Power of prayer is strong and amazing. So glad to hear all this good news Becky. I will keep sending prayers up for God to wrap His arms tight around you and bring healing and a long awaited for miracle for your wound to be healed up soon. In Jesus name Amen. ❤️🙏😇❤️ Thank you for this Be Real Video about ourselves. I so needed to here it. Stay safe down there with all that flooding. ❤️😇🙏❤️ Hugs to Mr. Bojangles. 💙🐕💙
I didnt tell my parents about my MS diagnosis for almost a year. They just can't handle if i say things aren't okay. It sucks because i wish i had the support, but thank goodness i am very close to my sisters. I seldom speak with my parents, mostly exchange brief texts on holidays. Im relatively new to the channel, I'm sorry you're dealing with a wound, i hope you get better soon. God Bless, and take care of yourself.
I am glad you have sisters you are close with that you can talk with. I am sorry that your parents are that way. So many sadly aren't there. Much love and thank you for sharing.
I appreciate you because you are REAL. I am a small YTer and I am real! Im not religious.. but I am spiritual and I do talk about the depression and other life crap going on in my life. I cant sit here and say the World headed in a good direction... and I dont fake shit. never. I am real.... I am raw. I am not everyones cup of tea. Hell i have ppl have that get mad cuz sometimes I may swear and then talk about my love for God... as if me being real is some surprise to God LOL. Its a journey and I love meeting REAL Genuine ppl... it is so refreshing! So thank you Becky for being REAL! Love from Canada! ( I am going thru many health issues as is my husband.. we are in our 50s and have 4 adult kids... two serious addicts in recovery... been to hell and back and PRAYING for your healing sweetheart!). So nice to watch you Becky!! And our 14 yo flat coated retriever.. 160 bundle of fur and love her name was Schmeegie and she went into repose.. on Mar 11.. 2020.. the day before the world shut down. We have never had a friend like our fur girl... and we havent gotten another fur pal yet. We arent over her yet. She was family. But love your lovely doggo!) Bless you Becky. SO many hugs that you recover... I am new to your channel so gonna have to go binge watch... but I like you already. Grace and Peace to you and yours!
I do say I'm ok when I'm stressed out, I have PTSD, anxiety, low self esteem, arthritis from neck down my spine and stopped at butt bone 🦴. ADHD . I try to just smile 😁 as much as possible.
@@GracieDAntoniI hope you have accepted Christ because your eternal life will be so glorious that all this will be forgotten This life is a blink of an eye. I know it is difficult to believe when you are in pain. God be with you and show you how precious you are to Him and give you hope
Becky I had a really good friend named Becky. I knew that she really really need to talk when she would tell me "I am fine, Its all fine, everything is FREAKIN fine! ". Sadly she passed in 2020 during the pandemic locked up in assisted living. She was only a few years older than me and Rhonda but I still feel so bad that we couldn't do more for her. She was about 4 hours away. I learned from her that jus because someone tells you that they are fine they might not be freaking fine. Aww and puppy dogs at the end makes my day Fine!
Someone at church one day asked me” How are you?” I said” Do you really want to know, or is that something you just say?””I can’t stand fake. If I ask how you are it’s because I really do care. Shoving things down and pretending they are ok is just not healthy and expecting people to just act like they are ok is just invalidating
If I’m NOT ok people hear it I’m done hiding or protecting how I feel to protect others from feeling uncomfortable. Not asking for anyone to fix it or make it better just listen 🎧
I'm blessed by you❤ Happy to hear you are continuing to get better. Jesus is always an on time God. Thank you Becky for being real. Creating a space for those of us who seek truth in our lives. Your words are comforting.
I'm so sorry you don't have anyone who is close by to you. People need to learn to be kind, compassionate and empathetic! Our world would be so much better!
🫶🏿 appreciate you and this vlog today. Currently I am going through a lot as usual. I'll get through it. Its nice that ppl like you are out here, who understand.
