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When I married my wife, she respected me and she took pride in being a wife. Then she became empty inside and depressed. She filled that hole with alcohol and a fantasy life at the bar. The girl I married died, the "demons" took over and she developed a false ego. A lot of bad behavior abs disrespect, violation of boundaries. Now the marriage is over. A very tragic story.
@alexisc7565 I still believe in marriage, although it's risky here in America. I overlooked a bunch of red flags because I was young and wild myself. My advice to young men; if she likes to drink/party, if she's on Xanax or other meds... forget about it!
@tim_nj_devil176 ....man isn't suppose to ask. It's the woman that is suppose to propose marriage. Otherwise, you're saying she's the prize. And she isn't. A woman's only value is her beauty and body. And since most women have that...that means none of them are special. Most men are broke worthless and pathetic. We can be picky bc we're above 95% of men and 100% of women
@BlazingNChilling7s freedom is not having to do dishes or laundry or cook or jackoff or clean or run errands. My woman handles all of that. AND she never ever whines about shit. She isn't allowed to. If she don't like it, tough shit. There are rules in my house and marriage and she is expected to follow them. Just as I do.
Married 45 years to the second wife, both wives chased me, first one showed signs of a troubled personality, but I got her pregnant, so I married her, lucky for me she changed her mind about being married after about 20 months. Met the second one at 20, she was a virgin , she adored me, when I told her that I didn't like the way her finances were , she listened to my advice and changed, when I told her that she needed a little excersize, she got in shape, she proved to be willing to share her money with me, and she was not materallistic, didn't care what others had, she was pleased to be herself. I vetted her for 2 years, and couldn't find any reasons not to marry her. Her parents learned to love me. (Took a little time, after all I was a divorced father at 19 years old). We are now both 67 years old, still passionate lovers, and even friends. Knowing what I know now, I would marry her again. She says that she doesn't want to ever live without me, and says that if I die first, she's going to kill me ?
I would've NEVER got Married AGAIN no matter how good she is. I was MARRIED once and ILL NEVER EVER AGAIN GET MARRIED EVER UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES WHATSOEVER NO MATTER HOW GOOD SHE MIGHT BE AGAIN.
@@MrFrank107 my own thoughts on the matter are that it's not so much the husband needing to be respected, it's that the wife needs to respect. If she doesn't respect her husband, she can't stand it. She goes to pieces. But he may be indifferent about whether or not she respects him. Respect isn't something that he needs. Men have very few needs. Some men only have one need which is what happens in the bedroom. So for her sake, not for his sake, he needs to lead. She needs to be led and to respect her leader. Or she can't stand it.
I'm 40 and have been married for 15 years now. My advice: 1) find a virgin 2) immediately set boundaries and don't bend on them 3) respect is FAR more important than love 4) don't vent to family
My advice as a divorced guy: 1) never EVER ignore red flags 2) set boundaries & never bend 3) her family role model matters greatly 4) understand most women are emotionally like little children. 5) talk about the BIG things b4 marriage 6) hold her to the standards you set for yourself, and have good standards 7) respect is THE most important thing 8) no girls trips 9) have a life plan 10) bail quickly if things are going sideways as they’ll likely never get better
Excellent list. I sincerely wish I had followed them. The first is the most important. Follow that one and you may not have many problems with the rest.
If a woman was raised in a household where her needs were not met by the parents and suffered a traumatic childhood she is unfit for relationships. I agree with your video Rich it’s on point.
So she's not worthy of love? And she can't transcend her parents' mistakes, and work through her trauma? I highly doubt if you had had a bad childhood, you would go from wanting a relationship to sitting out of the dating market for the good of society.
@seanleblanc8784 where did they say they're unworthy of love? The world's full of men willing to take on toxic women and vice a versa. If you have any respect for yourself, don't let it be you
So many naïve guys out there! My wife was a virgin when we married. She is a Christian who regularly goes to church. We have been together for 30 years. She gave me 3 kids. Sex was great, never a fight, some civilized disagreements of course. I provided very well for the family and was dedicated to the family 100%. A lot of fantastic shared memories. One week before our 30th anniversary she says: “I am filing for divorce tomorrow, I just want to be free and do whatever I want”. There was no other man involved, just be free on my money. It happened when I was 52, at the age of, say, 40 I would have never believed that such a thing would happen to me. It was very hard emotionally for the first couple of years, I’m perfectly happy now going my own way. All these descriptors: Christian values, low body count, well provided for, great sex, etc. eventually don’t mean a thing, there is no correlation.
Agreed. If you marry a virgin she will eventually leave. I dated one for 3 years and she dumped me because she wanted to ride the cock carousel (her friends were a bad influence). You cannot practice traditional dating in the current cultural zeitgeist
Similar situation of mine, she goes to church every Sunday, she got me arrested multiple times, it's over 2 years and half that I don't see my children 😢.
Good summary 1. Maintain polarity: ie blue and pink roles, ensure she is taking on feminine, and that the man takes on the masculine role. 2. Control the frame: ie she enters YOUR frame and stays within the boundaries, no compromise. 3. Use dread: ie Be courageous when it comes to enforcing boundaries and expectations. Demand respect, no compromise. I would add to this: 4. No red flags. 5. Finding a virgin is unrealistic these days. Rather, you need to know that she does not pine for any men in her past ... you need to absolutely know that you are her best option. Women lie to maintain their reputation, so you may need to talk to her friends to get the whole truth. 6. Check out her Dad. A bad relationship is a red flag. Make sure it is a GOOD relationship. Make sure that YOU have a good relationship with him. Make sure that he has the relationship with his wife that you would want to have with his daughter.
One of the best vids you've ever done, Rich. Married for 16 years, kids and gone through thick and thin together. Can attest to all of it, and more men need to hear this. Marriage is God's to grant and a massive blessing, but it's not easy and we must be MEN to keep it.
I hooked up with a girl who was 18. I assumed a very low body count. She still lived at home at the time with very religious parents. She would attend church with them on Sunday. I assumed her body count would be very low like maybe I was the third person. Later she confessed to me that I was number 12. I have to admit that I was shocked.
You are so naive. I was at university and seen very shy girls who wanted and were fucked in every hole of their body. And I know some 40 years old women who are very picky and have values, if they are horny and not married they just using toys or sublimate, but they prefer quality over quantity. You need more experience to learn how to screen these things. This is so funny the fact guys think that young age is low body count.
Dang! 12 bodies, she’s 18, good parents, and goes to church. I8! We are really looking for a unicorn nowadays! Why can’t women just say no, I’m waiting for marriage!
@smgofdvld well I was surprised because of the other factors. She doesn't even dress slutty. Baggy clothes mostly. She has a great body, but mostly keeps it covered. Just didn't seem like the type, but maybe it's just the generation today..
