What is EMDR & How Does It Work?
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- 01:00 Intro What is EMDR and how does it work? Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing. How EMDR was discovered by Francine Shapiro. Does EMDR work? Dr. Alexa Altman Psychologist, PhD
2:57 Will EMDR erase memories?
3:57 Is EMDR hypnosis?
5:16 Is it traumatizing? Preparing for EMDR, Who shouldn't do EMDR? How long does it take?
10:59 What is Brainspotting?
12:40 Is it good for PTSD or Trauma?
14:20 Can EMDR bring up false memories?
17:16 Can EMDR be done remotely/ virtually?
18:20 What does EMDR look like? What are the different ways that EMDR can be performed? Different types of bilateral stimulation, visual, tappers, auditory tone, auditory music, knee tapping, butterfly hug
25:55 Can I do EMDR on myself?
26:45 How to start EMDR & where to find out more information: www.emdria.org/
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CBT did absolutely nothing for me for years. EMDR turned my life around in about 6 sessions. It's not a cure-all and definitely won't work for everyone... but I personally cannot praise it enough
CBT or any group stuff did'nt do anything good for me.
Never done EDMR, But I'm interested in it.
I'm still learning about it.
How was it helpful? What were your issues and how emdr helped please let's know
I’m going to try it next month
I’m currently having trauma therapy for CPTSD and we’re in the preparation stage. This video was so helpful and I now understand why my therapist couldn’t go straight into using EMDR with me. I also feel like I’ve got much better insight as what to expect when we do actually get onto that stage. Thanks a million. And to anyone who has also experienced trauma (especially complex trauma) my heart goes out to you. I know how hard it is living with the aftermath of it every day. Really hoping that my current treatment works and I can finally move on, rather than constantly trying to bandage over a very old gaping wound.
EMDR was the best decision that my therapist and I made in my treatment plan. I used a light box and would follow a light back and forth. Doing EMDR really helped me get unstuck where I was in my healing process.
I am so glad it was helpful Sadie!!! And thank you for sharing!! xoxo
EMDR changed everything for me. Definitely tough dealing with during the pandemic because it was the only time I left the house. I would come home exhausted and need a nap. But it got easier as time went on and now my CPTSD symptoms are very manageable and not debilitating like they used to be
I am so glad it was helpful for you!!! xoxo
I’m so pleased that EMDR worked so well for you. I’m really hoping it does the same for me. CPTSD is so debilitating and it’s wonderful that you’ve found something that has helped you.
How long did it take for it to start working?
Same!!!!! Also have CPTSD and EMDR literally changed my life in such a HUGE way!!!!
@@shabnajchowdhury9814 I did emdr once a week for probably 8 months total but id say the hardest part was the first 4 months or so. After that at least for me it started to taper down to more analysis of the events and feelings because I could now go into greater detail or be more present during our sessions. The biggest thing id say is make sure you take downtime afterward your brain still keeps processing long after the session so be gentle with yourself
I'm a runner. I've always found trail running to be therapeutic but after watching this, EMDR makes sense. This video makes me wonder if my running helps me mentally. When I run, I'm in my own mind thinking about (processing) my problems, achievements, encounters, joys, failures, losses, triumphs, mistakes, progresses in life, wrongs against me, etc., and at the same time staying grounded by enjoying the present moment.
I love the dog! The dog is so calming and relaxing when talking about a difficult topic. I want to do EMDR but I’m going to a hospital based treatment program first to get stable. I’m on a waitlist.
Hey Stephanie. Just hoping you’re doing okay! A waitlist is insane, and I’m so sorry. You’re gonna make it!!
@@missfrizzle582 thank you. I’m still waiting. It’s annoying. I’m struggling daily!
It's amazing how connected we are to our eyes. Eye contact alone can make us feel so secure and close to someone else. It's no wonder that it's also a deeply powerful way to process our traumas.
I've been so excited about this video! I've been doing EMDR on and off for years and it's so helpful! Xx
Yay!! xoxo
EMDR has helped me tremendously move through places where I was stuck. I felt like I would never get over some things until I went through this.
EMDR saved me ❤️
Second that!! Amazing 🙌🏻
I'd love to see a whole video about brainspotting. There's so little information out there (available to the general public, anyway) and it would be great to hear from someone who's actually used the technique with clients. I'd love to know how it differs from EMDR and if there are certain clients it tends to work better for - or worse for - than others.
