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- Anxiety is an almost permanent feature of contemporary life - and therefore Calm has become one of the most necessary virtues.
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If you think this video is depressing you're looking at it the wrong way. When she says our lives are meaningless, it means like, each and everything you do doesn't have as big of an impact as you think. Spend less time worrying and take chances, live life, go - do - see.
Thank you
Calling all those who love The School of Life! We should share these videos with others more often! I've noticed that the number of views of most S.O.L. videos are actually quite low compared to even moderately successful youtube channels. My guess is that most of us watching these videos are fairly thoughtful and reflective by habit and thus less inclined to forward a link along simply because we like it. But considering how incredibly helpful the content of this channel is, I think we should make a point of spreading the word (via links) as much as possible. If there's one channel that I would like to go viral, it would have to be this one...
***** Yes, I agree with Jack's idea - have thought about this too. It's important for the success of the channel and the great knowledge to which it guides. However, the cream always rises to the top hopefully!
I would just like to ask the School of Life if; you could bring back the lovely video you made about - Forgiveness.
I thought that video was very profound and wise also. One of the best in-fact.
Jack Wheeler I have just read a article in the Guardian about mindfulness, i have experienced this unfortunately so recommended school of life. As you may see from my earlier post to have a reply from soc was quite a game changer for me. I agree about being thoughtful and reflective maybe we are in the minority, well I know we are. Just imagine if these could be shown in schools, utopian dream I know but it is good to dream.
Jack Wheeler I will continue to share these with everyone I know! Also, if you like these videos, you would love Patch Parables; a spinoff of a series called Spirit Science. They opened my eyes in a way similar to these videos, check them out if you get a chance!
Jack Wheeler I agree, School of Life is by far my favorite channel and it deserves a lot more recognition
will not help. those who seek, will find this no need to spoon feed them.
I am 17 years old and am surrounded by people on computers and phones all day every day and I find it very hard to resist acting the same way; whenever I find myself on my phone or computer for a long time, I hate what I am doing and what I am becoming. These videos help remind me of the importance of connecting with nature, animals, other people, and the world - thank you School of Life.
I think you found something of real value with that observation Grace. Find you own path and be well.
Everybody is living for the weekend. That's a song.
WHY DO ALL OF THE SCHOOL OF LIFE VIDEOS MAKE ME CRY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Best channel on TH-cam tho.
You likely have a very deep appreciation and nuanced understanding of things in life. Things that people are usually very flippant and actively ignorant about. It is a beautiful thing to cry to videos specifically like that. It means the video is touching so accurately and deeply upon things that you have no other reaction than to cry. Keep it real yo.
+Drew Love you too.
+Drew very true, it's the same for me
I've always been fond of the expression "from dust to dust". In the end, all things - and all of us - are made of stardust. The time will come when our sun will swallow up the Earth, and every human endeavour on this planet will have meant nothing.
So chill the hell out and just appreciate how unlikely it is in the grand scheme of things that we even exist, and have the mental capacity to be aware of our existence.
Every day I'm amazed all over again at how fortunate I am to have human consciousness, and to have been born in this unprecedented era of personal freedom. :)
Tal Sheynkman thank you for sharing your wonderful thought on this matter
Tal Sheynkman I like your positive and thoughtful attitude :) however, (and I know your beliefs vary from mine) I would encourage you to look to Gods word, the Bible, to see a little different of a perspective. This world will pass away, and we will too. But only the body, not our spirit, whether we like it or not. What we do here and now will directly project where we spend our life here after.
Again, I realize you don't have the same beliefs and possibly may be offended by me, or think I'm a fool, and so on. But I plead to you, if you are just willing to give it a chance, try reading some of Gods word. Or pray and ask God to reveal himself to you.
Your thoughts, statements, or questions are welcome back to me. Keep up the positive attitude like you already have :)
And I have always been fond of Kansas "Dust In The Wind".
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This is so beautiful, I almost cried.
Well... It made me cry. Wonderful work. School of Life is incredible.
Why do I meet people who think like me online. Why don't I meet you in real life? All you lovely people in the comments section. Why can't us as humans speak in social situations anymore??
SIlly Squirrel it's not necessarily that there aren't it's that we now more than ever don't tend to share our feelings because of insecurities and what not.
SIlly Squirrel because the thoughts and feelings expressed here are delicate, and secret. The internet gives us a shield of anonymity.
"The internet gives us a shield of anonymity."
amazingly put! loved that.
Prescott/Elliot 2020 true, it can go both ways. Some choose to be evil and some choose to be kind.
Most of the internet users are insecure. Send us your whatsapp maybe we can send u a message.
her voice, the ambient music, the stillness of the transient images... all so very beautifully put together...