The fact that she hooked up with you should of been all the info you needed. You guys don’t get it. Marry a girl who is a virgin and refuses to have sex until she’s married. That’s it. Highest chance of success right there. Period.
@@MaryElizabeth-g1b before marriage agree on major issues such as children, politics, religion and finances. Marry someone from a traditional family. Women create a strong marriage by providing a comfortable home where the husband can relax. Women don’t nag and give your husband all the sex he wants. 😍
Hey Rich. Have been a subscriber to your channel and I love your content. I have been married to my wife for 26 years and dated for one year prior. We have traditional gender roles in our marriage and she has always allowed me to lead our family and trusts me in that role. She is a wonderful partner and mother to our two adult children. Full disclosure, we both are religious people and are active in our faith. My wife has always respected me and has complemented my life and supported me throughout our marriage. My wife had NONE of the red flags you mentioned in your book and on your channel videos and along with being faithful, loving and supportive, she always puts me and our marriage first. Our secret to success is trust in each other and honesty and commitment and unlike most men my age (53), I enjoy a great sex life with my wife (at least 3 times a week) and she allows me to pursue my personal growth and she works hard to keep herself healthy and beautiful and we enjoy our life together.
I think it comes down to sharing common interests. The more things you like to do together, the more time you'll spend together. My wife likes shooting, fishing, travelling, and being well informed about events, as do I, so our common denominator of life is broad. If you don't have common interests, there's nothing permanent that binds you and you may not hang together after the children grow up and leave, because then you'll have nothing in common.
My wife was a virgin when we met 7 years ago. She is absolutely devoted to me and a devout Christian. Her and her family show immense respect for me as the leader of the family (her father passed away) and I step up when needed. Yes she can annoy me at times and sometime nag (perfect is unattainable) but I maintain frame and I admit when I’m wrong. She knows I will provide and protect. I know she will never cheat and will always honor & respect me.
We’ll I’ve been in a shotgun wedding for over 38 years now, the only way that I have been able to stay married all of these years is by dreaming of someday somehow being happily divorced, widowed or dead myself, because being married to my wife is really that bad. Rich is an amazing excellent example of how we should all strive to be in our lives in general. Two broke to pay attention raising kids that ended up not being mine has forced me to be there for kids that I had thought were mine for the first 21 years. My real problem is that I always make the very best out of truly bad situations. Good luck to everyone else who reads this of being happy, it’s never too late to start to make changes in your life for the best for yourself.
You are correct. It's never too late to make changes in your life. And that applies to YOU as well. Don't delude yourself into false happiness, but rather take the steps to create the kind of happiness that you desire.
I am blessed that the woman I got pregnant at 17 yo, decided to divorce me at 19. She wanted to come back but I didn't see a future in it. She has been divorced 2 more times since. And is now a lonely alcoholic. Dodged a bullet with that one.
Ouch!!! Plan and scheme carefully: try to trick her into selling house and property under guise you are going to buy her a really nice place. Hide the money in physical gold empty retirement accounts. Prepare to move to a less anti male state. File divorce quit job before courts to reduce support and alimony
A perfect marriage or relationship is an illusion; there's no universal playbook for making them work. What's effective for one couple may not apply to another. Nevertheless, I've come to understand that there's always a solution to be found. Half a decade ago, my wife and I faced such trials in our marriage that divorce seemed inevitable. Yet, through perseverance and determination, we navigated through the rough waters and emerged stronger, reunited, and more resilient.
There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things.
Its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is shelly renee white...
Met my wife 50 years ago. Married her 46 years ago. She's intelligent & devoted to family. We have two sons & 6 grandkids. She's a good business woman. I couldn't be bothered with the emotional roller coaster of moving onto another woman then another & another & on & on. Family blown apart. Huge cost of divorce etc. Started out with nothing. We have a super home. Worked our property business together plus various day jobs. Still have 8 rental properties. I need stability. So does she. So we've kept the show on the road. And reap the huge rewards of no divorce
I missed this poll but I am in full agreement with the fellas, I’m married 27 years to a woman who matches everything mentioned. She’s traditional, she’s religious too. She’s fit and still has her coke bottle figure. I am her body count, too!…..she also respects me, gives me full autonomy to lead. We respect each other. It’s not perfect but it’s close!
Women dont kill marriages. Beta males do. Soft weak pussified whiney boys who cant keep a woman in line....males who dont deserve respect....they kill marriages. Just admit it boy. You a bitch. You cant get a woman to submit and stay with you. Dont blame marriage or women. Blame yourself
Have been with my wife for 19 years and she is great. She is sweet, kind, generous and a virgin when I meet her. She is always respectful, no BS, not materialistic and easy to be around. I was unemployed when I meet and unlike most woman, she did not mind. She wants to pay stuff too and has a team mentality. We are both family oriented, share values and she never shows any interest in other men. I’m her number one, no red flags. She doesn’t have an education, I have a degree in law and economics. I have my shit together and make 100k working 37 hours a week, we are good with money and on our way to pay off the house. In my spare time, I pay video games and she doesn’t mind. We have two kids. I’m first born out of 4 kids, she is last born also out of 4 kids.
I'm glad your wife finds a good man. You said something that touched me. " She doesn't have any education. " My mom didn't have any education, my father played her like a slave... May I please ask you a legal question ?
44, married for 17 years. Marriage is amazing. Advice: 1) Virgin 2) Peak Christian (LDS) 3) Never disrespects me in public or to anyone in private. 4) Wanted children and hates feminism
I believe their needs to be MUTUAL respect in a marriage. Respect does not go in only 1 direction. Women need to be respected, valued and Cherished by her husband. When that happens, the husband is totally respected and valued also! ❤
I’m 33, one of the best relationships I’ve ever had was with a 20 year-old, so we’re talking 13 year age difference. The very best relationship I ever had was when I was 27, with a 28-year-old girl. She was very conservative, I think had one or two partners, maybe even a virgin. The commonality is, whether the girl was 13 years younger than me or one year older than me, these amazing women both had a low body count. And a lot of innocence.
And yet, the way you write this, both didn't last. My last GF had a low bodycount and innocent. Yet unchecked hypergamy still did its dirty job. That crushed my dream of a true LTR. Modern society is just not a setting that allows for this with any decent odds.
The elements that work for me- 1. Being friends first, 2. Being financially autonomous, 3. Each take charge in their areas of competency, 4. Appreciate that you both have options, 5. Agree that there is no relationship termination clause, e.g,, cheating does not exist, 6. Have separate interests, bedrooms, bathrooms, and man cave/shop.
It took me 52 years to find someone worth while. I have no issues to complain about as well. Total peace and no resistance. She had a strong Dad as a role model.
