It’s the fact that, without fail, the parents always have a massive bed in their own private room (aka the baby factory) with real doors and 4 walls. All the while their 7th born is sleeping on the kitchen table.
i remember one where the daughter’s only wish was to stay in a hotel for her birthday and the mom kept saying “she loves the van she just wanted a change of environment!”
oh yeah it’s the same family who video their daughter punishment in this video. and they didn’t even give her a hotel room, instead they get an apartment/air bnb and everyone cram into that one apartment. with her wish i would’ve guess that she wants some alone time in her hotel room just enjoying it herself
Didn't the mom also admit said birthday kid always ask for hotel rooms for their birthdays? Mom said it off hand like the kid was "quirky" for wanting to not sleep in a coffin for a night.
yes FamilyOfNomads. that same daughter ended up with an eating disorder and the mom said "we though she had anorexia but we didnt realize how bad it was" so they literally knew something was up but didnt care until it got more severe
@@lizzynoelle1959 I’m so glad someone else sees this! Honestly this family screams “my kids are just accessories”. That poor kid is SO mentally unwell, she had such a severe ED that she was hospitalized for SIX MONTHS while her POS parents went traveling. The mother literally has flown to Florida to get a haircut but left her poor defenseless struggling daughter at a hospital for an eating disorder that was obviously reactionary to her surroundings. Then they post a video about how “these things are no one’s fault” basically saying “we 100% aren’t to blame this is just something that happens” Like no tf it’s not. I hate them and I hate how they have this like army of mindless zombies who regurgitate praise back to them on every single video. It feels like a cult anytime on of their shorts pops up.
I truly feel for these children, especially the fact that that one girl was humiliated online because she “didn’t do the chores,” and these parents sharing her punishment online is just horrible.
Thinking on it, why even present this as a punishment? OK, your kid wanted to not do her chore. Then just let her know that she will have to do it tomorrow. That isn't a punishment, that is just honest time management. Presenting it as this punishment is just trying make yourself look tougher than you are.
@@rosesweetcharlotte also I feel like it teaches the kid that chores are just punishments and not something you do because you need to because it will help you if that makes sense
@@2turg_2furious Exactly. Chores are just things which have to be done. I definitely did my chores better when I felt like I didn't HAVE to do them or worse things would happen
Not to mention creating a child who will be a perfect victim of capitalist exploitation, being psychologically primed since childhood to know that your worth is based on your ability and willingness to do physical labor.
Never forget the original van lifers, The Thornberries, and how much their eldest hated it. Eliza may have loved the adventure and exploration, but she was pretty young. Debbie was a teenager with no structured life or social group and was so desperate for it that she begged to go to boarding school.
Whats really concerning is that these parents get to control their kids 24/7. No school, no friends, no outside hobbies. These kids have no one to help them, no one to confide in. And who knows what goes on behind closed doors...I hope they at least sue their parents for the money they were forced to generate for them.
Not to mention, with no address and never staying in one place, these families could essentially pick up and run whenever they feel like it if somebody gets smart enough to call CPS
In high school, I had some family issues where for the first semester of my sophomore year, I needed to stay with my grandfather in his diesel pusher RV. Whilst I had a fantastic relationship with my grandfather, he still stressed the idea of privacy and having my own bedroom as a teenager whilst living in an RV setup. This man, a 64 year old retired veteran and firefighter, pending a cancer diagnosis, GAVE HIS 15 YR OLD GRANDDAUGHTER HIS ENTIRE BEDROOM. I feel so guilty as an adult when I think of the back pain and struggle this sleeping arrangement must have gave him, but OH MY GOD do I have the utmost respect for him to be so mindful about my comfort in camper style living. If my grandfather could give a bedroom to a kid in an RV, these parents most definitely should, or avoid the livestyle entirely!
10:55 when my lego collection has a far bigger shelf than actual human beings you know something’s wrong especially when the parents have a comically large bed that takes up 1/3 of the rv
I once saw a woman on TH-cam who lives in a van. She has a queen(ish) sized bed with no kids and a dog. She’s really nice to watch and her dog has a lot of room on her bed. She’s the *only* van life creator I actually watch.
@@ianaamdan The problem with every alternative living youtube trend is that the second any of them get traction they got caught in a cycle of one upmanship that eventually complete guts whatever made the trend interesting in the first place. There's a similar trend with hobby channels where you start watching someone when they're making furniture with basic tools and you're really digging it. Five years later and they're popping things on their CNC milling machine . . .
I was almost a van kid. My parents moved across the country to get away from toxic family. They were understandably stoked and wanted to cruise the coast in a beat-up 2000 Toyata Corolla. They had the time of their lives until 3 year old me asked to go "home" and pointed to a hotel. That's when it hit them that traveling forever wasn't good for me. They immediately moved us into a rental home with my very own bedroom. It wasn't very big, but that house gave me a stable childhood and a good education. It's a story that proves to me that my parents love me unconditionally.
Due to our situation, when I was 16-17 my mom and I had to live in a camper for a brief period of time after we moved from state to state. And thinking back, she let me have the bedroom area. It was tiny, and had a sliding screen for a door, but I was comfortable, and she let me have that privacy while she slept on the couch in the living area. Seeing these parents just makes me appreciate how my mom handled things.
I’m school friends with a child from The Family Of Nomads, and I can tell you, she disappeared for a long while due to medical issues, but she couldn’t tell us anything, most likely due to her parents. We thought she died, when we say she wasn’t able to tell us anything, we mean ANYTHING.
I remember seeing a van life were the kid literally asked to go to a Hotel for their birthday, just a normal none special hotel, just to be able to sleep in a normal bed. That broke my heart
The fact that two of the children in the first clip are sleeping on the actual floor with no mat or anything and the parents have no problem with that is upsetting to say the least.
i've seen the comments section on that video, and seeing the creators like commenters who are like "well haven't YOU slept on the floor before?" And like. That's besides the point. Yes it could be normal to sleep on the floor but only like on the veeeeeeeeeeery occasion like sleep overs, staying over at a family's house... those once in a lifetime scenarios... but on a TINY VAN? with MULTIPLE CHILDREN? Even people who sleep on the floor needs to have comfortable mattresses/padding, or that they'd use something like a futon, etc. But on the floor, bare, and only having some shit like a sleeping bag is just sad.
As someone who due to financial reasons had to sleep in the same bed as their mother till they were 12. Seeing these people willing do this to their children just boils my blood.
I shared a bed with my mom, dad, AND sister for YEARS. Lemme tell you it was hard even tho i was used to it. I didnt have ANY privacy. and for these parents to CHOOSE to do this it blows my mind
I shared a room w my brother and parents till i was like 7 or 8 and then shared a room w my younger brother till i was like 12. Then i shared a room w my grandma till i was 14 when after surgery she moved into my older brothers room and in result i lived w my brother untill my grandma died and he moved back at round 15. The privacy i have now is yhe best thing that ever happened to me. I dont get the parents that force their kids to share rooms if they have enough money not to. I get that my family doesnt have enough money so i understand y i didnt have my privacy for a long time, but purposefully people doing that infuriates me.
@@hyde3155 i had to share a room with my brother till i was about 10. i feel bad for these kids truly, the parents have a choice to let their kids have privacy but they dont give them it. it boils my blood.
Molly didn’t do her chores last night, so we stopped the bus and kicked her off to survive on her own in the forrest. We will be back in a week to check on her progress.
Molly celebrates her newfound freedom, independence, and privacy from living in the forest. "Much roomier than the van," a hiker reports to have heard.
@@ShadoeLandman Molly has become one with the beats and the trees and reports that she will never go back to van life. She makes money by posting weekly to her TH-cam channel, and by earning tips through teaching lost hikers how to survive till help arrives.
Remember when a Japanese couple did this to their kid to "teach him a lesson?" In bear country? The kid was ultimately found alive and safe, but these people seem like they'd defend their decision to the death.
Seems like a perfect set up for abuse. Always on the move, so teachers, neighbours, doctors, friends etc, can't notice something is going on with the kids. Kids can't form any relations with any other adult, so they have no one, no 'safe' adult to turn to if they need to.
I'm pretty sure they're typical narcissists, judging by their inability to grasp the simple fact their kids need certain basic things and their reaction to backlash. When someone responds with "well you're still giving me engagement by commenting so the joke's on you HAHAHAHA" it's commonly because they can't understand that the person opposing them isn't out to make them feel as much pain as possible, and even if they are, they realize their contribution through engagement is so small that it doesn't matter. It's a "mommy's special stash" amount of copium to want to grasp at something so small just to feel like you're on top as much as possible. Even in middle school I found that argument to be beyond silly, idk what their mental age has to be.
Also, everything the children are doing is probably monitored. Almost all of the families shown in this vid only have a thin curtain separating each of the rooms, so there is no way these children have ever felt the sweet feeling of actually having any privacy.
Anytime a "bedroom" for children is primarily another space, like a living room or dining room for adults, that space will not feel like the child's space. I'm a firm believer that tiny houses can be done amazingly well, but you have to actually incorporate your children into the design and not tack them on as an afterthought
Totally agree. A couple was featured on a TH-cam channel regarding their tiny home, and their son’s bed was a dog bed put on the bottom shelf of their clothes drawer…. Everyone was asking what happens when the couple wants alone time, and some one said they shut the drawer 🤣💀.
Especially not 12 of them These people do not deserve kids. If you are not willing to learn from the first to prepare for them because they DESERVE IT or at least do not put them through the same struggle as the first little one then you do not care for them and it makes you a psycho
Yeah. I didn't have it nearly this bad, but my room was also "the guest room" ie, none of my stuff was in there, and any adult who came to visit meant I was turfed out onto the pull out sofa. That alone has given me a complex - I'm so fierce about my stuff and my space because of it, and that was inside a house where I got an education and socialisation. These poor buggers...
I live in a poorer state, even my mom forced one of her drugged out friends to give the only bedroom of his trailer to his 4-5 year old toddler. "If you have a kid, they deserve a space to theirself. You don't make them suffer for your actions, you give them as much privacy as you can." Is exactly what she told him. All of these adults can't even do that much. They should be putting theirself in shelves and drawers far before they ever make their kids bunk up and sleep there. Give them as much privacy as priority before yourself. They have no respect for these kids, they're just lining them up like objects on the literal shelves of their 'home'. It's disgusting.
I remember a time I moved from my house and changed 5 rental flats in 2 weeks, when eventually my dog started to pull me to random house porches and refused to go. He wanted to stay somewhere at last. And imagine what a child must feel.
Yep I saw that that made me sick and she wouldn’t specify this one sleeping on the floor. She would say Timmys sleeps here So she didn’t have to explain that her child is literally sleeping on the freaking floor. It’s so sad people think this is acceptable.
shouldn't parents be the ones who sacrifice their comfort for their children, not the other way? Like of course parents are human beings and should be comfortable, but not at the expense of their children
agreed. my house only had two bedrooms that arent the master bedrolm, and theres 3 of us, so my brothers always shared a room until recently when one now lives in the sunroom (its basically just another bedroom at this point). teens need their own spaces to express themselves, id hate it if i had to share because my room is basically where i decirate with all the things i love.
@user-md7dk9cn8e THIS. My mom knows that me and my brother are older and we have our own bedrooms and privacy. _We have a whole upstairs to ourselves.._
The "kid shelf sized accessory" thing made me think of a deeper rooted issue too, the fact so many parents keep having kids just because they love the "baby stage" and how "cute they are" but neglect them when they're older and god forbid development their own thoughts and personality.
Yes! We should start asking "do you want to be a parent" instead of "do you want a baby" because it puts more emphasis on "there's more than the baby stage". Also, this question should only be asked if we *know* it's okay for the person, because you never know what people are struggling with (like infertility, miscarriage, wanting to be child free).
In the case of Christians, there is no need to ask. They're gambling, ready to win. One day, a bright light will shine out of the cervix and then they know...he's back! And all those Christian! women want to be that woman.
My mom is like this. She concieved because she wanted a baby daughter, not a child, nor an adult. I'm a guy, and grew out of the age she wanted when i was 8. She's never wanted me, especially after i grew past her "cute little object" age. It messes you up
yes my gosh! my own mother dragged us around like a burden from state to state and when we finally stopped moving she decided she had enough and i was old enough to abandon me with my early 20s brothers for a kid that is in no way related to her, just a kid that doesn’t see her for who she is. i feel sorry for the kid often because she really doesn’t deserve my “mother” as a “parent” or her father as one either. they’re both high school drama queens..poor kid having to deal with BOTH of them?
In Stardew Valley - the family in the trailer, the parent Pam sleeps on the couch and she made sure the daughter Penny has a proper room with a door. Pam is a struggling alcoholic and even she has her priorities set right. Unlike these folks!
@@emilypurdy2097 Why would someone buy likes for a random comment on a random video? Also, people can like but not comment. That just means they appreciate the input, but have nothing to add on.
Somehow, the way you phrased that, made it plain to me that "No Electronics," as a punishment of a kid at any housing level, sounds suspiciously like, "You can't call for help while the memory is fresh!" 😢
Not just no technology but also added the punishment of CANT PLAY OUTSIDE! And ya that’s until they finish all their chores but it’s a small child they deserve brakes and to try and push them away from playing outside is insane
Even that is a low bar compared to real estate requirements: it's not a bedroom without a window (fire safety) and a closet. So these van life people are very very very below minimum standards.
There's a book written by a woman who was raised on a boat. One day her parents decided to sell their house in England, buy a yacht and sail through the world. Let me tell you - she had to work very, very hard to get education and build a life for herself, and she doesn't have warm feelings for her parents.
Thank you for the book title! I was gonna say, this video and this book reminds me of another book, The Glass Castle by Jeanette Walls, an autobiographical memoir. The family's situation is different compared to this book as they had to scrape to get by throughout certain points of the authors life, but the parents do follow the drifter/nomadic lifestyle, and does cover adult themes such as abuse, alcoholism and brief sexual assault. I read it in school and it moved me a lot. I won't get into spoilers but it does end on a lighter/bittersweet tone, mainly in regards to how the author views her life and her parents, but relating to this video, quite frankly there would be no shame if the kids resent their parents for this van life and I hope they get out of it and are able to get their lives back on track. It really won't be easy and it's something I feel like I'd lose sleep over on their behalf. These parents I don't think are able to fathom what this will do to their children.
I grew up like this :))) With four other siblings and two pets!! Can confirm IT ABSOLUTELY SUCKS. No privacy, no socialization, no education, no stability or consistency, little to no room for your stuff, and we definitely heard the horizontal tango more than once. AND I actually do have chronic back pain from sleeping on a shelf!! Traumatizing and abusive. I'm glad to be out of there. This video is so painfully spot on.
@@keplrr I’m doing a lot better! I have my own apartment now and plenty of space to breath. Genuinely hate that this sort of thing isn’t more talked about. Kids shouldn’t be treated like luggage for parents to pack up and move around as they please.
As someone who had to share a normal sized bedroom with their sibling when they were younger, I hated it and was so excited to get my own room- I can't imagine how these kids must feel.
Same. I always had a lot of trouble falling asleep and my brother snored all the time so it was even harder, i was always so jealous when every pair of siblings i knew started getting their own rooms way before me. I can't imagine what these kids feel, especially the ones that have shelves for a bed, like it looks like they can barely lift their head in there.
I hated sharing a room with my sister when we were kids too! We shared a small room from her birth (she's 16 months younger) until I was 17, and I honestly think it was responsible for 99% of our relationship issues. We were just too different -- I liked to stay up and sleep in, she sleeps early and gets up early, we had no room for our respective things and complained about "your side/my side" which wasn't reasonable because the room was too small lol, it was easy for her to just take my stuff because there was no physical boundary of "this is yours, that is mine." Literally as soon as I got my own room, our relationship improved dramatically because we each had our own space, and now my sister and I are super close. We had the option in my house for us to have our own bedrooms too, my dad just refused thinking it would bring my sister and I "closer." I can't imagine how much worse it is for these kids with even less space, less privacy, and more siblings.