I did two sessions of brainspotting with my therapist about 6 months after weekly talk appointments. I absolutely believe in it’s benefits! The thing that came out for me was not what most anyone would even label as trauma, but the little girl who still lives in my brain felt as if my Mom treated me like a trained monkey to get me to sing whenever company was over. I guess when you pair that with an emotionally unavailable mother, it’s bound to make a child feel like just a commodity.
That session even concerned my therapist because I dissociated for a bit, but the healing that came out of it was almost immediate from that day going forward. It helped heal those feelings of loneliness I’d felt for years and finally helped me recognize I didn’t need to identify with them anymore. ❤
Doing EMDR currently in therapy
I hope it's helpful and healing :) xoxo
@@Katimorton definitely opening a lot of doors to different things to work through. thanks katie ❤️
I had two EMDR sessions prior to COVID shutting everything down. There really was no preparation work for it. He told me he was licensed to practice EMDR in the therapy session prior to starting and to bring it up next time if I wanted to try it. I did remind him the following session since he forgot about it. He just jumped right into it with me, handing me the paddles and telling me to focus on a traumatic event and talk about it. I don't know what the "preparation" phase of EMDR is supposed to look like, but something about the way he handled it felt "off" to me. I have a history of dissociation and suicidal ideation for the last 27 years. Even though I did tell him about that, there was no discussion about any of it in relation to EMDR. I'm actually glad COVID shut everything down when it did because I didn't feel comfortable doing EMDR with that therapist. I couldn't put that into words at the time; but honestly, I don't think it would have mattered even if I did. My experience at that facility was not a good one.
I’m really sorry this was your experience :( I’ve been doing EMDR with my therapist for about 3 months, and we had at least 3 sessions of preparation. We tested which form of light/movement would work for me, created a “safe place” I can return to at the end of my sessions, and then we picked out some traumatic memories and put them in chronological order. It felt really helpful to prep, so I wasn’t just jumping off into the deep end. I hope you’re able to give it another shot with a more suitable therapist! ❤️
I’ve been doing EMDR weekly for a month or so now and it’s truly so wonderfully helpful! I’m able to go about most my day with out large triggers and it’s such a relief. I recommend it to everyone to try!
I'm about to do it in under a month from now. Here's to new knowledge and self development
I've watched this video and I still don't really get it. Are these taps or eye movements to be executed while the therapist reframes a memory? Are you supposed to tap / move eyes while you remember something traumatic and the therapist says something to you??
Hi Kati, thank you for the informative video! EMDR worked for me. I was assaulted by a date last year and experienced high levels of distress, it was so hard to calm down since my body felt like it was constantly in fight or flight mode. I have done a total of 4 sessions and on my way to a 5th one. I am happy to report that I feel more calm and relaxed. I still get anxious leaving the house, but it’s nowhere near as terrifying as it was before. EMDR, yoga and a lot of self care helped me. Wishing everyone the best on their healing journey! 🙏
Thanks I am trying the same thing I was assaulted a few years ago, and have been through a lot of verbal abuse it sounds like it’ll be a good help
EMDR saved me after experiencing a traumatic event 13 years ago! I’m unsure I would have survived the initial period of PTSD had I been offered this treatment. It was *EXTREMELY* difficult process for me. After every session; for 6 months; I would be physically and mentally exhausted. About a year later, I began to have unmanageable flashbacks. I went back for more EMDR with a different Psychologist and it was all wrong. The Therapist makes a *HUGE* difference!!
That’s insane, I’m in the process of getting an emdr therapist. Pray I get the right one!
THE TIMING OF THIS VIDEO!!!! I’m thinking of doing my project in my Counselling paper on THIS!!!!
Yay!! I hope it was helpful :) xoxo
This is crazy good timing.. I have been subscribed to you for years! I am finally going to a very good trauma therapist tomorrow. I have been diagnosed with CPTSD, MDD and MAD.
I have done CBT, mindfulness etc. I still seem stuck.
My question is .. I have a LOT of amnesia about terrible things as a child ( death/ sucide attempt involved... long term neglect). I can remember just a couple images of my childhood. Will EMDR help me even though I can't remember most things? Also I dissociate a lot.