This is somehow really helped by the fact that you have an Irish accent.
+Kira1Lawliet I know, one of the most soothing accents to be sure
This isn't a british accent?
lMatheusx What's a British accent?
John Miller English of UK, because the accent is different of the american english.
Aisling Ryan Sorry, I'm not a fluent speaker.
There are many ways to be calm. I hope you all find yours.
I still believe, a year later, that this is the one of the best videos made on TH-cam. Makes you calm, just like the title says, examine your day or life, and remember for a moment what matters. It's just so easy to forget the big picture. Thank you SoL.
"We exist too much in the mind of others. We are perpetual over-dramatizers of who we are and what we do." - sad
True ..
Rather than the idea that our lives are meaningless, I took the message from 2:50 on ("We are perpetual over-dramatizers of who we are and what we do"). It should be an automatic response from Facebook to everyone who posts something about what they had to eat, how they are doing at the gym, how long they've been waiting at the airport or other pointless messages
This video shattered all the false idols of ego I had inside me. Beautiful. Lots of love and appreciation.
I don't think the message of this video is to support the depressive aspects of nihilism; it's more of a no-pressure sort of approach. Many people in the world are distrustful of the reality of their own failures, and have grown into a psychologically twitchy behavioral state of being in which they constantly stress and worry about whether or not their actions will result in personal catastrophe. We all give too much weight to our own fears and mistakes, and sometimes, the only way to reject the perceived gargantuan negativity is to realize that objectively, nothing we do actually matters. If that's true, then any mistake for failure that we'd otherwise stress about seems like it doesn't have any substantial effect on anything; thus, it appears tinier, less intimidating, and easier to accept as part of ourselves. This is a not a philosophy of reducing life's worth for a few moments of pseudo-humility; this is a philosophy of reducing the size of our terrifyingly expansive world of problems, concerns, and imperfections in order to bring them closer to ourselves, and bringing ourselves to realize that the positive and negative aspects of our being are really brotherly intertwined as we experience life.
Guy Edwards This comment is as helpful as the video:)
Ece Isik Your comment is as helpful as previous comment ;)
+Guy Edwards
"I don't think the message of this video is to support the depressive aspects of nihilism..."
"...is to realize that objectively, nothing we do actually matters."
I'm sorry, what?
You are confusing people around here...Please..Nothing is exactly as it is said.
+Guy Edwards
If you're trying to say that you can give better explanation for this matter.
Try to keep each of your sentences in 20 - 25 words and come back commenting.
I think they're trying to say that we shouldn't exaggerate our anxiety or sadness on whatever matters we face (big or small).
By the end of the video my eyes were moist. It had a relaxing effect on my mind.
Thank you so much. I cried. It touched my mind when you said we live too much in other people's mind. I think I needed some consolidation. Please keep up the good work!!!
School of Life should be in every single idiom of this world. Everyone should know all this things that, unfortunately, we don't learn at school. (Sorry for my english, i'm spanish).
I found her voice and the music very meditative in itself along with the message. ill health forced me to take the road talked about and as a result life has become greatly simplified and I have released those rushed frantic values I previously held. It does put me at odds with most of the people around me I find, and some habits have been very hard to break. I believe most of this 'rushing' and focusing on the superficial is just one big distraction to avoid facing our own mortality and time slipping away.
I spent six months at a local orphanage in Nepal. Never been more happy in my life and upon returning to Norway I became unhappy with the western lifestyle. So I’m going back to create an authentic life. Bless all you free souls
Come to Kashmir my brother
I love the message this video is giving. I have suffered from anxiety since childhood one reason being because of a statement from this, we exist to much in the minds of others. having been taught throughout my upbringing that I was never enough it helped me to have read a book that made me realize that everyone is more interested in what others think of them to be bothered with me.yes ppl judge & gossip but I'm judging myself more than anyone else , I am surrounded by ppl that take themselves way to serious. like the song says we are just dust in the wind not the be all,end all that we tend to feel we are. I like the phrase from this about how ultimately minuscule our existence is ( something like that) I just wish more ppl would realize it's possible to be hardworking, responsible adults with a sense of humor. I had a near death experience that left me with the realization that I'm only here for a very short time even if I live to be 100yrs old so I'm going to laugh & Love as much as I can before it's over. but most ppl don't wish to hear how unimportant they ultimately are and will always think the world is watching so don't let them see you sweat,smile,laugh,dance or have a unique personality
From the moment you are born you view this world through your eyes and your perception. Your experiences and your observations will be different to anyone else's but the fact remains they are yours and it is the only view you have of this world.