From birth I shared a room with my triplet brother I liked it actually. And then we had to move into a small flat where I had to share my room with 2 of my brothers. I am happy to have my own room now.
yep same, had to share until i was 14 and he was 17, we both hated it. I was always super excited when he was spending the night at his friend's house because it meant i could have the room to myself, felt like an actual holiday. can't imagine what it would be like with even more siblings + parents VERY close nearby in an even smaller space.
I shared a bedroom with my brother and two sisters and, once my brother got his own room, my two sisters. We all survived. A lot of kids today have it too easy.
@grumpyoldlady_rants it isn't about whether people survive or not lol. i think you know that. something that doesn't kill a person can still be a struggle. having to share a bedroom can be hard.. even though it's not hard for everyone, obviously. every person is a unique individual. sharing with multiple people is not a foreign concept to me. in my own childhood i've shared a room with multiple people and sometimes one person. not all of those situations were the same experience. some easier, some harder. people have differences in how they feel about privacy and personal space, to some it can cause a lot of stress while to others it won't. all depending on circumstances. i believe that all people should have access to a personal space and that if you can provide your children with that, you should. people won't always have that freedom because the world isn't fair, but i think they should have it. pretty inoffensive opinion that children are deserving of their own room if not having one negatively affects them. in my opinion, a person's home isn't meant to cause them stress or discomfort normally.
when my mom, brother, and i lived in a one bedroom apartment, my mom gave me and my brother the bed to sleep while she slept on the couch. it's ridiculous to me how terrible these parents are
It _is_ worth considering that it's been _very_ common, throughout history, for an entire family to sleep in a small one-room house. These families often included _lots_ of kids. (As a famous and successful example, Dolly Parton grew up in a one-room cabin she shared with her parents and eleven siblings in the 1950s.) So while it is a lovely and kind thing your mother did, it doesn't make these parents "terrible."
@@jacksyoutubechannel4045 the difference is that in those circumstances like my own family's, we were struggling financially. Even for a one bedroom apartment, my mom was just barely scraping by to afford rent. These families often times CHOSE this lifestyle. It wasn't one where they had no choice and had to resort to living in an RV just to survive. That's the difference. These parents saw van/RV life as something exciting and went headfirst into it without thinking about their kids. These parents gave themselves full privacy and their OWN room. Whilst their kids had no privacy, no room for themselves, and no place for them to express themselves.
Can you imagine never having privacy. Never having school functions. Teachers. A regular doctor. Friends. A neighborhood. Social engagements. The ability to sleep without panic-inducing claustrophobia? They are traumatizing these kids in so many ways. If you want to be van lifers, great, wait til your kids are grown or don't have kids. It's irresponsible. It's immature. It's selfish. And its abusive. These vans are cool for a short vacay or road trip. Not life with 2-10 children. My heart breaks for these "van life" kids.
I have seen a total of one van life family I approve of. They have a large RV and only one child, and they clearly prioritize him. He has a large area all to himself, and even a little extra area for friends. They keep track of his friends so whenever they’re in the same area they meet up, so even traveling the country he has a consistent group. And it’s very clear he’s *enthusiastic* about his life and enjoying it. Because of how clearly the parents prioritize the child and go out of the way to make sure his needs are met, I’m okay with them. It’s horrifying they’re the exception.
See I def see this as a cool good thing especially considering US education in comparison. I thought you could do it right like this. From the comments people grew up like you’re describing and actually enjoyed that life. Parents online are so selfish these days
This is just terrifying. I went to a sleepover at 2 twin van life kids, and they were all just constantly asking me questions on how our house is like. I told them everything, and they begged me, my parents, and their parents to have a sleepover at my house. They came over, and were extremely scared after the youngest one had taken a ten minute shower instead of a five minute one. They couldn’t take showers longer then ten minutes, causing them to never have hot water. It was so sad that the youngest one came out crying because she though she was in trouble. I seriously don’t go one day without thinking about them it was so sad.
As someone who was a "van life kid" for around a year ( alongside my two younger brothers ), I can confirm it was absolutely terrible. Difficult to make friends, difficult to find any sort of privacy, and difficult to grow and navigate your area comfortably.
@algsunshine7075 Not once in my comment did I refer to it as abuse. Nor did I say I had it worse than anyone. I was simply stating that, yes, being a van life kid absolutely **sucks**. It damaged me in ways I still can't quite explain and haven't completely healed from yet. While I am grateful that I had the opportunity to travel and try something new, it doesn't change the fact that the experience was absolutely awful and if i can avoid it, I hope to never live like that again. 🤷♀️
As a kid who’s parents did this, you are absolutely correct, I have back issues, I’m just now making friends, I was homeschooled all my life, and while I do great at the arts I lack proficiency in math and the important things. If you are going to do this you need to do it right, or you’ll screw up your kid.
@@gini1802 I have lived in a camper. It SUCKS! I mean there are some fun parts for for the most part it sucks. You don’t get you’re own space, you can’t have pets because it’s to small for most pets and there things, you’re cramped and the camper I had didn’t have any AC so when it got cold it got super cold in the camper and when it was summer the camper was super hot! It’s not something I would recommend to anyone!!!!
Bro, there are issues w this way of life but not anywhere even close to being bad enough to necessitate calling child services! Could you even imagine how much worse that would be for the kids?
by doing so YOU MESS UP THEIR SOCAIL LIFE AND CRITICAL THINKING. by going to school they get to meet new people and exchange ideas with new perspectives. BY HOMSCHOOLING A CHILD YOU HARM THEIR MENTAL HEALTH
@@krisshnapeswanipeswani3190the entire reason why many homeschool is to shelter their kids from "scary" unknown and and unapproved ideas and thoughts. It's about control. That's why it's literally illegal in my country.
These parents are always so greedy. The kids are always an afterthought. They don’t think about their social lives. They don’t think about their living situations. They only think about their dreams and their lives. It angers me to no end.
When you believe that children are just what you're supposed to do to add to the Christian conservative army - when you think your only responsibility to them is to teach them discipline to make them productive little producers and consumers and that they exist to serve you, then you have no reason to consider them as actual people with needs, rights, and respect like these asshats. Once these kids grow up, they will find out.
People like that don't deserve kids. Being a parent involves sacrifice and compromise, which these a-holes refuse to do, at the detriment of their children. These poor kids are gonna have a hard time adjusting to normal life when they grow up.
Yess, I'm so tired of all of these "tiktok moms" who record their children doing literally ANYTHING. Like, I understand taking photos for family memories and private photo books, but not recording and then posting it online, so random people can see every aspect of your children's life. I can't even imagine the feeling when something important is going on in your life or you're having some private time and then your parent instead of being with you just takes out their phone and starts recording to later put it on tiktok with a weird voiceover.
Like yeah child services sucks quite a lot of the time but this amount of isolation really makes it easy for parents to get away with using them since there are no other adults looking out for them.Especially since it’s usually teachers or neighbours or friends parents that report signs
Yeah they're constantly on the move so they don't have neighbors that see them routinely They don't have any friends in person because they don't stay in the same place consistently They don't go to school so teachers/counselors can't see any changes in them or recognize any signs of abuse For all anyone knows these families could be sexually abusing their children and because they are in charge of their social media and they are the ones editing the videos, It wouldn't come out until the kids become adults and escape. Then it will be "child abused for 18 years, No one around to help" or something
@@shadowsoulless6227 And, unfortunately, a child exposed to lifelong abuse in isolation is likely to take a lot longer than just 18 years to leave an abusive environment - especially bc constant movement also like, perfectly prevents a teenager from ever having a first job, and possibly might even prevent them from getting a driver's license until they escape the abusive environment. leaving an abusive partner as an adult is one thing. i've helped ppl escape before and the amount of work it takes and time it takes all while the person continues to face abuse while working their ass off to escape is just... horrifyingly endless. and, you can't really hide a secret stash of money/a diary/resources/etc in such a small space...
there was one family that expecially angered me, one of their children was diagnosed with autism and depression from what i remember, and they still refused to give up van life it was obvious from their videos that that kid had problems with lack of privacy and no sense of stability, its absolutly heartbreaking to see how little they care for their own kids
my cousin (has autism) lives in a RV like this... but also has a nice home to live in. they only like in the RV when they come to see us or someone/somewhere else.. (he has his own room in their house and privacy)
If you’re talking about Family of nomads they did actually move down to Florida to get their kid the help they needed and stayed there for almost a year I believe.
@@shaywatson5084But then once they regained some stability they went back on the road, I've seen lot of people (including myself) concerned that their health is gonna worsen again since the parents seem to refuse the idea that a lack of a "home base" and stable situation is part of the problem.
@@alastryona it’s something I’m worried about as well, but it’s also possible that their daughter felt that they were ready to return. They’ve said countless times that they will do what’s best for the kids, and in the year they were in Florida I didn’t see them posting very much. Which makes me think maybe they do actually have their kids best interests at heart. I also follow them kinda loosely so I could be 100% off on if they’ve been posting or not.
My boyfriend is a victim of RV life and he has so much trauma from it. He begged his parents to give up custody of him to his grandmother when he was high school age. He is an only child too… that much lack of privacy with 3 people in the RV.
@@tealablu3759 Really, this. These parents act like they're preparing these kids for the real world and like school is a fantasy land, but these kids have no real friends. And the fact is, RV life is a sort of fantasy existence.
@@rosesweetcharlotte I’m the oldest of 4 and lived in two different travel trailers growing up while being homeschooled. It’s so secluded. It sucked when kids would come to the trailer park on vacation and then leave and look at us like we were weird
@@RuletheWorldwithsong The thing is, you guys were weird. Your experiences were so different from the other kids. That is very much the problem, you were denied this normal experience.
@@rosesweetcharlotte It’s also scary because of that. These kids have no regular contact with anyone. What are they supposed to do if they are being abused by their parents? There’s no one they can tell because there just isn’t anyone around.
FINALLY someone said it so honestly and bluntly. I find it literally insane that each of these families always has parents in a comfortable, private, suite. Always. Like a shelf in the wall or a couch as a "bedroom" for the kids. None of these parents will ever admit it, but the children will always come second. The ACTIVE choice of nomadic lifestyle, selfish living situation, lack of education or even blatant no education shows that they come second no matter how much you love your kids.
I find the lack of education disturbing too. Especially for the teens. What adult life are they being equipped for? What social skills and connections do they have outside the family? What roots do they have? There is a cruel irony in being trapped by a life of roaming.
First off, your upset about the Legit design of a camper, they are compact and cozy so you just just judging to judge on that. And to quote you exactly “The ACTIVE choice of nomadic lifestyle, selfish living situation, lack of education or even blatant no education shows” nothing is wrong with the nomadic living, it’s not selfish living situations because when you live in a camper the majority of your time is spent outside honestly, and there is nothing wrong with homeschooling or creative schooling. If someone does it because it’s religious based you don’t care but if someone does it because of how they live it’s an issue???? Like what is wrong with people nowadays where everyone is A.) So fucking soft B.) Cares so much about how other people live and C.) so set in there own ways to “change” how people live. Y’all just need to stop because this is insane as someone who LIVES in a camper with her husband and family (dog included) there is nothing wrong with how we live and your insane for thinking there is. Bunk beds in a camper are no different than bunk beds in a house so get a grip and tbh care about yourself for a while and not everyone else
I grew up being forced to share everything with my twin sister. Room, toys, food, etc. And I was told to suck it up when she stole from me because I was older and somehow that made me a liar. Meanwhile, my mom and dad had their own room with a master bedroom with queen bed, their own bathroom, an office we weren't allowed in (not for work, just to watch more TV), and they went out to eat at fancy places often while I'd eat kraft mac n cheese pretty much every meal, giving me some malnutrition. I hated it, I can't imagine that life in an RV too. I went to red Robin with them ONCE and it felt like the most luxurious experience ever.
This would be fine as like a summer, vacation home. But full fucking time? This would be awful. I would kill to have my own home with enough room and space for us all to have our own rooms, and a backyard for my cats to explore and my kids to play in, and these people had that and they traded it to cram their kids together and deprive everyone of any real privacy. I live in a tiny 2 bedroom apartment with my 2 kids and 2 cats. Guess who sacrificed space? Not my kids. I sleep on a pullout in the living room, my boys have their own rooms.
As a 19 yo with an infant son, I've accepted that I have to put some of my adventures on hold for a while. I don't understand how full grown 30 yo adults don't understand this.
because not everyone should have kids... unfortunately it is still viewed as a norm to have kids after marriage and some people "give it a try" not thinking about the fact that this is at least 18 years of hard work
I had my son when I was 20, and I gave up on going to a college in a different state or living in dorms. I pushed back all the plans I had for traveling and new experiences. It's been 1 year since he was born, and I can't think of anything I'd rather do than make sure his life is as amazing as it can possibly be. Too many people from older generations seem to think that because they created their kids and make sure they're clothed and fed, their job is done, and they can do whatever they want. It makes me so disappointed
@@Dave102693 People decide to have kids because some things in life are worth making sacrifices for. Children give parents a sense of purpose in life, and the joys of having a child is unparalleled to any other kind of happiness you'll ever experience. Yes, it's difficult, but anything worthwhile in life will always come at a cost. Frankly speaking I couldn't care less if you choose to not have kids, but it's really not hard to see why most other people want children even if you don't. I also didn't want children at one point in my life, but even at that time I understood why other people wanted them.
I think that younger parents understand the needs of children better than older parents partially because older people have simply forgotten what it felt like to have needs as a kid that only a parent could fulfill, and how it felt when those needs weren't met.
That one where the space was absolutely tiny is ridiculous. I’d imagine it’s hard to even turn in it, and what about when they get their growth spurt. No way those mattresses are comfortable either. If I was in such a situation, I’d rather set up a tent each night.
RV kid here, let me tell you, frog is ABSOLUTELY right. I've been living in a camper with my 3 brothers and parents for the past two years, and these past two years have been an absolute detriment to my mental health. Yes, it is an amazing opportunity I've been given to have seen all the places that I have, but I cannot recall a single positive experience anywhere I've been. I receive little to no education and I'm scared I won't be able to pass my GED, I will probably be repeating high school once I turn 18. I'm lucky enough to not have my entire life posted about on the internet, but even then my parents cross the line sometimes when posting to Facebook. There is no privacy, and my two youngest brothers are forced to share a "bed"(a broken dinette) and my other brother sleeps on the couch, while my parents have a large California queen bed with doors and all the privacy in the world. If you are considering this lifestyle with children, you are guaranteeing that you end up in a nursing home in your old age.
Omg that’s awful! You don’t have to answer this obviously but, do you get any opportunities to work and save up money to move on your own when you turn 18? Like how do kids in that situation find footing to start their own life?
I wish I could send a ged prep book to you. I got mine at 17. You could try to see if there are any good free prep courses online or videos to help you study. I totally forgot all the sites I use to use.
I just can’t imagine this. Me and my bf want to try vanlife for a bit but we even take our cat into consideration when trying to think about what we could do
Yeeeaaahhh RVs aren't built for 6 people, the only thing I could tell you is to lash out in a way that lowers your parents quality of life so they no longer want to live on an RV.
I'm not sure what their living situation is now in NY (but according to another commenter it's not much better). But, before going cross-country, they lived in San Francisco in a 2 bedroom apartment. The parents of course had the master bedroom (they may have shared with the baby), the boys had a bedroom, and the girls had the living room...
@@FirstnameLastnames Honestly even the name was a dead giveaway to how their "lifestyle" was going to look. Poor damn kids. I hope they get away from their awful parents asap.