Could you also make a video about Somatic Experiencing, please? That helped me even more than EMDR which was also helpful but in a different way 😊👍
It was just a coincidence that the therapist also did Somatic Experiencing. Otherwise I wouldn't even have known what it was. Now I totally recommend it for people with trauma, both shock trauma and developmental trauma.
I've just heard about emdr for the first time but I'm also impressed by what Kati says about how some memories can be neutral and how others are charged with emotion, I never actually thought abut this before. Interested in learning more about how emdr is benefitial in processing those emotionally charged memories/trauma
I have PTSD from a horrible event that happened in 1997. Domestic violence related torture, GSW and slow long recovery, with the resulting nightmares and guilt. Fast forward to 3 years ago, I did a couple of EMDR sessions with my counselor. At the time, I didn't really feel like it was helping. I had horrible unexplained foot pain for several years and was trying to find any way to deal with it, or figure out why I had it. (no physical reason). Shortly after these EMDR sessions, my pain started going away. She called it conversion disorder. Anyway, it became manageable because I realized it was my brain manifesting stress in pain in my feet. Since that time I started hiking and really enjoyed it!! But shortly after getting into this, I fell and broke both ankles while I was out hiking. The pain returned, magnified for months and months during and after my recovery. My entire life changed with those events. I knew my recovery was not 'normal' because of the horrible burning pain that did not relate to the healing of my broken ankles. My job became more stressful, the pandemic changed things and created more stress. Ultimately I gained a lot of weight, quit my job, and spent 3 months trying to recover from the stress. I got a new job and the stress is almost non existent now, but I feel flat now. Like I do not want to do anything with family, friends, or any of the things that I used to enjoy. Possibly fearing that something enjoyable would lead to something traumatic (like my enjoyment of hiking lead to my broken ankles). I have been hiking since that event, but it's not the same. I was constantly watching every step and it was more mentally exhausting than fun. I did it several times to see if that would wear off.. it did not. Walking on paved trails was okay, but it hurt my feet and my other joints if I walked long enough to get the EMDR effect. I found your videos searching for something that I could do to get myself out of this rut. My feet do not hurt like they did before, so I do not think it's stress. I just feel flat, no emotion. I had two pets die in December and I really felt nothing at all. I don't know if you will read this, but it is really more therapy for me to just put it out there I guess and figure it out. I will try some EMDR here in my office, then maybe get out and walk around the neighborhood when it stops raining.. thanks.
I wonder if reading has a similar effect because it causes your eyes to move back and forth as well.
Hah I scrolled past this comment exactly as I thought of the same question. Definitely curious about this too. Lots of entertainment media kind of take control over the subconscious tiny gestures that your body is probably doing all the time, and that must have some subtle-body and mental effects, regardless the text.
@@michelottens6083 I wonder if watching TV and movies can also have the same affect.
I've done EMDR in therapy a couple of times and I did the eye movement one for the first time yesterday- it felt a bit strange at first but that's because I had to think about OCD intrusive thoughts (instead of avoiding them!!) but I look forward to being more comfortable with it :)
This is perfect timing for me! My therapist started talking about us exploring EMDR. Thank you for the much needed info!
I’m trying EMDR therapy currently (online with a new therapist) and I can’t get into it. I have my masters in Psychology and I can’t get past the eye movement stuff. My mind just thinks “I’m looking at a ball going back and forth. This is ridiculous.”
We used a ticking sound app with my eyes closed. We got to choose speed, the ticking sound is like the movement of the seconds arm on a clock. Worked like a charm.
I definitely couldn't do the eye movement one, unless they could off-center it from their face, because i have issues with eye contact 😂
EMDR changed my life. It is the hardest thing I've ever done, and wrecks me for days in between sessions, but it absolutely puts the memories where I have control of them.
EMDR saved my life, it's truly amazing how effective it is. My therapist retired before I could work on everything I needed to and I haven't been able to find another who does EMDR.
EMDR helped me SO MUCH with my CPTSD. It got rid of triggers I thought I'd have my entire life and helped me put parts of my abusive childhood behind me. I wish I could have continued but he had to leave the practice.
I have done my first session. It was very hard and emotional. I think it means that it would help me. I plan to go continue it but I’m a little bit scared. I have doubts,but at this point I want some relief from my symptoms. My current therapist recommended emdr.