These stories and comments are giving me and I'm sure many other men so much hope that if you choose EXTREMELY wisely, marriage, kids and a family are still on the cards
Lead, and she doesn’t follow leave her behind. 25 years, 3 children. She provides nothing but support and relentless loyalty. She knows if she ever went astray I would move on without a second thought. We both came from two parent homes. Go figure.
My advice? Don't invest too much of yourself in any one woman. Know going in that a woman will leave you one day, at least one way or another: physically, spiritually, emotionally, sexually, etc.
Rich, I really disagree that compatibility is based on sameness. Compatibility IS based on HOW two people handle their differences. People have ideologies about how they will handle differences/conflicts but ideology rarely translates to instinctual reactions in the heat of the moment.
This was great advice... been with my wife 20 years now (15 married), i was her second, she was my second, we were broke as a joke living at home with our parents... now we're still together, working out, making great money with a daughter. Unfortunately, dating apps and social media will make this nearly impossible for the younger generation. I started dating when you actually had to have a personality, game, a job, education JUST to get a date with a girl.... now, everyone is faking and whoring.
Totally agree about the notch count. The more men she has been with, the more likely she is to flirt, looks for a "Plan B" guy or cheat. In fact, I know women with high notch counts who don't hesitate to cheat if she get upset with her SO. Not cheating on his part, just being upset about something. I also know of some women who became "sugar babies" to get back at their SOs. Bottom line: You are taking a big risk with a woman who has run-the-gauntlet in her youth and now is looking to "settle".
I dream of meeting and marrying a feminine loyal woman. But in my 60s now I gave up looking in my 40s. All I saw was red flags, crazy behaviour, disrespect, promiscuity, gold diggers. The best women I know were taken in their early twenties, usually by men who had somehow managed to accrue wealth by their mid twenties. I was still in further education. So here I am, retired early, well off, multiple streams of income, and all I attract is those looking for a retirement plan. Sigh.
married 25 years now. approaching full retirement. what got me interested in her after 37 years of being red pilled (before it was a thing) ....was her reputation.
Disrespect is one of the things I'm battling with, and my circumstances are complicated enough that the simple response most people give simply wouldn't cut it for my life, so it's an ongoing thing but a work in progress. Bad enough that it bothers me and it's absolutely one of the #1 things I'd advise others to watch out for, but not nuke worthy and there's a lot of other circumstances on the line. I can't simply cut loose, but were those things not intertwined, absolutely, do not tolerate it, even little things will grow over time and before you know it, it's big things.
My girlfriend was on paper a good catch. Intact family, virgin, and a Christian. What I didn't know is she had mental health issues that our courtship hid. After marriage she was diagnosed with depression and our marriage of 28 years has been extremely difficult no matter what I do to help her. She also doesn't want to submit to me as her husband. I was naive about women for sure before meeting her and looking back the red flags (something you didn't hear about in the early 90s) was her bad relationship with her siblings and she mentioned her family had did family therapy counseling.
@@Hunter-2689 Her problems were years before we had kids. She has had trauma issues from before I even met her and did a pretty good job of hiding them while we were dating.
My wife and I have been together for 25 years and we check all the boxes. She is 12 years younger and really hot. She is so committed to the relationship that she has not gained any weight in the last 20 years. There is a little booklet out there with the title "Worthy woman" by Zak Roedde that discribes the gender dynamics nicely.
@ No. his comment doesn’t make sense. Answer this: does having children make sense? And before you answer, remember that, that’s literally THE thing that has to happen for our species to continue.
I am married 39 years with a Godly woman that sees me as the head of the family. She will challenge me, but in the end, she believes I am the boss. I like her Dad. She told me "I will do the dishes, if you do the oil changes". I was her second man. We love each others and I know it is til death do us part.I am a blessed man
The number of previous partners ties up with the beliefs. We’re talking traditional women who are often religious and marry young. Her being faithful has to do with her beliefs and not with the number of partners which is a result of her beliefs
Respect and appreciation are huge and also make sure she keeps you sex active. That said, men also needs to show respect, protect and be a team player in the house especially when raising kids. Talking bad about your spouse to kids/family/friends is the beginning of the end.
I feel I'm manifesting this! Watched one of Dude's videos a couple weeks back and clicked off when he started talking about people not getting married. In the last week or so I've decided that my wife to be will be 10-15 years younger than me, will follow my lead and maintain physical fitness - I clicked on this video thinking click bait but wow Dude mentioned all of my above thoughts. Thank you Universe!
I'm coming up to being married 27 years. My wife is stubborn as hell and can carry grudges for years but she follows my lead and I just ignore her childish behaviour. The big problem for me is that my son is like his mother.. my daughter is more like me. My father is disappointed in my son as well because he is breaking the mold in how men in my family are . My wife won't leave me as she will not find anything better and she's 4.5 here older than me and 53 now lol.. She will end up with nothing alone even though we are millionaires now
Put God/Jesus first as the cornerstone of your marriage. Married 20 years, 3 children, genuine burning desire goes both ways and mutual respect. A Godly woman, a real Godly woman not the secular kind that wears a cross but acts like a hoe, will put her man first and a Godly man will honor his wife. Marriage is work, at times hard work, and putting God first doesn't mean your marriage will be easy but if you genuinely put God first you will have a happy and fulfilling marriage even through the tough times. I speak from experience because my marriage went from ok/good to excellent after we both put God first. The last 5 years of our marriage since we did this have been the absolute best for us.
So women lie about wanting all of these things he alludes to in the video only to do a 180 after they get the vows. You can think you found one of these unicorns only to find you’ve been duped. It’s all great in theory, but so is winning the lottery.
@@stevelovescars You would if you really cared about it working. Most women today are duds. I’ve been with my wife 27 yrs now. How has it worked? By chance I guess. We met in junior high. Lost our virginity to each other on our wedding night. She committed to me before either one of us had anything. We built our life together. We currently have two high school boys and are financially better off than most people our age. Society today has everything backwards. 🤷♂️
Perhaps, but as a 45 year old widower, any woman near my age who is a virgin has a lot more important red flags for me to worry about or is asexual, which isn’t going to work, either.
My problem is supply, I'm in Canada and pretty much every single woman under 35 is on psyche meds or autistic. I've dated quite a few, they are in such poor health I didn't even think they's make it more than a few years. Where do you go to find healthy women??
By far, the most important attribute in a mate is Sanity. You each choose an SO who is sane from the git-go. Don't expect to change her after you are married..
This day and age, having a father is not protective at all. Both my ex wives came from intact homes and they still had no idea how to act in a marriage. Most blue pilled people can't even name the duties of a wife. Women are not expected to give you children, cook for you, have sex with you or respect you. If you don't come in controlling the space right away, she's just gonna run a muck. And all of this control is meaningless cause she still has the divorce courts and the police so you will never have any true power/authority in your relationship.