Not true! You only get the room to yourself for a short time before another kid Is transferred in if they aren’t the same day already. That’s if you only share a room with 1 other person when usually it’s 3-4 in a room. Yes even if you are a teenager
No you don't. I was a "ward of the state" and I can assure you that you NEVER have a seconds peace nor privacy. Unless like the other commenter stated your blessed and have a roommate leave or something like that. But it won't be long before some other stranger is in it.
@@butameremortal9424 never was an orphan but when i was homeless and in psych wards, shelters had like 100 of us per 'room'. psych wards had maybe two or three beds but one time i lucked out and got the solo room, i lived like a freaking King that week
@@mightymeatymech absolutely 😂 it's strange because I'm a loner. But I like to be in crowds. I wonder if it relates to "growing up" Hope your in a better space now 🫶🏼
More like “classy if you don’t have kids, trashy if you do.” I have no problem w couples doing this to travel for a few years. It’s when they rope in the kids that i have a problem
Plenty of kids grow up poor and understand the struggles their parents go thru for them. Now imagine growing up like this and realizing that your parents chose that life for you.
I literally just watched a talk about this phenomenon. It's called something like "the doll mindset." Basically, the parents think of their children like dolls that they can pick up and put down and play with whenever they want. The parents don't realize (or possibly actively ignore) that their children are, you know, people with needs. Knowing this mindset exists really makes sense of all these wild parenting influencers.
I was a teen parent, and we took the living room to give the kids the bedrooms in our two-bedroom apartment. What the hell is wrong with these selfish, clout-chasing parents?
This reminded me of something I had forgotten, once we were travelling over two days to go holiday and stay at my uncle's for school holidays, we never went on holiday and couldn't afford much so we stayed with fam, it's a 2-3 day drive and we stayed at a caravan park in a cabin, there were two rooms (one with a bunk bed, the other a double), my younger brother and I had the bunk beds and my mum gave my teenage brother the double bed/other room, she took the crappy fold out couch in the living room/kitchenette area... I'm grateful for parents like this over these selfish tit-tacker parents..
My husband and I have done this because I refuse to have my kids in cramped spaces, they deserve their space and a lot of it. I actually like sleeping in my living room 🫣
@@whatshereads1 Just as I like sleeping in small spaces. Claustrophobia is for losers. (Just kidding, claustrophobia is common and only fun to joke about when in moderation.)
Even if the living conditions were right, what about the social conditions? Not hate, just a genuine question, did they have a way of making sure the kids connected with others their age properly and were able to keep in contact and develop properly?
I saw one of these where they had to take their oldest daughter to the hospital for fainting and wanting to unalive herself. She was diagnosed with a few things including anorexia and they made a video to ' educate ' about what that is. They claim it's impossible to notice before it gets to this point, and there's no known causes. The daughter was in a mental hospital for months and started losing weight again as soon as she was back home. But don't worry, they got her a pet rat with a cage bigger then her bed, so it's all good.
@@panselinapendragon1731 I'm not positive. I think they might have been called family of nomads? They deleted some of the videos after getting a ton of backlash.
A more accurate comparison would be if you're behind on the electric bill and a guy in a suit from the electric company shows up to your house and starts cyberbullying you for being poor.
@amateur_artist_storiesmand3853 this makes me think that it really is about controlling their daughter and not the dishes. I'm sure she was giving them some unrelated fight and it wasn't just the dishes.
Also if one fails to pay the light bill, the electric company doesn't come to their house, force them to work, and record the entire thing onto tiktok.
It´s really humiliating. Honestly, while my parents aren´t influencers, they loved posting video´s of me being "clumsy" on Facebook (one time I got stuck in a hole in winter and couldn´t get out because everything was covered in ice and upon seeing this, they got a camera and filmed me for like 35 minutes - why help me?) when I was young, and I fought with them back then about it (to no avail, children´s privacy are up to their parents completely) and I still think that´s messed up. But to upload this for possibly milions of people? How is this still legal? PS: Also imagine knowing so many people know you live like this and probably never seeing the backlash regarding it. Like the whole world´s telling you "yes, we think this is fair to you"
I also think kids are always having new experiences, issues or feelings so when a kid who had previously had no problems finishing chores suddenly refuses to, theres a good chance there's a reason behind that (not to mention neuro divergent or disabled kids who may only be beginning to experience their differences and when they don't have the words to explain why things are difficult for them often receive shame or negative assumptions). Obviously they do need to learn that not doing what needs doing leads to consequences, but they also need to learn to manage time, energy and emotions healthily, and might just need to express what's bothering them to be able to do what's asked of them. Whilst shame can be effective in the short term in getting them do stuff, in the long term it'll hinder them emotionally and stunt your relationship with them. And that exploration of why they're struggling can only truly healthily happen in private with people you trust
@@letonoska7348 my sister once did that after she pulled a prank on me. we had an awful relationship and i had a MASSIVE issue with feeling stupid so it was not funny to me then, and it still isnt now. she also once posted pictures of a little "storybook" i made on my tablet. basically about how miserable i was. looking back, sure, it was kind of cringey. but i was eight and i put a lot of emotion into it. and she just posted it because she thought it was funny. i was lucky enough that she wasnt a big influencer or anything, but what if she was? id never be able to live that down. its beyond me how so many adults have zero consideration for a childs feelings or wishes. it might not seem like a big deal to you, but to a kid, its everything. they feel emotions so strongly and to make fun of that is, imo, one of the shittiest things you can do.
@@letonoska7348when I was on a cruise vacation in 2017 it was my first time ever snorkeling and everyone had already gotten out to eat, I wanted to go back in but nobody else would come with me. There was a seaside grill/bar that the workers would throw tortillas into the water for the fish, idk if they knew I was in there or not, but they threw one right next to me and I was looking underwater and suddenly was swarmed by 30+ big pancake fish, one swam right up on my stomach, I started having a massive panic attack in untouchable water and all my family did was laugh and record and eventually posted it on facebook as well. A worker had to come get me out of the water because I couldn't move from fear of being in the water all alone with dozens of huge fish🥲
As someone who’s parents forced me and my younger brother to live in a travel trailer with 3 cats and no privacy for 4 years, THANK YOU for speaking out on this. My brother and I literally slept in bunks with no curtain or personal space while they slept in their bedroom. It is an abusive and neglectful living situation that NO child should ever be forced to endure.
@@Briannaashing I am sorry to hear this Are those 4 years the reason? If you don't mind me asking, you don't have to share if it's too private of course.
@@kurtwagner4663 there were a lot of other problems, but it’s a big part of it. My parents fell into bad drug addiction while living in the trailer, which only made everything worse. When we first started living in it, it was only suppose to be temporary while they found other housing. Over time, my parents got complacent and lazy and didn’t care that we were suffering every day. It was a horrible experience living in that trailer with no privacy and no ability to have any semblance of ownership of my space. It was also filthy because my mom is a narcissistic hoarder. My brother and I voiced our problems repeatedly and asked them to get themselves help so they could adequately take care of us, but they didn’t. We moved into that trailer when I was the ripe age of 14 and my brother 12, and I only got out when I left for college. Hardest thing I ever had to do was leave my brother behind for 2 years before he graduated HS and I could get him out. There’s a lot more to it but that’s the gist of the living situation.
I dont understand how this is allowed. When my parents were getting divorced, something that made me very happy was the fact that my dad living in an rv made sure that he wouldn't have custody over me because of the lack of a bedroom and privacy Edit: I dont remember if this was decided by a lawyer or by my mom. Either way, it still says a lot
Same thing with my parents and my little sister (all the older siblings including me were all adults when they split) my dad lives in a converted van and travels around contracting for work so he gave my mom full custody of my sister and the house in the divorce so that my little sister could stay at her current school and would have a consistent home to go to with her own room and privacy
When my parents got divorced, idk the arrangement plan details but my dad lived in a camper for a bit at a campground across the highway from my maternal grandparents’ town, which was fun for us kids but it was def vacation-y feeling. That wasn’t permanent and the parents making it permanent for their kids just… suck.
When my parents got divorced and had joint custody, my mom moved like 10 minutes away so that we could still see both parents a roughly equal amount, still go to the same schools, keep our same friends and all of that. It came with other issues, but at least we could stay at the same school, so important for me as an introverted kid
"We want our kids to be believers, to think for themselves" saying that, but nailing nothing but obedience into their toddlers is crazy. "No chores done? Well time to traumatize you"
it also seems like less education in terms of STEM, english writing and grammar as well as their homeschooling practises not actually seeming educational also kinda nails it into me that they just want mini-mes at their beck and call. they arent teaching free thinking or proper skills, but their thinking and skills that benefit them instead of skills they will need once they leave the home and need to find a job. as well as that one guys response to the trolls feels very "yes i know i am doing wrong unto my kids and creating broken people, but yall cant do anything na na na na boo boo"
@@thesyrupdude unfortunately that happens a lot with homeschooling due to the fact that laws surrounding it are basically non-existent. The coalition for responsible home education has a lot of resources on just how bad it is nationwide, but in many states a parent with an active abuse investigation can remove their child from public education to "homeschool" without any kind of paperwork or notification of any kind. The children just stop going to school, and that's that. They're stuck at home with a parent actively being investigated for abuse. And I'll bet you can guess how many of those cases end. There's little to no oversight of homeschooling, even in the "good" states (one of which I live in), and the result is the well educated, well adjusted homeschoolers are the minority. But because they're the only ones that are able to access testing, too many people have a very high opinion of homeschool education. Sure, Megan tested higher than the rest of the 12th grade in her district, but Abby, Max, and Tracy never even got to *be* tested because they either didn't have the resources to get there, or were murdered before they were old enough. It's awful how homeschooling let's parents f up their kids, and nothing is done about it.
@@Izzy-cp8yt you're spot on with this statement but i think it also depends on the system. i was homeschooled for majority of highschool (i only have 3 years of experience so i cant say much) and i used the cambridge system but as a private student so my qualifications are the same as (if not better than) every other highschooler in STEM. but that being said, i became socially inept especially since a lot of the time spent at home was during covid so yeah not a lot of communication which is definitely stunting my growth now that im in my final year of schooling
The fact that when we were low on money as kids my dad got us a 2 bedroom trailer and the girls slept in one room, the boys slept in the other and he and my mom slept on separate couches for years says a lot about how these families CHOOSE to ignore their children's needs. Not to mention online schooling is often FREE they COULD have their kids in an actual school so they don't fall behind but likely it would take time away from -exploiting them for views- , I mean making Van Life TikToks
Yeah I was thinking through all these TikTok’s why none of the parents let two or three of their kids sleep on the KING SIZED BED and they sleep on the couches instead
thing is, the most important part of school aside from basic arithmetic is socialization. teaching kids how to get along with others, and how to behave normally when you cannot. its why daycare is so important for young kids. homeschooled kids never get that and you can see how it screws them up
they pop out 5-8 so that surely one is stupid enough to forgive them Edit: not to mention neglect their education and social skills so they don't know better
I really don’t like my mom and stepdad, now I’m grateful I have them. even tho I enjoy my dads place more, my heart just reaches out to these kids. the worst thing is claustrophobia. what if a kid has that? those bunks are the smallest things ever. also, if the van gets hit by a car, it’s just gonna break. I was telling my dad about this and he said that they weren’t like car tested or something. he basically said if the van gets hit, the whole things gonna fall apart. I feel terrible for these kids. I feel so bad, imagine being a little nugget and realize later in life that it sucks ass.
12:55 re: family not addressing people's concerns - I wonder if it's not that he didn't address it, but that he *actually just admitted* that he considers putting his kids on blast as part of the consequences for their misbehavior. So while it sounds to normal people like he ignored the issue, it's actually (in his mind) that he just thinks the punishment of humiliation is appropriate.
14:10 Oh yes, what better way to introduce kids to independent thought than to permanently isolate them from anyone with differing views, cultures, opinions, experiences, or options? Definitely providing them with independence by preventing them from any personal space, or choices, or individual property and feeding them *only* what you decide they should encounter, in the isolation of your van. /s
So you're telling me these parents are paying tens of thousands of dollars to fulfill their povertycore dream while torturing thier kids in the process?
I am 15 years old and currently living in a caravan with my parents, sister (13) and two dogs For 6 months. Not for money issues but to “Learn about the road life 🤠”. I hate it. The bathrooms are tiny, I can’t sit up in my bunk bed without smacking my head on the roof , There is no privacy or space, I feel so isolated and alone Homeschool is terrible , Everyone is constantly stressed and fighting, All I want to do is see my friends Please don’t do this to your kids.
Hang in there, I know it sux right now but life will get better. I had a similar life experience and I can tell you that as an adult, you'll find and make your place. It's just really really crappy that you have to endure right now and Im sorry for that.
Another point I don’t see people addressing about van life is how difficult it would be for the kids to get away when they are older. They cannot have jobs through their teenage years from the constant relocation, but once they turn 18 they also can’t just go get an apartment bc they would need financial support from their parents. Not to mention that if you rent an apartment you’re gonna need proof of income. Abusive van life parents can easily trap their kids and really stunt their adult lives
Not to mention the social isolation. Homeschooled kids _can_ be well-socialised, but you need to put in a lot more effort and time into taking them places where they can meet and connect with peers. But these kids are constantly moving around, so they can't build social relationships with anyone except family. That's terrible for their development...
Especially if those kids are in foster care because their original parents sexually, mentally, or physically abused them, because its likely they have trauma of some sort and need their own space.
I don't know man, my parents gave me privacy, let me have my room to myself, and what did I do? Turned it into a hoarder den. On the flipside, our house was really small (the only bedroom was mine) and I think living in close quarters really helped. Most people in the world share a room with family, especially kids.
Lol. I was in the foster system, that "privacy" requirement ain't real. In one home in particular each room had about 3-4 girls stuffed in. They were also Mormons that had us to do charity work every weekend & go to their church (illegal, but as long as they didn't force us to attend the sermon it was fine). I mean I get the sentiment but let's not act like foster care is any way better than this van life bullshit. It's a bad comparison.
I grew up in poverty, sometimes even without a roof over my head. The anger I feel these parents have the finances to give their kids an actual life and choose this instead is UNABLE TO BE SPOKEN PROPERLY.
That's the part that got me...most of these people chose this. I had four siblings, and we had a two bedroom apartment for several years while my parents were trying to get better jobs. My little brother slept on a love seat, because he was the only one that fit on it, while my sisters and I shared one set of bunk beds. It wasn't a choice, and my parents both worked hard to get us out of that situation.
Same. I grew up poor, sometimes having to stay in shelters. The last apartment my mom got for us was a two bedroom and she slept in the living room. While raising my daughter and I was trying to get on my feet, I got a one bedroom and gave her the bedroom. I can’t imagine doing this purposefully to your children that didn’t ask to be here
this. Van life, especially with a child needs to be HEAVILY looked into. You can tell who actually does it while prioritizing their kid, bc usually they don't post their kid's face
I keep being able to compare these kids' lives with my own homelessness experience :( I also keep finding ways I was better off than them though, because my mom was single at the time.
i have severe back pain even though my bed is really comfy. if i were sleeping in what is essentially a COFFIN, i would probably have straight up scoliosis
Funny thing is that until I was in my 20's I could sleep on a carpeted floor without issue. Those matresses that are in there could he quite comfortable. They look clothed and healthy. Happiness is in question but we can't assume anything.
@@aperocknroll88 That might be bc back issues are different for everyone. You might have the type of issues where a hard surface feels better. I asked my back doctor about this and he said most people actually need adjustable mattresses. These shelves are not adjustable unless you make them way smaller by stuffing more padding in them. Also, you are seeing them clean and fed but you can't know that. AND privacy is incredibly important for development.