My counselor suggested EMDR to me after she noticed I was already moving my eyes back and forth during my session. We then shifted into Brain spotting which again I was also already kind of doing on my own. LIFE CHANGING!!!!!! Seriously changing my life and so drastically improved my day to day functioning and just enjoyment of life!
That dog is adorbs!!!
I usually really like your videos, but this time I'll have to say this: I am only 10 minutes in and I'm already annoyed at how many times you have cut your guest speaker off while she was in the middle of a sentence. If that was me, I would have probably mentioned something to the lines of asking you why you invited me over as a specialist if you were going to keep interrupting me. I understand that this can be more acceptable between friends, and the two of you clearly seem to get along well, but to those of us watching from home, that's definitely noticeable. Maybe something to keep in mind for future guests?
Idk if EMDR would be good/useful for BPD 🤨🧐
Ok but how do you get therapy for trauma when you were traumatized BY EMDR?
I have PTSD and I did EMDR with this one therapist. I always felt uncomfortable when doing it and didn't understand what was going on and she would say "Just go with it" and I didn't want to do it. So after abt 6months with her I got a new therapist-I've been doing talk therapy with her for 3 years now and I had explained to her at one point how my other therapist had done EMDR.
My current therapist said that the other one didn't do it right and considering my other symptoms at the time she basically re-traumatized me and I've also had bad feelings abt EBDR since and I haven't wanted to do it even with my current therapist-so basically i've been traumatized by EMDR-so how do i fix that?!
OMG Kati went to TX and FINALLY got a dog!
Id done talk therapy (ACT&CBT) for over 10 years and I needed that first to understand cognitively what I was experiencing and acknowledge hurts and how they impact how I feel and act today BUT THEN I was ready for EMDR and I can’t even praise it enough. I have recovered feelings from my childhood that I was able to validate a and cognitively I was like like meh it was painful but whatever and then I FELT it again and was able to arrive at such deep self compassion and love. And weirdly the memories and flashes that come back to me always seem random at first but then they ALWAYS lead to THE thought or realization that I needed to come to 🥹 I do feel quite tired after sessions but more in a release/ relaxed type of way (like after a massage almost? But for the brain lol)
Is it only movement back and forth without dialog or thinking of what's being worked on? I used to do PSYCH-K and they always taught about "whole brain", connecting left and right hemisphere of the brain.
I think the kind of insurance you have affects the kind of treatment you get. when I was on private insurance I feel like I had much better therapists than when I was on Medicaid. i have noticed this when going to the ER as well.
It's true. It is not fair but it is true
Completely true. Even here in Canada. Shouldn't be this way but sadly it is.
Re: Hypnosis...It actually really is helpful for very specific things, and people should feel comfortable seeking it as a treatment from psychotherapists who offer it.
Before I began my trauma work, I sought hypnotherapy to get over test taking anxiety related to a very specific test and a very specific fear I had. Hypnosis...gently introducing a better script to my brain, made it possible for me to pass the certification test, and it has stuck.
A friend, who would quack like a duck for fun, could force his eyes to shake side to side.
Does anyone have a video link to their resilience chart they spoke of around 9:25?
It's called the Window of Tolerance. Here's a brief video that explains the concept. Hope this helps 🤞🏻
th-cam.com/video/vYab1q5N9-U/w-d-xo.html
connecting hemispheres of the brain to deal with trauma? let's drop some acid, folks! mmmm, the healing power of acid.
I found EMDR to be such a helpful treatment…. When I narrate my trauma I find it doesn’t help resolve it, I’m just blocked off it. When I’m moving through my EMDR session I can get into big things and get passed those things
Has anybody here used EMDR for CRPS ? and if so how successful were they with this therapy?
With my personal experience, it just didn’t do much for me.. maybe I was doing it wrong or something like that. Or maybe I wasn’t completely comfortable with the therapist.. I’m really not sure but I’d love to try it again. I wasn’t really educated on what it is until now! Thank you for this video ❤️❤️
Hey everyone! I had a quick (sorta lol) question regarding emdr. I've been doing emdr for about 2? Years now and I seem to either be hitting a wall with my progress Or perhaps my therapist isn't using all of her tools in her tool belt? Let me first start off by saying that I personally think she's a good emdr specialist and is Very welcoming. However, after the emdr sessions? I just feel SO drained and I don't know what to fill that New space with that was previously clogged with horrible memories while I'm feeling things out. In a way, am I to be a empty ice cream container that was once filled with mold? Or will I be refilled and if so, is that up to me, the therapy or the specialist? Thanks!