Hey beautiful ❤ I agree with you! It's okay to not be okay, it's part of the ebs and flows of life. When im not not okay I have learned to reach out and also take care of myself with my healthy coping mechanisms. Yess sit with our emotions is soo important, helps us heal and move forward and then let it go. I view feelings/emotions as flags to go with in and do the inner work. Everything your saying is spot on! Yess! Thank you for sharing your wisdom. 🥰💓
Prayers that its completely healed next week Becky....Im glad i found your channel!I really like you!💙 Your so right on about people not being honest..I noticed long ago at the grocery check out the checker would ask how you doing and did you find everything but the thing is she really didnt care how anyone was doing and it was probably a corporate rule for the store to ask.Many times i would respond not good i couldnt find a certain item and they would just continue on like i said nothing..Lol. I myself wear my heart on my sleeve and probably to honest for most people to handle.
I really hope it is something in society that can change. If people don't want to know then don't ask but relationships in society have turned into more of a buddy with no substance.
Ah. That what drives insane a lot of us who works with Americans. In out culture if you ask or being asked "how are you" you are answering and expect to hear real response! Yeah, sometimes its just weary "dont ask" and person understands that you are going through some rough staff and you are not ready to share. Sometimes its just vague "meh, same old, same old". But we are not smiling and saying "Fine! " when We. Are. Not. Fine.
Terri we are so sorry and can totally relate. We have tons of firsts right now too after loosing my Mother in Law in June. The waves of grief are so hard and I am so sorry you are going through it too. Much love and prayers for you as you navigate these very painful firsts without your Mom🥰
Yesterday one of the nurses in the outpatient lab at the hospital asked me "How are you doing?" My response was to laugh I said "lets not go there" "You don't want to know it all"... She was very good at getting blood out of my tiny arm vein for my yearly blood test for cancer and this time around a thyroid test. I have cerebral palsy so I feel things like 4 times the normal nerve response... she worried when the tourniquet hurt me but I was fine with that so long as she got blood out for the tests. Humor is how I survive life.
I say doing great and you no need to complain I'm a fixer and if i were to tell the truth on my bad days the people i feel like i need to help or fix would be lost I've had breast cancee almost a two year survivor but keep it all to myself I'm the oldest of 4 the only one who didn't have FHS muscular dystrophy and now I'm the only one left I'm the pillar that supports I'm 67 now I don't see me changing i still don't have the ability to cry for any reason nor to share or let people in not even my husband or children
99% of people you think your close to who you think care that you have helped and fixed and done for if you have or show one oz of weakness will disappear they'll stop taking your phone calls they want stop by to see you and even pretend not to see you if you run into them somewhere
Becky, I get what you're saying completely. But because I have the gift of empathy, or whatever you want to call it, a gift from the Holy Spirit of God that dwells within me. When a family member or friend calls me or I call them and they are not OK, the very first thing I say is "What's wrong?" because I can feel it immediately. Even if you don't believe in God, you must know that there are people in this world who are gentle spirits. We are like children with our instincts, we just never grew out of it or pushed it down. There are so many times in social settings, with acquaintances or neighbors, that "how ya doing" is like a wave or just a nice thing to say, no one really wants the answer. So you say fine and they do the same. Or it goes further because they need comfort and prayer and they know you are someone who will do it and is not a gossip. Many of us have no tolerance for mediocrity and refuse or avoid idle chit chat and putting ourselves in fake social situations. You seem like one of those who is just is over the BS, if you ever were and have been honest to a friken fault, refusing to put on a fake face and have embraced the, "This is who I am, take it or leave it" way of life and I'm here for it. May God be with you and I mean it when I say it or write it.
Couldn't agree more and yes I agree it is a gift! I have been learning more and more this past year to just not embrace the norm but instead focus on the real and weed out the things that are not.
But for me, with cronic pain...I do have good days even with pain. Cant talk about the pain all the time. My back is like in pieces...cant go around and think about the pain 24/7. I lost so called friends cause Im possitive..lol..I can get irritated when ppl that know me ask - are you in pain....You wanna feel how much ? Oh no...I can see you have a bad day..why the f""" ask then 🤢 If you have been looking at a few videos about back pronlem or canser or or...then youtube throws video like that after you so it can just be too much. Grown up ppl judt need to dcroll snd search for what they wanna see and hear. Use the brain and stop be lazy ! Stay real but dont let pain and heartache put you down in a corner for life. ❤❤
Agree 100% focusing on it all day everyday isn't healthy. That is why my third tip to seek therapy is important to help process. Being positive is important however, never talking about it which is a big aspect of processing what is happening is key to not getting stuck.