@@jfool10125 They spoke about their own experience and said the ‘kids happiness is questionable but we can’t assume’, nothing about their comment makes your aggression reasonable. Take your own advice and get off your even higher holier-than-thou steed.
I may not have grown up in a van but I did live in a car and often made social ties and got adapted to a place. Only to just to be uprooted and be the new kid over and over for the majority of my life until now. Honestly parts of this video hit me in a way I don’t think I’ve heard someone speak on this, so I feel kinda seen by your remarks. I appreciate you talking about this shi stay silly man!!
Seriously. My mother has 9 kids and as soon as she hit 5 kids she thought “I need to get a bigger house.” So they worked until they could get a big, fixer upper 3 story house. And they gave most of us as much privacy as possible, 2 of my brothers shared a room, 2 of my sisters shared a room, I got to share a room with my sister and my brother got his own room, my oldest sister got the 3rd floor to herself and my oldest brother got his own room on the first floor. And my parents shared a room. And they made it work, we now have 6 kids at the house and it’s the best it’s ever been, it’s about to be 4 as well.
My parents did this. Completely fucked over my social development. I didn't have a real friend that I could see for like 3 years. Only reason I didn't turn into more of a social recluse is because I got a job that happened to have a bunch of people my age. I slept on a couch that was smaller than a twin size mattress while my parents slept in a large queen size bed The worst part about it was as much as I hated it I thought I was doing the right thing for myself because that's what my parents told me, it wasn't until I moved out and had hindsight that I realized just how fuck up of a situation I was in
Oh my sounds like such a hard life 😩 you had parents that still fed you but due to a recession they couldn’t afford a real home boohoo you had to work hard for your own shit, people remember what you did to them and never for them. Dad could’ve ran away and got milk, mom could’ve OD and died or shit could have died giving birth to you.
@@amck330 It isn't a damn competition to see who had it worse. Being fed and having a place to stay are the basic requirements for a parent to do. You have no sympathy. I went through worse than the commenter, but I'm not gonna be all "well, I was sleeping on the rug in my grandparents house until high school, so you didn't have it that bad." Get over yourself dude/chick/person. They still struggled. Any kid shouldn't have to go through bad shit. Regardless of how bad.
I remember when I was a kid, I had a friend whose single dad couldn't afford a home with enough bedrooms for him and his two kids. So he gave a bedroom to each of his kids and slept on a futon in the living room. That right there is the difference between these people and a parent that loves their kids.
similarly in my case, my parents had to fit the 4 of us and our grandpa, so while we lived 2 kids in a room, they had their bed and slept in the living room for years untill our grandpa passed away(we're talking over 20 years here) and they renovated his old room for their own use, bc they understood that as the adults in the situation they could handle not having a fully private space while the kids need that to develop properly
yes, we did the same, we couldn't find big enough apartment for us and our kids in a time pressure when we lost the previous one (the owner needed it for himself, we were not evicted), so the children remained in rooms for 2 and we sleep in a kitchen. It's not even that bad, I even enjoy my tiny closet office :D We could have trapped them in 1 room for 4, but a) I would feel bad for them all the time (even though they often move to one room for a night or a movie, but it's their will); b) it would be never that calm as it is when they are just 2 in one room. But I need to say, I'm a bit opposed to each child having their own separate room - I don't think it's a good basis for future relationships, when you never dealt with another person in one space. I especially don't like the idea of small children being left completely alone.
Not all parents have the same level of self-sacrifice and willingness/opportunity to do so. These should not be perceived as the benchmark for good parenting. I shared a room with my two sisters till I was 17 years old. Become parent first and THEN we can talk.
Nah those kids don’t pay rent the parent deserves a place to rest their head after working and parenting all day. They can share a room. That doesn’t mean you don’t love your kids.
I feel bad for little molly cause imagine being a young girl having to do literal work to have your own VR headset and when you finally have it, your parents force you to share it with your siblings and you only get to play for 10 minutes a day.
Bro I would definitely steal their phone or smth and force them to only have 10 minutes a day with _that_ , and force them to share with children. If you rightfully _earned_ something, you should NOT have to share, and you should be able to use it any way you want.
Makes sense to work for it but the other kids should have helped out too if they have to share it. Also the parents too instead of making her do all of the dirty work. Honestly they should get an hour at a time or get two headsets with an hour at a time. I would get an hr and switch with my brother and wait for my turn again. 10 minutes is crazy especially when being cooped up in such a tiny space. That headset is literally an escape for them.
No see, she worked for a *different* one, the one she got was a gift and therefore is not hers and invalidates all the work she did and is up to mom and dad to control. Thats how they validate it. Its bullshit
@DavidBlackton Military does provide housing for stations for the family School is a option but if the option arose to take the entire family then the rest will move with the military parent
We grew up remotely, always in a house...we were isolated, and only had siblings to play with...we are all very able as adults to socialize and to enjoy our own company. I went 7 schools.
@@shmark77 oh 100% but from a legal standpoint i think that violates free speech or something. i think legally social media sites should not be able to monetize videos with children and that would immediately de-incentive anyone trying to make money off their kids
Fun fact: for three years after Hurricane Katrina, my mom, sister and I had to live in a trailer that had a fairly similar layout to some of these, so from age 10 to 13 i slept in a cubby and I kinda developed the opposite of claustrophobia, my sister would sleep on the couch. Had social media been prominent during that time my mom would have been MORTIFIED to see people bragging about living in those conditions
@@contra5123 that too but what would be an attraction to tight spaces? I'm absolutely scared of places that are way too open but I feel so much safer in tight spaces that I had to essentially make a coffin out of large pillows and plushies just to feel safe enough to sleep for several years
There's a difference between a punishment for your child, like "no electronics until you do the dishes;" and humiliation. What those parents were doing was humiliating their child. And they have officially won the award of "being sent to the nursing home."
I also hate the emphasis on "chose" these kinds of people use. "Oh our terrible daughter CHOSE not to do the dishes today, heehee!" When she might have just forgot, wasn't feeling well, whatever. It's not like she sat down and thought "I am feeling a little naughty today so I am deliberately and consciously not going to do the dishes." That's not how kids work.
Some nursing homes are absolutely wonderful homelike situations where the resident has his/her own room, lots of activities he/she can pick from, good food that they choose from a menu, and nurses and aides that take good care of the residents giving medications and showers/baths and help in the bathroom. All the while their relatives and friends come to visit every day, but are unable to house and take care of the resident themselves bc of jobs, situations at home, etc.. Yup, there are nursing homes like this. You probably mean instead "being sent to the nursing home and you being lonely and isolated because none of your kids coming to ever visit you bc of how you treated them."
It’s the fact that, without fail, the parents always have a massive bed in their own private room (aka the baby factory) with real doors and 4 walls. All the while their 7th born is sleeping on the kitchen table.
For real though why is it always the families in the 99th percentile of number of children
"baby factory" I'm in tears 😭😭😭
Baby factory…☠️
No bc why where some ppl making their kids sleep on the floor
Stoooop having children 💀💀💀💀💀
i remember one where the daughter’s only wish was to stay in a hotel for her birthday and the mom kept saying “she loves the van she just wanted a change of environment!”
This is so sad!
oh yeah it’s the same family who video their daughter punishment in this video. and they didn’t even give her a hotel room, instead they get an apartment/air bnb and everyone cram into that one apartment. with her wish i would’ve guess that she wants some alone time in her hotel room just enjoying it herself
Didn't the mom also admit said birthday kid always ask for hotel rooms for their birthdays? Mom said it off hand like the kid was "quirky" for wanting to not sleep in a coffin for a night.
yes FamilyOfNomads. that same daughter ended up with an eating disorder and the mom said "we though she had anorexia but we didnt realize how bad it was" so they literally knew something was up but didnt care until it got more severe
@@lizzynoelle1959 I’m so glad someone else sees this! Honestly this family screams “my kids are just accessories”. That poor kid is SO mentally unwell, she had such a severe ED that she was hospitalized for SIX MONTHS while her POS parents went traveling. The mother literally has flown to Florida to get a haircut but left her poor defenseless struggling daughter at a hospital for an eating disorder that was obviously reactionary to her surroundings. Then they post a video about how “these things are no one’s fault” basically saying “we 100% aren’t to blame this is just something that happens”
Like no tf it’s not. I hate them and I hate how they have this like army of mindless zombies who regurgitate praise back to them on every single video. It feels like a cult anytime on of their shorts pops up.
I truly feel for these children, especially the fact that that one girl was humiliated online because she “didn’t do the chores,” and these parents sharing her punishment online is just horrible.
Thinking on it, why even present this as a punishment? OK, your kid wanted to not do her chore. Then just let her know that she will have to do it tomorrow. That isn't a punishment, that is just honest time management. Presenting it as this punishment is just trying make yourself look tougher than you are.
@@rosesweetcharlotte also I feel like it teaches the kid that chores are just punishments and not something you do because you need to because it will help you if that makes sense
@@2turg_2furious Exactly. Chores are just things which have to be done. I definitely did my chores better when I felt like I didn't HAVE to do them or worse things would happen
At least the parents are making money off their child punishment porn.
Not to mention creating a child who will be a perfect victim of capitalist exploitation, being psychologically primed since childhood to know that your worth is based on your ability and willingness to do physical labor.
1:15 "everyday i wake up and i hope you're gay!"
😭😭😭
Now i cant unhear it anymore😂
What movie is that?
@@rnptenafly marriage story
@FloorSimons-r9y same
Never forget the original van lifers, The Thornberries, and how much their eldest hated it. Eliza may have loved the adventure and exploration, but she was pretty young. Debbie was a teenager with no structured life or social group and was so desperate for it that she begged to go to boarding school.
And she loved it, from what I remember. She thrived at boarding school.
@@cheshirenevande4701 exactly, because Debbie hated living in the van and thrived in the stability of boarding school
wow that’s deep
Damnn, thats sadd
Don’t forget their youngest child that was pretty much feral.
Whats really concerning is that these parents get to control their kids 24/7. No school, no friends, no outside hobbies. These kids have no one to help them, no one to confide in. And who knows what goes on behind closed doors...I hope they at least sue their parents for the money they were forced to generate for them.
… I never thought about it like that, but you’re so right
Not to mention, with no address and never staying in one place, these families could essentially pick up and run whenever they feel like it if somebody gets smart enough to call CPS
Exactly, it's a total nightmare. The kid can't even go to their room to have a little alone time, so horrific
There is nothing bad going on behind those doors, because THERE ARE NO DOORS 💀😭
@@puppetpawss something something Epstein... horrifying what could bd happening to these kids.
In high school, I had some family issues where for the first semester of my sophomore year, I needed to stay with my grandfather in his diesel pusher RV. Whilst I had a fantastic relationship with my grandfather, he still stressed the idea of privacy and having my own bedroom as a teenager whilst living in an RV setup. This man, a 64 year old retired veteran and firefighter, pending a cancer diagnosis, GAVE HIS 15 YR OLD GRANDDAUGHTER HIS ENTIRE BEDROOM. I feel so guilty as an adult when I think of the back pain and struggle this sleeping arrangement must have gave him, but OH MY GOD do I have the utmost respect for him to be so mindful about my comfort in camper style living. If my grandfather could give a bedroom to a kid in an RV, these parents most definitely should, or avoid the livestyle entirely!
grandfathers are the best ❤ glad you have that nice memory while going thru a bad time.
What the heck!!!!!!! That makes me so happy to hear… Mainly because you appreciate it 🩷
don’t feel guilty, you didn’t put yourself in that situation and i’m sure he was okay with it for your comfort. that’s amazing though, what a man
Awww❤❤
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10:55 when my lego collection has a far bigger shelf than actual human beings you know something’s wrong especially when the parents have a comically large bed that takes up 1/3 of the rv
I once saw a woman on TH-cam who lives in a van. She has a queen(ish) sized bed with no kids and a dog. She’s really nice to watch and her dog has a lot of room on her bed. She’s the *only* van life creator I actually watch.
i think I know who you're talking about! I like her as well:)
I think it's fine if all participants are adults.
true. if you're single or a childless couple, it's definitely fine to live this way.
@@ianaamdan The problem with every alternative living youtube trend is that the second any of them get traction they got caught in a cycle of one upmanship that eventually complete guts whatever made the trend interesting in the first place.
There's a similar trend with hobby channels where you start watching someone when they're making furniture with basic tools and you're really digging it. Five years later and they're popping things on their CNC milling machine . . .
Is it Court and Nate ?
I was almost a van kid. My parents moved across the country to get away from toxic family. They were understandably stoked and wanted to cruise the coast in a beat-up 2000 Toyata Corolla. They had the time of their lives until 3 year old me asked to go "home" and pointed to a hotel. That's when it hit them that traveling forever wasn't good for me. They immediately moved us into a rental home with my very own bedroom. It wasn't very big, but that house gave me a stable childhood and a good education. It's a story that proves to me that my parents love me unconditionally.
Your parents are good people who love you very much 🥺
So glad they figured it out and put you first 😊
W parents
"here, you obviously deserve this more than me"
🫴👑 *Your parents *
Gotta love responsible parents
Due to our situation, when I was 16-17 my mom and I had to live in a camper for a brief period of time after we moved from state to state. And thinking back, she let me have the bedroom area. It was tiny, and had a sliding screen for a door, but I was comfortable, and she let me have that privacy while she slept on the couch in the living area. Seeing these parents just makes me appreciate how my mom handled things.
Your mom is an amazing woman for that!
love to you and your mom, hope things are better now 💙
If I were in the situation I'd do the same for my boys. I'd find a way that they could have their own space.
Your mother seems like an amazing person, way better than these sickos could ever be
Props to your mom girl! 💗
I’m school friends with a child from The Family Of Nomads, and I can tell you, she disappeared for a long while due to medical issues, but she couldn’t tell us anything, most likely due to her parents. We thought she died, when we say she wasn’t able to tell us anything, we mean ANYTHING.
I remember seeing a van life were the kid literally asked to go to a Hotel for their birthday, just a normal none special hotel, just to be able to sleep in a normal bed. That broke my heart
Omg that's horrible I hope that kid got what they wanted
wait is that the same family whose daughter had to be hospitalized for an ED?
@@riftendrifter yup
@J3ster! eating disorder
@J3ster! eating disorder
The fact that two of the children in the first clip are sleeping on the actual floor with no mat or anything and the parents have no problem with that is upsetting to say the least.
I think that that family posted videos in their house too
Probably creates terrible back problems as well…
i've seen the comments section on that video, and seeing the creators like commenters who are like "well haven't YOU slept on the floor before?" And like. That's besides the point. Yes it could be normal to sleep on the floor but only like on the veeeeeeeeeeery occasion like sleep overs, staying over at a family's house... those once in a lifetime scenarios... but on a TINY VAN? with MULTIPLE CHILDREN?
Even people who sleep on the floor needs to have comfortable mattresses/padding, or that they'd use something like a futon, etc. But on the floor, bare, and only having some shit like a sleeping bag is just sad.
@@iluVioletLink It’s even worse when the parents have a full sized bed and walking room.
@@iluVioletLink Yeah, when people sleep on the floor it’s usually only for a night or two, not their whole childhood
As someone who due to financial reasons had to sleep in the same bed as their mother till they were 12. Seeing these people willing do this to their children just boils my blood.
yeah same here. makes me pissed of for sure
I shared a bed with my mom, dad, AND sister for YEARS. Lemme tell you it was hard even tho i was used to it. I didnt have ANY privacy. and for these parents to CHOOSE to do this it blows my mind
I am sorry you had to do this everyone deserves their own space and privacy.
I shared a room w my brother and parents till i was like 7 or 8 and then shared a room w my younger brother till i was like 12. Then i shared a room w my grandma till i was 14 when after surgery she moved into my older brothers room and in result i lived w my brother untill my grandma died and he moved back at round 15. The privacy i have now is yhe best thing that ever happened to me. I dont get the parents that force their kids to share rooms if they have enough money not to. I get that my family doesnt have enough money so i understand y i didnt have my privacy for a long time, but purposefully people doing that infuriates me.