I need EMDR but I've been scared to try it so thanks for the video!
Of course! So glad it was helpful :) xoxo
How do you do EMDR when you have chronic 17 years of daily emotional abuse.
This was a great video! Definitely better than I thought it would be. Seeing the different ways EMDR could be practiced was eye opening, too. Thank you so much for all you do for us. Have you thought about getting your dog yet? Remember, adopt, don't shop! Love you! 💙
In fourth grade, I had a friend who'd studied some hypnosis. I asked him to try it on me. As I reached a certain level of relaxation, my face kept involuntarily twitching and waking me up. It's like some subconscious part of me didn't want to be made vulnerable.
My former (now retired) therapist was really gung-ho about EMDR in the late 90's to early 2000. However, when I moved back to the Seattle area in 2015, my therapist was not saying kind words about EMDR and told me she had wasted too many years on it, calling it "New Age bulls*it". Note: She told me her opinion of EMDR after we had concluded therapy together. I never asked her about it after she mentioned it in the 90's. I don't know what to think. My ex-therapist was an excellent psychotherapist. I still miss her.
Unless she had a traumatic experience of the "new-age", if not just paid to say that?
And/or both?
I will try this! Happy Monday Kati!! Much love and appreciation!!
this was good and i might want to try emdr for myself, thanks for posting and talking about this kati
When I was in residential for 5 months I used this so helpful totally recommend it’s not for everyone though! Thanks for the video
Seriously though thanks a lot. My therapist has suggested it to me a couple times but I’m super nervous about it
With EMDR, I would disassociate, so quickly I couldn’t get through the process. I had a great therapist with long time trust. I knew she would keep me safe.
Edit: At 13.56 she said something about being able to do EMDR with disassociate, but I am not hearing what she said. I played it back a couple of times but not catching it? Can someone let me know?
You can turn on the subtitles. It seems like she said that with disassociation they have to work (again) with staying in the present. I think she means using grounding techniques etc.
I kept paying attention to the fluffy dog.
I get triggered even watching someone tap someone else's legs. Dang.
Probably helps with burnout idk
Is it safe to just listen to emdr without Looking at it?
I have been doing emdr for the last few months.
This is an amazing channel. I have been learning a lot
Awe I am so glad :) xoxo
EMDR retraumatized me big time. I couldn't sleep for 3 days or nights and my heart kept racing. It was awful!!! But brainspotting DID work. I found it much less stimulating.
5:14/5:22 - Based on personal experience, I'd say your thinking is spot-on here, Kati. I've had a re-traumatizing experience with EMDR, with a therapist that I think just wasn't very good... and I've gotten significant benefit from EMDR, with more skillful practitioners. So... yeah. Some caution is warranted, without saying it's a problematic technique overall. Just one that requires good skill and good training, and good client/therapist relationship and communication.
Been doing EMDR for months now and not sure what changes I’m supposed to be noticing, if any at all…. I can’t tell if it’s doing anything. maybe I’m doing it wrong? Or does it just take time? Maybe EMDR just doesn’t work for me. I don’t know.
Kati / Alexa. I've been having bad flashback nightmares to my trauma. Sometimes where I have holes my brain makes stuff up. My therapist brought up possible doing EMDR . She doesn't do it but her thought was it wouldn't work because she feels my brain wants answers. She things the dreams are more centered around where I have blank spots and want answers. Would EMDR work. Or is EMDR more for numbing the memories ? I hope this makes sense.
So excited for these videos with Dr Altman but also PUPPYYYY 😍😍😍😍
Dr. Alexa is back!❤️
Hi Kati,
What is the difference between EMDR therapy and Rewind therapy. I'm currently working on resources with my therapist before we start. I have found the image therapy really interesting. When I search Rewind therapy you have a TV and are in charge of the remote control? I much prefer it when you explain things as your wording is amazing to understand. 😊
The original research by Francine Shapiro after she conducted studies: onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1002/jts.2490020207. It's paywalled but I think it's still important to state that she didn't develop the procedure just off the back of a walk in the park. Psychology is a science.