You know, Rich… might want to clean them glasses because when you’re looking through the lens of disappointment, that frustration is enough to roadblock you. It’s hard to get out of that frame of mind because if you’re seeking confirmation of your disappointment, that’s what you’ll find. Tilt up a little. If you want the best, you have to be the best. Good women look for Good men.
@@Richard_Albrecht When I see genders express displeasure with each other, it’s only fair to understand if we are being the best version of our own. Because only then is it truly valid to expect the best. Money alone will not do this. Sometimes we all need a lil💡 moment…. And sometimes our wiper blades need to be replaced.
If you find the right person you don't have to think about these things. But if you don't, you need to learn from your mistakes. Also, you have more options when you're younger. If you're dating over 30, good options start to diminish. Closing your eyes and hoping for the best is not a good choice.
@@Speed-dw6qp That’s right and finding the right person is not easy for most people. My point is that if we don’t think something is possible we will exclude that possibility from happening for us because our beliefs will override everything. I also needed to mention how good women look for good qualities in men. They don’t just look at how fat a man’s wallet is, that’s all good, but if a man thinks his status or income serves him the right to do whatever he wants good woman not only won’t stick around with these men, they will spot these bad boy tendencies and steer clear of them. Do women want the best, of course who doesn’t. But at the end of the day no amount of money, cars, luxury houses, boats etc will compensate for a shit type of relationship. I’m simply explaining why some guys don’t find good women and it’s usually because of their billboard. We think things are bad today. If things don’t change for the better, in 20 years we won’t even recognize ourselves. Rich has influence. CHANGE happens from the top down, not the bottom up.
@ There are many evidences the Bible was written by men inspired by God. One of them is at Job 26:7 “He stretches out the northern sky over empty space, Suspending the earth upon nothing.” How did Moses knew about that? Moses was the one who wrote the book of Job. Because science didn't discover the earth hangs upon nothing until 1650.
I purchased a sexbot at a tradeshow in Japan last year. We got married in February. Things were going good until I lost frame. Now, she just lies on the bed motionless until I finish. Most days, I don't even switch her on. I think I was happier as a single man.
Both in our 50’s, married 17 years together 35. We both train very hard and in amazing shape. No kids. Both have traditional values and know how to have good fun. She does pink jobs, I do blue. She looks after the home and dogs and I run our business. We have great sex at least twice a week. I have a higher body count than her which doesn’t bother her. I think we did good
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If you don't have God in your marriage it will fail
Nice Rich!
She must RESPECT you above all! If she doesn't respect you, she won't love you. Respect > Love
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When I married my wife, she respected me and she took pride in being a wife. Then she became empty inside and depressed. She filled that hole with alcohol and a fantasy life at the bar. The girl I married died, the "demons" took over and she developed a false ego. A lot of bad behavior abs disrespect, violation of boundaries. Now the marriage is over. A very tragic story.
@@bt8429So much for marriage being a ticket to fulfillment in women lol
@alexisc7565 I still believe in marriage, although it's risky here in America. I overlooked a bunch of red flags because I was young and wild myself. My advice to young men; if she likes to drink/party, if she's on Xanax or other meds... forget about it!
@@bt8429 ufff, could you elaborate more on this? That must be very vey painful. Sorry my friend.
A guy asked a woman to marry him, she said, "No."
...and he lived happily ever after.
@tim_nj_devil176 ....man isn't suppose to ask. It's the woman that is suppose to propose marriage. Otherwise, you're saying she's the prize. And she isn't. A woman's only value is her beauty and body. And since most women have that...that means none of them are special. Most men are broke worthless and pathetic. We can be picky bc we're above 95% of men and 100% of women
I've been through many dates in my life and I gotta tell you that I never met a woman more beautiful than freedom.😂
@BlazingNChilling7s freedom is not having to do dishes or laundry or cook or jackoff or clean or run errands. My woman handles all of that. AND she never ever whines about shit. She isn't allowed to. If she don't like it, tough shit. There are rules in my house and marriage and she is expected to follow them. Just as I do.
@@BlazingNChilling7s In Latin "libertas" is feminine. It all makes sense now.
@dpstrial I didn't know that even though I used to date lot of crazy latinas back then.😁😁
Married 45 years to the second wife, both wives chased me, first one showed signs of a troubled personality, but I got her pregnant, so I married her, lucky for me she changed her mind about being married after about 20 months.
Met the second one at 20, she was a virgin , she adored me, when I told her that I didn't like the way her finances were , she listened to my advice and changed, when I told her that she needed a little excersize, she got in shape, she proved to be willing to share her money with me, and she was not materallistic, didn't care what others had, she was pleased to be herself. I vetted her for 2 years, and couldn't find any reasons not to marry her. Her parents learned to love me. (Took a little time, after all I was a divorced father at 19 years old).
We are now both 67 years old, still passionate lovers, and even friends.
Knowing what I know now, I would marry her again. She says that she doesn't want to ever live without me, and says that if I die first, she's going to kill me ?
Did you have any significant breakups with your current wife during the 2 year vetting process?
That last line 😂 she even has a wicked sense of humor
I would've NEVER got Married AGAIN no matter how good she is. I was MARRIED once and ILL NEVER EVER AGAIN GET MARRIED EVER UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES WHATSOEVER NO MATTER HOW GOOD SHE MIGHT BE AGAIN.
She sounds like my fiance. I always thought I had a good one, this just confirms it a little more.
@patrioticaussiesams8581 bro get help. You're damaged but can be fixed if you want.
My number one rule for my wife is to show respect. Women need love, and men need respect.
@MrFrank107 my 3 rules
Keep my belly full
My balls empty
And don't be the source of a headache
And, sex!
@@MrFrank107 my own thoughts on the matter are that it's not so much the husband needing to be respected, it's that the wife needs to respect. If she doesn't respect her husband, she can't stand it. She goes to pieces. But he may be indifferent about whether or not she respects him. Respect isn't something that he needs. Men have very few needs. Some men only have one need which is what happens in the bedroom.
So for her sake, not for his sake, he needs to lead. She needs to be led and to respect her leader. Or she can't stand it.
Respect is inspired and earned, not demanded. Same for love.
@roses6564 men are only loved soo long as they provide something
I'm 40 and have been married for 15 years now. My advice:
1) find a virgin
2) immediately set boundaries and don't bend on them
3) respect is FAR more important than love
4) don't vent to family
@@Wolfdawg504 Where on Earth is a average 30-40-year-old man gonna find a virgin?
This guy gets it.
#4 is often overlooked.
Find a virgin, what planet are you on mate.
Out of shape men..Boo!
Men who can't provide..Boo!
These are the fast track to disrespect from women
My advice as a divorced guy:
1) never EVER ignore red flags
2) set boundaries & never bend
3) her family role model matters greatly
4) understand most women are emotionally like little children.