Power of prayer is strong and amazing. So glad to hear all this good news Becky. I will keep sending prayers up for God to wrap His arms tight around you and bring healing and a long awaited for miracle for your wound to be healed up soon. In Jesus name Amen. ❤️🙏😇❤️ Thank you for this Be Real Video about ourselves. I so needed to here it. Stay safe down there with all that flooding. ❤️😇🙏❤️ Hugs to Mr. Bojangles. 💙🐕💙
Where two or more are gathered in his name, that beautiful name of Jesus. I agree with your prayer for Becky , in Jesus name, Amen.
Thank you both and amen!
P.S. I will give Mr. Bojangles a hug for you😊
I didnt tell my parents about my MS diagnosis for almost a year. They just can't handle if i say things aren't okay. It sucks because i wish i had the support, but thank goodness i am very close to my sisters. I seldom speak with my parents, mostly exchange brief texts on holidays. Im relatively new to the channel, I'm sorry you're dealing with a wound, i hope you get better soon. God Bless, and take care of yourself.
I am glad you have sisters you are close with that you can talk with. I am sorry that your parents are that way. So many sadly aren't there. Much love and thank you for sharing.
I appreciate you because you are REAL. I am a small YTer and I am real! Im not religious.. but I am spiritual and I do talk about the depression and other life crap going on in my life. I cant sit here and say the World headed in a good direction... and I dont fake shit. never. I am real.... I am raw. I am not everyones cup of tea. Hell i have ppl have that get mad cuz sometimes I may swear and then talk about my love for God... as if me being real is some surprise to God LOL. Its a journey and I love meeting REAL Genuine ppl... it is so refreshing! So thank you Becky for being REAL! Love from Canada! ( I am going thru many health issues as is my husband.. we are in our 50s and have 4 adult kids... two serious addicts in recovery... been to hell and back and PRAYING for your healing sweetheart!). So nice to watch you Becky!! And our 14 yo
flat coated retriever.. 160 bundle of fur and love her name was Schmeegie and she went into repose.. on Mar 11.. 2020.. the day before the world shut down. We have never had a friend like our fur girl... and we havent gotten another fur pal yet. We arent over her yet. She was family. But love your lovely doggo!) Bless you Becky. SO many hugs that you recover... I am new to your channel so gonna have to go binge watch... but I like you already. Grace and Peace to you and yours!
Thank you so much and I am so sorry things are so hard for you guys right now. Much love from FL.
I have fibromyalgia and I don't talk about it because it seems like no one cares I am in pain and can't walk with a flare up.
I am so sorry! How long have you battled it?
I do say I'm ok when I'm stressed out, I have PTSD, anxiety, low self esteem, arthritis from neck down my spine and stopped at butt bone 🦴. ADHD . I try to just smile 😁 as much as possible.
@@GracieDAntoniI hope you have accepted Christ because your eternal life will be so glorious that all this will be forgotten This life is a blink of an eye. I know it is difficult to believe when you are in pain. God be with you and show you how precious you are to Him and give you hope
@GracieDAntoni thank you for sharing! I cannot imagine how hard itbis dealing with so much at once health wise.
Empathy big time!! Im so sorry you hurt like me. 😢 I care so much. ♡
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Becky I had a really good friend named Becky. I knew that she really really need to talk when she would tell me "I am fine, Its all fine, everything is FREAKIN fine! ". Sadly she passed in 2020 during the pandemic locked up in assisted living. She was only a few years older than me and Rhonda but I still feel so bad that we couldn't do more for her. She was about 4 hours away. I learned from her that jus because someone tells you that they are fine they might not be freaking fine. Aww and puppy dogs at the end makes my day Fine!
I am so sorry to hear that and yes sadly these days it is becoming an epidemic
Thanks for telling us the truth Becky because in all honesty this has got to change people fake being okay 🤦🏻
You're welcome and I really hope it does!
I love this 🙏💜
Glad I am not alone with thinking this needs to change!
❤️ 🎉 Love ❤️ 🎉
Thank you!
