Thank you for your comment. I understand how it might feel to not have anyone in your life who brings out the best in you. However, the intent of my message was to emphasize the importance of focusing on bringing out the best in others. While it's wonderful to find people who uplift us, our goal should be to create positive and supportive environments for those around us, all while maintaining healthy boundaries. Building meaningful connections can be challenging, but focusing on bringing out the best in others can create positive and supportive relationships. Your efforts to foster kindness and understanding can make a significant difference.
Im at 4:53, and only have a couple hours to sleep before cooking Christmas dinner for my friends. This video though is amazing, and i look very forward to finishing it, when i can slow down a bit, over the next few days. Your way of seeing human nature, and the shadow self, in all of us is a big part of my way of thinking. I hope you have a wonderful Christmas, friend!🎄
I appreciate that you say all people are toxic, that's my experience as well and I don't think we're supposed to say it out loud, so I respect your honesty😊. The conclucion I've arrived at however, is that I choose to be alone rather than to spend my energy working hard on setting boundaries for people that doesn't know how to treat others with basic kindness. I think we're indoctrinated to believe that being alone is a terrible thing and that it means you're a worthless failure- hardly anything in society is judged as harshly as being alone. After I stopped caring that people judge me for it, I realized that being alone is actually wonderful, the reason being that dealing with the toxicity of people is no longer consuming my life. I can spend my time focusing on other things; it's extremely liberating. I get what you're saying and I respect it, but for me- if people can't treat me with basic kindness and respect, I'm walking away. It's too energy draining and time consuming, and I want to fill my life with other things. I don't think I'm being "too sensitive". I think we live in a system that is based on competition, on performing and winning to prove one's worth, we're conditioned to compete to be better than others. The whole system is toxic, so people become toxic. I'm about the same age as you and I don't think things were better before, I think people are just becoming more aware of it now, and in my opinion that's a good thing.
Thank you for sharing your perspective; I really appreciate your honesty 😊. When I say everyone is toxic, what I mean is that all of us, including you, me, and everyone else, have both good and bad parts. It's important to stay humble and recognize that we all have our own weaknesses. Sometimes, we don't realize how our words and actions affect others, and we can unintentionally hurt people without even knowing it. My focus is on bringing out the best in others and accepting people lovingly with all their flaws. Establishing boundaries doesn't mean we have to be alone. We can have gentle boundaries that allow us to adjust our time and energy based on the kindness people show us. I respect your decision and understand that it's about finding what works best for you. Everyone's journey is different, and it's all about finding balance and peace in our own way.
@@DailyFastDiaries Thank you for feedback. I've been thinking a lot after watching your video and realized that isolating to avoid abuse is a boundary issue more than anything else. Not trusting yourself to be able to set the right boundaries to stay safe, you close yourself off completely to make sure you're safe. It's a trauma response and not really healthy in the long run. I like that you focus on finding a balance between personal safety while still staying open to connection. Looking forward to more videos🙂
Hey DFD. Thank you for your discussion on conflict resolution and bringing out the best in others. I enjoyed it and I want you to know that I appreciate your efforts and the work and skill that you put into producing these videos. I'm going to have to watch this again at least once. It is dense, in a good way, with useful information, or as you would say, it's succinct.🙂 We are similar but I'm about 10 years older than you so I was raised during slightly different times. Like you, I think I've always tried to be a good person and treat people the way I think they would like to be treated. I also have two sons, almost 10 years older. I used to have three sons but I lost my first born when he was 25. I agree with you when you point out that over 99% of people are not psychopaths. When my kids were little I used to tell them that while they should never ever get into cars with strangers, it was also true that the vast majority of people were good people. They just had to be safe and not take chances. You were speaking about toxic people. As a Canadian observer, it appears to me that since Trump got into politics, Americans appear more toxic. I think some of the people already were toxic and Trump just emboldened them. Other people have become toxic to some degree from Trump's rhetoric and his actions. If it gets to be too much for you, feel free to move up to Canada. We are kind of known for being friendly, and you're right at the border. I'll tell you what, you move up here and I'll make you and your sons an authentic Canadian meal, with real maple syrup and some hearty Poutine. I agree with you that one of the greatest skills is the ability to make those around you better. And I feel good telling you, I've become better because of what I've learned from you. Once again, thanks. And by all means, carry on. Calvin.
Thank you so much for your kind words and for sharing your thoughts. I'm glad you found the discussion on conflict resolution and bringing out the best in others helpful. It's always encouraging to hear that the content resonates with viewers. I agree that we see more toxicity online, and it's challenging to determine whether people are more toxic in real life or if the anonymity of the internet brings out different behaviors. It's also possible that people who exhibit toxic behaviors are more likely to be vocal online. I believe that while it's important to recognize and address toxic behaviors, we should also focus on understanding that none of us are perfect. Instead of cutting people out of our lives, we can work on bringing out the best in others and fostering healthier relationships. This approach can help combat the growing epidemic of loneliness and create more supportive communities.
When you realize you have no people in your life, absolutely no one to actually bring out the best in you.