5) talk about the BIG things b4 marriage
6) hold her to the standards you set for yourself, and have good standards
7) respect is THE most important thing
8) no girls trips
9) have a life plan
10) bail quickly if things are going sideways as they’ll likely never get better
Excellent list. I sincerely wish I had followed them. The first is the most important. Follow that one and you may not have many problems with the rest.
@@drumsnbass I am a woman, and I agree with you.
Solid list! 👍
So, no guy trips too right?
@ personally no problem with that
If a woman was raised in a household where her needs were not met by the parents and suffered a traumatic childhood she is unfit for relationships. I agree with your video Rich it’s on point.
So she's not worthy of love? And she can't transcend her parents' mistakes, and work through her trauma? I highly doubt if you had had a bad childhood, you would go from wanting a relationship to sitting out of the dating market for the good of society.
@@seanleblanc8784 exactly people can break those dynamics through a greater consciousness
@@seanleblanc8784 maybe she's worthy of love. But in reality she'll have more baggage than Heathrow. Been there, now divorced.
Both of you are wrong. A large part of who we are is set in stone from birth. Leave at the first sign of toxicity. Read Ty Tashiro
@seanleblanc8784 where did they say they're unworthy of love? The world's full of men willing to take on toxic women and vice a versa. If you have any respect for yourself, don't let it be you
So many naïve guys out there! My wife was a virgin when we married. She is a Christian who regularly goes to church. We have been together for 30 years. She gave me 3 kids. Sex was great, never a fight, some civilized disagreements of course. I provided very well for the family and was dedicated to the family 100%. A lot of fantastic shared memories. One week before our 30th anniversary she says: “I am filing for divorce tomorrow, I just want to be free and do whatever I want”. There was no other man involved, just be free on my money. It happened when I was 52, at the age of, say, 40 I would have never believed that such a thing would happen to me. It was very hard emotionally for the first couple of years, I’m perfectly happy now going my own way. All these descriptors: Christian values, low body count, well provided for, great sex, etc. eventually don’t mean a thing, there is no correlation.
Agreed. If you marry a virgin she will eventually leave. I dated one for 3 years and she dumped me because she wanted to ride the cock carousel (her friends were a bad influence). You cannot practice traditional dating in the current cultural zeitgeist
Similar situation of mine, she goes to church every Sunday, she got me arrested multiple times, it's over 2 years and half that I don't see my children 😢.
Hypergamy always has the last say haha
Yes, it's in her to be loyal, not what you do for the most part.
this is also facts...MONEY IS THE BIGGEST FACTOR IS ANY RELATIONSHIP
1. Maintain polarity
2. Control the frame
3. Use dread
Good summary
1. Maintain polarity: ie blue and pink roles, ensure she is taking on feminine, and that the man takes on the masculine role.
2. Control the frame: ie she enters YOUR frame and stays within the boundaries, no compromise.
3. Use dread: ie Be courageous when it comes to enforcing boundaries and expectations. Demand respect, no compromise.
I would add to this:
4. No red flags.
5. Finding a virgin is unrealistic these days. Rather, you need to know that she does not pine for any men in her past ... you need to absolutely know that you are her best option. Women lie to maintain their reputation, so you may need to talk to her friends to get the whole truth.
6. Check out her Dad. A bad relationship is a red flag. Make sure it is a GOOD relationship. Make sure that YOU have a good relationship with him. Make sure that he has the relationship with his wife that you would want to have with his daughter.
Maintaining frame is incredibly important in any type of relationship with a woman. Without that a man gets no respect at all.
One of the best vids you've ever done, Rich. Married for 16 years, kids and gone through thick and thin together. Can attest to all of it, and more men need to hear this. Marriage is God's to grant and a massive blessing, but it's not easy and we must be MEN to keep it.
I hooked up with a girl who was 18. I assumed a very low body count. She still lived at home at the time with very religious parents. She would attend church with them on Sunday. I assumed her body count would be very low like maybe I was the third person. Later she confessed to me that I was number 12. I have to admit that I was shocked.
You are so naive. I was at university and seen very shy girls who wanted and were fucked in every hole of their body. And I know some 40 years old women who are very picky and have values, if they are horny and not married they just using toys or sublimate, but they prefer quality over quantity. You need more experience to learn how to screen these things. This is so funny the fact guys think that young age is low body count.
😬👀 damn but not surprising
Dang! 12 bodies, she’s 18, good parents, and goes to church. I8! We are really looking for a unicorn nowadays! Why can’t women just say no, I’m waiting for marriage!
@smgofdvld well I was surprised because of the other factors. She doesn't even dress slutty. Baggy clothes mostly. She has a great body, but mostly keeps it covered. Just didn't seem like the type, but maybe it's just the generation today..
The fact that she hooked up with you should of been all the info you needed.
You guys don’t get it. Marry a girl who is a virgin and refuses to have sex until she’s married. That’s it. Highest chance of success right there. Period.
Dated at 21. Married at 23. Both my wife and I were virgins. 9 kids and 36 yrs later and it’s still going strong. Few bumps and bruises along the way.
9 kids 😊
What is your biggest advice for a strong marriage ?
I couldn't believe that either. My mom also had 9 children.
@@MaryElizabeth-g1b before marriage agree on major issues such as children, politics, religion and finances.
Marry someone from a traditional family.
Women create a strong marriage by providing a comfortable home where the husband can relax. Women don’t nag and give your husband all the sex he wants. 😍
Divorce is like having an autopsy done, yet you’re still alive…
Ouch 🤕 😂😳🤦♂️
Wow ! Are you serious ? Maybe this answer is subjective...
Finally a video that discussed how to be successful in a relationship.
Showing up,being consistent,being mature enough,to be ready
Hey Rich. Have been a subscriber to your channel and I love your content. I have been married to my wife for 26 years and dated for one year prior. We have traditional gender roles in our marriage and she has always allowed me to lead our family and trusts me in that role. She is a wonderful partner and mother to our two adult children. Full disclosure, we both are religious people and are active in our faith. My wife has always respected me and has complemented my life and supported me throughout our marriage. My wife had NONE of the red flags you mentioned in your book and on your channel videos and along with being faithful, loving and supportive, she always puts me and our marriage first. Our secret to success is trust in each other and honesty and commitment and unlike most men my age (53), I enjoy a great sex life with my wife (at least 3 times a week) and she allows me to pursue my personal growth and she works hard to keep herself healthy and beautiful and we enjoy our life together.
❤❤
I think it comes down to sharing common interests. The more things you like to do together, the more time you'll spend together. My wife likes shooting, fishing, travelling, and being well informed about events, as do I, so our common denominator of life is broad. If you don't have common interests, there's nothing permanent that binds you and you may not hang together after the children grow up and leave, because then you'll have nothing in common.