So yes your actions are meaningful, they will always be until the day you die, because anything you do will have meaning to at least you.
In this horrible year, it would be lovely if we "Life"ers could meet for lunch, or a sit in the park. I fear, however, that we don't often encounter each other on the street because there are so few of us. Take heart and stay healthy. Mrs. Peel, we're needed !!
5 years later, and I still get teary-eyed watching this.
It's one of our favourites too. Thank you!
One day my dream is to be employed by the school of life. Not only because of the positive impact I can have on the world, but because it will have likely grown sufficiently to reach a grand audience, which it is destined to do with such enlightening content as this.
I’m having my exams next week and this calmed me down. Thank you❤️
I'm a fan of this channel for so long and bruhhh I'M FROM CAMBODIA! PROUD TO GET MY COUNTRY IN THIS VIDEO!🌌💙
Thank you!
I'm from Cambodia and im glad this document brings up life in kraite,Cambodia here as part of this. thumbs up @the school of life
***** why do you guys have such less subscribers despite such awesome videos ?
+Digvijay Singh Not all good things are popular.
I must say that this channel has many interesting and educating videos. Some are more for the younger generation. However like this one, no matter your age, is a peaceful reminder of what of are the most important things to us in life. If we're clever enough to grasp the easy concept of the message that comes with the video, about how our own minds are the root of our happiness and general feeling. Hopefully using it to our advantage :)
I really hope things like this will be taught in schools in the future.
I wish schools could have taught me these kinds of stuff... This is such a meaningful lesson: we shouldn't care about what others think about us. Life is a gift, a true gift that could never be judged by others.
That was beautiful and so helpful on a day when I was overwhelmed with what were really small, egotistical and insignificant things. Thank you!
Her voice is calming
I did not know that these kinds of videos exist until now. Wow! These are the kinds of videos that I was looking for years.
I'm freaking out over my finals right now and this is exactly what I needed. ♡
somehow this revived my love for rocks, which was diminished by university and obligations as a studied geology
This is a crucial goal that humans we should be looking for on a daily basis, Calm! :)
This video is a piece of art.
the narrator's voice is just lovely!
The video of the School of Life I will always come back to. Coming home ❤
Great video's! I am trying to lower my anxiety about the terrifying brevity of life now I am on the other side of 40, so I really appreciate anything that helps. I'm watching them while making my artworks. Thank you The School of Life.
Even her accent and voice is calming
these videos are so helpful and I love them. One of the biggest anxiety each of us have in the western world is health and sickness. Good job alain!
Thank you for this beautiful video, even 7 years later
To me, calm, stressed, happy, sad, they're all choices of perspective created by cells so that we remain a form of healthy. When I realized that at my core it is myself that makes me stressed, happy, sad, it granted me a greater control of the semblances of emotion I have. It grants me the ultimate calm via beautiful meditation.
This video changed my entire perspective on every single aspect of life
Hi I'm 14 years old and I love the school of life channel they teach me a lot about life☺
Thank you, School of Life..
I usually relate to and agree with the articles associated with the School of Life but I really resent the sentiment of this one! There are so many bigger and deeper things going on when we pressure and worry ourselves 'needlessly' and to sweep all our troubles under a 'we are all irrelevant' blanket seems deeply depressing and not at all helpful... surely the root of depression is that question: does what we do have any meaning? Who is to say it does not?
Well, it is not depressing for me at all to accept truth as it really is, as I have questioned it myself hundreds of time why am I doing anything but having fun as that's the only thing that matters to me.
Thanks Alain. I actually took part in a documentary of yours they filmed today! Hope some of my ramblings will be of interest to someone!
(Sry, for the long post): I think the sentiment that we are cosmically insignificant and that there is no objective, higher meaning to our existence can make us free in the sense that there is no single, particular goal that we could either hit or miss. That is quite profound, I think, because, subconsciously, a lot of us tend to have some rough image of who we think we are, in the sense of a fixed "ego", which can lead to a kind of fate-like or destiny-oriented thinking. This doesn't have to reach religious dimensions. It can be a simple idea like "I have to get this particular degree and that particular job, because that is probably what suits me and will make me happy" or "I think that is the one person for me to be with for the rest of my life". Once we have linked our self-image and our personal conception of happiness/meaning to such a fixed goal, the anxiety to fail/waste our life can be immense.If, on the other hand, we accept the absence of an objective goal or meaning of life, we become less anxious, because there is no objective thing that we can fail at.