Agreed. I think we don't want to burden people. But, its more authentic to not be ok sometimes.
@@jake80513 🥰
Someone at church one day asked me” How are you?” I said” Do you really want to know, or is that something you just say?””I can’t stand fake. If I ask how you are it’s because I really do care. Shoving things down and pretending they are ok is just not healthy and expecting people to just act like they are ok is just invalidating
Couldn't agree more
"Happy, happy, joy, joy!" 😂 That's what people want: lots of quick, quick clicks to make us feel popular.😮
@@gallowaylights hopefully people are waking up to how empty that is!
Thank you for such an important message. Im living with chronic pain and other issues.
I am glad it helped🥰
If I’m NOT ok people hear it
I’m done hiding or protecting how I feel to protect others from feeling uncomfortable.
Not asking for anyone to fix it or make it better just listen 🎧
Listening is a lost art!
@@Adventureswithbecky excellent point 🫶🏻
@Kristen10-22 😊
Most want us to listen but not listening to us it's said we're being negative.... I'm tired of one way streets 😚
Prayers for all dealing with challenging times 🫶
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As always, great advice. Glad to see you are still smiling. Hang in there Florida friend. Peace Always. Thanks
Thank you🥰
I'm blessed by you❤ Happy to hear you are continuing to get better. Jesus is always an on time God. Thank you Becky for being real. Creating a space for those of us who seek truth in our lives. Your words are comforting.
Thank you so much. I know this isn't a popular topic but it was important to share.
You hit the nail on the head! My problem is i dont have anyone who really wants to know.
I'm so sorry you don't have anyone who is close by to you. People need to learn to be kind, compassionate and empathetic! Our world would be so much better!
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Hope you have a beautiful day or evening whichever one your seeing this at! ❤
Thank you🥰
@@Adventureswithbecky your welcome 💓
Thanks for straight talk.
You're welcome
🫶🏿 appreciate you and this vlog today. Currently I am going through a lot as usual. I'll get through it. Its nice that ppl like you are out here, who understand.
You are so welcome I am really it helps. Much love from FL and there are a lot of us who do understand🥰
Prayers for you and thanks for your videos!
Thank you! 😊
Hey beautiful ❤ I agree with you! It's okay to not be okay, it's part of the ebs and flows of life. When im not not okay I have learned to reach out and also take care of myself with my healthy coping mechanisms. Yess sit with our emotions is soo important, helps us heal and move forward and then let it go. I view feelings/emotions as flags to go with in and do the inner work. Everything your saying is spot on! Yess! Thank you for sharing your wisdom. 🥰💓
Love this and thank you.
Your welcome and thank you! I appreciate you! ❤@@Adventureswithbecky
@bethanybriggs111 🥰🥰🥰 I appreciate you as well and your support!
Hi Becky! Thanks for your great advice..needed to hear this right now. Take care! 😊
You are welcome. Have a great rest of your day🥰
Amen, You said it sister!!✌️🫶🏻
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@@lblack1961 😊
Prayers that its completely healed next week Becky....Im glad i found your channel!I really like you!💙
Your so right on about people not being honest..I noticed long ago at the grocery check out the checker would ask how you doing and did you find everything but the thing is she really didnt care how anyone was doing and it was probably a corporate rule for the store to ask.Many times i would respond not good i couldnt find a certain item and they would just continue on like i said nothing..Lol.
I myself wear my heart on my sleeve and probably to honest for most people to handle.
I really hope it is something in society that can change. If people don't want to know then don't ask but relationships in society have turned into more of a buddy with no substance.
Excellente!!!!!!!! 🤗❤️👍🙋🏻♀️
@@kimfrommn7162 🥰
Ah. That what drives insane a lot of us who works with Americans. In out culture if you ask or being asked "how are you" you are answering and expect to hear real response! Yeah, sometimes its just weary "dont ask" and person understands that you are going through some rough staff and you are not ready to share. Sometimes its just vague "meh, same old, same old". But we are not smiling and saying "Fine! " when We. Are. Not. Fine.
Sadly it is deep rooted in the American culture!
You are so real, I happy to watch your channel.
I appreciate that!