I noticed that when im in a high stress/anxiety mode, my eyes feel like they're going back and forth. Interesting to think that maybe my body was trying to regulate itself. I've never done EMDR in therapy, so im not sure how it works. It caught my attention tho! At the time, i almost felt like I could be dissociation and like my brain wanted to escape. I def tried being more mindful of myself during and tried coping the best I could at the moment (I happened to be at work) .. it took me a couple days to work thru but it did pass. EMDR seems so interesting. Our brains are amazing organs for sure.
Would it have a range on how bad the trauma is such as rape apposed to the elevator brkes failings..as well as the underlying causes of righ to left brain 🧠physical conflicts neurological speaking?
Thank you Kati for doing this episode. I've been aware of EMDR for a couple years but mostly dismissed it for myself because of the primary modality: eye movement. I had no idea you could use "tappers" and other items instead. As an autistic person, the eye movement would have (for me) been intensely uncomfortable. But the physical tactile of being able to hold something that's producing the bilateral trigger....in a way, you just gave me an "a ha!" moment. So thank you. I might seriously consider this for my CPTSD in the near future.
I have PTSD (long story, I've almost died twice) and EMDR is life!
I really loved how informative this video was thank you Kati and Dr Alexa Altman. looking forward for more videos in the future
Is the book released yet? Not until September? Sad face, but with hope for the not-too-distant future.
I really liked the butterfly hug tapping it felt really soothing. I love the dog in the background very calming.
The tapping and touching part was overwhelming for me. 😨😨
Your dog is like my fog except my dog is like a Tasmanian devil when on my knee (nine months)
Very interesting topic but couldn’t watch because of all the dog petting.
I am hoping it works for me. I tried it once but I don’t think the therapist knew how to work with new patients.
I have had great success using EMDR with kiddos
omg, it makes me wonder if techno music that has that back and forth can do similar things for the brain. I know that it helps me focus and process things and relieves stress.
Hello
Thanks for providing classical information. Love from India
Hi
When I saw an Emdr therapist she said it didn’t really matter which tapping technique you used so this is interesting she said to use the one that makes you feel most grounded
My first EMDR appointment is tomorrow….😬
When my parents divorced I was 2 and my mom grabbed me the night she left…. We lived in a car for who knows how long. My dad found us in a half way house and he grabbed me, but before he could take me home, the car was surrounded by a crowd and the plugs of the engine were pulled… cops were called and i was given back to my mom. My dad is in the process of fighting for custody of me and one night my mom and her new boyfriend came to my dads house with me and told him that they would not contest custody if they got a TV and $1000. So obviously my dad did that and that’s how I stayed with my dad. It was 1971 so it was not common for dad to get custody back then… I asked my dad years later when I was an adult to tell me what happened and that’s what he told me. I do have a couple of non-specific memories that I think relate back to then but beyond that I don’t remember anything. That’s my initial trauma. I’m sure it affected me, my mom was very inconsistent coming around over the years. She never called she would show up maybe once a year she would never write... But when you don’t really remember the initial trauma how the heck can you go through trauma therapy?
OK, just hearing the fact that it is a neutral thing, that initial trauma is a neutral thing to me. But it affected me throughout the rest of my life which builds up on things which are still affecting me today. Not sure how to deal with that…
Any tips on how do we choose between EMDR and Tapping? I tried EMDR but I did not like my therapist so I stopped. It’s hard to find a good EMDR therapist and now I’m trying EFT but I still wonder if EMDR is still better for my situation.
My emdr therapist started me off with EFT, which surprised me because I didn't really believe in EFT, I had tried it on my own before going to her. But when I saw that she was doing eft to start off with, I stated believing in it and have used it alongside emdr and honestly both have their place for me depending on the situation, and that still stands true all this time later. So both along with even other therapies will work, you just have to find what works for you
Really great Kati. I can see how all your learning of trauma from your book really came alive in this video.
People need to understand that the traumas are also not just their's and far worse out there and like in agricuture and you need to learn and adapt from them and not enable the fear of them?
Agriculture has been a global hlocaust of 1 billion animals going through the worst, before being ended, by being bought by the trfficking system it is, if not vegan yet?
And of stolen children?
Slavry at all levels of colonial capitalism?
I have no idea what you said. Just want to pet the doggo!!
Starting emdr in August after my therapist gets trained
I don't know anything about EMDR
Very good to know l can get help