@@hyde3155 i had to share a room with my brother till i was about 10. i feel bad for these kids truly, the parents have a choice to let their kids have privacy but they dont give them it. it boils my blood.
Makes the Dursleys look good. At least Harry had a door he could close.
Molly didn’t do her chores last night, so we stopped the bus and kicked her off to survive on her own in the forrest. We will be back in a week to check on her progress.
It's funny that he compares it to paying a light bill when they live in a fucking van.
Molly celebrates her newfound freedom, independence, and privacy from living in the forest. "Much roomier than the van," a hiker reports to have heard.
But fr tho
@@ShadoeLandman Molly has become one with the beats and the trees and reports that she will never go back to van life. She makes money by posting weekly to her TH-cam channel, and by earning tips through teaching lost hikers how to survive till help arrives.
Remember when a Japanese couple did this to their kid to "teach him a lesson?" In bear country? The kid was ultimately found alive and safe, but these people seem like they'd defend their decision to the death.
Seems like a perfect set up for abuse. Always on the move, so teachers, neighbours, doctors, friends etc, can't notice something is going on with the kids. Kids can't form any relations with any other adult, so they have no one, no 'safe' adult to turn to if they need to.
I'm pretty sure they're typical narcissists, judging by their inability to grasp the simple fact their kids need certain basic things and their reaction to backlash. When someone responds with "well you're still giving me engagement by commenting so the joke's on you HAHAHAHA" it's commonly because they can't understand that the person opposing them isn't out to make them feel as much pain as possible, and even if they are, they realize their contribution through engagement is so small that it doesn't matter. It's a "mommy's special stash" amount of copium to want to grasp at something so small just to feel like you're on top as much as possible. Even in middle school I found that argument to be beyond silly, idk what their mental age has to be.
Also, everything the children are doing is probably monitored. Almost all of the families shown in this vid only have a thin curtain separating each of the rooms, so there is no way these children have ever felt the sweet feeling of actually having any privacy.
the entire "living" situation is already abuse
@@toxihex876 yeah, saying "your still giving me engangement by commenting" is a terrible ass excuse for child abuse.
Kid named Enoch=automatic religious lunatics.
Let alone also being van parents...
Anytime a "bedroom" for children is primarily another space, like a living room or dining room for adults, that space will not feel like the child's space. I'm a firm believer that tiny houses can be done amazingly well, but you have to actually incorporate your children into the design and not tack them on as an afterthought
Totally agree. A couple was featured on a TH-cam channel regarding their tiny home, and their son’s bed was a dog bed put on the bottom shelf of their clothes drawer…. Everyone was asking what happens when the couple wants alone time, and some one said they shut the drawer 🤣💀.
Especially not 12 of them
These people do not deserve kids. If you are not willing to learn from the first to prepare for them because they DESERVE IT or at least do not put them through the same struggle as the first little one then you do not care for them and it makes you a psycho
Yeah. I didn't have it nearly this bad, but my room was also "the guest room" ie, none of my stuff was in there, and any adult who came to visit meant I was turfed out onto the pull out sofa. That alone has given me a complex - I'm so fierce about my stuff and my space because of it, and that was inside a house where I got an education and socialisation. These poor buggers...
Right mom and dad get their private place why not the kids too.
I live in a poorer state, even my mom forced one of her drugged out friends to give the only bedroom of his trailer to his 4-5 year old toddler. "If you have a kid, they deserve a space to theirself. You don't make them suffer for your actions, you give them as much privacy as you can." Is exactly what she told him.
All of these adults can't even do that much. They should be putting theirself in shelves and drawers far before they ever make their kids bunk up and sleep there. Give them as much privacy as priority before yourself. They have no respect for these kids, they're just lining them up like objects on the literal shelves of their 'home'. It's disgusting.
I remember a time I moved from my house and changed 5 rental flats in 2 weeks, when eventually my dog started to pull me to random house porches and refused to go. He wanted to stay somewhere at last. And imagine what a child must feel.
That one woman who literally had 3 kids sleeping on the FLOOR OF THE VAN while they got a huge ass bed made my blood boil.
Yep I saw that that made me sick and she wouldn’t specify this one sleeping on the floor. She would say Timmys sleeps here
So she didn’t have to explain that her child is literally sleeping on the freaking floor. It’s so sad people think this is acceptable.
Seeing that made me scream.
shouldn't parents be the ones who sacrifice their comfort for their children, not the other way? Like of course parents are human beings and should be comfortable, but not at the expense of their children
@@hiyylight exactly. That’s what I was thinking, which is why it made me so mad
@@hiyylight exactly! But many don’t sadly
A lot of parents don't seem to realize that kids don't only need privacy from the parents, but from each other too.
Exactly! No child is going to want to spend their entire time with their family!
agreed. my house only had two bedrooms that arent the master bedrolm, and theres 3 of us, so my brothers always shared a room until recently when one now lives in the sunroom (its basically just another bedroom at this point). teens need their own spaces to express themselves, id hate it if i had to share because my room is basically where i decirate with all the things i love.
!!!!!! 👏🏻seriously👏🏻
@user-md7dk9cn8eyes I was thinking wait til they get into teenage years because they’ll get taller & will want privacy & personal needs
@user-md7dk9cn8e THIS. My mom knows that me and my brother are older and we have our own bedrooms and privacy. _We have a whole upstairs to ourselves.._
The "kid shelf sized accessory" thing made me think of a deeper rooted issue too, the fact so many parents keep having kids just because they love the "baby stage" and how "cute they are" but neglect them when they're older and god forbid development their own thoughts and personality.
Yes! We should start asking "do you want to be a parent" instead of "do you want a baby" because it puts more emphasis on "there's more than the baby stage".
Also, this question should only be asked if we *know* it's okay for the person, because you never know what people are struggling with (like infertility, miscarriage, wanting to be child free).
In the case of Christians, there is no need to ask. They're gambling, ready to win. One day, a bright light will shine out of the cervix and then they know...he's back!
And all those Christian! women want to be that woman.
My mom is like this. She concieved because she wanted a baby daughter, not a child, nor an adult. I'm a guy, and grew out of the age she wanted when i was 8. She's never wanted me, especially after i grew past her "cute little object" age. It messes you up
@@Nelia2705exactly
yes my gosh! my own mother dragged us around like a burden from state to state and when we finally stopped moving she decided she had enough and i was old enough to abandon me with my early 20s brothers for a kid that is in no way related to her, just a kid that doesn’t see her for who she is. i feel sorry for the kid often because she really doesn’t deserve my “mother” as a “parent” or her father as one either. they’re both high school drama queens..poor kid having to deal with BOTH of them?
Funky frog bait sucks at research!!! (Your clarification was super respectful and responsible good job)
As someone who grew up in an RV, you dont just hear your parents go at it. The entire thing rocks. These people are keeping therapists employed...
I gasped. I hope you're working on ways to traumatise them back
smells like nursing home for your parents
Jesus Christ… You think they would do it outside or in a hotel or something…
That's fucking horrifying.
Are you ok I will call you a therapist 🫠🙃
In Stardew Valley - the family in the trailer, the parent Pam sleeps on the couch and she made sure the daughter Penny has a proper room with a door. Pam is a struggling alcoholic and even she has her priorities set right. Unlike these folks!
I love stardew for this "little" detail
now that you point it out, it seems even more sad. *fictional* people have better life choices than real, breathing humans..
Yes, i really liked that detail
OMG YES STARDEW!
Stardew is awesome
Yet terrifying
the irony of “my children can’t have technology as a punishment” while your parents film a tiktok about how great your shitty living situation is
@@emilypurdy2097 Why would someone buy likes for a random comment on a random video? Also, people can like but not comment. That just means they appreciate the input, but have nothing to add on.
@@emilypurdy2097 do you really think id spend money on a youtube comment you dumbass
Somehow, the way you phrased that, made it plain to me that "No Electronics," as a punishment of a kid at any housing level, sounds suspiciously like, "You can't call for help while the memory is fresh!" 😢
For someone with very little room for toys or offline hobbies, the no-technology punishment hits different than it would having more options
Not just no technology but also added the punishment of CANT PLAY OUTSIDE! And ya that’s until they finish all their chores but it’s a small child they deserve brakes and to try and push them away from playing outside is insane
As requested from Funky themselves:
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Aka, Funky's research skills are ass"
A bedroom has 2 requirements.
1. It needs to have a bed.
2. It needs to be a room.
At best, these are bed pantries.
At worst, these are mat-floors.
Real like you can’t make ur kids sleep on a couch every day 💀
Hey! The couch is better then the ground at a hotel cause you kick to much and can't share the bed with your sisters cause you could injure them 😖
Even that is a low bar compared to real estate requirements: it's not a bedroom without a window (fire safety) and a closet. So these van life people are very very very below minimum standards.
also, it needs to have a closet. So, in every sense it's not a bedroom. At BEST! it's a human locker.
There's a book written by a woman who was raised on a boat. One day her parents decided to sell their house in England, buy a yacht and sail through the world. Let me tell you - she had to work very, very hard to get education and build a life for herself, and she doesn't have warm feelings for her parents.
Wavewalker: breaking free by Suzanne Heywood, if anyone's interested.
Thank you for the book title! I was gonna say, this video and this book reminds me of another book, The Glass Castle by Jeanette Walls, an autobiographical memoir. The family's situation is different compared to this book as they had to scrape to get by throughout certain points of the authors life, but the parents do follow the drifter/nomadic lifestyle, and does cover adult themes such as abuse, alcoholism and brief sexual assault. I read it in school and it moved me a lot. I won't get into spoilers but it does end on a lighter/bittersweet tone, mainly in regards to how the author views her life and her parents, but relating to this video, quite frankly there would be no shame if the kids resent their parents for this van life and I hope they get out of it and are able to get their lives back on track. It really won't be easy and it's something I feel like I'd lose sleep over on their behalf. These parents I don't think are able to fathom what this will do to their children.
Yeah, I read the article she wrote to accompany the book release
That's exactly what I was thinking about when watching this video
Cost 10 years of her life and I think she was lucky to survive disasters such as storms and shipwrecks. Who puts their kids' lives at risk?
I grew up like this :))) With four other siblings and two pets!! Can confirm IT ABSOLUTELY SUCKS. No privacy, no socialization, no education, no stability or consistency, little to no room for your stuff, and we definitely heard the horizontal tango more than once. AND I actually do have chronic back pain from sleeping on a shelf!! Traumatizing and abusive. I'm glad to be out of there. This video is so painfully spot on.
I'm very sorry that happened to you :(( I hope you're doing much much better now!
@@keplrr I’m doing a lot better! I have my own apartment now and plenty of space to breath. Genuinely hate that this sort of thing isn’t more talked about. Kids shouldn’t be treated like luggage for parents to pack up and move around as they please.
I’m so sorry you had to go through that. Glad that you’re out of there!
Can't wait for the abandonment and anxious attachment issues
Well damn mate, that sounds rough as heck. Hope you're doing better.
"FunkyFrogBait sucks at research under that video, GO GO GO!"
What?
@silvialanfredi7388 I do as the funky frog bait of the future commands.
As someone who had to share a normal sized bedroom with their sibling when they were younger, I hated it and was so excited to get my own room- I can't imagine how these kids must feel.
Same. I always had a lot of trouble falling asleep and my brother snored all the time so it was even harder, i was always so jealous when every pair of siblings i knew started getting their own rooms way before me.
I can't imagine what these kids feel, especially the ones that have shelves for a bed, like it looks like they can barely lift their head in there.
I hated sharing a room with my sister when we were kids too! We shared a small room from her birth (she's 16 months younger) until I was 17, and I honestly think it was responsible for 99% of our relationship issues. We were just too different -- I liked to stay up and sleep in, she sleeps early and gets up early, we had no room for our respective things and complained about "your side/my side" which wasn't reasonable because the room was too small lol, it was easy for her to just take my stuff because there was no physical boundary of "this is yours, that is mine." Literally as soon as I got my own room, our relationship improved dramatically because we each had our own space, and now my sister and I are super close. We had the option in my house for us to have our own bedrooms too, my dad just refused thinking it would bring my sister and I "closer." I can't imagine how much worse it is for these kids with even less space, less privacy, and more siblings.
From birth I shared a room with my triplet brother I liked it actually. And then we had to move into a small flat where I had to share my room with 2 of my brothers. I am happy to have my own room now.
yep same, had to share until i was 14 and he was 17, we both hated it. I was always super excited when he was spending the night at his friend's house because it meant i could have the room to myself, felt like an actual holiday. can't imagine what it would be like with even more siblings + parents VERY close nearby in an even smaller space.
My sister and I shared a huge bedroom growing up, but we were still itching for the day we'd get our OWN rooms.
even sharing an actual bedroom can be very hard, i feel so sorry for these kids
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Your profile picture give me flashbacks and so many memories 😭
Yes exactly, I've shared a bedroom since I was like four and I am eighteen now. It fucking sucks.
I shared a bedroom with my brother and two sisters and, once my brother got his own room, my two sisters. We all survived. A lot of kids today have it too easy.
@grumpyoldlady_rants it isn't about whether people survive or not lol. i think you know that. something that doesn't kill a person can still be a struggle.
having to share a bedroom can be hard.. even though it's not hard for everyone, obviously. every person is a unique individual. sharing with multiple people is not a foreign concept to me. in my own childhood i've shared a room with multiple people and sometimes one person. not all of those situations were the same experience. some easier, some harder. people have differences in how they feel about privacy and personal space, to some it can cause a lot of stress while to others it won't. all depending on circumstances.
i believe that all people should have access to a personal space and that if you can provide your children with that, you should. people won't always have that freedom because the world isn't fair, but i think they should have it. pretty inoffensive opinion that children are deserving of their own room if not having one negatively affects them. in my opinion, a person's home isn't meant to cause them stress or discomfort normally.
when my mom, brother, and i lived in a one bedroom apartment, my mom gave me and my brother the bed to sleep while she slept on the couch. it's ridiculous to me how terrible these parents are
Your mom is amazing.
You have a great mom who loves you
My mom would have done this for my brother and I too. The best parents always put their kids before themselves.
It _is_ worth considering that it's been _very_ common, throughout history, for an entire family to sleep in a small one-room house. These families often included _lots_ of kids. (As a famous and successful example, Dolly Parton grew up in a one-room cabin she shared with her parents and eleven siblings in the 1950s.) So while it is a lovely and kind thing your mother did, it doesn't make these parents "terrible."
@@jacksyoutubechannel4045 the difference is that in those circumstances like my own family's, we were struggling financially. Even for a one bedroom apartment, my mom was just barely scraping by to afford rent. These families often times CHOSE this lifestyle. It wasn't one where they had no choice and had to resort to living in an RV just to survive. That's the difference. These parents saw van/RV life as something exciting and went headfirst into it without thinking about their kids. These parents gave themselves full privacy and their OWN room. Whilst their kids had no privacy, no room for themselves, and no place for them to express themselves.
Can you imagine never having privacy. Never having school functions. Teachers. A regular doctor. Friends. A neighborhood. Social engagements. The ability to sleep without panic-inducing claustrophobia? They are traumatizing these kids in so many ways. If you want to be van lifers, great, wait til your kids are grown or don't have kids. It's irresponsible. It's immature. It's selfish. And its abusive. These vans are cool for a short vacay or road trip. Not life with 2-10 children. My heart breaks for these "van life" kids.
Yes, I can imagine it - I lived it as a kid.