This, of course, does not mean that there is no meaning in life at all or that everything is arbitrary. There is nontheless meaning to be found: Subjective meaning. After all, we may realize that there are things that just "feel" valuable/important to us, no matter how objectively insignificant they are. Hanging out with good friends, a good meal, personal health, playing one's favourite sport, having sex, observing nature or art, helping others, doing a job you love for its own sake. All these things are objectively pointless when we consider it in the context of the eventual death of the universe, but our emotions cannot help but make us value certain things right then and there (Thanks, evolution!). And so, we can live our life trying to incorporate and accumulate things and experiences which, after careful self-reflection, we guess will feel meaningful to us. And a life full of individual meaningful experiences, or actions that enable meaningful experiences (e.g. working a pointless job to pay for a subjectively meaningful holiday) will eventually constitute a meaningful life overall.
Why will this life be less anxious? Because once we have realized what makes life meaningful to us, we will also realize that there is far more than just one opportunity to achieve this goal and, thus, a smaller chance of failure. If we seek companionship, there are millions of people in the world, so we don't have to be desperate if a particular relationship doesn't work out (even though we may and should be temporarily sad). If, in essence, we enjoy helping others, we may aim at a particular job to do so, but if it doesn't work out, there will be many more opportunities. If a person loves playing football, he may aim at becoming a world-class player, but if playing the game is what's important, then he now understands that there will always be a way to incorporate this in his daily life. What really matters becomes more general/abstract in its essence and thus we have a greater variety of options to make our life meaningful=>less anxiety to fail, waste our life or to be unhappy
Does life thereby become free of anxiety and pain? No. First of all, it takes time for this new perspective to sink in emotionally, because we often dramatize automatically and intellectual insight alone doesn't fix that immediately. Second, even though we may be less anxious in absence of objective goals, we are still left with anxieties about our subjective, more basic needs. Yes, we now have a greater chance to achieve, for instance, our general goal of having companionship, but we still have to accept temporary suffering when we are currently between relationships or currently lack social support in general. We will still care emotionally about anything that can affect our physical or emotional well-being on a basic level. So anxiety and suffering prevail, but we will now have, as Alain said, a more balanced view of life and what is really worth worrying about and just how much.
PS:
1) There is still, in my experience, a good chance to experience temporary(!) depression/sadness when one realizes that there are no objective goals, because it can make us realize that some things which previously seemed valuable to us are, in fact, not that meaningful to us and that we may have invested quite a bit of energy in the "wrong" thing. But that is usually just a period of reconfigurating our goals. Also, every previous life experience is valuable, even if it's just to realize that certain things aren't the right thing for us.
2) An emotionally healthy human being will always have the capacity to perceive certain things as pleasant/meaningful. That is an unchangeable part of our emotional human nature (Thanks, evolution!). No rational insight about the nature of the universe can change that. If, however, one really, constantly(!) feels that nothing is pleasant anymore and life seems pointless, then this can be a noteworthy emotional deficit and a symptom of proper depression. In this case, one should not make the mistake to explain it away or attribute it solely to one's philosophical insights (even though this is something that a lot of depressed intellectuals and artists tend to do). One should get help.
...Sorry for rambling on, but I always find these videos and comments quite thought-provoking. Have a good one!
Demian Haki worth reading :)
Brilliant video as usual from The School of Life, very thought provoking.
It is the most beautiful brief video i have ever seen ❤ Sometimes we think too much that we forget about ourselves.
The British place an overemphasis on calmness. Yet it did help them in their quest to colonise and subordinate people from other countries.
Calmness can be grounded and peaceful, and it can also be very cold, and lacking in awareness.
What a lovely, soothing voice the narrator has.
Perfectly matched to the subject material.
I keep coming back to this. 😢😢😢
I just keep coming back. Love u SOL
this is the best video of school of life that i have come across it touches ur soul like it's some kind of divine wisdom calmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm
I'm always extremely critical of de Botton's advice, mostly because of advice he's given about being critical of people's advice. But this is beautiful, and I'd guess that if everyone actively cultivated a more meditative lifestyle we could all enjoy our insignificance together. I'd still question whether we are totally insignificant considering we are significant in the lives of others (i.e. Martin Buber's I-Thou experience of transcendence) and to ignore that would be to miss a sincere pleasure
Thank you School of life
It is so beautiful all the lessons i learn every day..
An incredibly sobering watch.
Alain is the best, I was hooked after I had watched your video on Ted. Man, your ideas are so inspiring, they always make me consider things I did not pay attention to. We need people like you in our universe, keep it up, you are the best. Cheers from Morocco.
Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is the present, and that's why it's called a gift.
At First the sound did not work for me, and I thought " wow this is really calming with all these mute images", but when I went on to the next video I realized. Recommend watching this without sound.
Wonderful films! They have really made me stop and think. I look forward to more.