Your furbaby is soo adorable! Love animals 🥰
Thank you and so do I
@@Adventureswithbecky your welcome 😊 The love you receive from a furbaby is just unmatched. So unconditional 🥰
@bethanybriggs111 yes it is!
Im definitely not okay! Just lost my Mom. And turning 70 today, 1st bd without her. Mentally I am a mess since August.
Terri we are so sorry and can totally relate. We have tons of firsts right now too after loosing my Mother in Law in June. The waves of grief are so hard and I am so sorry you are going through it too. Much love and prayers for you as you navigate these very painful firsts without your Mom🥰
Yayyy congrats on your good news! Prayers for the continued wound care!
Thank you!
@@Adventureswithbecky your welcome 💓
Yesterday one of the nurses in the outpatient lab at the hospital asked me "How are you doing?" My response was to laugh I said "lets not go there" "You don't want to know it all"... She was very good at getting blood out of my tiny arm vein for my yearly blood test for cancer and this time around a thyroid test. I have cerebral palsy so I feel things like 4 times the normal nerve response... she worried when the tourniquet hurt me but I was fine with that so long as she got blood out for the tests. Humor is how I survive life.
Yes humor is so important!
Needed to be addressed.
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I say doing great and you no need to complain I'm a fixer and if i were to tell the truth on my bad days the people i feel like i need to help or fix would be lost I've had breast cancee almost a two year survivor but keep it all to myself I'm the oldest of 4 the only one who didn't have FHS muscular dystrophy and now I'm the only one left I'm the pillar that supports I'm 67 now I don't see me changing i still don't have the ability to cry for any reason nor to share or let people in not even my husband or children
That has to be very difficult
99% of people you think your close to who you think care that you have helped and fixed and done for if you have or show one oz of weakness will disappear they'll stop taking your phone calls they want stop by to see you and even pretend not to see you if you run into them somewhere
Becky, I get what you're saying completely. But because I have the gift of empathy, or whatever you want to call it, a gift from the Holy Spirit of God that dwells within me. When a family member or friend calls me or I call them and they are not OK, the very first thing I say is "What's wrong?" because I can feel it immediately. Even if you don't believe in God, you must know that there are people in this world who are gentle spirits. We are like children with our instincts, we just never grew out of it or pushed it down.
There are so many times in social settings, with acquaintances or neighbors, that "how ya doing" is like a wave or just a nice thing to say, no one really wants the answer. So you say fine and they do the same. Or it goes further because they need comfort and prayer and they know you are someone who will do it and is not a gossip.
Many of us have no tolerance for mediocrity and refuse or avoid idle chit chat and putting ourselves in fake social situations. You seem like one of those who is just is over the BS, if you ever were and have been honest to a friken fault, refusing to put on a fake face and have embraced the, "This is who I am, take it or leave it" way of life and I'm here for it. May God be with you and I mean it when I say it or write it.
Couldn't agree more and yes I agree it is a gift! I have been learning more and more this past year to just not embrace the norm but instead focus on the real and weed out the things that are not.
I think people just say they’re OK because you’re not really asking for an explanation you just being kind of the time
How is that kind though to not really care how the people around you are really doing?
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But for me, with cronic pain...I do have good days even with pain. Cant talk about the pain all the time. My back is like in pieces...cant go around and think about the pain 24/7. I lost so called friends cause Im possitive..lol..I can get irritated when ppl that know me ask - are you in pain....You wanna feel how much ? Oh no...I can see you have a bad day..why the f""" ask then 🤢 If you have been looking at a few videos about back pronlem or canser or or...then youtube throws video like that after you so it can just be too much. Grown up ppl judt need to dcroll snd search for what they wanna see and hear. Use the brain and stop be lazy ! Stay real but dont let pain and heartache put you down in a corner for life. ❤❤
I hear you.
Agree 100% focusing on it all day everyday isn't healthy. That is why my third tip to seek therapy is important to help process. Being positive is important however, never talking about it which is a big aspect of processing what is happening is key to not getting stuck.
Becky, I think if you were a truly find the real they would tear you apart
Wisdome is weeding out those who don't truly care about your wellbeing and those who do.
Yes it's so much fakeness on YT/SM and in this world 😚
@@letsgetbetter170 agreed! Trying to help change that norm one video at a time!