evidence to feel that way right NOW? The internal definition of our emotions gets all mixed up from being gaslit.
I relate to all of this
I'm generally pretty good at not bringing the baggage from past relationship into new ones (Like, having been cheated on in the past, I wouldn't be insecure about that in a current one). But I'm worried about what this last relationship with a covert narcissist will cause in my next one. I'm definitely taking some time to heal and work through before jumping into the next one... 3 months removed and I still often struggle with the ruminating thoughts of reasoning with myself about what happened throughout the relationship. It's exhausting
I know someone like that but they aren't as self aware or something.
It's like the idea of actions not decided upon don't exist.
So essentially... tossing out the idea of the unconscious completely
I guess because it's too scary to contemplate not being 100% in control
Like it ends up self gaslighting or something?
I kinda don't get it because I've always kinda looked at what me is trying to tell myself so to speak.
It's not scary for me at all I think.
I'm sort of looking for my hidden partitions.
Eccept the ones I'm unconsciously hiding? From my conscious awareness of the unconscious?
I think I gave myself amnesia like just now.
Point is how are you aware?
I mean how did you become self aware of that? Got any links or pointers?
@@Mr0rris0READ BIBLE!!! ALL EXPLAINED ON LOVE THERE.... &observe yourself.
I did counselling - maybe I had a bad luck with those ..... maybe it is not for me..... A GOOD FRIEND CAN GIVE SAME POINTERS AND NEVER SAYS AFTER 45mkns chat " we have to wrap up" when you feel you need more time....
Spinning around myself was what made me agotic,I think.....
Yes, I have had all the symptoms. And this is 35 years on. I let him describe my reality and my eldest daughters. He blamed his behavior on me and the family bought it. He has the financial gains to show for it and the toys. But his friends and family who helped him attain these goals are dying off one by one and I am building a new life, one where I am proud of my own accomplishments. There's nothing on his horizon but shame, and mine is decency, hard won and fought to retain.
😀💖💚
yes... Cant find the car ever put things where the dont belong pay bills than pay again -
Thank you so much for this! 🙏❤So spot on. I feel so disconnected from myself and life, I hear myself talking, but Im not here. I also doubt so much about what is going on, your video helps and explains. I also wonder about the connection between burnout and narcisstic abuse? Do you have videos about that? I also had another question...but I forgot!🤦 Cant remember, just know I had something more I was thinking about...
After a 40 year marriage I was feeling like I was getting old because I lost my fabulous memory and I was totally exhausted. What I didn’t know is that it was being done to me to grind me down. It made him feel good to inflict pain and feel superior. I thought he was wonderful once; but I guess you can’t get away from an abusive background. I think he grew up torturing because he wasn’t going to take his stepmother’s abuse without pay back somewhere. That’s why he picked me. Trusting and stupid.
Please please please - it is not the end,
However difficult, it is possible to FEEL LOVED - GIVE GOD A CHANCE, TELL "HIM" (SPIRIT), SAY IT ALL, QUARELL With HIM, BUT TAKE HIM SERIOUSLY. PLEASE
It’s true. I’m a narcissist and trying to get better. It’s not fun being a narcissist either. Not an excuse but it’s tough
Know it was my defense mechanism to battle against my upbringing or yelling parents. Only memories before 6 are just yelling
Wishing all well on either side of the issues. Narcissism is awful
Yes to all of these things but most definitely memory loss. I have always had a great memory, for almost everything but this instant it's my very short term memory that's affected. I still feel like my long term is ok however I'll literally pick something up and 2 seconds later It'll forget what I'm doing with it, keys/phone/remote etc. Like my 5-10 second memory has just been eviscerated by abuse.. I think I would've been so used to checking 'are they there?' 'Am I ok?' 'Do I need to.." etc etc It's like the part of my brain that takes care of my stuff, what I'm doing, where I'm going etc has been clogged up.
I totally relate.
Bingo it’s like an awakening for me❤
I really enjoy how you explain everything in your videos
You're getting more beautiful, peaceful and serene by the day! May you be blessed!
I get this so much I want to be myself again and be present
Your brain shuts down. I had to make some really important life decisions and couldn’t think.