Thank you Alain for these videos. The phrase "continual over-dramatizing" hit a chord with me, have been doing that myself of late. Time to stop and take a closer a look at that and find a way out of that mode.
This is my favourite The School of Life video. It's just soooo... amazing!
such efforts to calm down the unknown are commendable
As somebody who came dangerously close to suicide several months ago, I have to say that I am finding the school of life incredibly helpful. So much so that I advised both my doctor and psychiatric nurse to subscribe. I was advised yesterday not to over think ! having an enquiring mind this is impossible, and whilst obviously certain areas of my mind are not functioning very well at present , finding this site is very important to me. This could along with anti depressants mark something of a turning point. Time will tell. It occurs to me that so many of us in life, are lonely not in a physical sense, but mentally and conversationally, which I suppose as most people are rushing through life, often just to survive and get by. This is why this site is so important to me, just knowing that there are like minded people out there helps.
Does anybody know who composed the music for this film ? I am increasingly interested in the effect certain music has on my state of mind, especially gregorian chants, very calming much more so than mindfulness. Sorry for the long post but it feels good to talk.
***** Thank you.
+Benjamin Bolter As someone who has suffered from depression many years, I can relate how important it is that you're not alone. That there are indeed like-minded people that have similar feelings. I hope all the best for you.
"We should learn to develop a readier awareness of our beautifully minuscule place in the wider scheme of things to free ourselves from our constant debilitating anxieties to bring a little perspective back to our needlessly tense and preciously brief lives."
Thanks so much you are my great help even when I don't have anyone else to my side.
Please make more videos like this one. Such a beautiful message.
This is the best video from TSOL yet.
Who are the composers at the school of life?
Absolutely lovely. Such a soothing voice too. A great start to my day. Thank you.
This is exactly what I needed today. Thank you Alain 💐
Thank you!😊
Put your life in perspective with this video.
This video is a work of art
I would very much like to meet these 2,852 people!
We All Need CALM! YES!
Loved it. Puts life in perspective.
My problems are so much more... real. It's not an image but a reality. I'm sick of losing peers... I just want us to love and appreciate ourselves now and then... that's my anxiety. I... I just hope someone relates 😞😖
Hey, wanna feel calmer? Okay: you are meaningless. You're welcome!
- School of Life, 2014
My thoughts exactly xD
exactly that's the truth
+B Canceiro you sound like you need some impermanence in your life
we're just made up of elements anyways.
+B Canceiro The fact that we are meaningless makes me happy I wouldn't want to be under a god that judges but to drift away in time and space and become one
Watch a video to try and calm down, and the narrator then gose into a speech which states "life is utterly meaningless. " . Yeah, that worked!!!!????
Yes, our lives are meaningless"...when considered from a sufficient distance," but we don't live our lives looking at everything on Earth from Mars, we're stuck in the daily rut where we have bills to pay, traffic to sit in, and lovers to pacify.Taking the longer view can help put into perspective what is really important and worth fighting for.
Naturally, life is meaningless. We have no more purpouse than the dog on the street or a fly. We make our own meaning, more or less influenced by fake ideas given by society.
John Snow would like this
indeed he would
Like all useful insight, this is simple to understand. It seems somehow already known but also something revelatory now. Solid advice. It's nice to here an Irish voice on here too!
I so needed this.
It's not scary to be meaningless or insignificant, it's far less stressful to know you are not responsible for everything. You are only responsible for making up and living with your mind. Your choices are yours to make freely in knowing that no matter the mistakes you've made, the hardships you've ensured, and the pain you suffer will not severely impact the true grand scheme of things. Take care of yourself and never punish yourself for not being prefect because the universe really doesn't care.
Why nihilism doesn't depress a nihilist but empowers them to find pleasure in this expanse of eternity.
"Let's take the time to bring a little perspective back to our needlessly tense and preciously brief lives. "
Find time for yourself to live in the now each day
This video made me cry and feel joy such that i never imagined
What a wonderful video. Thanks!!
I really needed this video, I've been dealing with some anxiety and flashbacks, thanks School of Life :)
Beautiful... really thought provoking.
Thank you
Absolutely beautiful
omgosh.. y is this channel not more popular!? I love it.. subscribed. :)
I just found this channel yesterday and I really enjoy the videos. I would absolutely love if you had a podcast. The videos are great but I want more than 3-5 minutes! :)
Wow - mind blown ...
So true we need to stop and check ourselves.
This video should have more views than it does.
love the videos, all of them have such a philosophical sence to it, and that's what I love about them:) keep them coming!
A nice invitation to reflect on what is important...thanks for the reminder!
This is exactly what I needed to see!