@Cedarparsnip that's absolutely heartbreaking. I'm so thankful my parents were mostly great people
I have seen a total of one van life family I approve of. They have a large RV and only one child, and they clearly prioritize him. He has a large area all to himself, and even a little extra area for friends. They keep track of his friends so whenever they’re in the same area they meet up, so even traveling the country he has a consistent group. And it’s very clear he’s *enthusiastic* about his life and enjoying it. Because of how clearly the parents prioritize the child and go out of the way to make sure his needs are met, I’m okay with them. It’s horrifying they’re the exception.
Whats the channels name?
@@astryslii can you also tag me in the answer please?
It’s the momtrotter I believe I love their channel
ooo that's neat
See I def see this as a cool good thing especially considering US education in comparison. I thought you could do it right like this. From the comments people grew up like you’re describing and actually enjoyed that life. Parents online are so selfish these days
This is just terrifying. I went to a sleepover at 2 twin van life kids, and they were all just constantly asking me questions on how our house is like. I told them everything, and they begged me, my parents, and their parents to have a sleepover at my house. They came over, and were extremely scared after the youngest one had taken a ten minute shower instead of a five minute one. They couldn’t take showers longer then ten minutes, causing them to never have hot water. It was so sad that the youngest one came out crying because she though she was in trouble. I seriously don’t go one day without thinking about them it was so sad.
Holy smokes! That’s horrible, I hope they’re better now.
That sounds more like a situation they were forced into due to money. If not, and it was the parents' choice, ew.
Omg hopefully your parents or u said it’s okay when she took a long shower cus she deserves it ❤
Oh that’s so sad wow they don’t deserve that
Ain’t no way. I need at least 10min to shower
As someone who was a "van life kid" for around a year ( alongside my two younger brothers ), I can confirm it was absolutely terrible. Difficult to make friends, difficult to find any sort of privacy, and difficult to grow and navigate your area comfortably.
i an only imagine
Same I lived in an rv for 4-5 years growing up
But that's still not abuse and you had a better life than literally half of the planet
@algsunshine7075 Not once in my comment did I refer to it as abuse. Nor did I say I had it worse than anyone. I was simply stating that, yes, being a van life kid absolutely **sucks**. It damaged me in ways I still can't quite explain and haven't completely healed from yet. While I am grateful that I had the opportunity to travel and try something new, it doesn't change the fact that the experience was absolutely awful and if i can avoid it, I hope to never live like that again. 🤷♀️
@@algsunshine7075 it is absolutely abuse
2:43 and someone was sleeping on the floor?!
Yeah, it was in the bathroom to which is even worse
The fact that they have so many children too
2 kids sleep on the floor :/
Yes😅
Avg middle child experience...😢😢😂😂
As a kid who’s parents did this, you are absolutely correct, I have back issues, I’m just now making friends, I was homeschooled all my life, and while I do great at the arts I lack proficiency in math and the important things. If you are going to do this you need to do it right, or you’ll screw up your kid.
Same :/
I hope your ok
yeah omg and i was thinking like if you're ever mad or need space to yourself, you can't really get "alone time" :(
@@Kae-Lee so exactly is van life like? Just asking
@@gini1802 I have lived in a camper. It SUCKS! I mean there are some fun parts for for the most part it sucks. You don’t get you’re own space, you can’t have pets because it’s to small for most pets and there things, you’re cramped and the camper I had didn’t have any AC so when it got cold it got super cold in the camper and when it was summer the camper was super hot! It’s not something I would recommend to anyone!!!!
the frustrating thing is that since these people have no permanent home base, it's pretty much impossible to even call child services on them.
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Yes. I’d their always moving, that have no exact location to tell child services.
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Bro, there are issues w this way of life but not anywhere even close to being bad enough to necessitate calling child services!
Could you even imagine how much worse that would be for the kids?
@@miguelenriquebeltre8882 on many us states it is considered child neglect to not at minimum give each child their own bed
How can these parents justify their kids sleeping on the FLOOR while they get a huge ass bed? Absolutely infuriating.
I was in a van for a week and we did that but we took turns with the comfiest spaces and the floor. These parents suck
Right?! That one kid was on the bathroom floor! AND! He looked well into his teens!!!
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bro when I was as big as them I was sleeping in my moms bed this is awful
EXACTLY! IT INFURIATES ME!
13:52 we dont send our skids to school 💩
This made me try not to giggle at 2:00AM
EMU
by doing so YOU MESS UP THEIR SOCAIL LIFE AND CRITICAL THINKING. by going to school they get to meet new people and exchange ideas with new perspectives. BY HOMSCHOOLING A CHILD YOU HARM THEIR MENTAL HEALTH
@@krisshnapeswanipeswani3190the entire reason why many homeschool is to shelter their kids from "scary" unknown and and unapproved ideas and thoughts. It's about control.
That's why it's literally illegal in my country.
These parents are always so greedy. The kids are always an afterthought. They don’t think about their social lives. They don’t think about their living situations. They only think about their dreams and their lives. It angers me to no end.
When you believe that children are just what you're supposed to do to add to the Christian conservative army - when you think your only responsibility to them is to teach them discipline to make them productive little producers and consumers and that they exist to serve you, then you have no reason to consider them as actual people with needs, rights, and respect like these asshats. Once these kids grow up, they will find out.
People like that don't deserve kids. Being a parent involves sacrifice and compromise, which these a-holes refuse to do, at the detriment of their children. These poor kids are gonna have a hard time adjusting to normal life when they grow up.
It's frustrating bc so many of us would love to travel but we actually want our kids to speak to us later down the road.
unrelated but n25 miku pfp!!!
children dont need social lives, until 18 they are simply property of the parents.
Honestly, sharing your children's daily lives online is such an invasion of their privacy.
Should be illegal
And some older kids are now suing their parents for family channels even too
Yess, I'm so tired of all of these "tiktok moms" who record their children doing literally ANYTHING. Like, I understand taking photos for family memories and private photo books, but not recording and then posting it online, so random people can see every aspect of your children's life. I can't even imagine the feeling when something important is going on in your life or you're having some private time and then your parent instead of being with you just takes out their phone and starts recording to later put it on tiktok with a weird voiceover.
And really convenient for pred@tors!!
I agree
Generally sharing anything about yourself online that can link to your real identity is asking for trouble
Especially for children
It should be illegal honestly
As an abused kid, this kind of life makes child abuse so easy and very hard to track or report.
Like yeah child services sucks quite a lot of the time but this amount of isolation really makes it easy for parents to get away with using them since there are no other adults looking out for them.Especially since it’s usually teachers or neighbours or friends parents that report signs
Oof. This didn’t even occur to me. Holy shit you are a thousand percent right. Sorry you went through that.
Exactly!
Yeah they're constantly on the move so they don't have neighbors that see them routinely
They don't have any friends in person because they don't stay in the same place consistently
They don't go to school so teachers/counselors can't see any changes in them or recognize any signs of abuse
For all anyone knows these families could be sexually abusing their children and because they are in charge of their social media and they are the ones editing the videos, It wouldn't come out until the kids become adults and escape. Then it will be "child abused for 18 years, No one around to help" or something
@@shadowsoulless6227 And, unfortunately, a child exposed to lifelong abuse in isolation is likely to take a lot longer than just 18 years to leave an abusive environment - especially bc constant movement also like, perfectly prevents a teenager from ever having a first job, and possibly might even prevent them from getting a driver's license until they escape the abusive environment. leaving an abusive partner as an adult is one thing. i've helped ppl escape before and the amount of work it takes and time it takes all while the person continues to face abuse while working their ass off to escape is just... horrifyingly endless. and, you can't really hide a secret stash of money/a diary/resources/etc in such a small space...
HAHAHAHA LOOK AT THIS BOZO THATS BAD AT RESEARCH EVERYBODY POINT AND LAUGH HAHAHAHAHA
Bro i don't understand why are all these comments from 5 days ago
@silvialanfredi7388 she posted a remake and said that she goofed up the research. As a joke she said to go into her comments and call her out on it
I feel like the cute van life is for like- young couples without kids. Or like old people who just hit retirement age and just wanna travel.
And the homeless.
I think it could work with like a young child who wont care about privacy as much or like as a summer roadtrip thing.
@@katie.hin.1318 definitely non-school aged children and if so, only the summers. no kid would enjoy this lifestyle full time.
@@dreamkitty oh yeah absolutely, like no older than six unless their doing a big summer trip in the rv
@@katie.hin.1318 Exactly!! Maybe like a toddler, but 12 kids??!!! That’s just plain crazy!!
there was one family that expecially angered me, one of their children was diagnosed with autism and depression from what i remember, and they still refused to give up van life
it was obvious from their videos that that kid had problems with lack of privacy and no sense of stability, its absolutly heartbreaking to see how little they care for their own kids
my cousin (has autism) lives in a RV like this... but also has a nice home to live in. they only like in the RV when they come to see us or someone/somewhere else.. (he has his own room in their house and privacy)
oh my god, can’t people call child services on them?
If you’re talking about Family of nomads they did actually move down to Florida to get their kid the help they needed and stayed there for almost a year I believe.
@@shaywatson5084But then once they regained some stability they went back on the road, I've seen lot of people (including myself) concerned that their health is gonna worsen again since the parents seem to refuse the idea that a lack of a "home base" and stable situation is part of the problem.
@@alastryona it’s something I’m worried about as well, but it’s also possible that their daughter felt that they were ready to return. They’ve said countless times that they will do what’s best for the kids, and in the year they were in Florida I didn’t see them posting very much. Which makes me think maybe they do actually have their kids best interests at heart. I also follow them kinda loosely so I could be 100% off on if they’ve been posting or not.
My boyfriend is a victim of RV life and he has so much trauma from it. He begged his parents to give up custody of him to his grandmother when he was high school age. He is an only child too… that much lack of privacy with 3 people in the RV.
That would’ve been extra awful because he would’ve had no one his age around!!
@@tealablu3759 Really, this. These parents act like they're preparing these kids for the real world and like school is a fantasy land, but these kids have no real friends. And the fact is, RV life is a sort of fantasy existence.
@@rosesweetcharlotte I’m the oldest of 4 and lived in two different travel trailers growing up while being homeschooled. It’s so secluded. It sucked when kids would come to the trailer park on vacation and then leave and look at us like we were weird
@@RuletheWorldwithsong The thing is, you guys were weird. Your experiences were so different from the other kids. That is very much the problem, you were denied this normal experience.
@@rosesweetcharlotte It’s also scary because of that. These kids have no regular contact with anyone. What are they supposed to do if they are being abused by their parents? There’s no one they can tell because there just isn’t anyone around.
12:22 LIGHT BILL? IN A BUS?
That’s what I said like maybe a generator but idk
“every child deserves a parent, but not every parent deserves a child.” goes *perfect* for this
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FINALLY someone said it so honestly and bluntly. I find it literally insane that each of these families always has parents in a comfortable, private, suite. Always. Like a shelf in the wall or a couch as a "bedroom" for the kids. None of these parents will ever admit it, but the children will always come second. The ACTIVE choice of nomadic lifestyle, selfish living situation, lack of education or even blatant no education shows that they come second no matter how much you love your kids.
I find the lack of education disturbing too. Especially for the teens.
What adult life are they being equipped for? What social skills and connections do they have outside the family? What roots do they have? There is a cruel irony in being trapped by a life of roaming.
First off, your upset about the Legit design of a camper, they are compact and cozy so you just just judging to judge on that. And to quote you exactly “The ACTIVE choice of nomadic lifestyle, selfish living situation, lack of education or even blatant no education shows” nothing is wrong with the nomadic living, it’s not selfish living situations because when you live in a camper the majority of your time is spent outside honestly, and there is nothing wrong with homeschooling or creative schooling. If someone does it because it’s religious based you don’t care but if someone does it because of how they live it’s an issue???? Like what is wrong with people nowadays where everyone is
A.) So fucking soft
B.) Cares so much about how other people live and
C.) so set in there own ways to “change” how people live. Y’all just need to stop because this is insane as someone who LIVES in a camper with her husband and family (dog included) there is nothing wrong with how we live and your insane for thinking there is. Bunk beds in a camper are no different than bunk beds in a house so get a grip and tbh care about yourself for a while and not everyone else
I grew up being forced to share everything with my twin sister. Room, toys, food, etc. And I was told to suck it up when she stole from me because I was older and somehow that made me a liar. Meanwhile, my mom and dad had their own room with a master bedroom with queen bed, their own bathroom, an office we weren't allowed in (not for work, just to watch more TV), and they went out to eat at fancy places often while I'd eat kraft mac n cheese pretty much every meal, giving me some malnutrition. I hated it, I can't imagine that life in an RV too. I went to red Robin with them ONCE and it felt like the most luxurious experience ever.
This would be fine as like a summer, vacation home. But full fucking time? This would be awful. I would kill to have my own home with enough room and space for us all to have our own rooms, and a backyard for my cats to explore and my kids to play in, and these people had that and they traded it to cram their kids together and deprive everyone of any real privacy. I live in a tiny 2 bedroom apartment with my 2 kids and 2 cats. Guess who sacrificed space? Not my kids. I sleep on a pullout in the living room, my boys have their own rooms.
exactly! the kids are still growing so therfore should have the privacy they need
As a 19 yo with an infant son, I've accepted that I have to put some of my adventures on hold for a while. I don't understand how full grown 30 yo adults don't understand this.
because not everyone should have kids... unfortunately it is still viewed as a norm to have kids after marriage and some people "give it a try" not thinking about the fact that this is at least 18 years of hard work
I had my son when I was 20, and I gave up on going to a college in a different state or living in dorms. I pushed back all the plans I had for traveling and new experiences. It's been 1 year since he was born, and I can't think of anything I'd rather do than make sure his life is as amazing as it can possibly be.
Too many people from older generations seem to think that because they created their kids and make sure they're clothed and fed, their job is done, and they can do whatever they want. It makes me so disappointed
damn, you're already a better parent than some full grown adults
@@Dave102693 People decide to have kids because some things in life are worth making sacrifices for. Children give parents a sense of purpose in life, and the joys of having a child is unparalleled to any other kind of happiness you'll ever experience. Yes, it's difficult, but anything worthwhile in life will always come at a cost.
Frankly speaking I couldn't care less if you choose to not have kids, but it's really not hard to see why most other people want children even if you don't. I also didn't want children at one point in my life, but even at that time I understood why other people wanted them.
I think that younger parents understand the needs of children better than older parents partially because older people have simply forgotten what it felt like to have needs as a kid that only a parent could fulfill, and how it felt when those needs weren't met.
here for Future Froggy to say: BOOOOO FUNKYFROG BAITS REASEARCH‼
The fact these parents will turn about and try to blame the viewers is insane
Seriously man
yeas
Exactly. THEY are the ones putting out the content, the viewers are just commenting on what they see. And it’s not good
they bussed all the way to Egypt
not the vewers the "trollers"
Those kids are literally sleeping in COFFINS, THOSE BEDS ARE COFFINS, ITS NOT EVEN BEDS.
They are sleeping in the cause of their future back problems 😭
They can't even sit up straight without hitting their heads on the ceiling! It's ridiculous!
Even my tent trailer for vacations, we have all our own big bed
That one where the space was absolutely tiny is ridiculous. I’d imagine it’s hard to even turn in it, and what about when they get their growth spurt. No way those mattresses are comfortable either. If I was in such a situation, I’d rather set up a tent each night.
I felt claustrophobic looking at it 😖
RV kid here, let me tell you, frog is ABSOLUTELY right. I've been living in a camper with my 3 brothers and parents for the past two years, and these past two years have been an absolute detriment to my mental health. Yes, it is an amazing opportunity I've been given to have seen all the places that I have, but I cannot recall a single positive experience anywhere I've been. I receive little to no education and I'm scared I won't be able to pass my GED, I will probably be repeating high school once I turn 18. I'm lucky enough to not have my entire life posted about on the internet, but even then my parents cross the line sometimes when posting to Facebook. There is no privacy, and my two youngest brothers are forced to share a "bed"(a broken dinette) and my other brother sleeps on the couch, while my parents have a large California queen bed with doors and all the privacy in the world. If you are considering this lifestyle with children, you are guaranteeing that you end up in a nursing home in your old age.