Your thoughts on the amygdala hit home. I was in the process of getting my commercial pilot license. My girlfriend at the time decided I wasn’t going to fly. She lied to the police to get me arrested and assaulted me when I got back home from jail. I had to walk on eggshells at home. Now I understand why I was unable to do the learning and flying necessary to finish.
This changed the arc of my life.
This is so true. Fear, anxiety and lack of sense of safety persist long term.
That’s everything I’ve ever known- I was raised this way and broke free only at 33. And so now I realised that I was never present in my life - in fact I had no self sense- like a child before forming any self awareness but it lasted for 33 years-it’s a total menticide. Looking back to the decades that were wasted, unlived. And now a brainfog it’s like a dream state
same thing and longer than you but I am 100 percent sure I will beat it if just to spite them get a journal and get into elite shape i did both then went no contact and reraised the person i should have been
@@tonyamartin1425 Congratulations! That's wonderful, I wish you continued success.
My parents and partners were narcissistic and I've been let down by so many people and robbed of money, so now I've got such an anxiety and don't trust people. I've got a job interview in a few days time, and I'm a nervous wreck with tummy ache due to the anxiety
Hey, how did the job interview go? I can relate as I was unemployed for 2 years during the pandemic and had to move in with my Narc mum. I had loads of interviews before I got a job and it was hell for me as I have social anxiety and the brain fog was intense due to menopause symptoms too. Just to give you encouragement, I got a contract that paid 400 pounds a DAY that was extended from. 6 months to a year and the got the job that I had my eye on before I was made unemployed which I am still at over a year later. This is despite still suffering from social anxiety and brain fog and illness probably due to stress of my mum... I'm 51 btw!
Wow thank you 🌈🌈God bless you sister and everyone connected to your ministry 🌈🌈
Omg i actually felt my 🧠 brain callapse beung called handicap dementia 😢etc many other things for monthsweeks to much actually felt my brain 🧠🧠 shift broke down
Well done and I see your good intentions shine thru ... Thank you , keep sharing!
We are so grateful you are sharing your wisdom and experience! 🤘💃🏼
I appreciate that! Thank you for your kind words!!
Jessie Rogers story of how she survived the trauma of the adult film industry
I would have a difficult conversation with him and not be able to retell it to someone in all details. Moreover when I tried to retell the narc what he said or did, I could not in minute detail like he wanted and therefore he would discredit my concern or just walk away and say I did not know what I was even talking about and therefore was not gonna listen to me.
It's exactly as you describe!!!! Same experiences!!
This was very informative! Another big factor in BDNF’s good function in Hippocampus is Physical exercise according to studies. More talks about this is important because a shrinked hippocampus is a big risk for Alzheimer’s later in life
Thank you, I don't feel as crazy now... I've been stuck in a zombie state even though I left the relationship several years ago...and I'm just starting to see the fog lift. For ages though I've thought I'm the crazy one because I turned nasty being put under so much pressure and that was used to against me.. his family was in on it too but still to this day I have that self doubt even though I know it has to be true that he's not right. Thank you for this video.
Hi Michelle, You were the first person I started watching. I was researching a condition my daughter has and found out much more that was happening. This video hit my life 100 percent. I have so much brain fog anymore. It is just crazy. I am always on eggshells. I never feel relaxed anymore. I'm not saying I haven't done things I shouldn't have, but I think life circumstances pushes people to do things they normally wouldn't do.
🙋🏽♀️ yup! Definitely experienced brain fig.
This resonates with me
This is so true and I resonate, I keep on watching the videos because every time I would forget what I watched and I did not want to be in a position where I forget the signs and let the narc in easily , I guess its part of the process I hate that fact that I’m stuck in the past sometimes I feel like it’s cause I’m doing this all alone and I’m unemployed now and pray that I get a job soon so I can get emdr therapy , thank you for sharing this it makes me feel validated
Don't let the past dictate your future
I AM A VICTIM OF ONE MENTALY SICK CALLED NARCISSTIC JACK . EVEN THOUGH NOW MOVED OUT LIVING BY MYSELF , STILL STUCK IN PSYCHOTIC NARVE DAMAGING CIRCLE . THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH FOR YOUR INFORMATIVE VIDEO ❤😊
I def can relate and still succumbed to the narc charm of ex gf not anymore day 16 blocked high anxiety even though haven't seen her in 5 months still tries Hoover from third party message or diff # insane ....I'm finally done.
