I had a friend who insisted on coming to my house,shortly she said she was going to meet someone so she will leave early,eventually she stayed longer with me outside my house as I was escorting her. I reminded her she had to be somewhere else in a few minutes and she said "oh that,it's fine". So she invited me to her house, we watched a movie that she had already watched so was 70% on her phone through the movie,later proceeded to wash dishes,I stood outside with her until she said"when are you leaving?" Phone rang and I was being picked up anyway.[I got carried away and was zealous about our meeting bcoz we hadn't seen each other in so long] In my opinion don't invite people if u r going to want them to leave. Some people just want company so they are not alone. I never went back and due to being inquisitive and gossip about my life I cut her off. She tried to get my number from my sibling but I told him I am distancing myself from people. Also I think it's just better not to give ur address to people in the first place and have clear boundaries. Inform the guest No plus ones beforehand. Sorry if this seems like nonsense,its alright to not want certain people in ur home but think about other people's mental health too
Thanks for all the tips. We have several friends that "pop in" and don't mind spending 4-5 hours chatting. It's hardest when its a family member. I have a sister in law that has a lot of free time so she thinks everyone else has unlimited free time. She's popped in to our house (she lives 30 minutes away) as we're leaving and then gets upset when we won't stay and talk. Thanks for taking on the video that everyone needs but no one will talk about.
Thank you for your tips and I love your manner and voice, very soothing. I use a lot of your tips, I invited friend who invited friend and now I'm stack with unwanted guest who lives in another state and has plain ticket for 5 days from now. I feel like made or Cinderella in my own house. It is difficult for me to directly say to them that I'm not a made her.
This actually helps me a lit because l can't stand vistors coming to my house l just want to tell my mom but l don't want sound rude but if l have to l should l can just tell her in a polite way
This video doesn't come close to addressing my houseguests. The only people that wear out my welcome are the ones who refuse to leave after I've "politely" asked them to find another place to live. I have houseguests who changed the lock on my guestroom, refusing to give me a key to keep me from "going thru their things." Accordingly, I told them I needed them to leave immediately, afterwhich they screamed at me for not appreciating them. It has been 8 months since, and now they are threatening me with a $1 million lawsuit for continuing to try to get them out, accusing me of wanting to murder them. What say you now? Indirect politeness doesn't even register on their radar. These are houseguests gone postal.
I really like “ Thank you for coming but I can only host you for one more night.” 👍 Good one.
Oh gosh this is helpful but its difficult to do😂
Unwanted or uninvited as a Pastor, I just stand up and start the benediction. It works well for me 😊
I had a friend who insisted on coming to my house,shortly she said she was going to meet someone so she will leave early,eventually she stayed longer with me outside my house as I was escorting her. I reminded her she had to be somewhere else in a few minutes and she said "oh that,it's fine". So she invited me to her house, we watched a movie that she had already watched so was 70% on her phone through the movie,later proceeded to wash dishes,I stood outside with her until she said"when are you leaving?" Phone rang and I was being picked up anyway.[I got carried away and was zealous about our meeting bcoz we hadn't seen each other in so long]
In my opinion don't invite people if u r going to want them to leave. Some people just want company so they are not alone.
I never went back and due to being inquisitive and gossip about my life I cut her off. She tried to get my number from my sibling but I told him I am distancing myself from people.
Also I think it's just better not to give ur address to people in the first place and have clear boundaries. Inform the guest No plus ones beforehand.
Sorry if this seems like nonsense,its alright to not want certain people in ur home but think about other people's mental health too
This was made a year ago but honestly we have to account for ourselves
Struggling with this now. I don't ever want to get into this situation again!
Oh no! I'm so sorry to hear that. How long have they been there?
Thanks for all the tips. We have several friends that "pop in" and don't mind spending 4-5 hours chatting. It's hardest when its a family member. I have a sister in law that has a lot of free time so she thinks everyone else has unlimited free time. She's popped in to our house (she lives 30 minutes away) as we're leaving and then gets upset when we won't stay and talk. Thanks for taking on the video that everyone needs but no one will talk about.
Thank you for your tips and I love your manner and voice, very soothing. I use a lot of your tips, I invited friend who invited friend and now I'm stack with unwanted guest who lives in another state and has plain ticket for 5 days from now. I feel like made or Cinderella in my own house. It is difficult for me to directly say to them that I'm not a made her.
Oh I'm so sorry you were put in that position. How did it work out in the end?
This actually helps me a lit because l can't stand vistors coming to my house l just want to tell my mom but l don't want sound rude but if l have to l should l can just tell her in a polite way
This video doesn't come close to addressing my houseguests. The only people that wear out my welcome are the ones who refuse to leave after I've "politely" asked them to find another place to live. I have houseguests who changed the lock on my guestroom, refusing to give me a key to keep me from "going thru their things." Accordingly, I told them I needed them to leave immediately, afterwhich they screamed at me for not appreciating them. It has been 8 months since, and now they are threatening me with a $1 million lawsuit for continuing to try to get them out, accusing me of wanting to murder them. What say you now? Indirect politeness doesn't even register on their radar. These are houseguests gone postal.
Its your home an your space