Good luck, mate.
Omg that’s awful! You don’t have to answer this obviously but, do you get any opportunities to work and save up money to move on your own when you turn 18? Like how do kids in that situation find footing to start their own life?
I wish I could send a ged prep book to you. I got mine at 17. You could try to see if there are any good free prep courses online or videos to help you study. I totally forgot all the sites I use to use.
I just can’t imagine this. Me and my bf want to try vanlife for a bit but we even take our cat into consideration when trying to think about what we could do
Yeeeaaahhh RVs aren't built for 6 people, the only thing I could tell you is to lash out in a way that lowers your parents quality of life so they no longer want to live on an RV.
17:22 accurate representation of van life children
Family of TWELVE living on a road is absolutely psychotic
That had to be satire, right? Some of those kids were legitimately on the FLOOR
@hanscapon222 They were just on a cross-country roadtrip BUT their actual home isn't much better
Agreed, psychotic, neurotic, delusional, lunatic, and very self-obsessive.
I'm not sure what their living situation is now in NY (but according to another commenter it's not much better). But, before going cross-country, they lived in San Francisco in a 2 bedroom apartment. The parents of course had the master bedroom (they may have shared with the baby), the boys had a bedroom, and the girls had the living room...
@@emilyyamasaki4968 honestly shocked they didn't have their kids taken. 12 people in a two bedroom...apartment?
"This is where Enoch sleeps."
Said with all the love and warmth of a serial killer pointing out where he buried his victims.
Right? It didn't look like he was even on a sleeping pad of any kind.
@@FirstnameLastnames Honestly even the name was a dead giveaway to how their "lifestyle" was going to look. Poor damn kids. I hope they get away from their awful parents asap.
@@BlueMoonFoxtailyup. Fundamentalist christians, the biggest fans of child neglect and abuse
My brothers name is “Enoch” it’s a good name! It’s a Christian name so I don’t understand why any Christian would treat there kids so cruel..
@@IloveJesus-q6vthe name “Enoch” means “disciplined” and “trained.” See how that plays into shoving 6 kids into a van.
The parents clearly don't care enough for their children to even give them their own private space. Even in an orphanage you get some sort of privacy.
Not true! You only get the room to yourself for a short time before another kid Is transferred in if they aren’t the same day already. That’s if you only share a room with 1 other person when usually it’s 3-4 in a room. Yes even if you are a teenager
No you don't. I was a "ward of the state" and I can assure you that you NEVER have a seconds peace nor privacy. Unless like the other commenter stated your blessed and have a roommate leave or something like that. But it won't be long before some other stranger is in it.
@@butameremortal9424 never was an orphan but when i was homeless and in psych wards, shelters had like 100 of us per 'room'. psych wards had maybe two or three beds but one time i lucked out and got the solo room, i lived like a freaking King that week
@@mightymeatymech absolutely 😂 it's strange because I'm a loner. But I like to be in crowds. I wonder if it relates to "growing up"
Hope your in a better space now 🫶🏼
wdyym they don't get privacy, they have the thinnest possible curtains ever
“Would they get jealous watching the sorcerers stone?”
I’m dead 😭
It's one of those "what's classy if you're rich, but trashy if you're poor" things
More like “classy if you don’t have kids, trashy if you do.” I have no problem w couples doing this to travel for a few years. It’s when they rope in the kids that i have a problem
Plenty of kids grow up poor and understand the struggles their parents go thru for them. Now imagine growing up like this and realizing that your parents chose that life for you.
Abusing your children
This isn’t classy period, even if you are rich.
This>>>>
I literally just watched a talk about this phenomenon. It's called something like "the doll mindset." Basically, the parents think of their children like dolls that they can pick up and put down and play with whenever they want. The parents don't realize (or possibly actively ignore) that their children are, you know, people with needs. Knowing this mindset exists really makes sense of all these wild parenting influencers.
That is just as scary as it is interesting
Got the talk?
I've heard it referred to as "child objects" before, so sad.
Just stop with hate
@@danicalily3332 i support this message, but this video and comment i also support
the one family where the kid literally asked to stay in a hotel for their birthday was fucking INSANE
The parents defense of that was insane too. "Umm ackshually we went there because our RV was too cramped to hold more kids"
Yea I think I saw that
The mom in that family INSISTS everyone loves living in an RV, but we never hear anything from the kids 💀
does anyone know the channel name/video?
@@pizzachi family of nomads
FUNKY DOESNT KNOW HOW TO RESEARCH..GO GO GO
I was a teen parent, and we took the living room to give the kids the bedrooms in our two-bedroom apartment. What the hell is wrong with these selfish, clout-chasing parents?
This reminded me of something I had forgotten, once we were travelling over two days to go holiday and stay at my uncle's for school holidays, we never went on holiday and couldn't afford much so we stayed with fam, it's a 2-3 day drive and we stayed at a caravan park in a cabin, there were two rooms (one with a bunk bed, the other a double), my younger brother and I had the bunk beds and my mum gave my teenage brother the double bed/other room, she took the crappy fold out couch in the living room/kitchenette area... I'm grateful for parents like this over these selfish tit-tacker parents..
My husband and I have done this because I refuse to have my kids in cramped spaces, they deserve their space and a lot of it. I actually like sleeping in my living room 🫣
@@whatshereads1 Just as I like sleeping in small spaces. Claustrophobia is for losers. (Just kidding, claustrophobia is common and only fun to joke about when in moderation.)
@@pirateramblinrose sounds like you have a great mom
@@liltrashpanda174 I sure did, she passed when I was 15, she was an amazing single parent 💕
I’ve literally only seen ONE family that did this right. They had a HUGE van with actual rooms and big beds for their kids.
Even if the living conditions were right, what about the social conditions? Not hate, just a genuine question, did they have a way of making sure the kids connected with others their age properly and were able to keep in contact and develop properly?
Can you recall their channel? I would be refreshing to see it done right lol.
@@veg_a_eat_ianI’ve seen some videos of KidigitalNomads that I really think are a good example
Thanks @@707Ac3 ! What do you think of Family of Nomads' set up? It looks pretty spacious.
fr! i saw one where two like 6 or 7 year old had a queen sized bed EACH. i'm 15 and i'm still on a twin
I saw one of these where they had to take their oldest daughter to the hospital for fainting and wanting to unalive herself. She was diagnosed with a few things including anorexia and they made a video to ' educate ' about what that is. They claim it's impossible to notice before it gets to this point, and there's no known causes. The daughter was in a mental hospital for months and started losing weight again as soon as she was back home. But don't worry, they got her a pet rat with a cage bigger then her bed, so it's all good.
what were they called/ where can i learn more about them? i’ve never heard of a car this bad before 😦
@@panselinapendragon1731 I'm not positive. I think they might have been called family of nomads? They deleted some of the videos after getting a ton of backlash.
the rat died because they plexiglassed the sides iirc
@@bonelessmice6828 as a rat lover im fking pissed that poor baby-
@@bonelessmice6828 How does plexiglass kill a rat? Honestly asking since I thought it was similar to acrylic, which is basically just strong plastic.
I'm convinced at this point that you have to be an actual sociopath to have a family channel
the way the hype dad rants like "if I don't pay my light bill, they come turn the damn power off".
Sir, you live in a bus, no they do not.
Also not washing your dishes immediately has no consequences in the adult world…like 0 repercussions
I remember when they made the kids bunks bigger, bragging hiw each now had their own tv! 🤦♀️
A more accurate comparison would be if you're behind on the electric bill and a guy in a suit from the electric company shows up to your house and starts cyberbullying you for being poor.
@amateur_artist_storiesmand3853 this makes me think that it really is about controlling their daughter and not the dishes. I'm sure she was giving them some unrelated fight and it wasn't just the dishes.
Also if one fails to pay the light bill, the electric company doesn't come to their house, force them to work, and record the entire thing onto tiktok.
The punishment for not doing chores shouldn't be PUBLIC HUMILIATION AND EXPLOITATION BY FAMILY.
If its any conselation they exploit the kids regularyly so its not a punishment😄👍🏽
It´s really humiliating.
Honestly, while my parents aren´t influencers, they loved posting video´s of me being "clumsy" on Facebook (one time I got stuck in a hole in winter and couldn´t get out because everything was covered in ice and upon seeing this, they got a camera and filmed me for like 35 minutes - why help me?) when I was young, and I fought with them back then about it (to no avail, children´s privacy are up to their parents completely) and I still think that´s messed up.
But to upload this for possibly milions of people? How is this still legal?
PS: Also imagine knowing so many people know you live like this and probably never seeing the backlash regarding it. Like the whole world´s telling you "yes, we think this is fair to you"
I also think kids are always having new experiences, issues or feelings so when a kid who had previously had no problems finishing chores suddenly refuses to, theres a good chance there's a reason behind that (not to mention neuro divergent or disabled kids who may only be beginning to experience their differences and when they don't have the words to explain why things are difficult for them often receive shame or negative assumptions). Obviously they do need to learn that not doing what needs doing leads to consequences, but they also need to learn to manage time, energy and emotions healthily, and might just need to express what's bothering them to be able to do what's asked of them. Whilst shame can be effective in the short term in getting them do stuff, in the long term it'll hinder them emotionally and stunt your relationship with them. And that exploration of why they're struggling can only truly healthily happen in private with people you trust
@@letonoska7348 my sister once did that after she pulled a prank on me. we had an awful relationship and i had a MASSIVE issue with feeling stupid so it was not funny to me then, and it still isnt now. she also once posted pictures of a little "storybook" i made on my tablet. basically about how miserable i was. looking back, sure, it was kind of cringey. but i was eight and i put a lot of emotion into it. and she just posted it because she thought it was funny. i was lucky enough that she wasnt a big influencer or anything, but what if she was? id never be able to live that down.
its beyond me how so many adults have zero consideration for a childs feelings or wishes. it might not seem like a big deal to you, but to a kid, its everything. they feel emotions so strongly and to make fun of that is, imo, one of the shittiest things you can do.
@@letonoska7348when I was on a cruise vacation in 2017 it was my first time ever snorkeling and everyone had already gotten out to eat, I wanted to go back in but nobody else would come with me. There was a seaside grill/bar that the workers would throw tortillas into the water for the fish, idk if they knew I was in there or not, but they threw one right next to me and I was looking underwater and suddenly was swarmed by 30+ big pancake fish, one swam right up on my stomach, I started having a massive panic attack in untouchable water and all my family did was laugh and record and eventually posted it on facebook as well. A worker had to come get me out of the water because I couldn't move from fear of being in the water all alone with dozens of huge fish🥲
“FUNKY FROG BAIT SUCKS” -FunkyFrogBait
As someone who’s parents forced me and my younger brother to live in a travel trailer with 3 cats and no privacy for 4 years, THANK YOU for speaking out on this. My brother and I literally slept in bunks with no curtain or personal space while they slept in their bedroom. It is an abusive and neglectful living situation that NO child should ever be forced to endure.
Can I ask how's your relationship with your parents now?
@@CarrieH827 I have no contact with them unfortunately.
@@Briannaashing Sounds like you're better off without them anyway. Hope you're doing well now.
@@Briannaashing I am sorry to hear this
Are those 4 years the reason?
If you don't mind me asking, you don't have to share if it's too private of course.
@@kurtwagner4663 there were a lot of other problems, but it’s a big part of it. My parents fell into bad drug addiction while living in the trailer, which only made everything worse. When we first started living in it, it was only suppose to be temporary while they found other housing. Over time, my parents got complacent and lazy and didn’t care that we were suffering every day. It was a horrible experience living in that trailer with no privacy and no ability to have any semblance of ownership of my space. It was also filthy because my mom is a narcissistic hoarder. My brother and I voiced our problems repeatedly and asked them to get themselves help so they could adequately take care of us, but they didn’t. We moved into that trailer when I was the ripe age of 14 and my brother 12, and I only got out when I left for college. Hardest thing I ever had to do was leave my brother behind for 2 years before he graduated HS and I could get him out. There’s a lot more to it but that’s the gist of the living situation.
I dont understand how this is allowed. When my parents were getting divorced, something that made me very happy was the fact that my dad living in an rv made sure that he wouldn't have custody over me because of the lack of a bedroom and privacy
Edit: I dont remember if this was decided by a lawyer or by my mom. Either way, it still says a lot
Same thing with my parents and my little sister (all the older siblings including me were all adults when they split) my dad lives in a converted van and travels around contracting for work so he gave my mom full custody of my sister and the house in the divorce so that my little sister could stay at her current school and would have a consistent home to go to with her own room and privacy
When my parents got divorced, idk the arrangement plan details but my dad lived in a camper for a bit at a campground across the highway from my maternal grandparents’ town, which was fun for us kids but it was def vacation-y feeling. That wasn’t permanent and the parents making it permanent for their kids just… suck.
When my parents got divorced and had joint custody, my mom moved like 10 minutes away so that we could still see both parents a roughly equal amount, still go to the same schools, keep our same friends and all of that. It came with other issues, but at least we could stay at the same school, so important for me as an introverted kid
"We want our kids to be believers, to think for themselves" saying that, but nailing nothing but obedience into their toddlers is crazy. "No chores done? Well time to traumatize you"
it also seems like less education in terms of STEM, english writing and grammar as well as their homeschooling practises not actually seeming educational also kinda nails it into me that they just want mini-mes at their beck and call. they arent teaching free thinking or proper skills, but their thinking and skills that benefit them instead of skills they will need once they leave the home and need to find a job. as well as that one guys response to the trolls feels very "yes i know i am doing wrong unto my kids and creating broken people, but yall cant do anything na na na na boo boo"
@@thesyrupdude unfortunately that happens a lot with homeschooling due to the fact that laws surrounding it are basically non-existent. The coalition for responsible home education has a lot of resources on just how bad it is nationwide, but in many states a parent with an active abuse investigation can remove their child from public education to "homeschool" without any kind of paperwork or notification of any kind. The children just stop going to school, and that's that. They're stuck at home with a parent actively being investigated for abuse. And I'll bet you can guess how many of those cases end.
There's little to no oversight of homeschooling, even in the "good" states (one of which I live in), and the result is the well educated, well adjusted homeschoolers are the minority. But because they're the only ones that are able to access testing, too many people have a very high opinion of homeschool education. Sure, Megan tested higher than the rest of the 12th grade in her district, but Abby, Max, and Tracy never even got to *be* tested because they either didn't have the resources to get there, or were murdered before they were old enough. It's awful how homeschooling let's parents f up their kids, and nothing is done about it.
@@Izzy-cp8yt you're spot on with this statement but i think it also depends on the system. i was homeschooled for majority of highschool (i only have 3 years of experience so i cant say much) and i used the cambridge system but as a private student so my qualifications are the same as (if not better than) every other highschooler in STEM. but that being said, i became socially inept especially since a lot of the time spent at home was during covid so yeah not a lot of communication which is definitely stunting my growth now that im in my final year of schooling
Also you can not expect something that you are not willing yourself to follow(ESPECIALLY as a parent)
“we want our kids to become leaders” the only thing they’re leading at 18 is the escape plan
Funky frog bait told me to say that her research skills are not the best
The fact that when we were low on money as kids my dad got us a 2 bedroom trailer and the girls slept in one room, the boys slept in the other and he and my mom slept on separate couches for years says a lot about how these families CHOOSE to ignore their children's needs.