i have brain fog when my cousin is around she shuts down conversation and tries to one up all the time
True true true
I didn't know I was healing until I got the last narcissist out
I'm struggling to digest yet feel so much and trying to make a positive. Sadly myself and partner have come from difficult and painful relationships which far from helps.. We together have a two-year-old son and everything and I'm not free and scared of my own shadow? Thank you for sharing Eva and truly love you 💗
Memory issues are because our attention is diverted trying to stay on top of all their garbage.
What a great teaching tool! Thank you.
Whenever I tried to discuss anything that might put my narc in a bad light she would immediately go to the bathroom sit on the floor and put a bag over head threatening to kill herself. This has happened 20+ times.
The topic I wanted to discuss with here (that would put her in a bad light) was her cheating on me at school as soon as I dropped out (we went to school together). Her response was to run away and put a paper bag over head threatening to kill herself. This ridiculousness has taken its toll on my sanity.
In my opinion these people are reptiles with unlimited remorseless evil, there will be no convincing them in my opinion. I'm a shell of my former self and am currently escaping. Good luck everyone.
I am seeking therapy through Dr. C's sponsorship, seeing people like him gives me hope!
yea that shit wont work on me lol go-ahead dumb ass have at it lol so what?
Oh my gosh! I used to have a great memory, like what you mentioned you had! But after my first husband of 31 years, died from cancer….and I felt like the bottom fell out from under me….and I stupidly remarried (a narcissist)….and I had to be hyper-vigilant…..well….there went my memory! There was more in there….like living with EXTREMELY narcissistic psychopathic relatives….and working for nearly 15 years in a HIGHLY TOXIC work environment…..and much more. I had quite the ‘full plate’ of abuse placed in front of me every day.
Actually, I was raised in a highly abusive environment too. I have broke off ties with those relatives…but some still try to get in touch.
I am working on how to get free now….but it’s extremely hard!
I have another idea why we get brain fog, since our bodies are capable of adapting, cortisol levels rises and to fight that we train our bodies to have short memory just to get along with narcicistic person, plus stuff like gaslighting, when a person thinks that thinks stuff hapoent one way and narcicist saying it happent the other way, then we have accelerated the learing proces of loosing memory
Yes. Parents had their version of “reality” and you disconnect with what you lived to survive. Now, as an adult, reality gets hard to cling to.
I am 53 now. I have suffered memory issues and brain fog all my life due to an abusive, violent father and a malignant narcistic mother who scapegoated me, emotionally tortured me and still runs smear campaigns against me so that everyone boycotts me socially .
This how sis weaponized her church and her lies travel on
Me too🥺i 48 and she still gong on with this evil smearcampaign.remember they will got their punishment .i feel for you.❤i feel tortured and i try to heal,and it helps to tell people.and i hate those people.
It is the same for me, I’m 67 and narc mother will be 90 soon. I have depression, anxiety and fibromyalgia. I’ve tried accepting she has a disorder, too hard, going low contact, she doesn’t respect boundaries and going no contact only to be sucked back in. Finally had enough, it’ll mean cutting myself off from family but I have my son and granddaughter and a few friends.
You’re not alone. ❤️
I caught my brain last night moving memories to a hidden place. Brain damage allows me to observe. First time I ever saw it do that. ex gf trauma was so severe my body is trying to protect my mind. Yes to the rest. Apparently have brain fog after 3 week leaving her. Noticed this at work today. Cried later due to imbalance. Thank you for this.
Emma Jones xx
Hi, thanks for your great episode! I have a question, do you know if physical symptoms also comes along with the “ brain” symptoms? I have all the brain fog above and they get 80% worse when being with my parents( they scapegoats me all my life and I now have to live with them until I find a new apartment and I’m now worse then ever. When I recently found out about them and putting up boundaries they get even a lot worse. And always on the same time I get stiffness in my muscles, fascia tension, stomach ache, water retention. Inflammation in my entire body.