My wife was a virgin when we met 7 years ago. She is absolutely devoted to me and a devout Christian. Her and her family show immense respect for me as the leader of the family (her father passed away) and I step up when needed.
Yes she can annoy me at times and sometime nag (perfect is unattainable) but I maintain frame and I admit when I’m wrong. She knows I will provide and protect. I know she will never cheat and will always honor & respect me.
Do you love her? Cuz I'm not picking up on that.
We’ll
I’ve been in a shotgun wedding for over 38 years now, the only way that I have been able to stay married all of these years is by dreaming of someday somehow being happily divorced, widowed or dead myself, because being married to my wife is really that bad.
Rich is an amazing excellent example of how we should all strive to be in our lives in general.
Two broke to pay attention raising kids that ended up not being mine has forced me to be there for kids that I had thought were mine for the first 21 years.
My real problem is that I always make the very best out of truly bad situations.
Good luck to everyone else who reads this of being happy, it’s never too late to start to make changes in your life for the best for yourself.
You are correct. It's never too late to make changes in your life. And that applies to YOU as well. Don't delude yourself into false happiness, but rather take the steps to create the kind of happiness that you desire.
@@storytimedavidcollins2897 Dang brother I’m sorry
I am blessed that the woman I got pregnant at 17 yo, decided to divorce me at 19. She wanted to come back but I didn't see a future in it.
She has been divorced 2 more times since. And is now a lonely alcoholic. Dodged a bullet with that one.
You need to get the hell out of that marriage....it will age you!
Ouch!!! Plan and scheme carefully: try to trick her into selling house and property under guise you are going to buy her a really nice place. Hide the money in physical gold empty retirement accounts. Prepare to move to a less anti male state. File divorce quit job before courts to reduce support and alimony
A perfect marriage or relationship is an illusion; there's no universal playbook for making them work. What's effective for one couple may not apply to another. Nevertheless, I've come to understand that there's always a solution to be found. Half a decade ago, my wife and I faced such trials in our marriage that divorce seemed inevitable. Yet, through perseverance and determination, we navigated through the rough waters and emerged stronger, reunited, and more resilient.
There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things.
Its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is shelly renee white...
This is helpful, I will look her up online right now...Thanks..
You wont regret it.
Keep her and her family in check. Solid boundary's and she knows the consequences for crossing them. She knows you will follow through
Met my wife 50 years ago. Married her 46 years ago.
She's intelligent & devoted to family.
We have two sons & 6 grandkids.
She's a good business woman.
I couldn't be bothered with the emotional roller coaster of moving onto another woman then another & another & on & on. Family blown apart. Huge cost of divorce etc. Started out with nothing. We have a super home. Worked our property business together plus various day jobs.
Still have 8 rental properties.
I need stability. So does she. So we've kept the show on the road.
And reap the huge rewards of no divorce
I missed this poll but I am in full agreement with the fellas, I’m married 27 years to a woman who matches everything mentioned. She’s traditional, she’s religious too. She’s fit and still has her coke bottle figure. I am her body count, too!…..she also respects me, gives me full autonomy to lead. We respect each other. It’s not perfect but it’s close!
Tip 1 - Don't get married.
Tip 2 don't get married
Tip 2: refer to tip 1
Tip 3, if you missed tip one or two, get unmarried?
Tip 0 - never listen to people with crypto related nicknames
Women dont kill marriages. Beta males do. Soft weak pussified whiney boys who cant keep a woman in line....males who dont deserve respect....they kill marriages. Just admit it boy. You a bitch. You cant get a woman to submit and stay with you. Dont blame marriage or women. Blame yourself
My wife of 26 years ticks nearly all the boxes Rich mentions. There's truth here.
My ex wife sister divorced her good husband at 27 years of marriage! So get ready to lose everything.😢
Have been with my wife for 19 years and she is great. She is sweet, kind, generous and a virgin when I meet her. She is always respectful, no BS, not materialistic and easy to be around. I was unemployed when I meet and unlike most woman, she did not mind. She wants to pay stuff too and has a team mentality. We are both family oriented, share values and she never shows any interest in other men. I’m her number one, no red flags. She doesn’t have an education, I have a degree in law and economics. I have my shit together and make 100k working 37 hours a week, we are good with money and on our way to pay off the house. In my spare time, I pay video games and she doesn’t mind. We have two kids. I’m first born out of 4 kids, she is last born also out of 4 kids.
I'm glad your wife finds a good man. You said something that touched me. " She doesn't have any education. " My mom didn't have any education, my father played her like a slave... May I please ask you a legal question ?
44, married for 17 years. Marriage is amazing. Advice:
1) Virgin
2) Peak Christian (LDS)
3) Never disrespects me in public or to anyone in private.
4) Wanted children and hates feminism
Great
Lds are great
You get married as a virgin. That's how the world should be.
@@MaryElizabeth-g1b I love lds women . They're kind and beautiful .
@@MaryElizabeth-g1b That used to be a value in society, before secularism went mainstream.
I believe their needs to be MUTUAL respect in a marriage. Respect does not go in only 1 direction. Women need to be respected, valued and Cherished by her husband. When that happens, the husband is totally respected and valued also! ❤
I like his way of thinking! 7 to 15 years difference, yes!
Tip 2 - leave asap when disrespected
Respect from both sides and in equal measure. Met all your ceiteria till now 14 years of happy marriage and counting.
I’m 33, one of the best relationships I’ve ever had was with a 20 year-old, so we’re talking 13 year age difference. The very best relationship I ever had was when I was 27, with a 28-year-old girl. She was very conservative, I think had one or two partners, maybe even a virgin. The commonality is, whether the girl was 13 years younger than me or one year older than me, these amazing women both had a low body count. And a lot of innocence.
And yet, the way you write this, both didn't last. My last GF had a low bodycount and innocent. Yet unchecked hypergamy still did its dirty job. That crushed my dream of a true LTR. Modern society is just not a setting that allows for this with any decent odds.
And yet you didn't marry either one of them lol
@@AustinBio1 what was the moral of your story?
The elements that work for me- 1. Being friends first, 2. Being financially autonomous, 3. Each take charge in their areas of competency, 4. Appreciate that you both have options, 5. Agree that there is no relationship termination clause, e.g,, cheating does not exist, 6. Have separate interests, bedrooms, bathrooms, and man cave/shop.
Sounds like a minimal sex situation???
@@marriagepartnersministry5942 If you don't pursue, they eventually will. Then the ball stays in your court.
@@marriagepartnersministry5942 Nope
U have a roommate brother
It took me 52 years to find someone worth while. I have no issues to complain about as well. Total peace and no resistance. She had a strong Dad as a role model.
Great video, thank you!
There is only one secret of happy marriage: Just don't do it.
You rather sexual transmitted diseases ?
RESPECT. Plain and simple. Great video. It definitely starts with respecting the father. My wife definitely carried that on in our marriage.