Not to mention online schooling is often FREE they COULD have their kids in an actual school so they don't fall behind but likely it would take time away from -exploiting them for views- , I mean making Van Life TikToks
Yeah I was thinking through all these TikTok’s why none of the parents let two or three of their kids sleep on the KING SIZED BED and they sleep on the couches instead
thing is, the most important part of school aside from basic arithmetic is socialization. teaching kids how to get along with others, and how to behave normally when you cannot. its why daycare is so important for young kids. homeschooled kids never get that and you can see how it screws them up
I have a lot of respect for your mom and dad for giving y'all the actual rooms.
In other words, feeding mommy and daddy’s big ego’s.
I'd like to see these families in 10-15 years and find out how many of the kids have gone no-contact with their parents.
if i were one of the kids i wouldnt have just gone no contact, i would have executed my vengence by burning the rv to the ground
@@PenguinsAreNeat i see your point but let's calm down mate lol
@@ke4692that's messed up... are you alright now?
they pop out 5-8 so that surely one is stupid enough to forgive them
Edit: not to mention neglect their education and social skills so they don't know better
There will be surely a podcast of "1 on 1 talk with someone who grew up on a tiktok van life influencer parents"
I feel like kids suing their parents when they grow up is going to become more and more common.
The best part about that is the easy evidence available to view online! 🤪
And it’s going to be so satisfying to watch. I hope all of these kids win
I really don’t like my mom and stepdad, now I’m grateful I have them. even tho I enjoy my dads place more, my heart just reaches out to these kids. the worst thing is claustrophobia. what if a kid has that? those bunks are the smallest things ever. also, if the van gets hit by a car, it’s just gonna break. I was telling my dad about this and he said that they weren’t like car tested or something. he basically said if the van gets hit, the whole things gonna fall apart. I feel terrible for these kids. I feel so bad, imagine being a little nugget and realize later in life that it sucks ass.
Thank you Mr. L
I wish to God that my abuse was filmed so that I could have evidence.
The abuse was EXTREMELY bad!
12:55 re: family not addressing people's concerns - I wonder if it's not that he didn't address it, but that he *actually just admitted* that he considers putting his kids on blast as part of the consequences for their misbehavior. So while it sounds to normal people like he ignored the issue, it's actually (in his mind) that he just thinks the punishment of humiliation is appropriate.
14:10 Oh yes, what better way to introduce kids to independent thought than to permanently isolate them from anyone with differing views, cultures, opinions, experiences, or options? Definitely providing them with independence by preventing them from any personal space, or choices, or individual property and feeding them *only* what you decide they should encounter, in the isolation of your van. /s
So you're telling me these parents are paying tens of thousands of dollars to fulfill their povertycore dream while torturing thier kids in the process?
“Povertycore” 😭😭
_povertycore!? 🤭_
That's a new one.
WE ARE JUST INVENTIN WORDS NOW? well gosh darn keep doin it, its funny
I fully believe that the family does Vanlife they should account that every kid should have at least a bedroom or space that is for the kid.
Poverycore is a perfect term, they're fan-fic'ing poverty rather than poverty porn that exploits the poor
I am 15 years old and currently living in a caravan with my parents, sister (13) and two dogs
For 6 months. Not for money issues but to “Learn about the road life 🤠”.
I hate it.
The bathrooms are tiny,
I can’t sit up in my bunk bed without smacking my head on the roof ,
There is no privacy or space,
I feel so isolated and alone
Homeschool is terrible ,
Everyone is constantly stressed and fighting,
All I want to do is see my friends
Please don’t do this to your kids.
I feel sorry for you
I hope you're okay, that's horrifying 😢
Hang in there, I know it sux right now but life will get better. I had a similar life experience and I can tell you that as an adult, you'll find and make your place. It's just really really crappy that you have to endure right now and Im sorry for that.
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I hope you can get away from that horrific experience.
Another point I don’t see people addressing about van life is how difficult it would be for the kids to get away when they are older. They cannot have jobs through their teenage years from the constant relocation, but once they turn 18 they also can’t just go get an apartment bc they would need financial support from their parents. Not to mention that if you rent an apartment you’re gonna need proof of income. Abusive van life parents can easily trap their kids and really stunt their adult lives
OH MY GOSH. This is correct… can i post this on their comment sections???
I was just about to say, it feels sort of intentional
@@daphnelikefromscoobydoo you make a point..
Not to mention the social isolation. Homeschooled kids _can_ be well-socialised, but you need to put in a lot more effort and time into taking them places where they can meet and connect with peers. But these kids are constantly moving around, so they can't build social relationships with anyone except family. That's terrible for their development...
Oh my God, Van Life families are basically cults
This is literally textbook cult behavior
3:14 The fact funky predicted the second Minecraft movie trailer
Ik that’s what I’m saying
Privacy is a legit requirement if you foster kids BTW-because little known fact- kids are individuals with feelings and need a space of their own 🙃
Especially if those kids are in foster care because their original parents sexually, mentally, or physically abused them, because its likely they have trauma of some sort and need their own space.
It's also a requirement that each child has their own ACTUAL bed. These van life parents really are a different breed of people
I don't know man, my parents gave me privacy, let me have my room to myself, and what did I do? Turned it into a hoarder den. On the flipside, our house was really small (the only bedroom was mine) and I think living in close quarters really helped. Most people in the world share a room with family, especially kids.
Lol. I was in the foster system, that "privacy" requirement ain't real. In one home in particular each room had about 3-4 girls stuffed in. They were also Mormons that had us to do charity work every weekend & go to their church (illegal, but as long as they didn't force us to attend the sermon it was fine).
I mean I get the sentiment but let's not act like foster care is any way better than this van life bullshit. It's a bad comparison.
@@Val-hz3fc i gues it depends on the country your from
I grew up in poverty, sometimes even without a roof over my head. The anger I feel these parents have the finances to give their kids an actual life and choose this instead is UNABLE TO BE SPOKEN PROPERLY.
That's the part that got me...most of these people chose this. I had four siblings, and we had a two bedroom apartment for several years while my parents were trying to get better jobs. My little brother slept on a love seat, because he was the only one that fit on it, while my sisters and I shared one set of bunk beds. It wasn't a choice, and my parents both worked hard to get us out of that situation.
Same. I grew up poor, sometimes having to stay in shelters. The last apartment my mom got for us was a two bedroom and she slept in the living room. While raising my daughter and I was trying to get on my feet, I got a one bedroom and gave her the bedroom. I can’t imagine doing this purposefully to your children that didn’t ask to be here
this. Van life, especially with a child needs to be HEAVILY looked into. You can tell who actually does it while prioritizing their kid, bc usually they don't post their kid's face
I keep being able to compare these kids' lives with my own homelessness experience :(
I also keep finding ways I was better off than them though, because my mom was single at the time.
I feel your rage as someone who grew up similar to you. How could someone be ok with this there is no privacy for any of their kids either. Why
As someone who has some pretty bad back pains, I feel so bad for these kids, it really is abuse
i have severe back pain even though my bed is really comfy. if i were sleeping in what is essentially a COFFIN, i would probably have straight up scoliosis
Funny thing is that until I was in my 20's I could sleep on a carpeted floor without issue. Those matresses that are in there could he quite comfortable.
They look clothed and healthy. Happiness is in question but we can't assume anything.
@@aperocknroll88 just cuz it works for you don’t mean it works for everyone else, bad beds can lead to serious medical issues get off your high horse
@@aperocknroll88 That might be bc back issues are different for everyone. You might have the type of issues where a hard surface feels better. I asked my back doctor about this and he said most people actually need adjustable mattresses. These shelves are not adjustable unless you make them way smaller by stuffing more padding in them. Also, you are seeing them clean and fed but you can't know that. AND privacy is incredibly important for development.
@@jfool10125 They spoke about their own experience and said the ‘kids happiness is questionable but we can’t assume’, nothing about their comment makes your aggression reasonable.
Take your own advice and get off your even higher holier-than-thou steed.
I may not have grown up in a van but I did live in a car and often made social ties and got adapted to a place. Only to just to be uprooted and be the new kid over and over for the majority of my life until now. Honestly parts of this video hit me in a way I don’t think I’ve heard someone speak on this, so I feel kinda seen by your remarks. I appreciate you talking about this shi stay silly man!!
**has NINE children**
Let’s get the absolute *smallest* thing we can live in :)
And actively ensure that our nine kids are wholly unprepared for the real world by not educating them.
2:32 Thea dont live in the Van….. They were on vacation. They are musician they lived in san fransico….. I followed them more then two years.
Its for the gram!
Seriously. My mother has 9 kids and as soon as she hit 5 kids she thought “I need to get a bigger house.” So they worked until they could get a big, fixer upper 3 story house. And they gave most of us as much privacy as possible, 2 of my brothers shared a room, 2 of my sisters shared a room, I got to share a room with my sister and my brother got his own room, my oldest sister got the 3rd floor to herself and my oldest brother got his own room on the first floor. And my parents shared a room. And they made it work, we now have 6 kids at the house and it’s the best it’s ever been, it’s about to be 4 as well.
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My parents did this. Completely fucked over my social development. I didn't have a real friend that I could see for like 3 years. Only reason I didn't turn into more of a social recluse is because I got a job that happened to have a bunch of people my age. I slept on a couch that was smaller than a twin size mattress while my parents slept in a large queen size bed
The worst part about it was as much as I hated it I thought I was doing the right thing for myself because that's what my parents told me, it wasn't until I moved out and had hindsight that I realized just how fuck up of a situation I was in
Oh my sounds like such a hard life 😩 you had parents that still fed you but due to a recession they couldn’t afford a real home boohoo you had to work hard for your own shit, people remember what you did to them and never for them. Dad could’ve ran away and got milk, mom could’ve OD and died or shit could have died giving birth to you.
@@amck330 grow up. just because other people have struggles doesn't mean what they went through was any less valid.
@@amck330 this isn't the f××kin oppression Olympics, dum×××s. she's allowed to tell her story and how it upset her.
@@marssgo cringe profile pic, opinion invalid
@@amck330 It isn't a damn competition to see who had it worse. Being fed and having a place to stay are the basic requirements for a parent to do. You have no sympathy. I went through worse than the commenter, but I'm not gonna be all "well, I was sleeping on the rug in my grandparents house until high school, so you didn't have it that bad." Get over yourself dude/chick/person. They still struggled. Any kid shouldn't have to go through bad shit. Regardless of how bad.
I remember when I was a kid, I had a friend whose single dad couldn't afford a home with enough bedrooms for him and his two kids. So he gave a bedroom to each of his kids and slept on a futon in the living room. That right there is the difference between these people and a parent that loves their kids.
similarly in my case, my parents had to fit the 4 of us and our grandpa, so while we lived 2 kids in a room, they had their bed and slept in the living room for years untill our grandpa passed away(we're talking over 20 years here) and they renovated his old room for their own use, bc they understood that as the adults in the situation they could handle not having a fully private space while the kids need that to develop properly
yes, we did the same, we couldn't find big enough apartment for us and our kids in a time pressure when we lost the previous one (the owner needed it for himself, we were not evicted), so the children remained in rooms for 2 and we sleep in a kitchen. It's not even that bad, I even enjoy my tiny closet office :D
We could have trapped them in 1 room for 4, but a) I would feel bad for them all the time (even though they often move to one room for a night or a movie, but it's their will); b) it would be never that calm as it is when they are just 2 in one room.
But I need to say, I'm a bit opposed to each child having their own separate room - I don't think it's a good basis for future relationships, when you never dealt with another person in one space. I especially don't like the idea of small children being left completely alone.
My cousin did the same. Both of his kids have their own floors (each are suites) and he sleeps in the small bedroom so his teenagers can have privacy!
Not all parents have the same level of self-sacrifice and willingness/opportunity to do so. These should not be perceived as the benchmark for good parenting. I shared a room with my two sisters till I was 17 years old. Become parent first and THEN we can talk.
Nah those kids don’t pay rent the parent deserves a place to rest their head after working and parenting all day. They can share a room. That doesn’t mean you don’t love your kids.
As you requested me to say FUNKY SUCKS AT RESEARCH 🗣️🗣️🗣️🔥
I feel bad for little molly cause imagine being a young girl having to do literal work to have your own VR headset and when you finally have it, your parents force you to share it with your siblings and you only get to play for 10 minutes a day.
Bro I would definitely steal their phone or smth and force them to only have 10 minutes a day with _that_ , and force them to share with children. If you rightfully _earned_ something, you should NOT have to share, and you should be able to use it any way you want.
@@Your_Local_Rat13 Well some time limitations aren't bad, but that should be like maybe at the 2 hour mark, not 10 minutes...
She worked to get it herself, it should be hers and hers alone.
Makes sense to work for it but the other kids should have helped out too if they have to share it. Also the parents too instead of making her do all of the dirty work. Honestly they should get an hour at a time or get two headsets with an hour at a time. I would get an hr and switch with my brother and wait for my turn again. 10 minutes is crazy especially when being cooped up in such a tiny space. That headset is literally an escape for them.
No see, she worked for a *different* one, the one she got was a gift and therefore is not hers and invalidates all the work she did and is up to mom and dad to control.
Thats how they validate it. Its bullshit
The bit that gets me is not necessarily the lack of privacy, but the lack of friends outside the family for the kids
it's like a fucking cult :(
Children **absolutely** need privacy.
Yes!
@DavidBlackton Military does provide housing for stations for the family School is a option but if the option arose to take the entire family then the rest will move with the military parent
We grew up remotely, always in a house...we were isolated, and only had siblings to play with...we are all very able as adults to socialize and to enjoy our own company. I went 7 schools.
I’m a firm believer that any video with children in it shouldn’t be able to be monetized
Me too
100%
I don’t think young children should be in vídeos period honestly
children shouldn't be a parents content source. it's exploitation and shouldn't be allowed.
@@shmark77 oh 100% but from a legal standpoint i think that violates free speech or something. i think legally social media sites should not be able to monetize videos with children and that would immediately de-incentive anyone trying to make money off their kids
Fun fact: for three years after Hurricane Katrina, my mom, sister and I had to live in a trailer that had a fairly similar layout to some of these, so from age 10 to 13 i slept in a cubby and I kinda developed the opposite of claustrophobia, my sister would sleep on the couch. Had social media been prominent during that time my mom would have been MORTIFIED to see people bragging about living in those conditions
FEMA trailer?
@@bwbuske yeppers that's it
I think the opposite of claustrophobia is called agorophobia.
Fellow Fema trailer person here! Why would anyone willingly choose that life for their kids??
@@contra5123 that too but what would be an attraction to tight spaces? I'm absolutely scared of places that are way too open but I feel so much safer in tight spaces that I had to essentially make a coffin out of large pillows and plushies just to feel safe enough to sleep for several years
There's a difference between a punishment for your child, like "no electronics until you do the dishes;" and humiliation. What those parents were doing was humiliating their child. And they have officially won the award of "being sent to the nursing home."
nah they don’t deserve a nursing home; they deserve a nursing van
I also hate the emphasis on "chose" these kinds of people use. "Oh our terrible daughter CHOSE not to do the dishes today, heehee!" When she might have just forgot, wasn't feeling well, whatever. It's not like she sat down and thought "I am feeling a little naughty today so I am deliberately and consciously not going to do the dishes." That's not how kids work.
Unless you live in a state with no laws regarding what happens to your parents when they get old.
Some nursing homes are absolutely wonderful homelike situations where the resident has his/her own room, lots of activities he/she can pick from, good food that they choose from a menu, and nurses and aides that take good care of the residents giving medications and showers/baths and help in the bathroom. All the while their relatives and friends come to visit every day, but are unable to house and take care of the resident themselves bc of jobs, situations at home, etc.. Yup, there are nursing homes like this. You probably mean instead "being sent to the nursing home and you being lonely and isolated because none of your kids coming to ever visit you bc of how you treated them."