I suggest reading The Body Keeps the Score.
I'm already dyslexic this only made it worse. And they gas light that
My sis weaponized her church they don't even know it I'm told be quiet? I don't think so
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Blessings from Estonia! Great job - it helped me and my studients much!!!
1. Memory: my memory has become terrible, due to the intense stress of breaking up (after 15y i managed). To the level I was losing something everyday, wallet, phone. Luckily I was living in Norway and the items were always returned. It has gotten slightly better after a year+, but at times when I'm overwhelmed by too many things, I forget basic things (like keys). My memory per se should still be good, I am quite analytical (well, very) and I remember concepts and logics very easily, I'll remember equations, formulas, etc. I've also started smoking weed again to relax, and that surely doesn't help short term memory. Previously I had stopped over a decade ago, as I didn't like the effect of weed, just made me lazier and inactive. Now quite the opposite, I need it to relax.
2. Definetely I feel ''dull'', have a hard time being happy, but even sad. Just duller, as if the emotions ''balloons'' have been over-inflated and now a normal inflation of that emotion/pleasure does not give you the usual ''hit'', a bit like a drug that you've abused, and that now gives you very little effect.
3. I am still all over the place, following a line of progression seems impossible. My adhd is rampant.
4. Similar to point 3, cannot concentrate. Can't study. Even if I'm quite apt in logic/maths, I can't sit and focus on something. I'm able to write quite well, but I'm not able to sit for an hour to make a perfect cv. My mind wonders off, can't follow the same train of thought.
5.similar to point 3 and 4, the effect is that I can't learn/absorb information like before.
Omg I am absolutely watching videos to keep it in the front of my mind.. also been stuck in depression & anxiety. More so anxiety at this stage. And I attributed brain fog to my hypothyroidism, which developed during this relationship…
All of this applies to me - thank you 🙏
You are hitting on so many things that it makes me feel very uncomfortable inside. My heart rate has increased. Your explanations are so forth-right and spot-on. I thought I have made great strides, but hearing what you are saying - I haven’t fully left the survival mode.
Watching from London. Yes, I have all the symptoms of brain fog that you have mentioned.
Growing up with narc abuse, my memory has always been and still is pretty bad. I didn't experience the difficulty concentrating and making decisions until I started dating narcissists
I only just remembered I’ve watched this vid already 😂😬😂
Absolutely True Michelle
I can definitely relate to all the signs of brain fog. Wow
My ex-narc would get angry at me because of my sharp memory.
That was very good young lady . I have been married for 50 years with this woman i am in my 70 s . I do suffer from anxiety and depression . Over the years it's got wosei . In my case it's to late for me , but i will keep trying . Best part about i am a positive person . Yes it does take out of thanks anyway for information
Hyperbaric oxygen chamber!!
Going through the Shredder, for sure.
Thanks Michelle, great value!
I need to heal. And i just signed up. You have spot on mentioned everything happening to me. Thank you. God brought you to me and I am so grateful. I need to find me again.
You If Really Want To Heal From Pure Intention You can try Sahajyoga Meditation 🙏🏻
I totally identify with all of these. It's nice to know I'm not alone and losing my mind!
Thank you for the video. My narcissist has caused this in me I think.
The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle
Psychedelics helped me heal my brain 💗✨ And my life
You had me at amgydala. Mine was highjacked
Ty day 16 ex narcissistic gf cheats lies all that....5 months since seen been hard since last hoover attempt but I caught myself bye bye blocked day 16 ....she will try from different # usually day 17 or so gotta stay strong and ignore destroy her ego!! I am still so stuck yes!! I almost moved closer ugh.
Thanks for the helpful video. I have not had success with eft and I used to book with Tina Craig herself so I know that therapy is not for me so I found it useful to learn about other things that could help.
Since she cheated and got pregnant it took me 4 months to clear brain fog. Still have memory issues. 17 years of grooming. I had no clue I’m being worked on so many years.
How are you doing now Aram?
😞 I've been struggling with this for as long as I can remember
It sounds like depression to me