Even women who are married 40 years will all fall in love with their male physical therapist or chiropractor and leave you in a heartbeat. 100% facts
Book is amazing . Keep up the good work mate man .
One of your finest videos, Rich. Congratulations.
These stories and comments are giving me and I'm sure many other men so much hope that if you choose EXTREMELY wisely, marriage, kids and a family are still on the cards
Lead, and she doesn’t follow leave her behind. 25 years, 3 children. She provides nothing but support and relentless loyalty. She knows if she ever went astray I would move on without a second thought. We both came from two parent homes. Go figure.
I love my freedom. Marriage is not something I can handle
My advice? Don't invest too much of yourself in any one woman. Know going in that a woman will leave you one day, at least one way or another: physically, spiritually, emotionally, sexually, etc.
🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 This was awesome summary of all the solid points!
Rich, I really disagree that compatibility is based on sameness. Compatibility IS based on HOW two people handle their differences. People have ideologies about how they will handle differences/conflicts but ideology rarely translates to instinctual reactions in the heat of the moment.
Great video.
This alone should be behind 100 bucks of paid wall, so good is the information.
Thanks, Rich. Excellent video. I don't know where you find women like these anymore, but this was a good nostalgic trip.
Read Roman Lewis’ book How to find a traditional wife or something like that. It’s a gem!
These days you would have to be insane to get married.
This was great advice... been with my wife 20 years now (15 married), i was her second, she was my second, we were broke as a joke living at home with our parents... now we're still together, working out, making great money with a daughter.
Unfortunately, dating apps and social media will make this nearly impossible for the younger generation. I started dating when you actually had to have a personality, game, a job, education JUST to get a date with a girl.... now, everyone is faking and whoring.
She was your second, but if she wasn't a virgin...trust me, you could be any number.
Totally agree about the notch count. The more men she has been with, the more likely she is to flirt, looks for a "Plan B" guy or cheat. In fact, I know women with high notch counts who don't hesitate to cheat if she get upset with her SO. Not cheating on his part, just being upset about something. I also know of some women who became "sugar babies" to get back at their SOs. Bottom line: You are taking a big risk with a woman who has run-the-gauntlet in her youth and now is looking to "settle".
I've been married 13 years. Never abuse power.
The keys? Don’t ever do it. There’s no point. Why get the govt involved?
It is more simple than that. If there is no marriage, there is no possible divorce, so everything is fine.
You know your stuff! Insanely complete video!
I dream of meeting and marrying a feminine loyal woman. But in my 60s now I gave up looking in my 40s. All I saw was red flags, crazy behaviour, disrespect, promiscuity, gold diggers. The best women I know were taken in their early twenties, usually by men who had somehow managed to accrue wealth by their mid twenties. I was still in further education. So here I am, retired early, well off, multiple streams of income, and all I attract is those looking for a retirement plan. Sigh.
I thought men only get more attractive as they get older? Why couldn't you attract a young woman in her prime?
@ in my thirties and forties I did, long term relationships that didn’t survive. Looking after terminally ill parents takes a toll on a relationship.
@@alexisc7565 that’s only somewhat true.
I like that jacket. I looked on the mclaren website and couldnt find it.
married 25 years now. approaching full retirement. what got me interested in her after 37 years of being red pilled (before it was a thing) ....was her reputation.
So much of this was true for me and my wife, 13 years. All the way down to the virgin part.
Disrespect is one of the things I'm battling with, and my circumstances are complicated enough that the simple response most people give simply wouldn't cut it for my life, so it's an ongoing thing but a work in progress. Bad enough that it bothers me and it's absolutely one of the #1 things I'd advise others to watch out for, but not nuke worthy and there's a lot of other circumstances on the line. I can't simply cut loose, but were those things not intertwined, absolutely, do not tolerate it, even little things will grow over time and before you know it, it's big things.
My girlfriend was on paper a good catch. Intact family, virgin, and a Christian. What I didn't know is she had mental health issues that our courtship hid. After marriage she was diagnosed with depression and our marriage of 28 years has been extremely difficult no matter what I do to help her. She also doesn't want to submit to me as her husband.
I was naive about women for sure before meeting her and looking back the red flags (something you didn't hear about in the early 90s) was her bad relationship with her siblings and she mentioned her family had did family therapy counseling.
Was she on hormonal birth control? Or did she change after kids? Could be postpartum hormone imbalance that tipped her over the edge
@@Hunter-2689 Her problems were years before we had kids. She has had trauma issues from before I even met her and did a pretty good job of hiding them while we were dating.
The secret to a happy marriage is big wallet and hyper independency of men .
Never rely on her .
She'll view you as a weak person and you're done for
😂😂😂 American Beauty 🎬
@@Hyper.Patriarchist exactly. Took me 20 yrs to figure this out.
When i sensed the lack of agfection brtween my wife and her father when i first met her parents i should have walked away
My wife and I have been together for 25 years and we check all the boxes. She is 12 years younger and really hot. She is so committed to the relationship that she has not gained any weight in the last 20 years. There is a little booklet out there with the title "Worthy woman" by Zak Roedde that discribes the gender dynamics nicely.
Imagine if she gained weight, no doubt you’ll disappear or give her a hard time
@@bolotabr12 Yes and I told her so. She has her demands too and I fullfil them.
Good video...agree with the results...don't settle for less guys...
Golden.. thank you
Thank you Rich
Great video
Secret to a successful marriage ?
Don’t get married 😎
You beat me to that answer.
You realize that doesn’t make any sense right?
@@aaronkelley3865 correct. Marriage never makes sense.
@ No. his comment doesn’t make sense.
Answer this: does having children make sense?
And before you answer, remember that, that’s literally THE thing that has to happen for our species to continue.
Children in this current world we living in? Nah mate, no.
Both partners need to have integrity and other good character traits.
2024 marriage vows for women:
“For better not worse, not in sickness (only health), till I feel like leaving”
If u want kids, pay a surrogate.
All I can say is......Brilliant 💪🏾
I am married 39 years with a Godly woman that sees me as the head of the family. She will challenge me, but in the end, she believes I am the boss. I like her Dad. She told me "I will do the dishes, if you do the oil changes". I was her second man. We love each others and I know it is til death do us part.I am a blessed man
She only told you that you were her second because she wasn't a virgin, but you're not really # 2
RUN
Rule 1. Never get married.
Hard to believe that there’s 1000,000 happily married men🤔
The number of previous partners ties up with the beliefs. We’re talking traditional women who are often religious and marry young. Her being faithful has to do with her beliefs and not with the number of partners which is a result of her beliefs
Why would any man with his act together that doesn’t have kids want to to get married? It’s a no go zone.
Amen! Just a solid job. Have a place to live. And own a piece of mind. No need to complicate, living in others and never have their own space.