Thank you for your comment. I understand how it might feel to not have anyone in your life who brings out the best in you. However, the intent of my message was to emphasize the importance of focusing on bringing out the best in others. While it's wonderful to find people who uplift us, our goal should be to create positive and supportive environments for those around us, all while maintaining healthy boundaries. Building meaningful connections can be challenging, but focusing on bringing out the best in others can create positive and supportive relationships. Your efforts to foster kindness and understanding can make a significant difference.
Im at 4:53, and only have a couple hours to sleep before cooking Christmas dinner for my friends.
This video though is amazing, and i look very forward to finishing it, when i can slow down a bit, over the next few days. Your way of seeing human nature, and the shadow self, in all of us is a big part of my way of thinking.
I hope you have a wonderful Christmas, friend!🎄
thanks I hope you had a great holiday!
I appreciate that you say all people are toxic, that's my experience as well and I don't think we're supposed to say it out loud, so I respect your honesty😊. The conclucion I've arrived at however, is that I choose to be alone rather than to spend my energy working hard on setting boundaries for people that doesn't know how to treat others with basic kindness. I think we're indoctrinated to believe that being alone is a terrible thing and that it means you're a worthless failure- hardly anything in society is judged as harshly as being alone. After I stopped caring that people judge me for it, I realized that being alone is actually wonderful, the reason being that dealing with the toxicity of people is no longer consuming my life. I can spend my time focusing on other things; it's extremely liberating. I get what you're saying and I respect it, but for me- if people can't treat me with basic kindness and respect, I'm walking away. It's too energy draining and time consuming, and I want to fill my life with other things. I don't think I'm being "too sensitive". I think we live in a system that is based on competition, on performing and winning to prove one's worth, we're conditioned to compete to be better than others. The whole system is toxic, so people become toxic. I'm about the same age as you and I don't think things were better before, I think people are just becoming more aware of it now, and in my opinion that's a good thing.
Thank you for sharing your perspective; I really appreciate your honesty 😊. When I say everyone is toxic, what I mean is that all of us, including you, me, and everyone else, have both good and bad parts. It's important to stay humble and recognize that we all have our own weaknesses. Sometimes, we don't realize how our words and actions affect others, and we can unintentionally hurt people without even knowing it.
My focus is on bringing out the best in others and accepting people lovingly with all their flaws. Establishing boundaries doesn't mean we have to be alone. We can have gentle boundaries that allow us to adjust our time and energy based on the kindness people show us.
I respect your decision and understand that it's about finding what works best for you. Everyone's journey is different, and it's all about finding balance and peace in our own way.
@@DailyFastDiaries Thank you for feedback. I've been thinking a lot after watching your video and realized that isolating to avoid abuse is a boundary issue more than anything else. Not trusting yourself to be able to set the right boundaries to stay safe, you close yourself off completely to make sure you're safe. It's a trauma response and not really healthy in the long run. I like that you focus on finding a balance between personal safety while still staying open to connection. Looking forward to more videos🙂
Hey DFD. Thank you for your discussion on conflict resolution and bringing out the best in others. I enjoyed it and I want you to know that I appreciate your efforts and the work and skill that you put into producing these videos. I'm going to have to watch this again at least once. It is dense, in a good way, with useful information, or as you would say, it's succinct.🙂 We are similar but I'm about 10 years older than you so I was raised during slightly different times. Like you, I think I've always tried to be a good person and treat people the way I think they would like to be treated. I also have two sons, almost 10 years older. I used to have three sons but I lost my first born when he was 25. I agree with you when you point out that over 99% of people are not psychopaths. When my kids were little I used to tell them that while they should never ever get into cars with strangers, it was also true that the vast majority of people were good people. They just had to be safe and not take chances.
You were speaking about toxic people. As a Canadian observer, it appears to me that since Trump got into politics, Americans appear more toxic. I think some of the people already were toxic and Trump just emboldened them. Other people have become toxic to some degree from Trump's rhetoric and his actions. If it gets to be too much for you, feel free to move up to Canada. We are kind of known for being friendly, and you're right at the border. I'll tell you what, you move up here and I'll make you and your sons an authentic Canadian meal, with real maple syrup and some hearty Poutine.
I agree with you that one of the greatest skills is the ability to make those around you better. And I feel good telling you, I've become better because of what I've learned from you. Once again, thanks. And by all means, carry on. Calvin.
Thank you so much for your kind words and for sharing your thoughts. I'm glad you found the discussion on conflict resolution and bringing out the best in others helpful. It's always encouraging to hear that the content resonates with viewers.
I agree that we see more toxicity online, and it's challenging to determine whether people are more toxic in real life or if the anonymity of the internet brings out different behaviors. It's also possible that people who exhibit toxic behaviors are more likely to be vocal online.
I believe that while it's important to recognize and address toxic behaviors, we should also focus on understanding that none of us are perfect. Instead of cutting people out of our lives, we can work on bringing out the best in others and fostering healthier relationships. This approach can help combat the growing epidemic of loneliness and create more supportive communities.