You can still have children without signing a piece of paper too. And that's a fact.
@@BlazingNChilling7s no woman of quality would have children out of wedlock
I like that top you're wearing Rick. What make is it?
Sounds a bit like the movie Stepford Wives. I guess that is what most men want according to your polling.
Respect and appreciation are huge and also make sure she keeps you sex active. That said, men also needs to show respect, protect and be a team player in the house especially when raising kids. Talking bad about your spouse to kids/family/friends is the beginning of the end.
I feel I'm manifesting this! Watched one of Dude's videos a couple weeks back and clicked off when he started talking about people not getting married. In the last week or so I've decided that my wife to be will be 10-15 years younger than me, will follow my lead and maintain physical fitness - I clicked on this video thinking click bait but wow Dude mentioned all of my above thoughts. Thank you Universe!
Why is no one considering
living in a boat as an appropriate solution?
Reducing complexity while increasing the possibility of new adventures.
I'm coming up to being married 27 years. My wife is stubborn as hell and can carry grudges for years but she follows my lead and I just ignore her childish behaviour. The big problem for me is that my son is like his mother.. my daughter is more like me. My father is disappointed in my son as well because he is breaking the mold in how men in my family are .
My wife won't leave me as she will not find anything better and she's 4.5 here older than me and 53 now lol..
She will end up with nothing alone even though we are millionaires now
Put God/Jesus first as the cornerstone of your marriage. Married 20 years, 3 children, genuine burning desire goes both ways and mutual respect. A Godly woman, a real Godly woman not the secular kind that wears a cross but acts like a hoe, will put her man first and a Godly man will honor his wife. Marriage is work, at times hard work, and putting God first doesn't mean your marriage will be easy but if you genuinely put God first you will have a happy and fulfilling marriage even through the tough times. I speak from experience because my marriage went from ok/good to excellent after we both put God first. The last 5 years of our marriage since we did this have been the absolute best for us.
So women lie about wanting all of these things he alludes to in the video only to do a 180 after they get the vows. You can think you found one of these unicorns only to find you’ve been duped. It’s all great in theory, but so is winning the lottery.
@stevelovescars
Holy grail of wisdom
They lie about being young virgins?
Maybe, but I was referring to the rest of the stuff. Frankly, I don’t care about the virgin or religious parts of the video.
@@stevelovescars You would if you really cared about it working.
Most women today are duds.
I’ve been with my wife 27 yrs now. How has it worked? By chance I guess. We met in junior high. Lost our virginity to each other on our wedding night. She committed to me before either one of us had anything. We built our life together.
We currently have two high school boys and are financially better off than most people our age. Society today has everything backwards. 🤷♂️
Perhaps, but as a 45 year old widower, any woman near my age who is a virgin has a lot more important red flags for me to worry about or is asexual, which isn’t going to work, either.
It goes without saying-DONT!!!!!!!
Facts Cooper 💯
Appearance aside, political, ideological agreement is the most important to me.
My problem is supply, I'm in Canada and pretty much every single woman under 35 is on psyche meds or autistic. I've dated quite a few, they are in such poor health I didn't even think they's make it more than a few years. Where do you go to find healthy women??
By far, the most important attribute in a mate is Sanity. You each choose an SO who is sane from the git-go. Don't expect to change her after you are married..
This day and age, having a father is not protective at all. Both my ex wives came from intact homes and they still had no idea how to act in a marriage. Most blue pilled people can't even name the duties of a wife. Women are not expected to give you children, cook for you, have sex with you or respect you. If you don't come in controlling the space right away, she's just gonna run a muck. And all of this control is meaningless cause she still has the divorce courts and the police so you will never have any true power/authority in your relationship.
You know, Rich… might want to clean them glasses because when you’re looking through the lens of disappointment, that frustration is enough to roadblock you. It’s hard to get out of that frame of mind because if you’re seeking confirmation of your disappointment, that’s what you’ll find. Tilt up a little. If you want the best, you have to be the best. Good women look for Good men.
Does your husband know you're talking to Rich? I didn't think so.
@ This is a comment. Slow down. Did the message hit home or something? I think so.
@@Richard_Albrecht When I see genders express displeasure with each other, it’s only fair to understand if we are being the best version of our own. Because only then is it truly valid to expect the best. Money alone will not do this. Sometimes we all need a lil💡 moment…. And sometimes our wiper blades need to be replaced.
If you find the right person you don't have to think about these things. But if you don't, you need to learn from your mistakes. Also, you have more options when you're younger. If you're dating over 30, good options start to diminish. Closing your eyes and hoping for the best is not a good choice.
@@Speed-dw6qp That’s right and finding the right person is not easy for most people. My point is that if we don’t think something is possible we will exclude that possibility from happening for us because our beliefs will override everything. I also needed to mention how good women look for good qualities in men. They don’t just look at how fat a man’s wallet is, that’s all good, but if a man thinks his status or income serves him the right to do whatever he wants good woman not only won’t stick around with these men, they will spot these bad boy tendencies and steer clear of them. Do women want the best, of course who doesn’t. But at the end of the day no amount of money, cars, luxury houses, boats etc will compensate for a shit type of relationship.
I’m simply explaining why some guys don’t find good women and it’s usually because of their billboard.
We think things are bad today. If things don’t change for the better, in 20 years we won’t even recognize ourselves.
Rich has influence. CHANGE happens from the top down, not the bottom up.
In the modern era, marriage is not ideal.
Hey Rich,what the title of the book you recommended on men's fashion?
Gold absolute gold
God said wives obey your husbands, and husbands love your wives...
Not all men deserve women submissive…
Who wrote the bible? Men lol
@ There are many evidences the Bible was written by men inspired by God. One of them is at Job 26:7 “He stretches out the northern sky over empty space, Suspending the earth upon nothing.” How did Moses knew about that? Moses was the one who wrote the book of Job. Because science didn't discover the earth hangs upon nothing until 1650.
@@bolotabr12 The bible is a book of fairy tales that MEN wrote
@ Even when evidence hit you on the face… that’s what you believe. Oh well…
I purchased a sexbot at a tradeshow in Japan last year. We got married in February. Things were going good until I lost frame. Now, she just lies on the bed motionless until I finish. Most days, I don't even switch her on. I think I was happier as a single man.
Both in our 50’s, married 17 years together 35. We both train very hard and in amazing shape. No kids. Both have traditional values and know how to have good fun. She does pink jobs, I do blue. She looks after the home and dogs and I run our business. We have great sex at least twice a week. I have a higher body count than her which doesn’t bother her. I think we did good
I don't understand this part "in the modern era marriage is not ideal". Why was it ideal decades ago?
What problem does marriage solve for a man???
It gives an average man a free childcare for his children, free cook and free maid for life.
Smartphones and social media